Podcasts about gay men

This week Belaquis is back and we discuss her experience during her Granny's homecoming which was start out of a ghetto Tubi movie. Then She talks about her dealing with a producer and talent where the Producer doesn't want to work with the talent because he is gay but yet well, you know the story. Plus we unpack Hoes hating on hoes. You want to see the Video version of this episode you need to Subscribe to the Premium Smoke Roomhttps://www.loyalfans.com/PremiumSmokeRoomHost: Belaquishttps://x.com/belaquisbanghttps://www.instagram.com/therealbelaquisbang/

What holds us back from achieving our full potential? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores the unconscious barriers many gay men face—like self-doubt, fear of success, cultural pressure to stay small, and toxic professional competition. With insights from 30+ years of clinical practice, he shares empowering strategies from cognitive and positive psychology to help move past internalized limitations and build a life aligned with your true goals.

TW: Weight LossHosting etiquette gets heated and dissected. A listener writes in upset that her friends let their boyfriends read their private text messages. Then, the first out British Rugby League player Keegan Hirst joins the podcast to talk about coaching for gay men, the standards for queer bodies, what it was like coming out while actively playing, and why having abs won't save your life. Finally, Allison walks us through her first trimester of pregnancy. It's not fun. Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code JUSTBETWEENUS for 15% off!* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Andrew Christian addresses why this will be his last collection and supporting gay brands... A drag queen befriends an anti-pride protester...what can we learn? Are older gay men angry and why? We discuss... What do you wish you learned about lgbtq history in school that you didn't? Advice: The guy is attractive but has a small one....is this really an issue? Support TAGS and get extra special perks! New Bonus Episode for 2025 out now! Patreon.com/tagspodcast Grab a tier or get our Free Tier and get Behind the Scenes content plus you can now purchase individual content! Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Follow Steve V. on IG: @iam_stevev Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod

In today's episode, we're diving into a question many in our community have been quietly (or loudly) asking: Has Pride lost its meaning? In this wide-ranging conversation, we reflect on how Pride has evolved from its radical roots in activism to its present-day celebratory scene shaped by media, politics, and corporate sponsorships. We talk about what's been gained, what's been lost, and what still needs to be reclaimed. Some topics we explore: The impact of corporatization and rainbow capitalism How we'd reimagine Pride moving forward The meaning Pride has for us personally The importance of making Pride more inclusive for those still on the margins The role media plays in shaping what Pride looks and feels like How far our rights have come… and how fragile they still are Whether you love Pride, feel disconnected from it, or land somewhere in between, this episode is an invitation to reflect, reimagine, and reconnect with what Pride means to you in 2025. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Discover how the Big Five OCEAN personality traits—Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism—can help gay men improve relationships, communication, and self-understanding, with insights from therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST.  

Happy Pride, everyone! After last weekend's joyous Mighty Hoopla festival, we simply had to jump on - with utterly fried vocal chords - to debrief and unpack our highlights with you! We're so excited to have the reactions and reflections from Dannii Minogue and incredible performers (and friends of the pod) Tom Aspaul, Pixie Lott, Amy Studt and Craig from the London Gay Men's Chorus who sang on the main stage with Samantha Mumba. This is the first time in our seven-year history where your RBAY boys have done a post-festival highlights episode but since there were so many moments that were euphoric and specific to us 2000s pop fans - it called for a special. From A*Teens to Heidi Montag, Ciara to Supersister and many more meauxments... we hope this recap transports you to the glitter and disco-filled ambience of Brockwell Park! Follow Right Back At Ya! https://www.instagram.com/rightbackpod/ https://twitter.com/rightbackpod https://www.facebook.com/rightbackpod Follow Joel https://www.instagram.com/dr_joelb/ https://twitter.com/DR_JoelB Follow David https://www.instagram.com/lovelimmy/ https://twitter.com/lovelimmy Email us rightbackpod@gmail.com

In this episode, Matt speaks with a panel of demisexual gay men about their experiences dating as demisexuals. What we want you to get out of this episode is greater awareness of yourself if you are demisexual, and to know you are not alone. We want to share our own experiences in the hope that you can learn ways to thrive as a demisexual. If you are not demisexual, this episode will offer you a greater understanding of demisexual men you might come across in dating. We also share helpful, practical dating advice, so stick with us until the end of the episode. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: How did you discover you're demisexual? What has been challenging for you about dating as a demisexual? Where have you found success when it comes to dating as a demisexual? What advice do you have for other demisexual men who might be struggling in their dating lives? Related Episode: Demisexuality: What is it? Today's Guests: Andre-Lee Wills Website LinkedIn Ron Fisher Instagram Kasey Cromer Website Instagram Facebook Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

