Podcasts about Naming

Mind Won't Switch Off? — Racing Thoughts Meditation for Anxious Nights | 4-7-8 Breathing If your mind won't switch off — even though your body has clearly clocked out — this guided meditation is for you. Whether it's 2am or the middle of an ordinary afternoon, racing thoughts don't wait for a convenient time, and this episode meets you exactly where you are with 4-7-8 breathing, a calming cognitive visualisation, and three daily caring tips you can use anytime the loop starts again. For the nights it gets harder than ten minutes can fix, download Anchored on the App Store: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/anchored-panic-anxiety/id6785035669 — it's the same voice, free, and there whenever your mind decides it needs help. Hosted by clinical hypnotherapist and former paramedic Martin Hewlett, today's session uses 4-7-8 breathing — in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8 — a technique drawn from years on the road as a paramedic, where changing what the body is doing is often the fastest way to change what the mind is doing. From there, a gentle visualisation reframes anxious thoughts as letters arriving through a letterbox: you don't have to open every one, read it end to end, or write back. You are the house, not the letter. ⏱️ Time Chapters* 00:00 – Welcome: when your mind won't switch off* 01:28 – Introducing 4-7-8 Breathing (from years as a paramedic)* 02:17 – Breathing practice, round one* 04:10 – Breathing practice, round two* 04:29 – The letterbox: thoughts aren't instructions* 05:31 – Today's Gentle Affirmations* 08:17 – Three Daily Caring Tips* 09:28 – Coming back, stretch and release* 09:47 – Outro & be kind 

Most health experts who take insurance have been told the same thing. If you want to make real money, drop insurance and start selling high-ticket cash pay programs. I like a good cash pay program. I also think that advice gets applied to practices where it makes very little sense. This episode is a real coaching conversation with my client Angelina, who owns an established, heavily insurance-based dietitian practice in Ohio. She has clients, she gets referrals from gastroenterology groups, and her reimbursement rates are solid. The most important question for her business was never whether to blow up a working model. It was how to make that model more profitable, more differentiated, and less dependent on adding sessions to her calendar. We build a hybrid offer in real time, where insurance covers the clinical sessions and the client pays separately for the testing, messaging access, and resources insurance was never going to cover. We get into pricing, continuity, boundaries around access, and how to position a practice so the big insurance-based platforms stop being competitors at all. If the only two options you've been given are more 1:1 sessions or stop taking insurance, this conversation gives you a third option that's got serious potential. Timeline Highlights [00:00] – Why "stop taking insurance" is the wrong first move for an established practice [08:16] – Angelina's setup: buying a twenty-year-old insurance-based practice in Ohio [12:57] – How a hybrid offer works and what the cash portion actually pays for [15:51] – Competing with Nourish, Fay, and BerryStreet without competing on price [20:44] – Naming the specific result: healing IBS and IBD instead of managing symptoms [29:08] – Building a low-ticket continuity offer so clients don't disappear at month four [33:10] – What belongs on the cash-pay side: testing, meal plans, supplements, portal resources [37:40] – Pricing the hybrid when insurance already covers part of the total [42:44] – Why graduating every client costs you revenue and costs them results [48:40] – Setting messaging boundaries before you need them [55:45] – SEO, GEO, and Google reviews for a practice built on local referrals [1:04:41] – Doubling income without adding a single session Top Quotes from the Episode "You can't out-price a company with venture funding and insurance leverage. The move is to build something they aren't even offering." "Nobody stands in a parking lot deciding between McDonald's and a good gourmet burger. Those aren't the same product, and your practice shouldn't be the same product as a platform handing out free sessions." "Insurance teaches people to buy an hour of your time. A signature offer teaches them to buy a result." "The cash portion of a hybrid offer covers everything insurance was never going to pay for, which is usually the part that creates the outcome." "Not everyone wants to be graduated. I've worked with the same trainer for eleven years because I like having the help, and your clients are no different." "People overstuff their deliverables and then spend years on the hook for all of it. The better question is what's the least amount of support someone needs to get what they came for." "Set the boundary before you need it. Renegotiating access after someone has already crossed the line is a much harder conversation." "This model lets you earn twice as much from the same number of sessions, or keep the income steady and cut your session load in half." Links & Resources Take the CEO Type Quiz Practice Better (EHR, client portal, messaging, program delivery) If this one landed, follow the podcast, leave a review, and send it to a practitioner who's been told insurance is the reason they aren't making enough.

BaseballBiz On Deck, the conversation covers the new Rays stadium, the recent city and county votes, stadium economics, naming rights, the Rays' playoff push and the young players shaping the franchise's future.New Tampa Bay Rays StadiumThe city and county votes approving the new Rays stadium proposal.Plans for a new $2.3 billion stadium near Hillsborough Community College and Dale Mabry Highway.Anticipated construction timeline &  when shovels could go into the ground.What stadium agreement means for long-term future of the Rays in TampaA Major Turning Point for the RaysStadium approval represents a major moment in Tampa Bay baseball historyThe importance of securing a long-term MLB future How the current situation compares with the Rays' previous stadium uncertainty.Stadium Naming RightsWho could become the naming-rights partner for the new Rays stadium?How a long-term naming-rights agreement could increase the value of the Rays franchise.Companies that could potentially want a major presence in Tampa Bay.Naming rights could extend beyond the stadium into the surrounding Champions Corner developmentThe Business of the Tampa Bay RaysHow the new stadium could change the Rays' financial outlook.The potential impact on team valuation, revenue and future spending.Why a new stadium could give the Rays more flexibility when building future rosters.Rays Playoff PushThe Rays' pursuit of a 90-plus-win season.The possibility of a 95-win or even 97-win season.The American League playoff race and potential home-field advantage.The importance of the remaining games against the New York Yankees.Rays Rising in Franchise HistoryThe Rays reaching their 82nd win of the season.How the current season compares with previous successful Rays teams.Kevin Cash & Joe Maddon & their places among the best seasons in Rays historyIt is becoming one of the most successful seasons in franchise history.Young Rays Players Making an Impact Junior Caminero and his continued power production.Jonathan Aranda and his enormous 458-foot home run.Chandler Simpson and pressure the young Rays lineup puts on opposing pitchers.Liam Hicks, Ryan Vilade and other emerging contributors.Why the Rays' young core could be critical to the franchise's future.September Call-UpsThe expansion of MLB rosters in September. Potential Rays additions from the Durham Bulls.Players discussed include Hunter Bigge, Ty Johnson, Jake Fraley, Jacob Melton and Ben Williamson.Jorge Mateo and Rays Team ChemistryMateo's adjustment to the Rays.The importance of character and clubhouse chemistry.Why the Rays' dugout energy has become one of the team's strengths.The Padres SeriesThe Rays' sweep of the San Diego Padres.Johnny DeLuca's dramatic moment in the series.The importance of momentum and team energy as postseason approaches.How the Rays' chemistry compares with other contenders.The Future of Baseball in Tampa BayWhat the new stadium means for Tampa Bay's place in Major League BaseballTampa's long history of professional baseball and spring trainingPotential for a new entertainment, restaurant and nightlife district Rays Ownership and Franchise ValueKen Babby and the new ownership group's role in bringing the stadium deal together.How the Rays' franchise value has changed since 2008.financial impact of securing a new long-term stadium agreementRemember to like and subscribe to BaseballBiz On Deck. You may also find BaseballBiz on Deck, on YouTube at iHeart Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, and at baseball biz on deck dot com. Also you can find Mat @matgermain.bsky.social  or Mark at baseballbizondeck@gmail.com and BaseballBiz On Deck with Facebook social  

Trigger Warning: This episode includes mentions of a medical emergency and a homicide. Sunday morning, and Brenda can't get out of bed. Her head is pounding hard enough that she genuinely believes she might die from it, so she turns over and doesn't get up again until one in the afternoon. She'd been retired for years by then, a daily schedule and routine filled with wine instead, and what she labeled relaxing was really drinking out of boredom. A couple of glasses had turned into a full box, then a bottle most nights, one more way to use up hours a twenty-year police career used to take up on its own. A week later, she threw that box of wine in the trash. Brenda and Coach Cole discuss: Starting the police academy, getting married, and quitting drinking, all in the same month, years apart Why retiring in 2013 removed the one thing that had kept her drinking in check Naming the voice in her head Dave, and talking back to him out loud in the car The pink cloud moment driving home along the lake six weeks after her last drink The Sunday morning hangover that convinced her she was dying, and why it became her turning point Why she filled her newly empty days with sewing for her local theater and mornings back at the SPCA And more on rebuilding her marriage and finally learning to put herself first… Ready to take the next step? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Episode links: Alcohol Freedom Challenge - https://go.controlalcohollive.com/2026-challenge-registration More on this episode - https://thisnakedmind.com/podcast/drinking-out-of-boredom-brendas-naked-life-ep-936/ Related episodes: Naked Life Story – Irene | EP 295 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-295-naked-life-story-irene/ Finding Purpose and Direction After Quitting Alcohol | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E817 – https://thisnakedmind.com/finding-purpose-and-direction-after-quitting-alcohol-e817/ How Do I Overcome the Trigger of Boredom? | Reader Question | EP 32 – https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-32-reader-question-how-do-i-overcome-the-trigger-of-boredom/ Follow on Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-naked-mind-podcast/id1287269357 Follow on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0UB06sNguPjVvgAYFBcR9I?si=b7568f24c21249ff

In this episode of the [Un]Churned Podcast, Josh Schachter sits down with Jake Saper, General Partner at Emergence Capital, to unpack the firm's 25 year thesis of being “early experts in emerging business models,” from the on-prem-to-cloud shift that birthed their first investment in Salesforce, to vertical SaaS with Veeva, to what Jake calls AI-Native Services, or AINS.They also dive into:What “AI-Native Services” actually means, in Jake's own wordsThe real story behind Gainsight's shift from selling software to selling outcomesWhy the biggest headwind to this transformation is cultural, not technical“Mirage product market fit,” the #1 mistake Jake sees in AI pitches right nowWhat Jake actually looks for in founders before he investsWhy tech vendors of the future might look more like insurance carriers than software companiesIf you're building anything in the AI services space, thinking about how AI changes SaaS margins, or just want to understand where venture capital thinks the next generational businesses will come from, this episode is a masterclass in spotting a category before it has a name.Want the playbook, not just the conversation? Subscribe for deep-dive, actionable breakdowns from every episode at ⁠unchurned.substack.com.⁠--Timestamps00:00 – Intro & Backstory01:37 – What Emergence Capital Focuses On, and How It Started08:14 – Naming the Category: Why “AI-Native Services” (AINS)12:42 – The Walk on the Embarcadero: How Gainsight's Pivot Was Born17:28 – The Biggest Headwind: It's Cultural, Not Technical20:24 – What Jake Looks For as an Investor: Domain Credibility31:21 – The Hanover Park Story: 150 Fund CFOs36:38 – Mirage Product Market Fit: The Overplayed Pattern in AINS Pitches38:48 – The AINS Idea Jake Wants Someone to Build42:07 – The Mafia, Dump Trucks, and Unexpected AI Competitors--Where to Find Jake Saper:Jake's LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakesaper/Emergence Capital: https://www.emcap.com/Where to Find Josh Schachter:Josh's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jschachter/Unchurned Substack: https://unchurned.substack.com

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This one's a step back to look at the big picture, because a lot of the Gen Xers I talk to are too busy living life to see it.Three things are colliding at once.Corporate is chaos. It's not your age, it's your expense. Somebody can do half your job for half the price, and that's who gets picked. Getting laid off is one thing. Getting back in is the real problem. Look around your own network if you don't believe me.The savings math. The generation before us had pensions. We got a 401k and a how-to video. Roughly half of Gen X has nothing put away, and the typical household isn't close to what 30 years actually costs.Longevity. This is the good news. If you take care of yourself there's a real chance you're looking at 30 or 40 more years, healthy and active.Put those three together and it doesn't add up.I'm not doing this to scare anybody. It's not a prediction, it's already happening. But there are two ways to react. You can treat it as a sunset and ride it out. Or you can treat it as the start of a second adult lifetime, which is the way I'm choosing to look at it.The back half of this episode is the part that matters: you already have everything you need to generate income on your own. The skills, the experience, the problem solving. What's in the way is unlearning what corporate taught you, and the fact that we make making money way more complicated than it needs to be.In this episode:Why it's your expense, not your ageThe musical chairs problem, and why the chairs aren't coming backPensions versus the 401k handoffWhat 30 or 40 more years actually costsWhy gig work is the wrong answerLow friction, high margin income, and what that actually looks likeWhy the first dollar outside corporate changes everythingTIMESTAMPS00:00 — Welcome, and why I'm zooming out this week01:20 — Naming it: Gen X has a math problem01:42 — Two ways to react: sunset, or jumpstart02:05 — Musical chairs, and why they're pulling five at a time02:25 — Part 1: It's not your age, it's your expense03:40 — Getting laid off isn't the problem. Getting back in is.04:20 — The professional athlete parallel04:46 — Part 2: How prepared are we, really05:05 — They got pensions. We got a how-to video.06:00 — The savings numbers nobody wants to look at07:05 — How few of us actually have a pension07:45 — Part 3: Longevity, and why it's genuinely good news08:45 — Putting all three together09:15 — This isn't a prediction. It's happening now.09:55 — The good news: you already have what you need10:30 — Seventeen income streams, and why I'm not special11:05 — Why it's not Uber and it's not DoorDash11:45 — The real blocker: unlearning corporate12:45 — Low friction, high margin income13:40 — Go sell that first dollar14:05 — Don't bet on another 20 years in corporate14:45 — The opportunity sitting in your own backyard15:05 — Don't replace your job with a worse version of it16:00 — What changed inside the community16:25 — Nobody's judging you (my TikTok debut says hi)17:35 — The better you are, the more at risk you are18:20 — What the 20-somethings figured out that we didn't18:45 — How to reach meLINKS AND CTAThe Collective Now focused entirely on the thing most people are stuck on: making money outside of corporate. A group of Gen Xers figuring it out together. https://trp-collective.circle.soEverything else https://BrettTrainor.comQuestions or episode ideas? Email me: bt@bretttrainor.comIf the show's useful to you, hit follow wherever you listen.GenX, laid off over 50, ageism at work, corporate layoffs, retirement math, 401k, longevity, second act, making money outside corporate, career change over 50, side income, Gen X retirement crisis

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In part one of a special two-part series, Mark and Emily sit down with author and pastor Trevin Wax to introduce The Gospel Way Catechism, a new 50-question resource he co-wrote with Thomas Wax to root Christians in truth amid cultural chaos. Trevin unpacks what a catechism actually is, why this centuries-old discipleship tool is making a comeback, and takes listeners behind the scenes of writing the book in C.S. Lewis's own study. Along the way, they dig deep into one question in particular, "What is freedom?", and why getting the answer wrong is quietly shaping a generation.Episode Highlights00:27 — Introducing guest Trevin Wax and The Gospel Way Catechism01:33 — What exactly is a catechism, and why the word intimidates people01:58 — A brief history of catechisms, from the early church to the Reformation04:01 — Why catechism matters for growing Christians today, not just kids05:34 — What makes The Gospel Way different from classics like Westminster06:23 — Tim Keller's call for a renewal of "counter catechesis"08:41 — Behind the scenes: writing the catechism at C.S. Lewis's home, the Kilns12:37 — Naming the cultural narratives Christians are swimming in today14:14 — A closer look at one question: "What is freedom?"15:44 — Applying the freedom question to college freshmen headed to Iowa State18:08 — Trevin's hope and prayer for how the catechism will be used20:44 — What's ahead: Part 2 with Trevin, and the fall sermon series at CornerstoneResourcesThe Gospel Way Catechism by Trevin Wax and Thomas WaxThe Gospel Way Catechism for Kids by Trevin Wax and Thomas WaxCornerstone Sermons: Listen OnlineAsk Mark a Question!Suggest a topic or question for Mark to discuss on a future episode of the Equip Podcast!

