Diversify Your Self Esteem

We have successfully fetishised busyness over business. Society is focused on sacrifice instead of outcomes. Altruism and success have become binaries of each other. It’s the perception of progress that we’re addicted to, not actual progress. In the face of this reality the question looms in the back of our minds: How can you actually […] The post More Haste, Less Speed appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

A north-star goal: A single well-defined goal that you can look up at, and see if you’re heading in the right direction. All other goals are milestones taking you closer to this final goal. It comes from the North Star, Polaris, in the sky that you can follow when lost, you can reorient yourself just […] The post Setting North Star Goals appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

We are plagued by Protagonism. Protagonism: The belief that we are the ‘main character’ of the story, that important things will happen in front of us and all other people are side characters or NPCs. I’ve lived my whole life from my own perspective. And, you’ve lived your whole life from your own perspective. We […] The post Waiting to be a hero appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

What does it mean to believe something? How is it different to knowing something? “What do I believe in?” A question I dance with regularly. What do you believe in? Is it the things that bubble up in our mind when we ask ourselves that question? Today we’re going to dive into how to get […] The post Why knowing something isn’t enough appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

What is fear, really? What is pain, really? What is their relationship? Listen to the pain, it connects you to reality.  Pain is a signal from the body that something is wrong. It helps you preemptively avoid mortal risks. If we didn’t have pain you’d likely have died a long time ago. Or more likely […] The post The pain of fear, and the fear of pain appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

You must pass through the valley of good to become great, but striving for perfection stops you from becoming good. You become frozen in fear of failure. The post Letting perfect get in the way of good appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

Say “yes”. Say “yes” to others. More than anything, say “yes” to yourself. Give yourself permission to try.  When you are offered something by someone, what is your gut reaction? Is it to accept the offer or is it to deny it? In an attempt to be polite. I know for me, for a long […] The post Learning to say “yes” appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

What causes us to drift from those we care about?  How about turning on them? Where does that aggression come from? How do we get there? It all starts at the beginning: meeting them for the first time.  Remember that while they are a physical form in reality, the person you ‘know’ is actually a […] The post Why do we turn on those we care about? appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

I like to win. How about you?  It’s only natural, we’re programmed to like it. It’s in our DNA to want to ‘win’ things.  We need to focus on how to build strong relationships. It makes us feel good, bolsters our immediate view of ourselves. Fake self-esteem. In a primitive evolutionary perspective, winning against a […] The post Don’t take the last dime off the table appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

When it comes to ideas, there are good ones and there are bad ones. That is not to say that the person who has conceived the idea is good or bad, painted with same brush. This generalisation is intellectually lazy. It saves the person the emotional energy of actually considering all sides. Those that only […] The post STRONG IDEAS, weakly held appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

We spend a lot of our lives finding our calling. We’re on a journey, thinking our calling is waiting out there to discover. Finding your calling is a matter of looking inwards. “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life!” Is an adage thrown around in far too many pieces […] The post Finding your calling appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

Learning it the hard way. If the thing is worth learning it will always be hard. The feeling of the friction of change will make the more important things harder to accept. If you are a highly agreeable person you will often find yourself being taken advantage of. You feel an intrinsic drive to help […] The post Stop eating your friends’ problems appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

Framework collapses. An unbalanced self-esteem‘s worst nightmare. We can call accept that learning from your mistakes is the best way to grow. We receive so much stimulus from our environments. There is no way we can process it all in real-time. So our brains take shortcuts, genius shortcuts, but shortcuts nonetheless. We live in a […] The post People in glass houses should throw stones appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.

Exposure doesn’t make the trigger less scary. It makes you braver. While your self-esteem is unbalanced, fears can get out of control. The post Get Brave appeared first on Diversify Your Self Esteem.