Podcasts about Melody Beattie

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Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2024 8:35

Today is going to be a short podcast, but it's going to be a very useful one. I'm going to talk about morning routines. I'm going to be using, I haven't used it in a while, the fabulous Melody Beattie. The Language of Letting Go And this reading that I'm going to be coaching off of is called Morning Cues. Melody says, “There is an important message for us first thing every day. Often, once we get started with the day, we may not listen as closely to ourselves and life as we do in those still moments when we first awaken. An ideal time to listen to ourselves is when we are laying quietly, our defenses are down, and we're open and most vulnerable.” Now, I'm going to stop there because I'm going to tell you what I do for my morning routine and then I'm going to continue to read Melody's reading. Every morning, when I get up, I make myself a cup of tea. That's a non negotiable. And then,while my husband makes me a egg white omelette, as he does pretty much every single morning, He's a master at the egg white omelette. I just have to say. The guy should open up a cafe. What I do is I go outside and I look at the mountains because I live near mountains. And I sit and I go through two prayers. And after I finish those two prayers, I then open up my little notebook and I read out loud the things that I want most. And in reading those things, I am affirming them. And sometimes I'll be using visualization. Sometimes I'm just saying them. Sometimes I'm just thinking them. But what it does is it really tunes me into what I want the focus of my life and my day to be. And when I finish, I always say these words, “Peter Pamela Rose, suiting up, showing up, reporting for duty.” And that duty is not only to the Universe, God, whatever you want to call it, my God, it's also to me. And it's also to my life and what is important to me, in this one brief shot I have on this earth. So I hope that inspires you, but I'm going to go on and continue to read what the fabulous Melody Beattie says. She says, “What is the first feeling that floods through us? The feeling that perhaps we are trying to avoid during the business of the day? Are we angry, frustrated, hurt, or confused? That is what we need to focus on and work through. That is the issue.” We need to address and I agree that is very helpful and then go on to affirm that you will be able to do that or that you are doing it in that morning routine for me what I am filled with in the morning and this is I'm coming up on my 30th anniversary of doing this work is that I am at peace with who I am now. And I just want to become a bigger, better, badassier version of Peter Pamela Rose than I already am. She also asks, “What is the first idea or thought that enters your mind? Do you need to finish a timely project? Are you in need of a fun day, a restful day?” I also think that is a great question to ask yourself, because that tells you what you most don't want to do, which becomes the number one thing you need to do to build self esteem, to build trust in yourself. She asks, “do you feel sick and need to nurture yourself? Are you in a negative frame of mind? Do you have an issue that you need to resolve with someone?” Again, pay attention to those first thoughts so you know where the healing needs to go. Do you need to tell someone something? Is something bothering you? Is something feeling particularly good? Does an idea occur to you? That happens to me all the time while I'm affirming in the morning. In the morning does an idea occur to you? Something you could get or something that would make you feel good? What are those things? Embrace the good. Embrace the challenge. Embrace the learning that you are listening to first thing in the morning. When you awaken, what is the first issue that presents itself? You don't have to be fearful. Be brave. You don't have to rush. Go as slowly as you need to in order to take care of yourself. Lay. Listen. Be still. Accept the message. And then, affirm the good. Find that relationship between you and the universe. And state to yourself that today, I will suit up, show up, and report for duty. Mostly to myself.

1089: Thanksgiving Calm: A Guided Meditation for Gratitude

The Anxiety Coaches Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2024 21:56

In today's episode, Gina shares a guided meditation with listeners to help cultivate peace and calm during the holiday season. Listen to Gina's soothing voice as she expresses her own gratitude for you the listener and gently guides listeners through reflecting on their own gratitude during this holiday of giving thanks. Tune in and discover more peace and calm today. Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. -Melody Beattie Chapters 0:42 Thanksgiving Calm 4:23 Guided Meditation Introduction 5:59 Breathing into Calm 8:25 Inward Reflection 10:06 Light of Gratitude 11:39 Extending Gratitude 13:00 Affirmations of Gratitude 15:24 Carrying Gratitude Forward Summary In this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, I delve into the theme of gratitude through a guided meditation designed to cultivate a sense of calm during the Thanksgiving season. As we gather in this reflective space, I express my heartfelt appreciation to you, the listener. Your engagement with this podcast—whether through listening, sharing, or contributing with questions—creates a meaningful community dedicated to fostering peace in our lives. Thanksgiving is the perfect backdrop for this exploration of gratitude. I share a poignant quote from Melody Beattie that encapsulates the essence of this practice: “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more.” This quote serves as a reminder that gratitude is about shifting our perspective rather than changing our circumstances. By embracing a mindset of thankfulness, we can experience a profound sense of abundance in both our lives and the world around us, turning the ordinary moments into extraordinary ones. The episode transitions into a soothing guided meditation focused on gratitude. I encourage listeners to find a comfortable position and prepare to journey inward. This meditation promotes the recognition and appreciation of life's gifts, particularly for those facing challenges such as anxiety and depression. As we breathe together, I guide you to release stress and tension, anchoring your awareness in the present moment. You are invited to reflect on your body and the simple yet profound aspects of existence—your breath, your heartbeat, and your resilience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Heal Codependency & Learn TRUE Self-Love w/ Melody Beattie (BEST OF)

Unleash Your Inner Creative with Lauren LoGrasso

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2024 55:58

Hi loves! Since it's the Holiday season, I thought, what better episode to reshare with you than this one with Melody Beattie (Author of Codependent No More) on how to release and heal from codependency. Check out the original description below and Happy Thanksgiving!Original Description: Today's guest is Melody Beattie. She's a New York Times Best Selling Author known for titles such as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, Beyond Codependency, and her most famous book, Codependent No More-which just came out with a revised and updated edition that you should check out! Codependent No More, has sold over 7 million copies since its release in 1986. Melody is a true pioneer in this field and has helped millions find healing. Her work has changed my life, and it might just change yours, too!From our chat you'll learn:-The true meaning of codependency and whether you might be codependent-How to heal codependency through creativity-What it REALLY even means to love yourself -How to not turn on yourself when you're disappointed-How to trust the creative process--even if it takes YEARS!-Why Codependent No More IS Actually a romance novel-Plus never-before-heard insight into Melody's creative process and how she birthed the original Codependent No More!-And More! Check out Melody's work and get her new edition of Codependent No More here: https://melodybeattie.com/ -Remember to subscribe/follow the show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your pods. Please leave us a rating and review- it helps SO much in getting the show out there. And tell a friend about the show- podcasts are very personal and tend to be spread person to person. If this show helped you or made you smile, share the love :) Follow the show: @unleashyourinnercreative Follow me: @LaurenLoGrassoHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Awareness: The First Step in Healing Codependency in Soul Recovery Inspired from 'The Language of Letting Go'

