Podcast appearances and mentions of John Kim

Stop falling into the anxious-avoidant attachment trap. In this episode, learn how to build a healthy relationship and experience corrective love. Today, I'm sitting down for a deeply personal, raw, and honest conversation with my longtime friend John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) to discuss his brand new book, Love Hard on Purpose: Toss the Blueprints, Build Something Honest. We are stripping away the fairytale narratives and diving into what it actually takes to build a secure relationship from scratch. John opens up about his heavy heart following a recent relationship rupture, how losing his home in the Altadena fires completely transformed his identity, and his own realization about childhood mother wounds and shadow addictions. I also share my own journey healing a father wound and breaking free from high-functioning codependency. Whether you are single on purpose or trying to navigate a long-term partnership, this episode will show you how to move past the trauma breakers and rewire your body to accept a calm, healthy, and deeply intimate love. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/838

Dive deep into the messy truth about recruiting today, where human laziness, outdated systems, and misguided AI tools collide. Find out how smarter strategies and better incentives could revolutionize talent acquisition and HR. In this episode:  How AI amplifies bias and noise in recruiting, not fixes it  The pitfalls of traditional assessment methods and the rise of work trials  Why incentive structures for recruiters need a massive overhaul  The future of gig and flexible work in talent sourcing  Practical ways AI can enhance matchmaking, not replace human connection  The importance of evolving HR processes alongside new tech tools  The potential for independent recruiters to change the game  Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome and intro to today's hot topic in HR 00:32 - Meet John Kim: CEO of ParaForm, HR innovator 01:03 - John's background and why mobility shaped his worldview 02:39 - The superpower of adaptability from constant moving 03:27 - Why AI often worsens recruiting chaos instead of fixing it 04:56 - The noise problem: How AI creates more applications and confusion 05:53 - The laziness behind superficial hiring practices 06:47 - How current metrics incentivize shortcuts in recruitment 08:33 - Using AI to address asymmetries and better assess candidates 10:36 - The evolution and necessity of performance-based assessments 12:01 - On-site work trials and mutual company-candidate evaluation 13:00 - Speed dating vs panic room: new interview models 14:14 - The discipline gap in talent acquisition teams 15:27 - The role of AI in transforming candidate and recruiter interactions 16:02 - Can AI really match candidates with limited data? 18:12 - The importance of data quality in AI-driven hiring 19:30 - Changing transparency around candidate and employer feedback 20:00 - How platforms like ParaForm align incentives for better matches 22:08 - Rethinking recruiter compensation models for higher quality hires 23:23 - The potential of independent recruiters for more outcome-focused hiring 25:57 - Balancing internal teams and external experts for best results 28:32 - How AI can reduce recruitment grunt work and increase efficiency 30:36 - The shift to gig, contract, and flexible work models 33:01 - Lessons from HR's past mistakes and the need for continuous learning 35:28 - Harnessing the power of new tools and tech in HR evolution. Resources & Links:  ParaForm  Upwork  Fiverr  Connect with John Kim:  LinkedIn  Twitter  Feel the energy? It's time to rethink your hiring game, embrace automation, challenge old norms, and prioritize real human connection. The future of talent acquisition depends on it. Now go out there and lead the charge! 

Don't protect your heart. Protect your relationship. In this episode, John Kim explores what it really takes to build a relationship that lasts. After heartbreak, loss, and repeating old patterns, many people start doing the inner work and realize that healthy love does not just happen naturally. It has to be built with intention, ownership, and practice. John breaks down the idea of “relationship armor” as the tools and practices that protect the relationship itself. This includes creating a safe space, practicing self-awareness, communicating honestly, loving without dragging the past into the present, and learning how to fight in a healthier way. He also explains why being right can become poison in a relationship, why curiosity creates safety, and why presence, gratitude, space, and having your own life are essential parts of healthy love. In this episode: • Why healthy relationships are built, not found • How to create a safe space in love • The importance of self-awareness and ownership • Why communication builds trust and closeness • How to love without letting your past run the relationship • Why how you fight matters more than how often you fight • How giving up the need to be right creates safety • The role of mindfulness, gratitude, and space in lasting love • Why you need your own life inside a healthy relationship More about John:

You might think that once you tear out the moldy drywall and move into a clean house, your body finally gets to heal, but in this episode, Dr. John Kim and I get into why so many people do everything right and still can't shake the brain fog, the fatigue, and the gut chaos. The answer lives somewhere most testing never looks: a stuck "cell danger response," where your cells stay locked in defense mode like a fire alarm that won't stop blaring long after the fire is out. I'll walk you through how Dr. Kim uses his ENCORE method to finally shut that alarm off, because you can't out-biohack a body that's still convinced it's under attack. CLICK HERE TO BECOME GARY'S VIP!: https://bit.ly/4ai0Xwg Connect with Dr. John Kim Website: https://bit.ly/4x4xGAg  YouTube: https://bit.ly/4aqYgd0  Instagram: https://bit.ly/4acnBr7  Facebook: https://bit.ly/49G7KRt  TikTok: https://bit.ly/4xqaPQ3  X: https://bit.ly/3PFmMjN  Thank you to our partners A-GAME: “ULTIMATE15” FOR 15% OFF: http://bit.ly/4kek1ij  AION: “ULTIMATE10” FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4h6KHAD  AIRES: "ULTIMATE20 " FOR 20% OFF: https://bit.ly/4a3Duze  BAJA GOLD: "ULTIMATE10" FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/3WSBqUa  BODYHEALTH: “ULTIMATE20” FOR 20% OFF: http://bit.ly/4e5IjsV  COLD LIFE: THE ULTIMATE HUMAN PLUNGE: https://bit.ly/4eULUKp  CYMBIOTIKA: "ULTIMATE10" FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4tjyluP  GENETIC METHYLATION TEST (UK ONLY): https://bit.ly/48QJJrk  GENETIC TEST (USA ONLY): ⁠https://bit.ly/3Yg1Uk9  GOPUFF: GET YOUR FAVORITE SNACK!: https://bit.ly/4obIFDC  H2TAB: “ULTIMATE10” FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4hMNdgg  HEALF: 10% OFF YOUR ORDER: https://bit.ly/41HJg6S  PEPTUAL: “TUH10” FOR 10% OFF: https://bit.ly/4mKxgcn  SNOOZE: LET'S GET TO SLEEP!: https://bit.ly/4pt1T6V  WHOOP: JOIN & GET 1 FREE MONTH!: https://bit.ly/3VQ0nzW  Watch  the “Ultimate Human Podcast” every Tuesday & Thursday at 9AM EST: YouTube: https://bit.ly/3RPQYX8 Podcasts: https://bit.ly/3RQftU0 Connect with Gary Brecka Instagram: https://bit.ly/3RPpnFs TikTok: https://bit.ly/4coJ8fo X: https://bit.ly/3Opc8tf Facebook: https://bit.ly/464VA1H LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/4hH7Ri2 Website: https://bit.ly/4eLDbdU Merch: https://bit.ly/4aBpOM1 Newsletter: https://bit.ly/47ejrws Ask Gary: https://bit.ly/3PEAJuG Timestamps 00:00 Intro of Show  04:30 Dr. John Kim's Back Story: Heart Attack  10:42 What to Do When You Discover Mold in Your System?  19:13 Testing for Mold Toxicity  31:26 Cell Danger Response: Definition, Testing, and Resolution  35:59 The ENCORE Method  38:26 E - Environmental Factors Affecting Health  47:45 N - Nervous System Regulation  52:18 C - Cellular Integrity  56:07 Stress Response Increasing Deuterium Production  1:00:24 O - Optimizing Detox  1:05:47 RE - Rebalancing the Microbiome & Enhancing Resilience  1:10:12 What does it mean to you to be an Ultimate Human? Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical advice. It is not intended for diagnosing or treating any health condition. Always consult a licensed healthcare professional before making health or wellness decisions.  Gary Brecka is the owner of Ultimate Human, LLC which operates The Ultimate Human podcast and promotes certain third-party products used by Gary Brecka in his personal health and wellness protocols and daily life and for which Ultimate Human LLC and / or Gary Brecka directly or indirectly holds an economic interest or receives compensation.  Accordingly, statements made by Gary Brecka and others (including on The Ultimate Human podcast) may be considered promotional in nature. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have been loving around someone. Not with them. Here's the difference, and why it changes everything. If you are a man who has ever lost yourself in a relationship, performed in the bedroom instead of connecting, or struggled to say what you actually want, you will learn how to love with someone instead of around them, what a corrective love experience is and how to give yourself one, and how to toss the blueprints you were handed and build something honest.   Get John Kim's New Book: Love Hard on Purpose  

