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Are you constantly being pulled back into a toxic relationship with a narcissist?
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available.Book a One on One coaching session HEREJoin FREE Masterclass to learn the methods to break free from Toxic RelationshipHEREUnchained -https://www.rawmotivations.com/unchainedWant to help support this podcast?https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/supportListen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist.That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too.From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic RelationshipGrab yoursHERE.Platforms I am on:TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivationsInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivationsFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/Linkedin -https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/YouTube -https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1
Były partner lub partnerka za wszelką cenę próbują odzyskać osobę, którą stracili, stosując do tego wiele manipulacyjnych technik? O hooveringu, taktyce mającej na celu ponowne wciągnięcie kogoś w niesłużącą mu relację, z której już się uwolnił, opowiada psychoterapeutka Katarzyna Wzorek. Autorka: Anna Korytowska Artykuł przeczytasz pod adresem: https://www.vogue.pl/a/hoovering-jak-poznac-czy-byly-partner-probuje-mnie-odzyskac-z-milosci-czy-mna-manipuluje
No guest this week, but plenty of meat as we take our previous episode with Spotify chronicler Liz Pelly as a jumping off point to talk about the idea of independence.We use the word ‘independence' a lot on No Tags without really investigating what we mean by it. In a era when the major labels are all stake-holders in the biggest streaming platform on Earth, and are hoovering up indie labels and distributors like never before, how feasible is it to operate as a truly independent artist – whatever that means? And how can the term ‘independent' apply to indie labels with multiple offices and millions in the bank as well as one-person DIY operations?To explain, we think about the important history of independent distribution, catch up with the latest music biz headlines affecting independent artists, and ask ourselves… have the major labels simply won at this point?It's a little lighter elsewhere, as we talk ghosts (4:15) and debrief Anora's Oscar sweep (49:52), followed by some thoughts on The Brutalist, Nosferatu and 1971's The Working Class Goes to Heaven.If you're enjoying No Tags, please do rate, review and subscribe on your podcast app of choice. We'd also ask you to consider subscribing to our paid tier, which costs £5 a month and helps us continue bringing you these regular podcasts (plus it gives you a discount on our book.) Get full access to No Tags at notagspodcast.substack.com/subscribe
Join us for a powerful exploration of grief and healing from toxic relationships, featuring Jessica, a licensed clinical social worker with a wealth of experience in psychotherapy and hospice care. Together, we shed light on the complexities of grieving a toxic relationship, especially in the context of divorce. Grief is not solely tied to the death of a loved one; it encompasses any significant loss, including the end of a romantic relationship. Jessica offers valuable insights into trauma bonding, likening it to an addiction, and discusses the concept of "Hoovering," where an abusive partner attempts to draw someone back into the toxic cycle. Listen as we validate the guilt many feel for missing an abusive partner and emphasize the importance of understanding these complicated emotions.Our discussion continues with a focus on healing and self-discovery after leaving a toxic relationship. We share how journaling and therapy can be transformative tools in recognizing the truth of one's experiences and rebuilding one's life. Creating a new normal and engaging in self-care activities are crucial steps toward regaining a sense of self. We also highlight the impact of intergenerational trauma and the need to address personal contributions to unhealthy dynamics. Trust issues and the fear of new relationships are lasting effects of trauma, and we underscore the importance of not letting past experiences hinder future opportunities for intimacy and happiness.Lastly, we examine the emotional aftermath of leaving a narcissistic partner, where grief extends beyond losing a person to include the loss of identity, community, and self-trust. By sharing personal stories and insights, we emphasize that being targeted by a manipulative partner is not a reflection of one's weakness but rather a testament to one's strength, empathy, and integrity. Listen in as we offer guidance on navigating high-conflict divorces, especially when children are used as pawns in custody disputes. We also discuss the impact of toxic relationships on family members, highlighting issues like parental and grandparental alienation. Join us as we prepare for an upcoming session on Valentine's Day, dedicated to supporting those affected by these challenging dynamics.
Elon Musk's army of government reformers are making sweeping cuts across federal agencies, and the changes often start with getting ahold of the data. That has raised questions and legal complaints about whether the Department of Government Efficiency is mishandling all the sensitive data it's now accessing. POLITICO reporter Adam Wren wanted to find out whether the data could be funneled into Musk's businesses. On POLITICO Tech, he tells host Steven Overly what he found. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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The end-of-year break is over, and we're back with Dan Zehr from Coffee with Kenobi! This time, we are talking about our hope IN the Star Wars franchise. Does the future look bright, or are dark times ahead?
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This final episode of Hoovering is with the podcast's first ever guest, DEBORAH FRANCES-WHITEThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my stand up show WENCH on YouTube, and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with my blooming lovely first-born sister (technically half-sister) Hatty Greenway. This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my stand up show WENCH on YouTube, and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with incredible journalist and presenter KATE QUILTONThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my stand up show WENCH on YouTube, and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Www.weaponizedlove.com - All (Narc Con) Support Services Narcissists generally always hoover their ex targets whether romantic partners, family members or friends. They hoover for various reasons but principally to either control or obtain narcissistic supply from old sources of supply. Hoovering is part four of the covert narcissist's behaviour cycle, the forerunning parts of which are lovebombing, devaluation and discard. In order to maximise a positive hoovering result, ie. Successfully hoovering/sucking back into the relationship their former target, emotive occasions are utilised in full force. Predictably the narcissist will pick special occasions and annual recurring events such as the holidays, thanks giving, Christmas etc where sentimentality and emotions run high. People are often emotionally vulnerable around such occasions as memories of better times may come to mind. The narcissist understands this vulnerability will more easily Segway an opportunity to break through any boundaries that their former target may have in place. Basically, expect the narcissist to be more likely to Hoover around the holidays.Disclaimer: This YouTube channel provides information for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice. We strongly recommend consulting with healthcare professionals for personalized medical guidance. We do not endorse specific products or treatments. Any actions taken based on our content are at your own discretion and risk.https://youtu.be/6E-xNq4tK6kNARCCON1Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/@narccon/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
We're back with Coffee With Kenobi's Dan Zehr to talk about hope. We could all use a little more hope, so what does the saga really have to say about it? Join Bob and Dan as they dive into the idea of hope, and also talk more about Chicago and LA sports than you would have thought. Also, for the record... there aren't a lot of cleaning-related words that start with H!
