Love YOURSELF First

Summarizing the reporting, investigation, and trial process I went through with the Army for my sexual assault. We'll also discuss some hard truths and advice for those reporting, considering reporting, or are already in the process. This will be my last episode for awhile.

Going in depth into the calm place and how to make your own and better manage your anxiety.

In this episode we're going to discuss the different coping mechanisms that I have learned and use regularly as well as pinpointing the root causes of our anxiety to better form an effective coping mechanism for the anxiety that follows the cause.

The “ideal body” is decided by social norms and judgement throughout society. Screw that, define YOUR OWN ideal body image. No more comparing to the Kylie Jenners and Channing Tatums of the world, do what's best for you and what works for you. YOUR opinion of yourself is the priority.

In season 1 we discussed appreciating the little achievements we make throughout the day and I wanted to recap and add to that. We also need to be grateful for the big things that we may not even notice or realize we have. In this episode we discuss the little things, practicing mindfulness for your depression and anxiety, and being grateful for the big things that go unnoticed.

There's a video going around that B. Simone made and I'm here to say she's absolutely right! We all have a list of criteria we want someone to meet for us, but how much of that list can we meet?

Self love is something only we can do for ourselves. You attract what you are so in order to attract better in your life, know that you deserve and want better and start acting like it. Start building yourself up little by little and watch the transformation of your life begin to unfold. It's the little things!

The beginning of a new year is always the beginning of new life changes and goals. Let the focus goal of this year be to have a better mentality and taking better care of your mental health. Out with the old and in with the new.

Going into the new year, it's always best to do an energy cleanse to get rid of any baggage or unneeded and unwanted and non beneficial things. Whether it's people, materials, or memories, get rid of anything that isn't serving you or your purpose. Take a break from social media for awhile and get in touch with your surroundings and evaluate everything and everyone in your life.

This year has been rough for many of us, and this time of year is not always cheery for everyone. In this episode I discuss my encounter with suicide and the dangers of holding everything in. TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ this is not an easy topic to discuss and it definitely is not easy to tell our own story, but it's important that we talk about things and get things off of our chest so that we don't self destruct or explode.

As we go through life, we will encounter bad experiences with friends and romantic relationships that can leave us defensive and reserved. But, people come and go, and the new people in your life deserve the chance to prove that they aren't like the old people. Allow them to build trust with you over time, don't rush!

The hardest part of domestic violence for me was always the emotional and mental abuse. That stuff truly stays with you for awhile and you have to actively combat it in order to move forward into a healthier life. Domestic violence awareness month may be over, but our discussion has only begun. This show has roots to a variety of traumatic events, and mental illnesses so we will continue to discuss domestic violence throughout the series. As always, send me feedback, reach out if you need to talk, or just want to have some one on one time to get to know each other! Thank you all for listening.

Warm welcome to my best friend Jae (@_38jae on Instagram) as she discusses with us the red flags she noticed and immediately took action against to safely exit her relationship, what a survival mindset entails, and other important facts about domestic violence. What surviving and leaving all boils down to is, having a plan, sticking to that plan, and developing a survivor mindset. With the proper planning and thought process, you gain more tools to survive and safely exit an abusive relationship/situation. Side note: please disregard the background noise interferences we encountered

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and this topic is one of the most important and overlooked aspects of domestic violence. Knowing your opponent in almost every way that you can gives you a leg up on the fight and can help you prevent the abuse from even beginning or help you safely exit the relationship. Acknowledge the red flags, and important things about your “partner” and their upbringing, this can be potentially lifesaving information.

We all need to do some self care from time to time. You can't keep running at 5% and expecting great quality effort. Take time to connect with yourself and to feel better. You deserve the best version of yourself, and we can't become that if we're taking on too much and draining our mental and emotional energy along with our physical energy. Take care of yourself.

During this timeframe in my life I'm asking for understanding and time to grieve the death of my great grandmother. I understand that some people have been hurt and bothered by this podcast at times and I apologize for that as that was and never has been my intent. Take this message however you please but it is genuine. As always, thanks for listening and thanks for all of your support.

As a caveat to the previous episode, I wanted to mention and clarify a few important things after reviewing the segment. Being mindful of others and what they may be dealing with is a very important part of releasing, as well as being accountable by understanding that we alone are responsible for our own thoughts, feelings, and actions. You and your situation is important, but others and their situation is also important.

