Podcasts about Parenting

"You're Supposed to Raise Them to Leave You, Not Need You!" - Listen to my Morning Monologue: I'm sharing my take on pressing issues, enlightening research on human behavior, answering questions I get by email, and my favorite, most instructive interactions with callers. Everything you'll hear is designed to help you become a better spouse, parent, family member, co-worker, friend, and human being. It's the free therapy you need!  Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com Follow me on social media: Facebook.com/DrLaura Instagram.com/DrLauraProgram YouTube.com/DrLaura Join My Family!! Receive my Weekly Newsletter + 20% off my Marriage 101 course & 25% off Merch! Sign up now, it's FREE! Each week you'll get new articles, featured emails from listeners, special event invitations, early access to my Dr. Laura Designs Store benefiting Children of Fallen Patriots, and MORE! Sign up at DrLaura.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Angela Rye has accomplished so much in her career but she’s never had a family of her own. Thankfully, she has lots of friends to play auntie to, like her co-host Andrew Gillum! In this heartfelt episode, Angela quizzes Andrew about fatherhood. We don’t talk about the realness of parenting enough. Parenting is hard, it requires sacrifice, and changes every aspect of your personal life. It’s also profoundly rewarding and transformative. If you’d like to submit a question, check out our tutorial video: http://www.instagram.com/reel/C5j_oBXLIg0/ and send to @nativelandpod. Welcome home y’all! —--------- We want to hear from you! Send us a video @nativelandpod and we may feature you on the podcast. Instagram X/Twitter Facebook NativeLandPod.com Watch full episodes of Native Land Pod here on YouTube. Native Land Pod is brought to you by Reasoned Choice Media. Thank you to the Native Land Pod team: Angela Rye as host, executive producer, and cofounder of Reasoned Choice Media; Andrew Gillum as host and producer, Bakari Sellers as host and producer, and Lauren Hansen as executive producer; LoLo Mychael is our research producer, and Nikolas Harter is our editor and producer. Special thanks to Chris Morrow and Lenard McKelvey, co-founders of Reasoned Choice Media. Theme music created by Daniel Laurent.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's episode I sit down with professor Arthur Brooks to explore what actually makes a life feel meaningful in a culture obsessed with achievement, optimization, and measurable success. We talk about why happiness is more than a feeling, the difference between pain and suffering, how meaning is built through coherence, purpose, and significance, and why so many high achievers still feel empty. We discuss practical ways to resist the pressure to turn ourselves and our kids into “human doings,” and instead to just love ourselves are our children for who they are, not just for what they accomplish.I WROTE MY FIRST BOOK! Order your copy of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans Here: https://bit.ly/3rMLMsLSubscribe to my free newsletter for parenting tips delivered straight to your inbox: https://dralizapressman.substack.com/Follow me on Instagram for more:@raisinggoodhumanspodcast Sponsors:Experian: Get started with the Experian App now!Ello: Visit ElloProducts.com/CleanStart and use code RGH at checkout for 20% off your first purchaseKa'Chava: Go to https://kachava.com and use code HUMANS for 15% off your first orderNurture Life: For 55% off your order + FREE shipping, head to NurtureLife.com/HUMANS and use codeHUMANSProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Segment 1 • The push to abandon church buildings for “first-century house churches”: admirable or misguided? • Did the early church reject formal worship spaces, like church buildings? • Old Testament and synagogue patterns challenge the modern church narratives. Segment 2 • The popular image of early Christian churches: casual gatherings with no leaders or structure. • Historical evidence shows early worship was organized and liturgical. • The “pure house church” idea may be a modern projection. Segment 3 • Two major historical events forced believers out of synagogues and public worship. • As time went on, Christians increasingly faced expulsion and persecution from their governments. • Change of pace: how much has parenting really changed since the 80's and 90's? Segment 4 • What does modern-day church gathering and discipleship look like? • Though parenting is never easy, parents today face difficulties that they didn't 20 or 30 years ago. • How can churches and communities come together, gather around families, and love and support children together? ___ Thanks for listening! Wretched Radio would not be possible without the financial support of our Gospel Partners. If you would like to support Wretched Radio we would be extremely grateful. VISIT https://fortisinstitute.org/donate/ If you are already a Gospel Partner we couldn't be more thankful for you if we tried!

Parenting a child who has special needs is a unique journey filled with challenges and joys. Sara Clime joins Jim Daly to discuss some of the things she's learned while raising her son. Plus, John and Danny give you some ideas for how you can help a parent who has a child with special needs. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/parentingpodcast. Or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Other Side of Special for your donation of any amount! Take the 7 Traits of Effective Parenting Assessment The Beauty of Raising a Special Needs Child Contact our Counseling Team Parenting and Special Needs: Why Me? Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Parenting Podcast, please give us your feedback.

What do kids actually think about being disciplined?In Episode 114 of High Performance Parenting, Greg Francis sits down with daughters Abbie and Elli to discuss their childhood experience growing up in a home with clear expectations and consistent discipline.They share real stories about:Moments they got in trouble growing upThe difference between punishment and loving disciplineWhy parents must establish standards in the homeHow discipline actually restored relationshipsWhy discipline helped build respect for authority and God's WordThis episode kicks off a deeper series exploring how biblical discipline helps raise strong, responsible children in a chaotic world.(00:00) Kids Naturally Test Boundaries(01:30) Why Parents Must Establish Standards(03:10) Funny Childhood Moments Getting in Trouble(05:02) Punishment vs Loving Discipline(07:08) Why Discipline Restores Relationships(09:12) Teaching Respect for Authority(11:04) Consistency in Parenting(13:18) Why Parents Must Lead First(15:20) Preparing for the Discipline Series

Parenting coach and early childhood specialist DJ Stutz joins us to talk about the reality of raising children and why she calls parents “imperfect heroes.” As the oldest of seven siblings, a mother of five, and grandmother of thirteen, DJ has spent a lifetime caring for children and helping families navigate the challenges of parenting. In this conversation, DJ shares how her journey from raising her own children to teaching kindergarten and working with families in shelters and prisons led her to start helping parents through coaching, workshops, and her podcast, Imperfect Heroes. Her goal is simple but powerful: to help parents rediscover the joy in raising their children. We talk about why many parenting struggles actually begin with adult expectations and how understanding child development can completely change the way we respond to difficult behavior. DJ explains that discipline isn't about punishment—it's about teaching, setting clear boundaries, and creating a sense of safety for kids. DJ also shares practical advice on improving communication with children, managing big emotions like anxiety, and modeling emotional regulation so kids can learn how to handle their own feelings. Often, the most powerful parenting lessons happen when children simply watch how we respond to stress and conflict.To find out more about DJ and her books and podcast, visit imperfectheroes.net.Want to be a guest on Life Stories Podcast? Send Shara Goswick a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/lifestoriespodcast

Why do we miss someone who hurt us?In this deeply honest episode of Female Voices: Life & Loss, hosts LaWayna Berry and Teresa Reiniger explore one of the most confusing layers of grief: grieving someone who caused you pain.Leaving a relationship that isn't healthy should feel like freedom — but often it doesn't. It can feel like loss, heartbreak, and the death of the future you thought you would have. LaWayna shares her personal story of divorce, trauma bonding, and the painful realization that love and harm can exist in the same relationship. Together, she and Teresa unpack the emotional complexity of attachment, the grief of lost dreams, and why protecting yourself doesn't mean you didn't love deeply.If you've ever questioned why leaving still hurts, or why you miss someone who didn't treat you well, this conversation will remind you that your grief is valid — and you're not alone.

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This is one of the most vulnerable conversations we've ever had on the podcast. In this episode, Deena shares something deeply personal: her experience with postpartum depression after the birth of her third baby. What started as exhaustion and overwhelm slowly turned into something heavier, constant tears, crushing shame, and dark thoughts she never imagined she would have as a mom.If you've ever felt like you're failing at motherhood… like everyone else is coping better than you… like your brain is telling you lies about who you are as a parent, this episode is for you. Together, Kristin and Deena talk honestly about what postpartum depression actually feels like from the inside, the warning signs that something wasn't right, and the moment Deena realized she needed help. They also talk about the power of saying the scary thoughts out loud, the role of support from partners and friends, and the steps that helped Deena begin to find her way back.
In this episode, you'll hear:• What postpartum depression can actually look like in real life• The thoughts many struggling moms are too ashamed to say out loud• Why postpartum depression has nothing to do with being a “good” or “bad” mom• How to recognize when it's time to reach out for help• The small steps that can start the path toward feeling betterIf you are struggling, please know this: there's nothing wrong with you, you are not alone, and help is out there. This conversation is raw, honest, and ultimately hopeful, because no mom should have to carry this alone. You can also contact Postpartum Support International (they have free helplines, tests, and local providers). If you're in immediate danger, call or text 988 in the U.S. If you're elsewhere, your local emergency number can connect you to crisis support.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Experian - Get started with the Experian App now! See experian.com for details.Little Spoon - Get 30% off your first order at littlespoon.com/BLF30 with code BLF30.Our Place - Stop cooking with toxic cookware and upgrade to Our Place today! Visit fromourplace.com/BLF and use code BLF for 10% off sitewide. Nutrafol - Head to nutrafol.com and enter the promo code FEELINGS for $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping. Quince - Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to quince.com/BLF for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Unreal Snacks - Visit unrealsnacks.com/BLF to get $2 off a bag of Unreal. Terms and conditions apply. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Parenting changes everything, including your relationship. In this episode, I sit down with therapist and author Eli Weinstein to talk honestly about why couples feel so disconnected after kids, what actually fuels resentment, and the small shifts that bring you back to each other. We cover expectations, invisible labor, communication traps, and why the first year with a new baby can shake even the strongest partnership. Eli also walks through practical tools like the five-minute check in, full communication, and his favorite phrase for opening up hard conversations without them turning into fights. This episode is real, relatable, and grounding. If you've ever thought, “We love each other, so why does this feel so heavy?”, you're not alone. Eli shares stories from his own marriage, the couples he supports, and the tiny moments that rebuild connection when life feels chaotic. Whether you're new parents, in the thick of it, or years past the baby stage, this is a conversation that brings clarity and hope. What we talk about: Why the first year after a baby strains even healthy relationships Expectations vs perception vs reality The invisible load and why it feels so uneven How resentment quietly builds The five-minute daily check in Full communication (and why hints don't work) Rhombus moments for airing feelings safely Fighting fair and repairing in front of kids Why couples don't need perfection, just honesty Small gestures that matter more than grand romantic moments To connect with Eli Weinstein follow him on Instagram @thedudetherapist, check out all his resources at linktr.ee/dudetherapist and buy his book “From I Do To We Do”: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book  TBD Chapters Our podcasts are also now on YouTube. If you prefer a video podcast with closed captioning, check us out there and ⁠subscribe to PedsDocTalk⁠. Get trusted pediatric advice, relatable parenting insights, and evidence-based tips delivered straight to your inbox—join thousands of parents who rely on the PDT newsletter to stay informed, supported, and confident. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠! And don't forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠⁠@pedsdoctalkpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram—our new space just for parents looking for real talk and real support. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the ⁠PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships⁠ page of the website.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I've been thinking a lot about how we talk about food, bodies, and health with our kids…and with ourselves. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lauren Hartman to explore how parents can model kindness, trust their instincts, and help kids develop a healthy relationship with food without shame or rules. We talk about movement, social media, high sugar foods, and the small daily choices that shape how children experience their bodies. Whether you're navigating mealtimes, worried about eating habits, or just want practical ways to support your child's well-being, this conversation is full of insights you can actually use. We also touch on early intervention, balancing nutrition with life's realities, and why rest, self-compassion, and awareness can make all the difference. → Leave Us A Voice Message!  Topics Discussed: → How do I spot teen eating disorders? → Picky eating vs ARFID → What causes eating disorders in teens? → How should parents talk about food? → When should I worry about eating? Sponsored By:  → Function | Own your health for $365 a year. That's a dollar a day. Learn more and join using my link. Visit https://www.functionhealth.com/bewellbykelly and use gift code BEWELL25 for a $25 credit toward your membership → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at https://bewellbykelly.com. → Cozy Earth | Head to https://cozyearth.com and use code BEWELL for up to 20% off. And if you get a post-purchase survey, make sure you tell them you heard about Cozy Earth right here at the Be Well by Kelly podcast. → Timeline | Support your cells and how you age with Mitopure® Gummies from Timeline. Visit https://timeline.com/KELLY and save up to 39% off your Mitopure® Gummies. Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:02:04 - What are eating disorders → 00:04:32 - Eating disorders in boys → 00:06:22 - Why cases are rising → 00:09:40 - Dieting vs disordered eating → 00:12:59 - Early warning signs → 00:19:58 - Talking to your child → 00:24:10 - Eating disorder education → 00:29:28 - Personal backstory → 00:33:22 - Balance + rabbit study → 00:40:25 - Control and emotional eating → 00:44:26 - Eating disorder recovery → 00:50:07 - Preventing relapse → 00:52:09 - Sugar + processed foods → 00:55:55 - Talking to kids about food → 00:59:33 - Food freedom philosophy → 01:01:56 - Parenting legacy → 01:04:06 - Parenting lessons learned Show Links: → How to Nourish Your Child Through an Eating Disorder (book) Check Out Dr. Lauren: → Freeing Children and Young Adults From Shame, Skills, and Stigma (book) → Website → Instagram Check Out Kelly: → Instagram → Youtube → Facebook

