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Ashley and Jared explore the highs and lows of post-grad life in a Baby Boomer's world, discussing struggles like landing your first job, moving out of your parents' house, and meeting The One on a dating app. Tune in for tips, tricks, and questionable advice from two friends who might have some of the answers.

Ashley Stahmer and Jared Hawley


    • May 20, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 54m AVG DURATION
    • 35 EPISODES


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    Disney Princess Showdown

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2021 49:35


    For our thirtieth episode, we’re discussing the Disney princesses and crowning our favorite! We explore the different eras of princesses from Snow White to Raya and discuss how their stories and personalities have changed over the years, including what we think of Disney’s fairytale storylines. We also cover the increased representation in Disney movies and discuss how Disney has more work to do.  Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Limiting Beliefs and How They’re Holding You Back

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2021 54:58


    We're diving into another psychological and mental health topic this week! A limiting belief is a state of mind or conviction that you think to be true that limits you in some way. We break down what limiting beliefs we have struggled with and how they have affected our lives and mental health. We explore the new beliefs we’ve adopted and our advice for combating your own limiting beliefs, as well as how to deal with having a different definition of success than your friends or family. We also discuss common toxic limiting beliefs and steps to overcome them in your own life. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Fitness, Dieting, & Body Image

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2021 85:17


    We’re discussing our history with exercise and dieting. Starting with our experiences in gym class and organized sports, we talk through where and when we were introduced to the concept of fitness and what being healthy meant and looked like. Looking at how our relationships with our bodies and confidence have changed throughout our lives, we discuss what habits and routines worked and which didn’t. We also explore the body positivity movement, including the concept of body neutrality, and try to find the best approach for both of us. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Personali-Tea (ft. Lucas Don)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2021 73:10


    This week, Lucas joins us for his second episode on the podcast! We discuss our personalities, as defined and broken down by Myers-Briggs and enneagram types. We explore what we have in common and where our differences lie. We also discuss which qualities are beneficial and how being aware of your personality type might help you make decisions and strengthen your relationships. We end with a comparison of the different personality quizzes and which we found to be more accurate. You can learn more about Myers-Briggs at www.myersbriggs.org/ and enneagrams at www.enneagraminstitute.com/. Lucas is on Instagram @lucas__the_don and Twitter @lucasthedon. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Are You There God? It's Ashley and Jared

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2021 60:17


    In honor of Easter, we explore our history with Catholicism and Christianity and discuss what we think of organized religion. Sharing our own stories, we cover how we were introduced to church and religion. We also explore what we would do differently with our future children. Going beyond how we were raised and what our parents believed, we delve into our current beliefs and which spiritual ideas we think might be (or want to be) true. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Rachaelly Insensitive: The Most Dramatic Season Ever

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2021 57:47


    We're breaking down the most dramatic season of the Bachelor yet. We discuss the drama that went down on-screen, including the franchise's meanest girls yet. We also explore Rachael Kirkconnell's past and the comments Chris Harrison made about her behavior. Recapping After the Final Rose, we discuss Emmanuel Acho as host and the conversations between him, Matt, and Rachael. We end the episode with a look at the future of Bachelor - including Chris's role and the upcoming double bachelorettes. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Make Sure the Kids are Alright

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2021 64:46


    We’re discussing the different aspects of high school and how crucial those four years are for young adults. While we think some electives and course requirements don’t do much good in the real world, we also think there are missing essentials that could replace those. We explore the concept of mental health in high school and how to help students cope with stress. We end with a discussion about the complicated nature of teaching in 2021 and ways for teachers to approach difficult conversations around sexuality, race, and politics. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Finding, Keeping, & Ending Friendships

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2021 70:20


    This week, we explore the phases of friendships. Starting with meeting new friends, we share ways to connect with new people after college, including work, social clubs, and matchmaking apps. We cover ways to stay connected with new friends and old, especially your friends who are no longer local. We share our tips, including weekly reminders to check in and monthly newsletters to keep everyone in the loop. We end this week’s episode with a discussion about fizzled friendships and how to deal with outgrowing your friends. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Pandemic: A Year in Review

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2021 59:57


    We’re starting March with a look at the last year and some reflections on our first (and hopefully last) experience with a global pandemic. We discuss how our outlook has changed since last March, including the stages of grief and acceptance we still cycle through. Finding a needle in the metaphorical pandemic haystack, we also explore silver linings of our increased time at home. We end with a look ahead to all the things we hope to do once the world is (mostly) safe again. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    The State of College in America

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2021 50:27


    This week, we're discussing the financial side of college and the high costs that come with attending a four-year university. Diving into the cost of tuition, housing, and amenities, we explore what is and isn't worth it. Looking at tuition costs, we compare which classes we took for our majors and how university requirements can affect your overall education. We also talk about the restrictions that come with living on-campus and the ways in which universities regulate their students. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Disney Movie Showdown

