Podcasts about gay men

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, unpacks the political whiplash from Obama to Trump and its impact on gay men's mental health—exploring minority stress, cultural backlash, and strategies for resilience in a divided America.

Grief isn't just about death—it's also about the quiet losses we carry as we grow and evolve. In this episode, we're kicking off a 4-part series on grief by exploring what it means to grieve your past. Whether it's a version of yourself that felt more confident, more desirable, or more socially “relevant,” we often feel a deep emotional pull toward who we used to be. From aging and identity shifts to the grief of letting go of our dreams, we're diving into the invisible grief that comes with change. We discuss: What grieving your past looks like How grief can show up as you grow and evolve Letting go of your youth, body, or social capital as a gay man The bittersweet nostalgia of past chapters—even ones you chose to leave behind How to know when it's time to move on, and how to do it with self-compassion This conversation is about honoring who you were while embracing who you're becoming. Related Episode: Grappling with Grief: Addison Brasil Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. Our paid partner BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started: https://betterhelp.com/happyhealthyhomoFind Michael Pezzullo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelpezzullolmftWhat does it really mean to be “sex positive”? And has the movement actually gone too far?

Meat pushes Kirby in the weight room. Together the trio, including Vuchie, hit chest hard. After finishing their assault of the weights, the guys relax in the steamroom.  Kirby is excited for a party that Mike Massella is having to celebrate graduation from High School and ends up shocking the guys, when he mentions two announcements that he and his girlfriend Ivy will be making at the get-together. 

The conclusion of my 3-part conversation with JoJo Bear. JoJo Bear is a Somatic Sex & Intimacy Educator in the San Francisco Bay area. JoJo uses somatic coaching, sexological bodywork, and hypnotherapy as tools to help people get out of their “heads” and into their bodies! His commitment is to create an environment where men, single or coupled, can feel safe enough to explore their wants, needs, and desires around their body, sex, and sexuality!  His passions include teaching the Wheel of Consent™, Belly2Belly Embodiment, and Medibation. Learn more about JoJo !!

From our June 2025 live Chicago show, Archy Jamjun, R.C. Riley, Amy Sumpter and Joe Mellen bring the laughs. Plus audiences answer the q, "What's your go-to fantasy?"Joe Mellen, storyteller Amy Sumpter, comic and rapper R.C. Riley, writer and performer Archy Jamjun, storyteller and comic Karen Yates, certified somatic sex educator and energy workerShow Sponsor: Rowan Tree CounselingLeave a tip for our work--we'd love $5 or $10 (or more!) to support the monthly costs of our podcast! Or join our monthly Patreon members' club, the Afterglow, for discounts and other goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity.Free download! Get the guide Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communicationby host Karen Yates by going to the Wild & Sublime website.Are you looking for…?Wild & Sublime merchEpisodes on specific topicsThis episode's transcriptBooks on sex and relationshipsBuzzsprout bonus! Thinking of starting your own podcast? Buzzsprout can help you create, host and promote it! Plus lots of useful tools and resources to streamline the process and level up your pod game. Use our affiliate link for $20 off!Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

Most of us want to be seen, heard, and understood, but the fear of judgment can stop us from doing so. Whether it's being more social, speaking your feelings, or sharing creative work, putting yourself out there can feel risky, especially when we've been conditioned to play it safe due to past hurt or rejection. In this episode, we're sharing:

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explains why lasting trauma recovery for gay men comes from evidence-based approaches like CBT and Narrative Therapy—not trendy quick fixes. Learn how to move beyond shame, grief, and rejection toward resilience and authentic connection.

Send us a textKC and Harley are back with more laughs and more stories! In this episode they take a close look at two very different tales about men watering their lawns. Both have long hoses and one is only wearing only a skimpy pair or nylon shorts! Should they call the police?KC shares details of a summer "glamping " trip through Wyoming, South Dakota, and Nebraska. He loves his enormous rig!Harley talks about an amazing and potentially frightening encounter with Google's new AI tool that creates realistic-sounding podcasts from text and really sounds human. Could it be misused to trick people who believe it's real?The Soundtrack Of Our Life segment is back and starts with a wild story about the roadside rescue of a white hat.Always remember to be kind and, like us, keep it Enormous!Make sure to subscribe, share, and leave a review to keep the conversation going! Enormous Website: www.EnormousPodcast.comVoice mail: (303) 351-2880Email: EnormousPodcast@gmail.comTwitter: www.Twitter.com/@EnormousPodInstagram:www.Instagram.com/Enormous_PodcastFacebook:www.Facebook.com/EnormousPodLink: The Soundtrack Of Our Life Video PlaylistLink: Male Diva EDM Spotify  Play ListLink: Songs Of Our Life Spotify Play List  

Licensed marriage and family therapist Kristin Snowden discusses carried shame and the danger of absorbing a betraying partner's shame-filled life. She offers hope and tools for resiliency so that a betrayed partner can move through their own healing and get their lives and self-worth back again. She and Tami then answer participant questions about shame, addiction, and healing.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:30] Understanding the terms associated with trauma healing, addiction recovery, and carried shame.  [4:37] The importance of knowing your own shame stories.  [5:20] Defining carried shame in a betrayed partner.  [9:36] Every human being experiences shame and guilt.  [14:27] Why do we experience shame?  [18:04] The role of shame in the addiction cycle. [20:30] The 4 basic shame-filled stories that addicts operate out of.  [26:35] How does carried shame occur?  [38:48] How does carried shame manifest in the betrayed partner?  [39:35] How can carried shame be healed?  [46:19] D-Day was yesterday. What's next?  [48:03] How can I prepare for disclosure as a betrayed partner?  [51:43] How can my wife live with an addict like me?  [57:35] Why is my partner so incredibly defensive and derogatory toward me? [1:00:00] How can I accept the fact that I may be in a carried shame relationship?      RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “As part of your healing journey, it's necessary that you really get to know what your shame stories are.”  “Shame has good intentions, but it only drenches you with a painful experience.”  “Shame is a powerful, contagious emotion.”  “Shame lives in the non-language part of your brain. The more you talk about it, the more you can recognize distorted thinking around it.”  “Shame does not get sorted out in an isolated way.” 