It's been awhile. But it's 3 in the morning on a Sunday and I've got some things to get off my chest. This is me, the real me, and I hope what I have to say makes you feel empowered.

A topic that many people have come to me about and I had my own instance with quite recently. Letting go is imperative if you intend to ever move forward in any part of your life. Let go of the old memories and bad stuff so you can make room for new memories. If you nurture a plant in the same small pot for its entire lifespan, that plant will never be given the chance to meet its full growth potential. It is entirely the same process with you, you must uproot yourself out of this closed minded thinking box you are in, and allow yourself to grow and progress in life. Let go of the past, you cannot change what has happened. You CAN, however, change how you react to it. You can learn from it, grow from it, and move on from it. Special thanks to all of the people listening internationally, I cannot begin to tell you how amazing it feels to know that you are all listening and that I have so much support in doing this. You are all amazing and I cannot thank you enough.❤️

Thank you so much to everyone listening, I do rely often on personal encounters with you all as well as requests in order to do these episodes. Insecurity is deeply rooted in how much you love yourself and whether or not you know your worth. Knowing that what you are and who you are is something that differs entirely from everyone else in the world is VITAL in truly loving yourself. Do some soul searching to find out who you are, then fall in love with yourself.❤️

Key aspects in having a healthy mindset and life! You need to be able to rely on yourself more than anyone or anything else in the world. But you also need to forgive yourself for mistakes, trauma, and the past as a whole in order to get to that healthy spot in your life. Please keep sending me submissions for topics and reaching out❤️ have a beautiful weekend!

As requested, toxic friends and family are important to handle ASAP. Familial toxicity is a vital part of mental health problems worsening and no one is talking about it. You need to do what's best for you and your mental health no matter what family or friends try to prevent that or make things worse.

Just a quick pep talk on how to stay motivated and maintain that motivation and positive thinking. It's okay to fall off track from time to time but you have to remind yourself that tomorrow is a new day to try again. Stay motivated, hype yourself up, take care of your soul. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In today's society and all throughout history, men have not been given the opportunity or been allowed to express their emotions or deal with their trauma properly. They are told “boys don't cry” at a young age and then as adults they consistently hear “man up” when expressing feelings of sorrow, fear, pain, or depression. END THAT STIGMA NOW, our MEN are suffering too. They need our help, please listen to them.

Today I'm going to pin point some red flags that you may be in a toxic and even dangerous relationship and how simply trusting your gut or the feedback of your support system. Our bodies are very smart, we just need to listen to them more often.

As requested this episode is all about how to deal with bullies and abusers and what to do when you're being bullied or abused. For anyone who is in a situation where they do not feel safe in their relationship or situation I ask that you please reach out to either a professional, trusted person or adult, and THEN if that isn't enough please reach out to me. I know many agencies and things military and civilian that can help you get safe and be free from the abuse. Please reach out to me personally to speak further about this. I hope that this episode helps you manage your situation better and if it does or does not please give me that feedback. Thank you for listening

We all have bad days and days when depression comes to us with a stronger fight and mentally you're just not trying to deal with it. Today was one of those days for me and it sucked, I know many people know what I'm talking about and will probably agree that it really sucks when it feels like depression is winning as you're losing. In this episode I'll share with you my coping mechanisms to stay out of my head and try to block out depression to stay in touch with that positive mindset we're striving for. DO NOT get discouraged when you have days like this, it's very normal and it's not the end of the world I promise. You will get through this.

Special thanks to Isaac from @elpaso_creatives for believing in my ability to start doing this podcast and showing me this app! This episode will be centered around the little things you can do to start your journey to self love and the things to avoid as well. Enjoy! And thank you for listening ❤️

This is just an introductory episode to let you know what all this series will be about and all of the different topics that will be a main focus of this series. I am taking submissions for topics as well so feel free to hit me up on Instagram @misss.raine and Facebook at Cierra Raine. Feel free to reach out to me to talk if you need to or to be part of an episode! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

If you're dealing with anxiety, depression, lack of motivation, self hatred, or just being happy in general this podcast is for you. If you just want to be uplifted a little here and there this is for you too. This is all about self love and having a healthy mindset and a better viewpoint on life. I've been through years of abuse, physical, psychological, sexual and more and it tore me down A LOT. I had to pull myself together and hold my head high as I rebuilt the woman I am today. I refused to let life beat me down, the goal is to love yourself and love your life.❤️