Proud to be Out

Alexander is joined by Matt Landsiedel, Transformative Coach from Calgary, Canada in the 11th episode of Proud to be Out. Matt is joining to discuss how to stay true to yourself in a relationship, instead of copying the habits, lifestyle or even opinions of your partner. Both guys have lost themselves in one of their previous relationships and will explain what happend. Furthermore, they explain what they've learned from it and what to do if you are finding yourself in a relationship with an avoidant man who are you anxiously attached to.

Calan Breckon, a Certified Personal Development Coach for the Gay Community, is joining Alexander on today's episode. In this episode we talk about the struggles we face as it comes to follow your heart and dreams. Why are people so focussed on security and why is this more important than happiness and freedom. Why are we so impressionable by our friends, family, our educational system and the (mainstream) media. Calan is sharing his phylosophy on how to follow your heart in the crazy world we live in today.

Dutch TV-host, producer and "gay right activist" Sipke Jan Bousema, is guest on this episode of Proud to be Out. In this episode with Alexander, Sipke Jan explains why it is so important to be supported by the administration of the Province as Gay Community. Sipke Jan tells more about his youth and how it is to grow up as a young gay man in the province/country side. What makes it different incomparison to the city and how does the "Rainbow Province" can make a difference.

This time, Alexander is giving you more inside in the story behind Proud to be Out. After finishing Broadcast Yourself, by Brian Rose's London Real Academy, he and his peers Tracy Hittchings and Tomoko are launching their podcast. A fun chat about three very ambitious and happy podcasters!

In episode 7, Alexander will have a deep conversation with Noah Bristol, from Hamilton, Canada about how to build and keep a successful relationship. Questions such as, how to find out if you are type of guy for a relationship and how you can stay interested after a few dates will be answered. We dive into the success factors of Noah's own relationship and why an open relationship will not be necessarily bad for a healthy relationship!

All the way from Miami, Florida, Kevin Huntting, founder of 2 Steps Forward makes us realize in this episode that the person we think we are is someone different as we truly are. Why are we looking and working on 9-5 jobs, without having defined our own values and personal goals? How do we show up and what does this mean in terms of raising our own consciousness, how beliefs can limit us in what we want to achieve or who we want to be? A very honest and interesting conversation based on real life experiences.

In todays episode, Alexander's guest is Phil McAuliffe, also known as The Loneliness Guy from Wellington, New Zealand. As a former diplomat for the Australian government, Phil worked and lived in several countries around the world where he experienced being lonely, although he was together with his former wife and sons. Working with a coach, who got to the core of Phil's desires and identity, Phil started to realize that loneliness is a big issue among gay man, as he is proudly today. What is loneliness, why is connection and authenticity so important to overcome loneliness? And why it is important to start within yourself.

Alexander is discussing another subject today. Together with Patrick Marano, Gay Life Coach and Advocate from Toronto, Canada he is diving in the subject: REGRET. Since every human being has regrets it is really important to know how to deal with them and why it is OK to have regrets? To answer this question, Alexander and Patrick will find out which kind of regrets are most common among gay men in their thirties. Besides that they will touch three reasons why it is OK to have regrets and which tools will help to overcome them.

In this very special episode, Alexander stayed within the Netherlands to have a conversation with Marc Verburg. Marc is a single gay man of 53 years old who wrote and published a very controversial novel, called VERNEUKT, what stands for FUCKED UP! The book tells us a part of his life where drugs, sex, addiction, and a lot of sleepless nights (literally) are centralized. On one hand his ex-partner became addicted to drugs and sex, but on the other hand, it seemed like that Marc became addicted to his ex-partner and his relationship. In today’s episode Alexander and Marc are zooming in on the addiction towards a partner or relationship. The main question of today will be “How to end a dysfunctional relationship which is unfolding in an addiction and how to prevent yourself the next time". To answer this question several sub-questions will be answered, such as at which point is a relationship becoming dysfunctional, why are we pulling people towards us, who are actually pushing us away, what is addiction and how to focus on yourself again?

The second episode is all about getting mentally stronger through routine and sport! Steven Seidel, Gay Men’s Health and Wellness Advocate from Guam is sharing his thoughts why a lot of gay men in their thirties start struggling mentally. He shares his knowledge on which physical and emotional benefits of exercise we have and how exercise and routine can help us through rough times.

In this first episode, Alexander is diving into the subject with Michael Dilorio; Gay Life and Wellness Coach from Toronto, Canada. In a community where it's easy to find Mr. Right for the (very) short-term, it seems harder to find (and keep) Mr. Right for the long-term. What do "social masks", a low self-esteem and even a low self-knowledge have to do with this? And what steps can you take to find Mr. Right?

An introduction of a brand new Podcast from Gay men in their thirties. Hosted by Alexander Gerard.