Podcasts about Love

The Ringer's Bill Simmons and Van Lathan are joined by Mina Kimes and David Lindhagen to revisit the 2011 classic ‘Crazy, Stupid, Love,' starring Steve Carrell, Ryan Gosling, Julianne Moore, and Emma Stone. Producers: Craig Horlbeck, Chia Hao Tat, Eduardo Ocampo, Matt Pevic, and Chris Wohlers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Vanja opens her heart to someone new. Colt and Cortney fight to keep their spark alive. Sophie feels betrayed by Liz, meanwhile Liz goes on her first date with Villa. Gino hopes for a romantic weekend with Natalie.—Vanity Farah is a fun and femme coded pop culture recap podcast with Chris Farah, an actress, writer, comedian who is obsessed with pointing out the aesthetic choices and beauty trends she sees in reality shows like 90 Day Fiancé and Love is Blind. We deeply and sassily examine the choices that reality subjects make in the pursuit of love, and relate hard to the humanity on display, from questionable eyebrow shapes to the profound loneliness that plagues us all. If you want a smart yet silly friend to talk about dumb, escapist things with, subscribe, follow, and give 5 stars. Follow Chris in all her platforms! https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisFarah instagram.com/chrislfarah https://www.tiktok.com/@chrislfarah https://substack.com/@chrislfarah https://www.patreon.com/chrisfarah/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/vanity-farah-with-chris-farah--6618122/support.

You might know her as the woman who got dragged to a taco bell where her date ordered one hundred tacos and she got stuck paying for them. Elyse Myers' hilarious re-telling of that story launched her career, and now she's out with a new book, That's a Great Question, I'd Love to Tell You. She joins Sharon to talk about her struggles as a kid, and what happened when she learned her brain worked differently, and there was nothing wrong with that. Plus, Tiya Miles is here to discuss Harriet Tubman, and how her faith guided her. Even if you think you're an expert on Harriet Tubman, you'll learn something.  And be sure to read our newsletter at ThePreamble.com – it's free! Join hundreds of thousands of readers who still believe understanding is an act of hope. Credits: Host and Executive Producer: Sharon McMahon Supervising Producer: Melanie Buck Parks Audio Producer: Craig Thompson (00:00:00) The Worst First Date Ever (00:12:25) Learning to Accept Your Differences  (00:19:06) Harriet Tubman's Unwavering Faith To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kate discusses what to watch this week including Survivor 50 (CBS), Love is Blind (Netflix), The Voice: Battle of Champions (CBS), The Traitors (Peacock), and Formula 1: Drive to Survive (Netflix). Reality Life with Kate Casey What to Watch List: https://katecasey.substack.com Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/katecasey Twitter: https://twitter.com/katecasey Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/katecaseyca Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itskatecasey?lang=en Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/113157919338245 Amazon List: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katecasey Like it to Know It: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/katecaseySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Jason is joined by the hilarious Corporate Bro, Ross Pomerantz!He is someone who has lived in the high pressure, high performance world of corporate fiance and selling at Oracle and actually has the scars and stories to prove it. Ross brings a real unfiltered hilarious perspective in what enterprise sales really looks like behind the scenes. From ambition and burnout to the funny trade-offs nobody talks about unless you're deep in it, he is covering it all. He is a speaker, investor, entrepreneur, and massive creator. Ross breaks down everything from playing two seasons of Single-A pro baseball to selling luxury apartments in Oakland during Occupy Wall Street, and the identity shift from athlete to enterprise sales at Oracle. He shares what it was like training to cold call, navigating an identity crisis, and clarifying that “Corporate Bro” was always meant to satirize the industry — not glorify it — after getting his start on Vine in 2013. We dive into spending a decade in sales before business school, negotiating lessons, trusting timing, and earning admission to Stanford, along with the fear of fully committing to content creation and how he scripts and produces highly shareable videos with his team. He also talks about appearing in a Super Bowl commercial alongside Matthew McConaughey for Salesforce, leveraging opportunities on LinkedIn, his speaking business, co-hosting a podcast with Corporate Natalie, angel investing, building alongside his wife, and what's next.Ross reveals all this and so much more in another episode you can't afford to miss!Host: Jason TartickCo-Host: David ArduinAudio: John GurneyGuest: Corporate Bro Ross PomerantzStay connected with the Trading Secrets Podcast! Instagram: @tradingsecretspodcast Youtube: Trading SecretsFacebook: Join the GroupTrading Secrets Steals & Deals!Momentous:Momentous Fiber+ addresses one of the most overlooked foundations of long-term performance: gut health. Fiber is not just about digestion. It is a key driver of gut health, which directly impacts nutrient absorption, energy stability, recovery, focus, mood, and overall performance. Head to livemomentous.com, and use promo code TRADINGSECRETS for up to 35% off your first order.Warby Parker:Warby Parker gives you quality & better-looking prescription eyewear at a fraction of the going price. For  15% off + Free Shipping when they buy 2 or more pairs of prescription glasses head over to WarbyParker.com/TRADINGSECRETS.Wayfair:Get back into an at-home routine you LOVE and elevate your space with Wayfair. From bedding and mattresses to storage solutions for every room in the house, Wayfair is your one-stop shop. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home.Northwest Registered Agent:Northwest Registered Agent has been helping small business owners and entrepreneurs launch and grow businesses for nearly 30 years. Don't wait, protect your privacy, build your brand and get your complete business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes! Visit https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/tradingsecretsfree and start building something amazing!

(SPOILER) Your Daily Roundup covers this year's 10th Annual Fan Appreciation Party is set, more Love is Blind coverage the next couple weeks, Alex & Ashley give revealing interviews, Traitors update, Owens Echard podcast this week, & Bonnie Blue is pregnant.       Music written by Jimmer Podrasky (B'Jingo Songs/Machia Music/Bug Music BMI) Ads: Ollie - Go to https://ollie.com/realitysteve Promo Code: REALITYSTEVE for 60% off your first box plus a Happiness Guarantee.  Not satisfied?  Get your money back. Tonal - Tonal⁠ - $200 off your tonal purchase at https://tonal.com⁠ Promo Code: RealitySteve Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we begin our Lenten book study on "The Way of Trust and Love" and focus on the Introduction. We talk about how St. Thérèse's "little way" offers hope to weary hearts who feel small, fragile, or poor. We discuss how the Lord can transform our lives in a moment, how to boast in our poverty instead of bemoaning it, and the power of a listening heart. This Lent, we invite you into a gentler, deeper journey—one rooted not in striving, but in trust and love.    Heather's One Thing - The Good News Cruise and everyone who put together this experience Sister Miriam's One Thing - The Pause App  Michelle's One Thing - The Body of Christ   Other Resources Mentioned:  Pope Leo's Lenten Letter  Magnificat or Word Among Us   Journal Questions: Where is the Holy Spirit inviting me this Lent? Where do I feel like the burdens of life are mine to carry? How does my heart respond to St. Therese's Little Way? What does it mean to be childlike and not childish? How will I create time to listen to God this Lent? When listening to God in prayer, what is the posture of my heart?   Discussion Questions: How is God calling you into deeper love this Lent? Where do you notice weariness or poverty in your life? How can you serve the poor this Lent? What holds you back from listening to the Lord in prayer? How do you want to be transformed this Lent?   Quote to Ponder: "I feel that I am going to my rest … but above all, I feel that my mission is about to begin, my mission of making God loved as I love him, of giving my little way to other souls. If God grants my request, my Heaven will be spent on earth, until the end of the world. Yes, I wish to spend my Heaven in doing good on earth." (St. Thérèse of Lisieux)    Scripture for Lectio: "Amen, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven." (Matthew 18:3-4)   Sponsor - SacredSpark: Looking for a Catholic dating experience that actually feels human? Meet SacredSpark, a Catholic dating and matchmaking app designed to help singles approach dating with intention, clarity, and faith at the center. SacredSpark was built on a simple belief: dating shouldn't feel like endless guessing games, emotional burnout, or mixed signals that leave you questioning your worth. It should help you encounter real people, have thoughtful conversations, and discern relationships with purpose. Unlike traditional dating apps, SacredSpark is intentionally designed to foster online connections for offline relationships, blending technology and tradition to facilitate meaningful connections that can grow into real relationships rooted in faith. Whether you're discerning marriage, healing from past dating experiences, or simply tired of platforms that don't reflect what you value, SacredSpark offers a refreshing alternative. It's a space where Catholic singles are reminded of their dignity, supported in dating well, and encouraged to pursue relationships with peace and purpose. SacredSpark also offers free formational resources like Dating 101 that helps men and women approach dating with emotional maturity, confidence, and Christ at the center, because how you date matters just as much as who you date. Start something good! Download SacredSpark today: https://www.sacredspark.app/download (Available on iOS and Android)   Timestamps: 00:00 SacredSpark 01:37 Intro 02:23 Welcome 03:08 Scripture Verse and Guiding Quote 03:53 Seeing Lent as an Invitation of Love 06:26 Breaking Strongholds 09:18 The Little Way 12:44 Feeling Weary and Poor 14:54 Pope Leo's Lenten Letter 19:33 Listening to Grow Deeper in Intimacy 23:04 A Call to Holiness 26:52 One Things