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2021 60:46


    This episode, we discuss some of the most iconic and memorable animated Disney movies from the last few decades. While we can’t cover all the Disney classics, we dive into our thoughts on a wide range of princesses, animals, aliens, and other loved characters. Learn which movies make us nostalgic and which films we can do without, and find out which movie takes our top spots! Follow along with our bracket, available on our Twitter page. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    He’s Dumb, She’s Crazy: Stereotypes and Gender Roles

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2021 63:28


    Are all men stupid? Are all women crazy? Short answer: no. We discuss common stereotypes, including the roles we're expected to play at work, in relationships, and at home. We also explore our experiences with not fitting those stereotypes and which qualities are beneficial or problematic for everyone. The discussion includes where we learned about gender roles and how our parents and friends impacted our views. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Pixar Movie Showdown

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2021 60:18


    We’re discussing all the Pixar films from Toy Story to Soul! We cover our opinions on the movies, including some stories about when we saw them for the first time or what the stories and character mean for us. Take a trip down memory lane as we discuss classics like Toy Story and Bug’s Life and explore the evolution of Pixar as we give our opinions on recent movies. Follow along with our bracket, available on our Twitter page. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    You're Not the One

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2021 63:00


    Do you see a future with your partner? How do you know when it's time to end things? We explore the end of relationships and how you know you've reached your breaking point, even when you're still in love with them. We also cover tips for the break-up and moving on, including how to be supportive if your friend is going through the end of their relationship. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    We Should All Be in Therapy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2021 72:27


    We're prioritizing our mental well-being in 2021. This week, we discuss our mental health throughout our lives and our experiences dealing with stressors and anxiety. We share our opinions on different types of therapy and what habits we use to care for ourselves in our personal lives. The conversation also covers how to utilize your support systems, even when that means setting boundaries in your relationships and friendships. Follow the podcast on Twitter @platonicallyspk Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Who Do You Know Here? (ft. Oliver Fraser)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2021 63:14


    This week, we welcome our second guest on the podcast: Oliver Fraser, our former roommate from college. We reminisce on our college experiences, including the reality of frat parties and socializing in our dorms. We share some of our most notable and outrageous drinking stories (that shouldn’t be taken as inspiration for your own antics). We end the episode with a discussion of our favorite drinks and how we've changed our habits (for better or worse) since college. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah Follow Oliver on Instagram @oliver.n.fraser --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Set the Bar Low for 2021: New Year’s Resolutions

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 31, 2020 57:52


    After the rollercoaster ride of 2020, we’re discussing our resolutions and goals for the upcoming year. We explore healthy habits, expanding our social circles, and moving forward at work. We also remember to give ourselves a little grace and patience to reach our goals in the next year, especially when the world can be as unpredictable as it has been. We end the episode with a look ahead to where we hope to be in a year, including what lies ahead for the podcast. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    ‘tis the damn season

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2020 59:28


    In honor of the holiday season, we’re delving into our family traditions and sharing the stories of how we learned Santa was a sham. We also discuss our favorite (and not so favorite) holiday films, including our take on Hallmark movies. We end with a holiday edition of yay or nay, including our takes on eggnog, fake Christmas trees, and more. Happy holidays! Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    And They Were Roommates

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 17, 2020 52:54


    So, you’ve decided to move out of your parents’ house. We’re discussing how you figure out who to live with: A friend? A stranger? Your boyfriend? We’ve got tips for setting boundaries, splitting up household chores, and making sure your living space is as safe and comfortable as possible. We also go over our roommate red flags and share a few horror stories we’ve heard about roommate nightmares. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Spoiler Alert - Hot Takes on TV Shows and Movies

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2020 65:32


    We’re winding down the mess of 2020 with a discussion of other controversial plot lines. Buckle in for some spoilers and hot takes about the endings of How I Met Your Mother, Gossip Girl, Game of Thrones, and more. We also explore problematic characters, relationships, and plot lines in other popular series. We end the episode with a few honorary mentions of our favorite shows that announced their last seasons in 2020 and what we’re looking forward to on the small screen in 2021. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Leaving the Nest

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 3, 2020 47:55


    Are you ready to move out of your parents’ place? Where do you go next, and how do you prepare yourself for a financially smart move? We’ve got tips on how to leave the nest and where to find the roommates that will help fund your venture. We also discuss the pros and cons of city life, as well as how to make any place your home. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Whose Home for the Holidays?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2020 56:12


