Podcasts about Shame

Sari Solden is a psychotherapist, author, and a true trailblazer for women with ADHD. In this episode, she talks about discovering her own ADHD while helping shape the growing field of adult ADHD in the 1990s. She shares openly about her struggles with shame, working memory, and the pressure of trying to meet society's expectations of what a woman “should” be. She also reflects on lessons learned from the many women she has worked with over the years.Sari takes us behind the scenes of her early meetings with other ADHD experts at a time when adult ADHD was just starting to be recognized. She's the author of several books, including “Women with Attention Deficit Disorder,” which celebrates its 30th anniversary this year. Through her pioneering work, Sari gave voice to countless women whose struggles were long misunderstood or overlooked.Related resourcesHear Sari on “Climbing the Walls,” our podcast about the rise of ADHD diagnoses in womenA deeper dive on ADHD and shameWhat is working memory?For a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdaha@understood.org or record a message for us here.  Explore Through My Eyes today. Step into the world of three kids with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia — helping you see differently so you can act differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Jon Friedland joins us for this week. Frank gets lost in the wilderness outside LA. Check out Pride & Shame: https://prideandshame.bandcamp.com/

Sign up for the September 40 Day Fast here: https://butjesusdrankwine.myflodesk.com/septemberfast In Week 6—the final week—of our 6-part Monday series walking through Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast, we’re covering Days 35–40. These last chapters are all about navigating real-life situations, confronting shame, and stepping fully into lasting freedom. From the workplace happy hour to vacation cocktails, from cultural pressures like “mommy wine time” to the quiet work of letting go of fixation—this week brings together everything you’ve learned and invites you to reflect on how far you’ve come. Whether you’ve been with us since Day 1 or you’re just dropping in, this episode will leave you inspired, equipped, and ready to walk forward in confidence and joy—rooted in your identity in Christ.

In this episode of Unhooked, I'm joined by Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt. Allana shares powerful insights into building and maintaining deep emotional and physical intimacy within relationships. The conversation covers strategies for overcoming challenges such as disconnection, rejection, and past trauma. Allana discusses the importance of vulnerability, slowing down, and establishing safe communication practices like the dyad technique. The episode also touches on the psychological benefits of psychedelic somatic integration for reconnecting with one's emotions and partner. Tune in for transformative advice on rekindling passion and building a stronger, more connected relationship.

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Overnight News, 2. Non-Punishable Thefts! 3. The Walk of Shame... 4. Queue Addicted - Bliss n Eso! 5. The Mates Money Theory! 6. The Weekly Five! 7. Five Reasons... 8. We're off To the Magarey Medal! The ONLY way to wake up in Adelaide is with your best brekkie mates Tom & Callum on Fresh 92.7 Keep up to date on our socials. Instagram - @fresh927 Facebook - Fresh 92.7See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In episode 501 I chat with Alexandra Reynolds. Alexandra is an OCD Advocate, Community Support Group Leader at NOCD, and is currently doing her graduate clinical training.  We discuss her health anxiety story, stigma around the diagnosis, running her health anxiety support group, shame and guilt around having health anxiety and the compulsions, experiencing stigma or judgement from family and health care professionals, compassion, how family members can support their loved ones, and much more. Hope it helps.  Show notes: https://theocdstories.com/episode/alexandra-501  The podcast is made possible by NOCD. NOCD offers effective, convenient therapy available in the US and outside the US. To find out more about NOCD, their therapy plans and if they currently take your insurance head over to https://go.treatmyocd.com/theocdstories Join many other listeners getting our weekly emails. Never miss a podcast episode or update: https://theocdstories.com/newsletter  Thanks to all our patrons for supporting our work. To sign up to our Patreon and to check out the benefits you'll receive as a Patron, visit: https://www.patreon.com/theocdstoriespodcast 

August 31, 2025 sermon at Ascension Lutheran Church, Montreal, QC by Rev. Charles St-Onge. Text: Luke 14:1-14 and Proverbs 25:2-10. Support the showCheck us out at ascensionlutheran.ca and intheway.org.

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In this episode, Sam, Trey, and Rob revisit their thoughts around shame and God's commitments toward us individually and collectively. To support the work that we do here and to join the conversation, please visit our Patreon: patreon.com/threeblackmen and if you'd like to support us financially outside of Patreon, you can do that via PayPal: threeblackmenpodcast@gmail.com

Steven Greer is not a grifter, neither are people like David Wilcock or Randy Cramer, because to grift is to engage in small-scale swindling. These people along with Laura Eisenhower, Corey Goode, Emery Smith, Laura Eisenhower, Billy Carson, and countless others are big-times swindlers, driven by delusion and psychosis. They have exploited the naive, ignorant, and desperate for profit. *The is the FREE archive, which includes advertisements. If you want an ad-free experience, you can subscribe below underneath the show description.FREE ARCHIVE (w. ads)SUBSCRIPTION ARCHIVEX / TWITTER FACEBOOKWEBSITEDISCORD CHATCashApp: $rdgable EMAIL: rdgable@yahoo.com / TSTRadio@protonmail.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-secret-teachings--5328407/support.

Shame can be a symptom of failed self-esteem pursuits instead of relying on grace. It is the fruit of religious self-effort, an emblem of wounded pride. God gives the oil of joy for mourning. He buries shame in a double blessing of mercy. Show me your self-esteem, and I'll show you my divine-esteem.    Click https://bit.ly/m/Life-Journeys to find a list of your favorite platforms for this podcast!

Brittany sits down with bestselling author and speaker Amber Rae for an eye-opening conversation about love, courage, and choosing yourself. Amber opens up about leaving a marriage that no longer fulfilled her, meeting her soulmate in the most unexpected way, and the life lessons that inspired her new memoir Lovable. Together, they dive into overcoming shame, navigating sexless relationships, breaking free from people-pleasing, and why modeling self-love is one of the greatest gifts we can give our kids.Please support the show by checking out our sponsors!GoPure: For a limited time, our listeners get 25% off goPure with code Realityhits at checkout. Just head to gopurebeauty.com, use code Realityhits, and you're all set. And after you buy, do us a favor—when they ask where you heard about goPure, tell them it was from our show!K12 Powered Schools: Go to K12.com/BRITTANY today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enrollnowProgressive: Quote your car insurance at Progressive.com to join the over 28 million drivers who trust ProgressiveDiscover Your New Home at apartments.comApretude: Bring your A-game and talk to your doctor. Learn more at APRETUDE.com or call 1-888-240-0340.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Brett Kistler and Joe Hudson dive into the epidemic of loneliness and its impact on our lives. They explore the roots of loneliness, how it differs from solitude, and why shame and self-perception often amplify the experience. They explore how to transform loneliness into deeper self-connection and meaningful relationships with others.Join them as they discuss:How loneliness, solitude, and isolation differThe connection between loneliness and shameChildhood roots of loneliness and insecure attachment stylesThe role of society, mobility, and social media in shaping loneliness todayPractical ways to reconnect with yourself and with othersHow VIEW is an antidote to lonelinessExperiments and practical guidance for addressing lonelinessResources:Shame podcast: https://www.artofaccomplishment.com/podcast/the-anatomy-of-shame-emotion-series-8-2The Connection Course: https://www.artofaccomplishment.com/course/the-connection-courseExperiments: https://www.artofaccomplishment.com/experimentsRelevant research:US CDC: Addressing LonelinessSurgeon General: Our Epidemic of Loneliness and IsolationHow people think about being alone shapes their experience of lonelinessMental health and loneliness: the relationship across life stagesLoneliness, community, and naturePsychology Today: Why Am I So Lonely?The Link Between Childhood Trauma and Feeling LonelySend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudsonBrett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

Most men carry shame. But they don't talk about it—especially when it comes to sex.They were raised to be "good boys," "nice guys," and "respectful partners"... but underneath that, many are dealing with something toxic: sexual shame. It wrecks their confidence. It kills their desire. And it silently poisons their relationships.In this video, I break down how sexual shame develops in men, how it fuels codependency and dead bedrooms, and what it takes to finally own who you are as a man—without guilt, without apology.

In this episode, Donna welcomes Katie Anderson, a proud mom and a woman in long-term recovery with over 9 years of sobriety. Katie shares her journey from addiction to healing, the role of family, and the powerful lessons she's learned about resilience, spirituality, and breaking generational cycles.Topics Covered:- Katie's path into addiction and what led her to recovery- The role of family dynamics in both addiction and healing- Honest conversations with children about substance use- Overcoming shame and asking for help- Tools, faith, and daily practices that support long-term recovery- Advice for parents and loved ones navigating a child's addiction

Shame teaches us to betray ourselves before anyone else can. We silence our truth, withhold our art, shrink our light. But self-sabotage isn't laziness. It's grief. In this video, I unravel the hidden link between lying, shame, and why we block our own truth. This is a reckoning. A liberation. A remembering of the part of you that's still worthy, even in your undoing.