Mazel Morons! Today, we're going straight from a wholesome Barnes & Noble nostalgia trip into a full-on debate about point-of-purchase snacks, condom roulette, Derek Jeter gift baskets, and why no one uses protection anymore. Plus, Oscar snubs, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills drama, Traitors casting fails, and some of the wildest Moron Mail confessions yet (including a husband's old-phone sex tape discovery). What are ya nuts? Love ya!Leave us a voicemail here!Follow us on Instagram and TikTok! Sponsors:If meetings are eating up your day, Granola is a no-brainer. You can try it totally free for three months - just head to granola.ai/goodguys Go to https://kachava.com and use code GOODGUYS for 15% off your first order.Head to Superpower.com and use code GOODGUYS at checkout for $20 off your membership. After you sign up, they'll ask how you heard about them, so make sure to mention this podcast to support the show.Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to hero.co and use code GUYS at checkout. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode I get into the absolute mess of episodes 7 and 8 of Love is Blind season 10!Follow me on social media, find links to merch, Patreon and more here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Obedience to God isn’t always easy—especially when life feels unfair, confusing, or painful. Many of us find ourselves in seasons we never would have chosen: job struggles, long-term illness, relationship tension, infertility, loneliness, or waiting on God for answers that seem delayed. This devotional reminds us that God’s discipline is not meant to harm us, but to shape us. When the Lord convicts us or redirects us, it can feel uncomfortable at first. But when we stop resisting and surrender fully, we begin to discover something surprising on the other side: joy. Jesus is our greatest example of obedience. He endured rejection, suffering, and even the cross—not because it was easy, but because He trusted His Father completely. Scripture shows us that Jesus obeyed with the joy set before Him. He knew the pain was not the end of the story. In the same way, God may be calling you to surrender something today—an unhealthy relationship, a destructive habit, fear, pride, control, or even a schedule that leaves no room for Him. Obedience may require hard decisions, but God never asks us to surrender without purpose. The promise is clear: joy is found in God’s presence. When we obey Him, we aren’t losing freedom—we’re stepping into the fullness of life He designed for us. Obedience isn’t just duty; it’s a pathway to deeper peace, deeper joy, and deeper closeness with Jesus. Main Takeaways God’s discipline is rooted in love, not punishment. Obedience may feel painful at first, but it leads to joy and peace. Jesus is our model: He endured suffering while trusting the Father’s will. God may be calling you to surrender something so He can restore your joy. True joy is found in God’s presence, not in perfect circumstances. Today’s Bible Verse: "This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples. As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.” John 15:8-14 NIV Your Daily Prayer Prayer excerpt for listeners: “Help us to have hearts to love You, minds to know You, and wills to obey You.” Listen to the full prayer here. To view the prayer in written format, visit the links below. Continue your devotional journey and find more encouragement here: LifeAudio.com – Christian podcasts, devotionals, and faith resources Crosswalk.com – Daily devotionals, prayers, and Bible-based encouragement This episode is sponsored by Trinity Debt Management. If you are struggling with debt call Trinity today. Trinity's counselors have the knowledge and resources to make a difference. Our intention is to help people become debt-free, and most importantly, remain debt-free for keeps!" If your debt has you down, we should talk. Call us at 1-800-793-8548 | https://trinitycredit.orgTrinityCredit – Call us at 1-800-793-8548. Whether we're helping people pay off their unsecured debt or offering assistance to those behind in their mortgage payments, Trinity has the knowledge and resources to make a difference. https://trinitycredit.org Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

This week on The Beet, Jacques sits down with Ben Goulet-Scott and Jacob Suissa to talk plants, passion, and the power of good botany. The duo behind Let's Botanize shares how they first fell for the plant world and how they're channeling that love into a growing movement. They discuss biodiversity, ecology, and evolution while making the case for why plants deserve much more hype. Connect with Ben and Jacob: Ben Goulet-Scott and Jacob Suizza met while earning their PhDs in Organismic and Evolutionary Biology at Harvard University, bonding over a shared love of plants. Ben unraveled the genetic and ecological drama of Phlox species and now serves as Higher Education & Laboratory Coordinator at Harvard Forest, while Jacob, a classically trained botanist obsessed with ferns, is an Assistant Professor at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. In 2020, they co-founded Let's Botanize, an educational nonprofit dedicated to making plant science accessible, engaging, and rigorously grounded in real science. Find more from Ben and Jacob at their website: https://www.letsbotanize.org/ Find more from Ben and Jacob on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsbotanize Support The Beet: → Shop: https://growepic.co/shop → Seeds: https://growepic.co/botanicalinterests Learn More: → All Our Channels: https://growepic.co/youtube → Blog: https://growepic.co/blog → Podcast: https://growepic.co/podcasts → Discord: https://growepic.co/discord → Instagram: https://growepic.co/insta → TikTok: https://growepic.co/tiktok → Pinterest: https://growepic.co/pinterest → Twitter: https://growepic.co/twitter → Facebook: https://growepic.co/facebook → Facebook Group: https://growepic.co/fbgroup → Love our products? Become an Epic affiliate! https://growepic.co/3FjQXqV Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Currently Reading, Kaytee and Meredith are discussing: Bookish Moments: A new bookish metaphor and book moms in the wild Current Reads: all the great, interesting, and/or terrible stuff we've been reading lately Deep Dive: Explaining a Currently Reading literary society Before We Go: our new segment featuring bookish friend posts and a sleeper hit you should read. Show notes are time-stamped below for your convenience. Read the transcript of the episode (this link only works on the main site). . . . 1:44 - Bookish Moments of the Week 1:52 - Currently Reading Website 1:56 - Books We Want To Press Into Your Hands 3:03 - Best Books for Babies and Kids 3:42 - Castle of Water by Dane Huckelbridge 5:55 - A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms on HBO Max 7:12 - Game of Thrones by George R. R. Martin 7:16 - A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms by George R. R. Martin (all 3 Dunk and Egg novellas) 7:55 - Heated Rivalry by Rachel Reid 8:33 - Current Reads 8:41 - The Secret Library by Kekla Magoon (Kaytee) 11:47 - The Book Wanderers by Anna James 11:50 - The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon 11:54 - The Midnight Library by Matt Haig 13:08 - Dungeon Crawler Carl by Matt Dinniman (Meredith) 15:10 - The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins 15:11 - The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams 15:45 - Chain Gang All Stars by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah 22:27 - Ready Player One by Ernest Cline 24:10 - Six Feet Over by Mary Roach (Kaytee) 27:20 - Gulp by Mary Roach 27:21 - Bonk by Mary Roach 27:22 - Stiff by Mary Roach 28:51 - Murder at the Vicarage by Agatha Christie (Meredith) 32:06 - Agatha Christie's Marple by Mark Aldridge 34:18 - The Safekeep by Yael Van Der Wouden (Kaytee) 34:33 - Charter Books 39:00 - Carmilla by Joseph Sheridan Le Fanu (Meredith) 42:28 - Dracula by Bram Stoker 45:21 - Turning Instagram into Bookstagram 47:25 - Sign up for the newsletter on our website 47:26 - Currently Reading Substack 50:48 - Currently Reading Instagram 50:54 - @HelloSunshine on Instagram 50:58 - @BookRiot on Instagram  51:00 - @NYTBooks on Instagram 51:40 - @Iamblackharry on Instagram 52:10 - Where the Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak 52:28 - The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas 52:42 - The Unselected Journals of Emma M. Lion by Beth Brower 53:42 - The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides 53:48 - God of the Woods by Liz Moore 54:03 - Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir 56:13 - Sarah's Bookshelves Live 58:44 - Before We Go Meredith highlights a bookish friend post 59:34 - The Bean Trees by Barbara Kingsolver 59:54 - The Correspondent by Virginia Evans Kaytee's Book She DNF'd: 1:01:22 - The Complete Stories by Flannery O'Connor 1:01:28 - Bookshelf Thomasville 1:02:57 - From the Front Porch podcast Support Us: Become a Bookish Friend | Grab Some Merch Shop Bookshop dot org | Shop Amazon Bookish Friends Receive: The Indie Press List with a curated list of five books hand sold by the indie of the month. February's list is a special romance curated list from Open Door Romance, The Novel Neighbor's Romance adjacent bookstore in Plainville, MA. Love and Chili Peppers with Kaytee and Rebekah - romance lovers get their due with this special episode focused entirely on the best selling genre fiction in the business All Things Murderful with Meredith and Elizabeth - special content for the scary-lovers, brought to you with the behind-the-scenes insights of an independent bookseller From the Editor's Desk with Kaytee and Bunmi Ishola - a quarterly peek behind the curtain at the publishing industry The Bookish Friends Facebook Group - where you can build community with bookish friends from around the globe as well as our hosts Connect With Us: The Show: Instagram | Website | Email | Threads | Substack | Youtube The Hosts and Regulars: Meredith | Kaytee | Mary | Roxanna Production and Editing: Megan Phouthavong Evans Affiliate Disclosure: All affiliate links go to Bookshop unless otherwise noted. Shopping here helps keep the lights on and benefits indie bookstores. Thanks for your support!

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What if the story you've been telling yourself — that you're “too much,” too sensitive, or too difficult — was never actually true? In this listener call, Jillian helps a woman unpack a lifelong belief that she's “too much” and shows how that story can follow you into adulthood—especially in relationships. They explore what happens when sensitivity gets labeled as “difficult,” how a parent's emotional limits shape your self-image, and why heartbreak can pull you back into old wounds. Download Jillian's FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki Threads: @jillianturecki YouTube: @jillian.turecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Season 4, Episode 8 of the To Be Better Podcast, Chris and Peaches sit down for a real, no fluff relationship and life advice Q and A, reading listener emails and responding with direct coaching, hard truths, and practical next moves. Recorded on New Year's Eve, this episode is built for men and women who want stronger marriages, better communication, and more personal accountability, without the sugar coating.You'll hear them tackle a painful co parenting situation with an absent father and addiction, including how to set boundaries that protect kids emotionally, and what court and custody decisions really do and do not fix. They also dig into a workplace crush and whether to make a move, intimacy issues tied to body insecurity and weight gain after kids, starting a business when fear of failure is loud, and a marriage crisis involving an emotional affair, porn addiction, and accountability, plus a boundary conversation about “playful” touching that crosses the line.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

