Between Neens & Deens

we'll be back and better in 2021 :) we've been feeling like we've been needing to take a step back for a while now and we've decided that we want to take a break from doing the podcasts, regroup and come back better. sometimes you have to live life so that you can create your best work so I hope you understand. thank you so much to everyone that has listened to the show and continue to support us in everything that we do! you can find us on ig an youtube in the meantime and we'll see you guys soon - no set timeline yet but the next season of our podcast will be early next year! till then xx N&D. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

we all know someone who claims all their exes are crazy. usually they're referring to females they've dated and I call bullshit. are your exes crazy or did you make them crazy? this week we take a trip down memory lane and unpack whether or not we were crazy or if our exes made us crazy - or in dejan's case if he made them crazy. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

I hear you. I interrupt Dejan a lot! Admitting this to myself hurt my ego and made me really sad for like three days before I realized that truth hurts and this is something I can absolutely change. Moving forward I am going to be more conscious of this toxic behaviour and stop. In this super meta episode, we dive into why I tend to interrupt Dejan, surprisingly there are a bunch of different reasons and ways that I can better hold space for him in this podcast. This episode is in response to a few reviews that we recently red and I just want to say thank you so much to everyone that takes the time to leave us a review - it means the world to us when you take the time to say something nice or constructive about our work. We are so grateful and as a result we want to share the best versions of us with you all always. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

our first guest! :D let us know if you love this episode cause we had a blast and would love to know who else you'd want us to talk to. this week we had the pleasure of talking to Taylor Reiko of Taylor Reiko Design (@taylorreikodesign) all about her thriving business while still in school, going for what you want and getting it like a boss, sustainability in interior design and tips for finding your design style when moving in with a partner/roomie and making your space look bigger than it is. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

I don't believe in "finding success" anymore. It's lofty and idealistic but I believe that all of us have success in some form, it's just about recognizing it. This week we talk all about when we started to consider ourselves successful, why success is a myth and how we deal with imposter syndrome as it comes up. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

Let’s talk about friendship breakups. In this week’s episode we dive into the major friendship break ups that have helped shape us into who we are today. I broke up with my friend around the same time I started my Youtube. And before I met Dejan, he had a best friend and they were inseparable, but after a huge fight, they couldn’t find a way to make it work again. Friendship break ups are hard af and dare I say it, worse than an actual break up. Would you agree? hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

you are not alone, you are enough and you are loved. thank you for being here. this episode we dive into how Nina's been going through it with postpartum depression and how tensions are high now that Blu has started screaming to communicate. we share the best ways to comfort the people in your life when they're not feeling too hot and what we like to do when we don't feel okay. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

it's Nina's 25th birthday! we thought it'd be fun to reflect on five lessons we learned too late in life inspired by one of my favorite podcasts, bobo & flex :) lessons like, you don't need to be with every single person you find attractive and have a better work ethic (I'll let you guess whose is whose haha) so even though you're gonna have to make your own mistakes to learn from them, give this episode a listen and don't say we didn't warn you! hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

this week we talk about how we got blu to sleep through the night at 3 months, how no one was lying about the sleep deprivation, 4 month sleep regression and how weirdly enough, how fears can be passed down through our genetics. hope you enjoy this check in from your fav first time parents. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

body confidence is something we both struggled with for a long time before each working our way towards finding confidence in our bodies. we debate about the role of plastic surgery in self love, how we deal with our insecurities and our ongoing relationship with our bodies that make it easier to love it as it is. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

raising an interracial baby is going to have it's own set of challenges, especially because we aren't interracial ourselves. how will we deal with conversations about race with Blu? how do we even feel about our own identities? how do I teach Blu about Vietnamese culture when often times I don't even feel Vietnamese "enough"? there are so many unknowns but we are trying to tackle them one podcast episode at a time. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

