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Pyramids and Trees: Attachment, Addiction, Empires, and A Nation Bursting Forth. Ch. 14: Attention Something is wrong with the world.  You already knew that, though.  This is the story of how it got this way, and the reason why it isn't going to end this way.

Pyramids and Trees: Attachment, Addiction, Empires, and A Nation Bursting Forth. Ch. 11: The Food Chain Ch. 12: Leverage Ch. 13: Scaling Up Something is wrong with the world.  You already knew that, though.  This is the story of how it got this way, and the reason why it isn't going to end this way.

Pyramids and Trees: Attachment, Addiction, Empires, and A Nation Bursting Forth. Ch. 7: It All Came From Somewhere Ch. 8: Life Ch. 9: Homeostasis Ch. 10: The Quest Something is wrong with the world.  You already knew that, though.  This is the story of how it got this way, and the reason why it isn't going to end this way.

Pyramids and Trees: Attachment, Addiction, Empires, and A Nation Bursting Forth. Ch. 5: In the Beginning Ch. 6: Everything is Power Something is wrong with the world.  You already knew that, though.  This is the story of how it got this way, and the reason why it isn't going to end this way.

Pyramids and Trees: Attachment, Addiction, Empires, and A Nation Bursting Forth. Ch. 1-4:  Within, Up Against Limits, A 500-lb World, and The Progress Paradox Something is wrong with the world.  You already knew that, though.  This is the story of how it got this way, and the reason why it isn't going to end this way.  

Pyramids and Trees: Attachment, Addiction, Empires, and A Nation Bursting Forth. Something is wrong with the world.  You already knew that, though.  This is the story of how it got this way, and the reason why it isn't going to end this way.

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We are neurologically hardwired to form bonds with concentric levels of friends, family, and community groups.   But these groups are no longer surviving in our 21st century structure.  Old, polarizing, fear-based, tribal norms of ‘Us vs Them’ are driving us apart as we pursue happiness and power.  If we’re going to live as healthy people and families, we have to claim a new kind of connection to the people who matter most.

We are neurologically hardwired to form bonds with concentric levels of friends, family, and community groups.   But these groups are no longer surviving in our 21st century structure.  Old, polarizing, fear-based, tribal norms of 'Us vs Them' are driving us apart as we pursue happiness and power.  If we're going to live as healthy people and families, we have to claim a new kind of connection to the people who matter most.

Family - any kind of family - grows best this way.

Physical pain and emotional pain aren't really very different after all.  It all registers in our sensory receptors, causes an emotional reaction, and leaves us with the choice of what to do with it.   Some of us stuff it and seal it off, but it is still there.   Sometimes we allow chronic pain to restrict our freedom to be who we are and live according to our identity.   We need to be a student of our pain, think rationally, and choose wisely how we should react to it.

Here are the two steps to solving any conflict, any time.  With kids -- family -- at work -- friends -- anywhere.  Really.

Margin is the extra that we need.   We are a world of efficiency, and efficiency can often seem like the enemy of margin.   All healthy people and healthy relationships need space in every bank account that we have - our time, money, energy, and connections.   Putting some margin in every account allows us to truly live and have the full relationships we are designed for.

Margin is the extra that we need.   We are a world of efficiency, and efficiency often seems like it is the enemy of margin.   All healthy people and healthy relationships need space in every bank account that we have – our time, money, energy, and connections.   Putting some margin in every account allows us to truly live and have the full relationships we are designed for.

Our brains are always at work making sense of people through ascribing motives.  But this ancient hack can fall short of serving it's purpose in some major ways.  Here, I give 7 (or 8) principles that can help navigate the tricky terrain of making sense of peoples' words and actions.

Whole relationships are based on trust and truth.  But what is truth?  The truth is, objective truth can't be separated from our personal relationships, attachment, and our very humanity.  If we want to have functional relationships, we have to stop killing truth with the games that we play, and create margin for truth to grow.

All relationships are power seeking power.   We often don’t realize it, since power comes in so many hidden forms, but everything we do and every interaction we have is based on this singular quest.  It is a universally human appetite that underlies every squabble and conflict under the sun.   Relationships will die if our power quest is left unchecked. There is a another more powerful force that feeds relationship: grace.

Relationships don't just happen.  They grow.  We aren't machines.  Ancient cultures likened us to trees and fruit -- this is us.  Every relationship with a spouse, a child, a friend, a parent, or a boss -- grows from something into something.   The best relationships start with nothing on but our identity.  And from that they give and give - and become something the world desperately needs.

Failure is not a great teacher if you fail so many times that you give up. So many of us have given up on changing our diet because we have failed until we finally judged ourselves critically. When we zoom out and look at the big picture, we really just failed to take into account, and prepare ourselves for, the complexity of the task at hand. When we understand it, and commit, we can win the change.

Here, I sit down with three friends who have made serious and lasting changes in their diets.  We discuss their stories, what spurred on the changes, why this is a spiritual issue for them, and the need for keeping their new lifestyle alive.

Here, we bring on Dr. Rector to discuss Healthy Eating 101.   We cover common myths, the food pyramid, diet-induced illnesses, how culture and politics has skewed our perceptions of healthy eating, and where to start on the road to a better diet.

Your granddad did not call Uber Eats for a midnight snack. The way we eat has evolved. A look into the fascinating history of how our food narrative has evolved to its current state, and the drive behind it all.

Your granddad did not call Uber Eats for a midnight snack. The way we eat has evolved. A look into the fascinating history of how our food narrative has evolved to its current state, and the drive behind it all.

Both what we eat and how we eat are but tips of an iceberg.  There is a deeper spiritual reality under the surface of it all.  This series is about helping us see the hidden realities that drive our diets, and what we can do to be healthy people who eat to live, and live life to the fullest.

Addictions to everything from opiates to Netflix are causing us to ask all sorts of new questions and see addiction in a different light. Instead of labeling, compartmentalizing, and isolating, science is showing us that what we need is something we’ve had all along.

Every decision we make can be seen as a boundary decision.  How do we know who to say yes to?  How do we know when to say no?   How can we speak up for ourselves?  When am I giving too much?  Not enough?  A brief overview of what boundaries are and how to enforce them with confidence, purpose, and meaning.

Connection is the driving force behind everything we do, and it should be.  Introvert and extrovert alike– we are all driven by this primary desire.   Babies develop their primary senses through connection, and this has huge implications for how we see morality, justice, and attitudes of humans throughout our every day interactions.

Anger, in a way, is fake.  It is addictive.  Seeing it for what it is can be a turning point in our lives to help us drop the addiction, and use our emotions for something good and whole and healthy.  When we see it with new eyes, we can use it when necessary to help build a better world.

Emotions control us at a deeper level than most of us are aware.  They are the reason behind virtually every human conflict, whether we realize it or not.  Naming them is the one of the first steps to gaining fuller control of the current of your life.

  A brief history of language development and why using words is the goal of anyone trying to be more human.   Words separate us from the rest of the animal world.  Words build worlds.  They make us more human in our marriages, at work, raising kids, and any social interaction.  

We are, quite literally, divided people.  In order to live a whole life, we have to teach the two people in our head how to get along.  Understanding the basic makeup of our brains and what drives us can change how we see and do everything.