With the Powerball jackpot soaring to life-changing heights, Scotch, Tank & Mandy from The Wake Up Call on Froggy 99.9 dive into what they'd change—or keep the same—if they hit the big one. From dream purchases to staying grounded, it's a hilarious and heartfelt look at lottery fantasies. Plus, Tank tackles the age-old question: Is there such a thing as a Man’s Walk of Shame? His take might surprise you. Tune in for laughs, real talk, and relatable moments from Fargo-Moorhead’s favorite morning crew.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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From redefining “good” and “bad” habits to learning how empathy shapes teaching, Lesley and Brad recap their conversation with yoga teacher Anthony Benenati—founder of City Yoga, California's first Anusara studio, and now leads That's Not Yoga®. With over three decades of experience, Anthony has built a philosophy of meeting students where they are. Together they explore how ego, anger, and even curiosity can open the door to practice, and why the stories we carry and the language we use hold the power to shape growth. This episode invites you to pause, reflect, and ask: is this serving me?If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:How Anthony's teaching shaped his philosophy of fitting yoga to the students.Brad's early yoga mishaps and how they reframed his view of the practice.Feeling like an "outsider" in Pilates and how sharing built deeper connections.Why empathy is the real skill teachers need in guiding students.Why desire, knowledge, and action are the non-negotiables for growth.Episode References/Links:UK Mullet Tour - https://opc.me/ukP.O.T. 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If the answer is yes, fuck what people think. If it's a yes, and tomorrow it's a yes, and then the next week it's a yes, and then next month it's a no, then you make a change. Lesley Logan 0:22  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 1:05  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the authentic convo I had with Anthony Benenati in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that one, you've missed out. Brad Crowell 1:16  You definitely missed out. Lesley Logan 1:18  I don't like to go around saying you made mistakes, but you did.Brad Crowell 1:20  You did. Lesley Logan 1:24  You don't suck or anything, but, all right, before I get into that, today is August 28th 2025 and it is National Rainbow Bridge Remembrance Day. And on this day, of course, it's gonna say Rainbow Bridge twice. So the death of a beloved pet, whether it's the family dog, a furry kitty, or something a little more obscure, is a sad occasion. Rainbow Bridge Remembrance Day on August 28th is the day that we remember the pets that are no longer with us. Whilst the pain of losing a pet, you can't laugh while we're talking about dead dogs, babe, but we are laughing because Rainbow Bridge Remembrance Day is a day we remember our pets. We got that from remembrance, you know, like we got it, okay, anyways. Whilst the pain of losing a pet somewhat heals over time, they're never forgotten, and today is their day. The day was founded by author Deborah Barnes as a way for people to share their memories of the pets that they have lost, whether it's a dog, a hamster or a snake, or, you know, anything in between. Oh, maybe this is the day that we maybe actually like say it. Brad Crowell 2:32  That's what I was thinking. Lesley Logan 2:34  Okay, well, do you want to say it?Brad Crowell 2:36  Yeah, I do. Also, I think it's great that it's in the month of August. Lesley Logan 2:40  I know it's like we knew. Brad Crowell 2:42  If you didn't know, Lesley and I have only one dog now, and it's been a couple of months that we lost August as well. And when I say as well, what I mean is last year, we lost Gaia towards the end of the year, and then about six months later, we also lost August, and that was really, really challenging, and not something that we talk about very often.Lesley Logan 3:08  I know well, because there's a difference, and I think that's what was important about this day. And like, if you needed this day, it's like, there's something it was something easier. I mean, it felt really hard at the time when we had to, like, make a day to say goodbye to Gaia, you know, like we, we knew for years the day was coming, and we could see it was time. And we had a different situation with August, where it was just like, oh. Brad Crowell 3:33  It was unexpected. It was sudden. Lesley Logan 3:35  This is happening to this is happening today, and that's, that, like, that's just not enough time for your brain to like, not that we miss him differently, but we, I do, like, it's just a different grief. It felt like a different grief. Brad Crowell 3:48  It felt like a different grief. I felt like with Gaia, I had a lot more opportunity to say goodbye ahead of time, you know. And then when when it was gone, it was fond memories. With August, it felt like shock and sadness.Lesley Logan 4:11  Yeah, yeah. I mean, with and with her, like, I felt like, okay, she's gonna be better. Because, like, she was just having a hard time being alive. And he was so young, so that just felt like it was it was hard, it was awful. We didn't talk about it, because there's when you when you share, that someone passes away, or a pet passes away, there's an outpouring of love because of this world we live in. Like, you can say what you want about the negative sides of social media. But the positive sides are like, insane. It's like, it's like the people from your life 10 years ago, and because people have had pets like, they feel it. When you lose a pet and you see someone like you feel that loss with them. Because you know what it feels like and like, in no way were we capable of handling any I'm sorry, like I couldn't and, like, even now we're getting teary eyed. So anyways, we have one amazing dog, and we, if you know this about OPC, well, all of our companies do a little donation to a charity. It's built into all of our products and our profit margins and OPC, this year, I chose a dog charity down because they get like, 500 animals, like, a week, and like, they're trying really hard to be a no kill shelter, and I, and we can't I, like, literally, look at dogs Brad, like, look at this one. Like, we're gonna, like, we're gonna take this on. And as much as, like, oh, that fills this hole. Then I'm, like, it doesn't fill the hole. So, like, anyways, National Rainbow Bridge Remembrance Day to for from our hearts to all of yours who've lost a pet, it's so hard. So anyways, okay, so in other news. Brad Crowell 5:51  In other news.Lesley Logan 5:52  We are back from our tour, as you heard last time, but we are literally leaving in like four days to go to the U.K., and we opened up ala carte workshops, which means that if you can't take a whole day off with us, it's quite possible there is a spot left in a workshop. So we just took the day passes and allowed people to buy a workshop. So there might be one or two workshops that you can snag your spot. And so go to opc.me/uk because we're going to be in Essex and Leeds, and I don't know when we'll be back teaching in the U.K., but I know we're gonna be there now, and it's gonna be so much fun. There's some great workshops. There's some business ones, there's some Pilates ones. They're for people who like us and love us and just wanna learn with us who are really, absolutely amazing. So thank you to our hosts from The Movement Base and Chapel Allerton Pilates. Then we come back and like, two weeks later, we leave for Chicagoland. We're going to be at a Balanced Body's POT and I'm teaching the Joe's gyms there. Brad is going to have, like, Brad just now was helping me with the booth, and that's it's in Burr Ridge, but they call it Chicagoland, and I like that. And from Chicagoland, we're going to go to Cambodia. And you know what? We've had people last minute join us, like we said, you could join like, two weeks before. So, crowsnestretreats.com, if you are feeling ambitious and wanting to get the heck out of town because there's a lot going on and maybe you just want to take a break. So, crowsnestretreats.com. And then what? Brad Crowell 7:16  Well, we're actually working on lighting up a workshop and some classes in Singapore right now. Lesley Logan 7:21  I know. Brad Crowell 7:22  Which would be awesome. We'll see. You know, I would say at this point, if it hasn't come together, then we have a problem. If you're listening to this now, but right now we're working on it when we're recording this. So we're gonna say, yeah, it happened. It definitely happened. We got a workshop coming in Singapore.Lesley Logan 7:39  It's going to happen because, hello. I mean, it's not very often Singapore that I have a layover during daylight hours. Brad Crowell 7:44  That's right. Lesley Logan 7:44  And so we're gonna make there's people who want it.Brad Crowell 7:46  It's gonna be awesome, yeah. But anyway, we've been looking at different venues right now, and we're lining it all up. So yeah. And then after we get back from Singapore, we actually are home for about a month, which is quite nice to to chill out. We some family coming into town, and then we go on our winter tour for OPC, where we're driving another 8000 miles this year. Last year, we did 8200 over the winter. This year is going to be less miles more stops. Oh, yeah. Lesley Logan 8:20  Okay. Brad Crowell 8:21  Less miles, more steps, but it's gonna be awesome. We are stoked. Lesley Logan 8:24  You know what's really funny, guys? Okay, so the team, like, I see the map, I see where we're going, I give some inputs on some places. I'm like, yeah, I'll do that, whatever. But then they don't actually always tell me, like, all the events we're doing. So like, this week, all the private events that, because, like, studios that host us can also, like, hire us for an event, just for their team, right? So there's a public class and a public workshop, and then sometimes there's a private workshop. And apparently there's a lot more than workshops that I thought on the summer tour. So I am interested to see this winter tour. I expect lots of gifts and lots of hugs, but we'll announce the winter tour in October. So if you are in Cambodia with us, you'll hear it all announced. Brad Crowell 9:03  Yes, you will. Lesley Logan 9:04  Okay before we get into Anthony's incredible episode. What is the question of the week?Brad Crowell 9:10  Yes, great. So I don't actually know how to say this, netamenashe, yeah, netamenashe. there you go, on Instagram, she asked, Hey Lesley, do you do any Zoom sessions sometimes? Lesley Logan 9:27  Sometimes I do. Brad Crowell 9:28  Sometimes.Lesley Logan 9:29  That's true. Yeah. Who gets them? It's gonna sound like I'm an asshole, but the people who get Zoom sessions with me are people who are in my mentorship program, to be completely honest. I don't have a lot of hours in a week that I can teach because of we run OPC, you run Profitable Pilates, you know, and we do have the mentorship program, so the limited times that I have are for those in that program. And then sometimes OPC members get access to that calendar. But basically, as you can hear, no one publicly gets access to those things. So as much as I love to teach the world on Zoom, that the way I can do that is through OPC actually, because we have a monthly live class, and I can look, we can hang out afterwards, and I can look at your form. I can answer your questions. You don't even have to come to the live class when I look at your form, you can submit videos, and I can give you feedback. So if you're wanting me to give you feedback on some exercises, be an OPC member. If you're a teacher, you can go through eLevate we only have a few spots there, where OPC, it's obviously as many people. Brad Crowell 10:28  Open to the world. Lesley Logan 10:28  Open to the world and. Lesley Logan 10:29  But yeah, I mean, with eLevate, if you, if you're actually looking for a specific feedback on your practice and you want to really grow, Neta, you should be considering eLevate. It's for teachers. It's a nine-month program. It's like, consider it like going and getting a master's degree somewhere. It's very in depth, in in in what it covers. It's going to run through everything that Lesley learned from Jay Grimes, who studied with Joe. So you're going to be covering 500 exercises. It's going to be amazing. During that time, your your personal practice will significantly grow, and you'll also have, Lesley will be, you know, watching your practice during those nine months, too. So that's like, the best way to make that happen. Just reach out, or go to lesleylogan.co/elevate and or you can book a call. I'm super happy to hop on a call and just say, what's up, you know.Lesley Logan 11:21  I mean, I it's like a it's a great problem to have. And I actually used to teach this long I've been teaching online. I used to teach on Skype, and I used to teach people all over on Skype. Brad Crowell 11:30  2015, '16, '17 Skype.Lesley Logan 11:33  Yeah, Skype, oh, my God. Or sometimes Facebook, sometimes Facebook Messenger, because Skype wasn't working, or whatever, like, it was so, but I was, like, anything that has a video I can teach on it. And, you know, but, yeah, I think, like, we do have some great opportunities to work together in person between the tours and Cambodia, and then the online stuff is, you know, you I all love. Brad Crowell 11:56  That's another great one. You could come with us to Cambodia, Neta, where you'll be doing five classes with Lesley during the retreat. And obviously, you know, it's, it's not a large group. So you can come there and be in person. Lesley Logan 12:10  Yeah. So you guys send in your questions. You can, like, you'll literally hear honest feedback and answers. And we love answering them. Like, I just, I want, I want, I want I want questions about your wedding, I don't know. Like, give me some good ones. Go to beitpod.com/questions to submit them, or text us at 310-905-5534, it doesn't yet mean Be It Pod, but we're getting to.Brad Crowell 12:34  No it's not gonna mean Be It Pod anytime soon. So I love that your wishful thinking here it's, you know, low on the list.Lesley Logan 12:41  Being it till I see it. Brad Crowell 12:43  Lower on the priority list. Lesley Logan 12:47  All right, all right. Brad Crowell 12:49  Love you. Lesley Logan 12:49  Love you too.Brad Crowell 12:51  Stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into one of my really dear friends who I've now known for more than a decade, and he he's just inspirational in multiple ways, being a yogi, but also, you know, he's a philosopher too. So cannot wait to dig into this convbo that you have with Anthony Benenati. You're really going to enjoy. If you haven't already gone back and listened to that, you should, but yeah, looking forward to it. Stick around we'll be right back. Brad Crowell 13:19  Right. Let's talk about Mr. Anthony Benenati. A professional yoga teacher with over 32 years of experience. Before stepping into yoga, Anthony served in the Air Force and worked in a comp as a competitive power lifter. I don't know if he worked at it, but he was a competitive power lifter, which left him with shoulder and knee injuries. In fact, you know, he he told me when he was younger, he couldn't even touch his toes, you know, and today he's like, you know, obviously been doing yoga for three decades. He founded City Yoga, which was California's first on a Sora studio, and he now leads, That's Not Yoga. That's his website, thatsnotyoga.com. He he's actually also done a lot of business stuff, and like because he sold studios and then he taught for other people, and he's done workshops and holds retreats, all sorts of stuff. Anthony's philosophy is to fit yoga to the student, making sure the practice leads to transformation and healing, not to suffering. And he teaches students to listen to their bodies every day, meeting themselves where they're at, with their openness and compassion, and yeah I think that is a really great summary of, you know, who he is. But I would also say he rides a motorcycle, he drinks beer, he curses. He's fucking cool and hip, and that's one of the things that that I connected with him the most about is because I had this preconception of what's a yogi. Lesley Logan 14:45  I mean, your first class was, like a per tip, like a bit like, like the typical yoga instructor, like this little, soft spoken older lady.Brad Crowell 14:52  No, no, no, no, no. I had my well, so that, so that was the first teacher that I actually learned from, and she was super sweet and nice. But yes, the class was literally for, like, elderly people. And I was like, teach me the foundations. And I liked the class because she let her students ask questions during class. And I was like, I don't understand this pose. How does it work? And it effectively was like. Lesley Logan 15:14  In case you haven't noticed, Brad, you guys, Brad literally interrupts all classes to ask questions. Like, like, all classes, he has questions. He comes on the retreat, and he'll just pop into a class, and then he's got a question. It's like, we actually talked about that yesterday, and you missed class. But okay.Brad Crowell 15:29  So, but my very first class was hilarious, because I'm like, you know, my nickname in yoga class was shark boy, or Mr. Bendy, and I, I've just been I'm a hyper mobile body, so naturally flexible. And I get to my first yoga class ever was a Groupon that I bought, and I showed up for class, and I'm in the middle of, like, 30 or 40 people, and I don't have a clue what I'm doing. I'm watching this guy up in the front, you know, do all the things. And I was like, okay, we're sticking our arm over there. We're shooting, our leg over this way. We're twisting and blah, blah, blah. And at the end of the class, he came up to me, he's like, wow, man, you have a great practice. And I was like, this is my very first class. And it was like, what? And I was like, yeah. And then I left the studio, and I walked out to my motorcycle, and I could not get onto it. Lesley Logan 16:16  You did way too much. Brad Crowell 16:17  Because I hurt myself so bad that I literally had to sit there for like an hour just for my back to not be screaming at me. And I was like, well, yoga is not for me. And I just was like, I'm done. And then I never, you know, like, I never went back, and I, but I, but I had that Groupon right? And so anyway, somehow I ended up using it. And I bought another package somewhere with Anthony, because the studio was convenient and but I only want. Lesley Logan 16:46  Your first class wasn't with Anthony. Brad Crowell 16:47  No, no, my first class was not with Anthony. But like, a year or two later, I was like, I'm gonna give this another try. And I did buy, like, a 10 pack at Anthony's studio, and I use, like, and he didn't have an expiration on it, right? So, and I, but I only use, like, two classes. And then I didn't know yoga for like, years. And then there was a point where I was like, I need to go. I need to go back to class. And I, I called the studio. Had, he had sold it and, you know, so I, I went. I was like, hey, I had this package with the old studio, you know, you know. And I wasn't even taking with Anthony. I had been taking with that lady, that older lady, lady, but I still had packages. It just so happened to be Anthony's studio. I didn't know that, yeah. So when I went back, Anthony was the teacher, and that's how I first met him. And I was like, who the hell is this guy? He's awesome. This is rad and that and then I was like, hooked. I was in. This is probably like, 2014. So I've been dabbling in yoga for like, maybe three years, but not really.Lesley Logan 17:46  I love how two or three times in two years is dabbling.Brad Crowell 17:50  Yeah. Well, with the with the older with the with the older lady, whose name I don't remember, and I feel bad about that. I probably went, you know, I bought a few 10 packs, you know, I went a few times.Lesley Logan 18:00  Okay, it wasn't clear that there's a multiple 10 pack. Brad Crowell 18:02  Yeah. Sorry, sorry I went a few times, like, I had enough foundation (inaudible). Lesley Logan 18:05  Every time I've heard this story it has always had, like, one 10 pack, and it's like, you get a couple of times it's not dabbling.Brad Crowell 18:12  Oh, I went, I went, yeah, I went enough to, like, decide that yoga wasn't gonna hurt me if I knew what I was doing. But, you know, I didn't actually, like, it didn't turn it into a habit or a practice. I just went a few times, and then, you know, it wasn't until, you know, a year later that I went back to redeem the rest of my package that, studio had sold. I didn't even know it. And I was like, well, they're gonna honor it. I already have classes. I'll just go there. And then I happened to pop into a class that was Anthony's, but, wow, that was a long story that has nothing to do with anything. Lesley Logan 18:45  Speaking of Anthony. Brad Crowell 18:45  Yeah, let's shift on, like from your convo, which was deep. Lesley Logan 18:50  It was deep. I knew it would be, I know it'd be so good, but I think for all the teachers, no matter what you teach, this is a really great thing. Anthony says he believes that the most effective teacher is someone who understands how people get to the practice. Brad Crowell 19:03  Well, you just found out. Lesley Logan 19:05  Yeah, well, but like, right, right, but like, I think this goes to, you know, we coach a lot of Pilates instructors, and they're like, I want to work with an advanced person. All they want to do is lose weight, and it's like, right? And we don't want you to lie to people, but you have to understand what gets people to the practice, so that you can have empathy for them being a beginner, because they should be allowed to be a beginner, and we can't, we don't want them to feel shame for what they think they want in their life, because that's a compilation of years of stories and influence good or bad to, and in the conversation we talked about, there's no such thing as good or bad, but like to to someone. And so how can you really have a lived experience, so that you can in whatever it is you're teaching, so that you can come from a really great place, an honest place, and and be human, you know, like, I think a lot of instructors put themselves upon pedestals, cult leaders and and forget that like you are also in practice when you teach something, that's a practice, right? And so he also said empathy is such an important factor to be a great teacher, you have to put yourself in their shoes. And this is something like, look, of course, I have days where I get tired and I'm like, why don't they just fucking relax and stop trying to be perfect, like I don't understand, like, I'm fucking just, just relax, just be in practice. But also, I know what that is like. I know why they can't do it. I know that they have years of like, being for whatever, like somebody told them that it had maybe the perfection is because it kept the house safe. You know, there's so many different reasons why people seek perfection. They want certainty. They want control, you know.Brad Crowell 20:47  Yeah, I mean, it could be a response from uncertainty in another area of their life, where they feel like this is where I can have certainty, because I know exactly how it's supposed to be, you know. And then, and then it becomes this thing. Lesley Logan 21:00  Yeah, but when I when I like, so when I catch myself, because sometimes, like, I'm like, and it's like, oh, wait, hold on a second. We've like, I've been here. So what, what was I going through? And what actually got me to, like, let go of that and get back in that empathy, because it actually is what helps guide people