Why does a breakup feel like more than heartbreak? In this episode, John Kim explores why breakups can feel like a death, and why that experience is rooted in more than emotion alone. Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, and years of therapeutic experience, he explains what happens in the brain after a relationship ends and why healing takes time. John unpacks the hidden losses that often come with heartbreak, from the future we imagined to the identity we built inside a relationship. He also shares why recovery isn't about forgetting someone, but learning to create a new reality without them. In this episode: • Why breakups feel physically painful • The role dopamine and attachment play in heartbreak • How relationships become part of our emotional regulation system • The grief of losing a future that never actually happened • Identity loss after a breakup • Why healing is really about rewiring If someone in your life is going through a breakup, share this episode with them. Follow the podcast for more conversations on relationships, healing, and personal growth.

What if the thing you keep chasing isn't actually better... just more familiar? In this solo Q&A episode, John Kim reflects on fantasy, gratitude, emotional presence, and the difference between intensity and real love. From surfing in Costa Rica to answering listener questions about confidence, breakups, infidelity, and self-abandonment in relationships, this episode explores what happens when you stop escaping yourself and start paying attention to what's actually here. Key points covered: • Why we romanticize the past and overlook the present • The difference between intensity and consistency in love • How healthy relationships create clarity instead of confusion • What confidence actually comes from • Signs you may be abandoning yourself in a relationship • Whether couples can rebuild after infidelity If this episode helped you, send it to someone who may need to hear it. Follow, rate, and share the podcast to support the show.

In this episode of the Bonsai Time Podcast, John Kim joins us to share his perspective on the American Bonsai Society New Talent Contest and the future of bonsai in America. We talk about creativity, personal growth through bonsai, and the importance of supporting and encouraging emerging artists within the community.The video version is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠coming soon.Show notes, relevant pictures, and links are ⁠⁠⁠coming soon.See you in the next episode!Guest Info:More info on John Kim can be found ⁠here⁠ and his tool brand Joshua Roth can be found here.Sponsor Info: This episode is sponsored by our co-host via the Kevin Faris moving sale of bonsai pottery, tools, and trees. View these items at In Vivo Bonsai of Columbus, Ohio, USA in-person, or online (shipping available) at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠invivobonsai.etsy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.InVivoBonsai.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and navigate to the consignment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠pottery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠tree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ pages.Mailbag submissions/Community:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NEW BT DISCORD Chat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BT Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support the Pod:Anytime you listen, subscribe, rate us, or share us with friends, you help keep us motivated to keep making episodes for you all! If you want to take it to the next level, you can also help keep the podcast going by donating to us through Spotify subscriptions or by sponsoring an episode (contact us directly for that). All donations go back into the podcast such as for our web hosting, recording gear expenses, etc.Podcast Info:The Bonsai Time Podcast is hosted, edited, & produced by Kevin Faris, Ryan Huston, & Kelly Lui. We expect to post new interviews and reflections monthly! Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and our email BonsaiTimePodcast@gmail.com.Submit questions or pictures for future Bonsai Brainstorm episodes to our email, social media DMs, or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Audio editing of this episode and music are by MIDICANCER. Find more music by them on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SoundCloud⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BandCamp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Host info:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ryan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is a former bonsai apprentice of Elandan Gardens and current operator of In Vivo Bonsai nursery and educational operation in Columbus, OH. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kevin ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠is a bonsai practitioner/teacher now living in Massachusetts. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kelly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is a newer bonsai artist volunteering and studying especially in the Los Angeles area.More Bonsai Projects by Ryan:Read more about bonsai on his blog and learn more about his educational services ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Find Ryan's online-available bonsai products, seeds, tools, etc. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Each seed kit sold comes with my full 10-year bonsai-from-seed guide.Find Ryan on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠as well if you need more bonsai in your feed.Also, check out some of my video editing work for the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Puget Sound Bonsai Association⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Columbus Bonsai Society⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠'s demonstration archives.

Co-Host John Kim (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/johnkim) We've had a number of guests define "love" different ways on this show. My returning guest John Kim, author of the new book Love Hard On Purpose, thinks of it as a deliberate, daily practice. Well, isn't that the same thing as love being a decision, rather than simply a feeling? We jump right in by talking about whether couples should feel guilty for being happy. John isn't sure there's really such a thing as a happy couple. So what does love look and feel like to John? Do couples who love each other fight...or what's the better word for the healthy kind of expression there? John is from LA and his partner is from NYC. What happens when cultures collide in a relationship? What do most couples fail to do daily in demonstration of their deliberate love for each other? How should couples handle the inevitable evolution of their selves and their relationships over the course of their lives together? What are some of the subtle traps or pitfalls couple run into when trying to deliberately love each other daily? Does the daily act of loving someone require a break to do something else? For all I talk about taking ourselves less seriously, when should we take our partner particularly seriously? And how should couples handle criticism of each other? In the end, ah screw it...let's talk about surfing. Get your free copy of Flip The Switch: 5 Ways To Be Better With Women Immediately when you get in on my daily email newsletter at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

John Kim explores what it really means to “seek nectar” in everyday life and why tiny moments of beauty, awe, and presence might matter more than we think. In this solo episode, John reflects on life in Costa Rica, nervous system healing, and the difference between surviving and actually feeling alive. He shares how years of stress and hyper vigilance can train us to scan for danger, and how intentionally noticing small moments of joy can slowly rewire the brain toward expansion, connection, and presence. Key points from this episode: • Why “stress narrows you and nectar expands you” • How survival mode becomes a default nervous system state • The neuroscience behind joy, presence, and neuroplasticity • What it means to train your body to “expect beauty again” • Tiny moments that create aliveness, awe, and emotional regulation • Why healing also means collecting new emotional experiences John also shares personal reflections on surfing, Costa Rica, creativity, parenthood, relationships, and the small rituals that bring him back to himself. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder to seek more nectar in their life. Follow the podcast for more conversations on relationships, healing, and becoming more human.

