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In this week's Parasha, Lech Lecha, we begin once again to learn lessons from the lives of Avraham and Sarah. They were both great nivi'im and understood the ways of Heaven. When Sarah saw that she was not meriting to have children, she began to think of what she could do as a special zechut to change her mazal. Chazal tell us that Sarah was not physically capable of bearing children, as she did not even have a womb. She realized that for such a salvation, she would need an enormous zechut. So what did she do? The pasuk tells us: Sarah gave her maidservant Hagar to Avraham as a wife, saying, "Perhaps I will be built through her." What was so great about giving Hagar to Avraham? Sarah knew that Avraham had a mitzvah to have children, but perhaps she was the one preventing him from fulfilling that mitzvah. With tremendous selflessness, she gave another woman to her own husband, solely so that he could fulfill Hashem's will. Moreover, Sarah could have suggested that Hagar be taken as a pilegesh instead of a full wife. But she was concerned for the kavod of Avraham. He was like a prince, and it was not fitting for him to have less than a true wife. We know that the natural longing of a woman is for the attention of her husband. In fact, the Gemara calls a co-wife a tzarah — a rival — because it becomes a rivalry for their husband's attention. For Sarah to voluntarily offer her husband a different wife so he could fulfill the mitzvah was an act of extraordinary mesirut nefesh. Sarah understood that self-sacrifice brings great berachah and yeshuah. And indeed, later in the Parashah, Hashem changed her name from Sarai to Sarah, and announced that she would be blessed with a child — the child who would become the future of Klal Yisrael. The Kli Yakar explains that Hashem removed the Yud from "Sarai" because the letter Yud is masculine, symbolizing that she had been created like a male in that she was unable to bear children. He replaced it with the letter Hei , which is feminine, signifying that she would now be able to bear children in the normal way of a female. But numerically, there was a loss — Yud equals ten, Hei equals five. To restore balance, Hashem created another Hei (five) and attached it to the name of Avram, turning him into Avraham. The mekubalim explain that the letter Hei is associated with reproduction. The Kli Yakar writes that it was Sarah's zechut — the selflessness with which she gave her maidservant to Avraham — that enabled not only herself, but also Avram, who until then was unable to father children, to now have children. The Hei that was added to Avraham's name came from Sarah, because it was in her merit that he gained this ability. From here we see the enormous power of a mitzvah done with mesirut nefesh. Sarah's selflessness was the catalyst that enabled both her and Avraham to have children — and through it, Yitzchak Avinu came into the world. Every extra zechut that a person gains is of immeasurable value. Our Rabbis tell us that when a mitzvah is performed, it creates an et ratzon — a time of Divine favor. The greater the mitzvah, the greater the et ratzon . And tefillot offered at such a time rise even higher. May we all merit, be'ezrat Hashem , to gain the right zichuyot that will bring about yeshuot for all who need them. Shabbat Shalom

Every hashgachah peratit story that we hear is meant to strengthen our emunah that Hashem is intimately involved in every detail of our lives. He knows exactly what we need and can provide it in the blink of an eye. Our responsibility is to recognize this, and to pray with the deep belief that Hashem is always with us. The rabbi from yesterday's story shared his own powerful experience. A few years ago, he needed a critical medical procedure that could only be done in the United States. The cost: forty thousand dollars out of pocket. He had nowhere near that kind of money, and the procedure was essential. He reached out to a chesed organization for help, and then, without much of a plan, boarded a plane from Israel to New York. When he landed, he called his mother for advice. With only $250 in his pocket and no idea where to turn, he was desperate. His mother suggested he try a very wealthy man who was known for generosity and who lived in Monsey during the summer. She urged him to knock on his door and ask for help. So he took $100 — almost half of the little money he had — and paid for a taxi to the man's house. He knocked repeatedly, but no one answered. The house seemed empty. Frustrated, he called his mother back. She had no more ideas. Now he was stuck in Monsey, drained of money, no plan, no connections — and the hot sun beating down on him. Then he became very thirsty. Spotting a shul, he went inside to look for water. Inside the hallway was one man, pacing back and forth, engrossed in a phone call. The moment he saw the rabbi, he stopped and asked who he was. When the rabbi told him his name, the man's face changed. "I know who you are," he said. "You're here trying to get a medical procedure, and you need $40,000." The rabbi was stunned. He had never seen this man before. How could he know so much? The man began interrogating him, demanding to know who had told him to come to this shul. The rabbi insisted that no one told him — he had simply come in because he was thirsty. The man explained: "I raise millions of dollars every year for people in need. But the demand is so great that I sometimes have to hide out in different places just to breathe. Today, I picked this shul, where I was sure no one would disturb me." At that very moment, he was on the phone with the very chesed organization the rabbi had contacted, discussing the rabbi's case. They had asked him to take on raising the $40,000, and he had flatly refused, saying he already had too many obligations. But now, staring at the rabbi who had just "randomly" walked into the building, he realized this was not random at all. "Now I see that Hashem Himself sent you here," he said. "And because of that, I will raise the money for you." And so it was. The rabbi received the full $40,000 for his medical procedure. Think about it. He stepped off a plane into a city of millions of people and millions of buildings. Hashem led him straight to the one building, at the one moment, where the exact person who was destined to be his messenger was waiting. Hashem can do the same for each of us. The more we strengthen our belief and pour our hearts into tefillah, the more clearly we will see His hashgachah in our lives.

A person can plan, prepare, and work as hard as possible, but without Hashem's help, nothing will succeed. We make the efforts, but the outcome is never in our hands. From the simplest tasks of daily life to the greatest undertakings, we are dependent every moment on the blessing of Hashem. Be'ezrat Hashem , Living Emunah on the Parashah Volume 2 is about to be released. During the summer, I received a phone call from one of the sponsors who was going to help bring this project to fruition. He explained that he had fallen on hard times and was not going to be able to fulfill his pledge. I wished this man berachah v'hatzlachah , and then I turned to Hashem and asked Him to please send a different messenger to help. The very next morning, I overslept and missed my alarm. That small mishap caused me to pray in a shul I did not normally attend. After tefilah, as I stood in the lobby, a man recognized me and asked if I had time to hear a nice hashgachah peratit story. I told him most definitely, and he began. He told me about his associate, whom we'll call Yehuda, who was in the nursing home business. For nearly three years, Yehuda had been trying to secure a meeting with a very influential man in the industry. At last, the meeting was scheduled — Thursday night in a Manhattan restaurant. But Yehuda gave a shiur every Thursday night in Lakewood, and he never missed it under any circumstances. Now he was torn. This was the opportunity he had waited for, yet it would mean skipping his shiur. He tried to reschedule, but was turned down. Finally, with great strength, he told the man he could not attend and canceled the meeting. At first, he felt terrible. Three years of waiting, and he had given it up. But then he told himself: A person never loses by doing the will of Hashem. That Thursday, he prayed Minchah in Lakewood, as usual, being that he didn't have to travel to Manhattan. In that very minyan, he met a man who was even more prominent in the nursing home business than the one he had originally been scheduled to meet. He introduced himself, arranged a meeting, and ended up with a deal far greater than he could have imagined. Yehuda was overjoyed. By holding onto his shiur, he saw Hashem's blessing so clearly. When the man finished his story, I thanked him — and then asked if he might know someone who would be interested in sponsoring Living Emunah on the Parashah Volume 2 . His eyes lit up. "What? Living Emunah on the Parashah? I'm the number one fan of that book! I've given out over forty copies of the first volume. It has brought so many people closer to religion. It would be my greatest honor and pleasure to help sponsor the new volume." And just like that, the missing sponsor was replaced. It was then that I understood why I had overslept that morning. Hashem guided me to the shul where the very person I needed was waiting. Everything gets accomplished only with siyata diShmaya. While we were talking, a rabbi visiting from Israel overheard part of the conversation. He walked over and asked, "Are you sharing hashgachah peratit stories?" When we said yes, he told us he had one of the greatest stories that ever happened — and it happened to him personally. With Hashem's help, I will share that story tomorrow.

There are times when a person looks back and thinks, If only I had taken that opportunity. Perhaps it was a business deal that turned out to be very lucrative, or another chance that could have brought success. Naturally, he wonders what he could have had, imagining how life might look if only he had acted differently. But someone who has been learning Emunah knows better. He understands that he already has everything he is meant to have. If Hashem wants him to have more, He will send it in another way, from another source. Hashem is in charge not only of what we receive, but also how we receive it. We should never feel that we "could have" or "should have" had more. Sometimes Hashem's Hand is so obvious that we can't miss it. Michael Cohen, founder of the Mitzvah Man organization, related that he once received a call from a family with eight children who could not afford a car. They asked if he could help. He explained that his organization did not give away cars, but if he heard of something, he would let them know. That very week, he got an email from Eshel Shabbat announcing a Chinese auction with a car as one of the prizes. Michael bought a ticket, publicly committing that if he won, he would give the car to that family He then put a public notice on his webpage that he commits to giving the car away if he wins. He also told his daughter to make sure he doesn't renege in a moment of weakness if he wins. His daughter told him not to worry, as there were thousands of tickets in the raffle and he wasn't going to win anyway. Two days later, the organization called saying he won the car. He was so happy. He gave the car to that family and told them not to thank him. It was a gift from Hashem. A couple of years later, he received another call from a family with a lot of children who couldn't afford a car. He told them as well that he didn't have cars to give away, but if something came along, he would let them know. A few weeks later, he got a text message on his phone from Eshel Shabbat saying, Last chance for the car raffle. He once again bought a ticket and said if he wins, he would donate the car to this family in need. Amazingly, two days later, he got a phone call from them saying that he won the car raffle again—and once again, he gave away the car. It is obvious that Hashem decides who wins raffles and who gets cars. A man told me he was in Israel for Sukkot and on Shabbat Chol HaMoed, in the shul he attended, they were bidding for the aliyot. He bought one aliyah for his brother-in-law and then purchased aliyah Levi for himself. At first, the gabbai said he couldn't buy two, but when he explained the first was a gift, they agreed. Yet when the time came, they gave aliyah Levi to someone else. His first instinct was to protest, but then he remembered the Gemara which says that everybody gets exactly what's coming to them, and no one could take even a hair's breadth of what's yours. He even said he was still going to pay for that aliyah. After the aliyah, the gabbai approached him apologizing, saying it was an oversight. That afternoon, he was invited by a rabbi to eat seudah shlishit at his house. The rabbi told him minchah at his shul was going to be at 6:15. But later on that day, this man realized the rabbi must have been mistaken on the time, as sunset was 6:25. So he went to the shul at 5:30, and when he was almost there, he saw the rabbi standing outside the shul looking for someone. When he got closer, the rabbi called out to him, saying to come quickly. He wanted to give him aliyat Levi and he was hoping he was going to come. The moment he walked into the shul, he went right up to the Torah and got aliyat Levi. He said afterward, If Hashem doesn't want you to get an aliyah, you could be in the shul a few feet away from the Torah, having already bought the aliyah, and still not get it. And if Hashem wants you to get an aliyah, you could be very far away, and the rabbi will stop everything and wait for you to come to get the aliyah. Whatever we get is decided by Hashem. He knows how and when to give us what He wants us to have, and therefore we should never second-guess a decision we made or feel bad about passing up on any opportunity.

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Parshas Noach: Understanding Bitachon

The pasuk says that Hashem smelled the pleasing aroma of Noach's korban and then declared that He would never again destroy the world as He had done with the Mabul. The Midrash explains that Hashem not only smelled the aroma of Noach's korban, but also the aroma of the fiery furnace into which Avraham Avinu was willing to be thrown. He smelled the aroma of the furnace that Hananyah, Mishael, and Azaryah were cast into, and He smelled the aroma of all of His precious children throughout history who were willing to sacrifice their very lives for Him. We are commanded to love Hashem with all our heart, with all our soul, and with all our money. That means being willing to give up even the most precious things to us in order to show our love for Him. Every form of sacrifice is precious to Hashem. Sometimes it means enduring embarrassment. Sometimes it means giving up comforts. Sometimes it means changing our plans. Whatever it may be, Hashem cherishes every effort we make for His sake. Sometimes Hashem even makes it clear just how much He treasures those sacrifices. A Rosh Yeshivah from B'nei B'rak told me a remarkable story. When Rav Chaim Kanievsky, zatzal, was niftar, he was asked to travel to France to deliver a hesped in a shul where his father had once been the rabbi. The Rosh Yeshivah agreed — but on one condition: he never missed his daily shiur at 12:30 in the yeshivah under any circumstance. If the organizers could arrange the trip in such a way that he would not miss his shiur, he would go. They arranged a flight on Thursday afternoon, allowing him to give the hesped Thursday night and return Friday morning — since there was no shiur on Fridays, it would work. But then, another shul in France, a six-hour train ride away, called with the same request. It was a shul where his father-in-law had once been the rabbi. They asked if he could stay for Shabbat, deliver the hesped motza'ei Shabbat, and fly back Sunday morning on a 7:00 a.m. flight. He made the calculation and realized that flight would not land in Israel until around 12:30 — too late for his shiur. So he politely declined. He flew to France that Thursday without even bringing luggage, expecting to return the next morning. But then the second shul called again. This time they had worked out a plan: if he would speak motza'ei Shabbat, then drive six hours overnight to Switzerland, he could catch a 6:00 a.m. flight that would land in Israel around 11:00 a.m., giving him time to reach the yeshivah by 12:30. This would mean spending Shabbat there with no belongings, traveling six hours by train, then another six hours by car through the night — to save one hour in flight time, just so he would not miss giving one shiur. He asked his wife for permission, and she gave her blessing. Heroically, the Rosh Yeshivah delivered both hespeidim with great inspiration. When he arrived for the early flight, it was delayed by half an hour. They landed in Israel at 11:30, and by the time he reached passport control it was 11:50. He was in the foreign passport line with about 50 people ahead of him. After all his sacrifice, it seemed that he would miss the shiur after all. But then, as if an angel was sent from Shamayim, an officer approached him, asked for his passport, stamped it immediately, and told him to pass through without waiting. Such a thing had never happened to him before. Next came the mandatory COVID test. The lines were long and crowded — except for one line that was practically empty. He quickly got his test and continued on his way, arriving at his shiur at exactly 12:30. When a Jew is willing to sacrifice for Hashem, Hashem shows him just how much that sacrifice is cherished. Avraham Avinu never knew how much he was accomplishing by walking into the furnace or by being ready to sacrifice Yitzchak. Hananyah, Mishael, and Azaryah never knew how much their loyalty would inspire generations. And every one of us, in our own way, when we give up something for Hashem, is adding to that eternal "pleasing aroma" that rises to Shamayim. The more we are willing to sacrifice to do Hashem's will, the more love we show Him — and the more Hashem shows His love for us.