Angela Spearman, CSAT describes “globalized mistrust” as the tsunami of impact on betrayed partners after discovery. But what are the core thoughts and fears underlying and maintaining that tsunami once it gets going?  Together with Tami she addresses strategies for dealing with uncertainty, then answers participant questions about betrayal, boundaries, and triggers and more.    TAKEAWAYS: [2:09] The catalyst for the existential experience and global mistrust.  [5:20] Common questions from the betrayed partner (and what they really mean).  [7:27] Reshaping existential questions to encourage healing.  [11:10] The negative impact of rigid thinking.  [17:45] Complex and overwhelming realities in the world.  [21:00] Flexible thinking as a strategy for hope against cynicism.  [25:32] 3-step strategy for dealing with uncertainty.  [32:17] Processing the things you can't control.  [36:40] I'm spiraling through my shame and I can't support my wife either. Now what?  [42:18] How can I convey my boundaries to my partner?  [47:16] Why did my husband act out in the first place? [51:26] How can I support my betrayed partner when she no longer wants my support?  [53:29] How do I navigate communication issues due to trauma?  [55:47] Why would I ever rebuild a relationship with someone so despicable?  [59:03] Is my recovery work creating more triggers?  [1:01:08] How does one get the betrayer to stop playing the victim?  [1:04:01] How can I move past feelings of injustice of stolen time and feeling used? [1:06:28] How do I protect myself from being reinjured until I decide whether to leave?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “In any type of crisis that you go through, you're going to start asking some of these existential questions.”  “We start with a fact and then start forming beliefs and expectations based on things we've experienced in the past.”  “When we stop and pay attention to what our thoughts really look like, it can help us feel more empowered.”  “Hope is energizing. It empowers you.”  “There may never be a good enough answer.”   

We all know self-love is important, but what happens when it goes too far in the wrong direction? In this episode, Michael DiIorio is joined by therapist Michael Pezzullo for an honest conversation about the shadow side of self-love. Together, they explore: The difference between self-comforting and self-coddling How emotional sensitivity can become emotional fragility Why self-bulldozing is just as harmful as avoidance The four zones of the Self-Love Spectrum How trauma impacts the way we “love” ourselves How to tell if you're truly healing…or just hiding. You'll learn about the Self-Love Spectrum, the signs of self-coddling and self-bulldozing, and how to practice a more empowering, growth-oriented version of self-love- without abandoning your need for care and compassion. Join us for an episode that will help you get honest about how you love yourself, and what real self-love actually looks like. Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo Website Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Website Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

COMING UP: PART 4 | G (GBL/GHB)A four part examination in to the four main party drugs used by gay men: MDMA, cocaine, ketamine and G.A sit down with Dr. Emmert Roberts, Senior Clinical Lecturer in Addiction Psychiatry at King's College London, to discuss what each substance actually does to the body and brain, precautions on mixing, how to use safely and importantly when to seek help.Dr. Emmert Roberts professional website: https://www.kcl.ac.uk/people/emmert-roberts The video series is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or drug use.If you need more information on recreational drugs please visit: https://talktofrank.com/Support the showJoin the majority of fans and watch the full show on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@watchallout For clips and exclusive content please follow us on Instagram and TikTok:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/watchalloutTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@watchalloutAn original podcast by gimmehttps://gimmevideo.co.uk/

After 2+ years, we're back with a new YOBcast! OGs Tom and Ryan welcome new YOBcast regular Matt as we catch up on the last couple years of our nonprofit journey. Fittingly, with the formation of Your Other Sisters alongside YOB under our nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family, we discuss the topic of WOMEN. How well have we connected with women from childhood to today? Did we genuinely experience adolescent crushes on girls or even try dating women? How has our sexuality impacted our friendships with women in adulthood, and how have we honestly felt about the formation of this Your Other Sisters community? COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Tell us a story about your relationship with girls in childhood or women in adulthood. Where have relationships with the opposite sex been easy, life-giving, and/or difficult? PODCAST EPISODE PAGE YOBcast 108: Women LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Guys calling their male friends to say "good night" "Gay Men, Heterosexual Women and the Pain of Platonic Intimacy" RATE/REVIEW US Apple Podcasts FOLLOW THE CAST Tom's posts Ryan's posts Matt's posts GET IN TOUCH Call the YOFline: 1.706.389.8009 Email Tom: tom@yourotherbrothers.com Mail us: Your Other Family / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOF General giving (for non-members) Giving toward membership in YOB Giving toward membership in YOS FOLLOW YOF YOF: YouTube | Facebook | Instagram YOB: Facebook | Instagram | TikTok YOS: Facebook | Instagram MUSIC CREDIT Intro/outro theme: “Borderland” by John Mark McMillan Benediction theme: "Feel it All" by sød ven 100% clearance through Musicbed