let's talk about our goals! we have been manifesting so much the last couple of days but seriously we've manifested everything in our life the last couple of years, from the apartment we currently live in, the 4 bedroom apartment we're moving into, bb blu, our career, etc. a lot of you have been wondering where we want our life to head and in this episode we talk all about our goals, how to get there financially and the importance of saving/investing. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

this isn't something I ever thought I'd be doing but I am the breadwinner and Dejan is my "sugar baby". it was a long road to get here and we in no way have it all figured out. I wish I had all the answers but this is a hard relationship dynamic to navigate because of our internalized sexism. this is probably one of our most honest talks/arguments on this podcast lol so hope you enjoy! hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

people are always telling Dejan he's a great dad and he is, but they don't know that. all they see is him walking around with Blu and changing his diaper in public. the bar is set so low for fathers while mothers rarely get praise, the only praise we do get is whether or not we've bounced back enough yet. this week we're talking all about the sexist expectations that are set on mothers and fathers and how we tried our best to navigate this conversation pre-baby. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

do pregnant people even want to have sex? can you have sex? what's it like after a baby? you wanted to know so here we go! this has been our experience with sex as first time parents and we talked about what it was like for us growing up with the ideas our parents had about sex and how we want to talk to our kid(s) about sex when they grow up. so if you've been curious about any of it, this episode is alllll things sex woohoo! hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

was college worth it? I am not sure if we even know at this point. there are so many things we learned in and out of the classroom and so many ways in which we've grown as people and young adults but was it worth the time and money? did it prepare us to find jobs? in the episode we talk about how college failed us but also how it shaped us into who we are today and that's a balance we're kind of okay with. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

guess who is who! I've been thinking a lot about how the way I was raised has shaped the ways I express and understand emotions, deal with stress and value my own self worth. we both grew up with very different experiences and while we had great childhoods, there are definitely negative affects associated with the ways we were parented. this is by no fault of our parents because they did the best they could with the resources they were given by their own parents and all we can do is hope to do the same for our child/future children by understanding the weight of our words and actions. this conversation was a real tough one for me and I hope some of y'all can relate out there. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

fashion has always been a huge part of our lives but our relationship to it and our personal style had changed tremendously over the years. we chat all about how we developed our personal style, our relationship to fashion over the years and how you can start tapping into developing your own personal style. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

this has to be our most requested topic yet. as we talked about our parents' expectations in dating, our own dating patterns and how our culture and surroundings impacted those decisions, we started to unpack the possible reasons why we've surprisingly only ever been in interracial relationships. there is a much larger conversation about race to be had about this topic and maybe one day we'll have better clarity on our own situations but for now, enjoy this stream of consciousness. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

breastfeeding is hard as hell. it's nonstop, painful and all consuming. there are also so many ways in which society doesn't adequately support postpartum women and it sucks. this week I (Nina) am going solo and sharing all the things I didn't realize about taking care of a newborn bb and the ways in which I was naive to think it would be easier than this. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

this conversation is necessary, it is one of many and it is imperfect. this week we talk about #blacklivesmatter, police brutality, white supremacy and anti-blackness in our own communities. there have been a lot of people who are afraid to speak up because they fear they may say the wrong things but it is better to speak up and do so imperfectly than to stay silent. we are all learning, we are all educating ourselves and we all have the ability to change our opinion and unlearn the racism we have been taught. the most open minded people are those that can accept new information and criticism, own up to their knowledge deficit and change their mind. we are in the midst of a monumental civil rights movement and the fight doesn't end here: have uncomfortable conversations, protest, donate, educate yourselves and continue to hold space for black people. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

we answer all your questions about moving in together: how we split our rent, groceries, furniture expenses, how it affected our sex life and what we do to take space from one another from time to time. *this episode was prerecorded and set to launch this week. with everything going on with regards to #blacklivesmatter and discussions on police brutality, white supremacy and anti-blackness, we want to take the time to address that we are doing everything we can to donate, listen and learn from black voices and educate ourselves. next week's episode will be an important discussion on race, not cause it's trendy or cause it's about us, but because we want to encourage everyone to not be afraid to speak up on what's right. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

