Podcasts about Jealousy

We are talking about TWO mysteries today...Have you seen the mystery man hanging out with Steve? Well today Steve is opening up about it. We dive into dating, how it is to date when you have a podcast, and what it looks like when I, Jessica, meet someone who is important to Steve.We are also sharing a story that might get us into a little trouble. Please don't tell us! But for real...

This week on Rap Rankings, it's a Motor City affair as Moulz & Mel check in on Jay Dee a.k.a. J. Dilla, T3 & Baatin for a review of Slum Village's Fantastic, Vol. 2. ----------- Intro (0:00) -- The Rating System, Explained (6:53 - 9:35) -- The Rap Rankings Game (43:00) -- This Week In Moulz & Mel (52:01) -- Fantastic, Vol. 2 Info (1:02:51) -- Track 1: "Intro" (1:28:47) -- Track 2: "Conant Gardens" (1:42:53) -- Track 3: "I Don't Know" (1:54:45) -- Track 4: "Jealousy" (2:17:14) -- Track 5: "Climax (Girl Shit)" (2:27:59) -- Track 6: "Hold Tight" (2:41:03) -- Track 7: "Tell Me" (2:51:02) -- Track 8: "What It's All About" (3:06:05) -- Track 9: "Forth And Back" (3:13:26) -- Track 10: "Untitled / Fantastic" (3:21:00) -- Track 11: "Fall In Love" (3:34:11) -- Track 12: "Get Dis Money" (3:56:44) -- Track 13: "Raise It Up" (4:14:19) -- Track 14: "Once Upon A Time" (4:27:43) -- Track 15: "Players" (4:35:57) -- Track 16: "Eyes Up" (4:48:15) -- Track 17: "2U 4U" (4:51:58) -- Track 18: "CB4" (5:00:38) -- Track 19: Go Ladies (5:06:32) -- Ranking Fantastic, Vol. 2 (5:10:18) -- Outro (5:14:06) Support this podcast

Attachment is normal.We can be attached to our jobs, our relationships, our hobbies, etc.But being TOO attached is a problem.Here are the signs that you're too attached: Anxiety, Fear, Anger, Jealousy, Hopelessness, Sadness, Pride...Let me tell you what to do....Support the show (https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/67936175235/)

Research Explains the Psychology of Narcissists, Codependents & Jealousy (Men vs. Women - The differences in the psychology of jealousy as it relates to toxic relationships) Why Do Narcissists Try to Make You Jealous? Toxic people have a way of trying to make you jealous in your relationships. And of course, if you have a difficult time dealing with jealousy in relationships, it's important to identify the cause as early as possible so you know how to handle it. As someone who has struggled with codependency with a narcissist, you might find that, whether you're feeling jealous in your current relationship or you're feeling jealous of the narcissist's new supply, it can help to really wrap your head around the psychology of jealousy and narcissism (or people who have or may have narcissistic personality disorder) I'm sharing 3 research studies that feature conclusions by psychologists and that will support every point I'm making here. Remember: narcissists put your jealousy to good use. They need you to feel jealous because the way you react gives them the fuel they need to continue their typical cycle of love bombing, devaluing, discard and hoovering. Narcissists always try to make you jealous to control you and to cause you to feel more insecure in your relationship .. but these jealousy games do not work on people with healthy boundaries. That's because narcissists are masters at creating illusionary situations to make you feel insecure about yourself so you won't feel like you can do any better, to put it mildly. Discover. Understand. Overcome. The DUO Method. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AuthorAngelaAtkinson?sub_confirmation=1 **NEW!! Become a member of my channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBnyC5I55W__RBj1PMybF5g/join **Never miss a live session! Just text "AngieLive" (no spaces) to 33222 and I'll send you a text each time I get ready to go live! Schedule a coaching appointment with me, Certified Life Coach Angie Atkinson at https://queenbeeing.com/coaching or http://narcissisticabuserecovery.online Start your healing at https://queenbeeing.com. Take your life to the next level at https://shine.buzz Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com, pick up your free 7-day fear-busting email course (specially designed for narcissistic relationship survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com. Join SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissism in toxic relationships) - AKA "The SPANily" - at http://queenbeeing.com/group-support. Let's Also Connect On: Facebook at https://facebook.com/coachangieatkinson. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachangieatkinson/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachangieatkinson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/angyatkinson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/angieatkinsonSubscribe to Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Angie Atkinson on Soundwise

Why does Lakshmi feel jealous of her sister Uma? What did she ask for when Uma offered her a gift? Why did Uma bring Lakshmi to her home? What did Lakshmi do on seeing Uma getting slim day by day?லட்சுமிக்கு உமாவின் மேல் ஏன் பொறாமை ஏற்பட்டது? உமாவிடம் அவள் என்ன பரிசு கேட்டள்? உமா லட்சுமியை ஏன் தன் வீட்டுக்கு கூட்டிவந்தாள்? உமா உடற்பயிற்சி செய்வதைப் பார்த்து லட்சுமி என்ன செய்தாள்?Youtube Story Link: https://youtu.be/_uMSYTOHR2Q You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the new and improved IVM Podcast App on Android: https://ivm.today/android or iOS: https://ivm.today/iosYou can check out our website at http://www.ivmpodcasts.com

Where are you settling for the bare minimum? If you're manifesting a home or publishing a book, struggling with being single/dating, working on healing childhood trauma, or simply just beginning this process, this episode will be so expansive for you.Pathway member Shani Silver covers all of this and more with Jessica. They also talk about her entire manifestation process, how she personalized the work, learned that rejection is protection, and how this process ultimately led to her self-published book & dream home in New Orleans. Shani shares tons of tips for anyone new to the work too.Happy Manifesting! Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:Pathway member Shani's remarkable manifestations, including her dream house in New Orleans, publishing her own book and reframing singlehood!Shani's unique upbringing and overcoming childhood traumaCreating new neural pathways in the brain through DI'sShani's initial manifestation list and how it has evolvedHow increased self-worth leads to tangible manifestationsHer unique method of soothing her Inner Child and ShadowThe TBM workshops and DI's that Shani uses dailyTrusting your intuition, saying ‘no', never settling!Translating jealousy into expansionBanishing negative narratives around dating and partnershipTips for those just beginning their TBM process! Resources: Holiday Sale for The Pathway Membership - limited time onlyJoin us in The Manifestation Challenge this December - Only available in The PathwayNewsletterText Us: +1-213-423-5226 - (texting is only for US, Canada, & Puerto Rico) Forget New Year's Resolutions, start manifesting for 2022 right now.*Join Us for The Manifestation Challenge Starting December 1st inside The Pathway Membership - Limited Time Holiday Sale for New Pathway Members!* In The Episode:Expanded: The Process EpisodesUnblocked Inner child Unblocked Shadow Subconscious Reintegration DI Trigger DIProsperity DIUplevel - Next LevelBook Self-Publishing Company - Scribe MediaShani Linktree Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic@jessicaashleygill SubmitSubmit to Be a Process GuestLeave a Review 5-star review for a chance to win a 1-year membership to The Pathway 2.0. Then tune into future episodes to hear your review announced! If you win send us a message on Intercom hi@tobemagnetic.com to claim it.