Some of us didn't choose to become lone wolves—we were shaped into them. Many gay men have learned to rely only on themselves, and while that self-sufficiency can feel empowering, it often comes at the cost of connection and intimacy. In this personal and vulnerable episode, Michael and Matt open up about their own lone wolf energy—where it comes from, how it's served them, and the moments when it became more isolating than empowering. Together, we're unpacking: The origin stories of our lone wolf instincts The protective thoughts that sound strong but hide deeper wounds What makes us want to cut people off—and what's really underneath that urge How this energy shows up in dating and relationships And how to honour your need for space without shutting people out Whether you identify as a lone wolf or love someone who does, this episode will help you navigate the delicate balance between fierce independence and meaningful connection. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Los Angeles Rams get DESTROYED for FIRING 10 Female Cheerleaders and REPLACING them with GAY MEN!

This episode was first shared in 2023, and here's what I had to say: You know how sometimes these conversations are only very, very, very tenuously linked to a queer space, and in the intro I try and come up with some justification for why we didn't talk that much about it to prepare you for the episode ahead? Well, dear listener, this week I'm not even going to try to insult your intelligence by pretending that we talked about a queer space, cause we didn't. I failed you.BUT, that's not to say that it's not a great conversation! I was lucky enough to sit down with Jaimie Kelton, actor, voiceover artist, author and host of the Queer Family podcast. And in our conversation we talk all about what it's like to grow up in one of the gayest cities in the world, San Francisco, but still battle with coming to terms with your own sexuality, how to shed the idea of yourself being a 'good girl', and why the stereotype of the u-haul lesbian is so damn persistent...

CHAPTERS00:00Introduction to Murph and the Gay Men's Collective02:43Murph's Early Life and Self-Discovery05:08Coming Out and Understanding Identity07:50First Experiences and Relationships10:07Exploring Sexuality and Community12:34Uber Stories and Encounters15:00Bachelorette Parties and Observations17:29Reflections on Safe Spaces and Community Dynamics22:33Observations on Social Dynamics in Gay Bars23:43Navigating the New York City Gay Scene27:09The Transition from Acting to Retail Sales32:35Skills Transfer: From Performance to Sales Training34:43Future Aspirations and Retirement Plans43:22Life Lessons and Personal InsightsSUMMARYIn this engaging conversation, Murph shares his journey from his early life in Ireland to his experiences in the LGBTQ community, including coming out, navigating the AIDS epidemic, and his life in New York City. He discusses his time in the drag scene, memorable Uber stories, and the lessons he's learned throughout his life. The conversation highlights the importance of self-acceptance, the challenges faced by the LGBTQ community, and the joy of travel and personal connections.TAKEAWAYSMurph's early experiences shaped his understanding of his identity.Coming out can be a complex journey influenced by societal perceptions.The AIDS epidemic had a profound impact on the LGBTQ community during the 80s and 90s.Personal relationships can be both innocent and transformative during adolescence.Life in New York City offered Murph a vibrant LGBTQ culture and opportunities.Memorable encounters while driving Uber reveal the diversity of experiences in Palm Springs.Traveling can lead to self-discovery and deeper connections with others.Lessons learned include the importance of taking chances and being true to oneself.Respect is more important than being liked in personal relationships.Finding joy in the small moments can reset one's perspective.BIOJohn "Murf" is Irish-born, New York-based, and living proof that wanderlust, wit, and a well-curated playlist can take you far.He's as happy glamping in the woods as he is lounging on a beach — ideally after museum-hopping and a three-course lunch. A Modigliani fan, Paris devotee, and certified foodie, he curates his life like his music: part 70s disco, part 90s nostalgia, all vibes.Gay, glam, and occasionally grounded, John believes in good shoes, great stories, and never saying no to dessert — or a flight to somewhere fabulous.To contact Wilkinson:  BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Send us a textTree specialists Oliver and Peebles meet at a screening of the LGBTQ film Passages. Although Oliver is married to a woman, the only real obstacle that stands in the way of their relationship is Peebles' mother, Marge, whose house he shares. Oliver proposes a solution that suits everybody.B is for Bisexual - short stories by Laura P. Valtorta

Why is hearing “no” so hard for gay men? Why does rejection cut so deep—and why do we sometimes choose control over connection? In this powerful and revealing episode, somatic guide and sacred intimate JoJo Bear joins us to explore how gay men navigate fear of rejection, touch deprivation, aging, and the need for control in a world that taught us we had to earn love to survive. JoJo works primarily with gay men over 40, helping them shift from mental noise into embodied presence—and his insights...

