In Pursuit of Love

One of my biggest fears in a relationship is that we will be sitting down to dinner and have nothing to talk about, or worse, have no desire to talk. In this episode, we are sharing one simple practice we use to create a deeper, lasting connection that will stand the test of time in our marriage. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

Race is a hot topic right now and it's something we had to stop to consider in our own marriage. In this episode, we are sharing something we learned to do that can help any relationship. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

We often try to avoid feeling anger, especially in our relationships. Or either we notice anger is often present and creating more distance. In this episode, we chat about one way that we have learned to let anger help us to improve our marriage and grow closer together. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

There are a lot of things we can do to improve our marriage and create a happy, healthy relationship. But in this conversation we talk about one piece of advice that we feel like is often overlooked and how it has helped to shape our relationship. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

When we think about trust in a marriage, we usually don't pay much attention until trust is broken. But building trust is something that happens everyday. Listen as we talk about how to build trust in your marriage, whether trust has been broken or not. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE

The way you think about your spouse and your marriage can affect the health of your marriage. In this episode, we talk about how to use perception to improve your marriage and change your negative perceptions, even if you feel justified or right. Ted Talk: The Danger of a Single Story Podcast Ep 4: How to Have Hard Conversations Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES

Communication in a marriage is important, but does that mean you should communicate everything? Listen to this episode as we talk more about having hard conversations. More episodes about communication: Talk to Your Spouse like a Toddler Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES

Have you ever yourself what is wrong with your marriage when you find yourself not happy with the state of your marriage? Listen as we talk about a common answer to this question and how to create a happy, healthy relationship.  Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES

We know forgiveness is important in marriage. But we've realized there are different types of forgiveness and learning to include "little forgiveness" where you forgive the little things and not just the big has made a big difference in our marriage. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES

We believe that it is important to love yourself with mind, body, and soul and to love God with mind, body, and soul. But how do you love your spouse with mind, body, and soul and how does this increase your connection to your spouse? Listen as we talk about how have learned to think about connecting with the whole person. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES

What happens when feelings fade and all you are left with is each other? We can't promise that you will always have butterflies, but we do believe that the love doesn't have to fade. Listen as we talk about how we keep that loving feeling alive. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES

Your past relationships may be affecting your marriage. Just because that relationship is over and you are in a new relationship doesn't mean you have moved on. Just because you don't miss your ex and are glad that relationship is over doesn't mean that it can't still affect your marriage.  Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES  

Do your arguments ever start with "You make me feel so...". Or when you make a post about your spouse on social media and you say "he makes me feel so...". In this episode, we talk about how that phrase is dangerous in a relationship and what you can do instead that helps to create more connection and trust in your marriage. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES This is the book David talks about The One Thing You Need to Know When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE      

It's difficult to stop comparing your relationship. We compare to other relationships, whether real or fictional, we compare to what we see on social media, we even compare to the ideals we had for what our marriage we be. In this episode, we talk about how to move beyond the comparison and use it to understand your needs and improve your relationship. Take the Needs Quiz Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

We realized that the practice of restoring good will in our relationship is one thing that continues to help our marriage and is not something that we always practiced. Listen as we talk about the impact it has made on our marriage and how you can incorporate it into your marriage. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

Sometimes we have blindspots about what our unhealthy habits are and how it impacts our marriages. Listen as we talk about real examples from our first marriages where we are able to look back and see what unhealthy habits we had and how that impacted our relationships. And we added 3 quick tips on things you can start doing today to make sure you are a healthy individual. Follow us on FACEBOOK Follow us on INSTAGRAM Follow us on YOUTUBE View the SHOWNOTES When we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

Honestly, we don't buy into the idea of a quick relationship hack. Because relationships require attention and intention. But this exercise is something that you can do that doesn't require your partner and can improve the quality of your marriage.Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTESWhen we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

It's Valentine's Week! Understanding each other better involves understanding your spouse's love language. In this episode, we talk about areas where we learned to speak each other's language and how that improved our relationship. If you don't know your love language, take the quiz here.Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTESWhen we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

Shame is not always easy to recognize let alone talk about. But trying to ignore shame only creates disconnection in your marriage. In this episode, we are opening up about the shame we experienced in divorce and other areas in our lives and how we are working to heal from shame.Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTESWhen we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE 

Friendship doesn't end after you decide to start dating, let alone get married. Friendship is an important part of a happy healthy marriage but sometimes knowing how to stay friends can be challenging. Listen as we talk about two ways we continue to build our friendship that has helped our relationship. For more on the importance of friendship in marriage, make sure to listen to episode 15!Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTESWhen we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE 