Love often starts as a drug. But what happens when the high wears off? In this episode, John Kim explores the difference between “drug-based love” and “medicine-based love,” and why most relationships struggle when chemistry begins to settle. He talks about projection, love addiction, emotional growth, and how real healing begins when relationships stop being a place to escape yourself and become a place to return to yourself. John also shares personal reflections on rebuilding life in Costa Rica after losing his home in Altadena, and how reinvention is shaping this new season of his life. Key points covered: • Why love feels intoxicating in the beginning • The difference between chemistry and healing • How projection shapes modern dating • “Recess love” vs mature relational work • Why repair matters more than avoiding conflict • How healthy love can rewire old patterns and fears Resources & mentions: • John discusses his new book, Love Hard on Purpose • Listeners who purchase the book get access to his private WhatsApp community If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who's learning the difference between chemistry and healing. Follow the podcast for more conversations on love, growth, and relationships.

John Kim, or Kimmer, has raised more than $70 billion across his career for leading venture capital and private equity firms. Kimmer recently distilled three decades of lessons into The Tao of Fundraising, the best book I've ever read on fundraising for investment managers. Since then, Kimmer joined a General Catalyst portfolio company, Lila Sciences, as Chairman and President of Corporate Development. Our conversation covers Kimmer's philosophy about raising capital, the sales process, art of persuasion, best practices in a meeting, frameworks determining fundraising success, taxonomy of institutional investors, ideal sales team structure and compensation, and the features he carried over from capital formation for funds to a new operating role. Learn More Follow Ted on Twitter at @tseides or LinkedIn Subscribe to the mailing list Access Transcript with Premium Membership Editing and post-production work for this episode was provided by The Podcast Consultant (⁠https://thepodcastconsultant.com⁠)

In this episode of Investor Connect, we welcome John Kim, Managing Director at Aphelion Capital, a healthcare-focused venture firm investing in early and mid-stage medical device and digital health companies. John shares Aphelion's evolution from an evergreen, medical-device-only strategy to a stronger focus on cardiovascular and brain health, including a mission-aligned fund built with the American Heart Association, alongside a smaller home health effort. He discusses how the firm became fully remote after COVID, enabling efficient sourcing and meetings with companies nationwide, and explains what he looks for in opportunities—especially reimbursement pathways, clinical need, capital requirements, and experienced teams. John also covers founder traits tied to performance, improving sentiment around exits and acquisitions, how portfolio construction has shifted toward companies with stronger human data and commercial traction, the challenges of investing in standalone AI without defensibility. Visit Aphelion Capital at www.aphelioncapital.net/ Reach out to at www.linkedin.com/in/john-kim-4316b318/, and on john@aphelioncap.com ________________________________________________________________________ For more episodes from Investor Connect, please visit the site at: http://investorconnect.org Check out our other podcasts here: https://investorconnect.org/ For Investors check out: https://tencapital.group/investor-landing/ For Startups check out: https://tencapital.group/company-landing/ For eGuides check out: https:/_/tencapital.group/education/ For upcoming Events, check out https://tencapital.group/events/ For Feedback please contact info@tencapital.group Please follow, share, and leave a review. Music courtesy of Bensound.

After a serious heart attack with no conventional warning signs, Dr. John Kim went searching for answers. He was shocked to find what conventional testing never unearthed: he was unknowingly fighting a Bartonella infection, a heavy mycotoxin load and parasites. This was when the pharmacist turned functional medicine practitioner learned the role cellular energy plays in health breakdowns, and, vitally, in healing.  In this episode, you'll learn about cell-danger response and the connection between biotoxins and mitochondrial dysfunction (did you know if your cells are healthy they repel parasites?!). Dr. Kim shares his best tips for cellular healing (butyrate, phospholipids and sunlight) and walks us through the steps he takes his own clients through: taking stock of your individual environment, healing your nervous system, detox pathways, strengthening the microbiome, and building resilience so you can live your life. Chapters 2:54 Dr. John Kim's Heart Attack Story 4:11 His Struggle with Biotoxins 9:11 Cell Danger Response 11:00 The Impact of Mitochondrial Dysfunction 14:01 Mold Toxicity and Its Effects 19:49 Detoxification Strategies and Methodologies 24:00 The Encore Method for Healing 29:02 The Importance of Circadian Rhythms 32:15 Harnessing Sunlight for Cellular Health 36:09 Optimizing Cellular Function and Detoxification 45:30 Creating Cellular Resiliency 47:03 The Role of Emotional Health in Detoxification 49:22 A Simple Exercise to Increase HRV ------  Follow Doctor Motley! Instagram TikTok Facebook Website Connect with Dr. John Kim: https://www.drjohnkim.com/ https://www.instagram.com/john.pharmd/ ------  * Are you looking for simple, non-invasive sound therapy tools for treating anxiety, or providing balance? You can get $100 off a WAVwatch with the code DRMOTLEY: https://wavwatch.com/pages/doctor-motley *Join Doctor Motley's newsletter for TCM insights and regular podcast updates: https://www.doctormotley.com/ *Do you have a ton more in-depth questions for Doctor Motley? Check out his course on emotions and the body in his membership. You'll find other courses full of his expertise and clinical wisdom, plus bring all your questions to his weekly lives! To try risk-free for 15 days click here: https://www.doctormotley.com/15

Does love ever really end? One thing about love is that it rarely prepares you for its own ending. It doesn't give you a manual for what to do when the marriage ends, when the house burns down, when the person you built your life around is suddenly gone. And you're left asking: where does love go when it ends? In Episode 5 of Real Love Ready, Robin sits down with her dear friend John Kim, known as The Angry Therapist, a licensed therapist, author, and co-founder of Soulprint Media, who has lived this question in every possible form. His first marriage ended at 35, and instead of hiding the wreckage, he blogged the whole breakdown in real time. His honesty became a movement. Last year, he lost his home in the Altadena fires and everything he had built was gone in a single night. This conversation is deeply personal. John opens up about loss, the grief, the guilt of moving on too fast, and what it looks like to model vulnerability as a pathway to healing. Together, Robin and John challenge the myth that endings mean failure. Relationships transform. And in that transformation, if we are willing to look, there is gold. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at betterhelp.com/loveready. Next week, Robin sits down with Bob Dalton to explore what it means to build belonging and why community holds us through the hardest chapters of our lives. Episode 6: Home: Where Love Lives. IN THIS EPISODE ​​(00:00:00) Introduction (00:04:00) Does Love Actually End? (00:07:45) The Angry Therapist Origin Story (00:12:32) What Emotional Unavailability Really Looks Like (00:14:38) How John Became Emotionally Aware (00:17:36) Why Not All Breakups Are the Same (00:20:12) The Day John Lost Everything (00:27:16) Navigating Different Grief (00:32:30) The Power of Grieving Together (00:37:00) Why Heartbreak Lives in Your Body (00:42:28) How John Got Into Men's Work (00:48:31) How a House Fire started a Publishing Company (01:03:44) Divorce as the Greatest Catalyst (01:06:05) Myths of Heartbreak & Defining Love QUOTES "My divorce was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. But the greatest thing that's ever happened to me. That repositioning has given me so much.” - John Kim “Just because I was the one that made the decision doesn't mean that I wasn't completely heartbroken." - Robin Ducharme "I don't think love ends. I think if you look at love like energy, it changes form.” - John Kim ABOUT THE GUEST John Kim is a licensed therapist, author, co-founder of Soulprint Media, and founder of The Angry Therapist. He is the author of I Used to Be a Miserable Fck*, Single on Purpose, Breakup on Purpose, and It's Not Me, It's You, co-authored with his wife Vanessa Bennett. His new book Love Hard is available June 6th. He also hosts The Angry Therapist podcast. Instagram: @theangrytherapist  Website: theangrytherapist.com GET THE REAL LOVE READY BOOK Real Love Ready: A Guide to Relational Literacy is a clear, compassionate guide to the knowledge, skills, and daily practices that help us love with greater intention, truth, and heart. https://geni.us/RealLoveReadyBook Follow us:  @realloveready  @robinducharmeofficial  @soulprintmediaco Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What should you really look for when choosing someone to love? In this episode, John Kim explores why attraction alone is not enough to build a healthy relationship. He breaks down how instant chemistry can sometimes come from old patterns, why emotional intelligence matters more than intellect, and how self-awareness, consistency, and the ability to create safety are essential in love. John also shares why strong relationships are often built around something bigger than the couple itself, whether that is shared values, purpose, family, creativity, spirituality, or service. This episode is a reminder to look beyond the spark and ask what kind of relationship you are actually building.