on the path to being more themselves, to connecting to themselves, to having a personal practice. So it was just like.Brad Crowell 21:25  Yeah. Anthony was talking about his ego was the thing that brought him to the practice. Because he was like. Lesley Logan 21:31  Which would just be the irony of yoga. Brad Crowell 21:33  Yeah. And I'll tell you, it was actually anger that brought me to the practice and. Lesley Logan 21:39  I do went to yoga with you because I thought you're cute. I mean I was going to yoga already, and I was like, Ookay, I'll go to that class with him, because he's cute.Brad Crowell 21:48  bBut, but I was angry that I couldn't do it, and that was also ego. But like, I was angry. I was angry outside. I was angry at my ex, right? And I was angry that I couldn't figure it out. And I was angry that my I was just angry. And then when I when I knew was that, after I had beat the shit out of myself in a yoga class, I felt better. Like, ironically, you know, and like, if you know, talk about controlling, like I wanted every single answer to every every possible understanding of the movement, you know, and then, and then there was stuff that I was like, couldn't do. And it generally like, ironically, I was flexible, but I wasn't flexible enough in my own mind. And I definitely wasn't strong. And, you know, I think that anger, like, pushed me through the strength training barriers of where I was, like, I need to be able to hold this pose for whatever, 10 seconds, I don't know, like, whatever it was like. And it was like, I mean, I'm glad I didn't hurt myself, to be honest, you know, during it. But it was, you know, it took me a solid six months to enjoy the practice, you know, because I was just frustrated at everything.Lesley Logan 23:04  Yeah, I think, like, had you come to it for a different way, you might, like, it would might have been a different thing, but maybe you didn't, wouldn't have practiced that hard. Like, I think, I think that's what the point is. Like, what if we allowed our journey to whatever it is just be that, I think a lot of people want to change the past. They want, they want it to be a different way that they got into something. I remember, like, how I got into Pilates. I thought it was BS, and I remember not telling anyone that story for years, like I was so embarrassed that I actually thought that that Pilates was a gimmick, you know, I really was. I was like, oh. And then also on top of that, because when I became a Pilates instructor, people, most of the teachers were dancers. So here I was one of the few in my world, not in the world, but in my world, L.A., that was a non-dancer, and I thought it was bullshit, you know, like I was just like, I'm just gonna just, I'm just gonna bend back, I'm in the back, and no one's gonna know. But then I realized, like, actually, like, how I got to Pilates is probably how a lot of people think about Pilates. And what if I actually just, like, lean into the empathy of that, and it might actually allow more people to come to the practice, because then they don't feel stupid or silly or weird for thinking it's, it's, you know, not gonna work, you know? And it found, the more I talked about how I wasn't a dancer, the more teachers were like, I'm not one either. And then made them feel good. And so, like, what if we all just own the story that we have? It might actually make us all have more community and connection to different people.Brad Crowell 24:33  Yeah. I mean, it makes you relatable, you know, makes makes as a teacher, it makes you relatable when you're willing to, you know, share the things that it's I think, you know, there's always over-sharing can be wrong. But like, I think it's hard to know what will be received well. And so I feel like that there's fear there, and that's why you know, you're like, man, I shouldn't share that. But then, like, when you know if and when you do, it's like, oh, you know, like, well, I'm not alone in this, and other people are probably also not sharing, and now they feel permission to, you know, commiserate or connect, or, you know, makes them feel better about themselves, too. So, yeah. Lesley Logan 25:12  Yeah. Love it. Okay, what did you love? Brad Crowell 25:13  Yeah, so I loved this idea of good and bad. You know, he said yoga doesn't actually see things as good and bad. It's not like you have a good practice or a bad practice, or you're a good yogi or a bad yogi, you know. He said that yoga kind of sees things more in the does it work, or is it not working? You know? And he was talking about the specifically, like, when, when we were talking about this, it was more talking about habits. You know, it's like, the habit is there, whether it's a quote, unquote, good habit or a bad habit. You know, we're taking that and setting that aside instead. It's a, you know, how is this habit serving me? Is it, is it working for me, or is it not working for me, right? And specifically you were like, maybe you get frustrated that you sit there and scroll on Instagram all day long, but maybe you can see that as a good thing, because you actually need a moment to to just like, not think, right?Lesley Logan 26:12  Yeah, yeah. We also mean, we talked about, like, some people would say it's bad to drink, but like, if it if, if that drink made you that drink made you relax and connect with your family. Like, is it bad and and I think, like, is it wrong? So I've heard that this before, and a couple different things, obviously, like, there are things that cannot be great for you, but you, the difference is, like, is it serving you? Is it serving you? And it's okay for something to serve you and not serve somebody else. Brad Crowell 26:43  Or what is coming from it that could be serving you, right? Like, it might not be the thing that is serving you like, like the alcohol itself might not be beneficial, but the quality time that you spent with family when consuming the alcohol that is worth doing, right, you know? So, there's, I still, I still love the idea that like everything in moderation, including moderation, you know.Lesley Logan 27:08  Well, I think the point is, because I think about Brene Brown, she's gone in my head a couple times in this conversation, guilt versus shame is her thing, right? Like, I think some people shame themselves. I had a drink last night, versus, like, I spent time with my family and I had a drink, and I love spending time with my family. I don't love I had the drink, but when I had the drink, it let me forget about the work that I had so I could spend time with my family. So I do need to figure out a way to get to forget about work so I can spend time my family. But we don't have to have shame around the drink, because, you know, and I think that's where it's like, we have to be kinder to ourselves. I think people just walk around. I mean, it's on the internet, right? People just shame people all the time. That's bad. That's wrong. You did that wrong. Like, no one is going way to go, like, you know, when's the last time you told a stranger (inaudible). Brad Crowell 28:00  We definitely celebrated with OPC. I was gonna, I was gonna circle this right back around to your Pilates practice or your yoga practice, because when I first got into yoga, that was how I treated myself. I'm not good enough. I'm doing it wrong. I'm not doing it well. It's, it's not good, like I'm not a good yogi. And I was judging myself, but I was angry. I was angry at myself. I was angry at the world, you know, and like, you know, but I knew that, like physically, my body, like you ever felt like, you ever felt like so frustrated you just have to go run? You ever felt like that, where like running is somehow going to like be the thing, I and, like, that was that was like, you know, because you get that endorphins release and all that stuff, and that was what I was looking for without really understanding it, I just knew that I felt better after class, you know, and because I was also more relaxed and, like, my mind wasn't like, freaking out all the time, you know, at that point. But it still took time for me to like, took years for me to stop judging my own practice and like the idea that.Lesley Logan 29:14  But I think going back to like, there's a difference between saying something is bad and to lead to I'm bad, and asking yourself, and if we could just catch ourselves now, because this is why I love this conversation. Is it serving me? If the answer is yes, fuck what people think. If it's a yes, and tomorrow it's a yes, and then the next week, it's a yes, and then next month, it's a no. Then you make a change, but. Brad Crowell 29:44  Sure, you can make a choice. Lesley Logan 29:45  But I think some people are using judgment on good or bad, on things that are serving them, and then they're fucking stuck, like if you had not gone to yoga because I'm bad. It makes me feel like, you know, so I'm not, like, yoga would become the thing that's wrong. And then, like, you know what I mean? So like, is it serving me? It's serving me to go because I'm angry, and I can be angry, and it's serving me, and then all of a sudden, the anger at yoga no longer served you, and you let it go. So I think, like, there's a couple different ways to see this. Brad Crowell 30:20  Or the anger at me is no longer serving me. Lesley Logan 30:22  Yeah, so you had to let it go. So I think, what if we could all stop? If you and this is something we can catch ourselves doing here at this household, you and me together, but also, like our coworkers, your friends, like, if you go, oh, I know it's bad that I do this, hit, pull, that rubber band. Is it serving me, that I do this, right? Is it serving me that I do this? And if you can honestly say yes, then let the fucking guilt go, because it's not helping you. Brad Crowell 30:48  You said pull that rubber band? Lesley Logan 30:50  You know, you have a rubber band on your wrist. Brad Crowell 30:52  Yeah, yeah. Snap it. Lesley Logan 30:53  Snap it. Brad Crowell 30:54  Like, hit the reset button. Yeah, you know. And, and it's, you know, that he took it a little bit differently in the conversation, because he's, you know, he was talking about all things serve a purpose, even if we look at it and say that's bad, you know? Because, you know, he said we wouldn't know love without hate, joy without pain. Lesley Logan 31:18  I can think of a few people that I could still think the world's a better place if they weren't in it. I'm just gonna say, we all know, but like, I get the point.Brad Crowell 31:27  Perspective, right? It allows us to actually understand what we have in our world that is amazing, you know, because we can also see, oh, damn, I definitely that is not amazing over there. You know? You know that that's not giving that's not that is not working. That would not work for me, right? I mean, yeah, that wouldn't work for me. So, you know, it's a, he said, it's a balance, you know, and it's and each scenario you find yourself in, you can find that balance between, you know, is it working for me or not working for me? Or is it the good and the bad? You know, how can it be working for you? Lesley Logan 32:04  I mean, you know, I love it because, like BJ Fogg always said, there's no such thing as bad habit. Every habit you have is serving some function. Now, there might be habits you don't like or are no longer serving you, but they're a habit. But there, you cannot say there's a bad habit, because it is providing something in your brain that's kicking off a dopamine otherwise your brain wouldn't seek doing it.Brad Crowell 32:24  Right. Yeah, yeah. I always thought about that too with, like, food, you know, there's something, even if it's like, quote, unquote, bad habit of, like, eating all the time, or, like, maybe you have, like, a consistent, like, I eat late, or whatever, and you know that it's like, not physically helping you. There's still something in your head that's like, I need that thing, whatever that thing is, you know, I need that glass of orange juice, you know, I need the sugar, you know. Lesley Logan 32:49  Well, because it could be, it brings re lief, right? It's distraction, it might calm you down. There's so many different things that our habits do. So if there's something that you feel no longer serves a purpose in your life, right, you have to explore that and not judge that. I'm going to do a whole series on habits, actually, so we can continue this conversation on this like it's now an eight episode series I'm going to do about habits. Brad Crowell 33:19  Really? Lesley Logan 33:19  Oh, Brad has no idea. Brad Crowell 33:20  What? Tell me more. Lesley Logan 33:22  Yeah, oh, my God, I'm doing a whole episode, a whole series on my. Brad Crowell 33:25  On where? Lesley Logan 33:26  On the pod. I'm just taking over and not interviewing people for a few weeks. And I'm gonna tell you how to fucking do a habit. And we're also talking about unraveling habits that no longer serve you. Brad Crowell 33:35  All right, you heard it here first, y'all, surprise. Lesley Logan 33:37  So the thing the homework from this episode is just start taking notice of things, you know, the habits you have, the routines you have that no longer serve you. And we can bring that to the series, which will come out, I think it's going to come out either in December or January, so.Brad Crowell 33:55  Cool. All right, that's really fun. We'll stick around. We'll be right back. We're going to dig into those Be It Action Items that you covered with Anthony, which were also fantastic. So yeah, stick around we'll be right back. Brad Crowell 34:07  Welcome back. Let's dig into those Be It Action Items that you had.Lesley Logan 34:13  You guys, I am notorious, like, I'm notorious, like, yeah, I'm ready. And then I just looked down, and he's like, just wants me to look at the camera when he says welcome back. So I'm sorry, everyone here we are. Welcome back. Brad Crowell 34:24  Welcome back. Lesley Logan 34:24  Say it with him. What bold, ex, you're not gonna say it with me? What bold, executable, intrinsic or targetedBrad Crowell 34:31  Action items can we take away from your convo with Anthony Benenati?Lesley Logan 34:35  Just so you know, I always fade out, even when you sing Happy Birthday, because I can't. I don't like how I sound. Okay. I'm going first, babe, here we go. I'm taking away because I there's just too many things I loved. So he said, he states that it's important that we actually we focus on three things when you want to do things that you want to do. So first of all, to do anything you want to do, you have to actually have the desire to do it. If you don't have the desire to do it, you won't put the effort forward. Has anyone ever said like, oh, I'm gonna I'm gonna learn Spanish, and then you don't learn Spanish. So you have to have the desire to do it. This is, we're gonna talk about this in the Habit Series. I love it. Knowledge. You have to learn to do it. He actually said just doing something without knowing how to do it can cause you harm. This is very true. You have to actually learn how to do it. I'm actually trying to learn how to do tarot, because I like want to, we have a Ttarot episode coming out, and I like, want to understand how to like, do it better. And I want a tarot is a personal relationship with yourself. It's asking yourself questions. And I want to have, I don't want to do it wrong. I want to have a really good understanding of it before I start journaling and pulling cards. And really like doing it for real. And then third is action. Then you simply have to do it. But beyond doing it just once, you must commit to doing over and over and over again to create meaningful change. And I love this so much. We have to be okay with being beginners, are we okay for having, like, being on a journey of learning, and then you just keep doing it. And it's really amazing how when you do that, it's like there's deeper levels of everything that we do, and it's just so good. I am loving, I love this, love, I love this triad. Okay, Brad.Brad Crowell 36:12  Yeah, I think that that idea of desire, knowledge and action is so obvious, but we often will skip one of the steps. Lesley Logan 36:24  Sometimes people skip desire. Brad Crowell 36:26  That's what I'm saying. Lesley Logan 36:27  It's terrible, like, that's a bad one. Brad Crowell 36:28  I'm doing it because I have to, or I'm doing it for somebody else, but really, you don't fucking want to, and so it actually sets you up to fail from the gate, right? Because what's gonna happen, you're gonna you're gonna do it, and it's gonna build frustration or resentment, you know, or like you mentioned with step two, if you skip knowledge, you could hurt yourself. And then, you know, there's step three, which is actually being consistent with it. You can have the desire to learn. You could even learn how to do it. But then if you don't do it.Lesley Logan 37:03  Right, right, because you, because some people won't do things because they're they're too new at it, you know. Okay, your Be It Action Items, your takeaways.Brad Crowell 37:11  Okay, so he was talking about being careful with language, and you mentioned this too, right? How your body actually learns, your body responds to the way that you think and the things that you say impact, you know, like, what you think is what you're going to say, and what you think your body is also going to do. Lesley Logan 37:32  Your body's not going to go rogue on you.Brad Crowell 37:34  Right. So, for example, you were talking about, you know, oh, I'm never, I never lose weight, or I'm never gonna get stronger or, you know, or I was thinking about just this, just the other day, I had somebody come, you know, we had somebody come to our place, and we were just taking photos, and the person said, oh, no, no, no, no, no, that's my bad side. And then shifted to the other side of the photo so they could get it. And I was like, that's like, I mean, of course, we've all heard that and like, it sounds like so Hollywood, but it's also, you know, like, that's a shame.Lesley Logan 38:13  Well, also, because you it just you have confirmation bias. You actually always see the thing that you're saying is bad, but your body listens. If you say you have a weak arm, your body's not gonna go let me show you how strong I am. No, it's just not gonna happen, and you'll treat it that way. So I really, I really think language, being careful with it, is something we could all pay attention to.Brad Crowell 38:34  Yeah and then the other side of it, too is let's say you have the desire and the action, the knowledge, I mean, and you're putting it into action, the way that you put it into action today might be different than the way you put it into action yesterday, right? And I think I had, especially with my yoga practice, never fully embraced this idea, ever. So for 10 years, I was like, I can always go further than I did the day before. That's just the way I always looked at it. It wasn't until I started lifting weights that I truly looked at it like, I just can't today, whatever, whatever, like, like, if last week I did 150 pounds, I just feel like, wimpy today, I'm not going to be able to do it and I and I could actually hurt myself.Lesley Logan 39:28  Yeah, that's why my trainer has me on a deload week because it's important for your central nervous system to, like, think things are a little easier. Can't always be building, building, building. You have to calm it down, yeah, so it's, it's so true, like our the way we approach things has to be different if we're listening to our body. Brad Crowell 39:47  Yeah and, you know, so yeah, listening to your body, being careful with your language, being willing to, being willing to, not, you know, whatever, reach the goal or hit the to be the epitome of the pose or, you know, in our in my case, it was often handstand, you know, when it was yoga, or for lifters, it's like, I gotta hit my max. Last max was, you know, this, so I gotta hit, I gotta at least hit that and then more, right, like, being willing to be like, okay, maybe right now it's okay if it's different, you know.Lesley Logan 40:24  Yeah, it's interesting how, like, some of those things, just you'd learn with age, but also.Brad Crowell 40:27  I think with age and also, like death. I never felt like I was gonna hurt myself in yoga. I never felt like I could crush my skull. Like, if you're benching and you have too much weight, your body could slip and fail, and you could have 150 pounds crashing on your body like, that was, that was the moment where I was like, oh, okay. Lesley Logan 40:47  So there it is, Anthony. We should have just probably go how to teach Brad he could have died, get a fucking broken his neck. Oh, my God. Okay, now we know. Well, I.Brad Crowell 40:59  But also that's translated, you know, like, I it took me an opportunity to learn, and then, you know, now, when I'm going back into my yoga practice, it's, doesn't have to be like, to the nth degree every single time.Lesley Logan 41:12  Yeah, I just show up. Like, that's where I'm at. I'm like, I'm really enjoying just showing up. So glad I get to do that. I'm like, I'm here today.Brad Crowell 41:20  I also feel a lot stronger, too, and less flexible. And I acknowledge that. Lesley Logan 41:25  You're no longer a shark boy. Brad Crowell 41:26  No. I mean, I don't think so. I'm still flexible, but I'm not like I was like before. Lesley Logan 41:31  You have mobility. Brad Crowell 41:32  Yeah, but I could put my foot behind my neck not in front of my head.Lesley Logan 41:35  I know, but you have but we need strength as we get older, it's really fucking hard to put it on. Anyways, I just this whole episode has so many gems I really enjoyed, like, reliving it. I think it's one that's worth going back to. And I think it's got, it's got a takeaway you might listen to differently each time you hear it. So, listen to it again. And I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 41:57  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 41:58  Thanks for listening. I want to hear reviews. I want to hear takeaways. I want your fucking questions. Send it in to beitpod.com/questions, also your wins. I want your wins. I want a lot. Okay, I want a lot. Brad Crowell 42:09  Yeah. We want it all. Lesley Logan 42:10  Yes, I can't I'm not gonna sing a song for you. Until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 42:14  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 42:16  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 42:59  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 43:03  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 43:08  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 43:15  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 43:18  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. 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Have you ever felt a weight you just can't shake? That voice whispering that you are what you've done, or that you're unlovable because of what happened to you? In this eye-opening episode, Preston Morrison pulls back the curtain on a game-changing truth: What if the very thing you think is a godly consequence is actually a lie designed to keep you trapped? He reveals the profound difference between guilt and shame, and why one is a gift from God while the other is a weapon from the enemy. This conversation is a direct attack on shame's ultimate goal—to make you hide and separate you from a God who desperately wants to be with you. The Cross wasn't just about dealing with your sins; it was about despising and crushing the power of shame once and for all. Discover how to FINALLY get rid of shame. What if you're just one step away from the freedom you've been searching for? It's time to learn the truth about who you are and get that weight off you!  