In this heartfelt conversation, Kimberly and Kalina explore the importance of in-person connections, the impact of loneliness on health, and the journey from journalism to creating meaningful conversations. They discuss empathy, authenticity, and the role of community in healing, while emphasizing the need for heart-centered living and the power of vulnerability. The discussion also touches on finding common ground in divisive times and the significance of being approachable in everyday interactions.Chapters:00:00 Kimberly00:06 Welcome to Topanga: A Peaceful Beginning00:07 Exploring Personal Journeys and Growth00:17 The Power of In-Person Connection03:11 Understanding Loneliness and Its Impact06:24 The Journey from Journalism to Heart-Centered Conversations09:13 Empathy and Meaningful Connections12:06 The Role of Heart in Decision Making15:02 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships18:01 The Art of Big Talk and Empathy21:17 Creating Connections Through Shared Experiences24:01 Building Connections Through Shared Experiences25:22 The Power of Community in Shared Struggles27:49 Exploring Social Impact and Human Connection29:44 Finding Common Ground Amidst Differences32:35 The Importance of Authenticity in Conversations35:15 Approachability and Meaningful Interactions38:34 Transforming Strangers into Connections40:56 Navigating Conversations with Vulnerable Individuals42:47 Embracing Vulnerability and Healing Through ConnectionSponsors: FATTY15 OFFER: Fatty15 is on a mission to replenish your C15 levels and restore your long-term health. You can get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/KIMBERLY and using code KIMBERLY at checkout.USE LINK: fatty15.com/KIMBERLY FEEL GOOD SBO PROBIOTICSOFFER: Go to mysolluna.com and use the CODE: PODFAM15 for 15% off your entire order. USE LINK: mysolluna.com CODE: PODFAM15 for 15% off your entire order. Kalina Silverman Resources: Book: Big Talk: How to Skip the Small Talk, Make Meaningful Connections, and Enrich Your Life Website: kalinasilverman.com Social: IG: @makebigtalk Bio: Kalina Silverman is a documentary journalist, entrepreneur, speaker, and creator of Big Talk (@makebigtalk)—an award-winning viral media project that highlights meaningful conversations to foster empathy and human connection. She is also an upcoming author, with a Big Talk book set for release under Penguin Random House (Tarcher) in 2026. A Fulbright Scholar, Ambassador, and Public Speaker, Kalina has traveled globally to deliver Big Talk workshops and presentations, including at Fortune 500 off-sites, universities, and mental health organizations. Her TEDx talk on Big Talk has 7 million views, and her social media content has reached 500,000 followers and 125 million+ views. Big Talk has been featured by Good Morning America, TIME, People, PBS, USA Today, KTLA, NBC, and more. Most recently, Kalina partnered with GoFundMe to interview survivors of the Los Angeles wildfires, Hurricane Helene, and the Texas Floods, creating viral videos that helped raise over $2 million in relief funds and garnered international attention. A Northwestern University broadcast journalism graduate, Kalina worked on documentary films in Ecuador and Germany focused on education and the Holocaust. As a Fulbright Research Scholar in Singapore, she studied how to establish cross-cultural empathy through Big Talk. She also co-founded MIXED, Northwestern's first-ever Mixed Race Student Coalition. Beyond journalism and advocacy, Kalina is a model and commercial actress, having appeared in campaigns for Nike, Upwork, Adidas, Coca-Cola, Google, Meta, Sony, Delta, and more. Kalina is passionate about bridging cultures and communities through media, education, and the arts, as well as combating modern-day loneliness and disconnection. An adventurer at heart, she stays active through surfing, Taekwondo, tennis, and dance while also nurturing her creativity through painting, songwriting, and playing piano and guitar.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In tonight's sleep meditation with Karissa, you're invited to simply be still. Through gentle breath work and a calming body scan, this practice helps you release the day, quiet the mind, and settle into deep, natural rest. Join Sleep Wave Premium ✨ in just two taps! Enjoy 2 bonus episodes a month plus all episodes ad-free and show your support to Karissa. Upgrade via our show page on Apple, or via this link for all other players ➡️ https://sleepwave.supercast.com/ Love the Sleep Wave Podcast? Please hit follow & leave a review ⭐️ How are we doing with Sleep Wave? Click here to let us know

If you're the one everyone relies on, your boundaries might be the reason you're burning out. This is for the high achiever who's carrying too much, feeling stressed, and quietly running on empty. And yes—this includes how to set boundaries at work without guilt or conflict. Somewhere along the way, many capable people start to confuse their value with their availability. You become the reliable one. The strong one. The person who can handle it. And before you know it, you're overextended and quietly exhausted from overfunctioning. If you've been wondering how to set boundaries without guilt, how to stop overfunctioning, or how people pleasing and boundaries get tangled together, this conversation will give you clarity and practical direction. I'm joined by Ginny Priem, keynote speaker, Master Certified Professional Life Coach, bestselling author, and host of the Unsubscribe Podcast. We talk about the signs of stress in the body, trusting your intuition, boundary pushback, and what to do when boundary busters resist your growth. You'll learn how to set boundaries at work without conflict, how to communicate limits calmly, and why boundaries aren't about controlling others, they're about deciding what you're willing to participate in. As you listen, consider: Where have you equated your worth with how much you can carry? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How High Achievers Start Overfunctioning 07:22 Signs of Stress in the Body 14:13 Trusting Your Intuition When Something Feels Off 23:51 How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt 29:45 The Unsubscribe Framework: Block, Mute, Swap, Manage 33:48 Setting Boundaries at Work Without Conflict 45:45 Final Reflections on Boundaries and Burnout If you're ready to move from insight into action, I'd love to invite you to schedule a consultation with someone on my team at Growing Self. You can answer three quick questions so we can help you schedule a free consultation with the right expert for where you are right now. It's private, secure, and only takes a couple of minutes. Let's find the right support for you. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast: Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs  to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts.Working Genius — A powerful assessment that helps entrepreneurs and leaders focus on what they naturally do best. Get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.com

How does breakfast timing influence hormones and blood sugar control? In this episode, I break down the exact breakfast rule that transformed my metabolism after 40 by changing when and how I eat my first meal. I explain why timing matters just as much as food quality, how protein-first breakfasts stabilize blood sugar, and why ultra-processed “healthy” breakfasts backfire. I also share the science behind circadian rhythms, morning light exposure, and protein intake so you can train your metabolism to work for you, not against you. What you'll learn: (02:38) Why eating within an earlier daily window improves insulin sensitivity and metabolic health. (03:31) How morning sunlight exposure activates cortisol and turns metabolism back on. (04:12) Why skipping breakfast is linked to poor blood sugar control. (05:56) How standard “healthy” breakfasts spike glucose and crash energy after 40. (06:49) Why ultra-processed foods drive overeating even when calories are matched. (07:41) How protein before or around workouts boosts lean mass and resting metabolism. (09:08) The exact protein, fiber, and fat formula for a metabolic-friendly breakfast. (14:41) How changing breakfast timing and protein intake reduced cravings and improved recovery. Love the podcast? Here's what to do: Subscribe to the podcast. Leave a review. Text a screenshot to me at 813-565-2627 and wait for a personal reply because your voice is so important to me. Want to listen to the show completely ad-free? Go to http://subscribetojj.com Click “TRY FREE” and start your ad-free journey today! When you're ready, enjoy the VIP experience for just $4.99 per month or $49.99 per year (save 17%!) Full show notes (including all links mentioned): https://jjvirgin.com/breakfastrule Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Troy Spurrill of the Synapse Center for Health and Healing joins Susie to talk about how to transition well from season to season. Listen to the identity show mentioned here 10 Tips for Healthy Hope-filled Living Eat the Rainbow: Include a variety of colorful fruits and veggies at every meal. Not only is it healthy, but it's beautiful too. Catch more ZZZ's: Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep per night. This improves health and uses our body's own healing mechanisms. Hydrate: Drink half your weight in ounces per day. This improves your cellular function. Move it: Even 10 minutes of movement can improve both health and mood. Move more, and sit less. Laugh: Laughter is shown to accelerate healing and improve your mental focus and creativity. Find something to laugh about every day.    Love: spend time with people you care about and who care about you in return. Good relationships affect your health and healing. Nature Up: It only takes a few minutes in nature to improve mood. Watch a sunset, walk in the woods, stroll through a garden. Hug it out: Hugs make you happier. Human touch reduces stress, lowers blood pressure and helps stimulate healing. Count Your Blessings: Gratitude and positive thinking have a huge impact on your health and immediately put you in a better mood. Tap into your spiritual side: You are more than flesh and bone. You are a body, soul and spirit that is connected. Each affects the other. Make time for spirit and soul renewal. Dr. Troy's non-profit is State of Grace Foundation. Find out more here. See the auction here. Find out more about becoming an affiliate of Dr. Troy's clinic here. Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: click here

In this special announcement episode, host Stacy Bellward welcomes Chad Hayenga, Connected Families’ Director of Education and Equipping, to introduce an exciting new program: The CF Intensive! This new parent training program is a six-session, small-group experience! It's designed for parents, caregivers, and ministry leaders who want to move from head knowledge to heart transformation using tools from the Connected Families Framework™. Is this for you? Listen to find out… Key Takeaways: The CF Intensive accelerates Framework growth through a hands-on, community deep-dive into Connected Families tools The CF Intensive is about depth, not crisis intervention Community transforms learning because growth happens together Mentioned in this Podcast: The CF Intensive – For One Person The CF Intensive – For Two People Book – How to Grow a Connected Family The Connected Families Framework Connected Families Certified Parent Coaching Become a Parent Coach The Table Monthly Giving Program Check out our website for more resources to support your parenting! This podcast was made possible by members of The Table, whose monthly support creates a ripple effect of change for generations to come. We'd love to have you take a seat at The Table! Love the podcast? Leave a review to help other parents discover the show! Guest Bio: Chad Hayenga joined Connected Families in 2005. He is married to Carma and has three adult daughters and two sons-in-law. Chad oversees coaching and the Parent Coach Certification Program, which continues to grow in its reach across North America and worldwide. © 2026 Connected Families

In this episode, Jason talks about his shop flooring woes and $1500 worth of ebony, Mary is desiginging a bookcase and waiting for stained glass repairs and Keith has some troubles with his desk legs and shop heating. Oh, and crap we bought on IG strikes again and we effed some stuff up, as usual.  Be sure to check out Bits & Bits at www.bitsbits.com and use coupon code MORSELS15 to save 15% on your order of router and/or CNC bits. Be sure to hit up Katz-Moses Tools at www.KMTools.com - cool tools at a fair price. If it's on their website, it's in Jonathan's apron. www.kmtools.com **And check out the new Katz Moses toolless adjustable countersink and new sharpening jig and sliding stop block. Oh, and don't forget about his new aluminum channel French Cleat system with some bad azz 3D printed accessories that lock in place!! Be sure to check out WTB Woodworking at 390 Pike Road, Unit 2, Huntingdon Valley, PA for lumber, slabs, woodworking tools and MORE!! Or shop online and earn yourself some Burkell bucks for every dollar you spend! Go to wtbwoodworking.com to shop online.Help us support Grit-Grip!! A revolutionary new breed of double-sided sanding sponges that we all LOVE! Check it out at https://grit-grip.com/ and use code "shopsounds" at checkout to get a free sanding block!The Bourbon Blade: https://www.bourbonmoth.com/shop/p/the-bourbon-blade-original-pocket-chiselIf you'd like to support us on Patreon and have access to our irreverent aftershow, you can sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/shopsoundspodcastYou can find us on Instagram, Youtube, Facebook and TikTok (maybe): Bourbon Moth Woodworking and Keith Johnson Woodworking and Kodamari Design

In XYBM 151, I open up about a season I recently went through where I genuinely felt abandoned by God — and the uncomfortable truth I had to face about what was actually happening beneath that feeling.       I talk about what it looks like to shift disagreements before they turn into destructive arguments, how betrayal trauma hits men differently when you've been cheated on or crossed by someone you trusted, and how to heal without becoming hardened or passing that pain onto the people you love.        If you're in a season of spiritual and mental growth that feels heavy or confusing, this episode will meet you there. Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.Leave a 5-star review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ if you found value in this episode or a previous episode!  BOOK US FOR SPEAKING + BRAND DEALS:————————————Explore our diverse collaboration opportunities as the leading and fastest-growing Black men's mental health platform on social media. Let's create something dope for your brand/company.Take the first step by filling out the form on our website: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/speaking-brand-dealsHOW TO FIND A DOPE, BLACK THERAPIST: ————————————We are teaching a FREE webinar on how to find a dope, Black therapist – sign up for the next session here: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/black-therapistAll webinar attendees will have the opportunity to be paired with a Black mental health professional in Safe Haven. We have had 5K+ people sign up for this webinar in the past. Don't miss out. Slots are limited. SAFE HAVEN:————————————Safe Haven is a holistic healing platform built for Black men by Black men. In Safe Haven, you will be connected with a Black mental health professional, so you can finally heal from the things you find it difficult to talk about AND you will receive support from like-minded Black men that are all on their healing journey, so you don't have to heal alone.Join Safe Haven Now: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-haven SUPPORT THE PLATFORM: ————————————Safe Haven: https://www.expressyourselfblackman.com/safe-havenMonthly Donation: https://buy.stripe.com/eVa5o0fhw1q3guYaEE Merchandise: https://shop.expressyourselfblackman.com FOLLOW US:————————————TikTok: @expressyourselfblackman (https://www.tiktok.com/@expressyourselfblackman) Instagram:Host: @expressyourselfblackman(https://www.instagram.com/expressyourselfblackman)YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ExpressYourselfBlackManFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/expressyourselfblackman

Today's Song of the Day is “Death of Love” from James Blake's album Trying Times, out March 13.