It's Dads and Daddies' first anniversary! Judson and Brian reflect on the ups and downs of the past year, and reveal some of the ways they plan to evolve the podcast in what is now Season Two, including the introduction of the new “Hookup of the Week” episode premiering this episode! The two then enter into a conversation about code-switching as gay men, and how each balances the various personas they bring to their home lives, work lives, creative lives, sex lives, friendships, and time alone with their thoughts. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how to get out of a hookup when the person doesn't meet expectations without hurting that person's feelings.    Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Understanding Sexual Trauma and Hookup Culture in Therapy with Gay Men: An Interview with Michael Pezzullo, LMFT Curt and Katie chat with Michael Pezzullo, LMFT, about providing affirming and trauma-informed therapy for gay men. We explore common misconceptions therapists hold, the complexities of hookup culture, and how sexual trauma often shows up in subtle and misunderstood ways. We also look at how clinicians can better navigate issues of consent, drug use, and boundary violations when working with this population. Transcripts and more information for this episode will be available at mtsgpodcast.com! In this podcast episode, we explore affirming, trauma-informed therapy for gay men We invited Michael Pezzullo to the podcast to discuss the often-overlooked nuances of working with gay men in therapy. From hookup culture to sexual trauma, Michael breaks down what therapists need to understand to avoid causing harm or misinterpreting client behavior. His perspective emphasizes the importance of clinical humility, cultural knowledge, and a collaborative approach. Common Therapist Mistakes When Working with Gay Men What Therapists Need to Understand About Hookup Culture, Risk, and Drug Use Addressing Sexual Trauma and Boundary Violations in the Gay Community Helping Gay Men in Building and Enforcing Boundaries Navigating Presenting, Shame, and the “Velvet Rage” Creating a Safe and Affirming Space for Gay Clients Using Social Media and Influencers as Cultural Education Therapist Takeaways Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement: Our Linktree: https://linktr.ee/therapyreimagined Modern Therapist's Survival Guide Creative Credits: Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/ Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano https://groomsymusic.com/

I have told you many stories about my life. But what I haven't told you is there was a series of events that occured that laid the groundwork for many things to come in my life.  I am not proud of what happened, but in hindsight maybe it was all for the best. This talks about my life in elementary school and Junior High School. I will do a second part to this talking about my High School experiences in another episode. 

In today's America there are those who claim that, under the guise of "protecting" children, they should be gender transitioned. Some are so adamant about this that they believe it should be done away from the attention of parents, parents who refuse to be affirming of a gender identity that doesn't match the child's biological sex. Returning to Crosstalk to put the spotlight on this issue was Alex Newman. Alex is an award-winning international freelance journalist, author, researcher, educator and consultant. He is senior editor for The New American. According to Alex, children all over America are being given what's called, "Gender Affirming Care." He described this as, "...surgical mutilation of a child's genitals, this is double mastectomies on little girls, this is castration of little boys; this is horrific, irreversible surgery that will forever sterilize these children." Sadly, he also pointed out that government has a part in facilitating and encouraging this. Review this important program so you understand how this points to the fact that your children and grandchildren are the targets of LGBTQ activists. Hear the proof from the activists themselves as Jim played audio from a gay pride parade in New York City, the Gay Men's Chorus in San Francisco and drag queen Dylan Pontiff. However, that's not all. Listen as Jim presents the troubling testimony of Dustin Gonzales, a father in the state of Colorado, whose daughter was groomed at school to believe she was a different gender. The school knew he would not be supportive of this so they hid it from him for 2 years. Listeners capped the broadcast by presenting their views.

For many gay men, friendship is complicated, performative, and sometimes downright painful. We crave genuine connection but end up navigating cliques, comparison, and quiet loneliness. In this episode, Michael and Pepper are doing an exposé on gay friendships to unpack what's really going on beneath the surface and why so many gay friendships fall short of the depth and safety we actually want. We're breaking it down in three parts: The Pretty Lies: Performative friendship, superficiality, and toxic group dynamics The Ugly Truth: How shame, fear, and survival strategies get in the way of true friendship True Friendship: What fun, nourishing gay friendship looks like and how we can build it This episode is your invitation to shift from followers to friendship, and from competition to collaboration—and start building real connection. Related Episodes: Making Friends (Introvert Edition) How to Make Friends with Gay Men Today's Guest: Pepper Rojas Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In today's America there are those who claim that, under the guise of "protecting" children, they should be gender transitioned. Some are so adamant about this that they believe it should be done away from the attention of parents, parents who refuse to be affirming of a gender identity that doesn't match the child's biological sex. Returning to Crosstalk to put the spotlight on this issue was Alex Newman. Alex is an award-winning international freelance journalist, author, researcher, educator and consultant. He is senior editor for The New American. According to Alex, children all over America are being given what's called, "Gender Affirming Care." He described this as, "...surgical mutilation of a child's genitals, this is double mastectomies on little girls, this is castration of little boys; this is horrific, irreversible surgery that will forever sterilize these children." Sadly, he also pointed out that government has a part in facilitating and encouraging this. Review this important program so you understand how this points to the fact that your children and grandchildren are the targets of LGBTQ activists. Hear the proof from the activists themselves as Jim played audio from a gay pride parade in New York City, the Gay Men's Chorus in San Francisco and drag queen Dylan Pontiff. However, that's not all. Listen as Jim presents the troubling testimony of Dustin Gonzales, a father in the state of Colorado, whose daughter was groomed at school to believe she was a different gender. The school knew he would not be supportive of this so they hid it from him for 2 years. Listeners capped the broadcast by presenting their views.

