Podcasts about Enneagram

In this conversation, we close the villain series with the Invisible Destroyer—also known as The Nothing from The NeverEnding Story. This archetype represents the paralysis of possibility, where imagination and inspiration remain ungrounded, slowly eroding both the self and those around it. We explore how this villain shows up as addiction, avoidance, and endless questioning, and how its transformation into the Architect brings creativity into embodied form. Along the way, we unpack how this arc blends qualities of the Enneagram 5 and 6, why Radiohead may be its unofficial soundtrack, and what it really takes to move from disappearing into inertia to choosing life, creation, and presence. We close with a vivid “Am I the Asshole?” example that grounds these themes in relationship dynamics.Timestamps00:00 — Welcome, final villain in the series00:15 — Invisible Destroyer, aka The Nothing00:30 — Archetypal map: Enneagram 9, head center, separation wound, house of addiction01:20 — Why it feels like “a combo of the 5 and 6”: evasive expert + divisive immortal01:45 — The NeverEnding Story and the Nothing as lack of human attention and imagination03:00 — Paralyzed by possibility: endless questions without action04:10 — The wake of destruction from inaction and addiction04:40 — Successful Antagonist: The Questioner, delaying decisions forever06:10 — Wounded Child: The Overwhelmed, never big enough to handle life07:00 — Covert Form: The Addict, disappearing through escapism08:10 — Hero: The Embodied, choosing incarnation, creation, and presence (with pleasure as a pathway)09:20 — Legend: The Architect, building grounded worlds from imagination10:00 — Why this arc belongs at the end of the villain cycle: outward, complex, foundational10:45 — Real-life dynamics: undervaluing presence and its destructive impact on relationships11:30 — AITA case study: birthday dinner, avoidance, blocking, and the Nothing's invisibility wound13:30 — Radiohead soundtrack: How to Disappear Completely, Lotus Flower, and the addictive undertones of disappearing17:00 — Closing thoughts: start with villains 1–6 before tackling the complexity of 7–9The arc at a glancePinnacle Villain: Invisible Destroyer (The Nothing) — Inspiration ungrounded, inertia that consumes.Successful Antagonist: The Questioner — Delays action indefinitely by demanding more certainty.Wounded Child: The Overwhelmed — Believes they can never be big enough to handle life.Covert Form: The Addict — Escapes through substances or compulsions, invisibly eroding relationships.Hero: The Embodied — Chooses presence, incarnation, creativity, and embodied pleasure.Legend: The Architect — Builds tangible worlds from imagination and dreams.Key ideas and languageThe Nothing: Inaction as destruction; the void left when imagination is unused.Addiction as covert destruction: Disappearing through self-harm, leaving collateral damage.Paralysis of possibility: Asking without acting, researching without deciding.Presence as medicine: Recognizing that showing up, even imperfectly, matters.Imagination grounded: Dreams are valuable only when incarnated into lived form.Practices for listenersPleasure as embodimentUse sexual or sensual pleasure as a direct route into your body.Notice how aliveness shifts when you commit to being present in sensation.The small action rulePick one tiny step toward creation daily, even if imperfect.Doing badly is better than not doing at all.Name the overwhelmWrite down three things you cannot do right now.Then choose one thing you can do and act on it.Reclaim visibilityAsk yourself: “Where am I pretending my presence doesn't matter?”Practice showing up where you assume no one cares.Case study insightsBirthday dinner scenario: Downplaying one's presence leads to relational collapse. The Invisible Destroyer thinks, “It doesn't matter if I'm there,” but others feel abandoned. Repair requires recognizing that presence itself carries value.Pull quotes“When imagination is left fallow, the Nothing takes over.”“Addiction is the covert face of disappearance.”“The Architect builds worlds. The Invisible Destroyer erases them by never beginning.”GlossaryHead Center: Pressure for inspiration; linked to Enneagram 9 and separation wound.Paralysis of possibility: An endless loop of questions that prevents movement.Architect: The Legend who incarnates dreams into grounded creation.MentionsThe NeverEnding Story (book vs. film) and the Childlike Empress's need for a new name.Radiohead songs: How to Disappear Completely and Lotus Flower as archetypal expressions.Where the Heart Is (film reference) for addiction and self-directed harm.Resources and next stepsTry the Inner Villain quiz to identify where you sit with this arc.Revisit earlier villains (1–6) before tackling the 7–9 arcs for deeper clarity.Explore the Invisible Destroyer playlist, including Radiohead's catalog, to feel the archetype somatically.CreditsHosts: Kristina Wiltsee and AnnaSeries: Inner Villain → Hero → LegendAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What makes a character unforgettable? It's not just quirks or dialogue. It's personality. Your characters' personalities shape their arcs, influence their voices, drive their goals, and and connect plot and theme into a cohesive whole. In this episode, we'll explore why personality is the secret ingredient to compelling storytelling and how you can use it to create characters who resonate with readers long after the final page. You'll Learn: 3 reasons personality is the foundation of great characters 4 ways personality drives storytelling (arc, voice, conflict, theme) 10 practical tips for weaving personality into your plot, dialogue, and arcs How to use tools like the Enneagram and MBTI to stress-test your character development Whether you're outlining your next novel or revising a draft, this episode will help you unlock deeper, more authentic storytelling through the lens of personality.

⁠Today we talk about AI and the dangers of losing human connection with a dear colleague and friend, Amy Wicks (Simply Wholehearted outreach and podcast), who many of our listeners know as an Enneagram coach and is also an Enneagram & Marriage Certified Coach as well! We're starting a second AI conversation (listen to the first here) which will will continue of how AI is changing our culture and lightening speed and what we can all begin to do about it. Do not use AI to get the skinny on this pod and miss this chance to engage your (actual) brain, heart, and body with us, as we dive deep together to at least somewhat untangle ourselves from the AI web that has befallen our culture. Watch on YouTube! Today we talk about AI and the dangers of losing human connection with a dear colleague and friend, Amy Wicks (Simply Wholehearted outreach and podcast), who many of our listeners know as an Enneagram coach and is also an Enneagram & Marriage Certified Coach as well! We're starting a second AI conversation (listen to the first here: https://podcasts.apple.com/jp/podcast/ai-in-your-marriage-for-better-or-for-worse/id1493137938?i=1000710264550&l=en-US) which will will continue of how AI is changing our culture and lightening speed and what we can all begin to do about it. Do not use AI to get the skinny on this pod and miss this chance to engage your (actual) brain, heart, and body with us, as we dive deep together to at least somewhat untangle ourselves from the AI web that has befallen our culture. Watch on YouTube! Listen to/watch Amy Wicks at Wholehearted! https://www.simplywholehearted.com/ and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/simply-wholehearted/id1216920050 Sign up for the Washington Post AI Global Summit below and see other research pieces for this episode: https://www.washingtonpost.com/washington-post-live/global-ai-summit-2025/Read referenced articles on AI here!https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2025/04/03/artificial-intelligence-in-daily-life-views-and-experiences/ https://www.nu.edu/blog/ai-statistics-trends/ https://builtin.com/artificial-intelligence/risks-of-artificial-intelligence dangers https://www.unicef.org/innocenti/generative-ai-risks-and-opportunities-children https://techcrunch.com/2025/07/21/72-of-u-s-teens-have-used-ai-companions-study-finds/ Leave Christa a podcast question anonymously by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of Great Practice, Great Life, Steve Riley welcomes Susan Drumm—a Harvard-trained lawyer, bestselling author of The Leader's Playlist, and leadership advisor whose path from law to acting to consulting shaped her approach to leadership. Susan shows how to lead with purpose by connecting music, neuroscience, and personal growth. Her eclectic career taught her the power of reinvention. Today she helps leaders uncover blind spots, disrupt limiting patterns, and embrace cognitive diversity, enabling purposeful leadership in business and life. Susan shares how music can shift emotional states, rewire the brain, and help leaders stay grounded in high-pressure moments such as client meetings or trials. She explains why processing negative emotions is essential and how reframing them—using tools like music—can turn challenges into opportunities for growth. Listeners will hear vivid stories, like how Bruno Mars' 24K Magic helped her release resentment and reclaim her confidence. You'll also learn how her use of the Enneagram can help uncover leadership “superpowers” and strengthen team dynamics. This conversation is a fresh reminder that true leadership is more than strategy. It's about how you show up, connect with others, and lead with purpose every day. In this episode, you will hear: Susan Drumm's unique journey from law to leadership advising, integrating music and neuroscience  Importance of pattern recognition and cognitive diversity in enhancing leadership and team dynamics  Music as a transformative tool for shifting emotional states and breaking free from negative patterns  Creating empowering playlists to promote emotional resilience and personal growth  Leveraging tools like the Enneagram to identify blind spots and improve decision-making  Using music to consciously foster freedom, connection, and playfulness in leadership  Advice and resources for using music to enhance leadership skills and personal development  Subscribe & Review Never miss an episode. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube. ⭐Like what you hear? A quick review helps more people find the show.⭐ Supporting Resources: Subscribe to the Atticus Newsletter: atticusadvantage.com/newsletter Susan Drumm: susandrumm.com Meritage Leadership Development: meritageleadership.com The Enlightened Executive Podcast: susandrumm.com/podcast Leadership Superpower & Roadblock Assessment (Free Quiz on SusanDrumm.com): meritageleadership.com/quiz The Leader's Playlist Masterclass: susandrumm.com/masterclass Susan's Enneagram Applied Program: susandrumm.kartra.com/page/Join-EnneagramApplied *get 20% off Susan's Enneagram Applied course with code 20OFFEA Susan's social media platforms: x.com/DrummLeadership www.instagram.com/drummleadership www.linkedin.com/in/susan-drumm-bb09732 www.facebook.com/drummleadership www.youtube.com/@susandrumm Benson Boone: www.youtube.com/watch?v=jP2eiap41o8 The Summit: atticussummit.com Music moves brain to pay attention, Stanford study https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2007/07/music-moves-brain-to-pay-attention-stanford-study-finds Music doesn't just evoke memories — it can also change how we remember the past: study https://nypost.com/2024/12/22/lifestyle/music-can-change-how-we-remember-the-past-psychology-researcher-says/ Music's power over our brains https://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/11/news-music-power The effects of music on brain plasticity https://myneuronews.com/2025/04/27/the-effects-of-music-on-brain-plasticity/ Listening to music lights up the whole brain https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/12/111205081731.htm If there's a topic you would like us to cover on an upcoming episode, please email us at steve.riley@atticusadvantage.com. Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