Join us for ⁠⁠BookThinkers LIVE 2025⁠⁠! Happening November 9, 2025!⁠⁠https://www.bookthinkers.com/book-thinkers-live-2025In today's episode, we have the pleasure to interview Emily Mendenhall, author of Unmasked: COVID, Community, and the Case of Okoboji. Emily is a medical anthropologist, professor at Georgetown University, and award-winning author whose research explores the intersections of health, culture, and politics. Her work has taken her from the hospital wards of Chicago to the villages of South Africa—and ultimately back to her hometown of Okoboji, Iowa during the height of the pandemic.In this episode, you'll learn how to approach polarizing topics with curiosity instead of judgment, what the COVID pandemic revealed about collective identity and shame, and why public health isn't just about protocols—it's about people, empathy, and community trust.We hope you enjoy this incredible conversation with Emily Mendenhall.To Learn More about Emily and buy her book visit: The Book: https://a.co/d/h3uou4JWebsite/Socials: https://www.emilymendenhall.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/emily-mendenhall-268b255https://www.youtube.com/@mendenhall_emhttps://twitter.com/mendenhall_emChapters: 0:00 Intro1:23  Anthropology & using it to study COVID5:53  Experiencing the pandemic in different cities9:09  Understanding the complex layers of events like the 2020 pandemic12:50 Shame and subconscious survival mechanisms14:42 Contrast between local culture & different communities17:02 Social consequences vs Business consequences22:48 An anthropologist's view on the effects of social media25:25 How to deal with opposing perspectives and opinions35:12 Leadership in schools & the education system39:02 Emily's future work40:09 How your decisions affect people around you in the long‑run41:10 The effects of virtual learning & education during the pandemic43:11 Emily's perspective shifts after publishing the book47:52 The importance of long‑form content for deep understanding________________________________________________Join the world's largest non-fiction Book community!https://www.instagram.com/bookthinkers/The purpose of this podcast is to connect you, the listener, with new books, new mentors, and new resources that will help you achieve more and live better. Each and every episode will feature one of the world's top authors so that you know each and every time you tune-in, there is something valuable to learn. If you have any recommendations for guests, please DM them to us on Instagram. (www.instagram.com/bookthinkers)If you enjoyed this show, please consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60-seconds of your time, and really makes a difference when I am trying to land new guests. For more BookThinkers content, check out our Instagram or our website. Thank you for your time!