In this episode of the Brief Talk Podcast, host Unb Tim welcomes Cisco from Yocisco, a brand that originated as an online magazine for gay men of color and evolved into a successful underwear line. Cisco shares his journey from being a go-go dancer to launching his brand, discussing the challenges of representing people of color in fashion, the importance of body diversity, and the current trends in men's underwear. The conversation also touches on masculinity, gender expression, and the need for inclusivity in the fashion industry. Cisco emphasizes the brand's commitment to confidence and representation, while also sharing insights from his experiences in the go-go dancing scene. Takeaways Yocisco started as an online magazine in 2007. Cisco transitioned from go-go dancing to entrepreneurship. The brand focuses on catering to gay men of color. Challenges include representation and inclusivity in fashion. Body diversity is a key focus for Yocisco. The brand offers a range of products including swimwear. Cisco emphasizes the importance of confidence in fashion. The conversation highlights the evolution of masculinity. Less judgment in the community is needed. Future collaborations and discussions on masculinity are planned. Titles From Go-Go to CEO: The Yocisco Journey Breaking Barriers: Fashion for Gay Men of Color Sound Bites "I lost everything, man." "I saw a hole in the market." "We just need less judgment." Links: Store - http://www.yocisco.com  Social Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/yoscico  BlueSky - https://bsky.app/profile/yocisco.bsky.social NOTE - if reading this after the show has dropped, sometimes the account gets deleted by the social media site.  Support UNB For on going support join our Patreon - www.patreon.com/unbblog You can now Join for free.  For one time support  visit our support page - https://www.underwearnewsbriefs.com/about/support-unb/ You can donate by Ko-fi or Paypal  Or buy from the UNB Store - www.unbstore.com  Gift us something from our wish list - https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/KCJXCDDPU0LI?ref_=wl_share  Buy Amoresy - https://amoresy.com/UNBTIM Buy BodyAware - https://bodyaware.com?bg_ref=7FgHF6QR1x Buy Xdress - https://xdress.com?bg_ref=cG6ohBdgUO Buy Real Men - https://www.rmac.store/TIM77812 Find out More  Read more at unbblog.com Follow unb on Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/unbblog Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unbblog Reddit - https://www.reddit.com/r/unbstoreandblog/ Follow Tim Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/unbtim Instagrm - https://www.instagram.com/unbtim Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/unbtim BlueSky - https://bsky.app/profile/unbtim.bsky.social Spandex Party - https://spandexparty.com/unbtim Send Feedback/questions to feedback@brieftalkpodcast.com 

How do the unmet needs of our childhood shape who we are today? And more importantly, how do we learn to meet those needs for ourselves as adults? In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we explore the re-parenting process—a therapeutic model that helps us heal old wounds, develop self-compassion, and rewrite the internal narratives we inherited from childhood. We'll be getting personal as we reflect on on three powerful questions: 1️⃣ What needs went unmet for you as a child? 2️⃣ How did you cope with these unmet needs? 3️⃣ How have you learned to meet these needs for yourself as an adult? From loneliness and perfectionism to people-pleasing and self-expression, we dive into the real-life stories and coping strategies that shaped our past and the lessons we've learned to become the men we are today. Tune in for an honest, vulnerable, and inspiring discussion on how we can become the loving, supportive parents we always needed—for ourselves. Related Link: Inner Child Work Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In recent years, "twink death"—the idea that a young, slim gay man loses social value as he ages out of the "twink" category—has gained traction as a viral online concept. Though often treated as a humorous social media trend, it highlights the deeper issues around ageism, body image, and the pressure to conform to narrow beauty standards within the gay community.In this episode, we unpack the cultural categorization of twinks, explore the origins and implications of "twink death," and discuss how gay men can challenge ageist beauty standards and embrace aging with pride.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 32. Gay Men and Body ObsessionListen to Episode 60. Is 30 Gay Death?Additional Resources:The Pressure to Achieve Perfection: Body Obsession in the Gay Community and Its Impact on Self-WorthDebunking 'Gay Death': How Gay Men Can Age with PrideTwink (Urban Dictionary)Twink (Dictionary.com)Twinkie (Collins Dictionary)What is a Twink?Twink (Wikipedia)Twink Death (Urban Dictionary)Twink Death (Know Your Meme)Twink Death and Its ConsequencesExoletus (Wikipedia)Twink Death: Is the Party Really Over?Twink DeathSupport the showGet Your Merch

Season 5: Episode 18Gay men, married to women, coming out, getting divorces and becoming besties with their ex-wives. In this episode, Mike interviews two of the men in his gay discussion group, Nate Erisman and Dan Kroening, who have done just that. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Everything Numa⁠⁠⁠Mike's Gay Discussion Group⁠⁠

In this episode, I explore the many ways gay men experience betrayal—in relationships, friendships, family, and professional life—and how we can heal from these wounds with clarity and strength. If betrayal has touched your life, listen in and consider therapy or coaching with me to reclaim your peace of mind and restore trust in yourself and others.