Hello hello, we are here. We are swamped with things, crazed, and late on our episode, but we are here and doing the best we can. What's been going on with us? We get into all of it. Plus, our thoughts on what we've been watching - Love Story, more weekly Timothee Chalamet commentary, debating whether or not we want to go to the Elton John Oscars After Party, the goodness of French onion soup, and lots more from the Port-Rosenman Kitchen Table Chronicles. PS. Timmy has 24 Hours to let me know if you want to come to the Elton John After Party with me. Thank you for being here with us!This episode is brought to you by HERS and Sam Edelman. It's time you get the support that actually reflects your needs. Start your free intake at ForHers.comTime to refresh for spring, visit samedelman.com to explore everything you need for spring and get 15% off with code WITHWHIT15This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are screens ruining our kids' childhoods? Is AI going to rot our brains in the next thirty days? Or are these the latest examples of a very human tendency: the catastrophizing of change? From the dawn of the printing press to the Satanic panic over heavy metal lyrics, we explore the long history of social panics, find familiar patterns, and discuss our findings, including: Why parents are often thrust onto the front lines of new technology fears Why each generation believes the newest media will cause moral or cognitive decline The role of mass media and politics in amplifying fear How parents can keep perspective while still setting healthy limits on technology Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode: Brittany Wong for HuffPost: New Study Shows This Social Platform Can Shift Your Politics To The Right — And It Happens Very Fast Wikipedia: definition of a moral panic Jo Ellen Parker for Liberal Arts Online: Socrates on Technology Christie Stratos: Why Did the Victorians Think It Was Dangerous for Women to Read Novels and Newspapers? Ana Vogrinčič for Media Research Journal: The Novel-Reading Panic in 18thCentury in England: An Outline of an Early Moral Media Panic Sarah Durn for Atlas Obscura: How Gruesome Penny Dreadfuls Got Victorian Children Reading Miller Kern for Ball Bearings Magazine: The Downfall of Society PS Art Books: The Comic Book Burnings of the 1940s: A Cultural Firestorm What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ What Fresh Hell podcast, mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, parenting panics, moral panic parenting, screen time kids, technology and children, parenting fears, media panic history, parenting and technology, video games and kids, screen time debate, parenting anxiety, social media and kids, parenting trends history, generational parenting fears, digital parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of parenting beyond merely raising well-behaved children. She challenges the notion that the primary goal of parenting should be to produce obedient kids who do the right things at the right times. Instead, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of encouraging children to be comfortable in their own skin and to embrace their true selves. Drawing on insights from Elizabeth Tenty's article in Motherly, the discussion highlights four key practices of parents with well-behaved kids: listening to their children, validating emotions, explaining decisions, and maintaining consistent boundaries. Join us as we explore a more holistic approach to parenting that focuses on nurturing individuality and self-acceptance in children.

Have you noticed how often adults disagree with each other now?  People are losing trust in authority. Teachers say one thing. Experts say another. Social media says something completely different. And quietly, many parents are asking a question they never expected to ask: Who is shaping our children right now and can I protect them? Children may not follow the headlines or cultural debates, but they do feel the confusion around them. And when authority outside the home becomes uncertain, they instinctively look to the people closest to them for direction. Which means something important is happening right now. The world our children are growing up in is changing and we need to slow things down. For generations, parents could rely on the authority of the institutions around them. Schools reinforced what families taught at home. Communities shared similar expectations. Experts were generally trusted voices of guidance. But today, many parents sense that something feels different, and they are concerned. Experts disagree publicly. Cultural expectations are shifting quickly. And the voices shaping our children's thinking seem louder and more numerous than ever before. So where does that leave parents? In this episode of Equipped To Be, Connie Albers explores why parents must lead more intentionally in a culture where authority is increasingly distrusted and societal norms are breaking apart. Children may not understand the cultural shifts happening around them, but they absolutely feel the uncertainty. And when the world feels confusing, they instinctively look to the people closest to them. You, their parents! Connie shares why the home has never been more important and how parents can create stability for their children even when the culture around them feels unsettled. When authority outside the home weakens, the influence of parents does not shrink: it grows. Read the full show notes with links here: What Parents Must Lead More in a Culture Losing Authority Popular podcast episodes: Raising Children in the Fastest-Changing Era in History 10 Gratitude Habits for a Happier Mom More Moms are Choosing to Stay at Home with Their Children If you enjoy listening to Parenting and Homeschool Advice ~ Equipped To Be with Connie Albers, please leave a review and a five-star rating. It is easy and will only take a few seconds. When you do, it helps others see the show in their feed. Also, would you kindly share this with a friend or two? Equipped To Be might be an encouragement to them, too. Thank you ~ Connie   Have a question? Interested in having Connie speak? Send an email to Connie here: https://conniealbers.com/contact/   

In this episode, Dr. Alfonso sits down with Caleb Hurd, founder of Chatperone, an AI chat platform built specifically to keep kids safe online. As a father of two and a 20-year tech industry veteran, Caleb built Chatperone not for investors or school district contracts, but for his own children first. What started as a personal solution has become a mission to give parents and educators peace of mind in a world where AI chatbots are already in the hands of our kids.From the Character AI controversy to COPPA compliance gaps, Caleb and Dr. Fonz unpack the real dangers lurking in unguarded AI platforms and why Big Tech is getting it wrong. They also explore what it truly means to put the child at the center of EdTech design, how parents and teachers can work together to guide healthy AI interactions, and why data ownership matters more than ever in 2026.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Context Setting06:04 The Birth of Chatperone12:01 Navigating Parental Concerns17:48 Building Trust with Parents23:52 Challenges with Big Tech29:52 The Future of Child Safety in EdTech30:47 Understanding AI in Education35:46 Building Solutions with Children in Mind40:39 The Philosophy Behind Chatperone42:44 Navigating the Current Educational Landscape47:46 Reflections on Parenting and TechnologySponsor ShoutoutThank you to our sponsors: Book Creator, Eduaide.AI, and Peel Back Education for supporting My EdTech Life.Get 3 Months of Book Creator Premium Access Free!Use Code: MyEdTechLifeStay Techie ✌️Peel Back Education exists to uncover, share, and amplify powerful, authentic stories from inside classrooms and beyond, helping educators, learners, and the wider community connect meaningfully with the people and ideas shaping education today. Authentic engagement, inclusion, and learning across the curriculum for ALL your students. Teachers love Book Creator.Support the show

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"What To Do When Your Adult Son and His Girlfriend Are Shacking Up" - Listen to my Morning Monologue: I'm sharing my take on pressing issues, enlightening research on human behavior, answering questions I get by email, and my favorite, most instructive interactions with callers. Everything you'll hear is designed to help you become a better spouse, parent, family member, co-worker, friend, and human being. It's the free therapy you need!  Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com Follow me on social media: Facebook.com/DrLaura Instagram.com/DrLauraProgram YouTube.com/DrLaura Join My Family!! Receive my Weekly Newsletter + 20% off my Marriage 101 course & 25% off Merch! Sign up now, it's FREE! Each week you'll get new articles, featured emails from listeners, special event invitations, early access to my Dr. Laura Designs Store benefiting Children of Fallen Patriots, and MORE! Sign up at DrLaura.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Some musicians learn the blues. Others are raised inside it.Today I sit down with Doyle Bramhall II, one of the most distinctive voices in modern blues guitar and contemporary roots music. Raised in Texas as the son of legendary musician Doyle Bramhall, he grew up surrounded by the raw musical energy of the Austin music scene, absorbing the sounds of blues and rock from an early age.Doyle has built a remarkable career as a guitarist, vocalist, composer, and producer, collaborating with artists including Eric Clapton, Elton John, Gary Clark Jr., Dr. John, Gregg Allman, Sheryl Crow, and Erykah Badu. His playing style is instantly recognizable, partly because he plays left-handed with a guitar strung for a right-handed player and flipped upside down.We dive into the fascinating origins of his musical journey, including the moment when a visit from someone special inspired him to take the guitar seriously. Doyle shares his insight into his personal work developing the Ultimate Breakthrough, a process designed to support energetic and consciousness shifts aligned with one's purpose.You'll Learn:[00:00] Introduction[07:53] Growing up inside the Austin blues scene[17:03] How playing guitar upside down led to the Eric Clapton gig[38:54] From the Fabulous Thunderbirds to the Archangels[44:05] How Stevie's death sent Doyle into a two-year heroin spiral[57:51] What made Sly Stone one of the most innovative artists who ever lived[01:23:46] Staying sober while working with plant medicine[01:35:14] The chain of synchronicities that led Doyle from isolation to his life's calling[01:55:23] How Doyle's healing practice works and happens during a session[02:07:55] The three influences that shaped Doyle as a musicianRelated The Life Stylist Episodes:Not Just For Sleep: Melatonin | The Master Molecule + Next Level Biohacks w/ Dr. John Lieurance | PodcastThe Future Of Chronic Pain & Injury Healing W/ Drs. Matt Cook & John Lieurance | PodcastHeal Your Chronic Pain & Disease Now w/ Regenerative Medicine Feat. Dr. John Lieurance | PodcastThe Mega Quadcast! Life, Death & Love w/ Dr. John Lieurance, Josh Trent & Cal Callahan | PodcastMiracle Stem Cell + Laser Treatments for Hearing Loss & Tinnitus w/ Dr. John Lieurance | PodcastPsychedelic Journey & Jetlag Resilience, Mega-Dose Methylene Blue & Melatonin w/ Dr. John Lieurance | PodcastPornography, Parenting, Psychedelics & Rites of Passage w/ Josh Trent & Dr. John Lieurance | PodcastSupercharged Stem Cells, Prostate Power & Next Level Nutraceuticals w/ Dr. John Lieurance | PodcastThe Ultimate Guide to Human Design: Break Your Conditioning & Embody Your Power | PodcastElle Macpherson: The Journey from Fashion & Fame to Surrender, Service, and Spiritual Wisdom | PodcastResources Mentioned:The Arc Angels | WikipediaDoyle Bramhall | WikipediaThe Blues Accordin' to Lightnin' Hopkins | WebsiteHot Pepper | WebsiteREAD: A Course in Miracles by Helen Shucman | BookREAD: Alcoholics Anonymous by AAWS | BookREAD: A Horse Named Lonesome by Luke Storey | WebsiteREAD: How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan | BookCarl Jung | WikipediaREAD: Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda | BookFind more from Doyle:Doyle Bramhall II | Website | Instagram | Facebook | X | TikTok | YouTubeFind more from Luke:Luke Storey | Instagram | Facebook | X | YouTube | LinkedInTHE LIFE STYLIST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:FOUR SIGMATIC | Get a FREE bag of Four Sigmatic Original Mushroom Coffee—organic, third‑party tested, with lion's mane and chaga. Just pay shipping at foursigmatic.com/lukeREAL PROVISIONS | Visit realprovisions.com/luke and use code LUKE to get a free bag of Venison Chips with your order.JUST THRIVE | Head to justthrivehealth.com and use code LUKE20 to save 20%.LVLUP Health | Visit lukestorey.com/lvlup and use code LUKE15 to save 15%.