In this episode, Matt speaks with queer relationship coach Lonay Halloum about why we attract unavailable men. This episode will provide you with a deeper understanding of your relationship patterns and why you might be attracting unavailable men. This episode was inspired by a deep desire to help you heal the subconscious programs that lead to self-abandonment so you can end this exhausting cycle and finally attract available men. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: Matt and Lonay both share their stories about attracting unavailable men Why do we attract unavailable men? How do attachment styles play a role? What is the subconscious mind, and how does it contribute to this? How can we work with the subconscious mind to heal? How does low self-worth play a role in this? How can we break this cycle and start to attract available men? Related Topics: Matt's blog “Why do I keep on attracting avoidant men”? Meeting your emotions: guided meditation Research study about gay men having avoidant attachment styles Today's Guest: Lonay Halloum Website Instagram Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Seeking Integrity Clinical Director Erin Snow and Tami consider the reasons that a betraying partner may refuse to admit their shame, whether it's worth waiting a few more days to see if a partner is going to start respecting boundaries, and how to respond to a partner's enmeshment, lying, and childhood trauma.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] How can we get the recovery support we need two years after disclosure?  [6:19] What is too soon for couples therapy?  [9:30] Why does my partner always walk in front of me?  [13:43] Should I wait 30 more days for my betrayer to start respecting my boundaries? [19:24] Why are so many sex addicts enmeshed with a parent?  [23:35] My therapist can't believe I want to stay with my partner. Now what?  [31:38] How can I hold space for my partner's wounds and trauma? [38:03] How do I handle my partner's incomplete information about his betrayal? [45:35] How can I understand my partner's childhood trauma and patterns of withdrawal? [49:36] Why can't my partner stop lovebombing me?  [53:50] My partner is a sex and love addict, what does limerance mean?  [57:10] “I don't hate myself” – does my partner feel any shame?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “When both partners are stabilized in their own healing journeys, couples therapy is that much more effective.”  “Your partner just wants to walk next to you in life.”  “Are the actions you're taking allowing me to move closer to you or forcing me to move further away from you?” “Choosing to stay in a relationship or choosing to go is something that only you deal with every day.”  “Addiction doesn't thrive in honesty. It has to thrive in lying.” 

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob and Tami answer questions about sex, cheating, intimacy, betrayal and more. They explore chronic lying, the power of mindset, the difference between firm boundaries and abuse, and more of the common but painful issues that betrayed partners face.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I don't want my betraying partner to touch me. How can I show empathy?  [5:42] How can I address our lack of emotional and physical intimacy?  [12:08] Is separation the right next step in recovery?  [13:19] EMDR and somatic experience techniques as tools for moving past trauma.  [18:11] Recovery work is essential in healing.  [21:56] My partner is physically present but emotionally checked out of recovery. [30:20] Choosing a different path in the recovery process.  [33:16] What is the difference between being firm and being abusive?  [42:22] My partner's lying addiction is worse than his porn addiction. What treatment plan is available for lying?  [46:37] How can I ask my partner about her recovery healing path when she won't open up to me?  [50:05] What is the goal of separation?  [52:00] How can I change my mindset about my slow recovery?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “You might get validation wrong, but doing nothing makes it worse than trying something and not doing it perfectly.”  “You can't work on trauma when you're still acting out.”  “Are you more focused on your pain or your healing?”  “The recovery battle has more to do with the choices you're making than the things that happened to you.”  “People who are committed to the recovery process are willing to do whatever it takes to be on a different path.”  “You don't have to be hit to be profoundly abused.”  “You cannot remain a liar and be in active recovery.” 

On the Shelf for August 2025 The Lesbian Historic Motif Podcast - Episode 320 with Heather Rose Jones Your monthly roundup of history, news, and the field of sapphic historical fiction. In this episode we talk about: Upcoming travel and events My new book Skin-Singer: Tales of the Kaltaoven by Heather Rose Jones Recent and upcoming publications covered on the blog Klein, Ula Lukszo. 2021. “Busty Buccaneers and Sapphic Swashbucklers” in Transatlantic Women Travelers, 1688-1843 edited by Misty Kreuger. Lewisburg PA: Bucknell University Press. Wingard, Tess, 2024. “The Trans Middle Ages: Incorporating Transgender and Intersex Studies into the History of Medieval Sexuality”, The English Historical Review. Black, Allida M. 1994. “Perverting the Diagnosis: The Lesbian and the Scientific Basis of Stigma.” Historical Reflections / Réflexions Historiques, vol. 20, no. 2, pp. 201–16. Chauncey, George, Jr. 1982. “From Inversion to Homosexuality: Medicine and the Changing Conceptualization of Female Deviance” in Salmagundi 58-59 (fall 1982-winter 1983). Blank, Paula. 2011. “The Proverbial ‘Lesbian': Queering Etymology in Contemporary Critical Practice” in Modern Philology 109, no. 1: 108-34. Cassio, Albio Cesare. 1983. “Post-Classical Lesbias,” The Classical Quarterly, n.s., 33:1, pp. 296-297. Ingrassia, Catherine. 1998. “Fashioning Female Authorship in Eliza Haywood's ‘The Tea-Table'” in The Journal of Narrative Technique, vol. 28, no. 3, pp. 287–304. Ingrassia, Catherine. 2014. “'Queering' Eliza Haywood” in Journal for Early Modern Cultural Studies, Vol. 14, No. 4, New Approaches to Eliza Haywood: The Political Biography and Beyond: 9-24 Katz, Jonathan. 1978. Gay American History: Lesbians and Gay Men in the U.S.A. Avon Books, New York. ISBN 0-380-40550-4 Pohl, Nicole, and Betty A. Schellenberg. 2002. “Introduction: A Bluestocking Historiography” in Huntington Library Quarterly, vol. 65, no. 1/2, pp. 1–19. Lanser, Susan S. 2002. “Bluestocking Sapphism and the Economies of Desire” in Huntington Library Quarterly, Vol. 65, No. 1/2, Reconsidering the Bluestockings: 257-275 Recent Lesbian/Sapphic Historical Fiction The Painter's Palette (The Legacy Lane Series #2) by Gina Everleigh The Needfire by M.K. Hardy The Worst Spy in London (The Luckiest With Love #2) by Anne Knight The Unexpected Heiress by Cassidy Crane This Vicious Hunger by Francesca May What I've been consuming The Tapestry of Time by Kate Heartfield Murder by Post by Rachel Ford A transcript of this podcast is available here. (Interview transcripts added when available.) Links to the Lesbian Historic Motif Project Online Website: http://alpennia.com/lhmp Blog: http://alpennia.com/blog RSS: http://alpennia.com/blog/feed/ Twitter: @LesbianMotif Discord: Contact Heather for an invitation to the Alpennia/LHMP Discord server The Lesbian Historic Motif Project Patreon Links to Heather Online Website: http://alpennia.com Email: Heather Rose Jones Mastodon: @heatherrosejones@Wandering.Shop Bluesky: @heatherrosejones Facebook: Heather Rose Jones (author page)

Why do so many gay men struggle with deep fears of rejection—whether in dating, friendships, or even at work? In this episode, we're unpacking rejection sensitivity: where it comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so intense for us. Some of the topics we cover: The early roots of rejection sensitivity (hint: it starts young) How social norms, internalized homophobia, and shame wire us for hypervigilance The impact of dating app culture and body-focused rejection Signs you might be stuck in a rejection sensitivity loop Practical ways to heal and build resilience If you've ever felt crushed by criticism, avoided risks to protect yourself, or wrestled with feelings of “never enough,” this one's for you. Related Episodes: Rejection Fear of Rejection Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Send us a textIn the heart of the Derbyshire countryside - in the picturesque market town of Belper - there's a bizarre story unfolding in the run-up to the annual Pride parade.First established in 2019, Pride in Belper now boasts that it's the largest Pride celebration n the county, attracting around 11,000 people.  The event committee have a strong community presence - their mantra is inclusivity and diversity - and many local schools and businesses are involved in decking the town in rainbows.So you'd expect Pride in Belper would be the perfect event to promote a social group for local lesbians, gay and bisexual people. Apparently not - Pride in Belper have banned the local LGB Alliance Friend's group from having a stall at this year's Pride celebration. We sat down with Michelle to find out why….If you enjoyed listening to this podcast and would like to hear more, go to womensrights.network/wrn-podcast to listen, download and subscribe to more of our episodes. And if you'd like to join our conversations, go to womensrights.network/join-wrn

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores “The Cinderella Syndrome” in gay men—the rise from rejection to confidence, and what happens when the glow-up fades. From body image to aging, learn how to build lasting self-worth, stay empowered, and thrive beyond appearances. Real talk, real tools, real growth.

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Tami and CSAT Jon Taylor consider the implications of two-person psychology and how cheating and betrayal never affect just one person. Jon shares common early recovery mantras as they apply to the two-person psychology filter, then answers listener questions about lying, sobriety, and disclosure.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Mantras for early recovery in the two-person psychology filter. [3:06] “Focus on your side of the street.”  [6:01] Living with uncertainty in your relationship - “He will relapse if he's going to relapse.”  [9:15] Whatever you put in front of recovery, you will lose.  [14:08] Does your partner need to tell you everything?  [20:09] “All addicts are…” The danger of broad sweeping statements.  [24:15] “Sobriety will solve all relationship problems.”  [29:32] How can I overcome my fear of full disclosure?  [34:55] Should I move out because my partner is uncertain about my recovery?  [39:15] “Don't go to the hareware store looking for bread.”  [42:45] My husband altered his disclosure after his lie detector results came in. How can I ever trust him?  [45:57] How much of the past should we spend our time discussing?  [49:12] Are lies of omission typical of addicts?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “You don't quite get the whole picture of healing, change and recovery if you're not thinking in terms of two-person systems.”  “What happens on one side of the street affects the other side too.”  “He will relapse if he's going to relapse.”  “Each partner should be able to explain in simple terms why or why not something should be discussed.”  “Living with intention can only be achieved by two people working on a relationship and constructing it in a co-equal way.”  “Sobriety is a prerequisite to building a healthy relationship, but it is not the mechanism that a healthy relationship is built with.”  “It doesn't have to feel good every step of the way to get a good outcome.” “You can't have serious safety and security in a relationship if you don't take it seriously.” 

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Tami and The Shoeless Therapist Matt Wheeler discuss two types of change – counteractive change and transformational change – and how each one impacts healing. They also consider honesty, manipulation, and lying; and warn listeners of the danger of a partner claiming that they'll never hurt you again.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:57] Defining counteractive change and transformational change.  [4:08] Early recovery almost always includes counteractive change.  [5:33] Honesty is a complicated request. [9:37] Reflective and dissociative lying are learned behaviors.  [11:49] Trusting your gut around lying patterns. [17:20] Lying to set boundaries and allow for self-preservation. [22:32] Is this lie going to hurt my relationship?  [24:40] Counteractive change does not lead to deeper healing.  [29:55] Your partner cannot always be the catalyst for your behavior.  [34:10] Threatening is about control, not about fostering relationships.  [37:28] Trusting your own intuition and getting your needs met. [41:40] How can I handle my betrayed partner's indignation and anger?  [47:05] How can I respond to my partner's promise to never hurt me again?  [53:18] How can I approach my extremely avoidant partner?  [56:07] My cheating partner was never going to tell me the truth. Now what?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “All lying is manipulative in the sense that you're trying to manipulate the other person to think and feel a certain way.”  “Trust your gut when you recognize a familiar pattern.”  “Sometimes a person can change because they love someone else. Real transformative change happens because they love themselves.”  “No relationship is healthy if it's filled with threats.”  “Even if you could prove that acting out didn't occur, that's not the point. Your intuition is telling you that you have needs that aren't being met.”  “You cannot make any choice in life without accepting a loss.” 