Why do love and hurt travel together?In Episode 4 of Real Love Ready, Robin sits down with Vanessa Bennett, author, licensed holistic psychotherapist, codependency coach, and depth psychologist. She is the author of The Motherhood Myth, and co-author of It's Not Me, It's You (with her husband, therapist John Kim).Her work is built on a belief that most of us are not ready to hear: that the people hurting us in our relationships are often holding up a mirror. And that the most powerful thing we can do is look into it.We have a whole cultural vocabulary around toxic relationships, red flags, and narcissism. What we don't have is enough honest conversation about our part in the patterns we keep repeating. That's what this episode is for.Honest, direct, and genuinely compassionate, this conversation covers shadow work, codependency, projection, and how understanding why we hurt and how we heal, is how we learn to love better.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at betterhelp.com/loveready.QUOTES"Everywhere you go, there you are. You're going to continue to show up and entertain these toxic relationships. So, until we really say, okay, they acted in narcissistic ways. How did I act in narcissistic ways? They were toxic because of this. How was I toxic too? Those are the conversations that actually start to turn the needle in behavior change." — Vanessa Bennett"I do think that deep, intimate love can be difficult. If you really want to go there, it's going to take work…mostly because we are confronted with ourselves. That's the hard work. Having to see ourselves and having to actually decide if we're going to do the work on ourselves that's required to have real, intimate love." — Vanessa Bennett“Love to me feels like a mirror. A compassionate mirror, but a mirror nonetheless. And love to me, a lot of times, means accountability. It's accountability to myself. It's accountability to others. It's accountability to that part of me that's striving to be the best version of myself." — Vanessa Bennett"I don't think it's possible for somebody else to build that sense of safety in us. We need to build our own internal safety…Because ultimately, what that means is, it actually doesn't matter what he's doing. Because I'm safe, I've got me." — Vanessa BennettABOUT THE GUESTVanessa Bennett, LMFT, is a licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator known for her no-nonsense yet compassionate approach to healing. She is the author of The Motherhood Myth and coauthor of It's Not Me, It's You.A former New Yorker turned Angelino now practicing internationally, Vanessa leads transformational retreats and workshops rooted in Jungian and depth-oriented psychology. She is the founder of Inner Compass Academy, a depth-based training and coaching program, and hosts the Inner Compass Podcast. Through her writing and teaching, she supports both personal and collective healing—helping people break generational patterns and awaken to the ways harmful social systems shape their lives, so they can reclaim agency and live less from conditioning, and more from choice.Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/Website: https://vanessabennett.comSubstack: https://substack.com/@itsvanessabennettInner Compass Academy: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academyGET THE REAL LOVE READY BOOKReal Love Ready: A Guide to Relational Literacy is a clear, compassionate guide to the knowledge, skills, and daily practices that help us love with greater intention, truth, and heart.https://geni.us/RealLoveReadyBookFollow us: @realloveready @robinducharmeofficial @soulprintmediaco

Some relationship patterns aren't about the present. They're about wounds your nervous system learned a long time ago. In this episode, John Kim breaks down some of the most common emotional wounds people carry into relationships, including abandonment, rejection, betrayal, control, emotional deprivation, and loss of self. He explains how these wounds become patterns, why we react instead of respond, and what healing actually looks like in real time. Key points covered: • Why wounds are about meaning, not just events • How childhood experiences shape adult relationship patterns • The difference between reacting from protection vs truth • Why people repeat the same emotional cycles in relationships • How abandonment and rejection wounds show up in everyday moments • What it means to create a corrective love experience John also shares personal reflections about rebuilding life after losing his home in the Altadena fires and moving into a new home in Costa Rica. He mentions his upcoming book, Love Hard on Purpose, and a private WhatsApp group for readers who pre-order the book. If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs it and follow the podcast for more conversations on relationships, healing, and growth.

In this deeply personal episode, John Kim revisits his story with fresh eyes and new perspective. From divorce and failed screenwriting dreams to becoming a therapist, building a life in Los Angeles, and then losing it all in a fire, he reflects on the defining “act breaks” that reshaped his identity. Now rebuilding in Costa Rica, John explores what it means to live without a blueprint and to design a life rooted in presence, courage, and truth. Key Points Covered • The difference between a life “chapter” and an “act break” • Losing his home in a fire and how it forced radical change • Letting go of a screenwriting dream and finding purpose as a therapist • Building the “Angry Therapist” platform through authenticity • How loss stripped away excuses and created space for reinvention • Redefining life, success, and home while rebuilding in Costa Rica If this story resonated with you, make sure to subscribe for more conversations on growth, relationships, and rebuilding your life. Mentions: John's book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co