Hello Beautiful, I'm so grateful you're here with me.

Hello Beautiful, I'm so grateful you're here with me.

Hello Beautiful, I'm so grateful you're here with me.

In a culture that builds relationships on butterflies and emotions, what happens when the feeling fades?This message dives into what real, biblical commitment looks like. Love isn't just chemistry. It's not just attraction. And it's definitely not just a vibe. According to Scripture, love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Marriage wasn't created by culture — it was created by God.Authentic Church 2416 N Center St Hickory, NC 28601 (Beside Planet Fitness) GIVING To support this ministry and help us continue to reach people all around the world click here: https://authenticchurch.com/give GET CONNECTED Ready to check out Authentic Church in person? We can't wait to meet you in person. Simply fill out the form below and we'll make sure to give you the VIP treatment upon your first visit. https://authenticchurch.com/plan-a-visit ABOUT AUTHENTIC CHURCH Authentic Church exists so that people will have an authentic encounter with God, be set free, and grow in Christ. Our mission is to help each person at Authentic believe in Jesus, belong to family, inspire true worship, walk in God's Spirit, and build the kingdom of God.

Jeremiyah Love is darling of Saints Twitter, but what if he's gone when Saints pick at 8? Kevin and Ralph look for alternatives at running back if Saints can't find Love.Saints Happy Hour is brought to you by Hardhide Ponchatoula Strawberry Whiskey and Chilton County Peach Whiskey!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions: A listener named Derek asks, I am the CTO and cofounder of a startup. Now that vibecoding is a thing, our CEO has kind of gone rogue, and and he's vibecoding a bunch of random stuff, one of which he bought a domain for and has pushed a potential customer to pay for, without talking to our team. I feel like this is fragmenting our focus, but I don't want to ban our CEO from vibecoding and being creative. how should I handle this without damaging relationships? AdmiralFox asks, Hi Dave and Jamison! Longtime listener, first-time question asker here. After 14 years at a consultancy firm, I'm moving to a major retailer to become their Java Learning and Community Lead. Instead of shipping code, my new role will be shipping knowledge. I will be managing learning paths, organizing internal knowledge sharing events, and help managers screen candidates. Basically, I'm moving from a ‘Maker' role to a ‘Multiplier' role. I have 13 weeks of notice period (Standard European “I'm not leaving yet after 14 years” protocol) and I want to use my free evenings to prepare. My questions for you: How do I transition from “the guy with the technical answers” to “the guy who helps everyone else find the answers”? How can I use the remaining time of my notice period to prepare for the people side of this role? Love the show! Keep up the ‘quit-your-job' advice coming (although I've already taken it!)

Our mission is to foster personal and cultural transformation through Love, Creativity, and Justice. We are a diverse community that seeks to live our faith in an authentic way, we long for the undiluted gospel, and for the world to see and know how good God really is. Listen Here:  Spotify: https://expression58.org/spotify Apple Podcasts: https://expression58.org/apple Follow us: Website: https://www.expression58.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/expression58/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/expression58/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Expression58media

In this episode, Dr. K provides a deep-dive lecture into Attachment Theory, moving beyond individual psychology to explore how our internal "wiring" creates the specific dynamics of our romantic relationships. He breaks down why we are often attracted to the very people who trigger our deepest insecurities and provides a scientific roadmap for healing your attachment style. What to expect in this episode: • The Three Major Styles: A breakdown of why 50% of people are Secure, while the rest fall into Anxious (fear of abandonment) or Avoidant (fear of closeness) patterns rooted in childhood experiences. • The "Match Made in Hell": An analysis of the magnetic attraction between anxious and avoidant individuals, creating a cycle where one person chases while the other retreats. • The Six Types of Love: How ancient Greek concepts like Ludus (game-playing) and Mania (obsessive) perfectly describe the modern behaviors of avoidant and anxious partners. • Protest Behaviors and Mixed Signals: A look at the "chameleon" effect in anxious individuals and the "devaluing" strategies avoidants use to keep people at arm's length. • The Path to Security: Practical tools for moving toward a Secure Attachment, including the development of mentalization (understanding your partner's mind) and inter-subjectivity (blending lives without losing your identity).HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Lisa and Daniel visit an Igbo King. Emma's secret leaves her future with Ziad in jeopardy. Aviva presses Stig for the truth. Forrest plans a special day for Sheena. Elise prepares to meet her Australian boyfriend, Joshua.---Vanity Farah is a fun and femme coded pop culture recap podcast with Chris Farah, an actress, writer, comedian who is obsessed with pointing out the aesthetic choices and beauty trends she sees in reality shows like 90 Day Fiancé and Love is Blind. We deeply and sassily examine the choices that reality subjects make in the pursuit of love, and relate hard to the humanity on display, from questionable eyebrow shapes to the profound loneliness that plagues us all. If you want a smart yet silly friend to talk about dumb, escapist things with, subscribe, follow, and give 5 stars. Follow Chris in all her platforms! https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisFarah instagram.com/chrislfarah https://www.tiktok.com/@chrislfarah https://substack.com/@chrislfarah https://www.patreon.com/chrisfarah/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/vanity-farah-with-chris-farah--6618122/support.

Amye is joined by Amanda to discuss 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days S8:EP11 Use Caution When Opening Overhead BinsLisa and Daniel visit an Igbo King. Emma's secret leaves her future with Ziad in jeopardy. Aviva presses Stig for the truth. Forrest plans a special day for Sheena. Elise prepares to meet her Australian boyfriend, Joshua.Timestamps:We chat Love is Blind in the beginning12:00–Hot Goss20:00 Recap beginsGet BONUS content and ad-free episodes! Sign up at:www.littlemissrecap.com/supportOr go directly to Patreon at:www.patreon.com/littlemissrecapListen to my true crime podcast: Murder She Watched at www.murdershewatchedpod.comGet in touch with us:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/littlemissrecapFacebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/littlemissrecapInstagram: @littlemissrecap Voicemail: www.littlemissrecap.comEmail: amye@littlemissrecap.comYoutube: www.youtube.com/@littlemissrecapSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

