Daily Emunah Podcast - Daily Emunah By Rabbi David Ashear

There are times when we have a certain plan that we're excited to carry out. We picture exactly how things are going to unfold, and we feel that our plan is going to be the best possible outcome. But then, suddenly, something happens that throws everything off. The opportunity disappears, someone interrupts our plans, and naturally, we feel disappointed and frustrated. At those moments, we have to remember a fundamental principle of emunah. It is very possible that if we react the right way, we will gain far more than we ever could have had our original plan succeeded. What appears to be an obstacle may actually be Hashem redirecting us to something much greater. Rav Shmuel Tzvi Kovalsky made sure that every year on his father's yahrtzeit he would be the chazzan at the minyan. It was something that meant a great deal to him, and it was his way of bringing an aliyah to his father's neshamah. One year, while waiting for the next minyan, he noticed an elderly man who appeared to need help. Although he realized that if he helped that man, he might lose the opportunity to be the chazzan at the next minyan, he offered to help anyway, figuring he would wait for the following minyan. The man first asked him to help fold his tefillin. Afterwards, he asked if he could accompany him home. Rav Shmuel assumed it would take only a few minutes because he knew the man had lived nearby. However, the man explained that he had recently moved five blocks away and that the walk usually took him thirty minutes. Rav Shmuel became very concerned that he might miss every remaining minyan to be the chazzan. Nevertheless, he strengthened himself and continued doing the chesed. When they finally reached the building, the elderly man apologized and explained that the elevator was broken. He lived on the fourth floor and couldn't get up the stairs alone. Once again, Rav Shmuel strengthened himself and continued the chesed. He silently said, "Hashem, please let this chesed serve as an aliyah for my father's neshamah in case I'm not able to be the chazzan." He then helped the man all the way up the four flights of stairs. By the time he got back to shul, the final minyan had already started and someone else was the chazzan. Rav Shmuel was heartbroken, but that night his father appeared to him in a dream. "My son," he said, "every year you are the chazzan for me on my yahrtzeit, and I receive so much nachat ruach from it. But this year you gave me something much greater. The nachat ruach I received from your sacrificing something so important to help another Jew far surpassed what I would have received had you simply been the chazzan. You were willing to give up something so precious to you in order to help someone else. That brought me an immeasurably greater aliyah." Rav Shmuel thought he was losing his opportunity, but in reality, Hashem gave him something much more valuable. A woman related a similar experience. She recently attended the wedding of a close friend who had finally become engaged after many years. Everyone was dancing with tremendous joy when someone accidentally bumped into her very hard and knocked her sheitel off her head. The embarrassment was overwhelming. As she bent down to pick it up, she made a conscious decision. "I forgive the person who just did this. I have no anger toward her." She remembered what Chazal teach—that when a person experiences public embarrassment and accepts it without retaliation, it is an especially auspicious time for tefillah. Right then she prayed that her two closest friends, ages twenty-five and twenty-four, should both become engaged within the month. Amazingly, three weeks later the twenty-five-year-old became engaged, and on the very last day of that month, the twenty-four-year-old became engaged as well. This woman had gone to the wedding expecting nothing more than an enjoyable evening. Instead, Hashem placed before her an unexpected challenge. Had she become upset, the night would have ended with disappointment. Instead, she accepted the situation with emunah, transformed a painful moment into a powerful moment of tefillah, and merited to accomplish something far greater than she could have ever imagined. When our plans suddenly change, instead of asking, "Why did this happen?" we should ask, "What does Hashem want from me right now?" If we respond with emunah, we may discover that what seemed like an interruption was actually the greatest opportunity of all.

ArtScroll will be offering many books at 50% off in the upcoming weeks including some volumes of Living Emunah. Click the link to view the selection. artscroll.com/categories/wk1. html One of the mistakes people make is believing that if they don't have enough money, they can't have what they need. We naturally assume that the deciding factor in what we'll be able to own is the balance in our bank account, but we know otherwise. Hashem is never limited by a person's salary or financial circumstances. If He wants someone to have something, He has unlimited ways of making it happen. Money is only one of His many messengers. A rabbi recently shared a story. For a few years, he and his wife had been trying to move from their apartment into a house. Their family had grown, baruch Hashem, and they had outgrown their apartment. Living in Brooklyn, however, they found themselves in one of the most expensive real estate markets, and every possibility seemed to be far beyond their reach. Then one day, they discovered what appeared to be the perfect house. It was exactly where they wanted to live, close to everything important to them. They had always assumed they would have to move to a less convenient neighborhood, but this house was perfect in every way, and there was a "For Rent" sign in front. There was only one problem. The owner wanted only to rent it, not sell it, and the rent was over $7,000 a month, far more than they could afford. They were currently paying $4,500 for their apartment, and there was no way they could take on such an additional expense. They were disappointed, but they continued praying and asking Hashem for help. A few days later, they attended a simcha. During a conversation, the rabbi's wife happened to mention the beautiful house they had seen and how they wished they could live there. The woman she was speaking to replied, "A relative of mine lives next door to that house. I think I can find out who the owner is." A short time later, they discovered that the owner was someone they knew very well. He had recently become a regular attendee of the rabbi's classes, and two of his children attended the yeshiva where the rabbi taught. Hashem had connected them long before they ever discovered this house of their dreams. The rabbi called the owner and asked if he would be willing to sell. The owner said he couldn't, but he did offer to lower the rent slightly. Even with the discount, however, it was still far beyond their budget. They continued praying, and then an unexpected idea entered the rabbi's mind. The yeshiva where he taught had recently discussed giving him a small raise because of the extra work he was doing. Since the homeowner paid tuition to that yeshiva, perhaps they could structure the raise differently. Instead of increasing his salary, which wouldn't make much of a difference, maybe the yeshiva would agree to reduce the homeowner's tuition by a larger amount, allowing the owner to lower the rent accordingly. The board considered the proposal and actually agreed. The rabbi then returned to the homeowner and asked if he would accept the tuition reduction in exchange for lowering the rent. He then asked if, even after that, he might lower the rent just a little more. The owner replied, "For you, I'll do it." Suddenly, the impossible became possible. The monthly payment for the house of their dreams was now almost exactly what they had been paying for their apartment. Looking back, it was clear that Hashem had been arranging everything in advance. He inspired the owner to attend the rabbi's classes instead of someone else's so they would develop a relationship. He arranged the conversation at the simcha that revealed who the owner was. He placed the creative idea into the rabbi's mind and gave the yeshiva board the willingness to approve it. Every piece was orchestrated perfectly for this family to move into the home they needed, even though they did not have the money to afford it. How often do we look at something and say, "I know I need it, but I just can't afford it"? Of course, if something is beyond our budget, it may very well be because it isn't good for us to have. But we don't know Hashem's calculations. Therefore, we can still pray for Him to give it to us in other ways. Hashem never needs a person to have money in order to give him what He wants him to have. Sometimes He gives a person more money. Sometimes He lowers the price. Sometimes He inspires other people to help. And sometimes He creates opportunities that never existed before. Hashem has countless ways to give a person exactly what He wants him to have. Our job is to make a normal hishtadlut and pray as hard as we can for the yeshuah we need. Hashem will decide if, how, and when that yeshuah will come. If He wants us to have something, no financial obstacle will ever stand in the way. When the time is right, He will open doors that no one ever imagined could be opened.

One of the great benefits of having emunah is the sense of calm that it brings when we realize that Hashem is guiding every step we take in life. People may think their future depends on the decisions they make, the people they meet, or the opportunities they find, but in truth, Hashem is arranging all of that. A person is always exactly where Hashem wants him to be. He meets the people Hashem wants him to meet. He lives in the house Hashem wants him to live in. He works at the job Hashem wants him to have. Even the unexpected detours and closed doors are guiding him to exactly where he is meant to be. A woman shared the following story. Her son was learning in a yeshivah in Lakewood. For years, it had been his dream to learn Torah in Eretz Yisrael. About a month earlier, however, he spoke with his Rosh Yeshivah, who told him that since he was learning so well, he should remain in America. They accepted the Rosh Yeshivah's decision and moved on. The young man was a Canadian citizen, and because his yeshivah did not provide the visa documentation he needed to remain in the United States, he had to return home to Toronto for a short time before attempting to reenter America. When he arrived back at the border, he was denied entry. He was devastated. The entire plan had suddenly collapsed. What would they do now? That very day happened to be the last day to submit an early application to the Mir Yeshivah in Yerushalayim. Although the young man still expected to return to America, he submitted the application anyway. The mother said she worked very hard to strengthen her emunah, constantly reminding herself that Hashem was in charge. After Shabbat, her son finally reached his Rosh Yeshivah and explained everything that had happened. This time, the Rosh Yeshivah gave him completely different guidance. "You should go learn in Eretz Yisrael." Within hours, he found an affordable flight leaving that very day, and all of a sudden he was on a plane heading to Eretz Yisrael, fulfilling the dream he had cherished for years. Looking back, they realized that the closed border had never been an obstacle. It was the very vehicle Hashem used to bring him exactly where he was meant to be. Chazal tell us, " רגלוהי דאיניש אינון ערבין ביה " —a person's feet are his guarantors. They carry him to the place where Hashem has decreed he needs to be. Sometimes we set out intending to go in one direction and end up somewhere entirely different. What seems like an unexpected turn is often Hashem gently directing our steps to the place where our mission awaits us. Every encounter is carefully orchestrated. Every opportunity is handpicked. Every delay has a purpose. Every person we meet is part of Hashem's perfect plan. We don't always understand why we are led down one path instead of another, but we can be certain that every detail has been arranged with precision. When we truly internalize this, life becomes so much calmer. Instead of constantly wondering, "What if I had made a different decision?" we can say, "Hashem placed me exactly where I need to be." Instead of regretting the opportunities we think we missed, we can appreciate the opportunities that Hashem arranged specifically for us to have. And instead of worrying about the future, we can continue forward with confidence, knowing that the One Who brought us to where we are today will continue leading us to every place we need to be tomorrow.

When a person needs a yeshuah for a problem he has, his first thoughts are usually to focus on that problem, think of ways to solve it, and pray to Hashem to take it away. Sometimes, however, the salvation comes from a completely different angle—from focusing on someone else's problem and trying to help bring them a yeshuah. A woman related that her daughter needed a great deal of dental work, but she couldn't find a dentist who accepted their insurance. The treatments were going to cost $10,000. At that time, she was teaching from the Sefer Shemirat HaLashon . She came across a teaching from the Chafetz Chaim that when a person has mercy on others, Hashem has mercy on him. She immediately prayed, "Hashem, please send me someone that I can have mercy on." That very day, she received a phone call from a woman raising money for her niece's wedding. After carefully verifying the story, she found out that the kallah came from a distinguished family in Eretz Yisrael and needed exactly $10,000 to make the wedding. She felt that Hashem had answered her tefillah by giving her the opportunity to help with this great mitzvah, and help she did. That same day, she mentioned her daughter's dental situation to a friend, who suggested trying a certain dentist. The woman replied, "I know about that dentist. They aren't accepting any new patients." Her friend answered, "Don't worry. Hashem is in charge. Try anyway." On Shivah Asar B'Tammuz, she managed to get an unexpected appointment. Amazingly, not only did the dentist agree to take her daughter as a new patient, but he also accepted their insurance. The entire $10,000 bill was covered. As if that wasn't enough, she later discovered that the very friend who told her to call this dentist had been the one who canceled her own son's appointment the day before because he didn't want to go to the dentist on a fast day. The lesson that she had just learned from the Chafetz Chaim became her own reality. She looked for an opportunity to have mercy on someone else, and Hashem had mercy on her. A man told me another story with the very same message. His wife found out that a close friend needed to undergo a very dangerous medical procedure. Wanting to create a zechut on her behalf, they organized hundreds of people to learn the laws of Shemirat HaLashon for forty straight days. The man prepared a booklet and divided it into daily lessons with clear and concise halachot. Many schools joined the initiative, and hundreds of people strengthened themselves in guarding their speech. This created an enormous zechut for the woman with countless people growing in this great mitzvah. Baruch Hashem, her procedure went very well. Then something completely unexpected happened. The very man who had organized the entire undertaking was told that he himself needed to undergo a dangerous medical procedure. The timing was incredible. His procedure was scheduled just as the fortieth and final day of the Shemirat HaLashon campaign came to an end. Baruch Hashem, his procedure was a success. He had organized this learning solely to help someone else. He never imagined that the very zechut he was creating for another person would become the zechut that would help him through his own medical issue. When we are given the opportunity to help others, we may think Hashem is simply giving us the chance to help someone else. In reality, He may also be preparing the very yeshuah that we ourselves may one day need. Every act of chesed, every mitzvah, and every opportunity to help another Jew has the potential to help us in ways we could never imagine. The Chafetz Chaim wasn't just teaching a beautiful idea. He was revealing one of the ways Hashem runs this world. When we look for opportunities to care about the pain of others, Hashem looks upon our pain with greater compassion. Sometimes the yeshuah that we are hoping to receive begins with becoming the yeshuah for somebody else.

We spend a lot of time making different calculations. We think about what's going to bring us the greatest benefit, what's going to produce the best outcome, and what will help us accomplish the most. That's a good approach when it comes to our physical lives, but when it comes to avodat Hashem, there is a different rule. Our job is not to calculate what we think will accomplish the most. It is to do exactly what Hashem asks us to do and trust that His calculations are infinitely greater than ours. Rabbi Eliyahu Lopian brings out this lesson very clearly in the first of this week's two parashiyot. In Parashat Matot, Hashem tells Moshe Rabbeinu to go to war against Midyan, and immediately afterward he would leave this world. Rashi, quoting the Midrash, points out the greatness of Moshe Rabbeinu. Even though he knew that fulfilling this command would bring about his own death, he did not hesitate for a moment. He fulfilled Hashem's command with joy and without delay. Rabbi Lopian notes that we find what appears to be a different approach by Yehoshua bin Nun. Hashem also commanded Yehoshua to wage war and conquer Eretz Yisrael, and after that mission was complete, his life would come to an end. Chazal tell us that Yehoshua delayed the war, and as a result, he lost ten years of his life. Rabbi Lopian explains that Yehoshua had the best of intentions. He knew Moshe Rabbeinu's prophecy that after Moshe died, the Jewish people would eventually stray from the proper path. Yehoshua understood that as long as he remained alive, it was considered as if Moshe was still alive, because Chazal teach that as long as a student lives, it is as if his rebbe is still living. Indeed, the Jewish people remained loyal to Hashem throughout Yehoshua's lifetime, and only after he died did they begin serving avodah zarah. Yehoshua therefore made a calculation. If he delayed the war, he would live longer, and Klal Yisrael would remain on the proper path for a longer period of time. It seemed like a wonderful calculation. Moshe Rabbeinu could have made the very same calculation. He could have thought, "If I delay the war against Midyan and remain alive longer, I'll continue leading the Jewish people, and they too will remain on the proper path." But Moshe Rabbeinu did not make calculations. Hashem told him to do something, and he did it immediately. In the end, Yehoshua's calculation accomplished just the opposite of what he intended. Instead of gaining years, he lost ten years of his life, and consequently, the Jewish people strayed from the proper path earlier than they would have had he fulfilled Hashem's command immediately. Moshe Rabbeinu, on the other hand, only gained. Because he fulfilled Hashem's command without delay, the prophecy that the Jewish people would stray from the path was postponed until after Yehoshua's passing. Hashem fulfilled the prophetic words אחרי מותי כי השחת תשחיתון to mean not only after Moshe's death, but after the death of his faithful student as well. By trusting Hashem, Moshe accomplished far more than he ever could have by making his own calculations. Very often we also make calculations when it comes to Torah and mitzvot. We say, "I know I should give tzedakah, but first I want to become more financially secure." "I know I should spend more time learning Torah, but right now I need to build my career." "I know I should do this mitzvah, but maybe if I wait a little longer, it will work out better." Our job is not to calculate how Hashem's commands will produce the best results. Our job is to do what Hashem wants now. Hashem, Who sees the past, present, and future all at once, has already made every calculation. Living with emunah means recognizing that Hashem's calculations are infinitely greater than ours. If we do our job by fulfilling His will with joy and without delay, trusting that we only gain by listening to Him, then we will fulfill our mission in this world properly. Shabbat Shalom

One of the hardest experiences in life is watching an opportunity that we almost had slip away. A person may have worked so hard for something, and everything seemed to be falling into place, only for it to disappear at the very last minute. At that moment, it feels as if we lost something that was meant to be ours. That is precisely when we need to dig deep and access our emunah, trusting that not only was it not meant for us, but it would have been the worst thing for us to have. Rabbi Yaakov Tzvi Meir Ehrlich related the following story. A heartbroken man came to him. He had been living in a tiny apartment for a long time and had finally found what seemed to be the perfect house. He had already spoken with the owner, and everything looked very promising. The real estate agent told him that another buyer had made an offer, but if he would submit a bid that was even one euro higher, the house would be his. The man was thrilled. He prepared all the paperwork, and on Friday, just before faxing in his proposal, something very unusual happened. The papers suddenly became soaked, the writing smudged, and he had to start all over again. Time passed, and he realized he was not going to finish before Shabbat. His wife told him, "Shabbat is almost here. Put everything away. You'll continue afterward." She wanted the house just as much as he did, but she wanted to honor Shabbat even more. Together they put everything aside and welcomed the Shabbat. After Shabbat, he contacted the agent only to hear the disappointing news. The house had been sold to the other buyer. The man was devastated. "Maybe I should have ignored the clock and kept writing," he asked the rabbi. The rabbi comforted him. "Don't you see that Hashem orchestrated this? Is it natural for the papers to become ruined at the exact moment you were about to send them? You don't yet understand why, but you can be certain that this house was not good for you." The rabbi later related that after telling this story to a man sitting next to him on an airplane, the passenger replied, "Please tell that Jew my story. He doesn't yet know the happy ending to his, but I was privileged to see mine." This man then related that seventeen years earlier, he had wanted to buy a beautiful apartment in Herzliya. The negotiations dragged on until they finally agreed on a price. Then the Second Lebanon War broke out, and the seller became willing to accept his offer. The agreement came during the Nine Days, and before signing, he asked his rabbi, Rabbi Yosef Cohen, what to do. His rabbi told him, "Do not sign during the Nine Days. Wait until the fifteenth of Av." He listened. But by the time the fifteenth of Av arrived, the war had ended, the prices had risen again, and the owner refused to sell the apartment for that price. The deal fell apart. The man was crushed. After spending six months in Eretz Yisrael hoping to buy an apartment, he returned home empty-handed. Some time later, he returned to Herzliya to continue looking. He told the new agent, "Please don't take me down the street where the first apartment I almost bought is. It will hurt too much to see it." The agent tried to avoid that street, but by mistake they found themselves there. Unable to resist, the man glanced toward the house and froze. The house wasn't there. It was just an empty lot. The agent asked, "That was the apartment you almost bought? Didn't you hear what happened?" After the new owner began renovating, an architect discovered that the entire structure was dangerously unsound. The municipality declared it unsafe, and the house had to be demolished completely. The buyer, who thought he had purchased a beautiful home, suffered an enormous financial loss and tremendous aggravation. At that moment, the man realized that what had seemed like his greatest disappointment had actually been one of Hashem's greatest acts of kindness towards him. How many times in life do we cry over opportunities that we think we lost? The job that didn't work out, the house that someone else got, the investment we couldn't make, or the shidduch that never came to fruition. We only see the closed door, but we don't see what is behind it. Sometimes Hashem allows us to discover years later why He said no, and sometimes we never find out. But our responsibility is always the same—to believe that if Hashem prevented something from happening, then that opportunity was never ours to begin with. The opportunities that Hashem takes away are no less an expression of His love than the ones that He gives us. We call them disappointments, but in Shamayim they are called salvations. One day, we will look back and realize that some of the greatest blessings in our lives were not only the things that Hashem gave us, but also the things that He lovingly withheld from us.

ArtScroll will be offering many books at 50% off in the upcoming weeks including some volumes of Living Emunah. Click the link to view the selection. artscroll.com/categories/wk1.html Life is filled with tests. The greatness of a person is determined by how he overcomes the tests that Hashem gives him. Everybody gets tested according to the level they are on. I was in a taxi the other day, and the driver asked me a question that made it obvious he was Jewish. We got into a conversation, and he told me about a major test that he once faced. Although he doesn't keep the mitzvot, including Shabbat, he understands the value of Torah and mitzvot. He told me that in 2002 he had bought tickets to the U.S. Open Finals and couldn't wait to go. Then his wife reminded him that the match fell on Rosh Hashanah, the one time each year that they go to synagogue. He struggled tremendously because he had been anticipating that match for so long. But in the end, he heroically sold the tickets and went to shul. Everybody gets tested. Naturally, we don't like to be tested. We even pray not to be tested. But we have to know that when tests do come, they present us with golden opportunities. Many times we pray fervently for things that we want, and when the answer doesn't seem to come, we begin to wonder if Hashem values our tefillot. The Or HaChaim in Parashat Vayera teaches us a remarkable lesson. When Hashem wants to give a person a blessing, one of the ways He does it is by presenting him with an opportunity to perform a mitzvah or a heroic deed whose segulah is the very blessing that he needs. Every nisayon that we overcome contains a hidden blessing, besides the eternal reward awaiting us in the Next World. When Hashem gives a person this type of opportunity, it is truly a gift. If he knew what was at stake, he would beg Hashem to give him that test. At the beginning of Parashat Pinchas, Hashem gave Pinchas the greatest gift—an eternal kehunah that would never be disputed. Pinchas was the only one in his family who was not a Kohen, and he had long yearned to become one. Without his realizing it, Hashem placed before him a mitzvah opportunity whose reward would be the very blessing he had been longing for. Pinchas witnessed the terrible chillul Hashem when Zimri ben Salu brought Kozbi into the tent to commit an aveirah. He had an enormous nisayon. Zimri was over 250 years old and was considered one of the great leaders of the generation. If Pinchas acted, he would be risking his life. He had to be acting with completely pure intentions, l'shem Shamayim, or his act would be considered murder. He also had to be prepared to face criticism and ridicule from the rest of Klal Yisrael for what he was about to do. Yet he rose to the challenge. He acted solely for the honor of Hashem, stopped the plague, and prevented countless more deaths. There was someone else in Klal Yisrael who also yearned to be a Kohen. Originally, Moshe Rabbeinu himself had the kehunah. However, because he repeatedly declined Hashem's mission to lead the Jewish people out of Egypt, the kehunah was taken from him. We know how desperately Moshe wanted every opportunity to serve Hashem. That is why he pleaded so much to enter Eretz Yisrael—to perform the mitzvot that could only be fulfilled there. Now another opportunity to attain the kehunah had been placed before Klal Yisrael, and Moshe Rabbeinu was there. Moshe Rabbeinu, the Rabban Shel Kol Yisrael, certainly knew this halachah. He was the one who had taught it to everyone else. Yet at that moment, Hashem caused him to forget it, and therefore he did not perform the mitzvah. Instead, Pinchas remembered the halachah and carried it out. We see from here that a person needs merits not only to pass a test, but even to be given the opportunity to face the test. Because Moshe had lost the kehunah through his earlier actions, Hashem did not give him this opportunity to regain it. Instead, that opportunity was reserved for Pinchas. When a person is confronted with a difficult nisayon, he naturally wonders, "Why is Hashem doing this to me?" But perhaps the better question is, "What blessing is Hashem giving me the opportunity to earn?" If we truly knew what we could gain by overcoming our tests, we would thank Hashem from the bottom of our hearts for giving them to us. Every nisayon is a precious gift, allowing us to earn blessings in this world and immeasurable reward in the Next World.

Today's Living Emunah Message is Dedicated Leiluy Nishmat: Moshe Aaron Tzadok a"h If Hashem puts a person in an unexpected, challenging situation, his emunah is going to be tested. The natural reaction is to focus on the problem and wonder why Hashem is doing this. But we must know that Hashem is not placing an obstacle in front of the person. He is giving him an opportunity—one that could never have existed without the challenge. Rabbi David Sutton told the following story, which took place just a few days ago. It was 5:30 on Friday afternoon in Lakewood, New Jersey, and the power suddenly went out in Mrs. Schwartz's home. She had a Sheva Berachot planned in her house with 45 guests, including 23 young children, and now she had no electricity to heat the food or host everyone comfortably. The following is Mrs. Schwartz's account of what happened next. "I realized by six o'clock that I desperately needed a place to heat our food. Miraculously, the cure had come before the illness. That very morning, before the outage even occurred, a neighbor named Rivka Strauss had called. She was on a different grid that didn't lose power, and she offered her extra refrigerator space and oven just in case we would ever need it. As soon as my oven went out, I called her, and she immediately told me to bring my food over. Meanwhile, my husband reached out to Rabbi Davidowitz. Since Rabbi Davidowitz has internet access and we don't, my husband hoped he could check with the electric company to see when the power might return. During the call, Rabbi Davidowitz asked, 'You're making your simcha at a catering hall, right?' When my husband explained that we were actually hosting it at our own house, Rabbi and Mrs. Davidowitz instantly mobilized. They were going away for Shabbat and insisted that we take over their home. 'We're opening our doors. Please,' they urged. At first we hesitated, hoping the power would come back on, but once we found out there was no update on the outage, I walked over to the Davidowitz home. They were already opening their dining room table for us. Mrs. Davidowitz greeted me warmly, showing me where we could put the children to sleep and pointing out the cribs and pack-and-plays. She gave me a tour of the kitchen, explaining the meat, dairy, and pareve setups. She told me, 'The house is yours. Feel free to take anything from the refrigerator, freezer, or pantry.' And we really did. With 45 people, we ended up needing everything from their seltzer maker to extra plasticware for the waiters. The logistics were wild, but the teamwork and achdut were incredible. We were moving massive hot pots of chicken soup across the street under serious pressure, along with high chairs, paper goods, tablecloths, and silk flowers. The boys hauled everything over, and my daughters led the charge on cleaning up afterward, with a lot of help from the Stern family. All of the guests who were staying nearby had no electricity where they were sleeping, and the heat was unbearable. So, 45 people crowded into the Davidowitz home on Shabbat afternoon, sitting on couches, eating around the dinette, and reading books together. After Shabbat, we went back to thank the Davidowitz family for letting an army of people take over their home, but they refused to take any credit. Instead, they told us that we had brought berachah and simcha into their home and that they were incredibly excited about it. Mrs. Davidowitz then shared the beautiful, emotional reason why. That Shabbat was her father's sheloshim(30 days since he passed away). She had really wanted to host her extended family in her home to honor his memory, but because another sister had a better setup, the family decided to go there instead. She had been terribly disappointed. When our power went out and the opportunity to host our simcha arose, she felt it was a gift from Hashem. She told us that when she walked into her sister's house and saw a picture of her father, she looked at it and said, 'Thank you, Tati. This is going to be for your iluy neshamah.' She felt so grateful that we were using her home. What had begun as our stressful blackout became a beautiful tribute to her father." What began as a blackout became an opportunity that none of these people would have wanted to miss. The Schwartzes, whose Shabbat seemed to be falling apart, experienced extraordinary kindness. Rivka Strauss was given the opportunity to help at exactly the right moment. The Davidowitz family was given the opportunity to open their home and perform an incredible act of chesed. Mrs. Davidowitz received the very opportunity she had been hoping for—to fill her home with people in honor of her father's neshamah. So often we view our challenges only as problems to overcome. But many times, Hashem is using those very challenges to present us with opportunities that could never have existed otherwise. When Hashem sends us a challenge, our first instinct is naturally to ask, "Why is this happening? Hashem, what do You want from me?" Perhaps the better question is, "What opportunity is Hashem placing before me?" Very often, hidden inside the difficulty is a chance to perform a great mitzvah, help another person, grow in emunah, or bring tremendous blessing into our lives. When we respond with emunah instead of frustration, we may discover that what first appeared to be an obstacle was actually one of Hashem's greatest gifts.

The Midrash at the beginning of this week's parasha Pinchas says, אמר הקב"ה בדין הוא שיקבל שכרו – Hashem said that Pinchas deserved the reward he was getting for the act he performed. The mefarshim ask the question, doesn't everybody who does a mitzvah deserve the reward that comes as a result of performing it? Why is the Midrash singling out Pinchas, saying that he deserved his reward? The sefer Vaveh HaAmudim quoted an answer given by the sefer Zichron Yitzchak - even though everyone who does a mitzvah deserves reward for it, most of the time, there is some type of praise or honor that the person gets as a result of the performance of that mitzvah which takes away some of the reward. Receiving praises from others or being acknowledged for a deed reduces the full amount of the reward of that mitzvah. Hashem may still give the person the reward but it is no longer called "fully deserved". Pinchas however did not only not receive praises for his actions, he was even ridiculed for them. Therefore, he can be called deserved of the reward that he was getting. On one occasion, somebody from Rav Shach's family saw the Rosh Yeshiva with tears in his eyes. At that time, he was very old. The family member asked the Rosh Yeshiva what was wrong and if he could offer his assistance. Rav Shach replied he was thinking about what he was going to bring with him to the Heavenly Court after he leaves this world. The family member then pointed to the sefer Avi Ezri that was open on the table, a four volume masterpiece written by Rav Shach as a commentary of the Mishneh Torah of the Rambam which is used in every yeshiva throughout the entire world. Rav Shach replied, "Yes, it is a good sefer , but I got too much recognition from it. It's value has been diminished." A relative of the Chofetz Chaim once came to the Rabbi to ask him if he should travel to America to help collect money for a yeshiva that was struggling financially. The Chofetz Chaim told him he should go and he even gave him a beracha for success. The day the relative was leaving, he came back to the Chofetz Chaim to get a departing beracha . The Chofetz Chiam gave him the beracha and then told him, "Hashem gave us a Torah with 613 mitzvot in it. Due to our sins, we lost the Beit HaMikdash and according to my calculation, there are only 271 mitzvot left that we can perform nowadays - 77 positive commandments and 184 negative commandments. I felt that it was my obligation to clarify these 271 mitzvot for Klal Yisrael and therefore, I just wrote a sefer explaining each one of them. I want this sefer to have success. I want it to be completely leshem Shamayim . I need somebody to sponsor it, but I have three conditions: #1 – his name should not appear on the sefer , #2 – he himself should ask that his name doesn't appear on the sefer , and #3 – only one person should give the entire sum. Please try to find someone during your travels abroad." The man traveled by boat to America. After a few weeks, he arrived in New York but developed a very strong cough there and a doctor advised him to spend some time in a warmer climate in Florida. When the man arrived in Florida on Thursday, he had no idea where he was going to stay. To his surprise, there was a religious Jew waiting on the platform there. He introduced himself as Yerachmiel, saying he stands there every Thursday warning Jews who arrive not to go to certain "kosher" hotels and shuls that were not really reliable and were run by the wrong people. Rav Yerachmiel invited him for Shabbat and he enjoyed it very much. After Shabbat, he asked Yerachmiel about the yeshiva he was collecting for, as well as the new sefer being put out by the Chofetz Chaim. But he forgot the conditions that the Chofetz Chaim gave him. Yerachmiel said he would love to sponsor the sefer , but on 2 conditions: #1 – he would be the only sponsor, and #2 – his name wouldn't be on the sefer . The man then realized this was min haShamayim , the same conditions the Chofetz Chaim asked for were offered by this man. Decades later, after the Chofetz Chaim had already left this world and Rav Yerachmiel had married off all his children, Rav Yerachmiel's entire family moved to Israel. One day, his son-in-law, who was at that time a big talmid chacham , was walking in Bnei Brak and that relative of the Chofetz Chaim saw him and recognized him. He called him over and said, years before this, his father-in-law sponsored the Sefer HaMitzvot of the Chofetz Chaim. The talmid chacham had no clue that his father-in-law did that. When he told his father-in-law about it, Rav Yerachmiel turned pale and started crying out loud. He said, "I can't believe this was told to you. I gave a lot of tzedaka in my lifetime, but I got so much honor from it. There was one thing that I felt consoled by – sponsoring this sefer that nobody knew about, just me and Hashem and one other person. Now, what am I going to come with to Olam Haba ?" Mitzvot are great, but when we do them without any recognition, they become infinitely greater. Shabbat Shalom.

The Gemara in Masechet Chulin, daf 63a, teaches us a very important lesson about parnassah. There it discusses one of the non-kosher birds mentioned in the Torah called the shalach . The Gemara says it is called shalach because it has to draw its food from the depths of the sea. Every meal requires tremendous effort. By contrast, there is the tiny ant, whose food seems to be readily available wherever it goes. The Gemara says that whenever Rabbi Yochanan saw the shalach , he would recite the pasuk, " מִשְׁפָּטֶיךָ תְּהוֹם רַבָּה ." And when he saw an ant, he would say, " צִדְקָתְךָ כְּהַרְרֵי אֵל ." Rashi, in his second explanation, says that Rabbi Yochanan was marveling at the different ways that Hashem provides sustenance. One creature receives its food with ease, while another has to struggle for every bite. Both are exactly the way Hashem wants them to be. We look around and see that some people struggle to earn even the most basic necessities, while others seem to have more money than they know what to do with. Some people work day and night and barely make ends meet, while others appear to have great opportunities simply fall into their laps. Hashem has a different mission for every individual. He determines exactly how much a person will have, how it will come, when it will come, and even how much effort will be required to receive it. Every person's financial circumstances are tailor-made for his unique mission in this world. Recently, I received a heartbreaking letter from a woman who grew up in a family filled with trauma. She described how several members of her family desperately needed therapy, psychiatric care, and other treatments that they simply could not afford. Some of her siblings had already been hospitalized. She wrote about watching her parents suffer as they longed to provide the best care for their children but lacked the financial means to do so. Then she asked a question that many others may wonder: "If money can save so many terrible situations, why doesn't Hashem just give people the money they need?" Of course, we can never understand the ways of Hashem. But we do know that a person's problems are never due to his financial circumstances. They are there because Hashem, in His infinite wisdom, decided that this is the path that is best for that person's unique mission in this world. When it comes to money, Hashem can give a person money even if he doesn't even have a job. I read a story about an avrech from Yerushalayim who learns every day with a yeshivah boy from Switzerland. One day, before they started learning, the boy mentioned that his father was involved in real estate in Switzerland. The avrech casually replied, "That's interesting. I have a friend in Bnei Brak who also does real estate in Switzerland." The boy then told his father about it, and they got the contact information of the man in Bnei Brak. Around that same time, the avrech's son became engaged. Because of the circumstances of the shidduch, he committed to contribute an additional forty thousand dollars toward the couple's apartment—money that he didn't really have. Naturally, he wondered where he was going to get such a large amount of money, but he gave himself chizuk, saying that if Hashem wanted him to have forty thousand dollars, it was no more difficult for Him than forty dollars. A few weeks later, the boy said to the avrech, "My father wants to thank you. Even though you weren't trying to be a broker, he feels you deserve compensation for introducing him to your friend because of the great deals they made together." Two days later, the avrech received $39,500—almost the exact amount he needed. He never negotiated any deals. He didn't work as a real estate agent. He wasn't even trying to make money. All he did was mention a name in the course of a regular conversation. Hashem showed him how easy it is for Him to give a person forty thousand dollars, and through this story, He showed us the same thing. When we see someone struggling financially, especially with things as important as medical care, therapy, or other basic needs, we may think the problem is that they don't have enough money. But this story reminds us that if Hashem wants to give a person money, He can do it in the easiest of ways. If Hashem has chosen a different financial path for someone, it is not because He cannot provide. It is because that person needs to experience that path in order to fulfill his mission in this world. At the same time, a lack of money never means a lack of hope. Money is just one messenger that Hashem uses to bring yeshuot. He has infinitely many other ways of doing so. He can send the right doctor. He can heal without a doctor. He can send the right therapist. He can send the right opportunity, or a completely unexpected yeshuah that no one could ever have imagined. Why one person receives abundance with ease while another struggles is one of the hidden ways of Hashem. But one thing we know with certainty: if Hashem wants to change a person's situation, He can do it in any way He wants. Whether through money or through an entirely different messenger, He can bring the yeshuah in the blink of an eye.

A rabbi from Israel came over to me the other day and shared the following beautiful thought. When a person goes to speak with a great rabbi, he naturally feels excitement. He prepares what he wants to say, treasures every moment of the conversation, and leaves feeling privileged that he was granted such an opportunity. Yet three times a day, we are invited to stand before the Melech Malchei HaMelachim and speak directly to Hashem. Why don't we feel that same excitement? Why don't we enter shul overflowing with anticipation? The rabbi explained with the following mashal. Imagine someone tells you that a man has left you a gift. You open the envelope and find one hundred dollars. You would certainly appreciate it. You might even ask who it was so you could go over and thank him. But imagine opening the envelope and finding a check for one hundred million dollars. Would you simply say, "Oh wow, thank you. Who was it?" Of course not. You would be overwhelmed with gratitude. You would rush to find the person who gave you such an unimaginable gift. You would praise him, thank him, and never feel that your words could adequately express your appreciation. The reason we don't feel that way when we approach Hashem is because we don't fully appreciate the gifts He has already given us. Every morning we wake up with treasures that are worth infinitely more than one hundred million dollars. What price could a person put on his eyesight? If someone who had just lost his vision was told that for one hundred million dollars he could once again see his spouse, watch his children grow, or learn Torah from a sefer, who wouldn't give every penny he owned if he could? What is the value of hearing? What is it worth to hear the laughter of a child, the voice of a loved one, or the sweet sound of Torah learning? There was a little boy named Avi who was born without the ability to hear. For six years, he never heard a single sound. He never heard birds chirping, rain falling, music playing, or even his mother's voice. After years of tefillot and doctor's visits, the long-awaited day finally arrived. A hearing specialist was able to activate a hearing device that worked for him. His mother leaned over and softly whispered, "Avi." He froze. Slowly, he turned toward her. She said his name again, "Avi." His eyes widened, and tears immediately filled them. For the first time in his life, he heard his mother's voice. His mother burst into tears. His father could barely contain his emotions. The specialist quietly stepped out of the room, allowing the family to cherish a moment they had dreamed about for years. His mother kept speaking, not because she had anything new to say, but simply because after waiting six years, she wanted her son to hear her voice. For Avi, hearing a voice was a miracle. For most of us, it is just another day. We hear thousands of sounds every day and rarely stop to think about them. Yet, lo aleinu, if a person were told that he was about to lose his hearing, he would gladly exchange every possession he owned to keep it. The same is true of every gift that Hashem has given us. Our hearts beat approximately one hundred thousand times every day, pumping thousands of gallons of blood through a network of blood vessels stretching tens of thousands of miles throughout our bodies. If a person's heart skipped just a few beats, he would panic. With every breath, our lungs absorb life-giving oxygen through hundreds of millions of tiny air sacs. If a person could not take even one breath, nothing else in the world would matter. Our eyes distinguish millions of colors. Our brains process billions of signals every moment. Thousands of incredible processes are taking place inside our bodies every second, all because Hashem lovingly keeps them running. These are gifts beyond any price. No amount of praise could ever repay Hashem for the priceless gifts He gives us every second of every day. When we walk into shul, we are not coming before Someone Who gave us one hundred dollars or even one hundred million dollars. We are standing before the One Who gave us life itself—our eyesight, our hearing, our ability to think, speak, breathe, walk, love our families, learn Torah, perform mitzvot, and serve Him. Every heartbeat and every breath is another priceless gift from Hashem. If we truly appreciated the treasures Hashem has already placed in our hands, we would not have to force ourselves to feel inspired when we entered shul. Our hearts would naturally overflow with gratitude, and we would cherish every opportunity to stand before the One Who has given us everything.

Hashem treasures not only the good deeds that we do, but also the good that we genuinely want to do. Even if circumstances prevent a person from carrying out the acts of kindness he wishes to perform, Hashem never forgets a sincere good intention. Sometimes, in His infinite kindness, He arranges for those good intentions to be fulfilled years later—even after a person has already left this world. Rav Yehuda Segal from Beit Shemesh related the following remarkable story about his mother. She managed a clothing store in Yerushalayim for many years. Widowed at a young age, she ran the business with tremendous emunah, bitachon, and kindness. After she passed away, her children decided to close the store and donate all of the remaining clothing to families of seriously ill patients as a zechut for her neshamah. Each family was allowed to take six articles of clothing. One day, a young mother with tired eyes came into the store and handed Rav Segal's sister a ticket stating that she was eligible to receive clothing for herself and her family. After choosing her six items, she asked if she could possibly take a seventh outfit for her elderly mother. Her request was gladly granted. The young woman selected an outfit that matched her mother's taste and size and went straight to her apartment. As she handed it to her, she smiled and said jokingly, "Mommy, I brought you something from Mrs. Segal." Those words awakened a memory that had long been forgotten. Many years earlier, the elderly woman had purchased a beautiful Shabbos outfit from Mrs. Segal's store for 360 shekels. After wearing it once, she mistakenly washed it without following the instructions on the label. The outfit came out ruined. It had torn, the fabric had pilled, and it was wrinkled beyond repair. Upset, she returned to the store demanding either a refund or a replacement. Mrs. Segal calmly showed her the washing instructions and explained that, according to the clearly posted store policy, they were not obligated to replace the garment because it had not been washed properly. Then she said something extraordinary. "If you truly feel that you deserve a refund, you may choose anything in the store worth 360 shekels." The woman knew the damage had been her own fault. She realized that Mrs. Segal was under no obligation to replace the outfit. Although Mrs. Segal sincerely wanted her to leave feeling good, she felt uncomfortable accepting something she wasn't entitled to. She declined the generous offer and left. Many years passed. Now, after Mrs. Segal had already left this world, the elderly woman was holding a gift from that very same store. She looked at her daughter and said with emotion, "You're really bringing me a gift from Mrs. Segal in Shamayim." Then she looked at the price tag and couldn't believe her eyes-360 shekels. Tears filled her eyes. "Hashem arranged that I should finally receive the gift she wanted to give me all those years ago. This will certainly be an aliyah for her neshamah." Mrs. Segal truly wanted her customer to leave happy. Although her offer was never accepted during her lifetime, Hashem did not allow that sincere desire to disappear. Years later, after she had already returned her neshamah to Him, He orchestrated every detail so that her original wish would finally become a reality—down to the exact value of the gift. How precious are our good intentions to Hashem. Every sincere desire to help another Jew is treasured by Him. Even if we are unable to complete the kindness ourselves, Hashem is not limited by time. If He so chooses, He can fulfill a person's good intentions even after he has left this world.

One of the most beautiful ways that Hashem shows His love for His children is through the hearts of other Jews. Although Hashem alone performs every yeshuah, many times He chooses to do it through people who open their hearts and willingly become His messengers. Every act of chesed is much more than one person helping another. It is Hashem's kindness flowing through the hands of one of His children. A man whom we'll call Alan told me that 25 years ago, someone knocked on his door and entered his home crying uncontrollably. After calming him down, the man explained that he had been married for nine years. He had a very happy marriage and loved his wife dearly, but because they had not been blessed with children, and apparently the medical issue was with him, she had reached the point where she wanted a divorce. He had gone to Hadassah Hospital in Israel for one last attempt, and he was told there that perhaps there was one specialist in Brooklyn who might be able to help. But after years of treatments, the couple had used up every last penny they had. The doctor's fee was $28,000, and they had no way to pay for it. The man had come to Alan to ask for financial help. Alan immediately assured him that he would take care of the money one way or another. After the man left, Alan called his daughter, whose husband knew the doctor, and asked her to see what could be done. His daughter contacted a generous individual and explained the situation. Without even taking time to think, the philanthropist replied, "I'll pay for the entire procedure. Tell the Dr. to bill me the $28,000, but don't tell the couple who paid. I want to remain anonymous." With that, the treatments began. About six weeks later, the doctor shared the wonderful news that the wife was expecting. Soon afterward, they found out she was carrying twins, and a short time later they discovered it was actually triplets. After nine years of waiting, the couple was blessed with three healthy babies—the only children they would ever have.Twenty-five years later, baruch Hashem, all three are married. When the anonymous donor heard the news of the birth, he was overjoyed. "Triplets? I can't believe it! They're going to need even more help now." Without even being asked, he contributed again. He gave a check for $5,000 to help with the expenses of the babies. Alan, who had answered the knock on his door that day, also wanted to participate financially. He asked his daughter to find out who the anonymous donor was so that he, too, could share in the zechut of bringing these three precious neshamot into the world. The donor insisted on remaining anonymous, but he agreed to let Alan participate by sending in a contribution. The triplets were certainly a miracle, but there is another inspiring lesson here as well. Look how these Jews responded to another person's pain. Nobody asked, "What's in it for me?" No one hesitated because the amount was too large. They saw another Jew suffering and did whatever they could to help. Perhaps it was their mesirut nefesh that became the catalyst for these miraculous babies to come into the world. Hashem could have brought this couple their yeshuah in many different ways, yet He chose to bring it through the kindness of His people. He gave one Jew the opportunity to open his door and lend a listening ear, another the opportunity to make a phone call, another the opportunity to give generously, and a doctor the opportunity to become a shaliach. Hashem allowed each of these people to become His partners in bringing three precious children into the world. Every act of chesed creates far more than we can imagine. We never know how many lives will be changed because we chose to help another person. When we open our hearts to our fellow Jews, we become the hands through which Hashem's infinite kindness is revealed in this world.

There are times when a person is in desperate need of a yeshuah, but there does not seem to be any way for him to be helped. He begins to panic. Time is of the essence, yet there is no help in sight. He wants to pray, but he can't imagine how he could still possibly be saved. One of the ways that Hashem deals with us is called מקדים רפואה למכה . He prepares the solution even before the problem arises. When we think it has reached the point where it is too late to be saved, it is very possible that Hashem already has the help on the way. A man told me that several years ago, he and his wife were home for Shabbat while their two children were sleeping. They had just begun their seudah when his wife started choking on a piece of fish. At first she was coughing. Her husband asked if everything was okay, and she gave him a thumbs-up. She then walked over to the sink to try to clear her throat, but instead, the fish bone became lodged even deeper. Within moments, she could no longer breathe. He tried everything he could think of to get it out, but nothing was working. At that time, Hatzalah had not yet begun operating in their neighborhood, so he called 911. He knew they were not going to arrive for at least a few minutes, but he couldn't wait that long. They lived in a small building with only four families. He ran into the hallway and started screaming for help, but there was no answer. His wife was turning blue. He realized that none of the other families were home. He screamed even louder, but still nobody answered. Then, all of a sudden, the elevator door opened. One of the neighbors stepped out and immediately ran to the rescue. When the conventional methods didn't work, she did something that is generally not recommended. She reached her finger into the woman's throat, causing her to gag, and Baruch Hashem, the fish bone popped right out. Her life was saved. The neighbor then shared the amazing hashgachah of how she happened to arrive at that exact moment. She admitted that she still had a long way to go in her religious observance. She had not grown up religious and had not yet learned about keeping Shabbat properly. That Friday night, she and her husband had been invited to his parents' home for dinner on the other side of town. Normally, they always traveled together in one car. But this time, for the very first time, she decided to take a separate car because she was afraid her husband would want to stay later than she did. In the end, she decided to leave much earlier than usual. On the drive home, she made every single green light. She had never driven that route so quickly in her life. As the seconds were ticking away and this woman's life hung in the balance, it looked as if there was no one who could save her. What they didn't realize was that Hashem had already sent the messenger long before anyone knew there would be an emergency. He had already arranged for this woman to take a separate car for the first time, to leave earlier than usual, and to arrive at that building at the precise moment she was needed. It appeared as if there was no salvation. There was nobody around to help. But the One Who takes care of us had already set the yeshuah into motion. No matter how bleak or hopeless a situation may appear, salvation is always possible. Very often, Hashem has already prepared it long before we even realize there is a problem. Our job is to cry out to Hashem with emunah, knowing that He can save us in any way He chooses, and that perhaps, at this very moment, the yeshuah is already on its way.

We naturally become frustrated when we encounter delays or when our schedules suddenly change. But someone with emunah knows that what may appear to be an inconvenience is actually the loving hand of Hashem guiding him exactly where he needs to be. The Midrash tells us that a person's legs are his guarantors. They carry him to the places he is meant to be. We may think we are going somewhere for one reason, while Hashem has an entirely different purpose in mind. Sometimes He is protecting us from harm. Sometimes He is arranging an encounter that will help us. Sometimes He is creating opportunities that could never have happened otherwise. Most of the time, we never discover the reason, but we can be certain that every delay and every detour has purpose. A man related that his son recently quit his job with the understanding that he was going to start a new business with a partner. However, after he had already left his job, the partner backed out. The son felt he could still operate the business on his own, but he needed money to get it started. The father told his son he would try to find someone who could help. The very next day, the train he normally took after work to his summer residence was canceled. Instead, he decided to take the subway to his winter residence and spend the night there. It was an inconvenience, but he accepted it happily, knowing it was min haShamayim. After getting off the subway, even though it was only 5:30 in the afternoon, he suddenly decided to pick up dinner on the way home. He passed a restaurant he had never entered before and felt an unusual craving for that type of food. While placing his order, he noticed an old friend sitting alone. He went over to say hello, and the friend invited him to join him. During their conversation, the father mentioned what his son had recently gone through. The friend smiled and said it would be his pleasure to lend the son the money he needed, to be repaid whenever he was able. The father told me it was incredible to see how Hashem had orchestrated everything. From the canceled train, to the decision to stay elsewhere for the night, to the sudden craving that brought him into that restaurant, every step led him to the exact person who could help his son. Another man, whom we'll call Rabbi Shemueli, told me that he works in a day camp together with several other rabbis. During the first few days of camp, the director asked them to remain an extra forty minutes after camp ended to make sure dismissal ran smoothly. Rabbi Shimoni, who was also a Hatzalah member, commented to Rabbi Shemueli that he didn't understand why they needed to stay. Everything seemed to be operating perfectly well without them. Still, he accepted the request and remained there patiently. About five minutes after making that comment, Rabbi Shimoni noticed one of the boys was not wearing his kippah. He walked over to remind him to put it back on. As he approached, he suddenly noticed another boy turning blue from choking. Shockingly, no one else had realized what was happening. The boy could not call for help because a seaweed snack was lodged in his throat. Rabbi Shimoni immediately sprang into action, dislodged the food, and saved the boy's life. Later, he said how clearly Hashem had shown him that we are always exactly where we are meant to be. He could not understand why he needed to remain in camp for those extra forty minutes, but within minutes Hashem revealed one reason. Most of the time we are not privileged to see the reason at all. Here, Hashem allowed him a glimpse behind the curtain. We are always exactly where Hashem wants us to be. When we internalize that truth, we can remain calm and even happy when plans change or delays occur, knowing that every step we take and every place we find ourselves has been carefully arranged by Hashem for a purpose. Sometimes Hashem allows us to see that purpose, but even when He doesn't, we can trust that there is a reason. What appears to us as an inconvenience may actually be one of the most important moments in our journey.

One of the harder challenges in life is dealing with delays and setbacks when we are convinced that something has to happen right now. A father shared the following lesson. His infant son was born with a serious heart defect that required surgery. Although the condition needed to be corrected, the doctors felt it would be better if the baby grew a little before undergoing the operation, increasing the chances of success and long-term benefit. After waiting for months, a surgery date was finally scheduled for just before Pesach. The family arrived at the hospital early in the morning and spent an exhausting day going from one test to another, preparing their baby for the long-awaited procedure that was scheduled for the following day. By the time they finally got home, physically and emotionally drained, they were focused on making all the necessary arrangements before returning to the hospital early the next morning. Then the phone rang. A hospital representative informed them that the surgery had been canceled. Another baby had been born that day with a more urgent condition and needed immediate surgery to save his life. The father couldn't believe it. After all the preparation, anticipation, and emotional build-up, everything suddenly came to a stop. But then he reminded himself that it must be for the best and Hashem knows exactly what He's doing. A new date was scheduled for after Pesach. When that date arrived, shockingly, the exact same thing happened. After another full day of testing and preparation, another cancellation because another child's condition was more urgent. This time it was much harder to accept. Frustrated and disappointed, the father went to his Rebbe for guidance. The Rebbe told him a story about Rav Shlomka of Zvhil. Once, before beginning a fast, Rav Shlomka asked his grandson to prepare a cup of tea. Although the child hurried to do so, everything seemed to go wrong. Water spilled, delays occurred, and by the time the tea was finally ready, sunset had arrived and the fast had already begun. Seeing how upset his grandson was, Rav Shlomka gently told him, "Don't be upset. This is what was meant to be." The Rebbe then repeated those words to the father. "This is what was meant to be." There were no mistakes. It was not poor planning. It was not unfortunate timing. Everything was exactly the way it was supposed to be. Those words penetrated the father's heart. A few days later, a well-known medical askan heard about the repeated cancellations and offered his assistance. He explained that he had connections and could pressure the hospital to ensure that this would never happen again. But to his own surprise, the father declined. "This is how it is meant to be," he said. "Hashem is taking care of my son. The surgery will happen when it's supposed to happen." A few days later, his sister mentioned that her neighbor had given birth to a baby with a life-threatening heart defect and the baby had been rushed into emergency surgery immediately after birth. The father asked when that surgery had taken place. It was on the very day that his own son's surgery had been canceled. Suddenly, everything became clear. He now understood how urgent the other baby's situation had been, and he was genuinely happy that his son's surgery had been postponed in order to save that child's life. Then another thought struck him. If he had used influence and pressure to move his son ahead in line, perhaps the next time a different baby's life would be hanging in the balance. Perhaps that child would be forced to wait because of his intervention. How often do we experience disappointments that seem completely unnecessary? How often do plans fall apart, appointments get canceled, opportunities disappear, and doors close just when we think they should be opening? We are only seeing a tiny fraction of the picture. What appears to us as a frustrating delay may actually be protecting someone, helping someone else, or setting in motion events that we cannot begin to understand. We assume that if something did not happen, then something must have gone wrong. But that is not the way it is. Everything always happens exactly the way it is supposed to happen. We must internalize those powerful words: "This is what is meant to be." When we live with that belief, not only do we spare ourselves so much frustration and disappointment, but we also earn tremendous reward for demonstrating our Emunah in Hashem's perfect plan, even when we cannot yet understand it.

One of the fundamental principles of emunah is recognizing that when Hashem wants to help someone, He has endless ways of doing so. We naturally look for salvation through the avenues that we can see, but Hashem is never limited to those avenues. He can provide exactly what we need in ways we could never anticipate. A man related that his daughter needed a $20,000 loan toward the purchase of an apartment in Eretz Yisrael. His brother, who lived in Florida, generously agreed to lend her the money and planned to send it by wire transfer. This took place shortly before Yom Kippur, and the payment on the apartment was due shortly after Succot. After Yom Kippur, his daughter became concerned that the money still had not been transferred and asked her father to remind his brother. He spoke to him, and the brother assured him that he would take care of it soon. Succot arrived, and still no transfer. The daughter was feeling tremendous pressure. The payment deadline was approaching, and international transfers often take several days to clear. But her father refused to make additional calls during Chol HaMoed. "Hashem has His plans," he told her. "You'll get the money when you need it." Then came Simchat Torah and the tragic events of October 7. A few days later, the brother finally sent the money. The transfer took several days to reach Israel, and the dollars were converted into shekalim at the exchange rate that existed on the day the funds arrived. Before the war, the dollar had been trading at approximately 3.7 shekalim. But after the turmoil that followed, the dollar strengthened dramatically against the shekel. On the exact day the money reached the account, the exchange rate climbed to 4.06 shekalim per dollar, one of the highest rates in many years. As a result, the very same $20,000 produced approximately 7,000 extra shekalim. A week later, the exchange rate began falling again. Since the loan eventually had to be repaid in dollars, and the exchange rate later dropped significantly, she would need far fewer shekalim to repay the same amount. In effect, Hashem ended up giving her tens of thousands of extra shekalim toward her apartment at no cost. Looking back, it became clear that what initially appeared to be an annoying delay was actually part of a carefully orchestrated plan to help her in a way that nobody could have foreseen. A similar lesson can be seen from the following story. A representative traveling on behalf of Keren Olam HaTorah, which is raising money to support the yeshivot in Eretz Yisrael, related that due to government funding cuts and the challenges facing the Torah world, tremendous sums of money are needed to keep the yeshivot functioning. While visiting a certain city, he approached a wealthy individual and asked if he would host a gathering in his home. The man happily agreed. He offered to open his house and pay for all the food and expenses associated with the event. However, he made it clear that he did not intend to contribute any money toward the cause. Several days before the event, the wealthy man happened to be going through some old papers that had belonged to his grandfather, who shared the exact same name as he did. Among the documents, he discovered a decades-old letter from Rav Shlomo Wolbe addressed to his grandfather. Many years earlier, Rav Wolbe had helped arrange his grandfather's shidduch. Out of gratitude, the grandfather had sent Rav Wolbe thirty dollars. Rav Wolbe replied with a heartfelt letter thanking him, but explaining that he did not want to accept payment for helping with the shidduch. Instead, he wrote that there was a pressing need in Eretz Yisrael to support yeshiva students(it also mentioned difficulties with them being drafted to the army) and encouraged him to direct the money toward that cause. He added that if the donor wished to contribute more, it would be a tremendous zechut. The wealthy man sat there stunned. The letter was addressed to his own name. It was as if Rav Wolbe himself was speaking directly to him, urging him to support Torah students in Eretz Yisrael during a time of great need. He viewed it as a clear message from Hashem and proceeded to contribute an extraordinarily large sum. These stories teach us a powerful lesson. We often think that our livelihood, success, or financial assistance depends on specific individuals. We believe that if a certain person says yes, everything will work out, and if he says no, the opportunity has been lost. But that is not how Hashem runs the world. Hashem can make a delayed transfer become worth thousands more than an on-time transfer. He can arrange for a letter written decades ago to inspire a donation that seemed impossible only days earlier. He can provide assistance in ways that we could never imagine. Our job is to make a normal hishtadlut and trust in Him. Very often, when something appears to be delayed, blocked, or unavailable, we assume that help is not coming. In reality, Hashem may already be preparing something far better than what we had in mind. We must remember that the source of our salvation is never a person, a bank, a donor, an employer, or the market. The true Source is always Hashem, and His ability to help us is unlimited. When He decides it is time to send a blessing, it can arrive in ways that leave us standing in awe of His incredible hashgachah.

In this week's parasha , Korach staged a rebellion against Moshe and Aharon, telling them that they took all the good positions in Klal Yisrael for themselves. Chazal tell us, Korach's actions were motivated by jealousy. He saw others around him being promoted to different positions and he didn't get any of them for himself. He convinced himself, and others, that his motives were purely l'shem Shamayim , but deep down it was all about his own honor. Sometimes, people feel bad about their positions in life. They look around at others and see that this person is the president of a shul and that person is the president of a school, this one runs his own business, that one heads his own chesed organization, and the list goes on. A person may feel, what am I worth? I don't do anything big. Nobody knows about me, I'm just an average, regular guy . If that person would instead think, it's okay, I don't need honor or recognition. I don't need to be famous. Then, his job would become very valuable – working on his middot and becoming humble is an extremely precious avodah . But, if his position leads him to feel worthless and all he does is crave honor and is jealous of everyone around him, then his misery will know no end and he will be seriously lacking in his avodat Hashem. What is the attitude he should have? The Dubno Maggid explained with a mashal . There was once a king who gave his slaves different fields of his to work on. To one of his slaves, he gave many fields to plow and to seed, etc. The other slave only got one field to work on. That slave went to the king to complain. He said, "Why do I only get one field while the other slave got so many?" The king replied, "What difference does it make to you how many fields you work on? Are they your fields? Less fields means less work. You both belong to me. You're complaining that you don't have to work as hard as your friend? Must be you're planning on taking things from the fields for yourself so you want more so you could steal more." This, says the Dubno Maggid, is what Moshe told Korach: If your motive in getting positions is to serve Hashem then it wouldn't bother you what you got. What difference would it make to you if that's what Hashem wants from you? Must be you want the position for yourself so you could take honor. This is what we have to internalize. People may feel inferior for not having lofty positions like others they know, but if they could internalize that we are all working for the same boss – He is the One who gives out positions like it says, והמתנשא לכל ראש. What difference does it make what position we get? If we are doing what our Master wants, we'll be considered a perfect worker. If anything, it's just the opposite: The less honor we get the more real our service is to Hashem. Everybody has a special job to do, to serve Hashem to the best of his ability in the circumstances Hashem puts him in. If he does his job with joy and humility, then he'll be rewarded the same as anyone else who did his job, whatever Hashem wanted that person to do. The job doesn't matter as much as doing whatever we are asked of correctly. Shabbat Shalom.

One of the biggest challenges in life is seeing someone else receive the very blessing that we have been praying for for so many years. Naturally, it hurts. A person wonders why Hashem is giving others what he so desperately wants while he still has to wait. A woman who had been in shidduchim for more than twenty years shared the following powerful insight. She had recently completed an entire fourteen-week cycle of Shemirat HaLashon and had been praying throughout for her own yeshuah. One day, she received a phone call from a woman she had known for many years. The woman was calling to ask for information regarding a shidduch prospect. Immediately, her eyes lit up. She thought her yeshuah had finally arrived. But then the woman on the other end of the line asked about her nineteen-year-old niece who had just returned from seminary. The words pierced her heart. It was not only that what she still thought of as her baby niece was already in shidduchim. It was that after waiting more than twenty years herself, she was being asked to help someone who had only just begun the process. She felt deeply hurt. What made it even harder was that she felt the caller was not being sensitive to her situation. At first, she could not understand it. After all of her tefillot, all of her chesed, tzedakah, and spiritual growth, why would Hashem send her such a painful experience? But then she caught herself. This was not about the woman who called. This was Hashem giving her a tremendous opportunity. Would she become upset with the caller? Would she focus on the insensitivity? Or would she recognize that the caller was merely a messenger sent by Hashem to help her fulfill her purpose in life? Suddenly, she began to see the situation in a completely different light. Hashem was giving her an opportunity to be dan l'kaf zechut and give the caller the benefit of the doubt. Hashem was giving her a chance to earn an enormous zechut for herself and for Klal Yisrael. This was her opportunity to rise above her natural feelings and do exactly what Hashem wanted her to do. And that is what she did. Instead of allowing the pain to dictate her response, and instead of saying something hurtful, she did what she knew would make Hashem proud. She gave a glowing report of her niece. She spoke enthusiastically and did everything she could to help the shidduch move forward. Later, she reflected on the experience and felt genuinely grateful that she had been able to rise above the challenge. She harbors no animosity toward the caller and sincerely hopes that her niece finds a wonderful shidduch. We do not understand Hashem's calculations. We do not know why one person receives a yeshuah immediately while another person must wait for years. But we do know that every situation in our lives is tailor-made for us by Hashem and filled with endless opportunities for growth. Sometimes our greatest accomplishments are the ones that nobody sees. The battle takes place entirely within the heart. When a person is hurting and still chooses to act with kindness, generosity, and emunah, that achievement is beyond comprehension. These are the moments that bring the geulah closer. One act of being dan l'kaf zechut while we are hurting, one act of overcoming hurt feelings, one act of recognizing that everything came from Hashem and responding the way He wants us to respond—these are among the greatest accomplishments a person can achieve in this world. It is extremely difficult to overcome hurt feelings, especially when they come through what feels like insensitivity. We hope that this zechut will be the one this woman needs to find her own zivug. But regardless, the zechut she earned will remain with her for all eternity and will bring her untold reward. May Hashem help all of us respond properly to the challenges He sends us and enable us to maintain peaceful and happy relationships with everyone around us. If someone is currently experiencing pain because of an insensitive comment or action, he should recognize the golden opportunity before him. By rising above the hurt and responding the way Hashem wants him to, he earns an eternal accomplishment and frees himself from so much unnecessary anguish. And with Hashem's help, in that zechut, may he see blessings and success. Amen.

One of the greatest gifts Hashem has given us is the ability to speak to Him. A person can turn to Hashem at any moment, from any place, and ask for His help. Sometimes we pray for ourselves, and sometimes we pray for others. When we pray for others, we may never get to see what our tefillot have accomplished. We say a few words, shed a few tears, and then move on with our lives. But we must know how valuable every tefillah is. Sometimes Hashem allows us to see just how powerful one heartfelt tefillah can be. A rabbi related the following story, which he heard directly from the man to whom it happened. One evening at around 7:30 in Bnei Brak, there was a knock at a man's door. Anyone with a large family can imagine what a home looks like at that hour. Children everywhere, the house bustling, everyone busy. He opened the door and saw a man standing there. "Mazal Tov," the visitor said. "I just had a baby girl." "Mazal Tov," the man replied, but he was confused. He barely knew the person standing at his door and couldn't understand why he had come. The visitor then asked if he could come in for a few minutes. After sitting down, he said, "I want to take you back about nine months, to Simchat Torah. "I had been married for eighteen years without children. Most of the time I managed, but Simchat Torah was especially painful for me. Everywhere I looked, fathers were dancing with their children. I felt I couldn't take it anymore. I decided I was not going to pray in my regular shul that day. Instead, I went to a different shul where you happened to be praying. "I was sitting by myself there, and you came over to me and asked why I was sitting. You then told me to gather up my children and go dance with everyone. "I answered you sharply. I told you that I had specifically come to this shul because I couldn't bear watching everybody celebrate with their children when I didn't have any. I felt like you had poured salt on my open wound. "You may not have realized it, but after our conversation, I watched you walk over to the Aron Kodesh. You started crying out to Hashem, saying, 'Ribbono Shel Olam, why did I just say that? Why did I speak that way? What did I do? Please help this man. Please send him a yeshuah.'" The man had no idea that anything had come from that tefillah. The visitor continued, "You didn't know my name. You didn't know my story. You knew nothing about me. You simply stood there and begged Hashem to help me, with tears streaming down your face. "Before Sukkot, we had just received results from a major specialist telling us there was virtually no chance we would ever have children. But from Motzaei Simchat Torah until now, everything changed. "Today, after eighteen years of marriage, my first child, a baby girl, was born. You are the very first person I came to tell. I wanted you to know that your tefillah helped bring this yeshuah." Look at how valuable even a short tefillah can be. A person may think that a few words spoken to Hashem cannot possibly make a difference, but they can. This man wasn't even asked to pray. He didn't know any details. He simply felt the pain of another Jew. And when he realized that he may have added to that pain, he ran to the Aron Kodesh and cried out from the depths of his heart. Nine months later, Hashem showed him what those words accomplished. We never know what one sincere tefillah can accomplish. We never know how much can be achieved when we pray for another person with genuine care. Every tefillah matters. Every tear is counted. And sometimes Hashem allows us a glimpse into the incredible power of our words.

One of the challenges of human nature is that we become accustomed to the blessings that Hashem gives us. Things that once would have filled us with excitement eventually become part of everyday life, and we begin to expect them rather than appreciate them. Very often, we do not recognize the true value of something until it is no longer available. A person may take his health for granted until, lo alenu, he becomes ill. Suddenly, all the things he was once able to do effortlessly become precious. The same is true with all blessings and relationships. One of the purposes of thanking Hashem for our blessings is to train ourselves to appreciate them while we have them, so that we do not need to lose them in order to recognize their value. A man told me that he recently had to move to another city, and now it takes him over an hour to commute to work each day. He said he never appreciated living just five minutes from his office. Looking back, he wishes he had appreciated that convenience while he had it. Sometimes a person spends years praying for something. He dreams of getting married, finding a job, buying a home, or having a child. Then, when Hashem grants him that blessing, it gradually becomes part of his routine, and he no longer feels the same excitement he once did. He moves on to making new requests and may even feel as though Hashem never gives him what he asks for. If only he could remember how desperately he once wanted what he already has. Another benefit of thanking Hashem for our blessings becomes apparent from the following story. A woman related that after she gave birth, she was rushed to the ICU with severe complications. She lost a tremendous amount of blood and required more than ten blood transfusions. She was connected to machines, had a tube down her throat, and her hands and feet were extremely swollen. The doctors expected her to remain in the ICU for at least seven to ten days. At one point, they were not sure if she would survive. They told her husband that her life was hanging by a thread. When she finally became aware of where she was, what was happening, and how serious her condition was, she told her husband that they needed to thank Hashem for the healthy baby He had just given them. Even though she was weak, confused, and frightened, she felt that this was the moment to focus on gratitude. Together they began thanking Hashem for everything they could think of. They thanked Him for the doctors and nurses who were caring for her, for the people bringing them food, for her hands and feet that had not been swollen for all the years before, and for countless other blessings. Then they said Mizmor LeTodah together. At that time, her oxygen level was only 88. The doctors had told them that she would not be allowed to leave the ICU until it reached at least 96. Despite all the medical efforts, the number would not move. As they continued thanking Hashem and saying Mizmor LeTodah, they watched the monitor. Eighty-eight became eighty-nine. Eighty-nine became ninety. They could hardly believe it. They continued thanking Hashem for more and more blessings and recited Mizmor LeTodah again. The numbers kept climbing until, all of a sudden, the oxygen level reached 97 and remained there. After a little more than an hour of focusing on gratitude and thanking Hashem, her oxygen level had risen enough for her to leave the ICU. The doctors were stunned. The next day, while she was still in the hospital, the nurses noticed that her numbers were once again not looking good, and they were concerned that she might need to return to the ICU. She asked for a few minutes alone. Once again, she focused on gratitude to Hashem and recited Mizmor LeTodah. When the nurses returned, they saw that the numbers had gone back to normal. Baruch Hashem, she was eventually discharged fully healed. She said she learned one of the greatest lessons of her life. Gratitude does not change Hashem; it changes us. When we stop focusing on what we are missing and start noticing the blessings that Hashem has already given us, something changes inside. We begin to see His kindness everywhere, and that itself is a tremendous zechut. May we always merit to appreciate Hashem's blessings and thank Him for them constantly.

One of the greatest challenges in tefillah is continuing to believe that Hashem cherishes our prayers even when what we are asking for seems delayed in coming. Many people think that if they have been praying with sincerity and strengthening their emunah, yet still have not received what they are asking for, then their tefillot must not be accomplishing anything. We know that no tefillah is ever lost. Sometimes we do not see the answer for a long time, and sometimes Hashem uses our tefillot for a purpose that we could never have imagined. A woman who lives in Israel shared the following story. This past year, she suffered a miscarriage. It was very difficult for her to deal with, but with the support of family and friends, she was able to get through it. She desperately wanted another child and worked very hard on strengthening her emunah and bitachon. Throughout the day, she constantly reminded herself how much Hashem loves her and how badly He wants to give her what is best. She relied on His abundant love and prayed with all her heart, crying to Hashem constantly. She truly believed that she would soon have another baby. However, as the months passed, she realized she was having difficulty conceiving again. She strengthened herself even more and told herself that now she knew for certain that she would soon be expecting a child because she really had nothing else to rely on. She could not even rely on her emunah and bitachon to bring the yeshuah, because from her perspective, that was not working. All she had was Hashem's love. Yet more time passed, and she still was not expecting a child. As she approached her original due date, the pain became almost unbearable. At that point, she faced a major challenge in her emunah. She could not understand why Hashem was still not showing her His love. She had always read stories of people receiving their yeshuah immediately after strengthening their bitachon, and she genuinely believed that would happen to her as well. She invested tremendous effort in learning about the power of bitachon and tefillah, yet she could not understand why the answer still seemed to be no. Not only that, but as the months passed, things appeared to be getting worse. Her doctor informed her that she would need to see a fertility specialist because some of her test results were concerning. That news shattered her. She began questioning everything. How could Hashem be doing this to her after all the emunah, bitachon, and tefillot she had invested? How could Hashem not be listening? Why did it seem as though things were getting worse rather than better? Were her tefillot, her emunah, and her bitachon accomplishing anything at all? Then came the week she had originally been scheduled to give birth. She dreaded that week. She did not know how she was going to get through it. Instead of preparing to welcome a baby into the world, she was left with indescribable pain. Then her life changed. That very week, her husband was involved in a horrific car accident. He collided with a truck in what should have been a fatal crash. By an open miracle, he survived. He suffered numerous broken bones and other serious injuries, but the doctors said that, with time, he would make a full recovery. It was a clear miracle. And suddenly everything changed. She finally understood. She realized that Hashem had never ignored her tefillot or her bitachon. Rather, He had been saving every one of them for this very week—the week of her original due date—to save her husband's life. She learned the greatest lesson of her life: Hashem is always listening and always acting out of love, even when it feels impossible to believe. He never ignores our efforts. He treasures them. He stores every prayer, every tear, every moment of emunah and bitachon, and uses them in the way that is best for us. Sometimes the answer to our tefillah comes exactly as we requested. Sometimes it comes later than we hoped. And sometimes it comes in a form we never expected. But every tefillah is valuable. Hashem hears every word and counts every tear. It is up to us to continue praying with the same sincerity and emotion, no matter how long we have been waiting, knowing that every tefillah is precious to Hashem and that He will use it in the way that He knows is best.

In this week's parasha , Shelach , the Jewish People were tested in emunah and bitachon and they failed. Kalev tried to give them chizuk , saying, "Hashem wants us to go in, we have nothing to fear." But it didn't help. The pasuk says סלחתי כדבריך ואולם חי אני – Hashem forgave them but they were not going to be allowed into Eretz Yisrael . Most mefarshim explain סלחתי כדבריך to mean Hashem forgave them for the עגל, but not for the meraglim . And that's why they were not allowed into Israel. The reason both sins are mentioned in the same pasuk is because both of them were due to a lack of bitachon . By the עגל, Hashem tested the people by showing them a vision which made it appear that Moshe Rabbenu was not coming back. They knew that the mann was in the merit of Moshe and so they feared without Moshe they would go hungry. Their test was they should have realized Hashem is the One supporting them. It is true that Hashem gives us things in the merit of tzaddikim , but He also gives us new tzaddikim when the ones we had were taken away. The Gemara says that one time the entire world was being sustained in the merit of Rabbi Chanina ben Dosa. But what happened when Rab Chanina ben Dosa passed away? There was still sustenance being given. The reason is because it is Hashem who gives sustenance and He is never bound by any one means to give it. The Jewish People received water in the midbar in the merit of Miriam. But when Miriam passed away, Hashem still continued giving them water in the zechut of Moshe. The Clouds of Glory were given in the merit of Aharon, but when Aharon passed away, Hashem brought the clouds back in the merit of Moshe. Then when Moshe passed away, Hashem continued helping His People through Yehoshua. Hashem is always the One who is taking care of us and He wants us to feel that in our hearts. He wants us to internalize that He is unlimited and has infinite ways of helping. When someone had an avenue of parnasa that is no longer producing the same money it used to, this person is being tested with the same type of test. Is he going to believe that it was the means that was supporting him, or that it was Hashem? No matter how good a person thinks he used to have it, Hashem could always make it even better. A man said his wife works as a nurse's aid at people's homes. Before she gave birth, she worked for a nice old lady and they both enjoyed the relationship and the pay was good too. When she gave birth, a substitute was put there instead and when her paid vacation ended, the substitute didn't want to leave. She too had fallen in love with this nice old lady. Instead of making a fuss about it, the man's wife set out to start over from the beginning. She tried several places but nothing was available. Frustrated, she started getting angry at the substitute who took her job. But then she caught herself and worked on her emunah. She managed to remove the anger from her heart and feel at ease, knowing she was in Hashem's Hands. The very same afternoon that she was finally calm, she got a call from an agency with a new offer. The lady she was given to work for was also very sweet like the other lady. This job gave her more hours and more pay and was much closer to her house. She thought she had it good before and would never get the same opportunity, now she has it much better. We are never dependent on one means in any area of life. Hashem is the One who provides the means and He is unlimited. And we are to know that He was, is and always will be there to help us. Shabbat Shalom.

When a person needs something and cannot figure out any way to obtain it, that simply means that from a hishtadlut standpoint, his primary responsibility is to ask Hashem for help. We are only required to make a physical effort when there is a reasonable effort to make. If there is none, then we are exempt from that obligation and can place our full reliance on Hashem. Just because we do not see a solution does not mean one does not exist. It only means that Hashem has not allowed us to see it yet. Hashem has a solution to every problem. When we truly understand that, we are able to pray with genuine emunah. Hashem wants to help us. Hashem is available to help us. But we need to believe that and sincerely ask Him for help. A man told me that he and his wife had been trying to travel to Israel together since before COVID. Every time they made plans, something came up that prevented the trip from happening. In recent years, his income had dropped significantly, and with the rising cost of airfare, the trip had become completely unaffordable. His wife had been patiently waiting for years, and he had told her that by this summer he would do everything possible to make it happen. As the summer approached, he realized it was impossible. Even if his income suddenly improved, any extra money would have to be used to pay off debts that he owed. He saw how much his wife wanted to go, and it pained him that he could not provide it for her. He prayed to Hashem from the depths of his heart. "Hashem," he said, "I have no conventional way of purchasing these tickets. But I know that You can provide them in the blink of an eye. Please help me." A couple of days later, his wife, who works as a shadchanit, told him that a family for whom she had recently arranged a shidduch wanted to give her a gift. In addition to paying her generously, they offered her two airline tickets to Israel to attend the wedding of another child they were marrying off that summer. The tickets appeared completely out of nowhere. Hashem had sent them exactly what they needed. The man told me, "I always read stories like this. Now I am so happy that I get to be part of one." Another man told me that he received a call from his supplier informing him that two pallets of merchandise were about to be delivered in Manhattan and that he needed to be there to accept them. The timing could not have been worse. It was Friday afternoon, and he was preparing to leave early for Shabbat. All of his employees had already left, and there was nobody available to help unload the shipment. When he stepped outside, the truck had just arrived. Miraculously, there was an open spot directly in front of his building. The truck driver asked, "Who is going to unload these pallets?" The man replied that he would try to do it himself. In truth, it was impossible. The job required multiple people, and the truck driver informed him that he only had twenty minutes before he would have to leave. The man looked at the pallets and realized there was absolutely no way he could get the job done. He turned to Hashem and said, "I don't know how this can happen, but I know You can make it happen. Please help me." Less than thirty seconds later, a large, strong man tapped him on the shoulder and asked, "Do you have any work available?" It was as if Hashem had sent a malach. The man immediately got to work, and together they unloaded the entire shipment just in time. Hashem can always help us. Hashem loves helping us. The problem is not that He lacks solutions. The problem is that we often convince ourselves there are no solutions because we cannot see them. When we reach the point where we have exhausted every possibility and can think of no way forward, that is not necessarily a sign that hope is gone. Sometimes it is Hashem inviting us to stop relying on our own understanding and start relying on Him. Very often, the yeshuah is already on its way. We simply have not seen it yet. As Chazal teach, before Hashem creates the problem, He prepares the cure. By the time we discover the challenge, Hashem has already arranged the solution. Our task is to believe that, pray with sincerity, and trust that the One who created the problem certainly knows how to solve it.

If someone has an addiction, it can completely overtake his life. It becomes the only thing that matters. He loses control and may even be willing to sacrifice his family, his career, and everything else that is truly important. The reason is because addiction blinds a person to the damage it is causing. The only way to help him is to wake him up and make him see the destruction taking place before his eyes. Sometimes, people become so consumed with earning a livelihood that it resembles an addiction. Money becomes the only thing that matters, and everything else is pushed aside in its pursuit. Every so often, a person needs a reality check to remind himself that there is far more to life than earning money. When the time comes for a person to leave this world, all of his money becomes meaningless. The countless hours spent accumulating it may become a source of regret if they came at the expense of things that have eternal value. A man told me that he became so involved in his business that he completely abandoned learning Torah for fifteen years. Then one day, someone awakened him to what was happening and encouraged him to return to learning. Today, he says he finally feels alive. His life has meaning again, and he is grateful that someone helped him break free from his obsession with making money. There are people, unfortunately, who spend years involved in bitter disputes over money. In this world, those arguments may seem significant. But in the Next World, it will become clear how insignificant they really were. Imagine the son of a king who got into a fight with a friend when they were five years old. In a moment of anger, the friend broke one of his toys. The prince shouted, "When I become king, I am going to punish you for this!" Forty years later, the prince has become king. The old friend appears at the palace and begs forgiveness for breaking the toy. The king would look at him as if he were crazy. Why would he care about a broken toy now? It is utterly insignificant compared to his current position. When a person reaches the Next World, that is how he will view someone who hurt him financially in this world. It will seem like a broken toy. Yet if he can rise above the hurt now and make peace, he will gain eternal pleasure and reward that have genuine value forever. Someone who spends his entire life building a fortune while neglecting Torah and mitzvot is like a man who reaches old age without ever marrying because he was too busy accumulating wealth. People would look at him and wonder what all that money was worth if he never built the life Hashem wanted him to have. So too, if a person leaves this world without Torah and mitzvot, all of his wealth is worthless. We have heard stories of great and successful people who cried on their deathbeds because they realized they could have done more with their lives. At that moment, they understood that the only things that truly mattered were their Torah and mitzvot. Life in this world is incredibly short compared to eternity. If a person does not stop from time to time and think about that reality, he can easily become caught up in pursuits that have little lasting value while neglecting what matters most. Let us always remain focused on what true wealth is. Those who spend their lives learning Torah and performing mitzvot are building fortunes that will last forever. The more we acquire, the greater our eternal reward will be.

Everyone comes into this world with a unique set of circumstances. Some people are blessed to grow up in homes filled with love, encouragement, and great role models. Others, however, face challenges right from the beginning. They grow up in difficult environments, experience hardships, and lack the opportunities that other people had. It's so easy for a person to look at his background and feel that he was placed at a disadvantage. He may think, "If only I had grown up differently, I would have been able to accomplish so much more." But that is not the way Hashem wants us to view it. Hashem does not judge people based on where they started. He judges them based on what they did with the circumstances He gave them. Every person is sent into the exact situation that he needs to fulfill his mission here. The challenges are not there to prevent him from succeeding. They are there to help him reach a level of greatness that could not have been achieved any other way. Imagine two people climbing a mountain. One begins halfway up while the other starts from the bottom. The one who started lower has a much harder climb. But when he reaches the top, his accomplishment is far greater because he had to overcome so much more to get there. The same is true in our spirituality. Someone who had to struggle against negative influences or painful experiences is not at a disadvantage. It's just the opposite. Every step forward in his life is worth so much more because of what it took to achieve it. So many of the greatest people who ever lived overcame tremendous obstacles. Their greatness was not despite their challenges; it was because of them. The very difficulties that could have been used as excuses became the tools through which they rose to the greatest heights. While it is true that some people begin life with very big disadvantages, our rabbis teach us that our circumstances do not determine our destiny. They merely determine the nature of our test. The Torah tells us about the Megadef, the blasphemer. Chazal explained that he was born into a very difficult situation. His father was an Egyptian and his mother was a yatzanit, someone who would speak to everyone in the marketplace, including men. He was not accepted by society. He never felt that he belonged anywhere. He hoped that at least when he came before Moshe Rabbeinu, he would finally be accepted. However, when the matter was brought before the Beit Din of Moshe, it was ruled that he would not be allowed to camp among Shevet Dan because the tribes followed the father, and his father was a goy. Therefore, he did not have a tribe. He left the Beit Din disappointed and rejected, and from there he deteriorated until eventually he blasphemed Hashem. Looking at his life, a person might say, "How could he not become bitter? Look at what he went through. Nobody wanted him. Nobody accepted him. Under his circumstances, it's understandable." However, perhaps one of the reasons the Torah records this incident is to teach us the opposite lesson. Although his circumstances were difficult, he still had a choice. His background only explained his struggle, but it did not excuse his actions. The Ishbitzer Rebbe contrasted the Megadef with David HaMelech. David also grew up feeling rejected. Chazal tell us that his own family did not recognize him. His father looked at him differently than all his other sons, and his brothers looked down upon him. Even when he rose to greatness, Shaul HaMelech tried to kill him. He was forced to run from place to place. Even after becoming king, his suffering did not end. His own son Avshalom rebelled against him and tried to kill him. David could have spent his life asking, "Hashem, why did You put me in such a world? Why am I facing so much rejection and pain?" But instead, whenever David faced hardship, he turned to Hashem. Whenever he felt alone, he picked up his kinor and sang songs to Hashem. While he was running for his life, he sang to Hashem. When he was betrayed, humiliated, and attacked, he sang to Hashem. Those songs became Sefer Tehillim. The very pain that could have destroyed him became the source of his greatness. The very hardships that could have filled him with bitterness became the inspiration for some of the most beautiful words in all of Tanach. The difference between the Megadef and David HaMelech was not their circumstances. Both experienced rejection. Both experienced pain. Both had reasons to feel hurt by the world around them. The difference was in the choice they made in response. One allowed his hardships to push him away from Hashem, while the other allowed his hardships to bring him closer to Hashem. Every person faces challenges that are unique to him. Some begin life with advantages, while others face obstacles that seem overwhelming. Our greatness will not be determined by where we started. It will be determined by what we did with what we were given. The more difficult the challenge, the greater is the potential for greatness. Someone who overcomes very big obstacles can reach heights that others may never attain. When a person refuses to use his background as an excuse and instead uses it as a springboard for growth, he transforms his struggles into achievements. Nobody chooses the circumstances into which he is born, but everyone can choose how he responds to them. And the choices we make can make all the difference between, chas v'shalom, becoming a Megadef or becoming someone like David HaMelech.

Living Emunah 2951 The Place Meant for You The Gemara tells us that when it came time to choose the seventy elders who would assist Moshe Rabbeinu, six men were selected from each shevet, making a total of seventy-two candidates. A lottery was then held to determine which seventy would be chosen. Seventy slips of paper had the word "Zaken" written on them, while two slips were left blank. Whoever drew a blank slip would not be selected. The Gemara says that Moshe told the two men who drew the blank slips, "HaMakom lo chafetz becha." This is usually translated to mean, "Hashem did not want you." That is difficult to understand. It was painful enough that these two individuals were publicly excluded while everyone else was chosen. Why would they also need to hear that Hashem did not want them? Furthermore, according to some opinions, those two men were Eldad and Medad. Yet immediately afterward, the Torah tells us that they received prophecy. If Hashem did not want them, how could they have merited prophecy? Rabbi Menashe Reizman brings from the Sifrei Kabbalah that the word Makom is one of Hashem's holy Names. It has the same numerical value as the Name of Hashem represented by Yud-Keh-Vav-Keh when each letter is multiplied by itself. This teaches that in every makom—in every place in the world—the Shechinah is present with all of Hashem's mercy. Every person has a unique place from which he is meant to serve Hashem and connect to Him. Hashem already determined where a person would be born, into which family he would be born, how he would look, how intelligent he would be, how strong he would be, and every other detail of his life. Everything was arranged specifically for him to fulfill his mission. Moshe was not telling these men that Hashem did not want them. Hashem wants every one of His children. Rather, he was telling them, "This makom is not where you are meant to be. This is not the place through which you will achieve your greatness and connect to Hashem." When a person desperately wants something and does not receive it, it can be very painful. When the rejection is public, it can even be humiliating. Yet a person can become extraordinarily great when he accepts with love that Hashem's plan for him is different. The sefer Meshivat Nefesh, written by Rabbi Yochanan Luria, the uncle of the Maharshal, explains that when Eldad and Medad realized they had not been chosen, they accepted it with love. Hashem was so pleased with their reaction that He immediately granted them prophecy—prophecy that surpassed that of the other seventy elders. The Midrash tells us that Eldad and Medad received more than the seventy elders in five different ways. When a person rises above disappointment and trusts that Hashem is doing what is best for him and for his purpose in this world, despite how difficult that may be, he elevates himself to remarkable heights. Hashem was similarly proud of the Jewish people when they followed Him into the desert after Yetziat Mitzrayim, not knowing how they would survive. The pasuk says: זָ כַרְתִּי לָךְ חֶסֶד נְעוּרַיִךְ אַהֲבַת כְּלוּלֹתָיִךְ לֶכְתֵּךְ אַחֲרַי בַּמִּדְבָּר בְּאֶרֶץ לֹא זְרוּעָה "I remember for you the kindness of your youth, the love of your bridal days, when you followed Me into the wilderness, into a land that was not sown. ." The Ramban explains that this praise was not limited to the moment they entered the desert. It referred to the entire forty years that they followed the Cloud of Glory wherever Hashem directed them. Sometimes they remained in places they did not want to be for extended periods of time, yet they accepted it. At other times they were settled comfortably in places they liked, only to have the cloud suddenly rise and signal that it was time to move. Once again, they followed with trust. That unwavering acceptance is what made Hashem so proud of them. The same opportunity exists for every one of us. Sometimes Hashem places us in situations that are embarrassing. Sometimes they are painful. Sometimes they seem unfair. But the harder it is to accept, the more precious that acceptance becomes. Eldad and Medad could have become depressed. They could have felt humiliated. No one would have blamed them. But they were not interested in mediocrity. They wanted greatness. By accepting Hashem's decision with happiness, they achieved it. A prophet can only receive prophecy when he is in a state of joy. The very fact that Eldad and Medad received prophecy demonstrated that they remained happy despite their rejection. Every person has a different place that Hashem wants him to be in. That place is not an accident. It is the exact place from which he can best fulfill his mission and connect to Hashem. When we learn to be happy with the places Hashem chooses for us, we too can rise to the greatest heights.

In this week's parasha Beha'alotecha , the Jewish People complained that they wanted meat and Moshe Rabbenu said to Hashem, כי תאמר אלי שאהו בחיקך כאשר ישא האומן את היונק – Moshe was asking Hashem how he was expected to carry the nation like a nursing mother carries her suckling infant. The Maharam Shapira asked, the word אומן usually means a Torah teacher of boys aged five or six. Why would Moshe use that word to describe someone carrying a suckling baby? The Rabbi answered, Moshe was saying, his job was to be the spiritual leader of the Jewish People, to teach them Torah and the ways of Hashem, but now they were asking him to fulfill their base desires, that's like a schoolteacher who teaches Torah being asked to take care of infants, which is something that doesn't fit his bill. With this we could understand the baffling statement that Moshe made right after this. הצאן ובקר ישחט להם ומצא להם? – "could there possibly be enough sheep and cattle that would suffice to satiate them?" The mefarshim ask, astonishingly, it seems like Moshe here was doubting the ability of Hashem to provide enough meat for the Jewish People. The explanation is, Moshe was saying, I know the way for them to be satiated is through Torah and mitzvot. The neshama that Hashem put inside man cannot be satisfied any other way, like it says in Kohelet , והנפש לא תמלא. The reason for the complaining was that they were not spiritually satisfied and they were looking for a quick fix. It is true that physical pleasures can temporarily satisfy a person's empty feelings, but very quickly it will wear off and, again, they will feel empty. So Moshe was saying, all the meat in the world will not get this job done. Hashem told Moshe he was right, but he had to provide the meat anyway to prevent a chilul Hashem. Everybody in this world is looking for happiness. The only real way of having sustained feelings of inner joy and tranquility, as well as satisfaction, is by filling up our neshama with what it craves most – Torah and mitzvot. Hashem provided us with an abundance of ways to fill our neshama . And to help motivate us, He even promised rewards for doing them. Hashem created us and knows what will make us happy. The yetzer hara tries to convince us otherwise, but we must not get fooled by it. When a person learns emunah, he feels more tranquil because his neshama is connecting to Hashem more. A young man told me he started learning emunah about a year ago and his words to me were, "it was as if someone had removed a blindfold from upon my eyes. I had always had some level of emunah, but it was only last year that I began to truly see, in every direction that I turned, the Yad Hashem. A whole new world has opened up before me as Hashem is so much more visible to me now" Our neshama is a piece of Hashem and the more we connect with Him, the more our neshama will be satisfied and in a state of tranquility. Spirituality helps reduce anxiety and other emotional roller coasters. The more we connect with Hashem and the Torah, the happier we will be. Shabbat Shalom.

Shlomo HaMelech said that a person's legs are like guarantors, ensuring he is brought to the places Hashem wants him to be. When a person reflects on the days of his life, he begins to see countless stories of Hashem's hashgachah unfolding in his path. He can recognize how Hashem directed his steps—bringing him to certain places and keeping him away from others. He notices how precise and exacting Hashem's guidance is, how, in mere seconds, the course of events can shift from one possible outcome to a completely different one. He sees how Hashem orchestrated encounters with the people he needed to meet, and prevented encounters with those he was not meant to meet. The more one reflects, the more awe arises, and with that awe comes chizuk in emunah. Sometimes our direction changes suddenly. Sometimes we find ourselves unexpectedly in a different place. Sometimes we meet a person without understanding why, only to see the full purpose revealed years later. And sometimes, it is clear immediately that Hashem was guiding us to be in the exact place we needed at the exact time. A man shared with me this morning how he was at home when his children's bus arrived. Normally, he is never home at that time; his wife usually sends them out on their own. But on this morning, for some inexplicable reason, he felt an urge to go downstairs and watch them onto the bus. He ran down the steps, called out to them, and wished them a nice day. As the children crossed the street toward the bus, he noticed a car speeding and about to ignore the stop sign. He yelled for his children to stop. Seconds later, the car sped past—another moment could have meant tragedy. It was completely reckless to run a stop sign, and in this case Hashem had guided this man's legs to the precise spot to prevent a disaster. Hashem directs us in everything, from the greatest matters to the smallest, because for Him, everything matters. Another man told me his air conditioning unit had broken, and replacing it would cost $5,000—a steep price for someone learning in a kollel. He was given a repairman's number and called him, even knowing the unit could not be repaired. When the repairman arrived, he examined it and said it was in good condition, except for the main part. Then he realized that he had an identical unit on his truck from a previous job, and the part needed was still working. The repairman replaced the part, charging only a small labor fee. Hashem had caused this man to call the exact person who already had the exact part he needed. These are reminders that Hashem's hashgachah is everywhere. The more we look for it, the more we see it. Every step we take, every encounter we have, and every turn in our path is guided with infinite wisdom and care.

One of the greatest challenges we face is controlling our natural reactions. If someone insults us, we naturally want to answer back. If someone hurts us, we want to harbor resentment. If someone embarrasses us, we want to defend ourselves. Those reactions are natural and understandable. But what we may not realize is that at those moments, Hashem may be placing before us a golden opportunity to perform a truly heroic act. A person can spend an entire day serving Hashem, but sometimes one moment of self-control can be worth more than hours of ordinary avodah. The difficulty is that when we are in the middle of the challenge, it is hard to see the opportunity in front of us. We only feel the pain. If we could lift ourselves above our nature and act in a way that would make Hashem proud, we can access tremendous Heavenly favor and thereby bring about great salvations. A man related that his sister had been married for over ten years without children. One Pesach, after spending Yom Tov with her and seeing her pain up close, he was stirred to pray with unusual intensity. On the way home, he begged Hashem, "Please show me what I can do to help bring a yeshuah for my sister." The very next day, while attending a shiur, a disagreement broke out among several people. Suddenly, the speaker mistakenly blamed him and began publicly humiliating him in front of hundreds of listeners. He was completely innocent. Every instinct inside him urged him to respond. He wanted everyone to know that he had done nothing wrong. He wanted to yell back. Yet he remained silent, recalling all the chizuk he had received in this area from a certain Hashgachah Pratit hotline. Afterward, however, he began struggling. Perhaps right now he felt noble for remaining silent, but what would happen tomorrow? What would happen next week? Maybe the pain would intensify. Maybe he would regret his decision not to fight back. Maybe he would become resentful toward the speaker. Looking for chizuk, he called that very same Hashgachah Pratit hotline and listened to the latest story. Amazingly, the story was about a chazzan who had been invited to lead the tefillot in a certain shul on the occasion of a Sheva Berachot. During the tefillah, an elderly man publicly humiliated the chazzan in front of the entire congregation. The man claimed that the chazzan was unfit to lead the prayers and mocked him by saying that since it was Parashat Parah, the chazzan himself was a perfect example of a parah adumah—a red cow. The chazzan was deeply humiliated, but he remained silent. After the tefillah, a young man approached him and asked him to forgive the elderly man and have in mind that the merit should help a relative who had been married for seven years without children. The chazzan forgave the man and gave that relative a beracha. Later, when he returned home and told his wife what had happened, she said, "You should have prayed for one of our relatives who is thirty years old and still not married." "My humiliation was so great," the chazzan replied, "that it can be shared." He prayed for both people. In the end, the couple who had been waiting seven years for children was blessed with a baby, and the woman who had been waiting for a shidduch found her match. When this man heard that story, he felt like Hashem was speaking directly to him. He realized that he too could capitalize on the golden opportunity that had been placed before him. Immediately, he forgave the speaker and began praying from the depths of his heart. First, he prayed for his sister who had been waiting over ten years to have children. Then he prayed for a relative who was waiting for a shidduch. Then he prayed for someone who needed a refuah. Finally, he prayed for himself. He had always dreamed of teaching Torah and inspiring others, and he prayed that Hashem should give him the merit to teach Torah in a yeshivah. Not long afterward, the yeshuot began arriving. The relative who had been waiting for a shidduch found her match. The person who needed a refuah recovered. He was given the opportunity to teach Torah in a yeshivah. And by the end of the year, his sister, after more than ten years of waiting, was blessed with a child. Looking back, he realized that when he asked Hashem what he could do to help bring about a yeshuah for his sister, Hashem had answered him by giving him that opportunity. Very often, people search for great deeds to do in order to bring about yeshuot, not realizing that the opportunities for greatness are sitting right in front of them. A difficult spouse. A difficult child. A difficult coworker. An insult. An embarrassment. A chance to forgive. A chance to make peace. A chance to remain silent. A chance to overcome anger. A chance to let go of a grudge. At those moments, the Yetzer Hara tries to get us to focus on what we would be losing. But Hashem wants us to recognize what we can gain. Every time we rise above our nature and choose to act in a way that would make Hashem proud, instead of acting the way our instincts are telling us to act, we perform an act of greatness. And who knows how many merits and yeshuot can come from that one heroic decision!

One of the most difficult tests a person can face is waiting for a yeshuah that seems to be taking forever. At first, the person is full of enthusiasm. He prays with all of his heart. He takes on extra mitzvot. He strengthens himself in many areas of avodat Hashem. He believes the salvation is going to come at any moment. But as the days turn into months and the months turn into years, it becomes much harder to continue. The tefillot begin to feel repetitive. The new commitments become harder to maintain. The person starts wondering if anything is ever going to change. If he knew exactly when the salvation was going to come, he would be able to manage much more easily, even if it were still a long way off. It is the uncertainty that makes the challenge so difficult. The feeling that perhaps it may never happen can be overwhelming. Yet that is precisely why this person has such a golden opportunity to achieve greatness. The harder it is to continue, the greater the value of the avodah. We are in this world to grow spiritually. In the end, that is the only thing that will truly matter. When a person feels like he is being ignored and his avodah is not being appreciated, every effort becomes infinitely more valuable. We have no idea what goes on in people's lives. We have no idea what struggles they face each day. Only Hashem knows. It is entirely possible that people who appear to be ordinary are, in fact, among the greatest people of the generation because of what they have to overcome in order to produce a heartfelt tefillah, because of what they have to overcome in order to continue growing in their avodat Hashem. They have every reason to turn away, yet they keep pushing themselves forward. That is true greatness. And that greatness is eternal. If a person could see how much he was growing spiritually from one moment to the next, he would run to continue. But in this world, we are not shown the true value of our efforts. And that is exactly what makes them so precious. Sometimes, however, Hashem gives a person a little chizuk to help him keep going, even before the yeshuah arrives. A woman related that all of her friends were married with children, while she had been hoping and praying for years to become a kallah. Over the years, she had taken on many kabbalot. One of her more recent commitments was to read a sefer on emunah every day for forty consecutive days. The book was not specifically about shidduchim. It was simply a source of general chizuk and emunah. Last week, she found herself praying especially hard. She added new areas of growth in her avodat Hashem and invested tremendous effort into her tefillot. Yet nothing seemed to be changing. She became discouraged. One morning, she cried to Hashem from the depths of her heart, longing for the day when she would finally begin building her own family. She told Hashem that she had continued going forward all these years. She had maintained her kabbalot and kept striving to grow. She was not asking for proof that the yeshuah was coming. She only wanted a little chizuk to know that Hashem appreciated her efforts. That night, she opened the emunah book that she had been learning daily. She intended to open directly to the page where her bookmark was located, but accidentally opened to a different page. There, right in front of her, in large letters, was the title of the chapter: "Singles—Don't Give Up." She could hardly believe her eyes. She felt as if Hashem was speaking directly to her. The message gave her tremendous strength. It renewed her enthusiasm and helped her continue moving forward with renewed energy. The truth is that Hashem appreciates every person's efforts far more than we can imagine. Every moment of avodah is precious to Him. Every tefillah. Every act of growth. Every commitment that is maintained despite the difficulty. Especially when it is hard. We hope that everyone receives the yeshuah for which they are waiting. But in the meantime, they should know that the greatest gain they can possibly achieve is the avodah they continue to do each day.

The Gemara says that if a person takes the wrong change out of his pocket, it's from Hashem. If a person stubs his toe, it's from Hashem. All the more so if something more severe happens. The Shomer Emunim writes in his Ma'mar Hashkacha Pratit perek 21 that a person must know, in Shamayim , Hashem is waiting to hear every word that comes out of his mouth in response to the difficulty that he is given. Every word of emunah is valued greatly and accomplishes so much. And thus, a person should train himself to regularly respond with the proper words, even for the most insignificant inconveniences, all the more so for the difficult ones. He should immediately say, “I recognize that this came from you, Hashem, I know I needed it for my best, please let it accomplish the kapara that I need.” The Shomer Emunim writes further, someone who forgets things often and it causes him a lot of anguish must believe that he doesn't forget because of a weakness that he has. Rather, Hashem sends the angel appointed over forgetfulness, each time, to make him forget. And the anguish that it causes is meant to bring him the kapara that he needs. If someone forgot about a meeting he had or forgot to say something that he wanted to say at a meeting, it's because Hashem wanted him to forget it. If someone traveled a long distance and forgot to bring an important document, it was min haShamayim . If someone forgot directions and made a wrong turn, it's min haShamayim . If someone's mind was preoccupied with a different issue and that caused him to forget something, he must know, when Hashem decreed that the issue should take place, included in it was the fact that it would cause the person to forget also. Nothing happens by accident. Hashem decrees how many times a person forgets and what he forgets. And every day there's a new calculation. What happened yesterday has nothing to do with today. Every day of life is judged separately. If a person recognizes each time that he forgets that it's from Hashem and he asks Hashem that it should be the kapara that he needs, then after years and years he will have accumulated endless amounts of kapara . The kapara that he gets will make it that he doesn't need to forget as much. If a person was looking for a certain house and accidentally knocked on the wrong door, he must believe that it was Hashem who brought that about. On one occasion, the Baal Shem Tov accidentally walked into a different room in his house than he planned on going to. He then told his attendant to take down the mezuzah in that room to be checked. The attendant then asked the Rebbe, “Is this the halachah, that if a person walks into the wrong room by accident, he needs to check the mezuzah there?” The Rebbe said no, but he knew for sure that Hashem caused him to go in that room and he thought perhaps it was because he needed to check the mezuzah . The immediate reaction of the Baal Shem Tov to his accidental turn was that it came from Hashem for a reason. The Shomer Emunim told a story that a great tzaddik from an earlier generation related. There was a man who had a very hard life and when he went up to Shamayim for his judgment they found that he had an enormous amount of sin. Then, when a heavenly advocate said to bring out his afflictions to be put on the side of good, it was found that he never attributed any of his afflictions to Hashem. He always felt that it was just his bad luck. In Shamayim they said, if he would have attributed everything to Hashem and said that it was justified in coming, then it would have accomplished what it needed to accomplish and the yisurim would have wiped away all of his sins and allowed him entry to enjoy the delights of Gan Eden . It's never too late for a person to make teshuva . So long as he has life he can correct everything he ever did. A person can say right now, “I'm sorry Hashem for not attributing my difficulties to You. I'm sorry that I did not accept them with love, understanding that I needed them for my best.” With one wholehearted acceptance a person can correct years of the opposite response. Let us accept upon ourselves to respond constantly with emunah and thereby gain the full value of everything that happens to us.

At the end of this week's parasha Naso , the Torah goes into great detail regarding the donations that the Nasi'im brought to inaugurate the Mishkan . And as we know, each Nasi brought the exact same donation and the Torah repeated each one of them, twelve times, one for each Nasi . Many mefarshim offer explanations as to why the Torah has all this repetition. The sefer Darkeh Musar brings from the Saba m'Kelm who explained, the Torah is teaching us here how Hashem relates to the individual. One should not think if a large group gets together to do a mitzvah that Hashem views it as if that group, so to speak, all got a check for their actions. The parasha of the Nasi'im teaches us, Hashem is happy with each individual separately. Although they all brought the same donations and collectively comprised a group of twelve, Hashem took delight in each one of them independently. Each one of them brought Hashem a different type of joy, depending on the person's background and what each of them had accomplished and experienced in their lives prior to this point. Everyone is always treated as if he is the only one in the world. And this does not only apply when a group of people get together to do a mitzvah. This is always the way it is. When something happens to a group of people, Hashem doesn't deal with them as a group, but rather every single person, with his own hashgacha . Whatever happens to him was decided solely based on what was supposed to happen to him. And the way a person reacts when things happen to him will show how much he really believes in Hashem's hashgacha . The Shomer Emunim writes, if we would know how valuable it is to honestly believe that every single thing that takes place in our lives comes directly from Hashem, our hearts would ignite with endless excitement. Furthermore, the pasuk says, ה' צילך – that Hashem is our shadow. And the Baal Shem Tov explained this to mean that Hashem acts towards us corresponding to the way we act towards Him. If a person says each time that something happens that it was from Hashem, then Hashem will deal with him with extra hashgacha pratit . He will be able to feel Hashem's presence more and he will get more Heavenly help. The pasuk says in Tehillim , ה' משמים השקיף על בני-אדם לראות היש משכיל דורש את אלוקים – Hashem is watching to see who is wise enough to seek Him out. The word אלוקים represents טבע which is nature. And as we know, הטבע is the same numerical value as אלוקים . So the pasuk is saying, Hashem is watching to see who will find Him inside of nature, who will attribute what seems to be natural occurrences, to Him. For this, a person must train himself until instinctively, he is able to say about everything, "That was m'et Hashem." When someone becomes a person who is fully ma'amin in Hashem's constant hashgacha , he will never get angry, he will never have animosity towards anyone, he will save himself from countless averot and he will get a mitzvah aseh each time he believes in Hashem's hashgacha , based on the pasuk, אנכי ה' אלוקיך אשר הוצאתיך מארץ מצרים. The Shomer Emunim gives the following words of chizuk to help strengthen us in this area. He writes, fortunate is the person who is constantly strengthening himself in the area of emunah called hashgacha pratit , because the reward for it in this world is that Hashem will show the person ניסים ונפלאות – miracles and wonders. And therefore, our job as religious Jews is to look at every single thing that takes place in our lives, whether it is obvious good or whether it seems to look bad, and attribute it to Hashem and know that it is absolute good and praise and thank Him for it. We constantly needed to be reminded about this great avodah . May Hashem help us to always see His hand in everything that takes place. Shabbat Shalom.

The pasuk says in Tehillim, בְּךָ בָטְחוּ וְלֹא בוֹשׁוּ — "They trusted in You and were not ashamed." Simply understood, this means that our ancestors would speak about the greatness of Hashem and about His ability to save them in every situation. Then, when they needed salvation, they placed their trust in Him and He came through for them. They were never embarrassed for having trusted in Hashem. But what happens if a person truly believes in the power of Hashem, speaks about it openly, strengthens himself with bitachon, and yet does not receive the salvation he hoped for? Does that mean he was "ashamed" because of his bitachon? Rabbi David Sutton explained this pasuk with a powerful story that took place in Eretz Yisrael. A young child, only three years old, was diagnosed with a terrible illness. The doctors treated him, and for a while the child went into remission. But eventually the illness returned, and when the boy was five years old it became extremely aggressive. The doctors finally told the mother that, unfortunately, there was no longer any hope of saving the child. The mother answered firmly, "As religious Jews, we never say there is no hope. Hashem can do anything. I believe my son can still be healed." From that point on, she spent her days in the hospital saying Tehillim and strengthening herself with emunah and bitachon. The secular doctors repeatedly told her not to waste her time. "There is zero percent chance of survival," they insisted. But every day she sat there with Tehillim in her hands, believing that Hashem could still perform a miracle. Eventually, however, the child's condition deteriorated further and it became clear that the end was near. The mother even purchased a burial plot and began making arrangements for what seemed inevitable. But there was one thing that deeply troubled her, and she called her Rebbetzin to discuss it. "I had so much emunah," she cried. "When the doctors told me there was no hope, it did not shake me. I believed completely that Hashem could save my son. But now, when my son passes away, the doctors are going to say, 'You see? We told you so. Your hope was unrealistic.' I can accept that Hashem wants my son back, but I do not want to be ashamed because of my bitachon in Him." The Rebbetzin answered her with tremendous wisdom. "Every moment that you hoped to Hashem for salvation was a mitzvah," she said. "Believing in Hashem's ability to help is a great mitzvah, and you fulfilled it on the highest level. Now you have another mitzvah — to accept the will of Hashem with emunah. If you continue doing what Hashem wants from you, you will never be ashamed from it." These words gave the mother tremendous strength. The next day, the child passed away. The doctors were certain this woman would collapse emotionally after everything she had gone through. They brought in professionals who deal with trauma and psychologists who treat severe depression. But when they spoke to her, they were astonished. She was calm, composed, and spiritually strong. She did not appear broken in the way they expected. The doctors asked her, "How are you so strong after such a painful disappointment?" She answered, "Until now, I had a mitzvah to hope to Hashem, and I tried to do that with all my strength. Now I have a mitzvah to accept the will of Hashem, and I will try to do that with all my strength as well." The doctors were overwhelmed by her words. They began crying from the strength and sincerity of her emunah. Later, the mother said, "My Rebbetzin was right. I was not ashamed because of my bitachon. On the contrary, my bitachon brought even more honor to Hashem." This is the meaning of בְּךָ בָטְחוּ וְלֹא בוֹשׁוּ . A person who places his trust in Hashem is never truly ashamed. Sometimes the salvation comes exactly as he hoped. Sometimes Hashem's plan is different. But if a person does what Hashem wants from him at every stage — first hoping, praying, and believing, and afterward accepting Hashem's will with love — then nothing negative ever comes from his bitachon. Instead, it always brings honor to Hashem's Name.

Many times in life a person forgets something important, overlooks something, or fails to notice a detail that later seems obvious. Naturally, he starts second-guessing himself. "How could I not remember that? Why didn't I realize it earlier? If only I would have thought of that sooner." But a person with emunah understands that if Hashem wanted him to know something earlier, He had endless ways of making that happen. Nothing is dependent solely on our memory or awareness. If Hashem wants a person to discover something, He can orchestrate countless events to bring that information to light at exactly the right moment. Rabbi Yoel from the UK related a story that illustrates this beautifully. One winter, Rabbi Yoel was going through a difficult time financially. Someone owed him money, but the man told him he would only be able to pay him back the following Tuesday. Rabbi Yoel needed the money immediately, so he called a young avreich, Yitzchak, his good friend, and asked if he could borrow five hundred pounds until Tuesday. Yitzchak gladly agreed. When Tuesday came around, the person who owed Rabbi Yoel the money paid him back, but only with a check instead of cash. There was a problem. In the UK, the banks had a rule that limited how much cash could be withdrawn at one time, and Rabbi Yoel was only able to take out three hundred pounds. He called Yitzchak and explained the situation. "I have your money," he said, "but I could only withdraw three hundred pounds today. Do you need me to borrow another two hundred pounds from someone else so I can pay you back right now, or can it wait until tomorrow?" Yitzchak understood the situation and told him, "No problem, you can wait until tomorrow." A few minutes later, however, Yitzchak called him back. "I was thinking," he said, "maybe you could just give me a check for the full amount." "Fine," Rabbi Yoel answered. Then Yitzchak added, "This way I can use it to buy a menorah now." "A menorah?" Rabbi Yoel asked. "What happened to the silver one you received at your wedding?" Yitzchak explained that ever since he moved apartments, all of his silver Judaica had disappeared. The menorah, the kiddush cups, the candlesticks—everything was gone. Suddenly Rabbi Yoel remembered something. He himself had helped move Yitzchak's belongings. At the time, he was nervous that the expensive silver might get damaged or stolen, so he carefully wrapped it up and hid it in a storage space in the apartment. Yitzchak never knew where it had been placed. "I know exactly where your silver is," Rabbi Yoel told him. Yitzchak could not believe it. Following Rabbi Yoel's directions, he climbed up to the hidden storage space, and there, to his amazement, was the entire collection exactly as it had been packed away years earlier. Everything was safe and shining beautifully. Hashem wanted Yitzchak to find his menorah, and He knew exactly how to make that happen. He arranged that Rabbi Yoel would specifically need to borrow money from him. He arranged that the repayment would come back in the form of a check instead of cash. He arranged the banking laws that forced another phone conversation. He arranged that Yitzchak would happen to mention that he needed a menorah. And through all of those perfectly coordinated details, the missing silver was discovered. When Hashem wants us to know something, He has countless ways of telling us. Someone recently told me that he spent a very long time writing important information on his computer. After finishing, he carefully saved the document. But later, when he tried opening the file, it was nowhere to be found. He searched and searched but could not find it. He was certain he remembered exactly what he named the file, but nothing came up under that name. Finally, after becoming frustrated, he spent hours rewriting the entire document from scratch. When he finished redoing all the work, he saved the file under what he thought was a brand-new name. Suddenly, both files appeared on the screen. He realized that the original file had been there all along under the exact name that he had just given the new file. Naturally, a person could feel bad. "Why didn't I think of that earlier?" But the lesson is not to second-guess ourselves. If Hashem wanted him to discover the original file earlier, He had countless ways of making that happen. The fact that it was only discovered later means that later was the exact right time for it to be found. A man once told me that something happened which completely ruined his day. Although he learns emunah and bitachon regularly, at the time he could not see any good in what had happened. He became gloomy and upset, and everyone around him felt it the entire day. A few days later, however, he suddenly realized that what had happened was actually the best possible thing that could have happened. Because of that event, everything else ended up turning out in the most favorable way possible. He told me afterward, "No matter how much emunah a person has, he always needs more chizuk in it." We do not understand why things happen the way they do, but we do know that Hashem is running the world and He is doing it perfectly. If He wants us to know something, He knows exactly how to accomplish that. And if something was hidden from us until later, then later was exactly the right time for it to be revealed. There is no reason to second-guess ourselves. If we accept and trust Hashem, we are performing a great avodah.

One of the great ploys of the Yetzer Hara is to make people forget how powerful tefillah really is. A person prays, but deep down he may already feel trapped by his situation. He says the words, but the fire and confidence are missing. Very often, the yeshuah is already prepared and waiting. The person simply needs to awaken within himself and truly believe in the power of speaking to Hashem. Sometimes Hashem sends a person a reminder — perhaps a memory, a story, or a moment of inspiration — to reignite his belief in tefillah so that he will finally cry out properly from the depths of his heart. In the sefer He'emanti Va'asapera, there is a story about Eliezer, a man whose housewares business was collapsing. Every evening he would lower the shutters on his store feeling crushed by stress and worry. Customers were disappearing, profits were shrinking, and it was becoming painfully clear that his business was nearing its end. One night, as he prepared to close the store, something suddenly stopped him. A memory came flooding back from forty years earlier. As a young man living in London, Eliezer had desperately wanted to learn in Eretz Yisrael, but his family did not have the means to send him. One night he saw his father crying while saying Tehillim. The next day his father explained that he had been begging Hashem to somehow help him pay for his son's expenses so he could go learn Torah in Eretz Yisrael. Then something unbelievable happened. The next morning, completely out of character, his father bought a scratch-off ticket and won exactly the amount they needed. Within days, Eliezer was on his way to yeshivah in Eretz Yisrael. Now, forty years later, sitting alone in his darkened store, Eliezer suddenly understood the message. His father's salvation had come through heartfelt tefillah, and now Hashem was reminding him of that lesson for himself. He realized that sighing was not going to help him. Worrying was not going to save his business. He needed to truly pray from the depths of his heart. He took out a Tehillim and began pouring out his heart to Hashem. It was not a quick tefillah. It was not distracted words, but rather real tefillah. He sat there for over an hour crying, pleading, and speaking honestly to Hashem. Then suddenly there was a knock at the door. A stranger stood outside insisting that he urgently needed to come in. Eliezer almost sent him away, upset that someone was interrupting such a powerful moment of tefillah. But the man pleaded with him to listen. He explained that he managed a brand-new hall that was about to open. He had been planning to meet wholesalers over the coming weeks to buy dishes and silverware, but suddenly he discovered that he urgently had to fly overseas. He needed to purchase everything immediately before leaving. Eliezer showed him the merchandise that he had in his store. The man quickly chose what he wanted and ordered seven hundred complete sets of dishes, cups, and silverware — the largest order Eliezer had ever received in his life. In that one visit, he received an entire year's worth of revenue. The profits from that deal saved his business. Then it all became clear. Why had this customer arrived specifically then? Why didn't he go to another store? Because every other store was closed. Eliezer was only there because he had stayed back to pray. The salvation had already been set into motion. The customer had already been sent. The order was already waiting to be made. But Eliezer needed the reminder from his father's story to awaken him to the power of tefillah so that he would cry out the right way for the yeshuah to reach him. Sometimes people become so busy worrying, calculating, panicking, and searching everywhere else that they forget the greatest power they possess — the ability to stand before מלך מלכי המלכים and pour out their hearts. The Yetzer Hara works overtime to weaken a person's belief in tefillah because once a person truly believes that Hashem is listening, his tefillah takes on an entirely new dimension and becomes an uplifting avodah. The greatest chizuk we can have is knowing that Hashem is here. He is listening. He is arranging. He is preparing. He is orchestrating every detail. Sometimes our salvation is already waiting, and all Hashem wants is for us to remember Who we are speaking to — and to speak the right way.

One of the difficult balances in life is knowing when enough hishtadlut has been done so that a person can place the matter fully into the hands of Hashem. On one hand, we are obligated to make hishtadlut in order to fulfill our needs. But on the other hand, if a person overdoes hishtadlut it is considered an infraction, reflecting an underlying belief that results are dependent upon human effort rather than solely upon Hashem. One of the greatest tests in life is believing that although we are the ones making the efforts, the results themselves have nothing to do with those efforts. Hashem alone decides the outcome. He merely requires enough hishtadlut for the result to appear natural within the normal way of the world. Sometimes Hashem specifically places a person into situations where he feels completely powerless so that he can discover this truth more clearly — that his help was always coming only from Hashem. Once a person has put in a reasonable effort, one of the greatest things he can do afterward is stop chasing people and begin speaking more to Hashem. Rabbi Betzalel Bloy from Bnei Brak related that after investing enormous effort writing, organizing, and preparing the shiurim of his Rabbi for publication, he finally reached the last stage before printing the sefer. Everything was ready. He felt strongly that the sefer would bring tremendous chizuk to many people. There was only one thing missing: Money. He needed thousands of dollars to print the sefer and had no idea where the funds would come from. He worked very hard collecting small donations from various places, but after all the effort, he still managed to gather only one-third of the amount he needed. People advised him to approach a certain wealthy individual who might be interested in supporting the project. Rabbi Bloy gathered his courage and went to speak with him. He explained the greatness of the sefer, the importance of its message, and how many people could potentially benefit from it. The wealthy man listened carefully and then replied: "Go to another wealthy man at this address. Whatever amount he gives you, I will contribute half of it." Rabbi Bloy left the meeting feeling crushed and embarrassed. He did not know whether the man genuinely intended to help or was simply trying to avoid responsibility. More than anything, the entire experience was emotionally painful. The thought of now having to approach another wealthy individual filled him with dread. But he desperately wanted to publish the sefer. Unsure what to do next, he went to ask his father for advice. His father then gave him one sentence that completely changed his perspective. "Don't do anything else," he said. "Just talk to Hashem." His father understood that Rabbi Bloy had already done what was reasonable. Continuing further would only push him emotionally beyond his limits. Hearing those words brought Rabbi Bloy tremendous relief. He now felt permitted to stop chasing people and simply turn to Hashem. That night he poured out his heart in tefillah. The next morning, he did the same during Shacharit. Then, that very afternoon, the second wealthy man suddenly called him. "The first donor told me about your sefer," he said. "We decided that I will cover two-thirds of the remaining amount, and he will cover the other third. We are very happy to participate in your project." Within a short amount of time, the money was paid and the sefer went to print. Rabbi Bloy later reflected that his father's words taught him the true perspective on hishtadlut. A person must make an effort. But once he has done what is reasonable, Hashem does not require more than that. Hashem loves when we ask Him directly for our needs — and for that, we never have to feel embarrassed. The more we recognize Who the true Provider is, the more blessing Hashem places into our hishtadlut.

The Mishnah in Pirkei Avot tells us to be very careful in the performance of even the smallest mitzvot because we do not know the true reward of any mitzvah. The Shem MiShmuel explains that when it comes to reward, Hashem does not only consider the actual deed itself. He also takes into account all of the ripple effects that result from that mitzvah. A person may do something that seems very small, but the effects of that deed can continue spreading for years. A simple smile and a cheerful "good morning" may appear insignificant. But imagine someone was feeling down, discouraged, and burdened. Then he receives a warm greeting and suddenly feels uplifted. His mood changes. His attitude changes. Perhaps he goes home happier and treats his family differently. The ripple effects of one smile could be endless. Or imagine someone donates one sefer to a shul library because that sefer once inspired him. Years later, somebody opens it, reads it, and receives tremendous chizuk. That person changes his avodat Hashem because of it. Who can imagine how many rewards continue flowing from that one deed? And there is another dimension that makes mitzvot even greater. Not only do we not know their ripple effects—we also do not know how much greater hidden deeds can become. The Gemara in Baba Batra tells us that if someone gives tzedakah in private, in certain aspects he is considered greater than even Moshe Rabbenu. Such an astonishing statement teaches us how precious hidden mitzvot are. When a person does something and nobody knows, when there is no honor, no recognition, and no praise, then the deed becomes purely for Hashem. In a book about the life of the Chafetz Chaim, it says that on one occasion his son, Reb Leib, asked him whether people who learned the Mishnah Berurah would ever truly understand how much effort he invested into every single line, making sure everything was perfectly correct according to halachah. The Chafetz Chaim replied, "What difference does it make if people know how much effort I put in? My sole intention is to bring honor to the name of Hashem, and He is the only One Who needs to know." That was the greatness of the Chafetz Chaim. He was not seeking recognition. He only cared about pleasing Hashem. We cannot imagine how much Hashem appreciates every small deed that we do. We may not receive a pat on the back in this world, but that does not mean Hashem does not notice. Every ounce of effort is seen. Every struggle is counted. Every hidden act is treasured. And every deed will be fully repaid in the next world. Sometimes, however, Hashem gives us a glimpse even here of how much He appreciates our efforts. Recently, a woman in Eretz Yisrael passed away. For forty years, every single day, she took upon herself to go to the kever of Shmuel HaNavi and make sure it was clean and properly maintained. She personally cared for it and, while there, would pray each day as well. Amazingly, she passed away on כ״ח אייר —the yahrtzeit of Shmuel HaNavi himself. Not only that, her address was 86 Shmuel HaNavi Street, and she passed away at the age of 86. Every effort she invested in honoring the kever of that great tzaddik was appreciated. Every hidden act mattered. She did not publicize what she did. Only her close family knew. We can never underestimate the value of any mitzvah, because every one is precious, every one creates ripple effects, and every one carries rewards beyond comprehension.

As we know, parnasah comes from Hashem, and the Chovot HaLevavot in Shaar HaBitachon, perek 4, gives us a very important understanding of how Hashem distributes it in the world. He writes that Hashem guarantees enough sustenance for every person as long as he is meant to live in this world. Every person has what he needs to survive because Hashem Himself takes responsibility for all of His creations. But not everyone is given the role of supporting others. Sometimes Hashem chooses certain people to become His messengers. If a man is given enough to support not only himself, but also his wife and children, then Hashem has placed their parnasah into his hands. He put their sustenance into his bank account and appointed him as the messenger to deliver it. This is both a tremendous zechut and a tremendous test. It is a zechut because there are few greater privileges than being entrusted by Hashem to care for His children. But it is also a test: will the person believe that the money is his and that he is generously sharing from his own possessions? Or will he recognize that it was never truly his at all? Hashem simply designated him to distribute what was already meant for them. If a person is blessed with extra, he should feel honored that Hashem chose him for that mission. He should support his family happily, not feeling as if he is carrying a burden, and not expecting recognition or praise. He is merely carrying out the task Hashem assigned him. And a person must know that Hashem never needs him specifically. Hashem has endless ways of supporting every individual. Even one's own family can be supported through channels no one ever imagined. I know of a man who struggles financially while his own young children have far more money than he does. A relative placed large sums of money into trust funds for them. Hashem has countless messengers and countless ways of providing what people need. Of course, we are obligated to make hishtadlut. A person must work and make a normal effort. But he should not feel that if he does not earn what he expected to, the weight of the world is resting on his shoulders. Hashem never intended hishtadlut to become endless pressure and worry. A person does not need to spend his life anxiously calculating how his children will survive years into the future. That burden belongs to Hashem. People who believe all the money Hashem gives them is solely for their own use often make another mistake. They keep chasing and accumulating more and more, imagining that the goal of life is to see how much wealth they can build. But the Chovot HaLevavot explains that there is no such thing as extra hishtadlut creating wealth. If wealth is decreed for a person, he will receive it through his normal efforts. And if it is not decreed, no matter how much harder he works, he will never attain it. The goal of life is not to see how much money a person can make. It is to make what he needs and use the precious extra time Hashem gives him to serve Him through Torah and mitzvot. A woman shared a story that brought out one of these lessons. She was preparing for maternity leave and knew that the government calculated maternity pay based on the average salary from the previous three months. One of those months included Pesach, and because of the Yom Tov days she had worked far fewer hours than usual. She became worried. She tried putting in some extra hours, but there was no way to make up all the missing time. Then she heard a class explaining that parnasah only comes from Hashem and that extra hours do not automatically create extra money. The words gave her tremendous chizuk. She accepted that Hashem knew exactly what she needed and exactly how much she was supposed to receive. Just a few hours later, someone from HR contacted her. They told her that months earlier she had referred an employee to the company but had never received the referral bonus she was owed. Since they had discovered the oversight, they were adding the payment into her next paycheck. The timing was remarkable. It was the second-to-last day of April. And the amount of that bonus was exactly what she had been missing because of the Pesach hours. She felt as if Hashem was speaking directly to her: "I know exactly what you need. I know how to take care of you." When we internalize that parnasah comes from Hashem and understand how He distributes it, life becomes calmer. We stop carrying burdens that were never ours to carry, and we become better equipped to pass the tests that come our way.

There are two ways a person can live his life. One is the conventional way the world operates — through calculations, logic, strategies, and whatever appears to make the most sense naturally. The other way is with the awareness that Hashem is running everything. And therefore, the most important question is not merely, "What works?" but rather, "What does Hashem want from me?" Sometimes even within halachah itself, there is the strict letter of the law and then there is the higher way of acting — a way that reflects deeper emunah, integrity, and trust in Hashem. A person may technically be entitled to something, yet still feel that giving it up would bring more nachat ruach to Hashem. A man from Yerushalayim related the following story about himself. His family owned two cars. One was a small Camry that he used daily, and the other was a minivan for the entire family. Although he knew most people kept multiple copies of their car keys, somehow he had managed for years with only one key to the Camry. Then one day, the key disappeared. The family searched everywhere, but it was nowhere to be found. Since the Camry was locked and unusable, he simply began using the minivan instead. Eventually, after some time passed, he contacted a mechanic. "How much would it cost to make a replacement key?" he asked. "A thousand shekels," the mechanic replied. The man hesitated. A thousand shekels for a tiny piece of metal felt like such a waste of money. He thought to himself that the money could certainly be used for something much more meaningful. So the Camry remained parked outside. Then one evening, while sitting at the dinner table with his family, he suddenly said, "You know what? Instead of spending a thousand shekels on a car key, maybe it would be a much better investment to donate that money to the kollel on our block." Then he asked his family, "Do you believe Hashem can return the key without us paying the mechanic?" His family loved the idea. That very night, immediately after finishing Arbit, he went to the kollel and donated the money. The next day, while he was at work, his children excitedly called him. "Abba! We found the key!" According to the normal way of thinking, the sensible solution was very simple: pay the mechanic and solve the problem naturally. But this man chose to live with a different calculation. He believed that if Hashem wanted him to have the key, He could return it without requiring a thousand-shekel replacement. Instead of investing the money into a new key, he invested it in something that he felt would bring greater nachat ruach to Hashem. And in the end, he received both — the key and the mitzvah. Another man from London related a story illustrating this same principle from a different angle. He worked in real estate and had developed a close relationship over many years with a certain broker. Because of that loyalty, the broker occasionally gave him significant discounts on deals. One time, he arranged several property purchases for an acquaintance through this broker. Since the discounts were only available because of his personal relationship with the broker, he felt it was only fair for him to keep part of the discount for himself. The broker agreed completely. From a conventional perspective, his reasoning seemed perfectly legitimate. Many people would even argue that he deserved compensation for the service he had provided. Everything felt fine until he attended a shiur on business halachah. The rabbi giving the class discussed different forms of ona'ah and questionable financial conduct. Although the man was not certain that he had violated any halachah, something no longer sat right with him. At first, he planned simply to ask a rabbi whether what he was doing was technically permitted. But by the next morning, he was thinking differently. Even if keeping the money might technically have been allowed, he wanted to act in a way that he felt Hashem would be proud of. So he called the broker and explained that he wanted to return the entire amount so the buyer would receive the full discount. Then he reassured himself with a powerful thought: "Hashem has many ways of sending me 2,500 pounds." That very same day, a property he owned — which had remained vacant for months — suddenly got a tenant. But not only that. The tenant voluntarily offered to pay exactly 2,500 pounds above market price and prepaid six months in advance. Hashem showed him immediately that nobody loses by choosing the path of yashrut and emunah. This is one of the great tests of life. The world trains people to think only in terms of calculations, rights, profits, and natural outcomes. But when a Jew truly believes that Hashem controls everything, he begins living a completely different kind of life. Then the question is no longer merely, "What am I allowed to do?" The question becomes: "What does Hashem want from me?" And when a person begins living with that mindset, his entire life changes.

As we get closer to Shavuot, part of our avodah in preparation is to fully appreciate the priceless gift of Torah that Hashem has given us. The Torah existed even before Hashem created the world. Chazal teach that the entire creation was contingent upon Am Yisrael accepting the Torah. It is Hashem's most treasured possession, and He yearns for us to learn it. Imagine a man telling his friend that he worked tirelessly for years writing a book that could guide people through life. He asks his friend, "Please read my book." Then imagine he sees that friend every day busy with countless other activities while the book remains untouched on the shelf. How painful that would be. Now imagine it is not merely a friend, but a father who invested his entire life, pouring all of his energy, wisdom, and heart into writing that book for his son. This father supports his son, cares for all of his needs, and asks for only one thing in return: "Please read the book I wrote for you." How hurtful it would be if the son never opened it. Hashem told us that the entire creation of the world was worthwhile for the Torah. He gives us every breath, every blessing, and every opportunity in life, and He asks us to learn the Torah that He wrote for us. The Gemara says that when a person leaves the Torah closed and occupies himself with other things when he could be learning, Hashem cries in Shamayim over it. On the other hand, imagine the joy and honor a father feels when his son studies his book carefully, lives his life according to its teachings, and tells others how magnificent his father's wisdom is. There is no greater honor. If we want to honor Hashem, we can show appreciation for the Torah He gave us. Every moment spent learning Torah is an expression of kavod Shamayim. If there is a shiur Torah taking place and only a few people attend, it is a dishonor to the Torah. But if someone says, "I know I'm tired and I would rather rest, but I'm going to get up and go learn so there will be more people honoring Hashem's Torah," he should realize that this itself is an extraordinary mitzvah. Honoring Hashem is unimaginably precious. I read a story about a man from Bnei Brak who we will call Aharon who went to a very early minyan on the morning of Sukkot. There was a very small crowd there, and before Keriat HaTorah, the gabbai began auctioning off the aliyot. Nobody was bidding. Aharon felt a sense of pain over the apparent lack of honor being shown to the Torah. So when the gabbai announced the opening price, Aharon raised the bid and purchased the third aliyah. When the next aliyah was auctioned, once again nobody responded, so Aharon raised the bid again and purchased that aliyah as well. When shelishi came around, Aharon took the aliyah for himself, and afterward they asked him whom he wanted to receive revi'i. Aharon looked around the shul and noticed a distinguished-looking man who made a fine impression on him, and he instructed the gabbai to give the aliyah to that individual. After tefillah, Aharon was preparing to leave when he suddenly felt a tap on his shoulder. It was the man who had received revi'i. The man introduced himself and asked Aharon why he chose him for the aliyah. Aharon replied simply, "You looked like a respectable person with yirat shamayim." The man then explained that he was from London and was extremely wealthy. "People honor me all the time," he said, "but only because of my money. This is the first time someone honored me simply for who I am, without expecting anything in return." Aharon answered that he was happy he had the opportunity to make another Jew feel good, and he began to leave. But the wealthy man stopped him and said, "Because you honored me, I want to repay you." Aharon politely refused, but the man insisted. "Tell me something you need, and I will help you." Aharon hesitated. Then he thought about the many gemachim and loans he would soon need in order to marry off his daughter. He said, "Honestly, anything you could contribute toward my daughter's wedding would help tremendously." The man asked him what the total expected cost would be. Aharon answered, "About one hundred thousand shekel." The man responded immediately, "No problem. Come to my apartment after Yom Tov and I'll give you a check." After Yom Tov, Aharon went to the address he had been given, and the man handed him a check for the entire amount. Aharon made a small monetary gesture simply to honor the Torah, and Hashem paid him back thousands of times over. Everything we do to honor the Torah—especially learning it—goes an extremely long way.

One of the ways in which we can see the yad Hashem in this world is in the area of parnassah. Sometimes we make a hishtadlut in one area, and then the parnassah comes from a completely different source. Sometimes parnassah comes in the least expected ways, and very often it comes exactly when it is needed. Hashem provides for billions of people in wondrous ways. He makes us feel as though we are the ones earning the parnassah, while in actuality He is doing everything. We must believe that only Hashem decides if a buyer will buy our product, and only Hashem decides every opportunity we even get to meet a buyer. I read a story which recently took place that shows how obvious it is that Hashem is controlling parnassah. Yoel Tzvi is a broker of precious stones. In his business, things do not always move quickly. Sometimes there are long stretches with no income at all, and then suddenly one deal could change everything. One day, a dealer named Joe called him saying he had a buyer looking for a large red ruby, and if he could find the seller, he could earn a lot of money. Yoel Tzvi searched and found someone who had exactly the kind of ruby this buyer was looking for. They set up a meeting. The buyer analyzed the stone. It looked promising, but in the end the deal fell through. Time went on, and Yoel Tzvi became very busy preparing for his son's wedding. During that time, he did not make any deals at all. The day of the wedding arrived, and he still did not have the money to pay for it. That morning, he went with his son to receive a berachah from a tzaddik. The tzaddik told him that on the day of the chuppah, pipelines of shefa open from Shamayim. Later that day, just before they were getting ready to leave for the hall, the phone rang. It was Joe. "The buyer reconsidered," he said. "He decided to buy that ruby after all. He wants to do it today. Could you handle it?" Yoel Tzvi sprang into action, set up the meeting, and the deal was finalized. The profit he earned from that sale covered almost all of the wedding expenses. But it was not until a few months later that Yoel Tzvi truly appreciated the hashgachah behind what happened that day. Yoel Tzvi met a different broker, a friend of his, who deals with the same clients. That broker told him that Joe had called him around the time of the wedding, asking him to find a red ruby for a buyer. He found a different seller, and that deal was almost completed, but it fell through. Joe then asked him if he knew of another seller because the buyer desperately wanted to close on a deal. The broker said he could not think of anyone else, and that is when Joe decided to call Yoel Tzvi back to do the deal with the ruby he had originally found. Yoel Tzvi said, "That broker knew my seller very well. It makes no sense that he didn't think of him when Joe asked for another seller. The only explanation is that Hashem wanted me to get the sale to pay for the wedding, and therefore He did not allow that broker to think of my seller." This is the way it always works. Hashem decides who buys and who sells, and He has everything timed for the perfect moment. The more we recognize that Hashem is in charge of our parnassah, the more we will focus on praying to Him and doing His will, and the less we will feel the need to impress His messengers.

The Zohar HaKadosh in Parashat Balak ( דף ר"ד ) tells a remarkable story. When the rabbis heard that Rabbi Yosef of Peki'in had passed away, they went to his home to prepare him for burial. There they saw his young son, only five years old, lying on him and crying out, "Hashem, You already took my mother—please don't take my father." Suddenly, a heavenly voice declared, "Fortunate are you, Rabbi Yosef of Peki'in, that you merited a son whose tefillah has added twenty-two years to your life." The rabbis witnessed תחיית המתים as Rabbi Yosef arose. When they later asked him what he saw in the upper worlds, he shared one detail: they counted the tears of his son—three hundred and seventy—and when he cried out, the heavens shook, and his tefillah brought about revival. From here we learn the incredible power of tefillah that comes from the depths of the heart. A young man—we'll call him Ralph—shared a modern-day example. His infant daughter was diagnosed with West syndrome, a severe condition affecting brain development. She required an urgent medication that cost one hundred thousand dollars. After several weeks, it improved her condition to about eighty percent, but no further. Doctors then suggested another medication—but it was extremely risky. If taken too long, it could cause permanent brain damage. If taken too short, it could be life-threatening. Ralph was overwhelmed and broke down in tears. The next day, he could not focus at work. He called his rabbi in Israel, asking for direction. The rabbi told him this decision was beyond his ability to rule on, but he offered him guidance of a different kind. He said, "When everyone leaves the office today, stay behind. Cry out to Hashem from the depths of your heart. Speak to Him in your own words. Ask Him to guide you." Ralph did exactly that. He cried, he poured out his heart, and then he spoke to Hashem honestly, asking for guidance and for his daughter's complete refuah. Right afterward, on the train home, a man and his son sat across from him. Ralph watched the way the father spoke to his son—with warmth, love, and emotion—and it pierced his heart. Thinking of his own daughter, he said, "I hope one day I'll have that kind of relationship with my child." The man saw his pain and said, "You will." He invited Ralph to sit next to him and asked what was wrong. When Ralph shared the diagnosis, the man was stunned. He said that he himself had suffered from the same condition as an infant. Not only that, he had gone on to research it extensively and eventually became a board member at a major hospital specializing in treating this exact disease. Out of all the people in the world, this was the person who sat directly across from him—right after his tefillah. He became the messenger who guided Ralph and his family through the process, leading to his daughter's full recovery. Next week, be'ezrat Hashem, will mark one year since she was declared completely cured. Ralph is filled with hakarat hatov to Hashem for answering him so quickly and so clearly. Crying out to Hashem from the depths of one's heart is truly wondrous.

The Bneh Yissachar writes that the greatest tzedaka of all tzedakot is providing someone who is poor in the mind with knowledge. If a person is lacking in understanding of what life is all about or who Hashem is, or if he has a problem that is weighing down upon him, if someone will give him the words that he so desperately needs to hear, that is the greatest form of tzedaka . The sefer Divreh Elokim Chaim brings a hint to this concept from a pasuk in parashat Behar , the first of this week's two parashiot . The pasuk says וכי ימוך אחיך – if your brother is impoverished – והחזקת בו – give him chizuk . The simple meaning of the pasuk is talking about someone who is impoverished monetarily, but on a different level, it can also be referring to someone who is impoverished in his mind, a few words of chizuk can benefit him so much. Everybody could use chizuk , and if we are able to give people chizuk , we should. A compliment or just a nice word could accomplish more than we could imagine. Even people that we think don't need to hear compliments, they do. The compliments that we give to people can have an impact on their life decisions. Rabbi Aharon Tusig told over a story, which took place many years ago, which he heard from a prominent Rosh Yeshiva in Israel. The Rosh Yeshiva said, when the yeshiva that hired him asked him to be the Rosh Yeshiva, he told them he would do it on one condition – that he would not be involved in any of the monetary aspects of the yeshiva. He only wanted to be a part of the spiritual part of the yeshiva. They agreed and, baruch Hashem, for years the Rabbi never had to raise any money. But one year, they were struggling a lot and one of the board members asked the Rabbi if he would please make an exception and travel abroad to collect funds that the yeshiva so desperately needed. The Rosh Yeshiva saw the situation was dire so he agreed to go. The Rabbi went and had a driver take him around to potential donors. On one of those trips, the driver asked the Rabbi if he minded if he pulled off the highway to find a convenience store to buy a drink, as he was very thirsty. The Rabbi said, "Sure, no problem. I'm also thirsty. I'll come in with you." When they got off the highway, they saw a kosher restaurant and pulled up in front and went inside. When the Rosh Yeshiva walked in, one of the waiters there asked if he wanted a table. Then, after a brief pause, the waiter said to the Rabbi, "Rosh Yeshiva, do you recognize me? I'm so-and-so. I used to learn in your yeshiva." The Rosh Yeshiva couldn't believe his eyes. He asked in astonishment how he ended up in this place. In the words of the Rosh Yeshiva, "I was sure with your diligence and brain power, you were going to become one of the great Rosh Yeshivas of the next generation." The man replied, "Rabbi, this is the first time I ever heard you say that you think that about me. I didn't know you thought I had that kind of potential." The Rosh Yeshiva replied, "What do you mean? I have your name in my notebooks with questions that you asked when we were learning Masechet Pesachim together. I never showed you that?" "No," replied the young man. The Rosh Yeshiva then said, "You were always so diligent in your studies and you always seemed to be enjoying your learning so much, I guess I didn't think you needed to hear compliments." The young man asked the Rosh Yeshiva if it's too late for him to come back. The Rosh Yeshiva replied, "It's never too late." So the young man said, "Rosh Yeshiva, if you will learn with me one-on-one for two weeks and get me back into the learning, I will come back to the yeshiva and rededicate myself to Torah." And so it happened. The Rosh Yeshiva concluded the story by saying, "Today, that student of mine lives in Ashdod and he is from the greatest talmidei chachamim in that city." He thought he was traveling abroad to collect funds at that time. In reality, the yeshiva got into financial crisis just so the Rosh Yeshiva would go and find that gem of his and bring him back to Torah. We should never underestimate the power of giving somebody chizuk or giving somebody a compliment. It's the greatest form of tzedaka . It will motivate people and it will engender love. Shabbat Shalom.

When a person needs a yeshuah, he is willing to do whatever it takes. People search for ways to speed up the process, especially after waiting for so long. One powerful approach is for a person to rise above his nature and do something heroic for the honor of Hashem. When we go beyond our nature, that can trigger Hashem to respond in kind—acting above the nature of the world and bring a yeshuah in ways we could never expect. A man from Beit Shemesh shared that he and his wife had been waiting a very long time to find a shidduch for their daughter, who was already twenty-eight years old. The pain weighed heavily on them day after day. One morning, after praying Shacharit in a large minyan of about a hundred people, a man approached him and began shouting at him with intense anger over something he disapproved of. The attack was harsh and relentless. He could have explained himself, but the man would not stop. The words were unbearable. He stood there as shame and humiliation filled him from head to toe. He left the shul shaken to his core. But then, with siyata d'Shmaya, he realized that this moment might be a rare opportunity—to rise above his nature and do something extraordinary for Hashem. He turned to Hashem and said, "Ribono Shel Olam, only You know how much humiliation I just went through. I believe that everything comes from You. And even though it is so difficult, I am going to go above my nature and completely forgive this person. Please respond measure for measure—bring me a yeshuah above nature and help my daughter find her zivug." Amazingly, the very next day a promising suggestion came, and within a couple of weeks they were celebrating her engagement. A rabbi once told of a collector who came to him in desperation. His organization was on the verge of bankruptcy, and he needed a major yeshuah. The rabbi told him that tefillah was the answer. The man replied that his siddur was already drenched with tears. The rabbi said, "I want you to start coming to Shacharit fifteen minutes before the minyan." The man answered honestly, "Rabbi, that is above my nature. I struggle just to get there on time." The rabbi told him, "That's exactly why you need to do it. Go above your nature, and your tefillah will carry much more weight." The man accepted the challenge. He pushed himself to arrive early each day, going against his nature. Shortly afterward, the organization began to recover, and eventually it was fully restored. The same rabbi once witnessed another powerful example. One congregant approached another and told him that a device he had just purchased was not appropriate for a ben Torah due to its many pitfalls. The man accepted the rebuke and said he would resell it. His friend pointed out that selling it to another Jew would only place a stumbling block in front of someone else. They lived in a completely Jewish area, so there was no easy solution. The owner explained that the device had cost him four thousand shekel and could not be returned. His friend told him, "Do what you feel is right." With that, the man made a heroic decision. He destroyed the device on the spot, saying he was doing it purely for the honor of Hashem. Immediately afterward, he turned to Hashem in tefillah and asked that his niece, who was suffering from a serious illness, be healed. In a short time, her condition improved, and eventually she was completely healed against all odds. These stories all share one message. When a person stays within his nature, he remains within the natural order. But when he rises above it—forgiving when it is hard, strengthening his tefillah beyond his comfort, or sacrificing for the honor of Hashem—he activates a higher system.

The Mahari"l writes that when a person prays at the kever of a tzadik, since it is a place of holiness and spiritual purity, the tefillot there are more readily accepted. The Mateh Ephraim adds that even a Kohen, who is not permitted to approach the kever, can still connect to that holiness by standing at a distance from where he can see it and pray from there. Tefillah is always powerful, but there are times and places where it has an added strength. The day of the yahrzeit of a tzadik at his kever is especially מסוגל for tefillah. The Midrash says in Parashat Vezot HaBerachah that if we had known the burial place of Moshe Rabbeinu, we would have prevented the destruction of the first Bet HaMikdash through our tefillot there. The Ben Ish Chai explains that when a person goes to a kever of a tzadik, there are two proper ways to pray. He can ask Hashem to help him in the merit of the tzadik, or he can ask that the neshama of the tzadik should pray to Hashem on his behalf. But the tefillah is always directed only to Hashem, because He alone has the power to fulfill our requests. The tzadik is not the source of the yeshuah—he is a מליץ יושר , an advocate. Throughout the generations, people have received incredible yeshuot through their tefillot at kivrei tzadikim. But the foundation of it all is still tefillah—pouring out one's heart to Hashem. I heard a remarkable story from Rabbi Heller, told to his mother by the daughter of the man it happened to. Her father fought in the Yom Kippur War, and at one point it seemed certain that he would not survive. At that moment, he made a neder to Hashem that if his life would be spared, he would move his family to the north of Israel and build up a place of Torah and mitzvot. Miraculously, he survived. After the war, he realized how difficult that commitment would be and went to his rabbi to perform hatarat nedarim. The rabbi told him that perhaps it was in the merit of that very neder that Hashem had saved him, and it would not be proper to undo it. The man accepted this and moved his family—his wife and three daughters—to the north. They settled in an abandoned home on Moshav Meron, high above the kever of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai. Life there was extremely simple. They bought a cow and lived off its milk, trading it for eggs and other necessities. The man would go often to the kever of Rabbi Shimon and pour out his heart in tefillah. In those days, few people came, and he would spend long periods there alone, feeling a deep connection as he spoke to Hashem in that holy place. One day, his wife became very ill with typhus, and he brought her to a hospital in Tiveria. She remained there for months. The man faced a painful challenge—he wanted to be with his wife, but he also had daughters at home. Travel was extremely difficult, yet every day he made the journey back and forth to be there for both. The hospital staff was amazed at his devotion. One morning, after sending his daughters to school, he went to a phone booth to call the hospital. He sensed something was wrong. The doctor came on the line and told him the truth—his wife was in her final moments. There was no point in rushing, he said, because he would not make it in time. The man hung up the phone and burst into tears. He walked up the road and saw the kever of Rabbi Shimon. He stopped and cried out, "Please, Rabbi Shimon, pray to Hashem to save my wife." He begged and then said, "If there is a harsh decree on our family, please ask Hashem to take our cow instead." With that, he ran to catch transportation to the hospital, but on the way someone stopped him and told him that his cow had just died. The man was elated. When he got to the hospital, the doctor hugged him and said, "It's a miracle—your wife is alive." He then told him something astonishing. At the time of the phone call, his wife had already passed—there was no pulse. They were about to cover her with a sheet, but the nurse said they should wait until he arrived. A couple of minutes later, they heard her coughing, and then she called out for a cup of water. This is a modern-day story of techiyat hametim in the merit of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai. Tefillah is always wondrous and at Kivrei Tzadikim, it's even better.

The Midrash at the beginning of Parashat Emor quotes the pasuk in Tehillim: יוֹם לְיוֹם יַבִּיעַ אֹמֶר וְלַיְלָה לְלַיְלָה יְחַוֶּה דָּעַת . The Midrash explains that in the months of Nisan and Tishrei, the day and night are equal. In the summer, the day borrows hours from the night, and in the winter, the night borrows from the day, until over the course of the year they balance out perfectly. The mefarshim ask: what does this have to do with Parashat Emor, and what is the message of this Midrash? The Tehillot Maharitz explains that every individual in Klal Yisrael has a different role. Although there are many mitzvot that apply only to Kohanim and Levi'im, כל ישראל ערבים זה לזה —we are all responsible for one another. They serve on behalf of us, and we serve on behalf of them. When we understand that we are all one unit, forming Hashem's army of servants, we can truly love one another and remove jealousy from our hearts. The Or HaChaim explains that when Moshe Rabbeinu was told to instruct the Kohanim about their unique mitzvot, one might have thought this would be difficult for him. Originally, Moshe was meant to be the Kohen, but because he hesitated at the burning bush to accept the role of leadership, the kehuna was given to Aharon instead. And we know there was no one who loved mitzvot more than Moshe Rabbeinu. It would seem that hearing about all the additional mitzvot given to the Kohanim could have caused him pain. For this, the Midrash gives its answer. Just as the day and night borrow from each other without resentment, knowing that together they create a perfect balance, so too Klal Yisrael. Some are Kohanim, some Levi'im, some are wealthy, some are poor—but when each person fulfills his role, together we form a perfect nation serving Hashem. Imagine a team competing in a contest, where each correct answer helps the entire team win. If one member answers many questions correctly, his teammates are not jealous—they are thrilled, because his success is their success. That is how we must feel about one another. We are all on the same team, serving the same Hashem. When one person excels, it elevates all of us. The Gemara at the end of Masechet Menachot tells of a tragic case where one brother became jealous of the other for being appointed Kohen Gadol, to the point that he wanted to kill him. Had he understood that they were on the same team, serving the same Hashem, such jealousy could never have existed. Hashem assigns each person a different role, and one who fulfills his mission receives his full reward—just like anyone else who fulfills theirs. It is not a competition. Hashem has enough to give everyone. At Yetziat Mitzrayim, while the Jewish people were busy collecting gold and silver, Moshe Rabbeinu was occupied with bringing the bones of Yosef. On this, the pasuk says: חכם לב יקח מצוות . Moshe was called wise because he chose mitzvot over wealth, and that lesson has inspired generations. All the merit of that inspiration belongs to him. In fact, if Moshe had been a Kohen, he would not have been able to become tameh to carry Yosef's bones. It was specifically this act that led to the great miracle of Keriat Yam Suf. What seemed like a limitation for Moshe became the greatest opportunity. There is never a reason to be jealous of what someone else has, does, or achieves. Hashem gives each person exactly the opportunities needed to fulfill his unique mission. The more we rejoice in another person's success, the more we align ourselves with Hashem's plan and become better servants of Him.

We cannot begin to imagine how great and powerful our tefillot are. It says in the Tanna D'Bei Eliyahu Zutah, Perek Vav, that Hashem told Moshe, "You will not be able to understand My ways, but I will tell you something about Me." When I see a person stand up to pray before Me, say words of praise, and then beg for help—even if that person does not have good deeds, and his parents do not have good deeds, and even his grandparents do not have good deeds—just because he asked Me properly, I will help him. And if a person prays with true kavanah, the tefillah becomes infinitely greater. The Ya'avetz writes that a person must know how his tefillah can find favor in Hashem's eyes. The main focus should be on the Amidah. If a person says it with the simple meaning of the words in mind, it is more pleasing to Hashem than any type of korban. And the more a person's heart is in it, the more powerful the tefillah becomes. He writes further that tefillah with kavanah has the power to silence all of the prosecuting angels. The Shelah HaKadosh explains that having kavanah means not thinking about anything else while we are praying, and to feel happiness that we are connecting to Hashem as we speak to Him. When a person reaches that level, it is considered such a great avodah that it is beyond what we can even describe. And all of this is speaking about tefillah during regular times. A tefillah made during an et ratzon—a special time of favor—is even more powerful. A certain man once came to the holy Rabbi Moshe of Rozvodov, asking for a yeshuah for something he needed very badly. The Rabbi told him to come back on Lag B'omer, because then it would be an et ratzon—a time of great favor before Hashem—and it would be more fitting to receive salvation in the merit of the Tanna Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai. He brought a hint from a pasuk: " לבי ובשרי ירננו אל א-ל חי ." לבי —after thirty-two days, which brings us to the thirty-third day. ובשרי —stands for Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai. ירננו —referring to tefillah. אל א-ל חי —to the living Hashem. On this day, the Zohar writes, the heavenly gates are wide open. The Arizal teaches that on this day, judgments are sweetened—din turns into rachamim. It is a day of great divine favor. On this day, the lights in Shamayim begin to shine in preparation for the awesome day of Matan Torah. The Chatam Sofer says that on this day, the Jewish people began eating the mann, the heavenly food that elevated them and prepared them to receive the Torah. One of the reasons we light fires on this day is to show that the lights in Shamayim are beginning to shine—seventeen days( טוב ) before Matan Torah. In the Sefirot, Lag BaOmer is Hod she'b'Hod, which has a connection to the holiness of Yom Kippur. Throughout the generations, people have received great salvations on this day. Tefillah is always powerful, but on days of et ratzon, it is even more powerful. Let us take advantage of this special time and pray with more kavanah, understanding that Hashem is right in front of us, listening to every word. He can help us with any need that we have, and we do not need anyone but Him. Let us feel calm, knowing we are standing before the only One who can help us, and He is giving us His full attention, waiting for us to ask Him for all of our needs.

Part of the mitzvah of honoring Hashem is honoring the people He created in His image. Imagine a man speaking words of praise to a king, while at the same time spitting on a picture of that very king. That is what it is like when a person dishonors others—it is a direct lack of respect toward Hashem Himself. We are currently mourning the deaths of Rabbi Akiva's 24,000 students, and the question is striking: how could such great Torah scholars have lacked proper respect for one another? The Chafetz Chaim makes an eye-opening observation. Rabbi Akiva taught: ואהבת לרעך כמוך זה כלל גדול בתורה —a person must love his fellow as himself. This mitzvah means we must treat others the way we want to be treated. The students of Rabbi Akiva were working on humility. They did not seek honor for themselves, and they minimized physicality. As a result, they did not feel the need to give honor to others either. They misunderstood that true humility does not mean withholding honor—it means elevating others. Rabbi Akiva's teacher, Rabbi Eliezer HaGadol, taught: יהי כבוד חברך חביב עליך כשלך —a person should value his friend's honor like his own. But after the tragedy, Rabbi Akiva taught his new students with a deeper emphasis: a person must treat his friend even better than himself. From this came the teaching: יהי כבוד חברך כמורא רבך ומורא רבך כמורא שמים —one should honor his friend as he fears his rabbi, and fear his rabbi as he fears Hashem. This means that honoring another person is, in essence, an expression of honoring Hashem. Rabbi Akiva himself later said: חביב אדם שנברא בצלם —man is beloved because he was created in the image of Hashem. If a person would pass us on the street and we ignored him, and then someone told us that this was the top student of the Gadol Hador, we would likely run back to greet him properly. The truth is, we should feel that way about every person, because each one carries the image of Hashem within him. Rabbi Yerucham Levovitz made a remarkable observation from the following halachah. During Keriat Shema, when we are praising Hashem, we are not allowed to even gesture or signal with our hands—even for the sake of a mitzvah. Imagine a case where someone walks into the shul during Shema selling etrogim, and if we do not signal to him to wait, no one in that shul will have an etrog for Sukkot. Even then, we are not allowed to make a gesture. And yet, if someone greets us and would be offended if we do not respond, we are permitted to answer him. What do we see from here? That honoring another person is so significant that it takes precedence even at a moment when we are directly praising Hashem. It would be a contradiction to honor Hashem while causing embarrassment to one of His creations. When we give kavod to another person, we are giving kavod to Hashem. Pirkei Avot teaches: "Who is honored? One who honors others," and it brings the pasuk: כי מכבדי אכבד —those who honor Me, I will honor them. The connection is clear: when a person honors others, it is considered as if he is honoring Hashem Himself. As we prepare for Matan Torah and the upcoming חג of Shavuot, we remember that the Torah was given when the Jewish people stood in unity. Now is the time to strengthen ourselves in giving honor and respect to others. We must recognize that every person is deserving of dignity. When we honor others, we are honoring Hashem—and in turn, Hashem will honor us.

The Torah tells us again and again that Hashem has separated us from the nations of the world to be His people. We have a different set of guidelines for how to live our lives, and we are meant to remain distinct, not influenced by foreign societies. At the end of Parashat Kedoshim, on the pasuk וָאַבְדִּל אֶתְכֶם מִן הָעַמִּים לִהְיוֹת לִי , Rashi brings from Chazal that Hashem says: when you separate yourselves from the nations, then you are Mine. We must recognize that we are a nation that is self-sufficient— הֶן עָם לְבָדָד יִשְׁכּוֹן וּבַגּוֹיִם לֹא יִתְחַשָּׁב . We do not need anyone's help in this world, because we have the One Who runs the world. Throughout history, we have often found ourselves surrounded by powerful nations, facing challenges that seemed impossible to overcome. Yet, time and again, we have seen that our survival, our success, and our redemption did not come from alliances or from human strength. They came only from Hashem. One of the criteria necessary to receive our final redemption is to know with clarity: אין לנו להישען אלא על אבינו שבשמים . We do not rely on any human being for help—only on Hashem. When a person feels that he needs a certain individual or a certain country to help him, he is lacking in this belief. History has shown us this lesson repeatedly. The Jewish people once lived in Egypt under the leadership of Yosef, who saved the entire country from famine and made it the wealthiest empire in the world. Pharaoh owed everything to him. And yet, the Torah tells us: ויקם מלך חדש אשר לא ידע את יוסף . A new king arose who forgot Yosef, and the slavery began. The same pattern repeated itself in Spain. Initially, the country was struggling, and the Jews helped elevate it with their wisdom and wealth, until that era became known as the Golden Age of Spain. The great Rabbi Yitchak Abarbanel served as Minister of Finance. The Jews were deeply connected and highly respected. Yet suddenly, everything turned. A new leadership arose that did not know Don Isaac Abarbanel, and on Tisha B'Av in 1492, a decree was issued: either renounce Judaism or be exiled. They expelled the Jews and confiscated their wealth. All of their connections did not help them in the slightest. Centuries later, the same thing happened in Germany. Jews were leaders in banking and deeply integrated into society. They felt secure and established—but that did not protect them when everything changed. It is true that Hashem sometimes uses messengers to help us. But we must remember that this is all they are—messengers. If a person feels that he needs a specific individual in order to succeed, then he is placing his reliance in the wrong place. When someone says, "We must accomplish as much as possible while this leader is still in power, or else we will be in trouble," that is placing trust in a human being. Hashem alone takes care of us. He can use whoever He wants as His messenger, or He can accomplish everything without any intermediary. We must never feel dependent on any person. We are a nation unto ourselves. ה׳ אִישׁ מִלְחָמָה , and אֵלֶּה בָרֶכֶב וְאֵלֶּה בַסּוּסִים וַאֲנַחְנוּ בְּשֵׁם ה׳ אֱלֹקֵינוּ נַזְכִּיר . How fortunate we are to have Hashem with us. We are on the winning side. We know the future. We know the glory that awaits us. Our task is to do our part and to feel that we already have everything we need, because we have HaKadosh Baruch Hu. He is our Savior. He is our King. He is our Father. The more we rely on Him, the closer we come to bringing the Geulah.

How fortunate we are to be the children of Hashem. He is there to help us twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, and He loves each and every one of us more than a parent could ever love a child. We should feel proud to merit being the ones who follow His Torah. The pasuk says: כִּי הִיא חָכְמַתְכֶם וּבִינַתְכֶם לְעֵינֵי הָעַמִּים . When we live our lives according to the Torah, we are showing the world what true wisdom is. The Torah makes us a nation of kings and queens, and it is our greatest privilege to serve Hashem. Therefore, we should never be embarrassed to follow any mitzvah. If a gentile buyer asks a person to go to a non-kosher establishment, he should not say, "I'm not in the mood for that kind of food right now." Rather, he should say, "I'm sure the food is great, but my religion only permits me to eat in kosher establishments." If an executive asks for a meeting at a time that would cause a person to miss his set time for learning Torah, he should not be embarrassed to say, "I set aside time every day to learn and cannot miss it." All success comes from Hashem, and when we stand up for His honor and follow His Torah, He sends His blessings. The pessukim tell us about Daniel, who was taken as a young man to serve in the palace of Nebuchadnezzar. An official in charge told him he had to eat the finest foods from the royal table—rich meat and wine—so that he would appear strong and refined for service. Daniel said he wanted only grains and water, for kashrut reasons. The official explained that he would get in trouble if Daniel did not look robust like the other servants. Daniel suggested a ten-day test: give him grains and water and compare him to the others. At the end of the ten days, Daniel looked healthier, stronger, and more vibrant than the servants who ate the king's finest delicacies. Health and appearance come from Hashem, and He is the only One who needs to be impressed. Chazal tell us that because Daniel kept kashrut under duress, he merited protection later, even when he was thrown into the lion's den. Anyone who knows who the real Boss is will never compromise any level of Torah for any reason, especially in business. On the contrary, he will keep Torah even more carefully, knowing that success comes only from Hashem. Once a year, the largest retailer in the world, Walmart, holds a massive gathering for its top 1,500 suppliers, including Apple, General Mills, Frito-Lay, Procter & Gamble, and many more. They give awards for the best suppliers in each category, culminating in the Vendor of the Year award. At the last gathering, there were many Jews in attendance but an overwhelming majority of gentiles. The top award went to a religious Jew who keeps all halachot meticulously. On stage were many executives, including women, who normally extend their hands to congratulate winners—but in this case, they were instructed by the executive vice president to respect his religion and not do so. When he spoke, he did not praise his product or his skill. Instead, he said, "I attribute all of our company's success to the One Above." Later, other gentile vendors expressed how impressed they were that he publicly recognized G-d. This man does not own a smartphone. He appeared on that stage with a full Omer beard and does not compromise his Torah learning for work. Over the decades, many people have felt pressure to compromise standards to impress companies like Walmart—but this is unnecessary. Companies will respect Torah principles. In this instance, Walmart was more concerned with respecting his religion than he was with impressing them. All success comes from Hashem. If we are proud to be His people, we should also be proud to follow His Torah. True success comes not from pleasing people, but from standing strong in Hashem's Torah—He will make all things prosper.