Following the governor's May revision and a projected deficit of $12 billion, state lawmakers have a month to pass a balanced budget. Also, challenges facing California's tourism industry. Finally, the Sacramento Gay Men's Chorus. What's Next After the May Revise

Chapters00:00Introduction and Background03:02Life in California vs. Nashville05:59Growing Up in Minnesota08:51Coming to Terms with Sexuality11:45Experiences with Conversion Therapy15:01Finding Community and Connection17:57Creating the Gay Men's Collective20:56Navigating Relationships and Vulnerability23:56The Importance of Meaningful Connections35:30The Importance of Connection and Respect36:14Reflecting on Past Relationships and Self-Discovery38:35Memorable Connections and Energetic Relationships39:07Navigating Dating Apps and Open Relationships41:08Embracing Single Life and Personal Growth43:34The Journey into Coaching and Teaching47:30Connecting with Amy Grant and Personal Heroes50:57Family Dynamics and Discovering Siblings01:01:12Life Lessons and Personal PhilosophySummaryIn this conversation, Matt Moran shares his journey from growing up in Minnesota to navigating life in Nashville and California. He discusses his late realization of his sexuality, experiences with conversion therapy, and the importance of community for gay men. Moran emphasizes the need for meaningful connections and vulnerability in relationships, ultimately leading to the creation of the Gay Men's Collective, a platform for gay men seeking authentic connections. In this engaging conversation, Matt Moran and Wilkinson explore themes of connection, self-discovery, and personal growth. They reflect on past relationships, the importance of energetic connections, and the journey of being single. Matt shares his experiences with coaching and teaching, as well as his connection with Amy Grant, a significant figure in his life. The discussion also delves into family dynamics, including the discovery of siblings and the complexities of personal history. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of understanding others' stories and the lessons learned from their own experiences.Sound Bites"I didn't have any clue that I was gay.""I want to be like these guys.""I realized I'm still gay.""I started sleeping around.""I never ever had gay friends in my life.""I definitely prefer some element of connection.""I didn't jerk off until after I was married.""I have a guidepost that feels kind of internal.""I would rather struggle with loneliness single.""I love teaching and engaging with participants.""Amy Grant was a lifeline for me growing up.""He told me everything I don't want him to know.""We probably have more siblings out there."Bio:For the past two decades, Matt Moran has coached people from all walks of life across the globe, helping individuals and teams to present themselves, both internally and to the external marketplace, with excellence and precision. Through his training and one-on-one coaching, Matt has worked with Fortune 500 companies in nearly every industry, transforming the often daunting task of public presentation into one of simplicity and confident ease. In addition to his work as a professional coach, Matt Moran has dedicated his expertise to guiding individuals and teams on a transformative journey toward self-improvement, self-acceptance, confidence building, spiritual growth, and overall personal well-being. His passion lies in fostering connectedness, empathy, and authenticity, empowering individuals to unlock their true potential and find genuine fulfillment.http://www.matt-moran.comhttp://www.gaymenscollective.comContact Wilkinson: BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Kevin Corbett, Managing Director Gay Men's Chorus joins Steve Dale on the show to share details on their upcoming show, called the “Gay 90's.” The show will feature over 200 voices and everything that makes the 1990s unforgettable.

This week, Bunnie's asks the big question - why is she so attracted to alpha gay men? Then, the girls unpack drama between Holly Madison and Zak Bagans, and kinks that involve stripper heels and CEOs. Bunnie also shares more about meeting Lana Del Rey, her floating rib, and surviving Stagecoach on her period. Just another normal week around here.Watch Full Episodes & More:www.dumbblondeunrated.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author, Tom Bruett, about how to avoid losing yourself in your relationships. By balancing connection and autonomy in our relationships, we can foster more secure relationships that allow us to maintain our sense of self while allowing our partner to do the same. If you easily lose yourself in your relationships or you're having a hard time establishing intimacy, this episode will offer a refreshing perspective and tangible takeaways to help you improve your relationship with yourself and others. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: What is codependency and enmeshment? What are the consequences of being codependent or enmeshed in relationships? What causes codependency and enmeshment? How can we heal from codependency and enmeshment? What is interdependency and differentiation? How does interdependence and differentiation support secure relationships? How does attachment style play a role in this topic? What are some tangible ways to practice interdependence and differentiation? Book by Tom Bruett: The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment Today's Guest: Tom Bruett Instagram Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Tami and Erin Snow answer participant questions about sex, intimacy, addiction, betrayal, and more. They consider timelines in recovery, what full disclosure entails, and how to know if your partner is an addict or just a full-blown jerk, or both.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Is this seminar only for partners experiencing betrayal?  [3:55] How do I know if my partner is an addict or just an a**hole?  [7:25] How should I define my inner circle behaviors after chem sex recovery?  [12:09] My wife can't get over my affair, it's already been 10 months.  [19:50] Can I trust that my husband suddenly has no urges to act out?  [27:10] My husband says he'll tell me anything that I ask him about. Was his disclosure incomplete?  [31:52] Do you suggest a 12-Step program for the betrayed partner? It's not my fault!  [35:55] Can you clarify between a porn addict and a sex/love addict?  [44:10 How long does recovery take on average?  [49:19] Can recovery happen without a formal 12-Step program?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “She's not going to believe that you're not sexually attracted to them when she doesn't believe anything you say right now.”  “The action that it takes to rebuild trust takes time.”  “You may not be enmeshed in your partner's behavior, but you are deeply involved.”  “What matters most is the quality of the time that you are spending on your own individual work to heal and to rebuild trust.” 