*Disclaimer* This episode contains adult content and is not recommended for young listeners.   284. DON'T MISS THIS! Controversial Sex Questions, Answered with Dr. Juli Slattery   1 Samuel 24:19b NIV “May the Lord reward you well for the way you treated me today.”   *Transcription Below*   Bio: Instagram Facebook Authentic Intimacy Website Java with Juli Podcast   Thank you to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management Company   Questions and Topics We Cover: As Christ followers, should we use a friend's preferred names and pronouns? If one part of Scripture talks about turning the other cheek, is that the same as saying God expects you to stay in an abusive marriage? Is it reasonable to assume that once they have a smartphone, 100% of kids will be exposed to pornography?   Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce, Including Past Episodes with Dr. Juli Slattery: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen  Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau  Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna  Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 222 Pornography: Protecting Children and Personal Healing, Victory, and Recovery in Christ with Sam Black Special Patreon Release: Holy Sex: An Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery Special Patreon Release: His Desires and Her Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn 252 Maximizing Sexual Connections as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Cliff & Joyce Penner 260 Sex After Cancer with Dr. Kris Christiansen 277 Breaking Through Addiction in Marriage with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:11 – 0:11)   Laura Dugger: (0:11 – 2:21) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   Today's message is not intended for little ears. We'll be discussing some adult themes, and I want you to be aware before you listen to this message.   Leman Property Management Company has the apartment you will be able to call home, with over 1,700 apartment units available in Central Illinois. Visit them today at lemanproperties.com or connect with them on Facebook.   My returning guest for today is Dr. Juli Slattery.   She has authored another book entitled Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything, and we're going to cover a few themes from this book, but I think what you're going to find most helpful are her candid responses to some really tricky questions related to dating and pornography, technology, thought life, shows that we watch as believers, divorce, and just intimacy in general as married couples.   So, I think this is an episode that you're going to want to learn from yourself, but you'll also want to share with others because Dr. Juli has offered us such a gift as she directs us back to the heart issues and wisely guides us into sexual integrity in our own lives.   Here's our chat.   Welcome back to The Savvy Sauce, Dr. Juli.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (2:21 – 2:21) Thanks so much for having me back. It's always a joy.   Laura Dugger: (2:21 – 2:22) Well, I love that you've been a repeat guest many times. So, we get to just dive right in today because I'm going to link all of your previous episodes in the show notes. But to dive in, I'm just curious, as believers, where does your heart break as you see us compromising on God's design for sex?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (2:22 – 3:31) Hmm. That's such a good question. You know, I think my heart breaks the most in that when we compromise God's design for sexuality, or even when we don't understand it or understand His goodness, it means that there is a breach in our relationship with God.   And so, I am so passionate about what I do, not necessarily because I love talking about sexuality, but because for a lot of people, sexuality represents a wall between them and God, like an issue they can't resolve, or a place of shame that they just can't quite shake free from, or battle with sin that they feel like they're enslaved to. And so, those things mean that there's a limit to how much they invite God into their lives.   And so, for me, that's where my heart breaks the most is, you know, ultimately, we were created for the greatest fellowship with God and anything that gets in the way of that is something that God cares about and something that I care about.   Laura Dugger: (3:32 – 4:03) You say that well, and you've written many books, but in this most recent one, you plainly state one issue when you write, “You will not be able to obey God with your sexual thoughts, while binging shows and music that continually display the exact opposite.”   And I love how practical that is. So, Juli, why do you think this has become so normalized? And I would say, especially in Christian marriages.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (4:05 – 5:58) Yeah, you know, I think a lot of it is that the church has been historically really quiet about sexuality, you know, like we might talk about save sex for marriage, and don't cheat on your husband and that sort of thing. But the gray areas about how we think about our sexuality and kind of what we have the liberty and freedom to engage in, there's kind of silence, or maybe there's legalism.   And I think in that space, what ends up happening is the culture is so forthright with a message about sexuality, like woven throughout every single show that you could stream on any platform, you know, your music on Spotify, even the news you consume, the Instagram feeds, whatever, it's consistently showing you a way to understand sexuality that is contrary to God's design, and the messaging can be so subtle, or so repetitive that we don't even realize we're ingesting it.   And so, it's normal to talk about with your friends, like the latest season of The Bachelor, or, you know, the latest thing that you're streaming that if you really look at it, there's probably 100 references to sexuality that are outside of God's design. And so, we end up just having our mind conformed to this world.   And the scripture says really clearly in Romans 12, that we can't offer ourselves to God while we're still thinking like the world thinks that it requires an act of transformation of our thinking. And I don't know that there's anywhere more than we need this than in the topic of understanding our sexuality.   Laura Dugger: (6:00 – 6:59) Okay, so for I'm thinking of married couples, because I was recently at a wedding shower. And I love a friend from church. Her name is Dawn Karius. And she was giving the devotional and just sharing. You know, it's very easy to get married and fall into this trap. She was talking about what you watch specifically.   And she said, so many couples will watch something together, watch a show before bed, but be really intentional. If that is what you choose to do, then the shows that you're watching, even though you're with your spouse, is that drawing both of you closer to Christ? Because if it's pulling you further away from Christ, it's also pulling you away from one another.   And so, with all of that, and with what you've studied and written about, if a couple's hearing that and or some single person just hearing this, what would be your practical advice or encouragement for them?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (7:00 – 9:29) Yeah, some of it is, we can't live in a bubble. You know, it's, I think that there are some couples will have the conviction that, you know, we're just going to get rid of all of our devices, we're going to get rid of every streaming service. And there's nothing wrong with that decision, you might feel convicted to do that.   But for most couples, I would say, they're like, okay, we live in this world, we need to understand even the world we live in. And so, it's not like we're going to completely be cut off. But are we being discerning about what we consume?   And what are the standards that we might hit where we might just say, “You know what, we don't need to be watching this.” You know, like I can think of one show in particularly that my husband and I were watching. And it was a well-written show. It was exciting. But there was just so much profanity and just gross kind of sexual content that after two or three episodes, we're both just like, “You know what, as good as the show is, we just, this isn't, we're not watching this. Like we need to stop.”   And I think you need to have those discussions and you might have a different level of conviction than your spouse does. And that's okay, but at least have those conversations and you need to follow your conviction.   But then the other thing I would say that is equally important, if not more important, what are you consuming that helps you get God's perspective of sexuality? And what I've found is that a whole lot of Christian married couples know very little about what it looks like to build a healthy sex life in their marriage. And they're not consuming anything that helps them know how to love each other better, how to overcome differences, even how their bodies work, how to focus on one another and enjoy sex in a holy erotic way.   And so, even if you're watching and consuming very little content from the world, but you're not actively pursuing anything that gives you a biblical perspective, you're still going to end up defaulting to what the world says. And so, I think that again, it's equally as important or not, if not more important to be pursuing what's true and what's right and what's good.   Laura Dugger: (9:31 – 9:53) I love that, how you flipped it. And that discernment piece is huge because we don't want to be desensitized to then that we're consuming and we also want to feed on the good. So, I think it even leads to a broader question, again, as Christ followers, how can we recognize if our conscience is being pricked?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (9:54 – 12:05) Yeah, we can start by asking the Lord. You know, I mean, I think it's in, is it Psalm 139, where, you know, David is basically saying, “Search me, oh God, and know my thoughts, you know, show me if there's any offensive way within me.”   I think that's a beautiful prayer as an individual and as a couple, like God, we want to honor you with what we consume in media, with what we think about, would you guide us and would you show us? And then I think we all have that experience of watching something or listening to something or reading something where we're like, “Uh, I don't know, like, this is sort of a gray area. Like, I'm uncomfortable here. I probably shouldn't be watching this.” Or “Wow, that's really, that's really in your face. Like that's really graphic.”   And it's heeding the Holy Spirit when you get those prompts, instead of just pushing through and being like, “Ah, it's not that big of a deal. It's not going to affect me.” Like when you feel that sense of prompting, you respond to it and you say, “All right, I'm going to put this down. I'm going to shut this off.”   And, um, you know, the scripture says that we can become callous to those promptings of the Holy Spirit if we are in a habit of just running right through that. But we become more sensitive to the Holy Spirit when we yield and when we obey.   Um, and so, I think even just keeping track, you know, every day or every week, like where were the times regarding this or anything else that I really felt convicted by the Holy Spirit about maybe something I said about a friend, uh, or about a little white lie I told, you know, where were the times where I really felt the Holy Spirit nudging me and what did I do? Um, where do I need to confess that I didn't respond well? And where do I need to celebrate that? Yes, I listened, I obeyed, I yielded. Um, and so, I think that's a practice we get into of either ignoring that conviction or really yielding to it.   Laura Dugger: (12:06 – 12:28) Hmm. And that gets after the heart issue, which Jesus is so concerned about our heart. And that's a very softened heart approach. Yes. I hope we can have. And as it relates to sexual integrity, then what are some other ways that we need to be on guard so that we're careful not to be misled?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (12:29 – 13:37) Yeah, boy, I think there's just so much conversation. Um, again, even in Christian circles, sometimes around having a negative attitude towards sex, um, kind of accepting some forms of pornography as normal and even good, you know, husband bashing, wife bashing, you know, like complaining, kind of letting the thought feed in your mind of maybe I should have married somebody else.   Maybe that my life would be easier if I, I weren't married to this person. I wish they were this or that. So, sort of that discontent that is natural to feel in marriage. But the question is, what do you do with it? Do you give it space to grow and to nurture, or do you bring that before the Lord?   Um, so, I think those are some of the ways that we want to look at, like, how am I giving the enemy space in my life and in my marriage versus how am I inviting God to really reclaim what's broken here?   Laura Dugger: (13:38 – 14:01) Well, and then even thinking of the other side to guard ourselves from having a critical and judgmental spirit toward others or just having self-righteous pride. Can you educate us on some common reasons why some people may be predisposed to struggle with some certain sexual sins?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (14:02 – 17:20) Yeah, absolutely. I think that's so important, um, because the research really shows that some of us are more, I don't know if I'd say it that way, but we are going to be more predetermined maybe to struggle with things like pornography or same-sex attraction, or even hooking up.   And it's never like a one plus one equals two exactly. But there are what we might say indicators or risk factors that make you more vulnerable to those kinds of sexual struggles. And some of them might be unhealthy family dynamics growing up, you know, none of us had a perfect family, but let's say you grew up in a family where one of your parents was like overtly critical towards you all the time.   Maybe you went through a divorce with your parents where, um, you know, at a certain age, you just, your family fell apart and you're kind of looking for that stability and love. People who have experienced sexual trauma in childhood or the teen years are going to be more pre-dispositioned to want to understand that or act that out.   People who might struggle with anxiety. And, you know, some of it is we got to understand that sex, because it elicits dopamine in our brain and oxytocin and endorphins, which are all really feel good kind of experiences and hormones and neurotransmitters. When we had a sexual experience at a young age, our brain can learn, “Oh, this is how I deal with stress. This is how I deal with depression. This is how I deal with loneliness.”   So, a lot of times when you talk to somebody who has an ongoing struggle with a sexual temptation or sin, it's because they've learned as a pattern from maybe the time they were 10 years old or 12 years old or 15 years old, that this is how I dealt with the stress in my family. This is how I dealt with when my father died. This is how I dealt with when I was sexually abused. Like this was the way that I found to self-regulate and to self-medicate and to find comfort.   And that can be masturbation. It can be pornography or again, you know, acting out sexually. And so, for people who have that kind of story, and this might be your spouse, or this might be against somebody that you're looking at and judging to just say, “You need to stop that behavior,” is often not going to be enough. They need to do the work of really looking at what am I using sex for? What are the wounds that I'm using sex to cover up?   And how do I actually get the healing I need and find healthier and safer ways for me to cope with negative emotions? And that's why groups are really important for people who have sexual struggles. Counseling is really important. And again, that long journey of healing and freedom, not just a one-time decision that I'm going to try to never do this again.   Laura Dugger: (17:21 – 20:19) Love that word freedom, even because that hope is available. And just pointing out how you said this is not deterministic. That's not what we're saying is if you experience something, you will act out sexually. But I agree with you that it is fascinating and helpful to hear the correlation of certain things that happen, especially in childhood, and how that plays out long-term.   And I am blanking on which guest it was on The Savvy Sauce, but somebody was enlightening me. I think it was for females that if they were sexually abused, typically before a certain age, then they were more likely to struggle in marriage with wanting to completely avoid sex. But then if it was after a certain age, that it was completely opposite where they maybe used sex to medicate, or they were very aggressive and even would act out, let's say in single years, that they would sleep around with a bunch of partners if they had been wounded.   And so, I just think it just, it helps us to not be judgmental of one another. We don't know the full story.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (20:20 – 21:09) Yes. Yeah. There's always more there than we usually realize at first. And, you know, this plays out a lot in marriage because there are a lot of women who are married to guys who are addicted to pornography. And that's a deeply painful dynamic. That's really hard.   But to understand that your husband didn't want to have this struggle, often doesn't know how to get out of it, you know, gives you compassion. It doesn't mean that you look the other way, you need to get help, and you need to insist on getting help. But it does give you empathy and compassion that there's something underlying this and feeding it. It's not just, “Oh, I think I'm going to, you know, look at porn and hurt my wife again,” that there's always a deeper dynamic at work.   Laura Dugger: (21:10 – 21:50) Absolutely. And even an example from your book, I'll just read a quote where you said, “I spoke with a man who runs a sexual addiction program. He told me he had never met someone with sexual addiction, who did not also have significant sexual or psychological trauma in their past.”   And I think it goes along with what we're saying. But if we also then flip it and look at more of the positive side, how can we rightly prioritize connection and intimacy in marriage as God intended?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (21:53 – 24:24) I think first of all, we need to be convinced that this is worth it. You know, when we look at everything there is to do in life, there's so many worthy demands on our time. You know, from I want my house to look nice, and we need to make friends and we need to be an outreach to our community. And our kids are taking a lot of time and they should, and they've got all their activities and our church needs our help. Like when do you have time to do all this? And then, oh yeah, prioritize your marriage.   And I think we have to become convinced that if we're not working on our marriage, and specifically if we're not working on the sexual connection in marriage, then all those other things have the potential to fall apart. That the way I've learned it over time is that sex is never going to be a neutral issue in your marriage. It's either going to be something that is bonding you together and causing you to work on the deeper levels of intimacy, even as you talk through sexual difficulties, or it's going to be something not immediately, but over time, that becomes a wedge between you.   It might start as a wedge of resentment of my needs aren't getting met, or I feel like you're objectifying me or you're putting pressure on me. Or it might be a deeper wedge of a pornography addiction or something that's not being addressed. Or I don't trust my husband because of my trauma. And those things don't just stay dormant. The wedge becomes bigger and bigger and bigger until you get to the place where now you're not comfortable being in the same room anymore and you feel like roommates. And then now one of you is attracted to somebody else and the story plays on.   And there are very wonderful godly men and women who have gotten married with every purpose to stay together. But a wedge like this has grown over time to the point where they're now thinking about divorce or one of them has cheated on the other. And so, we have to be convinced that honoring God in our lives means prioritizing our marriage, and it means working on this intimate aspect of our marriage so that we can be a stable foundation for our families and our churches and our communities.   Laura Dugger: (24:26 – 24:39) And so, if we're getting as practical as possible, what are the best practices that you've seen in married couples who are happily married? How have you experienced that?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (24:40 – 28:04) Yeah. I'll put it in kind of like a cliche sort of way because I think sometimes that's catchy. Number one, I would say they're couples who will resist the drift, who will repair the rift, and who will adjust to the shift.   So, I can kind of break that down a little bit. But you know, the first thing is resisting the drift of you can go weeks without meaningfully connecting with your spouse. And I don't just mean sexually, but I mean like eye to eye, you know, just loving touch, just connecting to their hearts. And so, couples who know how to resist that drift, like they have regular times built into their calendar where this is where we connect every day. Like even for 10 minutes, this is where we hold each other's hands, we look at each other in the eye, we really connect with what's in your heart, how are you? And they have regular rhythms of once a week or once every other week, we're going to go out and do something fun together, just the two of us. We've worked through what sex looks like in this season. Like how many times do we want to have sex? Are we scheduling that? How are we making sure that's a priority? And so, that's the resisting the drift.   And the second one is repairing the rift. And at every marriage, there are going to be things that tear you apart. And sometimes those things might be sexual in nature, like a temptation, an emotional affair, pornography use, sometimes it's going to be something else where you have a deep disagreement that you can't resolve on your own. And you need to be courageous enough to reach out for help and say, like, if we don't get help, if we don't address this issue, like it's going to become something that tears us apart. Any couple that you meet who is happily married for like 30 years or more, they can tell you a story of when they had a rift, and the kind of help that really address that.   And then I think the third thing is adjusting to the shift. And in even the normal stages of marriage, there are shifts that happen. Like, you know, I'm in the stage right now where me and the people my age are going through biological changes with menopause and with aging. And, you know, some people are going through becoming grandparents and retirement. And there's all these shifts that are happening even naturally. There's other couples that are younger who are going through the shift of pregnancy and battling infertility. And some people are going through cancer. And there are things that happen that require you to shift your expectations. And to not just wish that it is like it used to be. But this is the marriage we have now. Here are the circumstances we have now. Here are the bodies we have now. How do we learn to love each other and embrace this season, given the changes that we're experiencing?   