Last week, Karen talked about the temperaments. This week, she takes that conversation one step further by answering real questions from moms who are navigating strong-willed kids, harsh words, whining, and emotional outbursts. If you've ever looked at your child and thought, I know their heart is sweet, so why is this coming out so sideways? this episode is for you. Karen shares practical wisdom for understanding your child's wiring, correcting with grace, and helping them grow.Episode Recap:Last week, we talked about blue and red temperaments (2:00)My blue/green son often comes across as critical and harsh (3:00)My rising Kindergartener is controlling and bossy and can be physical (7:23)My daughter used to love being the center of attention, now she's self-conscious (12:25)What is the temperaments book you reference all the time? (16:05)Pick a “lane” when you take the temperaments test (18:57) Scripture: Hebrews 12:11 (NIV) “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”Discussion Questions: Which of my child's behaviors may be connected to their temperament, and which ones need clear correction?Do I tend to react to my child's tone or behavior in a way that escalates things?How can I better coach my child after the emotional moment has passed?Where does my own temperament make parenting this child especially hard?What would it look like to be more patient and intentional in helping this child grow over time?Resources:Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insiderEpisodes featuring moms of different temperament colors: 330, 331, 332, 333Grab Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer Take the Colors Temperament Quiz todayWant More of This Conversation?Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen delves deeper into how moms' own temperaments affect the way they respond to their kids and gives a helpful rundown of the core needs of each temperament.Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

Patty Laushman, a speaker, autism life coach, and the author of the book Parenting for Independence: Overcoming Failure to Launch in Autistic Emerging Adults, joins me to talk about one of the misunderstood stages of parenting: supporting our neurodivergent kids as they move into emerging adulthood. In our conversation, Patty and I unpack the concept of “failure to launch,” why that label is actually unhelpful and inaccurate, and how redefining independence can change everything. We talk about self-determination, motivation, and what support actually looks like during this phase of life. Patty also shares her SBN parenting framework—Support, Boundaries, and Nudges—and offers grounded, compassionate guidance for navigating this transition while strengthening trust and connection along the way. About Patty Laushman   Patty Laushman is an author, speaker, educator, and coach who specializes in supporting neurodivergent individuals and the families who love them. With both personal and professional experience, she deeply understands the challenges of being neurodivergent in a world designed for those who are more neurotypical—and the transformative power of the right kind of support. She is the founder and head coach at Thrive Autism Coaching, where she and her team help neurodivergent teens and adults, as well as their parents, build the skills and confidence needed to thrive. Patty developed the SBN™ parenting framework, a step-by-step system that teaches parents how to use support, boundaries, and nudges to help their autistic emerging adults reclaim motivation, build momentum, and move toward more meaningful lives on their own terms. Through her Parenting for Independence group coaching program, Patty has guided hundreds of families through this unexpected stage of parenting—helping them rebuild trust, strengthen relationships, and finally start seeing progress. Her compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming approach has been described by clients as “the only thing that has ever worked for us.”She lives with her husband, son, and Golden Retriever in the Denver/Boulder metro area. In her spare time, you'll find her hiking, camping, headbanging to heavy metal, or devouring medical or crime dramas. Things you'll learn from this episode   How understanding a child's lived experience lays the groundwork for more effective, compassionate parenting Why the term “failure to launch,” while loaded, can help families find the right support and resources How redefining independence to include positive interdependence supports healthier outcomes for emerging adults Why self-determination is central to helping neurodivergent young adults move out of stuckness and burnout How the SBN framework—Support, Boundaries, and Nudges—guides parents in creating momentum without control Why resetting expectations and timelines can ease parental shame and anxiety while supporting real growth Resources mentioned Patty Laushman's website Thrive Autism Coaching Parenting for Independence: Overcoming Failure to Launch in Autistic Emerging Adults by Patty Laushman How to Get Your Autistic Emerging Adult in the Driver's Seat of Their Life (freebie from Patty) Parenting for Independence (Patty's program) Private Coaching for Parents with Patty The Real Work of Parenting Neurodivergent Young Adults (Part 1) — a crossover episode with Penny Williams (Full-Tilt Parenting podcast) The Real Work of Parenting ND Young Adults (Part 2) (Beautifully Complex podcast) A Conservation with Dr. Gina Riley on Self-Determination Theory & Motivation (Full-Tilt Parenting) A Conversation with Linda Murphy About Declarative Language episode (Full-Tilt Parenting) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr Kirk Honda and Humberto Castaneda dive deep into the psychology of Columbine shooting. March 10, 2026This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Why do kids show challenging behavior—and what actually helps? In this episode, Dr. Ross Greene shares a powerful mindset shift: behavior isn't about motivation, it's about skills and unmet expectations. When we view behavior as communication, we can move from reacting to problems to proactively solving them with our kids. This conversation will help you bring more calm, connection, and collaboration into your parenting. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MindfulMamaMentor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠/mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ruby Franke's YouTube channel "8 Passengers" had 2.5 million subscribers watching her parent six children. She posted five days a week for eight years. The world saw a devoted Mormon mother with all the answers.In August 2023, her twelve-year-old son escaped through a window — emaciated, bound with rope, wounds on his wrists and ankles. Police found his ten-year-old sister malnourished in a closet. Both had been tortured.Ruby Franke is now serving four to thirty years for aggravated child abuse. Her case has spawned documentaries on Netflix, Hulu, and Investigation Discovery. Her eldest children are processing publicly. Her ex-husband is speaking out.But Part 1 of "The Good Mother" goes beyond the headlines to examine the psychology underneath: What creates a performance parent? What does it do to children when love is conditional on maintaining the image? Why do systems fail to recognize abuse hiding behind a polished exterior?The warning signs were visible on Ruby's channel for years. A teenager sleeping on a beanbag for seven months. A six-year-old denied lunch at school. Children humiliated on camera. Viewers reported her to CPS. A petition was launched. Nothing changed.Narcissistic parenting doesn't always look like abuse. Sometimes it looks like high standards. Sometimes it looks like involvement. Sometimes it looks like a mother who documents everything because she cares so much.This episode examines the emotional architecture of performance parenting — and why it resonates with anyone who grew up with a parent who was one person in public and another person at home.Ruby Franke taught parenting to millions. Her children are still recovering from being raised by her.Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#RubyFranke #NarcissisticMother #8Passengers #JodiHildebrandt #PerformanceParenting #NarcissisticAbuse #FamilyVlogger #TrueCrime #MomfluencerAbuse #CultPsychology

I ran a little experiment on our parenting brand: two almost identical videos, same topic, same style. One got 205 views. The other exploded to 64,000 views in 36 hours—and it's still climbing. What changed? A tiny psychological tweak in our communication. Here's the backstory: I've been knee-deep in AI, solo parenting chaos, and business pivots, all while hunting for clarity. On a recent morning drive, it hit me—communication isn't just messaging. It's tapping into experiences and subconscious triggers that drive every decision. Today on the podcast, we unpack how to speak your audience's language and unlock virality by challenging and validating their reality. Listen in and discover: The 40 Mile-an-Hour Effect: why shaking at 40 mph is a perfect metaphor for audience attention   The exact headline formula that turned "Parenting is hardest for good parents. Am I wrong?" into 64K views   Why experiences often outweigh beliefs in creating deep, automatic connections   How to craft validation content that feels tailor-made for your audience   Simple prompts to challenge your listeners' reality and skyrocket engagement   If you're ready to stop talking at people and start tapping into what they truly feel and experience, this episode is for you. Tune in now, put these ideas into action, and watch your content take off. Did you enjoy this episode? I'd love it if you'd share it on Instagram and tag me @iambrandonlucero! Thank you for supporting the show. Find me on: IG: @iambrandonlucero Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IAmBrandonLucero  Website: https://www.brandonlucero.com 

Ruby Franke built a parenting empire on YouTube. 2.5 million subscribers watched her raise six children. She looked like exactly what she was selling: a devoted mother with answers for everything.Her children experienced someone different.Part 1 of "The Good Mother" examines narcissistic mother psychology through the Ruby Franke case — the parent whose public warmth masked private cruelty, whose love was conditional on compliance, whose children learned early that their value was measured by how well they maintained her image.In August 2023, two of Ruby's children were found starving and bound in her business partner's home. They had been told they were evil and possessed. They had been tortured in the name of repentance.Ruby is serving four to thirty years for aggravated child abuse. Her eldest daughter Shari published a memoir. Her son Chad processes his childhood publicly on TikTok. The documentaries keep coming.But the patterns in this story aren't unique to one extreme case.Performance parenting — the parent who is warm for audiences and cold at home, who punishes children most harshly for threatening their reputation, whose affection must be earned — is a pattern that millions recognize.The warning signs were on camera for years. Viewers reported Ruby to CPS. Nothing changed. The algorithm rewarded her. The performance continued until a twelve-year-old escaped through a window.This episode explores what it does to a child when love is conditional on maintaining the show. When your value is how you make your parent look. When embarrassing them is the worst crime.Ruby Franke taught parenting to millions. Her children are still recovering from being raised by her.Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#RubyFranke #NarcissisticMother #8Passengers #PerformanceParenting #JodiHildebrandt #FamilyVlogger #NarcissisticAbuse #ConditionalLove #MomfluencerAbuse #TrueCrime