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with the utterly brilliant comedian LUCY PORTER who is on tour now!This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my stand up show WENCH on YouTube, and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
If there's a disease that captures the toxic spirit of our times, it's what the therapist, Vanessa Resier, in her new book, calls Narcissistic Abuse. Even the language of this disease - Gaslighting. Love bombing. Hoovering. Triangulating - has become part of the dictionary of life in the 2020's. Narcissism and narcissists seem to be everywhere these days. In fact, as Resier told me (see full transcript below), all domestic abuse - from outright violence to subtle manipulation - is a form of narcissistic abuse. But if that's true, I asked her, then what, exactly, isn't narcissism?Vanessa M. Reiser is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), licensed in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida. She is a psychotherapist and the founder of Tell a Therapist, LLC as well as the founder of the nonprofit, Tell a Therapist, INC. Vanessa holds a bachelor's degree in political science from SUNY Empire State college and a Master of Social Work (MSM) from the University of Southern California. Vanessa specializes in narcissistic personality disorder, and her practice focuses on treating victims and survivors of cults, narcissists, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse. Her insights are both personal and professional, giving her a unique lens into this insidious form of domestic abuse. Vanessa is a long-distance runner and two-time Ironman who is best known for running the state of New York (285 miles in 11 days) in a wedding dress to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse.Named as one of the "100 most connected men" by GQ magazine, Andrew Keen is amongst the world's best known broadcasters and commentators. In addition to presenting KEEN ON, he is the host of the long-running How To Fix Democracy show. He is also the author of four prescient books about digital technology: CULT OF THE AMATEUR, DIGITAL VERTIGO, THE INTERNET IS NOT THE ANSWER and HOW TO FIX THE FUTURE. Andrew lives in San Francisco, is married to Cassandra Knight, Google's VP of Litigation & Discovery, and has two grown children.TRANSCRIPTAndrew Keen: Hello, everybody. Long-time viewers and listeners to the show know that I have a particular interest in words. Certain words acquire fashion, and I'm always curious why. One word that seems to be particularly popular these days, gets thrown around a lot, both clinically and out of the psychotherapist's office, is the word “narcissist.” There's a new book out this week. It's called Narcissistic Abuse. It's by my guest, Vanessa M. Reiser. She is a clinical social worker, a psychotherapist based in central New Jersey. And she's joining us. Vanessa, congratulations on the new book. This word narcissist. You're all too familiar with it, of course, everyone throws it around. Do you think it's particularly fashionable these days, or is that my imagination?Vanessa Reiser: I think it is definitely a word that is misunderstood. So, to your point, I think people use it in a way or in a regard that is not totally accurate. So, somebody who has narcissistic personality disorder. Has a list of characteristics that are very specific, very hazardous. It's not just somebody who is into taking selfies, or that we might think the word is in reference to. So, there are pretty serious characteristics that they possess. If somebody has a pathological disorder.Keen: Or let me rephrase the question: do you think there are more narcissists around now in the 2020s than there were historically, or are always the same amount? Of course, the word was invented by the Greeks. Its etymology comes out of Greek mythology: the God of Narcissus. So are we particularly prone, our culture or our individuality. To two to the problems of narcissism?Reiser: I think that it's always been around. I think there are more people, but I do think that we are now developing the vernacular for the characteristics. And I do think that because we have social media, people are more inclined to discuss it. So, in some ways it's a good thing, because we are now talking about it more, and some of the toxic behaviors. But I think is also an uptick because people are more individualistic, they are potentially more vain, more narcissistic. In their approach to their marketing themselves, everybody is out there flitting about, trying to make themselves an entity of sorts. And so, we're seeing a lot of people that are seemingly narcissistic, but that is not the same as somebody who has a pervasive pathological disorder, somebody who is lacking empathy, somebody who potentially has overlaps with sociopathy and looks to hurt people. We see this in certain pop culture scenarios, like we're seeing it with the P Diddy stuff here. There's a lot of talk now about cults, which my book is about also. So, these are people that are dangerous in some regard. These are people who are interested in meeting their own needs at the expense of others. And so it is somewhat misused, the word.Keen: Aren't we all want a bit like that? Aren't we all a bit self-interested? The subtitle of your book is A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. Aren't all people, Vanessa, aren't they all manipulative? Aren't we all seeking what we want? This word toxic...it's another one of these words that's become fashionable, it seems to be used in all sorts of generic ways. Aren't we all, in our own way, toxic too?Reiser: I think there is a level of ego that we all possess, so we are feeding our egos, we are trying to manage that up against others in society, etc. Very Freudian. But this idea that somebody would be particularly manipulative, somebody who's lying, controlling, uses isolation. And again, the book is aimed to fuse the concepts of narcissistic abuse and cult abuse. So, cult leaders are all narcissists, sociopaths or psychopaths, and the way that they operate is in line with what we see in domestic violence scenarios in a one-on-one interpersonal relationship. And those are the tactics. They are very much about mind control. So this is positive reinforcers, negative reinforcers, silent treatment. So the level of manipulation is different than, let's say, if you're having a bad day and you need a Snickers bar and you might just act like a jerk. That is not a pervasive behavior. This is more maniacal, to sort of oversimplify it.Keen: I can't resist our promise not to bring up Trump too much in this conversation, Vanessa. But this is the week, of course, that he got elected, or reelected, to office. And often people use the word narcissist in association with him. You talked about its influence on popular culture. Does it also play a role in politics? You talked about cult leaders, aren't all political leaders in their own way, cult leaders?Reiser: No, because, again, you have to have a pathological disorder. It's not to say that there aren't an abundance of--there are. There are a ton of CEOs and c-suites of, you know, poets, priests and politicians are generally able to kiss babies and potentially stab you in the back. They can be really dangerous. I wouldn't say they all are. I would say it is more prevalent in certain career paths for sure. We see this in the military. We see this in police officers. We see this in surgery rooms. So, there are certain jobs--see, I think 1 in 4 CEOs is a psychopath directly, which is very interesting.Keen: But what do you make of that? Does that suggest that everyone is a psychopath, or does that suggest that certain kinds of jobs like CEO or perhaps presidents lend themselves to psychopaths and narcissists?Reiser: I think the way that they climb the ladder without empathy, sort of lying...Jeffrey Epstein was a good example of this because he was a liar. His entire resume was a fraud. So they know how to work the system, climb to the top, convince others to do their bidding, hide, find loopholes. They're pretty slippery and sneaky. And as I mentioned, the level of manipulation is just a master level. And so this is why cult leaders in political arenas and otherwise, in the one-on-one relationship, they are able to get people to fall in line, right? Manson never killed anyone. It was his minions that did so. So, they are able to use mind control in a way that most people don't think they could fall victim to. But I think that's the beauty of the conversations we're starting to have around this, because we're bumping into these people in our work environments. We're now having a discussion about what they look like, how they behave. It's very hard to process when you go through something like this. I think most of us think that people are sharing similar perspectives and logical ideas. And when you go through this portal, you understand that not everyone is thinking the way you are. And I think it's brilliant that we're starting to talk about it, actually. I think the word is overused, but I also believe that there are far more dangerous people out there than maybe we ever realized.Keen: Vanessa, you talked about Mayor Charles Manson, mass murderer Jeffrey Epstein, a serial sexual criminal. You also talk about CEOs. Surely there's a difference between the two, though. Are there, shall we say, criminal narcissists and then people who have done well, who have an element of narcissism in their personalities?Reiser: Absolutely. I think there are unfortunately often overlaps between narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder or sociopathy. So, the way I would characterize the difference would be what you are saying, which a is very, very big difference and yet somewhat nuanced, in my opinion, is the idea of no empathy. The narcissist might step over the dead body, the sociopath put the dead body there. So, it feels like it's a huge difference and a very small difference at the same time. Why? Because without empathy, I think our society really doesn't go on. I think empathy, is in the very first place, something that occurs when the primary caregiver realizes the baby's crying. Let's take care of the baby, the baby needs something. And this sort of innate experience is why we go on as a species. Without it, we are doomed. And so, this idea of no empathy already feels very wonky to me, and I think we need to open up a dialogue about that. But you're quite right. There is a difference between somebody who steps over the dead body and somebody who puts the dead body there.Keen: Yeah, there's a very big difference. You use the E-word, empathy. It's another of these, what I think of at least, as cult words. It gets thrown around as if it's a good thing. You talked about the the species nature of empathy, that we wouldn't survive without it. I'm not an expert on evolution or Darwin's theories, but I wonder what evolutionists would say about this, that our species is a competitive one and we all compete with one another. Is empathy, then, self-interest, and does that, in a sense, undermine the idea of empathy, given that it's supposed to be about being empathetic? But if it enables us to survive and prosper, then maybe it's not quite as empathetic as we would like to think.Reiser: I think probably there's a balance there, and the imbalance is what we're seeing. I think we need to cultivate more empathy. I think we need to be kinder to one another. I feel like it's gotten a little dark, and people are maybe acting out of fear a lot more than I've ever seen. And so, I think we have lost a good amount of that. I think we see it in times of tragedy, like in New York, on 9/11, you were able to see humankind in its best light. And we saw quite a bit of it with Covid when the first responders were being highly empathetic and volunteering their time and risking their lives to look out for others. So I think it's still there, but I think that we might be trending away from it. And that scares me. So, I think it is important. Empathy, to me, is ground zero for everything. I think it's important. I understand what you're saying, but I think there's a balance that we might be getting too polarized around.Keen: Are you suggesting that if you don't have empathy, you are by definition a narcissist?Reiser: No, I think that there are certain people that don't have as strong of empathy. Maybe they understand empathy. But I think if you couple that with this recipe of other characteristics like manipulation, like lying, controlling, isolating, abusing through addiction, smearing, withholding, there's, you know, something like 20 characteristics that most of them will possess a good amount. So, it's not an exact science. But no, I think no empathy, though, is one of the things that I think lends people to behave the way that they do if they're going to be abusive. So, it is a term that I think may highlight a good amount of what narcissists jumping off point is, which is they don't care, so they're going to do anything that they can to get what they want.Keen: You mentioned Manson, Jeffrey Epstein, of course, a historic sexual criminal, both male and very male in their own way. You've talked about empathy in some detail, Vanessa, both on the show and in the book. Is there a gendered quality to this too? Do Women make, and of course, there are female narcissists, but is a female narcissist different from a male narcissist, or are all narcissists, whether they're made of female, essentially the same?Reiser: There are some slight differences. By and large, the female narcissist will oftentimes exploit their children and use their children for supply. Not that the male narcissist won't do that, but a good oversimplification to identify the female narcissist is oftentimes the “pageant mom." Their children are an extension of them and they're sort of braggadocious about, you know, “my child is a doctor." The other thing that they they can do is--Keen: Sounds like a lot of mothers, Vanessa. They're proud of their kids if they're adults, I think, or a psychotherapist...Reiser: I think proud is very different from somebody who behind the scenes in the home, they're valuing that child based only on what they can get from the child. So they get supply from the neighbors who are excited to see the daughter, or the people at the cheerleading competition. It's very superficial and shallow. Behind the scenes, they can be particularly abusive and severely so. So, these children could develop eating disorders, could be self-injuring. And a lot of this is about the mask that they wear in public versus who they are behind the scenes.Keen: But on a lot of shows, Vanessa, on social media and anxiety, as you know, as a therapist and as a writer, this is a huge issue these days: is there a connection between our age of anxiety and the prevalence of narcissistic abuse? Are some of the most important reasons why there's so much anxiety, particularly amongst young people, a consequence of the rise of narcissistic abuse?Reiser: I'm not sure. It's an interesting question. I tend to lean more into the camp of nature, less nurture. So, my belief is based not on a ton of data, because there is not a lot of data on NPD because narcissists are not going into studies and saying, “Hey, I'm a narcissist, please study me," or “I'm willing to be studied." They are generally mandated. So, you know, there's not a lot of data to pull from. So, we're kind of theorizing, but I tend to lean more into the camp of something where intergenerational trauma may play a role, or genetic or biological predisposition. So, I'm not sure. There are certain people who have different opinions on this. Some people think this is something that happens in childhood, and it's a trauma. I tend to think it's something that potentially could be genetic.Keen: Vanessa, is there a danger here? You're a clinical social worker, a psychotherapist, you have your own private practice. So I'm not suggesting, of course, you're self-interested and you're trying to build a clientele here. But aren't you, not you, but isn't this whole movement, or discourse, medicalizing the complexity of the human condition? So all parents are, in their own way, manipulative. They will perhaps use their children sometimes to self-promote. Everybody wants to control one kind of relationship, or rather, everyone has their own interest. What's the danger, in your work and in the work of others, of medicalizing the business of being human? And I mean that not in an economic sense, but in all the messiness of what it means to be human and in our relations with others.Reiser: Yeah, I definitely do not see it that way. I think when my clients come to me, they are very confused about what has happened to them. And so the word being a clinical word, narcissistic personality disorder (or clinical words, narcissistic personality disorder) can feel very validating because it would be like going to the hospital and the doctor says, “you're sick." “Well, what do I have?" “You're just sick." And so my clients, very specifically, because I work only in the domestic violence realm, really are feeling validated around the language. So the language, you opened up this conversation today talking about words, these words like gaslighting, and the level of confusion that's gone on with--Keen: --and lovebombing and hoovering and triangulating, all these words that you bring up in your book.Reiser: They're very important for people to understand what they've endured. And so, I actually quite like the medical term, because it gives an answer to those that have gone through something that is particularly difficult to process and certainly very hard to describe.Keen: You talked about abuse and a lot of your clients, you talk about violence, or as most of the narcissistic abuse verbal?Reiser: All domestic violence is narcissistic abuse, all domestic violence is narcissistic abuse. Every single one of my clients who has been physically assaulted, or has an acute trauma through physical abuse, tells me that the psychological abuse is far worse. It's a brain injury of sorts when somebody lies to you repeatedly and skews your perception. I feel like the brain is kind of a fact-finding machine, and it looks for data, and it's constantly working to make those connections. And so, when that becomes fractured, people really decompensate. They do not do well. They fall apart. They fail. Most realms of their entire life can just fall apart. And so, it's a pretty serious thing, this psychological brain injury, if you will.Keen: Yeah, I take your point. I'm certainly not trying to minimalize domestic abuse. But just to repeat, you said all domestic abuse is narcissistic abuse. Is that what you're saying? So the husband who comes home after some drinks in the bar and beats his wife up. Is that narcissistic abuse or is that just that an angry drunk man?Reiser: I would have to sort of assess further, but it very well could be, and more than likely it would be. Now, does that mean he has narcissistic personality disorder? No, but that behavior itself is narcissistic.Keen: But aren't you, again, making it such a big word that any kind of bad behavior...it becomes narcissism. So it's really everything.Reiser: Certainly the high level bad behaviors that you're referencing, yes.Keen: So domestic abuse, anything behind domestic abuse: smacking someone around, beating up your child, beating up your wife, beating up your husband, it's always narcissism?Reiser: Yes.Keen: So, okay, so we have this thing called narcissistic abuse. You're a therapist. People don't come to you to, as you suggested, to have this thing argued over. They come for help, and they come to identify it and escape it. How do you deal with it? Let's begin with children and their narcissistic mother. What's your advice? How to get out of a narcissistic relationship?Reiser: That one is particularly challenging, because when you leave an intimate relationship, oftentimes you can just go back to the person you were prior, go find that person. When you are the child of a narcissist, it is challenging because, as I mentioned earlier, you become an extension of that parent. And so, your identity has not been developed, you have to figure out who you even are. What are your likes? What are your interests? What is autonomy like for you? And so, it's a big hill to climb. You're generally filtering thoughts through "what would my toxic parent want or what would they not want?" Which ultimately gives them control over every single thought you're having. And so that is a really, really hard thing to overcome. And then I suppose what we would do, probably, would be work on low contact or harm reduction to the extent that they feel comfortable, unless they're willing to remove them from their lives. Narcissists can be dangerous, in a way. So, these are people who might manipulate your love relationship, or the relationship you have with your own children, or your career. They can infiltrate everything around you. So depending upon the severity--it would be a case-by-case basis--but generally, with a parental unit, I would say probably trying to get to a point where you would see them maybe during holidays, or whatever you're comfortable doing, and then you don't really want to share too much with them, because they tend to exploit the information that you share with them.Keen: How reformable then, Vanessa, are narcissists? You're suggesting that they can't be reformed, that they have this condition and that you shouldn't trust them with information? They're always trying to take advantage of you.Reiser: Not a lot of data on the narcissist changing. It is a rigid pathological disorder. So, the neurotypical brain can move. Trauma victims can repair and develop new pathways in the brain. This is different. It's rigid. So, I don't see a ton of movement. I think that the best-case scenario is to get away from them.Keen: But have you had patients who've come into your office and said, “I'm a narcissist or I fear I'm a narcissist. Nobody wants to talk to me. My parents, my kids, my friends, my children, my relatives won't speak to me. I need to become less of