And so, I think that's a framework that I've seen healthy couples navigate over time that really fosters intimacy.   Laura Dugger: (28:05 – 29:29) That is incredible. I love how you put that. And I've shared with you before that my background is in Christian sex therapy. So, sex is a topic that does come up a lot and people feel comfortable sharing or asking questions. So, just in regular conversation, I want to recap two conversations that kind of show stances on both ends of the spectrum. And I'd love to hear your wisdom on how to respond to each one.   So, first, there was a Christian married woman with children, and she was teaching younger women to say yes to every single sexual advance from their husband. And she said, “If your husband has the higher drive, and he wants to have sex twice a day, then consider yourself lucky. And don't ever say no, because your body is not your own.” Yeah, it's hard to recap. So, this is not my perspective. So, sharing both ends.   So, that was one person. And then on the other end, I've heard a woman tell me, “You know, I just didn't feel like having sex for about a year and a half after we had our baby. So, I just told my husband, you're going to have to wait.”   So, loaded question, but Dr. Juli, how would you respond to each of those?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (29:29 – 32:31) Well, Laura, I feel like you probably would have just as good of response as I would to those. Yeah, I like that you're presenting those as two extremes, because they are two extremes. And I think both extremes kind of miss the heart. We want to be able to say yes to sex and intimacy. And being able to say yes means also being able to say no.   In that first situation, essentially, what is going to end up happening is that that wife is going to start feeling like my husband wants me for sex. And I don't have the capacity to enjoy it twice a day. I'm starting to feel like an object or used. And the husband is never going to learn that covenant love requires self-denial. And at every level, you know, what did, what did Paul say to husbands in Ephesians 5, like love your wife as you love your own body and be willing to lay down your, your life for your wife. And that means being sensitive to the fact that she doesn't have the same sexual appetite as you do. She doesn't have the same biology you do, that it actually can be physically painful, emotionally traumatic for a wife to have sex when she's not physically ready. Really, that couple is not working on intimacy. They're, they're kind of reinforcing a pattern that sex is about the husband getting his needs and desires met only through the wife without considering her. And that might work for short term, but that's not building intimacy in the long term. And it's not teaching either of them. And that wife needs to learn her own sexual desires and patterns and be able to communicate those to her husband. So, that's what I would say in that first one.   And the second one, essentially, you have a wife kind of having that more selfish perspective of, I only have sex when I want it and on my terms, instead of considering the husband. And, you know, how do I focus on him? How do I work on experiencing sexual desire? How do I foster that? Because it's important for my husband, it's important for our marriage. And I don't want to be selfish.   And so, I think both of those situations are kind of approaching sex where one person gets to be selfish, and the other person has to sacrifice. That's ministry, that's not intimacy. And so, we really want to be at a place where both of us, the higher desire one and the lower desire one, are learning what does it look like to really love well, to love sacrificially and to communicate the ways that I feel loved. I don't know, what would you add to that or change?   Laura Dugger: (32:31 – 33:11) That's why I asked you, you said that beautifully, better than I could have responded. And again, you're getting back to the heart of it and pointing us back to Jesus with each answer. And, you know, commonly people do struggle with having a safe place where they can ask candid questions about sex.   So, I am going to throw some more at you. And some of these are ones that you wrote about. But just to give us a little taste, even of the book, or if somebody has a burning question like this, I'd love your healthy response.   So, how do you respond when people ask, “How far is too far to go in a dating relationship?”   Dr. Juli Slattery: (33:14 – 36:32) Yeah, I think people are looking for a line, you know, like, as long as I don't cross this line, are we good? And of course, I think their traditional line would be as long as you're not having intercourse. But I think that misses the larger context of the purpose of sex. I've had to be convicted of this in my own life. And we talked very early in our conversation about how we've just sort of ingested messages from the culture. And the culture says that healthy sexuality is an expression of how I feel, right? So, so if I feel safe with you, if I feel romantically connected to you, if I feel sexually attracted to you, then it would be healthy for me to engage sexually with you. And then Christians would come and say, yes, but as long as you don't cross this line. So, that's sort of the narrative that I think a lot of us have heard in the church.   But if we look at, from a biblical perspective, God did not design sex to be an expression of how I feel. Okay, let that sink in for a minute. God did not design sex to be an expression of how I feel. He designed it to be a seal and a celebration of covenant, of the choice that a man and a woman make to covenant their lives to one another. And for them to say, just like I give you my whole life, I promise faithfulness to you. I promise that we are becoming one as a family. We have now a physical way to symbolize that in becoming one with our bodies. And so, even if I feel romantically attached to somebody I'm not married to, I don't act on that. Or even if I don't feel romantically attached to my husband, we work on our sex life because we're in covenant.   And so, when you begin to understand sex from that standpoint, you answer that question differently of how far can I go? Why are you sharing your body with another person when you haven't shared your life with them? And, you know, I think that the standard is not legalistic, but the heart of the question is a lot, that's a harder question. You know, like it says, and I think 2 Thessalonians or 1 Thessalonians, you know, Paul says, the will of God is that you do not engage in sexual immorality. Don't take advantage of a brother or sister.   And how many times in dating relationships do you look back and you're like, “Wow, I gave too much of myself to that person or I took too much of myself from that person. Like we engaged in things that now we're broken apart. Like I wish I could take back.” And so, what does it look like to honor each other? What does it look like to honor the Lord? So, I think those kinds of questions help you get to the heart of how do we steward dating relationships a lot better than looking for a line we're not supposed to cross.   Laura Dugger: (36:33 – 37:31) When was the first time you listened to an episode of The Savvy Sauce? How did you hear about our podcast? Did a friend share it with you? Will you be willing to be that friend now and text five other friends or post on your socials anything about The Savvy Sauce that you love? If you share your favorite episodes, that is how we continue to expand our reach and get the good news of Jesus Christ in more ears across the world.   So, we need your help.   Another way to help us grow is to leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts. Each of these suggestions will cost you less than a minute, but it will be a great benefit to us. Thank you so much for being willing to be generous with your time and share. We appreciate you.   As Christ followers, should we use a friend's preferred names and pronouns? So, how would you respond to that?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (37:32 – 39:20) Boy, this is a hot topic. There are people who have really strong opinions on this. You're saying, do I use a friend's preferred names and pronouns?   And I think the fact that you have a friendship means that you can have a deeper conversation about the meaning of the names and pronouns. And I think that deeper conversation needs to happen. Because, you know, ultimately we don't like, we don't want to just say, “Oh yeah, whatever you want to call yourself is fine with me. Truth doesn't matter.” But on the other hand, we really want to get to the spiritual issue underneath this. And there's a, there's a big difference between somebody who doesn't know the Lord, doesn't know where you stand on any of this, and somebody that you can engage in a conversation with and seek wisdom on.   I think there, there's probably more latitude to use somebody's preferred name than pronouns. And I think in friendships, sometimes you can work that through and just say, you know, “Hey, I love you. I understand where you're coming from. I'm going to try my best to use the name that you're asking. But the pronoun is something that I'm not comfortable with. And here's why. And just like I'm, I want to understand where you are. I hope that you would have grace and understand where I am.” So, in a friendship, you're able to have those kinds of conversations. Whereas if it's a coworker or it's a stranger or a neighbor, sometimes we can't have that level of conversation. And so, I, we might choose to handle the situation a little differently.   Laura Dugger: (39:21 – 39:36) That's good. A hundred percent truth, a hundred percent love or kindness. And what if somebody asks, how much attention should we be giving these secondary issues as believers?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (39:39 – 41:03) Boy, I, I think first of all, the secondary issues come out of the primary issues. So, the primary issue, and you know, the issue I wrote Surrendered Sexuality is about is if my life belongs to the Lord, then my whole life needs to belong to Him, including how I think about cultural issues, including how I treat my neighbor.   And so, I don't see them as secondary issues. I see them as an outgrowth of the primary issue. I think when they become secondary issues are when we argue with other believers about it and it becomes the most important thing. Like I put you in a category based on, will you use preferred names and pronouns? And then I think we're missing what God calls us to.   The primary issue is that we want to honor God and we want to love each other. And so, let's keep going back to that primary issue. How do I love my neighbor well? How do I honor God's truth well? How do I pursue unity within the body of Christ well, as we're navigating some of these secondary issues? So, you know, like if we're going back to the primary issue, it means that we have to talk about the secondary issues, but we talk about them in light of what's primary.   Laura Dugger: (41:04 – 41:17) I like that. And I just have three more of these kind of tricky questions. So, another one, does pornography addiction qualify as reasons for a biblical divorce?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (41:20 – 42:50) I would say, first of all, technically, if we look at the word for sexual immorality in the scripture, which is porneia, we would say, yeah, you know, pornography does qualify for that.   But for the person who's asking this, maybe the woman who's asking this, I would say, why do you want to get out of the marriage? And what Jesus said is Moses permitted divorce because of the hardness of your heart. And I think a more important question is where's your heart and where's your husband's heart? Because I've seen people with pornography addictions who have really open hearts towards healing, and they're willing to get the help that they need. They're repentant. They're willing to do the work. They're willing to go through even a time of separation to show that they're serious about that work.   And then there are people who have very hard hearts of, “This is who I am. I might go through the motions, but I'm really not interested in change.” And so, I think the pornography addiction is less the issue than the posture of the person's heart and their willingness to work. And if your spouse is willing to work, then I think it's on us to have soft hearts too, and to be open to the work that God can do.   Laura Dugger: (42:51 – 43:34) That's good because saying you have to zoom out and see more of the story in that stance, because that's very different. Somebody who's working on it and hates the struggle and is wanting to break free versus being married to a narcissist who is abusing you and treating you in a certain way and addicted to pornography. So, you point out well that all of these questions have more to them.   Okay. So, two more, if a spouse has had an emotional affair in the past with a coworker, but they still work with this person, what is the wise thing to do and how should they handle it if their spouse is uncomfortable with them still working there?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (43:36 – 44:33) Yeah, boy, that's something that I would want to seek counseling on. You and your spouse really need to get with a counselor and talk that through. The generic advice in that situation would be to get a different job, to not have that relationship still a temptation or available.   But there are sometimes very extenuating circumstances where that's not a possibility, or at least for now, that's not a possibility. And so, I would really encourage you to meet with a third party to sort through the details of your particular situation. Because it could be that your spouse isn't willing to take that hard step of cutting off that relationship, or it could be that they're willing, but again, there's extenuating circumstances. And I would really want a wise person who is engaging with you to help you navigate that.   Laura Dugger: (44:34 – 44:44) But I love that, how you highlight that something to look for though, is that you would hope your spouse would be willing to make that right, especially if they were the offending.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (44:46 – 44:46) Okay.   Laura Dugger: (44:47 – 45:00) And then also, Juli, because scripture does talk about turning the other cheek, does that mean it's the same as saying God expects you to stay in an abusive marriage?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (45:02 – 47:41) Absolutely not. If you were in an abusive marriage, you are not doing your spouse any good. You are allowing your spouse to be in a place where they're destroying their own life and they're destroying the people that they love.   Now you say, okay, where biblically do we see this? We see that Jesus, he says in John, he says, “I laid down my life for my sheep. I lay it down willingly. No one has the authority to take it from me. I have the authority to lay it down and I have the authority to take it up again.” And we see Him living that out with religious leaders who were after Him all the time, who wanted to stone Him, who were accusing Him of things. It says over and over again that Jesus escaped from them. He just got out of there until it was time that the Father said, now is the time for you to give yourself for the world.   So, we take that principle and we say, Jesus was not abused. Jesus did not let Himself be abused. He gave Himself as a lamb to the slaughter as a sacrifice for the Father and for the world. But that's very different. Up until that time, we see Him have great boundaries. We see Him not get, it even says He didn't entrust Himself to man because He knew what was in their hearts. I mean, He had boundaries with people that could have hurt Him.   And I also love when we see this in the story of King David and Saul, when Saul is chasing David, Saul is abusive, right? He wants to kill David. And so, David escapes. And there's a situation where David has the power or the opportunity to kill Saul and he doesn't do it. And then Saul just is struck by his conscience, and he comes back to David. He goes, “You're a better man than I am. I'm so sorry. You know, come back with me and I'll treat you well.” And even though David doesn't take revenge, he doesn't go back with Saul. He's still, he's like, “You go your way. I'll go my way. I'm going to let the Lord judge between us.”   And I think that's a great model. If you're in any kind of abusive relationship, you don't take revenge, but you also don't stay in that situation. You go your way, let them go their way, and you let God judge between you. And I think we see that over and over again in scripture.   Laura Dugger: (47:42 – 48:19) I think that is so well said. And it reminds me of a somewhat recent conversation in 2025 with Stacey Womack who's saying with domestic violence, really the way God would see it is child abuse. And that kind of helps our paradigm because we are His child.   And she elaborates on that. So, I said that that was the last one, but I actually thought of one more as it relates to our children.   So, is it reasonable to assume that once a child has a smartphone, 100% of them will be exposed to pornography?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (48:21 – 49:15) Yeah, it is. And I would say not just once they have a smartphone, because I know with one of my kids, we delayed the smartphone decision, but he had a learning disability that required him to have an iPad for school. And somehow, even though we locked down all the apps, somehow he's able to access it through that. Or it can be a gaming system, or it can be a friend's phone. And so, having a smartphone or device like that certainly makes it more probable.   But you know, like our kids are surrounded by screens and technology, not just what's in our home, but in other people's homes and at school. And so, I think it's safe to assume, unfortunately, that yes, 100% of our kids are going to be exposed to pornography, probably by the time they're 13 or 14.   Laura Dugger: (49:16 – 49:31) And sadly, some much younger than that. But even if there's parental controls, or filters put on, it is just something on my heart that we have to be so vigilant against.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (49:32 – 50:12) Yeah, no, I felt like when, you know, I have three boys, and when they were all three kind of in those teen years, I felt like I was trying to plug holes in a boat, and there'd be new ones popping up all the time. Whether it's like apps, or you know, things that you think are completely safe. Somehow, pornography can get through.   And our kids are smart, like they know the workarounds to the parental things. And that's why we just need to have conversation after conversation, just discipling them, not just protecting them from pornography, but discipling them through what they're inevitably going to be exposed to.   Laura Dugger: (50:13 – 51:05) That's a great point that not just being reactive, but proactive. I think why I have such a heart for this is because practicing and doing therapy and having so many people come in those wounds, that if that addiction gets a stronghold, and that pornography use, it just can wreak havoc in people long term. And so, if we can do that hard work of discipling early on, it is such a blessing to our children, to the generation.   So, I'm just so grateful for your candid responses. And I think it's also a helpful reminder just to never take on a burden that was never meant for us to carry. So, are there any ways that God has taught you to not try and do His business?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (51:07 – 52:16) Yeah. Boy, that's such a great question. I've had to come to the conclusion that I can't convince anyone of right and wrong. You know, like, I can't convince anyone that pornography is wrong, or gay marriage is wrong, or you know, like, that's not my job. My job is to walk with the Lord with integrity and faithfulness and to testify as to who He is.   And so much of this work, whether we're talking about marriage or our friends or our children, so much of this work has to be the Lord's work. And you reach a stage with your kids when they hit those teen years, where you realize the things my kids most need, I can't give them. I can't give them a relationship with God. I can't give them the desire to follow and seek the Lord. Like, I can model that for them. I can encourage them. But that is between them and the Lord. And if I try to control that, I'm just getting in the way of the work that God wants to do in their lives.   Laura Dugger: (52:18 – 52:33) Goodness, I will need to write that down and reflect on that. That is so good, Juli. And there's still so much more that you could share with us.   So, where is your preferred place that we can go online and continue learning from you?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (52:34 – 52:48) Yeah, I would say two places. Number one, our website is authenticintimacy.com. And the second one is the podcast that I do called Java with Juli. It goes along with The Savvy Sauce, you know, like they kind of go together.   Laura Dugger: (52:49 – 53:11) Yes, absolutely. We will certainly link to all of that in the show notes for today's episode.   And you're familiar, I've asked you many times before, because we are called savvy, because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge or discernment. So, as my final question for you today, Dr. Juli, what is your savvy sauce?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (53:13 – 53:58) Oh, I don't even remember how I answered this the last few times. I think I may have said this before, but I think reading the dead old guys is one of my savvy sauce, like reading people who didn't live in this generation who loved the Lord.   And learning from them is just, that's probably taught me more discernment than anything, because they just cut right through the cultural noise that I think sometimes can blind us. And they really help me see my heart for what it is and help me really want to pursue God at a deeper level.   Laura Dugger: (53:59 – 54:03) Wow. Any specific recommendations that have been personal favorites there?   Dr. Juli Slattery: (54:04 – 54:22) Yeah, I love A.W. Tozer. I love many of Andrew Murray's books, particularly Humility and Absolute Surrender. And C.S. Lewis is another great one, Mere Christianity. So, those are some that I would recommend you start with.   Laura Dugger: (54:23 – 54:44) That is wonderful. Thank you for sharing that.   And Juli, it's just always such a delight to get to share an hour of conversation with you. And you are just this beautiful mixture of bold and gentle and humble, all combined into one. So, thank you for being my returning guest today.   Dr. Juli Slattery: (54:44 – 54:49) Oh, thank you. And it's such a pleasure to be with you. Thanks for your great questions.   Laura Dugger: (54:51 – 58:33) One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