Trust, Proactivity, and AI in Customer Service  Shep interviews John Kim, CEO of Delight.ai. He talks about moving beyond simple automation to create personalized, proactive interactions that build trust and delight customers.  This episode of Amazing Business Radio with Shep Hyken answers the following questions and more:    How is AI transforming customer experience across different industries?  What are the benefits of automating customer service processes? Can AI enhance human interactions in customer support roles?  What is the concept of an AI concierge in modern customer experience?  How does technology help personalize customer interactions for businesses?  Top Takeaways:    AI's real value is empowering humans to be there for each other. For example, when healthcare workers spend less time completing charts and manually processing lab results, they can spend more time with their patients.   Automation through AI should remove repetitive, mundane tasks, freeing humans to devote more time and attention to meaningful interactions and care.  Some customers and employees hesitate to embrace AI, fearing that machines will do everything, leaving no room for human interaction. However, there are tasks that do not require human involvement, such as updating passwords or scheduling appointments. These tasks can be given to AI tools to free up time for tasks that require empathy and the human touch.  Customers don't dislike AI. They hate having to repeat themselves, being stuck in a loop, and wasting their time. Automation should be designed to make it easier for customers to get help without jumping through hoops and to be intelligent enough to seamlessly hand over when the technology on its own cannot solve the problem.  People want to know that the information they get from AI is accurate, private, and secure. Even a single major mistake from an AI can quickly erode trust, so businesses need systems to ensure their AI is reliable for everyone.   Customers like doing business in places where "everyone knows their name." AI can help scale this connection by helping employees remember and understand their customers as individuals. AI can augment employees' capabilities by providing access to customer history, assisting with current transactions, and anticipating future needs.   AI empowers companies to move beyond a reactive approach to proactive service by anticipating customer needs and addressing issues before customers even reach out. For example, if a customer gets disconnected in the middle of a support call, AI tools can proactively send them a text message with options to seamlessly pick up where they left off.   Because AI can analyze large amounts of information in real time, companies can be more attentive to their customers, resolving potential issues, reminding them of relevant information, and making tailored recommendations.  In the past years, convenience has been enough for most customers to do business with a company. But nowadays, it is a requirement.   The future of AI in customer service is not just about making things faster or easier. It is about creating delightful experiences. A balance of automation, personalization, proactive service, and trust is what makes customers feel valued.  Plus, Shep and John share more insights on what it takes to go from customer support to concierge-level service. Tune in!  Quote:   "Customers don't hate AI. They hate wasted effort."     About:    John Kim is the CEO of Delight.ai, an AI concierge platform with persistent memory and omnichannel continuity. Delight.ai is backed by Sendbird and trusted by over 4,000 brands, including DoorDash and Yahoo Sports.  Shep Hyken is a customer service and experience expert, New York Times bestselling author, award-winning keynote speaker, and host of Amazing Business Radio.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm very excited about this week's BEHIND THE LENS because I get to talk about RENNY HARLIN and his new film DEEP WATER! After 33 years of chatting with Renny and talking about his films, he truly is not only one of my favorite filmmakers, but one of my favorite people. His intelligence, his skill, his dedication to the craft of moviemaking and storytelling, his directorial vision, and his kindness. I adore him. Chatting with Renny is always a joy, and no matter how long we talk, it's never long enough. And that's what happened last week when we sat down for an exclusive interview to discuss DEEP WATER. Renny wanted an hour. Publicists said no and offered 4 minutes. I begged and got 15 minutes. BUT, undeterred, when the formal interview (which ran 20 minutes) ended, Renny and I spent another 30 minutes together on our own, talking about the film, filmmaking, and other things. For those who aren't familiar with the film as yet, DEEP WATER is the story of an airline flight from Los Angeles to Shanghai that goes down in the middle of the Pacific. After surviving the crash, the survivors soon discover they're not alone, and they must survive the shark-infested waters. Simple right? Not the way Renny Harlin tells it. DEEP WATER is directed by Renny Harlin, written by Pete Bridges and John Kim, and stars, among others, Aaron Eckhart, Sir Ben Kingsley, Molly Belle Wright, Angus Sampson, Kelly Gale, Elijah Tamati, and Kate Fitzpatrick. Cinematographer is D.J. Stipsen, with editing by Geoff Lamb, with Fernando Velázquez providing the score. I also give you some pearls and fun takeaways from this weekend's TCM Classic Film Festival. http://eliasentertainmentnetwork.com

In this vulnerable solo episode, John Kim explores love and sex addiction through the lens of attachment, emotional regulation, childhood wounds, and relationship ruptures. After a painful conflict with his partner, John reflects on how love can become a way to regulate anxiety, emptiness, and the need to feel wanted or chosen. He unpacks the difference between real love and chasing intensity, and why healing means learning to sit with your own internal state without immediately reaching for someone else to fix it.

The 1992 Los Angeles Civil Unrest, sparked by the acquittal of officers in the brutal beating of Rodney King, exposed deep cracks in the systems meant to protect and serve. More than thirty years later, what actions can we take to create real public safety practices that center justice, equity, and community care?Joining Los Angeles City Council President Marqueece Harris-Dawson to explore these questions is John Kim, President and CEO of Catalyst California (formerly Advancement Project California). John shares his personal reflections on the uprising and how it continues to shape his work today. He also discusses how Catalyst California is helping to advance a new vision of safety—one that moves away from traditional policing and invests in community-centered solutions like Alternative Traffic Enforcement.Sign up for our newsletter at beacons.ai/mhdcd8ResourcesJohn Kim is the President and CEO of Catalyst California (formerly Advancement Project California), a leading racial justice organization that champions systemic change to achieve equity and expand opportunity across the state. Throughout his career, John has been a strong advocate for community-driven solutions that address structural barriers in public education, voting rights, public finance, and public safety. Under his leadership, Catalyst California has been at the forefront of efforts to reimagine justice and safety by investing in alternatives to policing and advancing policies that center the needs and voices of historically marginalized communities. His work reflects a lifelong commitment to building a more just and inclusive California.Website: www.catalystcalifornia.orgInstagram: @catalystcaLearn more about Alternative Traffic Enforcement programs and community-based safety models at:www.catalystcalifornia.org/initiatives/reimagine-justice-safetyCommunity AnnouncementsCrenshaw Farmers' MarketOpen every Saturday from 10 AM to 3 PMLocated at 5730 Crenshaw Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90043 (Historic Fire Station 54 parking lot)Accepts CalFresh EBT cards and WIC checks. Offers Market Match, which doubles CalFresh benefits up to $20 per day.For more information, visit foodaccessla.org/crenshaw-farmers-market or follow on Instagram: @crenshawfm__________Want to learn more about Los Angeles City Council President Marqueece Harris-Dawson and LA's Council District 8? Follow @mhdcd8 on Instagram and sign up for the newsletter at mhdcd8.org!

In this episode, John Kim sits down with relationship expert and author Amy Chan to talk about dating patterns, childhood wounds, grief, commitment, and what it really takes to build healthy love. Amy shares how the sudden loss of a close friend changed the way she thinks about relationships and why creating core memories with the people you love matters more than convenience. John opens up about how losing his home reshaped his idea of freedom, home, and what truly matters. Together, they explore how childhood neglect, validation-seeking, and old survival strategies continue to shape adult dating patterns. They also break down Amy's framework for dating smarter, including how to spot where your dating life gets stuck, why apps should not be your only strategy, and how your energy affects connection. They talk about dopamine, fantasy, and why the first three months of dating can be misleading. Later, they unpack commitment, unrealistic expectations, relationship trade-offs, triggers, repair, and emotional safety. Amy explains her “Sh*t Bucket” concept and why healthy love is not about finding a perfect partner, but choosing someone whose imperfections you can actually live with. They close with a hopeful reminder: love is hard, but it is still worth building. In this episode: (00:00) The real reason your dating life keeps repeating(00:29) Grief changed how Amy thinks about love(02:09) John's life after losing home and redefining freedom(03:15) Amy Chan on dating smarter and finding lasting love(05:03) The childhood wounds behind adult relationship patterns(10:29) The patterns sabotaging your love life(14:24) People can feel your dating energy(16:15) Why the first 3 months can fool you(20:02) Why love only grows when you go all in(23:30) Social media is warping our expectations of love(26:34) Every relationship comes with a “Sh*t Bucket”(28:57) Triggers, conflict, and healing inside relationships(33:24) What repair actually looks like in healthy love(37:08) What happens when only one partner wants to grow(43:14) Why love is hard and still worth it About Amy Chan: Amy Chan is the author of Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts — a fun, science-backed dating guide that helps people interrupt the relationship patterns keeping love just out of reach and build healthier, lasting connections. Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for nearly two decades. In 2016, she founded Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat. She also leads Dating Bootcamp and is on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute. Her first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times and optioned by a major streaming network. Her work has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Good Morning America, The Today Show, The New Yorker, The Guardian, and USA Today. Books: Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts (Pre-order) https://amzn.to/48xS01r Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Hearthttps://amzn.to/3wBZxxi Websites: www.renewbreakupbootcamp.com www.renewbootcamps.com www.missamychan.com www.hearthackersclub.com www.UnsingleByAmyChan.com (launching soon) Connect with Amy: Instagram Handle: https://www.instagram.com/missamychan LinkedIn URL: https://www.linkedin.com/in/missamychan/ Tik Tok Handle: https://www.tiktok.com/@missamychan Twitter Handle: www.twitter.com/missamychan YouTube Handle: https://www.youtube.com/missamychan 