Recover Your Soul: A Spiritual Path to a Happy and Healthy Life

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2024 28:55 Transcription Available

Send one way text to Rev Rachel Awareness is the first step to change. In this episode, we dive deep into the power of awareness as a cornerstone of the Soul Recovery process. Inspired by the November 25th reading from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie, we reflect on how awareness allows us to step back from fear and control, preparing us for growth and transformation.As we approach the holiday season—a time often filled with old patterns, family dynamics, and the desire for perfection—this episode offers tools to help you stay grounded, mindful, and aligned with your higher self. Together, we'll explore the cycle of awareness, acceptance, and change, discovering how to reclaim your power and let go of the need to fix or control those around you.Join me as we reflect on how Soul Recovery provides the spiritual strength and clarity to navigate life's complexities with grace and authenticity. Whether you're spending the holidays with family, friends, or simply holding space for yourself, this episode is a loving reminder to honor your own journey.Join us on December 2nd for the next FREE Soul Recovery Support Group from 6-7PM Mountain Time on Zoom. Ready to work the Steps on on your own? Use code WORKNEW1 for $20 off the new Step One Module "Ready for Awakening" until the end of November. Visit the Website www.RecoverYourSoul.net This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showFor more information about Rev. Rachel Harrison and Recover Your Soul- visit www.recoveryoursoul.net use the code TRYASESSION for 40% off your first Spiritual Coaching session. Join us the 1st Monday of every month for the FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM Mountain Time.Make a one time or monthly donation to support the Recover Your Soul Podcast. Follow on Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook and join the private Facebook group to be part of the RYS community. Listen to a BONUS episode each Friday by becoming a Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Episode Transcripts

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Agony Aunties on Finding Your Path in a Difficult Relationship

Therapy Works

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2024 15:45

A person seeks advice from the Agony Aunties about dealing with a husband who regularly expresses frustration, anger, and suicidal threats, which affects the whole family. They emphasise understanding one's own limits and seeking support, discussing concepts like codependency and the importance of self-care. They suggest looking into resources like support groups, while maintaining open communication with the children and considering the impact on their well-being. They recommend resources such as CoDA.org and the book 'Codependent No More' by Melody Beattie, while also addressing the complexities of maintaining relationships amidst conflict. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Breaking Codependency: Letting Life Happen with Melody Beattie

We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2024 63:00

Melody Beattie shares the difference between healthy and unhealthy helping: - The daily practice that helps Melody stop controlling others and “Let Life Happen.” - Why no one is able to gaslight you more than you. - The one area of life where Codependence is necessary. - All four of us surrender to the truth that we will never be Codependent No More. About Melody A pioneering voice in self-help literature, Melody Beattie is the author of many bestselling books, including Codependent No More – a #1 New York Times bestseller, which has sold over 7 million copies – as well as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, and Beyond Codependency. An updated edition of the bestselling, modern classic, Codependent No More, is available now. Melody lives in Southern California. TW: @MelodyBeattie IG: @authormelodybeattie To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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34: Navigating Dating Burnout as a Sensitive Person

Sensitive Stories

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2024 40:54 Transcription Available

Are you feeling burned out by the dating process or struggling to show up in your relationships? In this episode, I talk with Rebecca Marcus, LCSW about going at your own pace and: • Caring for yourself when starting new relationships just as you would in every other part of your life • Not comparing yourself to others when dating and choosing the right pace for you • Slowing down to process and reflect throughout the dating process to understand how you feel about the other person • The importance of honoring and speaking your needs with the other people in your life, even if they're also highly sensitive Rebecca is a social worker in NYC who helps Millennial women chill out, get confident, and trust themselves and their dating process, so they can find and keep the love they want. Growing up on Disney movies, rom coms, and fairy tales about Prince Charming that showed unrealistic expectations of relationships, dating, and love only led to chaos and confusion when she started dating. So for a decade, she's helped millennial women navigate the confusing NYC dating scene, break toxic patterns, and create relationships and a life filled with meaning and joy. Keep in touch with Rebecca: • Website: https://rmpsychotherapy.com • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rm.psychotherapy Resources Mentioned: • Free Meditation: https://rmpsychotherapy.com/subscribe • Dating Groups: https://rmpsychotherapy.com/group • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781954118157 • Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9780553062182 • The Empath's Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781683642114 Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

Breaking Free: Embracing Independence Through 'Codependent No More' by Melody Beattie

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Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2024 15:08