a narcissist." Is that a condition that you sometimes come across?Reiser: Yes. And we would work towards developing empathy to the extent that they can. We would work towards developing emotional connections with other people. We would work towards understanding boundaries, working on accountability, communication style, attachment style. This is generally something that is best handled in an in-patient scenario. So it could look like a sex addiction treatment center, something like this, where they are really diving in. So the work that I'm doing is the best that I can with anybody who comes to me, as you mentioned. But it's something that would be best handled with extensive therapy.Keen: So you're a therapist and you're in the business of identifying and escaping and healing from toxic and manipulative people. But what about medicine? I talked about medicalizing the condition. I'm slightly curious about that, perhaps even slightly skeptical. But are there drugs for narcissists or for people who have been abused by narcissists?Reiser: In a word, no. There are tons of things therapeutically that have been coming out. We're seeing people who are trying certain psychedelics for post-traumatic stress disorder. So in the case of the victim, I know Bessel van der Kolk talks about MDMA and other options for treating trauma specifically that is very experimental and goes up against big pharma. So he has a lot of push back. But there's different treatments and things that people are trying, but there isn't really anything per se that treats trauma. In the pharma world, everything is to treat anxiety and depression, and sometimes that can work. So again, we're going to practice harm reduction. And the same could be said for the narcissist in terms of treatment. Pharmacologically, we would probably do something like the SSRIs, but there's no data that I can provide that says that that works. It's just something that I've heard people try to probably work on the anxiety of it. But there's no there's no drug that I know of that's going to remedy trauma or NPD.Keen: So you're ambivalent on psychedelics. We've done a number of shows. It's becoming increasingly fashionable or popular.Reiser: I'm not ambivalent.Keen: You're against or for? You don't think it works, basically?Reiser: No, I think I think it I think it could be tremendous. I don't know enough about it, but I'm kind of hopeful that it would work.Keen: But isn't that kind of, some people might say, Brave New World? It's an escape? We live in a psychedelic universe, we leave the world and we go to another?Reiser: I don't know. If we are microdosing, it's possible that we could quell the trauma responses to the extent that we may be able to then focus on developing different neural pathways and changing the way that the brain is thinking and some of the cognition that's negative that's floating around in there. So I'm hopeful that those things would help. I understand what you're saying, though.Keen: In an America which, Vanessa, is very divided, a lack of, perhaps, your word, empathy, politically, on either side, an election that reflects and perhaps compounds the divisions...do you think that America needs to become more, shall we say, therapeutic? Is is that the only way to bring Americans back together? I'm not suggesting that all politicians are narcissists, although, as I said, a lot of people have argued, including, I think his own niece, that Donald Trump is a classic example of a narcissist. But does America need counseling, shall we say? Is America itself collectively suffering from narcissistic abuse?Reiser: Well, that is a good question. Just gave me the chills. Yes, but also therapeutic practices that we can all do, I do this in my own life, is just...I really think it's important for people to express themselves. I notice in my clientele, when they are just sharing, they're connecting the dots really on their own, they aren't processing things, and I think it's important to express yourself. So even if you're journaling--so it doesn't have to be this, like, you're in therapy, so something is wrong with you, and let's fix you, and this is this is my advice, and all this. No. I do think that you need to have a safe place to express yourself. So, even just good friends, some way to kind of get it off your chest if it's through, you know, anything that you enjoy doing, like, running as I do, or the written word, or kickboxing, or some way to get things off your chest, I think, will help you to feel empowered, will help you to process some of the things that you're witnessing that could be upsetting.Keen: Yeah there's a long tradition of narcissism in literature, many writers have written books about narcissism, and some people believe many of the greatest writers are themselves narcissists. You talk about, Vanessa, finally, a safe place to do this. We touched on social media earlier. You're on Instagram, you're on TikTok, like most of us. Is social media in your view, a safe place, or is it the problem, or is it both?Reiser: Oh, great timing on that one. I would say it is something that could be both, for sure. It has tremendous benefits. There's communities that have developed through something as simple as a hashtag. So, there's so much good and then there's so much horror. I mean, that's just the way I see it.Keen: Well, finally, I have to ask you this, Vanessa. Since I get some free therapy from you, sometimes my kids accuse me of being a narcissist. I think it's sometimes when they don't like what I say. Have I displayed any manifestations of narcissism in this conversation? Do I need therapy myself?Reiser: No. You know, I don't know you well enough. You were certainly a gentleman. And it would be very, very hard for me to decipher something like that unless I got to know you behind the scenes. And I'm sure the same could be said about me.Keen: Well, next time my kids accuse me of being a narcissist, I will tell them, “Go and talk to Vanessa." Well, congratulations, Vanessa, on the new book, it's an important subject, and you treated in a very down to earth, coherent way. The new book is Narcissistic Abuse--sorry--Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist Guide to Identifying, Escaping and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. It's on audiobook, it's read by Vanessa, and it's also out in traditional text. Congratulations, Vanessa. Subject isn't going away, we'll get you back in the not-too-distant future to talk more narcissism. Thank you so much.Reiser: Thank you so much. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit keenon.substack.com/subscribe
