Podcasts about gay men

Gay men know what it cost to come out. Bisexual people paid that same price and then got rejected by the community that was supposed to finally understand. Katherine Wela Bogen is a doctoral candidate in clinical psychology, scholar-activist with 600K followers, and author of the debut novel Queering Him. She and Rick get into the real conversation gay and bisexual men keep not having: where the experiences genuinely overlap, where they do not, and why assuming you already understand bisexuality because you know gay identity causes real damage. This one asks gay men over 40 to look at a blind spot most of them did not know they had. Key Takeaways: Where gay and bisexual experience genuinely meet and where they part waysWhy bisexual people have worse health outcomes than gay or lesbian individualsHow double discrimination operates differently than what gay men experienceWhat it actually costs to get rejected by the community that should get it mostWhat Queering Him is and why Katie wrote it About Katherine In her own words, Katherine Wela Bogen is “first, a storyteller; second, a scholar-activist; and third, a joyful little freak.” Bisexual and Jewish, she grew up in rural New England. A doctoral candidate in clinical psychology, studying the intersections of bisexual identity, sexual trauma, sexual functioning, and kink, she has published more than forty peer-reviewed papers and is the host of the political podcast SuperHumanizer. Bogen's 600k+ social media followers will recognize her as @k.w.bogen from her public-facing scholar activism. Queering Him, the first in the Avra and Kieran trilogy, is Bogen's debut novel. Connect With Katherine Website Instagram Hey Guys, Don't Forget! Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community

For many gay men, our relationship with our dad is one of the most defining- and least talked about. In this episode, we explore the nuances of our relationships with our fathers through three core questions: How did your dad react when you came out? How do you express your gayness around him today? Does being gay impact the level of intimacy you have with your dad? From there, we go deeper into family dynamics, cultural expectations, and the different expressions of love and acceptance between fathers and their gay sons. We get into physical affection between fathers and sons, how much access we give them into our lives, and the boundaries we set as adults. We also explore how these early relationships can shape the kinds of men we're attracted to… and the patterns we carry into dating and relationships. This is a grounded, honest conversation about the often complex and layered relationship between fathers and sons.  Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report. Chapters (00:00:00) - Going Deeper: The Daddy Issue(00:01:47) - Did Gay Men Need Daddies?(00:03:20) - How Did My Dad React To My Coming Out?(00:07:49) - How Did My Dad React To My Coming Out?(00:10:18) - Reno On Not Bringing Up Gay Issues With His Father(00:14:24) - When My Gay Friend Comes Out(00:14:43) - How Did My Dad React To Coming Out?(00:18:53) - Coming Out To My Dad(00:20:52) - How Do You Describe Your Gayness To Your Dad?(00:27:38) - How Do I Feel Representing My Gayness To My Dad?(00:31:14) - How My Parents Accept My Gay Love Life(00:33:37) - Do You Hold Back Your Gayness When You're Around Your Dad(00:37:56) - Adam Levine on Father-Son Conferences(00:42:40) - Does Being Gay Impact How You Experience Intimate Touch With Your Dad(00:45:32) - Does Being Gay Impact How I Experience Intimate With My Dad?(00:47:52) - Michael Jackson on His Dad's Love(00:51:09) - We Love You, Dads

In 1998, eight months into Tony Blair's government, seven gay and bisexual working-class men from Bolton were convicted at Crown Court of buggery and gross indecency for having consensual sex together in a private home. No victim. No complaint. Some went to prison. All were placed on the sex offenders register. The laws used against them dated back to 1895, and in one case to 1533. Greater Manchester Police, the same force that prosecuted Alan Turing, pursued this case with a fervour no other police force in the country was matching at the time. Almost nobody knows this happened. Hugh Sheehan is the writer and audio producer behind Criminally Queer: The Bolton 7, the five-part BBC Sounds documentary series that spent years in the making and is referenced in Russell T Davies' Channel 4 drama Tip Toe, starring Alan Cumming as a gay bar owner in Manchester's Gay Village. Davies made Tip Toe because, in his words, the fight is back on. He's right. And the Bolton Seven are a significant part of why. In this episode of Outcast World, Graeme and Hugh cover the full story: the centuries-old laws that remained quietly on the books after partial decriminalisation in 1967, the two-man rule that made consensual group sex a criminal act regardless of what straight people were doing, the class dimension that meant working-class men from Bolton had no legal defences that a wealthier man in a privately owned home might have had, and the Chief Constable whose fundamentalist homophobia had shaped Greater Manchester Police for over a decade before the Bolton Seven were ever arrested. Criminally Queer: The Bolton 7 is available on BBC Sounds, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

Why Have So Many Gay Men Struggled to Save for Retirement?We hear this from gay men all the time, usually those in their 50s or pushing their 60s:“I want to retire now, but I have absolutely nothing saved.”And when we ask what happened, the answer usually isn't laziness. It isn't that they didn't care. It often comes down to three quiet beliefs many gay men inherited from culture, trauma, fantasy, and avoidance.In this episode of Queer Money, we're talking about the three retirement plans that sabotage gay men and keep too many of us from saving, investing, and building the future we actually want.These are some of the biggest gay retirement mistakes we see:“I'll die young and beautiful.”“I'll marry a sugar daddy.”“I'll figure it out later.”For many gay men, especially those who came of age during the HIV/AIDS crisis, the idea of growing old, happy, healthy, loved, financially stable, and free wasn't something we were encouraged to imagine. Some of us didn't believe we'd live long enough. Some of us hoped someone else would save us. And some of us assumed we'd eventually get serious about money later.But later showed up, and now she wants receipts.This episode is not about shame. Shame is not a retirement plan either. This is about naming the myths that may have helped us survive emotionally, but are now sabotaging our older gay selves financially.Takeaways from this episode:Why many gay men struggle to picture themselves as older, secure, and financially freeHow the “I'll die young” myth became one of the most damaging gay retirement mistakesWhy waiting for a partner, husband, or sugar daddy to fund your retirement is not a planHow “I'll figure it out later” quietly sabotages retirement savings and investingWhy time in the market matters more than waiting until you “have more money”How old survival beliefs can turn into financial avoidanceWhy gay retirement planning is really about creating options, dignity, freedom, and joyHow asset acquisition and cash-flow building can help gay men retire betterIf this hits a little close to home and you're ready to finally have the retirement conversation, schedule a Retirement Readiness Review with us at the link in the show notes.We'll help you look at where you are, where you want to go, and what steps you can take to retire early, retire abroad, or simply retire better.Chapters:00:00 - Intro01:41 - Starting convo02:42 - Myth 105:52 - Myth 207:56 - Myth 311:41 - Self Reflection13:04 - Reframing 15:37 - The Fix16:33 - OutroMentioned in this episode:Portugal is calling. Will you answer?Don't just dream of moving to Portugal, make it happen with the investments in your IRA. Investing in Portugal gets you residency, the ability to work in Portugal and returns that just may outpace the U.S. like the Optimize Portugal Golden Opportunities fund did in 2025. Get Your Portugal Golden Visa Here!What if your portfolio came with a visa and passport?That's exactly what the Optimize Portugal Golden Opportunities Fund can do, bringing together diversification, tax efficiency, and a path to EU residency and a passport. Click the link below to explore your ticket to Europe.Get Your Portugal Golden Visa Here!

Listen to Gabe Salazar, the Artistic Director of the Gay Men's Chorus of South Florida, as he sharesthe inspiration for the latest concert which honors the families and community impacted by the Pulse shooting.

In this episode of Culture and Consequence, Andrea and I dive into the latest flare‑up around “toxic masculinity” — from Scott Galloway's outdated framing to Dr. Mike's defensive stumble online — and why the real issue isn't men themselves, but the broken structure of what we've been taught masculinity is supposed to be. We talk about performance vs. authenticity, why vulnerability is strength, and how rigid gender expectations shape everything from politics to media to the way power is abused in this country.From the MAGA obsession with faux‑toughness to the collapse of journalistic institutions like 60 Minutes, we connect the dots between gender, ego, media capture, and the erosion of our moral core. And yes, we even detour into Ivanka Trump “discovering” an island — because of course we do.It's messy, honest, funny, and very us.If this episode brought you a little joy, consider liking, subscribing, or sharing it with someone who might need it.As always, remember it really is All About The Joy.Thank you for stopping by.  Please visit our website: All About The Joy and add, like and share.  You can now watch the livestream version of the show on YouTube at @CarmenLezeth You can also support us by shopping at our STORE - We'd appreciate that greatly.  Also, if you want to find us anywhere on social media, please check out the link in bio page. Music By Geovane Bruno, Moments, 3481Editing by Team A-JHost, Carmen Lezeth DISCLAIMER:  As always, please do your own research and understand that the opinions in this podcast and livestream are meant for entertainment purposes only. States and other areas may have different rules and regulations governing certain aspects discussed in this podcast.  Nothing in our podcast or livestream is meant to be medical or legal advice. Please use common sense, and when in doubt, ask a professional for advice, assistance, help and guidance. 