Chapter 1:Summary of Codependent No More"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie is a self-help book that addresses the concept of codependency, particularly how it affects individuals in relationships. Key Themes and Concepts:1. Definition of Codependency: Beattie defines codependency as a pattern of behavior where individuals prioritize the needs and feelings of others over their own, often at the expense of their own well-being.2. Characteristics of Codependent Individuals: The book outlines typical traits of codependent people, including low self-esteem, a tendency to take responsibility for others' feelings, difficulty in setting boundaries, and an overwhelming desire to please others.3. Impact of Codependency: Beattie explores how codependency can be rooted in family dynamics, particularly in homes with addiction or dysfunction, and how it can perpetuate unhealthy relationships and cycles.4. Breaking the Cycle: The author emphasizes that codependent individuals can reclaim their lives by recognizing their patterns, setting boundaries, and learning to take care of themselves. This requires self-reflection, developing self-esteem, and practicing self-care.5. Practical Tools and Strategies: The book offers practical advice, exercises, and affirmations for readers to identify their codependent behaviors and work towards healthier relationships. Techniques include journaling, engaging in therapy, and creating a support system.6. Empowerment and Growth: Beattie promotes the idea that healing from codependency is possible. Readers are encouraged to pursue personal growth, cultivate independence, and recognize that it's okay to prioritize their own needs and feelings.Overall, "Codependent No More" serves as a guide for individuals seeking to understand codependency, foster healthier relationships, and nurture their own emotional well-being.Chapter 2:The Theme of Codependent No More"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie is a seminal work in the field of self-help and recovery for individuals dealing with codependency, particularly in relationships affected by addiction or dysfunction. Here are the key plot points, character development, and thematic ideas in the book: Key Plot Points1. Understanding Codependency: Beattie introduces the concept of codependency, describing it as a dysfunctional relationship pattern characterized by excessive reliance on others for self-worth and emotional regulation.2. Identifying Symptoms: The author outlines various symptoms and behaviors common in codependent individuals, such as people-pleasing, enabling, and emotional numbness.3. Personal Stories and Anecdotes: Throughout the book, Beattie shares personal stories and anecdotes from her own life and from others in recovery, illustrating the impact of codependency on relationships and personal well-being.4. The Cycle of Codependency: She discusses the cyclical nature of codependency, detailing how it perpetuates unhealthy relationships and keeps individuals trapped in a pattern of care-taking that undermines their self-esteem.5. Steps Toward Recovery: Beattie provides practical strategies and steps for readers to break free from codependent patterns, encouraging self-care, boundary-setting, and self-reflection.6. The Importance of Support: The author emphasizes the value of support groups, such as Al-Anon and Codependents Anonymous, as essential resources for recovery and healing. Character Development- Melody Beattie as a Guide: As the author, Beattie acts as both a mentor and a confidante, drawing on her own experiences with codependency and addiction. Her journey from codependency to self-acceptance serves as a source of...

Terri Cole on What High-Functioning Codependency Is — and How to Reverse It

I'd Rather Be Reading

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2024 39:18

What an episode we have for you today, listeners. Today on the show we have the phenomenal Terri Cole, whose work about boundaries I have so resonated with in the past. She has a new book out on October 15 called Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, and it examines what we thought we knew about codependency. We have had the godmother of codependency, Melody Beattie, on the show, and Melody introduced the concept to the world. Now, in Too Much, Terri is taking the concept to the next level, introducing us to high-functioning codependency. In today's conversation we define what high-functioning codependency, or HFC, is, what it looks like, some common behaviors exhibited by those who have it, and how those with HFC got to this place. You also might have heard this called “overfunctioning.” You'll hear me say this many times throughout this episode, but I identify as a recovering HFC, and Terri writes that these behaviors are “highly programmed and largely unconscious.” Terri, too, is a recovering HFC, and writes in Too Much that “prioritizing the wants, needs, and outcomes of others over my own well-being was my default setting.” She talks about the moment she knew she couldn't go on this way, and the book is a deeply personal one to her. We also talk about how we draw the line from being caring and a high-functioning codependent — and when we know, as the book's title suggests, that it's too much. By the way, when it comes to romantic relationships, codependents are attracted to narcissists, and the reverse is true, as well. The book talks about how we can prevent this deeply unhealthy combination. In our conversation today, we talk about the cost to a life if one doesn't address their high-functioning codependency, and how the key to getting to the other side is boundaries. Now, Terri is an expert in boundaries; her book prior to Too Much, which I also highly recommend, is called Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. I do think it's important to note that reversing high-functioning codependency is absolutely possible, but it isn't a linear path or a straight line, and that those working through this should expect setbacks. You know what? People could probably live their whole lives with high-functioning codependency, but because of Terri's book, they won't want to, and they don't have to. Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and has been doing this work for over 25 years. She is the host of a podcast I love, “The Terri Cole Show,” and inspires over 600,000 people weekly. She has a deep gift for making complex psychological concepts actionable and accessible so that clients achieve sustainable change. This conversation with Terri meant a lot to me, and I bet it will to you, too. Take a listen. Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency by Terri Cole Check out Terri's HFC Toolkit at terricole.com/hfc and visit hfcbook.com/ for more information!

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#414: High-Functioning Codependents: How to Stop Being Everything for Everyone with Terri Cole

Mark Groves Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2024 53:30

Ever wonder why some people who seem highly capable and successful still struggle with people-pleasing and relationship dynamics? This episode features a powerful conversation with psychotherapist Terri Cole where we unravel the hidden patterns of high-functioning codependency — a form of codependency that often goes unrecognized, especially in high-achievers. Drawing from her new book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, Terri explains how behaviors like over-giving, fixing, and being overly invested in others' outcomes are often mistaken for love and care but can actually lead to burnout and resentment. We explore how to identify these patterns, shift out of autopilot advice giving, and build authentic connections through healthier boundaries. Packed with relatable insights and real life examples, this episode is a must listen for anyone seeking to reclaim their energy, set empowered boundaries, and transform their relationships. Dive in and discover how small shifts in behavior can lead to a more liberated and fulfilling life. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. —Terri's Book: https://hfcbook.com/ —Terri's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ —Terri's Website: https://www.terricole.com/ —Terri & Mark's Crushing Codependency Course: https://crushcodependency.com/mark Previous Podcast Episodes: —Redesigning Your Love Blueprint with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/redesigning-your-love-blueprint-with-terri-cole/ —Codependency, The Disease To Please with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/codependency-the-disease-to-please-with-terri-cole/ —Crushing Codependency Myths with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/terri-cole-crushing-codependency-myths/ —How To Become A Boundary Boss with Terri Cole: https://markgroves.com/episode/how-to-become-a-boundary-boss-terri-cole/ Resources From Episode: —Melody Beattie's Podcast Episode: Breaking Free from Codependency with Melody Beattie: https://markgroves.com/episode/breaking-free-from-codependency-with-melody-beattie/ —Terri & Mark's Crushing Codependency Course: https://crushcodependency.com/mark If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: High-functioning Codependency, Terri Cole, Breaking Codependency, Self-Care and Boundaries, Emotional Burnout Recovery, Codependency in Relationships, Codependency vs Independence, People-Pleasing Habits, Setting Healthy Boundaries, Terri Cole Too Much Book, Relationship Dynamics, Emotional Health Podcast, Empowered Relationships, Overcoming Codependency, Personal Growth Strategies, Mental Health and Relationships, Healing Emotional Exhaustion, Psychology and Relationships, Self-Love and Self-Worth, Transforming Relationships This episode is sponsored by: —BON CHARGE: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at http://boncharge.com/MARKGROVES —Qualia Life: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at https://qualialife.com/markgroves Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pilgrimage To Power 782

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2024 59:14

The theme of this class was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart: Take Time To Be Pleased. The physical focus was keeping your eyes open. Recorded live at Jai Dee Yoga in Tampa, FL.