Are you parenting from trust—or survival? In this episode I sit down with Debbie Simmons, mom of thirteen and leadership strategist, to explore the hidden defaults that hijack our parenting when pressure hits—control, silence, over-functioning, people pleasing. We talk about why being the "strong one" in your family might actually be costing you your health and your connection with your teen. Debbie shares her T.R.U.S.T. framework and we dig into how letting go of control opens the door to the relationship your teen actually needs from you. This one will shift something in you. About Debbie Simmons: Debbie Simmons is a keynote speaker, author, leadership strategist, and CEO of Anchor Point. Known as The Legacy Architect, she guides high-capacity leaders from success into significance through her Architecture of Trust framework. A mother of thirteen—four in heaven, nine through adoption—Debbie is the author of The Heart of Legacy and creator of The Vision Day Experience. Learn more at thedebbiesimmons.com. Find out more and see the show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-645-parenting-from-trust-with-debbie-simmons/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Love alone isn't always enough to keep everyone under one roof feeling connected and secure. Despite the dream of harmony and the promise of new beginnings, many families find themselves struggling with uncertainty, misaligned expectations, and recurring conflicts that love simply can't resolve. Is it possible to create a sense of "home" where everyone feels seen, heard, and supported—without sacrificing your relationship or your own well-being? In this episode, listeners will discover why building a thriving blended family isn't just about love—it's about creating alignment through clear roles, structure, and intentional communication. The conversation explores the real-life challenges that stepfamilies and modern families face, including competing parenting philosophies, the presence of ex-partners, and loyalty struggles with children. Listeners will learn actionable strategies such as the Pause, Align, and Present method for unified parenting, tips for connecting before correcting, and ways to foster trust and emotional safety while honoring everyone's unique needs. Get ready to transform overwhelm into clarity, and confusion into a cooperative partnership—one step at a time. April is a licensed marriage and family therapist, stepfamily expert, and founder of Couples Thrive. She specializes in helping modern couples, especially those in blended families, create emotional safety, reduce conflict, and parent as a united team. She is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the most research-backed approaches for couples, and her work has been featured in national outlets like Psychology Today and the Gottman Institute.   Episode Highlights 06:09 Unique challenges blended families face as they merge different histories and systems. 09:56 Building alignment through clear structure and defined expectations. 12:24 Navigating family differences with the 60-30-10 rule. 14:19 Smoothing family life with weekly check-ins and defined roles. 19:09 Setting realistic expectations and practicing patience in blended families. 23:22 Overcoming common challenges through preparation and planning. 25:22 Unifying parenting decisions with the Pause, Align, and Present method. 28:13 Modeling teamwork and authentic connection during disagreements. 31:34 Building mutual respect through the power of pausing. 35:58 Balancing parental authority while empowering children's voices. 39:36 Building trust as a stepparent by navigating loyalty binds. 43:19 Fostering respectful communication with clear boundaries and rules. 46:40 Helping blended families thrive with expert tools and support.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Start a shared journal or Notes app with your partner to track moments of alignment and areas of struggle throughout the week. Set aside time for a weekly alignment conversation where you review your journal and discuss patterns and sticky points together. Establish clear roles and expectations in your family system, considering each person's strengths and the needs of the children. Practice the "Pause, Align, and Present" method in moments of disagreement: pause the discussion, align privately, and then present a unified decision to the family. Use a 60-30-10 rule—aim for 60% compromise, navigate 30% gray areas, and allow 10% flexibility for the sake of peace. Involve children appropriately by hearing their voices and feelings, but maintain parental authority when making decisions. For stepparents, focus on connection before correction—build rapport and trust first before stepping into disciplinary roles. Regularly review your family values, using "we language" and modeling respectful communication, especially during challenging transitions or conflicts.   Mentioned Stepfamilies: Love, Marriage, and Parenting in the First Decade (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 313: How To Become A Successful Blended Family — An Interview With Ron Deal ERP 256: The Mistakes People Make When Blending Families And What To Do Instead – An Interview With Tracy Poizner Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (free guide)   Connect with April Eldemire Website: couples-thrive.com Facebook: facebook.com/AprilEldemire YouTube: youtube.com/@couplesthrive Instagram: instagram.com/couplesthrive LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/april-eldemire-lmft-8a8b3059 TikTok: tiktok.com/@couples_thrive  

Parenting is a long-haul job. A job we don't get days off from and we cannot quit. We all need constant emotional, mental, and spiritual fuel to keep on keeping on in raising our kids.Listen to Romans 5:2-5 …Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God's glory. We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. (NLT) Confidence. Joy. Help for problems and trials. Endurance. Character. Strength. Hope that does not disappoint. Our hearts filled with love. Who else could possibly offer that kind of guarantee but God?Listen to verses 3-5 in The Message …There's more to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we're hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we're never left feeling shortchanged. Quite the contrary—we can't round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit!Do you believe your current troubles can develop passionate patience in you? Something we all desperately need as parents in today's culture, right?The next time you feel hemmed in by trouble, know that you aren't being short-changed, but God will provide a way out and, then on the other side, you can experience the “tempered steel of virtue.”Let's pray together: “Heavenly Father, when trouble comes, especially with my kids, help me to look for You in the midst of the mess. Teach me to anticipate what You are going to do on the other side. As above, so below.”

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Parenting can feel like a never‑ending cycle of correcting, redirecting, and managing the hard moments—especially when you're raising kids with different needs, bigpersonalities, or unique challenges. But what if the real transformation happens when we learn to notice the good? In this episode of Raising 10, we shift the lens from what's going wrong to what's quietly going right. We talk about the small wins, the unexpected strengths, the moments of growth that are easy to miss when life gets loud. You'll hear real stories from our home, practical ways to retrain your attention, and simple habits that help you build a family culture rooted in encouragement, confidence, and connection. This is an invitation to see your kids and yourself with fresh eyes. The bright spots are there. Let's learn to find them. #Raising10#PositiveParenting #ParentingWins #FamilyGrowth #ParentingPodcast#NeurodiversityAffirming #AutismParenting #ParentingMindset #CelebrateTheWins#IntentionalParenting #ParentingJoy #StrengthBasedParenting #BigFamilyLife#ParentingEncouragement

Monday returns and so does another brand new episode of the Spitballers Podcast. On this episode, bathroom capers abound, the situation room returns and the laughter rolls as we draft TV & Movie Titles to Describe Parenting. Re-brand Mondays with some comedy! Subscribe and tell your friends about another funny episode of The Spitballers Comedy Podcast! Connect with the Spitballers Comedy Podcast: Become an Official Spitwad: SpitballersPod.com Follow us on X: x.com/SpitballersPod Follow us on IG: Instagram.com/SpitballersPod Subscribe on YouTube: YouTube.com/Spitballers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Since the death of one of her children, Jen has been in mother hen mode, worrying incessantly about something terrible happening to her other kids. Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com Follow me on social media: Facebook.com/DrLaura Instagram.com/DrLauraProgram YouTube.com/DrLaura Join My Family!! Receive my Weekly Newsletter + 20% off my Marriage 101 course & 25% off Merch! Sign up now, it's FREE! Each week you'll get new articles, featured emails from listeners, special event invitations, early access to my Dr. Laura Designs Store benefiting Children of Fallen Patriots, and MORE! Sign up at DrLaura.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mom guilt has shaped so many seasons of our motherhood journeys, but it does not hold the same power it once did. In this honest and reflective conversation, we look back on what used to weigh heavily on our hearts and compare it to the much shorter lists we carry today. From work-related guilt and feeling torn between responsibilities, to struggling to fully enjoy our kids while managing the chaos of daily life, we share the real-time challenges we are still navigating. We also open up about the pressure of meeting different needs within the same family and how growth, perspective, and practical shifts have helped us loosen guilt's grip. Our hope is that hearing where we have been and how far we have come helps you peel back a layer of guilt in your own motherhood story.Key Topics Covered:Amy's early fears about bonding, attachment, and whether her firstborn would recognize her after returning to work.The internal struggle around justifying time with friends during the early years of motherhood.Abby's vulnerable admission of questioning whether she was cut out for motherhood during a difficult phase.The specific work pressures that tend to trigger guilt in this current season.Navigating overlapping sports schedules and creating a fair system when multiple kids need to be in different places at once.Wanting meaningful one-on-one time with each child but feeling stretched thin.The emotional load of managing kids versus enjoying them.Parenting a spirited child whose needs require extra time and attention.Practical mindset shifts that have helped us move from shame toward self-compassion.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to Episode 12. Mom Guilt: How We're Working Through It: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/12-mom-guilt-how-were-working-through-itHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

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On this episode: Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are talkin' periods! They are joined by Chloe Potter, co-founder of The Menstruality Academy, who walks them through preparing your kid for their first period, harnessing the power of the cycle, and breaking free from societal shame. (Chloe's endometriosis podcast recommendation.) This week on the Plus Playground: planning the perfect roadtrip! Podcast production by Cheyna Roth and Rosemary Belson. Video production by Micah Phillips. Follow us on YouTube! Join us on Facebook and email us at careandfeedingpod@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you'll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you'll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[Original airdate: 4/9/25] Mary welcomes Avery Foley from Answers in Genesis to talk about parenting in these times. With so many parenting styles over the decades, and home-school curricula, parents need to be not just intentional but also measure everything by the Word. We talk about the big issues of the day – are children mature enough to understand them? There was a time not only did these cultural issues remain hidden from children’s eyes, but the children were also allowed to fully experience childhood free from the knowledge of sexual and political understanding in a way far beyond their years.  We talk about discernment in curricula; and helping kids make good choices in behavior and self discipline. Telling them what they did wrong, but also helping them choose better next time is critical to driving home the need for good character and responding biblically. She and her husband Trevor produce great children’s content in the form of educational and entertaining videos. They can be found here at Answers TV.   Stand Up For The Truth Videos: https://rumble.com/user/CTRNOnline & https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgQQSvKiMcglId7oGc5c46A