The Three Gifts from Heaven I'd like to share a beautiful Midrash from Parashat Masei (22:7), which discusses three gifts created in the world: wisdom, strength, and wealth. The teaching is that whoever attains just one of them has acquired the most precious treasures of the entire world. If one has attained wisdom, he has attained everything. If he has attained strength, he has attained everything. If he has attained wealth, he has attained everything. But there's a vital condition. When is this true? When these gifts are truly gifts from Heaven and are accompanied by the strength of the Torah. However, the strength and wealth derived solely from a mere mortal being are essentially worthless. This aligns with what Yirmiyahu meant in chapter 9, verses 22–23. Thus says Hashem: "Let not the wise man glory in his wisdom, nor the strong man glory in his strength, let not the rich man glory in his riches. But only in this may one glory: in knowing Me, that I am the Lord..." This presents a deeper understanding of the verse. Simply put, we often interpret this as: "Disregard pride; don't glorify yourself with these three qualities; only knowing God matters." That's not quite right. The message is that you can be praiseworthy for these qualities, but only if they come with the knowledge of God. This is similar to what we say in Eishet Chayil : "False is grace and vain is beauty; a God-fearing woman, she shall be praised." The simple reading suggests ignoring grace and beauty, focusing only on being God-fearing. However, commentators explain that the God-fearing woman is praised for her grace and beauty— because she possesses the proper connection to the Divine. The Danger of Snatching Divine Gifts The Midrash continues by demonstrating that the aforementioned qualities, when misused, can actually lead to a person's downfall. When these gifts do not originate from Hashem, they will eventually cease to be in the owner's possession. The Midrash then shares examples of two wise men, one Jewish and one from the nations: Achitophel and Bileam. Both were exceptionally wise, and both were ultimately eradicated. Two strong men: the Jew Shimshon and the Gentile Goliath. Both were eradicated. Two wealthy individuals: the Jew Korach and the Gentile Haman. Both were eradicated. Why were they eradicated? Because their gifts were not truly from Hashem; rather, they snatched them for themselves. Doesn't God give everything to everyone? The Sefat Emet in his commentary on Parshat Masei (from the years 5631 and 5634) explains: A person upon whom Hashem showers riches must remain humble, always remembering that the wealth doesn't come through his own efforts but is entirely a gift from above. As long as the recipient recognizes Hashem as the source of his good fortune, the gift remains connected to its sacred source and stays in his possession. However, should the recipient forget the source and imagine that he himself created his wealth, the link to the Giver is severed. He has effectively snatched the fortune for himself, it can no longer be described as being from Hashem , and it will inevitably leave him. Maintaining Our Gifts as Gifts from Hashem We learned from the previous Midrash a crucial concept: our gifts from Hashem must remain gifts from Hashem , not things we've snatched away and claimed as solely our own. So, how do we accomplish this? How do we ensure we recognize our blessings as gifts? The commentaries quote the Zohar (Volume 2, page 62a), which discusses the Manna ( Man ). It notes that people of faith ask every single day for their mezonot (food) and parnassah (sustenance) from the Kadosh Baruch Hu , and they pray for it. Such a person is called a Ben Ne'eman (a loyal son). The Zohar then quotes Rebbi Yisa the Elder , who famously would not prepare his food until he first asked Hashem for his parnassah . He would say, "I will not prepare my meal until it has been given to me from the House of the King ." Only after asking would he pause and then say, "Now I have enough time to get the food from the King's house, and now we can start preparing the meal." He stated that this is the way of those who fear God . This is quite profound. He already physically has the food. What is he doing? He is actively connecting what he possesses to its Divine Source , choosing to receive it as a gift even though he knows, technically, he already possesses it. The Daily Prayer for Sustenance This concept is the source for the prayer many people recite in Shema Kolenu , asking for their parnassah and food every single day. The words are: "May it be Your will, Hashem , my God and the God of my forefathers, to prepare sustenance ( parnassah ) and food ( mezonot ) for me and for all the members of my household today and every day—freely, not with limits, in honor but not in disgrace, in contentment, not in pain. May I not be in need of people or their loans, but only from Your hand that is generous, open, and full." We already have the food, so why do we ask for it again? This highlights the central concept of working on our Bitachon daily: Every single day, I need to know that what I have is a gift of God given to me today . When I wake up, my house is a new house I received today; my children are new children; my body is a new body. Nothing I possess—not my wisdom, not my wealth, not my strength—is mine from yesterday. It is all what I receive from God today . This brings us back to the prophet Yirmiyahu : "For only this may one glory: knowing Me ." If you want to be glorified, let it come from your knowledge of God , understanding that He gives you everything anew each day.

The Torah testifies that Noach was a צדיק תמים-completely righteous. He was a Navi who communicated directly with Hashem. He spent 120 years building the teva despite being ridiculed by everyone around him. He found חן-favor in the eyes of Hashem. Yet, despite all of this greatness, when the mabul began, it says that Noach did not immediately go into the teva. Chazal tell us it was because he had a small deficiency in his emunah. Even great people could have a lapse in emunah. It is an area that we have to constantly strengthen ourselves in because so many times it is tested. If a circumstance arises and we don't respond the way we think we should have, we shouldn't get depressed about it. Rather, we should think we're trying . It's a long process. Emunah is not easy, but b'ezrat Hashem, it's only going to get better. To have a rough day with emunah is very normal. The key is to grow from it, to come back later even stronger. Hashem is always with us, even when it doesn't seem that way. If we could remind ourselves, when we're going through the difficulty, and say, "Even this is from Hashem, and even this is for my good," it will help a lot. The sefer Ki Ata Imadi told a story about a man who we'll call Raphael who was on his way, with his son, to spend Shabbat with his rabbi in Yerushalayim . On Friday, they got on a bus anticipating a one hour drive. All of the seats on that bus were taken except for one. The man told his son he was going to take the seat, but then, the little boy who was sitting next to that open spot said he's saving it for his father who's getting on at the next stop. Raphael then became noticeably upset. He told the driver, "This is not right. There should be more buses and no saving seats." He got off the bus with his son, and he had to wait for the next one. The man who told over the story was on that bus. He said he knew Raphael as a man who always remained calm no matter what was going on. He never raised his voice. He was always able to accept everything b'emunah. Seeing him make that little outburst disturbed him. When this first bus was approaching Bet Shemesh, it broke down. Everyone on the bus had to get off and stand outside in the heat for a long time to wait for a new one. While they were standing there outside, they saw the next bus that Raphael got onto zoom right by them. The man telling the story said, "I saw Raphael and his son through one of the windows sitting peacefully on it." The second bus finally came and picked them up, and this man, who was telling the story, arrived very late in Yerushalayim . He quickly got ready for Shabbat and went to shul. When he walked into the shul he was surprised to see Raphael there, sipping tea and learning with his son. He immediately went over to him and said, "Look how much Hashem loves you. I was on that first bus. I saw what happened. I saw you get off. I just arrived now. We had to stand outside for a long time in the heat waiting for a new bus because ours broke down. You got on the right bus. You arrived with enough time to sit and learn with your son before Shabbat. Hashem helped you. He loves you." While he was saying this, he noticed a tear welling up in Raphael's eye. He wondered what he said that made Raphael so emotional. Then Raphael spoke up and said, "I want to tell you something. For many weeks now, I have been out of a job. My house is practically on empty. Whatever I try to do, I'm unsuccessful with. I feel like everyone is against me and whatever could go wrong always does. I decided maybe I needed to improve spiritually, so I asked my wife if I can go and spend Shabbat with my rabbi in Yerushalayim to get chizuk . I felt like I was finally doing something good and then, when I got on the bus to go, there wasn't even a seat for me. I felt like I was being turned away again. Even when I'm trying to do good I get pushed away? Even Hashem doesn't want me? That is when I got upset. I didn't want to think like that. I knew Hashem loved me. It just didn't seem that way. A short while ago, I turned to Hashem and I said, 'Hashem, please, if I'm wrong and You really do love me, please show me that You love me.' And now, you walk in and you say, 'Look how much Hashem loves you.' You can't believe how much you just helped me. Now I know I'm going to get through this with emunah. Thank you for the chizuk ." Hashem loves all of us. If we could recognize it during the trying times, we'll be able to stay strong in our emunah. And if we are ever weak in emunah, don't get down. Recover and get back up. Emunah is a long process and b'ezrat Hashem, we'll become great at it.

This is a special edition focusing on the importance of enhancing your Shabbat for the year of 5786 in the Hebrew calendar). I'll explain why shortly. The Significance of Rosh Hashanah on Shabbat We're all familiar with the Sefer Minchat Ani regarding Parshat Ha'azinu , which states that a year in which Rosh Hashanah falls on Shabbat is either one of the best or one of the worst of years. It lists historical downfalls associated with such years: the destructions of the Beit HaMikdash (Holy Temple), the Spanish Inquisition. As we know closer to home, October 27th and 9/11 both occurred in such years. The core question is: what about a year where Rosh Hashanah is on Shabbat makes it capable of such extremes? Next year, 5787, will have this alignment, and it will happen intermittently for several years after that. It behooves us to understand its importance. I'm discussing this now, not just before next Rosh Hashanah, because preparation is key. The Shofar Analogy and the Role of Shabbat Most people ask: "Why is it potentially a bad year? Well, you don't blow the Shofar on Shabbat, so there's no Shofar—it won't be a great year." But this doesn't explain why it can sometimes be a great year. If the only difference is the missing Shofar, why the duality? The explanation lies in a mashal (parable): Imagine a king with two servants. One, a male servant, works in the treasury, managing the royal jewels and crowns. The other, a female servant who is an excellent chef, works in the kitchen, and she is married to the treasury servant. One day, the treasury servant is caught embezzling and sentenced to death. His wife pleads with the king, arguing that if her husband dies, she will be emotionally paralyzed and unable to cook for the king anymore—it's not worth it for the king. The king agrees and pardons his servant. A few years later, the servant falls back into his old ways and starts stealing again. He is caught. The wife again goes to plead for him, but this time, she enters wearing a cast on her arm. The king asks about the cast. She explains that besides stealing, her husband has a temper and broke her arm last week. Hearing this, the king decides: "It's better for you if I don't pardon your husband. If your husband treats you this way, I'm better off having him executed, and you will have a better life." The man's life is then over. Connecting the Parable to Our Lives What does this have to do with us? The servant is the Jewish people. The king is God. The wife is Shabbat . Shabbat is called Shabbat Malka (Queen Shabbat). We know the famous Midrash that says every day has its match, but Shabbat has no match, and God made the Jewish people Shabbat's match. So, we are a couple, and God is the King (or even the matchmaker, the shadchan ). When Rosh Hashanah falls on Shabbat, the Shofar is not blown. The Sages were concerned that people might carry the Shofar, thereby violating Shabbat. Thus, we are protecting Shabbat. Shabbat, our "wife," becomes our lawyer that comes to our rescue before God. Now, how does our lawyer, Shabbat, look when she comes to our rescue? Is she prim and proper, well-dressed, and composed? Or does she have a broken arm or leg—is she injured? How our Shabbat appears when representing us before God on that day determines the outcome. If she looks great, we are pardoned; if she doesn't look good, chas v'shalom (God forbid), the opposite occurs. Why Prepare Now? Why am I telling you this now, with a year to go? Because you cannot wake up the day before Rosh Hashanah that falls on Shabbat and suddenly start fixing your Shabbat observance. You must prepare well in advance. We have forewarning; we know the calendar tells us that our Rosh Hashanah next year falls on Shabbat. The advice is clear: Make sure your "Shabbat Kallah" (your bride/Shabbat) looks her best next year! Start working on your Shabbat now , ensuring it looks as good as it possibly can. What does this mean practically? It means respecting Shabbat with your food and drink, respecting Shabbat by meticulously observing the 39 melachot (prohibited activities). Furthermore, consider your level of spirituality: your learning, your Tehillim (Psalms), whatever it may be—focus on enhancing your Shabbat this year. On a personal note, I know of two very good books on Shabbat observance: "Living Shabbat" and "Embrace Shabbat." Both are available from Artscroll; you can order them at artscroll.com. Perhaps you could read even one piece from one of them at every meal, and in that way, you can work on enhancing your Shabbat this year and getting your [outcome you desire].

A woman once related that her daughter had been married for a few years without being zoche to have a baby. It was a stuggle that she herself could not fully relate to, yet she suffered deeply through it together with her daughter. It was painful to watch other family members and friends have babies so easily, one after another, while her daughter remained empty-handed. After several visits to their regular doctor, they turned to a specialist who identified the issue and devised a treatment plan. The process, however, included invasive and painful testing that needed to be performed at precise times of the month. Because of the upcoming holidays, they were forced to postpone the treatments, which was disheartening. She tried to remain positive, encouraging her daughter to stay optimistic and reminding her to trust in Hashem. Of course, they prayed together constantly for the best outcome at the best time. Then, out of nowhere, her daughter required emergency surgery related to the same issue. The surgery delayed things even further. She was devastated. She didn't want to be sitting in a hospital beside her daughter recovering from surgery—she wanted to be there with her daughter in the delivery room, holding her newborn baby. The frustration was mounting, and her emunah was wavering. Her daughter came home to recuperate, but seeing her in pain only deepened her struggle. Anticipating long months of testing and treatment ahead, she didn't know how she could continue. In her desperation, she sought the advice of a respected rebbetzin. She poured out her heart, explaining how hard it was to keep her faith strong and to support her grown daughter through such a difficult challenge. The rebbetzin listened, then offered advice that seemed almost outrageous. She said firmly, "You must thank Hashem for the surgery." That was all she said—no elaboration, no explanation. The woman was stunned. Thank Hashem for surgery? For delays? For pain? She thought to herself: I want to thank Hashem for blessings, not for setbacks and suffering. Still, she decided to follow the advice. Every day, as she prayed, she began to thank Hashem—not only for the good, but for the surgery, the delays, and the process itself. At first it felt strange, even forced. But gradually it became easier. It reminded her of the lesson her children had once learned—that true emunah means accepting Hashem's will as one's own, even when it doesn't align with our plans. Slowly, her heart shifted. She began to sincerely and wholeheartedly accept Hashem's will, thanking Him again and again. And then, the miracle came. Just one month later—without a single test, without a single medication—her daughter was expecting. They were stunned. Overjoyed. Beyond words. Not only had Hashem granted them the child they so longed for, but He had spared them the agonizing process of IVF. A few months later, she attended a shiur and heard a line from Pirkei Avot that resonated with her to the core: "When you accept Hashem's will, He will make your will His will." In that moment, she realized the truth of what had happened. Once she truly thanked Hashem and embraced His will, Hashem embraced hers. Today, Baruch Hashem, they have their miracle baby. Every single day they treasure her presence and appreciate the blessing she brings to their family. The lesson was clear and life-changing: thanking Hashem even for the difficulties, and accepting His will even when life doesn't go as we hoped, is among the most powerful forms of avodah. The more heartfelt and sincere the thank-yous are, the more transformative they become. At the very moment a person experiences difficulty, that challenge is truly the best possible thing for them. However, that does not mean that going forward it won't be best to get what he is hoping for. Thanking Hashem for whatever happens has the power to turn hardships into salvations and to open the gates for wondrous outcomes.

