Blow the Whistle With Coach Andrea

"It's just cheating." "Aren't you over it by now?" "You need to heal and move on." These are some of the harmful narratives used around intimate partner betrayal.Intimate Partner Betrayal is a serious matter. It is a form of relational abuse that violates the safety of the relationship. This awareness day exists to change the narrative and the responses to betrayal. IP Betrayal Awareness Day is a time to name the harm publicly, so that no one has to suffer silently.

After being blindsided by divorce papers, Alessia Madkins discovered the truth about her marriage. Her former spouse was living a double life and left her to pick up the pieces while she was caring for two young children. Through her faith and a renewed sense of hope, Alessia has built a life that is better than she imagined. Alessia's message to betrayed partners is powerful; it's declaring that healing is possible, hope is alive, and no one's story has to end where their heartbreak began.Alessia is an LPC and a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist with APSATS. You can connect with Alessia via her website www.compassguided.com.

What happens when the time you thought would be your "golden years" turns gray? "Gray divorces", divorces that happen over 50, are on the rise. When betrayal occurs in the latter years of life, there are multiple factors the betrayed partner has to consider.Julie Calhoun, APSATS CPC, Trauma-Informed Certified Coach, shares the questions, the concerns, and the compassion that those walking the path of gray divorce may have. You can contact Julie at jcalhometx1@gmail.com.

The discovery of intimate partner betrayal is earth-shattering. For some partners, that discovery comes as a result of law enforcement showing up at their doors. The betrayed partner is not only facing the betrayal, but the legal system, as well. Casey Allison, ACC, CDGC, CPC, PSAP, TICC, has walked through the devastation with many of these partners.Casey approaches this topic with compassion and empathy, while helping partners find a healing path forward. You can learn more about Casey here: Come Awake Recovery and Education, www.comeawakecoach.org, coachcaseyallison@comeawakecoach.org.Casey is also offering 50% off her Come Awake Recovery Roadmap Agreement Assessments. Discount code: HALF https://www.comeawakecoach.org/2026/06/summer-special-come-awake-recovery.html?m=1

When life deals you a bad hand, you can quit or you can play to win. That's what Dr. Barbara Steffens chose to do when she discovered intimate partner betrayal. She not only changed the game in her own story, she changed the game for every betrayed partner after her.Dr. Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, author of "Your Sexually Addicted Spouse", and a pioneer in helping to change the narrative around intimate partner betrayal. Her courage, strength, and wisdom have paved the way for so many coaches and counselors to understand betrayal trauma and help others heal.

"This isn't what you wanted." These are the powerful words someone spoke to Tamara as her marriage was falling apart. As Tamara was watching her dreams die, she was also discovering new things about herself. She could ask for what she needed! Tamara now uses her story and her wisdom to help others discover their own needs using the Birkman Assessment. Tamara is a certified Birkman consultant, coaching others as they learn to understand themselves. To connect with Tamara and learn more about the Birkman, visit her website: https://www.birkmansbytamara.com/

Where is God when you experience intimate partner betrayal? This was the question Lynn Marie Cherry found herself asking. Lynn shares how betrayal led to a crisis of faith, a deconstruction journey, and establishing a new relationship with God.Lynn is the author of "40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal", a devotional she wrote out of her own healing journey. You can learn more about Lynn at Lynnmariecherry.com.

"It's just p*rn!" That's a statement that is often used to minimize the harmful effects of p*rnography. Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer has spent years researching and documenting the injuries that happen to victims of intimate partner betrayal as a result of hidden pornography use. Dr. Sheri is a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor (CPTT-S), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), Certified Couples Betrayal Recovery Therapist (CCBRT), Certified Clinical ERCEM Specialist (CCES), and a Consultant in EMDR. She is also the author of the book, "Intimate Deception."Bonus: 1 Month Free in the BraveOne Community. Enter coupon code BRAVE1 braveone.com/communityInstagram & Facebook @drsherikeffer

Ashley Jameson, with Pure Desire Ministries, shares her personal experience of discovering betrayal in her marriage and how she uses it to help others through her work at Pure Desire Ministries. Ashley discusses the importance of boundaries, self-care, and community. You can learn more from Ashley through her podcast, Unfiltered: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unfiltered-real-talk-about-sex-love/id1749351656 or visit https://puredesire.org/.