If you've been watching the news and feeling despair because you can't do anything about it, this episode is for you.The Epstein files, revealing how powerful men think about, talk about, and treat women. ICE raids tearing families apart. Strikes on Iranian cities - and schools full of children!In this episode, I make a direct connection between these social issues and what happens inside our homes every day. The patterns playing out on a global scale - where the person with more power decides whose feelings count - show up in our families too, often in moments we don't even notice, and that seem like they're about discipline. The decisions we make in those moments are quietly teaching our kids lessons we may not intend to pass on. Questions this episode will answerWhat do ICE raids have to do with parenting? When children watch some families live in fear of being separated while others are basically safe by default, they learn that some people's safety matters more than others. That same lesson can show up at home when we use our power as parents to override our kids' feelings and needs. Why is it important to teach kids about consent? Research shows that girls start shifting from seeing their body as something that helps them do things to seeing it as something to be judged - often earlier than we realize. Teaching consent starts long before those conversations about sex. It starts when we stop forcing our children to accept hugs and give kisses they don't want from well-meaning relatives. How do you explain consent to children? Consent is about whose body, feelings, and needs matter most. When we override our child's no - even in small everyday moments - we teach them that the person with more power wins. This episode explores what it looks like to do things differently. How do the Iran strikes connect to how we raise our kids? When leaders frame bombing cities where children live as "protecting freedom", they're using the same logic many of us heard growing up: that hurting someone with less power is justified when the person with more power decides it's for a good reason. This episode traces that logic from foreign policy all the way back to the family dinner table. What does it mean that we're all part of the system - not just the people doing obvious harm? It's easy to point to the person at the center causing the most visible damage. But around that person are rings of people who actively enable them, then people who know and look away, and then the rest of us - making decisions every day in our families and communities that make it more or less likely that people with power can keep using it. This episode explains what that outermost ring looks like in ordinary family life, and what it means to resist it from there. What you'll learn in this episodeWhy the same power dynamics driving ICE raids, the Epstein files, and the Iran strikes also show up in everyday parenting momentsHow the language our leaders use about migrants, women, and foreign countries shapes what our kids quietly absorb about whose lives matterWhat research tells us about how girls experience the shift from body ownership to body judgment - and what parents can do to slow that shift downWhy the parents who explode when their kids say no are often people who were never allowed to say no themselvesHow using power to manage our kids' behavior in stressful moments teaches the same lesson as the biggest injustices in the news - just on a smaller scaleWhat it looks like to build a home where your child's feelings and needs count - even when you're overwhelmed Taming Your TriggersIf you recognized yourself anywhere in this episode - if you know that when the poop hits the fan you fall back on power because you don't know what else to do - that's exactly what we work on in my Taming Your Triggers workshop. In the workshop, we go deep on why you get triggered, what you actually need in those moments, and how to build a different response from the inside out - so you're not just white-knuckling it through the hard moments anymore.And we've made it more accessible. You can now enroll in just the workshop without coaching calls for $300 less than the original price:Spark:$97Flame Keeper:$197Hearth Builder:$297Every tier includes the full 10-week workshop with weekly modules, all the tools and practices, lifetime access to materials, and the community. Coaching calls are available as a separate add-on if you want live support.Click the banner to learn more References:Carmo, A. (2025, November 20). AI and anonymity fuel surge in digital violence against women. UN News. https://news.un.org/en/story/2025/11/1166411National Organization for Women. (2025, March 5). One in four American women face online harassment: 69% of women believe current laws to protect them are insufficient. https://now.org/media-center/press-release/one-in-four-american-women-face-online-harassment-69-of-women-believe-current-laws-to-protect-them-are-insufficient/Rice, E., Gibbs, J., Winetrobe, H., & Rhoades, H. (2014). Tweens and teens who receive sexts are 6 times more likely to report having had sex [Press release]. USC Today. https://today.usc.edu/tweens-and-teens-who-receive-sexts-are-6-times-more-likely-to-report-having-had-sex/Spencer, T. (2024, July 1). Newly released Epstein transcripts: Florida prosecutors knew billionaire raped teen girls years before cutting deal. PBS NewsHour. https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/newly-released-epstein-transcript-florida-prosecutors-knew-billionaire-raped-teen-girls-years-before-cutting-dealWihbey, J., & Kille, L. W. (2015, July 13). Internet harassment and online threats targeting women: Research review. 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Parenting 0-18 With an Eternal Perspective: An Interview with Jessica Smartt (Episode 286)   Hebrews 12:11 NIV “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it"   *Transcription Below*   Jessica Smartt is the author of Come On Home, Memory-Making Mom and Let Them Be Kids. She graduated college with an English degree, a religion minor and a hankering to pour into kids. After teaching middle school literature for five years, she was promoted to her current position and dream job: wife, homeschooling mom, author, and Professional Encourager of Intentional Moms. She lives in sunny North Carolina on a family farm with horses, chickens, and an ever-increasing number of beloved cats. She and her husband, Todd, have three beautiful children. She loves to energize everyday moms to save childhood and build close-knit families. Jessica's favorites include: bike rides, spinach quiche, a clean kitchen, being warm, national parks, and food that anyone else made. Connect with Jessica through Instagram or her website.   Thank you to Our Sponsor: WinShape Marriage   Questions and Topics We Cover: What questions can we ask ourselves as mothers to take inventory and get real about our capacity, health, and gifts? How can we purposefully make our home a place our family loves to be and we do too? Will you share a handful of your other favorite practical tips for building a strong family that we haven't covered yet?   Other Episode Mentioned from The Savvy Sauce: Making Family Memories with Jessica Smartt   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:00 – 0:14)   Laura Dugger: (0:15 - 1:23) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   I'm thrilled to introduce you to our sponsor, WinShape Marriage. Their weekend marriage retreats will strengthen your marriage while you enjoy the gorgeous setting, delicious food, and quality time with your spouse. To find out more, visit them online at winshapemarriage.org.   My returning guest for today is Jessica Smartt. She has authored another brilliant book entitled, Come On Home: A Grace-Filled Guide to Raising a Family Who Loves (and Likes) Each Othe. You're not going to want to miss a minute of this episode because she answers every question with kindness and eternal wisdom, yet she still manages to share plenty of fun ideas and applicable tips.   Here's our chat. Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, Jessica.   Jessica Smartt: (1:25 - 1:28)  Thanks so, much for having me. I'm excited about our conversation.   Laura Dugger: (1:29 - 1:44) Well, I've been looking so, forward to this, and it's been a few years since you were a guest on The Savvy Sauce, so, as you're looking back, can you just walk us through how your motherhood experience has changed from the early days to now currently?   Jessica Smartt: (1:46 - 3:36) Yeah, it has changed so, much, and I actually was thinking about this just on my own. God is so, good, and I don't know if everyone's experience is kind of like this. I look around and see very high-functioning young mothers, so, I'm thinking maybe not, but I just feel like those first couple years were such a struggle with a lot of mental illness and just anxiety, and probably that led into depression, too, and just feeling really overwhelmed. I do feel like a lot of it was sleep deprivation, which is a literal torture technique that armies use, so, I think just caring for my body better has actually been a huge thing, but also just God is just so, kind, and I think I mentioned in the book of just really early on having this moment where I thought I'm not any good to anybody, and I didn't fast-forward to see any of this, right?  I didn't know how it was going to end. I just knew I felt terrible, and I couldn't function and overcome with anxiety, and everything was blurry and overwhelming, and so, to then fast-forward and see personally in my own life the rewards of my kids are doing well, and I like being a mom a lot, and professionally that I'm even writing about it is stunning, so, it's a real redemption story to me, and just proof that also God uses those pits because it was out of that that I was able to actually gain traction even on my blog sharing about my personal experience and loss and weakness. God used that, so, I'm really grateful.   Laura Dugger: (3:36 - 3:45) That's incredible to get just a little picture of that journey, and can you update us with your kids' ages now as of today?   Jessica Smartt: (3:45 - 3:59) Yes, so, I have a 16-year-old boy. Last week we were visiting college, and that is very weird, and then a 14-year-old boy and an 11-year-old daughter.   Laura Dugger: (4:00 - 4:19) Okay, wonderful. So, regardless of what phase we're in as parents, do you have any recommendations for questions that we can begin to ask ourselves so that we can take inventory and get real about our capacity and our health and our gifts?   Jessica Smartt: (4:20 - 7:00) Right, yes, so, in Come on Home, that's kind of how I kick it off because I say, you know, you can't have the family that if in order to have the family you want or the home you want, you have to be honest about what you actually have and what you're starting with, and so, part of that is taking inventory of yourself and your life, and that's not something we often stop to do in the chaos and busyness, so, I asked what your capacity is and really just trying to help mom just think through preaching to myself here, like all the things that are on our plate, and is there something on our plate that the Lord maybe is not calling us to or that doesn't correlate and match to what our really core values are in life, and those are hard questions to ask, but they actually bring a lot of relief to just be honest with yourself about what's happening in your life and coming before the Lord and saying, you know, I'd literally say, like, make a list of all the things that you're doing and look at it and see if you should take any off, and the list is, you know, stunningly long for a lot of us, but yeah, so, that's just capacity, just kind of thinking through where we are and what we actually have the bandwidth to do, and then I talk about health and actually asking, like, your husband, if you're married, you know, how would you like me to care for myself better? What's one thing that you like when I do? And a lot of times I think we're really surprised when we hear the things they appreciate or what they'd like us to do, and they might just be giving us a really wonderful gift to go invest in an area in our life that we've been overlooking. So, and then gifts, that's a really fun one, too, because I'm not you and you're not me, and we're not the listeners, but God has uniquely equipped all of us to be the mom and the homemaker, you know, in our particular callings.   So, saying, like, are you a good organizer? Are you, you know, the fun mom, right, that I wish I was and I'm not? Are you, you know, the adventurer mom? Are you the crafty mom? You know, God has given, do you cook well and, you know, enjoy that? And everybody has a gift, that you're, whether you're, you know, a soft place to land for your kids and a good listener, or you're, you know, more drill sergeant-y, like those firstborns tend to be, and that is me, so, that's why I can say that. But just thinking about, like, what skills and gifts did God give me to lead my family well? And so, that was just kind of the ground-tilling up work before you think through, like, how can we build the family that we really want with the life that we actually have and the person we really are?   Laura Dugger: (7:01 - 8:14) And I love, that was one of the aspects of the book that I just appreciated. You sprinkle all these insightful questions throughout, and it is really great to reflect on those with the Lord or with the journal or in conversation, but you're encouraging us repeatedly to get a long-term vision of this parenting journey. And so, it makes me think, my husband works with Chick-fil-A, and oftentimes he's encouraged to be careful not to just get caught up working in the business, but to pull back and work on the business, and it's actually better for everybody. And I just think as parents, we need that same reminder to kind of lift up our eyes, get a different view, and get above these urgent, incessant needs of today and look at where we're going. And I think the Bible speaks a lot to that with being prudent. And you challenge us with that long-term view to actually take an eternal view in parenting, which is inevitably going to impact how we steward our time and our decision making. So, can you speak to both of those?   Jessica Smartt: (8:16 - 10:23) Yeah, I mean, the eternal, the perspective, I think I said, you know, there's the Bible verse about you reap what you sow, and we think of it as like a cautionary warning. And it is, but it's also just a true statement of how life works, meaning what you invest in, and what you spend your time in, what you care about, what the things you're actually doing is where you're going to see growth. And so, if I am investing in my home, I'm going to see fruit in there. Now, of course, it's not a one-to-one, it's not a slot machine. So, you know, we don't know exactly what it's going to look like. And God is so, good to cover up even over the areas that we've done a bad job in. But in general, you can't expect to grow cucumbers if you've been planting tomatoes. Like what you've been planting in the ground is what's going to grow up. And so, that's just like, even though it's kind of like fancy wordy language, it's always just a good reminder to me to think like, what am I actually spending my time doing?   I want a family that, like I was a recipient of, that's warm and inviting and you want to be around. And in order to get that, like you have to plant it. And so, that's a lot of being present as a mom and which is so, hard, very hard. But I just wanted to not lay a burden on moms, but really just encourage them like, do those things that are going to reap the life you actually want in the long term.  And of course, you mentioned the word eternity, that's planning, building disciples. And so, that is a very long road. You know, you're not going to always see the fruit of that, you know, immediately. But keeping our eye on, you know, I want to raise kids that are living out the calling that God has placed on their lives and are going out into this world to be truth and light. Like, oh my goodness, so, many hard, boring conversations that you have to have, but you have to, like that's, that's part of the equation.   Laura Dugger: (10:26 - 11:35) I think that even that piece is with discipline too, which is one of my least favorite parts of parenting. I don't know if others relate to that, but a verse that I find so, encouraging is Hebrews 12:11, that "no discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful later on. However, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." And so, I love that encouragement you're giving to a parent for the long view, and you bring up your family of origin. You write so much about this gratitude you have for your parents and something you wrote really stuck with me where you say someone was always home, both physically and metaphorically, someone was paying attention. So, Jessica, what caution do you want to share with any parents today who may be tempted to let go a little too early, a little too soon and too young, whether that's with technology or even just being physically present?   Jessica Smartt: (11:36 - 14:25) I think it's just so, important for moms and dads to receive their instructions, not from the world, but from the Lord, because the culture right now is okaying and even encouraging parenting that is not godly parenting. We have so many distractions and we are pulled towards our phones, towards our own personal growth and flourishing, which is okay. You know, of course we want us to be healthy as we just mentioned, but at the expense of the kids that God has put in our lives, that is what, that is the messaging you're going to receive from the world. If you're hanging out with people who do not have a biblical worldview, that is going to be how they're spending their time.  And it's not a judgment statement. It's just, it is an observation that they, that is not, the focus is not, I'm going to sit and, you know, maybe at one point culturally years and years ago, it really was more family oriented, but it is not anymore.  It just simply is not. And, you know, it masquerades under that as, you know, oh, we're all going to the soccer game together and we're going to go watch the gymnastics performance or whatever it is. But that, that is not always true discipling of your children.   That's kind of being present in a cursory way and not truly and really, to really pay attention and really be present with your kids is going to look vastly different than what the rest of the world is doing.  And if it doesn't, you got to check. And I, I'm saying this as absolutely of myself, you know, there are moms that are just on their phone, and I can do that as well. I've had to put in, we can talk about specifics, but I've had to put in like specific things in my, in my actual phone, you know, and in my life parameters and guidelines so that I'm not doing that. But no one in the world is going to tell you not to, that's normal to just be stuck on your phone as a mom, as a kid, whatever. And so, a like, where are you getting your voice? That's saying how to parent, who are the voices that are speaking into your life?  Are you listening to older and wiser mentors? Are you reading really good books? Are you putting yourself in the word first thing in the morning or are you just floating around with whatever culture says to do? And I don't mean to sound judgy here because I am deeply convicted even as I'm speaking this of like, am I living this? I'm not always, it's very, very hard. But I just think we first, first step is, you know, to orient yourself to the Lord and how would he have you parent?  Not what is everyone else okay with doing? Cause it's going to look very different.   Laura Dugger: (14:26 - 16:54)  Okay. I love that with kind of the emphasis on; it does require a sacrifice from us with that quality and quantity time. And it makes me think on page 38 of your book, you encourage us to take the time to know each child, helping them find their passion, abilities, gifts, and interests.  And that really does bless both the child and the parent. And now a brief message from our sponsor.   Friends, I'm excited to share with you today's sponsor, WinShape Marriage. Do you feel like you need a weekend away with your spouse and a chance to grow in your relationship together at the same time? WinShape Marriage is a fantastic ministry that provides weekend marriage retreats to help couples grow closer together in every season and stage of life. From premarital to parenting to the emptiness phase, there is an opportunity for you. 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S-A-V-V-Y.  Thanks for your sponsorship.   So, Jessica, what has this looked like in your home? And can you give us some ideas?   Jessica Smartt: (16:56 - 19:19) Yeah, I just think it is so, easy for us to have our own expectations of what our kids are, and even to speak that over them from the minute they come out of the womb, whether it's, oh, we've just pinned them as to be this, or it's something that we are, or something that we want them to be. But instead to look and see like, who is this actual child that's been created? And I thought of, you know, years and years ago, my son was like, itching to do something, you know, they get to be like nine, 10. And they start feeling like, you know, they need something other than mom in the house. And we were kind of praying about it and thinking it through. And he said, “I think I really would like to play soccer.”   And at the time, we were pretty, pretty committed into the baseball world. And I was like, no, you know, I had friendships with the parents, and we liked the coach, and we were already there. And soccer was this whole thing I didn't even know, you know, I was like, no.  And honestly, I waited for a year or two. But now my both my boys are in a semi travel league. It's not like all out driving all across the country, but they've been able to play at a higher level.  And they're doing amazing. It's clearly what they were meant to do. And I couldn't miss out on that just by being like, no, you know, that's not what you do.   Like, you know, so, just being open as a parent to really like, what are they good at? And it may not be what you thought it may not be what you are good at. My daughter loves to make a giant mess in the kitchen, giant and cook. And oh, my goodness, it is very hard for me because I'm like a keep it clean.  Don't use all the ingredients. But I've been convicted to really, you know, let her explore these gifts. I have a friend whose daughter is making these elaborate birthday cakes. I mean, like the most crazy food network kind of thing. And I saw it and thought, I know what that kitchen must have looked like when you let her do that. That was a lot of days and afternoons of you letting her waste the flour and make a big mess.  But the fruit is, it's incredible. And, so, yeah, sacrificing what we want to let them grow into, you know, and God is so, good.   Like if we don't know what it is, pray with your kid, like you, what did you, what is your thing?  What do you think God's made you to do? We, you know, need an activity. What, what, let's ask God, like what he wants you to do. I've never prayed a prayer like that that hasn't been answered and never.   Laura Dugger: (19:20 - 19:47)  Oh, that's so, good. I mean, we think of for friendship for ourselves or with our children or activities that they want to do, just hopefully that's what we keep being reminded of is bring it to the Lord rather than seeking out those voices and culture and see what his perfect plan is. But you also write an entire chapter on the power of time. So, will you share some of your applicable wisdom here?   Jessica Smartt: (19:49 - 22:15)  Yes. And you know, don't mind me while I actually get out the book, because even though you wrote it, sometimes you're like, what exactly did I say? Um, but thinking through like activities that our family has signed up for, as I mentioned, you know, I was kind of like connected in that baseball mindset.  And so, was it actually the right thing for my kids? Maybe or maybe not. And so, I talked through like at questions to ask, you know, as a husband and wife about where our family's going and what activities our kids are doing, which is a giant question today.   I don't think parents are thoughtful enough about what they're signing up for and what they're doing. And you get, you know, mid-November and your schedule is completely packed and your kids having meltdowns and you're never eating dinner together. And you're like, how did we get to this life? But it was a little bit of like, not quite following the path ahead mentally to see what it would look like. And I would just encourage anybody right now that it's not too late to rearrange, even if you have to quit something, even if it costs a deposit, even if you have to back out, like we are not as trapped as we think we are. And if you're doing something in your family that's not healthy, or, you know, it's not benefiting you stop, like no one's gonna, you know, anyway.   So, as you're thinking through activities, I talked about the interest question, which means like, is your kid actually there? Or is it like you that's kind of getting more out of this? And then I talked about the mealtime question.  