Pilgrimage To Power 787

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2024 59:28

The theme of this practice was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart: The Real Magic is About To Begin & the physical focus was the breath. Recorded live at Jai Dee Yoga in Tampa, Fl.

Pilgrimage To Power 776

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Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2024 57:08

The theme of this practice was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Your Destiny Is Now." the physical focus is FEET. Recorded live at Jai Dee Yoga in Tampa, FL.

Pilgrimage To Power 777

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2024 60:32

The theme of this practice was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Heal Your Resentments" the physical focus is shoulders. Recorded live at Jai Dee Yoga in Tampa, FL.

Pilgrimage To Power 778

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2024 55:55

The theme of this practice was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Open to universal love" the physical focus was keeping your eyes open. Recorded live at Jai Dee Yoga in Tampa, FL.

System Speak: Dissociative Identity Disorder ( Multiple Personality Disorder )

[BONUS EPISODE] Mom On Purpose Book Club: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Mom on Purpose

Play Episode Play 34 sec Highlight Listen Later Sep 4, 2024 53:17 Transcription Available

In this episode of the Mom on Purpose book club, we're going to dive into the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. I think so much of us as Christian women, as mothers, we can find and see ourselves a lot in this definition she lists as being a codependent or struggling with codependency. So, listen in as we recognize and overcome the traits of codependency, focusing on how caretaking and low self-esteem play significant roles.We also address the emotional journey of detaching from adult children, the importance of setting boundaries, and fostering independence. Through this book, I share strategies for mothers transitioning from being deeply involved in their children's lives to allowing them more independence. Reclaim your self-worth and emotional healing, as we discuss the effects of self-criticism and the path to self-acceptance.What you'll learn:How codependency can manifest even in the absence of substance abuseHow to step out of the drama triangle and foster healthier interactionsStrategies for mothers to transition from controlling to guiding as their children grow more independentShifting focus from fixing others to managing one's own emotionsSigns of being codependent based on the book "Codependent No More" by Melody BeattieFeatured on the Show: Codependent No More by Melody BeattieHonoring the Self: Self-Esteem and Personal Transformation by Nathaniel BrandenOn Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-RossClick HERE to watch this video to learn The 3 Things to Avoid When Reading Self-Help BooksHow to Connect with Lara: Web: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/j.lara.johnson/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/larajohnsoncoaching Work with Lara: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com/work-with-me/

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I'm the Co

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2024 20:50

We share about finding the book “Co-Dependent No More” by Melody Beattie.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE. We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, a lego group, movie groups, and social events. Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us! To submit an email to the podcast: podcast@systemspeak.comContent Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general. Content descriptors are generally given in each episode. Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse. Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience. Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity. While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice. Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you. Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency. This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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Episode 299: Having Fun As An Actor

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2024 7:15

Try out The Weekly Accountability Group for Free We are going to be talking about the importance of fun. So I'm going to be really honest with you, this is a topic that I have had so much trouble with. Yeah, I have had trouble having fun. I thought that, I don't know, life was to be endured. And even though I had a positive, natural positive attitude, I didn't know how to have fun. I had no idea how to have fun. And you know what that hurt? That hurt my acting career and that hurt my ability to act because I wasn't experiencing all emotions, especially the really good ones. But the thing is that when we as casting directors, agents, managers are meeting with you, we want to be with people who are Professional, but also are fun to be around people that we want to work with, that we want to be on a set with day in and day out now. Okay, that might not apply for the casting director or the agent or the manager, but I am going to be working with you a decent amount. So yes, it does apply to that, but it really applies in your auditions. Are you having fun? Do you know how to have fun? And if you don't, that's okay. You can have fun learning, and you may make mistakes while having fun. I've certainly done that. I thought something was going to be fun, and then it really wasn't. In fact, I hated it. Anyway, so I'm going to read a little thing out of Melody Beattie's Language of Letting Go. “Have some fun with life, with the day. Find the good things in the day. Find the fun things in the day. Life is not a drudgery. That is an old belief.” And as I said, truly an old belief of mine. “We can let go of it. We are on an adventure. And this adventure is life. It is a journey. Events will come to pass that we cannot even fathom.” I think that's one of the gifts of being deaf. Age is that with age, you begin to appreciate life more. You begin to appreciate the day more. And lately I've had podcasts and podcasts that will come up about being decisive, making mistakes. You can have fun with all of this. The big thing is we want to create the best life and career and experience with this one amazing shot we have on this planet. “We want to try and replace our heaviness and weariness of spirit with joy. Surround yourself with people and things that bring lightness of spirit as opposed to that heaviness. Become sensitive to happiness, to lightness, to the incredible wonder of life. The journey, it really can be an exciting adventure. Let yourself be. Enjoy it.” One of the mantras that I gave myself recently, creating amazing experiences in my life is fun for me. Creating amazing experiences in my life. is fun for me. Again, fun. It's so important. You want to be around people who are fun. Why would that stop in a casting office? Why would that stop in an agent's office? Why would that stop at a manager's office? Why would that stop in auditioning? Have fun. This business can be fun. It can be exciting. Yes, it can also be trying. But let's have fun on the adventure.