Jake and Kendrick came on Dance Dad to talk about Heated Rivalry. They ended up talking about something much harder: what gay men are taught to hide from themselves and each other.   John Corella, host of Dance Dad and co-creator of Dance Moms, sits down with Jake and Kendrick of The JK But Gay Show for a Pride Month conversation about body image, masculinity, friendship, intimacy, and the stories gay men carry into adulthood. The episode starts with a debate about Heated Rivalry, but it quickly becomes more personal than anyone expected.   John came in skeptical of the show. Jake and Kendrick came in as fans. What they work out together touches on gay body image issues, whether therapy changes the way you consume media, and whether a show can be pure entertainment and still carry a real responsibility to the people watching it. Nobody wraps it up neatly, and that is what makes it worth listening to.   The conversation gets personal fast. Jake talks about growing up where crying was not acceptable and what that cost him. Kendrick shares a coming out story that started during confession at the Vatican. John reflects honestly on why he kept falling for emotionally unavailable men. LGBTQ masculinity is not treated as a talking point here. It comes up the way it actually lives, inside specific memories and patterns that took years to name.   Underneath all of it is the thing Jake and Kendrick built together. Real gay male friendship is rarer than it should be, and they started their show because they knew that. Gay men and emotional maturity, platonic loyalty, and what it looks like to grow alongside another person are not side topics here. They are the whole foundation.   This is one of those episodes that stays with you.   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Welcome to Dance Dad with John Corella 02:10 Meet Jake and Kendrick of the JK But Gay Show 08:31 Does Heated Rivalry Give Gay Men Body Image Issues 15:55 Hiding Your Identity in Sports and the Closet 41:17 Does Heated Rivalry Reinforce or Challenge Masculinity 48:12 Why Gay Men Are Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable Partners 52:51 The Difference Between Sex and Intimacy for Gay Men 59:46 A Gay Therapist Explains Why Heated Rivalry Feels So Good 1:17:06 Kendrick's Coming Out Story at the Vatican 1:21:04 Favorite Selena Quintanilla Songs 1:24:10 The Boldest Thing Each of Them Has Ever Done   Connect with Jake and Kendrick: Follow Jake and Kendrick on Instagram    Connect with John Corella: Follow Dance Dad with John Corella on Instagram Follow John on Instagram Join Dance Dad with John Corella on Patreon Visit John Corella's website Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

If you're a fan of All Out you can become an All Out Insider by subscribing to our Substack; where you can watch all videos early, totally ad-free, and uncensored. Head to: https://substack.com/@watchalloutThis special OPEN Week is sponsored by Sniffies. Use code ALLOUT for one week free Sniffies plus. Go to http://sniffies.digital/ALLOUTAll Out is back open. Join us as we kick off OPEN Week with a discussion around non-monogamy; looking at why there exists so much discourse between gay men in open and closed relationships, and interestingly, why is anyone bothered?With Psychosexual Therapist and Clinical Sexologist Alexis Caught.Work with Alexis: https://www.alexiscaught.com/ABOUT ALL OUTFollow All Out on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and latest news: https://www.instagram.com/watchalloutFollow All Out on TikTok for exclusive clips: https://www.tiktok.com/@watchalloutAll Out with Jon Dean is an award winning video podcast, documentary show and YouTube channel for gay men. A number 1 hit in the global sexuality charts and a British Podcast Awards 2025 winner, All Out is an intimate sit down with celebrity guests, experts and industry professionals. The show takes an investigative approach to subjects, focussing on gay men's health, career, sex and psychology, as well as candid conversations around relationships, culture, and the relatable every day of different gay lives.The host is Jon Dean who has over ten years experience in video production collaborating with LGBT+ supporting brands and media companies. You can follow Jon Dean's personal Instagram here: @jondeanvideoPlease support the show and help us to keep the conversations going by subscribing to our YouTube channel and following us on TikTok and Instagram: @watchalloutThis show is made by gimme | Production Co. London www.gimmevideo.co.uk

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You lived through it. You lost people. And somewhere along the way you decided HIV was somebody else's problem now. It is not. Andrew Spieldenner and Alex Garner from MPact Global Action join Rick for a conversation that does not let the queer community off the hook. MPact works across 60 countries supporting LGBTQ-led organizations fighting HIV stigma, funding cuts, and the political forces making all of it worse. This episode covers where the stigma still lives, why gay men over 50 are among the fastest growing groups of new diagnoses, and why staying sexual, visible, and engaged is still an act of resistance. Key Takeaways: Why HIV stigma has not gone away, it has just gotten quieter and more insidiousHow structural racism and poverty drive HIV transmission more than individual behaviorWhy gay men over 50 are seeing rising new diagnosis rates and what that meansThe dangerous gap between available prevention tools and who actually gets access to them About Andrew Andrew R. Spieldenner, Ph.D. is Executive Director of MPact Global Action, an international gay rights organization in the HIV response, and Professor in the Department of Communication at California State University-San Marcos. Openly living with HIV, Dr. Spieldenner's writing is at the intersection of health and culture, particularly looking at HIV and the LGBTQ community. Dr. Spieldenner's edited books include Intercultural Health Communication, Post-AIDS Discourse in Health Communication, and the award-winning A Pill for Promiscuity. About Alex Alex Garner is a writer, artist, and community advocate dedicated to advancing queer visibility and health equity. He currently serves as Senior Director of Strategic Initiatives & Communications at MPact Global Action and previously led sexual health innovation and global campaigns as Senior Health Innovation Strategist at Hornet. With over 25 years in community organizing and two decades as a writer, Alex uses storytelling, art, and advocacy to humanize queer experiences and destigmatize conversations around sex, HIV, and identity. Born and raised in Southern California, Alex is a proud Chicano, gay/queer, and male-presenting person who embraces fluidity and authenticity. Living openly with HIV for 30 years, he shares his personal journey including his time as a sex worker and performer to challenge stigma and inspire others. Connect With Andrew and Alex Website Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Don't Forget! Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community

Michael Pezzullo, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, gay men's therapist, relationship coach, speaker, and creator of Therapy for Gay Men. His work focuses on helping gay men understand the deeper emotional and relational patterns shaping their dating lives, sexuality, attraction, confidence, self-worth, trauma, addiction, intimacy, and relationships.In this conversation, Michael Pezzullo and Dr. Joe Kort explore why gay men often repeat the same dating and relationship patterns, why emotionally unavailable men can feel so compelling, and how early experiences, insecurity, shame, and the desire to belong can influence who men pursue and what they tolerate in relationships. Michael discusses how many gay men may feel stuck not because they lack insight, but because deeper emotional patterns continue to shape their choices beneath the surface.They also discuss gay identity, labels, and the difference between calling oneself gay, queer, or something else entirely. Michael and Dr. Kort talk about why language can feel empowering for some people and painful for others, especially when certain words were once used as slurs. They also explore generational differences, individual identity, and why it is important to let people define themselves in the language that feels most accurate to them.The conversation also looks at gay dating, body image, self-worth, and the pressure some men feel to fit into certain gay spaces or beauty standards. Michael shares his perspective on dating in places like West Hollywood, the myth that more options always make dating easier, and how comparison, insecurity, and the search for belonging can shape gay men's experiences in community, sex, and relationships.Michael and Dr. Kort also discuss open relationships, monogamy, porn, sexual confidence, erectile dysfunction medication, gay shame, and the importance of honest communication between partners. They explore why open relationships are not automatically better or worse than monogamy, why both require negotiation and emotional honesty, and why gay men need more space to talk openly about what works, what does not, and what actually feels safe and meaningful.Listen to this Smart Sex, Smart Love episode as Dr. Joe Kort talks with Michael Pezzullo about gay dating patterns, emotionally unavailable men, gay shame, open relationships, self-worth, sexuality, labels, body image, and what it takes for gay men to build stronger intimacy, confidence, and emotional safety.Support the show

A lot of gay men take pride in being independent, self-sufficient and in control. But is there a shadow side? When the time comes to let someone in, ask for support, or even rely on others—it feels uncomfortable, exposing, even threatening. In this episode, we explore the spectrum between dependence, co-dependence, independence, hyper-independence, and interdependence—and why so many gay men get stuck at the far end of doing life alone. We talk about:  What hyper-independence actually is (and why it's so common) The fear of losing yourself, your freedom, or your identity Why intimacy feels harder than being alone How this shows up in dating, relationships, and asking for support What it looks like to move toward interdependence (secure attachment)  This isn't about becoming dependent. It's about learning how to find a happy middle ground where you can let someone in without losing yourself or pulling further away.  Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deeper: How to Let People In(00:01:14) - What is Dependency and Independence?(00:03:34) - Guys Who Are Hyper Independent or Codependent(00:04:54) - Cocodependent and Secure Attachment: How Do You Know(00:08:04) - How to Grow Up With Someone (Gay Men)(00:10:49) - Insecure Attachment and The Fear That(00:13:38) - What Are Some Boundaries That You Have For Yourself?(00:15:23) - What's the Hardest Part of Learning To Trust Again?(00:17:06) - How Anxious Attachers Get Out Of Conflict(00:18:45) - How To Start Moving Toward Interdependence(00:20:21) - Can An Avoidant Attachment Style Overcorrect Into Becoming Cod(00:24:59) - How to Cope With Anxious Partner(00:27:54) - The Importance of Living With Your Partner(00:30:44) - How To Overcome The Fear Of Disappointment During Relationships(00:34:35) - Gay Men Talk About Being Independent

Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about boundaries, chronic betrayal, and recovery timelines. They address the pregnant partner, the betrayed spouse with an STD, and the mother of teens who wants to keep her children from following down the path of addiction and betrayal.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:30] Can ketamine EMDR help my betrayed wife?  [7:10] I'm pregnant. Should I stop checking in on his recovery?  [14:35] Boundaries are set to keep you safe.  [16:58] Why should he stop acting out when it has increased the intensity of our sex life?  [24:09] Can an addict like me actually come out of this on the other side?  [34:10] Am I really the victim?  [36:52] How can I build trust after chronic betrayal?  [40:26] He acted out in my one deal-breaker way. Now what?  [47:30] How do couples recovery from sexual betrayal and compromised health?  [50:48] How can I talk to my boys so they don't go down the same path as their father?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES "He should be showing you with his actions when his recovery is solid."  "He's going to do what he's going to do whether you ask or you don't."  "You have to do what you need to do to take care of you regardless of what he does."  "Addicts are always either moving forward in recovery or sliding back."   

The most romantic gay dating story I've heard all year involves a popped tire, a mechanic, and a 70-year-old man on his way to a first date.This week on Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Anthony Canapi, CEO of Best Man Matchmaking, the only US matchmaker working exclusively with gay men. He's also a psychotherapist, which matters more than you'd think when the people coming to him are 60, 70, or even older.Follow Anthony here:WebsiteInstagramIf you're struggling with unreliable erections, check out my new program:https://www.stayfirmprogram.comReady to Go Deeper?Upgrade to unlock more confidence, clarity, and pleasure in your intimate life.As a paid subscriber, you'll get:✨ Full access to my sexy stories

There's something unique about friendships between gay and straight men. They often feel easy, natural, and unexpectedly intimate. In this episode, we explore the unique reasons why gay and straight men are drawn towards each other. From male bonding and emotional intimacy to validation, and the freedom to drop the “rules” of being a man, these friendships often offer something both sides aren't getting elsewhere. We unpack: Why gay men are drawn to straight men… and what they represent Why straight men feel safe, open, and even curious around gay men How masculinity is shifting in 2026… and where these friendships fit What each side gives the other and how we balance each other out  This isn't about hookups or labels. It's about what men are craving, and what that reveals about modern masculinity. Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gaming Going Deeper(00:00:59) - Gay Men On Straight Men's Friendship(00:04:43) - Why Do Gay Men Are Attracted To Straight Men?(00:06:55) - Gay Hockey Players Play With Straight Guys(00:08:41) - Why Are You Attracted To Straight Male Friends?(00:13:32) - Straight Men On The Gay Men's Brotherhood(00:17:46) - Gay Men's Brotherhood Connection Circles(00:18:28) - Why Are Straight Men Drawn To Gay Men?(00:22:43) - Damon on Why Gay Men Are Drawn to Him(00:23:50) - Straight Men Are Desperate For Sex(00:26:45) - Broke Male Podcast: Permission To Be You(00:31:41) - "It's Okay to Hug Your Gay Father"(00:33:11) - Gay Men Going Deep(00:33:48) - Gay Men Want More Sexual Closeness(00:39:15) - Straight Men Talk About Gay Bars(00:41:46) - Set Free Your Gay Men!(00:43:12) - Going Deep: Gay Men's Brotherhood

In Part 1 of this series, we explored why insight alone isn't enough to create real change in gay men's lives — even for those who are highly self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and deeply reflective. So what actually does work? In Part 2, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, moves beyond theory and into real-world application. This episode focuses on the practical side of personal growth: how to translate insight into concrete, repeatable behaviors that lead to meaningful change. Instead of trying to "fix everything," Ken introduces a more realistic and effective approach — replacing old patterns with small, intentional actions that build over time. This episode explores: Why change requires replacement, not just awareness How to interrupt emotional and behavioral loops in real time The role of structure, delay, and intentional choice in breaking compulsive patterns Why "partial wins" matter more than perfection How to reduce isolation through small, manageable social actions The difference between motivation and movement How self-respect is built through behavior, not just mindset Ken also walks through specific, real-life examples of how to replace common patterns, including: compulsive app use → meaningful connection urgency and impulsivity → structure and delay emotional numbing → purposeful action self-criticism → self-respect through follow-through isolation → low-pressure social engagement If you've ever felt like you know what's going on in your life — but still struggle to change it — this episode offers a clear and grounded path forward. Because at a certain point, growth isn't about understanding more. It's about living differently.

Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about how to reintegrate sex, self-pleasure for partners, the pain of a sexless relationship and the role of "hopium". They offer perspective on demanding repair, seeking connection and the power of taking care of yourself no matter what your partner is or isn't doing.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] What can I do to reclaim my sexuality?  [11:02] Should I insist on my partner moving out or do an in-house separation?  [16:42] When sex addiction isn't the only problem.  [19:32] How can I get my intimate needs met?  [29:05] Questions you really don't want the answers to. [34:02] How can I build shame resiliency?  [39:56] Where do we start with sexual reconnection?  [42:51] Moving beyond objectification.  [48:03] I feel he broke it, and he needs to fix it.  [54:41] The power of community and connection.  [58:20] Is masturbation sexual betrayal?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES "Your courage and willingness to talk about these issues will get you halfway there."  "Do not threaten something that you're not willing to follow through on."  "You have zero control over him. The only thing you can take care of is you."   

Many gay men already understand themselves surprisingly well. They've read the books, listened to the podcasts, explored their childhood patterns, and can explain their shame, anxiety, trauma, or relationship struggles in detail. So why do so many still feel stuck? In Part 1 of this two-part series, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores one of the biggest limitations of insight-based personal growth: understanding yourself does not automatically change your life. Drawing from more than 34 years of work with gay men, Ken explains why insight alone often turns into rumination instead of transformation — and why lasting change requires behavioral shifts, emotional regulation, structure, repetition, and real-world action. This episode explores: Why books like The Velvet Rage and The Body Keeps the Score are helpful — but incomplete on their own The repeating emotional-behavioral loops many gay men experience Why shame and trauma frameworks can unintentionally keep people stuck The difference between awareness and behavioral change How gay men can begin replacing compulsive or self-defeating patterns with healthier alternatives Why "partial wins" matter more than perfection How therapy and coaching can help translate insight into real-life change Ken also offers practical examples of replacement behaviors for: compulsive app use emotional numbing self-criticism isolation urgency and impulsivity all-or-nothing thinking If you've ever thought: "I understand why I do this… but I still keep doing it," this episode is for you. Part 2 will continue the conversation by exploring additional behavioral replacements and strategies for handling the everyday stressors many gay men face.

We've all dealt with them. And maybe we've probably been one too… In this episode, we unpack what's really going on beneath hate. Not just online trolls or obvious critics, but the subtle ways judgment, resentment, and animosity show up in everyday life. We explore: Why people hate in the first place (and why it's rarely about you) The difference between healthy disagreement and actual hate How hate often masks insecurity, unmet expectations, or avoidance What it actually costs you to be a hater And how to deal with haters without shrinking, proving, or losing yourself This isn't about pretending to be positive or “above it.” It's about understanding psychology so you don't get pulled into it, or unconsciously become part of it. ️ Connection Circle: Your Coming Out Process If this episode resonates, join Matt for a live Connection Circle. This is an opportunity to share your story, be witnessed without judgment, and begin releasing the parts of you that learned it wasn't safe to be fully authentic. You don't have to carry it alone anymore. Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gaiman Going Deeper: How To Deal With Haters(00:01:34) - Michael Jackson on Why People Hate Him(00:04:55) - How to Stop Criticizing Others(00:05:35) - Haters Need to Be Seen In Their Pain(00:09:00) - How to Disagree With a Hater(00:14:00) - "Disengagement Is a Powerful Tool"(00:15:51) - Michael on The Impact Of Hate On His Life(00:20:45) - The Influences of Social Media(00:21:12) - How to Handle Haters(00:21:43) - How To Stop Defensiveness(00:25:55) - Let the Haters Be Wrong(00:29:58) - Dropping Love For The Brothers(00:31:05) - A Connection Circle