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode American fitness coach and internet sensation JAMES CAPPOLAThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my stand up show WENCH on YouTube, and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, my guest is Bill Eddy, a lawyer, licensed therapist, professional mediator, and faculty member at the Pepperdine University School of Law. He specializes in identifying, reducing friction with, and disentangling from high-conflict individuals. We explain how high-conflict personalities differ from personality disorders and examine the cycles of blame and drama that cause persistent conflict in their relationships. We discuss how to quickly recognize high-conflict individuals based on specific criteria and behaviors, helping listeners learn to spot their less obvious tactics. You'll also learn how to disengage from them with minimal friction and understand the methods they use to draw people back in or keep conflict alive. Additionally, we cover effective communication strategies for mediating situations involving high-conflict individuals, emphasizing empathy and problem-solving approaches. This episode equips listeners with tools to navigate conflict in various contexts, promoting resolutions that benefit all parties involved. Access the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Maui Nui Venison: https://mauinuivenison.com/huberman ExpressVPN: https://expressvpn.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman David Protein: https://davidprotein.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Bill Eddy 00:02:58 Sponsors: Maui Nui & ExpressVPN 00:06:41 High-Conflict Families, High-Conflict Individuals & Patterns 00:10:48 Personality Disorders, Prevalence & Overlap 00:18:28 High-Conflict Personality vs. Personality Disorders, Blame 00:24:33 High-Conflict Individuals, Tool: First-Year Rule & Commitment 00:30:53 Sponsor: AG1 00:32:05 Relationship Stability, Tool: Vetting Potential Partners 00:38:54 Heightened Emotions, Negative Advocates, Divorce 00:47:50 Brain, Plasticity & Fear; Bullies, Polarization 00:54:51 Sponsors: Function & David 00:58:00 Emotions, Media, Politics 01:04:57 Tool: WEB Method, Identify High-Conflict Individuals 01:12:20 Body Cues, Identify High-Conflict Individuals 01:18:40 Tool: Don't Label & Empathy; Adapting Your Behavior 01:23:12 High Conflict Personalities & Occupations 01:28:18 Big Personalities: Evidence vs Assumptions 01:37:27 Tool: Leaving a Combative High-Conflict Individual, Blame, Gradual Exit 01:45:41 Exiting a High Conflict Relationship & Timing 01:49:27 Tool: Disentangling from a Victim High-Conflict Individual, “Hoovering” 01:52:32 High Conflict Divorce, Small Families & Parental Estrangement 01:57:01 Tool: Managing Emotions & Relationships, EAR Statements 01:59:52 Large Families & Conflict Resolution 02:04:11 Bullies & Online Social Groups 02:09:18 Personality Disorders, Causes, Culture 02:13:09 Tool: 4 “Fuhgeddaboudits”, Topics to Avoid in High Conflict Resolution 02:19:50 Tool: CARS Method, Connecting & EAR Statements, Analyzing 02:27:03 Tool: CARS Method, Responding & BIFF Response, Setting Limits & SLIC 02:36:40 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. Follow this brilliant young MP Nadia Whittome ON INSTAGRAM here. She donated her fee for this podcast to PALESTINIAN MEDICAL AID charity called map. Chuck something that way yourself if you can? This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my stand up show WENCH on YouTube, and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
EP211 Who's really doing the Hoovering? It's not just your robot vacuum! Imagine you're living in a world where your friendly robot vacuum is secretly taking photos of your home, apps are tricking you into fake investments, and hackers are messing with your water bill. Sounds like the plot of a tech thriller, right? Well, buckle up, because reality just might be stranger than fiction! In this episode of the IT Privacy and Security update, we explore everything from public utility hacks to AI surveillance on your smart TV. Let's just say, it's time to double-check your router, think twice before downloading that "too good to be true" app, and of course, it's time to start the update! Find the full transcript for this podcast here.
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Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. Please make sure you're following RHYS NICHOLSON and catch them while they're ON THEIR UK TOUR.We ate at the OMNI COLLECTIVE and it was f***ing spectacular. This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my 2022 stand up show WENCH and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. Follow SOPH'S PLANT KITCHEN on Instagram where you'll soon be able to pre-order her book.This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my 2022 stand up show WENCH and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Send us a textIt has come to my attention that certain toxic friends from 2023 are attempting to invade our 2024 with underhanded tactics. We must remain vigilant and steadfast in our decision to leave them behind. Let us not allow them to manipulate their way back into our lives.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
We've covered “megaphone philanthropy”—the emphasis some left-wing activist groups and their multi-million or even billion-dollar funders place on street-protest imagery, often featuring people yelling through bullhorns—and the Ford Foundation, one of the Left's multiple billion-dollar funders. Our colleague Ken Braun joins us today to link them, as he has just concluded a deep investigation of […]
We've covered “megaphone philanthropy”—the emphasis some left-wing activist groups and their multi-million or even billion-dollar funders place on street-protest imagery, often featuring people yelling through bullhorns—and the Ford Foundation, one of the Left's multiple billion-dollar funders. Our colleague Ken Braun joins us today to link them, as he has just concluded a deep investigation of the Ford Foundation's grantmaking. Links:Hoovering Up Henry Money: Free Money Versus Free EnterpriseHoovering Up Henry Money: Revolutions and BullhornsHoovering Up Henry Money: Crime and DemocracyHoovering Up Henry Money: Shaping the NewsHow the Ford Foundation Changed Entertainment: The Ford FoundationThe Ford Foundation's Ugly, Warped View of America: Megaphones and Militancyhttps://www.influencewatch.org/non-profit/ford-foundation/Follow us on our socials: Twitter: @capitalresearchInstagram: @capitalresearchcenterFacebook: www.facebook.com/capitalresearchcenterYouTube: @capitalresearchcenter
It's the last hiatus episode! In case you missed the memo, we are taking a short break from uploading new episodes over the summer. I'm away, you're away... seems like a good time for it. But the podcast will be back with a bang on the 26th of September with new guests for your ears. In the meantime, I wanted to dip into the back catalogue and share an episode that you might not have heard if you only joined us recently. This one is the lovely Jess Fostekew of Sturdy Girl Club on Radio 4, and the fabulous podcast Hoovering (it's not about hoovering). I love many things about this episode, but it has one of the best examples of the classic teacher crush - in this case, Mr Ray... I just love it when a guest really commits to a crush, and what Jess did to get his attention is really very funny. Hope you like it! Lots of summery love, Margaret xx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with the stratospherically massive comedian JOSH WIDDICOMBE and was recorded during the 2024 Machynlleth Comedy Festival.All our goodies came from MACHYNLLETH brilliant HERMIT CRAB COFFEE shop. Our fudge came from the DYFI DAIRY who make RADICALLY KIND FUDGE. Josh is very likely to have very big news about something he's made that he'd love you to see, very soon - to be the first to find out what, make sure you're on his mailing list HERE This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my 2022 stand up show WENCH and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with the absolutely brilliant writer OLIVIA POTTSHer latest book which we pay ode to in this episode is called BUTTER: A CELEBRATIONThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Stream my 2022 stand up show WENCH and listen to both of my Radio 4 series STURDY GIRLS CLUB on BBC Sounds now. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available. Book a One on One coaching session HERE Join FREE Masterclass to learn the methods to break free from Toxic Relationship HERE 7 Day Challenge -https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity Survivor to Thriver - https://www.rawmotivations.com/survivor Want to help support this podcast? https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/support Listen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152 Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too. From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic Relationship Grab yours HERE. Platforms I am on: TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/ Rumble - https://rumble.com/c/c-2492510 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/support
