Podcasts about Naming

Jenna Free is a counselor who specializes in ADHD, and she doesn't teach it from a textbook, she lives it, having been diagnosed herself at 32. Her work zeroes in on the piece she says the field keeps missing: dysregulation. Through her ADHD regulation groups and her training for mental health professionals, she teaches a method built around regulating the nervous system, thoughts, and behaviors, and she's put it all into her bestselling book The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation, a Toronto Star and Globe and Mail bestseller. The core idea here reframes almost everything men think they know about ADHD. Jenna argues that most of what gets labeled ADHD is actually an ADHD brain stuck in chronic fight or flight, and that it's fixable. She and Larry get into what's happening in the brain during dysregulation, the four survival responses, why potential keeps you stuck, and how simply refusing to fight with reality can change your whole day. If you or your kids have ever felt like putting on socks is a full body assignment, this one explains why.   Timeline Summary [1:58] – Getting diagnosed at 32 and finally making sense to herself [3:28] – Four careers by 35, from marketing to modeling in South Africa to teaching [9:14] – Two kids under a year and a half apart and max fight or flight [9:57] – Your mess becomes your message [10:16] – The full bio: the ADHD regulation method and a bestselling book [13:16] – What's actually happening in an ADHD brain stuck in fight or flight [14:43] – Why the fight or flight symptom list looks almost identical to the ADHD one [15:49] – The socks story and how different life feels once you're regulated [18:58] – Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and how each one shows up [20:39] – Why your body can't tell a to-do list from a bear [22:01] – Which survival response dominates, and whether gender or age matters [24:41] – Why this work is hard for kids and lands better with bought-in adults [25:28] – Hyperactive, inattentive, and combination types across the lifespan [26:28] – Where regulation actually starts, and why buy-in comes first [27:43] – Putting on your dysregulation goggles to see symptoms differently [29:26] – Giving yourself permission to regulate when survival mode resists it [32:44] – Physical regulation first: slowing down to signal safety to the body [35:14] – Potential versus reality and the shoulds that pull you back into panic [36:50] – The spilled box of gems and dropping the fight with reality in five seconds [38:27] – Larry's disputed parking charge and staying calm while everyone else panicked [43:12] – Do people with ADHD have less energy, or is it pouring onto the floor? [45:13] – Why Jenna's calming tone regulates her own body in real time [48:14] – How fawning and people pleasing trace back to the amygdala   5 Key Takeaways It's Often Fight or Flight, Not Just ADHD — Many of the symptoms people write off as permanent ADHD traits, the overwhelm, paralysis, and procrastination, are actually a nervous system stuck in survival mode. That part is treatable. Your Body Can't Tell a To-Do List From a Bear — Under chronic stress, blood flow leaves the prefrontal cortex so you can fight or run, which is exactly why you can't think clearly when you sit down to work. Buy-In Comes Before Any Technique — Regulation work is uncomfortable because your system thinks its old patterns are keeping you alive. You have to genuinely want the change to push through the resistance. Start by Physically Slowing Down — Walking instead of rushing, dropping your shoulders, and typing at a reasonable pace all signal safety to the body. Small shifts over time retrain the nervous system far better than fast, intense change. Stop Fighting With Reality — Shoulds, what-ifs, and "this shshouldn't have happened" throw you straight back into panic. Naming what is real and asking "now what" is one of the fastest ways to calm the system down.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1512 Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl   Enjoyed This Episode? If Jenna's reframing of dysregulation gave you a new way to understand your own brain or your kid's, put one piece of it to work. Catch yourself the next time you're rushing and physically slow down, and notice how quickly your body follows. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations. This episode discusses ADHD, disordered eating, and mental health. If any of it resonates personally, consider reaching out to a licensed professional who can offer support tailored to you.

Episode SummaryEric Ries is the author of The Lean Startup and The Startup Way, and the founder of IMVU and the Long-Term Stock Exchange. His new book, Incorruptible, examines why companies drift from their mission once investors and boards take over, and what founders and early investors can do to prevent it.In this episode, Cheryl and Maxine unpack what Eric calls "financial gravity," the force that pulls companies toward extractive, value-destroying behavior even when everyone believes they're pursuing profit. Eric explains why many widely taught governance best practices are actually shareholder-value destroying, and why the earliest stage of a company is the easiest time to build in protections against this drift.You'll also hear Eric break down the "spiritual holding company" structure, using Novo Nordisk's century-old nonprofit foundation as an example of why mission-guardian structures make companies far more likely to survive long term. The conversation covers why founders get talked out of protective provisions until it's suddenly too late, and Eric shares the real story of a startup that took a million dollars from Purdue Pharma to push opioids to doctors, and why it destroyed the company.He closes with his Big Cojones moment: a board meeting early in his career where he expected to be fired for refusing to abandon his unconventional methods, and the lesson that "harder is easier" when you stand for something you believe in.Time Stamps00:00 – Intro04:10 – Eric's first investment: putting his own money into IMVU's friends and family round09:15 – From Lean Startup to Incorruptible: why it's always felt like one continuous project to Eric17:40 – The tortilla company, private equity, and why "pricing power" explains so much bad behavior21:30 – Why so-called governance best practices are often value destroying25:50 – Naming the problem: financial gravity and why our grandparents would have called it corruption30:20 – What founders and early investors can actually do at the earliest stage36:45 – The Olympic athlete analogy: why protective structures only work if built in early41:10 – The spiritual holding company explained through Novo Nordisk's origin story48:30 – Why companies rated for "good governance" have underperformed since 200852:15 – The Purdue Pharma story and how a million dollars destroyed a company58:40 – Big Cojones moment: the board meeting Eric thought would get him firedSponsors:First Cheque is supported by our wonderful sponsors:Deel: Founders scale faster on Deel. 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The enigmatic Master Elodin is chasing milkweed seeds around the classroom today, and my buddy Nick joins me in the back row to talk about him. Come on in! Interesting facts in this episode: What makes a Namer, and other Namers in the Kingkiller Chronicle; Elodin and Auri's interactions; the other students in Naming class; Haven, Alder Whin, and Elodin's escape; summer crops of interns; RJ's new interest in birding; Elodin's connection to the Fae and what his age may be; his connection with Fela; places like the Crockery in fiction; true names; contemplating pine cones…….and time loops!! THANK YOU to Nick from ⁠Page of the Wind⁠ for joining me. The best ways to support the podcast are to give it a five-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and to share episodes on social media/with people who you think might like it! Even as our wait continues, I love having new conversations and having new realizations about this series.  With questions, comments, or complaints: Find me on Twitter at ⁠twitter.com/etrsop⁠ or email me, ⁠etrsop@gmail.com.⁠ With talents, jots, royals, or shims: Buy me a coffee at ⁠ko-fi.com/etrsop.⁠ As always: Thank you for listening!

What Does “Aging in Place” actually mean — and when does it stop being realistic?Aging in place simply means staying in your own home as you get older, with the right support — it's not an all-or-nothing choice. But sometimes the home itself starts working against you: stairs become a fall risk, upkeep piles up, or help just isn't nearby. The goal isn't to talk anyone out of their home — it's to help families notice honestly when the home has stopped fitting the life.Alan Norton (pictured left) founded Heritage Home Solutions to help seniors across the OKC metro — Edmond, Yukon, Norman, and Midwest City.At the Oklahoma Senior Journal, we vet everyone that airs on the OSJ radio show, appears in the Oklahoma Senior Journal, and on OSJ digital media. You can depend on who we refer to the 50+, their adult children, family, and professional caregivers.One question Alan answers on this week's OSJ Radio Hour: what are the warning signs that a home isn't a good fit for someone anymore?Common signs include struggling with stairs, a yard or repairs, or isolation. None of this reflects poorly on the person — homes are built for a season of life, and needs simply shift over time. Naming these signs early gives families options instead of a crisis decision later.Alan Norton, is a fourth-generation Oklahoman born and raised in Oklahoma City. He founded Heritage Home Solutions to help seniors across the OKC metro — Edmond, Yukon, Norman, and Midwest City — through one of life's biggest transitions.Whether it's a direct, hassle-free home sale or practical updates for aging in place, Heritage Home Solutions offers straightforward help from someone who knows this community firsthand.Contact Alan Norton(405) 393-4168Mon-Fri 8am-6pmweb: heritagehomesolutions.infoalan@heritagehomesolutions.infoServing Oklahoma City Metro & 30-mile radius

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Feeling Not Good Enough? Listen to This Before You Sleep  If you're feeling not good enough, worn out, or weighed down by the day, this gentle guided meditation is here to keep you company. You'll be invited to: - Reflect on your day with kindness, not criticism - Notice and name how you're feeling, without trying to fix or force anything - Sense where emotions live in your body, with curiosity and care - Gently lay down the stories you tell yourself about your worth - Rest into the soothing reminder: *I am enough, exactly as I am You can listen lying down in bed or seated comfortably as you wind down for the night. This practice is especially supportive if you're feeling overwhelmed, misunderstood, or simply in need of a soft place to land before sleep. Chapters 0:00 Welcome & setting the scene (end of day reflection) 0:38 Noticing how you really feel tonight 2:05 Naming emotions & where they live in your body 4:10 Gently putting down the stories about your worth 5:35 "I am enough" – soft, reassuring affirmations 7:10 Full body relaxation from head to toe 9:27 Quieting the mind & closing: "You're going to be okay" About Lauren Ostrowski Fenton Lauren Ostrowski Fenton is a meditation teacher, yoga instructor, counselor, and Positive Behaviour Support Practitioner based in South Australia. She holds: - An Honours degree in Anthropology - A Master's degree in Counselling - And has begun a second Master's degree in Disability Leadership (Developmental Educator), with the aim of working as a developmental educator Lauren blends her academic background in anthropology, counselling, and disability leadership with lived experience and years of teaching meditation. Her work focuses on nervous system regulation, grief, resilience, and self‑compassion, offering practical, trauma‑aware support for everyday life. --- Support Lauren's Work & Listen Elsewhere If this meditation supports you and you'd like to say thank you, you're warmly invited (only if you're able and it feels right) to support Lauren's work: - One‑off donations via PayPal You can make a one‑off contribution here: http://paypal.me/Laurenostrowski - Patreon – ongoing support & extra content Support Lauren's work and access additional practices and updates: https://www.patreon.com/cw/laurenostrowskifenton - Insight Timer – listen to more of Lauren's meditations https://insig.ht/DqxPBTt624b Your listening, your presence, and any form of support—financial or otherwise—are deeply appreciated.  Original vocals and video by Lauren Ostrowski Fenton copyright © 2026

Anthony Lima and Coach Lance Reisland analyze the first two days of Browns training camp and the evolving quarterback competition between Deshaun Watson and Shedeur Sanders. They discuss the impact of Todd Monken's leadership style and the potential return of Jadeveon Clowney to bolster the defense. The segment also covers national stories, including Baker Mayfield's contract situation and Kirk Cignetti's recent comments about the SEC. 03:19 - Coach Lance Reisland Joins 09:46 - Andrew Berry on Naming a Starter 17:33 - Evaluating Past QB Competitions 22:36 - Riseland Picks Watson for Week 1 33:58 - Deion Sanders Observes Browns Camp 44:40 - Andrew Berry on Roster Flexibility 51:01 - Debate on Playing Younger QBs 59:42 - Baker Mayfield's Contract Struggles 01:09:40 - LeBron James Documentary Rumors 01:15:23 - Kirk Cignetti Slams SEC Hype 01:20:11 - Harrison Bader's Scooter Incident 01:27:54 - Comparing Watson and Sanders Reps 01:41:17 - Daryl Ryder's Training Camp Report 01:52:03 - Potential Reunion with Clowney 01:59:46 - Jared Verse and Berry on Monken 02:09:45 - Nathan Zagura on O-Line Depth 02:19:53 - Zagura on Clowney and Rookies 02:25:45 - Baker Mayfield's Future in Tampa 02:36:00 - Noah Kahan Concert and Costumes 02:48:00 - Farewell to Video Producer Joey

Yesterday, Chaz and AJ were given the green light to name the recently tagged hammerhead shark, by Jon Dodd of the Atlantic Shark Institute. Today, they had the Tribe call in their very best suggestions, to go to a vote on the Facebook page. Photo credit: Atlantic Shark Institute 