[BEST-OF] Olivia, vivre avec un homme aux multiples addictions

AMOURS

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2024 56:30

--Cet épisode a été initialement publié le 18 septembre 2022 !J'ai prévu de publier 8 épisodes en rediff pour les prochains samedis et dimanches d'août à venir. Et RDV à partir du 8 septembre pour de nouveaux épisodes !Bon été ☀️Léa--Dans ce nouvel épisode, Olivia raconte son histoire d'amour avec une personne malade, souffrant de multiples addictions, notamment d'alcoolisme.Elle parle de la prise de conscience de la maladie, de solitude, du stress permanent dans lequel elle était et de l'espoir de vivre une relation tranquille alors qu'elle vivait des montagnes russes au quotidien.Elle parle aussi de codépendance, de honte et de peur, et comment arriver à poser ses limites malgré le sentiment amoureux très fort. On termine sur son sentiment de libération après sa séparation et comment elle a appris à vivre pour elle près tout ça. C'est un témoignage rare qui parlera certainement à pas mal de femmes, donc un grand grand merci à Olivia pour sa confiance. Alcool info service : https://www.alcool-info-service.fr/Le livre de Mona Chollet, Réinventer l'amour : https://www.placedeslibraires.fr/livre/9782355221743-reinventer-l-amour-comment-le-patriarcat-sabote-les-relations-heterosexuelles-mona-chollet/?select_langue=esLe livre de Melody Beattie, Vaincre la codépendance : https://www.placedeslibraires.fr/livre/9782266217040-vaincre-la-codependance-ne-plus-assumer-les-problemes-des-autres-melody-beattie/Les CSAPA https://intervenir-addictions.fr/orienter/vers-qui-orienter/csapa/

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From Breakdown to Breakthrough: Therapy, Codependency, and Emotional Intelligence (feat. Sam Powers)

Therapy4Dads

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2024 83:48

Welcome back to The Integrated Man Project! I'm your host, Travis Goodman, and today we have a truly transformative episode lined up for you. We're diving deep into personal growth, healing, and the journey to reconnect with our true selves. Joining us is the incredible Sam Powers—a personal development coach, custom home builder, and dedicated father of three.In this heartfelt conversation, Sam opens up about his struggles with shame, feelings of inadequacy, and how these led to alcohol abuse and an emotional breakdown in 2020. We'll hear about the life-changing impact of his six-day intensive therapy workshop at On Site and his journey of rebuilding both his home and his emotional life.Together, we'll explore the pressures of evangelical and purity culture, the challenges of codependency, and the importance of empathy, vulnerability, and intentionality in the process of healing. Sam shares profound insights from his work on "primal questions" and offers practical advice on how men can embrace their emotional healing.HIGHLIGHTS: The Breaking Point and Redemption: Sam opens up about his emotional breakdown in June 2020, driven by shame and feelings of inadequacy, leading him to alcohol abuse. His turning point came through his wife's encouragement and attending a six-day intensive therapy workshop called On-Site. Codependency Unraveled: Reflecting on his past, Sam discusses how he discovered his codependent tendencies and worked diligently to address them. He credits Melody Beattie's book, "Codependent No More," as a critical resource during his recovery, allowing him to break free from unhealthy patterns and find authentic ways to cope. Primal Questions and Personal Growth: Sam introduces the concept of "primal questions" – core emotional needs stemming from childhood – and how asking these questions has transformed his approach to coaching and personal development. What's one question you need to answer about yourself to start your journey toward emotional healing and personal growth? Reflect on this and consider what steps you can take to seek the answers you need.So, sit back, relax, and get ready for a powerful and enlightening conversation that promises to inspire and empower you on your own journey to integration.SUPPORT THE SHOW:CLICK HERE!JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!CLICK HERE: MAILING LISTWATCH ON YOUTUBE:WATCH HEREConnect and Support Sam:Instagram: swamipowersWeb: www.sampowerscoaching.comConnect and Support Travis:YouTube: Travis GoodmanInstagram: @integratedmanprojectCheck out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com

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Enough About Cause Change Cure

Enough with Coach Laurie

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 4:47

You did not cause it, you can't change it or cure it!!! ENOUGH Co Dependent No More by Melody Beattie

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Episode 296: Positive Thinking for the Actor