Gay men are burning out in silence and calling it fine. Shaun Williams, therapist, late bloomer, and co-founder of Gay Fathers Worldwide, has spent years inside that silence and knows exactly what it is costing us. After coming out in 2019 following decades of living someone else's story, Shaun built Bent Couch Counselling and a global community of over 1,300 gay fathers because the existing resources were not built for men like him. He and Rick get brutally honest about the mental load of coming out later in life, why gay men perform connection instead of feeling it, and what it actually takes to stop running and start healing. Key Takeaways: Why gay men over 40 carry a mental load that never gets named or treatedHow coming out later in life creates a specific kind of burnout nobody warns you aboutWhy 61% of gay couples report feeling lonely even inside their relationshipsWhat performing connection instead of feeling it is doing to gay men's mental healthHow to create emotional safety at home when you never had a roadmap for it About Shaun Shaun Williams is the heart behind Bent Couch Counselling, a compassionate and inclusive mental health service launched in October 2022. Built on empathy and lived experience, Bent Couch offers a safe space for men and LGBTQ+ individuals to navigate life's challenges with dignity and support. Shaun came out in 2019 after decades of living a different story. That personal journey—full of courage, grief, and growth— became the foundation for the work he does today. His mission is simple but powerful: to walk alongside others as they rediscover resilience, self-acceptance, and connection. At Bent Couch, Shaun supports clients facing burnout, anxiety, shame, life transitions, identity exploration, and relationship complexities. Every session is grounded in non-judgement, cultural sensitivity, and a deep respect for diverse gender identities and life experiences. Beyond the counselling room, Shaun facilitates Community Couch Conversations – heartfelt group discussions for gay and queer men to connect, reflect, and be seen. He's also the co-founder of Gay Fathers Worldwide, a thriving online support network for men who've had children in heterosexual relationships and are now living openly as gay. Since 2020, this community has grown to over 1,300 members across the globe – a testament to Shaun's belief in the healing power of peer connection. Shaun lives in Melbourne with his partner and their beautifully blended family of five children. As a cis-gay man who came out later in life, he brings a rare depth of insight into the tensions between two worlds— the life he once lived and the authentic life he now embraces. His work is guided by warmth, understanding, and the unwavering belief that everyone deserves to feel at home in themselves. Connect With Shaun Website Gay Fathers Worldwide Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Don't Forget! Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community

Between 50-75% of my friends died of AIDS. I was trying to figure out what had happened to our community.Today we meet Gabriel Rotello and we're talking about the queer book that saved his life: Gay New York by George Chauncey.Gabriel Rotello is an Emmy-nominated and GLAAD Award-winning writer, director, producer, journalist and musician. He published his nonfiction book in 1997: Sexual Ecology: AIDS and the Destiny of Gay Men. In 1989 he launched OutWeek Magazine as its editor-in-chief. In 1993, he became the first openly gay op-ed columnist for a major American newspaper, New York Newsday. He was also a columnist for The Advocate. For almost three decades, Gabriel has written, directed and produced dozens of television documentaries for HBO, Netflix, National Geographic, and Comedy Central.Gay New York brilliantly shatters the myth that before the 1960s gay life existed in the closet, where all gay men were isolated, invisible, and ashamed. Based on years of research in diaries, letters, newspaper stories, and police reports, George Chauncey describes the saloons, speakeasies, and streets where queer men gathered; the intimate parties and immense drag balls where they celebrated; the highly visible residential enclaves they built in Greenwich Village, Harlem, and Times Square; and the complex prewar sexual culture they inhabited, which did not divide men into heterosexuals and homosexuals.George Chauncey is the DeWitt Clinton Professor of History at Columbia University and previously taught at Yale and the University of Chicago.Connect with Gabrielwebsite: gabrielrotello.comOur BookshopVisit our Bookshop for new releases, current bestsellers, banned books, critically acclaimed LGBTQ books, or peruse the books featured on our podcasts: bookshop.org/shop/thisqueerbookBuy your copy of Gay New York here: https://bookshop.org/a/82376/9781541699212Buy your copy of The CBGB Conspiracy: https://bookshop.org/a/82376/9798888249093Become an Associate Producer!Become an Associate Producer of our podcast through a $20/month sponsorship on Patreon! A professionally recognized credit, you can gain access to Associate Producer meetings to help guide our podcast into the future! Get started today: patreon.com/thisqueerbookCreditsHost/Founder: John ParkerExecutive Producer: Jim PoundsAssociate Producers: Archie Arnold, K Jason Bryan and David Rephan, Bob Bush, Natalie Cruz, Troy Ford, Jonathan Fried, Joe Perazzo, Bill Shay, Sean Smith, and Karsten VagnerPatreon Subscribers: Stephen D., Stephen Flamm, Ida Göteburg, Thomas Michna, Sofia Nerman, and Gary Nygaard.Creative and Accounting support provided by: Gordy EricksonQuatrefoil LibraryQuatrefoil has created a curated lending library made up of the books featured on our podcast! If you can't buy these books, then borrow them! Link: https://libbyapp.com/library/quatrefoil/curated-1404336/page-1Support the show

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Dr. Marc Brackett, PhD, is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University. We discuss the science of emotion regulation and practical tools to increase your emotional intelligence. Dr. Brackett clarifies exactly how to do that both in the context of relationships, but also things that you can do on your own to become more emotionally intelligent to later serve you in the context of relationships, work, school, etc. We also discuss how your childhood experiences influence your relationship with emotions, with particular emphasis on how boys and men are socialized around emotional processing and expression. Read the show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Joovv: https://joovv.com/huberman Lingo: https://hellolingo.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Rorra: https://rorra.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Marc Brackett (00:02:55) Emotion Regulation (00:05:53) Emotion Mindset, Anxiety; Good or Bad Emotions? (00:11:25) Sponsors: Joovv & Lingo (00:13:54) Permission for Happiness; Gender, Emotion Suppression (00:22:13) Young Men, Vulnerability, Incapable; Gay Men (00:31:00) Boys & Men, Crying; Emotion Socialization (00:37:34) Sponsor: AG1 (00:38:58) Physical Interaction; Rough/Tumble Play, Teaching Emotion Regulation (00:46:47) Emotion Calibration, Tools: Leaders & Being a Role Model; Meta-Moment (00:56:15) Meditation & Stress Tolerance, Tool: Label Emotions; Childhood (01:03:12) Sponsor: LMNT (01:04:32) Understand Your Assumptions, Tool: Intentional Co-Regulation (01:12:09) Vocabulary & Rethinking Emotion, Tool: Reframing (01:15:49) Emotional Intelligence Training, Self-Evaluation (01:22:15) Living with Discomfort & Emotional Intelligence (01:27:01) Marc's Work & Criticism; Emotion "Leakage" & Switching Mindset (01:34:19) Sponsor: Rorra (01:35:32) Excitement, Positive Emotion; Modern Concerns, AI & Disconnection (01:45:11) Major Societal Challenges & Everyday Progress (01:54:38) Physical/Emotional Identity & Envision Best Self, Tool: Meta-Moment (02:05:33) Emotional Intelligence (02:12:46) Curiosity & Compassion; Reflection, Identity (02:19:32) Point of Connection Game (02:25:02) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does it feel so hard to build real friendships as a gay man in adulthood? You meet people. You have good conversations. There's even mutual interest. But somehow, nothing turns into something consistent or meaningful. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explains why this isn't about a lack of effort—it's about a lack of structure. He breaks down: why modern gay social life often prevents friendships from forming the subtle patterns that stop connections from developing and what actually creates real, lasting friendships over time This is a practical, grounded look at how connection really works—and what to do differently if you want your social life to feel more stable, consistent, and real. Work with Ken: https://gaytherapyla.com/individual-therapy-and-counseling-gay-men/ https://gaytherapyla.com/services-offered/gay-men-online-counseling-coaching/

What if the things you turn to for fun, pleasure, and productivity are also the ways you avoid your life? In this episode, we explore escapism through a grounded, real-world lens. Not necessarily as a clinical issue, but as a pattern most of us fall into without realizing it. From constant busyness and social plans to sex, substances, and scrolling, it's never been easier to stay stimulated- and disconnected at the same time. We break down: Why escapism is so common (and why it makes sense) The difference between enjoyment and avoidance How to recognize when it shifts from choice to compulsion The hidden costs of always staying “on” Why a full life can still feel empty Join us for an eye-opening episode about understanding the spectrum of escapism… and what it might be helping you avoid. ️ Connection Circle: Slowing Down Without Falling Behind If this episode resonates, join Michael for a live Connection Circle where we explore how to slow down, be more intentional, and stay connected to your life… without feeling like you're falling behind. www.gaymensbrotherhood.com/events Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Chapters (00:00:00) - Gay Man Going Deep: Escapism(00:03:34) - Have You Been In A Pattern of Avoidance?(00:07:30) - Have You Ever Been In A Compulsive Loop With Something?(00:10:49) - How To Cope After A Breakup(00:13:26) - Talking About Relationships(00:15:14) - What is the anxiety of working?(00:16:24) - Burnout and Escapism(00:20:05) - Gay Man's Brotherhood: Slowing Down Without Falling Behind(00:22:13) - How to Stop Distract Yourself With Your Phone(00:26:19) - What is the cost of constant numbing, avoidance of self?(00:28:35) - How to Slow Down Your Life(00:29:26) - A Gay Man's Four Fs(00:30:47) - Gay Men's Brotherhood