The Chafez Haim writes that one of the main determinants of the greatness of a person in this world is the way he responds to how Hashem deals with him. In our generation, we have people who have become truly great through the emunah that they have learned and applied in their lives. One woman, who has been in shidduchim for about fifteen years, shared how much strength and courage emunah has given her. What inspires her most are not only stories of miraculous endings, but the journeys of ordinary people who still don't know how things will turn out — and yet, again and again, they choose the path of emunah over despair. Some face major crises, others the struggles of daily life, but they all summon the courage, often with superhuman effort, to choose emunah no matter what. She explained that the endings are secondary. It is the journey and the choices made before the yeshua that give her strength. The emunah that she has learned over the years has not only enabled her to get through each day, but to grow, and even soar, through her nisyonot because of the lessons she has absorbed. She knows that throughout the experience she is accomplishing something every day in her avodat Hashem. While in shidduchim, she feels that the world pushes hard against her to make her despair, but her emunah has saved her emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. It has preserved her self-esteem and allowed her to face what can sometimes be a humiliating process with dignity and grace. She always reminds herself that she is loved by Hashem, that she is a special neshamah, and that her perfect zivug is waiting to be revealed at the right time. She related a very difficult conversation with a rabbi who had suggested a shidduch for her. After one date, she felt absolute clarity that the boy was not for her, and she declined to continue. Her decision was thoughtful and sincere, not frivolous. The rabbi, who truly cared about her, spent an hour and a half urging her to reconsider, questioning her entire approach to dating. He told her that the pool was extremely limited at her age. He explained that despite his best efforts, he could not convince certain boys to go out with her, and he warned her that while emunah and bitachon are central, she must be careful not to be — quote unquote — "foolish." Hearing those words was very painful. Her heart sank many times during the conversation. But the staunch emunah she had built over the last decade enabled her to listen calmly and respond with respect and conviction. She respectfully told the rabbi that she would not allow fear to push her into marrying or dating someone whom she knew was not right for her. She told him that a limited pool means nothing to Hashem. Statistics mean nothing to Hashem. "I only need one zivug," she said. "I am too special to need boys to be convinced to go out with me. If someone doesn't want to date me, that is Hashem's way of saying he is not my match." She told him, "I don't feel my emunah is "foolish", because I know with one hundred percent certainty that Hashem will bring my zivug, and he will be perfect for me, even if he does not look like the package I envisioned. Hashem has been gently guiding my heart and opening my mind for years so that when I do meet him, I will not feel I compromised, but that Hashem has brought two neshamot together at exactly the right time, when we were ready for each other." That night she could not sleep. She cried the entire night. She was confused after hearing such words from a rabbi, but she also felt a closeness to Hashem that she had never experienced before. She almost felt a direct line from her heart to the Kisei HaKavod. She said, "I felt Hashem's presence holding me. I respect the rabbi deeply, but he is not Hashem. Only Hashem is Hashem. To Him, no pool is limited. He could bring my zivug from anywhere, in ways I cannot imagine, because His creativity and solutions are endless. I continue each day to strengthen myself with words of emunah, knowing that my yeshua will come at the right time." Her words are so beautiful. We hope she finds her zivug very soon, but in the meantime she is rising to the highest levels in her avodat Hashem with her unwavering emunah.

After Hashem formed Adam, the pasuk says that Hashem blew into him a spirit of life. The Zohar HaKadosh teaches that this spirit of life is the nishamah—a part of Hashem Himself. This means that every Jew, who is also given a nishamah, has a piece of Hashem inside of him. We don't need to search far to discover Hashem, because He is already within us. Some of the hostages who were completely unaffiliated described how much they felt Hashem's presence with them in captivity. When their physicality was broken down, they were able to tap into the spirituality that was always there inside of them. One of the hostages related that he was in a very small cell, deep underground. He wasn't even able to stand up straight in it, nor was he able to spread out his hands to either side. He was living in complete darkness and could not see a thing. He said that it was precisely in that thick darkness that he was able to discover Hashem. He felt a light that was indescribable. He was motivated to pray to Hashem every single day. He developed such an appreciation for everything he had, to the point that he was thanking Hashem for the very air he was breathing. He thanked Hashem for the small piece of bread that he received each day. He thanked Hashem for what he had—and he even thanked Him for what he did not have. Then he said something astonishing: if there was one thing that he misses from being in captivity, it was that feeling of closeness to Hashem. It was such a good feeling that it brought a smile to his face in the midst of the worst darkness. He told the crowd, "How is it possible to be happy with nothing, trapped in a dungeon?" The answer: it was only kirvat Hashem —the closeness to Hashem. Another hostage said that while he was there, he became so close to Hashem that when his captors showed him a video of another hostage being released, and he saw a stage filled with hundreds of Hamas militants, all he wanted to do at that point was to get on that stage and shout with all of his strength שְׁמַע יִשְׂרָאֵל ה׳ אֱלֹקֵינוּ ה׳ אֶחָד - that Hashem—and only Hashem—is in charge. Another hostage related that the terrorists offered to give him better conditions and better food if he would convert to Islam. He told them: "I am a Jew and I will never abandon my faith." He admitted that before captivity, he never imagined those words would come out of his mouth. But in the darkness of that dungeon, he found Hashem, and he knew he would never let Him go. When he was freed, he gave chizuk to the crowd listening to him. He said: "I want all of you to understand that you are Jews, and you need to do more mitzvot. A Jew must know that he comes from greatness and he is not like everybody else." We must know that wherever we are, Hashem is always with us—and the darker it gets, the more light of Hashem we can experience. One hostage shared that after he was released, he was with his father on a phone call with the Yanuka. The Yanuka told him about how he had advised his father to learn the story of Yosef being taken down to Mitzrayim and then reunited with his father. He said to study it every single day, and in that zechut, his son would also one day be reunited with him. When the hostage heard that, he was stunned. He said, "I can't believe what you're telling me. I never learned that story before, but while I was in captivity, the terrorists showed me a video of the story of Yosef and his brothers in Mitzrayim, and I know every single detail from it." The father was studying that story, and the son was watching that story. What are the odds that Hamas militants would show this Jewish boy, of all things, the story of Yosef and his brothers? Another manifestation of Hashem's presence, shining in the darkest times. We are never alone, no matter how dark it seems. In fact, the darker it gets, the more we are able to experience the light of Hashem.

Trust the God of Jacob

Trust the God of Jacob

There are times when a person may feel that he is being treated, quote-unquote, "unfairly" by Hashem. He tries so hard to do good, but it seems like everything keeps getting thrown back in his face. The natural inclination in those moments is to want to turn away, to give up. But if he does, he will lose out on the greatest possible gain. When Hashem puts a person through these kinds of challenges, they are golden opportunities—doorways that can bring him to unimaginable heights. If instead of turning away, a person continues to serve Hashem with even more love and more passion, he earns merits beyond comprehension. Avraham Avinu spent his life teaching the world about Hashem. His deepest longing was to have a child who would take over that mission and continue spreading Hashem's light. But for decades, it seemed impossible. Avraham and Sarah could not have children. One night, Hashem lifted Avraham above the stars and told him: " הבט נא השמימה וספור הכוכבים… כה יהיה זרעך " ( בראשית ט״ו:ה ). Chazal explain that Hashem was showing him that the Jewish people are above the mazalot—beyond the dictates of nature. Even if something appears impossible, Hashem can change it in an instant. Hashem then promised Avraham that he would indeed have a child who would carry on his mission. Avraham waited patiently, nearly thirty years, for that promise to be fulfilled. Finally, he and Sarah were blessed with Yitzchak. They poured their lives into raising him, nurturing him to become the great tzaddik he was destined to be. And then one day, Hashem issued a command that defied all logic: " קח נא את בנך את יחידך אשר אהבת את יצחק והעלהו שם לעולה " ( בראשית כ״ב:ב )-to bring Yitzchak as a sacrifice. From a human perspective, Avraham could have cried out: "This was my life's mission! This was the child I was promised! Now it's all being taken away?" That would have been understandable. But Avraham took a different path. He rose very early the next morning, eager to fulfill Hashem's will. He even saddled his own donkey—though he had countless servants—because he wanted to show his zealous love for Hashem. He went with passion, not despair. And that single act created merits that still protect us thousands of years later. When the Jewish people were in the desert, Balak and Balaam plotted to destroy them. The Chatam Sofer says this was one of the most dangerous moments in our history. Balaam tried to use the power of zealousness to sway Hashem. He, too, arose early and saddled his donkey to curse the Jewish people. But Hashem replied: "You wicked man, My beloved Avraham has already preceded you! He rose early and saddled his donkey to serve Me out of love. In his merit, you will never harm his children." Avraham had no idea at the time how much he was accomplishing. By serving Hashem with joy even in the face of what seemed like betrayal, he laid down eternal protection for his descendants. We see this pattern again with Yosef HaTzaddik. He was living a holy life, learning Torah every day with his father, Yaakov. Suddenly, his life was turned upside down. He was sold into slavery, torn from his family, and thrust into the moral depravity of Egypt. And then, when he was at his lowest, Yosef faced one of the most difficult challenges in history—the test of Potiphar's wife. He could have said: "This is my reward for living so purely? Why should I keep trying?" But instead, Yosef resisted with all his might. Centuries later, when the Jewish people stood trapped at the Yam Suf with the Egyptians pursuing them, it was Yosef's bones that were carried to the water. In his merit of running away from sin, the sea split. Yosef had no idea that his private moment of self-control, when faced with so many difficulties, would one day save millions of lives. This is what is at stake when we feel tested, when life seems unfair. We cannot imagine what our Emunah and perseverance will bring. If instead of complaining or questioning, we rise to the challenge and serve Hashem with more love, we are not only helping ourselves—we are bringing blessing to our children, grandchildren, and all of Klal Yisrael.

The Power of Bitachon: "Behold, God is my Salvation" (Isaiah 12:2) The verse from Isaiah 12:2— הִנֵּה אֵל יְשׁוּעָתִי אֶבְטַח וְלֹא אֶפְחָד כִּי עָזִּי וְזִמְרָת יָהּ יְהוָה וַיְהִי לִי לִישׁוּעָה : Hineih Eil Yeshu'ati Evtach v'Lo Efchad ("Behold, God is my salvation; I shall trust and not fear")—serves as a core expression of Bitachon (trust in God) and is a source of strength in many Jewish practices. Its traditional use at Motzei Shabbat , as noted by the Sefer Pri Tzaddik, is to combat the sense of fear one feels when descending from the sanctity of Shabbat back into the challenges and uncertainties of the mundane world. The passage highlights three classic rabbinic interpretations: 1. The Vilna Gaon: Relying on Mercy, Not Merit The Vilna Gaon (Gaon of Vilna) focuses on the specific term used for God: Eil אל The Gaon explains that the correct approach to prayer is to invoke God's mercy and kindness. Eil is a Divine attribute often associated with compassion ( Eil Rachum v'Chanun ). The Interpretation: By declaring Eil Yeshu'ati ("God is my salvation"), we are relying on God's infinite mercy, not our own worthiness or merits. The Result: Therefore, we do not need to fear ( v'Lo Efchad ) that our sins or unworthiness might prevent God's kindness, because God's compassion is eternal and unconditional. The Bitachon is rooted in the quality of the Savior, not the quality of the recipient. 2. The Maharit: Salvation is Guaranteed in Suffering Rabbi Yosef Trani (the Mahari"t), in his sermons on Parshat Va'etchanan , sees this verse as the foundational reason for hope. The verse contains an explicit hint: Ozi v'Zimrat Yah יה , the two-letter name Hashem the full four-letter name), va-Y'hi li li'Y'shu'ah . The Interpretation: The verse teaches that God is with us in our trouble and suffering. Just as the Divine Name is currently incomplete (only partially revealed) in this world, but guaranteed to be complete in the future, so too our ultimate salvation is guaranteed. The Hope: Knowing that God's full name and glory will eventually be revealed provides certainty that the individual will also emerge successfully from their current distress. 3. The Maggid of Dubno: The Salvation is Already Here The Maggid of Dubno highlights a crucial grammatical point in the phrase, va-Y'hi li li'Y'shu'ah ("and He was a salvation for me"). The Grammatical Insight: The verse does not use the future tense, -Y'hi ("and it will be"), rather the past tense, Vayehi ("and it was"). The Interpretation: This implies that salvation is already here, right now, even though we do not perceive it. The suffering is not merely a prelude to salvation; it is itself an intrinsic part of the redemptive process. The Analogy: This is likened to the growth of the Messiah ( tzemach David ), who is compared to a growing plant ( tzemach ). When the seed is buried underground and seems to be decaying, it is already in the crucial stage of growing toward the visible tree. The Element of Surprise: Hineih This understanding connects powerfully to the opening word of the verse: Hineih הנה , which means "Behold!" or "Surprise!" Citing examples like the birth of Jacob and Esau ( כד) וַיִּמְלְאוּ יָמֶיהָ לָלֶדֶת וְהִנֵּה תוֹמִם בְּבִטְנָהּ :or Jacob's surprise upon marrying Leah וַיְהִי בַבֹּקֶר וְהִנֵּה הִוא לֵאָה , Hineih signifies an unexpected realization. The Conclusion: The surprise is the realization: "Behold! I didn't realize it, but God is my salvation right here, right now." In the future, we will look back and understand the underlying meaning of history and even be grateful for the tribulations, because they were the necessary process leading to redemption and spiritual triumph (as referenced in Isaiah 12:1). This powerful verse encapsulates the teaching of Rabbi Wolbe to be a "pasuk of strength" when situations are unclear, urging us to root our trust not in our circumstances, but in the unwavering and ever-present nature of the Divine commitment.

