Really, is that the way you see me?

"Ever catch yourself stuck in a loop of negative self-talk or silent criticism of those around you?"  "In this episode, we dive into the trap of 'Demon Monologues'—those internal conversations that sabotage our relationships, self-trust and emotional well-being." "Chelsea opens up about her own struggle with these destructive thought patterns and how they nearly derailed her intimacy and connection with others," and she navigates to find her way out. Website: https://relations-coach.com/ Blog: https://relations-coach.com/2025/02/10/6-week-hybrid-digital-relationship-workshop/ 6-WEEK HYBRID RELATIONSHIP COURSE: https://www.relationships-relations-coach.com/relationship-series

This episode focuses on the role the 3 Enneagram Instincts play in family gatherings. Enneagram expert Sandra DeClerq shares her pearls of wisdom and some of the nuances of 3 instinctual survival strategies that you may not know. It is genuinely a must-be listened-to episode before your Easter and Passover gatherings.

In this episode we will be discussing what is like to be the same Enneagram Trifecta Personality type and Instinct. The ease and challenges of being wired so similarly.

In this episode, Tyler Lucchese, founder of Baby Bloom Newborn Care, Enneagram type 6, speaks openly about her self-discovery through the Enneagram and her work with Iris First and the powerful impact on her life. She discusses the challenges, gifts, and growing edge which has occurred on her journey. This new knowledge and wisdom of the Enneagram enabled her to reclaim the connection to her authentic self and gifts, and bring that forth to her clients and the world.      

Another crucial piece to the Enneagram and compatibility within relationships is called your "3 instinctual survival strategies." These 3 survival strategies unconsciously drive our moment-to-moment focus and what we seek from others to feel safe and fulfilled. Discovering your dominant instinctual subtype deepens your knowledge and understanding of what creates instantaneous compatibility and chemistry in all types of relationships: dating and mating, parent-child, siblings, friends, and co-workers.  

This episode will give you a brief description of the 27 different Enneagram trifecta personality types adding another dimension to understanding yourself and those around you. In the previous episode, we briefly covered the 9 Basic enneagram types. Many do not know that we have an Enneagram personality trifecta, which means that we have a primary enneagram type but a secondary and a tertiary type. Your trifecta will address if you are a person who thinks, feels, or acts first and well as the instantaneous relatedness you feel with some and not with others.

In this episode, we will be viewing relationships through the lens of the 9 Enneagram Personality Types with a brief description of each type and its impact on one's compatibility and challenges. The enneagram personality typing system was not designed to limit you to a type or trying to squeeze you into a box as if there was a one size fit all, but rather giving you a piece of your blueprint to the underlying motivation that affects your automatic and unconscious behaviors.      

 This episode continues to delve into ways in which the ego unconsciously causes problems in relationships. We will explore how misunderstanding and the demon monologues are the culprits that lead to disconnecting from others, even those we love the most. The demon monologues are the disempowering conversations that you with yourself attempt to self-protect from perceived danger such as hurt and disappointment. We will touch upon ways in which you can create and re-establish the connection without changing anyone else. With this new understanding, you will view yourself and others from a different lens.

This episode explores “the notorious ego” and how it unconsciously impacts our relationships. Understanding the ego will start to unpack the underlying causes to these questions: Why are some relationships challenging? Why is it so difficult to be understood by others? Is it that they don’t care enough to understand? Or could it be something else? The word “ego” is often misunderstood. Understanding the ego and how it works can clarify many of the misunderstandings that cause pain and suffering in our relationships. Thereby transforming feelings of hurt, disappointment, and resignation into the experience of love, compassion, and connection.

This podcast and the upcoming book will introduce new ways to open up the blind-spots in your relationships with yourself and others, by seeing the world through a different lens. You are not alone in your struggles, just an extraordinary soul in a human experience. Hi, I am Iris First Relations Coach. For the past 30 years, I passionately pursued the fields of psycho-spirituality, discovering what makes people tick and where they get stuck.