Have you ever felt anxious before your workday even begins?Maybe your heart starts racing before you log in. Maybe your stomach tightens during your commute. Or perhaps you end every shift emotionally exhausted, wondering why work seems to drain so much more than your energy.If any of that sounds familiar, you're not alone.Workplace anxiety affects millions of people, yet many of us dismiss it as “just part of being an adult.” We tell ourselves to push through, work harder, and be grateful to have a job. But chronic workplace stress doesn't just disappear—it often follows us home, disrupts our sleep, impacts our relationships, and slowly chips away at our mental and emotional well-being.In this episode of The Grounded Bag Podcast, we're unpacking the hidden causes of workplace anxiety, exploring why work can feel emotionally overwhelming, and sharing practical tools you can use to protect your peace without sacrificing your career.What Is Workplace Anxiety?Workplace anxiety isn't simply having a stressful day.It's the ongoing emotional, physical, and psychological distress connected to your work environment or job responsibilities. It can show up as:* Racing thoughts before work* Difficulty concentrating* Trouble sleeping the night before a shift* Feeling emotionally numb or constantly overwhelmed* Muscle tension or headaches* Irritability and emotional exhaustion* Fear of making mistakes* Feeling like you're never doing enoughSometimes the anxiety comes from the job itself. Other times, it's the environment surrounding the work.Why Does Work Make Us So Anxious?There isn't one universal cause. Workplace anxiety is often the result of multiple stressors building over time.Toxic Workplace CulturesConstant criticism, gossip, favoritism, micromanagement, poor leadership, or lack of psychological safety can leave employees feeling emotionally guarded every day.When survival becomes the goal instead of growth, anxiety naturally follows.Unrealistic ExpectationsMany workplaces expect employees to produce more with fewer resources while remaining constantly available.The pressure to always perform can create chronic stress that eventually leads to burnout.PerfectionismSometimes the workplace isn't the only source of anxiety.Many of us carry internal beliefs that tell us we must never make mistakes, disappoint others, or ask for help.Perfectionism often disguises itself as ambition—but beneath it is frequently fear.BurnoutBurnout doesn't happen overnight.It develops when stress becomes chronic and recovery never happens.You may begin feeling emotionally detached, physically exhausted, cynical about work, or disconnected from the purpose that once motivated you.Unresolved Stress and TraumaPast experiences—whether from previous jobs, personal relationships, childhood environments, or discrimination—can influence how we respond to workplace challenges today.Sometimes work activates wounds that were never fully healed.Practical Coping Tools for Workplace AnxietyWhile we can't always change our work environment immediately, we can develop healthier ways to care for ourselves while planning our next steps.Create BoundariesBoundaries protect your mental health.That might mean:* Logging off on time* Taking your lunch break* Avoiding checking emails after work* Saying no when your workload becomes unrealisticBoundaries aren't selfish—they're sustainable.Notice Your Physical Stress SignalsPay attention to your body.Do your shoulders tense up during meetings?Does your breathing become shallow?Does your stomach tighten before speaking with certain coworkers?Awareness is often the first step toward healing.Practice Grounding TechniquesSimple grounding exercises can help regulate your nervous system during stressful moments.Try:* Box breathing* A five-minute walk* Stretching between meetings* Naming five things you can see, hear, or feel* Progressive muscle relaxationSmall moments of regulation throughout the day can have a significant impact.Challenge Anxious ThoughtsAsk yourself:* Is this thought based on facts or fear?* What evidence supports this belief?* Am I assuming the worst-case scenario?* What would I tell a friend experiencing this?Learning to question anxious thinking helps reduce its power.Seek SupportYou don't have to navigate workplace anxiety alone.Whether it's therapy, support groups, trusted mentors, or loved ones, talking through your experiences can reduce isolation and help you develop healthier coping strategies.Seeking help is a sign of strength—not weakness.Grounded Reflection QuestionsTake a few moments to reflect honestly.* What specific parts of work trigger my anxiety?* Do I feel pressure to hide my stress?* What would a psychologically safe workplace feel like?* Am I holding tension I haven't processed?* What helps me feel grounded during the workday?Healing often begins with awareness.Free Mental Health ResourcesIf workplace anxiety has become overwhelming, these organizations offer education, support, and helpful resources:* Anxiety & Depression Association of America (ADAA): https://adaa.org* National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org* HeyPeers: https://heypeers.comJoin the ConversationWhat has helped you manage workplace anxiety?Share your experiences, coping strategies, or lessons you've learned. Your story may encourage someone else who needs the reminder that they are not alone.Continue Growing With MeIf this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to join our growing community.

Most people believe they need to fix their emotions before they can feel better. Neuroscience suggests something surprisingly simple: naming what you're experiencing can calm your nervous system in seconds. But what if this isn't just a brain-based technique? What if naming your experience is actually one of the deepest acts of self-love you can practice?In this solo episode, Elaine Starling explores the fascinating intersection of neuroscience, spirituality, and nervous system regulation. You'll discover why the words you choose shape your experience, how your voice influences your nervous system, and why creating enough inner safety to truly hear yourself opens the door to greater self-trust, Divine guidance, and authentic abundance.If you've been feeling overwhelmed, anxious, uncertain, or emotionally exhausted, this episode offers practical tools that can help you reconnect with yourself—and remember the wisdom that has always been within you.Topics Covered0:00 Why simply naming your emotions changes your brain8:15 The neuroscience of Affect Labeling and emotional regulation14:00 The surprising connection between self-love and nervous system safety20:30 The Five Powers of Abundance and why Presence always comes first27:00 Why your voice is one of your greatest healing instruments34:00 Prayer, affirmations, humming, and the science of vibration43:30 How priming shapes what you experience every day50:30 The 90-second emotional reset and moving from resistance to curiosity56:00 A simple practice to reconnect with your inner wisdomKey Takeaways

This week Michelle guides us through a reflection on the past month of diving into scripture and specifically into the book of 1st Corinthians. 

Chaz and AJ had a lot of thoughts about the Fauci deposition, and his repeated use of the fifth amendment. (0:00) Helping or hurting? In Dumb Ass News, Chaz and AJ had audio of the aftermath of a truck accident in a parking lot. The man who came by to "help," did nothing to assist. (10:32) Big Mike was live from the Shark studios on Long Island, handling today's "On the Board." The Tribe called in their favorite quotes from "Jaws." (16:12)  Just in time for Shark Week, the first hammerhead shark was tagged off the coast of Rhode Island by the Atlantic Shark Insitute. Jon Dodd was on with Chaz and AJ to talk about the historic moment, and offered to let them and the Tribe name the shark. (32:35)  When cliff-jumping goes wrong, everyone knows it immediately. Chaz and AJ had audio of a California kid incorrectly estimating the distance, and smashing his backside into the cliff face. (45:35) Photo courtesy: Atlantic Shark Institute 

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Zaretta Hammond has spent her career pushing school leaders past feel-good equity language and into the instructional core, where the real gaps live. Her latest book, Rebuilding Students' Learning Power: Teaching for Instructional Equity and Cognitive Justice, names a pattern she calls cognition redlining — the quiet, well-intentioned way schools underdevelop the thinking capacity of historically marginalized students. She's the author behind Culturally Responsive Teaching and the Brain, a text already sitting on most instructional coaches' shelves. Districts have poured billions into equity work for three decades, and the outcomes for Black, brown, Indigenous, and linguistically diverse students haven't moved. Zaretta Hammond says that's not a funding problem or an effort problem — it's a cognition problem, and most principals have never been trained to see it.

What if the habits our culture calls "normal" are actually the reason so many of us feel exhausted, inflamed, and worn down? In this episode, a Christian RN and holistic health coach takes an honest look at the everyday patterns many women accept without question — skipping workouts, relying on convenience food, running on caffeine, and quietly burning out while serving everyone but themselves. Most of us never chose these habits on purpose. We just absorbed them from everyone around us. This episode is an invitation to look at that inheritance honestly, and decide if it's actually serving you. Why Fitness Isn't About Weight Loss — It's About Longevity The episode opens with a challenge to a common assumption: that working out is mainly for weight loss. Instead, the case is made that consistent movement is one of the strongest predictors of a longer, healthier life — regardless of the number on the scale. Using the body's natural adaptability as an example (from breast milk production to muscle growth), the point is simple: your body responds to what you ask of it. Stop asking it to be strong, and it won't be. The Hidden Cost of "Convenient" Living From packaged snacks to daily takeout, convenience food has quietly become the American default. Drawing from her own nursing career and personal health journey, the host shares how she shifted from being "the queen of convenience" to intentionally packing whole-food meals, even while working a demanding hospice nursing job. This section reframes convenience eating not as a harmless habit, but as a slow, cumulative drain on the body — one that autoimmune and chronic illness often trace back to. Putting Yourself Last: A Pattern Worth Examining One of the more personal moments in the episode addresses a habit common among busy, driven women: skipping meals, ignoring hunger cues, and pushing through exhaustion to prove worth or productivity. The host names this pattern honestly, including her own past struggle with it, and connects it to a deeper root: pride and performance, rather than genuine calling. Suppressing Emotions in Christian Culture This section addresses something rarely said aloud in faith circles: the pressure to appear "fine" even when life is genuinely hard. Drawing a parallel to Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane, the host makes the case that honesty with God — including sadness, dread, and grief — is not a lack of faith. It's an invitation to be fully known. When "Keep Serving" Becomes Harmful The episode closes its teaching portion with a hard truth for Christian women: serving others while drowning yourself is not sustainable, and it's not necessarily what God is asking of you. Using Jesus' own ministry pattern — specific people, specific places, intentional rest — the host challenges the belief that faithfulness means saying yes to everyone, all the time. Time-Stamped Highlights 00:00 — The core question of the episode: is "normal" culture making us sick? 01:26 — Why fitness (not weight loss) is tied to longevity 02:22 — The body's adaptability, explained through breastfeeding and strength training 04:19 — Why aches, fatigue, and constant caffeine use aren't actually "normal" 05:44 — A look inside a real workday as a hospice nurse, and why she packs her own lunch 10:32 — Naming the pattern of self-neglect that leads to bitterness and blame 12:53 — Suppressing true feelings in Christian culture, and the example of Jesus in Gethsemane 16:40 — Why people often need to be heard more than they need scripture quoted at them 17:08 — The "keep serving while you're drowning" mindset in church culture 21:03 — A sobering look at U.S. health outcomes and what "normal" is actually producing 23:28 — The two lies that keep people stuck: "it won't matter" and "I can't change" 24:25 — An invitation to identify one specific area God may be nudging you to address Key Takeaways The habits our culture treats as "normal" — skipping movement, relying on convenience food, running on stimulants, neglecting rest — carry a real, cumulative cost to long-term health. Self-neglect often isn't circumstantial; it can be a learned pattern rooted in pride, performance, or fear of being seen as needy. Emotional honesty with God is not a lack of faith. Naming pain doesn't cancel out gratitude or trust. Serving others faithfully doesn't require abandoning your own needs — even Jesus rested, withdrew, and ministered to specific people rather than everyone. Change doesn't require a total overhaul. One honest, specific step matters, and it's worth taking seriously. This episode isn't meant to diagnose or prescribe — it's meant to help you pause and honestly evaluate whether the "normal" you've accepted is actually serving your health, or slowly working against it. Ready to Understand What's Really Driving Your Exhaustion? If this episode hit close to home, don't just let the conviction pass by without action. The More Energy Masterclass was built for exactly this moment — for the woman who is done waiting and ready to actually understand what's going on in her body and her life. In this live training, you'll: Begin to see what may be driving your exhaustion — through a whole-person, faith-centered lens See your health from a perspective conventional medicine never offered you Walk away knowing your most important first steps — specific to your body, your story, and your life Feel inspired, hopeful, and challenged to move forward in a way that finally makes sense Live: Wednesday, August 20th | 7–10 PM Eastern

Are you carrying emotional weight that no one else can see? Do stress symptoms show up in your stomach, chest, shoulders, or sleep? Have you ever wondered whether your body is trying to tell you something about the pressure you carry? In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Laryssa Creswell, a licensed clinical professional counselor, who provides trauma-focused treatment for women and teen girls and authored The Invisible Weight We Carry. We talk about the invisible weight women carry, how it can connect to family expectations and past experiences, and why the mind body connection matters when stress shows up physically. We also talk about what happens when medical answers do not explain the whole picture, and how we can begin noticing what is ours to carry and what is not. In this episode, you'll learn: What invisible weight really means and why it can feel so hard to name. How the mental load of motherhood, work, relationships, and daily life can affect your body and mind. Why physical stress symptoms may be connected to emotional stress, unresolved experiences, or old family patterns. How stress in the body can show up through headaches, stomach issues, chest tightness, muscle tension, exhaustion, and other stress symptoms. Why women often carry an emotional load that is shaped by expectations, caregiving, and the roles they were taught to play. Why past experiences can still influence present stress responses If you have ever felt like the stress in body is already speaking and you are carrying too much, but could not fully explain what “too much” even means, this episode will feel deeply validating. Let's rebrand wellness together! Elizabeth, Maria & Tara   Schedule an appointment with Dr. Laryssa Creswell: https://fearlesslyinspiredsolutions.com/   Get The Invisible Weight We Carry: https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Weight-Carry-Generational-Emotional/dp/1964251370 Connect with us! The Ultimate Self Care Planner: https://elizabethharrisnutrition.ck.page/9e817ab37e Elizabeth Harris, MS, RDN, LDN FB: Health and Healing with Intuitive Eating community https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthandhealingwithintuitiveeating Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ElizabethHarrisNutrition Take the free quiz, What Type of Eater Are You?: https://elizabethharrisnutrition.com/quiz Join The Nourished Table: https://elizabethharrisnutrition.com/recipe-club   Tara De Leon, Master Personal Trainer Email: FitnessTrainer19@hotmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tara_de_leon_fitness Join Tara's Newsletter: www.taradeleonfitness.com/connect   Maria Winters, LCPC, NCC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coaching_therapist/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/MWcoachingtherapy Website: www.thecoachingtherapist.com   If you want to start a podcast or grow your existing one, visit julianabarbati.com and let them know we sent you!