PODCAST NOTES:Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with travel writer and broadcaster JON HOLMES His new BBC Radio 4 and BBC Sounds series is called JON HOLMES SAYS THE C WORD This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.You can still see my show METTLE at the Edinburgh Fringe.DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with the current fittest woman in the UK, AIMEE CRINGLEThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.You can still see my show METTLE at the Edinburgh Fringe.DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Wiggage! Hoovering pubes on pizza! Jenn and Priscilla travel back to 1999 and discuss the hit, She's All That, and whether Zach and Laney are still together.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with comedian JACOB HAWLEYSee him in Edinburgh and on tour with his show SPACEThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.You can still see my show METTLE at the Edinburgh Fringe.DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hey, Survivor! How has the narcissist tried to hoover you? In this episode, I'm sharing 6 contactless narcissistic hoover maneuvers. Hoovering sucks. And the toxic stress and drama that go along with it, aren't worth sacrificing your health and wellbeing. If you, or someone you know, need help navigating contactless hoover maneuvers, this episode is for you. Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with comedian AMY MASONGo and her brilliant debut hour FREE MASONThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.You can still see my show METTLE in Falmouth or at the Edinburgh Fringe.DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with comedian CHARLIE GEORGEThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.GET TICKETS NOW to see me on tour with my new show METTLE. DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with excellent comedian and lovely man LARRY DEAN. You can get tickets to his NEW EDINBURGH SHOW, DODGER by clicking those words that are in big.This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.GET TICKETS NOW to see me on tour with my new show METTLE. DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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At the core of our civilizational breakdown is an extractive economy that wastes both nature and people, at the same time it is Hoovering extreme wealth up to the billionaire class. But with breakdown comes breakthrough. Professor Manuel Pastor believes we're living through a moment of profound transformation. It will come down to what we do – or don't do – at this moment of radical change. In this episode, we hear from Pastor on how shocks to the system are precipitating a great awakening and growing movements to transform the economy to our economy. Featuring Manuel Pastor, Ph.D., Distinguished Professor of Sociology and American Studies & Ethnicity at USC and Director of its Equity Research Institute, has long been one of the most important scholars and activists working on the economic, environmental and social conditions facing low-income urban communities and the social movements seeking to change those realities. He has held many prominent academic posts, won countless prestigious awards and fellowships for his activism and scholarship, and is the author and co-author of many important, highly influential tomes. Resources Solidarity Economics: Why Mutuality and Movements Matter | 2021 Book by Manuel Pastor and Chris Benner SolidarityEconomics.org | Joint Project of the Equity Research Center (ERI) at the University of Southern California and the Institute for Social Transformation at UC Santa Cruz Manuel Pastor – Solidarity Economics: Mutuality, Movements and Momentum | 2021 Bioneers Keynote Address Solidarity Economics: Our Economy, Our Planet, Our Movements | 2021 Bioneers Panel Bioneers Reader: Our Economic Future | Free eBook This is an episode of the Bioneers: Revolution from the Heart of Nature series. Visit the radio and podcast homepage to learn more.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. Star of Ab Fab and Bottom turned author HELEN LEDERER and you have to grab her book NOT THAT I'M BITTERThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.GET TICKETS NOW to see me on tour with my new show METTLE. DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. Ex-England and Saracens rugby hero, VICKY FLEETWOODThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.GET TICKETS NOW to see me on tour with my new show METTLE. DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. Glorious comedian Alyssa Kyria aka TheFunnyMummyUKGO AND SEE HER ON TOURThis podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.GET TICKETS NOW to see me on tour with my new show METTLE. DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, you will learn about the signs a narcissist is trying to get back into your life. Recognizing the signs of a narcissist attempting to re-enter your life is paramount on your journey of healing and self-discovery. Hoovering, dear one, is the insidious tactic these individuals employ to suck you back into their web of manipulation and control. It often starts subtly, perhaps with a seemingly innocent message or a casual encounter. However, pay heed to the underlying motives masked beneath their charm. Are they showering you with affection one moment and withdrawing it the next? Do you sense a familiar pattern of gaslighting and emotional manipulation resurfacing? These are the red flags waving vehemently, urging you to stay vigilant and protect your newfound sense of self. Coming out of denial requires courageous introspection and unwavering honesty with oneself. It demands a willingness to confront the uncomfortable truths about the dynamics of past relationships and the roles we played in them. By acknowledging the signs of hoovering, you're taking a crucial step toward breaking free from the cycle of toxicity. It's about reclaiming your power and refusing to be ensnared by the false promises and superficial charm of a narcissist. Remember, darling, healing begins when you confront the reality of the situation head-on, even when it feels daunting or overwhelming. Equipped with the wisdom gained from your experiences, you can forge a path towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships in the future. Recognizing the signs of hoovering empowers you to set boundaries and protect your emotional well-being. Trust your intuition, darling, for your inner compass guides you toward authenticity and genuine connections. By staying attuned to the subtle cues and refusing to be lured back into the toxic embrace of a narcissist, you pave the way for a brighter, more liberated future filled with love, respect, and inner peace. Take the Free Codependency Quiz https://www.lisaaromano.com Listen to one of my books for free on Audible.com amazon.com/author/lisaaromano