Matt Tait, of R1S1 Sports, joined The Drive to breakdown the Kansas football season and their announcement that Isaiah Marshall will be the starting QB.

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We've been sold a myth: that mental toughness means gritting your teeth and pushing through, disregarding their emotions entirely. The people who actually build lasting resilience do something different. They get honest with what they feel and investigate it. They notice when their mind drifts into yesterday's mistake or tomorrow's fear, understanding why helps them choose the present instead. They learn to tell the difference between what they want right now and what they actually value and focus on what matters to them. Practice radical honesty with your own feelings, not just others' Catch and interrupt patterns of rumination or future-worry Choose your long-term values over your short-term impulse, deliberately Change how you relate to your mind, and everything else starts to shift. SPONSORS ☺️ NOCD Struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help Book a free 15 min call ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://learn.nocd.com/growthmindset⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ☺️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MOD.com Prescription Modafinil for energy and focus. Free consultation, free shipping and 10% off Promo code PSYCHOLOGY at MOD.com UPGRADE to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:

summaryIn this episode, Dr. Debbie Ozment explores the concept of toxic positivity, its impact on emotional and physical health, and biblical insights on authentic emotional expression. She shares personal stories and practical advice for embracing genuine feelings and fostering true vitality.key topicsToxic positivity and emotional suppressionImpact of suppressed emotions on physical healthBiblical examples of emotional honesty, like Psalms and Jesus weepingPractical ways to acknowledge and express difficult emotionsThe role of trust and presence in emotional healingNeuroplasticity and rewiring emotional responsestakeawaysToxic positivity invalidates authentic negative emotions and can harm health.Suppressing emotions increases stress hormones like cortisol, affecting immunity and chronic disease risk.Biblical figures like David and Jesus model honest emotional expression.Naming emotions reduces stress and helps regulate the brain's response.Being present with someone in pain is more healing than trying to fix or dismiss their feelings.Disclaimer: This podcast is for general information and entertainment purposes only and does not constitute medical or dental advice. Any mention of products, services, tests, or supplements is not an endorsement and may include affiliate links. Guest views are their own and may not reflect the views of Dr. Debbie Ozment or this podcast. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional for advice specific to your situation.Visit my website DrDebbieOzment.com for valuable free downloads.  Additionally,  you will find shopping links which I have curated on the website.  Please follow me on instagram at drdebbieozment.

For entrepreneurs, boredom is more than an inconvenience. It can lead to poor decisions, unnecessary disruption, and lost momentum. In this episode, Dan Sullivan and Shannon Waller explore why conscious thinking is the antidote to boredom and how asking better questions can create fresh energy, clarity, and opportunity from the experiences already in front of you. Here's some of what you'll learn in this episode:Why entrepreneurs need to be aware of how they're thinking.A simple, easy way to get energized by what you're doing.Where boredom really comes from.How to respond to major changes in the world. Show Notes: Entrepreneurs need achievement that feels new, better, and different to stay energized and engaged. If you are no longer growing, or are achieving in the same way for too long, boredom can quickly set in. Boredom is not always a signal to look for more external stimulation; it can be a cue to change how you're thinking. You can shift your energy by consciously switching away from an unproductive thought and giving your brain a better question to answer. Becoming aware of what you're thinking, feeling, and experiencing in the moment is a practical antidote to boredom. Asking yourself, “What is actually happening right now?” turns you from a passive participant into an active observer. Taking the role of an observer creates emotional distance and helps you see a stressful situation more clearly. Naming your experience gives your brain something specific to work on and creates an immediate shift in energy. Anger and negative emotions can take over when you're reacting unconsciously instead of examining what's happening. Curiosity keeps entrepreneurs engaged because it turns familiar experiences into sources of new insight. Reviewing your best “yes” decisions and best “no” decisions can reveal valuable patterns, connections, and confidence for the future. The more conscious you are of your thinking, the more easily you can create fresh energy from your past, present, and future experiences. Resources: The Greater Game by Dan Sullivan and John Bowen Thinking About Your Thinking by Dan Sullivan Inviting Genius: How Good Leaders Use Conflict to Become Great by Matthew Abrams The 3 Most Important Questions For Constant Growth As An Entrepreneur

For entrepreneurs, boredom is more than an inconvenience. It can lead to poor decisions, unnecessary disruption, and lost momentum. In this episode, Dan Sullivan and Shannon Waller explore why conscious thinking is the antidote to boredom and how asking better questions can create fresh energy, clarity, and opportunity from the experiences already in front of you. Here's some of what you'll learn in this episode:Why entrepreneurs need to be aware of how they're thinking.A simple, easy way to get energized by what you're doing.Where boredom really comes from.How to respond to major changes in the world. Show Notes: Entrepreneurs need achievement that feels new, better, and different to stay energized and engaged. If you are no longer growing, or are achieving in the same way for too long, boredom can quickly set in. Boredom is not always a signal to look for more external stimulation; it can be a cue to change how you're thinking. You can shift your energy by consciously switching away from an unproductive thought and giving your brain a better question to answer. Becoming aware of what you're thinking, feeling, and experiencing in the moment is a practical antidote to boredom. Asking yourself, “What is actually happening right now?” turns you from a passive participant into an active observer. Taking the role of an observer creates emotional distance and helps you see a stressful situation more clearly. Naming your experience gives your brain something specific to work on and creates an immediate shift in energy. Anger and negative emotions can take over when you're reacting unconsciously instead of examining what's happening. Curiosity keeps entrepreneurs engaged because it turns familiar experiences into sources of new insight. Reviewing your best “yes” decisions and best “no” decisions can reveal valuable patterns, connections, and confidence for the future. The more conscious you are of your thinking, the more easily you can create fresh energy from your past, present, and future experiences. Resources: The Greater Game by Dan Sullivan and John Bowen Thinking About Your Thinking by Dan Sullivan Inviting Genius: How Good Leaders Use Conflict to Become Great by Matthew Abrams The 3 Most Important Questions For Constant Growth As An Entrepreneur

Hour 4 of Jake & Ben on August 24, 2026 Nick Wilson from The Afternoon Drive in Cleveland joined to talk about Deshaun Watson being named the Starting QB, and the Cavs Going "All-In" Around Donovan Mitchell More Sound from Utah Practice: DC Colton Swan A lot of Johns Out There

Nick Wilson from The Afternoon Drive in Cleveland joined to talk about Deshaun Watson being named the Starting QB, and the Cavs Going "All-In" Around Donovan Mitchell

He comes to Esther not with a singular question but with an overflow of words and unspoken truths. Betrayed by a once-supportive church and struggling to reconcile his desires with his emotions, he carries a loneliness that has followed him across continents. This session is all about naming. Naming the parts of his life, the feelings left unspoken, and the longings that ache in his heart. Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. Producer's Note: When our anonymous guests do a session with Esther for the podcast, it is an act of generosity for everyone who listens. These sessions are meant not only to support the people in the room with Esther, but all of us who learn from their stories. Our stories have many chapters, and what you hear is just one moment in someone's journey. So even though the sessions are anonymous, please remember that real people are behind them and they may be reading your comments. Also, please join me on Entre Nous, my new home on Substack for anyone who wants to live, love, and work with more connection and imagination. I invite you to sign up and become a free or paid member at estherperel.substack.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Get 60 days free at https://www.shipstation.com with code jumpers Jump in with Carlos Juico, Gavin Ruta, Mack Mah and Samir on episode 301 of Jumpers Jump. This episode we discuss: Guy privilege in the club, Japan clubbing story, Attraction theories, Sleep paralysis, Lucid dreams, Chinese sleeping superstitions, Hayden Panettiere theory, Coke drink is demonic, Manifestation stories, Beauty magic, Alter ego theory, Astral projection, Prophetic dream that saved a life, Obsession gingerbread man similarities, Being parasocial in this generation, Value of your word, Naming your friends kid, Cancel culture, Parents taking risks, Looking at yourself in the mirror for an hour, Eyes attraction theory, Cloning, Manager method at the club, Exposure theory, and much more! Follow the podcast: @JumpersPodcast Follow Carlos: @CarlosJuico Follow Gavin: @GavinRutaa Check out the podcast on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/JumpersJumpYT⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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In this episode, host Duane Osterlind welcomes physician, trauma-informed coach, and author Dr. Frank Spinelli for an honest conversation about trauma, addiction, and the root causes of shame. Dr. Spinelli shares his personal story—from surviving childhood abuse in the Boy Scouts and helping law enforcement bring his abuser to justice, to experiencing a profound breakdown during the isolation of the COVID-19 pandemic.Together, Duane and Frank explore why addiction and shame stem from the same underlying wound, how to separate healthy guilt from toxic shame, and how reframing shame as a tool rather than a sentence can guide us back toward self-acceptance and alignment with our core values.Key Topics DiscussedTrauma and the Hidden Roots of Addiction: How unaddressed childhood trauma often manifests as compulsive behaviors—whether involving alcohol, food, work, or sex.Shame vs. Guilt: Why guilt focuses on behavior ("I did something bad") while shame attacks identity ("I am bad"), and how the inner voice of shame is often an installed narrative from past abuse or upbringing.The Isolation Trigger: How the removal of external coping routines during the COVID-19 pandemic caused dormant trauma and shame to resurface for millions of people.Shame as Information, Not Indictment: How leaning into shame—rather than running from or numbing it—can reveal where you are out of alignment with your core values.Naming the "Unreliable Narrator": Why personifying and giving a distinct name to your inner critic helps separate your core self from intrusive, shame-based thoughts.Key Frameworks & ToolsThe 4 P's of Emotional RegulationA practical exercise to build "shame literacy" when triggered:Pause: Stop before reacting or speaking.Be Present: Bring awareness to the immediate moment and physical surroundings.Ponder: Evaluate if your emotional response belongs to the present situation or an old memory.Possibilities: Select an intentional, grounded adult response rather than an automatic reaction.The 3 Bodies of Processing ShameSomatic (Physical) Body: Noticing physical sensations (chest tightness, sweating, tension) in the nervous system without judgment.Story Body: Recognizing the internal narrative, challenging the "unreliable narrator," and separating objective facts from emotional thoughts.Relational Body: Understanding how shame builds isolation walls instead of healthy, protective boundaries in relationships.Key Quotes"What if shame is not something we need to move away from? What if we leaned into it and used it not as an indictment, but as information?" — Dr. Frank Spinelli"Guilt is 'I did something bad.' Shame is 'I'm bad.' The voice telling you that you're bad is probably not your own voice—it was installed by someone else." — Dr. Frank Spinelli"Addiction and shame are not separate problems. They're the same wound—they're just expressed differently." — Dr. Frank SpinelliGuest Resources & LinksBook: The Shame Compass: A Radical Framework for Trauma Healing and Self-Acceptance by Dr. Frank SpinelliMemoir: P-Shy by Dr. Frank SpinelliWebsite: FrankSpinelli.comSocial Media: Follow Dr. Frank Spinelli on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube for daily short-form content on overcoming shame.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why Rejection Hits So Hard and How to Stop Letting It Define You Have you ever been blindsided by a betrayal so complete that it did not just shatter your marriage — it shattered the story you believed about yourself? One moment you thought you knew who you were, who he was, and who God was to you. And then the truth came out, and suddenly nothing felt certain anymore. In this episode, Leslie sits down with Emmy Award-winning television producer, author, and Chief Creative Officer of Joyce Meyer Ministries, Ginger Stache, co-author of the new book Healing the Wounds of Rejection. Ginger shares with remarkable honesty how the discovery of her husband's long-hidden pornography addiction brought her to her knees — not only in her marriage, but in her identity and her faith. Together, Leslie and Ginger unpack the specific lies rejection plants in a woman's heart, why feeling the pain of rejection is not weakness but proof you were made for love, and how God meets women in the darkness with healing they never saw coming. Key Takeaways   Rejection Attacks Your Identity, Not Just Your Relationship When Ginger discovered her husband's pornography addiction, she was not only stunned by the betrayal — she was stunned by how quickly it rewrote her story about herself. The questions came fast: What did I do wrong? Why am I not enough? Am I even lovable? Leslie points out that this is exactly what rejection does in a destructive relationship — it does not stay in the marriage, it moves into the marrow of who you believe you are. The critical first step is recognizing that what he chose is not a verdict on your worth. It is not a statement about you. The Lies Rejection Tells Are Predictable — and They Can Be Named and Refused Ginger identifies the most common lies rejection whispers: I will never be accepted. There is something fundamentally wrong with me. I cannot become who God made me to be because I am too broken. The key distinction she draws is between being rejected — which happens to every human being, including Jesus himself — and living rejected, which means allowing those lies to become part of your identity. Naming the lie is the first act of resistance. Replacing it with the truth of God's word is how the healing begins, one lie at a time. Feeling the Pain of Rejection Is Not Weakness — It Is What It Means to Be Human One of the most powerful moments in this conversation is Ginger's confession that she was ashamed of how hard rejection knocked her down — because she thought her faith made her stronger than that. Research confirms that the brain processes social rejection through the same pain pathways as a broken bone. God created you for love and connection, which means the ache of rejection is not a character flaw. It is the cost of being someone who loves. Leslie adds her own story of unexpectedly sobbing in a parking lot after being turned away at a pickleball court — and recognizing it as an old childhood wound asking to be seen and healed. Self-compassion, not self-criticism, is what opens the door. The Story of Leah Tells Us What Healing Actually Looks Like Ginger and Leslie turn to the story of Leah in Genesis 29 as one of the most honest and hope-filled pictures of what it looks like to move from rejection to rest. Married to a man who openly preferred her sister, Leah spent years trying to earn love through her children. But by her fourth son, something shifted. She stopped saying, Surely he will love me now, and said instead, This time I will praise the Lord. Healing did not look like Jacob finally choosing her. It looked like Leah choosing God as her source — finding that his love was not conditional on what her husband did or did not give her. That same shift is available to you. You Have a Choice — and Reclaiming It Is Where Healing Starts One of the most empowering threads running through this conversation is the call to reclaim your ability to choose in the middle of circumstances you did not choose. You did not choose his addiction. You did not choose his betrayal. But you can choose whether to believe the lie or the truth. You can choose faith over feelings that feel more real right now. You can choose to risk loving again because, as Ginger says, not loving anyone is a far worse fate than being hurt while loving. Leslie draws on the story of Joseph — thrown into slavery and into prison by rejection at every turn — as a biblical witness to the truth that rejection does not have to define you. The path forward begins with that one small, courageous choice. Personal Invitation If this conversation is stirring something deep in you — if you recognize the lies Ginger described, if you have been carrying the weight of rejection in your body, your identity, and your faith for longer than you want to admit — you do not have to keep doing this alone. Leslie's Walking in Core Strength community is a group coaching experience designed to help you stay rooted in truth, respond with wisdom and compassion, and stop losing yourself to patterns that are costing you everything. This is your invitation to take a step toward the woman God made you to be. https://leslievernick.com/strong Closing Encouragement You were created by a God who does not reject. He pursues. He sees. He binds up wounds. And on the days when rejection has knocked you so far down that you can barely whisper the words — God, do you even love me? — he is already answering. You never have to beg for my love. It is always here for you. Whatever has been done to you, whatever lies have taken root, whatever chapter of your story feels irredeemable right now — God is not finished. He is working layer by layer, step by step, in ways you cannot yet see. And one day, you will look back and know that he had his hand on you the entire time. You are not alone. You are not unloved. And rejection does not get the last word. God does.  