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2024 13:28

BOOK A CALL WITH PETER Today, I'm going to talk about positive energy and energy and the actor and why it is so intensely important. I have found positive energy and positive thinking to be one of the most important things for a happy life and a happy career. So I'm going to start with a quote, which is Gandhi, which is “be the change you wish to see in the world.” Anais Nin, “We do not see the world as it is. We see it as we are.” And so what I want to see the world is, especially in such tumultuous times, is I want to see the good in the world. Not the bad, because the more I see good in my world, the more good is reflected back to me. And because we see it as we are, that is why we want to have as much positive energy going through us as possible. And when I talk about positive energy, I talk about anabolic energy. I'm talking about that anabolic energy and that anabolic energy is growing, building, healing energy. And it is who I Truly am and that's truth with a capital T, whether I believe it or not. Another thing is that anabolic energy gives me a high chance for success. It has me being fully conscious. It has me in a state where I believe in myself. In me, but I also believe in that power greater than me, in that universe. So now I'm going to move into my favorite text of The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. “It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong, it takes practice to see what's right.” The reason why it's so easy to see what's wrong is because that's what my motherboard, my limiting beliefs, have taught me, programmed me to look for the bad, not for the good, or to look for the negative instead of the positive. That's the only reason why that happens. It happens because I was programmed that way. And there's that wonderful joke that your parents know how to push your buttons because they're the ones who installed them. It takes practice to notice what's right. Now, remember when just a moment ago I said it's easier to look around and see what's, what's wrong or what's negative. I put that word easy in quotes because quite frankly, It is actually far easier to do this work and have a happier life than continuing to look at the negative and continue to build and foster that. That just keeps me in that awful state of negativity and that awful area of status quo, where I know that pain that you know you could be doing so much better, but you aren't. I'm sorry, but that is not easy. Melody Beattie goes on to say, “many of us have lived around negativity for years. We've become skilled, we've become skilled at labeling what's wrong with other people, our life, our work, our day, our relationships, ourselves, our conduct, our core work. We want to be realistic and our goal is to identify and accept reality.” However, this often is not our intent when we practice negativity. The purpose of negativity is generally annihilation. I do not wanna annihilate. I do not want to annihilate a good life for myself because of the way I was programmed. No, I want to create a good life for me, a happy life for me, a place where my life is in the position for a high chance for success. And this is what I want for you as an actor. “Negativity empowers the problem.” The problem of not working as an actor. The problem of not knowing what to do next. The problem [ of nothing ever good happens to me. It empowers that. I'm sorry, I don't want to go there. That's not what I want because negativity takes us out of harmony. Negative energy sabotages and destroys. How many actors have said to me, I sabotage myself. I sabotage myself. I used to be someone who used to sabotage themselves. I no longer do that. I no longer do that. Let's put it this way. I no longer choose that. I choose to work for myself instead of against myself. And that is the far easier path. “Negative thinking empowers the problem. It takes us out of harmony. Negative energy sabotages and destroys. It has a powerful life of it's own. and it has the power to enable our self sabotaging. But here's the catch, and here's the good news. So does powerful energy. “Each day we can ask what's right, what's good about other people, about our life, our work, our day, our relationships, ourselves, our conduct, our recovery.” And this is something that I truly believe. Negative energy comes from my ego. It comes from that thought system. That power system. And positive energy comes from the universal. Thought system, the universal power system, that is infinite, that is positive. And here is the thing, my ego thought system is finite, it only has so much energy. But positive energy, when I hook up my pipeline to the positive energy, to the universal energy, that is much stronger than the negative energy. That is why I say in my weekly classes, I talk to my clients, my students, my actors about this. You put in one inch of core work, you put in one inch of effort, and you will get more than one yard back. Because the positive energy is so much stronger than the negative. We just have to choose it. “Positive energy heals, it conducts love, and transforms. Choose positive energy.” I love that word transforms. Because I truly used to be a very negative person. Mainly about myself. Every other thing I said to myself was, I'm not something enough. That is not the case anymore. There is truly hope. If I can help myself, I can help you. The other thing about Energy is that everybody wants that positive energy. Everybody wants that abundant life. And the thing is that living that abundant life begins with believing in focusing on that abundant world. Practicing gratitude. Just even mentioning three times a day or three things in a day that you want to practice gratitude for, that is a phenomenal way to have positive energy in your life.

Codependent No More: Not Allowing Your Family to Push Your Buttons

Recover Your Soul: A Spiritual Path to a Happy and Healthy Life

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2024 29:42 Transcription Available

Send Rev Rachel a Text Message and let her know how Soul Recovery is working in your life.Have you ever wondered why your family members have such a unique ability to push your buttons? Join me, Rev Rachel, as we explore this fascinating phenomenon in our latest episode of the Recover Your Soul podcast. Inspired by Melody Beattie's "The Language of Letting Go," we delve into power dynamics within family relationships and the deep emotional triggers they activate. By turning the attention to ourselves, we uncover how these interactions can become powerful tools for personal growth, healing and Soul Recovery. Embracing your feelings and practicing self-care are crucial steps in our Soul Recovery journey. In this episode, we discuss the transformative power of acknowledging and honoring your emotions, leading to greater compassion, forgiveness, and tolerance within family dynamics and not allowing them to push those buttons.For more information about Rev. Rachel Harrison and Recover Your Soul- visit the website www.recoveryoursoul.net use the code TRYASESSION for 40% off your first Spiritual Coaching session when you book on the website. Visit the website for all events and groups to get involved in Soul Recovery and the community.Soul Recovery Support Group on Zoom -The 1st Monday of the Month, 6PM Mountain Time. This is a drop in support group where we can come together to explore, connect and support each other on our Soul Recovery journey. Visit the website to register and receive the meeting invite. Free to attend and donations appreciated.This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the Show. Make a one time donation to support the Recover Your Soul Podcast on the home page or become a monthly supporter from $3 to $10, follow us on Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook and join the private Facebook group to be part of the RYS community. Support this podcast and have access to bonus content by becoming a Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts and have access to an EXTRA episode each Friday. Episode Transcripts found here https://recoveryoursoul.buzzsprout.com

Pilgrimage To Power 766

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2024 75:50

The theme of this practice was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey to the Heart: "It's Ok To Not Know". This will be my last class for a while. I don't know what's next. This class was a special dedication to my friend and yogi Jennifer S. who is currently climbing Mount Kilimanjaro. Big love and big power to her in her quest. This is my story of what happened: When a Yoga Studio Collapses Under the Weight of Bullshit Or: Waking up to the reality that your friendship was a mirage and you've been exploited and tossed aside like inconvenient baggage. My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails, follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb

Pilgrimage To Power 763

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2024 72:04

The theme of this practice was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey to the Heart: "Be Gentle and Loving". My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails, follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb

Pilgrimage To Power 764

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2024 56:12

The theme of this practice was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey to the Heart: "Enjoy Summer". My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails, follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb

Pilgrimage To Power 756

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 57:15

The theme of this class was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Love yourself enough to relax." Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL. My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails (which I've yet to write), follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb

Pilgrimage To Power 757

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 70:37

The theme of this class was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Love all of yourself." Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL. My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails, follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb

Pilgrimage To Power 758

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 57:03

The theme of this class was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Value the fragrances of the Universe." Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL. My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails, follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb

Pilgrimage To Power 759

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 71:58

The theme of this class was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Embrace life's mystery." Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL. My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails, follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb

Pilgrimage To Power 761

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 58:40

The theme of this class was taken from Melody Beattie's Journey To The Heart "Learn to change your energy" Recorded live at All Y'All Yoga in Tampa, FL. My friend Lee and I are hosting a yoga retreat in Roxbury, NY July 30th - August 3rd. The space is gorgeous and the landscape is picturesque. Lee will be cooking Vegan/Vegetarian food for all of us and there will be Yin/Restorative, Yoga Nidra and Power Yoga sessions during your stay. To read more about it or to sign up: https://yogalee.love/retreats/ If you'd like to stay in touch via email. I'd love to hear from you. Feedback (good, bad, constructive or otherwise) is always welcome. To sign up for my emails, follow this link: http://eepurl.com/dfYxZb *sad news - my last day teaching at All Y'All will be July 6th.