Aging hits different when you're a gay man over 40. The body shifts. Friends disappear. Mortality stops being abstract. In this raw conversation, Ken Breniman, author, therapist, and leader of naked yoga for LGBTQ+ men, dives into death awareness, grief, body shame, loneliness, and why avoiding mortality keeps you negotiating your life. We talk orangutans in Borneo, naked yoga as radical body acceptance, and the courage it takes to face the truth about aging. If you're over 40 and still pretending you have unlimited time, this episode will wake you up, to stop negotiating your gay life. Live like you mean it. Key takeaways: Death Awareness Is Not Morbid. It's Clarifying.When you stop pretending you're immortal, you stop tolerating what drains you. Mortality sharpens decision-making.Body Shame Doesn't Expire at 40.Naked yoga isn't about exhibitionism. It's exposure to truth. Aging bodies deserve presence, not critique.Loneliness Doesn't Fix Itself.Community takes intention. Waiting to “feel ready” keeps you isolated longer than you admit. About Kenneth Ken Breniman is a queer healer, writer, and elder-in-training who helps people dream more and dread less in uncertain times. He is a licensed clinical social worker, certified yoga therapist, and thanatology-informed grief educator whose work explores aging, intimacy, grief capacity, and personal death awareness, especially within LGBTQ+ communities. Ken is the author of a three body solution, an award-winning speculative sci-fi novel that uses humor, absurdity, and imagination to explore gerotranscendence, life force, and what it means to grow older without hardening or checking out. Drawing from grief work, primatology, contemplative practice, and storytelling, Ken blends depth with playfulness to make difficult conversations feel human, accessible, and even joyful. He lives with his long-time partner and believes the future belongs to those willing to stay curious, stay tender, and evolve together. Connect With Ken Website Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Don't Forget! Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community

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In this extremely not gay men's Bible study on Nephilim Death Squad, Stephen of The Biblical Hitmen joins David Lee Corbo (The Raven), Top Lobster, and Matt Hepner for a chaotic Hebrews 1-2 deep dive. They break down Jesus being made better than the angels, the triune nature of God, “this day have I begotten thee” in the context of the resurrection, Psalm 8 (“What is man?”), dominion over the works of His hands, and angels as ministering spirits sent to serve heirs of salvation.The episode explodes when Raelians flood the DMs claiming Jesus is the brother of Rael (a Nephilim hybrid), Elohim are extraterrestrials, and pushing their “Happiness Academy” fasting/sex cult narrative. Top Lobster cooks the Raelian rabbi on Elohim bara grammar, cloning accusations, and the cult's re-interpretation of Zechariah 5 (two women as divine feminine). They tie it to Kanye West & Travis Scott music videos loaded with Raelian symbolism, two brides, Antichrist imagery, and the harlot of Babylon.Additional fire: Top vs Matt Hepner beef over Choe Brown friendship (pheasant eggs, turkey hunting, no invite drama), Dagon worship in Gaza as counterfeit bread of life, Cain's wives and Day 6 creation vs Adam/Eve, Rabbi Judah Loew's Golem linked to modern AI, orbs/meteors/Avi Loeb, and why angels aren't circumcised (light debate). Pure unhinged Bible study + cult exposure.If you're into Hebrews commentary, Raelian cult takedowns, Elohim debates, divine feminine counterfeits, or end-times prophecy, this one is wild. Support Nephilim Death Squad: patreon.com/NephilimDeathSquad GUEST LINKS:• YouTube (The Biblical Hitmen): https://www.youtube.com/@TheBiblicalHitmen• Patreon (ad-free, early access, community): https://www.patreon.com/TheBiblicalHitmen  0:00 – Intro, Patreon, Merch & Extremely Not Gay Men's Bible Study Announcement4:20 – Top Lobster vs Matt Hepner Joe Brown Drama (Pheasant Eggs & Turkey Hunting Beef)9:50 – Stephen of The Biblical Hitmen Welcome + Raelian Cult Email Bomb Begins16:30 – Hebrews 1 Reading: God Has Spoken Through His Son (Better Than Angels)23:45 – “This Day Have I Begotten Thee” – Resurrection Context in Acts 1331:10 – Psalm 8 Breakdown: “What Is Man?” + Dominion Over Creation39:20 – Angels as Ministering Spirits (Hebrews 1:14) & Triune God Talk47:50 – Hebrews 2: “Give Earnest Heed” + Word Spoken by Angels (The Law)55:40 – World to Come Not Subject to Angels – Man's Dominion & Eternity Focus1:04:10 – Raelian Travis Scott & Kanye West Music Video Exposed (Divine Feminine, Two Brides)1:14:30 – Dagon Worship in Gaza as Counterfeit Bread of Life1:22:50 – Cain's Wives, Day 6 Creation, Golem of Prague & Modern AI Links1:31:20 – Orbs, Meteors & Avi Loeb Tangent1:38:45 – Final Plugs, Socials & Outro ChaosBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/nephilim-death-squad--6389018/support.☠️ Nephilim Death Squad — New episodes 5x/week.Join our Patreon for early access, bonus shows & the private Telegram hive.Subscribe on YouTube & Rumble, follow @NephilimDSquad on X/Instagram, grab merch at toplobsta.com. Questions/bookings: chroniclesnds@gmail.com — Stay dangerous.

At what point did life stop being fun? As kids, play came naturally. We were curious, spontaneous, and fully present. But for many adults, especially gay men who grew up navigating shame and self-consciousness, play slowly disappears. Responsibility takes over. Image matters more. We try to be cool. And somewhere along the way, joy gets replaced with pressure, performance, and productivity. In this episode, we explore why so many adults lose their playful side and why reconnecting with it can be one of the most powerful ways to reclaim joy, authenticity, and connection. Some of the things we cover in this conversation are: How shame and self-consciousness disconnect us from play The difference between authentic play and performative fun How western culture slowly erodes our inner child Why playfulness is connected to vulnerability and authenticity The role of play in intimacy, connection, and great sex How play can protect against burnout and bring us back to life Why joy and appreciation are skills worth intentionally developing If life has started to feel heavy, serious, or overly effortful, this episode is a reminder that play is not childish. It may be one of the most important ingredients in a meaningful life. Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop seri... Chapters (00:00:05) - Let's Play(00:02:05) - Why Do Gay Men Stop Playing?(00:04:19) - What Did You Play For As A Child?(00:07:15) - When Did You Start Playing Solo?(00:13:20) - What Would You Get Out Of Play?(00:18:10) - How I Used To Play Both Girls And Boys(00:21:05) - Gay Men Talk About Childhood Play(00:23:32) - Have Your Relationships to Play Changed As You Get Older?(00:29:03) - The Importance of Play(00:31:01) - The Role of Play in Me(00:36:39) - What Does Playing Bring Up For You?(00:37:00) - What Are The Ways That You Play?(00:40:02) - The Importance of Travel(00:42:20) - Matt the Filmmaker on Play(00:47:33) - Michael's Secret To Fun And Play(00:50:39) - Play Will Save Your Life!

Dr. Rob and Tami answer questions about co-regulating, couples healing, betraying partners who continue to minimize and resources to help betrayed partners move forward. They also address maladaptive behaviors and coping mechanisms, the power of curiosity in diffusing defensiveness, and the importance of honoring the grief and anger that comes with betrayal.    TAKEAWAYS: [:50] How can I tell if my partner is becoming regulated again?  [6:27] Physical signs that your partner is getting upset.  [9:20] What is defined as a crisis, and when do you talk about it?  [18:20] What is the practical difference between addiction and problematic porn?  [21:45] Why is your spouse not your priority?  [27:43] The power of curiosity in diffusing defensiveness.  [31:30] Three follow-up questions about recovery resources.  [33:10] Is there any hope for a future that is not dominated by betrayal?  [38:10] Honoring the grief and anger that comes with betrayal.  [45:46] How can I get past the egregious images of his betrayal?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES "It is the addict's responsibility to set aside their own crisis until the partner feels heard and supported."  "The more you grow in your recovery, the more capacity you will have."  "How are you supporting yourself?" And if he's not listening to you, do you have people in your life who are?"  "Your relationship may never improve, but you don't have to feel damaged."  "Even if your partner chooses not to do the work, that does not have to define who you are."   