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How would you, your life, and your experience be if you were free from uncertainty, instability, and insecurity? While it can't be promised you won't have to experience these again, in this special solo episode, Reno shares personal experiences, perspectives, anecdotes, and practices to help you relate to them in ways that do create more freedom, creativity, resourcefulness, resilience, discernment, enthusiasm and lightness in the face of them. He also demonstrates some ways he has personally navigated uncertainty, instability, and insecurity throughout his life. Today's Host: Reno Johnston Instagram Facebook Schedule a Zoom Call Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Guest co‑host Auntea Steve (Relationshit Podcast) joins Auntea Kerel & Auntea Jerell while Henny Jerrell battles European travel drama. We dive into being single in 2025, setting boundaries, and dating authentically—apps vs meeting people IRL, travel hookups, and what makes a great first date.  Then: Yo Aunteas reacts to the headline that Beyoncé's unreleased music / tour materials were allegedly stolen from choreographer Chris Grant's car in Atlanta—and why ATL smash‑and‑grabs are too common.  We celebrate RuPaul's record 10th Emmy nomination for host and unpack long‑running Drag Race production drama, favoritism, and fandom fatigue.  Ask Yo' Aunteas returns! A Communitea member asks about the viral Labubu craze; we compare notes on 90s nostalgia collections (Tamagotchi, Trolls, Pokémon, etc.) and whether collectibles are cute or a dating red flag. Title inspo unlocked: La Boo Boo Do You Boo. Send your Ask Yo' Aunteas (voice or text) to the Tea‑Line: 844‑832‑5463—we'll disguise your voice if you want the tea anonymous. Time Stamps: 00:00 Introduction and Episode Setup 01:05 Getting to Know the Hosts 02:40 Exploring RelationshitPod 09:06 Navigating Dating in Today's World 15:37 Exploring Ideal Dates 22:29 Beyoncé's Unreleased Music Theft 32:09 RuPaul's Emmy Record and Influence 34:46 Drag Race Predictability 38:12 Mistress 41:24 New Chapter 42:15 AYA: Labubu, Do You, Boo 53:27 Tea-Line 55:10 Updates on Diddy and Legal Matters 56:12 Summer Plans and Wrap Up Follow Us-   Send Your Ask Yo Aunteas Questions To: TEA LINE  844-832-5463 Aya@minoriteareport.com or DM us on Social Media   MERCH: MinoriteaReport.com   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo_xKK1VRhPrVMQxm1SzTCg   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/minoriteareport/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MinoriTeaReport/   Twitter: https://twitter.com/MTeaReport   Email Us- AYA@minoriTeaReport.com

Do you struggle with control, fear of abandonment, or always expect the worst? You might be a gay Adult Child of an Alcoholic (ACA). In this episode, Ken explores how unresolved childhood chaos shapes adult gay life—and how healing is possible

We may be adults, but a lot of us are still living in emotional childhood—blaming others for how we feel and how we act. When you give other people control over your emotions, you give away your power. In this episode, we're breaking down what it means to take responsibility for your emotions and why it is fundamental if you want true freedom, stronger relationships, and genuine self-confidence. We'll share personal stories of when we were stuck in emotional immaturity and how we learned to take responsibility for our emotions We're covering: The difference between emotional immaturity and emotional maturity Why blaming others keeps you miserable and powerless What it really means to own your emotions without beating yourself up How this skill improves your relationships, confidence, and inner peace How we learned the skill of emotional responsibility Where we still struggle and how we handle it This isn't about being perfect. It's about waking up, stepping up, and taking your power back. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

As we move toward the 2025 Sweeps Period of shows, this episode speaks of what I consider the biggest issue that faces the LGBTQ+ community. If you wish to support this show at no cost to you.....VOTE in the Podcast Awards ! To vote for An Older Gay Guy Show in this year's Podcast Awards, please follow these instructions. 1.  Go to PodcastAwards.com 2.  Click the Blue Box that says: Sign Up to Vote Now. 3.  Register your email (they delete it once the awards are done). 4.  It will take you to the Nomination Page. 5.  Using the drop-down menu, select An Older Gay Guy Show in the both the People's Choice category (it is the first one) and then importantly, scroll down to the LGBTQ category and vote for the show. Should you only want to vote in one category, please make it the LGBTQ category.  6.  So, So IMPORTANT, after your vote, SAVE IT at the BOTTOM of the page. If you did it correctly, if you refresh the page, those 2 categories are gone! 7.  You can also vote in the other categories should you desire.  THANK YOU FOR YOUR VOTE !!

In this episode, Matt speaks with author and love advocate, Scott Stabile. Together, they break down the psycho-spiritual aspects of the inner critic and how to best work with it from a place of love. If you are someone who is hard on yourself and has a tough time finding self-love and self-compassion, this episode will help you develop greater awareness of your inner critic, where self-judgment originates, and how you can start practicing more acceptance of yourself and others through presence, love, and compassion. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: How do you define love and self-love/compassion? Do you believe it's possible to transcend self-judgment? What does self-compassion look like? How does prioritizing self-love/compassion serve the world outside of yourself? Are there specific tools or techniques you can recommend to foster deeper self-compassion and self-love? How do you feel, if at all, that lack of self-compassion is contributing to the insanity and division we're seeing in our world? Today's Guest: Scott Stabile Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Are Gay Men Really Broke?It's no secret: gay men are some of the biggest spenders in the economy. From fashion to travel to gourmet coffee, we love to live well. But here's the paradox—so many of us still feel financially strapped.On this episode of Queer Money®, we're unpacking why gay men often earn more yet save less—and how cultural pressures, internalized shame, and a desire to prove our worth can sabotage financial security.Takeaways:The hidden costs of trying to look successfulWhy the LGBTQ+ community is targeted by marketers—and how to protect yourselfSteps to shift from consumption to building lasting wealt

Aging as a gay man can feel like becoming invisible—but it doesn't have to. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, shares insights from 30+ years of helping gay men reclaim sexual confidence, confront ageism, and embrace desire at any age. It's time to get real about erotic aging—and radically refuse to disappear.

