It's Not Your Fault

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Having both dated narcissistic men, Chelsea Raque and Emily Iverson dive deeper into the personality disorder through their own personal experiences, rabbit hole research, and advice from therapists.

It's Not Your Fault


    • May 10, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 16m AVG DURATION
    • 17 EPISODES


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    17: Gird your Loins

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2021 27:44


    In part three of inside the mind of a Narcissist, Chelsea & Emily begin to discuss how to cope with the Narcissist in your life. 

    16: Susie Sucks...sorry to anybody named Susie

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2021 13:50


    This is their reality. This is their normal. This is how it should be. This is their world and we're just living in it, succumbing to their wants and needs 100% of the time. This is Part Two of inside the mind of a Narcissist. 

    15: Punch Me in the Face and Tell Me I Suck

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2021 17:44


    Ever wonder what a Narcissist is literally thinking? Do they actually mean what they're saying or are they just saying it? How they treat you... are they sincere in their feelings, their actions, and their reluctant apology? On this episode, Chelsea & Emily go inside the mind of a Narcissist. 

    14: Drop Kick Him Off the Deck

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2021 20:51


    In part three of Coming to Terms, Chelsea tells us the one boundary she had with Jack (it's a big one) and Emily shares the secret ingredient of what makes you a psycho bitch. Terms discussed: Boundaries, Narcissistic Supply in the form of Sleep Deprivation, Smear Campaign, & Grooming.

    13: You're a Zoologist Living in a Garbage Truck in New Zealand

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2021 16:17


    Part Two of Coming to Terms: Emily & Chelsea cover the three stages of a Narcissistic relationship, and ––arguably–– the most effective tactic in keeping you in the relationship, Future Faking.

    12: Coming to Terms PT 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2021 15:02


    Let's talk terms. We took a reddit thread on all things NPD and are matching it to our stories and other information we've come across. In this episode we cover: Cognitive Dissonance, Hoovering, & Love Bombing.

    11: Eat your Zinc!

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2021 18:48


    In the second part of talking sabotage, Chelsea shares how Jack fed off her in the relationship (more Narcissistic Supply) and Emily has some sound life advice for everyone.

    10: Praise be to Baby Jesus

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2021 14:22


    We're talking sabotage. How did your Narcissist sabotage you in the relationship? Was it a slow or quick burn? The worst part? You only know the sabotage exists when you get out of the kitchen (pun kind of intended).

    9: Double is A Lot Less than Single

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2021 20:48


    Emily nails down why Chelsea wrote letters to Jack which poses the question: was it enough? Will anything you do or anything you say ever be enough?... Will YOU ever be enough?

    8: Half of that is Scrap Metal

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2021 26:28


    The end of the ABC's of TLC for our NPD boys. Emily shares her experience and Chelsea leaves us on a cliffhanger.

    7: Grace & Frugal

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2021 24:36


    How did your Narcissist liked to be cared for? Hint: it has nothing to do with love languages.

    6: Their Cover Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2021 17:49


    They have their shit together. They are the life of the party. Their charisma and charm have you in a tail spin. We are talking grandiosity: exaggeration, big gestures, altruism; everything they do, they do in a big way, and everyone loves them for it.

    5: Gaslighting Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2021 8:37


    Two more signs your partner may be gaslighting you are if (1) you have a sense that something is wrong but aren't able to identify what it is and (2) you make excuses for your partner's behavior. 

    4: Gaslighting Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2021 15:44


    Gaslighting does not boil down to any one fight. It is the accumulation of all fights that sum up to your partner making you feel crazy. Chelsea and Emily begin this roller coaster with some of the signs to watch out for: (1) you no longer feel like the person you used to be, (2) you feel more anxious and less confident, (3) you often wonder if you're being too sensitive, (4) you feel like everything you do is wrong (i.e. your fault), and (5) you're apologizing often.

    3: Day One

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2021 9:55


    How you know you're not with the right person: Day One.

    2: How Chelsea Met Jack

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2021 9:02


    He's the perfect man... or is he? This is the story of how Chelsea met Jack.

    1: What is a Narcissist?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2021 8:55


    "Narcissist" is often used loosely when describing someone's "bad" character traits. We're giving you the cold hard truth of the word and how, at the of the day, It's Not Your Fault.

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