Birth Moms Get Real

The grief which results from adoption loss more often follows a pattern which is the exact opposite of what one might expect in the case of other losses. Disenfranchised grief is when the grief is connected with a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, publicly mourned or socially supported. In many cases of disenfranchised grief, the relationship is not recognized, the loss is not recognized or the griever is not recognized. The loss of a child through adoption is usually a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, which is why mothers often suffer in silence...people who have experienced any type of loss often feel anger, guilt, sadness, depression, hopelessness and numbness and that in cases of disenfranchised grief, these feelings can persist for a very long time. The lack of recognition of their grief often results in them holding on to it more tenaciously than they might otherwise have done. Many different groups of people fear birth parent grief for many reasons. The old adage goes that people fear what they don't know. We would like to shed a little light on why birth parent grief isn't meant to be scary to adoptive parents, adoptees or the general public. We want adoptive patents to know birth moms are not to be feared and we want most of all to let our children know how much they are loved by us. I started this mission as a way of honoring my daughter for who she is and everything she is teaching me about life.A Birth Mothers Story - on Rape,  Love, Adoption, & more  All reviews will be visible to potential donors and volunteers http://greatnonprofits.org/organizations/reviews/birth-mom-missions http://www.facebook.com/birthmom PLEASE JOIN OUR FACEBOOK PAGE! http://facebook.com/birthmommissions Did you find this information helpful? If you did, consider donating

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http://www.facebook.com/events/331602946925292/ About Birth Mom Missions Just a few reasons why it is different. Also no one get paid in this mission. All proceeds go to the women and children. We do like 25 different actions not 1. It seeks to tell the truth about adoptions. Good and bad and hop certain agencies continue to treat pregnant women. http://birthmommission.com http://facebook.com/adoptionsupport

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Birth Mom Missions has all sorts of things planned for Birth mom's "weekend" like every year. We want you to know you are loved throughout the whole day and every other day too. So something will always be going on (via the facebook) Like you weill receive emails or surprises and you can talk ANYTIME of the day you want to a birthmother 1 or 100 on a community call. Radio show tonight to remind you and the world what tomorrow is. And that we don't (I dont) think I am too coll so I want my own day. The day, for me, is a chance for my daughter to know (wherever she is) that her bmom loved her enough to require an extra day just for her love. I for one am glad that in 1988 a group of women created "Birth Mother's Day" as the day before Mother's day, every year (the yellow rose as our symbol too. more info on website..) So think about if you know anyone in your life that has been affected in some way by adoption (a lot of folks) and consider remembering them on a day when everyone else seems to have forgotten them. Not only the birth mother's, but the adoptive family, extended family, friends, and of course the adopted child can benefit from a little acknowledgement that it is OK to be a part of adoption and proud of it. It is such a taboo subject today and no one wants to bring it up or remember and they claim they never know what to say if they were to try. . (they will blame us if the wording is not proper or PC enough for them! That's fine...!) There are adoptive parent's who could use a card at any time, adoptive grandparents too.  There are cards I've made to give from AP's (adoptive parents) to a BM's (birth moms) OR for BM's to give to AP's, or AP's to give to "prospective birth mothers, OR birth grandparents to a birthmom or birthfather ) (When i say birth mother, I also am referring to first mother's ,natural mother or any other name you like to call them)