If the word "sales" makes you want to crawl out of your skin, you are not alone — and this episode is for you. I sat down with my friend Stefani Pady, a former corporate sales leader turned coach and founder of GLS Coaching & Consulting and Women Worship & Work, to talk about why so many of us carry a "used car salesman" wound around selling, and how to reframe the whole thing around one word: help.Stefani spent almost two decades in corporate sales and sales leadership before God used a cover-to-cover read of the Bible to completely rewire where she found her worth. Now she teaches leaders — many of whom would never call themselves "salespeople" — how influence, conversation, and genuine curiosity are the real engines behind selling well.What you'll learnWhy "sales" gets such a bad reputation, and how to separate the tactic from the value underneath itThe difference between chasing urgency and choosing joy when you're overwhelmed with too much to doHow to ask better questions — including why "what keeps you up at night?" isn't actually the sharpest question you can ask a prospective clientWhy closed-ended questions ("do you," "can you," "will you") shut conversations down, and how open-ended questions keep them goingHow to identify your highest-and-best-use prospects instead of chasing everyone who could theoretically buyWhat it looks like to close a conversation on a next step — without that step needing to be a signed contractEpisode highlights(Timestamps below are pulled from the raw transcript — please verify against the final edited audio before publishing.)[00:02] Catching up with Stephanie and her multi-passionate path from corporate sales into faith-based coaching[03:00] How reading the Bible cover to cover in 2019 changed where Stephanie's worth came from[08:29] Filtering tasks by joy instead of urgency — and how that changed Stephanie's week[11:24] Naming the "proverbial f-word": why sales feels slimy and where that reputation comes from[13:11] The mindset shift from "selling" to "helping" — and what that actually looks like in practice[18:47] The Challenger Sale model and why leadership tactics and sales tactics are the same tactics[21:26] Getting specific about your ideal client beyond the social-media version of an avatar[23:04] Why "what keeps you up at night" isn't the sharpest question — and what to ask instead[30:35] Stephanie's practical tips: open-ended questions, knowing decision-makers, and always closing with a next step[35:12] The Greek word parrhesia — bold, fearless speech — and Acts 4:13Key takeaway"When we are walking in our calling, because we have been with Jesus, it becomes so much easier to figure out those tips and tricks... because we're trying to move somebody in a way that will truly serve them."Resources & Links MentionedConnect with Stefani: Women, Worship and Work | GLS Coaching and ConsultingJoin the Women, Worship and Work Bible Reading Plan: Sign Up HereExplore the Suited Membership: Learn MoreBook Mentioned: The Challenger Sale by Matthew Dixon & Brent AdamsonCONNECT WITH JAN:Here are all the best places and FREE stuff

Welcome back to The Lonely Stoner podcast! This week, TJ sits down with Adrian Aethos and film enthusiast Nehemiahs Machado for an episode packed with heavy-hitting cinema debates and some hilariously real talk about relationship boundaries.The crew kicks things off by tackling the current state of the MCU, diving into casting choices, Avengers: Doomsday multiverse theories, and defending early 2000s superhero flicks. The movie talk doesn't stop there—the guys break down Christopher Nolan's The Odyssey and its incredible practical effects, take a dark turn into the terrifying psychological horror of Obsession, draft their top 10 directors of all time, and share some strong thoughts on live-action Disney remakes.Just when you think it's all popcorn and projectors, things take a wild turn as the guys dive deep into a messy hypothetical about relationship boundaries, women's jealousy, and whether you can truly have friends of the opposite sex.So whether youre having a drink, driving, lighting your jay, working out or trying to escape or whatever scenario youre in when you listen to this episode. Thanks for allowing us to cloud your mind, and let us know your takes on the MCU, Obsession, Nolans The Odyssey and relationship rules!Episode Summary​In this episode of The Lonely Stoner podcast, host TJ is joined by Adrian Aethos and film enthusiast Nehemiahs Machado. ​The group dives into a heavy discussion about the Marvel Cinematic Universe, reviewing recent casting choices, favorite superheroes, and debating theories for Avengers: Doomsday. ​They extensively review Christopher Nolan's film, The Odyssey, praising its use of practical effects, lack of heavy CGI, and star-studded cast. ​The conversation also spans top director lists, a deep dive into the terrifying horror movie Obsession, and critiques of live-action Disney remakes. ​The group takes a wild detour into relationship boundaries and having friends of the opposite sex before wrapping up with social media plugs. ​00:00:00 - Introduction and discussing women's jealousy ​00:02:42 - Guest intro: Nehemiah Machado and the origin of his name ​00:05:08 - Marvel talk: Black Panther, Blade, and MCU casting ​00:10:43 - Avengers: Doomsday rumors and the multiverse ​00:15:23 - Favorite Marvel heroes and defending early 2000s superhero films ​00:21:16 - Reviewing Christopher Nolan's The Odyssey and its practical effects ​00:30:11 - Rating The Odyssey and breaking down the epic story ​00:38:47 - Debating Tom Holland's performance as Spider-Man ​00:50:35 - Deep dive into the psychological horror movie Obsession​00:56:57 - Naming the top 10 greatest movie directors ​01:07:31 - The golden era of 80s horror and John Carpenter ​01:11:41 - Thoughts on live-action remakes and The Rock in Moana​01:15:40 - A wild hypothetical question and relationship boundaries ​01:44:10 - X-Men, Fantastic Four, and more Doomsday predictions ​01:56:46 - The importance of practical effects over green screens ​02:04:01 - Outro and guest social media plugs Timestamp Markers

Are you bringing home more than just your briefcase at the end of a long workday? For many, the hidden toll of workplace stress doesn't stay behind at the office—it seeps into our most intimate relationships, silently undermining connection, emotional safety, and even physical closeness. It's a problem so common and subtle that many don't realize work is affecting their love life until the damage is already done. In this episode, listeners are invited to uncover the overlooked ways that work stress spills over into the home, affecting both partners' emotional well-being and the overall health of their relationship. The conversation explores how chronic pressure at work can disrupt intimacy, communication, and even one's sex drive, while providing practical strategies and ritual ideas to help couples reclaim their connection. Through actionable tips on communication, intentional transitions, and building emotional resilience, this episode offers a roadmap for transforming work-induced disconnect into renewed connection and support. Dr. Guy Winch is an internationally renowned psychologist and bestselling author who advocates for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives. His 3 TED Talks have garnered over 35 million views, and his science-based self-help books have been translated into 30 languages: Emotional First Aid, How to Fix a Broken Heart, and The Squeaky Wheel. His newest book is Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life (Simon & Schuster).   Episode Highlights 05:52 How work stress and burnout manifest in relationships. 09:40 The emotional ripple effect: How one partner's stress impacts the other. 12:13 Negative cycles: Perceptions, attachment, and relational downward spirals. 14:55 Naming stress and practical communication tools. 18:39 Micro-expressions, tone, and the subtle cues we send. 20:32 Regression under stress and the impact on coping skills. 24:22 The power of ritual: Transitioning from work life to home life. 27:59 Engaging the senses: Tools and traditions for mindset shifts. 31:16 Intentionality, agency, and the value of compartmentalization. 33:50 Boundaries around work talk and rekindling couple connection. 38:45 Empathy, understanding bids for connection, and reframing relationship challenges.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Establish a Daily Transition Ritual: Create a routine that signals the shift from work to home life, such as listening to calming music, changing clothes, or lighting a specific candle to help your brain shift gears. Name Your Emotional State: Verbally acknowledge your mood or stress level to your partner when you arrive home, reducing uncertainty and fostering understanding. Communicate Your Needs: Clearly state if you need time to decompress before interacting, setting expectations, and providing your partner with context. Use Venting and Problem-Solving Time: Divide post-work conversations into venting and solution-focused segments, aiming to wrap up with action steps or reframing to avoid lingering stress. Compartmentalize Work Worries: Write down concerns and physically or psychologically "put them away," or schedule "worry time" later, allowing you to be more present at home. Limit Work Talk Boundaries: Set aside a defined period to talk about your day with your partner, then intentionally shift focus to non-work connection and relaxation. Foster Quick Emotional Connection: Engage in brief but meaningful actions such as holding hands, reminiscing over old photos, or talking about a shared show to nurture emotional intimacy even when tired. Practice Mutual Empathy: Intentionally try to imagine your partner's day and emotional needs, using empathy as a tool to bridge gaps and prevent misinterpretations caused by stress or depletion.   Mentioned Mind Over Grind (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) How to Fix a Broken Heart (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Emotional First Aid (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Squeaky Wheel (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (free relationship guide) Connect with Dr. Guy Winch Website: guywinch.com Facebook: facebook.com/guywinchauthor X: twitter.com/guywinch YouTube: youtube.com/@GuyWinch Instagram: instagram.com/guywinch LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/guywinch  

Nick Wilson and Jonathan Peterlin examine the evolving quarterback competition between Deshaun Watson and Shedeur Sanders, questioning the narrative surrounding Watson's return to the field. They critique Watson's recent social media claims about 'Year Five' being his time to shine despite years of underperformance. The discussion also touches on Todd Monken's coaching approach and the fans' desire to see a return on the team's massive financial investment. 01:11 - Naming the QB Battle 05:02 - Analyzing Browns Media Propaganda 06:43 - Watson's Year Five Video 13:03 - Todd Monken's Offensive Philosophy