Episode 284: Prayer & Meditation for the Actor

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Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2024 11:18

So today I actually, I've been just so intensely busy with so many different things and I was in New York City today and one of the things I used to do when I was in New York more than I am now is I would go into churches and I just happened to pass by an old church that I usually would go into and I just walked in. And it was quiet, quiet. And I have been noticing this past, I don't know, week, that my mind has been racing a lot. Just tons and tons of talk and nothing negative. Just very busy. And it's disrupted my sleep and it's been so unpleasant. And then I went into that church and I noticed that in this church when I closed the doors and I sat in one of the pews and I've done this, you know, with other spiritual places of worship. So I sat in the pew and I just closed my eyes. and it was so wonderful. Because it was so quiet and almost instantaneously it was like my soul was soothed. My soul was soothed with silence. And so today, I wanted to do a podcast about prayer and meditation. Now I need to stress that I am not a religious person. My relationship is with the universe. And sometimes I do call the universe God, but for me, it is really a spiritual entity. I think of it as my higher self. Because I so strongly believe that the universe is a part of me and I am a part of the universe. So as usual, as per the usual, I am going to be doing a reading out of The Language of Letting Go. I'm gonna alter it slightly for our purposes. So the first thing that she says is she gives a quote by Emmett Fox The Sermon on the Mount. And it says, “as a matter of fact, prayer is the only real action in the full sense of the word, because prayer is the only thing that changes one's character. A change in character or a change in soul is a real change.” And although I felt that today while I was sitting in silence, because I felt a change in me. And it's a change that I've kept with me for the rest of the day. And I said to myself, well, why don't you do this more often? But I don't even have to go into a church to do it. I just need to be quiet, which is something that I do. Not for as long as I was in that church. I probably was only there, I don't know, ten minutes. But again, it was very soothing to my soul. Melody Beattie goes on to say, “Erika Young has said that we are spiritual beings who are human. Prayer or praying and meditating are ways that we can take care of our spirit. Prayer and meditation are disciples suggested by the 11th step of 12 step recovery programs.” And a prayer that I love, that I believe I, I shared with you recently, is I pray for the knowledge of your will for me and the power to carry that out. I pray for the knowledge of your will for me and the power to carry that out. And I can say that for my acting career, I can say it for anything, but you can also say it for your acting career, because sometimes we feel so lost and I want that word, I've told you before, it's my favorite word, wisdom to guide us. Prayer and meditation are not necessarily connected to organized religion, prayer and meditation are ways to improve our personal relationship with higher power or the universe to benefit ourselves, our life, our growth. And again, the, the, the phrases that come up for me are take care of yourself first and the rest will follow. Take care of yourself first and the rest will follow. And that means mentally, physically and spiritually. Praying is how we connect with our higher power, our universe. We don't pray because we have to. We pray because we want to. It is how we link our soul to our source. I remember when I was a very young girl, I wrote down on a piece of paper: go back to the source. And at the time, I did not know what that meant. But yet I felt it. I understood it. And it's one of those pieces of paper in your life that you cherish. Because at some young age, I knew there was something bigger than me. There was something out there that was bigger than me. I don't think I understood that I was a part of it and it was a part of me. But I understood that it existed. “We're learning to take care of our emotions, our mind, and our physical needs” Again, take care of ourselves first and the rest will follow. “We're learning to change our behaviors, but we're also learning to take care of our spirit. We're learning to take care of our soul because that is truly where all change begins. Each time we talk to the universe, we are transformed. Each time we connect with our higher power, we are heard, touched, and changed for the best.” It's funny, I can't prove to you that I was changed for the best by just walking into that church today and sitting for ten minutes in silence. But yet, somehow, somehow I was.

Transformative Insights for Authentic Relationships

Alison Answers

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2024 25:51

Ever considered the profound impact a simple shift in perspective can have on your relationships and self-worth? Join Alison as she delves into the principles of Melody Beattie's work on codependency and its applications in everyday life. This episode is a journey through the art of empathy, self-forgiveness, and the power of seeing the world through another's eyes, which can lead to a more compassionate understanding of one another and ourselves. Through personal stories and lessons, Alison explains how embracing our vulnerabilities not only enhances communication but also fosters stronger connections.Navigating the complexities of human emotions and insecurities, Alison unravels how they shape our interactions and can inadvertently cause hurt in our relationships. She unpacks the idea that actions often stem from a place of fear rather than malice, and how this realization can transform our approach to ourselves and others. By believing the best in people and ourselves, we learn to prioritize our feelings and responses, moving from a need for external approval to finding strength within. This episode is an intimate look into the shift from constructing defenses to building bridges, emphasizing the role of an internal locus of control in cultivating self-worth and the importance of maintaining authenticity in our connections.Key highlights:Shifting PerspectivesUnderstanding Insecurities and Relationship DynamicsUnderstanding Relationships and Communication DynamicsConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison's book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE

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Episode 282: Perfectionism and You!

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Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2024 12:13