    This episode, we’re discussing our holiday survival guide! How do you decide who to get gifts for, and what do you get them? Are you spending the holidays with your family or your significant other’s? How do you handle your racist grandparents and awkward small talk? We’re covering all of it, and we might just have some of the answers. We end this week’s episode with another round of Yay or Nay, including our opinions on the famous Wawa Turkey Gobbler and peppermint candy canes. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Bachelorette Highlights, Episode 5: (Finally) Time for Tayshia

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2020 21:23


    We've made it (mostly) past Clare's time as the Bachelorette, and it's time to move on to better things with Tayshia! This week, we're discussing the men's reactions to their new Bachelorette and who the new front runners are. We'll also cover the new guys brought in for Tayshia and who we think is going home next week. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    We’re Speaking Your Love Language

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2020 69:59


    This week, we're covering the five love languages as defined by Gary Chapman. We'll discuss our top ways of showing (and receiving) affection, as well as which ones we struggle with. We end this week's episode with the ways we practice our love languages by ourselves and tips on how to build a strong base for your relationships. Find out your love languages and learn more at www.5lovelanguages.com. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Bachelorette Highlights, Episode 4: Goodbye and Good Luck Clare

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2020 22:11


    We're capping off an exciting week with a discussion of Clare's fourth and final episode as the bachelorette. We'll cover how it all went down, how the guys reacted, and where the show's going from here. We're also looking ahead to how Tayshia will fare as a mid-season bachelorette and how the dynamic between the guys may shift. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Life is One Big Reality Show (ft. Lucas Don)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2020 65:44


    This week, we welcome our first guest: reality TV historian and fanatic Lucas Don! We're discussing the history of reality TV and its implications on society. We also explore how the line between entertainment and personal lives has been blurred over the years and what that means for the so-called stars. We end with a discussion of our favorite guilty pleasure shows and their redeeming qualities. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah Follow Lucas on Instagram @lucas__the__don --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Bachelorette Highlights, Episode 3: The Dale Show

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2020 21:16


    Week three of Clare's time on the Bachelorette features more time with Dale and even less time with the other guys. We discuss our thoughts on Yosef's drama, the one-on-one date with Zach J., and more. We also look forward to better days ahead with Tayshia. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    The College Experience

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2020 61:59


    We're going back to school this week! We discuss why we went to college, how we picked the University of Delaware, and if we'd do it the same way again. We also explore how we chose our majors and what advice we'd give for scheduling classes. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Bachelorette Highlights, Episode 2: Clare Likes Bad Boys

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2020 22:30


    We're discussing the second episode of Clare Crawley's Bachelorette season, including the first two group dates and the one-on-one date with Jason. We'll get into our thoughts on the guys, their chemistry with Clare, and why we think she likes Dale so much (hint: he's a rule-breaker).  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Defining the Relationship & What Comes Next

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2020 50:30


    This week, we’re discussing how to move your relationship from something casual to a commitment and what healthy habits should come along with that. We also cover how important open communication is throughout your relationship and how to make sure your (sexual, emotional, and basic) needs are met. We also touch on some break-up tips and how to keep your support systems strong in case you need them. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Bachelorette Highlights, Episode 1: Meeting the Boys

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2020 17:04


    We're discussing the first episode of Clare Crawley's Bachelorette season - her history in the Bachelor franchise and what we think of the rumors about her and Dale. We also cover other notable men from the season premiere and share our predictions for next week.  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Young Professional Survival Guide

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2020 52:51


    You got your first full-time job. Now what? We cover how to prepare for everything from your first day through the first few months. We’re discussing how to maintain a work-life balance when you’re still trying to prove yourself in the office and how to navigate your professional relationships. We’ll also give you some tips on overcoming imposter syndrome and remind you that you’re not alone in your pre-work jitters. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Escape Post-Grad Purgatory

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2020 57:02


    We’re talking about the post-grad job search and how to find an entry-level position you’re actually qualified for - everything from which sites to search on to how to ace your interviews. Listen to learn about our experiences in the tech and media industries and remind yourself that you’re not alone in your job search woes. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    Dating Apps: Whose Baby Is That Anyway?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2020 52:52


    Which photos should be on your Bumble profile? What’s the appropriate way to start a conversation with a stranger you’re trying to date? Where do you go for a first date with that stranger from the internet? We try to answer those questions and more while sharing our experiences with dating apps and dating in the digital age. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

    How Not to Date Your Best Friend

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2020 48:51


    On episode one of the Platonically Speaking podcast, we explain how we met six years ago and have managed to stay friends ever since. We also discuss the importance of open communication, how to separate your thoughts from your feelings, and how not to hook up with your roommate. Last but not least, we delve into our Halloween film critiques and demand justice for a certain series. We'll be exploring these topics and more on the podcast, so tune in every Thursday for more tips and tricks on how to survive post-grad life while living comfortably in the friend zone. Follow Ashley on Instagram @ashley2055 Follow Jared on Instagram @jaredyelwah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

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