Adam Nisenson, aka The Betrayal Shrink, deeply understands the profound sense of pain and confusion a man experiences after discovering intimate partner betrayal. Adam has a personal experience of walking through betrayal and now helps other men to do the same. Learn more about Adam:https://www.betrayalshrink.com/about. If you would like Adam's free resource The 7 Mistakes A Man Can Make After Betrayal, email adam@betrayalshrink.com.

Gina Kaye, PSAP, is the National Outreach Specialist for Begin Again Institute and has intimate partner betrayal as a part of her personal experience. Gina shares the importance of healing in community and the power of targeted support. Begin Again Institute offers intensives for betraying and betrayed partners. Learn more here: www.beginagaininstitute.com . To connect with Gina, go to the 'About' tab and click on Team Members.

As we approach Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day, August 4, Coach Andrea shares why everyone should care about betrayal awareness. When one person experiences intimate partner betrayal, it's not an individual problem; it's a collective issue. Coach Andrea gives three compelling reasons to provide practical ways we can make the world a better place.Betrayal Awareness Day - www.IPBAwareness.orgWork with Coach Andrea - www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com2005 Study - https://news.osu.edu/stress-substantially-slows-human-bodys-ability-to-heal/

As we approach Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day, August 4, Coach Andrea shares why everyone should care about betrayal awareness. When one person experiences intimate partner betrayal, it's not an individual problem; it's a collective issue. Coach Andrea gives three compelling reasons to provide practical ways we can make the world a better place.Betrayal Awareness Day - www.IPBAwareness.orgWork with Coach Andrea - www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com2005 Study - https://news.osu.edu/stress-substantially-slows-human-bodys-ability-to-heal/

Betrayal has been described as an earthquake, a war, and all manner of destruction. In today's episode, Coach Andrea shares three powerful analogies to compare intimate partner betrayal: home invasion, hurricanes, and a shipwreck. It can be difficult to capture the magnitude of betrayal into words, but to raise awareness, we must try. Intimate partner betrayal is one of most destructive forms of trauma, with the least amount of attention to survivors. Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day, August 4, was created to change that. Go to www.IPBAwareness.org for details.Purchase an Ember of Light: https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/an-ember-of-light

Coach Andrea shares her journey of working with betrayed partners, the importance of awareness, advocacy, and agency, and introduces the upcoming Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day. She emphasizes the power of storytelling, community support, and the significance of reclaiming one's narrative. Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day is August 4.IP Betrayal Awareness Day: https://ipbawareness.org/Work With Coach Andrea: https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/get-startedPurchase An Ember of Light: https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/an-ember-of-light

In this episode, Coach Andrea engages with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, experts in rebuilding intimacy after betrayal. They discuss their journey through recovery, the importance of healthy sexuality, and practical steps for couples to navigate sexual re-engagement. The conversation emphasizes the need for honesty, safety, and communication in relationships, while addressing the impact of shame and trauma on intimacy.  If you would like to stay connected with The Raabsmith Team, sign up for the free "Honest Connection" guide.http://www.raabsmithteam.com/free

Join Coach Andrea Rogers as she celebrates 100 episodes of "Blow the Whistle"! Coach Andrea is interviewed by Nadirah Mutala and reflects on the journey to 100 episodes and shares her plans for the future.

Happy New Year and welcome to the 99th episode! Coach Andrea continues the conversation with Dr. Windell Gill and the power of servant leadership. Dr. Gill continues sharing his insights and how he came to recognize the difference a posture of service can make in healing a relationship. To reach Dr. Gill, please email Windell@daringventures.com

In today's episode, Coach Andrea is joined with Dr. Windell Gill to discuss what it means for men to learn servant leadership and how it can improve the quality of their relationships. This is part one of a two part episode. To reach Dr. Gill, please email Windell@Daringventures.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

The path to healing and freedom is not found by avoiding the things we are afraid of, it is found by intentionally pursuing the things that move us closer to our goal. In this episode, Coach Andrea shares how to move from living out of your fears to values based living. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

This is the conclusion to a two part conversation Coach Andrea had with Dr. Barbara Steffens. In this episode, Dr. Steffen's shares what she's learned, if she would do anything differently, and the message she wants to leave with the world. **Don't forget to like, rate and share!** --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Coach Andrea is sharing an intimate conversation with Dr. Barbara Steffens. Dr. Steffens if the author of Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, APSATS founder, and a pioneer in the field of betrayal trauma. Dr. Steffens shares her journey from church counselor to world changer. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