In the beginning, humans were in friendship with God and in harmony with creation. The Catechism unfolds this harmony and introduces us to the “original justice” that our first parents lost in sin. Fr. Mike reminds us that, although our original callings to leisure, love, and labor have been twisted by sin, they are renewed in Christ. Today's readings are Catechism paragraphs 374-384. This episode has been found to be in conformity with the Catechism by the Institute on the Catechism, under the Subcommittee on the Catechism, USCCB. For the complete reading plan, visit ascensionpress.com/ciy Please note: The Catechism of the Catholic Church contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children - parental discretion is advised.

This is a Real Ghost Stories CLASSIC EPISODE!Can watching a horror film actually stir something inside your own home?In this episode, a family settles in to watch The Conjuring — and before the credits finish rolling, a violent crash erupts from the garage. What they find shattered across the floor isn't just broken glass. It's an unfamiliar plate no one in the house recognizes, destroyed in a way that suggests force — not an accident. And the activity doesn't stop there.Then, another listener shares experiences inside a brand-new home where unexplained apparitions, cultural beliefs about house spirits, and a terrifying episode of sleep paralysis blur the line between imagination and intrusion.Is it mindset? Atmosphere? Coincidence? Or can certain moments create the perfect conditions for something to make itself known?Love real ghost stories? Want even more?Become a supporter and unlock exclusive extras, ad-free episodes, and advanced access:

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“As we progress in this way of life…” St. Benedict promises that perseverance opens into the inexpressible delight of love. This episode explores steady faithfulness and quiet joy. The post BW5 – The Delight of Love – The Rule of St. Benedict for Daily Life with Kris McGregor – Discerning Hearts Podcasts appeared first on Discerning Hearts Catholic Podcasts.