In today's "Jealousy Trip," Angel asks us to prank his girl, Jackie, after they go to Hooters, and Jackie finds out the Hooters waitress used to date her man! Now she thinks he's hiding things from her— Meanwhile Becca pretends to be the hoochie Hooters girl "Tati with the big tatas" in the prank call! Familia, you won't believe what this woman did after she helped her best-friend deliver her baby—and discovers the baby daddy is her HUSBAND! Moreover, the crew shares new mùsica from Jay Wheeler, Anuel AA, and a holiday jam from El Alfa! Follow us @ShoboyShow  Listen Live 6-10AM PST  M-Fri on ShoboyShow.com  Shoboy: @edgarisotelo Becca: @BeccaMGuzman Eddie The Virgin: @EddieSotelo  ---------------- Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Liza and Kimmy are joined by DR. DARCY STERLING, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the host of E! Network's Famously Single. They discuss what Dr. Darcy's shocking worst first date story, the pressure that the pandemic put on relationships and dating, and jealousy - why we feel it, where it comes from, and what to do with it. Follow Dr. Darcy on social @DrDarcySterling and check out her blog, www.askdrdarcy.com. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com. Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am getting a divorce.I am pretty sure we have all heard these words from a friend or loved one. But what do you do when you hear this?! How do you react? What help can you offer? What does someone doing through a divorce need from you?This week on our Dear Listener Episode we dive into what to do when someone you love is getting a divorce because who doesn't know someone going through a divorce?We share our stories of what worked (and what didn't work) when people showed up for us during our divorce. We get into what our worries and concerns were and how the people around us made a big difference in helping us get to where we are today.Last chance for Romance! Are you ready to fall in love with your very own Little Dude? Then you better click now because they are only on sale until Sunday, November 21st! https://theboldlogic.com/littledudesIf you want to work on changing the story you are telling yourself about your past, your life right now, or your relationships, pick up your FREE Workbook "Change Your Story, Change Your Life" by clicking here.

When you start your own business or when you're doing better in life a lot of people are going to be jealous of you! But keep going ! Let's talk about it! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/radiotenacity/support

I want to tell you what nearly destroyed my wonderful relationship with my husband, Rod…Jealousy! Yes, that ugly and demonic thing. I married in New York City (that's where I was born and raised) but I moved to North Carolina because Rod worked for a Christian Television Network there. I was away from my family, away from my home church, with no friends, and my husband was working at a place that seemed to have beautiful women everywhere! Beautiful hostesses and singers, beautiful producers, beautiful, beautiful, beautiful girls seemed to inundate my insecure and weak mind. Every pretty face threatened me and so I vigorously tried to justify the way I felt. I said bad things about one particular girl, just to make her look bad. Jealousy turned me into such a monster that without any reason I would lash out at Rod and accuse him of wrongdoing! Jealousy was destroying our marriage. It got so bad that I scared myself! So, I went to see a biblical counselor. Here's what she finally said to me: “Dámaris, I rebuke you. It is obvious you are not a woman of the Word. God put you and Rod together for his glorious purpose and the enemy is trying to destroy your marriage. You need to repent and start reading your Bible.” My eyes opened real wide but I left there willing to do what she asked me to do. Is jealousy ruining a relationship you have? Jealousy comes in many different forms. It could be a coworker that's better at what she does than you are. It could be someone's child gets better grades than your child. Remember that Satan is the first one who became jealous, and he lost everything because of it. Listen to what James, the brother of Jesus Christ, says in chapter 3 verse 15: “For jealousy and selfishness are not God's kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic.” That is so true. The first step to rid yourself of this horrendous state is to admit you are jealous. John 8:32 says, “And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Only Jesus can free you from that ugly jealousy. And that will only happen when you know and admit that you are indeed jealous! What I truly needed was to see that my jealousy was unfounded and wrong. I needed to repent. Listen, my dear friend, there will always be someone prettier, smarter, more creative, more talented, more understanding, more whatever, than you! But God made YOU for His glory and you need to see that jealousy is a way of being obsessed with yourself and that's idolatry. Want to have a better relationship with those you are jealous of? Repent and ask God to make you grateful for the very thing that makes them so special in your eyes.

Ep. 54 - I'm sure you've had, or have, your own comparison trap. Maybe it's with a sister or a cousin or a friend. Maybe you're tempted to compare yourself with that flawless social media influencer. Or maybe it's with that successful coworker who constantly seems to be two steps ahead of you. (Can't she just quit already?) None of us can escape the fact that there will always be people around us living the life we desire. Which means there will always be opportunities for comparison.Thankfully, success (according to the Bible) isn't about competing with those around us. It's not about comparing and feeling proud that we're better than the sister next to us. Not at all. The Christian life is about running the individual race God has set before us.Today's episode will equip you with truth to combat comparison and live a life of true joy. NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/girldefined)

Wow so many topics covered this week! Overbearing parents, setting boundaries with friends, dealing with "dry patches" in relationships, finding self love again, getting over jealousy and more. We asked what you need advice on, and today we are chatting about it! Follow Along! Instagram: Outgoing Pod Gabi Lexi Youtube: Gabi Lexi Tiktok: Gabi Lexi xoxo love you all! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/outgoingpodcast/support

Behaviors That Limit Success - Chris Cotton Weekly Blitz 034 Six behaviors that prevent us from achieving the success we desire. Behaviors that are limiting our success in life. Jealousy  Self-Limiting Beleifs  Living in the Past. Living Life in the Rear View. Gossip Giving Up Too Soon. Throwing in the Towel. Negative Thinking    

This episode is the fourth part of a series I started on the life of David. During this episode I talk about how Saul had a mighty advocate in David, a mighty warrior who's heart was to serve Saul with humility. Instead of basking in that advantage, Saul became jealous and insecure in his position when David was around. He began to compare himself to David, take the score of every win and loss, and despise David's victories. At the end of the episode, I discuss the content with a friend, and I hope you can do the same! I want to encourage you to grab a friend or a small group and go through this material with us. Scriptures Covered: 1 Samuel 18:6-30My hope is that this podcast helps grow your faith and equips you to accomplish your dreams and goals!Follow me on instagramFollow me on FacebookSubscribe to emails from meWeek 4 Study Material - Life of David

After spending the last few days sick, we're back with another podcast! For todays episode we talk about a subject people constantly ask us. Are we jealous of each other? Was there ever jealousy in our friendship? How do we handle jealousy? Here our thoughts about jealousy and how we handle our own jealousy in other aspects of our life.

Dr. Joli Hamitlon is an Author and Professor of Psychology at the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment, where she teaches intimacy and communication skills, kink, and BDSM for educators and therapists.She joins Brandon for a second time to share her findings from researching Jealousy and Envy. This is a fun conversation that will show you an entirely new way to view Jealousy and Envy as a gift.Joli also shares her 5-Step Process for unpacking and turning around your Jealousy.You're Going To Love This Episode if:You've experienced the negative side of Jealousy and Envy in your life.You want to witness Jealousy and Envy in a completely new light and turn it into a gift.You have others in your life that are negatively impacted by Jealousy and Envy.Loved Dr. Joli? You Can Find Out More Here:Join Joli's Email List: HEREJoli's Ted Talk: TEDPodcast - Project RelationshipManKind Podcast | Deep Dive Into Sexual Shadow | Ep #030: HEREJOIN OUR MOVEMBER TEAM!!!Join ManKind's Healthy Warriors: HEREThe Men's Work Introduction:JOIN The Men's Work: The Men's Work Additional Resources:Subscribe/Rate/Review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HERE

In this episode, Scott and Anne discuss establishing trust with your partner and exhibiting appropriate behavior with the opposite sex to avoid the possibility of jealousy within your marriage.Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Thou Shalt Not Kill

Three of Jessica's favorite men in one room... What could go wrong?!