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit HelloAlma.com/ATPP to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Tom Bruett about The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men. Tom Bruett, LMFT is a therapist, trainer, consultant, and author who works extensively with the queer community. He is the founder of the Queer Relationship Institute, which provides therapy for queer folx and training for therapists who work with queer relationships. Hear how to be more open & sensitive with your clients, the 7 stages of relational development, why you should trust your intuition with your clients, how to work better with queer couples, and how to model that these types of conversations are okay. To learn more about Tom Bruett, the Queer Relationship Institute, and The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men, visit: QueerRelationshipInstitute.com The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men  

David Cotton is a life coach who came out later in life as gay. On his Podcast, OUT LATE WITH DAVID, he talks with others who've made this LGBTQ+ coming out journey later in their life: https://open.spotify.com/show/5SWVY1TK6780z43iKVXq3T?si=iaHZ8hheTWOlRrzYjoWa5g​⁠YT: ​⁠ https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.comhttps://www.OutLateWithDavid.comhttps://linktr.ee/davidacotton—Thanks again David for joining us on this video today! We are humbled at the amazing work you're doing for so many.—MEMBERSHIP: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHLEcaJ0RewmS9XyfVa-fww/join - Get a personalized shout-out at the end of every video - Get access to behind the scenes content - Get special icons that appear next to your name whenever you comment on our videosMERCH: https://www.amazon.com/shop/outloudEmail: OutLoudJB@gmail.comIG: @OutLoudJBYouTube: https://youtube.com/@OutLoudJBThanks to our MEMBERS:Horacio ClownStuart LeeHen PenBritt SaundersJeremiah CoopersmithJoseph Hoagbin MDJason VanOverbekeRob SmithAltlover85JuliusGeorgeAdam BathGregger SpeaksRickMichelle

In 1965, when he was 17, Perry Brass hitchhiked from Savannah to San Francisco where he spent a year living on the street, sleeping between parked cars or in SRO hotels, doing any job he could, and loving the freedom of it.After Perry moved to New York, Perry joined New York's groundbreaking Gay Liberation Front in 1969 and the staff of Come Out!, the first Gay Liberation newspaper. His poetry was published in many “gay firsts,” including The Penguin Book of Homosexual Verse, the first mainstream collection of queer poetry. He has since published 23 books, most recently “My Life without Money and other poems.”In 1972, Perry and two friends started the Gay Men's Health Project Clinic, the first clinic for gay men on the East Coast, still active as New York's Callen-Lorde Community Health Center. The Gay Men's Health Project Clinic, organized and run by the men who used it rather than by doctors, became the model for many grass-roots health organizations in the gay community.

From Madonna to Mariah, Beyoncé to Barbra— throughout the generations, gay men have been obsessed with divas. But why? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into the deep connection between gay men and our beloved divas, exploring: Who are the divas and what do they have in common? Why divas resonate so deeply with gay men How these women inspire us The diva anthems that have become the soundtrack of self-confidence What it means to channel your inner diva in everyday life. Who are today's divas? This isn't just about pop culture—it's a conversation about power, identity, and how divas have given generations of gay men comfort and strength. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about sex, intimacy, addiction, betrayal, and more. They offer resources for therapeutic separation, communication at every stage of recovery and reconciliation, and tools for practicing empathy with betrayed partners.    TAKEAWAYS: [:24] Does my partner need to see a psychoanalyst first to get honest about his past?  [4:28] What resources are available for communication building in the later stages of recovery and reconciliation?  [9:17] How can I work to regain trust after recent relapses?  [13:35] How do I start the amends process with my betrayed spouse?  [17:43] Why do betrayers have to go to Porn Addiction 101 through Seeking Integrity?  [22:10] How can I handle my ex's new girlfriend joining the family?  [24:30] What does loving detachment really look like?  [30:51] Can addicts and their partners heal outside the therapeutic setting?  [34:20] What is the correlation between sex addiction and OCD?  [36:41] How can I feel safe even though I have forgiven my partner?  [41:05] What tools can an addict use to practice empathy with their partner?  [42:25] What resources are available to get CSAT couples on the same page regarding key terms?  [47:00] My partner's blameshifting and defensiveness is escalating in therapeutic separation, what should I do next?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Stop the problematic behavior first, then address the underlying issues.”  “I'm never in the later stages of recovery. Recovery is something I will do for my whole life.”  “Your living amends happens when you act differently.”  “If the worst thing happens, what are you going to do to take care of you?” 