And maybe we'll get to this, but family meals are so important. They really are. Even if it is, you know, not hours of sitting there with candlelight, whatever, just to have that checkpoint together. So, is your activity schedule, allowing you to uphold whatever your values are with meals? I'm not gonna tell you what they are, but is that what you want, really? And then the whole family question.   You know, I've seen a lot, and we've lived it too, of like the younger kid being getting drug around to the older talented kid's activities.  That's really a hard one, right? And so, I'm not saying don't do that. Sometimes families are gonna just look like that for seasons. But I do think it's worth stopping to say, what is it like right now to be that youngest child? What are they going through?  And am I being kind to them? You know, are there switches we can kind of make in the family? Because it's, you know, the family is not about one person and their talents. It's a holistic, healthy, functioning unit.   Laura Dugger: (22:18 - 23:21)  Absolutely. So, even, I hear you saying, evaluating, again, kind of taking inventory. What is on the family plate? How is that affecting every human in the unit of the family?  Is that taking us where we want to go? Just being, I love how you use the word thoughtful. Just being full of thoughts of this and taking it to the Lord of what's the wise thing to do. And for all of us, I think with that time question, it does lead us to the question of, who are we spending the most time with? Because that will significantly impact our lives.  It'll impact our children as well. So, do you have any other, I love those questions. Any other lessons that you've learned? I'm thinking especially related to activities and youth sports come to mind because our culture really has gone to the side of idolizing it and catering everything else around that. So, do you have any other wisdom to share on that topic?   Jessica Smartt: (23:23 - 25:48)  Yeah, I mean, I'll just share. Personally, we have decided to have our kids play at a level that is probably sub what their talent could be. And I don't know.  I guess time will tell. If they look back and they were like, mom, I really, you know, could have, but I have a hunch that they won't. I more often am seeing in my friends and stuff that it's like, they get into high school, and the kids are kind of starting to feel burnt out. Or they're like, you know, it's so, hard right now to be, I mean, not even a professional, let's say soccer player, but at college, it's like unheard of.  It's the elite, elite. And so, it's like, why are you doing this anyway?   And we've had several opportunities to compete at higher levels and try out for things that we have said no to, you know, because it would require being gone more nights, it would require tons of time in the car, it would be families away on the weekends.  So, we have some of that. I think it's important when you have boys, especially to let them have an outlet to compete as we, if you know, I homeschool as you do. And so, if you have a homeschooled teenage boy, they should probably be doing something right. So, I am not saying sit at home and, you know, play Monopoly every night as a family. But, we have chosen to prioritize other things.   And so, so far, I am super grateful for that. We had a season where we were way too busy with baseball. And it was the boys were like 10 and 12. And Monday through Thursday, one of them had a different we were never eating together Monday through Thursday, Saturdays, we were taking off different directions. I could never understand why we had to drive two hours to play a team. I'm like, there's so, many baseball players right in this neighborhood.  Can we not find a team? And God use that it's fine. But, but I don't I don't envy that season.   And I'm really grateful for some of the breathing room that we've had. And also, I would say my son, my oldest son is a gifted guitar player and singer. And he would not be able to do that. If we were 110% in one of those other sports, he would not have any time to even pursue those other interests.  You just never know. You know, I think white space and mental white space and time, I talk about this and let them be kids is so important for just developing as a person. No one flourishes well with a completely jam-packed schedule. And so, how would we expect our children to, you know, that is good.   Laura Dugger: (25:48 - 26:02)  That is so, wise. And how can we strategically connect with our kids so that they do feel seen, and known and loved and liked?   Jessica Smartt: (26:03 - 27:54)  Yes. I mean, that feels overwhelming, doesn't it? But and I talked through in the book kind of each one of those categories. But I know this is going to sound cliche, but I would just say a like recognizing that if a kid doesn't feel like you like them, they're going to notice that. And so, it doesn't matter all the extra things what you're getting them for Christmas, and where you're they're taking them if they really genuinely feel like you're kind of annoyed with them. They know that.   And that's, that's not great. So, I would say first step before you get into any practicals and pancake breakfast and all that is just like, if you are feeling that way to your kid, a don't feel guilty. It's natural.  We all have that at times. And be come before God and just say, these are the feelings I'm dealing with. Can you please help me here? And again, to quote myself, I've never prayed that prayer and it not been answered.  God has always shown up in some way. And so, often what it looks like I talk about in being liked is just like genuinely working on something that you have in common.   I think my parents did that so, well with us. And it wasn't the same thing because my siblings and I are all different. But they really worked to always find common ground and always have that relationship bucket full, right? My mom is like big on, you know, don't make too many withdrawals unless you have made a lot of deposits. And they lived that for years and years and years of pouring into us and genuinely connecting with us. So, way harder to do than to say, but that's our goal. And I do actually have a lot of specific ideas in the book of random ways you can love your kids, love languages and all of that. But yeah, asking God for help.   Laura Dugger: (27:55 - 28:09) And sometimes it's just helpful to hear what somebody else does, even if that's not exactly how it'll apply to our situation. But can you just give one example of a way that you use your child's love language, maybe both for one of your sons and your daughter?   Jessica Smartt: (28:11 - 29:33) Well, I've learned a lot about my middle child, and he loves the comfort things in life. So, if I see him struggling with school or something, I can bring him, you know, yogurt parfait or he likes coffee. So, we give our kids coffee.  Don't sue us anyway. But if I make him a cup of coffee, oh, you can just see it in his face. It's like, oh, mom loves me, you know?  He's one that even like if I go make his bed, he'll appreciate that. Not every kid is like that. But just kind of seeing and noticing the things that he likes.   That's been kind of something that we do. And then my daughter loves to tell stories, long, long stories. And I'm working so hard to not only like, I want to listen, but also, you know, teach her how to condense. Because Jordan Peterson says, don't let your kid become someone that is, you know, not pleasant to be around.  If you're struggling with something, someone else will, too. And she's an absolute delight.  I mean, truly. But so, just listening to her stories and kind of working on the art of conversation. My mom always said, play tennis, conversation tennis. So, you hit the ball, and then I hit the ball back to you. So, we're working on that, you know?   Laura Dugger: (29:35 - 30:05)  Absolutely. That reciprocity is huge. If you take turns asking questions, it reminds me, a previous guest, Jodi Berndt, had also said, in addition to that, let's also teach our children how to serve the ball. So, to initiate that, I just thought that that's so good. I'll work that in. Jessica, how can we purposefully make our home a place our family loves to be? And we do, too.   Jessica Smartt: (30:07 - 31:52) I have been learning so, much about this in this stage of life, you know, in my 40s.  And again, it's hard when you have little kids. So, I think you can probably say across the board, it's going to look different when you're raising little kids to have a warm and wonderful inviting home than it is in your later years when your kids are older, and you have more time.  But I would just challenge moms. Well, I look back and I think, if I hadn't been so, stretched thin and put unrealistic expectations on myself in other areas of life, I maybe could have invested in my home a little bit more. And the thing I have learned is that having a home that's peacefully run just reaps so, many benefits for a woman and her family.   And I am behind the curve, I feel like, on this. But as I have learned to organize my space and really pour myself into my home, not feeling like it's a waste of time to organize a pantry. It is amazing how it blesses my family.  People notice it. And it's hard to even articulate it because you wouldn't even think that if you clean out a closet, it's going to bless your family. But it really actually does.  And my husband benefits from it. He's not even like a strict, everything has to be clean. But when I've worked on something in the home, he sees it and notices it and appreciates it. So, God has just been teaching me so, much about what it looks like to really be like a homemaker, a godly homemaker and pour myself into my home. And I have reaped so much joy and peace from living out that role and calling in my life.   Laura Dugger: (31:53 - 32:23) That was one of the quotes I wrote down that observation that you made on page 142. And I'll just quote you, "when I do something to invest in our home, every single member of our family brightens." And I exactly great and you gave practical ways of how we can do that. And I also like it because it gives a little freedom because we're one of the family members too. And I think we brighten when we get that space in order.   Jessica Smartt: (32:24 - 33:06)  Absolutely. Yes, absolutely. Again, back to our earlier like cultural, cultural narrative versus biblical. There's like a, there's a lot of messaging about that it doesn't matter to really invest in your home and your family. And that's just not how God made the world to operate. So, I would challenge moms that even if they are doing what the rest of everyone is doing, and it's like, ah, it looks like a bomb went off in here. Like, um, you know, that may not be how God is calling us to live with a giant disclaimer that there are seasons of life that it truly does look like a bomb went off.  And that is okay. We are doing good gospel work, raising children.   Laura Dugger: (33:07 - 33:46)  Absolutely. But then also I think Proverbs 31 sometimes gets a bad rap, but really there's a lot of freedom in it for women because it is how the Lord created us, but she does look well to the ways of her household. And I think that just summed up, she's one of the members of the household, but so is everybody else. And that's one thing that can bless everyone, but you are just full and abundant with ideas, and you have an appendix in the book full of resources to help us maintain and take care of all our responsibilities. So, will you share a few of those ideas with us?   Jessica Smartt: (33:47 - 34:46) Um, yes, I, and maybe this is my homeschool mom speaking, but I have just learned so, much from other good books. I have, it's truly changed my life just in whether it's talking about personal health or discipline or marriage or prayer or my home. So, the thing I'm really actually most proud about in the appendix is my list of recommended resources. And it's just all the books that have impacted me as a mom and also impacted my writing too.  Um, I'll, I'll mention one. I think, uh, I don't know if everyone has read A Praying Life, but that has completely transformed not only my walk with the Lord, but my prayer life.  And I've implemented, um, it's Paul Miller, I believe his idea for prayer cards. And I do that every morning. Um, it has been the sweetest thing, and I've really reaped a lot of blessing out of kind of modeling what he sets up in that book.  So, that's just one example. If you haven't read A Praying Life, you should definitely go read it.   Laura Dugger: (34:47 - 35:20)  That's awesome. And I don't know if this ties in, but I'm just remembering back one of the podcasts that I heard you speak on. You share your definition of godly self-care, and you say that it's whatever helps you do your job well and not at the sacrifice of others. So, can you elaborate with some encouragement for how we can make sure that we don't go to either side, that we don't neglect ourselves, but we also continue with this merrymaking for our family.   Jessica Smartt: (35:21 - 38:22)  Right. Yes. And, um, that definition, I always want to be like, you know, the end part about not to the sacrifice of someone else. When I had a young, I think I had two kids and my baby was six weeks old.  I had a very qualified, loving teenage girl. Watch my two kids while my husband and I left for literally an hour to go to five guys and get burgers.  And my youngest was not thrilled. He did not prefer the bottle. So, in some ways his life was unsettled for a brief moment, but that was okay. So, I think everyone knows when I say, um, you know, not to the sacrifice of everyone else.   What I'm saying is like looking at the family and certainly we shouldn't be like living this plush and well-watered life and someone else's withering away. So, it's a general statement of, you know, that it would be too far, as you said, on the extreme of, and I do think that happens honestly, because we're all self-centered.  It's not that we don't love our kids. We're just trained to care about ourselves. But many women struggle on the other side of, um, maybe neglecting some areas in their life that could truly help them to be better wives and better moms. And, um, it's a really fun activity to think like, what, how could I change my life a little bit in a way that I would be a better wife and mom.   And I'm not meaning that to justify any sort of behavior that, you know, you want to do, because you certainly could use that for almost anything. Um, but really to think like, how can I be the best mom and wife that I could possibly be? And it might mean making some, giving yourself some breathing room. And I would also encourage women to, um, one of the best uses for that time is to work on your marriage because there's direct overflow into the family. And so, best case, I gave some ideas of like family adventures that can kind of fill your cup along with everyone else. And I would say maybe next best or equal would-be husband, wife stuff where you can check out, connect, and you're overflowing and ready to enter back into family life.   And then finally things that it's certainly fine to just step out and find those things that are life giving to you, but just trying to keep an eye on, you know, how is everyone in the family doing? And there might be seasons.  I think of my mom caring for her mom who had dementia. She wasn't really well watered in that season. She was, she was quite depleted, but that's what the Lord had been calling her to do at that period of time. Um, and we often were like, mom, you've got to like, we thought she did too much, you know?  Um, but looking back, I think she really is so grateful that she laid down her life. There's not regret.  And so, I'm like, well, maybe she was right all along. I don't know.   Laura Dugger: (38:23 - 38:58)  Good though. The both and to have seasons of that, where we can refresh so, that when we go into a season where it's a little bit prior, we can be serving hopefully still from the overflow. But you also just blew me away in the book with your knowledge on roots. And the subtitle of that chapter is "recipes, relics, relatives, and other things that keep kids grounded." So, will you just teach us a little bit more about roots and share how it applies to building a strong family?   Jessica Smartt: (39:00 - 40:51)  Yes, I would like to shout out to my husband who is in the landscaping business. So, he helped me. I was like, hey, can you please give me some fun facts about roots?  And he was thrilled. But um, one thing I mentioned is that most plant problems are caused by root issues. And gosh, have I seen that in real life, like even as an adult, you notice somebody that is carrying still issues that they're working through from their childhood. And so, what a gift we're giving our kids by giving them those strong, good roots and a healthy, you know, childhood to enter into adulthood, not crippled by things, but that they can give out of strength.   And my husband and I feel like, you know, although our families of origin were not perfect, we lived that story, we were able to go out in strength, and not, you know, carrying all this emotional baggage. That's what I would like to give my kids. So, um, but then yeah, at the end, I share that the most integral roots to the plant's wellbeing are the ones right near the surface. And I thought, what a kind of cool parallel that even if we, you know, I've shared about my experience, but someone listening may not have good roots, and they really might struggle with having support and partnership. But they can give a new story to their kids. They can give them the roots that they did not have through the Lord's strength.  And I have found friends that I'm literally seeing them do it. But they are they are crippled. And you know, in therapy and dealing with all this trauma, but they're passing a different story on to their kids.  And how cool is that? I have so much admiration for that. It seems like it's something that really only can be done through the Lord's strength, but he does it. He writes those stories.   Laura Dugger: (40:51 - 41:11)  And he seems to delight in redemption stories. So, I appreciate you sharing that. And I'd love to continue kind of this idea time. Will you just share another handful of your favorite practical tips for building a strong family that are topics we haven't covered yet?   Jessica Smartt: (41:13 - 43:16) Well, I would start with one thing I have seen huge rewards is if we do sort of like a secret Santa idea, and we actually do it also before Valentine's Day and do you know, your cupids arrow, whatever, because it just changes your whole mindset when you're suddenly thinking, how can I, you know, love this person in my family, you're in a better mood.  And so, we divide up names. And then we also do like acts of service. And that is just such a fun, like low keyway to kind of get your kids to think about loving their siblings instead of being annoyed by them. We have loved doing game nights, and we're not like big game people. But finding ones that I think my encouragement would be that it doesn't have to be like this long three-hour thing.   If your family's not into that, we've done like minute to win at games that I just pulled up online.  We have a lot of games that are like, no mental stress. They're very easy, like Slopsy. If anybody has not played Slopsy, they need to pick it up. It's you could play it if you were extremely tired, which I often am at the end of the day. So, to find some like quip, there's also what do you mean family edition.  And that is a fun one. And I have some other games listed in the book too, for readers who are interested. So, those would be two. We also do like one-on-one activities with the kids. And I always thought you had to do it like really, really regularly. But I would just give the encouragement that some is better than none. And so, even if it's only a couple times a year, kids just soak that up. And it doesn't need to be, you know, this whole long thing, it could be like, hey, you need some new winter pants. Let's get a Chick-fil-A milkshake beforehand. You know, just to kind of keep your eyes open for those activities and opportunities.   Laura Dugger: (43:17 - 43:47)  Guess what? We are no longer an audio only podcast. We now have video included as well. If you want to view the conversation each week, make sure you watch our videos. We're on YouTube and you can access videos or find answers to any of your other questions about the podcast when you visit thesavvysauce.com. Can you also share this genius idea about something that you put on the notes app of your phone?   Jessica Smartt: (43:48 - 44:50)  Yeah, so, I talked about the power of stories. Kids love hearing stories from our, you know, youth or young adulthood or even, you know, married years, whatever. So, I got in the habit of sharing a story with my daughter before bed. And of course, at night, you aren't always on your A game. So, I just have a note app on my phone to track different things that I might want to tell her. And my encouragement was that it doesn't need to be, we think it needs to be like this long, significant story, but even just little tidbits of things she has been delighted to hear over and over. You know, just like a passing, you know, anecdote that didn't seem to me to be too pregnant with meaning, but she just ate it up and loved hearing about all of the different things. So, yeah, that was just again, it didn't cost a lot. It's not hard, but just a little thing that kind of connected us and also connected her to a deeper sense of like, here's your roots of the people that raised you.   Laura Dugger: (44:53 - 45:36) I loved that idea because my daughters or our daughters will just catch us off guard and say, hey, share a story about us share a story about when you were little or when I was little. And so, I love your system that you have in place that when that idea comes to me, I can jot it down. And then when they ask unexpectedly, I'm prepared.  So, thought that was wonderful. And you've written an entire book on memories. So, I'll link to our previous episode where we talk about that.  And we dove into that topic. But you've updated your ideas in this book and come up with the most epic list of memory making ideas ever. So, could you just share a couple of those to give us a taste of what you include?   Jessica Smartt: (45:37 - 46:43) Yes, so, I think my favorite was at the end the chapter talking about surprises because I love the idea of surprising your kid. And when I talked about when I was little, my grandparents showed up at our school in their RV to take us camping. So, just thinking through like just different, a lot of those are like the big, you know, birthday or vacation or Christmas gifts. But even if you did it just one time, that's like a that can be like a core memory in you know, your kid's life.   When I was researching this, for the appendix, I reached out to a lot of my readers, and they had the most fun ideas of just creative family memory making things. And one that I remembered that I thought, I don't know if I have the guts to do this, but I think that this family came up with it during COVID. So, they were a little bit bored, and they packed a picnic and went to a stop sign. And when they got to one, they would roll a dice to see which direction they would turn until they ended up at a good picnic spot. She said it was harder than you would think.   Laura Dugger: (46:45 - 47:02)  That's hilarious. I love the creativity and that element of surprise. That is so, good. Well, I hope that everybody goes out to get a copy of your amazing book. But where else would you want to direct us to connect online after this chat?   Jessica Smartt: (47:03 - 47:15)  Yeah, definitely come say hi on Instagram. I'm Jessica Smartt with two Ts. And you can tell me what you enjoyed about our conversation. And I'm usually every so, often we'll check the messages, but I do get back to you.   Laura Dugger: (47:16 - 47:34)  Love it. We'll add links to that in the show notes for today's episode. And Jessica, you're already familiar that we're called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical. And so, my final question for you today, what is your savvy sauce?   Jessica Smartt: (47:36 - 48:09)So, what has changed my life, I really think is, and this isn't like the most exciting thing, but walking every single day, and I walk with my weighted vest. So, I look like every other 40-year-old woman that is out there. We have a little trail around our farm. So, I, it's, I honestly have like seen so, much change in my mental health and physical health. And I know they say that on all of these, you know, resources and stuff. And I never thought it was true. But it really has changed my life just to walk every day.   Laura Dugger: (48:11 - 52:21)  Amen, sister, I totally agree with that. That is so, well said. You are just a brilliant and faithful and godly and humble woman. You're gifted with your communication with your words in this conversation and in the books that you've shared with the world.  And I am just so grateful for you, Jessica. Thank you so much for being my guest today.  Well, thank you for those kind words.   One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