“Honor builds trust and safety, not through flattery, but through real recognition.”In this episode of Business is Human, Rebecca Fleetwood Hession introduces the Humanity Quadrant, a leadership tool that challenges traditional business mindsets. The model separates performance from personal worth, promoting honor over shame. Rebecca explains how business language often undermines humanity and how embracing honor, value, and worth can transform relationships and results. Rebecca talks about intrinsic motivation, its roots in neuroscience, and how leaders can foster a safe environment for their teams. Rebecca offers practical advice on affirming human value, not just performance, and avoiding burnout by recognizing when high achievers are pushed too far.In this episode, you'll learn:How to distinguish between honor and shame in leadershipWhy worth isn't tied to performance and how to affirm this for yourself and othersThe impact of separating identity from results to encourage creativity and collaborationThings to listen for:(00:00) Intro(01:04) The Humanity Quadrant(04:55) Defining worth, value, and honor(09:16) Exploring the Humanity Quadrant(10:12) Handling mistakes with honor(14:43) Celebrating success with honor(21:46) The dangers of shame in the workplace(26:27) The trap of constant striving(31:52) Reflection questionsConnect with Rebecca:https://www.rebeccafleetwoodhession.com/

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Jesus is calling you out of shame and into freedom. In this message, Noah unpacks what shame really is, a lie that makes us feel unworthy of God, and shows how Scripture reveals the truth of His love. From the garden in Genesis to the woman at the well in John 4, we see that Jesus is not surprised by our story. He chooses us anyway. Look to Him, and you will never be ashamed!Pneuma Life Church with Pastors Jason & Jessica Huffman in Saint Johns, Florida.Make Jesus Known. Make Disciples. Make A Difference.Join us live for services each Sunday at 10AM 4100 Race Track Rd. (Durbin Creek Elementary) Saint Johns, FL 32259Visit us online at: https://pneumalife.churchEmail: hello@pneuma.life