Ken Carman and Anthony Lima work through caller after caller demanding the Browns move on from Deshaun Watson, floating everything from cutting him outright to the reserve/non-football illness list, while Carman keeps circling back to the $86 million dead cap hit that ties the team's hands. Carman and Lima predict Watson won't survive as the starter past week three even if he opens the season under center, and they connect the fan fury to Nick Chubb's retirement as a reminder of what the Watson trade cost the roster. The two also dig into Watson's postgame comments about faith and regret, calling them tone deaf given his role in the team's mess.

On the afternoon of July 5th, 2012, New Springville schoolteacher Simeonette Mapes-Crupi was found stabbed to death inside her own Staten Island home, just two days before what would have been her fifth wedding anniversary. Her husband, fellow teacher Jonathan Crupi, told police he'd come home to find the house ransacked. On the surface, it looked like a burglary gone wrong, but the deeper investigators looked, the more the "robbery" theory started to fall apart. What followed was a years-long investigation full of dead ends, a scoured crime scene, and a trail of digital evidence that would eventually crack the case wide open.Today's snack: Peanut Butter Passport (thanks Carla!)Support us on PatreonSources:"NYC School Teacher Simonette Mapes-Crupi Found Brutally Stabbed To Death." CBS New York, 5 July 2012, www.cbsnews.com/newyork/news/nyc-school-teacher-found-fatally-stabbed-inside-staten-island-apartment/ "Family Of Slain NYC Schoolteacher Honoring Their Daughter With Charity Work." CBS New York, 17 Sept. 2012, www.cbsnews.com/newyork/news/family-of-slain-nyc-schoolteacher-honoring-their-daughter-with-charity-work/ Mehrotra, Kriti. "Where is Jonathan Crupi Now? Update on Simeonette Mapes' Husband and Killer." Moviedelic, 4 May 2025, moviedelic.com/jonathan-crupi/ New York Times. "Brooklyn Teacher Is Fatally Stabbed." The New York Times, 5 July 2012.Dateline, S33 E27, “Secrets of the Sliding Door.”Rizzi, Nicholas. "Staten Island Man Sentenced to 25 to Life for Murdering Wife." DNAinfo, 23 Sept. 2015, www.dnainfo.com/new-york/20150923/new-springville/staten-island-man-sentenced-25-life-for-murdering-wife-da-says Shortland, Gail. "Cheating Husband Killed His Wife to Stop Her Finding Out About His Secret Sex Sessions with Prostitutes." Mirror, 25 Oct. 2015, www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/cheating-husband-killed-wife-stop-6692290 "Simeonette 'Sissy' Mapes Crupi (1982–2012)." Find a Grave, Memorial ID 100688377, www.findagrave.com/memorial/100688377/simeonette-crupi New York City Council. "A Local Law in Relation to the Naming of 63 Thoroughfares and Public Places." The New York City Council, Law No. 2014/034, enacted 9 July 2014, legistar.council.nyc.gov/LegislationDetail.aspx?ID=1819346&GUID=DC534F75-60A2-4136-AA22-4D335C4F06E3 Annese, John. "Teacher Found Brutally Slain in Her Home." Staten Island Advance, 6 July 2012, p. A10."Slain Woman's Kin Want Justice." Staten Island Advance, 13 July 2012, p. A12.Annese, John. "Cold in Her Grave – And the Killer's at Large." Staten Island Advance, 2 Aug. 2012, p. A7.Annese, John. "Accused Wife Killer Hears Slurs in Court." Staten Island Advance, 15 Nov. 2012, p. A3.Donnelly, Frank. "Warrants Valid in Search of Alleged Wife-Killer's Home." Staten Island Advance, 14 Apr. 2015, p. A5.Donnelly, Frank. "Crupi Gets 25 to Life in Wife's Slaying." Staten Island Advance, 24 Sept. 2015, p. A14.Staten Island Advance. "Family of Simeonette Mapes React after Jonathan Crupi Found Guilty." YouTube, July 2015.

There's a colorist inside the Monday Club who told me this week that one brand guide edit changed everything. Same salon, same skills, same reviews. The only thing that shifted was how she showed up online. Suddenly her content performed differently, and she wasn't chasing anything new. She was just finally speaking the language the internet is actually listening for now.That's the conversation this episode. Because the way people find a salon changed, quietly, over the last few months, and most of us didn't get the memo.In this episode:What I'm calling "the Gemini effect": AI overviews now show up on more than 1 in 5 Google searches, and 68% of all searches end without a single click to any websiteThe stat that stopped me mid-research: people click through 8% of the time when there's an AI summary, versus 15% when there isn't, meaning your website traffic is quietly getting cut in halfWhy ChatGPT's 900 million weekly users matter to your salon, and why your future client might ask AI where to go before she ever opens GoogleThe two jobs of salon visibility now: being relevant to Google (the work you already know) and being known by AI (consistent details, real reviews, and content that doesn't sound like everyone else's AI-generated copy)The exact test to run today: ask ChatGPT, Claude, or Gemini the question your ideal client would ask, and see if your salon shows upThe Monday Club: Business education, community, and tools to build a salon that runs like a real business, including the full salon visibility work that gets you found by Google and known by AI.Learn more: https://www.lexilomax.com/monday-club

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Scott and Erika Forsyth plan their next series out loud — the reasons people avoid their own diabetes care, and what happens when you give each one a name. twiist - A different type of insulin pump has arrived Juice Cruise 2027 is on sale now! ABLEnow save for today's needs or invest for tomorrow Eversense CGM MiniMed Tandem Mobi ** Use code JUICEBOX to save 20% at Cozy Earth  CONTOUR NextGen smart meter and CONTOUR DIABETES app Dexcom G7 Go tubeless with Omnipod 5 or Omnipod DASH * Get your supplies from US MED  or call 888-721-1514 Touched By Type 1 Take the T1DExchange survey Apple Podcasts> Subscribe to the podcast today! The podcast is available on Spotify, Google Play, iHeartRadio, Radio Public, Amazon Music and all Android devices The Juicebox Podcast is a free show, but if you'd like to support the podcast directly, you can make a gift here or buy me a coffee. Thank you! *The Pod has an IP28 rating for up to 25 feet for 60 minutes. The Omnipod 5 Controller is not waterproof.  ** t:slim X2 or Tandem Mobi w/ Control-IQ+ technology (7.9 or newer). RX ONLY. Indicated for patients with type 1 diabetes, 2 years and older. BOXED WARNING:Control-IQ+ technology should not be used by people under age 2, or who use less than 5 units of insulin/day, or who weigh less than 20 lbs. Safety info: tandemdiabetes.com/safetyinfo Disclaimer - Nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast or read on Arden's Day is intended as medical advice. You should always consult a physician before making changes to your health plan.  If the podcast has helped you to live better with type 1 please tell someone else how to find it!  

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It's not a character flaw that you're replaying that comment, that tone, that thing you should have said — it's your mind doing its job badly. This episode breaks down what rumination actually is, why it feels productive even though it never resolves anything, and why the standard advice (stop overthinking it, just think positively) quietly makes it worse. Brett Ingram reframes the 2am replay as misdirected care — real concern with nowhere to go — and walks through three moves to redirect it: creating distance from the loop, asking whether it wants an action or a feeling, and giving it a channel out of your head. What You'll Learn in This Episode What rumination actually is, and why replaying something forty times leaves you with zero new information Why your mind loops specifically on things that feel unfinished and unsafe at the same time Why most replays are about people, not tasks — and what that says about how your brain tracks belonging The research showing rumination doesn't just fail to solve problems, it actively makes you worse at solving them Why "just stop overthinking it" and "just think positively" both backfire, and the famous experiment that proves it The reframe at the center of the episode: rumination is misdirected care, not a malfunction Three concrete moves — creating distance, asking "action or feeling," and finding a channel — plus a simple "two a.m. reset" you can use tonight Episode Timestamps [00:00] The 2am replay: reliving a conversation frame by frame [01:00] The real question — what is your mind actually trying to do? [02:00] Naming it: what rumination actually is, and why it feels productive but isn't [03:00] The "Buckner moment" — watching your worst footage on repeat [05:00] You're not broken: the Harvard study on mind-wandering and mood [06:00] Why the mind loops: unfinished and unsafe at the same time [07:00] Why most loops are social — belonging, safety, and the people around you [08:00] Susan Nolen-Hoeksema's research: rumination makes the problem harder to solve [09:00] The white bear experiment — why forcing yourself to stop backfires [10:00] The reframe: rumination is misdirected care [12:00] Move 1: Name the loop and create distance (distanced self-talk) [14:00] Move 2: Ask the one honest question — action or feeling? [17:00] Move 3: Give it a channel — say it, write it, move your body [19:00] The limits: when it's more than rumination, and when the loop is right [20:00] The Two AM Reset — a three-step practice you can use tonight Episode Summary You're an intelligent, capable adult who solves real problems all day — and yet at 2am, you're powerless against one specific conversation, replaying it frame by frame, hunting for the edit that would make it come out clean. Brett Ingram argues that this loop isn't a malfunction. It's your mind trying to protect you. It's just going about it badly. Psychologists have a name for it: rumination — the habit of responding to distress by replaying the causes, the meaning, and the what-ifs, without ever moving toward resolving anything. That's the trap. Rumination feels like processing, so it feels productive, but you can watch the same footage forty times and end up with exactly zero new information — the same trap the Fever Pitch character falls into, replaying the Buckner moment instead of living his own life. The mind loops on anything that feels unfinished and unsafe at the same time — a conversation with no clean ending, paired with something you care about (your competence, your kindness, your standing with someone) feeling at stake. Put those together, and your mind treats the moment like an active threat, refusing to file it away because filing it away feels like giving up on protecting you. Most replays are social rather than practical, because for most of human history, belonging was survival — which is why you might replay an awkward comment to a friend for a week and forget an actual mistake at work by Friday. The cruel twist, backed by the late Yale psychologist Susan Nolen-Hoeksema's decades of research, is that rumination doesn't just fail to solve the problem — it actively makes you worse at solving it, muddling your thinking and eroding the very relationships you're looping about. Brett takes apart the two most common pieces of advice — "just stop overthinking it" and "just think positively" — and shows why both backfire, using Daniel Wegner's famous 1980s "white bear" experiment: people told not to think about a white bear end up thinking about it more, not less, because suppression forces part of the mind to stand guard over the very thought it's trying to avoid. The reframe at the center of the episode: rumination is misdirected care — real concern about something that matters, aimed at a problem it can't solve by staying in your head. From there, Brett offers three moves. First, name the loop and create distance from it, using Ethan Kross's research on "distanced self-talk" — talking to yourself in the second or third person instead of "I." Second, ask the loop one honest question: is this a real action you need to take, or a feeling you need to let yourself feel? The two require opposite responses, and confusing them is why loops never end. Third, give it a channel out of your head — say it to someone, write it down, or move your body. Brett closes with two honest caveats: when the looping is relentless, trauma-linked, or pulling you somewhere dark, that's a sign to talk to a professional, not a podcast framework. And sometimes the loop is right — it's not malfunctioning, it's a messenger for a conversation you've been avoiding. The episode ends with a simple "two a.m. reset" — name it, ask action-or-feeling, pick one channel — and the reminder that the goal was never to stop caring. It's to give the caring somewhere to go. Resources Mentioned Susan Nolen-Hoeksema — Late Yale psychologist whose decades of research established that rumination impairs, rather than aids, problem-solving Daniel Wegner — Psychologist behind the 1980s "white bear" thought-suppression experiment and the concept of the "ironic process of mental control" Ethan Kross — University of Michigan psychologist and author of Chatter, whose research on "distanced self-talk" underlies the episode's first move A well-known Harvard mind-wandering study — Real-time experience-sampling research referenced in the episode finding minds wander roughly 47% of waking hours (researcher/citation not named in the source transcript — confirm before publishing, likely Killingsworth & Gilbert, "A Wandering Mind Is an Unhappy Mind," 2010) Fever Pitch — Film referenced for the scene of a character replaying his team's worst loss on repeat instead of moving on Frequently Asked Questions Why can't I stop replaying an embarrassing or painful conversation in my head? Your mind loops on things that feel both unfinished (no clean resolution) and unsafe (something you care about — your competence, your standing with someone — feels at stake). When both are true at once, your mind treats it like an active threat and keeps it "open" rather than filing it away, because filing it away feels like giving up on protecting you. What is rumination, and how is it different from normal reflection? Rumination is the habit of replaying the causes, meaning, and what-ifs of a distressing moment without ever moving toward resolving it. A lesson has an endpoint — you learn something and the thinking is done. A loop has no endpoint — you circle the same ground and arrive nowhere, no matter how many times you replay it. Why doesn't telling myself to "just stop thinking about it" work? Because suppressing a thought requires part of your mind to keep checking whether you're thinking about it — which keeps the thought alive instead of closing it. Psychologist Daniel Wegner demonstrated this with his famous "white bear" experiment: people told not to think about a white bear thought about it more than people who were never given the instruction at all. What is "distanced self-talk," and how does it help with rumination? It's talking to yourself using your own name or "you" instead of "I" — for example, "you're looping on this again" instead of "why did I say that." Researcher Ethan Kross found this small shift creates enough psychological distance to lower distress and help people see a situation more clearly, without suppressing the thought. How do I know if I'm dealing with a real action or just a feeling that needs to be felt? Ask the loop directly: is there something I actually need to do or say, or is this just a feeling I haven't let myself feel? If it's an action, write down the smallest next step — the moment there's a plan, the urge to keep replaying it tends to drain away. If it's a feeling, name it and let it be there; you can't think your way out of something that just needs to be felt. What's the fastest thing I can do at 2am when the loop starts? Try the "two a.m. reset": name the loop and step back from it ("this is a loop, not a lesson"), ask whether it's an action or a feeling and respond accordingly, then pick one channel for tomorrow — tell one person, write one page, or take one walk. Even just naming the loop is a win on its own. When is replaying a conversation actually a sign I need to talk to a professional? If the looping is relentless, tied to a trauma you keep reliving, feels intrusive and frightening, or is pulling you into a darkness that's hard to climb out of, that's beyond ordinary rumination — it's a sign to talk to a real professional, not something a framework alone is meant to fix. 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Real Monterey Car WeekIn this Mercedes People carrier Episode 447, Chrissy's dislocated pinky is Citroen better, Chris drives on some rocks, Mental is drowning in ACVW parts and Tim gets real itchy. Actually we bring on Neal Losey on to talk about Concourse d'Lemons, and why you should go check it out!Forget million-dollar hypercars. The best part of Monterey Car Week might be the cars nobody else would let onto the lawn.Five-time National Effing Champion Neal Losey joins Everyone Racers to take us inside the 2026 Concours d'Lemons, the gloriously disreputable counterpoint to the Pebble Beach Concours d'Elegance—and possibly the purest celebration of weird car culture anywhere.While Pebble Beach is polishing priceless classics, Concours d'Lemons fills the Seaside City Hall lawn with forgotten marques, questionable engineering, tiny cars, enormous drivers, former demolition-derby survivors and automotive decisions that seemed like a good idea at the time.In other words: our people.Neal tells us what it's actually like inside Concours d'Lemons during Monterey Car Week, including the packed crowds, bizarre awards, Lemons racers, rally cars, kids painting race cars, Buttercup the horse-car becoming a slide, and the Red Fang Chevy wagon arriving the most Lemons way possible: being pushed across the grass because it stopped running.That wagon has an even better ending. After winning an Index of Effluency, becoming a Red Fang tribute car and appearing at Concours, it was sold to a group of excited 22-year-old dairy farmers from Visalia preparing to become brand-new Lemons racers.That right there is why we love this community.But this is Everyone Racers, so before we reach Monterey, things get appropriately weird.We recap the Hell on Wheels Lemons Rally, including a Mitsubishi camper, a 1959 Edsel, an International Harvester, a V8-swapped RX-7, a purple Smart car and two rescue puppies. Chris and Chrissy take an old Range Rover through Colorado, where Chrissy dislocates a pinky mountain biking, Chris performs a field-expedient repair, and they continue hiking because apparently pain is merely advisory.Tim talks Pebble Beach, PGA HOPE, moving to Maine, his '59 El Camino and the rapidly expanding definition of “garage project.” Mental works on the land-speed VW and Porsche 912. Neal shares the incredible story of his mother's 1966 Mustang, bought new with six-tenths of a mile and later V8-swapped by her personally.We also hit automotive news, cheap race cars, Honda selling pieces of racing history, a spectacularly expensive Ferrari, terrible car names and the latest opportunity to make financially irresponsible racing decisions.Above all, this episode is about what Neal calls the world around Lemons: weird cars, rallies, racing, ridiculous ideas and people genuinely excited about the things they love.If you're into 24 Hours of Lemons, amateur endurance racing, low-budget motorsports, DIY race cars, classic cars, Monterey Car Week, weird automotive history or garage-built insanity, you've found your people.Because expensive cars are nice.But pure dumb joy is better.Check out Neal's Radio Shows, Morning Cup & Night Train on Demand here;https://www.kcbx.org/programs-ondemandUber Rich Guy pays too much for a stupid Ferrari (Matt Hardigee @ the Autopian)https://www.theautopian.com/someone-just-spent-40000000-on-the-first-ferrari-luce-ev-because-the-world-makes-no-sense/ Honda Will Sell And Restore Its Iconic Race Cars Through New Heritage Racing Program (Andy Kalmowitz @ Jalopnik)https://www.jalopnik.com/2235518/honda-restore-iconic-race-cars/Naming a New Vehicle Is Way Harder Than You Think (Dan Roth @ The Drive) https://www.thedrive.com/news/naming-a-new-vehicle-is-way-harder-than-you-think-and-experts-still-arent-sure-ford-got-it-rightPGA Reach Foundationhttps://www.pgareach.org/Any VW Rabbit in Stillwater MN for $3k on Racing Junk https://www.racingjunk.com/volkswagen/184812654