Vote for Eve Hall as Best Educator at the ASN Awards:If you're enjoying the show and feel it's been helpful, I'd be honored if you could take a moment to vote for me as Best Educator in this year's ASN Awards. Your support means so much to me! Vote here:  2025 TOP 8 FINALIST | 2025 ASN Awards Women in Podcasting Award Voting! Make sure to vote daily. I am in two categories: Educational Podcast and Wellness Podcast. Your support is greatly appreciated! Latin Podcasting Fan Favorite Award is another award that I have been nominated for. Vote daily: Vote Popularity Award 2025 Latin Podcast Awards – Latin Podcast Awards Episode Summary: In part two of our bold, no-holds-barred conversation with gay OnlyFans creator and self-proclaimed bear and bottom Koby Falks, we dive deep—literally and figuratively—into the world of gay sexual health. From the realities of anal sex preparation to the evolving norms around condoms, PrEP, and STI testing, Koby shares personal experiences, practical advice, and unfiltered truths that every sexually active person should hear. Together, we unpack the cultural shift happening in the gay community around protection and pleasure, the science behind douching (and why technique and timing matter), and how regular STI testing plays a crucial role in safer sex practices. We also break down myths around oral sex, explore real-life risks, and share a powerful role-play that reveals common missteps in sexual communication and consent. Whether you're LGBTQ+, curious, or simply want to better understand sexual health from a fresh, honest perspective—this episode is packed with education, empowerment, and yes, a little role-play fun.  What You'll Learn in This Episode: The difference between a light and deep douche (and when to use each) Why condoms are becoming rare in certain gay communities How PrEP and DoxyPEP are changing the sexual health landscape The truth about STI transmission via oral sex How to reduce risks with regular testing and smart habits The importance of healing and gut health after repeated anal play What to say (and what to reject) when safety is on the line Connect with Eve Hall, Host of Please Me!Website: pleaseme.online I'd love to hear from you! Help me choose a question for my Please Me! Friday Series of episodes, where I answer listener-submitted questions. Send your questions and let me know what topics you'd like me to explore next! Bare Business and Beauty: A Wellness Retreat for Women: I'm excited to announce my new one-day event, Bare Business and Beauty: A Wellness Retreat for Women! Join me for a transformative day of self-care, empowerment, and growth. Get all the details here: Events - Please Me! SDC.com: Join the premiere "modern lifestyle" ENM website with a free trial membership using code 37340. Sign up on SDC.com  Connect with Koby Falks: Instagram: @kobyfalksTwitter/X: @kobyfalksxxx  All links and premium content: [Link in bio or search “Koby Falks” on Google] Additional Resources: https://howtocleanyourass.wordpress.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In December 2024 Matthew asked Amy and Greg who made them experts on what makes someone a Christian. They answered.In this episode Matthew takes their answer and explains why he's unimpressed. Especially because of the way their comments negatively affect LGBTQ+ people and those who want abortion to be a valid choice.1) The Jan 2025 episode being responded tohttps://www.str.org/w/-strask-who-made-you-the-experts-on-what-makes-someone-a-christian-2) the Dec 2024 episode that prompted Matthew's questionhttps://www.str.org/w/-strask-how-can-so-many-professing-christians-support-things-that-are-anti-christian-3) When the ‘Biblical View' for Evangelicals Was That Life Begins at Birthhttps://religiondispatches.org/when-the-biblical-view-for-evangelicals-was-that-life-begins-at-birth/4) EP105 Answering the STR challengehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/54nXmumqLbErTTXE4PtYWD?si=glUJty8XTVadUfNvJwWW7g5) Godwin's Lawhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godwin%27s_law6) Gay Men under the Nazi Regimehttps://encyclopedia.ushmm.org/content/en/article/gay-men-under-the-nazi-regime7) Trump curtails protections around diversity, LGBTQ rightshttps://www.reuters.com/world/us/trump-sign-orders-ending-diversity-programs-proclaiming-there-are-only-two-sexes-2025-01-20/To contact us, email: reasonpress@gmail.comour YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@reasonpress2901Our Theme Music was written for us by Holly, to support her and to purchase her music use the links below:https://hollykirstensongs.com/https://hollykirsten.bandcamp.com/

The women in our lives have influenced us in ways we don't always recognize, but when we take a step back, their impact is undeniable. In this heartfelt episode, we're celebrating the uniquely beautiful relationships gay men have with women—from mothers and grandmothers to besties, sisters, and beyond. We're showing love to all the women who have supported us, shaped us, and often modeled the traits that helped us become who we are today. Some of the topics we'll explore: How our childhoods were shaped by the women around us The unique love and support between gay men and women What makes female friendships different from male friendships The role of empathy and emotional intelligence in these relationships How friendships evolve over the years Join us for a deep conversation about the power of women and how these relationships continue to shape us—today and always. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Troy Love and Tami answer participant questions about attachment wounds, shame, healthy boundaries, and the reality that an addict is always going to be an addict. It's only how they chose to move forward in recovery that will change their life for better.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My partner betrayed me and now we live like roommates. How can I refine myself whether I stay or go?  [6:27] How can I stop judging myself for staying?  [10:01] My wife doesn't think I'm working hard enough in recovery. Is there a timeline we should know about?  [17:09] Will I ever be able to live my life without triggers?  [21:55] Are men and women meant to be in marital couples? It appears to be societal not biological.  [24:40] How can I engage in healthy sexual activity, without blurring the lines between the patterns of my unhealthy sexual behavior?  [30:16] I'm not sure my spouse is even sober, which treatment group is right for him?  [34:03] How can I address the pain of recovery preemptively before I move to soothe by acting out?  [38:42] My partner is still acting out and even harming others. How can I move forward?  [41:19] My avoidant attachment style is making connection feel non-exisistent.  [45:54] Has Seeking Integrity considered having a moderator who is a betrayed partner?  [47:51] If relationships are so painful, why don't we tell people that relationships aren't for everyone?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Wounds need to be healed regardless of what choice you make about staying in a relationship.”  “Every partner wants it to be all better right now, and that's just not reality. You will always be an addict.”  “Shame is going to unravel connection faster than anything else.”  “We all have attachment wounds, and they are going to get bumped.” 