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This episode is with Tik Tok and instagram sensation LAGOMCHEF aka Martyn Odell. Check out his YOUTUBE channel he's got now as well!This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.GET TICKETS NOW to see me on tour with my new show METTLE. DOWNLOAD or stream my last show WENCH. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to HOOVERING, the podcast about eating. This is an Easter special with DALISO CHAPONDA and HATTY ASHDOWN which we recorded live from the LEICESTER COMEDY FESTIVAL. This podcast is largely funded on PATREON where if you join up you'll have access to masses to exclusive and advance content from guest recipes to personal mentions and one-to-one virtual meet ups with me.GET TICKETS NOW to see me on tour with my new show METTLE. STREAM my last show Wench, for free. For my work news the fastest way to learn things is to please join MY MAILING LIST Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hoovering. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In part two of Kelly's story, The Yellow File, the honeymoon is over, and she discovers exactly what was in that infamous folder she found in her new husband's car. And when things escalated, she reached out to Brandon's first wife!Topics discussed,- Discovering the truth and connecting the dots of past events that were red flags- How empaths shift the blame on themselves and rationalize bad behavior- How abusers use children as pawns in their web of lies- Stalking and abusive behavior from a toxic partner- Kelly goes ‘undercover' to find out anything else she didn't know about her new husband- The danger of leaving a toxic relationship and why getting a restraining order is sometimes necessarySupport the showDO YOU HAVE YOUR OWN STORY TO SHARE? EMAIL US at ExWivesUndercover@gmail.comLIKE THE PODCAST? If so, please give us a 5-star rating and help us spread the word and protect other women from falling victim to these types of men. Or, help us make the show better by taking part in a short survey: https://s.surveyplanet.com/8ke0gk5lVISIT OUR WEBSITE: www.ExWivesUndercover.comCan't get enough of the A-Team? Be sure to check out our new YouTube show!
TRIGGER WARNING: Graphic details of domestic violence are discussed at the beginning of the episode, which may be triggering for some.After the physical incident with David, Kari delivered their baby prematurely. And while he was on his best behavior for a while, things turned for the worst when his business partner warned her something was seriously wrong. When the Tuscaloosa police called to ask about her husband, she knew it was time to leave. But, divorcing a Narcissist wasn't going to be easy and when she tried to get child support, David fled the country only never to be found until 16 years later.Topics discussed:-Cycle of abuse-Painting the picture of a perfect family-When close friends warn you to get out-Finding out the man you married is a con man-Hoovering techniques used to reel you back in-Abuse after divorce and fighting in family court-How to protect yourself when your ex is threateningSupport the showDO YOU HAVE YOUR OWN STORY TO SHARE? EMAIL US at ExWivesUndercover@gmail.comLIKE THE PODCAST? If so, please give us a 5-star rating and help us spread the word and protect other women from falling victim to these types of men.VISIT OUR WEBSITE: www.ExWivesUndercover.comCan't get enough of the A-Team? Be sure to check out our new YouTube show!
Next on the list of things you thought were unique to you, but they're not and the internet has made up a word to describe it - Hoovering! Never heard of it? Well, it's not peer reviewed or accepted as an official term in psychology, but we're not psychologists or accepted in certain circles either so we consider ourselves the perfect people to discuss it. If you think we're about to talk to you about the loud tool that sometimes helps you get stuff off the floor, you're kind of right. Hoovering is the process by which people in your life can suck you back into unhealthy patterns, regardless of how hard you try to establish and hold boundaries. It's like the old saying goes, you either die a hoover or live long enough to find yourself sucked back in. Apologies in advnace for all of the dumping we do in this ep. We're just way too familiar with vacuums. GAZA/WEST BANK RESOURCES- https://medium.com/@scholarscoalition/for-immediate-release-u-s-4c2aecd11535 https://irusa.org/middle-east/palestine/ https://buildpalestine.com/2021/05/15/trusted-organizations-to-donate-to-palestine/ https://www.vox.com/2015/5/14/18093732/israel-palestine-misconceptions https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/52045757 WE'RE ON PATREON - patreon.com/ladiesandtangents MERCH - ladiesandtangents.com/lt-merch *NEW* SUBMIT YOUR STORIES - landtstories@gmail.com FOLLOW ALONG WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA - @ladiesandtangents
What are the ways a relationship with a narcissist destroys your spiritual connection? Michaela talks about some narcissist behaviors which directly affect your connection to Spirit, Source and Self. She talks about telepathy, hoovering and healthy vulnerability as ways you are manipulated in these toxic connections. Scott and Michaela discuss the aura of a confrontational mom youtuber who was recently arrested and what it means to have the birthday “blues”. What's Your Aura? Take the Quiz: https://knowyouraura.com/whats-your-auraMystic Michaela Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mysticmichaelaKnow Your Aura Website: https://knowyouraura.comMystic Michaela Website: https://www.mysticmichaela.comMystic Michaela Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2093029197406168Mystic Michaela Podcast Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/know-your-aura-with-mystic-michaela/id1477126939Mystic Michaela Bonus Episode - Every Aura Color Explained: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bonus-every-aura-color-explained/id1477126939?i=1000479357880Ads:CoPilot is offering you a 14 day FREE trial with your own personal trainer at https://go.mycopilot.com/knowyourauraBeis is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase at https://beistravel.com/kyaFind your forever pieces @jennikayne and get 15% off with promo code: KYA at https://www.jennikayne.com/kya! #jennikaynepartnerJoin the thousands of women who have discovered feel good freedom through balanced hormones! Get 10% off your order of Mixhers with promo code: KYA at https://mixhers.com/kyaKnow Your Aura is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/kyaMore podcasts at WAVE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/artist/wave-podcast-network/1437831426See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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