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat(@kat.defatta), answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week she talks about ways to help alleviate competition fueled by comparisons. She also spends some time explaining why Envy & Jealousy really aren't so bad. . . and how being jealous can actually be helpful. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

You've heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that's true...but...it's not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here's the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier.So on today's Ask Emily show, I'm joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, Pete Davidson, and self-image. What happens when you adore your partner, but can't stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don't know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don't know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner's can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he's sleeping with someone else; we think it's time for open communication.Find Menace here:What's New PodcastThe Woody ShowDiego Hot SauceInstagramTwitterShow Notes:Try my free Yes, No, Maybe ListWe-Vibe Moxie, Bond (Cock Ring) and TouchEpisode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna AngelPromescent: Better In Bed See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

*Today's topic is in honor of a beautiful sale we have going on for the Ceremony Starter Pack, a step by step process of how to create sacred ceremonial space for yourself at home! Now through the 22nd you can enroll in this master class at 50% off!! Use the code in the CEREMONY50.*. Over the past year, I have done so much healing around the idea of who I want to be. To attract what we want, we must be in the vibration of what we want. Today I am talking about one simple shift that created such powerful transformation in my energy, my vitality, my prosperity, my happiness, and my freedom. Here is that one thing: I started to create a ceremony out of my life. And it may sound ridiculous, but I'm going to share with you how you can change so much in your life just by listening to this episode. GET THE CEREMONY STARTER PACK! Join the Sacred Success Creators Community. Interested in the Soul Portal Membership? Be a part of the first 22 to join and get 20% off using the code MEMBERSHIP20! Interested in HEAL? Check out the sales page HERE and get on the waitlist! Interested in the Plant Medicine Masterclass? Click HERE. Follow me on Instagram: @laurenoflove For more: https://www.laurenoflove.com Other Episodes You May Enjoy: EP 229: Jealousy, Falling Off In Your Biz, Comparison, and Judgement of Self EP 235: How to Heal Addiction EP 237: My Recent Breakthroughs On My Healing Journey

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Good morning everybody! Welcome back to the Motivated Entrepreneurs podcast. I'm your host, Dean Booty. Today we are talking about Jealousy. Jealousy is a signal that you really want something. And jealousy is your body's way of telling you where your goals should be. Hope gained some new knowledge and insight from this episode. Please give it a listen. Listen on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2VkXGHq Listen on Apple Podcast: https://apple.co/39TYebQ Motivated Entrepreneurs Website: https://motivatedentrepreneurs.co.uk/ Please Like, Share, and Subscribe to Motivated Entrepreneurs Youtube Channel: https://bit.ly/3eA64u5   Cheers, Dean

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What was the first CD that you ever bought?*Did we just age ourselves a lil bit?*Billy Weathers is a hip-hop artist, philanthropist, and activist and today he is going to share with us how to challenge others through creativity.*Not to mention he went from listening to Nelly from a CD in his back pocket to opened up for him this past weekend!*As a recording artist, Billy is dedicated to Inspiring others (and himself) through his lyrics, outlook, and perspective to create value in ourselves, our community, and our world… and that's what we are discussing today.In this interview, Billy, Aaron, and Mackenzie discuss:-How he came to be a triple threat-Everyone's favorite Nelly songs-The power we have to get uncomfortable within ourselves in order to growand more.We absolutely love this conversation and we're sure you will too, so click play now!If you enjoyed this episode, take a picture of where or how you're listening to this episode and tag us and Billy in your Instagram Story @itsbingbang and @b_well_! We would love to personally thank you for tuning in.

Today Jamal and I discuss jealousy, and how social media has taxed our brains in comparing ourselves to others on social media.

Although we tend to make light of jealousy, Proverbs 27:4 tells us that jealousy is more cruel and dangerous than anger. This is evident in the life in Joseph. His brothers were so jealous they plotted his murder. Joseph's life was spared, but he was sold into slavery, accused of wrongs he didn't do, and put in prison. By trusting God, Joseph was able to overcome each of these situations. The things Joseph suffered because of his brothers' jealousy should serve as a warning for all us. Jealousy is dangerous! This story has a happy ending though, because Joseph was able to forgive is brothers and restore his relationship with them.

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In this episode, find out how sibling jealousy can dampen the peace in the home. Learn strategies and techniques to get everyone talking, engaged, and on the path of peace. Don't let sibling jealousy hinder your home! Tune in.   Website www.ivegotthiskid.com   Download my free e-book “Maintaining a Healthy You” at: https://www.ivegotthiskid.com/books   Pre order the  book "Watch Me - Connecting To Your Child Through Play” at: Amazon   Find a local Speech Therapist https://www.asha.org   Socials Join our Facebook group for weekly tips and tools: Cherina Williams Instagram @IveGotThisKid_Podcast @CherinaWilliamSLP Twitter CherinaWilliam1   LinkedIn Cherina Williams   Youtube I've Got This Kid    

Was your Halloween as wild as ours?? Yours was probably wilder if I'm being honest. This was a tough week for us for various reasons but as always we are open books & letting you in on how we handle JEALOUSY. Plus, we answer most of the questions you submitted to us via Instagram! The play buttons just right there so what are you waiting for? Press Play!For more places to see or hear from us or anyone we've talked about click the links below!Marleys Links:https://onlyfans.com/marleyroze Only Fanshttps://www.tiktok.com/@itsmarleyroze Tiktokhttps://www.instagram.com/marley_roze/ IGGideons Links:https://onlyfans.com/gideonmazikeen Only Fanshttps://www.tiktok.com/@infamousgideon Tiktokhttps://www.instagram.com/gideonmazikeen/ IGMia/Elena Links:https://onlyfans.com/lustyfoxxy Only Fanshttps://www.instagram.com/lustyfoxxy/ IGSkylove's Links:https://onlyfans.com/sd.suga Only Fanshttps://www.instagram.com/skylove.kr/ IGPodcast Links:https://lovenkink.com/ Websitehttps://www.tiktok.com/@marleyandgideon Tiktokhttps://www.instagram.com/_lovenkink/ Instagram

Peter C. Hayward (founder of Blue Beard & Jellybean Games and designer of quirky games like Scuttle!, The Lady and the Tiger, and the upcoming That Time You Killed Me and Robotopia) joins Christina and Shoe to gush about so many mutually favorite games! Topics this episode: Shoe (producer): What are some of your favorite board games that feature robots? Christina (guest): Which game do you secretly wish you had designed? Peter (guest): What have different games done with the worker-placement mechanic?

Conscious Relationships don't just magically appear out of luck, fairy dust and wishful thinking. A relationship built on trust, belonging, and respect requires intention, unflinching accountability and solid communication skills. I've invited two real-life friends of mine Megan McNamara and Paul Angelo onto the podcast this week because they've worked to co-create the kind of relationship that we all strive for. I believe they'd agree with the verb that I chose to use in that sentence. This kind of relationship takes work. They've found the capacity to deeply understand themselves and each other using their relationship as the canvas to do the hard work of creating safety. I often say that intimacy is a spiritual practice and through Megan and Paul, I wanted to show you what that actually looks like in real-time practice.What You'll Learn in this Episode: Why understanding yourself is the crucial first step in communicating through difficult dynamics with your partnerHow to use communication skills to uphold the scaffolding of trust in a relationshipInviting difficult emotions (like jealousy) to act as teachersUnderstanding what it means to be a safe container for your partnerLISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IF…You want to do the hard work of becoming accountable to your feelings and experiences as a pathway to a conscious partnership. Your Speakers:Kat Lee  is an Intimacy + Relationship Coach, host of The Empowered Curiosity Podcast and Creator of The Heart Lab. She guides pattern-breakers to alchemize their emotions and embody their healing journey to cultivate intimacy as a spiritual practice. Kat Lee's Website // InstagramMegan McNamara and Paul Angelo  live in the Santa Cruz Mountains in California's Monterey Bay region. Megan teaches Sociology courses at several Bay Area college and universities. Paul is a registered nurse and the disaster manager at a local hospital. Together, they serve as informal relationship mentors for people who are exploring non-monogamy. mcnamarameganb@gmail.comThis podcast is made possible with sound production by Andre Lagace.

Matt and Stephen sit down to talk about: - Why comparing yourself to your partner's ex's is such a losing game - How to escape the trap of comparison - The value vs. the danger of talking about your insecurities (and why many men struggle with this) - How to be attractive without needing to be perfect -- Join us on our virtual retreat on March 18th-20th! Go to MHVirtualRetreat.com and spend a magical 3 days with us transforming your confidence and relationships... (EARLY BIRD SPECIAL OFFER - book your spot before November 30th and get over 30% off the full price! Claim your ticket here) --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey

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It is so important to cleanse and get rid of things that are holding us back before we step into a new year. Over the past month, I have been deep in a prayer of letting go of so much. Specifically, letting go of things that do not serve me in my relationship with my body. I have been in a deep prayer of cleansing my body and just finished a 14 day water fast. I wanted to share with you my reasons, experiences, and intentions for doing this cleanse to inspire you to do some sort of cleansing in your own life as well. I was trying to escape something by eating until my body would shut off. I decided it was time for a deep, final prayer. I wanted to be a high performer and live life to the fullest. I wanted a clear mind, clear emotions, and energy to last the day. This is what lead me to the 14 day waterfast. It was amazing. The best experience, the best prayer. I just said, “I have to get through this. One day at a time.” When I would get stressed, I began to realize that foods were popping into my head. So I began to navigate this by removing the food and shutting it out of my space so I could observe my internal relationship with food. On these days, I would have to figure out how to move this energy without food and by just soothing myself. I started getting downloads from Spirit of other ways to nourish myself. I was being told to cleanse my space and having these conversations clearing energy with my husband. This was all happening at once. It was beautiful. Now after my fast, I welcomed myself home in my first meal, and I'm paying attention to my body and what it is telling me. All of this has been a prayer to master my relationship with Spirit by mastering my relationship with my body. Join the Sacred Success Creators Community and catch my lives as they are happening! Interested in the Soul Portal Membership? Be a part of the first 22 to join and get 20% off using the code MEMBERSHIP20! Interested in HEAL? Check out the sales page HERE and get on the waitlist! Interested in the Plant Medicine Masterclass? Click HERE. Follow me on Instagram: @laurenoflove For more: https://www.laurenoflove.com Other Episodes You May Enjoy: EP 229: Jealousy, Falling Off In Your Biz, Comparison, and Judgement of Self EP 235: How to Heal Addiction EP 237: My Recent Breakthroughs On My Healing Journey

Okay maybe these stories aren't scary for you but they were scary for us because sometimes revisiting past experiences can be scary!This week we are telling untold stories from when we got divorced. And when I say we, I am talking about when Matt and Ann got divorced and when Steve and I got divorced. Don't worry Matt and I are still going strong.

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Are you ever tempted to look at your partner's phone? Or if you're dating someone new… do you ever feel an urge to peruse social media for a glimpse of their ex? Jealousy is normal...but only to a degree. If you or your partner's green-eyed monster is rearing its head a little too often, then this week's episode is for you.  I'm going to break down the differences between normal and extreme jealousy and help you locate the origin of a jealous streak so you can decode it, deactivate it, and move into more healthy ways of relating. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/350

Paul Denniston is the founder of Grief Yoga®, which uses yoga, movement, breath, and sound to release pain and suffering and connect to love.Paul is certified in Hatha Yoga, Vinyasa Flow, Kundalini Yoga, Laughter Yoga, Restorative Yoga, and Let Your Yoga Dance.  He also has taught movement at the Stella Adler Academy in Hollywood.In our conversation, we discuss his new book, “Healing Through Yoga: Transform Loss Into Empowerment”.Topics includes the universality of grief, the difficultly we have supporting each other while grieving, the challenge of surrendering, the experience of loss during the pandemic, and reconnecting with the physical world in the digital age while grieving. ====================0:00 Intro 0:39 How Paul became interested in movement and yoga 5:57 What is Grief Yoga?8:56 How a random act of kindness transformed Paul's life 11:01 Showing compassion with each other as we go through collective crises 15:01 Emotion is energy in motion 16:15 Jaw release exercise18:08 Spine movement exercise 19:34 Even in deep loss, love still exists22:28 When someone is experiencing grief, avoid saying this25:59 Expressing your grief 30:42 What should you let go of?33:08 The difficulty of trusting the process37:06 Surrender is a space of sweet release38:00 How children may process grief40:22 Social media, identity, and today's young people  43:06 What does grief have to do with starting lines?48:41 How the pandemic disrupted the way we process grief 53:03 What's the connection between Jealousy, Envy, and Grief?56:50 “One Final Question”====================Buy the book!"Healing Through Yoga: Transform Loss into Empowerment - With More Than 75 Yoga Poses and Meditations"====================LinkTree to support us and leave an Apple Podcast review (thank you!)Let's get in touch!Join the discussion in the episode comments on our YouTube channel or social media pages...InstagramTwitter

In this episode, Heather discusses why we struggle so much with manifesting financial abundance, luxury, and symbols of wealth. She dives into 3 main mistakes that we make that REPEL the things we try so hard to manifest. Heather also shares a brand new manifestation story of hers, the lessons that she learned manifesting a luxury item, and HOW you can shift your mindset today so that you can finally GET THAT BAG! Download the FREE 20-minute manifestation visualization meditation https://heatherione.com/freebies Learn more about my coaching services here https://heatherione.com/coaching#/ Book a session or consultation: calendly.com/heatherione Listen to Wild Manifestations: https://anchor.fm/wildmanifestations Instagram @heather.ione For speaking engagements, sponsorships, and collaborations send an email to heather@heatherione.com Shop high quality, essential oils on https://my.doterra.com/heatherione

This week, we talk about Hermione's reaction to seeing Ron couple up with someone else, how Harry fake roofies Ron's pumpkin juice to dramatic effect, and Harry's realization that he feels more than brotherly love for one Ginny Weasley. This leads us to talk about the politics of Jealousy and Communication.   The question of the week is: Was Hermione justified in sending the birds to attack Ron? Why or why not?   Patrons get a bonus segment for this episode! This week, we're continuing our Girl Who Lived segment, this time with Professor Slughorn. Want access to this bonus content and more? Become a Patron for as little as $2/month by heading over to www.patreon.com/acciopolitics   We want to hear from you! Leave us a voicemail: 915.996.1699 or email an mp3 recording to info@acciopolitics.com   Do you prefer the written word? Send us an owl: info@acciopolitics.com or leave us a message through our site.   Find us online: Social Media: We are @acciopolitics on twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Our site: www.acciopolitics.com

Therapists Shaming Therapists An interview with Katie Read about therapists shaming each other when they raise their fees or start playing bigger. Curt and Katie talk with Katie about the puritanical culture within the therapist community that leads to group think, public shaming, and milquetoast messaging to mitigate their fear that anything different will be attacked. We look at reasons behind this (jealousy, guilt, shame, and moralism) as well as what therapists can do to step outside of this culture to create more success.   It's time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age. Interview with Katie Read, LMFT, Six Figure Flagship Katie takes lessons from her nearly-20 successful years in the field to help clinicians grow...then OUTgrow...their practices. Immediately upon licensure, Katie was made Director of a large Transitional Aged Youth program in Oakland, CA. Later, she was recruited to Direct one of Sacramento's largest Wraparound Programs, and from there she moved into the role of Director of Clinical Supervision, personally supervising 40+ interns towards licensure. Concurrently, Katie had private practices in multiple cities, taught graduate psychology students, and wrote and created therapist training materials. Katie is also a special needs mom and loves helping other moms tune into their own intuition and lead their best-possible lives by taking the sometimes-scary leap into following what's best for them, deep down. She is the creator of: The Clinician to Coach® Academy, The Clini-Coach® Certification, and the Six-Figure Flagship™ Program. She's a little bit obsessed with helping therapists get profitable doing the creative, out-of-the-box, authentic work you're called to do! In this episode we talk about: How therapists are treating each other The concept of trolling, piling on, shame The Article in the Atlantic – New Puritans – and the concept of the illiberal left How identity plays a role and the group dynamics within therapist Facebook groups The shaming related to increasing your fees Katie Read's origin story as an on the street social work The value placed on sacrifice and avoiding guilt for the difference in privilege when working with clients who are impoverished Socially-prescribed perfectionism, self-imposed perfectionism The fine line about what is acceptable to charge or make as a therapist Cancel culture and the lack of allowance for errors Echo chambers, factions, and exclusion The fear of dissenting opinions The low context of the internet paired with the high context nature of a therapist's job Milquetoast messaging to avoid getting attacked Dialing down authenticity to fit into what is acceptable Challenging our financial mindset Cultural and societal factors that frame us as cheap labor The seeming requirement for therapists to suffer in order to understand our clients The reality of therapists as business owners Therapist guilt for “earning money” Feminized professions and the expectation of doing things out the goodness of our hearts Rapidly changing social rules versus entrenchment in what has been How this identity shift is spilling over into real life Jealousy, guilt, and shame, and moralism The best therapists have the worst impostor syndrome How to navigate when you're a therapist going against the grain The importance of every therapist doing their own money mindset work Our Generous Sponsor: Trauma Therapist Network Trauma is highly prevalent in mental health client populations and people are looking for therapists with specialized training and experience in trauma, but they often don't know where to start. If you've ever looked for a trauma therapist, you know it can be hard to discern who knows what and whether or not they're the right fit for you. There are so many types of trauma and so many different ways to heal. That's why Laura Reagan, LCSW-C created Trauma Therapist Network.  Trauma Therapist Network is a new resource for anyone who wants to learn about trauma and how it shows up in our lives. This new site has articles, resources and podcasts for learning about trauma and its effects, as well as a directory exclusively for trauma therapists to let people know how they work and what they specialize in, so potential clients can find them. Trauma Therapist Network therapist profiles include the types of trauma specialized in, populations served and therapy methods used, making it easier for potential clients to find the right therapist who can help them.  The Network is more than a directory, though. It's a community. All members are invited to attend community meetings to connect, consult and network with colleagues around the country. Join our growing community of trauma therapists and get 20% off your first month using the promo code:  MTSG20 at www.traumatherapistnetwork.com.   Resources mentioned: We've pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links. Please note that some of the links below may be affiliate links, so if you purchase after clicking below, we may get a little bit of cash in our pockets. We thank you in advance! Katie Read's program: Six Figure Flagship Article in the Atlantic – The New Puritans by Anne Applebaum   Relevant Episodes: Therapist Haters and Trolls Advocacy in the Wake of Looming Mental Healthcare Workforce Shortages In it for the Money? Overcoming Your Poverty Mindset (with Tiffany McLain) Not Your Typical Psychotherapist (with Ernesto Segismundo) How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome to leave your Agency Job (with Patrick Casale)   Connect with us! Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group  Our consultation services: The Fifty-Minute Hour Who we are: Curt Widhalm is in private practice in the Los Angeles area. He is the cofounder of the Therapy Reimagined conference, an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University and CSUN, a former Subject Matter Expert for the California Board of Behavioral Sciences, former CFO of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and a loving husband and father. He is 1/2 great person, 1/2 provocateur, and 1/2 geek, in that order. He dabbles in the dark art of making "dad jokes" and usually has a half-empty cup of coffee somewhere nearby. Learn more at: www.curtwidhalm.com Katie Vernoy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, coach, and consultant supporting leaders, visionaries, executives, and helping professionals to create sustainable careers. Katie, with Curt, has developed workshops and a conference, Therapy Reimagined, to support therapists navigating through the modern challenges of this profession. Katie is also a former President of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. In her spare time, Katie is secretly siphoning off Curt's youthful energy, so that she can take over the world. Learn more at: www.katievernoy.com A Quick Note: Our opinions are our own. We are only speaking for ourselves – except when we speak for each other, or over each other. We're working on it. Our guests are also only speaking for themselves and have their own opinions. We aren't trying to take their voice, and no one speaks for us either. Mostly because they don't want to, but hey.   Stay in Touch: www.mtsgpodcast.com www.therapyreimagined.com Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapist's Group https://www.facebook.com/therapyreimagined/ https://twitter.com/therapymovement https://www.instagram.com/therapyreimagined/   Credits: Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/ Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/   Transcript (Autogenerated) Curt Widhalm  00:00 This episode is sponsored by Trauma Therapist Network.   Katie Vernoy  00:04 Trauma therapist network is a new resource for anyone who wants to learn about trauma and how it shows up in our lives. This new site has articles, resources and podcasts for learning about trauma and its effects, as well as a directory exclusively for trauma therapists to let people know how they work, and what they specialize in so potential clients can find them. Visit trauma therapist network.com To learn more,   Curt Widhalm  00:27 Listen at the end of the episode for more about the trauma therapist network.   Announcer  00:31 You're listening to the modern therapist Survival Guide, where therapists live, breed and practice as human beings to support you as a whole person and a therapist. Here are your hosts, Kurt Wilhelm and Katie Vernoy.   Curt Widhalm  00:47 Welcome back modern therapists, this is modern therapist Survival Guide. I'm Curt Widhalm with Katie Vernoy. BLEEP you! This is the podcast where we talk about all things therapists, therapy related, therapist communities. And we are talking about the ways that we treat each other and a lot of this happens in the online groups. You know who you are. And   Katie Read  01:20 But do they?   Curt Widhalm  01:22 I think they do. Well, helping us here in this conversation today coming back to the show. Our good friend Katie Read. So before we before we start shaming the shamers.   Katie Vernoy  01:37 For shame!   Curt Widhalm  01:39 Tell us a little bit about yourself and what you're bringing into the world.   Katie Read  01:44 Hi, I'm Katie Read. Thank you for having me back. I missed you guys. We haven't been around here for a while.   Katie Vernoy  01:50 I know!   Katie Read  01:51 Good to be back. Although I did get to see you in person at the conference recently, which was amazing. So anyway, you can find me over at six figure flagship dot com. I do. One of the things that plenty of therapists like to shame, which is encouraging therapists who are creative who had that little spark that maybe someday they want to outgrow the therapist office, I... whispering under my hand here, I help them do that. Lest all the shamers jumped out at us. That's what I do. But I have like you been very active in therapists groups over the last couple years, and been often just shocked by the level of shaming that can happen in these groups. And it's so funny, I don't know about you guys. I've told this to other people, non therapists, like neighbors, friends just being like, Yeah, it's amazing. Those groups, people are astounded to hear that therapists would shame one another like it would never occur to them that therapists would be because they think of us all as being nice and wonderful and accepting and loving and caring and empathic, and all of these things. And I know we all three have had conversations in the background, like why does that fall apart on the internet, and I really do think it's just on the internet. It's not in person. It's just on the internet, but on the internet and therapists group. So not that I have any grand answers for this. But I'm super interested in this conversation today.   