Forget Norms Podcast

There is a certain level of courage that you must possess in order to be successful on foreign soil. For some, it is just the will to win, while for others it is the fight to not go back to what you already know. In today's episode, we journey with Beauty Pageant, Lesly Garcia as she talks about her struggles with societal norms, and how she overcame and became the person she is today.

How often do you feel like people don't value you? How quick are you to think that it is your fault, or that you're just not good enough? Today's episode kicks out the notion of feeling less worthy and gives two distinct perspectives of Values: Actual value and Perceptive Value. Take a listen.

We all get to episodes in our lives where we have to make tough decisions. One of the biggest differences between those who make wise decisions or even those who are successful, to those who are unsuccessful, is to know what to be afraid of and to understand how to use fear to cultivate bravery. This episode outline some useful tips on embracing fear to influence and Implement change. Be sure to follow us on IG @forgetnorms_book

A little encouragement to look to strengthen your mind in the coming year 2021. The world witnessed something that most people on earth had never witnessed. We watched masks and hand sanitizers became the norms of our daily lives, walked in fear around loved ones, and live with nervous uncertainties of whether we will be able to over a pandemic that changed our view of normal. Nonetheless, we are moving forward. This episode encourages a fearless mindset, and hope for anyone looking forward to 2021. Happy New Year!

There is a reason why we struggle so much with dating and being in a relationship. It's not trust, it's not because of the differences between men and women. It is a simple fundamental that we always ignore in the beginning, but want to hold our partners to later in the relationship. In this episode I debunk that thing and empower you to a better relationship.

Too many people live on auto pilot mindset. We stop dreaming and setting goals when we get to certain age. We stop trying after a few failures. We make excuses based off of what others have been through. Our norms have programmed us to a lifestyle that limits our abilities to overcome. This episode tries to shut down that switch, and puts you back in the driver seat. Take a listen.

Too many people are afraid to leap into their truth and their thoughts simply because the results makes them vulnerable. But why? This episode encourages you to own up to your truth, your vulnerabilities, and to be bold with standing away from the crowd if necessary. Confront what threatens you and be brave to accept its truths and its realities.

We sometimes are not even aware of the wired practices that we perform on a routine basis that are impeding to our purpose and destination. A lot us act in many ways that programmed, but unknowing to us, because we don't never take time to analyze ourselves, especially in situations that we feel are not so chaotic. But habits of small decisions, are habits of severe consequences also. Paying attention to your choice of actions, and purposing to stop some poor choices can be a gateway to personal fulfilling life.

We love a good acting in movies. We appreciate when actors can bring characters to life; giving us performances that we can relate to our reality. And while actors are actors, the last thing any good actor wants to do, is to ACT - they purpose to become that character assigned to them, even though they and we all know its fiction that only imitates reality. So why then do we act out our real lives? Episode 15 encourages the idea of being intentional with your life, and making it a purpose to be plain with who you choose to become in life, ignoring all the societal norms. Take a listen!

In this episode I respond to a letter from a lady who is struggling to cope with the agony of divorce, and having to restart her life after sacrificing herself for her husband and three kids, only to find herself back at her mom's house with nothing to her name. Did she made a mistake to pause her personal life in hopes of building a family? Take a listen.

Episode 13 breaks down the metaphorical interpretation of the story of Noah and the end of the world, when God pushed the restart button on life and tasked Noah with building the Ark. The episode aligns personal self and philosophy to the key fundamentals of the story of the world ending. There is the flood, Noah, the Ark, The people chosen to be in the Ark, and the Ark landing on a mountain top. How are all these elements relatable to a personal life. This episode breaks down this beautiful story from a psychological reasoning, to help make meaning of life - something everyone seeks to have -a meaning to their life. Take a listen.

How do you deal with starting over, when all your investments, time, emotions and physical strength proves to be lost? How do you deal with the emotional distress when someone that you loved and thought to go till the end with, is no longer around and you're struggling to accept the reality? Episode 12 gives you the comfort to believe that you can always find joy, happiness, and even more importantly, love again, if only you can will your mind to believe restarts. Listen and share!

Destiny or Self-Will? Episode 11 is an episode that questions the ideology of what gets you there, regardless of what your there is? Why do some people chase after, and some run away from? Why do some people find motivation and some can't be motivated? Are we just handed a path or can we create our own route, follow through and make it become a reality? Are we destined, or do we map out our destination?

When you fail to live up to your ideal self, you tend to feel ashamed and regretful about the actions you did not take than the ones that you took. The possibility of societal judgment, cloud our though-process to the point where all we want to feel is sadness from our failed behavior. In this episode, while I understand the bitterness of letting down yourself and loved ones all within a single mistake, I also touch on the hidden opportunity for self-growth and realization when a regretful action is analyzed without self bashing.

There's a mystery surrounding the obedience of doing something that the most joy you get from it is that other people are happy you did it. But then some will say why do it? What about just doing your passion and the things you enjoy doing? Well, in this episode, I outline some the reason to a purpose. Take a listen.

Having parents to talk to is a thing of beauty, especially when they've provided quality counsel throughout your entire life. But in some instances, you must put aside that little boy or girl, yearning for their their parent's approval, and make independent decisions. In this episode we discuss how the attitude of seeking parent's approval is costly.

Too man dreams are never fulfilled because of lack of confidence and self-doubt. Too many people value themselves at a deep discount. But what is the standard of comparison? Why should you ditch societal pressures in order to find courage to believe in your abilities and be confident in who you are and what your capabilities are. Episode 7 is purposed to help achieve and maintain a confident attitude, thanks to our guest host, Mr. Chike Orlando.

One of the most inhibiting traits of humans, is their fears. Most of us from an early age, develop the characteristics of being afraid of something. The taste of disappointment that comes with not succeeding at an attempt taps directly into our fears, and makes us not enthusiastic to go through that emotions again. But what if, we made a choice to look at failure as a "beautiful thing"? In this episode, I provide some points to help you overcome the daunting thought of failure as a bad consequence.

What makes some people succeed and others fail when we all have the same amount hours each day? Why do you not realize success, even though you have goals and desires? In this episode I discuss how the skill of time management affects your success. I also talk about psychological time and its influence in practical time.

Everyone has experienced in their lives, some form of being betrayed by someone whom they trust with their emotions. For some, they remain broken and choose to not trust again. For others, its a painful climb back to where they were. In this episode I provide some insights on how to look into the concept of betrayal, and to climb out of the emotional funk that it may leave you in.

In this episode, I dissect the importance of defining you as an individual, breaking down the word "in divi dual" and how it plays into personal success once a person accept the challenge of self responsibility.

In this show, I expressed my opinion on what it means to accept truth, and label things for what they are. I used the recent information of Will and Jada, and their relationship to August Alsina as the backdrop to how money, power and influence can hinder a society to calling out truth for what it is.

This is my very episode of the podcast "Forget Norms Podcast," and in this episode I want us to dive into the basics of understanding what it means to "know yourself" and the elements of things that make you, you.