Living Emunah 2830 Bereshit-Never Losing Out by Giving The pasuk says in this week's parashah, " זֶה סֵפֶר תּוֹלְדוֹת אָדָם " (Bereshit 5:1). Chazal tell us that from this pasuk we learn that HaKadosh Baruch Hu showed Adam HaRishon all of the future generations, every single person who would eventually be born. Among the neshamot Adam saw was that of David HaMelech. Adam saw what a lofty neshamah David had, and also that it was destined to leave this world just three hours after entering it. Adam knew he himself had been granted a lifespan of one thousand years. Out of compassion, he decided to donate seventy years of his own life to David HaMelech. Hashem told him to sign on this pledge, and Adam did so. The Shelah HaKadosh writes in his siddur Sha'ar HaShamayim that when Adam was approaching the age of 930, Hashem told him that his time was near. At that moment Adam wanted to retract his pledge, but Hashem told him it was too late — he had already signed. Adam felt he still had more to accomplish in this world, but his time had come, and there was nothing he could do to extend it. On the surface it might appear that Adam lost out by giving away seventy years of his life. However, the Sefer Sas Bimratecha quotes the Zohar, which explains that Adam's main concern was to repair the damage caused by his sin, which had brought such destruction to the world. He had already fasted for 130 years to make a tikkun for it. David HaMelech, too, spent many years of his life immersed in teshuvah for the episode with Batsheva. The Gemara explains that David did not actually commit an aveirah — it only appeared as if he had. Nevertheless, he dedicated his life to teshuvah. All of David's teshuvah went towards rectifying Adam's sin, for David was only alive because of Adam's gift. Had David lived another thirty years, he would have completely rectified Adam's sin and the ge'ulah would have arrived in his time. Even so, the majority of the sin was corrected, and Adam ultimately gained far more from David than he ever could have accomplished with those seventy years himself. The lesson is clear: a person never loses out by giving. So often we use our time or money to help others, and then a thought crosses our mind that we could have done more for ourselves with those resources. But in truth, we never lose out from helping. Whatever we were meant to accomplish for ourselves is accomplished through the very act of chesed — and even more blessing comes in its place. Every neshamah is sent to this world with a mission, and Hashem knows exactly what each soul needs. He gives us the precise opportunities we require in order to fulfill our purpose. A rabbi recently shared a story. A community member called him from the hospital, where he sat at his father's bedside with his siblings. Their father's blood pressure had dropped dangerously low, and the doctor said he was expected to pass away at any moment. The rabbi explained that he had two shiurim to give back-to-back and absolutely could not miss them, but he promised to come as soon as he finished. After his first class, he called to check in. "Status quo," the man replied. After the second class, the same answer. The rabbi then drove forty minutes to the hospital, and still — unbelievably — nothing had changed. The blood pressure remained dangerously low, but the man was still alive. The rabbi told the family they should recite from the siddur the vidduyim and tefillot that are said before a person's passing. They all began reading together. They completed every last word, and the moment they finished, the machine began to beep. Their father's neshamah departed from this world at that precise instant. The rabbi later reflected: it was as if the neshamah was waiting for that final tikkun to be completed, holding on until it was done. Only then was it ready to leave. Each neshamah has its unique mission. As we begin Parashat Bereshit and embark on a new year, we must focus on utilizing every opportunity Hashem sends us to grow and become the people we are meant to be. Shabbat Shalom.

The Lesson of Bitachon: Overcoming Jealousy and Finding Your Unique Mission This lesson on Bitachon (trust and reliance on God) is drawn from the teachings of Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe , specifically in a letter he wrote to a young Yeshivah bachur (student) suffering from depression and lack of focus in his learning. Rabbi Wolbe identifies the root cause of the student's distress—and the core theme of the story of Cain and Abel in the weekly Torah portion ( Parsha )—as jealousy. The Root Cause: Measuring Yourself by Others The student, being in a Yeshivah environment surrounded by talented peers, was constantly comparing himself to others. He could only see his friends' positive qualities and talents while focusing exclusively on his own deficiencies and lacking's. He felt that because he didn't possess their specific gifts, he was unable to achieve success. To combat this, Rabbi Wolbe stresses a fundamental principle of Bitachon : You must know that HaKadosh Baruch Hu (God) gives every single person the necessary talents and abilities to fulfill his or her mission in life. This concept is acknowledged every morning in the Birchot HaShachar (Morning Blessings) when we declare: She'asah li kol tzarchi ("Who has provided me with all my needs"). This blessing confirms that everything a person requires—both physically and spiritually—to fulfill their unique destiny has already been granted to them by the Creator. The problem, therefore, is not a lack of abilities, but a lack of perspective: constantly measuring oneself with other people's measuring sticks. The Principle of Non-Overlapping Kingdoms Rabbi Wolbe calls the recognition of one's unique giftedness an Avodah Gedolah (great and important work). The crucial realization is embodied in the principle: Ein Malchut Noga'at B'Chavarta (One kingdom does not touch the other.) This means that the reign of two kings will not overlap. In a spiritual context, it signifies that God gave you your abilities, and only you can do what you are meant to do. Your friends, with all their specific talents and knowledge, will fulfill their missions, and you will fulfill yours . You must stop comparing yourself to others and instead believe that your Creator has already provided all your spiritual needs. The Lesson from Cain and Abel The lesson of non-reliance on external approval is mirrored in the Torah's account of Cain. When God rejects Cain's offering, He asks him: "Why are you so upset, and why has your face fallen? If you do good, you will be lifted up..." (Genesis 4:6-7). Commenting on this verse, the Or HaChaim (a classic commentary) notes that when a person performs good deeds, those deeds naturally elevate themselves. The spiritual status of the deed is inherent, not dependent on external validation. Rabbi Wolbe emphasizes a related powerful statement: HaKedusha einah tzerichah la'acheirim (Holiness does not need the approval of others.) You are not dependent on others to validate your efforts or your talents. If you possess the qualities, you need only to execute your mission. The Danger: Rotting Bones This concept is rooted in the verse from Proverbs (14:30): Rakev atzamot kinah (Jealousy causes the bones to rot). When a person is consumed by jealousy, they forget all the positive things God has given them. They only focus on what others possess, and in the process, their own inherent potential atrophies. The "bones" that support the person's self-worth become rotten due to the focus on what is lacking. The Final Foundation It is crucial to believe that God does not want everyone to look, learn, or understand things the same way. Each person has their own approach based on their unique talents and abilities. When a person dedicates effort using their personal gifts, they will merit achieving what they need to achieve. Rabbi Wolbe concludes with a famous story of Rabbi Naftali Amsterdam, one of the foremost students of Rabbi Yisrael Salanter: Rabbi Amsterdam once lamented to his Rebbe : "If only I had the keen intellect of the Sha'agat Aryeh, the pious heart of the Yesod V'Shoresh HaAvodah, and the perfected character traits of my Rebbe (Rabbi Salanter)— then I could truly serve God!" Rabbi Salanter immediately responded: "Naftali, with your head, with your heart, and your character traits, you can be a true servant of God." This is the fundamental principle of Bitachon : Believing that God has given you exactly what you need to fulfill your mission in life, and relying on Him to help you get there. The first murder in history stemmed from this failure to understand one's own mission, a "Cain" trait that we must all recognize and strive to overcome.

After the Yamim Nora'im have concluded and our judgments for the upcoming year have been finalized, it is natural for a person to feel that his deeds and tefillot will no longer have such an effect on his life. After all, whatever will happen this year has already been determined. Yet, the Gemara teaches us otherwise. It says that although the total amount of rain for the year has already been decreed, if the people do teshuvah afterward, Hashem will ensure that every drop falls at the right time, in the right place, and not a single drop will go to waste. The Sfas Emet (Sukkot 5649) writes similarly regarding parnassah. Even though a person's income has already been determined on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, if he has bitachon in Hashem, that same income will be filled with blessing. Furthermore, Hashem can minimize the losses decreed for him. Instead of spending money on a dentist or repairing a leaky roof, those expenses may never arise at all. Someone told me that he was bracing himself for an astronomical tax bill. Yet when the final notice came, it was inexplicably only half of what he expected. Just like that, he saved a fortune. This is how Hashem blesses people — even after outcomes seem to have been decided. And when it comes to tefillah, it is even clearer. We need heartfelt tefillah just to receive what was already decreed for us. Rashi in Parashat Bereishit explains that although Hashem decreed that vegetation would sprout, He held it back until Adam HaRishon prayed. Only after Adam's tefillah did the rains come and bring forth the growth. So too with us: Hashem may decree blessing, but our tefillot are the key to bring it down into reality. Rav Shimshon Pincus pointed out a similar message from Rashi in Parashas Miketz. When Yaakov sent his sons back to Mitzrayim with Binyomin to buy more food, he gave them gifts — the money that had been returned to them, plus new money — and he told them he had made every possible preparation. And then he said, "Now you are not missing anything except prayer. I will pray on your behalf." Yaakov was teaching that everything could be perfectly in place, but without tefillah, nothing works. The same applies to our lives. Hashem may have decreed that the shidduch is ready this year, or the parnassah, the refuah, or the baby. But the only ingredient missing is our tefillah. Furthermore, the Passuk says כַּה׳ אֱלֹקֵינוּ בְּכָל־קָרְאֵנוּ אֵלָיו-How fortunate we are to have Hashem who answers whenever we call to Him! The Gemara teaches, based on this passuk, that when a person prays with a minyan, he can even change an existing decree. And therefore, our deeds and our tefillos are always of paramount importance. Every word of tefillah and every little deed carries tremendous weight in Shamayim. Now, as we begin anew, is the time to strengthen our tefillot and strengthen our deeds as much as we can.

The Desired Path

The Desired Path

A travel agent called his rabbi the other day, asking if hewas allowed to book a flight that was scheduled to leave on Shabbat for anotherJew. The rabbi told him, although it would not violate the negative commandmentof לפני עיור, because this potential customer could easily book the same flightelsewhere, however, there would be an issur d'rabanan of helpingsomebody else commit an avera . Yet, there are acharonim who holdthat this prohibition does not apply to people who don't care about keeping themitzvah. And therefore the rabbi concluded there is what to rely upon if hewanted to book that ticket, but he would recommend not to. The travel agent then said, "You mean, it would belike a Kiddush Hashem if I don't? I want to make sure I do everything inmy business the way Hashem wants. The rabbi replied, "Yes, it would be a KiddushHashem, and don't worry, you'll never lose out on business by being carefulto follow Halacha the best way. In fact, another man just called me a half anhour ago and told me a personal story." The rabbi continued, "He is a contractor, and toldthat he found a great home that he wanted to renovate and resell. It was asuper deal. The real estate agent gave him her word that it was his for$675,000. The papers were finally in order, and the contract was ready to sign,but it was Chol Hamoed Sukkot . The contractor did not want to dobusiness on Chol Hamoed. He told the real estate agent he wanted to waituntil after the holiday to sign it. She replied that if he didn't sign rightthen and there, she would put it back in the market and surely the price wouldgo up. 'This is a דבר האבד,' she added. 'It's a loss if you don'tdo it now. And therefore it's permissible to purchase, even on Chol Hamoed. "The contractor told her he wanted to honor Hashem, and be strict, especiallysince Chol Hamoed is treated lightly these days. She then told him,'Okay, it's your loss.' And she put the house back on the market. Sure enough,the price did go up as a bidding war ensued, until it finally reached $810,000.After the holiday, she called the contractor and asked him if he wanted to beatthat price or let it go. She added, 'You see if you would have listened to meand signed on Chol Hamoed , you would have gotten it for $675,000.' Hetold her, 'It's okay, let the other person take it for 810.' 'The real estate agent then told the owner of the homeabout all of the events, which transpired. The owner himself is a religiousJew. When he heard that the contractor refused to sign because of CholHamoed, he said, 'I'm very impressed with him. And I want him to have thehouse.' The real estate agent told him, 'That would mean you're foregoing$135,000.' The owner said, 'There are things that are more important thanmoney. Nobody should lose for being strict on Halacha.' And with that, thecontractor got the home for $675,000." He told the rabbi afterward, "I see this all the time.Nobody can take what's yours. If Hashem wants you to have something, you'll getit. And of course you'll never lose by following His will." When the rabbitold this story to the travel agent, the travel agent replied, "Thank you,Rabbi. That's just what I needed to hear. That story couldn't have come at abetter time." This is the absolute truth. Hashemis in charge of our parnasa . If we do our best to go over and above todo His will, we'll only gain from it."

Hashem sends us "love notes", kavayachol , from time to time to show us He's with us and how much He cares about us. Everything that happens is from Hashem, but when He makes it extra clear that He is involved, it gives us a lot of chizuk. A woman emailed that she had to bring her 3-week-old newborn to the hospital for testing and a procedure, and it was very stressful for them. While her and her husband were in the waiting room, her husband told her not to forget her siddur, as he pointed to it on the other side of the room. She knew she didn't bring her siddur to the hospital, but when she went over to check, she saw her name on it. They figured out her husband must have brought it when she was giving birth three weeks earlier. Now it was in the waiting room of the Nephrology Unit. That meant, Hashem took her siddur that had been floating around the hospital for three weeks and put it exactly where their baby was going to be when undergoing this procedure. They felt Hashem was giving them a kiss, kavayachol , and that made their experience much less stressful. Baruch Hashem, everything worked out okay. A man told me his son is older and not married. Last year, he was lighting the Chanukah candles in his dormitory feeling sad that all of his friends were in their own homes with their wives and children, lighting, and he was still in a dormitory. That night, he poured out his heart to Hashem and concluded by saying, "Please, Hashem, can You give me the merit of being able to light the Chanukah candles next year married in my own apartment? Baruch Hashem, this boy just got engaged and his future in-laws scheduled the wedding for the night before Chanukah. When he heard the date, he cried tears of joy, seeing how Hashem gave him exactly what he asked for. Another man told me, as a side job, he builds sukkot for people. He created his own sukkah which usually takes him days to build. This year, a new young couple moved into the second apartment in the two-family house he lives in. He told this couple that they would be able to use his sukkah any time. They were so happy because they didn't have a sukkah of their own. The night after Yom Kippur, this man had to take his baby to the hospital, and the hospital said they wanted to keep him there until he was completely healed. That meant that this man and his wife had to take turns staying with the baby there. Baruch Hashem, it looked like the baby was going to be fine, but throughout his time there this man was concerned he would not have time to build his sukkah this year. What were they going to do? The hospital didn't release the baby until late Thursday night with Sukkot being the next night. The man was hoping that somehow, because he builds other people's sukkot , this year Hashem would take care of his. Friday morning, he saw in his driveway a whole bunch of new sukkah panels. What were they doing there? He wondered. He asked his new neighbors about them and the man replied his parents had extra panels and asked him if he needed them. Since he didn't see any sukkah being put up in the driveway, he said yes, he did. It was a huge 12x20 sukkah , but there was no schach or wooden beams. The man said to him, "I have the schach and I have the wooden beams." It was a very easy sukkah to construct and, baruch Hashem, they had the nicest sukkah they ever had. The man told me, the feeling was amazing. Every year it takes him days to build his own sukkah . This year, when he wasn't able to, Hashem sent him a sukkah right to his doorstep on Erev Sukkot. Feeling the Yad Hashem is exhilarating. He sends everyone subtle messages from time to time. If we take them to heart, it will give us so much chizuk .

The beginning of Parashat Ha'azinu speaks about the kindnesses that Hashem did for Am Yisrael after they left Mitzrayim. He surrounded them with His Clouds of Glory in the desert. He then brought them into Eretz Yisrael and gave them the most delicious fruits to eat. Hashem took care of them physically in every way. But then the pasuk rebukes the people for not showing the proper gratitude. Instead of becoming more devoted to Hashem, they became worse. The best way to serve Hashem is with feelings of gratitude. We must feel gratitude even for the smallest blessings—how much more so for the countless blessings that Hashem gives us every single day. Even if a person received only a small gift, he is obligated to feel hakarat hatov. Rabbi Menashe Reizman told a story that was related by Rabbi Naftali Halberstam, which happened to him personally. In 1947, while he was learning in a yeshiva in Israel, there was a draft for the army. One day a military jeep pulled up and soldiers demanded their ID cards. Rabbi Naftali and two of his friends did not have any documents of exemption and were arrested. Eventually, they were brought to trial. When the names of the boys were called out before the judge, they announced, "Naftali Halberstam." The judge trembled, turned angrily toward the police, and shouted, "You brought this lunatic here? Send him and his friends away immediately!" Just like that, the boys received their release papers. Years later, Rabbi Naftali was walking down the street and suddenly recognized that judge. He reminded him of what he had done years before and asked his name so he could show proper hakarat hatov. The judge said, "You think you know about gratitude? I'll tell you what gratitude is." He then recalled a story about his father, whom we'll call Yehuda. Yehuda had moved to Israel but was not fond of the charedim. One day a great rebbe came to town and everyone went to get a blessing. Yehuda had no interest, but his friends persuaded him to come along. When it was his turn, the gabbai told him to write down a request and leave a small donation. Yehuda put down two small coins and said he had no requests. The rebbe blessed him, and he left. That year, the rebbe passed away. A few months later, Yehuda saw the rebbe in a dream. The rebbe said, "You showed me kindness by giving me two coins. I have come back to repay you by telling you that both your Rashi and Rabbeinu Tam tefillin are pasul." At first, Yehuda dismissed the dream, but his friends convinced him it couldn't hurt to check. He did, and found that indeed both pairs of tefillin were completely pasul. Yehuda later said, "Years have passed, but that dream saved me from being someone who never wore kosher tefillin." The judge concluded, "That was my father's story. When I heard your name in court, 'Halberstam,' I immediately remembered that rebbe, Rabbi Halberstam of Shinova. I trembled, and I released you at once, pretending you were a lunatic. It was part of the chain of gratitude from the rebbe, who I knew would want you released." If Hashem allowed a rabbi to appear in a dream to repay gratitude for two small coins, imagine how much hakarat hatov we owe Hashem for everything He gives us. Hashem showers us with infinite kindness, and thoughtful people recognize it. Rabbi Avigdor Miller was a master of hakarat hatov. He opened our eyes to see the endless chasadim that Hashem does for us. One of his famous examples was the peel of an apple. Once the peel is removed, the apple rots quickly. Hashem created the peel to keep the apple fresh longer than any man-made container. The apple is full of liquid, and to keep the juices from seeping out, Hashem designed the peel with a slight layer of oil. The peel also prevents rainwater from soaking into the fruit while it is still on the tree. The peel acts as a sign of readiness: its colors shift—red, green, yellow—to signal when the fruit is sweet and edible. Unlike people, whose outward garments often conceal what lies within, the peel truthfully reveals the fruit's state. Hashem even made the peel attractive and fragrant to make the apple more appealing. How does all that sweetness enter the fruit? Through the thin brown stem at the top. From mud and rain below and sunshine absorbed by the leaves, everything passes through that tiny channel into the fruit. No human could design such a delicate conduit. Yet Hashem uses it to bring forth nourishment and delight. Inside, the juice is distributed evenly, refreshing without spilling. The apple can be sliced neatly without mess. When one finishes eating, there is a "coupon" inside for countless more apples—the seeds. It's like a chocolate bar that comes with a voucher for another bar and another, endlessly. Each apple contains the potential for thousands more. Hashem arranged that the flesh around the seeds be tough and inedible, so they would be preserved. Each seed lies in its own perfectly designed chamber, ready to grow into a new tree. This is just part of the kindness contained in one apple. Hashem designed the entire world for our benefit. It is incumbent upon us to recognize this, and to serve Him happily with gratitude, showing that we are capable of being the people He created us to be. Shabbat Shalom.

In His great love for us—Hashem shared with us what is going on in the heavens at this critical time of year so that we can succeed. The entire world was judged on Rosh Hashanah, but most of them didn't even know it. They went about their regular business, while we had the zechut to be in shul praying to Hashem. We were given the perfect words to say in the Amidah. We knew exactly what we needed to do: accept the kingship of Hashem upon us, internalize that there is purpose in life, that we are rewarded and punished for everything that we do, and blow the shofar. And now Hashem is prepared to remove our sins on the day that our judgment is finalized, and He told us what to do to make it happen. Yom Kippur is a day when we can become so close to Hashem. All we need to do is repent for the averot that we have done. On this final day of judgment, Hashem removes the satan so that nobody can prosecute us. He wants us to succeed. He wants to give us the best of everything. It is up to us to do our part. The plan of Hashem is for us to enjoy eternal bliss in the World to Come, but for that to happen we must do our jobs properly in this world. Yom Kippur is a time to focus on what's really important in life. All year long the yetzer hara tries to make us forget. He tricks us into sinning, but now, when we are the most focused, it's time to wake up. It's time to feel bad about what we have done and accept upon ourselves to leave those bad ways. Our souls yearn to be close to Hashem. That is the way we will be the happiest. A man told me that on a regular night there are an average of 10,000 Jews at the Kotel. Out of the 10,000, there are an average of 300 completely unaffiliated Jews, and out of those 300, at least 30 of them become ba'alei teshuvah just from the Selichot. From what? From putting their hands on the Kotel and saying out loud שמע ישראל ה׳ אלקינו ה׳ אחד . Their souls become aroused to become closer to Hashem. All of our happiness comes from being close to Hashem, but that requires us to overcome our evil inclination and do what Hashem wants. Everybody has things they know they can improve in. The yetzer hara tries to convince a person to push it off, saying eventually he'll change, just not yet. On Yom Kippur, when we are thinking clearly, we must accept upon ourselves to be the people we know we are capable of being. Sometimes it's extremely hard, but we have the ability to do it. Let us not let this opportunity go by without utilizing it properly. Somebody told me he has been in a bitter dispute with someone else. They both feel that they have been wronged, and neither of them would even consider apologizing to the other. Over the course of time, the hatred they had toward each other only grew worse. Many Yom Kippurs went by, and they continued carrying the weight of this machloket on their shoulders. Recently this man asked me for chizuk, words that would make him want to make peace. He reiterated that he didn't think it was possible to even talk to the other individual, let alone apologize. I told him there is something very important he must realize. He is viewing this as something between him and the other person, but he is forgetting the most important part of the picture: it is Hashem who commanded us not to hate. It is Hashem who commanded us not to have machloket. The same way we have a mitzvah to put on tefillin and sit in the sukkah, we have a mitzvah to have peaceful relationships with people. When a mitzvah is extremely hard to do, we dig deep down and we are moser nefesh to do what Hashem wants. I told this man to talk to Hashem and say: "Although it is extremely difficult to apologize to someone who I feel wronged me, I'm doing it for You, Hashem." With that act, he will bring so much kedushah into himself. He will connect to Hashem in amazing ways and rid himself of the terrible sin of hatred and machloket. When he does that, he will feel so much better. It will remove so much negative energy from his body and cause his soul to soar to the greatest heights. Now is the time to make teshuvah. Hashem wants to bless us in every way, and that is what He told us to do. It is up to us to push ourselves and accept to live up to our potential, and with Hashem's help, we should all have a gmar chatimah tovah.

As we get closer to Yom Kippur, the feelings of awe and trembling intensify. We are trying harder and harder to be better, to make teshuvah , but the list of averot is long—many we don't even remember we did. Bittul Torah, Lashon Hara, Onat Devarim —and the list goes on. We are afraid to be judged for our actions, just as we say in Tehillim : אִם־עֲו‍ֹנוֹת תִּשְׁמָר־קהּ ה' מִי יַעֲמֹד "Hashem, if You will take all of our sins into account, who will be able to stand before You?" The pasuk in Mishlei (17:23) says: שֹׁחַד מֵחֵק רָשָׁע יִקָּח לְהַטּוֹת אָרְחוֹת מִשְׁפָּט Rashi explains that this means Hashem, so to speak, accepts "bribery" from the rasha and changes his judgment from bad to good. Similarly, the Midrash Shocher Tov on Tehillim (17) says: Hashem tells us, "My children, while the gates of tefillah are open, do teshuvah , because in this world I will accept bribery. But once I sit in judgment in the future, I will no longer accept it." The Midrash concludes that the time Hashem accepts shochad is right now—during the Aseret Yemei Teshuvah. It sounds like from the Midrash that the bribery Hashem accepts is teshuvah, tefillah, and tzedakah. Whereas in an earthly court, if the person on trial says he's sorry, it doesn't change anything—if he's guilty, he's guilty. But in Hashem's court, if the person says, "I'm sorry," then Hashem lets him off. However, the Chafetz Chaim explains, based on Chazal, that it goes much further than this. The Tomer Devorah says similarly: when a person has mercy on others, even though he was wronged by them, that brings the mercy of Hashem upon him, even though he did wrong to Hashem. When we overcome our evil inclination to take revenge, to bear a grudge, or to hate an individual that harmed us—even though he may deserve it—but instead we forgive, that is the bribery Hashem accepts. He will then give us mercy and blessing, even though we don't deserve it. During the Aseret Yemei Teshuvah we say: המלך המשפט . The Mareh Yechezkel asks seemingly, it would be better for us to say the usual: מלך אוהב צדקה ומשפט . Why would we switch now and only speak about Hashem being the King of mishpat, which is strict justice? The rabbi answered: all year long, we say that Hashem loves both tzedakah and mishpat. He loves giving us tzedakah, but He also loves justice being carried out, and we don't know which one He loves more. Now, during these days, we declare המלך המשפט —Hashem is the King over mishpat. He is the only ruler and decider about how the rules of mishpat will be carried out, and we are hoping that He will override the regular rules and use His power as King to pardon us. But that will depend on whether we give Him, so to speak, the ability to do so. And He told us how: we must overlook and forgive those who wronged us. A couple of hundred years ago in Lithuania, there was a family blessed with four boys who all became outstanding talmidei chachamim, each one a gadol b'Yisrael. The most famous of them was Rabbi Yechiel Michal Heller z"l, author of the sefer Amudei Or. He was a tremendous gaon. Each one of his brothers also wrote sefarim and served as rabbis leading massive congregations. Rabbi Yechiel used to sign his name " העלוב יעקב מיכל בן ר' אהרן "—"the downtrodden or humiliated one, Yechiel the son of Aaron." One of the rabbi's grandchildren related why he signed his name that way. Rabbi Yechiel's grandfather was an extremely wealthy man who traveled from city to city doing business, leaving his daughter in charge of his store. Many unscrupulous people were jealous of his wealth and spread a false rumor that his daughter had committed a terrible sin. When the time came for shidduchim, nobody in the community would marry her. She grew older, and nothing changed. Her father was distraught. They knew the truth—that she had done nothing wrong—but nothing they said could change people's minds. The father couldn't bear to watch his daughter grow older with no hope of a shidduch. He decided to inquire about a young man named Aharon Shmeisser, the son of a wagon driver. Aharon would sit near his father, and when the man who whipped the horse grew tired, Aharon was the backup. He knew no Torah and worked the lowest of jobs. But the wealthy man could not allow his daughter to continue suffering. He told his daughter his plan, and with no better alternative, she agreed. The wealthy man asked the wagon driver if he would allow his son to marry his daughter. At first he hesitated, but after some thought, he agreed, and after just one meeting the wedding date was set. On the day of the wedding, the bride whispered a tefillah to Hashem: "You know the truth that I am completely innocent. I believe this was all orchestrated by You, that this man is my zivug, and that there was no other way my father would have ever agreed to let him marry me. Therefore, I don't hold anyone accountable for this. I will not hate anyone or hold a grudge against them. But please, Hashem, give me children who will be outstanding talmidei chachamim ." Her prayer was answered. She merited to have four sons who became among the greatest chachamim of their time. She overlooked the wrong done to her and believed it was all from Hashem, and that opened the heavens to shower blessing upon her. This is why her son signed his name העלוב —for his mother, the aluvah. It was in her merit that all of his Torah came to be. The power of overlooking and forgiving is wondrous.

The Rambam writes in Hilchot Teshuvah that every person should consider himself a benoni — a person exactly in the middle. This means that if he does even one more mitzvah, that single deed can tilt his own scales of judgment in his favor. But not only that — it can tilt the scale of the entire world and bring merit to all of humanity. One good deed has the power to bring salvation to the entire world at large. Therefore, especially during these days when the judgments are pending, it is incumbent upon us to increase our acts of tzedakah, to do more good deeds, to pray with greater concentration, and of course, to make teshuvah. אַשְׁרֵיכֶם יִשְׂרָאֵל — how fortunate are the Jewish people! Our people are so good; they can't wait to do acts of kindness, of chesed, of helping others at every opportunity. Michael Cohen from the Mitzvah Man organization told me that before the summer, he put out a request on behalf of a woman who had a special-needs child. She couldn't afford to send him to camp, but she hoped perhaps a volunteer might come and learn with him during an afternoon. Michael sent out the message, and right away, one person responded and pledged to go every Monday afternoon. When he told the woman, she was overjoyed. Then someone else called and said he would go every Tuesday. Then a third person offered Thursday afternoons — even though he would need to drive more than twenty minutes each way. The woman was deeply touched. And then, a fourth person called and asked: "How much is the camp tuition?" When he was told the amount, he immediately said he would cover the entire cost. Just like that, this woman's burden was lifted beyond anything she could have imagined. Hashem treasures every act of chesed and tzedakah that we do. And sometimes He shows us that appreciation very clearly. A man told me that one morning in shul, a collector — we'll call him Yehudah — came asking for help. This man not only gave him some money, but he felt bad for Yehudah, who was new in town and had nowhere to eat. He invited him for Shabbat. When Yehudah came, the host noticed his sweater had a very large rip in it. After a beautiful Shabbat meal, just before Yehudah was going to leave, the host remembered a brand-new sweater he had recently bought for three hundred dollars. Wanting to help, he told Yehudah: "Wait a moment." He went upstairs, brought it down, and asked Yehudah to try it on. It fit perfectly. The host said, "Since it's Shabbat, I can't give you a gift today — but you can wear it now, and after Shabbat it will be yours." Yehudah left so happy with his new sweater. And the host was even happier — not only for helping, but because his children had witnessed this act of generosity and learned through his example. That very afternoon, the host's wife went to visit her sister-in-law nearby. Normally, she would return home before Shabbat ended, but that day she stayed much longer. After Shabbat, just as she was leaving, her brother walked in from shul and said, "Perfect timing! I just bought a sweater that turned out a bit too big for me. I think it would be great for your husband. Please take it for him." When she came home minutes later, again in front of their entire family, she handed her husband a brand-new sweater. She told him: "Hashem was so impressed with what you did today, giving away your sweater, that He wanted you to see His appreciation right away. He arranged to send you another brand new sweater the very same day." Our deeds are so precious. Every act counts, especially during these days. Let us utilize them to their fullest. With Hashem's help, may we all be sealed in the Book of Life with a חתימה טובה .

My Portion in the Land of the Living II

My Portion in the Land of the Living II

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The Rambam writes that although teshuvah and tefillah are powerful all year long, during the Aseret Yemei Teshuvah they are even more potent and accepted immediately. As the pasuk says: דִּרְשׁוּ ה׳ בְּהִמָּצְאוֹ, קְרָאֻהוּ בִּהְיוֹתוֹ קָרוֹב — seek out Hashem when He is closest, which is right now, in these days leading up to Yom Kippur. The mitzvah of this time is repentance: feeling regret for the sins we have done and sincerely accepting upon ourselves to improve going forward. Hashem desires our teshuvah even more than we do. He is called haRotzeh b'teshuvah — the One Who longs for repentance. There are many people we know whom we wish would be more observant. We try to encourage them, but they aren't interested. Yet tefillah can help bring them back to Torah and mitzvot. When we pray for others to make teshuvah , they receive more heavenly assistance to return. And if at this time of year our prayers are more readily accepted than any other time, we must seize the chance not only to pray for ourselves but also to pray for others to come closer to Hashem. Hashem has countless ways to awaken someone. In one simple act of hashgachah peratit , a person's life can change forever. A man named Reuven related the following story. Every summer, he and his family go up to the mountains for two months. They rent a truck to bring up their belongings, then drop it off at a return location and take a taxi back to their bungalow. One year, the return point was in a far-off place, completely devoid of Jews. Reuven arranged with a friend who was also returning his truck that day to share the same taxi. He returned his truck and waited. But his friend called to say he was delayed. As Reuven stood there waiting, a car pulled up. The driver asked if he knew of any shuls nearby. Reuven answered, "There are no Jews in this area. What brings you here?" The man explained that he had driven over four hours from his hometown to see the house his grandmother had lived in 85 years ago. Recently, he had been introduced to Torah and mitzvot and had begun putting on tefillin every day. But he hadn't yet put them on that day and was hoping to find a shul. Reuven immediately realized: This is hashgachah peratit. He told the man, "I should have been gone twenty minutes ago, but due to an unexpected delay I'm still here. Hashem wanted us to meet." He directed the man toward his bungalow colony, where thousands of Jews lived. Just then, Reuven's friend arrived in the taxi. Reuven excitedly told him what had happened. The friend replied, "I was so annoyed by the delay — but now I understand why it happened." He explained that when he went to return his truck, the clerk overcharged him. He argued for a long time until the clerk admitted it was a mistake. That delay was exactly what allowed Reuven to meet the searching Jew. Even a clerk's mistake is from Hashem. When they returned to the bungalow, they saw the man again and brought him to their rabbi. A relationship was formed, and over time this man became fully observant, now living a life of Torah and mitzvot. Hashem can give people extra help to return to Him. Especially now, we must pray for it. The Arizal said that one who has a child or relative off the derech should add at the end of the berachah Hashivenu Avinu l'Toratecha , before concluding, the following yehi ratzon : יְהִי רָצוֹן מִלְּפָנֶיךָ ה׳ אֱלֹקֵינוּ וֵאלֹקֵי אֲבוֹתֵינוּ שֶׁתַּחְתֹּר חֲתִירָה מִתַּחַת כִּסֵּא כְבוֹדֶךָ לְהַחֲזִיר בִּתְשׁוּבָה שְׁלֵמָה לְפָנֶיךָ כָּל פּוֹשְׁעֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל, וּבִכְלָלָם תַּחֲזִיר אֶת בְּנִי ______ בֶּן ______ בִּתְשׁוּבָה לְפָנֶיךָ, כִּי יְמִינְךָ פְּשׁוּטָה לְקַבֵּל שָׁבִים . Then conclude: " בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה׳ הָרוֹצֶה בִּתְשׁוּבָה ." May Hashem help us return to Him fully, and may He help all those who are distant to come back as well.

Chazal tell us that on Rosh Hashanah, Sarah, Rachel, and Chana were remembered and decreed to have children. Rashi explains that on Rosh Hashanah, Hashem decreed for them that in the upcoming year they would each give birth. The Gemara also teaches that on Rosh Hashanah, Yosef was decreed to be released from the Egyptian prison where he had been locked away for twelve years. We already know that every person is judged on Rosh Hashanah, and whatever will happen in the coming year is decided on that day. So what is unique about these great tzaddikim being judged favorably on Rosh Hashanah? Some explain that the Gemara is teaching us the extent of what can happen on Rosh Hashanah. It was physically impossible for Sarah, Rachel, and Chana to conceive — and yet that changed on Rosh Hashanah. It was a foregone conclusion that Yosef would never leave prison. No one close to him even knew where he was. Tehillim describes his soul as bound in chains. And yet, on Rosh Hashanah, everything changed. The world itself undergoes a rebirth on Rosh Hashanah. Everything starts fresh. What was impossible before can suddenly become possible. This should fill us with chizuk . Rosh Hashanah brings with it so much opportunity in every area of life. What was true last year has no bearing on this year. No matter how long a person has been waiting for a yeshuah , no matter how stuck his situation seems, he should feel that on Rosh Hashanah everything can change in an instant. This past year, I heard of a woman in her upper 60s who got married for the very first time. After so many years, it would seem unthinkable. She could have said, "If I didn't find anyone in the last fifty years, why should I find someone now?" But last Rosh Hashanah, Hashem decreed that the time had come, and she celebrated the most joyous wedding with her friends and family. A man told me about his own miracle. He and his wife had struggled for years to conceive. Eventually, all the doctors told them the same heartbreaking verdict: It is impossible. They recommended a surrogate, which would cost $130,000 — money the couple simply did not have, after already draining their savings on unsuccessful treatments. They tried in every possible way to raise the funds, but every attempt was blocked. And then, suddenly, the woman discovered she was expecting. The doctors were shocked. The couple went from despair to the greatest joy. They told me: We never lost our faith in Hashem, no matter what the doctors said. This is the power of Rosh Hashanah. People who are sick can be decreed for refuah. People searching for their zivug can be decreed to find them. The Melech Malchei HaMelachim , the King of Kings, comes to be with us during the Aseret Yemei Teshuvah, beginning on Rosh Hashanah night. We must seize this glorious opportunity. Let us accept upon ourselves to strengthen in Torah and mitzvot, to refine our ways, and to pray with all our hearts. And in that merit, may we be blessed with a year of berachah and hatzlachah in every area of our lives.

My Portion in the Land of the Living

At the end of Parashat Nitzavim, the Torah tells us: " הַחַיִּים וְהַטּוֹב נָתַתִּי לְפָנֶיךָ… וּבָחַרְתָּ בַּחַיִּים " — Hashem places life and goodness before us, and it is our job to choose life. Choosing life means choosing to follow Hashem's will, which always leads to blessing and good. At times, it may feel very difficult to do what's right. Sometimes it even seems as if we are losing by following the Torah. But that is only the way the test looks on the surface. In truth, when a person does Hashem's will, he never loses. Rabbi Yaakov Galinsky z"l gave a beautiful insight regarding a famous episode in the Torah. Chazal teach us that our Imahot were prophetesses. When Leah became pregnant with her seventh child, she saw through Ruach HaKodesh that it would be a boy. That meant that Rachel would end up with fewer shevatim than even Bilhah and Zilpah. After Leah already had four sons, Rashi tells us she had cried out to Hashem for another because she yearned to have more shevatim — but now she realized what this meant for her sister. If she were to have seven sons, it would have been a tremendous zechut. But Leah thought: How can I take so much for myself while my sister has so little? So she prayed that the child within her be changed from a boy to a girl. She gave up the neshama of Yosef HaTzaddik — one of the greatest figures in our history, considered on the level of the Avot HaKedoshim themselves — so that Rachel could merit having him instead. And Hashem answered her prayer. Leah gave birth to Dinah, and Rachel merited to bear Yosef. Think about what Leah gave up. She saw in her Ruach HaKodesh the greatness of Yosef, and she longed for the zechut of bringing him into the world. Yet she willingly sacrificed that privilege so her sister would not suffer. Nobody else knew of her prayer — it was a private act between her and Hashem. But Leah knew that if she acted for the Ratzon Hashem, she would never lose. And indeed, what happened? Dinah later gave birth to Asenat, who became Yosef's wife. Together they had Menasheh and Ephraim. In the end, Leah and Rachel became mechutanim — Rachel as the mother of the chatan, Yosef, and Leah as the grandmother of the kallah, Asenat. From both of them came two additional shevatim, as the pasuk says: " אפרים ומנשה כראובן ושמעון יהיו לי " (Bereishit 48:5). Leah had wanted another shevet, and in the end she received two of them — along with the merit of her selflessness toward her sister. Who could have imagined that Dinah's daughter would marry Yosef? Yosef was in Egypt, Yaakov's family was in Eretz Kena'an, hundreds of miles away. How would Dinah's child ever arrive there? The only answer is the miracles of Hashem. The lesson is clear: no one ever loses from following Hashem's will. The Torah promises that obeying Hashem leads only to life and goodness. As we stand just days before Rosh Hashanah, we must commit ourselves to becoming better in our observance of the mitzvot, and to do them with excitement — knowing that by doing so, we are choosing life, and choosing Hashem's path for us.

The Sefer She'erit Menachem quotes the Gemara in Bava Metzia which teaches an illuminating halachah. If a man borrows a thousand dollars and leaves a collateral with the lender worth far more than the loan, saying that if he does not pay back on time the lender may keep the collateral — the halachah is that the lender may not keep it. Why? Because it is obvious the borrower never really intended to give up an item worth so much more than what he owed. However, the Gemara qualifies: if a few days before the loan was due, the borrower was knocking on doors, desperately trying to come up with the money, then clearly he still wanted to redeem his collateral. The lender cannot keep it. But if a few days before the due date he was out drinking with his friends, showing no concern for repayment, then we assume he didn't really care, and the lender may indeed keep the collateral. The She'erit Menachem uses this halachah as a mashal for us during these days leading up to Rosh Hashanah. All year long, Hashem has been lending us life, children, sustenance, and countless blessings — all on condition that we use them to become the people we are meant to be. Now, as Rosh Hashanah approaches, the loan is coming due. Who can honestly say that he has "paid back in full," that he has fully utilized every gift Hashem has given him for avodat Hashem? But if, in these final days, we are sincerely trying — striving to improve, to recognize the gifts Hashem gives, and to use them properly — then Hashem grants us an extension. What we must not do is "drink beer with our friends," wasting these precious days in spiritual carelessness. Now is the time to reflect, to notice where we are lacking, to take concrete steps to grow, and if it feels overwhelming — to beg Hashem for His help. A man shared his personal story. He has been struggling in business for a year and a disaster struck: his pipes burst, and the entire sidewalk and driveway had to be dug up and replaced. The bill was thirty thousand dollars — money he simply did not have. Yet somehow he managed to come up with the full amount and pay it. It was then that thoughts of teshuvah entered his mind. He realized that since his business troubles began, he had stopped paying his tzedakah pledges. By now, he owed close to thirty thousand dollars. He thought to himself: If I could find a way to pay thirty thousand for pipes, shouldn't I treat my pledges to Hashem's causes with the same urgency? He resolved to try. With great effort, he managed to pay fifteen thousand, but after that he was stuck. He simply could not come up with more. So he did what a Jew does when he reaches his limit: he poured out his heart in tefillah. Three times a day he asked Hashem for help to pay off his full tzedakah obligations before Rosh Hashanah. Now, there was one man who owed him a large sum of money from a business deal. For months he had asked this man daily for repayment, until finally, six months earlier, they had come to an agreement: the man guaranteed that he would pay in full, but only when he was comfortable, and on condition that he would not be pressured again. He had not asked since. As Rosh Hashanah was draing near, he debated with himself: perhaps he should ask the man for fifteen thousand, just enough to cover the rest of his pledge? But then he told himself, an agreement is an agreement. He even thought, maybe this man has funds in his JCF account he could use to pay tzedakah on my behalf, but still he held back. He kept praying. Then, one day, he went to shul for Minchah, and there, unexpectedly, was that man. After tefillah, the man approached him and said: "Someone who owes me money asked if I had any unpaid tzedakah pledges that he could pay on my behalf. I thought of you — I'd like to let him pay fifteen thousand dollars toward your pledges through his JCF fund." The man could not believe his ears. That was exactly what he had been asking Hashem for. Exactly the amount he needed. Exactly the salvation he had been praying for. At that moment he felt how close Hashem was to him, how lovingly Hashem answered him. The message was clear: Hashem wants to help us. But first, we must show that we want to improve, that we sincerely want to pay back our "loan." When we do, and we turn to Hashem for help, He opens doors we never dreamed of.