there's a lot to consider before moving in together: the cost, the location and the timing. this week we're talking about how we knew it was the right time for us to move out together into our first apartment rental back in 2018 and how we found the perfect apartment. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

wow two weeks has flown by and at the same time, it feels like forever ago that I birthed our baby boy. in this week's episode we talk about how my recovery's been, the struggle to get enough sleep, the amount of crying that we were totally unprepared for and how parenthood has affected our relationship with one another. it is everything I imagined it'd be and it's a million times harder than I imagined it'd be. but I mean have you seen how cute he is? worth it. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

it's pretty wild that we set out to do a natural home birth and I ended up with an emergency c-section after four awful days of labour. this is our birth story and it totally did not go according to plan. *I get pretty emotional in this, yeah it surprised me too, but it goes to show just how raw these emotions are and how there is still so much for me to work through when it comes to processing the birth of our beautiful baby boy. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

how has it already been 9 months and at the same time holy shit, come out already! we look back on the last 9 months, sharing what we learned about pregnancy, ourselves and what to anticipate for the days, weeks, months to come. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

don't get me wrong, we love being together and we loved being in love BUT being single had it's perks. do you love or hate being single? we talk about all the things we loved and struggled with during our single years and learn a few new things about each other. we also discuss ways to enjoy being single, how to know when you're okay with being single and maybe some things you should stop doing while single (ex. chasing people who don't like you back). Episode sponsored by Bumble | hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

this is definitely our most requested topic so far: our birth plan! we are planning a home birth here in Canada and trust us, this was super unexpected for us too! find out why we are choosing a home birth over a hospital birth, how we found our midwife and doula, our thoughts on natural birth/water birth/epidurals and the effects that quarantine has had on our pregnancy so far. it's a loaded one for sure! and make sure you listen to the episode in full cause we probably answer some of your most pressing questions about birth, esp at a time like this! hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

I would never want to get cheated on again, cause it sucked big time, but it was seriously the best thing that ever happened to me. we talk about the times we both got cheated on, how we coped with it, how we learned to trust again and how to get over the fear of being cheated on in our future relationships. stick around for our Q+A at the end and if you have any questions for future episodes, feel free to DM us! hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

consider this: confessions of a cheater. it's no secret that Dejan's cheated in the past; he's very transparent about his past indiscretions. so in this week's episode, we do a little deep dive into his experiences as we try to understand: what drives someone to cheat? is it something you can change? and how do you cope with the guilt and decisions you've made in your past? it's a painful trip down memory lane, but we hope you can learn from our mistakes. stick around for the Q+A at the end where we answer all your hot pressing questions. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

you've heard of toxic relationships, but what about toxic friendships? it's hard to navigate friendships cause everyone's wants and needs are so different and you may come to realize that you've been putting up with toxic behaviors for years. or, you might even realize that you're the toxic friend. we talk through about the signs of a toxic friendship and what we think you should do if you find yourself in this predicament. stick around for the Q+A at the end where we answer all your hot pressing questions. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

we talking all things marriage! were there any pressures to get married when we found out we were pregnant? should we get married before having the baby? do we even want to get married?! all these questions and more answered in this week's episode. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations

warning: in this episode, we talk about abortion and the realities of the impossibly difficult decision making process of whether or not to go through with or terminate our unplanned pregnancy. we feel very strongly that it's important to share these experiences because we know too many people that have been in our situation and felt like they were going through it alone. no matter what you choose to do, know that there is no right or wrong answer because only you know what's best for you in your current situation. at the end of the day, you deserve to feel loved and supported in whatever decision you choose to make. hosted by @yourgirlneens and @dejansdayoff / find us on IG @neensanddeens. interested in advertising on our show? email us at neensanddeens@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/between-neens-and-deens/donations