Choosing a Trustee: Why Naming Your Kid May Be a Mistake — Marguerite Lorenz Short answer: Naming your child as trustee, executor, or agent under your power of attorney is the default choice for most American families — and it is frequently the wrong one. In this episode of Wealth Actually, host Frazer Rice talks with California Licensed Professional Fiduciary and Master Certified Independent Trustee Marguerite Lorenz about why roughly two-thirds of American adults still have no estate plan, why the job of a trustee is far more intimate and technical than families expect, and how to decide between a family trustee, a bank or trust company, and an independent professional trustee. https://youtu.be/56bzuORe8YI Episode Overview: Who Will Actually Run Your Plan? Most estate planning conversations stop at the documents. Marguerite Lorenz argues the documents are the easy part. The hard part is staffing — deciding who steps in when you can no longer make new decisions, and whether that person can absorb the technical, financial, and emotional weight of the job. Lorenz has served as trustee, executor, agent under power of attorney for finance, and agent for health care for hundreds of families since 2003. She is the author of three books — Luck or Control? The Life-Improving Power of Estate Planning, How to Be a Successful 90-Year-Old, and the newly updated Ethics for Trustees 2.0 — and she is Vice-Chair of the Independent Trustee Alliance. Her framing line, and the one that should stick with every listener: “If you don’t get your estate plan done, you’re suing your family. You’re making them go to court. And who would want to make anyone else go to court?”— Marguerite Lorenz This is the second time Marguerite has joined the show. Her first appearance covered the mechanics of individual trusteeship: EP.75 — Individual Trusteeship with Marguerite Lorenz. Key Takeaways •Only about a third of American adults have any written estate plan — and Lorenz argues half of those plans would not actually function when needed. •Professionals are barely better than the public. When Lorenz polls rooms of attorneys, CPAs, and financial advisors, roughly one-third raise their hands for a complete, up-to-date, ready-to-go plan. •The trustee role is intimate, not administrative. A trustee sees your paperwork, your bills, your medications, and your bedroom. “Who is going to be the first person in your bedroom when you are no longer able to make new decisions?” •Incapacity, not death, is the long tail. Many people live for five or six years unable to make new decisions. The trustee’s job often runs during your lifetime, not just after it. •A professional trustee can be temporary. Lorenz recounts stepping in for a client during cancer treatment, providing a full accounting, and stepping back down when he recovered — then serving again after his death. Would your child step back down? •Estate planning is about preferences, not predictions. “Our power in estate planning is not prediction, it’s setting our preferences” — and preferences can only be set while you are competent. •Quality of life belongs in the plan. Not just tax, legal, and financial terms — but how you want to live, where you want to live, and what small things matter (for Lorenz, an international selection of dark chocolate). •Digital assets are now a core trustee problem. Phones, social accounts, and daily transactions all require someone with access and authority. •A will does nothing while you are alive. “The will doesn’t operate at all if you go to the hospital and you haven’t granted authority to anyone.” •Cost is usually overestimated. Both an estate plan and an independent professional trustee typically cost far less than probate court. •Revisit every five years. Calendar a five-year check-in with your attorney to review law changes, marriages, divorces, births, and deaths. Chapters and Timestamps •[00:00] Cold open: “If you don’t get your estate plan done, you’re suing your family.” •[00:32] Welcome back — introducing Marguerite Lorenz, California trustee and author •[01:14] Luck or Control? — why fear keeps families from finishing an estate plan •[02:22] What a full-time trustee actually sees: trustee, executor, agent for finance, agent for health care •[03:49] Why families default to naming a child — and where that breaks down •[05:00] The skill set nobody screens for: negotiation, calm, empathy, and grief •[05:40] Case study: serving as temporary trustee through a client’s cancer treatment — and stepping back down •[07:51] Why even attorneys need their own attorney: nobody is objective about their own circumstances •[09:09] The five-year estate plan check-in as a life milestone •[09:39] How to Be a Successful 90-Year-Old — living well to the very end •[10:20] The “black box” problem: privacy, dignity, and care in your own home •[11:54] Preferences over predictions — planning for your future vulnerable self •[13:40] Rewriting an advance health care directive after hundreds of hospital bedsides •[16:13] The statistics: only a third of adults — and only a third of professionals — are actually ready •[17:47] Frazer’s challenge to advisors: you can’t advise well if you aren’t practicing what you preach •[18:22] The first question in Luck or Control?: “Hey professional, do you have your estate plan done?” •[19:21] Ethics for Trustees 2.0 — what’s new in the updated audio and PDF edition •[20:27] Family trustee vs. bank trustee vs. independent professional trustee •[21:52] The looming crisis: the great wealth transfer, incapacity, and digital assets •[24:54] Documenting the “why” behind hard trustee decisions •[25:23] Probate courts overrun, bioethics committees, and next-of-kin defaults •[26:54] Where to find the books, the podcast, and the Independent Trustee Alliance directory About the Guest: Marguerite Lorenz, MCIT, CLPF Marguerite Lorenz is a California Licensed Professional Fiduciary (CLPF #319) and a Master Certified Independent Trustee (MCIT). She has served as Trustee, Executor, Agent for Finance, and Agent for Health Care for more than 200 families since 2003 as managing partner of Lorenz Private Trustees. Marguerite is Vice-Chair of the Board of the Independent Trustee Alliance, past Chair of the California Professional Fiduciaries Bureau Advisory Committee, and host of the Plan For This podcast. She is the author of Luck or Control? The Life-Improving Power of Estate Planning, How to Be a Successful 90-Year-Old, and Ethics for Trustees 2.0. About the Host: Frazer Rice Frazer Rice is the author of Wealth, Actually: Intelligent Decision-Making for the 1% and host of the Wealth Actually podcast, where he interviews experts, entrepreneurs, and commentators on preserving assets and enjoying wealth. Resources and Links Mentioned •PlanForThis.com — Marguerite’s books, the Plan For This podcast, and a free First Steps toolkit. Ethics for Trustees 2.0 is now exclusive to this site (audio + PDF bundled with purchase). •TrusteeAlliance.com — the Independent Trustee Alliance directory for locating certified independent trustees by state. •Marguerite Lorenz on LinkedIn •California Professional Fiduciaries Bureau — state licensing for professional fiduciaries •Related episode: EP.75 — Individual Trusteeship with Marguerite Lorenz •Related episode: What If You Are Named in a Will or Trust? Frequently Asked Questions Should I name my child as trustee? Not automatically. A child understands the family but may lack the technical skill to handle tax, legal, financial, and medical decisions — and may be grieving or in conflict with siblings at the exact moment judgment is required. Marguerite Lorenz notes that a trustee must be a good negotiator, stay calm under pressure, set aside personal feelings, and enforce rules the grantor set. She also raises a test most families never consider: if you recover, would your child voluntarily step back down and hand you a full accounting? What is the difference between a family trustee, a corporate trustee, and an independent trustee? A family trustee is a relative or friend serving in a personal capacity, usually unpaid and untrained. A corporate trustee is a bank or trust company with institutional infrastructure, minimum account sizes, and staff turnover. An independent professional trustee is a licensed or certified individual — like a California Licensed Professional Fiduciary — who serves full-time, carries a succession plan, and can often be engaged at a lower cost than families expect. The Independent Trustee Alliance maintains a national directory of independent trustees. What does a trustee actually do while I am still alive? A trustee acting during incapacity manages assets, accounts for every dollar, handles taxation, pays bills, coordinates care, and increasingly manages digital assets such as phone-based transactions and social media accounts. Lorenz emphasizes that many people live for five or six years unable to make new decisions, so the trustee’s lifetime role is often longer and more demanding than the post-death administration. How often should I update my estate plan? Roughly every five years, or sooner after a major life event such as marriage, divorce, birth, death, a liquidity event, or a change in tax law. Lorenz recommends putting a five-year reminder in your phone to call your attorney and ask what has changed in the law and in your life. What happens if I go to the hospital without an estate plan? The hospital and its bioethics committee will do the best they can and will look for next of kin to make decisions for you — potentially people with whom you have never discussed your personal wishes. A will does not help here, because a will only operates after death. Financial and health care powers of attorney are what grant someone authority while you are alive. Is an estate plan expensive? Usually less than people assume, and materially less than probate court. Lorenz makes the same point about professional trustees: “Independent individual professional trustees cost a lot less than you think also. And you need to ask, because this is your life we’re talking about.” Do financial professionals have their own estate plans? Often not. When Lorenz polls audiences of attorneys, CPAs, and financial advisors, only about a third report having a complete, up-to-date, ready-to-go plan — barely better than the general public. Her challenge to the profession is that clients will increasingly ask advisors directly: “Do you have your estate plan completed?” Pull Quotes “Our power in estate planning is not prediction, it’s really about setting our preferences.” “Who’s going to be the first person in your bedroom when you are no longer able to make new decisions?” “I’m not in charge. I’m a servant-manager.” “Once I get my estate plan done and updated, I don’t think about it anymore. My head space is so clear because everything I was worried about has been thought about, considered, allowed, and put down in writing.” Full Transcript Transcript lightly edited for clarity. Timestamps are approximate. [00:00] Marguerite Lorenz: You know, if you don’t get your estate plan done, you’re suing your family. You’re making them go to court, right? And who would want to make anyone else go to court? [00:08] Announcer: Welcome back to the Wealth Actually podcast, the show that features experts, entrepreneurs, and commentators that will give you the right knowledge, planning, and guidance so you can preserve your assets and enjoy your wealth. Learn more and subscribe today at wealthactually.com. This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not investment, legal, nor tax advice and does not represent the opinion of the employers of the host or guests. [00:32] Frazer Rice: Welcome back. Friend of the podcast Marguerite Lorenz is on the podcast this week. She’s a California trustee and has a new book called Luck or Control? out. We’re going to talk a little bit about fiduciary matters and what it takes to have good staffing within your estate plan. Welcome back, Marguerite. [00:54] Marguerite Lorenz: Thank you, Frazer. [00:55] Frazer Rice: Since the last time you were on, you have a couple of books out and we’ve gotten to see each other a couple of times with the Independent Trustee Alliance. Let’s talk a little bit about the new book that you just published and what you’re trying to do with it. [01:14] Marguerite Lorenz: So that book is Luck or Control? The Life-Improving Power of Estate Planning. And I wrote it because I’ve seen hundreds and hundreds of families really struggle with how this is going to get done, and many people don’t get their estate plan done at all because they’re so afraid. They don’t know what to expect, they don’t want to talk about their mortality, they don’t want to have serious conversations with their loved ones. And if we don’t have those conversations, we really lose all control when we need it the most — when that medical crisis happens or when life changes in a big way. [01:52] Frazer Rice: No question about it. And I went through the book and it’s an important read, because for those people who really have to get their affairs in order and feel stuck for some reason, I think you do a good job of laying out why you need to get unstuck and then how to take a couple of steps to initiate those conversations and get the important things down so that you can then have the deeper conversations that help out later on as you’re structuring things. What part of your experience being a full-time trustee helped to inform all of this? [02:22] Marguerite Lorenz: Well, as a trustee professionally, I’ve met with lots of different families in lots of different circumstances. And for many of them they’ve named me, and so I’m serving in that role. It’s not just trustee; it’s trustee, executor, agent on the power of attorney for finance, and even as agent for health care. And so that’s a very intimate job. It’s a job where you end up seeing someone’s entire life, or as much as you can of another person — their paperwork, how they do things, how they pay their bills, how they live, what medications they take. It’s really very intimate. And I think a lot of us assume that our children know us and they’ll do what we want them to do. But the thing is that it’s very likely you haven’t lived with your children in the same household for decades. And now you’re asking them to come back, drop their life, and come in and be that person for you. Be the person who’s going to protect your privacy, be that person who’s going to protect the way you want to live. And they may disagree with the way you want to live. They may actually have issues with some of the choices that you’ve made or how you’ve proceeded. So now, in addition to having a medical challenge where you’re not able to make new decisions — maybe temporarily, maybe permanently — now you have someone who wants to run the show or actually be in charge. In my job as a professional trustee, I’m not in charge. I’m a servant-manager. I’m really taking the trustor’s wishes and how they’ve structured things and really looking at that to be sure that I can continue it as best I can with all the changes that have occurred. [03:49] Frazer Rice: One of the things we were talking about before we got on board, and something we’ve discussed generally through the Independent Trustee Alliance, is that people who are asked to serve in those roles usually are family members. And for people who are uninitiated in the field, that seems like an obvious choice, because they’re really trying to put somebody in there who understands the family. But as you and I know, they may not be necessarily qualified to deal with the technicalities of the different roles that we just discussed. But also, the idea of taking on the emotional toll of these new conditions can be something different and unapproachable for many people. [04:30] Marguerite Lorenz: Well, I think it helps to kind of look at some of those issues. So you might have more than one child. Even if you have an only child, these issues apply. And now you’ve been in the hospital and you’re expecting this person to deal with your tax, legal, financial, and medical decisions. This person has to be a good negotiator. This person has to be calm when there’s issues that arise, and they may have feelings — they may be grieving that things have changed for themselves and in their relationship with you. So I think to be really empathetic and to be really kind and compassionate, we have to get our own stuff in order so that we can really have a good experience for our last days. And again, some of these roles that I’ve served in have been temporary. Let me give you an example. I worked with a gentleman whose wife had passed away because of cancer. She had been gone about two years and he himself was diagnosed with cancer. So he already knew what that might be like, right? She had already had chemotherapy; he was right there with her through all of that experience. Well, now faced with it himself, he said, “In order for me to do this, I don’t have a partner. I need somebody who’s going to deal with the business of my life so that I can focus on my health.” He named me as his trustee. I became active. I reported to him because he was still able to receive those reports. He was certainly mentally able, but physically it was really hard. He was exhausted most of the time. And he was going to grief support for the loss of his wife and going to chemotherapy treatments. So you can imagine just how full his day was. So we’re into this two years. He met a woman at grief support. He was feeling better because the treatment worked, and he decided he wanted to travel the world before he died. And he married this woman, and they were very happy together. And he asked if he could be trustee again. So — I’m a professional trustee. It’s part of my duty to step back and step down when the trustor who wants to be trustee again wants that job back. So I gave him a full report, he had an accounting, he knew exactly what had happened during my term. He went on with his life, and then he passed away and I became trustee again. So I just wanted people to know that it could be temporary. It’s not necessarily a permanent job. Would your child step back down? [07:14] Frazer Rice: No question. Once in the role, sometimes it’s difficult to get out of it. But you did the right thing in terms of getting an accounting, making sure that your duties stopped when you were told to get off, and then when you were ready to come back on, that those sightlines are very clear. And that’s what comes with talking to a professional like you. You understand those parts so that you’re not having things bleed from one role into another and having liability issues or misunderstandings with the next generation. [07:51] Marguerite Lorenz: Right. And let’s talk about working with professionals from the beginning. We don’t know what we don’t know. And even attorneys need to go to an attorney to get their estate plan done. There may be attorneys who disagree with that, but none of us can be truly objective about our own circumstance. And we need someone who’s going to ask us some tough questions and really help us figure out: what is our intention? How do we feel about this? What’s important to us? So, getting my own estate plan done — I was a single mom in a new profession. I had just become a fiduciary and I had just learned about estate