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In this episode, Ken explores how gay men can reclaim positive masculinity—balancing strength, emotional intelligence, and authenticity amid today's political and cultural battles. Learn how evolving healthy masculinity empowers gay men personally, professionally, and within our larger society.

There's a lot of googling happening in this weeks episode but it's all for a good cause as the lads reveal the funniest tribute act names that exist around the globe. For the theme they discuss all the weird and wonderful ways people make money on the internet; from ASMR to muckbangs, the lads are on a mission to find out the most lucrative online career in case the podcast goes tits up.Sign up to the I'm Grand Mam Patreon for more stunning content: https://www.patreon.com/imgrandmam ✨ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you find yourself putting other people's needs ahead of your own? Struggle to set boundaries? Feel responsible for keeping the peace even when it costs you your authenticity? In this episode, gay therapist Michael Pezzullo joins Michael to go deeper into the roots of people pleasing—especially why so many gay men fall into this pattern. We'll explore how people pleasing shows up in everyday life, why it's so hard to stop, and how the fear of conflict and rejection keeps us from showing up fully in our relationships. We'll also discuss: How to recognize when you're people pleasing (and why it's not the same as being kind) The impact people pleasing has on your self-confidence and relationships Why gay men are especially prone to it How to handle the fear of disappointing others What you can do to finally break the cycle If you're ready to stop performing for approval and start living with more authenticity, this episode is for you. Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo Website Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Website Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about rebuilding trust through intimate conversations, ideas for setting healthy boundaries after betrayal, and the danger of an addict swearing that they're done acting out for the rest of their life.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:15] Current and upcoming resources at Seeking Integrity.  [3:20] Do sponsees pay upfront or make monthly payments?  [4:45] Are there agnostic 12 Step programs?  [8:22] Ideas for connection activities that rebuild trust?  [16:01] My husband is attending groups to placate me but is not participating. Is this normal?  [20:04] Setting healthy boundaries after betrayal.  [21:35] What are the statistics surrounding porn sobriety?  [24:15] The danger of swearing that you'll never act out ever again.  [31:39] You are the only person that can take care of you. [33:30] Don't believe an addict when they are love-bombing you. [36:41] Are 30% of men on dating sites really already married?  [40:32] Recommended sources for healing the shame of my partner's betrayal?  [49:52] Is there a way to engage in self sexuality that would not be considered acting out?  [53:40] What is the recommended protocol for moving through fallout from a therapeutic disclosure?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “When people come together and try to support each other and find a way to heal as a group, to me, that is a spiritual experience.”  “To understand what I'm going through and really listen to me, that is intimacy.”  “The only thing I can guarantee is that I'm consistently working on this and I'm committed to it.”  “You are the only person that can take care of you.”   

Gay men's specialist psychotherapist and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, breaks down Jack Canfield's The Success Principles through a queer lens, showing how its life-changing tools can help gay men overcome internalized shame, build self-worth, and boldly pursue their goals.  Ken shares practical, affirming insights inspired by Canfield's book to help you design the life you truly want.

Many gay men struggle with saying no, setting boundaries, or engaging in difficult conversations due to deep-seated people-pleasing tendencies and fear of conflict. But staying silent often leads to resentment, burnout, or feeling disconnected from your true self. As recovering people-pleasers themselves, Matt and Michael have plenty to share about their own journeys toward becoming more assertive in their boundaries. In this episode, we dive into: The difference between people-pleasing, healthy compromise, and values-based choices Practical strategies to speak up with confidence and authenticity How to set boundaries and say no without guilt or fear If you've ever found yourself saying “yes” when you really meant “no” or avoiding confrontation at the cost of your own needs, this conversation is for you! Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Debbie McRae and Tami tackle ‘betrayal brain', the intrusive thoughts, and emotional flooding that often accompany betrayal. When the brain is in survival mode, neurological and psychological effects are out of the betrayed partner's control. They discuss tactics to regain control when the brain is hijacked.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:26] When betrayal occurs, the architecture of the brain is reshaped.  [4:50] Warning signs of betrayal brain.  [5:46] Four areas of the brain are affected by betrayal.  [10:45] Triggers can occur even when the relationship feels safe.  [12:07] Regaining control when the brain is hijacked.  [25:37] Self-compassion practices and therapy after betrayal.  [27:30] The betrayed partner has no control over how the brain is going to react. [31:41] Keeping regulation expectations simple. [33:54] Does my PTSD and anxiety make it harder to overcome betrayal brain?  [40:12] What boundaries can I enact with a sex addict who is breaking the law? [46:17] Handling abandonment to create safety.  [49:10] How can I increase my functionality to what it was before PTSD?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “When betrayal occurs, it shatters trust in an instant.” “Even neutral interactions that the betrayed partner is experiencing can be triggering.”  “The betrayed partner has no control over how the brain is going to react when it senses threat.”  “Self care is brain care.”   

In this episode, we will discuss "A Peculiar Legacy" with novelist Rashid Darden. A Peculiar Legacy is part contemporary fiction and historical fiction. It's the story of a Black community in the District of Columbia called Slope that gathers in silence every Sunday, without the presence of a Pastor, in silent prayer, with occasional vocal ministry from among themselves. Rashid Darden is an award-winning, best-selling novelist of the urban LGBT experience, a seasoned leader of Black fraternal movements and nonprofit organizations, and a professional educator in alternative schools. He is local to the District of Columbia and Conway, North Carolina.

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In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Merle Yost, about how shame may influence sexual desire and arousal by eroticizing shame as a way of coping with it. Merle shares his story about being sexually molested by his father and the impact this had on his sexual development. Join us for this interesting topic that is often not talked about but deeply impacts many of us. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: What does it mean to eroticize shame? How do shame and desire become intertwined? What is dissociation, and how can someone overcome it? Why is there so much sexual compulsivity in the gay community? What are some common ways people turn shame into pleasure in BDSM, kink, or other erotic practices? How can someone safely explore these dynamics without reinforcing negative self-perceptions? Can eroticizing shame be a healing experience? If so, how? How can someone tell if they are using this exploration in a healthy or unhealthy way? Today's Guest: Merle Yost Facebook Instagram Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Facebook Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Dr. Rob and Tami tackle hard questions about sex and intimacy in the wake of betrayal. They cover the role of a spouse in supporting their partner ‘for better and for worse”, how to set boundaries that take care of you first, and addressing the trauma and intrusive thoughts that often come after disclosure.    TAKEAWAYS: [:20] Where do personal responsibility and societal norms come into play?  [7:27] A spouse's job is to take care of themselves. [12:30] How can I deal with my trauma and intrusive thoughts about my partner's acting out?  [18:56] Acknowledging the level of troubled your partner really is.  [23:07] How can we connect through non-sexual intimacy? [30:02] Is it common for people with addictions to seek out others with similar problems?  [38:42] Does our marriage counselor also need to be a CSAT?  [41:42] My spouse is refusing a polygraph test. How can I ever trust him?  [46:50] Should I address porn viewing or obsessive masturbation first?  [49:47] My partner has been with underage girls. How do I handle this?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “As an addict, I need people to support me and relate to me, but as a spouse, that's not your job.”  “Addicts are not bad people. They're broken people.”  “If I fight my addict, I'm going to lose every time.”  “The more questions you ask, the more questions it will bring up.”  ‘Express what you need but don't blame if you're not getting it.”   

Communication is at the heart of every relationship—whether it's with friends, partners, colleagues, or even yourself. But what does it actually mean to be a strong communicator? In this episode, we're diving into the key skills that make conversations more effective, engaging, and authentic. Join us as we discuss: What makes a strong communicator? The role of emotional intelligence in communication Common barriers that create conflict and misunderstandings Practical tips to improve your listening and speaking skills Whether you want to deepen your connections, set clearer boundaries, or simply get your point across without second-guessing yourself, this episode will give you insights to help you communicate with more clarity and impact. Related Link: Authentic Relating and Empowerment for Gay Men Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Therapist Erin Snow shares insights into addiction, betrayal, boundaries and healing. She underscores the impact of addiction in the workplace, the importance of setting boundaries after betrayal, the realities of weaponizing sex in a partnership, and why betrayed partners often pursue safety seeking behaviors during healing.    TAKEAWAYS: [2:05] How addiction manifests in the workplace.  [5:17] My husband is SA genetic – is nature or nurture going to win out?  [9:45] The intimacy disorder underneath compulsive sexual behavior.  [11:32] Healthy goals for a successful separation from an addicted partner.  [17:18] The benefits of a period of separation in the healing journey.  [19:00] Can married sex addicts use their spouses to act out even if they don't have extramarital affairs?  [24:45] My partner threatens to leave me if I don't give her what she wants. What should I do?  [25:30] My partner doesn't like to talk about consequences if he acts out. What can I do?  [29:45] How can I turn away from shame and toward growth and healing?  [33:14] Should I report my ex to help keep women safe? [39:17] Is lying an inner circle behavior? [45:20] Should I hire a polygraph test to help me heal from my partner's lying behavior?  [50:49] My partner is not being fully honest in therapy. What should I tell her CSAT to help us both?  [52:34] Should I stop snooping even though I continually uncover my partner's lies?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Our willingness to change dramatically shifts when the consequences are more painful than continuing is.”  “The person who is willing to stop and turn around and stare that generational pattern in the face and is willing to do the work can break the cycle for generations to come.”  “Let each other go, or get a really solid plan together for the time that you're separated.”  “Your boundaries are about what you are going to do, and they require your partner to do nothing.”  “I don't have to have some kind of proof that something is dramatically off to set a boundary so that I feel safer.”   

Therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores The White Lotus Season 3's buzzed-about gay incest story line, why taboo fantasies intrigue gay men, and how pop culture stirs both desire and discomfort. A candid look at erotic imagination, psychological nuance, and separating fantasy from reality.

This week on Sibling Rivalry, Bob and Monét welcome Jacob as this week's guest and talk cussing around parents, Jacob's favorite Drag Race queen, and his family's April Fools' Day traditions. They debate Android vs. iPhone, the next big tech trend, and whether Bob and Monét should produce a show for the Gay Men's Chorus.  Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to https://Zocdoc.com/RIVALRY to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Want to see exclusive Sibling Rivalry Bonus Content? Head over to www.patreon.com/siblingrivalrypodcast to be the first to see our latest Sibling Rivalry Podcast Videos! @BobTheDragQueen @MonetXChange Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices