Uncensored with Dr. Zhana

What is jealousy as opposed to envy or possessiveness? Where does it come from? Is it learned or intrinsic? Can you practice consensual non-monogamy even if you experience jealousy? Dr. Zhana delves into everything from triggers, appropriate responses, and personal insecurities to how to overcome jealousy, strengthen self-esteem, and emotional regulation.    Listen to real people share openly and honestly about their experiences with casual sex and intimacy. The conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana, is the tenth of the Uncensored Events series.  

We often talk about the extreme ends of the relationship spectrum, from monogamy to full-blown openness (polyamory and swinging), but we rarely talk about the ephemeral middle. 'Monogamish' is a term coined and popularized by sex columnist and podcaster Dan Savage. He initially used it to refer to committed couple relationships where partners occasionally have threesomes, but it can also be used broadly to denote any kind of committed couple where there is a little bit of openness. Would this type of relationship structure work for you? Listen to real people share openly and honestly about their experiences with casual sex and intimacy. The conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana, is the twelfth of the Uncensored Events series. 

What is kink / fetish / BDSM? How common is kink? Why are people into kinks? Can kink be a way to heal past trauma? How do you find partners who share your kinks? How do you negotiate a scene? What are some red flags?   In this conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana and featuring the NYC-based psychotherapist Cheyenne Taylor, you will hear highlights from the thirteenth Uncensored Event of our ongoing series.   

Did you know that a study found threesomes/group play to be the most common sexual fantasy? This episode focuses on group play, which Dr. Zhana has absolutely loved her whole life. Although she grew up in conservative and patriarchal Macedonia, she managed to have her first threesome at the age of thirteen! Since then, she's had every possible group sex experience you can imagine, including all sorts of combinations of numbers, genders, and relationship dynamics. So get excited to hop into this Uncensored discussion! Listen to real people share openly and honestly about the delights and frights of their group sex experiences. In this conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana and featuring the prolific sex researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller, you will hear highlights from the eighth Uncensored Event of our ongoing series. 

Why are we still so hung up about sex work? What counts as sex work? Sex work is the world's oldest profession, a service job like any other, rooted in one of the most basic human needs. The internet is becoming less and less friendly to sexual content, including educational sexual content, and this is affecting everyone, because we all have a sexuality. Unfortunately, the people most affected are sex workers, who are already vulnerable and marginalized because of their work.    Listen to real people share openly and honestly about their experiences with sex work. In this conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana, you will hear highlights from the sixth Uncensored Event of our ongoing series. 

Have you ever had a crush on someone you met in a professional or educational setting, where social hierarchies and policies dictated they were “off limits” sexually and romantically? Have you ever made your attractions known to this person? Have you ever been hit on by someone in this position? Have you ever hooked up or dated someone like this? What were these experiences like? Would you do it again? Listen to real people share openly and honestly about their experiences with power dynamics. In this conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana, you will hear highlights from the fifth Uncensored Event of our ongoing series.     

How much should I tell my monogamous partner about my fantasies of others? How much do I tell my open partner about what I do with others? How much should I ask my partner? Does Don't-Ask-Don't-Tell work? Does full transparency work? If your partner is cheating on you, is finding out a dealbreaker? If you're cheating on your partner, how do you make sure they don't ever feel there's someone else??  Listen to real people share openly and honestly about their experiences with casual sex and intimacy. In this conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana, you will hear highlights from the third Uncensored Event of our ongoing series. 

What's the role of intimacy in casual hookups? How to be affectionate without giving the wrong impression? Are guys who seek casual sex inherently assholes? How to seek hookups AND be a nice guy? Do women feel disrespected if a guy just wants sex? What kind of casual sex do women want to have, if any? How does casual sex intimacy play out in queer, kink, or poly communities? How not to catch feelings for the wrong person? What if you do??  Listen to real people share openly and honestly about their experiences with casual sex and intimacy. The conversation, moderated by Dr. Zhana, is the very first of the Uncensored Events series.