Welcome back to another episode of the unSeminary podcast. Today we're joined by Todd Wilson, co-founder of Exponential and a leader at Multipliers, where he helps churches and ministry leaders pursue multiplication and greater Kingdom impact. Todd has spent decades studying church planting, disciple-making, and movements, and his latest book, How Did We Get Here? Looking Back to Look Forward, explores the evolution of the American church growth movement and what it may mean for the future. Are churches working harder while reaching fewer people? Have our systems become better at producing activity than disciples? Todd challenges leaders to examine the operating system beneath modern church ministry and consider what needs to change if we want to see true reproduction and multiplication. We have a disciple-making problem. // For years, Todd has championed the goal of seeing more churches reproduce. Research once showed that fewer than 5% of U.S. churches were reproducing, and while that number has improved, multiplication remains rare. But Todd believes church planting is ultimately an outcome of a deeper issue: most churches do not have a functional culture of disciple-making. If disciples aren’t reproducing disciples, churches will struggle to reproduce churches. Reproduction has to become generational. // Multiplication begins when reproduction continues beyond the first generation. One disciple makes another disciple, who then makes another, and the process keeps going. The same is true with churches. A church plants a church, which plants another church, which plants another. Once reproduction moves across multiple generations, addition becomes multiplication and the potential for movement begins to emerge. The church growth system has slowly changed. // Todd’s research traces roughly 75 years of church growth history, beginning with missionary Donald McGavran. McGavran originally studied why some churches on the mission field grew while others did not and developed principles aimed at helping missionaries reach more people. Over time, those ideas moved into the American church and blended with seeker-sensitive ministry, the megachurch movement, purpose-driven strategies, multisite, church planting networks, and other innovations. Much good came from these eras, but Todd believes the system gradually shifted toward institutional and programmatic growth. Good intentions can still create the wrong outcomes. // Todd is careful not to blame previous generations of church leaders. Many of the people who shaped modern church ministry were deeply evangelistic and sincerely wanted to reach people. Yet over time, the dominant definition of success increasingly became bigger attendance, larger programs, and expanding organizations. The unintended result is a consumer-driven model that can attract people effectively but struggles to produce disciples who reproduce. The angst leaders feel is real. // Todd hears a growing frustration among pastors: churches are spending more money, employing more staff, and working harder while seeing less fruit. Even churches that appear successful can sense something isn’t right beneath the surface. Todd believes much of that angst comes from trying to produce multiplication through an operating system designed primarily for addition. Naming the problem is an important first step toward changing it. Leaders must model what they want reproduced. // Todd believes transformation has to begin with senior leaders. If disciple-making is going to become the church’s growth engine, lead pastors and elders must personally participate in a simple, reproducible disciple-making process. Rather than merely preaching about discipleship, pastors should be able to name the people they are actively discipling and allow those relationships to shape the way they lead and teach. Keep the process simple and reproducible. // Whatever model a church chooses, Todd believes it must be simple enough for anyone to reproduce. The goal isn’t another sophisticated program but a way of following Jesus that can move naturally from person to person. The same approach should work for a lead pastor, a volunteer, or even a teenager. Simplicity increases the possibility of multiplication. Give the next generation permission to experiment. // Todd isn’t calling churches to abandon everything they’ve inherited. Instead, he encourages leaders to learn from the past, retain what is fruitful, and recognize that the current operating system may be losing effectiveness. Churches should create space for younger leaders to experiment, learn, and discover more reproducible approaches to disciple-making without being forced to preserve every assumption of previous generations. To learn more about Todd Wilson, visit multipliers.org. You can also download a free PDF or audio version of How Did We Get Here? Looking Back to Look Forward at church-growth.org or pick up a paper copy on Amazon.com. In addition, check out Todd Wilson’s conversation with Carey Nieuwhof, and the interview A Simple & Scalable Way to Reproduce Christians with David Putnam. Thank You for Tuning In! There are a lot of podcasts you could be tuning into today, but you chose unSeminary, and I'm grateful for that. If you enjoyed today's show, please share it by using the social media buttons you see at the left hand side of this page. Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they're extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and you can bet that I read every single one of them personally! Lastly, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! Thank You to This Episode’s Sponsor: Portable Church Your church is doing really well right now, and your leadership team is looking for solutions to keep momentum going! It could be time to start a new location. Maybe you have hesitated in the past few years, but you know it's time to step out in faith again and launch that next location. Portable Church has assembled a bundle of resources to help you leverage your growing momentum into a new location by sending a part of your congregation back to their neighborhood on Mission. This bundle of resources will give you a step-by-step plan to launch that new or next location, and a 5 minute readiness tool that will help you know your church is ready to do it! Click here to watch the free webinar “Launch a New Location in 150 Days or Less” and grab the bundle of resources for your church! Episode Transcript Rich Birch — Hey friends, welcome to the unSeminary podcast. I am so glad that you have tuned in today for this reason, friends, lean in. um I want you to be a part of the conversation that we’re having today. The leader that we’ve got on the phone, on the I don’t know why say the phone because we have not been on phones for podcasts in, you know, 10 years, but on the line is really pressing on an issue that I know that a large portion, you know, almost 90 percent of the churches in the country need to be doing what we’re talking about today. And they’re not. And I really want you to lean in and learn from Todd Wilson. Rich Birch — If you do not know Todd Wilson, he has been the founding and co-founding member of a number of faith-based organizations, including Exponential and Multipliers. He has designed a number, and been a part of the launch of a multiple of national church planting networks. He’s currently a team member, or team leader at Multipliers and serves leaders and ministries who are pursuing multiplication, helping them develop vision and strategy ultimately for a 100 X impact. You know that I love that. Rich Birch — Recently, he wrote a book that caught my attention that I want to dive in on and kind of um unpack some of the core lessons for us today. It’s called, How Did We Get Here? Looking Back to Look Forward. And it’s really looking at the whole conversation, American church growth movement. Todd, welcome to the podcast. So glad you’re here.Todd Wilson — Rich, it’s great to be here with you. I’m really looking forward to this conversation.Rich Birch — Yeah, me too. So why don’t we start with kind of giving us a picture of Multipliers and the work that you’re focused on now, kind of set the context for us.Todd Wilson — Sure. It’s probably good to have the context, you know, at at my core, my own personal calling. I am an entrepreneurial engineer at my core. I love to envision, envisage opportunities, seek strategies and opportunities of the future. And so where I like to do it anywhere, there’s potential for a hundred X kingdom impact. And that’s what gets me in trouble often is the, wherever there’s potential for a hundred X kingdom impact.Todd Wilson — When I came out of the marketplace over 25 years ago into full-time ministry, the most natural hundred X place for me, in addition to being in the local church was, was church planting. I was just drawn to church planting. I got to spend almost 20 years, ah you know, leading Exponential and co-founding there.Todd Wilson — And in recent years, really trying to get even more focused really on the 100x impact. I want to spend my next decade as I’m getting older here, you know, what’s it look like for every hour, for every dollar, for every bit of energy, to see 100x return.Todd Wilson — And so the idea of Multipliers, and it’s a small team of us that, you know, we have a definite bias within the kingdom space to the disciple-making as the mission and engine of the church. And what’s it look like to get back to Jesus style disciple making. But then church planting and multiplication, what does it look like to be doing things that that are even capable of reproduction that can lead to multiplication and ultimately movement. So our goal is to just help champion at the personal level through personal calling, at the church level through disciple making and cultures of disciple making that can ultimately produce movements.Todd Wilson — And so we are a champion and advocate for that.Rich Birch — That’s fantastic. You and I are are similarly wired. And over the years, you know I’ve heard people talk about, you know, and they always they’ll do like a series at a church on spiritual gifts. And I’ve often wondered because of the kinds of things I’ve been involved in, if, you know, if I have some sort of apostolic gift, just because of the stuff I found myself doing and, you know, launching campuses and all that.Rich Birch — And it’s interesting that gift over the years I’ve heard, which is similar to the kind of work you’ve been doing over the years is the only gift that I’ve ever noticed that preachers, they seem to talk down about it. And they’re like, stop starting things like, you know, they’re like, they always, you know, are like on the negative side of, you know, being the guy who wants to be entrepreneurial and see new things.Rich Birch — And that’s a part of what I admire about you and the good work you’ve done. When you were at Exponential over those, you know, with you that you co-founded, you know, that almost 20 years, you know, they had this, they saw some amazing things happen there under your leadership, where this idea of moving church reproduction from under 5%, really trying to push us towards 16%.Rich Birch — So for people that are unaware of this, I think this is good context to kind of take a step back and talk about why that number, why are we actually, why are you giving decades of your life towards this idea of trying to move towards 16%? What do we mean by that when you you know talk about that? Because I think that’s a good foundational idea for today’s conversation.Todd Wilson — Yeah. I think it’s important it to understand, again, context for me. I didn’t grow up a Christian. I never had a dream to be in full-time vocational ministry. I’ve never wanted to be a lead pastor of anything. You know, ministry was the farthest thing from my mind growing up. When you’re asking kids, what do you want do when you grow up? Todd Wilson — So when God brought me into full-time vocational ministry, and I’m going to say kicking and screaming, I wanted to go start a company. I wanted to go make money. I wanted to go change the world. And so coming into full-time vocational ministry, why in the world would I want to see anything except movements happening? Rich Birch — That’s good.Todd Wilson — We read about movements in the New Testament. Why do I want to be personally satisfied if God’s calling me into a new life of ministry with anything less than seeing movements?Todd Wilson — And so that was my context of stepping in and and leading at Exponential and what was driving us. And your question from 5% to 16%. Well, Houston, we have a problem.Todd Wilson — If movements are multiplication, and multiplication is generational reproduction, and we, at the time we were starting Exponential, there were less than 5% of U.S. churches were reproducing. You just got to let that sink in.Rich Birch — Yeah.Todd Wilson — 95% of churches just 25 years ago, 95% of churches in the U.S. are not reproducing. It’s physically impossible, both mathematically and biblically, to see multiplication and ultimately movements if less than 5% of churches are reproducing.Todd Wilson — So the answer to where’s the 5 to 16, for me personally, God’s called me into a new life and a new ministry. I don’t want to be satisfied with just status quo, but the state of the U.S. church is such that we physically can’t see 100x impact in the operating system of how things are working. Todd Wilson — So the 5 to 16 was very simple. Let’s measure where we’re at. And so the 16% sociologists say that if you can get 16% of an audience acting a certain way, behaving a certain way, it will become normative for everyone else. I like to say, if you’re in a room and you start quacking like a duck to talk, if you can get 16% of the people in the audience quacking like a duck, then everybody’s going to communicate by quacking like a duck.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — And so it just became a conviction. Let’s move the needle from less than 5% to 16%. And then the language we would use is, at 16%, healthy church reproduction would become such a normative thing that we would see multiplication happening.Todd Wilson — Now, the little bit of an elephant in the room before we move on, church planting is just the outcome. So that 5% number, it’s an outcome of the system and what’s happening.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — The more ornery number is that the national studies that we did on what percentage of U.S. churches have a disciple-making culture. That’s also less than 5%.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — So 95% of churches don’t have a functional mission of disciple-making, and that’s their normative growth engine through disciple-making. So in reality, we have a disciple-making problem, not a church-planting problem. And so those two became very tied together, as as will become evident as we have this interview.Rich Birch — Yeah, absolutely. and And just can you define generational reproduction for folks that are listening in? When you when you when you say that, like, hey, we’re trying to move churches towards generational reproduction, kind of just unpack that a little bit more.Todd Wilson — Yeah, let’s let’s start at the personal level of disciple-making. If one person makes a disciple of another person, you’ve got one generation. If that person goes on to make another disciple two generations, that person makes a disciple three generations. We see that biblically. We see that in the leadership pipeline with Paul, that you know we need to see disciples who make disciples who make disciples.Todd Wilson — Once you get to the third or fourth generation of something reproducing itself, if you drew that on paper, one becomes two, two becomes four, four becomes eight, eight becomes 16. That is an exponential or a multiplication curve. So all you have to do to go from addition to multiplication is have healthy reproduction broad and wide multiple generations into the future.Todd Wilson — Now we just take that to the church level, a church that plants a church that plants a church that plants a church broad and wide.Todd Wilson — Now you’ve gone from one church to 16 churches. And now look at the collective attendance of those 16 churches. That’s what you call healthy growth. That’s what you call multiplication when you keep reproducing it over and over.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s so good. And there’s actually been progress against this. This is one of the things that I’ve loved as a person just sitting on the outside looking in as you and the team, you know, Dave and the broader Exponential community have really been hammering away at this. You know, we’re not at 16% yet, but we’re seeing progress, which is which is amazing.Todd Wilson — Right. It’s in the studies that we did, and it’s been repeated a couple of times, the needle has moved to at least 7%. That may not sound like a lot, but if you go take the number of churches we’re talking about…Rich Birch — Yes.Todd Wilson — …and that needle moving from less than 5% to 7%. And we’re not taking credit for all that at Exponential. Rich Birch — Right. Todd Wilson — We’re getting to ride a wave that really started around 2000. Prior to 2000, denominations planted churches, not really churches or networks. We saw the birth of networks around 2000 in the U.S. It’s hard for people to realize, but like in the church planting world, groups like City to City and GlocalNet and Acts 29 and ARC and Church Multiplication Network and Stadia and New Thing Network, none of them existed.Rich Birch — Right. Right.Todd Wilson — Literally in a five-year time period, we saw the birth of all these church planting networks, and that happened to coincide with that we saw that need to start Exponential to serve those networks.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — So We we were a little bit the right group at the right place, advocating for the right thing.Todd Wilson — And I do think that generally the the wonderful thing is that as that needle is starting to move and the visibility is getting more and more, the next generation wants it. Rich Birch — Yes. Yeah, I would agree.Todd Wilson — They want the scorecard of that. So I feel very optimistic that we’re still a ways away from 16%, but the needle is moving in the right direction.Rich Birch — Yeah, I would echo that too. I think there is, um you know, one of the couple years ago, I had one of those ages in my life flip over with zero on the end that you kind of notice and you reflect back on life a little bit. And I would say one of the things I’ve noticed over, you know, almost 30 years of ministry is this issue is has become more normative. Like it’s it’s a part of the conversation. It’s not that everyone’s doing it, but it’s in the dialogue, which I think is is wonderful.Rich Birch — Well, I, so you know, there’s, you interact with a lot of church leaders across the country. You interact with a lot of people, you have a pulse on a lot of, you know, what’s going on. And there’s a growing sense, you have flagged that there’s a growing sense among leaders that there’s just something wrong. It’s like, you know, there’s like a stink in the bottom of our, our, garbage that’s like, oh it’s a little bit stinky. It’s not like overwhelming, but we can’t put our finger on exactly what that is. Rich Birch — They can’t necessarily name it, but we feel it. We kind of see that there’s maybe something in the way we’re doing what we’re doing that isn’t working. What are you hearing as you sit across the table from church leaders in across the country, you know, around all of these things that we’re talking about?Todd Wilson — Let me describe it a couple of different ways. I think the the word I would put on it is an angst. I think if you look at the definition of an angst, there’s a there’s a growing and an underlying angst. um I’m going to say, if I’m descriptive of the angst, that might not be the way people would exactly say it but it’s how I translate what I’m hearing.Todd Wilson — We are working a lot harder to reach less people and we don’t like the cultural Christian product we’re getting. We’re working a lot harder. We’re spending more money to reach fewer people. And we’re just having this angst that the product we’re producing is a little bit too much consumer cultural Christian as we’re working harder and spending more money. And that leaves somebody full time, know, if I mean, if you’re a full time vocational pastor, there’s an angst that sits in the middle of that dynamic going on. Todd Wilson — My mentor and friend, Robert Lewis, who led Fellowship Bible Church in Little Rock for years, Robert’s handed off the leadership back in 2005. Robert describes it this way. He did the foreword on my recent book, and when he read and reviewed the book, he said, Todd, oh my goodness, this is first and foremost a walk down history lane. It’s like going back and looking at history. Todd Wilson — But he said, here’s the thing. I had this angst in 2005. Everything was up and to the right. We were growing. We were doing new campuses. We had started a church planting. Like we’re doing all of the stuff. People are turning to us. They’re looking at what we’re doing. We had started a leadership conference. And I just had this angst that something wasn’t right.Todd Wilson — And he said, I couldn’t name it. He said, I needed a therapist. But where does a megachurch pastor who’s having nothing but success with up and to the right, who’s feeling angst about the system, where do you go for therapy in that? He’s like, I didn’t know whether to feel like I was being ungrateful or what.Todd Wilson — And his words were, as you’ve traced the 75 years of the church growth movement and its evolution into a consumer-driven operating system, you have named my angst. I wish I would have had this book in 2005 to name my angst because half the battle is getting our hands around understanding why we’re feeling the way we do.Rich Birch — Yeah, I was talking to denominational leader within the last year to kind of add a bit more flavor even to that angst, who was saying, and this is a fantastic denomination, you know, Jesus loving, you know, fantastic group of people um and have, you know, very similar what you’re saying, like lots of good things going on.Rich Birch — And this was one of those like, After dinner conversations, you know, long ah a long ways away from a bunch of leaders, we were just chatting on the sideline. And he said, you know, the interesting thing, when you look at our tribe, his movement, he rattled off all their stats. We have a certain number of churches. We have a certain number of pastors. We have a certain number of, you know, baptisms every year. It rattles all that off.Rich Birch — And he said, you know, if you were to look at where we were 20 years ago, the number of churches is the same, the number of, and rattled off all these stats that are the same. Like we’re baptizing the same number of people, the attendance is the same, the the like all these things. He said, the only thing that’s gone up in the last 20 years is we’ve doubled our staff head count. There’s twice as many staff today as there was. And when I read, heard about your book and you talk about this angst, I was like, ooh, that’s exactly what he was describing. He’s like, wait a second. what’s happening here. And him as a denominational leader, he had the same read, hey, there’s something wrong with the way we set this thing up. Rich Birch — So your book, let’s actually dive into a little bit. It starts really at 70 year arc from Donald McGavron from 1955, all the way to today. And so for a leader who’s never really stepped back and thought about the history of like, what, how did we get here? It’s the name of your book. Why does knowing what got us to where we are today, this kind of consumer operating system that you describe, why does, how does understanding that help us as we think about the future?Todd Wilson — It’s a really good question. And I’m not sure, honestly, that I when I, when I set out to write this book, that, that that was even driving me to begin with, but very quickly that became the, I realized that’s why I need to write this book.Todd Wilson — So let, let me explain. And I need to give you a little bit of background to explain, because it’s an important question.Rich Birch — Yep, yep, for sure.Todd Wilson — So when I think about the moment that, that I realized we had a problem. Like that that, okay, we’re on this trajectory, things are moving the right direction to the 16%, and I’m back in the leadership of Exponential now. And I’m realizing, oh my goodness, we really do have a problem. And here’s here was what that looked like. Todd Wilson — I believed we had started learning communities and we had very vibrant learning communities And our learning communities got started because we felt like we need to shift the paradigm of people’s measure of success in the scorecard of church. It was very much about we need to shift paradigm. Alan Hirsch was involved with this on how do we shift from just growing large things to growing decentralized things that saturate. And it was very much about scorecard.Todd Wilson — And if you think about it, we’re wanting to move the needle from 5% to 16%. That’s a scorecard thing. So our initiating event was scorecard. But as we got into these learning communities, which in my opinion were the best things we were doing at Exponential. I mean, they were six to eight month learning journeys and we would rock people’s paradigm.Todd Wilson — We really would. People would go through it and be like, Oh my goodness, I got to have a different view of success in the church.Rich Birch — Right. yeahTodd Wilson — And guess what? They’d go home and Sunday’s coming. Rich Birch — Right. Todd Wilson — There’s, services to run, there’s people to pastor, there’s things to do. And the aha moment for me came, Rich, when I realized the the whole definition of insanity, that if you just keep doing the same thing over and over and hope for a different outcome, but that’s insanity. And here I am trying to lead a national organization to see a change in scorecard to move the needle to 16%.Todd Wilson — And I remember the day that I realized we’re not going to get there with the operating system we have in place in church right now. This operating system is not capable of getting us to the 16% number.Todd Wilson — That was a personal crisis. I’m leading an organization that’s up and to the right that the needle is moving. But as a futurist, I’m realizing we’re not going to get where we need to be with the operating system in the church. So the the operating system part was what drove me to start writing this book. I’ll let you ask a question there, and then we’ll circle back to the how does it relate to understanding how we got here, though.Rich Birch — Yeah, so ah just to underline what you’re saying there, um you know in in other conversations, I’ve heard leaders say, you know it’s like, um you know what you know what you reach people with is what you end up keeping them with. And so if what I hear you saying, just putting, I think, other language around it, but correct me, is kind of a consumer-oriented or a consumer cultural operating system that we’ve we’ve used as a church… Todd Wilson — Right.Rich Birch — …you know, obviously by definition, if you ah use a um consumption-based model, that doesn’t, leave you it’s very difficult to turn around and say, okay, now become a multiplier. You know, we got you here as a consumer. Okay, now how do we make you a multiplier? Is that the core pain?Todd Wilson — It is. And Rich, you’re painting the picture of why looking back to understand how we got here is important. If it’s true, that are ah If it’s true, and I want to suggest people ought to go look at it for themselves, that the underlying operating system that has evolved over the last 75 years, it’s not where it started with Donald McGavern in 1955. And there was never bad intentions by any of the good people through the 70 years.Rich Birch — Yeah, right.Todd Wilson — We have evolved from what was originally one thing. into a consumer model that is way more focused on success is growing big, success is making converts, not necessarily disciples. And we we can diagnose that if there’s a problem today, and I suggest there is a problem today, then how we got here and understanding how over 70 years, what was intended to be one thing, gradually (like the frog getting boiled in cold water) turned into something else.Todd Wilson — We’ve got to go through the the, if we really want to change the operating system, and I’ve seen how hard it is, guys can have the paradigm shift. We need to change. Then they go back home into the operating system that they’re operating in. And it is really, really hard to just throw off one operating system and embrace another oneTodd Wilson — And I wouldn’t even encourage people to do that. Don’t go home and just change your operating system overnight. But if you do want to make thoughtful, progressive change, the best way to do it is to start by going back and learn the lesson of how did we get where we are?Rich Birch — Yeah.Todd Wilson — How did things get off track to where to where we are?Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s good.Todd Wilson — And that’s what ended you know, I started out the book really to go after understanding the operating system itself. And very quickly came to the conclusion, oh, we I’m not sure how we’re going to move to a new operating system if people don’t go through the hard work of looking back and understanding how well-intentioned people over time have delivered for us what we have today in a flawed system.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s good. You know, I know, again, from my own personal experience, not to bring this back to me, but to my own personal experience, again, it’s been interesting to see similar patterns. You know, every couple years, there’s like some new idea that comes up in the church. And oftentimes I’m like, yeah, this is just like of rehash of a thing I saw 10 years ago or 15 years ago or 20 years ago.Rich Birch — It’s like, oh, this is is brand new. It’s like, ah, it’s echoes of things we’ve seen in the past. So why don’t we just kind of give people a flyover or a walkover of the kind of eras that you kind of define as you went through the book, just to give people a high level. Rich Birch — Ultimately friends, you know, I’m encouraging you to to do two things out of today. One is to pick up, I think this could be a great book for you and your team to go through. You and your leadership team, buy copies of this, read it. I think it could be an interesting book for you or, and go and listen to Todd’s interview with Carey as well. Carey just takes longer in his podcast and has more time. So there’s going to be, there’s lots packed into that as well. Rich Birch — But why don’t you kind of give us a flyover of the eras? And then maybe when you think about each one of those, something that was like, really positive that came from that area something like hey there’s something good there or maybe there’s something there that we’ve got to be cautious about as we think about the future.Todd Wilson — Yeah. And just to be clear, Rich, you know this, ah I’m a local church guy. My calling is a local church. I’m still on staff at a local church. I love the local church. So this part of the, difficulty for me in spending two years and over a hundred hours of interviews and putting this timeline of history together is I love the church.Todd Wilson — And I I, don’t know that I’d be sitting here talking to you if it weren’t for several of these eras I’m getting ready to name to you. So you’ve got really, I think a common thread through across these areas as we jump into them is typically apostolic, evangelistically driven leaders who really want to reach people. Hell is real. Lost people are going there. We got to reach them. And I think that’s the driving factor across all these eras is well-intentioned people…Todd Wilson — And if I can start with the end point, I think we’ve sort of co-opted the more holistic disciple-making growth engine that’s capable of generational disciple-making with strategies for institutional programmatic growth that are not capable of reproduction. They’re very good at growing large things and reaching lots of people, but not necessarily making, you know, through relational disciple making, disciples who make disciples who plant churches that plant churches.Todd Wilson — So here’s how I would do the flyover. When I got started writing this history, I thought I was doing one chapter of this history in another book. Rich Birch — I love it.Todd Wilson — And one chapter turned into two chapters and three chapters. And eventually my editor said, Todd, you just need to do a full book.Rich Birch — Well, that’s a book.Todd Wilson — And it ends up turning into the longest book I’ve written because of the 75 year history. And ah Rich, seriously, don’t, people don’t need to feel bad if they don’t know all the history. I, I’m like a where’s Waldo through a lot of this history. I’ve had a seat at the table for a lot of the stuff through these eras.Todd Wilson — Until writing this book, I did not know how all the dots connected across these eras. And then it became there were so many, oh, oh, oh. So here’s here’s the shot I’ll give to you. Ididn’t really I knew I had heard of Donald McGavern. I knew he was considered the father of the modern church growth movement. I’ve never, prior to writing this book, read about him, gone off and studied him. Gary McIntosh is his by is Donald McGavern’s biographer. So I spent a lot of time with Gary. He pointed me in the right directions.Todd Wilson — And here’s what I learned. Donald McGavern, born in the late 1800s, international missionary in India. um His father and mother were missionaries in India. He came from the mission field and his context was the international mission field. Todd Wilson — Now, get this as the starting point in 1955. He’s an international missionary. He has planted 15 churches himself in his career, none of which ever grew to more than 100 people. So you got to let that sink in. The father of the modern church growth movement planted 15 churches, none of which grew to more than 100. And yet he’s the father of what we consider now the modern church growth movement.Rich Birch — Right. Interesting.Todd Wilson — So the kind the context was, he became fascinated after reading a research report on why some churches in provinces in India were growing and others weren’t. Sometimes churches in the same village that were growing and just down the street, others weren’t.Todd Wilson — So he kind of took a scientific approach, the study of church growth. Like let’s study this like it’s a science, like what’s causing some churches to grow. And he he had very clear conclusions out of that, but you know, a handful of conclusions of what’s causing that.Todd Wilson — And so ultimately, when he came off the mission field by 1960, 61, he started the Church Growth Institute, not for U.S. pastors, but for international missionaries who were on furlough to come home and learn about church growth principles that they could take back to the international mission field. He had no interest in U.S. pastors. Todd Wilson — So for multiple years in the 60s, he was doing that. And when Fuller wanted to start their International School of World Missions, one of their best faculty member ratings was Donald McGavern. So they invited him to come become the founding dean of the the Fuller School of World Missions.Todd Wilson — But he only agreed to do it if he could bring the Church Growth Institute with him. So by 1970, you’ve got that up and running. He’s built his team. He invited a guy called C. Peter Wagner off the mission field to come be on his faculty staff. And in 1970, 71, Peter Wagner convinced Donald McGavern that they ought to run one class for U.S. pastors on church growth.Todd Wilson — And the rest is history. That one class, it just turned into, Imean, people were very interested in it. Denominations became interested. And literally within a couple of years, you’ve got this up and to the right people latching on to church growth science.Todd Wilson — And that starts the process, you know. Even from the beginning, you start to see a little bit of co-opting away from McGavern’s things. Not fast, but a little bit. Todd Wilson — So right on the heels of that, in the 70s then, you’ve got this young kid, ah Bill Hybels… Rich Birch — Right. Todd Wilson — …who’s running you know going to go into business and he’s running a street ministry with youth. He’s being mentored by Robert Shuler.Rich Birch — Yes.Todd Wilson — And Shuler’s got the possibility thinking, think outside the box, very apostolic. Turns out Shuler not only mentors Hybels, but there’s some mentoring of Rick Warren. And so you’ve got the birth of the seeker-sensitive era then.Todd Wilson — You know, if the first era was the McGavern-Roots era, now we’ve got the seeker-sensitive era. And, you know, that can be a positive or a negative stigma. For me, in 1976, I’m in middle school going into high school, not a Christian, live down the street from this movie theater called the Willow Creek Movie Theater. Rich Birch — Right. Right.Todd Wilson — And my mom drags us kicking and screaming into the Willow Creek Movie Theater. We were the avatar family for the Seeker Sensitive family movement.Rich Birch — Right. Movement.Todd Wilson — From Seeker Sensitive, you get out of that the what Peter Drucker and Bob Buford would call the large church phenomena and the birth of Leadership Network then with the large church phenomena, which became the megachurch phenomena.Todd Wilson — You’ve got Rick Warren and his masterful work with the purpose-driven church. Rick’s able to put handles on this church growth part, but Rick was a disciple of Donald McGavern, so he’s got the McGavern roots. Todd Wilson — You’ve got Hybels with the Shuler roots. And in that 80 into the 90s with the birth of the Global Leadership Summit and the other, you’ve you’ve got this very influential large church phenomena, purpose-driven, being shaped by, you know, in large part, the combination of Leadership Network, Hybels, Rick Warren… And that brings us up to you know about 2000. Todd Wilson — And just as a flyover, I would then call the era of the externally focused church. You’ve got the rapid fire birth of church planting networks. You’ve got multi-site. People don’t realize prior to 2000, there’s less than 50 multi-site churches.Rich Birch — Yeah.Todd Wilson — Leadership Network engages it in 2000. And from 2000 to 2010 you see an up, I mean, radically up and to the right.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — The externally focused church, same thing. Rick Russo has book right in that time period. The missional guys, right in that time period. So the common theme between these church planning networks, the missional guys, the externally focused guys, the multi-site, is we’re now looking outside of ourselves.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — But in large part, we’re still looking outside of ourselves as growth strategies for our things. If you really go look under the hood of a lot of those.Todd Wilson — And then I would say coming out of the externally or outwardly focused era, 2015 to 2025, I just have no other name than the disruption era. As I was doing the research on this book, um I had to stop at like 12 major disruptions that happened in that time period with COVID right in the middle. Rich Birch — Right. Todd Wilson — And so that’s the…Rich Birch — Political upheaval. There’s a bunch in there in that same, you know, yeah, that there’s been a schism.Todd Wilson — You’ve got deconstruction of faith.Rich Birch — Yep.Todd Wilson — You’ve got cynicism. You’ve got platformed individualism with the birth of social media. Now anybody can be their own, you know, playlist influencer. There’s just so many disruptive factors in there.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — Now you look at all those disruptive factors with the evolution of what’s happening in the church and the church operating system. And it leaves us on a very shaky foundation at that point that, you know It kind of brings us up to where we are now, and you can either be a pessimist at that or an optimist. And I choose the optimist path that we’re poised for a new day and a new operating system is my prayer.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s amazing. And friends, as you can see, you just got a real thin slice of, you know, just all the various phases that you do such a great job unpacking for us to help us really understand how we we got here. It was It was wild, it’s wild thinking about a lot of that because I remember, you know, various phases of those over the last particularly 25 years, you know, seeing that up close and seeing, you know, kind of the impact that has had and then wondering about the future and where we go from here. Rich Birch — So thinking about the future and, you know, obviously you’ve, um you know, you’ve you’re making a clear clarion call around, hey, we’ve got to think differently than the consumer driven operating system. We’ve got to we’ve got to come up with something different. After all of that, um and we’ve kind of covered this already, but I’d love to make sure we kind of hone on this, have this resonate with people that are listening in. Why is it so difficult for that system, for the consumer-driven operating system to to really ultimately produce healthy reproduction and multiplication and in churches? What’s structurally ah broken about it? And what what would be some first steps we should be thinking about change to the future as we think about, okay, where we go from here? Todd Wilson — Yeah.Rich Birch — How do we, you know, build on the positive stuff, but also look for something different as we look to the future? Todd Wilson — Yeah. I think we don’t have to make it complex, Rich, if we just keep trying to come back to simplicity for a minute. Like the system that has evolved has actually become pretty complex when you think about it. I would say if we could just focus on, I’m not even going to say changing overnight, but if if I’m a lead pastor, if I’m on staff at a church, I’m really focused on disciple-making as the core mission and growth engine of the church. Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — Like what is it, most churches are going to say our mission is disciple making or it’s going to be part of it. They’re going to say we have a culture of disciple making, but it is not what the data shows. Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — You know, again, 95% of churches do not have a culture of disciple-making. They have a culture of program activity. Rich Birch — Right. Todd Wilson — And so I’m not an advocate of changing everything overnight, but if you want to shift from a culture of program activity to a true culture of disciple-making‚ it has to start with the lead minister having a simple, reproducible, in-practice disciple-making approach that is being modeled for the… I don’t mean discipling the staff. I mean there’s people the lead pastor are personally discipling, modeling that simple, reproducible process. Todd Wilson — Where we’re starting to see traction and where I think the breakthroughs are going to come in getting us to the new operating system of the future, it is going to start, and it’s it’s happening right now, with pastors who say, you know, if I’m really honest, I’ve been preaching the last 52 weeks. I’ve been leading meetings. I’ve been doing, I’ve been doing, I’ve done, but I’m not really personally making disciples. Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — And I think it’s going to start with the lead pastor, the elders, senior people saying, If we could only have one metric of success in the next 12 months, it’s not growth, it’s not the activities we do, it’s not the new building. If we only have one measure of success, it’s how many disciples have I personally, relationally been involved in? me Not how many have I preached to, not how many outreach events have we done where we’ve got, but what have I personally done on the disciple-making front?Todd Wilson — And I don’t want to make it more complicated than that. That’s what we’re missing right now.Rich Birch — That’s good. No, that’s really good. Yeah, that’s good. I love the practical takeaway of, um yeah, it’s like, who are the three people in your life that you’re actually discipling? Let’s start there. Rich Birch — So this is kind of a sidebar to it.Todd Wilson — Can I just look real quick?Rich Birch — Yes. Yep. Push back. Yep.Todd Wilson — So David Putman, who’s part of what we do at Multipliers, David’s longtime kingdom guy.Rich Birch — Yep.Todd Wilson — You should have him on as an interview here. David is completely focused on what he calls the 5-3-2 right now. Five simple reproducible principles, three rhythms, and and two relationships. So it’s a triad of three people that just keeps reproducing.Todd Wilson — Anybody can do it. A ninth grader can do it. A lead pastor can do it. I’m watching this model take different groups by storm right now. And whether you embrace the 5-3-2 or some other model like it, the key is going to be having a simple, reproducible process that works for the lead pastor and anyone else in the church. Same model.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s good. Yeah we had David on back in 2020 and I’m like we got to get him back on uh the podcast. Rich Birch — So sidebar issue, so this is not something we’d you know kicked around ahead of time but it’s kind of adjacent to this. So I am not a I'm not a teaching pastor. Similar to you. I’m not, i never saw myself as a lead pastor. I’ve always been in the like, Hey, my job’s to be in the second chair, cheering for other lead pastors. I’ve worked for um really over my career as an XP three incredible communicator lead pastors who it would appear like, and it is, they, all three of them, God gifted them with this ability to speak and gather crowds. Like that was like core. And, and I, I’ve spent a lot of time like listening to them and watching them. And part of it just appears to be like, it’s definitely a gifting that’s going on there.Rich Birch — And I, over time, ah questions like the following would come up that I would I'd struggle with, where it’s like, it would appear like this person can gather a lot of people, and we can build more chairs in front of that person and people will hear that person and they’ll they’ll take steps towards Jesus. Rich Birch — And I understand that that’s not, or that’s not a full picture of discipleship. That’s one piece of the discipleship puzzle, but it’s not… And the the kind of organizational pressure is, okay, let’s keep figuring out how to build more seats in front of this person and and their gift. How do we get them to leverage their gift well? Rich Birch — And to be honest, I’ve been in conversations where I’ve been the voice of like, I want to line 100,000 people up in front of this person to hear this person speak because I think the way they talk about Jesus is different than what I’ve heard other people say and it it’ll make a difference. Rich Birch — That is, I think, at the center of this tension that there’s some there seems to be something about the gift of teaching that it’s not, I don’t know whether it’s not evenly distributed, or there’s like a brokenness in humanity and we only want to listen to certain kinds of people. I don’t know whether it’s one of those two things. So all I’ve done is describe a problem and I’m going to say, comment on it, Todd.Todd Wilson — Yeah. I think you’re right on the mark. I think I want to affirm that, you know, I mean, everybody has their definitions. I believe the preaching role is, and and the teaching and reaching is a piece of the discipleship equation.Rich Birch — Yep.Todd Wilson — I think if I’m defining the problem statement, We have made it the biggest piece… Rich Birch — Sure. Todd Wilson — …instead of a piece or a playing a role in it. So I think the issue is that how big we’ve made it. Like you, I was an executive pastor for years. And when I look back on that time, my role was not about holistic relational disciple making that could be the growth engine of the church. and it It was how do we get as many people in seats in the auditorium on Sunday? We need great marketing. We need great outreach.Todd Wilson — And again, I think all of those play a role in the disciple-making process ultimately. But let’s just be honest, that’s not disciple-making itself. It plays a role in the disciple-making process.Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — So the elephant in the room here is, how do we scale disciple-making? If I if I could be If I could be the czar of this, I’m not, but if I could be, I want the genius at the end. I want the unique gifts that are represented across the whole mosaic and the church, starting with that dynamic creature that can attract the crowd. I want it. Todd Wilson — But I also want those senior leaders of the organization I really want to be focused on what is our growth engine and what is our holistic disciple-making process. Rich Birch — Right.Todd Wilson — And the number one thing I want from those senior leaders is not their unique gift. I want their modeling, their personal modeling of the simple, reproducible, disciple-making growth engine that anybody in the church can do. Rich Birch — That’s good.Todd Wilson — I mean, that that preaching gift you’re talking about, that that one lead pastor can do, how many other people in the church can do that?Rich Birch — Right. Not many. Yep.Todd Wilson — So there’s their paradigm. So we need them doing it.Rich Birch — Yes.Todd Wilson — But I would argue what we need them doing even more than that inspiration is modeling the simple reproducible disciple making thing that people know that’s how we’re going to win here.Rich Birch — Yeah. Well, and I’ve that lines up, I’ve said it at probably, well, not a thousand times, but hundreds of times with lead pastors over the years that in the context of this conversation, I would rather them weave in the discussion about their discipleship relationships as like just a normative part of conversation rather than the, we’re doing six weeks on discipleship and how to become disciple making. I’m like, if you just pepper that stuff in week in, week out, it just is a normative part of the conversation that changes culture. Rich Birch — The kind of like, we’re going to make it a program. We’re going to brand it. We’ve got a great name on it. And my experience has been, it’s it’s a little bit like nailing jello to the wall. There’s there’s actually some of that containing of what we’re talking about actually kills the exact thing that we’re trying to do. And so, man, I think there’s a real tension there. And how do we help those people? Rich Birch — Because it’s not like we want them to do a worse job. It’s not like, hey, if you could stop talking in a way that attracts a crowd, that’s not the answer. But we’ve got to, like you say, how do we move them into those personal relationships? That’s fantastic.Rich Birch — Well, this has been a great conversation…Todd Wilson — My question would be, Rich, what what would happen…Rich Birch — Yep.Todd Wilson — …if an average lead pastor went on a one-year journey to to of disciple-making themselves? Call it a triad, call it four, five. They’re always, over the next year, going to be in a disciple-making small micro group… Rich Birch — Yep. Todd Wilson — …and all of their preaching is going to be informed.Rich Birch — Yep.Todd Wilson — That’s their laboratory of learning.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s their paradigm. Yeah, that’s good.Todd Wilson — That’s their paradigm. And now they’re bringing it to life, not just as periodic examples, but, you know, my whole frame of reference of my library is what comes out of that experience. Rich Birch — Yeah.Todd Wilson — And our problem right now is that’s just lack. It isn’t that it’s inserted a little bit. It’s just lacking.Rich Birch — Right. Yeah, that’s good. Yeah, this has been great. what ah What a great conversation. And as you can tell, friends, there’s a lot we could talk about there. And a lot you know just there’s a rich conversation that could be had around this. Rich Birch — Let’s let’s pivot and kind of talk a little bit about the book specifically. i want to make sure people pick up copies of this. Again, the name of it is How Did We Get Here? Looking Back to Look Forward. People can get this on Amazon. Are there other places that you would send people if they want to pick up copies of this?Todd Wilson — Yeah. So if they go to church-growth.org, church-growth.org, that’s the book’s homepage. You can actually get the free PDF there. You can get the free audio version there. There’s a full wiki there that people can contribute to. What you kind of mentioned it in passing, but I’ll highlight, it is impossible to read this book and not see yourself in it. Rich Birch — Yes. Yeah.Todd Wilson — Anyone who’s been a Christian for a while, they, the editor of the book said the power of this is going to be, she said, I can tell you the page in the book that I entered the story. Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s great. Todd Wilson — So you’ve got the free PDF, the free audio, the wiki, and then for people that just want the paper versions, you can get it on Amazon.Rich Birch — That’s great. And we’ll link to that friends so that you can, you know, find that quickly in the show notes and, and friends, I would encourage you again, to me, I think this could be a great resource to do with your leadership team, as I mentioned earlier. It would be a great kind of conversation starter and really context setter for us to think through these issues as we think about the future. Rich Birch — So kind of as we, as we come to close up today’s conversation, any final words as we wrap up today?Todd Wilson — Rich, I just appreciate the work you’re doing. I want to be an encouragement to pastors. Don’t let this book be, it’s not a deconstruction book. It’s not, oh my goodness, the church has fallen apart.Rich Birch — No, yeah.Todd Wilson — We need to keep plugging away doing what we’re doing, but we also have to have an eye on the future that this operating system that has evolved, everything has a beginning and an end. And this operating system, I believe, is in its final days. I think we’re we’re seeing you know less and less effectiveness with it. And I think we just need to be in a posture of giving permission to the next generations to do some trial and error and experimentation and not be locked into the paradigm of the of the past inheriting previous things.Rich Birch — No, fantastic, Todd. I appreciate you being here. And I would echo that, you know, you’re you’re the kind of leader that’s in our corner trying to help us get better. And so I appreciate the voice that you’ve had for for decades. And so I really appreciate that. Rich Birch — If people want to track with you, get connected, follow along with Multipliers where do we want to send them online?Todd Wilson — Multipliers.org can get me to all the different ways from email to phone to social media. So multipliers.org.Rich Birch — That’s great. Thanks so much, Todd. Appreciate you being here, sir.Todd Wilson — Thank you, Rich. Appreciate it.

DO MY WORDS HAVE POWER? In this episode Pastor Kaleb explores what scripture says about faith, our words, healing, and our identity as people created in Gods image. Hope you enjoy!

Caitlin V is a sexologist, relationship coach, and host of Good Sex on HBO Max who has built a YouTube channel with nearly a million subscribers and over 170 million views, working primarily with men on erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the isolation that comes with all three. She started as a sexual health researcher and policy analyst before deciding that change happens in conversations with real people, not in research papers. This is a live Dad Edge Alliance Q&A where Caitlin takes real questions from married men about a sexless stretch, shame carried into the marriage bed, sex used as leverage, and a marriage that has gone completely touchless. If you have been avoiding the conversation with your wife because the last time you brought it up it went badly, this one gives you the actual script.   Timeline Summary [4:12] – Caitlin's path from sexual health researcher and policy analyst to sexologist and coach [6:14] – First question, a husband who pushed too hard once and has been gun shy ever since [9:06] – Why a multi year backlog of unsaid things lands on one conversation and crushes it [11:01] – The cracked foundation, why repair has to come before any talk about frequency [13:35] – Reading her green lights and lobbing the flirtation back without adding pressure [16:33] – Naming the dynamic out loud as an act of leadership instead of a confession [23:58] – Why "the talk" is the wrong model for sex, with your kids and with your wife [27:39] – Nature abhors a vacuum, if she doesn't know what sex means to you she fills it in [31:25] – Anonymous question, premarital sex, religious shame, and less sex after the wedding [36:51] – The taboo factor, why sanctioned sex can lose the charge that breaking the rule provided [40:04] – Shame hates light, why you can't clean it out of her and what you can do instead [47:00] – Anonymous question, sex promised as a thank you that almost never arrives [53:09] – Why nobody can pre consent, and taking penetration off the required list [56:09] – What's underneath sex used as leverage, and how to rewrite that agreement together [59:11] – Anonymous question, a touchless marriage after years of backing off out of respect [1:03:25] – Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and the Three Minute Game as the road back to touch   5 Key Takeaways Repair Before Frequency — Asking for more sex when years of unsaid things are still sitting there is like redecorating a living room on a cracked foundation. Go back and own what you didn't say first, then build. Name the Dynamic Out Loud — Leadership here is not initiating harder, it's surfacing the pattern so you're both looking at the same thing. Say "I haven't been lobbing these back because I'm afraid" instead of waiting for her to move first. She's Filling In Your Blanks — If your wife doesn't know the texture of what sex actually means to you, she fills that vacuum with social media, her friends, and her parents' marriage. "All you think about is sex" is usually a response to something that was never you. Warmth With an Invoice — If your past kisses and shoulder rubs came with a hidden price tag, she felt it, and that's why affection now reads as a bid. Own it plainly, then rebuild non-sexual touch on purpose. Nobody Can Pre Consent — Agreeing to sex tomorrow is like agreeing to salmon for dinner, the appetite can legitimately change. Keep more than intercourse on the table so a shift in the moment isn't a broken promise.   Links & Resources Episode page — https://thedadedge.com/1519 Roommates to Soulmates, Larry's 8 week program, cohort three starts September 16 — https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15 at State Farm Stadium — https://thedadedge.com/nfl Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and the Three Minute Game — https://www.schoolofconsent.org Caitlin V's courses, 20% off with code DADEDGE, including Yoni Massage, Come When You Want, Hard As You Want, and Legendary Lover   Enjoyed This Episode? If the "warmth with an invoice" idea landed the way it lands for most guys, you already know which conversation you've been putting off. Send this to a brother who's been quietly telling himself that not bringing it up counts as respecting her. Follow the show, leave a rating and review, and grab the full show notes at https://thedadedge.com/1519