Brad Gage talks to Cator Sparks, an ICF-certified life coach who focuses on men. Cator and Brad met through a national men's group called Buoy's Club, and dig into the fun and illuminating work Cator does with straight and queer men alike.   Topics covered: -What actually happens at Men's Retreats. -The difference between coaching and therapy. -How psychedelics have changed his life and psychology. Hosted, Edited, and Produced by Brad Gage Logo by Nolan Fabricius Theme Song by Russell Henson Find Cator: Cator's Website - https://www.catorsparkscoaching.com/ @catorsparks on Instagram    

I chat with Robin Lin Miller (https://www.safersexmsu.com/) about the book she wrote with George Ayala, "Breaking Barriers: Sexual and Gender Minority-Led Advocacy to End AIDS in Africa and the Caribbean (https://global.oup.com/academic/product/breaking-barriers-9780197647684?cc=us&lang=en&)." We discuss MPact (https://mpactglobal.org/), Project ACT, and the evaluation of the initiatives. About Robin Lin Miller Robin Lin Miller, PhD (https://www.safersexmsu.com/) is Professor of Psychology, director of doctoral training in ecological-community psychology, and associate director of training in program evaluation at Michigan State University. She served as lead evaluation specialist for Gay Men's Health Crisis in the early years of the HIV epidemic and established its first Department of Evaluation. She specializes in evaluating community-led programs, including human rights and advocacy initiatives. Her evaluations – principally conducted in the United States, Africa, and Caribbean – focus on adolescent and Black gay and bisexual men, bisexual girls, transgender women, and male sex workers. She served as lead scientist on the American Psychological Association's Task Force on Therapeutic Approaches to Sexual Orientation Distress, which is routinely cited in legislation banning conversion therapy practices. Awards include the 2023 Alva and Gunnar Myrdal Evaluation Practice Award from the American Evaluation Association for substantive cumulative contributions to the development of LGBTQ evaluation practice, and the 2022 Exemplary Project W. K. Kellogg Foundation Community Engagement Scholarship Award for evaluating human rights advocacy for LGBTQ people in Africa and the Caribbean. She a member of the Academy for Community Engagement Scholarship, and a fellow of the American Psychological Association and Society for Community Research and Action. She is author of more than 100 scholarly publications, including Breaking Barriers: Sexual and Gender Minority-led Advocacy to End AIDS in Africa and the Caribbean, published by Oxford University Press, co-authored by activist-scholar George Ayala. Past funders include AmFAR, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Institute of Mental Health, National Institute of Drug Abuse, the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Development, and the U.S. Department of State. Contact information: mill1493@msu.edu

Send us a textHarley and KC are back with more answers to life's important questions! Or, is it just more questions? In this episode they tackle VERY important topics!Who is the tin foil Queen? ...and what is her legacy?What happens when the wrong recipient gets your intimate text or email?Why old people can't understand how SD Cards work? How do you dial a mobile phone?What does gay lifestyle really mean to married gays?Well...maybe the questions are not so important, but KC and Harley's answers are intermingled with the memories and stories that you love. Sit back and enjoy their playful banter. The "lazy days of summer" are a here  Doing nothing can become the most restorative parts of our day.Take a deep breath. It's okay to do nothing. Be kind to yourself and others.Make sure to subscribe, share, and leave a review to keep the conversation going! Enormous Website: www.EnormousPodcast.comVoice mail: (303) 351-2880Email: EnormousPodcast@gmail.comTwitter: www.Twitter.com/@EnormousPodInstagram:www.Instagram.com/Enormous_PodcastFacebook:www.Facebook.com/EnormousPodLink: The Soundtrack Of Our Life Video PlaylistLink: Male Diva EDM Spotify  Play ListLink: Songs Of Our Life Spotify Play List  

Send us a textRemi Newman, editor of Hands On, a book collection of personal essays by sexuality workers, and Mehdi, a somatic sex and trauma therapist, talk with Karen about the complexities of sex work and the potential for deep healing through hands-on modalities.In this episode:Hands On: Stories of Sexuality Work, Intimacy and Healing  Remi Newman - editor, Hands On; surrogate partner; and sexuality educatorMehdi - somatic sex and trauma therapistKaren Yates - dual-certified somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker, and energy workerShow your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip! Help defray our production costs.See other trauma sessions from Wild & Sublime:Genital De-armoring with Rahi ChunMen, Trauma, and Sex with JoJo Bear Sexual Trauma, Somatic Healing The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

