It's A Shame

Danielle & Lily discuss Allan Lichtman predictions, Roald Dahl's idiosyncrasies, and how being "sensitive" is a strength, no matter how much it's been misaligned to equate weakness. Thank you, always, for listening. And we will see you next Tuesday.

Lily & Danielle come together online from across the country to discuss swearing birds, the end of decency and decorum, and basically can't stop talking about the first presidential debate horror show. Thanks as always for listening, and we'll see you next Tuesday.

Danielle & Lily delve into the world of financial shame this week. Money is never an easy subject. It causes so much shame, relationship rifts, worry, self-doubt, insecurity, the list goes on. How do we work with what we have, face our finances even when it's scary, and keep money from ruling our hearts and heads? Thank you for listening, and we will see you next Tuesday!

Danielle & Lily reach the half-way point of Season 3 and break format to explore the Questions that Lead to Love. Will we learn new things about one another, and how good are these questions at sparking deeper relationships, or at the very least, great conversation? Thanks as always for listening, and we will see you next Tuesday!

Lily & Danielle continue last week’s discussion on the theme of competition, but this time specifically competition between women. Why do some women feel the need to compete with others, what forms does woman-to-woman competition take, and how can we better support one another instead? Thank you for listening, and we will see you next Tuesday!

Danielle & Lily are joined by guests to talk competition. Where does the drive to be the best come from? Is it healthy, and how often does it come from insecurity or shame? When is the competitive spirit useful and is greatness dependent on it? Success can feel like it means stepping on others along the way, but is there enough room for everyone at the top? Or should we redefine what it means to “win”? Join us as we ponder competition and its nuances. Thanks always for listening, and we will see you next Tuesday. xo

Lily & Danielle tackle the topic of anger and rage this week. We are taught that expressions of anger or rage are bad, unladylike, and unacceptable. What happens when we keep it all bottled in, what are healthy expressions of anger, and how do we help but feel more angry than we've ever been these days? How do you react to anger and what feels like a positive way to release rage? Thanks for listening. Subscribe for more, and we will see you next Tuesday.

Danielle & Lily are back to discuss heart-warming funeral facts, small-town COVID-19 responses, and the shame involved in public versus private relationships to our bodies. What happens when you're suddenly on display in ways ways you're not used to, and how does shame present itself when we're caught off-guard and feel exposed? Thanks for listening. Rate, subscribe, write us a review, or send us an email! shamepod at gmail. As always, we'll see you next Tuesday!!

Lily & Danielle catch up, talk Brand New Information, and discuss bodily upkeep during COVID times. What are grooming practices we would have felt shameful about neglecting that now we're letting slide a bit? From shower frequency to body hair to how often we leave the house, things have changed. Can you relate? Let us know, and thanks as always for joining. We'll see you next Tuesday!

S03 Ep02: The Father, The Son & The Hungry Ghost by It's A Shame

Danielle & Lily are back! Welcome to Season 3. We’re excited, curious, and ready to see what this season has in store and to share it with you. In this episode, we discuss our break and delve into some thoughts around Black Lives Matter, our understanding of our own white privilege, ways we benefit from that privilege, and the ways we’re trying to learn more, be better allies, and become more informed citizens. Thanks for joining us. Rate, subscribe, listen, and we’d love to hear from you. shamepod@gmail.com See you next Tuesday!

Danielle & Lily have the honor and privilege of being interviewed by the illustrious Jamey Bainer--marketing genius, trained journalist, and Twitter must-follow (@jamey_bainer)--to talk the past and future of It's A Shame. We wrap Season 2 with gratitude in our hearts, plans on our minds, and hope that you all are safe and well during these crazy times. Thanks for listening and we will see you some Tuesday soon...(in a month).