A First Sunday of Lent reflection on Jesus tempted in the desert, inviting conversion of heart through prayer, fasting, repentance, and renewed trust in God. The post The First Sunday of Lent: Temptation, Conversion, and New Life in Christ – Building a Kingdom of Love w/ Msgr. John Esseff Podcast appeared first on Discerning Hearts Catholic Podcasts.

Being afraid of something doesn't sound preferable, but throughout the Bible we see benefits from fearing the Lord. Find out what that can look like for us today and what we'll experience when we do!Receive The fear of the Lord is the starting place for wisdom and it leads to a never-ending friendship with a loving God. Scripture reveals that fearing the Lord is intended to comfort us not to scare us. Because the more we understand God's character, the more we are compelled to revere Him. God's Word guides us to express our fear of the Lord through right living, rejecting evil, and clinging to what is good.  Reflect Read the verses connected with this episode below. As you reflect on the Scripture, what stands out to you? Matthew 1:20 Matthew 2:22 Matthew 9:1-8 Acts 13:16, 26, 43 1 Peter 1:1 1 Peter 5:12-13 Revelation 19:4-10 John 4:13-18 Matthew 10:26-31 helps the disciples understand how much God cares for them—and how much He's in control, even during tribulations. How does this encourage you to know that God is on your side?  Acts 10:1-2, 34-35 shows that those who fear God leave an openness to be surprised with how He works. How does this encourage you to look for God's mighty presence and expansive invitation in your life?  1 Peter 2:11-17 summarizes a picture of what it looks like to fear God (live in freedom, respect everyone, love the family of believers, honor authority). How does keeping God first in these kinds of ways help you live in the world better? Revelation 14:6-8 shows that the fear of the Lord is linked to God's judgment which can lead to worship and praise. How does this fear of the Lord draw you closer into relationship with Him? Respond (Use this prayer to start a conversation with God) “Jesus, help me demonstrate my reverence for God by living in His freedom, respecting others, loving fellow believers, and honoring the authorities He has placed in my life. Help me see how putting God first in these kinds of ways leads me to live well.”  Discover more about the topics in this episode with these recommended resources Mentioned in this episode: Explore the DTW archives  Listen: Proverbial Wisdom  A Life of Wisdom and the Proverbs 31 Woman  Read: Reverent Fear  Understanding the Bible: The Wisdom Books  Watch: Mount Arbel - Sermon on the Mount and the Great Commission 

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Is your marriage struggling? In Part 2 of this series Overcoming A Bad Marriage, Dave and Bethlie share biblical steps for overcoming a bad marriage and restoring what God intended for your relationship.   Learn to love again Define it Love and feelings are not the same thing Love is about pleasing God Love is being willing to give another whatever it is that they need because you know it is what God commands you to do. Biblicize it Ephesians 5:25 Husbands love your wives as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her Older women teach the younger women to love their husbands Love your neighbor  Your spouse is your closest neighbor so you have to love them Matthew 5:44. Love your enemy The lowest level of love Determine to please God Get very close to Him James 4:8 The closer you are to God the healthier you will be The closer you are to God the stronger you will be Honor God in the decisions you make and your marriage will be amazing Take steps to love Learn to give.  John 3:16 Gal 2:20 Proverbs 25:21 Learn to forgive Forgiveness promises not to use another's wrongdoings against them in the future Forgiveness promises not to talk to other people about another's wrongdoings Forgiveness promises not to dwell on the other's wrongdoings Learn to meet each other's needs

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Sycorax leads the party back to the ruins of the old world to plunder Orlando's original hoard.   Doc Hop catches up with her resurrected mother. Rex Maximus acquires a war rig. Ulysses stumbles upon a letter of momentous import.   STARRING - Austin Yorski: https://bsky.app/profile/austinyorski.bsky.social Laura Kate Dale: https://bsky.app/profile/laurakbuzz.bsky.social Quinn Larios: https://bsky.app/profile/rollot.bsky.social   SUPPORT - Patreon.com/AustinYorski Patreon.com/LauraKBuzz Patreon.com/WeeklyMangaRecap   AUDIO - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHrF-ZfdwIk Kirby Super Star OC ReMix by TSori & Others: "Until the Next Dance" [Meta Knight: Ending]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeEvMkYAU1o Katherine Cordova - YouTube Dragon Warrior VII OC ReMix by Bluelighter...: "Deeper in the Heart" [Days of Sadness] (#3762) EarthBound OC ReMix by The Vodoú Queen: "Get Down with Your Bad Self, Mr. Saturn!" [Hi Ho] (#4798) Hollow Knight OC ReMix by DaMonz feat. Christine Giguère: "A Dream" [Dirtmouth] (#4884) Mother 3 OC ReMix by Sebastien Skaf: "Your Warmth" [Theme of Love] (#4850) OC ReMix #499: Little Nemo 'Nemo for Strings' [Dream 1: Mushroom Forest] by Gux Zelda: Breath of the Wild OC ReMix by RebeccaETripp...: "Bard in the Rain" [Kass] (#4813)   COMMUNITY - Discord: https://discord.gg/YMU3qUH Wiki: https://dicefunk.ludo.au/

Welcome to "The Snowy Sanctuary Collection," an 8-hour journey designed to wrap you in a blanket of winter calm. Nine winter stories will guide you through the entire night. The winter soundscape of crackling fires, howling winds, and falling snow accompanies journeys from mountainside cabin and a bothy in the Scottish Highlands to a magical ice castle and the land of winter fairies. Experience the love of a snowbound pup, a magical snowy night in the city, and the first frost at an old depot cafe.  Whether you stay with the narratives or fall into a deep, healing sleep, these serene landscapes provide a safe space for rest and restoration until morning. Snuggle up and hibernate with this cozy mental holiday. It's time to dream away.The collection concludes with a 90-minute original healing soundscape, composed specifically to sustain your deep sleep after the final story ends.Stories Included: Blizzard at the CabinSnowy Seaside CottageSnowy Night in the HighlandsThe Winter FairiesCozy Night at Brimstone HavenMagical Snowy CityFirst Frost at the Old Depot CafeThe Ice CastleFor the Love of a Pup Original Script, Narration, Sleep Music, and Production by Michelle Hotaling, Dreamaway Visions LLC 2026 All Rights ReservedYOUTUBE: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/michellessanctuary/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM: ⁠https://instagram.com/michellessanctuary/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOK:⁠https://www.facebook.com/michellessanctuary/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TIKTOK: ⁠http://www.tiktok.com/@michellessanctuary/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TWITTER: ⁠http://twitter.com/michsanctuary/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email Michelle: ⁠michellessanctuary@gmail.com⁠If you would like to support this channel:⁠https://www.buymeacoffee.com/michsanctuary⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.paypal.me/michellessanctuary⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.venmo.com/michellehotaling⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check out my new podcast, Meditation Tides, for guided meditations and let the tides of your breath bring the tranquility you deserve. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/meditationtides/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michelle's Sanctuary is a place where you may enjoy high quality relaxing stories for sleep and guided sleep meditations completely FREE with a focus on mental vacations, sleep hypnosis, manifestations, and using your imagination to enjoy relaxing adventures before bedtime. Grown-ups deserve bedtime stories too! I always welcome comments, feedback & suggestions.

Whether you are a seasoned real estate pro or a newcomer looking for a high-yield entry point, nonperforming notes (NPNs) offer a unique "backdoor" to property ownership. In a recent episode of the Note Closers Show, Hold or Sell Edition, note expert Scott Carson broke down a prime opportunity in New Bern, North Carolina, involving a single-family home with massive upside. With a foreclosure date already set, this deal is a masterclass in how savvy investors can leverage distressed debt to see returns that far outpace traditional fix-and-flips.Key Takeaways from the New Bern Note OpportunityThe Asset Details & Location: The property is a 925-square-foot, three-bedroom, one-bath single-family home located at 571 Rocky Run Road in New Bern, NC. Situated on nearly 0.7 acres, the home is in a solid market near Raleigh and Greenville with a population of over 31,000. While the previous owner is deceased, the property has been well-maintained and recently cleaned out, sitting just off Highway 17.The Financial Breakdown: The note has an unpaid balance of $51,000 and a total legal payoff of approximately $60,000. The seller is looking for bids around 80% of that legal balance—roughly $48,000—plus a $1,000 broker fee. Recent BPO (Broker Price Opinion) values the home at $189,000, with a quick-sale price of $179,000, providing a massive equity cushion for the note holder.Strategy 1: The Foreclosure Exit: For investors seeking a quicker turnaround, finishing the existing foreclosure process is the primary play. North Carolina is a nonjudicial state but features a unique "upset bid" period that can last from 30 days to several months. If the property sells at auction for the full legal balance of $60,000, an investor at the $49,000 entry point could net an $11,000 profit, representing an annualized ROI of 44.8%.Strategy 2: The "As-Is" Resale: If the property does not sell at auction and the investor takes it back (REO), they can choose to sell it as-is. By listing the property at a conservative $149,000 to ensure a fast sale—allowing the next buyer to handle the upgrades—the investor could net approximately $134,000 after closing costs. After the initial investment and a small cleanup budget, this path offers a projected gross profit of $83,000.Strategy 3: The Fix-and-Flip Model: For those willing to manage a renovation, a $30,000 rehab could bring the property to modern standards. Even when listing at a discounted "moved-in" price of $169,000, the projected net profit stands at roughly $73,000. This strategy yields a 92% annualized ROI, though it requires more active management and local vendor oversight.The New Bern deal highlights why note investing is often called "the cleanest way to play dirty real estate." Whether you prefer the hands-off approach of a foreclosure payoff or the higher-margin potential of a full renovation, the numbers in North Carolina are incredibly compelling. As Scott Carson notes, the key is taking action before the foreclosure clock runs out.Watch the Original VIDEO HERE!Book a Call With Scott HERE!Sign up for the next FREE One-Day Note Class HERE!Sign up for the WCN Membership HERE!Sign up for the next Note Buying For Dummies Workshop HERE!Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here's How »Join the Note Closers Show community today:WeCloseNotes.comThe Note Closers Show FacebookThe Note Closers Show TwitterScott Carson LinkedInThe Note Closers Show YouTubeThe Note Closers Show VimeoThe Note Closers Show InstagramWe Close Notes Pinterest