Escape the Strong Woman Trap

It feels like I can't stop talking about my grief. So I talk about it. I hope it gives other people permission to talk about their own grief. I hope they give their grief space so it doesn't shove its way in.

We sometimes discover that belonging comes with a price. What changes have you made to stay with a tribe? Has your tribe ever grown to hold growing you?

What would you do to be able to say Yes to your life? Do you know how you want to feel? If you knew what feeling good really felt like, would you choose it? Also, check out: Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes. It's GOOD!

Have you ever tried to "get your body back"? Where will you be in your own estimation when you get "back" to the place your body once was? Where are you (and your body) right now? Also, check out the movie Embrace, available on iTunes and Amazon.

Who is benefitting from you running yourself ragged just to keep up appearances? Who are you trying to be by keeping up the habits you have? What if you stopped being and doing what you think others expect you to be and do?

There is no greater invitation to violence and oppression than resisting change that wants to happen. Change can come peacefully or as a rain of fire. What will you choose?

Why is it when we face our greatest upsets we are most stingy and mean to ourselves? What if self care could change the world?

Don't be too quick to call out imposter syndrome--it's not a catch all reason for high achieving women having trouble in new environments. Here are some strategies for when self doubt has the microphone.

Why do we have to keep proving that women are capable of being as great as men? Or breaking the glass ceiling? The ceiling is going to keep moving until we invent something new.

Ever hear women say they don't want to be called feminists because they don't want to be thought of as victims? Ever been told that the secret to getting ahead is being one of the boys? Ever wonder why both those things are fucked?

It can happen here. The small acts of tyranny and terror that we say yes to in service of being "reasonable" or to just get along give way to greater tyrannies and terrors. The events of today shouldn't come as a surprise if we look at how we as women have been trained to respond all along.