If I Tell You

An open letter to my depression. Please talk to someone.

Following the theme of love and building relationships, we will be discussing the realities of love in adulthood. This episode will look at Alain Le Botton's discussion on "Why we marry the wrong person?" To understand why we may choose the wrong partner, comprising without compromising ourselves, and having realistic expectations. Stay tuned for the discussion.

This episode will be a meeting of both black history month and Valentine's Day. Black love is diverse, it assumes different forms and carries a variety of meanings. For Black women in particular, the understanding of love and its expression can be complex. This discussion will centre around: how do we define and identify love? How does our race affect the way we internalize and accept love? Stay tuned for the discussion.

This is my first solo episode in a while, I hope I don't bore you. The past few months have been hectic and chaotic but I am grateful nonetheless. This episode will specifically explore gratitude as a tool to fight anxiety: What is gratitude? Who should we be grateful for? Why is the universe the most giving and selfish entity? We will discuss this and much more, stay tuned for the episode. Love and Light.  

This episode will focus on the angry black girl stereotype. For many black women the word “angry” is weaponized to label any expression of intense emotion. Sometimes we're not angry; we're passionate. Passionate about the causes we love, in expression the things that hurt us and the things we believe in. This discussion will focus on: what does our anger really look like? Who is allowed to be angry? Why is our passion so threatening? Stay tuned for the discussion with Faythe M. Love and Light.

We are now at the end of the 3 part Fright Night Series. For the last episode we will be examining Monophobia or the fear of being alone. Loneliness can be a life long fear that takes years to conquer and it can impact the ways we form and maintain relationships. This week's discussion will cover: why are we so uncomfortable being alone? How to raise an only child and how does loneliness appear in motherhood. Stay tuned for the discussion with a long awaited guest. Love and Light.

One of the fears held by people this generation is the fear of getting older. All the things that make up getting older are scary and uncertain but it is inevitable. This week's episode is about trying to manage the fear of growing up and understand how best to embrace it. We will be focusing on: The idea of aging gracefully, Age VS maturity, living fully and completely as we get older. Stay tuned for the discussion. Love and Light.

This week's episode is the first instalment of the Fright Night series. Neophobia is the fear of new things. For mother's the concept of motherhood can be new and terrifying even if you aren't a first time mom. This week we will be looking at: How do mother's get past that fear? Does it ever go away?Stay tuned for the discussion with my beautiful friend. Love and Light.

At times it can feel like we are given an imaginary “happiness peak” that can sometimes seem unattainable. We can feel restless and dissatisfied with our accomplishments. This week's discussion features my fourth favourite person to help understand: What makes us happy? How do we separate the temporary feelings from the ones that will last? Who makes us happy? How can we make happiness for ourselves? Stay tuned for the discussion. Love and Light.

This weeks episode will be all about love. Self-love is one of the hardest things to master when maturing. This discussion will cover: Defining what love is(a challenge, I know), explain why self-love is needed for growth and how love changes the way we see ourselves.

“You have to know where you come from to know where you're going.” Knowledge of our history, the understanding of where we're coming from is essential to prevent us from repeating the mistakes of the past. This episode I am joined by Leo Edochie creator of “Afrocast” to discuss: the way our history is taught and understood, the role tradition plays in shaping who we are, our experiences of culture and viewing ourselves from the hill. Stay tuned for the discussion Love and Light.

This week is a continuation of the mini series “Growing Pains” featuring my 3rd favourite person. This episode will focus on figuring out who we are once we leave the nest. For many of us, the way we behave and think in our teenage years centres around our environment and our family. How do we decide who we want to be? How does moving away help us find ourselves? Tune in for the discussion. Love and Light.

The last leg of the race is the defining factor in where and how we finish. How many times have you had a good idea, started to lay the foundation and just not finished? Having great ideas and being unable to see them through to the end is a problem many creative types have. You might not be lazy you may be anxious. In this episode I will be discussing: the role anxiety can play in stopping our success, self doubt and the fear of failure. Love and Light.

In this episode we will be discussing friendship dynamics. In getting older, our friends begin to change and some may even drift apart but some bonds become even stronger than before. What makes a good friend? What is friendship accountability? How do we keep in touch with those we care about? Tune in to hear me and my second favourite person discuss the transition from childhood to lifelong friendships. Love and Light.

This is barely an episode. More an introduction about what you can anticipate hearing. My worst nightmare when uploading was making something that would limit me to only one area when life is so full and has so much to discuss. I hope you grow with me. Love and Light.