Lily & Danielle record a whole episode only to lose the recording. Like some of the best conversations we've had, that one only exists in our memories. We did soldier on to record another, shorter episode. So here we are, starting an hour in and seeing what happens. Also, it was so disheartening we skipped an upload week. Oops. Thanks for sticking with us, even when we fumble. We truly appreciate you! And we'll see you next Tuesday, except actually this Tuesday because you get two in one week! Sometimes messing up can be good. xoxo

Danielle & Lily are joined by two very special guests -- Jamey and Stefanie. This week we take a break from heavier subjects and use table topic games to share Brand New Information about ourselves. Thank you for joining us this week. We hope you're staying healthy and safe. We truly appreciate you all. We'll see you next Tuesday. xoxo

Lily & Danielle avoid the the topic at hand and chat about their covid-19 experience so far. Which brings us to the idea of taking a short break from shame. The topic is feeling too heavy for us to hold right now, so as we shelter in place and think (and fret) about the future, we are going to bring you more brand new information and hopefully some levity in the coming weeks. As always, thank you for joining us, thank you for your support, and we will see you next Tuesday.

Danielle & Lily continue quarantine podcasting and come to you from their separate houses. Coronavirus is still top of mind, and that's what we're discussing this week. How we're doing, what we're doing, and coping mechanisms we're employing. We hope you and yours are safe and well. We're sending positive vibes your way. Thanks for joining us, and we'll see you next Tuesday.

Lily & Danielle experiment with remote recording as we self-isolate this week and for the foreseeable future. Everyone's talking about COVID-19, and we can't avoid it, either. We hope everyone is staying safe and stable as we deal with the current coronavirus effects and brace for future impact. Now more than ever it's so important to love one another (even from afar) and choose helpfulness and kindness. Remember: there's no shame in loneliness. Reach out! We love you and are here if you need to talk. shamepod@gmail.com DM us @shamepod From our homes to yours, thank you for listening and we will see you next Tuesday.

Danielle & Lily face mortality and discuss the reality of aging in a youth-obsessed culture. It's fascinating to watch how our bodies and faces change and morph over time with the help of our old friend, gravity. But how has society shaped the way we view and talk about aging? Don't forget to subscribe! Thanks for joining us, and we'll see you next Tuesday!

Lily & Danielle venture into a pinch of politics, learn about love guns, and talk about body bits. Scars, moles, warts, skin tags, discoloration--sometimes it's the little things we hard-focus on and get negative about. The big, beautiful picture of our whole bodies can be hard to see when we zoom too far in. Thanks for listening. Please subscribe and rate us on Apple Podcasts. We'll see you next Tuesday ;)

Danielle & Lily take on birthdays this week. Though a time of celebration, birthdays can also bring up feelings of reflection, self-worth, ungratefulness, unwanted attention, and, inevitably, shame. Happy Super Tuesday...please go vote!! As always, thank you for listening, and we'll see you next Tuesday.

Lily & Danielle cover their recent trip to Disneyland (yes, including train talk) then break into the topic of insecurities. What are the insecurities that change our behaviors or ability to just be ourselves. Rate, subscribe, review. You do you, and we'll see you next Tuesday.

Lily & Danielle talk about regret. Turns out our biggest regrets might be related to people and relationships. And a million other things. Check one future regret off your list and subscribe. Rate and review, too. And we'll see you next Tuesday.

Danielle & Lily explore what it means to be women of a certain age who are childfree by choice. What is our moral imperative toward breeding, and how are people who defy the perceived "right way" viewed? Join us for a very personal discussion centered on our bodies, our choices, and how we navigate society within those choices. Subscribe, rate, review, and we'll see you next Tuesday!

Danielle & Lily take it easy this week to talk about shame in pop culture--things they've felt shameful about liking, the ways pop culture can be used to shame, and how it can also help us face and unpack it. Thanks for listening, and we'll see you next Tuesday ;)

Lily & Danielle are talking about slut shaming this week. How this age-old behavior is used to control people, limit sexual expression and freedom, and how the stigma associated with sex can keep us from actually enjoying it. Don't forget to subscribe! Leave us a rating and review as well. Thanks for listening.

Danielle & Lily return for Season 2! Welcome to 2020! This time of year, New Year's resolutions are top of mind. But are they really they really positive, or do they just set us up for failure? We discuss goals vs resolutions, how we feel when we've "failed," and whether or not we'll be making any this year.

It's the Season 1 finale! Lily & Danielle look back over the last 15 episodes and discuss their highs and lows of the season. We hope you’ve been enjoying the podcast so far, have found it useful, inspiring, or at least a good way to pass an hour. Stick around for Join us in January for Season 2. We'll be sharing more guests, more vulnerability, more laughs, and probably some more whiskey along the way. Happy Holidays, and Happy New Year!! xoxo

Ep 15: Chew, Chew, Chew & Swallow by It's A Shame

This week Lily & Danielle talk about the commercialization of shame--how advertisements and other media use shame to sell to us, and how it's all the more present during the holiday season. How do we find balance between what we need, want, and are told we should want?

This week Lily & Danielle unwrap all things gift-giving. How does shame manage to creep into such a joyous thing? From money woes to time pressures to making thoughtful choices, gifts can be a mine field of feels. Good luck this season, and have the happiest of holidays! xoxo

Today Danielle & Lily talk about what it's like being the black sheep of the family, especially around the holidays. We unpack how it feels to love your family, but also know you're different from the pack. Do feelings of not belonging ever go away?

Danielle & Lily are back to discuss honesty. What does true honesty look like, when is it OK to lie, when should you withhold some truths, and how does this affect our relationships and ourselves?

In this episode, Lily & Danielle divulge their biggest fears. We talk about how fear and shame often intertwine, what we fear, and not letting it control us.

Lily & Danielle explore what it's like to leave the place where you grew up, be vulnerable in a new city, and learn to navigate the unknown while working through complex feelings about the known you left behind. We talk family responsibility, forging new friend family, "expat" life, and feelings of belonging.

Danielle & Lily bring up an oddly taboo subject: our periods. Though a sizable number of people in the world experience periods, society is awfully quiet about the subject. We discuss our early experiences, how we learned about this inevitability, and are pretty certain we'll be broaching the subject again.

Danielle & Lily are joined by very special guests: spouses extraordinaire and creators of the It's A Shame theme song: Jamey & Stefanie! This week we are talking about guilty pleasures. From questionable food choices to, um, interesting musical interests (as well as some tangents on 80s and 90s movies), we probably should be ashamed of these tastes ... but are we?

Danielle & Lily talk about the ins and outs of keeping in touch. How does being accessible 24/7 affect how we interact with each other? What are the rules and responsibilities of modern communication, and how do we set healthy boundaries? Join us as we wrestle with how available is too available, and when it's ok to go radio silent.

Danielle & Lily explore how strange and unusual our brains can get while asleep. How does shame follow us into our dreams, and maybe even more interesting, back again into our waking lives? With a slight detour at the top of the show into the nightmarescape that has been politics lately, they wonder if hope exists on the horizon. Find out what dreams go on when we close our eyes and what stays with us when we wake.

Lily & Danielle talk about taking up space: road rage, manspreading, body shame, staying safe walking down the street, simply existing--get ready for a packed episode. How can we all learn to navigate shame landmines and give ourselves permission to take up the space we need? We belong in whatever room we're in. Let's own it.

Meet Lily & Danielle. These new podcast hosts introduce the concept and origin story of It’s A Shame, get interrupted by (sneaky but loveable) cat co-hosts, and mistake beats for seconds as they figure out how long they’ve been talking. It’s not perfect, but it’s a start. And there’s no shame in that.

Danielle & Lily trade stories of their first experiences with shame. They talk lots of pee, a very special chair, and getting right on past early childhood shame. (Guest appearances by very hungry cat co-hosts.)

This week Danielle and Lily talk shopping and the various shame that comes with it. They unpack the indignities of getting stuck in clothes, the horrors of group dressing rooms, the pressure to buy, buy, buy, and finding confidence boosters in unlikely places. If you've experienced Satan's lighting, been confused by random sizing (what do they really mean!?), or fantasized about your own Pretty Woman moment, this one's for you.