Chelsey Brooke Cole and Tami discuss narcissistic personality structure and how to identify if someone is a narcissist. They consider myths of narcissism, the narcissistic cycle and how hoovering shows up, and the look and feel of various narcissistic types. They then answer participant questions about narcissist behavior, options for healing, and a realistic look at a future in a partnership with a narcissist.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:20] Hoovering and other narcissistic buzzwords.  [3:58] Chelsey's personal experience with narcissism.  [5:01] Debunking common myths about narcissism.  [9:20] Typical behavoirs of a narcissist.  [13:20] The defense mechanisms for the insecure, fragile ego of a narcissist.  [19:53] Characteristics of the six types of narcissists.  [25:05] Sex addiction and the narcissist.  [31:57] The narcissistic cycle of abuse, including hoovering.  [37:49] What triggers the Hoover phase?  [48:37] What happens if you decide to stay?  [49:45] Are there drawbacks to seeking a narcissist diagnosis?  [51:27] How can you gray rock a narcissist so they don't get escalation tactics?  [53:02] Is it a bad idea to point out narcissistic tendencies in your partner?  [54:09] Is narcissism treatable?  [56:17] Does my partner's behavior indicate narcissism?  [58:10] Do narcissists know what they are doing?  [1:00:21] What is the best approach to address the abuse of narcissistic traits used to self-protect and control?  [1:02:03] Can a narcissist develop empathy for their partner, and what does treatment involve?  [1:04:31] Is narcissism a mental health condition?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES "Narcissism is not a diagnosis, it's a personality style and trait."  "All narcissists, even the ones who will self-report having high self esteem, are subconsciously insecure pathologically."  "Narcissistic abuse is like being in the middle of a tornado but not knowing it's a tornado."  "Feeling desperate is not the same as being accountable."  "Real accountability ends with you, Hoover statements always end with them." 

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores why many gay men experience a shift in ambition after 40—and why it's not burnout, but a natural developmental transition. He explains what's changing psychologically and how to navigate this stage with clarity and purpose.

Dr. Marc Breedlove, PhD, is a professor of neuroscience at Michigan State University and an expert on how hormones shape brain development and sexual orientation. We discuss how prenatal testosterone impacts whether someone is romantically attracted to men or women later in life, and what correlates of sexual orientation — such as finger-length ratios — tell us about the role of hormones in brain and psychological development. We also discuss why the number of older brothers a male has biases sexual orientation. Throughout, we explain how nature and nurture interact to shape male-female differences, behavior, and romantic partner choice. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman David: https://davidprotein.com/huberman Rorra: https://rorra.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Marc Breedlove (00:03:24) Hormones & Sexual Orientation (00:07:37) Prenatal Testosterone, Finger Ratio, Men & Women Differences (00:14:08) Sponsors: David & Rorra (00:16:46) Finger Ratios, Prenatal Testosterone, Gay & Straight Men/Women (00:23:57) Mice & Sex Differences, Androgens (00:26:54) Brain Differences & Sexual Orientation (00:33:52) Group vs Individual Differences, Height Analogy; Bisexuality (00:36:57) Brain Development, Hormones & Behavior; Brain Plasticity (00:42:52) Sponsor: AG1 (00:44:16) Sexual Behavior, Libido (00:51:37) Gay Rams, Brain Differences (00:58:00) Aversion Pathway, Men vs Women, Same-Sex Partner (01:06:58) Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia (CAH), Intersex Phenotypes (01:13:55) Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS) (01:18:14) Sponsor: Function (01:19:25) Gay Men & Older Brothers, Maternal Immunization Hypothesis (01:32:55) CAH Carriers, Advantage, Stress Tolerance (01:35:41) Birds & Sexual Differentiation, Gynandromorphs (01:41:32) Anabolic Steroids, Hypersexuality; Adult Brain Plasticity (01:45:31) Age & Testosterone Decline; Sexual Orientation & Activities (01:53:14) Marc's Academic Journey, Ozarks, Luck (02:02:35) Exploration; Kids & Sex Differences (02:08:47) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Gay men over 40 have been watching themselves disappear from screens, from conversations, and from their own community's narrative for decades. Rich Burns got fed up and built the antidote. The Humanitas Prize-winning creator and star of "The Disappointments" turned personal professional failure, romantic wreckage, and the specific ache of gay male invisibility into a series with over 4 million views and a global audience that stretches far beyond the LGBTQ+ community. Rich and Rick go deep on why older gay men are still being erased, what it actually costs to tell the truth on screen, and why humor is not a coping mechanism but a weapon. Key Takeaways: Why gay men over 40 are still invisible in media and what one man did about itHow Rich used personal humiliation and career setbacks as creative rocket fuelThe financial reality most gay men live with that Hollywood keeps airbrushing outWhat 4 million views taught Rich about the universal power of gay male experienceWhy humor is not softening the blow but telling the whole truth About Rich Rich Burns is the writer, star and creator of the Humanitas Prize-winning digital series The Disappointments. He also created and serves as the head writer for the Netflix original series Mermaid Magic which debuted August 2024 at #1 on Netflix Kids, with a second season coming. He developed and wrote on the Netflix reboot of the animated series Winx Club - The Magic Is Back. He served as head writer on two other recent Netflix chart toppers: DreamWorks' Spirit Riding Free and She-Ra and the Princesses of Power. Additionally, Rich was a staff writer at Walt Disney Feature Animation, scripting successful sequels to Brother Bear (Annie Award-nominated for Best Feature - Screenplay), The Fox and The Hound and The Little Mermaid, among others. His screenplay The Dunes of Overveen, based on a true story about a gay artist in Amsterdam who led a resistance raid against the Nazis during WWII, won an Outfest Award. Connect With Rich & Watch The Disappointments Website Instgram - The Disappointments Instagram - Rich Hey Guys, Don't Forget! Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community

When a gay man says he's attracted to masculine men, is that simply preference… or could internalized homophobia be part of the story? In this episode, we unpack one of the most volatile conversations in the gay community. We explore what people actually mean when they say “masculine,” the masc and fem archetypes that shape gay culture, and how social conditioning around masculinity and femininity can influence attraction and identity. Most importantly, we tackle the question at the center of the debate: where is the line between genuine preference and internalized bias? In this episode we discuss: What people really mean when they say “masculine” Masculine and feminine archetypes  How conditioning around masculinity shapes attraction What internalized homophobia can look like in everyday life The difference between preference and hierarchy Where the line may exist between preference and prejudice Join us for a nuanced conversation about masculinity, attraction, and the cultural forces that shape how gay men see themselves and each other. Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your... Chapters (00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deep(00:01:00) - Gay Men's Issues With Masculinity(00:03:16) - What is Internalized Homophobia?(00:05:26) - Are You Attracted To Masculine Men?(00:10:26) - Tom Brokaw on Masculinity(00:11:40) - Masculinity and the Gay Community(00:14:31) - On Masculinity and Sexuality(00:17:39) - Gayman's Brotherhood Connection Circles(00:18:29) - Internalized Homophobia(00:23:06) - Gay Men's Brotherhood: Femininity and Gay Life(00:29:44) - Queens Talk About Their Gay Culture(00:32:15) - Outing My Own Phobia(00:36:08) - Gay Men Go Deep Coaching(00:36:50) - Where Is the Line Between Real Sexual Desire and Internalized Homophobia(00:39:58) - I Used To Be Attracted To Performative Masculinity(00:45:24) - Reno On Gay Men's Sexualities(00:49:08) - Blind Dating on Grindr(00:50:14) - A Very Long Goodbye

The guy who constantly cancels plans, keeps things vague, or disappears when something better comes along — that's flakiness: a pattern of not following through. In a culture of endless options and shifting feelings, has unreliability quietly become normal? And what does that actually say about us? In this off-the-cuff episode, we talk about: What flakiness actually is — and what it isn't The difference between boundaries and excuses Common avoidance patterns in dating and friendships Why keeping your word is about more than just social plans What it really means to be a reliable man This isn't just about the inconvenience of canceled plans. It's about self-trust, stronger relationships, and the kind of man you're practicing becoming. Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deep: FlAKY Gays(00:03:24) - Gay Men Talk About Flakiness(00:07:37) - How to run a group(00:08:45) - Flaky Gay Men vs Avoidant Gay Men(00:13:03) - Being Candid With People(00:16:34) - Gay Men Talk About When They Don't Want To Connect With Me(00:20:13) - How to Get More Out of Your Friendships(00:21:10) - Lack of Follow Through(00:25:50) - Matt On His Love Life(00:29:04) - In the Elevator With Flakiness(00:30:25) - Gaming Going Deep

Good Vibe Tribe - Boston Gay Men's Chorus full 292 Wed, 18 Mar 2026 13:21:39 +0000 D31ZXskj03Tu1zgdvzPeKJ69FGwDztyc society & culture Karson & Kennedy society & culture Good Vibe Tribe - Boston Gay Men's Chorus Karson & Kennedy are honest and open about the most intimate details of their personal lives. The show is fast paced and will have you laughing until it hurts one minute and then wiping tears away from your eyes the next. Some of K&K’s most popular features are Can’t Beat Kennedy, What Did Barrett Say, and The Dirty on the 30! 2024 © 2021 Audacy, Inc. Society & Culture False https://player.amperwavepodcasting.com?feed-link=ht

What is looksmaxxing? Looksmaxxing is the process of maximizing one's physical attractiveness through various methods, ranging from improved grooming and skincare to extreme, sometimes surgical, interventions. Originating in online "incel" forums, the term gained popularity on TikTok in the 2020s, with practitioners, often young men, focusing on optimizing facial structure and aesthetics. Do gay men looksmaxx? Would you take a pill that would make you hotter and younger? Are drugs like Ozempic and botox and fillers a form of looksmaxxing? The hosts discuss the first time they realized that looks mattered in gay dating... Are apps at the forefront of how gay men feel about themselves? The hosts discuss how their tastes may or may not have changed as they've aged.. The hosts play a fun lighting round of things they would change if they could... Hot Topic: 5 Sexual Wellness Trends that are good for the gay community today Hot Topic: How Grindr can impact gay travel in a good way... Hot Topic: Oscar Fashions plus did Connor Storrie leave with Troye Sivan post Oscar party? Hot Topic: Mamdani appoints Trans woman to lead NYC LGBTQIA+ office Hot Topic: Lil Nas X has his day in court Hot Topic: Weho Pride announces major music lineup plus the PussyCat Dolls Reunion minus 1... Hot Topic: Boy George on his new Vegas residency plus his comments to Chappell Roan... Visit: Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Jeremy on IG: @jrosslopez Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why do many successful gay men feel unsettled in midlife? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, long-term specialist in therapy for gay men, explains how midlife restlessness is often a normal developmental transition — bringing new questions about meaning, relationships, sexuality, and purpose — and how it can become a powerful opportunity for growth and reinvention.

Why do so many gay men spend their lives trying to belong, and still feel unsafe being themselves? This episode explores the deeper layers of belonging, authenticity, and self-trust through the lens of body-based wisdom. Devin Scott, a licensed social worker and body wisdom coach, shares his journey beyond traditional therapy into somatic practices, mindfulness, and Eastern philosophy. The conversation unpacks how high-performing gay men often learn to abandon themselves in order to fit in, and how true belonging begins with feeling safe inside one's own body. With honesty and vulnerability, Devin also reflects on a recent breakup and what it revealed about self-worth, safety, and pleasure. This is an invitation to stop performing belonging and start living it. Key takeaways: Belonging without self-trust creates exhaustion, not connection.The body often knows the truth long before the mind is ready to admit it.Safety with yourself is the foundation for authentic relationships and pleasure. About Devin Devin Scott, NBC-HWC, LMSW, helps people reconnect with their inner wisdom and move through life with greater authenticity. As the founder of Find Your Meaning, he blends body-based coaching, mindfulness, and psychological insight to support clients who feel disillusioned by traditional systems of healing. His work often draws people who have carried the weight of trauma or grown tired of “playing the game” of societal expectations, and who are now searching for something deeper, more sustainable, and more whole. With training in social work, nutrition, somatic practices, and energy healing, Devin's approach reflects both rigor and breadth. He combines elements of psychotherapy, bodywork, and fitness with the grounding philosophies of Buddhism and yoga—without requiring clients to adopt a fixed belief system. His sessions emphasize integration: mind and body, science and spirituality, personal history and present possibility. A particular passion is his study of Leela, a thousand-year-old Indian board game that encodes spiritual teachings about human life. Devin is co-authoring a modern translation of its Sanskrit guide, bridging ancient wisdom with modern psychology and anatomy so Western audiences can explore life's challenges as opportunities for growth. This work mirrors his philosophy with clients: emotions and struggles are not pathologies to erase but messages with purpose, pointing toward new directions of meaning. Connect With Devin Website Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Don't Forget! Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community

The more options people have, the harder it becomes to choose. The hosts share their personal stories... What makes someone stay emotionally? What actually creates lasting connection? We discuss how gay men are redefining what relationships look like often without children and with monogamy and open relationships... We talk alignment in a relationship and even when you find a partner you need to continually align... What makes relationship material?? The hosts discuss Hot Topic: Gay men share the moment they realized their partner was 'the one' Hot Topic: "Heated Rivalry" cast have a message to 'toxic fandom'... Hot Topic: New Study talks about the size of penises and which states have the largest Hot Topic: George Michael new concert film and album coming out soon! Advice: Saw a colleague at an orgy and now it's potentially awkward... Advice: My BF is giving hints that he wants to explore BDSM but not sure I want that... Thirst Trap: Who took the hottest shot of the week?! Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What does it actually mean to identify as gay? For many of us, claiming the word “gay” was liberating. It gave us language, belonging, community, and pride. It helped us make sense of our experiences and find people who understood us. But is there a point where identification turns into over-identification? In this episode, we unpack some big questions: What is identity, really? In what ways is identifying as gay empowering? How does it foster belonging and inclusion? When does it start to create division, hierarchy, or limitation? Is “gay” a culture — and if so, what does that even mean? Where's the line between healthy pride and rigid attachment? We explore the benefits and the drawbacks of tying ourselves closely to any identity — and how over-identifying can sometimes shrink us rather than expand us. This conversation isn't about minimizing being gay. It's about integrating it. About moving from performance to embodiment. From label to lived experience. Today's Hosts: Matt Landsiedel Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deep: Over Identifying With Being Gay(00:00:50) - Being gay in the quest for enlightenment(00:03:29) - Michael Buble On Over Identifying With Being Gay(00:08:55) - On Loss of Identity(00:13:26) - Gay Men's Brotherhood: The Gay Community(00:18:03) - Coming Out Has Helped People(00:21:17) - How Over Identifying Can Be a Hindrance(00:23:05) - Is Pride Helpful or a hindrance for Gay Men?

Send a textIn this unfiltered catch-up, Bobby and Jim dive into a chaotic month of travel, awkward social encounters, and the strangest corners of the internet. From the "scenes" in Puerto Vallarta and Cleveland to the frustrations of being blocked on dating apps in Columbus, no topic is off-limits.We explore the "profound" world of energy work and chakras after a life-altering massage, share our anxieties about aging and health, and somehow end up deep in the rabbit hole of Reborn Dolls and Gooning subcultures. Plus, we discuss why "prices are down" at Costco and critique the latest in A24-style cinema.[00:00] Travel Recaps: New York, Atlanta, and Puerto Vallarta[12:15] Dating App Disasters: Why am I getting blocked?[24:30] Cinema & Pop Culture: Taylor Swift, Charli XCX, and "The Moment"[38:45] Wellness & Energy: The Chakra-Opening Massage[52:20] Aging Anxieties: Physical health and the fear of the unknown[1:05:10] Internet Subcultures: Exploring the world of Reborn Dolls[1:18:40] The Gooner Algorithm & "Bating" CultureSupport the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at ‪(614) 721-5336‬ and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell

Episode 1908 - brought to you by our incredible sponsors: BETTER HELP: Your emotional well-being matters. Find support and feel lighter in therapy. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/HARDFACTOR.  QUINCE: Don't keep settling that clothes that don't last. Go to Quince.com/hardfactor for free shipping and 365-day returns.  BRUNT WORKWEAR: Get $10 Off boots and clothing at BRUNT with code HARDFACTOR at www.bruntworkwear.com LUCY -  100% pure nicotine. Always tobacco-free. LUCY's the only pouch that gives you long-lasting flavor, whenever you need it. Get 20% off your first order when you buy online with code (HARDFACTOR).   00:00:00 Timestamps 00:04:59 Kristi Noem grilled about killing dogs and sex on planes during ICE behavior hearing 00:21:30 Update on man with “World's Smallest Penis” 00:25:40 Dubai beggar turns out to be a rich guy who likes stealing money from people with kind hearts 00:28:50 Shia LaBeouf arrested again.  This time, he blames “Big Scary Gay Men”  And much more Thank you for listening and supporting the pod! Go to patreon.com/HardFactor to join our community, get access to Discord chat, bonus pods, and much more - but most importantly: HAGFD!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I first came up for the idea for the Culture Study Romance Book Club back in January, I knew I wanted every edition to have two books: one contemporary, and one historical. Part of this desire was selfish (I personally gravitate towards historicals) but I also wanted to explore the contrast between what you can do with a romance set in the past (with its particular confines) and one set in the present (with seemingly none, but actually so many). I also knew that I wanted to start with M/M romances (hi, Heated Rivalry) and that Melody had sung the very loud praises of renowned historical queer romance author Cat Sebastian's mid-century queer romance — particularly You Should Be So Lucky, which managed to combine baseball (one of Melody's true loves) with romance (Melody's secondary love). And listeners, I hope this is clear: when it comes to so many things, but romance in particular, I listen to Melody! And when Melody asked if we should try and get Cat on the pod, I said "obvi please try." AND THEN SHE MADE IT HAPPEN. This remains a total marvel of hosting a podcast: sometimes the people you admire so deeply... can also come on your pod. This is a long preamble to the overarching point: Cat Sebastian isn't just an absurdly talented (and successful) author of queer historical romance. She's also whipsmart when it comes to the crafting of these romances, the idea of vibes vs. plot (and third act break-ups in particular), how she translates the historical record, and so much more. This pod is for you if you're at all interested in romance, obviously, but also if you're at all interested in how we think about the past as a narrative playground. Final note: We had such a good time recording this episode and laughed one billion times — I hope that joy translates when you listen! GREAT NEWS: WE HAVE VERY GOOD EPISODE TRANSCRIPTS NOW! They come out within 24 hours of the pod, so you just have to be a little patient and then come back and click here. We pay an actual human for help with these, so thank you for either being a paid subscriber or listening to the ads that make this model possible!If you're a paid subscriber and haven't yet set up your subscriber RSS feed in your podcast player, here's the EXTREMELY easy how-to .And if you're having any other issues with your Patreon subscription — please get in touch! Email me at annehelenpetersen @ gmail OR submit a request to Patreon Support. Thank you for making the switch with us — the podcast in particular is much more at home here!Thanks to the sponsors of today's episode!Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/CULTURE to find and instantly book a doctor you love today.If you're in the market for a beautiful new sofa, dining table, bed, or classy full-length mirror, head over to Article.com.Go to zbiotics.com/CULTURESTUDY to get 15% off your first order when you use CULTURESTUDY at checkout.Use code CULTURE at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase!Show Notes:As Cat suggested, the best way to keep up with her is by subscribing to her intermittent newsletter hereYou can find a breakdown of all of Cat's books and their time periods here (I found this very helpful) You can buy Cat's new book, Star Shipped, HERE!!!!A great AMA with Cat here Cat mentions the book Coming Out Under Fire: The History of Gay Men and Women in World War II, by Allan BérubéA listener mentions The Safekeep by Yael van der Wouden, and Cat and Anna enthusiastically co-sign the recommendationCat recommends: The Duke by Anna Cowan (out April 28); A Gentleman's Gentleman by T.J. Alexander; When the Tides Held the Moon by Venessa Vida Kelley; and An Island Princess Starts a Scandal by Adriana HerreraWe're currently looking for your questions for future episodes about:HISTORICAL GOSSIP! We're talking with Nichole Hill, host of Our Ancestors Were Messy, about hot, messy, ideologically fascinating world of Black gossip columns during the golden era of Black newspapers (1930 to 1960). What do you want to know about how the Black press worked during this era — and how gossip in particular worked (both about stars, local celebrities, and normal people?) There's so much here!!!HILARY DUFF!!! The comeback, the new album, let's talk about all of it — with Hilary Duff expert/forever-fan ALLIE JONES (also Melody loves Hilary Duff so much and will be very sad if we don't get enough questions for this episode) Conversion Therapy (how it affects people late into life, how it still exists, etc. etc — we're talking to Timothy Schraeder Rodriguez about his new book, Conversion Therapy Dropout, and there are so many connections to the ways the current administration is currently trying to "de-trans" people in custody) KID INFLUENCERS — what happens when your parent puts you on camera before you can really consent? We're talking with the author of a new book about the ramifications of growing up within these worlds — it's gonna be so good. Anything you need advice for/want musings about for the AAA segment. You can ask about anything, it's literally the name of the segment.As always, you can submit your questions (and ideas for future eps) hereFor this week's discussion: OH MY GOD WE COULD TALK FOREVER! If you could set a queer romance at any time, when would it be? What would your characters be doing, and how would they fill their days? Also who wants to be best friends with Cat (me)

Our Dad and Daddy reunite after Judson's week in San Francisco for work and Brian's Disney Cruise in the Caribbean with his family, and they each provide a full report on their travels, including the hookup activity that happened for one and not the other. Judson sees “Pillion” a second time and takes his husband to see it for his first. Brian suggests that listeners read John Paul Brammer's book, “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons” in advance of his appearance on the podcast in the coming weeks. The Hookup of the Week comes from a repeat submitter who again  takes us to a public cruising spot in Australia. Judson raises some thoughts and concerns that have been on his mind about the way gay men treat women. The two end the episode responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener curious about how friendships with the people we hook up with work inside an open relationship. Find John Paul Brammer's “Hola Papi” at https://bookshop.org/p/books/hola-papi-how-to-come-out-in-a-walmart-parking-lot-and-other-life-lessons-john-paul-brammer/9b0469515f81928e?ean=9781982141516&next=t Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

去年年底，划水怪和重轻惊喜组队，带着众多大内团友前往Wonderfruit音乐节，过了几天潇洒的神仙日子，他们的收获远不止音乐，真正让这段旅程闪光的，是那些不期而遇的同行者：首闯音乐节的资深企业家“AAA建材姐”，看问题就俩字——通透！另一位新疆直男哲哥，来到泰兰德似乎被某种神奇的力量感召，变身“胸肌触摸者”，似乎时刻准备“觉醒”，他的故事或许可以用这样一段旋律来注解（此时响起BGM）“时常感觉你那跳动的胸肌，却未曾感觉你在心口的鼻息，Oh 思念是一种取向，Oh 思念是一种取向，一种取向”。还有一位处在职场迷茫期的上进青年“小伙儿”，正在积极地寻找人生的下一个路口。在看音乐演出的间隙，这群人之间发生了很多次有趣的聊天，碰撞出关于音乐、工作、艺术的多元思考，让我们懂得，每个人都活在自己的认知局限里，而跨圈层的遇见，总能看见“不一样的世界”，而这正是本次旅程的美妙之处。更多精彩内容，欢迎收听本期节目~主播 / 相征嘉宾 / 重轻音频后期 / 陆凯BBBBUDDHA音频上传 / 恬恬-本节目由深夜谈谈 Midnight Network出品 -Timeline:00:05:31 令人印象深刻的Nightmares on Wax00:07:01 这辈子见过的最牛逼的视觉舞台00:11:07 尽兴围观FKJ和Dawn of Midi00:22:05 “AAA建材姐”闪亮登场00:32:05 另一位神人哲哥有多神？00:42:21 一抬头被几千个Gay Men包围了00:46:59 在距离DJ Krush一米的地方看他放歌00:50:48 认知墙与真实世界01:06:48 小伙儿的故事01:19:19 一幕猝不及防的“职场综艺”01:23:13 人会热爱自己擅长的事儿01:32:36 艺术观念的演变01:41:44 哲哥觉醒应援团 - 思念是一种取向大内夜市近期上新！大内人气玄学嘉宾张无梦为女性量身打造4款文玩手串，旺金财运、金玉良缘、扶摇直上、顺遂安然，电子木鱼弱爆了！物理配饰积功德，玄学朋克，硬核转运！微信搜索「大内夜市」即可购买！深夜谈谈招聘啦，本次开放岗位全职：1、电商&旅行运营 2、商务BD&AE全职或兼职：视频编导感兴趣的朋友们请发送求职信+简历+个人作品请发送至邮箱jobs@midnightalks.com深夜谈谈播客网络旗下播客：大内密谈、枕边风、空岛、随便聪明、淮海333-你还可以在这里找到我们：小红书：@深夜谈谈、@相征terry、@miyaB站：@大内密谈midnightalks视频号&抖音：@深夜谈谈微博：@大内密谈微信公众号：大内密谈商务合作邮箱：biz@midnightalks.com加听众群：加深夜谈谈子微信（微信号:SYTT-midnightalks）并回复【听众群】即可进群。

“Being gay is like turning on the sink and water just comes out.” According to a a popular influencer is that Sex is easily obtainable...is it? We discuss... Or is that something only some gay men experience? And if it is easy… why does love feel so much harder? The hosts discuss when they felt like sex was more accessible in gay spaces... Is sex built into our gay community for some of us but then is affection and love that much harder to find without any examples or tools? Do body image, age, race and proximity all affect how gay men obtain sex on the apps? Is sex easier to get in certain spaces... Hot Topic: Disability activist says BBC cut Homophobic slur but kept a racist one in... Hot Topic: Can PrEP among gay Black men be improved when the stats show this community has the highest HIV new infections? Hot Topic: Married influencers Toby and Mikey Perryman-Payne recount be drugged at a gay bar in LA back in 2024 and how it affected them... Hot Topic: Gay Days in Orlando is back! Hot Topic: Gay True Crime Must See TV - "Murder in Glitterball City". Advice: Is it important to date multiple people to decide if the one you are currently dating is the one? Advice: Glory Hole etiquette - is there any etiquette?? Thirst Trap: Which of these 13 models took the best pic of the week? Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Breakups can feel emotionally destabilizing—especially in the immediate aftermath, when routines collapse and emotions swing unpredictably. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST shares practical, therapist-informed coping strategies specifically for gay men navigating the first difficult weeks after a relationship ends. Learn how to calm the nervous system, manage emotional triggers, and begin stabilizing after loss so healing can gradually take hold.