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Struggling to understand your child's ups and downs? This episode uncovers what's really driving your dysregulated child's meltdowns, anxiety, and focus struggles, giving parents clear insight and tools from Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, expert in Regulation First Parenting™ and childhood emotional dysregulation.Many parents ask, what's really driving your dysregulated child's meltdowns anxiety and focus struggles? The answer isn't bad behavior. It's a stressed nervous system stuck in survival mode.I unveil The Dysregulated Kid, my parenting playbook rooted in nervous system regulation. After three decades as a mental health professional, I want to emphasize: we must stop chasing separate labels and start calming the child's nervous system first.Why does my child have meltdowns, anxiety, and focus problems all at once?Parents are often told these are separate issues—ADHD, oppositional defiant disorder, anxiety, mood swings. But what if your child's meltdowns, emotional dysregulation, and focus struggles are signals from the same activated child's brain?When stress hormones stay elevated, the nervous system shifts into fight or flight mode. The amygdala goes on high alert, and the prefrontal cortex—the part responsible for impulse control, problem solving, and emotional regulation skills—goes offline.That's when you see:Emotional meltdowns over small requestsSensory overload and strong feelingsPoor impulse controlDifficulty starting tasksPublic meltdowns that feel confusing and exhaustingIt's not defiance. It's a child whose nervous system is overwhelmed.What's happening in my child's brain during intense meltdowns?During childhood meltdowns, stress hormones like cortisol surge. In sympathetic overdrive, your child cannot access coping skills or manage emotions effectively.Meltdowns happen when the nervous system loses flexibility. The brain gets stuck in survival mode. Over time, ongoing stress creates patterns of chronic stress that won't resolve without intervention.Signs your child may be overstimulated:Intense reactions and emotional outburstsTrouble settling at nightRigidity and control battlesAnxiety loops and worrySigns of an understimulated pattern:Shutdown or avoidanceSchool refusalMood stabilizers not improving focusProcrastination or appearing “lazy”Both patterns are nervous system issues—not character flaws.If you're not sure whether your child is stuck in an over- or under-stimulated pattern, Quick CALM can help you figure it out fast. Why doesn't discipline or medication fix emotional dysregulation?Many children are treated with pressure, punishment, or medication when behavior escalates. But treating overstimulation with discipline increases stress. Treating underactivation with pressure deepens withdrawal.Stress worsens emotional regulation and emotional resilience. It impacts learning, self regulation, and even long-term mental health.I want to remind parents:This is a capacity issue, not a compliance issue.You must lower stress before layering skills.Nervous system regulation comes before behavior change.You can't teach regulation skills to a child whose brain is in fight or flight mode.If you're tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.How can I help my dysregulated child calm down?Let's calm the brain first.Practical proactive strategies include:Deep breathing and breathing exercises togetherGentle pressure and deep pressure hugsRhythmic movement or physical activityCreating a quiet space during challenging momentsConsistent routines and clear expectationsModeling remaining calm with a calm voiceWhen a meltdown occurs:Take a deep breath yourselfLower demands temporarilyOffer sensory integration toolsFocus on connection before correctionYour regulated presence helps your child calm. When you regulate your own nervous system, you help children develop emotional regulation skills.

Journey with us as we review the rest of Acts 5. We'll also practice this month's memory verse (Acts 1:14), and hear a new Riddle Time riddle. You can send riddle responses and memory verse practice to jointhejourney@watermark.org.

Why do kids and teens become sneaky? If you've caught your child lying, hiding things, sneaking screens, deleting messages, or leaving out important details, you know how painful and triggering it can feel. Sneaky behavior often hits deep — it can feel like betrayal, disrespect, or a breakdown in trust. But what if sneakiness isn't a character flaw?In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore the real reasons kids and teens become secretive, and what parents can do to respond in ways that actually rebuild trust instead of pushing honesty further underground. You'll learn:• Why sneakiness is often a learned survival strategy• The brain science behind hiding and dishonesty• How fear of punishment or disappointment fuels secrecy• Why control without collaboration increases sneaky behavior• What makes honesty feel safe again• Practical ways to respond without escalating the power struggle Drawing from attachment research, nervous system science, and leading parenting experts, this conversation helps you shift from interrogation to curiosity, from shame to skill-building, and from control to connection. Your job isn't to raise a child who never lies.Your job is to raise a child who feels safe enough to return to the truth. If you're parenting a child or teen who has started hiding things, this episode will help you understand what's really happening, and how to create lasting change without breaking the relationship. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-kids-teens-get-sneaky-and-how-to-respond-without-breaking-trust Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Is giving your kids an allowance a 'ridiculous idea' or a powerful teaching tool? In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the heated debate on allowances. Scott reveals a major 180-degree shift in his thinking, moving from a firm 'no' to seeing allowance as a crucial way to teach financial literacy. They discuss how to give kids money without raising them to be entitled, the complicated link between allowances and chores, and how their own upbringings have shaped their views. Tune in for Part 1 of a conversation that could change how your family talks about money.Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We'd love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First  Head to nurturedfirst.com/bodysafety to learn more about our Body Safety & Consent course!

This week on PlanBri, I sat down with the one and only LeeAnn Kreischer. LeeAnn opens up about her childhood and the path that led her to discover her passions. She also shares what life is really like being married to Bert, including the hilarious story of how the two of them first met. 00:00 INTRO 2:20 LEEANN'S CHILDHOOD 4:20 MOVING TO NYC/LA 9:40 BALANCING YOUR CAREER 14:00 DON'T GET SWALLOWED BY A RELATIONSHIP 16:30 HOW LEEANN & BERT MET 22:30 PURSING THE ARTS 25:30 FAMILY HARDSHIPS 36:45 PARENTING 43:00 DATING YOUR HUSBAND 48:55 LEEANN'S NEXT PROJECT 54:00 BERT NEEDS LEEANN ---------- Visit https://highnoonspirits.com to find a pack near you Excited to make new connections. Download Bumble today at https://bumble.onelink.me/3396940749/fb6f84x3 LUCY is the only pouch that delivers long-lasting, on-demand flavor. Find a store near you at LUCY.CO/STORES or get it shipped with 20% off your first order at LUCY.CO/BRI using code BRI. Get your $6 All-American SONIC Smasher Meal at SONIC Today! Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/planbriuncut/ Follow us on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@planbriuncut?lang=en Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/planbriuncut Our Merch: https://store.barstoolsports.com/collections/planbri-uncut?gad_source=1&gadid=&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5OfqyMXOhAMVIWtHAR0ywwSVEAAYASAAEgLvMvD_BwE&utm_campaign=18065118167&utm_content=&utm_medium=paid&utm_source=google&utm_term=You can find every episode of this show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or YouTube. Prime Members can listen ad-free on Amazon Music. For more, visit barstool.link/planbri

On this week's episode we talk all things #GH. How fun was it to do a scene with Jane and Nancy? Is Jason really that bad of a parent for missing a call?? What could that tattoo possilby have meant? Come see us on the road! For tickets and info visit https://www.stonecoldandthejackal.com/tour To Watch This Episode on YouTube go to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL-9D3H05uD_yNRiUlrczErHDwUDor63dH  

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I'll be honest: I have a hard time with the idea of kids on social media. And still… the reality is: Teens (and preteens) are being pulled into this world, and parents are left trying to make sense of it. So, we sat down with Meta to find the safest way to protect our kids in these social media times.In this conversation, Kristin interviews Tara Hopkins (Global Director of Public Policy at Instagram/Meta — and a mom of two teens) and asks the questions parents actually have about Teen Accounts, content exposure, messaging, time limits, AI, and what “safety” really means in a world of short-form dopamine loops.Full disclosure, this episode isn't going to leave you saying, “social media is perfect.” But, if you've already given your child Instagram, if you're curious what limits you can place for your kid begging for social media, or you know someone in the thick of it, you'll walk away knowing *exactly* what you can, and can't do, to protect your kid online, which is exactly what I hoped.This is an information-forward, real-world conversation for parents who want to understand:• What Instagram Teen Accounts actually are and what happens inside them• What protections are in place for teens (and where parents can take a step further) • How Meta approaches sensitive content and teen safety• How time limits, sleep settings, and parental permissions work• Where AI fits into all of thisMy hope is simple: more clarity, less spiraling. Whether you're firmly in the “no social media” camp, already navigating it with your teen, or you can feel the pressure creeping in… this episode gives you a clearer picture of what's being built, how to use parameters that already exist, and what questions still deserve answers.Disclaimer: you have to be 13+ to use Meta platformsFor access to more helpful tools and expert guidance, parents can visit https://familycenter.meta.com.● Instagram Teen Accounts —now inspired by 13+ movie ratings—are designed to give parents peace of mind that their teens are safer with the right protections in place. Learn more about Instagram Teen Accounts at https://about.fb.com/news/2025/10/instagram-teen-accounts-pg-13-ratings/● Support your family's online experience with expert guidance and tools from Meta's Family Center. Explore resources today, including Meta's Screen Smart Program, at https://familycenter.meta.com.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.