The Trench Effect(s)

How persistent should we be in our relationships? What's the thin line between chasing someone and losing all self respect? Often we have better relationships with people in our heads and not in real life and cannot admit it to ourselves. And worst of all, some people love the way you make them feel more than they love you. On this next segment, Thulani and Darrol discuss mutually beneficial and one sided relationships. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

On this next episode the boys continue their reflections on 2020. The conversation goes into an discussion on whether people can be friends after a relationship doesn't work out. They also discuss how to deal with rejection and how one may come to terms with it. Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot Please free feel to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_

We all need a chance to grow as people and to try out new avenues. How often do we give others an opportunity to move on from who we know them to be or are we always pitting them against what our idea of them is? The boys discus albums that just didn't do it for them in this next segment and also touch on why when certain artists move away from the sound we are used to it may make us feel a way. The episode then ends in the boys discussing their toxic relationship with Man United. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Quick question, have you ever been in so deep you don't want to pull out? Sometimes love and other things make you feel that way. It's just so nice and comforting that you just want to be immersed deeply into the feelings In the following episode the boys do a recap of Darrol and Thulani's 2020 year in terms of the music the were listening to. They dive into the different themes that this music explored and even give their top albums for the year. Please feel free to share your favorite albums for the 2020 year with us, we would love to hear your pick. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

On this next episode the boys wrap up the Adulting series in some style. They touch on a variety of topics ranging from finance, relationships, toxicity and conflict resolution. Thank you for joining the Trench Effect(s) on this long and dense series, we trust that you gained some value from it. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

On this next segment the boys continue their colorful conversation on expectations. They touch on what barriers of entry there may be to succeed in the workspaces and how what they experienced in the office was different to their expectations. They then round up with a discussion on what exactly it means to create a “natural” friendship with someone else. Thank you for joining us on this particular segment of the Adulting Theme. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Between debit orders, black tax and high lifestyle inflation costs we didn't know that adulting would slap this hard. We have found that our expectations (especially in monetary terms) haven't been met and there is a sense unhappiness caused by this failure. In the episode we give you an array of emotions and conversations on met and unmet expectations we have had through the years. We hope you don't get lost in-between the chats. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

We would like to thank our parents for getting over their childhoods and being better for us. Giving us a life they dreamt of having as kids. We hope one day to show them our gratitude. The biggest realization for us was that our parents did a lot with less. We took time out during the conversation to reflect on our childhoods and found out they weren't as bad as we thought. We just need to give our parents some grace. To those who aspire to be parents, think about your reasons to be a parent. It's probably harder than you think but as fulfilling as you hope. May you go home or if you are home, show some love to your parents. If your mom or dad wasn't there for you understand that God wouldn't give you a life you couldn't handle. Thank you for listening to us and our rants. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Welcome back to another segment of the trench effects podcast! On this next segment the boys dive into the lessons they learnt about marriage and parenthood from their elders. They also have a brief discussion on Sigmund Freud's theory that breaks down why children are typically attracted to a partner who reminds them of their parents. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Parents? Why are parents important In a conversation about adulting? Who and what we are is significantly influenced by our upbringing. Genetics isn't the only way our parents contribute to who we are as people because their relationship with us can have dire consequences. We discuss whether two parent households raise better children and Darrol digs deeper into how his father taught him to be present. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

On this segment the boys wrap up their discussion of what it means to be an adult. Thulani discusses his experience of dealing with failure and coping with seeing his friends move on to chase their dreams or continuing their studies. He also discusses his experience being forced to not continue his post graduate studies due to financial difficulties in his family. The boys also close the loop on what it means to make the required sacrifices to chase your dreams and whether or not our dreams are valid. Thank you for joining us on this particular segment of the Adulting Theme. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

So when exactly did you stop asking for pocket money from your parents or guardians? On this next segment, Thulani explores the moment which hit him when he realized that he had finally become an adult. He touched on his experience leaving his parents nest, finding a job and adjusting to a world he never knew. We discuss some of the trade off decisions our parents needed to make when they were younger and whether or not they had to grow up a lot sooner than the millennials did. We also take a deep dive into whether or not it's okay to drop everything you are currently doing and follow a different career path. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Is life a journey or a destination? If it is a destination what happens when you get there? If it is a journey what is the process of this never ending trail? These are the questions we are all asking ourselves as we grow older. Is all the pain and suffering going to be worth it or are we doomed for a lifetime of trials? We urge you to ask yourself what level of achievement you are willing to strive for and if you are ready for the sacrifices attached to it. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Welcome back to the Trench Effect(s) podcast! On this opening episode the duo kick it off by catching up on where their heads are today. They go on to introduce the next theme (we won't mention it in the description so you actually listen to us!). They close off the episode by discussing university relationships and if one needs a season of singleness to find their soul. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

The Boys are back at it with a new Series. Do you like getting old? Most people find the transition from teenager to being adults quite tough. The term coined for this transition is Adulting and that is the name our new series name. Varsity is the first of this butterfly effect process. We invited a few Trenchies to share their experience. The boys tried to channel their inner Morgan Freeman . Enjoy The process. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

On this segment the duo take some time to reflect on the past few weeks and discuss their observation of the response to the Love and Relationships theme. They also selected some common questions from the listeners and addressed them in order to provide some closure. Thank you for joining us on the journey for this theme! We hope this answers any outstanding questions you have. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

THE END – Welcome to the last episode of the Love and Relationships series. What's scarier? Bungee Jumping or talking about finances with your partner? Most would probably go Bungee Jumping before they utter a word about their Financial standing with their partners. In this final installment we deal with social hierarchies, talking money with potential and current partners and why its important to talk about clearly defined financial goals with your partner. We then round up with Darrol telling us which show he believes portrays real love the best. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

What are trophies? A trophy is a tangible, durable reminder of a specific achievement and serves as recognition or evidence of merit. In this next episode the boys discuss treating their exes like trophies and feeling entitled to dictate who their former partners should date. Are you over your ex? It might seem like an easy answer for you right now but wait until your best friend starts courting your ex. It might make you start questioning whether you over them or not. We hope you enjoy the episode Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Welcome Back and thank you! We are in the midst of the Love and Relationship series. This is Episode 2 of that conversation. We start off by taking a look at the history of relationships and how love eventually started becoming a prominent part of the relationship concept. We delve deeper and look closely at the music and lifestyle of the rapper Future. We explore why so many people relate to his music and how you and I find ourselves in his music. The Chuck Norris of the Dynamic Duo (Darrol) opens up about his past relationship and tells us about his journey to the restoration of his heart. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

Welcome and stay tuned! We hope our minds are a safe space for you to relax in for the next 50 Minutes. This is episode 1 of a series talking about 21st Century dating, love, relationships and marriage. In the Episode we deal with the truths of change, regardless of whether good or bad. We speak of dealing with expectations in relationships and the ones we have with ourselves. We also try to offer our versions of mitigating these expectations. Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_ Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot

On this first take, the boys dive into breaking the ice on who they are, what the purpose of the podcast is and lastly why on earth the podcast is called “The Trench Effect(s)”. Beat Provided By https://freebeats.io Produced By White Hot Please feel free to reach out to us in our DM's: IG: @darrol_drabile IG: @uthulani_