planning. I was learning so much at that time and realized, every time I drive on the freeway, I’m risking my children’s future. I’m their only parent. What can I do about that? So estate planning isn’t just about money, and it isn’t just about death. It’s also about taking an inventory. What do I have? What have I accomplished? Who do I love? What do I really care about? And once we get to have those kinds of conversations, our whole perspective on life improves. And I’ve used my own estate plan, every time I’ve gone to update it, as sort of a milestone check — where am I now? [09:09] Frazer Rice: Maybe the standard procedure is every five years to check in and make sure that life has not advanced as far as divorce, deaths, new kids, marriages, things like that, to make sure that the plan is in place. And it’s a great milestone to reflect on things. And then, as we move up the ladder wealth-wise, if there are changes in tax laws and things like that, it’s important to make sure that the plan understands that change and is able to accommodate what’s going on on that front. Let’s take that as a segue. You have another book that you came out with, How to Be a 90-Year-Old — or a well-functioning 90-year-old. [09:36] Marguerite Lorenz: How to Be a Successful 90-Year-Old. [09:39] Frazer Rice: More than well-functioning — actually successful. How to Be a Successful 90-Year-Old. I have not read that yet, so tell us a little bit about what’s going on there. [09:47] Marguerite Lorenz: Well, I want everyone to have that blue ribbon feeling at the end of their lives. And I picked 90 because I have had clients that have reached a grand old age of over 100. My last client passed at 105. So it is possible to live well until the very end. And I’ve been working with people for over 20 years that are much older than me, who have lots of wisdom and experience to share. Their stories are important. So for people that are serving as trustee — whether you’re a family member trustee or you’re a professional — this book might be helpful, because I actually talk about the relationships with those clients. And I also talk about some things we could do now so that life is simpler, better, and more comfortable when we might need some help. And that’s another barrier that a lot of us have. We have this barrier to having someone come into our home and help us. Our home is our sanctuary, it’s our private space. But I want everyone who’s listening right now to just think about it: who’s going to be the first person in your bedroom when you are no longer able to make new decisions? And do you want that person to see everything that might be in your bedroom? Many, many adults have what I call a black box. We have something that’s private that really, really we keep to ourselves. But everything gets exposed once you are not able to care for yourself. So then what? Well, many people want to stay in their home no matter what, as long as possible. So imagine, if you will — some of my clients have lived in the same home for 30, 40, 50 years. And now they have to get care. Can we arrange to have that care in their home? So this exploration is really about living well to the very end. There are some really great tips, things I’ve learned from my 90-plus-year-old clients that I’ve employed and deployed for myself. [11:23] Frazer Rice: Just as an example there — I’m a ripe old age of 53 shortly. The idea of getting things in place while you’re at the peak of your powers, and you don’t have the difficult decision of having the car keys taken from you, or being in a home that isn’t appropriate for you anymore, meaning you don’t have the necessary safeguards for showers and stairs and things like that. Do you get into that, as far as trying to look five years ahead to make sure that the things that you can do now in a more comfortable environment take place before maybe the emergency happens and then all of a sudden we say, “Oh my gosh, we’ve got to do a complete overhaul here”? [11:54] Marguerite Lorenz: Well, as you know, Frazer, our power in estate planning is not prediction, it’s really about setting our preferences. And if we don’t do that while we feel good, while we’re competent, while we’re thinking clearly, we don’t get a chance to express that or do that once we’ve lost our competence. So this is really important — that I’m thinking about my future vulnerable self. I’ll give you a small example for me personally: dark chocolate is part of my life. I like having an international selection of dark chocolate and I don’t want the same kind every day. I feel the nuances and the taste and the flavors; it’s important to me. For some people that might be wine, for other people it might be fine literature. It really depends on what you’re into. Well, our estate plan can be just about tax, legal, and financial stuff, but it really should be more. It should be about our quality of life. And that’s really what I’m instructing and what I’m talking about in a very warm, personal way in How to Be a Successful 90-Year-Old. And even in Luck or Control?, I want people to understand the function of the documents. So we talk about the documents and what they’re supposed to do to assist your person. But you have to have a person. And you might choose to have a trust company or a bank serve as your trustee, you might have a family member, you might have an individual like me — an independent trustee. You can find more independent trustees at the Independent Trustee Alliance. But the point is: how do I want to live? Who do I want to have help me? What does that help look like? Well, you might not know all the answers right now, but if you begin now, your eyes open to different possibilities. I’ll give you an example: I have visited lots of hospitals. I’ve been to people’s bedsides many, many times. I’ve learned that there are certain procedures I’m just not willing to go through. So in my mind I had to update my advance health care directive to basically say: this shell that I’m in, the case I walk around in, the machine that I live in, needs to be kept alive long enough so that my boys can say goodbye. And that’s not for me, that’s for them. But I don’t want it to go on interminably. [15:00] Marguerite Lorenz: So I’m pretty specific in my documents about what I want. So I’m hoping to help people have a little perspective — use that energy you have, use the power that you have right now to make decisions for yourself, and allow yourself the opportunity to update your estate planning documents from time to time, so that what you learn goes into your documents, and what you decide and what your intention is, is clear. [15:23] Frazer Rice: One of those points that you bring up that I think is important is that you can be a really good user of professional services with some forethought. To muse a little bit about what the end of life looks like is somewhat an unpleasant thought, if you feel like you’ve got less than your full faculties and that ends up being your future. But thinking about that and putting some planning around it, and real ideas about what you want others to take away from your end of life, in many ways I think is a great way to really get the documents put in place and reduce tension and questioning later, and any ambiguity that there might have been ahead of time. [16:13] Marguerite Lorenz: Well, that’s the thing too that we don’t necessarily consider when we avoid estate planning. And I’m talking to all the professionals who listen to you, Frazer. The percentage of professionals who have their estate plans completed might be just a little bit more than the average person, but only a third of American adults have any kind of written plan — and I would argue that half of them are not really going to work. And when I speak to professional groups — attorneys, CPAs, financial advisors and so on — I get that same raise of hands: only about a third of them have a complete, up-to-date, ready-to-go estate plan. Why do I need it ready to go? Because I don’t know what’s going to happen or when. So yes, it is hard to contemplate the end of our lives; it’s not something we want to think about. But how do you stop thinking about it? How do you stop worrying about it? You do everything you can about it right now, and then you set it aside. And our cell phones are so powerful that I can put in my calendar five years from now to call my attorney and ask if anything’s changed in the law, and to consider then if I need to think about anything that might have changed in my life that I want to update. So once I get my estate plan done and updated, I don’t think about it anymore. I’m so relieved. My head space is so clear, because everything I was worried about has been thought about, considered, allowed, and put down in writing. And now I don’t worry anymore. [17:47] Frazer Rice: I scolded a group of financial professionals I was giving a talk to. I asked probably a similar question, which was: how many of you have your estate plan documents up to date? And they all shot up, out of shame. I said, “How many of you have looked at them within the last two years?” And then that shot down to about a third, maybe less. I just said, “Shame on you.” People are looking to you for help on these things and you’re not leading by example. And so — point taken, and not just the trusts and estates lawyers, but for everybody else around the ecosystem. To not go through that exercise yourself — you can’t possibly advise correctly if you’re not practicing what you’re preaching. [18:22] Marguerite Lorenz: Well, here’s my challenge, and here’s my challenge to every professional in our mutual space: bank trust officers, administrators, paralegals, everybody. In Luck or Control? and on planforthis.com, which is where you can find my books and get a free First Steps toolkit, the first question is, “Hey professional, do you have your estate plan done?” It’s the first question. Why? Because I want to be sure I’m dealing with somebody who has some empathy for the emotional decisions I’m going to have to make. I want someone on my team that understands what this feels like — not just the wise, tax-smart decisions that they made. It’s a whole package. And so I’m putting it out there and I’m saying: I’m challenging everyone in our mutual space. Make sure you have your estate plan done, because more and more clients are going to be asking you, “Do you have your estate plan completed?” [19:21] Frazer Rice: So then let’s talk about your third book, which is sort of an update — and we talked about it in the previous podcast that we did a while ago, and I’ll have that in there — which is Ethics for Trustees. What’s in the update? I know it’s now in an audio version, which I haven’t sampled yet but I’m sure it’s really good. What’s new now versus when it first came out? [19:54] Marguerite Lorenz: So I’ve simplified it a bit, because I recognize that each of us can look up the probate code for the state that we live in, and it was really much more of a California-specific book. Look, I’m a California Licensed Professional Fiduciary and I’m also a Master Certified Independent Trustee. So having the audiobook, and also having it in PDF form, I think is very helpful for people so they can make notes, take a certain page with them. And the book now is exclusively available at planforthis.com. And when you purchase it, you’re getting both the audio and the PDF version. [20:27] Frazer Rice: Cool. Well, we’ll make sure that’s in the show notes. Let’s take the last little bit of time we have here and talk about the decision to have an individual trustee — and by individual, I mean family trustee — versus a more professional trustee, whether it’s an individual or a bank trustee. You and I sort of nod our heads in agreement every time we talk on this topic, and I’ve done podcasts with others where I feel this looming crisis is coming, where people put all these documents together in trusts and then they staff them with people who may be initially qualified, barely, but then six months after the ink is dried, their interest wanes, their technical capability wanes, life intervenes, something different happens — and the problems just multiply at that point. I guess my big question is — and from the Independent Trustee Alliance, where there is a group of people who can operate as a trustee without having to go to a bank — how bad do you think this problem could get? We have this great wealth transfer and we have a lot of assets shifting, not just from the ultra-high-net-worth but regular people shifting to the next generation, with people at the wheel of these structures that I don’t think really understand what’s going on. How bad could this get? [21:52] Marguerite Lorenz: In my view, we’re not just dealing with a transfer of wealth — because that’s where a lot of people focus. Where’s the money going, right? It’s going from one generation who died and then the money’s going to the next generation. But in that interim — and by the way, many people live for years unable to make new decisions for themselves. So it’s during their lifetime that they might need their trustee to step in, not just after they die. And that’s really important to consider: that you might need someone for five or six years when you need someone to make decisions. What kind of decisions? You have digital assets, you have your social media accounts, you might be doing transactions on your phone all day every day — but someone else will need to get into your phone to actually do those things, maybe. Is that somebody you want from your family to do that for you? Maybe you still say yes. But that family member has to have the ability to enforce the rules that you’ve set in your trust. They need to communicate really well with other people. And they have to set aside their own feelings. They have to put you first. And that’s a big challenge. So when you think about the word fiduciary — and I know that the financial industry has used the word a lot — the technical aspect of that is that I’m putting my needs aside and putting that trustor, that person who created the trust, their needs first. Then I also have to consider their beneficiaries and the future of those beneficiaries. So I’m dealing with transactions and having to account for every single penny of where the funds are now and where they’re going, what the assets are, what the character of those assets are. I have to deal with all the taxation that goes with that. I have to manage those assets. So that’s one set of skills, right? But then there’s the softer skills about communicating with other people and understanding their doubts and their concerns, and not taking that personally, and putting things in writing. So this is a big job. It’s not the simple job that it might have been at one point, where someone just wrote a will on their cocktail napkin and said, “Okay, I’m leaving you all my money.” The will doesn’t operate at all if you go to the hospital and you haven’t granted authority to anyone to be that person for you, to go to your house, get you some clean underwear and socks and bring it to the hospital for you. So I think we have to look at our lives as more complex. It’s not just driving a car; it’s deciding where that car goes, and if the car is maintained, and is the car clean, and can we have other people in the car with you? There are just so many decisions that I’ve had to make for other people that I don’t take any of this lightly — and nor should anyone who’s writing their estate plan. You need that attorney to ask you those questions and walk you through your day-to-day, so you can keep your day-to-day as long as possible. [24:54] Frazer Rice: Well, the other part too is the people who assume those roles — and I’ve been in it too — when you are asked to make tough choices, sometimes you have to make tough choices that favor one person over another, and you may be called to account for that. And the idea of keeping diligent records and writing — in a sense putting down the reasoning behind what you’re doing and making sure that everyone, to the extent it’s possible, understands the why of what’s happening — I think that is going to help people really save themselves some issues going forward when those tough choices have to be made. [25:23] Marguerite Lorenz: You know, if you don’t get your estate plan done, you’re suing your family. [25:27] Frazer Rice: Ah — good way to put it. [25:29] Marguerite Lorenz: You’re making them go to court, right? And who would want to make anyone else go to court? I mean, it’s just such a sad thing. And by the way, our courts are overrun with people that did no planning. And none of it happens quickly. So if you end up hospitalized and you haven’t selected a person, then the hospital and their bioethics committee is going to do the best they can. They’re going to ask for next of kin to make decisions for you — people that you may never have discussed your personal life with now have to be making decisions for you. So I’m asking people to be a little more proactive. I know you’re busy. I know it costs money to get an estate plan — probably less than you think, and certainly less than probate court would cost. A lot less than probate court would cost. Independent individual professional trustees cost a lot less than you think also. And you need to ask, because this is your life we’re talking about. I’m good. I have my plan, I keep up to date with my successors. I have a succession plan that’s worked beautifully. I’ve tested it. I know. And that’s why I can be so calm and so confident everywhere I go in my life. I’m feeling so good and so happy. Well, I want that for everyone. I want everyone to have that calm, true confidence that comes with knowing you’ve done everything you possibly can for yourself and the people you love. [26:54] Frazer Rice: Terrific. Marguerite, how do people get the books? How do people find you and your podcast, the Independent Trustee Alliance, and any other points of contact? [27:04] Marguerite Lorenz: Great, thank you. So planforthis.com is where you can find the books, where you can find me. We do have a podcast that has some wonderful discussions, case studies, and other topics to help people better understand the choices that they have. The Independent Trustee Alliance has a wonderful directory to find all kinds of professionals, but especially independent trustees, and you can find that at trusteealliance.com. And I’m going to be out there — I’m on LinkedIn. Come find me, connect with me. And Frazer, once again, thank you so much for the opportunity to visit with you. [27:40] Frazer Rice: Oh, it’s always great to get your expertise. And you bring a great sense of empathy to what can be a very technical and dollar-driven process. And I think the empathy, when it gets avoided or missed, there’s something really lost. So I really value your perspective on it. Thank you so much. [28:00] Announcer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not investment, legal, nor tax advice and does not represent the opinions of the employers of the host or guest. Subscribe to Wealth Actually on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Youtube or wherever you listen — and if this episode was useful, share it with the person you have named in your documents. https://www.amazon.com/Wealth-Actually-Intelligent-Decision-Making-1-ebook/dp/B07FPQJJQT/