She's BAAAAACK! In this episode, Coach Andrea explores the power of living in reality and becoming a seeker of truth. If it is the truth that sets us free, what does it look like to pursue freedom by following the path of truth? Thanks for being on the journey in the countdown to 100! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

The topic of "what to tell the kids" come up so much in sessions. Parenting is so hard because we are imperfect beings who are responsible for such precious beings. There is no perfect way to share, but this episode offers a few factors for consideration and a framework to consider when talking to your kids. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

How do you know when it's time to leave a destructive marriage? This is one of the most common questions partners ask when trying to decide how to move forward after betrayal. In today's episode, Coach Andrea shares some signs that leaving might be a good option. Please note that there are many nuances that can't be covered in 60 minutes. This is food for thought, not a directive. Attached Book Study: https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/get-started/p/attached-book-study --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

In this episode, Coach Andrea wraps up Black History Month by sharing her own personal experiences as a Black woman. This epidsode is designed to spark curiosity and bring awareness to a conversation that often gets overlooked in trauma spaces. You're invited to step into a space of vulnerability and openness as Coach Andrea approaches a much needed topic. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Today Coach Andrea shares a book review on the popular book "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. If you've ever wondered how you and your patners attachment styles impacts how you show up in relationships, this is the episode for you! Take a free attachment style quiz here: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Doing the work to heal can be frustrating! Today Coach Andrea shares a path she uses with clients to help them heal and heal well. Grab your pencil because you will want to take notes! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Trust is an essential element to every healthy relationship. Without trust, it's very difficult to build the other factors that contribute to good relational intimacy. In today's episode, Coach Andrea defines trust, explains how trust is lost, and how it can be earned or reearned. This is the relational check up we all need! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

This podcast is dedicated to partners, or anyone, who feels like, "I don't have a choice." Empowerment is the ability to make a choice and being empowered is critical to healing. If you struggle with seeing your choices, knowing which choice to make, or moving forward with a choice you know you need to make, this podcast is for you. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Happy 2024! In part 2 of a discussion on growing up, maturity, Coach Andrea continues to share thoughts on what it means to grow into your adult self. Using material from several resources, she shares what it looks like to step into your "second half of life". --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Aging happens naturally, it requires no effort from us. Maturing into an adult takes intentional, purposeful effort. We don't grow into emotionally healthy, mature functional adults without doing the work. Today Coach Andrea shares what it means to grow up and some thoughtful reflections on how to do that. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Quiz - https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/ehs_assessment013.pdf --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Today's episode is in honor of the countless numbers of people who choose to walk away from a destructive marriage. Divorce comes with lots of stigma and judgement, which often shuts down the voices of divorced people. This episode is a PSA for those who haven't had a chance to speak for themselves or ask for what they need. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

For this last month of the year, I'm focusing on the most talked about topics I cover in my sessions. My favorite B word, boundaries, definitely is at the top of the list. We all need to know what healthy boundaries are, why they are important, and how to set them. This episode will help you do that and so much more! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

How important is trauma-informed care in the midst of traumatic situations? Today Coach Andrea has a conversation with Donna M. Dixon, founder and lead servant of A Door of Hope. Learn what trauma informed care is and how A Door of Hope is training women to provide a place of safety and hope for women recovering from betrayal. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

If mental health is the commitment to reality at all costs, that means that we regularly should be doing reality checks. In this episode Coach Andrea shares some things that keep us from being in reality and offers some ways we can stay grounded in reality. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness month, we are discussing abuse on the podcast today. It's a topic that's difficult to talk about, but even more difficult to experience. We cannot change what we do not discuss and we cannot heal what is not exposed. Awareness is key and could save a life. If you are in immediate need of support, please contact the Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Just saying the word abortion stirs up VERY strong feelings for many people. Today on the podcast, Coach Andrea talks to Lisa Rowe, CEO of Support After Abortion, a non-profit organization that provides compassionate care to help people impacted by abortion to receive the hope and healing they deserve. Support After Abortion offers a research-centered, options-based model which gives people hurting from abortion experiences an opportunity to live their best life by breaking free from guilt, shame, condemnation, and other painful emotions. www.supportafterabortion.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

As I'm continually celebrating this year of Jubilee, a thought hit me about the amount of gratitude that I feel in this season. Does grief deepen our level of gratitude? When we have periods of loss, if we allow grief it's due diligence, does it make space for more gratitude. I don't have the answers, but I do think it's a topic worth exploring. I'd love to hear your thoughts! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Identity theft is one of the fastest rising crimes in the physical. In the spiritual, it's the oldest trick in the book. Listen as Coach Andrea shares the importance of having our spiritual vision checked on a regular basis so that we don't lose sight of who God truly is AND who we are as image-bearers. You can break free from whatever lie the enemy has told you about who you are and walk in the abundance of the truth. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Trigger warning: This episode is deeply personal and covers some details that may be triggering. Who knew that the year of turning 40 would begin the fight of my life? This is, by far, my most vulnerable podcast episode. Listen as I share how the 40s took me through hell and back, shattered my life, and are ending with a renewed excitement for my 50s. This journey has been the fight of my life, but with the help of God, I won. You can too! Please be sure to like, rate, comment, and share! Your support means so much. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

We can look back at where we've come from with regret, or we can look back with gratitude. Today, Coach Andrea shares three important lessons she's learned along the way, that she wishes she would have known sooner. This episode is birthed out of reflection, remembrance, and a very deep sense of appreciation for this journey called life. If you are interested in joining the Suddenly Single Divorce Group, please click the link here: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19750524 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

None of us is exempt from experiencing trauma. Post traumatic growth is the term used to describe what happens when we go through trauma and come through it with a greater appreciation for life, richer relationships, and personal strength. My guest today, Nakia Hanson is a picture of what it looks like to live in post traumatic growth. Her story of experiencing rape, abuse, cancer, and a car accident is reminder that the human spirit is powerful and that God truly can bring beauty from ashes. (Trigger warning: Sensitive topics are discussed in this episode.) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

What happens when God starts to pull apart the fabric you've use to weave your identity? Today my guest, Titus Benton, shares how the loss of his job caused a great unraveling in who he thought he was. Titus' vulnerable story is full of great insight and some really powerful thoughts to ponder. If you've ever found yourself in the middle of an unraveling or you're in that process now, you don't want to miss this episode. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

After years of working with partners, there are some things that I hear pretty consistently that wives wish their husbands knew. I'm sharing some behind the scenes secrets to close out Men's Mental Health month. Husbands, I want to see you win! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

You may have heard Dr. Jake Porter, founder of Daring Ventures (https://www.daringventures.com/), but you haven't heard him quite like this. I got the chance to ask Jake anything and it was well worth it! Listen as Jake shares pieces of his own story, his journey to where he is today, and some of the reasons he's seen couples not do well in recovery. It's insightful and engaging! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Have you ever wondered what God was doing with your trauma? If so, you don't want to miss this episode with Matt Wenger, Clinical Director at Begin Again Institute and Boulder Recovery. Matt shares some things that God put on his heart during his own season of contemplation and seeking. If you have religious trauma, please know this episode may be triggering despite our efforts to be sensitive. If you've been searching for a way to make sense of your life, this might just be the episode for you. You can reach Matt Wenger at https://beginagaininstitute.com/. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

What labels do you use to describe yourself on your healing journey? Sometimes labels get a bad rap because of the negative connotations attached to them. Today Coach Andrea explores why we shouldn't be afraid of certain words and how they can actually help us to move forward in our healing journey. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

In this episode, Coach Andrea explores the connection between awareness, attachment, and authenticity. If mental health is "a commitment to reality at all costs", we need to be honest about who we are and how we engage with others. Learning to be the most authentic version of yourself is one of the greatest forms of self-care and a major contributor to your mental health and well-being. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

Betrayal can impact all parts of a person's health, including their mental health. Listen in as Jen Cole Binkley, nurse and betrayal trauma coach, shares the commonalities of her experiences from her time as a nurse and as a betrayal trauma coach. Be sure to share this episode with someone who needs to know that healing takes time and that hope is available. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support

May is Mental Health Awareness month! If we're focused on being made well (whole), we cannot neglect our mental health. Our mental health impacts our overall well being, which means we have to be intentional about it. Listen in to learn the definition of mental health, understand the importance of brain health, how our faith and mental health are not contradictory, and get access to resources. Be sure to like and share to bring awareness to the importance of mental health. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fullyalivecoaching/support