Love can feel intoxicating. The chemistry, the obsession, the constant thinking about someone, the emotional highs and lows. But just because love feels intense does not mean it is healthy. In this episode, John Kim explores one of the most important relationship questions you can ask yourself: Is your love acting like a drug, or is it becoming medicine? He breaks down how love can become something you use to regulate your worth, soothe your anxiety, or escape yourself. He also explains how healthy love, while not always comfortable, can become a powerful place for self-awareness, healing, and growth. John unpacks the difference between addictive love and healing love, why intensity is not always intimacy, and how attachment wounds can disguise themselves as chemistry. He also shares what needs to happen for love to shift from something that destabilizes you to something that helps you become more grounded, honest, and self-connected. If you have ever confused passion with pain, chased reassurance, or lost yourself trying to hold onto a relationship, this episode will help you look at love more clearly. A self-check for your relationship Your internal state Do I feel anxious more than I feel grounded in this connection or relationship? Do I need reassurance often to feel okay? Do I feel a high when they lean in and a crash when they pull back? Do I think about them more than I feel connected to myself? Your behaviorDo I change how I show up based on how they are acting?Do I overgive, overtext, or overexplain when I feel distance?Do I ignore things that do not feel right to keep the connection?Do I try to manage how they see me instead of just being myself? Your relationship to discomfortWhen I feel triggered, do I reach for them instead of sitting with myself?Do I avoid conflict to keep things good?Do I stay longer than I should because of potential?Do I confuse intimacy with intensity? Your clarityDo I know where I stand, or am I often guessing?Am I in love with who they are or who I hope they will become?Am I choosing them, or am I trying to be chosen? Your identityDo I feel more like myself in this relationship or less?Am I proud of how I show up here?If this ended today, would I feel broken or grounded in myself? Final questionIn this relationship, am I trying to feel better, or am I trying to become better?

What happens when a city-built life gets interrupted, and something quieter begins to call you in? In this episode, John Kim sits down with Brooks Wilson for a conversation about nature, nervous system regulation, mindfulness, healing, and what it means to move through life with more intention. Brooks shares what it was like growing up in Tamarindo, Costa Rica before major development, how nature shaped her from an early age, and how surfing, yoga, sound healing, and ceremony became part of her path. Together, John and Brooks explore the contrast between fast-paced city living and a slower, more grounded way of being. They talk about presence, eye contact, human connection, gratitude, manifestation, and the healing power of sound, nature, and community. John also opens up about how his move to Costa Rica has been reshaping him after major life upheaval, and why this season feels less like escape and more like medicine. This is a conversation about returning to what matters, learning to listen differently, and finding alignment in unexpected places. Brooks Wilson is a Costa Rica–based yoga teacher, sound healer, and ceremonial guide. You can learn more about her work here: Abouthttps://vibracionesexpansivas.com/about Book a sessionhttps://vibracionesexpansivas.com/sessions Journeys and retreatshttps://vibracionesexpansivas.com/journeys/india

How do childhood wounds, past relationships, and old emotional patterns shape your definition of love? In this episode, John Kim explores how relationship residue turns into distorted definitions of love. He breaks down how early experiences, family dynamics, unhealthy conflict, self-sacrifice, and internalized pain can create a damaging love blueprint that follows us into adulthood. John unpacks the unhealthy ways many people define love, including love as self-sacrifice, possession, completion, and dependency. He explains how these distorted beliefs can lead to codependency, control, unrealistic expectations, self-abandonment, and unhealthy relationship patterns. He also shares how heartbreak, expired relationships, and self-awareness can become a corrective love experience that helps you redefine love in a healthier way. Instead of losing yourself in romance, healthy love is built through interdependence, communication, compassion, conflict repair, individuality, and emotional growth. If you've ever struggled with attachment wounds, toxic relationship patterns, fear of abandonment, or confusion about what real love looks like, this episode will help you question the definitions you inherited and create a healthier, more grounded version of love.

John Kim, CEO and Co-Founder of Reckoner Capital, joins The CLO Investor podcast to discuss the launch of innovative CLO ETFs, including leveraged and reinvesting structures. The conversation also covers broader trends in the CLO market, risk considerations, and how institutional and retail investors may think about CLO debt today.

Welcome back to the studio.  This is My Day of Play, where you're taken into the real events and actions of how it happens long before the process of editing or cleaning up.  The original purpose of these episodes was to give my broadcasting students something to edit, to practice with and to call their own.  Then I realized that you are just as important.  Share the reality of how it really went.  We begin things with the angry therapist Jon Kim who returned in January 2025 with a new book Breaking Up On Purpose. Then we're going to spend some valuable time with debut novelist Janna Brooke Wallack the creator of the story Naked Girl. And we'll wrap things up with Captains' Joe Dion and Niko Chaprales from Harpoon Hunters on Discovery. This is My Day of Play.  Completely unedited in the way of meeting the wizard behind the curtain.  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-unplugged-totally-uncut--994165/support.

Love doesn't disappear - it changes. In this episode, John Kim explores the stages of love, from early fantasy to real connection. If you've ever questioned the spark, the shift, or the “middle” of a relationship, this will help you understand what's normal, what's real, and what's worth building. This is a conversation about choosing depth over fantasy - and learning what real love actually asks of us.

Many people reach a confusing moment in their healing journey: they start dating healthier partners… and suddenly desire feels flat. Calm feels boring. Chemistry disappears. In this solo episode, John Kim breaks down why this happens - and why it doesn't mean anything is “wrong” with you.If you've ever wondered whether you can rewire attraction without forcing yourself into a relationship that doesn't feel right, this conversation is for you.

What if the hardest part of healing isn't pain — but joy? John Kim talks with Dr. MC McDonald about grief, intimacy, self-trust, and the quiet ways we hide when connection feels unsafe. MC shares why joy has been the hardest emotion to let in, and how learning to feel safe again changes everything. A grounded, human conversation about healing while still figuring it out.

In this episode, John Kim shares a simple moment from the ocean that became a powerful lesson about relationships and emotional repair. While learning to surf in Costa Rica, two very different encounters in the water reveal why ruptures are unavoidable—but repair is everything. One moment of anger leads to disconnection. One moment of acknowledgment leads to instant safety and ease. John also shares details about his upcoming surf retreat in Costa Rica—a space to slow down, regulate the nervous system, build real connection, and experience the healing power of the ocean together. A reminder that the strength of any relationship isn't measured by how little we rupture—but by how willing we are to repair.

Do you find yourself giving more, waiting longer, explaining harder — just to keep love alive? In this episode, John Kim reflects on overgiving, emotional boundaries, and the quiet ways we abandon ourselves in relationships. Recorded in Costa Rica, he uses lessons from surfing to explore why love shouldn't feel like anxiety, confusion, or constant effort. Inspired by the idea of “Let Them,” this episode offers a necessary reframe: there are some things you simply should not let people do. This is a reminder that protecting your heart isn't selfish — it's essential. Host Links: Surf, Sex & Pancakes - Join John Kim for a surf retreat in Costa Rica. Sign up HERE

You didn't marry the wrong person — you're just in a stage of your relationship. In this episode, John Kim sits down with attachment expert Thais Gibson to break down the six stages of a relationship — and why so many couples get stuck thinking something is “wrong” when nothing is actually broken. We talk about: Why attachment styles are not labels, and how they can be rewired The difference between dating, honeymoon, and the power struggle stage Why most couples struggle after the honeymoon — and how to move forward How early conditioning shapes adult relationships What healthy long-term love actually looks like If relationships have ever felt confusing, discouraging, or overwhelming, this episode gives you language, context, and relief.