Carl and Mike close out the show with thoughts on NFL headlines, including the Raiders catching heat for announcing Kirk Cousins will be getting the reps with the ones in camp and likely will be the starter, despite the fact they drafted Fernando Mendoza. They also reat to Kyle Shanahan stating he takes fault for the accident he was in due to dropping his phone while driving and swerving into oncoming traffic.

Most conversations about hard childhoods stop at “it affected them as kids.” Almost nobody asks what happens after — because childhood doesn't stay contained to childhood. It moves in with you as an adult, and it rarely announces itself when it shows up. In this episode, I walk through Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs): what the research actually found, how it showed up in my own life, and four practical starting points for anyone who recognizes themselves in this.What ACEs Actually AreIn the 1990s, Kaiser Permanente and the CDC studied adults about specific categories of childhood hardship — abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction like addiction, untreated mental illness, or divorce. What they found wasn't just emotional; it reshaped how researchers understood long-term physical health outcomes too.How It Shows Up Decades LaterHigher rates of heart disease, chronic pain, weight and substance struggles — and a quieter pattern I know personally: being “braced for impact” even when nothing is actually wrong. I share how noticing this in my own stress data was the first real clue.It's Not a Life SentenceA high ACE score doesn't determine your future. The single biggest protective factor across every study was having just one steady, caring adult somewhere in the picture — and that changes the odds significantly.Step 1: Name ItYou can't fix a reaction you haven't identified. I walk through how naming a pattern (“I don't trust the future”) is the first real step, not a reason to stay stuck in it.Step 2: Your Body RemembersOld alarm systems fire in new contexts — a late bill, an unexpected email — and recognizing that pattern is different from being ruled by it.Step 3: Stability Is Not Wasted EffortRebuilding a calm, steady life as an adult recalibrates a nervous system that never had that as a baseline. It may take longer than it would for someone with a steady childhood, but it's not out of reach.Step 4: Everything Is FigureoutableThe bridge from naming the pattern to actually doing something about it — including the strange, personal story of how my own decades-long insomnia finally resolved.If any part of this sounds like your own life, it's not a life sentence — it's information. Naming it and building stability from here is where the real change starts.Recommended resource: The original ACE study questionnaire is short, self-scoring, and available online in about five minutes if you want a starting point.Find every show I do at jillfromthenorthwoods.com.This episode touches on childhood trauma and family dysfunction. If anything in it sounds like your own experience and it's weighing on you right now, please consider reaching out to a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life for support.Jill's Linkshttps://jillfromthenorthwoods.com/ - Find my podcasts, videos, downloads and ways to contact mehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspodhttps://x.com/NorthWoodsJillhttps://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepsEmail the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.comBy choosing to watch this video or listen to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are doing so of your own free will. The content shared here reflects personal experiences and opinions and is intended for informational and inspirational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist, life coach, or mental health professional. Any habits, strategies, or suggestions offered should not be considered a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or counseling advice. Results vary — small steps look different for everyone. You are solely responsible for any decisions or actions you take based on this content.

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Send us Fan MailAaron, Trent, and Peaches are back in the team room talking defense budgets, military waste, the NDAA, future war with China, Space Force, Flock cameras, and why everyone suddenly has feelings about height-to-waist standards.The team breaks down why the Department of War is asking for more money, what the military says it needs to fund, and why that answer still does not solve the bigger problem: nobody can explain where all the money is already going. They talk munitions, drones, shipbuilding, Golden Dome, personnel, aging infrastructure, bloated conferences, pet projects, federal billets, and the fact that the military still cannot pass a clean audit.Then the episode shifts into surveillance and civil liberties with Flock cameras, license plate readers, the Patriot Act, and why “if you did nothing wrong, you have nothing to worry about” is a terrible argument.Finally, the guys get into Air Force height-to-waist standards, body composition, fat bodies in uniform, false positives for built-like-a-fridge humans, and why most people complaining about the standard probably just need to work out and eat less.Check out Tasty Gains: TastyGains.comGet AFSPECWAR prep gear through ATACLETE: OnesReady.comRegister for Operator Training Summit: OperatorTrainingSummit.comChapters:00:00 - Intro, Tasty Gains, ATACLETE, and OTS02:34 - San Diego and Pennsylvania OTS Updates04:20 - Why Does the Military Want More Money?04:58 - What the Defense Budget Is Paying For06:00 - Warfighter Performance, Drones, and China07:13 - Navy Upgrades and Global Shipping07:45 - Where Has the Money Been Going?08:14 - DOGE Cuts, Federal Workers, and Billets11:22 - Why Cutting Billets Does Not Always Cut Costs12:28 - A-10, B-21, F-47, and Military Construction14:04 - The $1.5 Trillion Defense Budget Request15:20 - China, Taiwan, and Future War Prep16:17 - Trent's Problem With the Budget Argument17:56 - The Department of War Has Never Passed a Clean Audit18:38 - Space Force Funding and Real Missions20:24 - NDAA, SAVE Act, and Israel Integration22:46 - Voter ID, Senate Drama, and Political Games24:10 - Why the NDAA May Get Stripped Down25:33 - Midterms, Messaging, and DC Theater26:49 - Talking Politics With Kids27:14 - Aliens, Spielberg, and Disclosure28:38 - Why Military Leaders Do Not Cut Waste29:02 - Civilian Leadership and Budget Authority29:55 - How End-of-Year Spending Works31:55 - The GARV Vehicle and Sunk Cost Fallacy34:37 - Unused Float Tanks and Base-Level Waste36:08 - VR Headsets and Gear With No Sustainment Plan37:10 - When Waste Becomes Gear Money38:25 - Donated Mattresses and Internet Outrage39:30 - Cutting Generals, E-9s, and Conferences40:27 - Senior Leader Conferences and Yucking It Up41:50 - Commanders' Roundtables and No Decisions43:34 - Senior Leaders Need to Take More Risk45:05 - Aaron's Defense Budget Take46:13 - A Possible New Ones Ready Series47:57 - Naming the New Series50:34 - What the New Series Could Cover53:09 - Flock Cameras and AI Surveillance54:31 - License Plate Readers and False Tickets56:50 - Aaron's Las Vegas Parking Ticket Story01:00:24 - The Process Is the Punishment01:01:42 - UK CCTV and 198401:03:15 - The Patriot Act and Giving Up Freedom01:04:46 - Height-to-Waist Standard Chaos01:05:59 - Fat People Resist Accountability01:06:26 - Show the Scores01:07:07 - The One Built-Like-a-Viking Exception01:08:13 - Almost Crashing a Helicopter With Big Humans01:09:56 - When Pencil Whipping Makes Sense01:11:01 - Trent's Fatty Rant01:11:40 - MTIs, Maintainers, and No Excuses01:12:31 - Final Thoughts and MembershipSupport the showJoin this channel to get access to perks: HEREBuzzsprout Subscription page:  HERERegister for our Operator Training Summit:  OperatorTrainingSummit.comFind an Air Force Recruiter: AirForce.comCollabs:Ones Ready - OnesReady.com 18A Fitness - Promo Code:  ONESREADY ATACLete - Follow the URL (no promo code):  ATACLeteDanger Close Apparel - Promo Code:  ONESREADYDFND Apparel...

Inspired by their passion for running and marathon events, Brisbane and Gold Coast community leaders Camille Punzalan and Sheryll Quimosing launch "Takbo para sa Wika"—an initiative that brings together fitness, community, and the promotion of Filipino languages. - Mula sa kanilang hilig sa pagtakbo at pagsali sa marathon, naisip ng magkababayan mula Brisbane at Gold Coast na sina Camille Punzalan at Sheryll Quimosing na ilunsad ang "Takbo para sa Wika"— isang inisyatibong nag-uugnay sa kalusugan, komunidad, at pagpapahalaga sa wikang Filipino.

Today, host John Norlin shares an evidence-based reflection strategy called EMR, developed by Dr. Clayton Cook. Using a simple roster exercise, educators categorize each student or staff member into one of three relationship phases: Establish, Maintain, or Restore, and then focus their energy where it is needed most. He also explains why this kind of intentional reflection matters. You cannot be all things to all people at once, but taking a few minutes to identify where each relationship stands gives educators a clear, actionable starting point for being more purposeful in the work they do every day. In this conversation, John offers important reminders for educators and leaders: Relationships with students and staff are not all in the same place at the same time. Some need to be established, some maintained, and some restored, and knowing which is which changes how you show up. You cannot prioritize everything at once. The EMR exercise helps educators zero in on the relationships that need the most intentional attention right now. Restoring a relationship takes real, deliberate action. Naming it honestly is the first step toward doing something about it. Learn More About CharacterStrong:  Access FREE MTSS Curriculum Samples Request a Quote Today! Learn more about CharacterStrong Implementation Support Visit the CharacterStrong Website

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Dr. Beckett interviews David from Card Boredom about his 24-page deep-dive research (free at Cardboredom.com) on 1949 Leaf Baseball, focusing on 28 true graphic-stage variations clearly caused by a plate change rather than printing defects. They discuss why price guides and grading companies have been slow to update nomenclature or fully recognize the variations, including the ripple effects of changing the long-accepted “1948 Leaf” date and resulting rookie-card implications. Beckett argues the 1948 copyrights suggest 1948 artwork even if the set was not commercially available until spring 1949, and recommends a “48-49 Leaf” compromise.   02:00 Why Guides Resist Change 02:57 Real Variation Types 04:59 Copyright Date Debate 06:38 Plate Damage Theory 07:50 David's Research Motivation 10:12 Data and Sampling Limits 16:11 Naming and Rookie Fallout 20:36 Raw Cards Hidden Supply    

Journalist Maressa Burke is on a mission: to give the name back to a man in a cemetery known only as "unknown negro." The man died while riding the rails in the 1960s- - crushed under 5,000 pounds of ice in an ice car. Was it an accident? Was it murder? And who was this man, where was he going, and why? Working alongside THE BADASSES OF THE DNA DOE PROJECT, Marissa is going to figure it out. Along the way, she will reunite the man's family - -a family living in the same city with no idea of their connection to each other. BRING YOUR TISSUES AND THROW YOUR HAIR UP IN A MESSY TOP KNOT, FAM, IT'S TIME TO GET TO WORK!Find and watch "The Body on the Train" on HuluLOOKING FOR MORE TCO? On our Patreon feed, you'll find over 400 FULL AD-FREE BONUS episodes to BINGE RIGHT NOW, including our episode-by-episode coverage of popular documentary series like Love Has Won: The Cult of Mother God, LulaRich, and The Curious Case of Natalia Grace; classics like The Jinx, Making A Murderer, and The Staircase; and well-known cases like The Menendez Murders, Casey Anthony: American Murder Mystery, and The Disappearance of Madeleine McCann, and so many more!Episode Sponsors: Hiya - The pediatrician-approved superpowered chewable vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order at www.hiyahealth.com/TCO Hers - Whether you want to lose weight, grow thicker, fuller hair, or find relief for anxiety, Hers has you covered. Visit www.forhers.com/TCO to get a personalized, affordable plan that gets you. Rula -  Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at www.rula.com/tco The Absorption Company - Start taking supplements your body can actually absorb. Go to www.absorbmore.com and enter TCO at check out for up to 35% off your first order  Ethos - Take 10 minutes to get covered today, with life insurance through Ethos. Get your free quote at www.ethos.com/tco WE'RE ON YOUTUBE - Want to view the episodes and not just listen?  Check our new video feed to see full video episodes starting today. CLICK HERE TO WATCH AND SUBSCRIBE!Join the TCO Community! Follow True Crime Obsessed on Instagram and TikTok, and join us on Facebook at the True Crime Obsessed Podcast Discussion Group!  AND INTRODUCING THE NEW TCO DISCORD CHANNEL AS WELL!!!

In a crowded market, copying products has become effortless. Herman Scheer cofounder John Scheer explains why building a strong, clear brand is an entrepreneur's last line of defense. By rooting messaging in human truth and optimizing copy for AI search tools, he reveals how modern businesses can carve out lasting market moats that drive long-term value. For more on Herman Scheer, in show notes, click here. Subscribe and watch Shopify Masters on YouTube!Sign up for your FREE Shopify Trial here.

Most HR leaders think a resignation starts the day someone hands in their notice. It doesn't. It starts months earlier, the moment someone decides it's no longer worth speaking up. And almost nobody in HR is measuring it.This episode is sponsored by Deel.Hire, manage and pay, anyone, anywhere: https://www.deel.com/nickdayhr/In this episode of @thehrldpodcast, Nick Day, CEO at JGA Recruitment Group, breaks from his usual format for the first time in more than 200 episodes. There is no guest this time, just Nick, a microphone, and one idea he cannot stop thinking about. After 24 years of exit interviews and placing over 10,000 professionals across 40+ countries, he has built his own coaching framework around fear. This episode is where he unpacks it in full.Nick introduces the idea of the fear tax, the invisible cost every organisation pays when people stop raising problems, ideas, and concerns out loud, and breaks down why silence looks like a wellbeing problem but spends like a balance sheet one. He contrasts a manager who unknowingly built a culture of fear with a leader whose team openly flagged a critical mistake before it went public, walks through his own fear equation of anxiety plus uncertainty multiplied by imagination, and explains why fear in capable people rarely looks like fear at all, instead disguising itself as caution, busy bravery, perfectionism, or imposter syndrome. He also shares the BOLD protocol, a four step method for catching fear in the three second window before it wins, backed by research from Stanford and UCLA, and gets personal about a lesson he learned the hard way with his own father.In a world where HR is expected to protect culture, retain top talent, and prove ROI on every initiative, this episode makes the case that the biggest lever HR has never measured is right in front of them. It is whether people feel safe enough to speak.A must-listen for HR leaders, people managers, and anyone who has ever sat in a meeting, known exactly the right thing to say, and said nothing.Enjoyed this? Check out our sister podcast @thepayrollpodcast for more great content!Nick Day's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nickday/Find your ideal candidate with our job vacancy system: https://jgarecruitment.ck.page/919cf6b9eaSign up to the HR L&D Newsletter: https://jgarecruitment.ck.page/23e7b153e7Stay tuned for the next episode of the HR L&D Podcast, brought to you by Nick Day, CEO at JGA Recruitment, landing soon!Timestamps:(00:01) Rachel's Story: The Resignation That Started Eight Months Early(02:16) Why Nick Broke Format for His First-Ever Solo Episode(04:38) James: The Manager Who Built a Fear Culture Without Raising His Voice(07:03) Naming the Fear Tax(09:07) The Real Cost of Losing Good People(11:31) Why Your Speak-Up Culture Is Your Talent Strategy(13:55) Amy Edmondson's Research: Why Quiet Teams Aren't Healthy Teams(18:32) The Fear Equation: Anxiety Plus Uncertainty, Multiplied by Imagination(22:01) From Fear Culture to Courage Culture: James's Turnaround and Fear's Disguises(28:41) The Courage Window and the BOLD Protocol(35:15) HR's Blind Spot: Practicing Psychological Safety and Convincing Skeptical Leaders(43:14) The Monday Morning Move and Closing Thoughts

HardLore and special guest co-host Brody King are joined by TERROR founders Scott Vogel & Nick Jett for a special excursion all around the San Fernando Valley in Los Angeles.We learn all about the origin of the band, which started from the ruins of Carry On, and visit a few key hotspots around our mutual hometown that played an integral role in Terror's story.We eventually meet up with Martín Stewart to discuss all things Terror and all things STILL SUFFER, their 10th and newest LP that released in this past April.This was something scheduled for Bo and I to do together, and I can't thank of a more appropriate way to finally make it happen than with my LEFT hand man, Mr. Brody King. Thank you to Terror for joining us for this first special episode like this in a long time.________________HardLore: A Knotfest Series, fueled by Monster Energy.Shot, Mixed & Edited by ⁠⁠Steven Grise⁠⁠Title sequence by ⁠⁠Nicholas Marzluf⁠⁠ • Join the ⁠⁠HARDLORE PATREON⁠⁠ to watch every single weekly episode early and ad-free, alongside exclusive monthly episode.• Join the ⁠⁠HARDLORE DISCORD⁠⁠.• Checkout UNPLUGS to learn more about THE best earplugs I have EVER used! (and you can quote me)_________________600:00:00 - Start00:01:31 - TERROR, Zomu Coffee00:02:46 - Nick Jett Discovering Hardcore00:06:44 - Carry On00:09:46 - Carry On Ending (& Reuniting)00:13:40 - Piece By Piece00:16:03 - A Change of Pace for Scott & The Magic of Nick's Garage00:20:02 - Scotts First Apartment In LA00:23:15 - Scott Meeting Nick & Todd Jones00:26:47 - Naming "Terror"00:28:07 - Terror - Life & Death Demo00:33:54 - Writing Lowest Of The Low00:39:17 - Bridge Nine & The Response to Lowest of the Low00:43:48 - Studio S, North Hollywood00:46:13 - Pardon This Interruption...00:48:01 - Worst Terror Show Ever Played00:53:11 - @NickGoDie00:56:21 - Terror HQ, Swinton Ave00:58:34 - One With The Underdogs, Todd Exiting Terror & Chaos at the House01:03:33 - Moving In & Remembering Terror HQ01:06:30 - Recording Without a Click Track (Hell yeah)01:08:23 - Recruiting Frank 3 Gun01:10:19 - Midnight Hour Records and Martín Stewart01:17:28 - Underrated Terror Records01:20:19 - Four Word Album Titles01:23:43 - Crazy Terror Shows01:24:28 - Terror At The Whisky A Go Go: A HardLore Investigation01:31:42 - Unconventional Terror Tours01:33:48 - Least Sane Member of Terror01:35:55 - The Current President of Scott's Tots01:40:10 - Cultural Explosion of Keepers Of The Faith01:44:40 - Reuniting With Todd Jones on Pain Into Power01:47:51 - Terror Parts That Felt Like Monumental Achievements01:50:15 - The Pit Recording Studio, Still Suffer01:55:36 - Recording with Taylor Young02:04:46 - Terror Has TEN ALBUMS02:09:12 - Advice For Younger Bands & People02:15:22 - Top 4 Breakdowns

In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra explore schema therapy and its relevance to physicians, focusing on how deep-rooted patterns from childhood influence burnout and professional behavior. They discuss practical ways to recognize and respond to these schemas to foster well-being and resilience. Key Topics: Schema therapy basics and history How schemas develop in childhood Impact of schemas on physician burnout Coping styles: avoidance, overcompensation, surrender Steps to identify and respond to schemas Practical reflection questions for self-awareness Case example of schema response to patient complaint Takeaways: Schemas are deeply learned emotional patterns from childhood. Medicine often rewards coping strategies that may be harmful long-term. Naming and recognizing schemas can help in choosing healthier responses. The goal is not to eliminate schemas but to notice and respond from the wise adult. Understanding your schemas can restore agency and reduce burnout. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Schema Therapy and Physician Burnout02:50 Understanding Schemas and Their Impact05:17 The Role of Coping Strategies in Medicine08:21 How Schema Therapy Works11:25 Identifying and Naming Schemas14:05 Case Example: Patient Complaints and Responses16:47 Reflection Questions and Next Steps19:27 Conclusion and Future Topics Resources: Schema Therapy by Jeffrey Young - https://www.amazon.com/Schema-Therapy-Jeffrey-Young/dp/1462535924 Podcast Fast Track: https://www.thewholephysician.com/fast-track

You've got clients on your calendar right now who don't actually feel like a fit. Maybe you like them fine, maybe the check clears, but something about the work feels harder than it should. If you've ever caught yourself hoping a client doesn't cancel instead of hoping they book again, this episode is for you.Adam and Jess are three episodes deep into their "Is This Actually Yours?" series, and this one turns the lens on the client sitting across from you. Adam opens with his own story of coaching an avatar he'd inherited from a past container, the recruiters and leaders he was "supposed" to coach because that's who he'd always coached, whether or not there was any real passion behind it. Jess flips the coin and names the other version of this trap: coaches who build their avatar around who they want to become someday instead of who they've actually gotten results for. Both point to the same root problem. When you coach from an identity that isn't fully yours, whether inherited or aspirational, the mismatch shows up in your calendar.The conversation builds toward the Avatar Fit Filter, three questions Adam and Jess use to audit a client roster: do you like them, can you and will you help them with the specific outcome you've defined, and can they actually afford you. Jess adds a bonus filter on top: do your current clients reflect who you are at your best, or who you were willing to settle for before you had confidence in your pricing and your process.What you'll learn:Why coaching to an old professional identity keeps you stuck with the wrong clientsThe difference between inheriting an avatar and reaching for one you haven't earned yetThe three-question Avatar Fit Filter for auditing your current rosterWhy discounting your price is usually a sign you've got the wrong client, not the wrong priceJess's BEAT method (Break, Examine, Audit, Tune) for slowing down before you scaleA red light, green light exercise for your calendar that makes the wrong clients easier to spotWhy "inviting" beats "convincing" every time you're signing a new clientThe big idea here is simple but uncomfortable: your calendar is currently full of information about what you actually believe about your business, whether or not that matches what you'd say out loud. Every client you're afraid to lose, chasing to close, or discounting for is telling you something about a mismatch between your defined outcome and who you're actually letting onto your calendar. The fix isn't dramatic. It's an audit, not a demolition.Notable quote: "If you ever have to feel like you're selling or convincing, it's not the right client." — Adam RoachResources mentioned:Rory Vaden (referenced as a recurring influence on positioning and strategic client selection)Donald Miller's jar and label metaphor (referenced, though Adam misremembered the exact line, which Jess corrected: you cannot read the label from inside the jar)Graham Cochrane's "I will invite you, but I'm not gonna chase you" framingILC community: ilovecoachingco.comInstagram: @ilovecoachingco / @adamrroach / @thejesswebberYouTube: youtube.com/@ilovecoachingcoTimestamps: [00:00] Intro: Part 3 of 5, is the avatar actually yours [01:10] Why this is the most timely conversation in their world right now [02:29] Coaching to an old identity: Adam's "that guy that built" story [06:00] The "founder" title trend and inherited containers [07:33] Peeling off borrowed labels, the jar and label metaphor [10:36] Jess's BEAT method: slow down to speed up [11:42] The three-question Avatar Fit Filter [13:55] Naming the framework and why outcome-fit matters more than liking someone [16:15] Discounting price as a signal you have the wrong client [18:48] The red light, green light calendar exercise [20:55] Whys vs. whos vs. whats [22:26] Wrap-up and where to find moreReady to build a coaching business you're proud of? The ILC community is where coaches go to stop guessing and start growing. ilovecoachingco.com/discover

Empathy gets treated like a personality trait: you either have it or you don't. Roxana Radulescu, Level 52 coach and facilitator, argues that's wrong. It's a muscle, and most leaders are either overusing it, avoiding it, or using it to avoid the hard conversation instead of having it. In this episode of The Executive Commute, Jayson Krause talks with Roxana about what empathy actually is (her definition: care plus trust), what it isn't (sympathy, agreement, an excuse to skip feedback), and where it goes wrong at the top of organizations. They dig into a Yale psychologist's argument that empathy fuels bias and tribalism, why holding more power tends to erode it, and whether "care first" leadership is a real strategy or just a nicer way to describe layoffs. They cover: - Empathy defined: care plus trust, not sympathy - The line between empathy and judgment - The case against empathy: bias, favoritism, and in-group tribalism - Why power erodes empathy (and what that means for executives) - Empathy's role in high-stakes, high-performance teams - A simple starting point for building the empathy muscle If you've ever held back a hard conversation because you "didn't want to make it worse," or wondered whether empathy and high standards can coexist, this conversation will change how you think about both. Follow Jayson Krause YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3Voc2qOmcqGKfqy6CDiZOw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayson-krause/ 0:00 - Introduction 0:34 - How Roxana Became a Coach 1:28 - Coaching a Room Full of Experts 2:39 - What Qualifies Someone to Talk About Empathy 4:55 - Defining Empathy: Care Plus Trust 7:39 - Empathy Mapping and the Right Use of Empathy 10:07 - The Opposite of Empathy: Arrogance and Judgment 11:06 - Judgment vs. Appraisal 12:25 - The Case Against Empathy (Paul Bloom) 13:56 - When a Leader Has Too Much Empathy 16:09 - Balancing Empathy With Getting Things Done 21:08 - Naming the Emotion in the Room 23:52 - What Matters More Than Empathy: Feedback 27:14 - What Is Self-Empathy? 28:06 - True or False: Does Promoting Empathetic Leaders Spread Empathy? 29:00 - Power and the Erosion of Empathy 31:08 - "Care First" Leadership vs. Corporate Doublespeak 32:16 - Empathy in the Face of Layoffs 35:02 - The Real Roots of the Word Empathy 36:09 - True or False: Are Women Wired to Be More Empathetic? 38:10 - True or False: Does Empathy Lead to Fairer Decisions? 41:20 - Empathy in High-Performance Environments 42:53 - Can You Have Connection Without Empathy? 45:02 - Would You Rather: Deep Empathy for Your Circle vs. Moderate Empathy for All 49:09 - The Cost of Carrying Empathy 50:40 - A Real Example: Giving Feedback With Empathy 52:16 - Empathy as a Muscle: Where to Start 54:24 - The Worst Advice About Bringing Empathy to Leadership 56:26 - Closing Thought

Wondering How to Get Consulting or Coaching Clients...Without Relying on Referrals? At first, relying on referrals to get consulting or coaching clients is great… and reliable. Or at least reliable enough. Your generous network sends business your way. Then thrilled former clients introduce you to new ones. Only problem? This works…until it stops and the question sets in: What do I do when getting clients primarily through relying on connections and referrals is no longer enough? If you have been asking yourself these questions, this episode is for you! In this conversation, seasoned leadership coach and my client Cori Crawford Van Oss and I take you behind the scenes of what it really takes to make the shift from the hustle of getting clients through asking for referrals and the agonizing waiting game to the flow of attracting the right clients – the ones you're called to serve - to you. We talk about the role that content plays in expanding your reach and your impact, and how to overcome the #1 barrier to getting started – which is clarity and confidence in who you help, the problems you solve, the value you create, and your unique perspective that drives how you think about and approach your consulting or coaching. We also got into how calling herself a trusted advisor (in addition to a coach) with the eyes to see things her clients can't, helped her not only differentiate herself in the market but truly own her unique God-given gifting. We talk about how remarkable content doesn't just showcase our big ideas but meets clients where they are at each step in their buying journey. But the real power of owning our unique brand position, clarifying our message, and creating content isn't about marketing but creating the conditions for transformation, as it provides the psychological safety that it requires. It's about instilling trust, living our purpose, and making meaning out of our deepest wounds and most painful experiences, which is where the sources for our greatest credibility, empathy, and uniqueness lie. If your real question isn't just about making a shift in your approach to getting clients from chasing or waiting for them to drawing them to you, but it's more about how to create sustainable success from the inside out, this episode is for you. WHERE TO DIVE IN [00:00] When Referrals Aren't Enough [01:48] A Decades-Long Connection Comes Full Circle [06:12] From Global Mission Work to Going Solo [12:06] Why the Rebrand Had to Start From Scratch [16:13] Naming the Real Problem: Growth Without Burnout [20:16] The Pregnancy Metaphor: Growing at a Human Pace [37:23] Your Ideal Client Is an Earlier Version of You [41:05] Mapping Content to the Buyer's Journey [54:13] The Rocket Metaphor: Superpowers Born From Pain NEXT STEPS Thanks for listening. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Make sure you hit the follow button to get notified. If you prefer video or want closed captions, you can watch all my episodes on YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/c/BetsyJordyn If you're on LinkedIn, come say hi! → https://www.linkedin.com/in/betsy-jordyn/ Learn more about Cori Crawford Van Oss's leadership coaching, trusted advisor, and workshop that sustain and increase the impact of mission leaders without burning out staff and volunteers → https://coricrawfordvanoss.com/ MORE RESOURCES FOR YOU Get free templates and guides to nail your niche, clarify your value, craft compelling messages, and position yourself for the right clients and opportunities → https://www.betsyjordyn.com/downloads Learn more about my VIP brand-building & messaging services, custom-designed for purpose-driven consultants and coaches → https://www.betsyjordyn.com/services If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts! Your support helps me reach more consultants and coaches who need these insights and inspiration

