Ship Wreck

Hold on tight. This week Suz and Nick go commando with no outline. Topics include best practices in the zombie apocalypse, your relationship with yourself, how we need to flush the superlative "SELFLESS" down the toilet, why it's so damn hard to break our behavior patterns, and much, much more.

Making new friends as an adult can be hard, but having solid friendships outside of your romantic relationship(s) is really important. We need to kill the myth that our significant other can be our "everything". In this episode, Nick and Suz break down adult friendships--how to make them, why we need them, and whether straight men and women can really just be friends.

Suz and Nick list practical tips for communication and improving dynamics with loved ones and family (however and whomever you’re living with) during isolation. (Books referenced: Stepmonster by Wednesday Martin, PhD; Codependent No More by Melody Beattie)

In the first part of a mini collection of episodes dealing with codependency during Covid-19, Nick and Suz go through an 11-question quiz (yoinked from a video by John Kim, aka: The Angry Therapist) that may determine whether you have dependent tendencies in your relationships. Grab a pen and tally how many of these questions you answer "yes" to: 1) Do you feel guilty for asserting yourself or speaking up? 2) Do you find yourself being the go-to for your friends/family/coworkers as a sympathetic ear or for favors--or are you the person others often seek out to verbally vomit on? 3) Does it sometimes feel like your feelings and needs don't matter? 4) Are you (or were you, growing up) the peacemaker in your family? Did your parents/siblings often fight and you had the job of the referee, smoothing things over? 5) Are you constantly disappointed by being let down by others, or by not being able to trust or rely on others? 6) Do you FEAR that if you told people how you really felt they would judge you or leave you? 7) Does it feel good to be relied upon? That is: do you derive self-worth/value in being the go-to? 8) Does it feel like very few people (or maybe none at all) really know you? 9) When someone is upset or angry, do you feel guilty-- even if you weren't the direct cause of their upset? Even if you had no involvement at all? 10) Do you find yourself obsessing about interactions with people long after the interaction is over? 11) Is it difficult to say no when someone makes demands on your time or energy? (John Kim did an 8-minute video on this quiz-- we talked about it for an hour and 8 minutes... that's how we operate, guys.) Let us know how YOU are finding ways to navigate your relationships during Covid isolation. How are you asking for what you need? How are you communicating differently? How have your relationship dynamics changed?  email us at shipwreckpod@gmail.com

Nick and Suz go through 5 ways to set and hold boundaries in all of your relationships. 1) Being direct 2) Recognizing self-abandonment 3) Permission to change your mind 4) Self-care and making yourself a priority 5) Being ok if looks like a relationship is going to end

Nick and Suz dive into several types of personality tests, give their results, and discuss how these kinds of tests can help inform our identities and make us more conscious about how we think, behave, and interact with others. (*BuzzFeed quizzes not actually discussed.) Actually Discussed: Hogwart's House Enneagram High 5 Test  Myers-Briggs Want to share your results and insights with us? Got a question or a topic for us?  email us: shipwreckpod@gmail.com   or drop us a voicemail on Speakpipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/shipwreckpodcast

Ooo boy we cover a lot! Suz and Nick discuss where the baby/animal talk voice comes from, how our enneagram numbers help us figure ourselves out, how feelings aren’t facts (but they ARE valid, so don't be a dick about it), plus boundaries, projection, and asking before emotionally dumping on loved ones! Contact us: email: shipwreckpod@gmail.com IG: @shipwreckpodcast Voicemail: speakpipe.com/shipwreckpodcast

Suz and Nick talk about traditional gender role stereotypes and how they affect power dynamics in relationships. Nick spots a cat. Suz eats some grapes.

Suz and Nick go deep into the weeds with problematic relationships in movies and the ways those films have influenced them and society as a whole.

In the first episode of their relationship and self-development podcast, Suz and Nick answer "why this podcast and why start it now?", as well as touching on the themes of codependency and ancestral trauma.

Nick and Suz tease their new podcast “Ship Wreck”