by Jenny Brown
In this episode, Jenny addresses the following scenario: A pastor has befriended a new church member and finds that after a very positive connection full of compliments, the relationship has become increasingly critical, with negative gossip about him spreading around church members. Jenny discusses the nature of fast-tracking of togetherness in a relationship. What pacing of a new relationship prevents […]
This scenario involves an adult daughter, her mother and her husband and father. She writes: “Another issue that keeps coming up is when I got married and moved out of home. We would visit once a week but to her it wasn’t enough. She wanted us to move in with her and my dad. […]
In this episode, Jenny addresses the following question: “How do I deal with my distant adult brother, who cuts off from our family at the first hint of any tension?” Jenny notes how helpful it is to see the perspective over time– that is the backdrop of the current challenge. This family has a history […]
In this episode, Jenny addresses the following question: Can you possibly address how efforts at Growing Yourself Up are the same or different when facing a narcissistic individual? In my case, my own mother. Many sources I’ve read on narcissism suggest that often the best course of action is “no contact” (which is obviously in […]
A conscientious parent can sometimes find themselves over focussing on one or more of their children. The appropriate level of connection and supervision can gradually increase to a worry driven response to a child – especially a child that we are more sensitive to. At this time of lockdown and school closure, this pattern can […]
Couples finding an even balance between connection and space to be individuals is central for the health of their relationship. How do you work on this balance when spending so much time together in Covid-19 lockdown? It's easy to experience varying degrees of suffocation in a relationship and to use emotional distancing to manage this. […]
Having an external drama to be absorbed in can become a detour from experiencing and addressing other more generalised tensions and issues in our lives. The anxiety sponge of the current crisis is so easily fed by an intense repetitive news cycle and amplified by social media posts. We can superficially feel better and experience […]
Many people have aspired to set and achieve new goals at this time of dramatic change. A couple of months into lockdown has left many of us drained of energy that has been absorbed by having to adapt to change and by the drain of our reacting to family members in lockdown. Goal setting may […]
Many people have aspired to set and achieve new goals at this time of dramatic change. A couple of months into lockdown has left many of us drained of energy that has been absorbed by having to adapt to change and by the drain of our reacting to family members in lockdown. Goal setting may […]
It is challenging to stay meaningfully connected to the extended family during Covid-19 isolation. Some families are struggling to manage the extra demands of their households so they are likely to put extended family interactions on hold so as not to add to the pressure. There are, however, costs to reducing these connections. In this […]
It is challenging to stay meaningfully connected to the extended family during Covid-19 isolation. Some families are struggling to manage the extra demands of their households so they are likely to put extended family interactions on hold so as not to add to the pressure. There are, however, costs to reducing these connections. In this […]
How does a parent best support the child’s learning from home? How can they manage the pulls to take over the school’s role in delivering lessons? Or the pull to correct and coerce a child to perform better? This podcast helps parents to consider what they are responsible for and what is not their responsibility […]
How does a parent best support the child’s learning from home? How can they manage the pulls to take over the school’s role in delivering lessons? Or the pull to correct and coerce a child to perform better? This podcast helps parents to consider what they are responsible for and what is not their responsibility […]
When stress is high, our typical reactive patterns will be amplified. For couples there are 3 anxiety driven patterns that can undermine a relationship (although they all play a part in steadying the individuals) 1-Distance, 2– Over and Underfunctioning, and 3- Conflict. This podcast looks at how both patterns of conflict and overfunctioning / underfunctioning […]
When stress is high, our typical reactive patterns will be amplified. For couples there are 3 anxiety driven patterns that can undermine a relationship (although they all play a part in steadying the individuals) 1-Distance, 2– Over and Underfunctioning, and 3- Conflict. This podcast looks at how both patterns of conflict and overfunctioning / underfunctioning […]
A conscientious parent can sometimes find themselves over focussing on one or more of their children. The appropriate level of connection and supervision can gradually increase to a worry driven response to a child – especially a child that we are more sensitive to. At this time of lockdown and school closure, this pattern can […]
A conscientious parent can sometimes find themselves over focussing on one or more of their children. The appropriate level of connection and supervision can gradually increase to a worry driven response to a child – especially a child that we are more sensitive to. At this time of lockdown and school closure, this pattern can […]
Couples finding an even balance between connection and space to be individuals is central for the health of their relationship. How do you work on this balance when spending so much time together in Covid-19 lockdown? It’s easy to experience varying degrees of suffocation in a relationship and to use emotional distancing to manage this. […]
Couples finding an even balance between connection and space to be individuals is central for the health of their relationship. How do you work on this balance when spending so much time together in Covid-19 lockdown? It’s easy to experience varying degrees of suffocation in a relationship and to use emotional distancing to manage this. […]
Having an external drama to be absorbed in can become a detour from experiencing and addressing other more generalised tensions and issues in our lives. The anxiety sponge of the current crisis is so easily fed by an intense repetitive news cycle and amplified by social media posts. We can superficially feel better and experience […]
Having an external drama to be absorbed in can become a detour from experiencing and addressing other more generalised tensions and issues in our lives. The anxiety sponge of the current crisis is so easily fed by an intense repetitive news cycle and amplified by social media posts. We can superficially feel better and experience […]
Withdrawing is a natural response to stress. What happens when it is socially mandated? What do we need to watch out for in following societal obligations while watching that we don’t inadvertently contribute to vulnerability to mood symptoms? Stay tuned for the weekly series: Week 2 = When the unfolding COVID-19 ‘Reality TV-like Drama’ moves into […]
Withdrawing is a natural response to stress. What happens when it is socially mandated? What do we need to watch out for in following societal obligations while watching that we don’t inadvertently contribute to vulnerability to mood symptoms? Stay tuned for the weekly series: Week 2 = When the unfolding COVID-19 ‘Reality TV-like Drama’ moves into […]
“Our family could have been a more supportive resource if individuals were able to balance their efforts to keep going with time to talk with each other about our struggles in the midst of grief.” – –J Brown, Growing Yourself Up, Chapter 15 Old Age and facing Death : Denial or honest preparation. In this […]
“Our family could have been a more supportive resource if individuals were able to balance their efforts to keep going with time to talk with each other about our struggles in the midst of grief.” – –J Brown, Growing Yourself Up, Chapter 15 Old Age and facing Death : Denial or honest preparation. In this […]
This pod cast tells of the story of a disillusioned grandparent Helen and how she shifted her efforts away from her expectations of access to her grandchildren and towards her relationship with her adult son: “Helen’s efforts went onto shifting her focus away from her grandson and back to her own son. She could see […]
This pod cast tells of the story of a disillusioned grandparent Helen and how she shifted her efforts away from her expectations of access to her grandchildren and towards her relationship with her adult son: “Helen’s efforts went onto shifting her focus away from her grandson and back to her own son. She could see […]
In this pod cast Jenny reflects a family systems view of the challenges and opportunities of adjustments in the middle years of the life cycle. Even if you are not in this stage of life it may be worthwhile to reflect on : How did your parents respond to this life stage? Is anyone in […]
Growing up through the life cycle – these podcasts are deigned to prompt thinking about one’s own life adjustments as well as reflecting on the experiences of members of the broader family. To listen on iTunes, click HERE. Episode 2 – Maturity in leaving home
Growing up through the life cycle – these podcasts are deigned to prompt thinking about one’s own life adjustments as well as reflecting on the experiences of members of the broader family. To listen on iTunes, click HERE.
Growing up through the life cycle – these podcasts are deigned to prompt thinking about one’s own life adjustments as well as reflecting on the experiences of members of the broader family. To listen on iTunes, click HERE.
Growing up through the life cycle – these podcasts are deigned to prompt thinking about one’s own life adjustments as well as reflecting on the experiences of members of the broader family. NOTE: this podcast is longer than my previous posts. This wasn’t intended as I started to record – however I realised that the […]
Growing up through the life cycle – these podcasts are deigned to prompt thinking about one’s own life adjustments as well as reflecting on the experiences of members of the broader family. To listen on iTunes, click HERE. Episode 2 – Maturity in leaving home
Growing up through the life cycle – these podcasts are deigned to prompt thinking about one’s own life adjustments as well as reflecting on the experiences of members of the broader family. To listen on iTunes, click HERE. Episode 1: Our family of origin – each sibling grows up in a different family
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