Honest Talk about Choice

M talks about finding her bio-family in Columbia. All of the time she was growing up middle-class in California, her family has been living in poverty in Columbia. She's had a much different life than they can even imagine.

Can you imagine looking for your birthparents for years and then getting a response and a picture 2 minutes after sending a facebook message?     

Blood ties are deep. We talk about Zach's younger brother asking about him before he knew he existed and what the reunion with his bio-grandparents was like.  We discuss how people react when Zach says he has two moms and two families. 

Karen talks about Zach knocking on her door, his adoptive parents and telling people their story. It's oddly intimate to tell an adoption reunion story. It seems to tap into people's experiences with their family of origin and can inspire people to open up or shut down. 

Part two of our talk with M. We talk about maternity leave for adoptive parents, how pervasive adoption is in our everyday lives, and inter-cultural and inter-racial concerns when adopting a baby that doesn't look like their new parents.  Our music is "Love is Love, You is Love" by Monplaisir. You can find us on Twitter or Facebook. Become a patron on Patreon!

When you are pregnant and you NEED to know about what genetic issues but were part of a completely closed adoption, how do you track down your birthparents? H talks about her amazing reunion story, with several unexpected twists and characters along her journey.

B meets with us a few days after the 2 year anniversary of her abortion. She speaks very candidly about her emotion, spirituality and conflicting emotions about the decision. 

M talks about her experience of knowing that he son was supposed to be in her life and feeling committed to him once she saw his photo. She talks about the frustration and pain of adopting from Guatemala, where the local notario held her case up for so long, that they thought the adoption wasn't going to happen at all. 

In our flagship episode, Carol and Karen interview Karen's birthson Zach. Why did he decide to knock on her door? How did he find that she was living just over the hill? How did his adoptive mom feel about the reunion?  Intro music: "love is love, you is love" by Monplaisir