Have you ever considered what you believe, not just generally, but specifically, and why you believe it? Most people think they believe something because they concluded it was true. The fact is that they concluded it was true because believing it serves something deeper. Beliefs are rarely just intellectual positions. They are held because they protect identity, belonging, status, safety, or a self-validating interpretation of the past. That's why presenting someone with better facts rarely changes their mind. The courageous question isn't: "Why do I believe this?" It's: "What might become psychologically uncomfortable, or even threaten my identity, if I discovered this wasn't true?" That's where Season 3 begins.   WHAT THIS EPISODE IS ABOUT In 1975, Bruce Springsteen released Born to Run. The title track opens with one of the most recognizable images in rock history: the runway American dream. Not a running dream. A runway. Something you sprint down as fast as you can hoping that if you move fast enough you'll eventually lift off. Dov Baron opens Season 3 with his own runway. Growing up working class in England, dirty hands and ring-around-the-collar working class, handed two completely contradictory messages about money and power before he was old enough to question either. The idea of America arriving through movies and television as a promise: over there, the hierarchy isn't fixed. Over there, effort and intelligence determine where you end up. He believed it. For years. Because he needed to. Then one evening in Perth, Australia, in 1984, a street kid on Hay Street said something that Dov didn't fully understand at the time. He's since heard versions of that same sentence from people running billion-dollar organizations, from people whose decisions affect the economic conditions of entire nations, from people you've heard of. By Episode 3 of this series, you'll understand the connection. And when you do, Dov suspects you'll want to come back and listen to what that kid said one more time.   WHAT YOU'LL CARRY FROM THIS EPISODE Springsteen ends Born to Run with a promise: Together, Wendy, we'll live with the sadness, I'll love you with all the madness in my soul. The whole song is about escape. And at the end he admits, quietly, that what he's actually offering is not escape at all. It's companionship inside the thing you can't outrun. The question this episode leaves you with: what's the version of that line you haven't said yet? IN THIS EPISODE  00:00 Why We Believe 00:57 Born to Run Metaphor 02:43 Series Premise Setup 03:30 Show Intro and Lenses 04:26 Working Class Power Story 06:17 America as Runway Dream 07:48 Intelligently Stupid Beliefs 09:43 Hay Street Street Kid 12:48 Naming the Rage 15:02 What You Carry When You Run 15:51 Closing Invitation   THE SERIES: WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE TO BELIEVE THAT? Five episodes. One mechanism examined at every scale. Episode 1: The Code That Felt Like Common Sense (this episode)Coming up: Episode 2: The Wound the Framework Needs    ABOUT DOV BARON Dov Baron has spent thirty years inside the rooms where leaders make decisions that shape organizations and the people inside them. He works at the intersection of the Emotional Source Code and the Emotional Meaning Architecture: the meaning running underneath every decision before it reaches conscious examination. His clients have come to him by referral for twenty years. He has interviewed every one of them. And he has said no to at least as many as he has said yes to. Connect with Dov: Website: dovbaron.com Email: dov@dovbaron.com Apply to work with Dov: dovbaron.com   ABOUT THE POLYMATHIC PERSPECTIVE The Polymathic Perspective examines the emotional logic beneath power, culture, identity, and meaning. Together, we discover how psychological, cultural, and geopolitical patterns drive behaviors, not just in people, but in systems. If you've been told your curiosity is a liability, it's your greatest asset.   RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE If this episode made you question something you thought you already understood, please rate and review The Polymathic Perspective on Apple Podcasts. Share it with one person who is absolutely certain they arrived at their beliefs independently.   Connect with Dov Baron:https://DovBaron.comdov@dovbaron.comRate, review, and send this episode to the most thoughtful builder you know. That is how the algorithm finds the people who still ask why. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What If Everything Goes Wrong? — Stop Catastrophic Thinking and the 2am What Ifs | Physiological Sigh Meditation It isn't happening. Not yet, not today, perhaps not ever. And still you can see it in detail and in colour — the phone call, the conversation, the moment it all comes apart. Your mind has built the whole thing brick by brick, then walked you through it slowly so you don't miss anything. What if everything goes wrong? That's the thought, isn't it. And it isn't a small one. It arrives with a heartbeat attached. Today we sit with that question and take its power away, gently, without arguing with it. This is a session about overthinking, catastrophic thinking, worst case scenario thinking, and the what ifs that run all night. If the what ifs tend to find you at two in the morning, Anchored was built for exactly that — over 3,000 sessions you can actually search, so when one particular worry has hold of you, you can find the session for it and press play in the dark. It works offline, and Instant Calm is always there: no subscription, no waiting, no hunting.

When organizations begin quietly moving away from the words "health equity," what happens to the work itself? Jacquelyn Dalton, MPH, Senior Director of Special Initiatives and Projects at Health Leads, joins Dr. Huntley to talk about why naming the work matters. They explore community-based work, workforce challenges, housing instability, relationship-centered leadership, and what it takes to sustain health equity efforts when the language around them is changing. Resources ▶️ Join the PHEC Podcast Community ▶️ Visit the PHEC Podcast Show Notes ▶️ DrCHHuntley, Public Health & Epidemiology Consulting  

Ken Carman and Anthony Lima debate whether Deshaun Watson has officially secured the starting job following the Browns' first preseason game. They evaluate the impact of offensive coordinator Todd Monken and express concern over the team's offensive line depth and secondary. The discussion also touches on the struggling Guardians season and realistic win totals for Cleveland football. 01:50 - Browns Quarterback Competition 06:22 - Todd Monken's Strategy 10:04 - Preseason Performance Review 16:08 - Depth Chart Concerns 24:53 - Win Total Predictions 30:24 - Guardians Season Struggle 38:04 - Naming the Starter

Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube Limiting beliefs are one of the most common obstacles I hear about from people in the tapping community, and they are also one of the things tapping is best equipped to address. In nearly two decades of working with clients and students, tapping for limiting beliefs has become one of my favorite applications of EFT, because the results are direct, fast, and felt immediately in daily life. TL;DR / Key Takeaways A limiting belief is a subconscious affirmation about how the world works that exists to keep you safe, not to hold you back. It only becomes a problem when it is disproportionate to actual risk or based on inaccurate information. Intellectual understanding alone cannot clear a limiting belief. Transformation requires working at the subconscious level, which is exactly where EFT tapping operates through a process called memory reconsolidation. The five-step tapping process for limiting beliefs takes under three minutes and can be used immediately on any belief that is getting in your way. Fighting or dismissing a limiting belief makes it dig in harder. The key is to first acknowledge the belief's protective intention, then show it how it is working against you. Replacing a limiting belief requires a statement the subconscious can actually accept. Overclaiming ("everything will be perfect") creates resistance. A grounded permission statement creates movement. Why Limiting Beliefs Are So Hard to Shake Limiting beliefs are hard to shake because they are not flaws in your thinking. They are features of your protective system doing exactly what they were designed to do. Your subconscious mind holds on to these beliefs precisely because it believes they are keeping you safe. Think about it this way: I do not jump into the tiger cage at the zoo. That is a limiting belief. But I do not experience it as one because it is proportionate to real danger. The limiting beliefs that cause us problems work the same way on the inside. They generate resistance to protect us from what they perceive as threat, whether that threat is rejection, failure, judgment, or loss. This is why willpower and positive thinking rarely work on their own. If you try to override a protective belief by force, the subconscious mind digs its heels in. The resistance is not an enemy. It is a misguided guardian. What Is a Limiting Belief, Really? A limiting belief is a subconscious affirmation about how the world works that is either inaccurate, disproportionate, or based on outdated information. It exists to create protective resistance, not to punish you. This definition matters because it completely changes how you approach the work. Most people treat their limiting beliefs as character defects or signs that something is fundamentally broken in them. But a limiting belief is just a story your subconscious mind wrote, probably a long time ago, with the information it had available at the time. The story made sense once. It just has not been updated. Key insight: "Limiting beliefs are always going to get the best of us. They keep us safe. What we're really frustrated by is the fact that the limiting belief has gotten in the way of us doing the thing we want because it's not doing it in a way that's proportionate or that is well informed." Every limiting belief you carry is trying to protect you from something. The question is never whether the protection is well-intentioned. It always is. The question is whether it is accurate and proportionate to the actual situation in front of you right now. Why Tapping for Limiting Beliefs Works When Willpower Doesn't Tapping works on limiting beliefs because it targets the subconscious level where those beliefs actually live, through a neurological process called memory reconsolidation. Willpower operates at the conscious level and cannot reach them. Memory reconsolidation is the process by which stored memories and the emotional responses attached to them are retrieved, modified, and re-saved. When you tap while focusing on a limiting belief, you are not just thinking differently about a problem. You are creating the conditions for the subconscious story to be rewritten and stored again in a new form. This is what makes tapping categorically different from affirmations, journaling, or talk therapy alone, all of which are enormously valuable but operate primarily at the conscious level. Key insight: "It is not enough to simply intellectually understand that the limiting belief you are carrying is not true. If all it required for you to transform a limiting belief was to know that it was not true, then the only thing we would need for healing and transformation are bumper stickers and posters of kitty cats hanging in there." This is why knowing better is not enough. You can know, with full certainty, that your fear of rejection is irrational, and still feel the brakes go on every time you try to put yourself out there. Tapping is one of the few tools that reaches both the conscious and subconscious levels simultaneously. If you want to understand more about why the subconscious mind resists change even when you consciously want it, this episode on the subconscious tug of war goes deep on that dynamic. The 5-Step Tapping Process for Limiting Beliefs The five-step tapping process for limiting beliefs takes under three minutes and can be applied immediately to any belief that is currently getting in your way. You do not need to have all the steps memorized. A reasonable guess at each one is enough to get results. To illustrate each step, I will use a concrete example: the belief that says "I can't ask this person to partner with me because they're going to reject me and I'll feel foolish." Step 1: Wordless Tapping Start with one full minute of tapping with no words at all. Move from point to point at your own pace, taking a deep breath as you begin. If you do not want to set a timer, three or four rounds of six to seven taps per point will cover it. Wordless tapping does two things: it settles your nervous system and brings you into your body before you begin the heavier cognitive work. Starting a limiting belief session already activated makes every subsequent step harder. This first step is short, but skipping it costs you. For a deeper look at how content-free tapping works and when to use it, see this episode on eight ways to use content-free tapping. Step 2: Name the Belief and Its Impact Tap through the points while saying out loud what the belief is and what it is causing you to do (or not do). Something like: "I recognize that I am carrying this belief, and the belief is [your belief here], and this limiting belief is preventing me from taking action, making me hesitant, and stopping me from doing what I want." Naming the belief out loud does something important: it moves it from a vague background feeling into a specific, examinable object. You cannot address what you cannot clearly see. Step 3: Honor the Belief's Protective Intent Still tapping, shift to acknowledging what the belief is trying to do for you: "I recognize that this limiting belief exists because it is simply trying to keep me safe. It does not want me to rush in, be judged, be rejected, or do something foolish. And I appreciate the fact that it is holding me back in an effort to keep me safe." This step is not about agreeing that the belief is correct. It is about getting your subconscious mind on board with the process. Key insight: "It's kind of like a handshake with the subconscious mind saying we're on the same team. If I say, subconscious mind, you're wrong, it's going to dig its heels in." Skipping this step is one of the most common reasons tapping on limiting beliefs stalls. The subconscious mind will not release a belief it thinks you are attacking. This episode on turning intellectual pushback into tapping progress explores this pattern in more detail. Step 4: Show the Belief How It's Backfiring Now, still tapping, let the belief know that its protective strategy is producing the opposite of what it intends: "Even though you are trying to keep me safe, you are actually doing the exact opposite. You are making the world more dangerous because you are preventing me from doing the things that will help me grow, evolve, and move forward." This step works because it speaks the subconscious mind's language. You are not telling it it is wrong. You are showing it that its own goal, your safety and wellbeing, is better served by loosening its grip. Step 5: Replace It with a Credible Truth Finally, tap while offering a realistic replacement: "I appreciate the fact that it is possible for me, in thoughtful and deliberate ways, to move forward safely. This does not mean I am going to be thoughtless or reckless. I am engaging with this in thoughtful and deliberate ways, and I give myself permission to trust that I can move forward safely." Notice what this step does not say. It does not say "everything will work out perfectly" or "there is nothing to worry about." Those statements are not believable to the subconscious mind, and an unbelievable affirmation creates resistance rather than releasing it. The goal is a truth the subconscious can accept, a permission statement that says: I can move, and moving does not mean abandoning care. Why You Can't Just Think Your Way Out of a Limiting Belief Thinking alone cannot clear a limiting belief because the belief does not live in your thinking mind. It lives in the subconscious, and the subconscious does not respond to logic. Reading the right book, understanding why a belief is irrational, or receiving encouragement can all be genuinely useful. But none of them reach the level where the belief is actually stored. They inform the conscious mind without rewriting the subconscious story. Tapping works at both levels simultaneously. You hold the belief in conscious focus while the physical act of tapping sends a calming signal to the amygdala, the brain's threat-detection center. That combination allows the memory to be accessed, modified, and re-stored. The belief does not just get quieter. It gets rewritten. If intellectual understanding has been your primary tool and you keep hitting the same walls, this episode on why you resist taking healthy action is a useful companion read. How to Use This Process for Any Limiting Belief Tapping for limiting beliefs is effective on any belief that is disproportionate to actual risk or based on outdated information. The example used throughout this post was the fear of rejection in a partnership conversation, but the same five steps apply to beliefs about money, visibility, worthiness, health, creative work, or any other domain where you feel stuck. Key insight: "The only way I can create a life that I love is if I actually take action. Nothing happens until we move. Limiting beliefs prevent us from taking action and moving. Therefore, when a limiting belief is disproportionate or misinformed, it prevents us from creating the life that is meant for us." You do not need to have the belief perfectly identified before you start. Begin with what you know. If you feel the resistance but cannot fully name what is driving it, start with wordless tapping and let the clarity come as you move through the steps. If you want to track your tapping practice and build consistency with this kind of work, Tapping Tracker is a simple tool designed to help you do exactly that. For more on how tapping and affirmations work together once a belief has been cleared, see this episode on tapping and affirmations as a transformation duo. Frequently Asked Questions What is a limiting belief in EFT tapping? In EFT, a limiting belief is a subconscious story about how the world works that creates resistance to action. It is not a character flaw. It is a protective mechanism that becomes problematic when it is disproportionate to actual risk or based on outdated information. Tapping works on limiting beliefs by accessing the subconscious level where they are stored. Can tapping really clear a limiting belief in a few minutes? Yes, particularly for beliefs that are clearly defined and moderately activated. The five-step process described here takes under three minutes and is designed to produce immediate relief from the resistance the belief generates. Deeper or more complex beliefs, especially those rooted in significant past experiences, may benefit from multiple sessions or work with a practitioner. Why do limiting beliefs come back after tapping? A limiting belief can resurface if it has multiple layers, if the root experience has not been fully addressed, or if the replacement truth offered in step five was not fully believable to the subconscious mind. When a belief returns, that is useful information. It points to a deeper layer or a related belief that is also worth tapping on. What is memory reconsolidation and how does it relate to tapping? Memory reconsolidation is the neurological process by which stored memories are retrieved, modified, and re-saved with new emotional content. EFT tapping leverages this process by pairing focused attention on a belief with the calming input of tapping on acupressure points, creating conditions for the subconscious story to be rewritten rather than suppressed. Do I have to know exactly what my limiting belief is before I start tapping? No. You can begin with wordless tapping and a general sense of where the resistance is. Clarity often emerges during the tapping process itself, particularly after step one settles the nervous system. Start with what you know, even if it is just "I feel stuck about this." How is tapping for limiting beliefs different from affirmations? Affirmations work at the conscious level and are most effective after a limiting belief has already been cleared or softened. Tapping works at the subconscious level, where the belief is actually stored, through the physical act of stimulating acupressure points while holding the belief in focus. Used together, after tapping clears the resistance, affirmations can reinforce the new story. This episode on tapping and affirmations explains how to sequence them effectively. What is the fear of rejection example in this episode about? The fear of rejection example illustrates a belief that says "If I ask this person to partner with me, they will reject me and I will feel foolish." Gene uses this example to walk through each of the five tapping steps in real time, demonstrating how the process addresses both the specific fear and the underlying protective mechanism driving it. For a deeper dive into tapping for rejection specifically, see this post on breaking free from the fear of rejection.

In this episode, the brothers discuss military technology, retirement planning, and the cultural impact of hip hop, blending insights on national security, personal well-being, and music. The conversation offers a mix of expert opinions, personal stories, and humorous takes that matter to listeners interested in current events, self-care, and music history. In this episode, we explore the evolution of hip hop, the impact of iconic songs, and the importance of balancing entertainment with authenticity. Our guests share insights on music, pop culture, and personal growth, making it a must-listen for fans and newcomers alike.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview01:20 Discussion of Ukraine's Drones and NATO War Games02:30 Trump's Proposal to Return to Steam-Powered Launchers03:57 Job Numbers and Workforce Trends05:28 The Concept of 'Me Days' and Personal Self-Care09:03 The Importance of Relaxation and Unplugging10:50 The Challenge of Turning Off and Recharging12:47 Facilitation, Leadership, and Bringing People Together16:52 Meditation, Mindfulness, and Self-Reflection17:27 The Need for Hobbies and Interests Outside Work18:18 Defending Trump and Military Decisions20:21 National Security, Bunkers, and Presidential Safety Measures22:23 Naming and Renaming of Airports and Landmarks23:36 Celebrating Seven Years of the Show24:19 The Show's Impact and Media Presence25:50 Questions and Audience Engagement36:59 The Evolution of Military Technology and Strategy37:06 Balancing Innovation and Simplicity in Defense41:02 Favorite Hip Hop Songs and Classics42:36 Lyricism and Impact of Iconic Tracks

Toxic relationships don't just drain our energy or violate our boundaries. They change our relationship with ourselves. For those of us who are highly sensitive, toxic dynamics condition our nervous systems to believe that having a boundary will cost us everything. So we stop trying. We go along to get along. Naming how this conditioning works is how we get clarity on what needs healing and start the work of coming back to ourselves. - Intro To Boundaries ⁠https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/intro⁠ - The Yearly Boundaries Intensive ⁠https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/Boundaries Resources: - Work with Me 1:1: https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/coaching - 30 Days to Peace Course: https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/peace CODE: BADASS for 30% Off - The Book by Book Club: https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/bookclub - Mapping your Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse Workshop https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/workshops CODE: BADASS for 30% Off - Get the Patternscapes Wellness Deck ⁠https://www.getpatternscapes.com - Join the Patreon Community: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/emotionalbadass - Download the FREE Morning Routine PDF ⁠https://www.emotionalbadass.com/morning - Join our newsletter https://www.emotionalbadass.com/newsletter - Check out our Guided Meditations https://www.emotionalbadass.com/store/meditations Follow us on Social Media: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/emotionalbadass IG: https://www.instagram.com/emotional.badass FB: https://www.facebook.com/emotionalbadass TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@emotionalbadass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Michael Zhang is a PhD psychologist whose work focuses on gambling addiction and behavioral change in the modern digital environment — and in this episode of Locked In with Ian Bick, he tells the complete truth about what gambling addiction really is, why it starts, how online gambling and sports betting have created the most dangerous and most accessible addiction environment in history, what it actually takes for someone to finally get help and enter recovery, and what the psychological reality of rebuilding looks like for the people who make it through. _____________________________________________ #gambling #casino #psychology #addictionrecovery _____________________________________________ Connect with Dr. Michael Zhang: Website: https://incumental.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drmikezhang Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.mikezhang  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drmikezhang LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmikezhang _____________________________________________ Hosted, Executive Produced & Edited By Ian Bick:  https://www.instagram.com/ian_bick/?hl=en https://ianbick.com/ _____________________________________________ Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: Meet Dr. Michael Zhang 00:18 Dr. Zing's Background and Path to Gambling 01:15 Getting Into Gambling Treatment 03:47 Defining Gambling Addiction 06:13 Recreational Gambling vs. Addiction 06:55 Gambling in Prisons 12:22 The Gambling Industry's Reach 13:20 Prediction Markets: A New Gambling Front 14:17 Celebrities and Influencers Promoting Gambling 19:00 Understanding the Gambling Mode 20:55 Activating the Gambling Mode 23:10 Ian's Story: When Gambling Becomes Survival 24:29 The Birth of a Gambling Mode 26:00 Big Wins and the Illusion of Freedom 29:27 Naming the Gambling Mode 33:59 Naming the Recovery Mode 36:00 Gambling vs. Building a Life 38:28 The Elusiveness of Gambling Wins 41:40 Fake Wins and Real Worth 46:48 Rebuilding and Walking Away 53:20 The Message of Thanks and Goodbye 57:57 A Message to the Younger Self 01:04:09 Gambling and Suicidal Thoughts 01:07:14 Activating Recovery Mode 01:10:01 Supporting Loved Ones with Gambling Addiction 01:12:34 The Ripple Effect of Gambling _____________________________________________ To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/LockedInWithIanBicka

After a disastrous game last week, we have all looked ourselves in the mirror and decided we need to get better. So we are going back to the basics: guys naming dudes. This week's game brings back an old favorite: Who He Play For—no messing around this time, just right to the good stuff. Plus, Joon Lee joins Jeremy to discuss the latest headlines around Major League Baseball as well as his Top 5 Baseball Movies list, which includes a scorching hot take. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stassi and Taylor start off strong by diving deep into some reality TV criticism! First up: Taylor addresses the diabolical rumor that she forced her wife's name change for the show. Stassi makes peace with being fundamentally misunderstood on TV. The duo unpack modern parenting dynamics and the unfair double standards moms face.An astrological storm is brewin'—including a total solar eclipse, a six-planet alignment, and the tail end of the Lion's Gate portal. Stassi and Taylor review their past manifestation journals to see what actually came true (shoutout to sleep-trained babies and 12-episode seasons!). Lastly, Stassi plans her end of summer Europe trip to emerge just in time for spooky season, while Taylor prepares for a first-time trip away from the baby to live it up at a Backstreet Boys concert in Vegas. Gird your loins, water signs!Thank you to our sponsors!Amazon Music: Your one app for music, podcasts, and audiobooks — Amazon Music Unlimited subscription now includes access to audiobooksBoll and Branch: For a limited time, get 15% off sitewide at BollAndBranch.com/stassi with code Stassi. Exclusions apply.Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/STASSIProgressive: Compare car insurance quote with rates from other companies at Progressive.comQuince: Go to Quince.com/stassi for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mens Room Question: What Happened When You Were On The Water?

Stephen Moss, author of Ten Birds That Changed the World, Part One: Moss discusses how birds shaped human history, starting with the Wild Turkey, which nearly became America's national bird and was essential to pilgrim survival. The naming of the Turkey stems from 16th-century confusion regarding Turkish merchants and African Guinea Fowl. Moss contrasts the Turkey with the Bald Eagle, a symbol of predatory power adopted from Roman traditions and later by Napoleon and the Nazis. The segment explores the Pigeon, the "great communicator" crucial for military messaging during D-Day and World War I, including the heroic pigeon Cher Ami. A significant portion debunks the myth of Darwin's Finches, noting that Charles Darwin initially misidentified them and failed to label their specific islands. The discussion touches on the intelligence and convergent evolution of Australian species like the Magpie and Willie Wagtail. Finally, the Dodo is introduced as the "icon of extinction." This flightless bird's demise on Mauritius, caused by human-introduced predators like monkeys and rats, forced humanity to confront the reality that species could vanish forever. Moss notes that while the Dodo is gone, its story inspired modern conservation efforts to save birds like the Pink Pigeon and Mauritius Kestrel. (1)