Mommies & Mimosas

We're BACK from COVID Craziness!! 2020 was one hell of a year for us all! The last time you heard from us, we were halfway through season 2 and then the world stopped. We had to take a break and adjust to the new normal and living in a new world plagued by COVID. But, we're back and better than ever!  We're here to talk about some of the highs and lows from 2020 and what got us through the madness. This is the ultimate "catch up" episode! As always, we're spilling more than just tea.  Cheers to us being back! Get the mimosas flowing 

This week the ladies are talking about their different upbringings and experience when it comes to "gender role assignments" in the household. Its safe to say, they both have different perspectives, based on how they grew up and how they operate their homes today. While, we all know women work more than they did 50+ years ago, a lot of people still feel a certain way about women doing "women" things around the house, and leaving the "manly" things for the man. Is the a healthy approach. How do you determine who does what and how do you teach your children? This is one of those episodes where the ladies don't quite agree. BUT, they meet somewhere in the middle. As always :)

There's seems to be a lot of discussion surrounding over correction and if the current generation of parents are over doing it in some areas. Speaking from personal experience, Tiara and Jaz can agree that culturally we had a lot of generational behaviors to correct. A lot of our "traditional" styles of discipline stemmed from slavery, and overall, we don't have much a cultural foundation. However, in some cases, we may be taking it too far. Our parents and grandparents were very hard on us, because they witnessed the road traveled to get us the basic human rights in this country. Even outside of the black community, we just saw what over correction on Capitol Hill looked like...are we over doing it?

We still live in a time where working moms are often heavily criticized for “choosing” work over their children. So the conversation about moms who own businesses is just as critical. Even though, in today’s economy in the U.S. its nearly impossible for middle class families to only have one working adult in the household, a lot of people still feel as though women should still be there in the home for their children above all…

Some of us recently watched the memorial service for Kobe and Gianna Bryant. And what particularly tugged at our heart strings more than anything, was watching Vanessa Bryant talk about the loss of her husband/daughter and how we know she now has to move on in life without them. The same thing happened last year to late rapper, Nipsey Hussle and his now widow Lauren London. Unfortunately, families experience tragedy everyday. Sometimes it results in the loss of life. On a previous episode, we talked to a mom who experienced the loss of her children’s father. On this week's episode, Jaz and Tiara talk to guest, Tiffany Ward about an unfortunate tragedy that her family suffered through a few years ago. Fortunately, for Tiffany and her family, this tragic event didn’t result in death, but the lasting trauma is still painful. Everyday families don’t have the world praying with and over them. However, we hope they find new strength within their own family, community and friends. Listen to hear Tiffany's story and how her family deals with the lasting effects of her daughter's accident and how they're pouring back into the community to help others.

As we close out Black History Month, the ladies find it only fitting that some light and celebration be shed on back doulas and midwives. The conversation stemmed from an article posted on Lamaze.org titled, Black History Month: The Importance of Black Midwives, Then, Now and Tomorrow. Since embarking upon her doula journey, host Tiara has been connected and engaged in the very scary reality that black mothers keep dying during and/or after giving birth at an alarming higher rate than white women. Tiara and Jaz talk about why they feel this is happening and how their personal experiences could have gone completely different, without the necessary support in the delivery room. During the episode, they also read and discuss some of the statistics surrounding the topic and share some of their favorite support pages for moms and mamas to be, to follow to help empower them along their journey. There are proven phycology studies that show, having a black doctor, midwife, etc. yielded in more positive results and outcomes. Therefore, they deserve a celebration! :)

On this week's episode, Jaz and Tiara recorded alongside a FB LIVE Broadcast. So in a sense, we have some co-hosts joining us :) Mommy guilt, is it just another buzzword? Should mothers and their partners be paying more attention to the subject? Absolutely, one thousand times YES! The ladies discuss the moments where they have experienced severe or mild mommy guilt. They talk about how they cope with it regularly, and the importance of recognizing it as a first step. So many mothers are ashamed to talk about it, ashamed to even say it aloud. But you never know how you're experience or your transparency might help others. Much like this podcast, the point is to have a support group. Having multiple outlets will help you a lot more than you realize. So, don't be ashamed! Mommy guilt is REAL! We all deal with it, we can all help each other through those moments.

During this episode, the girls finally discuss a topic that co-host Jazmine lives and blogs about passionately, Blended Families. The ladies talk about the immediate challenges and some of the ways Jaz navigated the situation herself. Tiara also sheds some light on the fact that she grew up in a blended household and how it affected her then and now. Jazmine has incredible insight on the situation. As a result of her own experience, she felt responsible to start a blog to help others. The hot topic, the main topic, and the game time (Never Will I Ever), all tie together pretty closely, likely for the first time since this show has aired. The girls turn a mostly challenging conversation into a fun, yet still informative one. In blended families, there are so many people, so many personalities, so many needs and so many road blocks to consider. The road to "harmony" is a long one. Many families unfortunately don't ever seem to reach that point. What are the rules? Who take the lead? So many questions, no one has the complete answers. However, the ladies try to clear the confusion best they can during this episode. To continue the discussion, join and follow the Facebook page. Also be sure to check out Jazmine's blog to learn more about the blended family journey (www.blendmorewiththeorrs.com)

It is incredibly heartbreaking and unthinkable whenever one half of a parenting team is taken away sudden and tragically. We can only hope that the village surrounds the mother or father throughout the entire upbringing of the child(ren)’s life. It truly does take a village. So, when one parent is no longer here, what kind of support do the children and parent left behind need? On this episode, through sharing their stories, we hope the mothers can even grasp another inch of closure (as we know the journey is a long one). We also hope they can help other mothers/fathers with grief and coping mechanisms, not only for them, but how they deal with this matter when it comes to the children. Jaz and Tiara have a very challenging conversation with their guest, Tiffany, about the loss of her boys' father. Tiffany is transparent and open about her challenges thus far and how she plans to seek healing for herself and her sons while they continue to grieve. This episode is not an easy one. But a very necessary conversation. We hope mothers/fathers out there experiencing this currently find comfort in knowing how others have been able to push through. We hope this episode helps someone out there listening finally seek outside help and support. "Death is not the opposite of life, but a part of it..."

We're backkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Following our holiday hiatus, we're back and refreshed! Both mamas have had some time with their immediate families and friends over the holiday season. They come back to together for the season 2 kickoff to catchup and talk about their decade reflection. They talk about what surprised them in the last decade, and what they learned along their motherhood journey during. After the reflection, the mamas talk about their goals, resolutions and aspirations for the upcoming year and decade as moms, wives, in their careers and mostly as individuals that will contribute to that overall big picture! In the spirit of the theme for the New Decade (2020 Vision), Tiara lends her recent knowledge and doula expertise on planning for motherhood and the importance of it. The ladies share their birth experiences and the planning process that went along with, in hopes that another mom can pick the information up and utilize it for their own experience. Jazmine and Tiara also share what's to come for the Mommies and Mimosas podcast! Hopefully you keep listening and sharing with friends!! Plenty more to come :)

On this episode, we have our very first guest show! Two guests come on the show to discuss what's it like to raise biracial children and how they did or did not prepare for it, the challenges they have faced thus far and how it may or may not have caused some turmoil in their relationships with their partners. It's not easy being in an interracial relationship, let alone raising kids that are biracial. But it happens, right! Love who you love, marry your soulmate. But when you and your soulmate create a life together, and that child is made up of what you would call, the best of both worlds, there are some conversations to be had. Do these occur before you even conceive? How do you approach such conversations? The ladies discuss it ALL on this episode. They even have their very first guests to provide their perspective! Listen and let us know what you think!!

In this episode the girs talk about sex! Sex in their marriages after kids, how they plan to or already have approached the “bird and the bees” convo with their children and how what we were exposed to as children truly do affect us in the long run. Its much harder to undo certain things in life that happened to us a kids. The girls believe in keeping this topic specifically open and honest with their kids. Don’t make up code words and silly names for things that are real. Listen and join the discussion on Facebook immediately after!

As mothers, we like to celebrate it all when it comes to our babies. First steps, first words, all of that! But rarely do we take time to celebrate ourselves and the things we’ve accomplished or overcome in our motherhood journeys. We somewhat get lost in it all. Sure there’s Mothers Day. But do we only need to wait that one day of year to celebrate how much we are conquering the toughest job on the planet? That’s like saying we only love our spouses on Valentines Day. An occasional reminder or celebration hurts no one. In fact, the happier the mama, the healtheir and more successful the children. On this epsisode, the girls talk about ways they feel the should and will start to celebrate some of the major milestones in their motherhood journeys

On this episode, the girls talk about the challenges of balance and priorities with the upcoming holiday season. We like to have fun, we like to have themed parties and family coordinated Halloween costumes, but how do we keep it affordable and fun? Of course, we get into our Mommy meltdowns, our “Never Will I Ever” game and then the trending topic of the week! How do moms balance it all? How do you determine what a priority is and what isnt? Listen to Tiara and Jaz’s perspective NOW!

In this episode, the ladies want to do a reintroduction to the show and it’s intent along with what you can expect to come! They talk about how the name and concept for the show came together. They also reveal some of the upcoming featured guests shows, so you can get as excited as they are for what’s to come! There will be episodes about surviving the loss of a child/parent, blended families, adoption, working moms, co-parenting and more! Finally, in this episode the ladies introduce one of the show’s games - “Never Will I Ever” a fun spin on the classic drinking game “Never Have I Ever”. Enjoy! Don’t forget to head over to Facebook to chime in on the episodes!

In this episode, the girls break down an article about relationships between mothers and daugthers and how that relationship helps or hurts our future relationships. The article that’s referrenced specifically is titled “The Strained Relationship Between Black Mothers and Their Daugthers”. This article and episode is in NO way bashing black mothers. But it simply opens up some necessary wounds to help us all heal (if need be). As mothers, we are sometimes a direct reflection of who our mothers were as women, sisters, friends and of course moms. If there’s a way for us to discuss and break toxic cycles, let’s do it! After all, that’s a part of what this show was created to do. Hope you enjoy! And cheers to those awesome mother-daughter duos who are simply GOALS! Keep growing in love :)

Two of life’s never ending lessons. In this episode, the ladies talk about the foundation that is set upon us from childhood. How parents are the first to teach us about consequences and rewards. Were some of the consequences of our actions just? Some people may feel as though our parents simply overreacted at times. Then there’s the biggest fight between generations today it seems. Are we rewarding our kids for any and everything these days? At some point there was some sort of overcorrection with the whole participation trophy era. There’s a MVP mama out there who brought back chores and an allowance for her kids. And the ladies are here for it! We hope you enjoy this episode! Head over to Facebook (MommiesNMimosas) and let us know what you thought afterwards!

In this episode, the co-hosts briefly touch on who they are, how they met and how Tiara brought Jaz into her vision of Mommies and Mimosas. Tiara had the vision of starting this podcast (orginally) as a blog, while she was a stay at home mom in Miami, overcoming postpartum. Jaz moved to Las Vegas 9 years ago, a mom of a blended family with 6 children. What they have in common is their passion for helping others through their motherhood journey. There are some similarities, and some differences in their parenting styles - that you will soon get to see. Also, as you get to know the hosts, they also touch on some trending new stories. They talk about the H&M “debacle” of a campaign and how they really felt about it. They also talk about a new school policy in Las Vegas that addresses students with diverse gender identities and expressions and whether or not its the school’s responsiblity to talk to our kids about such topics. Join the hosts, weekly! As they break down their own experiences and open up to you all as mothers and women.

Jazmine is one of the hosts for Mommies and Mimosas. This is a very brief introduction. As Jaz has A LOT to share with the motherhood. Specifically when it comes to blended households. She is the spice to the show. Stay tuned!

Get to know one of your hosts! This is just a brief introduction, since we’ll be getting to know each other as the episodes continue. I’m leaving the uncut, raw version because that’s motherhood is. Imperfectly, perfect

This show was created for us moms to get together and share our stories with one another in order to provide support through our motherhood journeys. This is space where no judgement shall be passed and we need to respect one another. No one’s story is perfect. And as our mothers/grandmothers would say, “these kids don’t come with a handbook”