Change is inevitable in life and how you handle change can either bring you closer to your spouse or create disconnection. Becoming parents was a big change to us as individuals and in our marriage. In this episode, we talk about what it was like for us and things that we learned to carry forward as we adapt to future changes. Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTESWhen we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

Have you ever wondered if you married your soulmate? Do you even believe in soulmates? In this episode, we tackle the idea of soulmates and talk about how to create a soulmate relationship with your spouse. Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTESWhen we talk about relationships, we are always referring to relationships that are free from all types of abuse. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, we encourage you to seek help and support. To reach the Domestic Violence Hotline click here or call 1.800.799.SAFE

Connecting on a spiritual level is an important part of being fulfilled in marriage. In this episode we are sharing a few ways deepen your spiritual connection and practical tips for how to develop a spiritual life together. Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTES

Do you ever get frustrated? Or feel like your spouse doesn't understand you? This framework will help you to understand your and your partner better so you can really work through your frustrations and arguments better and easier.Take the Quiz to find out what you really need! Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTES 

We don't believe in quick fixes, but we do believe in starting this practice today to improve your marriage. It's the practice of gratitude. We're sharing how we have used this to transform our individual lives and our relationship together. Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTES

Do you have to agree on everything in a marriage? Is it possible to disagree on something and stay happy in your marriage? There are always going to be disagreements in marriage, and in this episode we are discussing how to maintain a happy, healthy relationship even if you disagree on the big things. John Gottman's book The Seven Principles of For Making Marriage Work Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTES

No one wants to be unhappy in a relationship. Sometimes we feel a dissatisfaction and try to ignore it. We share a few ideas about how to handle it when you feel unhappy in your relationship and how to move forward together. We reference Episode 2 (The Secret to a Happy Healthy Relationship) a few times and you can listen here. Follow us on FACEBOOKFollow us on INSTAGRAMFollow us on YOUTUBEView the SHOWNOTES  

The average couple argues 7 times a day. That's 2555 over the course of a year! Many of those arguments can probably be avoided and we are sharing two questions to ask that can help you have fewer disagreements and lead to a happier healthier relationship. Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/two-questions-avoid-unnecessary-arguments/Episode 4: How to Have Difficult Conversations: https://inpursuitoflove.podbean.com/e/ep-4-how-to-have-difficult-conversations/ 

Have you ever seen a toddler have a tantrum and wondered how to deal with it? We're talking about what we have learned about helping a toddler deal with big emotions based on the way the brain works and how this has helped us in our relationship. Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://www.inpursuitoflove.org/why-you-should-treat-your-spouse-like-a-toddler  

Have you ever heard the expression "two become one"? Often times we confuse oneness with sameness. In this episode we break the differences and talk about why it matters.  Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/how-to-be-one/ 

One of the ways we connected in our early days was through the tv show Friends. In this episode, we are sharing the one thing we always disagree about when it comes to our favorite show and what we can learn about relationships from Friends. Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/we-were-on-a-break/

Have you ever felt that in order to have a good relationship, you need to have a date night every week? In this podcast, we talk about why it annoys us when people give the advice to have a date night and how to create a deeper connection in your relationship.Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/the-myth-of-date-night/

Do you find yourself not saying something in order to avoid a fight? Or when you do say something it leads to an argument? And many of these argument are over seemingly small things. In this episode we talk about one thing you can do to improve your communication and prevent arguments before they start and avoiding resentment.  Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/how-to-have-difficult-conversations/

We often don't realize how our own stress negatively affects our relationship. In this episode we share how to cope with stress so that it doesn't bring your relationship down.  Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/the-effects-of-stress-on-your-relationship/

What is the one thing a relationship needs to thrive? In this episode we talk about the one thing that can make or break your relationship.  To learn how to have a happier healthier relationship visit us at https://inpursuitoflove.org/ Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/the-secret-to-a-happy-healthy-relationship/ 

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by all the marriage advice out there? In this episode, we share the one piece of marriage advice that has shaped the way we approach our marriage and has helped us enjoy our relationship.  To learn how to have a happier healthier relationship visit us at https://inpursuitoflove.org/ Follow us on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/inpursuitoflove.orgFollow us on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/inpursuitoflove_/Follow us on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTgsaikM-K3ap3rtHAa5YOQSHOWNOTES: https://inpursuitoflove.org/the-best-marriage-advice-we-got/    

Join Kara and David as they explore how to have happy healthy relationships. The podcast will give you insights into what makes relationships work and practical things you can do to help your relationship thrive, not just survive. The In Pursuit of Love podcast debuts September 1, 2020.