College life can be nonstop, and it's easy to feel drained without really knowing why. In this episode, we explore how different Enneagram types naturally recharge—and why recognizing your unique energy boosters can make a big difference in how you show up for school, relationships, and yourself. These aren't generic self-care tips. We're diving into the specific ways each type finds renewal, based on what truly motivates them. You'll also learn how understanding these differences can help you navigate friendships, roommates, and dating in healthier ways. Because what energizes you might totally drain someone else—and that's okay. When we honor those differences, we give ourselves (and others) permission to rest in ways that actually work.Don't forget to check out our Instagram to see exclusive content! @themulemindset

This week, we explore the art of listening and the complexities of human personality through the lens of the Enneagram with Emily Kasriel, an award-winning journalist, executive coach, and author of the new book, Deep Listening: Transform Your Relationships with Family, Friends, and Foes. Emily shares her journey of self-awareness and the importance of deep listening in our everyday interactions. She discusses her experiences at the BBC, the challenges of listening in high-stakes situations, and the powerful eight-step approach to deep listening outlined in her book. Discover how to create psychological safety in conversations, the significance of being present, and the value of curiosity in understanding others. We also examine the nuances of the Enneagram, helping listeners discern their personality types and how they can enhance their listening skills. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or a seasoned enthusiast, this episode is packed with insights that can transform your relationships and deepen your understanding of yourself and others. Key Highlights: The concept of deep listening and its importance in today's world The eight-step process for effective deep listening Personal anecdotes and reflections on self-awareness The interplay between personality types and listening styles Don't forget to grab a copy of Emily's book, Deep Listening, and join the conversation about how we can all become better listeners! Subscribe to Typology for more insights on personality and relationships!

Transform your marriage by understanding how the stories you tell about your partner's Enneagram type literally create your relationship reality. Marriage coach Christa dives deep into the psychology of narrative and reveals how negative internal stories become self-fulfilling prophecies that either invite growth or trigger defensiveness in your spouse. Discover the neuroscience behind why focusing on your partner's growth edges blinds you to their gifts, and learn the "both/and" approach that separates challenging behaviors from core identity. Explore how every type's greatest strength and biggest struggle are intrinsically connected, why defensive responses actually prove negative narratives "right," and how shifting your internal narrative changes your partner's capacity to show up differently. Master the art of holding both truth and grace simultaneously - acknowledging real growth areas while honoring the positive intentions behind difficult behaviors. Essential listening for couples ready to move beyond toxic storytelling patterns and create narratives that see their partner's highest potential while maintaining healthy accountability. Get healthy together as a couple this Fall! Begin your personal healing journey in the Enneagram Relationship Intensive with Christa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave Christa a podcast question anonymously by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you ever think, “Why do I keep doing this?” You know it's not working, but you're stuck on autopilot. Here's the truth: most leaders don't fail because of lack of skill or knowledge. They get derailed by lack of self-awareness. In this episode, Jenn shares a story of how laughter in the wrong moment nearly sabotaged her leadership, and what it took to see the blind spot. You'll discover why self-awareness isn't about beating yourself up but about ruthless honesty and radical compassion. Plus, how the Enneagram helps reveal the hidden motivations that keep you repeating patterns you can't see. Because without self-awareness, trust unravels, communication falters, and joy erodes. But when you uncover your blind spots, you can lead with clarity and choose joy on purpose. Here's What's in the Episode 2:09 The feedback that changed Jenn's leadership. 05:11 The surprising research on how few leaders are truly self-aware. 07:15 Why your personality can, “drive the bus” if you're not paying attention. 08:49 How the Enneagram reveals your hidden motivations and blind spots. 13:45 The difference between using personality tools for growth versus excuses. 14:48 A free resource to start uncovering your motivations: Why Do I Keep Doing This? Key Takeaway Self-awareness in leadership is the #1 predictor of success, and the Enneagram helps uncover blind spots that sabotage communication and culture. About the Host: Jenn Whitmer Jenn is an international keynote speaker, leadership consultant, and the founder of Joyosity™, helping leaders create positive, profitable cultures through connection, curiosity, and joy. With a background in communication, conflict resolution, and team dynamics, Jenn helps leaders and organizations navigate complex people challenges, reduce burnout, and build flourishing workplaces. Her insights have resonated with audiences worldwide, blending real-world leadership expertise, engaging storytelling, and a dash of humor to make the hard stuff easier. Whether on stage, in workshops, or with coaching clients, Jenn equips leaders with the tools they need to solve conflict, cultivate communication, and lead with purpose. Her upcoming book Joyosity hits shelves fall 2025, offering leaders a fresh approach to joy at work that builds real results. Resources & Links: Preorder Joyosity: Joyosity: How to Cultivate Intense Happiness in Work & Life (Even If Things Are What They Are) Joy isn't fluff — it's fierce strategy. This book gives leaders the tools to turn exhaustion into resilience and build cultures where work is a joy, people are whole, and organizations flourish. Free 99 Steps: Why Do I Keep Doing This? Enneagram Motivations → A quick guide to the five motivations that drive your quirks — and how to flip the script. Ready to Make a Plan: Joyosity™ Jumpstart → Get crystal clear on what you want, what's in the way, and how to move forward with traction. Starting the Journey: Enneagram Navigator → Stop guessing your type. In this 1:1 session, get clarity on your motivations and blind spots. Ready to Dive In: Joyosity™ Intensive → A one-day transformative experience to realign with your values and build a practical plan for joyful leadership. A Party for More: Bring Jenn & the Joy to Speak → Bring the spark (not just the spark notes!) to your whole team with contagious joy, practical tools, and plenty of laughter. Loved this episode? Rate, review, and share with a fellow leader who's ready to ditch the drama and lead with more joy, curiosity, and clarity.

What does it mean to be a quiet leader, and how does the Enneagram help us understand that role more deeply?In this episode of Strength in Numbers, I'm setting the stage for our new series: Quiet Leaders & the Enneagram. Over the next nine weeks, we'll explore how each Enneagram type expresses quiet leadership: the strengths, the blind spots, and the growth opportunities.You'll hear why quiet leaders are often underestimated but powerfully influential, and how the Enneagram can give you the language and courage to step into your leadership with confidence.Whether you're leading a team, a family, a classroom, or a community, this series will help you see your unique impact more clearly.✨ What you'll learn in this episode:Why quiet leadership matters more than everHow the Enneagram helps uncover your influenceWhat you can expect in the upcoming type-by-type episodesA simple journal prompt to reflect on your own quiet leadershipBecause leadership doesn't always look like the loudest voice in the room. Sometimes it looks like steady presence, deep listening, and authentic influence.And don't forget—there's strength in numbers!Not sure of your enneagram type yet? Take my assessment here. Scroll down to "Discover Your Type"This week's journaling prompt: As you think about your own leadership, where do you see your quiet influence showing up most clearly? And where do you notice yourself holding back? How might the Enneagram give you language or courage to step into leadership in a way that feels true to who you are?Join me, as I help host an enneagram retreat right here in my backyard!

In this episode, I'm joined by Christa Jean Jones, an Enneagram 3 and coach who helps teachers unlock new possibilities beyond the classroom. Christa supports educators in building extra income through Teachers Pay Teachers and guides those ready to pivot into fulfilling new careers. We dive into her journey as a Type 3, exploring identity, achievement, and what it really means to find worth beyond accomplishments. If you're a teacher craving change—or simply curious about how the Enneagram shapes ambition—this conversation will inspire and challenge you. Find Christ here: on Instagram , or LinkedIn, or Find more about her work here Try the Free Enneagram Quiz!!!! Message me on Instagram @Angie.Alchemist and ask all your Enneagram questions! OR email me at angiealchemy@gmail.com Check out more at AngieAlchemist.com

So many autistic and ADHD women find themselves stuck in the same cycle: trying program after program, searching for the one that will finally “fix” the burnout, overwhelm, and constant self-doubt. But what if the problem isn't you—it's that most programs are too surface-level, never addressing your unique needs, identity, and lived experience? In this episode of Beyond Chronic Burnout, Michelle, a participant in the UnVeiling Method's Accelerate Membership, shares her journey from anxiety, self-criticism, and feeling lost… to discovering peace, gratitude, and a deep connection to her authentic autistic/ADHD self. Through journaling, group support, and tools like the Enneagram, Harmony Cycle, and Rest Modules, Michelle learned how to: Ask herself meaningful questions that brought clarityRecognize her true needs (without guilt)Release the pressure of “fixing” herselfEmbrace her neurodivergent identity with compassionHer story is proof: you don't have to keep guessing, masking, or settling for burnout. ✨

Dr. Molly sayyyyyyyyys, you're gonna love this podcast! Welcome Dr. Molly Brinkmann to The Journey! Enneagram 8, married to an enneagram 6 (Ryan), mother, veterinarian, and social media bad ass. We get a good amount of work talk in, co-parenting as an 8 and a 6, the anxiety of not only sixes, but all numbers, and more. Also a special spot appearance from fellow 8, Joey Schewee. To learn more about Molly, be sure and give her instagram account a follow, @drmollysays and check out The Dr. Molly Says Podcast! It is time to hear from Enneagram 8 listeners for a new episode of Others On The Journey! Suzanne and Molly talk about what betrayal means to them and to Eights. We would like to hear from our Enneagram 8 listeners on what betrayal means to you, and if you can give some examples. Visit theenneagramjourney.com/contact and leave a voicemail with your response for our next Others On The Journey podcast episode. Heck, this podcast is solitary work that we cannot do alone! PLUG TIME When Working Together Doesn't Work with Joey Schewee Saturday, September 27 / 9:00 am - 4:00 pm The Micah Center in Dallas or join Online Join consultant and Enneagram Theorist, Joey Schewee of @enneagramparents, and co-facilitator of The Enneagram For The Modern World Cohort, ahead of the release of her book, When Working Together Doesn't Work: An Enneagram Guide to Productive Relationships with Coworkers, for a day of Enneagram exploration. Joey will guide participants through her impactful take on triads, stances, and the core of her unique body of work: processing centers. Whether you are new to the Enneagram or well-versed in this wisdom, this workshop is thoughtfully designed to give all participants takeaways that are immediately and exponentially applicable. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER IN PERSON OR ONLINE Pre-order your copy of When Working Together Doesn't Work here on Amazon   TODAY'S INTRO Anxiety by Doechii Mean Girls (Paramount Pictures, 2004) Talladega Nights: The Ballad of Ricky Bobby (Columbia Pictures, 2006)

We are so excited about this new series! It is something we wanted to talk about for a really long time. It's something we talk about in our offices with kids and families all the time in our parent consultations.  One of the single biggest obstacles when growing up can be not knowing or understanding our personality. Understanding your personality can change the game in parenting and in early development. Parenting Personalities is a series for understanding more of yourself, understanding your kids personalities. We will do a deep dive into Enneagram numbers, Birth order, Extroverts/ Introverts and Attachment styles in this series and a host of other surprises. Experience Growth and Grace individually and growth and grace for the entire family. . . . . . .  ⁠Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience⁠ ⁠Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage⁠⁠ More Links: Grab your tickets today for the⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Raising Capable Kids Conference⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with David Thomas, Sissy Goff and special guests! Sign up to receive the⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠monthly newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠raisingboysandgirls.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . .  If you would like to partner with Raising Boys and Girls as a podcast sponsor, fill out our⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Advertise with us⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ form. A special thank you to our sponsors: OUR PLACE: Stop cooking with toxic cookware, and upgrade to Our Place today. Visit fromourplace.com/RBG and use code RBG for 10% off sitewide.  HARBOR: Restore your peace of mind with Harbor: the only baby monitor designed to never fail you. Plus, Harbor has a special deal for listeners, use code RBG or go to Harbor.co/RBG for $50 off and experience the security every parent deserves. That's H-A-R-B-O-R dot co slash RBG. HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/RBG. QUINCE: Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to ⁠Quince.com/rbg⁠ for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.  THRIVE MARKET: Skip the junk without overspending. Head over to ⁠ThriveMarket.com/rbg⁠ to get 30% off your first order and a FREE $60 gift.  NIV APPLICATION BIBLE: Save an additional 10% on any NIV Application Bible and NIV Application Commentary Resources by visiting FAITHGATEWAY.COM/NIVAB and using promo code RBG. BOLL & BRANCH: Feel the difference an extraordinary night's sleep can make with Boll & Branch. Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first set of sheets at BollAndBranch dot com slash RAISING. That's Boll and Branch, b-o-l-l-a-n-d branch dot com slash RAISING to save 15% and unlock free shipping. Exclusions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We explore the Righteous Bully archetype in the Inner Villain system, mapped to Enneagram 8 and the Ajna (third-eye) center. This villain believes their opinion is gospel, weaponises “truth,” and enforces righteousness at any cost. We track the full arc: Successful Antagonist (the Fixer), Wounded Child (the Pathogen), Covert Form (the Sacrificial), Hero (the Surrendered), and Legend (the Channeler). Along the way, we unpack how this shows up in daily life, why Thanos is the cinematic mascot, and how to tell the difference between sacrificing your voice and surrendering to something larger than yourself. Two “Am I the Asshole” scenarios help ground the dynamics in real relationships.Timestamps00:00 — Banter and setup, villain 8 overview01:00 — Core question: “Have you ever hurt someone by ‘just being honest'?”01:15 — Centers and types: Ajna center, Enneagram 8 “Challenger/Enforcer”02:00 — The everyday Righteous Bully: opinions as law, triangulation, blanket statements02:30 — Straw story: moral superiority, environmental righteousness as enforcement04:45 — Why Thanos fits the archetype: opinion as solution, the Snap as “righteous fix,” unintended consequences07:00 — Successful Antagonist: the Fixer, “I told you so” as identity07:50 — Wounded Child: the Pathogen, blamed for everything, fights to avoid being the problem again08:45 — Covert Form: the Sacrificial, peacekeeping by self-erasure in groups and teams10:50 — Hero: the Surrendered, releasing attachment to being right and aligning with group coherence12:40 — Legend: the Channeler, becoming a vessel for greater wisdom rather than a mouthpiece for self13:30 — Somatic tell: elation and lightness vs heaviness when it's true surrender14:50 — Vehicle note: practicing healthy selfishness, daily give-and-take, not grand gestures15:30 — AITA case 1: wedding budget conflict, opinion used as a weapon19:00 — AITA case 2: Lego Millennium Falcon, destruction as moral enforcement, shared-home boundaries22:30 — Reflections: how both sides can slip into righteousness and how to course-correctThe arc at a glancePinnacle Villain: Righteous Bully — Opinion as law, truth as a weapon, moral superiority.Successful Antagonist: The Fixer — Solves you without consent, resents not being followed.Wounded Child: The Pathogen — Blamed for everything, over-responsible, braced for attack.Covert Form: The Sacrificial — Abandons their view to avoid conflict, self-bullying through silence.Hero: The Surrendered — Releases attachment to being right, aligns with a larger coherence.Legend: The Channeler — Becomes a clear instrument for wisdom, not a megaphone for ego.Key ideas and languageWeaponised honesty: “I'm just being honest” used to control or shame.Ajna fixation: overvaluing thinking and opinion as ultimate truth.Righteousness vs justice: righteousness centers the self's opinion, justice centers reality, repair, and relationship.Surrender vs sacrifice: sacrifice abandons self to avoid conflict; surrender chooses alignment and feels relieving, not heavy.Practices for listenersThree-beat check before you “tell it like it is”What is my intention, really.Do I have consent to offer this.Can I state this as a perspective rather than a fact.Somatic truth testSay the proposed action aloud and notice your body.Surrender tends to feel lighter, more spacious. Sacrifice feels heavy, collapsed, or resentful.Channel, don't bulldozeWrite the guidance you think you are “channeling.”Circle what is verifiable vs interpretive.If it still feels true after separating opinion from observation, offer it with permission and choice.Daily take-and-giveOne small “take” for yourself each day, not a big, infrequent blow-up. Nap, boundary, five-minute walk, saying no.Spotting the Righteous Bully in the wildBig blanket statements delivered as moral verdicts.Triangulation: “Everyone thinks you're not nice.”Conditional “protection”: “I didn't call you out because you do good work.”Destroying or undermining what others love to make a point.Case study insightsWedding budget fight: Opinion leveraged as moral judgment (“greedy,” “rude”) rather than collaborative planning. The counter-move is to invite shared values, constraints, and consented trade-offs.Lego destruction: Moral enforcement by force. The needed boundary is joint in a shared home, with consequence that protects relationship to the child and to each partner's autonomy.Reflection promptsWhere have I called control “honesty.”When have I swallowed my voice and called it surrender.What does elation feel like in my body, and when did I last feel it while choosing alignment.What is one small daily “take” that would keep me out of explosive righteousness.Pull quotes“The Righteous Bully holds their opinion as gospel. The Channeler becomes a vessel for something larger.”“Sacrifice abandons yourself. Surrender aligns yourself.”GlossaryAjna center: The mental/third-eye hub where opinions and interpretations crystallise.Enneagram 8: Challenger/Enforcer, intensity toward truth, control, and protection.Triangulation: Bringing a third party's supposed view to pressure someone into compliance.MentionsThanos in Avengers: Infinity War and Endgame, as an exemplar of opinion enforced as salvation.Group-work dynamics where covert sacrifice masquerades as peacekeeping.Resources and next stepsTake the Inner Villain quiz to locate your current arc, then revisit this episode with your results for practical application.Try the “Middle Path” meditation to feel the somatic difference between sacrifice and surrender.CreditsHost: Kristina Wiltsee, with AnnaSeries: Inner Villain → Hero → LegendAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

September invites fresh structure and, if we're not careful, fresh burnout. In this conversation, licensed professional counselor and Enneagram coach Becky Lauridsen reframes self-care as protection (not pampering) and opens the door to brain health with neurofeedback. From postpartum anxiety and over-functioning to rodeo performance and concussion recovery, we explore how to build capacity on purpose, before the crash out.Becky shares the origin story of IOWEME (“I owe me”), a preventative, accessible, guilt-free self-care model born from her own burnout and postpartum anxiety. We unpack the crucial difference between self-indulgence (instant relief, little ROI) and true self-care (sometimes uncomfortable, always compounding). We also trade the myth of work–life balance for work–life harmony: a “pleasing arrangement of parts” calibrated to your actual rhythms (hello, 5:30am clarity!).Then Becky takes us into ROAM (Rodeo Optimization and Mindset) and explains low-energy neurofeedback as a practical path to brain health. Think “parking brake off” for your frontal lobe: better regulation, focus, and recovery after high-intensity performance (for athletes and their horses). If you're craving capacity that's truly sustainable, this one's for you.Listen in for …The self-care vs. self-indulgence distinction, and why protection beats pampering.The IOWEME model: preventative, accessible, and simple mental-health support.Work/life harmony (not balance): designing a “pleasing arrangement of parts.”The “check-engine light” for burnout (irritability over the stray socks = signal).Neurofeedback 101: electrical vs. chemical brain systems, suppression, and flexibility.The “parking brake” metaphor: why so many high-capacity women feel stuck in Delta.Performance & recovery for rodeo athletes, and why brain care must match body care.The pony case study (!) and what equine sessions revealed about regulation.TL;DR (Minute by Minute)00:00 “Conversations” > “episodes” + why listener feedback matters.01:11 Meet Becky: LPC, EMDR, Enneagram coach, LENS neurofeedback provider.06:17 Postpartum anxiety, burnout, and the wake-up call: it starts with me.10:01 IOWEME origin: from reactive therapy culture to preventative care.12:32 Responsibility & boundaries: self-care as non-negotiable, not “extra.”16:00 Self-indulgence vs self-care (instant relief vs lasting effect).18:54 “Outweigh the indulgence”: a practical rule that still leaves room for fun.23:44 Non-negotiable habits: why early-morning quiet time compounds.27:34 Work/life harmony > balance; design for your real energy ebb and flow.31:47 ROAM begins: from rodeo roots to neurofeedback certification.35:49 Neurofeedback explained: amplitude, frequency, suppression.38:59 The parking brake brain: lifting Delta lock for flexible regulation.41:01 Equine neurofeedback: the pony case and practical behavior change.43:35 Head trauma, concussions, CTE risk, and recovery as standard practice.47:26 Where to find Becky + what's next.Where to Go From HereQuestion for you: When the day feels heavy, which shows up first: self-indulgence or true self-care? Screenshot and tag @cowgirlsovercoffee with your answer so we can crowdsource smart strategies that actually stick.The FREE Routine Playbook. Your step-by-step for routines that protect capacity (so consistency can finally kick in!). Get Yours HereJoin the Cowgirls Over Coffee Lifetime Membership. Where conversation, accountability, and routines become infrastructure....

SummaryEver had a win that left you feeling kind of empty—or a failure that made you want to quit? I've been there too, friend. In this episode, I'm sharing how Father's been using both my wins and my flops as training ground. You'll hear how to celebrate without camping out, how to turn failures into fertilizer, and how to aim for the real summit—becoming more like Jesus in every season of business and life.TakeawaysWins are fuel stations, not finish lines.Failure provides data for your next faithful step.Father uses both to shape you for greater capacity.Dopamine can keep you replaying the same level—watch for that loop.David's lion and bear prepared him for Goliath; Goliath wasn't the summit either.Romans 8:28–29 reframes outcomes around formation into Christ's image.Real success is the woman you're becoming as you build.Practical journaling turns “flops” into growth plans.Celebrate boldly, then move forward.Greater glory equals greater Christ-likeness in how you serve.Quotes“Celebrate the win—just don't set up camp on it.”“Failure isn't a verdict; it's fertilizer.”“The summit isn't a bigger number. It's greater Christ-likeness.”Courageous ActionThis week, grab your journal and walk through these three prompts:Celebrate a Win – Write down one recent victory, thank Father for it, and note the next step it's preparing you for.Reframe a Flop – Pick one thing that didn't go the way you hoped. Instead of labeling it wasted, write down one lesson you can carry forward.Check the Reflection – Ask, “Where am I becoming more like Christ in this season?” and, “Where do I want to grow next?” Write one small step to help you grow in that area.Chapters00:08 Wins, flops, and “now what?”02:01 Series recap + today's focus04:20 Failure story: Courageous Club 1.006:46 Win story: highest-paying client09:13 Scripture: 2 Corinthians 3:1811:39 Truth #1: Celebrate, but don't camp16:26 Dopamine loop + examples18:33 Truth #2: Wins & failures prepare you23:29 Romans 8:28–29 + David25:44 Truth #3: Greater glory = Christ-likeness33:30 Courageous Action + journalingWho Am I?Heather Bunch – The Courageous CoachCertified life & Enneagram coach, speaker, author of Hello Courageous. I help Christian women entrepreneurs grow themselves so they can grow their business and fulfill their God-given purpose. I also help coaches/speakers/authors get their ideas into signature systems & books.Links:

In this episode, Joel and Antonia unpack a key insight from Rick Rubin: “Just because something is out of your control doesn't mean it's opposed to you.” They explore how this mindset shift impacts creativity, relationships, and personal growth, through the lens of personality type, the Enneagram, and Jungian functions.    https://personalityhacker.com 

Send us a textThe fall season represents an ongoing shift for our family, and I imagine you, too, are facing a season of letting go or establishing new routines.While facing these shifts, short breath prayers can guide you through the changes with peace, grace, and trust in God's perfect plan. Today, I'm sharing nine breath prayers and a brief passage of Scripture for eachEnneagram type.RESOURCES FOR YOU: Book a High-Value Clarity Call with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Wholehearted Enneagram Coachinghttps://bit.ly/SWcoachingcollectiveEnnea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram(free course + printables)https://bit.ly/Enneagram101GuideThe Real History of the Enneagram Course(use code AMY for 40% OFF)https://bit.ly/EnneagramHistoryShould Christians Use the Enneagram? (Amy's book)https://amzn.to/3VB9PrxConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

Bill and Kristi Gaultiere discovered that before they could truly empathize with each other in marriage, they first needed to experience God's deep empathy for them. In this conversation, the Type 1 and Type 2 couple share how understanding their different Enneagram approaches to apologies and empathy transformed their relationship. They discuss practical calming exercises, breaking cycles of anger, and how each Enneagram type naturally blocks empathy. Bill and Kristi talk about their new book "Deeply Loved: Receiving and Reflecting God's Great Empathy for You" and share type-specific tools for building marriages where authentic connection feels safer than emotional withdrawal. Watch here on YouTube! "Reading this book is like sitting with close friends who truly get what you're going through."--Dr. Tim Clinton, president of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) "Bill and Kristi Gaultiere have provided an oasis of care in the 'empathy desert.'"--John Ortberg, teacher at BecomeNew; author of Steps Next Steps: Get the brand new book by the Gaultiere Deepy Loved right here: https://a.co/d/iGXog7V Find everything you need from Bill and Kristi here at Soul Shepherding https://www.soulshepherding.org/ Find Soul Shepherding at Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/?hl=en Come on retreat with them! https://www.soulshepherding.org/institute/ Get healthy together as a couple this Fall! Begin your personal healing journey in the Enneagram Relationship Intensive with Christa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave Christa a podcast question anonymously by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hear how Jordan Ziemer and Kaitlin Paonessa made bold career pivots into school PR — and discover what finally made their work feel truly meaningful. Their paths are different, but their purpose is shared.Feeling overwhelmed or unsure in your role? You're not alone. This honest convo dives into burnout, impostor syndrome, and how to find support (even if you're a team of one).Packed with real talk and ready-to-use advice: Learn how to be coachable, set boundaries, and ask the right questions before tearing anything down — literally or figuratively.You'll leave with fresh inspiration and specific tools — like how your Enneagram type might shape your PR style, why celebrations matter most on social, and how to build your professional community.SPECIAL GUESTSDr. Jordan ZiemerExecutive Director of CommunicationsAbilene ISD, TexasEmail: jordan.ziemer@abileneisd.org X: @jordanziemerLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordanziemer/  Kaitlin PaonessaAssistant Director of CommunicationsAbilene ISD, TexasEmail: kaitlin.paonessa@abileneisd.org LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kpaonessa/ Website: https://www.abileneisd.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abileneisd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abileneisd LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/abileneisd YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@abileneisdtx USEFUL INFORMATIONOrder your copy of my book Social Media for Schools: Proven Storytelling Strategies & Ideas to Celebrate Your Students & Staff - While Keeping Your Sanity now!Interested in our membership program? Learn more here: https://socialschool4edu.com/MORE RESOURCESFree Video Training: Learn the simple secrets behind social media for K12 schools!Sign up for our free e-newsletter - click herewww.SocialSchool4EDU.com

Richard Gearhart and Elizabeth Gearhart, co-hosts of Passage to Profit Show have this discussion with leadership and scaling coach Kenny Lange, Jen Rafferty from Empowered Educator and Whitney Dueñas Richardson from Global Sprouts.      In this episode, leadership and scaling coach Kenny Lange, reveals why so many founders unknowingly sacrifice their soul, their people, and their purpose in the pursuit of growth—and how to avoid it. If you've ever felt like success requires becoming someone you're not, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to lead differently. Read more at: https://kennylange.com/     Jen Rafferty is the founder of Empowered Educator, a research-based professional development program dedicated to supporting teacher and school leader well-being. Empowered Educator focuses on the social and emotional well-being of adults in schools, leveraging concepts of mindset, emotional intelligence, and cognitive neuroscience. Read more at: https://empowerededucator.com/     Whitney Dueñas Richardson is the founder of Global Sprouts, a children's education brand with a focus on cultural learning, creativity, and language exposure. A multicultural mom with CHamoru and Dutch roots, Whitney built her business while navigating postpartum recovery, the loss of her home to Hurricane Helene, and the challenges of starting over from scratch. Read more at: https://www.globalsprouts.com/     Whether you're a seasoned entrepreneur, a startup, an inventor, an innovator, a small business or just starting your entrepreneurial journey, tune into Passage to Profit Show for compelling discussions, real-life examples, and expert advice on entrepreneurship, intellectual property, trademarks and more. Visit https://passagetoprofitshow.com/ for the latest updates and episodes. Chapters (00:00:00) - Starting a Business(00:00:30) - Passage to Profit(00:01:38) - What Was I Thinking?(00:07:05) - Tim Ferriss: Sacrificial Souls(00:11:34) - What's Your Most Challenging Leadership Situation?(00:16:01) - Hiring Processes: Design the Head and Fit It(00:17:34) - What Is The Secret to Scaling a Company?(00:19:15) - Is there a lot of simplification that's required in order to(00:21:12) - The Investment Value of Gold(00:22:14) - The Cruise Hotline(00:23:12) - Lead to Scale: How to Avoid Burnout(00:25:58) - The Enneagram: How to Lead With Self-awareness(00:31:49) - Intellectual Property News(00:34:11) - Kenny Lang on Netflix's Copyright Lawsuit(00:39:24) - Medguard CareWatch(00:42:07) - What's Happening in the Studio?(00:44:18) - Mayo Clinic's AI System to Identify Surgery Site Infections(00:46:19) - Empowered Educator(00:47:36) - How to Talk to Yourself About Burnout(00:52:34) - Burnout and the Regulation of the Nervous System(00:55:30) - How to Recover From Burnout Through Emotional Intelligence(00:58:48) - Teachers and the Future of AI(01:02:44) - The Right Way to Teach AI(01:04:06) - Whitney Duanes Richardson on Global Sprouts(01:07:21) - Have You Got What it Takes to Teach Culture?(01:11:11) - Passage to Profit(01:12:23) - Passage to Profit: A Mother's Phone(01:13:39) - Secret to Success: The Entrepreneurial Mind(01:14:55) - Richard Gearhart on Self-Care(01:16:46) - P2P

In this episode of Dynamic Pairings, Nicole (Enneagram 7) and Ana (Enneagram 2) share how their strengths create a powerful partnership. Nicole brings big-picture creativity, energy, and enthusiasm, constantly sparking new ideas and fresh approaches. Ana channels her natural focus, dependability, and desire to be helpful into making those ideas a reality through thoughtful execution and beautiful design. Together, they show how the supportive, service-oriented nature of an Enneagram 2 pairs seamlessly with the adventurous, visionary outlook of an Enneagram 7. Their collaboration proves how generosity, imagination, and follow-through combine to create meaningful results for the team and clients alike!

This week, Cara is talking with Erin Baute, a behavior change coach, certified Enneagram expert, and Business Witch alum who helps female entrepreneurs deconstruct the oppressive patterns holding them back. They discuss when to invest, the expensive lessons of entrepreneurship (like why you need to nail your messaging before you think about ads), and how to build a truly sustainable business that honors your nervous system and your values.Connect with Erin: WebsiteInstagramThe Feminist Business Framework:Tired of hustle culture? Learn how to build an ethical, impactful business that supports you without causing burnout. Join The Feminist Business Framework, a free, live Zoom workshop on October 7th and 8th from 11:00 AM - 12:30 PM PST / 2:00 PM - 3:30 PM EST. Book your space here. Business Witch The Course: This episode is brought to you by⁠⁠ Business Witch The Course⁠⁠Additional Resources: ⁠⁠Learn about working with me and subscribe for business tips.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Apply to be a 1:1 client.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram!⁠

About the Guest: Suzanne Stabile is an esteemed Enneagram teacher and author, widely recognized as an Enneagram master teacher and known as the Enneagram Godmother. With over 35 years of experience studying the Enneagram, Suzanne has authored several influential books including "The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery," "The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships," and "Journey Toward Wholeness." She is also the host of the acclaimed podcast, "The Enneagram Journey." Suzanne's work focuses on helping individuals discover personal growth and improve their relationships through a profound understanding of the Enneagram. Episode Summary: In this enlightening episode of Life After Kids, Drs. Brooke and Lynne sit down with Enneagram master teacher Suzanne Stabile to explore the intricate world of the Enneagram and its profound impact on midlife women and mothers dealing with the empty nest transition. A specialist in personality typology, Suzanne offers her vast wisdom and experience to help the audience understand their behavioral motivations, offering insights into each Enneagram type and how they shape a woman's journey into midlife. The rich discussion encompasses how understanding one's own Enneagram type can foster better self-awareness, deepen familial relationships, and guide mothers into a purposeful, fulfilling second chapter of life. Throughout the conversation, Suzanne delves into the distinct motivations and challenges faced by each Enneagram type, especially in the context of motherhood and self-discovery. Drawing on her extensive research, she details practical ways to identify and work with emotional defaults such as shame, fear, and anger. Suzanne expertly illustrates how these core emotions influence behavior and how tapping into Enneagram wisdom can transform self-awareness into a tool for growth, allowing women to embrace new roles and find relevance beyond parenting. The episode concludes with Suzanne sharing personal anecdotes and practical advice for women aiming to build stronger connections with themselves and their adult children. Key Takeaways: The Enneagram determines personality by motivation, not behavior, and understanding this can help women navigate midlife transitions and parenting adult children. Recognizing your dominant Enneagram number can enhance both personal growth and parenting strategies, allowing a nuanced understanding of family dynamics. Connecting with women from different generations extends perspective and wisdom, equipping mothers to better handle transitions in their lives and relationships. Embracing the idea of life phases as a 'second third' instead of a beginning of the end can reframe a midlife transition positively and hopefully. The Enneagram provides a framework to address the default emotions of shame, fear, and anger, supporting emotional balance and healthier relationships. Resources: Website: Life in the Trinity Ministry Instagram: @suzannestabile Facebook: EnneagramSuz Books by Suzanne Stabile: The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships Journey Toward Wholeness Additional Reading Recommended by Suzanne: "Consolations" by David Whyte "Ambiguous Loss" by Pauline Boss "The Myth of Closure" by Pauline Boss "Between Two Kingdoms" by Suleika Jaquad Discover the full depth of Enneagram insights and transformative guidance offered by Suzanne Stabile in this episode. Dive deeper into understanding yourself, your family, and how you navigate life's changes by listening to the entire conversation. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from Life After Kids. Timestamp Summary 0:00 Using the Enneagram to Rediscover Purpose in Midlife 2:56 Understanding Enneagram Motivations for Personal Growth and Parenting 8:12 Enneagram Insights on Parenting Styles and Challenges 14:38 Understanding Yourself Through Enneagram Enhances Relationships 18:59 Understanding Sevens and Parenting Without Assigning Enneagram Numbers 23:05 Understanding Enneagram Stances and Centers of Intelligence 28:14 Understanding Enneagram Types to Improve Parenting and Self-Awareness 34:17 Reframing Midlife as a New Beginning, Not an End 39:03 Understanding Enneagram Time Orientation in Relationships 41:16 The Enneagram's Role in Personal Growth and Parenting 50:26 Understanding Default Emotions Through the Lens of the Enneagram 56:00 Finding Unexpected Challenges in the Concept of Maturity 57:40 Exploring Emotions: Shame, Fear, and Anger in Personal Growth 59:52 Wisdom and Connection Across Generations in Parenting 1:07:00 Exploring Ambiguous Loss and the Enneagram's Impact on Life Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code AFTERKIDS to get UP TO $300 off! 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What happens when three of the most high-energy Enneagram types (Threes, Sevens, and Eights) work together? In this conversation with guest co-host Demetrius “D” Parker, we dig into the unique strengths and challenges of these assertive types, how they interact with each other, and the dynamics they create with other styles on a team. We also explore practical growth paths for each type, helping them channel their drive, enthusiasm, and power into stronger professional relationships and sustainable leadershipIf you happen to still be on your typing journey and stuck between two or all three of these types, be sure to check out the bonus episode where D and I talk about the similarities and key differences between these three to give you additional insight and reflection points as you narrow down your top type. Have a request for a future episode? Drop a text here!

Still wondering if you're a Type 3, 7, or 8 on the Enneagram? In this bonus conversation, co-host Demetrius “D” Parker (Type 3) and I (Type 7) break down the similarities and key differences between these high-energy types. From what “gut punch” clues reveal your true type to how instincts and personality expressions can look very different, this episode offers insights for anyone navigating their typing journey. Whether you identify with Type 3's drive to be outstanding, Type 7's need for excitement, or Type 8's push for power and control, you'll find practical reflections to help you clarify your type and better understand your strengths. Have a request for a future episode? Drop a text here!

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In this episode, Rhonda sits down with Stacey Wynn, MDiv, PCC to talk about the intersection of ✝️ faith,

Think living with roommates is tricky? Try adding Enneagram personalities into the mix! In this lighthearted episode, we're diving into the roommate red flags, habits, and hilarious quirks of each Enneagram type. From Type 1's label-maker obsession to Type 7's spontaneous living room dance parties, we're unpacking what each type is like to live with—and what might drive them up the wall.Whether you're hunting for the perfect housemate, navigating current roommate chaos, or just curious about your own cohabiting quirks, this episode is your guide to living in harmony (or at least with fewer awkward fridge confrontations).Don't forget to check out our Instagram for highlights of every episode! @themulemindset

In this week's episode of Typology, I sit down with Dr. Terence Lester—an Enneagram Eight, author of From Dropout to Doctorate, and the visionary founder of Love Beyond Walls. Terence's story is as powerful as it is inspiring. From his early years in Atlanta to leading a movement that uplifts those experiencing poverty and homelessness, his journey embodies both courage and compassion. Together, we explore what it means to be an Enneagram Eight in the trenches of community work—wrestling with control, burnout, and the temptation to over-function. Terence opens up about a devastating car accident that reshaped his sense of identity, his relationship with productivity, and ultimately, his capacity for gratitude. We also dive into the intersection of action and contemplation, the influence of Henri Nouwen on Terence's life, and the healing power of reconciliation in his own family story. Along the way, Terence reminds us that leadership isn't about posturing but about vulnerability, presence, and the willingness to walk alongside others in their pain. This conversation is an invitation to rethink how we serve, how we love, and how we grow. You'll walk away with profound insights about resilience, healing, and the transformative power of the Enneagram.       ABOUT OUR GUEST Dr. Terence Lester is a storyteller, public scholar, speaker, community activist and author of From Dropout to Doctorate. He is the founder and executive director of Love Beyond Walls, a nonprofit organization focused on raising awareness about poverty, homelessness and community mobilization. He serves as the director of public policy and social change and as a professor at Simmons College of Kentucky (HBCU). He received his PhD with a concentration in public policy and social change from Union Institute and University. Terence has authored four additional books with IVP, including one with his sixteen-year-old daughter, Zion, titled Zion Learns to See: Opening Our Eyes to Homelessness. The other titles include I See You: How Love Opens Our Eyes to Invisible People, When We Stand: The Power of Seeking Justice Together, and All God's Children: How Confronting Buried History Can Build Racial Solidarity.  Terence is known for nationwide campaigns that bring awareness to homelessness, poverty and economic inequality. His awareness campaigns have been featured on ML K50, CNN, Good Morning America, Essence, TEDx, TVONE, Creative Mornings, USA Today, NBC News, Black Enterprise, Rolling Out, Upworthy and more. These campaigns have been viewed by millions of people worldwide. Terence is happily married to his best friend, Cecilia, and they have two amazing children, Zion Joy and Terence II.  Learn more about Dr. Lester by visiting his website at www.terencelester.org or follow on social media at @imterencelester or @lovebeyondwalls. 

In this week's episode, Beatrice Chestnut and Uranio Paes sit down with Leslie McDaniel, founder of Hello, Personality.In this deep, heartwarming conversation, Leslie shares beautiful insights of her inner work with the Enneagram, as well as her outer work, leading others in self-discovery and growth journeys through the Enneagram practice.Learn more about her work in https://www.lesliemcdaniel.com/ Like learning about the Enneagram from Bea and Uranio? Join a community of Enneagram enthusiasts and participate in live monthly webinars and Q&As with Bea and Uranio. Sign up for a FREE trial of CP Online membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://learn.cpenneagram.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to discover which Enneagram type you could be? Visit our webpage ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enneagramcompass.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn about the Enneagram test they created, Enneagram Compass.Please subscribe and share this podcast with others. It will help us out a lot!Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChestnutPaesEnneagramAcademyFollow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/cpenneagramSign up for our newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://cpenneagram.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Questions? ⁠hello@cpenneagram.com

Type 1 goes to 7 in health and 4 in stressType 2 goes to 4 in health and 8 in stressType 3 goes to  6 in health and 9 in stressType 4 goes to 1 in health and 2 in stressType 5 goes to 8 in health and 7 in stressType 6 goes to 9 in health and 3 in stressType 7 goes to 5 in health and 1 in stressType 8 goes to 2 in health and 5 in stressType 9 goes to 3 in health and 6 in stressWe can all look to ways God is calling us to be more Christlike by understanding ourselves better and seeking to understand our mates better. Please reach out if you would like to meet with Lisa for CoachingFurther resources:www.yourenneagramcoach.comSleeping at last songs about the enneagramEnneacast  We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.comOr on Instagram at Marriage_Infiltered_PodcastWe hope to hear from you! Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters and the Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship in Midland, TX

Actionable TakeawayStop hiding parts of yourself at work and bring more of who you are into the room.Swap “fearlessness” for courage: feel the fear and move forward anyway.Use vulnerability as a strength because it builds trust faster than pretending you've got it all together.Take a pause to breathe before big conversations because it shifts the whole energy.Get clear on your personal “why” instead of borrowing the company's version.Connect with your team on something beyond KPIs because that's where loyalty lives.Notice where technology helps but don't outsource the human touch.Find your own shape of brilliance and stop squeezing into boxes you don't fit. Connect with Anne Robie:Learn more about Anne RobieAnne on LinkedInConnect with Christian "Boo" Boucousis:Learn more about Christian BoucousisBoo on LinkedInBoo on InstagramBoo on YouTube Support the Podcast:If this episode meant something to you, please consider subscribing and reviewing the show. It helps more leaders and future leaders discover these stories.And if someone comes to mind while you're listening, send it their way. A small share can go a long way.

In this episode of the International Enneagram Association podcast, Seth “Creek” Creekmore, Lee Fields, Lindsey Marks and Seth Abram speak with Suzanne Stabile, an internationally recognized Enneagram Master who has conducted over 500 Enneagram workshops for over 30 years. As a first time attendee at the IEA Experience, Suzanne was one of the Enneagram Pioneers that participated in the Keynote Panel along with Russ Hudson, Anne Mureé and Micky ScottBey Jones. Suzanne is joined on this episode by her husband and son, Joe and Joel, as they reveal their story with the Enneagram–how they learned about it and has become woven in their lives. Drawing from her personal experiences, we hear why her unique and practical approach through storytelling is why she is such an influential voice in the Enneagram community.Connect with us:Web: internationalenneagram.orgIEA Enneagram Experience 2025: ieaexperience.comJoin the email list: administration@internationalenneagram.orgSuzanne Stabile:Web: suzannestabile.comWeb: lifeinthetrinityministry.comIG: @suzannestabilePod: theenneagramjourney.orgSeth "Creek" Creekmore: IG: @_creekmorePod: Fathoms | An Enneagram PodcastPod: Awareness to Action Enneagram PodcastPod: Delusional Optimism with Dr. BLindsey Marks:IG: @lindseyfaithdmPod: Fathoms | An Enneagram PodcastLee Fields:Web: enneagrammatic.comIG: @enneagrammaticSeth Abram:IG: @integratedenneagramPod: Fathoms | An Enneagram PodcastFlemming Christensen:Web: flemmingchristensen.comTrainings: flemmingchristensen.com/trainingThe Enneagram Life Theme:

What happens when a former Marine becomes a monk for 20 years, then transforms into a pioneering financial advisor? Doug Lynam's extraordinary journey reveals profound truths about our relationship with money that most financial experts never discuss.Growing up in an affluent but emotionally complicated home where his parents weaponized money during their divorce, Doug developed deep-seated negative beliefs about wealth. This led him to reject materialism entirely, first joining the Marines and then taking monastic vows to escape what he saw as a corrupt financial system. The universe had other plans. In a twist of cosmic irony, just three years into his monastic life, the entire monastery went bankrupt—and Doug found himself responsible for solving their financial crisis.This unexpected responsibility became Doug's awakening to the powerful connection between psychology and finance. Over two decades as both monk and math teacher, he developed revolutionary insights about how our personality types shape our financial behaviors. His latest book, "Taming Your Money Monster," uses the Enneagram personality system to explain how each of us develops distinctive "money monsters" based on our core fears and desires.Doug challenges the false choice between spiritual fulfillment and financial success. He argues that rejecting wealth can be just as ego-driven as hoarding it, and that money itself is simply a tool that amplifies who we already are. Most powerfully, he shows how unhealed trauma gets transmitted through our financial decisions, affecting not just ourselves but everyone around us.Whether you're struggling with debt, building wealth, or somewhere in between, Doug's compassionate approach offers a path to healing your relationship with money by first healing your relationship with yourself. By understanding your unique "money monster," you can transform financial management from a source of stress into an expression of your highest purpose.Join the What if it Did Work movement on FacebookGet the Book!www.omarmedrano.comwww.calendly.com/omarmedrano/15min

This podcast discussion introduces the Enneagram, a personality typing system that categorizes individuals into nine core motivations, often grouped into three triads based on dominant emotions: anger (body types 8, 9, 1), shame/attention (heart types 2, 3, 4), and fear/anxiety (head types 5, 6, 7). Eric and Jess share personal anecdotes about how understanding their own and others' Enneagram types has profoundly improved their relationships and communication, highlighting the system's ability to offer empathy and insight into underlying motivations rather than just observable behaviors. They also touch upon the practical applications of the Enneagram in business, emphasizing its utility as a tool for better understanding clients and employees and fostering healthier interactions, while cautioning against its misuse for manipulation. Ultimately, the conversation underscores the Enneagram's value in promoting self-awareness and personal growth, allowing individuals to recognize their strengths and become their "healthiest selves." Key Takeaways: Begin by identifying your own Enneagram type to gain a profound understanding of your core motivations and inner world. Use the Enneagram to improve communication and build deeper connections with your family and friends by understanding their underlying motivations. Apply Enneagram insights to your professional life to better connect with and motivate employees, clients, and prospects. Recognize that giving language to your motivations provides you with greater control over your emotional life and how you respond to the world. Cultivate greater empathy for others by understanding the fundamental drivers behind their behaviors, leading to stronger, more meaningful relationships.

Everyone will have a definition of success FOR you. But do YOU have one for yourself? In today's episode, Elizabeth shares levels of and strategies for success on your terms. She isn't gatekeeping where she finds the bread either. This is a full meal for anyone who is hungry enough to pull up a chair to the table. www.EBCconsultingLLC.com

Join us for a heartwarming conversation with Dave and Ann Wilson, the beloved husband-and-wife team behind FamilyLife Today and former co-founders of Kensington Church in Michigan. As two Enneagram 7s married for over 40 years (and former Detroit Lions chaplains!), they share the beautiful chaos and hard-won wisdom of building lasting love when you're both wired for joy, adventure, and avoiding the hard stuff. We dive into Ann's new book "How to Speak Life to Your Husband: When All You Want to Do Is Yell at Him," exploring the fascinating dynamics of criticism versus encouragement, what men actually hear when women express frustration, and how couples can break negative cycles while honoring their type patterns. Whether you're a fellow 7, married to one, or just curious about how personality shapes our closest relationships, this episode offers practical wisdom wrapped in the kind of hope and authenticity that makes marriage feel possible again. Watch on YouTube Get Ann's new book: https://a.co/d/a7Ok2NU Catch them on the Family Life Podcast! https://www.familylife.com/familylife-today/ Get healthy together as a couple this Fall! Get early bird rates right here for your personal healing journey in the Enneagram Relationship Intensive with Christa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your phone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does it really mean to be a great decision-maker, and why is this skill so often left to chance?In this episode of The Evolving Leader, co-hosts Jean Gomes and Scott Allender sit down in person with Jon Bircher, decision coach and former strategy consultant, to explore why decision-making is rarely taught, and how we can do it better. Jon shares insights from his coaching work with senior leaders who often feel confident in solo decisions, but struggle in collaborative settings. We talk about why so many decisions get stuck in ambiguity, how emotion and gut feeling play a role, and how leaders can build conditions for more thoughtful, inclusive, and reflective decision-making.This is a conversation about slowing down to ask better questions, experimenting with new ways of thinking, and developing a decision-making practice that's fit for the complexity of leadership today.Other reading from Jean Gomes and Scott Allender: Leading In A Non-Linear World (J Gomes, 2023)The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence (S Allender, 2023)Social:Instagram           @evolvingleaderLinkedIn             The Evolving Leader PodcastTwitter               @Evolving_LeaderBluesky            @evolvingleader.bsky.socialYouTube           @evolvingleader The Evolving Leader is researched, written and presented by Jean Gomes and Scott Allender with production by Phil Kerby. It is an Outside production.Send a message to The Evolving Leader team

Not all leaders look the same - and that's a good thing. In this season's kickoff episode of Strength in Numbers, Jilann shares what it really means to be a quiet leader: someone who leads with depth, loyalty, and compassion, often from behind the scenes. You'll also hear her personal story as an Enneagram Nine who wrestled with self-doubt but discovered the strength of her quiet leadership. If you've ever questioned whether your leadership matters, this one's for you.Journaling Prompt:When you think about your own leadership, where have you felt unseen or overlooked, and how might that actually be a sign of your quiet strength?Are you a quiet leader craving more clarity and space to breathe?My Strength in Stillness video feedback offer might be just what you need. After answering a few reflective questions in a short form, I'll send you a personalized video with Enneagram insight and encouragement tailored to you. It's a simple first step toward finding your footing, to be the confident leader you were made to be. Use the code PODCAST to receive for only $25. (Limit of 5 customers.)

Kristina and Anna unpack the Hungry Shapeshifter archetype, mapped to Enneagram 7, the Father Wound (self-worth, identity, power), and the Throat Center in Human Design. They explore how attention, identity shapeshifting, and voice become coping strategies, how this arc differs from the Vain Controller (3) and Eternal Child (4), and how it transforms into the Fabricator (Hero) and ultimately The Present (Legend). Pop-culture touchstones include Everything Everywhere All at Once and I Heart Huckabees, plus a lively “Am I the A**hole?” case that spotlights performative empathy and attention-seeking.Quick guide to this arcVillain (Primary): Hungry ShapeshifterCore hunger is attention and specialness. Masters of adopting identities and stories to secure validation.Pinnacle Villain: The ThiefSteals attention, time, and identity, often unconsciously.Successful Antagonist: The PersecutorUses pressure, performance, and voice to dominate the narrative.Wounded Child: The DefensiveHighly reactive when the crafted identity is questioned.Covert Form: The EntertainerIrresistible at parties, self-deprecating, will “do anything” for a good story.Hero: The FabricatorStops using force, integrates formerly rejected identities, chooses non-violence and nuance.Legend: The PresentStillness and presence replace performance. Time “slows” through grounded attention.How it differs from nearby arcsVersus Vain Controller (3): The 3 works to accrue status and resources. The 7 curates identities and stories for attention and specialness.Versus Eternal Child (4): The 4 escapes into inner worlds for meaning. The 7 samples identities and external experiences for validation.Clinical and energetic notesWound: Father wound, with emphasis on identity and powerCenter: Throat (voice, expression)Pattern often seen: ADHD tendencies, diffused focus and persona-switchingPath of healing: Focus, presence, integrity in speech, letting attention be earned by reality rather than performancePop-culture anchorsLoki as the archetypal shapeshifterEvelyn in Everything Everywhere All at Once: early ravenous sampling of parallel selves, later pivot to Waymond's gentler strategyJude Law's character in I Heart Huckabees: recycled stories for validation, performative charmTimestamps00:00–03:10 Hello and warm-up, quick recap of arcs 1–603:10–05:25 Introducing the Hungry Shapeshifter, Father Wound, Throat Center, Enneagram 705:25–07:30 Specialness and attention as fuel, the cost of consuming others' identities06:20–07:45 I Heart Huckabees example, story-stealing for validation07:45–10:30 The Thief, unconscious attention-taking, “stealing time,” personal anecdote10:30–12:15 Wounded Child: defensiveness when identity is challenged12:15–13:15 Diagnostic shortcut: when someone feels like a 3 and a 4, look at 713:15–14:10 Covert form: the Entertainer at parties14:10–16:20 Actors and open throats, personal resonance and life phases16:20–17:25 Multiple active villains over a lifetime, complexity beyond a single arc17:25–19:10 Hero: the Fabricator, Waymond's non-violence and relational repair19:10–19:55 Legend: The Present, stillness, “the generous present moment”19:55–21:56 AITA reading: “I am an empath,” or attention-seeking22:00–23:26 Real-life example of making another's crisis about oneself23:26–24:06 ADHD, focus, presence as medicine, closePractice promptsVoice audit: Where do I speak to be seen, rather than to be trueStory integrity: Which stories do I retell for attention, and are they mine to tellFocus training: One commitment, one audience, one promise at a timePresence reps: Two minutes of quiet before speaking in a charged momentEpisode glossaryFather Wound: Distortions around self-worth, identity, powerThroat Center: Expression, timing, and the compulsion to speak for attentionFabricator: Hero form that fabricates reality through choiceful, ethical creation, not performanceThe Present: Legend form, a clear, still field where attention is no longer chasedMentioned worksEverything Everywhere All at OnceI Heart HuckabeesCall to actionCurious which Inner Villain patterns lead in your lifeTake the Inner Villain Quiz: [add your quiz link here]CreditsHosts: Kristina Wiltsee, AnnaProduction: Inner Villain WorksNote: Contains light spoilers for Everything Everywhere All at Once.*Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever wondered why you are the way you are? Why you repeat certain patterns, react to stress automatically, or feel stuck in cycles of growth and resistance? What if I told you that behind your personality—your habits, fears, and strengths—there are ancient cosmic laws shaping your entire journey?In this episode, we dive deep into the Universal Laws of One, Three, and Seven—the blueprint of existence, transformation, and personal growth. These timeless principles appear everywhere: in science, spirituality, psychology, and even the rhythms of nature. And when applied to the Enneagram, they reveal a powerful map of energy flow, showing you how to move from limitation to liberation.By the end of this episode, you'll understand:✨ The Law of One—why we feel disconnected and how to return to wholeness