Private Coaching Now I wouldn't say that I would sometimes call myself Peter Pamela Perfectionism Rose, but sometimes I've called myself Peter Pamela Perfectionism Rose. The biggest thing about perfectionism that I want to talk about today is that perfectionism leads to procrastination, leads to paralysis. The other thing that I think is so important about the lesson of perfectionism is to make your ears grow bigger, cunning, baffling, and powerful. I look at all the ways, in fact even this too, recording today's podcast, I was looking for the right time to do it. But do you know what the right time to do it was? Right now. Right now was the right time to do it. See, my wanting to, and this is just me but maybe you can relate, my waiting to just feel like it is perfectionism in a very cunning, baffling, and powerful way, trying to get me to not do what I most need to do to move my career forward, which is because for the past, I think over two years now, I have put out a podcast every week, even when my house flooded, even when my house flooded and that If you can start to override that perfectionism and let it go for just a moment so that you do that action now, bingo, we got some serious success about to happen. Now, I'm also going to lean into the fabulous Melody Beattie. The Language of Letting Go She talks about how perfectionism is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes. So recovering from perfectionism necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems and facing tough issues. And it's especially when I have to do things I most don't want to do that my perfectionism kicks up. Again, waiting for the right time, waiting till I feel like it, waiting until somebody else tells me I should do it. Again, cunning, baffling, and powerful, how I get in there, how perfectionism gets in there or my perfectionism gets in there to prevent me from doing the things that I most need to do in order to achieve what I most want to do. “Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows down the process to our getting to the level of success that we want to get to in whatever area of our life. It puts us in a guilty or anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is equally destructive. It makes others feel ashamed and may interfere with their growth. Keep the focus on yourself.” It was one of the craziest things I've learned in core work. Is that once I finally got the focus on me and off of everybody else, I was like, how the heck did I even have time to focus on other people and try and control them and try and manipulate them? How did I even have the time? I'm so damn busy with me. I'm a freaking full time job. That's when the good stuff begins, when you start to really focus on you, that's when the good stuff starts. “People are human and vulnerable. We can accept and cherish that idea. Expecting others to be perfect puts us in a codependent state of moral superiority.” And sometimes I find I do that with myself. I put myself in “Peter, you're just gonna have to do it better than everybody else.” What the fuck is that? Oh, that's so much arrogance. That's so much moral superiority that I think I know what perfect is. IIt's really all about process and life being a process. “Expecting ourselves to be perfect makes us feel rigid and inferior.” And also as an actor, I find it makes us rigid. We have to do the scene the way we planned it. No, you don't. In fact, mistakes are the best things that can happen. Mess ups are the best things that can happen. I was talking with my producing partner who told me about these mistakes that happened on the set and the actor was like no, I have to redo it. And the director, he was like, ah, no, you don't. Because that was comedic genius. Remember, there is that in imperfection, some of the greatest creativity can happen as an actor. “We do not need to go to the other extreme, tolerating anything that people throw our way. We can still expect appropriate, reasonable, and responsible behavior from ourselves and from others. But most of us can afford to loosen up a bit.” Oh my gosh. I used to be so freaking tightly wound until I really gave myself permission to be me. And I am so much more fun now. I am so much more fun in my fifties than I ever was in my twenties and my thirties. “And we can stop expecting others to be perfect. We may discover they're doing much better than we thought.” And that's, that's also where that arrogance comes in. Where my thinking, what you should, what my thinking, I know what you should do for your life. Hell, I barely know what the hell I should be doing for my life. Why am I putting that on others? Another cunning, baffling, stinky way that perfectionism comes into our lives. “When we stop expecting ourselves to be perfect, we'll discover that incredible beauty in ourselves, and also the beauty in others.” Perfectionism. leads to procrastination, leads to paralysis. My assignment for you is to use your mind to govern your brain and notice the cunning, baffling, and powerful ways perfectionism comes into your acting career, and also into your life. And if I can help you with your journey to let go of your perfectionism, please let me know.

Episode 281: Taking Risks

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Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2024 9:09

Today I'm going to be talking about something that I have been doing recently, which I've been really taking risks. It's been real. It's been an adventure. And I've said to myself, I remember earlier this year, I was in a foreign country. I was driving in a foreign country, on the opposite side of the road. And I went in my car. It was late at night and I'd been traveling for a while and I just said to myself, You are so brave. You are so brave. And I think one of the things that I've learned in taking risks is really to encourage, be your own cheerleader while you're doing it. Because taking risks is scary. It gets us out of our comfort zone, and of course there's that, saying life begins at the end of our comfort zone, but it really is true. And I don't think you are ever too old to take risks. I did a podcast, oh gosh, I guess it was over a year ago, with my mom where, she shared with you all that she finished writing her 10th cookbook on her 80th birthday. And it's funny because now she's 85 years old and she said, I have this great idea for a cookbook. I'm going to do this. And I'm just like, man, you go, mom, you just go. So today is where I'm going to be encouraging you to take risks, not only in your acting, but also in your life. And to encourage you and to help me along in the format of this podcast, I'm going to be reading from the fabulous Melody Beattie. The Language of Letting Go And the subject, like I said, for today is taking risks. “Take risks. Take a chance. We do not have to indulge in obviously foolhardy or self defeating risks, but we can allow ourselves to take positive risks in our life. We cannot afford to keep ourselves paralyzed.” I really started to Up my game in terms of taking risks. About three years ago was right after I turned 50 and I don't know what it is about turning 50, but it's when you really realize, wow, I have less of my life in front of me, potentially, than I do in back of me. And I decided I wanted to have the best freaking second half of my life that I possibly could. And I was no longer going to let fear or judgment or other people's opinions, no matter how close they are to me, stagnate my life. I want to live. And the thing is that if you want to live, you've got to take risks. Or else, you'll be paralyzed. “We do not have to keep ourselves stymied and trapped out of fear of making a mistake or falling.” And here's the thing. One of the things about asking. Somebody says it says I don't know. Do you think they'll do it? And I go let's just ask. Because no is survivable. Hearing no is survivable. “Naturally, we will make mistakes and fail from time to time.” Again, that is survivable. “That's part of being fully alive. There are no guarantees. If we are waiting for guaranteed courses of action, we may spend much of our life waiting.” I don't want to be at the effect of my life anymore. I don't want to wait for life to happen to me. I want to happen to life. I want to be at the cause of my life. “We do not have to shame ourselves or accept shame from anyone. Anyone else, even those who are close to us for making mistakes, the goal of life is not to live it perfectly. The goal of life is to live, learn our lessons, and make our own decisions. And make overall progress.” There's a wonderful phrase that I love called progress not perfection. Progress not perfection. Remaining teachable, which I think is also just a wonderful phrase like progress, not perfection. Take a risk. Do not always wait for a guarantee. There again one of the things I've been thinking about recently is leap and the net will appear. Leap and the net will appear. Dust yourself off after a mistake and then move on to the success. Dust yourself off and move on to the success. One of the things my mom used to always say to me when I was a little girl and I would be disappointed because, I don't know, I didn't get a role in the play or something would happen, she would say to me, you dust yourself off, you pick yourself up, you dust yourself off, and you start all over again.

Episode 280: Vulnerability & the Actor