Zach sits down with Alexandra and Rod Stockwell, married almost 30 years and both trained as physicians. They met in 1993 as first-year medical students, passing paper notes back and forth during lectures, and that early habit of asynchronous, patient communication turns out to have shaped everything that came after. Alexandra is now a relationship and intimacy coach and host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. Rod still practices medicine and, in his words, is happy to support her work from just outside the spotlight.The conversation moves through the real mechanics of a long marriage rather than the highlight reel. Rod tells the story of what first drew him to Alexandra: not academic standout behavior, but her willingness to notice what everyone else in the lecture hall was too polite to say out loud, like asking a professor to turn the lights back on. From there, they trace how curiosity became their throughline, how personal growth inside a marriage compounds over time, and how a phrase like connection over content changes what a hard conversation actually accomplishes. Rod offers a simple, practical fix for the "heady" partner who struggles to know what a conversation needs from him. Alexandra shares a technique she once found genuinely off putting, literally timing how long she'd speak, and explains why it ended up building more trust and more freedom, not less.What makes this one land is that none of it is theoretical. Alexandra and Rod are open that every insight came from getting it wrong first, sometimes badly, and having their feelings hurt in the process. For listeners who've been together a long time and wonder if the spark is something you either have or don't, this episode makes the case that it's built, deliberately, one honest conversation at a time.Key TakeawaysCuriosity doesn't have to fade with familiarity. The early-relationship instinct to ask "what's your favorite vegetable" can be kept alive on purpose, decades in.Being curious about your partner has a side effect: it makes you more curious about yourself, too."Connection over content" means prioritizing how a conversation lands over winning the specific point being discussed.Naming the kind of conversation you're about to have (venting, logistics, brainstorming) before you have it prevents partners from accidentally having two different conversations at once.A technique doesn't have to feel natural, or even comfortable, to work. Alexandra found timing her own emotional sharing "disgusting" at first and kept using it because it built trust.Real intimacy is a form of emotional communication every time, not just during "big" conversations. What's underneath a moment matters as much as what's said.Marriage can function as a vehicle for personal growth, not just a container you maintain, if both people stay oriented toward it that way.The best advice in this episode was hard won. Every tool they share came from a mistake they made and repaired first.Guest InfoAlexandra Stockwell, MD: relationship and intimacy coach, host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. Website: alexandrastockwell.com (book, app, courses, coaching, and podcast available there).Rod Stockwell, MD: practicing physician and Alexandra's husband of nearly 30 years. Not publicly active in the relationship coaching space; reachable through Alexandra's contact page.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stefanos Sifandos returns to the show six years after his first appearance, and this time the conversation goes straight to the bone. A behavioral scientist and relationship expert who's worked with Olympic gold medalists, world champion fighters, special forces operators, and high-performing couples, Stefanos helps successful people confront the emotional armor and old patterns that achievement can't hide. He's also the author of the new book Tuned In and Turned On. Larry and Stefanos both grew up with volatile, abusive fathers, and they open up about the exact moments they stood up to the men who terrorized them, the survival patterns that followed them into adulthood, and the slow inner work of forgiveness. If you're a man carrying more than you've ever said out loud, this conversation names it and points to a way through.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Stefanos returns after six years and revisits growing up in violence [3:09] – A gambler father, criminal company, and never knowing which version you'd get [4:39] – How the abuse shifted between two brothers over the years [6:24] – Leaving the country at 18 and the eldest-child savior role [7:40] – Larry shares his own story of standing up to his mom's abusive boyfriend [10:09] – Why a terrifying confrontation can be a painful gift with a long trajectory [12:40] – Stefanos on the night at the kitchen bench when he told his dad "I'm not small anymore" [18:46] – Stefanos' full background in behavioral science, performance, and embodiment [21:24] – The unconscious, fractured initiation from boyhood into manhood [23:44] – Larry on deliberately taking his sons through rites of passage [24:26] – Where the relationship with his father stands now, and the memoir project [27:15] – Forgiveness as an inside job and letting go without relying on the other person [29:37] – Scarcity, hypervigilance, and why the nervous system prepares for the worst [36:18] – Why 80% of healing is how others show up and meet you [38:41] – How children internalize abuse as proof they're unworthy [41:24] – The book's practices: get a friend, and why men are so isolated [46:20] – Deliberate solitude in nature and learning to slow down [48:55] – Seeking physical challenge as the path to real confidence   5 Key Takeaways Standing Up Is an Initiation — For many men, the shift from boyhood to manhood happens through a raw, unchosen confrontation rather than a healthy rite of passage. Naming that moment helps you understand who you became because of it. Forgiveness Is an Inside Job — Closure doesn't require the other person to change or even participate. Peace comes from your own diligent inner work, not from waiting on an apology. Your Survival Patterns Made Sense Once — Scarcity thinking and catastrophizing were hypervigilant survival tools in childhood. The work isn't to shame them away, but to notice them and stop feeding the beast. Healing Is Relational — Around 80% of transformation is being met with compassion and nonjudgment by someone who can relate to you. Insight matters, but connection is what actually changes you. Get a Friend, Then Get Alone — Men are epidemically lonely, so build real friendships despite the risk. Then balance that with deliberate solitude in nature and physical challenge that builds genuine confidence.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1506 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive: https://thedadedge.com/goals Tuned In and Turned On by Stefanos Sifandos: published by Hay House, February 2026 (audiobook includes bonus material) Stefanos Sifandos on Instagram: https://instagram.com/stefanossifandos Stefanos Sifandos on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@stefanossifandos Follow Stefanos Sifandos on Facebook and TikTok: search "Stefanos Sifandos" The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood by Larry Hagner: referenced in episode   Enjoyed This Episode? If Stefanos' line about men leaking their pain sideways into aggression and avoidance hit home, don't carry it alone. Send this episode to a man in your life who might be quietly isolated, and think about who your own 3am friend would be. If the show keeps showing up for you, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

What if the love you need most right now is love for yourself? Rev. Cathey Edwards names the habit she calls "spiritual amnesia" — forgetting our own worth — and offers a simple two-word practice to interrupt it.Guest minister Rev. Cathey Edwards, part of the All Souls community since the 1980s, explores what it means to turn Love Beyond Belief inward. In this message, delivered in Tulsa, Oklahoma, Rev. Edwards makes the case that self-compassion isn't a self-help detour from justice work, it's the foundation of it.KEY THEMES:- Self-compassion as a spiritual practice- The "just like me" practice for dissolving judgment- Naming "spiritual amnesia" as forgetting our own worth- Sharon Salzberg's "but I love you" technique- Truth-telling as an ethical, not just emotional, stance- Holding our own contradictions and multitudesSUBSCRIBE TO WATCH OTHER VIDEOS: @allsoulsunitarianWANT TO LISTEN? SUBSCRIBE TO OUR PODCAST on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1TOSFe2QQ0Di7zeiwlcZgv and Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-souls-unitarian-church/id193096943GIVE A DONATION TO HELP US SPREAD THIS LOVE BEYOND BELIEF: https://www.allsoulschurch.org/GIVE or text AllSoulsTulsa to 73256LET'S CONNECT:Facebook: /allsoulstulsaInstagram: /allsoulstulsaAll Souls Church Website: https://www.allsoulschurch.org#AllSoulsTulsa #AllSoulsUnitarianChurch #LoveBeyondBelief #SelfCompassion #Tulsa

Is a photo credit worth anything for SEO if the business won't link it?Technically, an unlinked mention isn't as valuable as a link, but it's a lot closer than people believed in the past.A leaked piece of Google's algorithm showed unlinked mentions carry real weight, and AI search tools are making that gap even smaller because AI struggles to follow links the way a person does.Why links have always mattered so much in SEOWhat the Google algorithm leak revealed about unlinked mentionsWhy AI is bad at following links but good at finding mentionsWhat makes a mention "authentic" versus "inauthentic"Photographers no longer need to hold out for a linked credit. An accurate, relevant mention is enough to move the needle, and asking for a link shouldn't be a dealbreaker anymore.Timestamps [0:00] Introduction [0:30] Why this episode matters for photographers [1:43] Why links have always mattered in SEO [3:18] What the leaked Google algorithm revealed about unlinked mentions [4:00] Why AI struggles to follow links the way people do [5:36] An example of AI failing to count blog articles [7:00] Google's role in creating the technology behind AI search [9:28] Why relevance matters for mentions and links [10:02] Authentic versus inauthentic mentions [11:53] Naming your business accurately in a mention --Send me your AI/SEO questions!https://www.meredithshusband.com/podcast

Some stories change the shape of a life. This one changed the shape of a movement. As we release this episode, four women and girls were killed in four days in Australia. Thirty-seven women and seventeen children have been killed since January 1st this year. That number is likely higher. Undercounting is part of the story Sherele Moody has spent a decade trying to fix. And whenever you are listening to this, the number will have changed again. That is exactly why this conversation exists. Because we believe that the stories a culture tells about itself determine what it can and cannot see. And we will keep telling them until the number is zero. Sherele Moody is a journalist, founder of Australian Femicide Watch and the Red Heart Movement. She grew up in a home marked by domestic violence. As a teenager, she learned her stepfather had murdered a nine year old girl, her cousin's daughter, Stacy Ann Tracy. From that came two of the most significant tools this country has for tracking and confronting violence against women. In this episode, Sherele talks about what it means to carry resilience you never wanted, why ending femicide is not women's work to do, the small activisms that actually make a difference, and what it took to turn personal tragedy into a national movement. This episode discusses domestic violence, child safety, and loss. We have approached it with sensitivity and care, and we would ask that you do the same. Listen when you feel ready. Support is available. Lifeline 13 11 14 · 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732.

Crime and Westerns on a MondayFirst, a look at the events of the day.Then, Crime and Peter Chambers starring Dane Clark, originally broadcast  July 20, 1954, 72 years ago, Donald Sloane, Embezzler.  A bank teller steals money from his accounts, but leaves $28,000 behind!Followed by Crime Classics, originally broadcast July 20, 1953, 73 years ago, The Death of a Picture Hanger. The Ford brothers are hired to kill Jesse James, and they do just that. Then, Frontier Gentleman starring John Dehner, originally broadcast July 20, 1958, 68 years ago, Mighty Mouse. A story about five holdup men outside Laramie, Wyoming Territory, and Kendall's attempt to have them arrested. Followed by Gunsmoke starring William Conrad, originally broadcast July 20, 1958, 68 years ago, Marshall Proudfoot.   Chester's father is in Dodge to visit his son, the Marshal! Parley Baer plays the roles of both Chester and his father! Finally, Claudia, originally broadcast July 20, 1948, 78 years ago, Naming the baby. Kathryn Bard and Paul Crabtree star.Thanks to Debbie B. for supporting our podcast by using the Buy Me a Coffee function at http://classicradio.streamIf you like what we do here, visit our friend Jay at http://radio.macinmind.com for great old-time radio shows 24 hours a day

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Krishna Kaliannan wanted to start a tech company but failed at every attempt. On the side, he was teaching himself how to cook with high-protein, low-sugar ingredients. Not just out of interest, but out of necessity. As a teenager, Krishna had been diagnosed with diabetes and epilepsy, meaning he adopted a keto diet long before it was trendy. Krishna's home experiments with pea powder and monk fruit eventually became Catalina Crunch, one of the country's most popular high-protein, low-carb breakfast cereals and snacks. In this episode, Krishna shares how a life-changing health condition sparked an obsession with healthy baking— and a brand that reimagined snacking.What You'll LearnHow to turn a health challenge into a business opportunity The art and science of baking with esoteric ingredientsWhen to trust partners and when it's best to take charge yourselfWhy the DTC model is great for some industries and disastrous for othersTimestamps:00:06:16 - Dealing with diabetes and epilepsy as a college student00:12:38 - What Krishna learns from his early failures in tech00:22:43 - The first, low-sugar cocoa puffs: “Rocks that tasted like soil.” 00:27:36 - His homemade cereal gets good enough to sell00:32:42 - Naming the brand: classy alliteration and a nod to a Will Ferrell movie 00:44:51 - Learning to make cereal like the pros at Texas A&M00:54:43 - Krishna moves from NYC to Indiana to make sure the cereal is made right01:01:04 - Whole Foods, Costco, and becoming a household brandThis episode was researched and produced by Chris Maccini with music composed by Ramtin Arablouei. It was edited by Neva Grant. Our engineer was Kwesi Lee. Follow How I Built This:Instagram → @howibuiltthisX → @HowIBuiltThisFacebook → How I Built ThisFollow Guy Raz:Instagram → @guy.razYoutube → guy_razX → @guyrazSubstack → guyraz.substack.comWebsite → guyraz.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.