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Our Rabbis teach us how virtuous the mida of vitur is – giving in. It is also a great expression of a person's emunah. Giving in on something we wanted in order to benefit others, knowing that Hashem sees and appreciates those efforts so much. Ultimately, we will gain so much more than we seem to be giving up. And more importantly, we will be credited with a great mitzvah. This is a great tool to teach our children. As we know, children argue all the time over possessions, over seats, over privileges and much more. We should teach our children how great it is to give in and then, if a dispute ever arises, we should present them with the opportunity of being mivater and ask who wants to get that great mitzvah. As well, it is always beneficial to give stories of chizuk when teaching lessons to our children, in order to instill the lesson in them much better. Rabbi Yeshaya Rubin from Bnei Brak told that he was once driving back late at night to his home and was feeling very tired. He wanted to have someone ride with him so he wouldn't fall asleep. He stopped off at Meron and asked if anyone needed a ride to Bnei Brak. A boy and his mother hurried over and the boy said to his mother, “See? I told you we would get a ride.” When they got in the car they explained, 10 minutes before that, a bus came for Bnei Brak and stopped there but there were only 3 seats left on it. Those two were getting on the bus and they were going to their chairs, and then they heard a father and his two sons get on the bus, the children complaining about the cold. The next bus was not for another two hours. The boy and his mother felt bad for them so the boy told his mother, “I know Hashem will get us a ride, let's give them the seats.” And they got off. A few minutes after that is when Rabbi Yeshaya pulled up. Not only did they not lose, they even gained. They lived in Petach Tikvah and were planning on taking another bus from Bnei Brak to their home. Rabbi Yeshaya drove them straight and they arrived home much earlier than they would have had they taken the bus. Rabbi Chaim Zayid told that his wife went one Friday to the shuk in Rosh HaAyin where clothing was discounted by nearly 70%. It's a one day a week sale there that people wake up at 5:00 in the morning to get to. She bought a very nice shirt there for her grandchild Daniel for 130 shekel, which normally cost 400. She figured he was a size 8 so she got that size. When she tried it on him, she saw it was too small. In this shuk returns were not allowed, but exchanges were. So she went back the following Friday to exchange it for a size 10. As she pulled the shirt off the rack, another woman asked her if that was a size 10 shirt. Yes, she replied. The other woman said, “Please, could you give it to me? I need it for my child so badly and there are no other size 10's here.” Rabbi Zayid's wife thought for a moment and then she said to herself, what are the odds that another person is going to want the exact same shirt that I want and she comes in at the same moment as me and now she's pleading with me to give it to her? She said, this is Hashem setting up the entire situation , giving me the opportunity to be mivateret . This would mean she would have to forgo the 130 shekels she paid for the shirt because there was nothing else there that she could use. She happily gave in and brought that shirt back into her car. A week later, Rabbi Zayid was called to be the sandak at a brit milah in Ra'anana. He arrived there early and as they were waiting for the brit to start, the mother was taking pictures of another son of hers by a little fish pond. All of a sudden, the little boy backed up too much and fell in and his clothing got soaked. They were so distraught, the mother took off his shirt and the boy was crying. That's when Rabbi Zayid hurried to his car and brought back the size 8 shirt. They put it on the boy and it fit him perfectly. It even matched the pants. They were so appreciative. After the brit milah , the grandfather came over to Rabbi Zayid and asked him what he was doing with that shirt in his car. Rabbi Zayid answered, “Hashem runs the world and He wanted it there for you.” The grandfather refused to accept the shirt without paying and so he gave Rabbi Zayid 130 shekel. When Rabbi Zayid came home afterwards, he said to his wife, “Hashem gave us back the money for the shirt, and by you passing your test to be mivateret , you also enabled that boy to have clothing at his brother's brit milah . We always win by being mivater .