Don’t Talk About It?

My perceptions change over time as I  interact with the outside world. Sometimes the world inside my head doesn't change at the same rate overtime. Seeing something for what it is, instead of what is was, has been a major challenge that has lasted too many years. 

As I dive into the uncomfortable I'm learning that in order to be present, I need to accept self. In order to accept self, I need to feel that I'm enough. 

As I grow in my perspectives on life,  I've realized a shift in mindset over the years. 

A mellow evening watching National Geographic left me with a visual of a familiar feeling I've encountered throughout my life when arriving at moments of growth.

A recent conversation with a close friend helped unearth a longtime struggle with internal feelings of inadequacy and accomplishments. Changing my focus has changed my perspective. 

My good friend Angie stops by for a conversation about personal work experiences with toxic structure and false narratives. 

Self-Reflection on obedience in relationships and how a trip to the vet helped connect the dots. 

This is one good conversation with some bad audio. My buddy Hernando catches a moment to share some of the positives perspective and life changes he experienced in 2020. 

2020 has been a hard year for most of us. This episode conveys my struggle in growth and how l choose to challenge myself to do it different. The silver lining from 2020 will stay with me as I move into the new year. 

When I lost sight of having fun, I lost sight of myself and my inner child. Where did my focus go?

So often we add items to our plate when the availability doesn't exist. This is my lesson in recognizing how to become more aware of what I can actually digest. 

stress from external environments directly impact our reaction and continue to influence the level of stress we experience. Our awareness and daily practice can shape how we adjust the dial to our reaction. 

Learning and recognizing behaviors from others, family members and friends. Having the awareness to learn from what you still is hard. Even after 36 years, I'm still recognizing old habits are hard to change. 

Sometimes our past experiences negatively impact our new ones. 

Taking action towards our goals and desires requires accountability on self.   

My Friend Steven Cordoba (QMHA) stops by for a conversation centered around making mental health our first priority. 

Embarrassing situations are not always a bad and are often opportunities for self-growth. 

My dear friend Father Joel Maiorano joins the show for a constructive conversation centered around trauma, awareness and coping. 

Evolving a relationship requires communication transparency. What we share, sets the path and the direction for growth. 

Removing ego and replacing it with genuine ownership allows us to unravel the source of the problem and discover the path to resolution. 

So often we pacify ourselves with distractions to avoid taking ownership and having the unpleasant conversation. 

Communication is drastically harder when you're not being honest with yourself. 

How content and comfortable we feel internally may escape to directly reflect our external actions. 

Recent devastating fires take a personal blow to friends, family and perspectives. The lose is heartbreaking and also enlightening. 

My good friend Cris Conn joins the show from Texas to discuss self reflection since COVID and a new discovery on personality.  www.crisconn.com

Doing something just to complete the task will not produce the result you desire. This is my personal lesson and experience with meditation. 

Goals and expectations drive and motivate our actions. This can be a positive or negative influence on our life depending on the perspective. 

Patience is one of my biggest challenges. New perspectives and tools have developed over the years, but has my patience actually improved?

An great conversationwith my friend Gini brings perspective into the mix of life and adds sugar to make it sweeter.

The uncomfortable topics didn't always surface in our pre-pandemic social environments. With the continued shut down restrictions, the lines are now getting blurred.     find Grace @ http://thecommonthieme.com

Don't let a negative fixation take away from acknowledging the positive. 

Living in a constant state of impermanence, how do we find routine.

Learning self acceptance in new ways.

I learned last weekend that our ego gets the better of us. A conflict with the local cable guy resulted in a moment to learn and become more aware.

My friend Shawn (also an identical twin) stops by to share some thoughts on labeling people as what they are instead of who they are. FYI: Buzzing in audio is not your device, should have fixed next week.

Why is it that we can desire something so hard that it drives our actions but when we get it, it rarely feels how we think it's going to and A new desire emerges.

My friend Nick stops by to discuss societies expectations on men and how breaking the mold can generate a new result.   Reference: https://mensline.org.au/wellbeing-blog/male-stereotypes-man-box/

I planned a surprise birthday for my wife and it went horribly wrong until I learned the right message.

This is the story of one women's realization that personal goals should not be determined by societal expectations.

If we continuously look for a specific version of what we seek, we may miss other opportunities to obtain it. Including the one we sometimes already possess.

A couple personal examples of good behaviors with hidden intentions. A continuation on perspectives.

Even identical twins can have completely different perspectives from the same situation. 

The actions we take are what we model for those around us. Words are not enough. 

A spent a summer on a fishing boat in Alaska and learned...a lot. 

A short story and life lesson from a close friend.

The passionate hobby that fills my life and almost never happened. Don't let others rob you of your joy.

Passionately empowering others and being true to self is what I'm about. Along the way I've encountered some interesting interactions, experiences, lessons, fails and moments for growth. This podcast tells that story. We all have moments that present opportunities to learn from. These are mine.