Chazal teach that on Rosh Hashanah, Hashem judges every individual based on what he did every second of every day over the past year. With this knowledge, we should be doing everything in our power to make teshuvah and improve our ways. Especially now, in the month of Elul, when Hashem reveals an outpouring of mercy towards us, we must take advantage of this opportunity. But is there something we can do, in addition, that will make the judgment easier? The Ba'al HaTurim, commenting on the pasuk " תמים תהיה עם ה' אלקיך " , writes that whoever fulfills this mitzvah is considered as if he fulfilled the entire Torah, from aleph to tav. What does this mean? It means that one who does not worry about the future, but trusts that Hashem is leading him on the perfect path, and accepts wholeheartedly the way Hashem deals with him—without questions or complaints—is credited as if he has kept the entire Torah. Rabbi Menashe Reizman asked: Doesn't the Gemara say that it is forbidden to think that Hashem is a vatran —that He simply overlooks our wrongdoings? One of the fundamentals of emunah is that Hashem rewards mitzvot and punishes averot. If so, how can it be that someone who trusts Hashem's dealings with him, but still has sins, should be considered as if he fulfilled the entire Torah? Rabbi Reizman explained: It's not only the Ba'al HaTurim who says this. It is explicit in the pesukim themselves. In Parashat Balak, it says, " לֹא הִבִּיט אָוֶן בְּיַעֲקֹב וְלֹא רָאָה עָמָל בְּיִשְׂרָאֵל, ה' אֱלֹקָיו עִמּוֹ וּתְרוּעַת מֶלֶךְ בּוֹ ". These words are read in the Malchuyot section of the Musaf Amidah of Rosh Hashanah. Rashi explains this pasuk to mean that Hashem is not exacting with a person for his sins—even when he angers Him. Why? Because such people do not preoccupy themselves with trying to figure out the future. Instead, they place their full trust in Hashem. And because of this, Rashi says, they become worthy of blessing. What is the explanation? There are two ways a person can go through life. One way is with constant questioning: Why is my life the way it is? Why does he have so much blessing while I don't? Why does he have such good children and I struggle? Why does everyone else seem to get the good positions and I don't? Why are his daughters married off so easily, while mine are waiting so long? This is the natural human way—always comparing, always doubting, always feeling that life is unfair. If someone chooses this path, then Hashem treats him with the same precision. Hashem will look into his deeds with equal scrutiny: Why don't you concentrate on the words of tefillah? Why don't you have proper kavanah when you say berachot? But if a person does not question Hashem, if he refuses to ask "why" or "is this fair," and instead accepts that everything Hashem does is absolutely fair, upright, and the very best possible outcome—even when, from our limited perspective, it looks as if Hashem is doing "wrong" with us—then Hashem responds measure for measure: You don't question My actions, I won't question yours. This is not considered Hashem overlooking our sins. It is not a case of Hashem being a vatran . On the contrary—it is deserved. We have earned this special relationship. If we are tamim im Hashem Elokecha , then Hashem is tamim with us. This is a wondrous principle. But it is far easier said than done. The nature of man is to compare himself to others, to feel lacking, to complain—especially when things seem unfair. People try to improve, but the salvation they hope for does not always come. People pray with all their hearts, but do not always see their prayers answered. People think they have so much bitachon, but then they feel let down. Everyone has reasons they would naturally want to question. But if we can rise above that nature, if we can truly trust Hashem's will for us and believe with all our hearts that whatever is happening is absolutely the best thing for us, then we will enter a new category of human being: one who is tamim im Hashem Elokecha . And that comes with the most amazing benefits.

One of the Torah readings on Rosh Hashanah is the story of the Akedat Yitzchak. To this day, we continue to benefit from the eternal merits Avraham Avinu gained by his willingness to sacrifice his son at Hashem's command. But there was another profound accomplishment that day. The Torah commands, " תמים תהיה עם ה' אלקיך " — Tamim Tehiyeh Im Hashem Elokecha (Devarim 18:13). Rashi explains that this means: do not concern yourself with what the future holds. Rather, accept that Hashem is leading you exactly to the places and circumstances you are meant to be. Trust that whatever will happen will be for the best, and therefore there is no need to worry. The Passuk says in Tehillim, " ואני בתמי אלך " . Chazal teach that this pasuk was said regarding Avraham going to the Akedah. He walked with wholehearted trust in Hashem. The B'nei Yissaschar explains the depth of this trust: Avraham already had a prophecy from Hashem that his future offspring would come through Yitzchak. And yet, now he was being commanded to bring him as a korban ola — a direct contradiction to the earlier prophecy! It is forbidden to disbelieve a prophecy. That meant Avraham was required, all the way to Har HaMoriah, to continue believing both truths at once — that he must sacrifice Yitzchak, and yet that his children would still come through him. To human logic, it was an impossibility. But Avraham went betumo — with complete Emunah. He did not wrestle with the contradiction. He did not calculate or analyze. He placed everything in Hashem's hands and told himself: It's not my job to figure out how the future will work out. It's my job to trust that Hashem is in charge of the future. In the end, we see the perfection of Hashem's plan. Precisely because Yitzchak was placed on the Mizbeach, he became able to father children. The Or HaChayim HaKadosh explains: Yitzchak was born with the neshama of a female, and for the first 37 years of his life he had no zivug — because every couple is one neshama, half male and half female. Yitzchak's neshama had come down alone. At the moment of the Akedah, as his soul left him, Hashem gave him a new neshama — a complete male neshama. And at that very moment, Rivka, the other half of his soul, was born. What seemed the greatest contradiction turned out to be the greatest answer. This is the lesson for us. In our lives we also face contradictions, situations that make no sense, questions that seem unanswerable. Our avodah is to walk with Hashem with complete emunah, to trust that He will reveal the answers in the perfect time. A man shared his story: At eighteen, he began working in his father's retail stores. By the time he was twenty-eight, married with children, those stores collapsed. From a comfortable lifestyle, he suddenly could not pay even for basic expenses. With no business skills beyond retail, he felt lost. He clung to his learning, spending hours each day in Torah, though even concentrating became difficult. Then, one day, his father asked a real estate friend to involve him in handling their empty stores. The young man took on the project and showed surprising ability. Eventually, that friend called and invited him to partner with his son-in-law in a new real estate company. The business flourished, and the man today enjoys both a solid livelihood and more time for Torah and mitzvot. At first, he had asked: Why did Hashem take away the only work I knew? But in truth, the "problem" was the answer. Losing his old job was the key to discovering his true path in life — one far better than he ever imagined. So it is with all of us. The answers may not be immediate, but they are always the greatest possible answers. Those who walk with Hashem in trust will see blessing — in this world and the next.

My Eyes Turn to You Hashem

Every neshama that comes down into this world is given a mission: to serve HaShem from the exact circumstances in which He places it. To do that, a person must learn Torah and mitzvot, so that he will know exactly what HaShem wants him to do in every situation he finds himself in. Everything we do for HaShem only benefits us, for HaShem Himself does not need anything from us. And an integral part of our avodah is to do it with happiness. HaShem wants us to be excited about mitzvot and to feel that they are our greatest honor and privilege. He knows the nature of people is to feel joy in doing something for those who do for them. And so, HaShem not only gives us everything we have — He makes sure we know that it all comes from Him, so that we will be more excited to serve Him. In Parashat Ki Tavo, regarding the mitzvah of bikkurim (first fruits), the Torah says: וְהָיָה כִּי תָבוֹא אֶל הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר ה' אֱלֹקיךָ נֹתֵן לָךְ "It shall be when you come into the land that HaShem your G-d gives you " Later it says: וּלְקַחְתָּ מֵרֵאשִׁית כָּל פְּרִי הָאֲדָמָה אֲשֶׁר ה' אֱלֹקיךָ נֹתֵן לָךְ "You shall take from the first of every fruit of the ground t hat HaShem your G-d gives you" . And again: וְעַתָּה הִנֵּה הֵבֵאתִי אֶת רֵאשִׁית פְּרִי הָאֲדָמָה אֲשֶׁר נָתַתָּה לִּי ה ' "And now behold, I have brought the first of the fruits of the land that You, HaShem, have given me" . The Torah repeats again and again: "that HaShem your G-d has given you." Because if we truly recognized how much HaShem gives us, we would be overflowing with excitement to serve Him. The challenge is that we don't see Him making the fruit grow. We don't see Him writing the check, healing our illness, or bringing us our shidduch. Sometimes HaShem delays the gifts He has prepared for us, so that when they finally come, we will know exactly where they are from. A person struggling with parnasah, who prays with all his heart and then sees success, appreciates HaShem's blessing more than ever. From the very beginning, HaShem set this system in place. When Adam HaRishon was created, the Torah says the vegetation had not yet sprouted, כי לא המטיר ה' אלקים על הארץ —"for HaShem God had not yet sent rain upon the earth". Why? So that Adam would recognize the need to pray, and ask HaShem for rain. The more we recognize HaShem's Hand in giving us everything, the more joy we will feel in following Torah and mitzvot. Often HaShem makes His hashgachah peratit so clear that it cannot be missed. But even then, we must keep our eyes open. A man told me about an amazing story of hashgachah. His shul was writing a new Sefer Torah. The rabbi inspired everyone by speaking of the greatness of the mitzvah, and how it is even a segulah to have children. The man's son had recently married, and so he decided to sponsor Parashat Tazria, which begins with the laws of a woman giving birth to a baby boy. He did this in the hope that his son would be blessed with children. A few months later, to his amazement, his own wife became pregnant — after nearly six years since their last child. Baruch HaShem, the pregnancy was smooth, and she gave birth to a healthy baby boy on the very Shabbat when Parashat Tazria was read in shul. Incredible hashgachah! He had sponsored the writing of Parashat Tazria, which begins with the birth of a boy, and that very year, he himself was blessed with a son, born on Parashat Tazria. But here's the wonder: because he had donated the parashah in honor of his son, he completely forgot that he had even sponsored it. The miracle HaShem gave him slipped by unnoticed. Until later that week, his daughter dropped something in the car. As she reached under the seat to retrieve it, she pulled out a certificate. It was the certificate given to him by the shul, acknowledging that he had sponsored Parashat Tazria in the new Sefer Torah. When he saw it, he was stunned. He told me: "I didn't even realize what HaShem had done for me. But He loves me so much, He didn't want me to miss it. He made sure my daughter found that certificate, so that I would recognize His kindness." HaShem gives and gives and gives. The more we recognize it, the happier we will be to serve Him.

The pasuk says in this week's Parasha, Ki Tavo , ושמחת בכל הטוב – we are to rejoice with all of the good that Hashem gives us. In this world, when a person appreciates what others do for him, those people are happy to give him more. But when a person denies the good, it makes others turn away from giving him. At the end of the year, when we are going to request of Hashem to give us a new year of blessing, the best thing we could do is to first appreciate how much He has given us already. One of the reasons people don't appreciate is because they feel that everyone else has more than them and everyone else is happier than them. But they are very mistaken. The sefer Orchot HaYeshiva tells the story of a young man who went to see Rav Shach, zatzal , and lamented that it seemed to him that his friend, who had gotten engaged at the same time as he did, seemed to be happier than him. He was asking the Rabbi if he should perhaps break off his engagement. Rav Shach replied, "The boy you are talking about was here before and he had the exact same complaint. He thought that you seemed happier than him." This is the nature of man, to always think that others are happier than he, but in actuality, Hashem gives each person exactly what he needs to be happy, to do his job. If we could only focus on what we do have rather than on what everyone else seems to have, we would be so much happier. Just saying the Birkot HaShachar in the morning with kavana can bring a person such an appreciation for Hashem. The Chochma U'Musar writes, before we say each beracha , we should think about what exactly we are about to thank Hashem for and then appreciate it to the fullest. For example, he said, one of the berachot is פוקח עיוורים – that Hashem gives eyesight to the blind. Simply, we are saying when we go to sleep we can't see and each day when we wake up, Hashem gives up the ability to see once again. We are supposed to imagine the feelings of a blind man, lo alenu , and then imagine that all of a sudden, a doctor came up with a medication that could cure the blind. How much joy would a blind man have finally being able to see? That is the amount of appreciation that we are supposed to show Hashem every single day because nothing is a given and just because a person has something today doesn't necessarily mean he'll have it tomorrow. It is only because of the chesed of Hashem that we are able to enjoy the blessings He gives us each and every day. We also have to feel so fortunate that we have the zechut to serve the Melech Malchei HaMelachim HaKadosh Baruch Hu . The sefer Mizmor L'Asaf writes, when a person enters the shul in the morning, he should be overcome with hakarat hatov that Hashem gave him the privilege of entering His home to come and speak to Him. The more we appreciate, the better our avodat Hashem will be, the happier we will be and the happier Hashem will be to give us even more.

The Anshei Knesset HaGedolah placed Aleinu LeShabe'ach into the Musaf Amidah of Rosh HaShanah, the very day when we crown HaShem as our King. There, it serves as the prelude to Malchuyot . As well, our Sages gave us the privilege of saying Aleinu at the end of every single tefillah, three times a day. If we would truly understand the treasure we have, being able to say Aleinu daily, we would approach it with tremendous joy and excitement. The Mishnah Berurah writes that one should recite Aleinu with awe and trepidation, because the malachim in shamayim listen as we say it, and the Shechinah is among them. When they hear us declaring Aleinu , they respond with the words אַשְׁרֵי הָעָם שֶׁכָּכָה לוֹ, אַשְׁרֵי הָעָם שֶׁה' אֱלֹקָיו . The Chida, in the name of Rav Hai Gaon, writes that one should recite Aleinu with the utmost kavannah, for it contains exalted and wondrous praises of HaShem. He adds that it should be said standing, even with a tallit over one's head. The Arizal teaches that Aleinu has the power to remove the negative angels who seek to block a person's prayers from ascending before HaShem. It begins with the words Aleinu le'shabe'ach la'Adon hakol —with those words we affirm that it is incumbent upon us to praise HaShem. Why specifically at the end of tefillah should we feel even more inclined to praise Him? Some explain: because HaShem has just given us the greatest gift. He allowed us to ask for all our needs, and He did so in a way that spares us from feeling like takers. In tefillah, we are credited with a mitzvah simply for fulfilling HaShem's command to pray. Even if no material blessing came from our prayers, the spiritual reward alone would be boundless. And yet, HaShem responds by providing our needs, as if we are somehow doing Him a "favor" by praying. Of course, He needs nothing from us. In truth, He is giving us everything, yet He makes us feel as if we are the ones giving to Him. For this, we should be overflowing with gratitude and praise. Then we declare: לתת גדולה ליוצר בראשית —"to give greatness to the Creator of the beginning." The Sefat Emet explains that Yotser Bereshit refers not only to HaShem as the Creator of the world, but as the One who continually pumps life and energy into all of creation. Every heartbeat, every breath, every moment of vitality flows from Him alone. Our task is to recognize this and live with that awareness. As we say during the Yamim Nora'im: וידע כל פעול כי אתה פעלתו —"And every being will know that You are its Maker." One of the reasons HaShem obligates us to make hishtadlut for our needs is to test whether we will believe that we are accomplishing with our own efforts, or whether we recognize that we are simply going through the motions while HaShem is doing everything. If we think that we actually change outcomes with our actions, then we have not yet passed the test. But if we believe that we are putting in effort only because HaShem commanded us to, and that the results will be whatever He wants, regardless of what we do, then we are succeeding. It appears to us that our hishtadlut causes results, and that is why it is so difficult to believe otherwise. If HaShem had not required us to make hishtadlut , it would be far easier to believe fully in His power and control. But now that we must make efforts, the challenge is great. We must not place too much emphasis on what doctors say, but only that we have fulfilled our obligation by going to them. We should not put too much emphasis on what kind of hishtadlut we do to earn parnasah, but simply that we did what was required for HaShem to send His blessing. HaShem is the Yotser Bereshit . He not only created the world, but He constantly pumps life and energy into everything, including us. For that, once again, we owe HaShem endless gratitude and praise. Let us learn the words of Aleinu properly and utilize the treasure that our rabbis gave us. If we can internalize its messages, we will walk out of every tefillah stronger in emunah, fortified with the clarity to recognize HaShem in everything that takes place.

The Chatam Sofer writes that tefillah is more readily accepted during the days of Elul and Aseret Yemei Teshuvah. This period is called Yerach Ha'etaním , which has the same numerical value as siach — to pour out our hearts in prayer. The Midrash in Parashat Ki Tavo says that Moshe Rabbenu, through ruach ha'kodesh , foresaw that the Bet HaMikdash would one day be destroyed and the mitzvah of bringing bikkurim would cease. Therefore, he established that there should be three tefillot every day. These tefillot, the Midrash teaches, would be more beloved to HaShem than all of a person's good deeds and even more than all of the korbanot combined. Rav Yechezkel Levenstein explained that it is always befitting for a person to improve, even slightly, in the way he prays — especially in his kavanah — because that effort can uplift his entire avodat HaShem . Tefillah is wondrous, especially when a person prays with awareness of Who he is speaking to. A man told me about an incident that happened recently while he and his entire family were on vacation. There was a mix-up with the keys for their apartment, and as Shabbat approached, they still had not been able to get inside. Finally, the hotel informed them that a worker named Alfonso was bringing the keys. But when a family member mistakenly approached a different hotel worker in a golf cart, the man wrongly assumed there was an attempt to harm him. He called the police and pressed charges for assault. Soon, sheriff's deputies arrived. They interrogated the family member and even detained him while waiting for a detective. The officers indicated there was a real possibility of arrest that very evening, just minutes before Shabbat. Frantically, urgent attempts were made to reach a top lawyer who was also a close friend. With only five minutes before candle lighting, they finally succeeded in contacting him, and he immediately spoke to the deputy. Shabbat began with tremendous uncertainty. Before Kiddush, surrounded by children and grandchildren, the family spoke about how during Kiddush we partner with HaShem in creation. They encouraged everyone to use that holy moment to silently pray for a yeshuah. They reminded one another that no one has any control other than HaShem — not the police, not the hotel worker, and not even the top lawyer. With those thoughts in mind, they made Kiddush. At around 9:45, while they were eating their meal, a police vehicle pulled up with their family member inside. Three officers explained that while the matter was not finished and would be referred to the state attorney's office, they had decided not to arrest him. They admitted it could have easily gone the other way. Then, the sergeant quietly asked one of the family members: "Did you pray to G-d for his release?" When he answered yes, the sergeant said: "It must have been your prayers, because he really should have been arrested." Here was a police sergeant telling them that their tefillot had brought salvation. Later that night, after the joyous meal, the children asked for a bedtime story from the sefer they had been reading together. The story they were up to told about a Jew who was wrongly accused and nearly jailed by three police officers. The children's eyes widened. It was exactly what had just happened to them. It was as if HaShem was sending them a direct message: I am here with you, guiding your lives. The entire Shabbat became one long conversation about the power of tefillah, especially when one recognizes the truth of ein od milvado — there is nothing but Him.

In Hebrew, בטח or בטוח – “sure” or “for sure” – are words we hear a lot on the Israeli streets, so we need to know how to use them properly. Guy does some excavation work so we can see where this root, בטח comes from. Hear the All-Hebrew Episode on Patreon   New Words and Expressions: “Israel betach be-elokim” – People of Israel have faith in God – ישראל בטח באלוקים Livto'ach be-mishehu – To trust in someone – לבטוח במישהו Batu'ach – Safe, secure – בטוח Ani margish batu'ach – I feel safe – אני מרגיש בטוח Batu'ach – For sure, sure thing – בטוח Betach she-agi'a – Sure I'll come – בטח שאגיע Bitu'ach – Insurance – ביטוח Levate'ach – To insure – לבטח Polisat bitu'ach – Insurance policy – פוליסת ביטוח Bitu'ach leumi – Social security – ביטוח לאומי “Bi-mdinat Israel kol talmid mevutach be-polisa shenikret polisat talmidim” – In the state of Israel every student is insured with a policy called student insurance policy – במדינת ישראל כל תלמיד מבוטח בפוליסה שנקראת פוליסת תלמידים “Hivtachtem yona, aleh shel zayit, hivtachtem shalom ba-bayit” – You promised a dove, an olive leaf, you promised peace at home – הבטחתם יונה, עלה של זית, הבטחתם שלום בבית Lehavti'ach – To promise – להבטיח Havtachot tsarich lekayem – One needs to keep promises – הבטחות צריך לקיים Bitachon – Security – ביטחון Ish bitachon – Security person – איש ביטחון Bitachon atsmi – Self confidence – ביטחון עצמי “Eich lechazek et ha-bitachon ha-atzmi” – How to strengthen self confidence – איך לחזק את הביטחון העצמי Misrad habitachon – Ministry of defence – משרד הביטחון Sherut ha-bitachon ha-klali – The Israeli internal security service – שירות הביטחון הכללי, שב”כ Betichoot – Safety – בטיחות Daf hanchayot ha-betichoot – The safety information card – דף הנחיות הבטיחות Betichoot ba-drachim – Road safety – בטיחות בדרכים Hagorat betichoot – Safety belt – חגורת בטיחות   Playlist and Clips: Kobi Peretz & Of Simches – Israel (lyrics) Regev Hod – Margish Batu'ach (lyrics) Mosh Ben-Ari – Betach She-Avo (lyrics) Insurance ad Bituach talmidim – Students insurance Lahakat Hel Hinuch – Horef 73 (lyrics) Bitachon atsmi – Self confidence Up airline – Safety instructions clip

Many communities have the minhag to blow the shofar every day in Elul. The purpose is to awaken us, to instill fear and trembling as the awesome day of Rosh HaShanah approaches. There is also the minhag to read the mizmor L'David Hashem Ori v'yishi . And in that mizmor, David HaMelech says: " מִמִּי אִירָא… אִם־תַּחֲנֶה עָלַי מַחֲנֶה לֹא־יִירָא לִבִּי ". "Whom shall I fear? … Though an army encamp against me, my heart shall not fear" (Tehillim 27:1–3). At first glance, this seems like a contradiction. On one hand, we sound the shofar to create fear. On the other hand, we recite words of Tehillim telling us there is nothing to fear. Rabbi Menashe Reizman pointed out another similar contradiction. In Parashat Shoftim, the Torah commands: " כִּי־תֵצֵא לַמִּלְחָמָה עַל־אֹיְבֶיךָ… לֹא תִירָא מֵהֶם כִּי ה׳ אֱלֹקיךָ עִמָּךְ " "When you go out to war against your enemy… you shall not fear them, for HaShem your G-d is with you" (Devarim 20:1). Even if they appear greater and stronger, we are told not to be afraid, because we have HaShem on our side and no one else has power. Yet immediately afterwards, the shoterim announce exemptions from battle: " מִי־הָאִישׁ אֲשֶׁר־בָּנָה בַיִת־חָדָשׁ וְלֹא חֲנָכוֹ… מִי־הָאִישׁ אֲשֶׁר־אֵרַשׂ אִשָּׁה וְלֹא לְקָחָהּ… פֶּן־יָמוּת בַּמִּלְחָמָה וְאִישׁ אַחֵר יַחְנְכֶנּוּ " "Who is the man who has built a new house and not inaugurated it… who is the man who has betrothed a woman and not taken her… lest he die in battle and another man take her" (Devarim 20:5–7). Again, it seems inconsistent. First we are told there is nothing to fear, and then the Torah acknowledges the possibility of death in battle. Rabbi Reizman brought the Chovot HaLevavot (Sha'ar HaBitachon, fourth condition), who explains that true bitachon requires a person to be fulfilling the responsibilities HaShem has placed upon him. We often ask HaShem to grant our requests, but at the same time, He too has requests from us — that we live according to the Torah and mitzvot. When we strive to do His will, then we can confidently place our trust in Him to help with our needs. If someone ignores HaShem's will completely, it shows he doesn't truly know who HaShem is — and without that recognition, he cannot have genuine bitachon . Rabbeinu Yonah does write that even a rasha who trusts in HaShem will be surrounded with chesed. But that refers to a sinner who now wants to improve, who expresses a desire to return. Even that thought of change allows him to rely on HaShem's kindness. But someone who has no care for HaShem's will cannot say he trusts Him, because he doesn't truly know Him. Sometimes, HaShem must make life uncomfortable to wake a person up, to bring him to fulfill the mission for which he was created. Now we can resolve the contradictions. It is true that one who goes to battle with full awareness of ein od milvado will not be harmed. But to reach that state of bitachon , he must first experience the right kind of fear — the fear that motivates him to return to HaShem and strengthen his connection. That is why the shoterim warned the soldiers: war is dangerous, people may die. These words were meant to shake them into teshuvah, to awaken them to HaShem. Once that awakening leads to closeness and true trust, then indeed there is nothing to fear. So too in Elul. First we blow the shofar — to arouse fear and awareness that Rosh HaShanah is coming. Then, after we are inspired to draw near to HaShem and commit to doing His will, we can place genuine bitachon in Him. At that stage, there is truly nothing to fear, for HaShem Himself is our salvation.

Our job during these days of Elul is to figure out how we can improve inour avodat Hashem and then make concrete commitments on what exactly weare going to do about it. This is one of the ways in which we prepare for theawesome days of judgment ahead. When the evil inclination tries to dissuade usby saying "This is too difficult for you," or "People will laugh at you." Wemust remember, by improving in our avodat Hashem, weare only helping ourselves. Everyone has many needs that they ask of Hashem.Very often, the way He gives us what we need is through the mitzvahopportunities that He sends our way. If we become inspired to take on somethingnew, that inspiration is also m'et Hashem ת and we should not let it go without doingsomething about it first. A man, who we'll call Yehuda, told a story about what happened when hewas 27 years old. He was having a very hard time with shidduchim andcould have easily fallen into despair many times. One day, he traveled fromYerushalaim where he lived to Bne i Brak toattend the wedding of a friend who was younger than him. At 10:00, after he dancedwith the chatan, he left the wedding hall and headed for the closest bus stopto return home. He bumped into a high school friend who was coming out of abuilding nearby. They spoke for a few minutes at the entrance of that building.Turned out, this friend was there to attend a sheva berachot . As they were talking, someone came out of the building and told hisfriend to please go upstairs because they didn't even have 10 men for the sheva berachot yet and the mood was very blah. It was close to 10:15 and theyonly had six. The person then asked Yehuda if he would do a chesed andcome up as well. Although it was late and he had a long ride home, he felt badfor the chatan and kallah and he went up. The scene he saw lookedpathetic. It was a chatan and kallah sitting there with their mechutanim ,one grandfather and two boys in an uncomfortable silence. Eventually they didget a minyan . The boy who invited Yehuda up asked him to please startsinging. Again, feeling bad for the chatan and kallah , he startedsinging some songs and only a couple of people joined in with him. Then he wasasked to get up and speak. Yehuda said he never saw this chatan in hislife, how could he speak by his sheva berachot ? The other boytold him a few things about the chatan and then told Yehuda he would bedoing a great mitzvah. Yehuda was a good public speaker and, after a littlemore prodding, he agreed to speak. He delivered a beautiful devar Torah and spoke so nicely about the chatan , as if he knew him for years. Afterthe speech, the chatan was so moved, he got up and gave Yehuda a hug andkiss, thanking him for his kind words. Nobody else spoke that night besidesYehuda. During dessert, the man sitting next to Yehuda asked him some questionsabout himself and when that man discovered that Yehuda had no connection toeither the chatan or the kallah , he was so impressed with the chesed he just did. That man also came as a chesed , not knowing the chatan or the kallah . He suggested his niece as a shidduch and, a fewmonths later, Yehuda became engaged to her. He is now happily married withthree children. Hashem presented Yehuda with a big chesed opportunity. Evenagreeing to go up was difficult, but then being the only singer and speaker atan unknown place must have been extremely uncomfortable. That is where Hashemhad the path to his shidduch awaiting. The avodah at times may behard but, as always, according to the efforts are the rewards.

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