Katie Vernoy  03:18 We've talked about this in some ways before, and we'll link to those episodes in the show notes that we've got a therapist, haters and trolls. And there's a couple others, I'll look at them when I'm getting ready to put this together. But to me, I think the biggest thing that I see that that has always been shocking to me is the the piling on, that happens at someone put something out there, it becomes given that that is wrong and bad. And somebody has an opinion that this is wrong and bad. And then there's the defenders, but then there are the piler on-ers, is that is that a word? The people that then cosign on this negative information. And then all of a sudden, it's like the snowball effect. And there's like, hundreds of comments, and you are horrible and all of this stuff. And I think that there is an element of this that I think we do want to call people out when they're doing things that are harmful. I think the the criteria for what is harmful sometimes feels a little bit wiggly to me   Curt Widhalm  04:26 I kind of started looking at this more from just kind of a an academic approach. And what sparked this, for me was an article in The Atlantic called the new Puritans by Anne Applebaum. And it's an incredible article, we'll link to it in the show notes. But it starts to talk about the illiberal left, which many therapists politically identify in kind of this political compass of the left side. And what happens in echo chambers like there pice groups is that it becomes many people coming with a desire for positive social change and social mores are changing that. We've seen this happen not only in society, but in our field over the last 20 years. But what happens seemingly is, we're developing this this collective identity in these groups that becomes part of our own identities and seeing other people acting even slightly different than how we would act ends up becoming almost there's harm to our own self identity that needs to be processed and spoken out against when it comes to things like, hey, I want to raise my fees on my clients by $5 per session.   Katie Read  05:51 I find this one absolutely fascinating because I, I don't think I've ever seen a post go by in a group where a therapist has said, Hey, I'm thinking about raising my fees, and have not gotten at least some very heavy negativity thrown their way. Which is so fascinating to me. Because if you step back and you look at any career on Earth, we assume about every human being in the world, that you will always be on a quest to kind of step up to the next level in your career step up to the next level in your income. This is understood if anyone tells you they've gotten a raise, they've gotten a promotion, you say congrats, that's great. When therapists who are self employed, who have only themselves to answer to they are their own bosses, and when they say it's time for my yearly raise, and I have earned my yearly raise this year, and they attempt to give it to themselves, what do the therapist communities often do? Jump in with really crazy stuff really crazy? Oh, I don't know, I didn't get into this career to make money. I couldn't imagine putting my clients under that kind of strange, just really, really deeply shaming words coming at them. And I find it fascinating. You know, and I'm not exactly sure where it comes from. But it's interesting, because in prepping for this podcast, I was thinking about my early days as an intern and, and I do wonder, probably, at least for me, this was part of it. I spent many years even before I went to grad school, I was doing social work type roles in very, very, very impoverished areas. And then during grad school, I was working with foster kids. And then after grad school, I was an on the street social worker in inner city, Oakland, with teenagers and young adults, most of whom were homeless, or they were sex workers or drug addicts, gang members, like Oh, terrible, really difficult lives, right, like really terrible life situations. And I was dead broke, that job paid next to nothing, it was an internship job. And in a way, coming home to my crappy apartment, where people got mugged right outside in broad daylight and eating my ramen noodles, because that was all I could afford. I didn't have to feel so guilty going into work the next day, because my life was certainly better than my clients lives were at that time. But it was still rough, like things were still rough at my end. And I wonder if I remember at the time, I would say to people, I would say, this is the hardest work you can imagine doing. But if you can do it, you just have to do it. Because these people just need the help. And they need the support. And they need people on the street. And I had this very grand idea of what it was to be an on the street social worker doing that kind of work, and, and staying poor for it. And oh, it took me a long, long time to realize that I had to put the air mask on myself first, you know, like on the plane, like it took me a very long time to come to that change. But I wonder if some part of that for a lot of us does start because I think many of us do start in those types of jobs, those types of internships where you're seeing such poverty, you're seeing such difficult lives and you do feel a guilt around that.   Curt Widhalm  08:57 Even in your story here. Part of what I'm hearing is you lead that off with this is unique to therapists. So you're already framing this as part of therapist identity means that you have to do these certain things. Look at the shame that we put on people who go straight from grad school into private practice, like they are bypassing part of that identity. And, you know, the echoes of the criticisms is, well, that's such a privileged place to come from that you didn't have to go through this with all of these other clients. And a big part of that is in this identity becomes this thing called socially prescribed perfectionism that you must do this because what you're doing reflects on me and in combination with socially prescribed perfectionism comes this self imposed perfectionism that I must act this way. Yeah. And if other people whose identities reflects on the same way as mine And that's not how I see myself doing, I have to deal with that internal conflict, and it's much easier to tear you down than it is for me to wrestle with. All right, you do you and I'll do me and we'll both potentially help out the people that we're best suited to help out with.   Katie Read  10:19 That's so interesting. And it's so true. And I wonder. So like, I'm thinking about the people who I did know from grad school who came from different backgrounds who did go straight into private practice and whatnot. And you do wonder, do they feel any of that guilt? Do they carry any of that with them? Does that bounce off of them that they're like, what I was doing exactly what you just said, Curt, like what I was meant to do, I was helping the people I was meant to help. This is where I'm well suited. It's just interesting.   Katie Vernoy  10:45 And it's, it's something where this idea of perfectionism what what resonated for me was this, it's very thinly defined. And not only have I heard the, the negative backlash around charging a high fee, and and I don't know, necessarily that I've seen a lot of the negative feedback with I'm raising my fee by $5 Next year, but it's anybody that has a premium fee gets roasted. And anyone that talks about charging very little or being on insurance panels, also gets roasted, because you're undervaluing the profession, you're, you're making it harder for me to make money. And so there's this really fine line of what's acceptable,   Katie Read  11:27 Acceptable, huh.   Katie Vernoy  11:28 And so this this perfectionism around, I can't, I can't make too much, but I also can't charge too little. It just it feels very crazy making. And I think this, this notion of we're trying to validate our own identity through making everyone else be like us, or like, what the collective has decided is okay, feels kind of scary.   Curt Widhalm  11:57 And the extension of this goes beyond just, you know, the parent comments in some of these, these groups, that there becomes almost this effort to cancel people across multiple posts, that there seems to be so little room for error, and especially in late, like I said, social mores changing of, you know, a lot of the things that I see is, you know, not doing the emotional work or not doing the education work for other therapists who are potentially asking questions around things like critical race theory and involving, you know, wonderment about communities that they might not have experience with that. While there is validity on both sides is I've seen some of this extension go across, you know, bringing up these kinds of arguments across separate posts across separate days, weeks, even months, that his efforts towards this cancel culture esque type thing that serves to only make this problem even worse, by creating even stronger echo chambers of we're only going to listen to people who think exactly like us. And what ends up happening is we get these factions of, you know, well, here's the group of like minded people who sit over here. And here's the group of like minded people who sit over here, and here's the people who are okay with microwaving fish in the office, and they're okay in their own corner. But then it just makes it to where it's uninviting for anybody to have any kind of a dissenting opinion. Because and this is particular to the internet groups that you brought up. Here at the beginning, Katie, internet culture is very, very low context. And therapists are very, very high context people. This is a sociological phenomenon, that high context is understanding people where they're coming from, you know, we spend years studying how to get the high context of our clients. And we're used to communicating with people in this very, very high context sort of way. And then you get like one paragraph on a Facebook post to be able to try and explain something to somebody else. And it's just this very, really low context like fast moving group of people who kind of opt in and opt out but aren't consistently there. That makes it really enticing to pick on well, you're missing all of these high context things that just it's critical, and it's something that because of internet culture, therapists aren't used to having to receive information in that low context sort of way in embracing how we communicate online. Mind. In other words, we think that we're really smart in some areas of our life, and therefore all areas of our life should be really smart. But the internet is not that place.   Katie Read  15:11 And the internet dumbs us down. Well, it's interesting. And a moment ago, I just lost my train of thought you had said something a moment ago that   Curt Widhalm  15:18 I do that to people.   Katie Vernoy  15:20 Just keep talking, it's   Katie Read  15:22 10 minutes back. There was something I just lost it   Katie Vernoy  15:27 Well, keep thinking because I had something you know, a few minutes back when you were talking about your, your experience as kind of an on the on the streets, social worker and having to overcome that self imposed identity around if I am not so privileged, I don't feel guilty going to work. How did you work to overcome that? Because I think we're looking at being shamed for it. And and you did it within that culture, like I know, that I would imagine you have probably been shamed for for what you do, as you know, a six figure flagship even having that is so money title. So right, having the right so and so actually, how do you how have you gotten through it, I guess.   Katie Read  16:12 Yeah. And I can tell my story, but it's interesting, because you just reminded me of what Curt had said that I had wanted to comment on. Because it's all related. You had to Curt the end. And even Katie had said previously, there's this very narrow band of what kind of therapists are willing to accept as appropriate. And because the echo chambers are loud, and because the pile on culture is intense, within therapists groups, what happens is people are terrified to speak. And so we end up with very very milquetoast messaging. That doesn't challenge that doesn't potentially disagree, we end up with people who only want a message in ways that they will not be attacked for because as we all know, it's very painful and scary. If someone's coming at you online, some stranger online and other people are piling on and everyone would love to avoid ever having that situation. So we dial down what is true, what is authentic, what is important, we dial it down into what we hope will fit this narrow little brass band of appropriateness. And it's interesting like us, for me, it took me years and years. I mean, I eventually went from we eventually moved my husband and I to a different town, I opened up a small private practice. And it's funny, I was one of those therapists, and I was in California, where therapy rates are high. But I was the person where I was charging $90 an hour. And I was the person who set it like this, when a new client came in or called me and said, What's your fee? I went? Well, it's 90. But I can slide I can slide. What do you need, I mean, I can do whatever you need, I can really I get whatever you need, whatever you need, like that was me all the time. Because again, I was still carrying this guilt, about even charging that much and feeling like well, I couldn't even afford to go see me for therapy. So how can I think somebody else's, I was very much in my clients pockets. And what was really interesting was, I had been in this office for a while, you know, I rented my time other people came in and out. And there were several interns in the office, all supervised by this one supervisor. And I was speaking with one of the interns when we were crossing paths one day, and at this point, I had been a licensed therapist. For years, I had worked my way through community mental health up to being a program director, I had taught grad school, I had done all these things. And I was still charging this low rate because of my own internal money issues. And this intern, I don't know how we got on the subject. But she said, Oh, yeah, our supervisor now she was still in grad school. There's a person in her first year of grad school, an intern seeing clients. And she said, Well, our supervisor won't let us start any lower than 125 as our hourly rate, we're not allowed to slide under that they were private pay 125 for the interns. And my mind was blown. That here I was with years of experience behind me years of training behind me. And I it really in that moment hit me I was like I am doing this wrong. I am absolutely doing this wrong. And I need to start working on this. And some of it was working on my money mindset, honestly, for me, doing what I eventually did and wanting to outgrow the office that was motivated by different things like we moved states and then I wasn't licensed for a year while I went through the licensure process in a new state. So my path out of the office and outgrowing the office was sort of organic. It wasn't a pre plan type of thing. It just happened that I moved into coaching and ended up loving it. But within the coaching world, you really really get challenged very quickly on your financial mindset. And you really actually learn very quickly that the norm in the rest of the world is if you bring great value into someone's life, you are well paid for it. And we therapists continually underestimate the great, great, transformative, wildly important value that we bring into people lives. And whether you choose to continue to do it in the context of therapy or to write a book, or to go on a speaking tour to do any of the number of things that therapists can go out in the world, and do, we do by virtue of our passion, our education, all of these things, we bring great value we bring about great transformation in people's lives, and in most of the rest of the world, that would be naturally richly rewarded. But because of sort of the culture, and I honestly think part of it is just the culture of how government even is set up that we need to be able to have cheap labor to go out and work with the people who need help the most. And so many of us, like we said, started off in community mental health in some form, or in schools, which are very underfunded just, we start off as sort of cheap labor. And it's hard to get out of that mindset that we should always remain just cheap labor, or that what we do is not that highly valued in society where, of course, I don't know about you, I remember, every therapist I've had, and I remember them dearly. And they were hugely impactful at those times in my life, and every one of your clients and everybody out there listening. It's the exact same way, you're hugely impactful.   Curt Widhalm  21:14 You know, as I'm listening to this, and going back to that piece by Anne Applebaum, she makes mention of The Scarlet Letter as kind of this this parallel of what's going on with the liberal left. And the thing about this is one of that one of the major themes from the scarlet letter is the the priest who impregnates Hester, I'm forgetting his name right offhand. But he is seen as more virtuous because his sermons have so much empathy, from his own sins that there's almost this parallel what's going on with the groups here that we're seeing of like, we have suffered this injustice. And therefore we're better at what we do in relating to our clients, because we've done this. And especially when it comes to things like privilege and fees in this kind of stuff. It's like, you're, you're not able to relate to your clients as well. Because you haven't done this suffering, and you haven't done this, and therefore, you must suffer in order to be able to be a better therapist.   Katie Read  22:21 Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's so interesting, isn't it. And so as some of that just coming down, is that just back to that therapist skills, we were talking just today, I had my meeting with my folks in my clinic coach, six figure flagship, and we were talking, there's one therapist, she's putting an unbelievable amount of work into an event that she's producing just probably hundreds of hours of her labor is going into this work. It's a passion project. She's so excited about it. And she came to the group and she said, I'm donating all the proceeds to charity. And I was like,   Katie Vernoy  22:56 Oh, wow.   Katie Read  22:59 And so we really, we took it apart a lot, like we coach through it a lot in the group. And today in our meeting, and I was, like, you know, like part of this here is that we are also business owners. And when you put in hundreds of hours of unpaid labor on something, you actually need to retain at least the majority of your profits, so that you can reinvest them into your own business, so that you can stay afloat, have savings of money for like all the things that we need to do. But really, to me, what I was hearing was therapist skill was I don't want it to look to anyone, like I'm trying to actually make any money. I want it to look like out of the goodness of my heart, I'm putting on this big event for all my fellow therapists to learn and grow. But God forbid someone think I might earn money from doing this. Yeah. And so it's just it was fascinating, because I don't think there's any other profession, where they would even consider for a minute giving every single bit of all this labor, all this unpaid labor straight to charity, without a second thought, maybe with many second thoughts, but feeling like this is what I should do.   Katie Vernoy  24:05 Yeah, yeah, I just I think about teachers, I think about oftentimes nurses, part of it is kind of feminized professions do have this this impact where the majority of the folks in those professions are non male. And so there is an expectation, this is something we should be doing out of the goodness of our hearts. And it seems very mercenary if we would ask for money for it. You know, there are, you know, during the pandemic, these poor teachers, were finally getting recognition for what they actually do for folks' kids. But as soon as you know, even even well into the pandemic I started to get because I work with some teachers. I was started hearing that people were complaining that the teachers weren't doing enough and we're paying their salaries and why aren't they doing enough? And it's like, whoa, you know, or if they go on strike that is just heartless. So it's heartless. And it's kind of like would you work for the salary that they work for? And then we've seen the same with the Kaiser therapists. That was one of the things that happened. We see the same with nurses.   Curt Widhalm  25:11 I mean, our episode, recently where we talked about, you know, let's just throw more Subway sandwiches at therapists,   Katie Vernoy  25:19 workforce shortage at episode that we just put up.   Curt Widhalm  25:21 Yeah, it's just it's throwing more Subway sandwiches at therapists because, you know, how dare you ask for money. And part of this is as a field that our median age is higher than many other fields. And that anytime that we have a field that has rapidly changing social rules to it, it makes it to where, especially with fields that are older, like ours, the entrenchment becomes a lot more rigid. And so I think that that's contributing to part of this, too, is that there's, there's this almost cultural battle that we're facing within our field that is leading to a new identity. And if we're honest about it, we contribute to that a lot here in the podcast, we do call out things that we don't like, including calling out other therapists calling out other therapists. So we do encourage you to let us know your thoughts and feelings on this publicly in any of the therapist groups. But this happens, systemically it happens individually as well. And, you know, I do see this happening outside of the therapist groups, and actually it is spilling over into in real life as well. To hearing this, you know, from some of the practices, hiring people, where I think rightfully, employees entering into the workforce are asking for living wages. And it is a power balance shifts that is leading to things like some of the workforce shortages that we talked about in the other episode.   Katie Read  27:14 Let me ask you, Curt, because as you were talking about sort of the field being a little bit older, in terms of median age and whatnot, I wonder, and I'm curious, just either of your thoughts on this. Do you feel like so let's say you are out there, whatever age you are, really, but you're a therapist, you've kind of become acclimated to the 50k a year therapist average median income, you've kind of surrendered yourself to the fact that you have a very hard job that you can't talk to anyone about, that you are bound by ethics and confidentiality, that you don't get to come home and vent about your day, you have to keep a lot of things bottled up. And at the same time, you know, you're probably worried every month, if you have a $400 car bill this month, it's gonna throw you over the edge, you're not going to have a cushion for that. And then you go into a therapist group, and you see somebody who says, I charge 200 an hour in my area, and I'm doing great and everything's fine. Do you think part of this backlash is just that feeling of threat, that you can't do that or that you haven't chosen that or that you haven't gone to do whatever it is you need to do internally, whatever that sort of money work is that you need to do to actually start charging closer to your worth as an experienced person in the field?   Curt Widhalm  28:30 Absolutely. 100% think that a lot of where we socially prescribe other therapists to be comes from our own anecdotal histories. And our inability is to deal with our own crap when it comes to our relationships to money, our relationships to our professional identities, that and, you know, this even happens in things that I see like in law ethics workshops, that I teach that it's not even just about money thing, but just how much we distance ourselves from other people who make mistakes. You know, if somebody's name shows up in the spider pages, the disciplinary actions, how quickly are to just like, unfriend them or take them off of our LinkedIn connections? Even if it's something that might points closer to us, you know, you see this and things like people who admit to not being caught up on their notes and just kind of the furthering away, you know, these are ethical and legal responsibilities that we have in our profession. And as compassionate people we tend to have very little compassion for the other people in our profession. When they don't do the same kinds of steps that we think that we should be doing or have been doing all along ourselves.   Katie Vernoy  29:52 You're really saying jealousy, guilt and shame.   Curt Widhalm  29:54 Yes!   Katie Vernoy  29:56 Because I think of like the especially I think with the environment around you, Katie, which is like the six figure flagship, it's people outgrowing the office, it's that kind of notion of very successful, you know, I'm going to make a lot of money, I'm going to, I'm going to live a life. And and you don't argue that that comes easily. I saw your post on kind of hustle seasons. And so I appreciate that. But I think that there's this notion that you can work really hard, create something that's more sustainable and make a lot of money. And I think there's a jealousy there, either of the energy that you personally have. I know I'm jealous of your energy. And then there's also the success that people have, I think there's a jealousy there. And so then it's that kind of like, well, I didn't want it anyway, like that. That's wrong, because I don't think I can get it. I'm jealous that you have it. And so I don't really want it. And this, there's all of these moral reasons and moralizing around why I don't want it. I think what you're talking about Curt is kind of this guilt and shame over, I've been doing things wrong. I can't do that, because it goes against these self imposed values and morals that I've put around being a hard worker, that is one of the people and I am not going to I'm not in this for the money. And I'm doing this because it's so valuable. And even thinking about money is so mercenary and wrong. And so there's that guilt and shame of wanting more, but feeling like it goes against either the collective morals or the personal morals. And so to me, it's like if we think about guilt, shame, and jealousy, I mean, the fact that there is so many of those emotions that come out in these public shreddings, in these social media groups or on pages or whatever, like it just it seems strange to me, that therapist would would have those in such huge, huge, impactful ways.   Katie Read  31:54 It's interesting, too, because I was just putting together a workshop where we talked about how typically the best therapists tend to have the worst imposter syndrome. And I think imposter syndrome falls into what you're talking about, and the fact that because we all tend to be pretty intellectual, pretty academic, you know, even those of us who are super heart led, we all still have like our little academic streak. And I think that we all walk around with this belief that if I am not the top researcher in a particular field, I have nothing to say it's very black and white. If I am not the absolute most published person in this particular theory, I should just sit down and shut up, I know nothing, as opposed to being able to see all the gradients, being able to see all of the expertise that everyone has and that you can bring in that could benefit so many more people. If you were brave enough to kind of fight your own imposter syndrome. Stand up, talk about what you know, help even more people that way.   Katie Vernoy  32:55 Yeah.   Katie Read  32:56 But we get very caught in that. Because this will not win a Pulitzer, I might as well not even write it. I might as well not even try it. And I just want what's the point? What's   Katie Vernoy  33:06 and and how dare you, other person that is doing this? How dare you do that? Because I've decided, even though I may have more knowledge than you   Katie Read  33:17 Yes,   Katie Vernoy  33:17 that I'm not good enough to speak on it. So how dare you!   Katie Read  33:20 How dare you? Exactly. Oh, isn't that so true. And I do think this is what we see play out in therapists groups. And I do think it's terribly sad, because at the end of the day, to me, I always think the lay public are the only losers here. Because when you choose to not speak out, when you choose to not share what you know, when you choose to not be open and vulnerable, and who you are, and say, I know I might not be the world renowned expert on XYZ. But let me tell you a little bit about what I do know, because you might think it's interesting. And I think the thing a lot of therapists don't realize because we're sort of taught to write dissertation style for everything is that the average person doesn't want that. They do want the little tidbit. They do want the little micro snippet that you pulled from an interesting article you read that you couldn't get out of your mind yesterday, share that that's what they want to because it'll get into their head too and it'll help them in their life just like it helps you they don't need your full scope dissertation on anything.   Katie Vernoy  34:19 Yeah.   Curt Widhalm  34:20 So is the answer and stop hanging out with other therapists?   Katie Read  34:29 I don't know let's vote should we go around and vote? I you know it's interesting though, you I definitely think it's something that we talk about in our group is that we talked about how when you even when I when I first started doing the most basic stuff, offering like copywriting for therapists offering basic marketing for therapists in this tiny little way like putting a post on Facebook Hey, need help with your copywriting? You know, these tiny little ways? I had rude people I had predicted people I know going well that's never gonna go anywhere. What are you even doing? Why are you doing that? And so I just want all my students like any time, you are going against the grain a little bit breaking the mold a little bit of what it means to be a helping professional, because what I believe at the end of the day is what you call it doesn't matter as much as what you're actually doing. Are you out there helping people in some form? Is your internal calling to be out there helping people in some form? Great, are you doing it? If you are, and if you feel good and authentic, and you know that you are living out your calling that you are truly helping people in some form? Does it matter if you call it therapy today, and maybe tomorrow, it's consulting, and you have consulting clients, and maybe the next day you build an online course where you help people and maybe you go speak at a school the next day, doesn't matter what form it's in, that you're helping people as long as you are authentically helping people what you were called to do, does the name matter? So you can hang out with a therapist like that. Kurt,   Katie Vernoy  36:00 I hear you saying that hanging out with therapists who have that broader perspective that aren't so tied into the Puritan culture is probably helpful for folks that are really coming, that are pushing against the grain in some way. And and I really resonate with that, because I think that's, that's why we found each other and   Katie Read  36:18 That's what you've done   Katie Vernoy  36:22 We've been trying, you know, we don't we don't avoid the purity culture, we just try to push back against it. But I think it's, it's something where when you're really trying to step out and help people in a bigger way, it is, it is important that you find the right people to spend time with because you can get tamped down by purity culture,   Katie Read  36:40 You can. Well, and I should say this, like for a lot of us, I know for me, when I was I think it is important for therapists to do money work on ourselves, go read the self help books, go, you know, sign up with Tiffany...   Curt Widhalm  36:53 GO DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH!   Katie Read  36:58 I think it's important to do that. And I think it's important to hang out with people who get it and have done it. And I think for all of us to, there is a way that you can feel good about what you charge and feel good about what you give back. And that that is going to be different for everyone, whether it's that you do a couple free or cheap sessions every single week, or you give a certain amount to charity every year, like whatever that looks like for you. You can still set this up in a way where you're not going to feel like a greedy bastard, for earning a good living where you still know that you are I mean, for me, when I started outgrowing the office, honestly, my entire motivation was security. My husband worked at a large multinational corporation that was doing layoffs, rolling layoffs every single month. And every single month, it felt like we were going to be any minute we were going to be homeless because he was going to get laid off. And that was the bread and butter of the family. And what then and all I really wanted was some security. And so that drove me and I was like I said we had moved states. And so I didn't have a license in my new state. I couldn't just go open a therapy office, it drove me to get creative and do something else. But I think when your motivation comes from that, like there's, I don't know, a lot of therapists who are like, I'm gonna go get rich so that I can have seven maaser body it's like, it's just not who we are, you know, like, that's just not what we're doing here.   Katie Vernoy  38:16 Well, we do have to end here, but but I think we also if there is a therapist that wants to get ready to get seven Montserrado for months, seven months. Go for it do. So before we close up, where can people find you?   Katie Read  38:30 Six Figure flagship.com is the main program that we run right now it's an application only program for mental health therapists who do want to outgrow the office, that is the best place to find me. And otherwise, I'll just be kind of hanging out with you guys.   Katie Vernoy  38:44 I love it. Always again, it   Curt Widhalm  38:47 We will include a link to Katie's websites in our show notes. You can find those over at MTS g podcast.com. And follow us on our social media join our Facebook groups modern therapists group and   Katie Read  39:01 Or we will shame you.    Curt Widhalm  39:03 we actually have a really good group that seems to   Katie Read  39:08 No I said we will shame them for not joining it, we find them.   Curt Widhalm  39:14 Some we will post those links and until next time, I'm Curt Widhalm with Katie Vernoy And Katie Read.   Katie Vernoy  39:20 Thanks again to our sponsor, Trauma Therapist Network.   Curt Widhalm  39:24 If you've ever looked for a trauma therapist, you can know it can be hard to discern who knows what and whether or not they're the right fit for you. There's so many types of trauma and so many different ways to heal. That's why Laura Reagan LCSW WC created trauma therapist network. 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