What happens when we avoid feeling our emotions? In this episode, we explore the importance of emotional awareness: tuning in instead of checking out. We share what happens when we suppress our feelings, and how to navigate the tough ones with compassion and care. We also explore: The link between emotional avoidance and things like addiction, depression, and burnout What blocks us from feeling our emotions Practical ways to process emotions that feel overwhelming or uncomfortable The power of self-compassion in emotional healing Why learning to feel your emotions leads to more empathy, connection, and confidence Whether you're someone who bottles it all up or someone who feels everything all at once, this conversation will give you insight and tools to better understand yourself and others. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this powerful Pride episode of Happy Insights, host Happy Ali sits down with mentor and guide Elian Vale to bravely explore the rarely discussed pain points within the gay male community. Beyond the celebrations, they unpack prevalent issues like body dysmorphia, addiction, and the pressure to perform. Discover how to break free from external validation and cultivate a true sense of self-worth rooted in authenticity, not applause, in this vital conversation for anyone seeking deeper connection and real freedom. #GayPride #LGBTQ+ #BodyDysmorphia #GayMen #AddictionRecovery #MentalHealth #Authenticity #SelfWorth #HappyInsights #ElianVale Find Elian at https://www.elianvale.com and Happy Ali at https://linkr.ee/happyinsights

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob and Tami address the facts about forgiveness, trust, connection and peace, both in the early days of recovery as well as years down the road. They offer strategies for effective in-house separation, call out the warning signs of gaslighting, and get serious about setting feelings aside to start facing the facts.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:30] How can I find an accountability partner for filtering software? [7:20] Is it a slip or a relapse?  [9:20] What are appropriate time frames and factors for recovery?  [14:45] Healing, peace and connection after betrayal.  [19:21] How can I intimately connect with my spouse after my betrayal?  [25:47] I caught my husband in the middle of his lies. Now what?  [33:24] Are there options for inpatient treatment for betrayed partners?  [38:20] Strategies for effective in-house separation. [39:45] My husband wants to leave to find external validation, I want him to stay. What do I do?  [44:53] Is my betraying partner gaslighting me through recovery too? [50:19] Is it normal for the betraying spouse to be terrified of formal disclosure?  [54:17] How can we stay together without trust? [58:15] It's been 5 years since D-day and I'm finally ready to move out. How can I stay strong in my decision?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Life is full of triggers. What is it that you're going to do about your triggers?” “You will never trust in the same way again. But to be at peace is a whole different thing.”  “Intimacy is revealing yourself emotionally, and ultimately, sexually as well.”  “Honesty is the crux of recovery. You cannot be in recovery and constantly lying about everything.”  “Feelings aren't facts. In recovery, your feelings are less relevant than the facts of what you're going through.”   

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob and Tami address participant questions about sex, intimacy, betrayal, and addiction. They answer questions about finding peace with yourself in the midst of rage and repulsion, choosing recovery and allowing the process of forgiveness to play out, and how to find hope in the midst of betrayal.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:00] Forgiveness is a process and recovery is a choice.  [7:01] Are you taking care of your spouse while you're dying inside?  [12:26] Is in-house separation the next right step?  [18:18] My husband's betrayal has created chronic triggers in me. Now what?  [26:56] Finding hope in the midst of betrayal.  [27:44] What therapy is available to my lying partner?  [36:16] What can I do to grow my emotional maturity when I'm stressed?  [41:31] How can I move beyond my rage and repulsion at my betraying partner?  [49:28] How do you know when your partner is serious about change or just going through the motions?  [54:05] I have so much rage and I want revenge. How can I fix this?  [57:44] Should I know what my partner's arousal template is?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Begging for forgiveness is not respecting the other person because they need to hurt for a while.”  “You're the one with the problem if you still let him in your bed.”  “Women are not the problem. Your cheating husband is the problem.”  “Whatever the other person does, you have to be strong enough to say ‘I am worth more'.”  “Don't ask ‘how can I not feel this way?' Ask ‘how can I be at peace with myself?'”

It's Pride Month, and with everything going on in the world right now, it feels especially important to pause and reflect. In this special panel discussion episode, Reno Johnston is joined by three incredible guests—Mark Fleming, Keone Wales, and Jordan Layne—for a candid panel discussion on the meaning of Pride: where it began, how it's evolved, and what it means to each of us today. Together, they explore questions like: What does Pride mean to you? What was your first Pride experience? How has Pride changed since then? What would you like Pride to become? This conversation isn't a history lesson or a debate. It's an open, honest sharing of lived experience. Whether you're a seasoned activist or celebrating your first Pride, we invite you to reflect alongside us and consider what Pride means to you, not just this month, but all year round. Today's Guests: Mark Fleming Facebook Keone Wales Instagram Jordan Layne Instagram Today's Host: Reno Johnston Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

What if Gilligan's Island was more than a goofy sitcom? What if it was a mirror for gay men's internal struggles with shame, identity, and survival? This episode explores how each castaway reflects one of the Seven Deadly Sins—and how these moral archetypes echo the messages many gay men internalize. Through humor, camp, and therapeutic insight, this episode reclaims “sin” as a source of healing, not harm.

What holds us back from achieving our full potential? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores the unconscious barriers many gay men face—like self-doubt, fear of success, cultural pressure to stay small, and toxic professional competition. With insights from 30+ years of clinical practice, he shares empowering strategies from cognitive and positive psychology to help move past internalized limitations and build a life aligned with your true goals.

This week, Bunnie's asks the big question - why is she so attracted to alpha gay men? Then, the girls unpack drama between Holly Madison and Zak Bagans, and kinks that involve stripper heels and CEOs. Bunnie also shares more about meeting Lana Del Rey, her floating rib, and surviving Stagecoach on her period. Just another normal week around here.Watch Full Episodes & More:www.dumbblondeunrated.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.