In this reflective, unscripted conversation, John Kim speaks with therapist and yoga teacher Daniel Stewart about consciousness, ego, and authentic living. Daniel shares how a life-altering experience reshaped his relationship with presence, stillness, and inner truth. Together, they explore ego death as a doorway to growth, why slowing down matters, and how conscious awareness transforms the way we live and create. A grounding episode for anyone seeking a more intentional, meaningful life.

Now that 2026 is here, John Kim shares 12 powerful questions to help you live with more honesty, alignment, and intention this year. This episode isn't about fixing yourself — it's about telling the truth. About what feels empty.What you're tolerating. And what it means to build a life that actually feels honest. A grounding conversation to return to throughout the year.

In Part Two of this powerful conversation, John Kim and Shaka Senghor go even deeper into healing, alignment, and the spiritual mechanics of change. Shaka opens up about: How alignment shapes everything you attract What manifestation really is — and what it's not Moving from shame into self-respect How imagination kept him alive in solitary confinement Daily practices that cultivate grace, joy, and hope The mindset shift that frees you from a lifetime of emotional prisons Why abundance begins with noticing the smallest moments This episode is the invitation to your next chapter. A conversation about energy, intention, and the quiet decisions that build a new life.

In this uplifting and deeply human conversation, John Kim sits with bestselling author and speaker Shaka Senghor to explore healing, forgiveness, purpose, and the power of rewriting your story. Shaka shares: What it meant to write a letter to his mother after decades The journey from incarceration to inner transformation How forgiveness liberated him more than anger ever could What manifestation really means: alignment, intention, and showing up How shame, grief, and vulnerability shape our healing Why imagination is a life-saving tool The surprising gift of human connection — even in solitary confinement If you need inspiration, hope, or a reminder that change is possible, this episode is for you.

This episode brings together members of John Kim's Single on Purpose coaching team for an unfiltered, deeply human conversation about what happened when the SOP community was suddenly closed. These are therapists, coaches, and facilitators — doing therapy on each other — exploring the activation, the grief, the meaning, and the unexpected wounds that surfaced. You'll hear them talk about: What SOP meant to them personally and professionally The abrupt ending and why it hit so hard Abandonment wounds, leadership, and rupture-repair The magic of the community they built together Why therapists are human, vulnerable, and messy too What they're taking with them into the next chapter Whether you were part of SOP, or you're experiencing your own ending, transition, or rupture — this conversation will land. CONNECT WITH THE COACHES: Sean Cardinalli Instagram: @seancardinalli https://www.instagram.com/seancardinalli/ Medium: https://seancardinalli.medium.com/ Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1388439 Linktree: https://campsite.to/seancardinalli Mikey Brackett Instagram: @mikey.brackett Email: mikeybrackett@me.com Therapy website: https://mikeybtherapy.com Coaching website: https://mikeybrackett.com Madeleine Downey IG (info/coaching/counselling): @madeleinedowney Substack: https://madeleinedowney.substack.com (It's Giving Alchemy) Shadow Work Group – Inner Compass Collective: https://inner-compass-collective.circle.so/ Email: Madeleine@vanessabennett.com Amy Brown Website: AmyBrown.Online IG: CoachingWithAmyBrown Email: Amy@MINDmgt.com Taune Lyons Taunelyons.com - therapy & somatic experiencing  Comingtooursenses.substack.com  Coming to our senses podcast - Spotify & apple IG: Taunelyons  Inner compass academy for classes on depth and somatic inner parenting Taune@taunelyons.com If you're ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available here. https://theangrytherapist.thrivecart.com/secure-self-bundle/

Today we're diving into something most people never think to connect with mold or their environment… heart disease. Yep the number one cause of death in the U.S.I'm joined by Dr. John Kim, a functional medicine practitioner and the founder of Kim Wellness. Dr. Kim has an incredible story. At just 33, he had a heart attack with no classic risk factors. That experience sent him down the rabbit hole of why a “healthy” guy ends up in the ER… and that journey eventually led him straight to environmental exposures, including mold toxicity.We get into the stuff your doctor probably isn't talking about: how toxins in your home impact cholesterol production, inflammation, mitochondrial function, your immune system, and ultimately your heart. Dr. Kim breaks down how different environmental stressors stack over time and why so many people are walking around with symptoms no one is connecting back to their space.He also walks us through his six-step “Encore Method,” where he focuses on everything between lowering environmental impact, opening up detox pathways, rebuilding the microbiome, and helping the body become more resilient overall.If anything we talked about today hit home, Dr. Kim set up a really awesome #moldfinders special! He's offering a super discounted 45-minute Discovery Call to help you start digging into the hidden root causes. Check it out here! https://www.kimwellness.co/podcast-listeners-landing-page-rmoldfindersMore about Dr. John Kim:Website: drjohnkim.comInstagram: @john.pharmdEpisode Breakdown00:00 — Why we're talking about heart disease on a mold podcast01:07 — Introducing Dr. John Kim04:04 — Dr. Kim's story: a heart attack at 3306:01 — What most people misunderstand about heart disease09:25 — Where functional medicine actually shines20:13 — Light, circadian rhythm, and why sunlight matters more than you think24:14 — The environmental toxin conversation most doctors skip31:36 — How mycotoxins interfere with cholesterol synthesis33:00 — What mycotoxins do to your immune system33:37 — Why “more supplements” isn't the answer to cellular dysfunction35:32 — Therapies that truly support cellular health36:49 — Breaking down the Encore Method37:46 — The nervous system–environment connection38:29 — Diet, detox, and what actually moves the needle44:28 — The mental and emotional side no one talks about50:17 — The reality of mold remediation — and why many people struggle54:07 — What effective mold recovery really requires57:36 — Final thoughts and where to find Dr. Kim's resourcesIG: @MoldFindersNot sure the best way to get started? Follow these simple steps to hit the ground running…Step 1: Subscribe To Our Podcast!Step 2: Want a Test More Advanced Than ERMI? www.TheDustTest.com⁠Step 3: Already Have An ERMI? Find Out What It Actually Means. ⁠⁠www.ErmiCode.com⁠Step 4: Text Me (yes, it's really me!) The Mold Phone: 949-528-8704Step 5: Book A FREE Consultation www.yesweinspect.com/call

John Kim and Vanessa Bennett are therapists and coauthors of, It's Not Me, It's You: Break the Blame Cycle. Relationship Better. They're also a couple, who met at a time when neither was anticipating life-changing love. Learn how the pair came together, what made the start of their relationship rocky, how they navigate desire differences and what they want us all to know about relationships – all in this replay from September, 2022.   Sign up for August's free email list for occasional updates: https://substack.com/@augustmclaughlin IG: @GirlBonerMedia   FB: @MyGirlBoner  TT:: @augustmclaughlin.gb  augustmclaughlin.com Get free shipping at Crave! Elegant, woman-designed jewelry and toys here. Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin.  

In this part 3 of our Attachment series, therapist Rebecca Prolman joins John Kim to unpack how childhood misattunement wires shame, why anger isn't the enemy, and how “emotional completion” helps you reclaim the parts you exiled to survive. They explore corrective relationships (why real safety can feel scary), co-regulation for kids, and practical steps to move from fawning to sovereignty. Key topics & takeaways: Shame as a survival strategy that blocks primary emotions (grief/anger) Emotional completion: feeling what shame protected so it can release Co-regulation vs. punishment/time-outs for children's anger Corrective relationships: safety, grief, and why “boring” can be secure Depth sustains attraction; chemistry alone burns out Naming early ruptures without making caregivers “villains” Methods mentioned: NARM — Neuro-Affective Relational Model (Dr. Laurence Heller ). Resources (as mentioned by Rebecca): Try Rebecca's mini course if you're new to this work; consider the 5-module course for deeper practice HERE Parts 1 HERE & Part 2 of this series HERE

John Kim and Rebecca Prolman unpack how childhood attachment wounds and the shame-based adaptations they create - shape adult relationships. They trace core capacities (connection, attunement, trust, autonomy, love/sexuality) and show how co-regulation and healthy boundaries restore intimacy and desire. Resources mentioned: NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model) framework and a 5-module course by Rebecca you can find HERE Part 1 of this series HERE

In Part 1 of this 3-episode series, John Kim and licensed therapist Rebecca Prolman break down attachment trauma in clear, human terms. They unpack emotional neglect, nervous-system dysregulation, the NARM approach (NeuroAffective Relational Model), and why so many of us carry shame that isn't ours. You'll learn the core dilemma children face (“stay connected to myself or stay safe in the bond?”), how that shapes adult relationships, and why agency + self-compassion are non-negotiables for healing. What you'll learn: Attachment trauma vs “big-T” trauma Emotional neglect and why it's so slippery to see The core dilemma and how shame gets internalized NARM, survival strategies, and nervous-system regulation Why we numb (food, sex, alcohol, scrolling) Agency: choosing with awareness instead of self-shame

What happens when therapy becomes personal? In this raw and honest conversation, John Kim talks with licensed therapist Rebecca Prolman about her real-life experience of falling for her therapist — and what it taught her about attachment, shame, and healing. Together they explore the taboo topic of client-therapist attraction, transference and counter-transference, and how therapy can mirror our deepest childhood wounds.

In this special episode, John Kim brings together five brilliant voices - Amy Chan, Terri Cole, Dene Logan, Vanessa Bennett, and Daniel Stewart - for a raw and honest conversation about love, grief, codependency, and what it really means to grow. They unpack: Turning loss into a wake-up call

272: In part 2 of my conversation with Dr. John Kim, he's answering all your questions about autism, and how Tylenol, toxins and lifestyle can play a role in a child's development. We're also getting into blue light and its impact on sleep, skin and even cellular health. Make sure you listen to part one if you haven't already!  Topics Discussed: → What is the link between Tylenol use and autism risk? → Can lifestyle and nutrition changes help prevent autism? → How does glutathione depletion affect detox and brain health? → What's the difference between folic acid and folate for pregnant people? → How do blue light and EMFs impact sleep, skin, and overall wellness? Sponsored By: → Vimergy | New customers can save 20% off their first order with the code REALFOODOLOGY at www.vimergy.com.  → Our Place | Visit www.fromourplace.com/REALFOODOLOGY and use code REALFOODOLOGY for 10% off sitewide. With a hundred-day risk-free trial, free shipping and returns, you can experience this game-changing cookware with zero risk! → Clearstem | Go towww.clearstem.com/realfoodology and use code REALFOODOLOGY at checkout for 15% off your first order. → Puori | Feel the difference for yourself, go to www.puori.com/REALFOODOLOGY and use the code REALFOODOLOGY at checkout for 20% off.  → Everyday Dose | Buy any two Everyday Dose products at a Target store near you, and they'll pay you back for one. Visit everydaydose.com/REALFOODOLOGYBOGO for details. Timestamps:  → 00:00 - Introduction → 04:07 - Detox Protocols   → 07:30 - Autism + Acetaminophen   → 27:01 - Preventing Autism   → 35:58 - Folic Acid + Fertility  → 42:34 - Blue Light + EMFs  → 49:58 - Dr. Kim's Wellness Tips   Show Links: → Kim Wellness  Check Out: → Dr. John Kim  Check Out Courtney:  →  LEAVE US A VOICE MESSAGE →  Check Out My new FREE Grocery Guide! →  @realfoodology →  www.realfoodology.com →  My Immune Supplement by 2x4 →  Air Dr Air Purifier →  AquaTru Water Filter →  EWG Tap Water Database Produced By: Drake Peterson

In this week's episode, John Kim shares a real story about risk, fear, and transformation. What started as a property deal in Costa Rica turned into a profound reminder about the power of mindset. When we shift from fear to growth, everything changes - from how we love to how we live. ✨ Episode Highlights: How a 25-year-old inspired a new way to think about challenges Why growth mindset leads to freedom Turning your environment into a therapeutic tool Living in flow, not fear Connect with Luis Perez — Costa Rica Real Estate Agent Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luisperezrealestate/ Website: https://perezrealestategroupcr.com/ Whatsapp: wa.me/50683199154

271: Clinical pharmacist Dr. John Kim was just 33 years old when a heart attack changed everything he thought he knew about practicing medicine. Today, he's one of the top functional medicine doctors - and he's been helping me with my personal detox journey. In part one of two, Dr. Kim joins me to share the truth about cholesterol, prescription medication, and mold.  Topics Discussed: → Why did Dr. John Kim have a heart attack at age 33? → What are the biggest misconceptions about cholesterol and statins? → Is fish oil actually bad for you? → How does mold exposure affect your health? → What are the best ways to detox from mold naturally?  Sponsored By: → Beekeepers Naturals | Go to www.beekeepersnaturals.com/REALFOODOLOGY or enter code REALFOODOLOGY to get 20% off your order. → Timeline | Timeline is offering 10% off your order of Mitopure Go to www.timeline.com/REALFOODOLOGY. → Manukora | Go to www.manukora.com/REALFOODOLOGY to get $25 off the Starter Kit, which comes with an MGO 850+ Manuka Honey jar, 5 honey travel sticks, a wooden spoon, and a guidebook! → BIOptimizers | For 15% off go to www.bioptimizers.com/realfoodology and use promo code REALFOODOLOGY. → Our Place | Visit www.fromourplace.com/REALFOODOLOGY and use code REALFOODOLOGY for 10% off sitewide. → Vimergy | New customers can save 20% off their first order with the code REALFOODOLOGY at www.vimergy.com.  Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:05:24 - Dr Kim's Heart Attack at 33  → 00:12:18 - Cholesterol + Statins: Misconceptions  → 00:20:29 - Lifestyle vs. Medication   → 00:24:03 - Quality Concerns: Fish Oil + Supplements   → 00:31:03 - Mold, Lyme, & Microtoxins   → 00:42:55 - Building Cellular Resilience  → 00:52:03 - Supporting Local Farms  → 00:56:38 - Mold Detox Tips   Show Links: → Kim Wellness  Check Out: → Dr. John Kim  Check Out Courtney:  →  LEAVE US A VOICE MESSAGE →  Check Out My new FREE Grocery Guide! →  @realfoodology →  www.realfoodology.com →  My Immune Supplement by 2x4 →  Air Dr Air Purifier →  AquaTru Water Filter →  EWG Tap Water Database Produced By: Drake Peterson