What if your money problems weren't just about willpower, but about who you are?In this episode of Sorry, I Missed This, Cate chats with Ellyce Fulmore, financial educator and author of Keeping Finance Personal, about how who you are affects how you deal with money. We cover how things like ADHD, race, gender, and queerness all shape your money habits. Ellyce explains how to understand your own “money story” and why some advice doesn't work for everyone. We also talk about what happens when someone with ADHD gets into a relationship and has to mix money with a partner.Related resourcesWhat is the ADHD tax?Ellyce's website, queerdco.comEllyce's ADHD Aha! podcast episode: The pain of struggling with basic tasks — ADHD in the pandemicTimestamps(00:00) A word from Cate on ADHD and money(02:44) The intersection of identity and finances(07:57) Balancing treating yourself and impulse spending(10:13) The word “should”(14:09) Shame, guilt, and embarrassment about money(17:50) The ADHD tax(20:42) ADHD and finances in a relationship(25:05) Ellyce's advice for starting to think about your money story(26:58) Outro and creditsFor a transcript and more resources, visit the “Sorry, I Missed This” show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Explore Through My Eyes today. Step into the world of three kids with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia — helping you see differently so you can act differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Donald Trump's allies are weaponizing the machinery of government against opponents, eroding faith in American institutions. But does every abuse demand the “dictatorship” label? Mike weighs in on the rhetoric of tyranny, then turns to Camp Shame, a new podcast by Kelsey Snelling about the notorious weight loss retreat Camp Shane, its false promises, and its lasting scars. Use Code gist at the link to get an exclusive 60% off an annual incogni plan: https://incogni.com/gist Produced by Corey Wara Production Coordinator Ashley Khan Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠thegist@mikepesca.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ To advertise on the show, contact ⁠⁠⁠⁠ad-sales@libsyn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://advertising.libsyn.com/TheGist⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to The Gist: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://subscribe.mikepesca.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to The Gist Youtube Page: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4_bh0wHgk2YfpKf4rg40_g⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to The Gist Instagram Page: ⁠⁠⁠⁠GIST INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow The Gist List at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Pesca⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Profundities | Mike Pesca | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Jesus Took Away Our ShamePreached at Oceans Unite, Vero Beach, June 8, 2025 https://www.youtube.com/@Oceansunite   ~~~FRONTL|NE Newsletter: https://thelineoffire.org/newsletterDonate: https://thelineoffire.org/donate-one-timeX: https://twitter.com/DrMichaelLBrownYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LFTVInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichaelbrownFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ASKDrBrownWebsite: https://thelineoffire.orgRadio Broadcast from The Line of Fire

There's a humility you carry like baggage, and it's slowly wearing you down. This week, Dr. Les Parrott and Judah Smith join me to dismantle the false humility that masquerades as godliness while laundering shame. Humility becomes self-hatred when vulnerability is avoided and spiritual high-mindedness is mistaken for healing. Layer on top the epidemic of spiritual bypassing—pretending everything is okay—and you get a reluctance to ever speak pain. We unpack why your job is not to heal publicly, how real accountability looks different than performance, and why refusing to stay in the box of pretense is the most subversive spiritual act you can commit. Whether you've preached from the platform or hidden behind faith walls, this episode cuts through your shame fortress and lights a path to emotional and spiritual freedom. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

What happens when the voice of should runs your life?In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock unpack Chapters 2 and 3 of Enough Already - The Shame of Should and I Got Robbed. Together they explore how shame-driven expectations steal our joy, how people-pleasing and performance pressure shape our decisions, and how to reclaim freedom in the present moment.You'll hear:

The Wizard digs deeper into the occult forces shaping our reality, pivoting from the coveted prize of "coolness" to the booby trap everyone is eager to avoid: Shame! In this short preview, you'll learn how shame relates to cool, why trying to avoid shame has the opposite effect, and some counterintuitive strategies for working with uncomfortable feelings. Listen to the full episode: https://www.patreon.com/posts/137486865 Got a question for the the Wizard? Call the Wizard Hotline at 860-415-6009‬ and have it answered in a future episode! Join the ritual: www.patreon.com/thispodcastisaritual

Check out the collection of fidgets Team Shiny loves! Are ADHD, autism and other neurodevelopmental disorders overdiagnosed? Is it all in our heads? Is self-diagnosis legit? Isabelle and David take some common stigmas and misperceptions to task and explore how labels and identities can help or hurt, how policing stigma when you're not a member of the group being stigmatized (or asking us what we need), and the huge weight our world puts on external, visible behaviors rather than internal pain, frustrations, and strengths.-----Isabelle references a podcast episode she listened to recently, Armchair Expert with guest Suzanne O'Sullivan on overdiagnosis. She brings up the idea of psychosomatic illness, and the example this epilepsy expert uses is that there are a certain percentage of cases of epilepsy that appear very different on brain scans, that appear to be psychologically caused (or psychosomatic). This is one of those confusing, stigmatized concepts—Isabelle would originally think that this means “made up.” But NO. What it means is that people are still experiencing the symptoms, are still suffering from symptoms of seizures, sometimes way worse than those who on EEGs, etc. appear to have ‘epilepsy.' It is the opposite of ‘in your head,' it is very real. The same goes for the placebo effect, which is that when they do studies on medications or treatments, they have people do something neutral or take a sugar pill or a pill with no active ingredients. A percentage of people in every case will see symptom improvement or a positive effect. This does not mean it's made up, it means the mind is powerful and just because we don't know how something works doesn't mean it doesn't bring relief. And the same goes with nocebo, or the way things can have an adverse or ill effect, too. But now David and Isabelle get to the other idea this author has, about how ADHD and autism and other diagnoses are being ‘over diagnosed,' because, as the author states, autism used to mean something different than it does now, because now people later in life who are high masking are being diagnosed with it—and the cutoff points for diagnoses are being too muddled, and isn't it (as the author puts it), “awful that kids will be labelled with these self-fulfilling prophecies” that will create limiting beliefs for them, isn't it causing harm, can't we meet kids needs without these labels? And more so, the cut off point should be “disablement.” But wait a minute, isn't that pre-diabetes? But isn't it like the biggest predictor of heroin use is milk consumption…because everyone who takes heroin used to drink milk. David wants to come at this. David wants more inclusive education, he doesn't want smaller and smaller classrooms, and what to have a very diverse set of people in the room. A diverse group of people learning at once. To answer why do we need to label them? Because every person has different needs, we need labels to tailor education to each person. The more standardized it becomes the more it becomes marginalized. Stay in your lane, let people within the culture manage the stigma around the culture. “Can you just include someone from these communities?” A bunch of people talking about us and deciding what's harming us without talking to us. Isabelle refers back to psychopharmacology and psychopathology class—you gotta learn a ton about diagnostic criteria and learn how to categorize the experiences of people your seeing. Isabelle's professor was a neuropsychologist and was very into accurate language. You can look at diagnoses from a couple of different angles—why do we diagnosis? We need to have a standardized understanding of a group of experiences, so when we talk about it we all say “this is the part that we mean.” There needs to be some kind of shared consensus around what ADHD means. Cut off points could be true for insurance purposes, political, and financial, and for research and understanding, and it also is not all encompassing—but if you accurately sync a person up to a diagnosis, it gives them an understanding of a person that helps them. Everyone isn't self-diagnosing. It's the people who resonate with the experiences of those who are AuDHD or autistic or an ADHDer. David names that he loves the podcast (as does Isabelle, she's a big archerry) and that the people on this podcast are falling into something society does, not necessarily leading society there, which is validating external manifestations of pain rather than internal frustration. David leans on the work of Marcus Soutra, with the idea that perhaps instead of thinking of things as diagnoses, it's more of an identification. We're accurately identifying people.  Isabelle further details that they mention that mental health diagnoses go up when mental health awareness is spread. To which she wonders—what about how psychoeducation and awareness allow for people to be more vulnerable and feel safe disclosing what's really going on, internally? The example that ‘doesn't everyone have a little ADHD' is—-wrong. Nope, Not everyone. But maybe those who have untreated ADHD do? And with the example of Bill Gates identifying as autistic, and the author naming that she doesn't see him as having struggles or disability, again, a very external definition—they have no clue about what he has gone through or what it is like to go through life not fully understanding yourself without such an identity. Autism and ADHD is not necessarily a learning difference Armchair Expert episode Isabelle is referencingSuzanne O'Sullivan's book, The Age of DiagnosisUSEFUL DEFINITIONSPsychosomatic - a word that literally means "mind" and "body" -- where stress or worry make a symptom or condition develop, get worse, or show up in the first place. While common usage means we often think this is saying "it's all in your head,"or that it's not real---it's saying the opposite: it's saying that the mind has such a powerful effect that it can cause real physical pain and suffering and that illnesses and all kinds of conditions can have many different causes. This does not mean what you're experiencing is not real, it means we now understand that stressors and emotions and our minds can connect to a number of health conditions. See here for more (Source: Cleveland Clinic).Placebo effect - the way a sugar pill or random remedy (used in clinical research trials for a medication, let's say, or a 'fake surgery' in surgical trials, where nothing is implanted or changed) produces symptom relief and improvement as if it were a real pill or real surgically-altering procedure. This means that the person experiences actual change, again, that is not explained by the treatment or pill being studied. We don't fully understand why this is, but we know it's there, and it likely has something to do with a person's expectations of whether something could help them. It has a big impact on research and neuroscience in general. See here for more (Source: NIH 2023)Nocebo effect - opposite from placebo, where a person's negative expectations play out when given a sugar pill or 'sham' surgery and their symptoms get worse even thought they did not receive any medicine or treatment that would give them side effects. See here for more (Source: NIH 2012). -----cover art by:

In this engaging episode, we interview Karli Harvey Raymond, an international event host, MC, and certified sex educator. They discuss the importance of sexual wellness and confidence for women. Karli shares her unique journey from growing up in a religious household to becoming a sex educator who helps women embrace their desires.The conversation explores why sex remains a taboo topic, the impact of shame, trauma, and stress on sexual pleasure, and practical tips on improving intimacy in relationships. Karli also offers advice on communicating sexual needs effectively and the significance of foreplay for women's sexual satisfaction. The episode emphasizes the crucial role of communication in relationships and Karli's methods for renewing attraction and intimacy with long-term partners.IN THIS EPISODE:- (03:24) Breaking Taboos Around Sex- (06:03) From Purity Culture to Sex Educator- (09:16) Empowering Women Through Sexual Confidence- (13:00) The Role of Pleasure in Our Lives- (23:06) Communicating Desires with Partners- (28:25) Exploring Fantasies and Boundaries- (34:21) Using the Yes-No-Maybe List- (36:40) Evolving Sexuality and Connection- (38:48) Common Issues in Long-Term Relationships- (42:26) Misconceptions About Sex- (51:48) Encouraging Change in Relationships- (55:37) Karli's Workshops and CoachingRESOURCESCheck out my How to Attract Devoted Masculine Men Masterclass HERE My FREE eBook The Magnetic WomanApp rec: BumbleFeminine Embodiment HERECONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars On YouTube @chosentrainingWork with me HERECONNECT WITH KARLIOn Instagram HERE

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Send us a textShame can be a powerful prison. In this intimate devotional episode, we dive deep into the aftermath of humanity's first murder through the lens of Genesis 4:12-15. The story of Cain's punishment reveals profound truths about our own struggles with sin, shame, and separation from God.What happens when the weight of our actions becomes too heavy to carry? Cain's lament that "my punishment is too great to bear" echoes through time into the hearts of many today. Drawing from his experiences ministering to men in prison, Dr. Papa illuminates how this ancient cry mirrors what he's witnessed firsthand—the paralysis that comes when shame overwhelms us. Even believers who intellectually understand Christ's redemptive work find themselves trapped in this self-imposed exile, separated from God, family, and purpose.The contrast between Cain and his parents offers a striking lesson. While Adam and Eve understood that blood sacrifice pointed toward a future Messiah, Cain rejected this path to restoration. His story serves as a powerful warning about the consequences of unconfessed sin and rebellion against God's design. Yet even in judgment, we glimpse God's mercy through the mysterious protective sign placed on Cain.The message culminates in a soul-stirring invitation: Will you continue wandering as a vagrant in your shame, or will you run into the loving arms of Jesus, who bore your sin and shame on the cross? "He who believes in Him will not be ashamed, will not be disappointed." The choice is yours—continued separation or complete restoration through Christ, who waits with open arms to receive you. Subscribe to "Devotions with Dr. Papa" for more biblical insights that bring ancient truths to bear on our modern struggles.Support the showhttps://www.jacksonfamilyministry.comhttps://bobslone.com/home/podcast-production/

In the aftermath of infidelity, accountability is often the missing piece. Too often, the betrayed partner is left carrying the heavy work of healing while the unfaithful partner minimises, avoids, or even gets a free pass from professionals who should know better. But without accountability, there can be no real repair. In this episode, Luke explores what accountability actually looks like, why it's so often resisted, and why shame, vulnerability, and societal conditioning make it so difficult. He also unpacks how accountability links to breaking painful intergenerational cycles, and why the betrayed partner's need for balance must be taken seriously. Key Takeaways Accountability is not endless self-punishment, it's owning your choices, acknowledging the harm caused, and committing to change. Shame often blocks accountability; separating actions from identity can make it possible. Betrayed partners frequently do the heavy lifting, but without accountability from the unfaithful partner, the relationship rests on a tilted foundation. Counsellors and support systems sometimes mishandle accountability, either due to cultural factors, poor training, or the betrayed's lens of pain, but validation and directness are essential. True accountability is about breaking cycles: recognising old wounds, refusing to repeat them, and creating something healthier for the future. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

Do you feel trapped by your past? Does shame hold you back from living the abundant life God desires to your to live? Are you unsure of how to move beyond your past or let go of those bags of shame and regret? My friend Beth Fortune shares her wisdom as she unpacks the truth of scripture in our honest conversation.www.sitstillmydaughter.comReach out to Beth herehttp://www.bethfortune.org

I am going on tour for the first time ever this fall November 20th, 21st, 22nd, and 23rd in four special cities. Join me for laughs, games, Full house trivia, real conversations around women's wellness, and I'll be taking audience questions. Tickets and info at candace.com/tour What comes to mind when you hear “your body is a temple”? For many of us, this verse has been used as a weapon of shame rather than a source of freedom.  In this powerful conversation, Candace and Lisa unpack the truth of 1 Corinthians 6:19, diving into how the Church has often misapplied it, how purity culture distorted it, and why understanding the indwelling of the Holy Spirit changes everything about how we see our bodies.Candace opens up vulnerably about her early years of marriage and the struggle to embrace her body without shame. Together, she and Lisa guide listeners toward a whole-body theology that replaces fear and behavior modification with grace, beauty, and the truth that we are beloved temples of God's Spirit.This episode also includes real and tender listener questions—about navigating a spouse's porn addiction, and about breaking cycles of negative self-talk and body hatred. SPONSORS -Grand Canyon University: https://www.gcu.edu/ -Mr. Pen: http://candacepens.com/ -WeShare  https://www.weshare.org/candace -NuEthix: ⁠https://nuethix.com/⁠ Use code CANDACE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unlock a deeper understanding of shame, anger, and the polyvagal theory in this episode! Justin Sunseri answers a listener's question about navigating difficult emotions, pendulation, and the importance of safety in healing. Whether you're a therapist, student, or someone seeking personal growth, this conversation offers practical insights and guidance.⏰ CHAPTERS:00:00 Introduction and Question from Katie04:10 Therapists' Perspective vs Client Reality08:27 Understanding Anger, Shame and Pendulation12:29 Safety First Approach16:40 The Unstucking Pathway and AcademyResources:

What happens when your earliest moments of intimacy are taken from you? In this raw and powerful conversation, author Kaila Yu shares the truth about a traumatic experience in her early twenties that splintered her sense of self. Raised in a household where emotions were rarely named, Kaila spent years seeking validation outside herself. When a modeling opportunity turned into a violent betrayal, she dissociated to survive. For a long time, she told no one. But silence has a way of catching up to you. In time, Kaila found the strength to tell the truth and honor the version of herself who got through it. Three key takeaways from Kaila’s life shift: Sometimes survival looks like silence, but healing begins when we tell the truth Dissociation is a form of protection, not weakness Self-worth is something we can reclaim, even after it’s been stolen This episode holds space for the complexity of trauma, cultural expectations, and the slow, brave act of integration. Listen at www.thelifeshiftpodcast.com/202 Kaila Yu is a luxury travel and culture writer and on-camera correspondent based in Los Angeles. Her work has been featured in the Los Angeles Times, New York Times, Rolling Stone, Condé Nast Traveler, and National Geographic. In her powerful debut memoir, Fetishized: A Reckoning with Yellow Fever, Feminism, and Beauty, Kaila explores the intersections of racialized desire, consent, trauma, and identity. The book will be released on August 19, 2025, by Penguin Random House’s Crown Publishing. Through her writing and advocacy, Kaila brings voice to the often-overlooked realities of Asian American women and invites deeper conversations around healing and self-worth. More from The Life Shift Podcast:

Join us as we welcome Kirby Kelly, author of You Can Be Free: Overcoming Temptation and Habitual Sin by the Power and Promises of the Gospel. Kirby shares her personal journey of overcoming habitual sin and the transformative power of sanctification. Discover the importance of community, confession, and the difference between condemnation and conviction.Key Takeaways:Understanding the cycle of sin, shame, and secrecy. The role of community and confession in healing. Differentiating between condemnation and conviction.Practical steps to renew your mind and embrace freedom.You Can Be Free on Amazon⁠⁠Grab my newest book, You're Not Too Late, on Amazon!⁠⁠ Sponsors:Previnex:If you've been thinking about taking steps to create more health in your life, you can do that and much more when you order from Previnex. So whether you're looking to support your gut health, add clean protein to your day, support your joints, or give your muscles what they need to thrive, now's the perfect time to start. Go to ⁠⁠previnex.com⁠⁠ and use code ⁠⁠REBECCA15⁠⁠ to get 15% off your first order. When you take care of your health, you're also giving a child the chance to flourish. To me, that's the ultimate win-win.⁠⁠Previnex⁠⁠Christian Standard Bible:The CSB Connecting Scripture, New Testament is designed to help you see how Jesus and the Apostles read the Old Testament and how the New Testament connects to the bigger redemption story of Scripture.Preorder your copy today at the link in the shownotes so it'll be on your doorstep on September 15!  ⁠⁠Preorder Connecting Scripture⁠⁠  Indigo Sundries:Crafted by a Christian, family-owned company with over 20 years of soap-making experience, every bar is made with their proprietary recipe for a clean that actually leaves your skin soft and refreshed. Reset your skincare routine the natural way.  Free shipping on orders over $50  Use code REBECCA10 for 10% off at ⁠⁠indigosundries.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Indigo Sundries Website

Are you worried about how porn might be impacting your teen—or afraid to even bring up the conversation?Studies show that up to 90% of boys and young men are consuming porn, often starting as young as eight years old. And the truth is, it's not harmless. Porn rewires the brain, damages real-life relationships, distorts healthy sexuality, and fuels depression, anxiety, and disconnection.In this episode, Greg and Rachel Denning break down the science, psychology, and social impact of porn use—and why parents must step up with courage, clarity, and compassion.We'll explore:

Shame is an evolutionary emotion that can be similar to other emotions, such as depression and anxiety, that can have positive impacts on our behavior when in small doses but can be detrimental to our overall wellbeing when experienced too significantly. Join Dave and Greg as we explore the emotion of shame and even share some of our own experiences with it.

"For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of God's glory displayed in the face of Christ." 2 Corinthians 4:6 NIVHi mama, you're right where you need to be. The Radiant Mom is a time for your heart to rest in Jesus. Amid the noise and laundry, He sees you and invites you to come close. Let Him fill your days with beauty and grace. Welcome to Day 7, mama!Want a little extra encouragement along the way? Access your free printables here—a beautiful set of resources we've created to accompany you on your journey through The Radiant Mom. You can print them anytime you like!

This is a Fan Fav episode. Good news ladies! If you haven't figured it out yet, there's sex of all kinds for us to enjoy, and it's not all about His parts. There's much more to sex than penetration, his pleasure, and the nonsensical pressure to perform like a porn star in the bedroom every night. This episode is dedicated to a happier, healthier sex life for the empowered badass woman that's prioritizing her health and well-being. Depending on your background, religious beliefs, and parental tolerance for the conversation of sex, you may not realize the sex-pectations society has pushed on you or the reason your sex drive is non-existent some days. Dr. Jolene Brighton is the sex-ed doc we all wish our younger selves had (but you've got her now, so pay attention!) She's the author of the book we all need to check out, Is This Normal? Judgment Free Straight Talk About Your Body. She's a clinical sexologist helping women, a.k.a. “vulva owners” get answers to the questions they dare not say allowed or in mixed company. In this episode Lisa's putting aside all the shame and embarrassment to get the takeaways every woman needs to hear today: Why sex drive is the top complaint women have, and all the things we do to ruin it If you didn't have a big enough reason to practice mindfulness, having orgasm may be the best reason yet The unnecessary shame for women around pleasing their partner and having to make their own lubrication or else What Arousal Non-Concordance is and the fight between your brain and genitals Why size does actually matter (a lot) Male centric messages about sex have been screwing up our sex lives, our pleasure and our health.We've got a lot of messages wrong about porn, about orgasms, and about intimacy. You can start here and now with an upgraded sex-ed class that prioritizes your sexual pleasure not his! Follow Jolene Brighton: Website: ⁠https://drbrighten.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@DrJoleneBrighten⁠   Pinterest: ⁠https://www.pinterest.com/drjolenebrighten/⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrighten/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/drbrighten/ Original air date: 4-5-23 CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Macy's: Upgrade your glam at ⁠https://macys.com⁠ BIOptimizers: Code IMPACTNOW for 15% off ⁠https://bioptimizers.com/impact⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Overcoming porn isn't just about saying “no” harder, installing filters, or trying to white-knuckle your way through temptation. Real freedom comes when you heal the root — the wounds beneath the surface that porn has been covering up.   In this powerful conversation, Coach Frank talks with Drew Boa,  founder of Husband Material, pastoral sex addiction professional, podcaster, and author of the new book Outgrow Porn. Drew has walked with thousands of men through their healing journeys and brings a fresh, biblical, and deeply compassionate perspective on what it really takes to outgrow porn.   Coach Frank & Drew dive into topics most men never talk about; sexual fantasies, inner child healing, shame, purity culture, relapse, and what it means to live fully alive as the man God created you to be.   If you've ever felt trapped in cycles of guilt and failure, this episode is going to set you free with a new way of thinking about your struggle.   About Drew Boa Drew Boa is the founder of Husband Material, host of the top-ranked Husband Material Podcast, and a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). With over a decade of experience, Drew has helped thousands of men worldwide heal from sexual brokenness and reclaim their God-given identity. His new book, Outgrow Porn, blends neuroscience, psychology, and biblical truth to equip men to heal at the deepest level, not through shame and control, but through love, compassion, and Christ-centered transformation.   Connect with Drew: Website - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/   Retreat - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/retreat   Book (Outgrow Porn) - https://www.drewboa.com/outgrow-porn   Listen to episode 22 of The Super Human Life w/ Drew - https://sites.libsyn.com/188300/ep-22-helping-men-of-god-quit-porn-w-drew-boa   Listen to episode 255 of The Rebuilt Man podcast w/ Drew - https://sites.libsyn.com/495683/how-to-heal-the-inner-child-outgrow-porn-the-coaches-corner-w-drew-boa-ep-255     Key Takeaways From This Episode Getting free from porn is like breaking up with a long-term partner;  there's grief, but also new life on the other side.   Your sexual fantasies tell a story, and when you understand that story, you unlock the key to healing.   Pornography hijacks the brain's reward system as a “supernormal stimulus.” Recognizing this helps you rewire your brain.   Healing the boy within is essential to freeing the man you were created to be.   Connection and safety are not optional, they're vital for breaking free from addiction.   Shame is the fuel that keeps men stuck. To heal, you must replace condemnation with curiosity and compassion.   Relapse is not failure, it's feedback. Every slip points to what still needs healing.   Drew's OBC Method (Locate, Love, Lead) offers a framework to guide men in inner child healing.   Purity culture often created toxic shame around sexuality. The answer isn't repression, it's redemption.   Living a Super Human Life means embracing the full spectrum of emotions God designed us to feel.     --- Connect with Frank and The Super Human Life on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/584284948647477/   Website: http://www.thesuperhumanlifepodcast.com/tshlhome   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjB4UrpxtNO2AFtDURMzoKQ    

Join Paris as she addresses topics around overcoming comparison, self-doubt, and bipolar shame spirals. The discussion delves into personal experiences and insights from Paris's own experience living with bipolar, providing detailed explanations on how manic, hypomanic and depressive episodes can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation. Practical strategies for managing these spirals include self-awareness, documenting triggers and seeking support from trusted individuals or support groups. Emphasis is placed on the importance of self-compassion and understanding the root causes behind these feelings. The episode also covers how to combat negative thinking patterns and comparison to past selves or others, offering actionable advice to foster better mental health and personal well-being.Stay connected with Paris here Grab a copy of her book here!Take Love Well Bipolar to support the one you care about!00:00 Introduction and Recap of Last Episode01:37 Understanding Bipolar Shame Spirals04:41 Personal Experiences with Bipolar Shame Spirals12:27 Managing and Overcoming Shame Spirals25:48 Dealing with Comparison and Self-Doubt29:23 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes

In this powerful episode of A Voice and Beyond, Marisa Lee sits down with Dana S. Diaz, a woman whose story will both break your heart and fill it with hope.Dana is the author of Gasping for Air, Choking on Shame, and Rising from the Ashes—a memoir trilogy chronicling her survival from generational abuse, emotional neglect, and a 25-year marriage to a narcissistic abuser. But more than survival, Dana's story is about reclamation—of her voice, her identity, and her life.We explore:What it means to be silenced as a woman—and how to break that silenceHow generational trauma impacts identity and worthThe inner work of healing from narcissistic abuseHow Dana reclaimed her voice through writing and speakingWhat true empowerment looks like after survivalHer message for every woman who feels unheard or unworthyThis conversation is a profound reminder that your voice matters and that even the quietest whispers can become a roar.Episode Description:What happens when a woman who's been silenced her entire life finally finds her voice?In this deeply moving episode, bestselling author and abuse recovery coach Dana S. Diaz joins A Voice and Beyond to share her journey from trauma to triumph. Drawing from her powerful memoir trilogy—Gasping for Air, Choking on Shame, and Rising from the Ashes—Dana opens up about growing up in a home where she wasn't wanted, enduring a 25-year marriage to a narcissistic abuser, and how she found her way back to herself.This is more than a story of survival—it's a call to every woman who's ever been told to stay silent. Dana's message is clear: your voice is your power.