Learn more about Belinda Gore HERE!Join us as we explore the intersection of the Enneagram and ancient wisdom with Belinda. Discover how ancient practices and the Enneagram's insights into personality can guide us toward deeper self-awareness and connection with the natural world. Belinda shares her journey and practical rituals that help cultivate presence and balance in our lives. Tune in for a conversation that bridges modern understanding with timeless wisdom.ORDER OUR BOOK OUT: HERE Get Enneagram Certified HERE.www.theartofgrowth.org Email us your thoughts and questions!   Follow us on Instagram at ArtofGrowth for more on this subject this month and let us know what you are doing.   Go to our website to sign up for:Corporate Training  One-on-one coaching  Enneagram Certification     AND MORE...Support the showhttps://www.theartofgrowth.org/

Send us a textThe giggles continue! In Part Two of our Downton Abbey Enneagram throwback, my sister Annaliese and I dive deeper into the beloved characters, with fresh laughter, slightly misguided confidence, and a few surprising insights that still ring true today.Though this conversation was recorded years ago (before any of the Downton movies had premiered), it's fascinating to see how each character's arc reflects the same storylines we live: moments of victimhood, seasons of villainy, the courage to rise as heroes, and the wisdom to guide others eventually.So grab another scone, settle in, and enjoy the second half of this Enneagram stroll through the Abbey. Whether at Downton or in our everyday lives, the story is always about transformation and the invitation to live wholeheartedly.Looking for some of the podcast episodes we mentioned? Enneagram in the ClassroomEnneagram and Little WomenEnneagram and Anne of Green GablesEnneagram and Dan in Real LifeLooking for another Downton Abbey-style show? Payge and I enjoyed the Gilded Age - let me know if we should do a podcast episode on the Enneagram & the characters in this new period drama! RESOURCES FOR YOU: Book a High-Value Clarity Call with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Wholehearted Enneagram Coachinghttps://bit.ly/SWcoachingcollectiveEnnea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram(free course + printables)https://bit.ly/Enneagram101GuideThe Real History of the Enneagram Course(use code AMY for 40% OFF)https://bit.ly/EnneagramHistoryShould Christians Use the Enneagram? (Amy's book)https://amzn.to/3VB9PrxConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

Learn how to break destructive protest behavior cycles before they destroy your marriage! In Part 2 of the protest behaviors series, marriage therapy expert Christa Hardin explores why these patterns escalate from mild criticism or withdrawal to explosive fights and emotional shutdown. Discover childhood origins of each Enneagram type's specific protest strategies, from Type 8s who learned vulnerability was dangerous to Type 5s who learned people drain them. Learn general and type-specific ways to create emotional safety that prevents protesting, how to respond during protest episodes to de-escalate rather than inflame, and repair strategies that actually heal after damage occurs. Includes the escalation pattern most couples miss and practical tools for building marriages where direct communication feels safer than protesting. Watch on YouTube! Get healthy together as a couple this Fall! Get early bird rates right here for your personal healing journey in the Enneagram Relationship Intensive with Christa⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen to Christa on The Allender Center Podcast here! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your phone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode Description: In this episode of What If For Authors, Claire asks the question: What if I'm a perfectionist? She breaks down the myth of “perfect,” explores how each Enneagram type approaches perfectionism differently, and offers practical ways to challenge the illusion of control that perfectionism creates. If you've ever stalled out because your draft “wasn't good enough,” obsessed over tiny details at the expense of joy, or secretly feared that one mistake could ruin everything—you'll find both relief and encouragement in this conversation. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the concept of “perfection” is made up—and how that realization can set you free How idealism (a beautiful quality) can twist into painful perfectionism The hidden childhood lessons that might have taught you mistakes weren't safe Why perfectionism doesn't produce perfect books—it produces stuck authors How each Enneagram type disguises perfectionism in its own way Why publishing a book will always feel vulnerable (and why that's good news) A simple practice to start loosening perfectionism's grip today Takeaway Challenge: Make one mistake on purpose this week—and leave it there. Whether it's leaving a typo in a draft, breaking one of your own “rules,” or letting something slide without fixing it, notice what happens. Is it really the catastrophe your perfectionism promised? Or is it… nothing at all? Support the Show: If this episode gave you permission to breathe a little deeper, please share it with another author who could use the same relief. You can also support the show by leaving a review wherever you listen—it helps more perfectionist authors find their way here. Want to go deeper? Visit liberatedwriter.com to explore Claire's coaching, courses, and books designed to help authors thrive without perfectionism weighing them down. Access the transcript here. Happy writing!

What does it take to thrive in our relationships—not just survive—and how can the Enneagram help us along the way? In this episode of The Allender Center Podcast, Rachael Clinton Chen sits down with Christa Hardin, founder of Enneagram + Marriage and author of “The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing.” Christa brings years of wisdom from her own relationship, plus her expertise as a marriage coach and therapist, to offer a hopeful, honest perspective on why personality awareness matters—but why it's never the whole story. Together, Rachael and Christa explore: ✔ Why joyful feelings (and even celebration) can feel harder than conflict—and what that reveals about us. ✔ Christa's concept of the Glow Stages in relationships—what they are, why we can't live on the mountaintop forever, and how to navigate the necessary valleys with grace. ✔ How the Enneagram helps us honor our gifts, name our shadows, and stay curious about ourselves and each other—whether in marriage, parenting, dating, or our spiritual lives. ✔ Why love, when nurtured well, not only transforms a marriage but becomes a force for calling, courage, and blessing in the world. Whether you're single, newly married, in the trenches of parenting, or decades into a partnership, you'll find wisdom here for becoming more wholehearted—and more deeply connected. We invite you to listen to discover how your story, your marriage, and your love can grow through every stage. Get the completely FREE extra chapter of “The Enneagram and Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing” here: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/hiddenchapter

“What does it mean to make change in my life—not from a place that there was something wrong with me?” asks my coauthor Courtney Smith. “But I made choices that have gotten me here. I respect and value those choices. I understand I wouldn’t be here without them. And I'm also choosing to do something a little bit different going forward.” Courtney is a coach, group facilitator, and Enneagram expert. Today, we’re taking you through the seven tools that form the core process of our new workbook Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: A Process for Reclaiming Your Full Self. If you want to go deeper, I’m including a lot of interconnected material in the show notes (per usual, though)—including links to my past conversations with Courtney.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In episode 136 Kel, from Expansive Connection Coaching explained all nine Enneagram personality types and motivations. Listen in on this real-time coaching session as Kel reveals the Enneagram results of Mr & Mrs Jones and helps them understand their types and how to better value and understand each other as life partners. Episode Resources: Books The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso; Russ Hudson The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron; Suzanne Stabile Podcast Series Enneagram 2.0 Websites Enneagram Institute The Narrative Enneagram Non-monogamy Coaching Expansive Connection

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to stick to goals that matter to you, but you can follow through easily when someone else is counting on you? Or why one of your children seems to resist every rule, while another lives for structure and routine? This week's guest, Sarah Joslin, walks us through a personality framework that has the power to transform the way we see ourselves and our kids. Based on The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin, this simple but powerful model explains how we each respond to expectations—and how we can use that understanding to build better routines, boundaries, and relationships in our homes. In this episode, you'll hear: