Podcasts about Raya

What if the safest path isn't actually the most secure one?In this thought-provoking episode of Limitless MD, Dr. Vikram Raya sits down with Rohan Saxena for a powerful conversation on entrepreneurship, uncertainty, wealth creation, mindset, and the evolving future of physicians.Together, they unpack why more doctors are beginning to question the traditional path of medicine and explore what it really means to create freedom, ownership, and long-term security in today's rapidly changing world.Dr. Raya shares his personal journey from practicing cardiologist to entrepreneur and investor, revealing the moments that pushed him beyond the limitations of traditional medicine. From building preventive cardiology programs and functional medicine initiatives to real estate investing and coaching physicians nationwide, this episode dives into the mindset shifts required to build a life beyond the stethoscope.Rohan also shares his own unconventional journey of walking away from the “safe” path in pursuit of greater autonomy, adaptability, and control over his future — leading to a fascinating discussion on certainty, antifragility, AI, coaching, entrepreneurship, and why the most successful people learn to thrive in uncertainty instead of avoiding it.This episode is a masterclass in resourcefulness, clarity, strategic thinking, and designing a life that aligns with your vision instead of someone else's expectations.“If your desire for freedom is greater than your desire for certainty, you have to think differently.”~ Rohan SaxenaIn This Episode:Why many physicians feel trapped despite successful careersThe hidden limitations of the traditional medical pathHow entrepreneurial thinking creates more freedom and controlThe difference between active income and asset creationWhy ownership matters more than income aloneBuilding wealth through entrepreneurship, real estate, and businessHow coaching and mentorship accelerate growth and confidenceThe role of AI in business, medicine, and decision-makingWhy clarity is one of the biggest missing pieces for physiciansReverse engineering financial freedom and lifestyle designThe concept of Ikigai and finding meaningful workWhy antifragility and adaptability matter in today's economyHow to think strategically instead of emotionally about your futureAbout Rohan SaxenaRohan Saxena is a digital marketing expert and the Director of Marketing at Limitless MD, where he helps scale the company's growth, brand strategy, and physician impact initiatives.With expertise in content creation, media buying, funnel building, campaign strategy, and digital growth systems, Rohan has built over 1,000,000 organic followers across multiple brands and profitably managed more than $400,000 in advertising spend.In his first year at Limitless MD, he helped grow the company's annual revenue from approximately $700,000 to over $2,000,000 while helping expand the movement of entrepreneurial and high-performing physicians worldwide.Passionate about entrepreneurship, AI, marketing, and personal growth, Rohan brings a fresh perspective on adaptability, value creation, and building freedom in an increasingly uncertain world.Connect with Vikram:

La provincia de Badajoz es la mayor de España por superficie, con 21.766 kilómetros cuadrados. Sin embargo, sigue siendo una gran desconocida para muchos viajeros. Enrique Domínguez Uceta nos guía por los encantos de una provincia con marcado carácter transfronterizo.

You ready for some good juju? This week, iconic drag queen Jujubee (Drag Race, Stop! That! Train!) joins Nicole to talk about the power of self-love and why she's officially stopped looking for a relationship. Nicole pays tribute to her first dog, Charlie, and the two discuss why the true soulmates are actually the animals in our life. Jujubee shares her philosophy on why love never dies, and opens up about the clarity she's found from being 9 years sober. She shares her best advice on having the ultimate solo date, and the two Delta Diamond Divas share their travel tips.Go see Stop! That! Train! in theatres today. Check out Jujubee's latest EP, MESS FOR YOU.Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors:• Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad• Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad• Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME.• Wayfair: Patio season is here and these deals won't last! Head to Wayfair.com right now to get your outdoor space ready for way less.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I Thought Marcus Was My Safe Place Then I Discovered Raya's PortraitsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2026-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

On this episode of GrimLore, Reyway goes to school! Specifically the Raya Lucaria Academy of magic! Joining him is Toasty and Rayne acting as bodyguards against the many dangers of the Lands Between and stowing along for the ride is Arcane Daddy as he tries to join Reyway as a fellow classmate. Plot twist, however! Our dwarven host is a guest teacher at the academy as well! Many shenanigans will be had, and many more runes will be lost!

Arsenal squad depth, transfers and World Cup 2026 chat - who's in, who's out what will the World Cup mean for Arsenal players. Episode 188 kicks off the summer with a deep dive into Arsenal's squad, who should stay, who might go, who we're open to offers for, and what the club needs to do to stay ahead of the pack in 2026/27. Tabs is joined by Andy for a full squad audit just hours before the World Cup begins… and before six weeks of wincing every time an Arsenal player goes into a tackle.The pair break down:the goalkeeping situation (Raya locked in, Kepa's clause, Setford's readiness)the right‑back picture: Timber, Mosquera, Salmon… and the Ben White dilemmathe centre‑back depth and what it means for the summermidfield structure: Rice, Zubimendi, MLS, Odegaard, and the need for more technical qualitythe forward line and why Arsenal need ceiling‑raisers, not just depthwhat “eye‑catching business” might actually meanhow Arsenal's title win changes the transfer market dynamicthe Koenke's appetite to go back‑to‑backthe World Cup: Scotland's chances, England's injuries, and the Infantino‑Trump circus ... and what it might mean for the 26/27 season--Follow, rate, and subscribe on your favourite podcast app.Find us on socials: @thegroveafcThis is The Grove, and everyone is welcome. COME ON YOU GUNNERS!----Follow, rate, and subscribe to The Grove Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube @thegroveafcFind us on BlueSky, Threads, TikTok, Instagram and YouTube: @thegroveafcEmail us here: thegrovepodcast@outlook.com

Een onderwerp waar we nog nooit aan aflevering aan hebben gewijd, maar dat voortdurend terugkomt in de Kroegpraat-community: daten. Daarom is podcastmaker en date-expert Timo Harmelink te gast. Hinge, Raya, Bumble, Tinder en Grindr: hoe staat de datingappwereld ervoor? Tussen slechte matches, onoriginele foto's en ingewikkelde prompts als ‘long term, open to short' lijkt de dating fatigue groter dan ooit. Werkt offline daten misschien toch beter? Hoe ga je om met afwijzing? En hoe houd je plezier in het daten? Van fietsflirten tot vrienden pitchen: Timo deelt zijn beste inzichten en praktische tips.Onze sponsors:Arla Skyr is de sponsor om meer uit jouw ochtend te halen!Matt Sleeps bestaat 10 jaar en viert dat met de hoogste kortingen ooit tot wel 50%! Ga naar mattsleeps.com/kroegpraat en gebruik code KROEGPRAAT voor een extra verrassingskorting bovenop de lopende acties. (Geldig t/m 30 juni 2026)Productie: Meer van ditMuziek: Keez GroentemanWil je adverteren in deze podcast? Stuur een mailtje naar: Adverteerders (direct): adverteren@meervandit.nl(Media)bureaus: adverteren@bienmedia.nl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if success in medicine didn't require sacrificing your family, your peace, or the life you actually want to live?In this heartfelt and deeply insightful episode of Limitless MD, Dr. Vikram Raya sits down with Dr. Kristina Kypuros for a powerful conversation about what it truly means to build a meaningful life as a modern physician.Together, they unpack the evolving identity of today's doctors — physicians who are no longer willing to wait until retirement to enjoy their lives. From entrepreneurship and real estate investing to parenting, relationships, self-love, and intentional living, this episode explores how high-performing physicians can create success without losing themselves in the process.Dr. Kypuros shares her journey balancing medicine, motherhood, marriage, innovation, and wealth-building while staying grounded in purpose and presence. Meanwhile, Dr. Raya opens up about imposter syndrome, coaching, mindset shifts, resilience, and the philosophies helping him navigate growth, grief, ambition, and fulfillment in this next chapter of life.This conversation is both practical and deeply human — a reminder that building an extraordinary life is less about achieving more and more about becoming aligned with what matters most.“I want to include my children in everything I build without sacrificing time with them.”~ Dr. Kristina KypurosIn This Episode:Why today's physicians are redefining success and lifestyle designThe shift from traditional medicine into entrepreneurship and intentional livingHow coaching and mentorship can completely transform your trajectoryNavigating imposter syndrome and building true self-beliefWhy presence matters more than productivityThe importance of family, community, and designing a meaningful life nowHow to balance ambition with peace and fulfillmentLessons from stoicism, mindfulness, and European cultureWhy simplicity and surrender are becoming the new markers of successDaily practices and mindset shifts that help high performers stay groundedDr. Jessie Mahoney's Framework for FlowRegulate your nervous system before trying to optimize your scheduleReplace constant hustle with intentional pauses and awarenessBuild capacity through rest, presence, and recovery—not more outputPractice micro-moments of mindfulness throughout your dayReconnect with your internal signals instead of relying on external validationRedefine success from doing more to feeling alignedAbout Dr. Kristina KypurosDr. Kristina Kypuros is a wife, mother, and physician specializing in Pediatric Critical Care and Emergency Medicine. Beyond medicine, she is passionate about innovation, entrepreneurship, and real estate investing alongside her husband as they intentionally build a legacy-centered life for their family.She is currently developing an invention idea, writing a children's book inspired by her Greek and Mexican heritage, and empowering others to dream bigger, take action, and create lives rooted in purpose, alignment, and freedom.Connect with Vikram:

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Un ejemplar juvenil de raya gigante de agua dulce fue recapturado a 170 kilómetros del lugar donde había sido marcado nueve meses antes. El hallazgo, realizado en el marco de un proyecto científico del CONICET, representa uno de los desplazamientos más extensos registrados para esta especie y podría modificar los criterios de conservación y manejo pesquero en la región.

Hoy en #LosDanieles conversamos sobre la investigación de la reivsta Raya titulada Proyecto Júpiter. También analizamos el atentado ocurrido en la noche del 25 de abril durante la cena de corresponsales de la Casa Blanca.

Hoy en #LosDanieles conversamos sobre la investigación de la reivsta Raya titulada Proyecto Júpiter. También analizamos el atentado ocurrido en la noche del 25 de abril durante la cena de corresponsales de la Casa Blanca.

There was a time in my life where summer felt like a financial reset. Everything felt lighter. More relaxed. More social. I wasn't thinking about routines the same way, and I definitely wasn't as focused on my budget. I was just… living. In the moment, it felt good. Like I was enjoying my life and taking a break from structure. But what I didn't realize back then was that the kind of "reset" I was creating wasn't actually helping me. Because if you're not careful, a financial reset can quietly turn into falling behind. In this episode, I'm walking you through four common summer spending traps that can derail your savings goals…and more importantly, how to stay aligned with your money without feeling restricted.  You don't have to choose between enjoying your summer and being financially responsible…you just need to stay connected while you do it.   In this episode, we discuss: The real reason summer can throw off your savings and financial progress Why feeling like you "deserve it" can turn into emotional spending How social plans can quickly lead to unplanned overspending The danger of telling yourself you'll "get back on track later" Why inconsistency with money habits makes everything feel harder How small, everyday summer spending adds up faster than you think The importance of staying connected to your budget during busy seasons Simple ways to stay intentional with your money without missing out   This episode is especially helpful if you: Feel like summer always throws your finances off track Tend to overspend on social plans, dining, or last-minute activities Struggle to stay consistent with budgeting during busy seasons Tell yourself you'll "fix it later" when it comes to money Feel like your savings goals slow down or stop in the summer Want to enjoy your life while still making financial progress   Why this matters: Summer doesn't ruin your finances, but disconnection from your money absolutely can. And that disconnection doesn't usually happen in big, obvious ways. It happens in small decisions. Small patterns. Small moments where you stop checking in and start going with the flow. When you're not intentional, your spending becomes reactive; and when your spending is reactive, it becomes harder to stay aligned with your goals. But when you stay connected to your money (even in busy, social, high-spend seasons), you stay in control. You make better decisions in real time. You adjust as needed, and you avoid that overwhelming feeling of having to "start over."   Timestamps: [03:13] One of the biggest shifts Raya helps her clients work through is the mindset of justifying purchases. [06:06] Letting social plans dictate your spending can be one of the fastest ways to lose control of your spending. [10:53] Most women know what to do when it comes to money, but they struggle because they don't stay consistent with their efforts. [13:35] Not sure why your money feels tight in the summer? It's likely a lack of awareness of where your money is going.   Resources Mentioned: Episode #184: Fighting Summer FOMO: 5 Hacks that Keep Me on Track with My Budget and Goals Request a free money call with Raya City Girl Savings Personal Finance Portfolio Financial Focus Coaching Program   If there's one thing to take from this episode, it's this: summer doesn't have to set you back…but it will if you move through it without intention. The women who feel calm and confident with their money during busy seasons aren't the ones who never spend. They're the ones who decide how they want to spend before the moment happens. They stay aware. They stay connected. They stay grounded in their goals…while still enjoying their lives. If you're ready to build that kind of consistency with your money, having the right structure and support can make all the difference. You can request a free money call using the link in the resources section. You're not off track, you just need to stay connected.

Rachael Hornbucle joins us to tell us about her dating history on Raya and we talk about the best gay nightclubs. Join the PATREON HERE - Just $7 (AUD) for bonus eps and content - get tons of behind the scenes hacks and pranks and help keep this podcast going! Go watch Capper's special Hold Me Closer Tiny Cancer HERE Follow CAPPER and ROHAN and PHONE HACKS on Instagram Subscribe where you're listening and leave a review to get the word out thereSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The NN Pod begins its end-of-season player review series as Gavin returns to the show following Arsenal's Premier League title celebrations and a football-filled trip across England, Scotland and Europe. From the atmosphere around the Emirates on trophy-lift day to watching the Champions League Final in Amsterdam, the hosts reflect on a memorable few weeks before turning their attention to the squad review.  Part One focuses on the foundation of Arsenal's title-winning side. The panel grades the goalkeepers, defenders and deeper midfielders, discussing the seasons of David Raya, Jurriën Timber, Ben White, Cristhian Mosquera, William Saliba, Gabriel Magalhães, Piero Hincapié and Riccardo Calafiori.  The conversation then moves into midfield, where Declan Rice, Martín Zubimendi, Christian Nørgaard and Myles Lewis-Skelly come under the microscope. The hosts debate Player of the Season contenders, discuss the impact of injuries and availability, and consider which players exceeded expectations during Arsenal's championship campaign.  With grades ranging from A* to F, there are disagreements, surprises and plenty of discussion around the players who helped Arsenal lift the Premier League trophy. Part Two, covering the attacking players, follows next week.  The grades are in. The debates begin.Chapters:(00:00) - Arteta's Non-Negotiables & Intro(00:18) - End of Season Review Series Introduction(01:22) - Gavin's Arsenal Trophy Lift Travel Diary(08:02) - Elliot's Emirates Trophy Celebration Experience(13:18) - Champions League Final Reflections(19:18) - Player Review Format & Grading Criteria(19:29) - David Raya(21:57) - Kepa Arrizabalaga(23:58) - Tommy Setford (Mention)(24:18) - Jurriën Timber(25:55) - Ben White(28:06) - Cristhian Mosquera(30:20) - William Saliba(32:00) - Gabriel Magalhães(33:30) - Piero Hincapié(35:10) - Riccardo Calafiori(37:33) - Declan Rice(40:23) - Martín Zubimendi(44:26) - Christian Nørgaard(46:30) - Myles Lewis-Skelly(50:36) - Looking Ahead To Part Two & Outro

We just pulled off a travel move that still makes us laugh: a luxury stay at Waldorf Astoria Monarch Beach that was booked on Hilton points, covered by stacked Hilton resort credits, and somehow ended with us up $38 thanks to a perfectly timed Amex offer. If you've ever wondered whether points and miles are actually worth the effort, we walk through the real math, the real cards, and the real checkout moment where Raya hands over a stack of credit cards and asks the front desk to split the bill across all of them. Along the way, we rewind to our annual Oceanside getaway, the trip we protect on our calendar because it has almost no itinerary. Beach, pool, good food, and a reset. This year includes a surprise birthday dinner for Dwayne with friends he hasn't seen in more than 20 years, plus little details that made it feel special, like a custom menu and a table that just kept growing as more people arrived. We also get practical about family travel logistics: when a “standard room” starts feeling too small for five people, how we think about suites, and why an ocean view matters when one of us is working during the trip. We share our experience at The Seabird, how we handled a disappointing initial room assignment, and the polite ask that got us into a true oceanfront suite. Expect plenty of California details too, from the Monarch Beach club shuttle to June gloom weather timing, plus our favorite eats and one meal that went off the rails. If you want more strategies like this for affordable luxury travel, subscribe, share this with a points-obsessed friend, and leave us a quick review so more families can find the show. What's the next hotel you'd love to book entirely on points?

The following article of the Agribusiness & Food industry is: 'How Gene Editing Is Transforming Agricultural Regulation' by Mario Puente Raya, Executive Director, AMSAC. 

This week Mandy has Raya Hensler, host of Reality with Raya, on the podcast. Mandy and Raya spend most of the time deconstructing the Summer House reunion part 2 but chat a little In The City and Real Housewives of Rhode Island. Do you all agree Liz was on something when she freaked out at Jo-Ellen?For all things Raya Hensler: https://linktr.ee/realitywithraya?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=97758878-8062-4a9a-acd4-8009bd54119aFollow Reality with Ray on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realitywithraya/Follow Mandy on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/mandyslutsker/

If you enjoy this episode, we're sure you will enjoy more content like this on The Occult Rejects.  In fact, we have curated playlists on occult topics like grimoires, esoteric concepts and phenomena, occult history, analyzing true crime and cults with an occult lens, Para politics, and occultism in music. Whether you enjoy consuming your content visually or via audio, we've got you covered - and it will always be provided free of charge.  So, if you enjoy what we do and want to support our work of providing accessible, free content on various platforms, please consider making a donation to the links provided below.  Thank you and enjoy the episode!Links For The Occult Rejectshttps://linktr.ee/theoccultrejectsOccult Research Institutehttps://www.occultresearchinstitute.org/Substackhttps://substack.com/@theoccultrejects?r=7auau0&utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-pageCash Apphttps://cash.app/$theoccultrejectsVenmo@TheOccultRejectsBuy Me A Coffeebuymeacoffee.com/TheOccultRejectsPatreonhttps://www.patreon.com/TheOccultRejectsHere is the discount code OCCULT10People can book through my website: www.rayathorne.comHere are my other links:YT: https://www.youtube.com/@rayathorneINST: https://www.instagram.com/rayathorne/Also want to remind people about the website, if you're into reading we have tons of information by multiple contributors, and we got t-shirts up on the site if you're interested. Fun fact, the art is all based on the eyeball. A

Drag queen Trixie Mattel (Drag Race S7, All Stars 3) returns to the podcast! After experiencing how exhausting it is to navigate a private breakup while smiling through a press tour, Trixie opens up about why she is now fiercely protective of her new relationship. Nicole explains why Drag Race S7 is her all-time favorite season, and the girls discuss wild dating reality TV shows like 90 Day Fiancé, Love After Lockup, and Love on the Spectrum, plus whether Trixie would ever actually compete on The Traitors. Trixie also discusses her impersonator recent retirement, gives her honest advice to all the gay singles out there, and reveals her obsession with crime scene cleanup.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors:• Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad• Betterhelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme today to get 10% off your first month.• Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ein letztes Mal mit dieser einen Person sprechen, eine Revolution miterleben, die Gadgets der Zukunft sehen: Alles, was wir dafür bräuchten, wäre eine Zeitmaschine! Meistens ging es in die Vergangenheit - zu den Großeltern, zu Musik-Idolen oder um große Katastrophen zu verhindern.

What happens when a sharp, inquisitive 14-year-old interviewer starts asking questions most adults never think to ask?In this conversation with Rithvik Raya, Coach Alex dives deep into some of the biggest questions surrounding health, fitness, resilience, agency, suffering, faith, and human potential.Together they explore:Living with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and chronic painWhy modern abundance may be making us physically and mentally weakerThe science of adaptation and resilienceWhy "calories in, calories out" oversimplifies human biologyThe surprising science behind hope molecules and exerciseWhy coaching and community outperform diets and algorithmsThe role of agency in personal transformationWhat fitness has to do with faith, purpose, and stewardshipHow modern culture encourages victimhood—and how to reclaim responsibilityWhy intensity isn't always the answerThe difference between starting a fitness journey and becoming the kind of person who finishes itThis is one of the most thoughtful and wide-ranging conversations I've had in a long time. Rithvik asked questions that forced me to think carefully about what I actually believe and why.If you've ever wondered how fitness connects to psychology, theology, resilience, leadership, and the pursuit of a meaningful life, this conversation is for you.Life is hard.The question isn't whether you'll face difficulty.The question is:What kind of hard will you choose?⏱️ Timestamps00:00 – Introduction01:06 – Living With Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome05:15 – Why Modern Comfort May Be Making Us Weak08:42 – Choosing Your Hard10:40 – Childhood Trauma, Science & Finding Truth13:05 – Why Coach Alex Built Faithful Fitness16:45 – The Fitness Industry's Biggest Problem17:05 – Calories In, Calories Out? Not So Fast21:28 – Hope Molecules, Myokines & Exercise Science25:00 – What Is Agency?27:52 – Can Agency Survive the Algorithm Age?29:30 – Why Coaching & Community Beat Every Diet31:57 – The Science Behind SpyFit35:37 – Leadership, Responsibility & Personal Agency38:47 – Is Fitness Really About Intentional Living?40:02 – Is There A Moral Dimension To Fitness?45:32 – Pride, Gluttony, Shame & Stewardship48:21 – The Problem With Victimhood Culture50:38 – Why Intensity Is Overrated53:01 – How the Body Actually Adapts57:31 – Better Daily, Comparison & Following Christ01:01:12 – Social Media, Movement & Human Flourishing01:02:29 – Why People Really Get In Shape01:05:08 – Coaching, Identity & Freedom01:06:46 – Rapid Fire Round01:10:15 – Final Thoughts

Vous trouverez cet entretien sous deux formes : l'une complètement en anglais, l'autre doublée et expliquée en français par moi-même si vous préférez (les deux se trouvent séparément dans le flux du podcast, suivez les drapeaux !)Le lendemain de l'enregistrement de cet épisode - une dinguerie vous verrez -, je n'avais qu'une idée en tête : écrire à Elizabeth Gilbert, garder le lien avec elle. Cette femme a un charisme fou. Je le sais depuis 2006, lorsqu'elle a publié Mange, Prie, Aime, un livre qui a inspiré des millions de femmes - dont moi. Vingt ans plus tard, elle publie un livre poignant, Jusqu'à la rivière, dont elle estime qu'il est « la suite » de ce premier best seller. Le contenu en est bien plus sombre. Il lui a fallu huit ans pour avoir la force de « retourner en enfer » pour raconter l'histoire d'amour destructrice vécue avec son âme-soeur, Raya, atteinte d'un cancer en phase terminale et dépendante à la cocaïne et à l'héroïne. Elizabeth Gilbert, elle, était dépendante à l'idée qu'elle devait sauver Raya. Si, sur le papier, elle avait l'air d'être la « personne saine et altruiste », elle a compris ensuite qu'elle était « tout aussi folle, peut-être plus » que sa compagne. C'est ça, la « codépendance » un concept mal connu en France, qu'elle décrit d'une façon limpide : déverser dans l'autre tout ce qu'on est, puis rester « mains tendues, en espérant récupérer une miette de l'amour qu'on a déversé ». Elizabeth Gilbert est allée aux Codépendants Anonymes, et a fait ce fameux « programme en douze étapes » qui implique un bilan moral total, qu'elle décrit comme le moment le plus salvateur de sa vie.Elle me charme. Elle me fait rire. La conclusion à laquelle elle aboutit dans ce livre est exactement la même que celle à laquelle j'ai abouti dans Enfin Seule. Elle explore la nécessité pour les êtres humains, en particulier les femmes, de trouver l'apaisement dans une capacité reconquise d'être enfin heureuse seule.C'est pour ça que cet entretien m'a bouleversée. Je sais déjà qu'il vous plaira !Faites moi des retours sur les réseaux sociaux et n'oubliez pas de mettre des étoiles partout ! Ça aide Folie Douce à essaimer

Vous trouverez cet entretien sous deux formes : l'une complètement en anglais, l'autre doublée et expliquée en français par moi-même si vous préférez (les deux se trouvent séparément dans le flux du podcast, suivez les drapeaux !)Le lendemain de l'enregistrement de cet épisode - une dinguerie vous verrez -, je n'avais qu'une idée en tête : écrire à Elizabeth Gilbert, garder le lien avec elle. Cette femme a un charisme fou. Je le sais depuis 2006, lorsqu'elle a publié Mange, Prie, Aime, un livre qui a inspiré des millions de femmes - dont moi. Vingt ans plus tard, elle publie un livre poignant, Jusqu'à la rivière, dont elle estime qu'il est « la suite » de ce premier best seller. Le contenu en est bien plus sombre. Il lui a fallu huit ans pour avoir la force de « retourner en enfer » pour raconter l'histoire d'amour destructrice vécue avec son âme-soeur, Raya, atteinte d'un cancer en phase terminale et dépendante à la cocaïne et à l'héroïne. Elizabeth Gilbert, elle, était dépendante à l'idée qu'elle devait sauver Raya. Si, sur le papier, elle avait l'air d'être la « personne saine et altruiste », elle a compris ensuite qu'elle était « tout aussi folle, peut-être plus » que sa compagne. C'est ça, la « codépendance » un concept mal connu en France, qu'elle décrit d'une façon limpide : déverser dans l'autre tout ce qu'on est, puis rester « mains tendues, en espérant récupérer une miette de l'amour qu'on a déversé ». Elizabeth Gilbert est allée aux Codépendants Anonymes, et a fait ce fameux « programme en douze étapes » qui implique un bilan moral total, qu'elle décrit comme le moment le plus salvateur de sa vie.Elle me charme. Elle me fait rire. La conclusion à laquelle elle aboutit dans ce livre est exactement la même que celle à laquelle j'ai abouti dans Enfin Seule. Elle explore la nécessité pour les êtres humains, en particulier les femmes, de trouver l'apaisement dans une capacité reconquise d'être enfin heureuse seule.C'est pour ça que cet entretien m'a bouleversée. Je sais déjà qu'il vous plaira !Faites moi des retours sur les réseaux sociaux et n'oubliez pas de mettre des étoiles partout ! Ça aide Folie Douce à essaimer

We welcome you back to a very special episode of Upstairs Neighbors! Maya is away, so bring in Alexa Jay! This week Dom shares her Raya success story, Alexa tells us about meeting Tyriq Withers and they both retell their high stories.  Enjoy!  Offers:   SquareSpace: Head to Squarespace.com/UPSTAIRS for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch, use OFFER CODE: UPSTAIRS to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Smirnoff Ice: Available at local retailers near you. Please drink responsibly, 21+ RocketMoney: Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at RocketMoney.com/UPSTAIRSNEIGHBORS. Podcast Socials: IG: https://www.instagram.com/upstairsneighborspod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@upstairsneighborspod Follow our Hosts:  Maya IG: https://www.instagram.com/mayamoto_/ Maya TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mayahasatiktok Dom IG: https://www.instagram.com/domrobxrts/ Dom TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domnotateenmom Follow Alexa Jay:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/alexajay/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@flexylexxxy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@alexa_jayy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rich makes the case that he's technically a 9/11 survivor. Tracie has the gruesome realizes she's been on Raya for 10 years. We investigate the origins of "monkey bars," have a delayed Euphoria conversation, discuss how Kars4Kids raises money for jewish birthright trips to Israel, and examine Trump's deeply unsettling pronunciation of the word "vegan." We also review the dash cam footage from Britney Spears' DUI arrest and ask the important questions, like why we're all still here.To access video episodes, bonus episodes and our premium series WAWU—we're covering Michael Jackson: The Trial—check out our Patreon.Tracie's SubstackInstagramTikTok ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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THAT BALD MAN WAS OUR BOSS, MARK! Today on the Show, Payton had her BRIDAL SHOWER but then she ALSO HAD AN UNEXPECTED VISITOR! First though, Johnjay NEARLy discovered a model and RAYA's WATCH BETRAYED HER! Also, Kyle's hoarding tendencies have finally PAID OFF. Plus, Chelsea from Seattle just found us and is listening to us in her big rig AND Rich SCREWED UP MINUTE TO WIN IT SO BAD SOMEONE called in just to say WTF. All of this and MUCH MORE today on JOHNJAY AND RICH!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Summer has a way of making you want to say yes to everything. The trips. The brunches. The outfits. The events. The experiences. Listen…there's nothing wrong with enjoying your life. In fact, you should enjoy your life. But what you don't want is to come out of the summer with credit card debt, financial stress, or feeling like you have to start over when fall hits. Because the truth is, you don't have to choose between having fun and being financially responsible. You can do both. In this episode, we're breaking down how to have your version of a "Hot Girl Summer" without overspending, without guilt, and without falling off track with your financial goals. I'm joined by Aleah Vassell from Creative With Money, who shares a powerful perspective on building wealth, managing money, and staying intentional…even with inconsistent or creative income.   In this episode, we discuss: How to enjoy summer without overspending or going into debt Why high-spend seasons like summer can derail your financial progress How to balance fun, experiences, and financial responsibility What intentional spending actually looks like in real life How to manage your money during seasons of inconsistent income Why assuming "future income" will cover current spending can backfire How to create a summer spending plan or "fun fund" that works Creative ways to enjoy your summer without blowing your budget How to deal with FOMO without sabotaging your financial goals   This episode is especially helpful if you: Feel pressure to spend more money during the summer months Want to enjoy your life but stay aligned with your financial goals Tend to overspend on travel, dining, or social events Feel like summer always throws you off track financially Have inconsistent income or are self-employed/creative Want to feel more intentional, confident, and in control of your spending   Why this matters: Summer can either be a season where you fully enjoy your life and stay aligned with your finances…or a season that quietly undoes months of progress. A lot of overspending doesn't come from a lack of discipline. It comes from a lack of planning, intention, and awareness…especially during high-energy, high-spend seasons like this. When you approach your money with intention, everything changes. You stop reacting and start deciding. You give yourself permission to enjoy your life, but within boundaries that actually support your long-term goals. Over time, that balance is what allows you to build wealth without feeling restricted or deprived.   Timestamps: [02:40] Aleah shares how she went from starving artist to high-income creative, and how Creative with Money came to be. [09:36] Prioritize your joy. You don't have to spend money to bring happiness into your life. [20:20] Aleah gives guidance to listeners who are thinking about investing or struggling with choosing investing over saving. [32:40] Raya and Aleah share some low-cost ways people can have fun over the summer.   Resources Mentioned: Follow Aleah on Instagram Creative with Money Resources City Girl Savings Personal Finance Portfolio Financial Focus Coaching Program   If you've ever felt like summer throws your finances off track, this episode is your reminder that you can enjoy your life and stay financially aligned at the same time. With a little planning, intentionality, and structure, you don't have to choose between fun and financial progress…you can have both. If you're ready to build a system that helps you stay consistent with your money no matter the season, support and accountability can make all the difference. You can learn more about coaching using the link in the show notes. You are allowed to enjoy your life. Just make sure your money is set up to support it, not stress you out later.  

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Tracie Thoms (RENT, The Devil Wears Prada 2) joins Nicole to discuss her 8-year journey to join the iconic cast of RENT, the wild logic men use to avoid commitment, and why some of them want all the benefits of a girlfriend with zero of the responsibility. Tracie also breaks down the nightmare of having dated someone who tried dictate her career, and reveals why living apart from her partner has actually been the ultimate relationship hack. Plus, why does true love make you feel sleepy? And Nicole opens up about her PMDD diagnosis.I'm just such a big fan of RENT and so happy we have Joanne on, omg folks this is a big one for me personally. Rentheads unite!Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast by checking out our sponsor:• Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You got small so you could learn how powerful you truly are. Every relationship, every betrayal, every "what was I thinking" moment… it's not punishment. It's a form of modern initiation. You are not behind. You're being initiated. You've loved people who didn't love you back the way you deserved. You've stayed longer than you should have. You've given the benefit of the doubt—and then wondered why you did. In this episode, Danielle shares a personal story—raw, funny, honest—about a dating app exchange that challenged her standards. What if every relationship that confused you, every situation that blindsided you, every "what was I thinking" moment wasn't punishment—but initiation?  If you've ever questioned your discernment after a hard experience. If you've done the work and still wonder why certain things keep showing up. If you want to know that you can trust yourself again… Press play. Episode Timestamps [00:53] Life update: Bless & Release, venture capital, and the Centering app [02:38] The Raya rude boy  [06:39] Shenpa: Buddhist emotional hooks and how you respond to the hard moment [07:50] The "what was I thinking" spiral [09:57] The priestess and warrior initiation [11:26] Earth school in the Age of Aquarius [12:50] The point is to love more now  [14:04] Revisiting rude boy: what he was actually a reminder of [15:00] Sign you're a Super Blesser [16:30] You can trust yourself [17:10] Walt Whitman close: I contain multitudes  

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À quelques heures de la finale de la Ligue des Champions entre le Paris Saint-Germain et Arsenal, le WFC répond à toutes vos questions sur ce rendez-vous. Qui doit être titulaire entre Hakimi et Zaïre-Emery ? Qui va s'imposer ? Dembélé, Saka, Rice, Kvara, Raya : qui sera l'homme clé de la finale ? Le plateau répond également aux questions autour de l'actualité foot : le barrage Nice vs Saint-Etienne, le mercato...Ce podcast est hébergé par Podcastics, la plateforme pour créer et diffuser votre podcast facilement.

How memorable is a movie made in deep pandemic?  We find out.Thomas moved from art direction at Disney World, to creating entertaining comic books, podcasts, and toys riffing on conspiracy theories.  Check out his stuff here:https://www.paranoidamerican.com/Please subscribe, review, and rate us on all the podcatchers.  And if you're Scrooge McDuck, throw a bob out to Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/podcastiopodcastiusMatt makes lots of music.  Brand new ones include the binaural head trip of "The Depths of Fieldation," and the psych rock of "The Deep Dream Realm." Have a listen:https://rovingsagemedia.bandcamp.com/Coming soon:PaprikaRon's Gone Wrong Encanto 

Welcome to our first Overlap Champions Special, brought to you by Sky Bet.In this episode, Gary Neville and Ian Wright visit the Sobha Realty Training Centre, home of the newly crowned Premier League champions, Arsenal.Mikel Arteta joins the show alongside the Premier League trophy to reflect on his rebuild of Arsenal, taking the club from the infamous “banter era” to the top of English football. With a Champions League final still to come, can Arsenal complete a truly historic season?Co-Chair Josh Kroenke and CEO Richard Garlick also sit down with Gary and Wrighty to discuss the club's rise, reveal the importance of signing Declan Rice and even surprise the pair with a gift of their own.Mikel Merino and Myles Lewis-Skelly then join the show to reflect on the highs and lows of the campaign, as well as sharing a few secrets from Arsenal's title celebrations.Can Arsenal complete the double by winning the Champions League? 00:00 - Intro01:37- Arteta Reflects on Winning07:27 - Declan Rice Statement Signing10:19 - Raya or Ramsdale Decision Explained11:52 -Josh Kroenke21:09 -Richard Garlick31:05 - Mikel Merino36:58 - Champions League Final39:47 - Myles Lewis-Skelly Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we get real black and random as ****. Quinta Brunson's bringing Betty Boop into the 21st century. Kelis out here giving toys melanin. And why is Ray J in the ring? This episode is sure to be a knockout. Become a Habitual Ish Talker and follow us on The App Formally Known As Twitter: twitter.com/TalkinIsh_PodJoin in on the conversation! E-Mail us at ⁠talkinishpod@gmail.com⁠Listen to the audio version: https://linktr.ee/TalkinIshPod#Podcast #Politics #PopCulture Chapters00:00 - Introduction/Idle Chit Chat07:38 - Raya's Week08:40 - Britt's Week13:29 - Raya's Birthday Week20:29 - Anthony's Week22:28 - Viewer Comments Intro22:56 - Lisa's Comment31:14 - Ray J... KO!!!40:06 - SkillsRight Dot ORG 45:25 - Quinta's Boop Boop Be Doop 49:53 - Kelis' Making It Brown59:50 - Question of the Pod01:02:49 - Talkin' Recommendations 01:19:58 - Goodbye/See Ya Later!

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I'm going to say something that might sting a little. Inconsistency is the real financial killer. Not low income. Not inflation. Not student loans. Not a lack of knowledge. Inconsistency. Because most women don't struggle with money because they don't know what to do. They struggle because they do it for a few weeks… and then stop. They budget when they feel motivated… and then stop. They save for a month… and then stop. They start strong… and then lose momentum. And every time you stop, you reset your progress. In this episode, I'm breaking down why consistency (not motivation, not perfection, not even income)is the real secret to financial success. We're also talking about how consistency builds momentum, strengthens self-trust, reduces anxiety, and creates long-term results that feel stable and sustainable. If you've ever felt like you're constantly starting over with your money, this episode is going to hit home.   In this episode, we discuss: Why inconsistency is the real reason many women feel stuck financially How inconsistency breaks momentum and keeps you in a cycle of starting over Why consistency builds self-trust and financial confidence How consistency compounds—both financially and behaviorally Why inconsistent money habits increase financial anxiety The difference between being interested in financial success vs committed to it How consistency makes financial success predictable (not random) Why systems and structure are required to stay consistent   This episode is especially helpful if you: Feel like you're constantly starting over with your money Struggle to stay consistent with budgeting, saving, or tracking Know what to do financially, but don't follow through long-term Feel behind despite making good income Want to feel more confident, calm, and in control of your finances   Why this matters: Financial success isn't built in one big moment. It's built through repeated, steady actions over time. When you're inconsistent, everything feels harder. You lose momentum. You lose clarity. You lose confidence. And eventually, you start avoiding your money altogether. But when you're consistent, everything shifts. You trust yourself more. You stay aware of your numbers. You make better decisions faster. And you start to see progress that actually sticks. Consistency removes the chaos and replaces it with stability…and over time, that stability turns into financial confidence…and real results.   Timestamps: [03:39] When you lose consistency with your financial habits, you lose confidence. Avoidance is when financial chaos ensues. [07:12] Consistency changed how Raya approached risk. Decisions used to be made out of hope and adrenaline, where now, decisions are calculated.  [13:10] Inconsistency results in stalls growth…with budgeting, investing, saving, and any other helpful habit for your finances. [20:05] Consistency forces you to prove to yourself that you mean what you say. If you say you want financial peace, are you consistently doing things that create it?   Resources Mentioned: Episode #141: How Managing My Money Has Boosted My Confidence Episode #178: Finding Peace in Your Finances: 5 Steps to Eliminate Money Anxiety City Girl Savings Personal Finance Portfolio Financial Focus Coaching Program   If you've been feeling stuck or frustrated with your progress, this episode is your reminder that you don't need a better plan…you need more consistency with the plan you already have. If you're ready to build real consistency with your money, support, structure, and accountability can make all the difference. You can learn more about coaching using the link in the show notes. You are not behind. You're just one consistent season away from everything starting to click.

World famous relationship therapist Esther Perel has been studying relationships for over 40 years. She joins Nicole to share the most common problems couples seek therapy for, the 3 types of conflicts we fight over, and how to productively resolve them. Esther discusses how to get over "icks" while dating, and challenges us to ask ourselves: what "icks" would people find in you? They also explore exactly why modern dating feels so incredibly tough right now, the fact that therapy speak has gone mainstream thanks to shows like The Sopranos, and whether that's a good or bad thing. Plus, Esther shares a wild story about her first therapy session between a man and his AI girlfriend, and she totally flips the script on Nicole to ask the ultimate question: Would you date you?Celebrate the 20th anniversary of her groundbreaking book, Mating in Captivity.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast by checking out our sponsor:• Chime: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Britney Spears New DUI Details, Rami Malek Talks Playing a Gay Man Again and Hugh Jackman's reaction to his Ex. A couple A-list Raya using men and Joaquin Phoenix is our Hot Mess.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Louisianans told it's govenor what they feel about him. We celebrate the Class of '26. The Kevin Roast brought more cringe than comedy. And, have the celebrity black intellectuals play in our faces?Become a Habitual Ish Talker and follow us on The App Formally Known As Twitter: twitter.com/TalkinIsh_PodJoin in on the conversation! E-Mail us at ⁠talkinishpod@gmail.com⁠Listen to the audio version: https://linktr.ee/TalkinIshPod#Podcast #Politics #PopCulture Chapters00:00 - Introduction/Drake's Coochie Hurts08:30 - Britt's Week13:29 - Raya's Birthday Week22:31 - Anthony's Week29:21 - And Britt Brings the Mood Down35:23 - Viewer Comments Intro35:44 - Lisa's Comment40:44 - Congrats Class of '26!54:01 - The Cringe of the Kevin Hart Roast! 01:23:25 - Louisiana CAs Update 01:26:24 - Recall Janky Jeff! 01:30:59 - The Problem With Black Intellectuals02:29:39 - Question of the Pod02:34:00 - Goodbye/See Ya Later!

Let me guess. You've tried to "be better" with money before. You've told yourself you'll check your accounts more often. You've promised you'll stick to your budget. You've said this month will be different. And maybe it is… for a week. Then life gets busy. Work gets intense. You get tired. Something unexpected comes up. And suddenly, you're back to reacting instead of leading your money. Here's what I want to gently say: it's not that you lack discipline…it's that you lack a routine. Because discipline requires energy, but a routine relies on structure. And structure wins every time. In this episode, I'm walking you through how to create a weekly money routine that actually sticks…not one you do when you feel motivated, but one that becomes part of your rhythm. Because if you want to feel confident and in control of your finances, consistency is the bridge. And consistency is built weekly.   In this episode, we discuss: Why discipline alone isn't enough to stay consistent with money How a weekly money routine creates clarity and control Why weekly check-ins prevent overwhelm and avoidance How to choose a consistent time for your routine What to include in a weekly money check-in (step-by-step) How reviewing transactions helps you stay aware of your spending Why checking account balances builds financial confidence How to plan ahead for upcoming expenses How to make small adjustments without overcorrecting The role of daily habits in supporting weekly consistency How to stay consistent even when you miss a week   This episode is especially helpful if you: Struggle to stay consistent with your money habits Feel reactive instead of in control of your finances Avoid checking your accounts or tracking spending Want a simple, repeatable money routine that works   Why this matters: Financial consistency isn't about doing everything perfectly…it's about having a rhythm you can return to. When you only check in on your money occasionally, everything feels bigger than it is. Numbers feel overwhelming. Decisions feel heavier. Avoidance becomes easier. But when you check in weekly, nothing builds up. You stay aware. You adjust early. You stay in control. A weekly money routine turns your finances from something reactive into something intentional…and that's where confidence starts to build.   Timestamps: [02:11] The first step to building a weekly money routine is deciding when you'll implement that routine (and protect that time). A set day and time each week will go a long way. [05:10] Raya walks through the 5 core components of a weekly money check in, including reviewing transactions, updating budget categories, and more. [10:30] Your entire weekly routine should take 30-40 minutes. Being consistent with it keeps the timing efficient. [14:25] Decide in advance what happens when you slip up with your weekly routine. Don't wait until you're in the moment to determine your response. Emotions are louder than logic.   Resources Mentioned: Episode #164: Plan, Prepare, and Organize Your Finances with Alaina Fingal City Girl Savings Personal Finance Portfolio Financial Focus Coaching Program   If you've been trying to stay consistent with your money but keep falling off, this episode is your reminder that you don't need to try harder…you need a routine that supports you. If you're ready to build a money routine that fits your life and helps you stay on track, you can book a free clarity call at citygirlsavings.com. You are capable of managing your money in a way that feels consistent, calm, and aligned with the life you want to live. Strong routines create lasting confidence. Keep building with intention.

Author Rachel Reid (Heated Rivalry) joins Nicole to chat about the wild, viral success of her steamy queer romance novels and the hit TV adaptation. She shares how she met her husband while performing a smelly, hockey-themed burlesque act, and the dynamic that keeps their 20-year one sided open marriage working for them. She discusses the creative process behind writing explicit romance between men, and exactly why she absolutely does not want to hear your glowing reviews of her work. Plus, Rachel opens up about navigating her recent Parkinson's diagnosis.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors:• FirstLeaf: Get personalized wines, delivered. Head to TryFirstleaf.com/DATEME to sign up and you'll get 50% off your first box PLUS free shipping for an entire year• Wayfair: Get prepped for patio season for way less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Big things are on the horizon for Betsy! A book deal, a beach move, a birthday. Tune in to this Q & A to get to know the woman behind The Art of Living Big and The Navigate Method. With lots of laughs and a few tears, this one is a great one to watch or listen to. Check out the video version on YouTube. Transcript:  Welcome to The Art of Living Big, where we explore how to live intentionally and with more joy. I’m Betsy Pake, your host, master, coach, and creator of the Navigate Method. Here to help you listen in to your true desires, elevate your standards, and live life to the fullest. Now, let’s go live big  All right, I’m excited. I’m excited to do this. I’m excited, and Feels very official. actually am, um, nervous, which is weird, ’cause I d- I mean, I’ve had this podcast for how long? Like 10 years. But I’m nervous, because I feel like we’re not… Yeah, we’re not just ask- can’t believe I’m not nervous, but I’m just excited for it. All right, I’m excited too. Okay, so let’s tell everybody who you are that’s listening. So I’m, I’m Joy, and I am Betsy’s ops person, um, her virtual assistant, go-to person hopefully. And, uh, I Yeah. job. It’s been an honor and a privilege to work for someone so innovative and caring and, , I , I can’t say enough good things about Navigate. I’m an No. member myself. I am Yeah. be working for you now years later after I completed the program. But, , I love my job. Yeah. Oh, that makes me happy. And now you can add podcast host Yeah, a resume. I don’t know about that. We’ll see. So this episode is gonna be a little different than typical. My birthday’s next week, which I wanna say, like, I don’t care, whatever, but I do. I think I do kinda care. I think I’ve always tried to not care, but I think it’s kind of fun that my birthday’s next week. , I’ll be 55, and my birthday is on 5/15, and I feel like the numbers are all, like… I feel like it’s kinda magical, and I don’t know why. I’m not, , a numerology buff or anything , but , it just feels like 55 and then this. So I’m excited to kinda do this. And so I thought what we would do is, , we asked on Instagram just for, , questions of what people had. ready. Yeah, and you’ve got them ready. Okay, and then you had some other ones of your s- your own that I don’t necessarily know all of them, , so yeah. So we’ll… we can just dive in and see where the conversation takes us. I know. I’m excited. Okay. So also I wanna say about 5:15, that’s a special number for you, isn’t it? Yeah, well, uh, uh, I think because it’s my birthday, I always am looking for 5:15. Like, I’m always… I think it’s, like, a message from my mom. I do too, because we post your podcast at 5:15. Yeah. Yes, that’s right, yeah. We post it at 5:15 a- on Thursday mornings. Yeah, yeah. That’s, I like it, and I feel like it feels balanced and also, , I know this is a weird thing, but like 5-1-5, it feels balanced, and it feels like the one is, uh… It’s not a hyphen, but a what would go this way? Do you know what I mean? Up and down. So it feels like 5-5, which feels like a mirroring and- Like, , it’s not infinity, it’s not an eight, but it feels like that to me. Like, kind of chaotic, but also measured, you know? So anyway, I love the 515, yeah. Yeah, I, I like numbers too, but I’m a, I’m an even number person. Yeah. pump gas without ending on an even number. It’s so weird. Oh, really? Yeah. I know it’s weird. I love that. It is weird. So But thanks. love that ’cause it’s weird. Are you ready for your first question? Okay. Yeah, I think so. Okay. ., So this is a question that kind of encompasses everything that you do, so it’s a good starting point, I feel like. Okay. you help women decide whether to stay or leave, and you left. , So looking back, was there a single moment that you knew, or was it a slow build that you only saw clearer in the rearview mirror? Oh, okay. That’s a really good question. I’m so scared right now. Okay. So here’s what I think to answer this question. I wanna, like, zoom way, way out, and I’m gonna start with, like I’m gonna s- I’m gonna start, like, when I’m a kid, and you’re gonna be like, “Oh my God. Is she gonna tell her whole life story?” But for those of you that are listening that are fairly new, so I believe that we are always doing things, our actions are coming from a place of trying to keep us safe. Like, emotionally safe or physically safe, right? And so even if we’re doing things sometimes that is clear that that’s not helpful, it’s because our brains think that it’s keeping us safe, and part of the reason it thinks it’s keeping us safe is ’cause we’re alive, and it’s our, our unconscious mind’s prime directive is to keep us alive. So whatever we’re doing is hypothetically working ’cause you’re alive, okay? So when I was in high school, my mom died in a car accident, and pretty soon after that my dad got remarried. Now, he was married to my mom and, , f- by all accounts was happy enough, you know? And then he started dating somebody, I would say within, , eight or nine months of my mom dying, and then they got married very quickly. It wasn’t, , the best relationship. They’re all still alive, so I wanna be careful of how I speak about it. But it wasn’t… I, I, I was se- 17 by the time they got married, and it wasn’t a safe relationship for me, and so I think I did a lot of accommodating to- Feel safe. So I would get in trouble for a lot of things, and I had never been a kid that ever got in trouble. Do you know what I mean? , My, my mother was always so, so kind and , respectful of my sister and I. So that whole relationship, I think, really changed the dynamic of how I experienced relationships. And I think I was pretty, like when we think about attachment theory, like I think I was securely attached and then became anxious after my mom died in that whole experience. Okay. So now, when the question is, like, when you got d- divorced, was it all at once or was it a, a, you know, slow burn? I wanna say… I- I’m gonna tell you my journey of … Joy’s like, “This is a longer answer than I expected.” But the, , the jour- the journey of, of… Let me tell you why I am so chic. Because I have been married several times. And so to answer that question I’m like, “Well, which time?” Okay. When I was in college, I got married right after college, and, I got divorced very quickly. … We didn’t have kids. Like, there was no… And so I know that that was a marriage. We had a wedding. It… But in my brain it doesn’t feel like one. It feels like such a blip, and I was so young, and honestly, I was coming right off the heels of my mom dying, like five years before or something. Do you know what I mean? , It all feels very blurry. And so then years later I met my son’s dad, and that was my second marriage, but felt like my first. It operated like my first. And more importantly, my third marriage operated like my second. I sound very chic, Joy. I’m very chic. Um, so my first marriage, I think I, I, I… What I have found in my relationships in general, marriages or otherwise, is that I have chosen people that I could try and heal that relationship with my dad. Like, I’m gonna tell you something’s wrong, and you’re gonna ignore me and tell me I’m misreading it, which is what happened when I was young. And so I would find people unconsciously that I could play that out because that felt safe, because that was so familiar, right? And so I, I think that I did that with my first marriage, and I was not mature enough to recognize that there was something going on within me. And then I got divorced when my son, m- and I have a trans son, so when my son was four. And then again, you know, replayed stuff. Had some terrible relationships in between all of that. And then married my last, my last and final. I will never get the government involved ever again. So my, my most recent marriage, and that was a marriage that lasted… We were married for 12 years. We were together, like, 15 years. And I think I was playing the same exact thing out, but the difference this time, and what I teach inside the Navigate method, is that we can trust ourselves, right? That we can find the, our side of the street and heal our side of the street. That we can use the relationship as a mirror to figure ourselves out so much deep, much deeper. And so I think I knew almost immediately that my marriage wasn’t good, and for a lot of circumstances, I stayed for a long time. I think I didn’t wanna fail again. I think my , r- you know, relationship with my, then my daughter at that time was complicated, ’cause she was getting sick as a teenager, and there was just a lot of things going on where, , it didn’t… I couldn’t leave. And I say I couldn’t. I had options, but, , I, I didn’t feel like I could leave, and I didn’t want to. I wanted desperately for it to be good. And what I realize now is that going through that whole process and actually using it to heal myself, and now I would say I’m absolutely securely attached, earned secure, because I earned it back. But that relationship, although, , one of the most heinous in my life I think, I’m the most grateful for it. It changed me in such profound ways because I did the work, because I looked at it, because I paid attention and didn’t say, “I’m gonna let…”, I was like, “I’m not letting…” This is, it, to me, and I’m gonna say this too as we continue this conversation, in my relationships, any of them, I’m not the only one in them. And so, you know, if you brought my former husband, any of select one, any of the many former husbands, like they may have a totally different story, and it doesn’t mean they’re wrong. It just means that’s our versions, and there’s a truth in there somewhere in the middle, right? But to me, I’m like, that relationship was so profoundly, , harmful to me that it forced me into change, and for that I am incredibly, incredibly grateful. So to answer the question, it didn’t happen all at once, but the clarity of, oh, I’m healed enough to do this on my own, I get it, sort of unraveled within, , I would say, like, the last six or eight months. If that makes sense. That is a very answer to that question. sense. and you needed the backstory to, to complete that, Yeah. Yeah. that. Yeah, yeah. Okay, Okay. question. Okay. It’s okay, it’s okay. Okay. What’s something that you believed about your own marriage right up until the end that turned out not to be true? Oh, question. God, that’s a good question. Is that one of yours, or is that one that we got in? That’s one that was the myth. What is some… Say it again, something that’s true What is was true. about your own marriage right up until the end that turned out not to be true? That’s… That there was something I could have done to save it. I don’t think there was anything I could have done. I think lots of times we try and make sense of things, and we’re like, “If I could have done this better,” or, “Maybe if I had just learned how to cook dinner better,” or I had… Do you know what I mean? Like, we think of all the things, and now I recognize that what was happening, just like for him, none of what I was doing had to do with him. It was, had to do with this old story. The same thing for him. What he was doing and how he was responding and how he was interacting with me had nothing to do with me, and there was nothing I could have done, and I think that actually brings me a lot of peace. But it, uh, it took me a,, a long while, even after we were divorced, for me to get to that. Yeah. good answer. I think, I think that’s probably a common answer because as women, I think we feel like we maybe could try this, maybe we could try this, Yeah. and, and maybe there’s nothing else and I, yeah, and I think, not to interrupt you, I’m sorry. , That’s why we go to couples counseling, and I don’t have anything against couples counseling. But I think that what happens is we go, and then we talk about problems that have happened, and you’re talking about the problem, but the problem actually isn’t the issue. It’s the reasons that you got to the problem. So if everybody would just go their own way and figure out their own crap, you, y- you wouldn’t have to, like, rehash a situation for two months, you know? Like, I, I could have rehashed so many different situations, and we never, ever, ever… It’s clear we never could have come to a conclusion ’cause it was our own crap we were bringing in. I, I was responding to stuff because of me and who I was, and he was responding s- to stuff because of him. Yes, absolutely. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. It’s okay. It’s okay, Bessie. you’re great. You’re doing really good. I know. I don’t know. Okay, people assume the woman who teaches this work has it all figured out. Mm-hmm. ending are you still making sense of? Oh, I think one of the biggest things, and I think if people follow me for a long time, I think they understand that I often will even say, people, like, “I’m on this path with you. I don’t think we ever have it all figured out.” And I think one of the biggest mistakes I could ever make as a leader or as a coach would be to make people feel like I had it all figured out. ‘Cause I never want anybody to, um, need me forever. Like I always say to my clients, “I want you to want me forever, but I don’t want you to need me. I want you to have your own tools and your own ways of thinking so I, I’ll never have it all figured out, and I think there’s always things to uncover. One of the things that I think I do really well is I will sit and think about stuff, and I won’t… Or I, I say I won’t. It’s not that I never, but I try. I do, not avoid hard thoughts. I make room for hard thoughts. And so as I come up against things I haven’t had, don’t have figured out, there’s always new things to uncover and I will figure them out. If that makes sense. So I know I’m not necessarily answering the question, but it’s just, like I don’t have the, to let, make a list of all the things I don’t have figured out. It’s everything. You know? Like there’s so much, ’cause I am not one that, that pushes the idea that I do. I think that’s– I mean, because we’re always evolving and, and changing and figuring stuff out as we Yeah. And you question, but… yeah, and you know sometimes when I get really overwhelmed, uh, with work, and then I’ll say like, “I’m just gonna go sit,” and you’re always like, you’re good at “What the…” Yeah, and you’re like, “What the hell? What the heck?” I’m like, “I’m just gonna go sit and just be quiet for 15 minutes and see what happens.” normal.” Yeah. “Let me do 800 things that Yeah, you always tell me. Yeah, I love it. Okay, so this is about your birthday. Oh, okay. um, okay. So you’re about to turn 55. Mm-hmm. that you thought you would have figured out by now that you haven’t, have you made peace with that? I think I thought I would- grow up and have, like, a family and, like, the father of the bride house and the white picket fence and a husband that adored me. I’ve never ever, ever, I’ve never ever had anybody in my life that adored me. I think I thought I would, have, uh probably more kids than just one. I think, you know what I mean? I think there was, I, I think there’s so much of my life that isn’t what I thought it was gonna be and I think it’s because what I thought it was gonna be was created before my mom died and when she died it, like, scrambled eggs, you know what I mean? And, and I really like where I ended up right now, you know? So I think it’s not… Martin adores you. Dean Martin does adore me but only See? wants to. He’s ve- he’s al- he’s taught me more about consent. Like, consent is, is a, a subject that comes up sometimes in the Navigate group, right? Like with your husband, like, you know, if he wants sex and I don’t want sex and how, can I say no and all of those things. I swear to God I learned more about consent from my freaking cat. Like, it makes sense. , You have to ask permission to grab at somebody. So yeah. Okay. Um, let’s see. Oh, I love this question. I love this question. , What is a pattern that you see in almost every woman who comes to you that she swears does not apply to her? . I know what it is and I’m just trying to formulate it. Um, I think, well, I think first of all every woman thinks that their husband’s behavior is their fault. Like if they could do something different then things could be different and I think that they take a lot of ownership of his behavior instead of letting him own it and that becomes really heavy. And you think that Yeah, I think- that at the time? Yeah. Yeah. I think they don’t realize it and then I think as we move through the program then they start to recognize it but I don’t think it’s just like if you’re listening and you’re like, “Oh yeah,” I think that’s not a thing you can just hear and go, “Oh okay.” I think you have to, like, internalize it and I think going through the program helps you, like, viscerally understand that and I think that’s like the shift, a big shift that happens for people Mm-hmm. Because, yeah, maintaining somebody else’s life is impossible. Okay, this is another question that pertains to the work you do in Navigate. , So you’ve been clear that you don’t push women towards staying or leaving Mm-hmm. the Navigate program. Um, has that ever cost you a client that you’d wish you’d been more direct with? Like where I wish they had left or I wish they had stayed? I know, I know personally, I can tell you that as a, a former Navigate person, hearing some of the stories, sometimes, you know, part of you, the girlfriend side of you wants to be like, you gotta get out of there.” Yeah. you, you’re very good about not, , Yeah. that on anyone and letting them arrive at those decisions themselves. So I guess, that is the question. — Has it ever cost you a client that you’ve y- you would– were more direct with? yeah. I, I’m gonna say no, and the reason that I’m gonna say no is because it’s not that I think, “Oh, they should leave,” but I left, and then I went back, and then I had to leave again a couple years later, which we can talk about that. But, like, that process was so important for me that I need people to have their own process because that’s the only way we trust ourselves. And part of this program is, is getting women to a place where they know themselves so deeply, and if I’m putting any pressure on any of that, then that whole foundation crumbles. Mm-hmm. is there part of me that’s like, “Give me his phone number”? Yeah, and sometimes I’ll say that. Do you know what I mean? Like, ’cause there is the girlfriend side of you that’s like, “Girl. Oh my God.” But, but also, , the overarching goal and purpose, and I… , and again, I’m gonna go back to, like, when I said I was so grateful for my former husband this last relationship because I feel like this is my purpose. This is why I’m here on this planet, and I never, ever, ever could have got here if I hadn’t had that relationship. Oh my God, I’m so grateful for that relationship. But that’s how come I know not to push anybody anywhere. Mm-hmm. Yeah. good answer. this is kind of a piggyback question,, what is a piece of your own advice that you’ve struggled to take? A piece of my own advice I struggle to take I, I’m gonna say this.  I don’t typically give advice unless I’ve lived it. I think that one of the things that anyone that’s worked with me would say is that I will say, I’ll even say, like, “Hey, I’m open to being wrong. You decide what feels right to you.” And even in my personal relationships, I’ll say, “I’m open to being wrong,” ’cause I’m open to learning. I’m really open to learning and seeing things in a different way. I love when I can see things in a different way., I think in my… If I were to say, is there something that, advice I should take, it’s just that I can’t control everything. Like, I, uh,, you know, we all have that desire to want to have some sense of control of the world and the universe, and you just can’t. You can’t make people do what you wanna, want them to do. You can only invite. You know, the you can’t lead a horse to water. It’s the same with me, I guess.  Like, I can know the things, and there’s gonna be days where I’m, I bypass myself just because I’m human. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Good. Okay, let’s see. Hmm. Okay. You live alone. What does a hard night actually look like for you, and what do you do? A hard night. So, Is there any hard nights alone? yeah, I mean, I think, yeah, I know, right? There’s been some debate on Instagram on any of my posts where I say I’m not lonely. I don’t get lonely. I get bored. I don’t get lonely. And so now I’m gonna say something, and I’m open to being wrong if this w- people were to label this as lonely. But one of the things that I found is that I had limited friendships when I was married, and those friendships- Sort of disintegrated, and I had to create all new friendships. And I think I had hard nights in the beginning in that that was really confusing to me. Nothing happened. I, I still w- I wouldn’t be shocked if somebody reached out to me and said, “Oh my God, I haven’t talked to you in so long. You wanna go get a coffee?” ‘Cause nothing happened, but there was just a shift, and I think there was an energetic shift to me, and that felt confusing because I… Nothing had happened. So, so there were nights, especially in the beginning, I think, where it was more like confusing of like, “How do I make friends? Like, what did I do? Why w- at this, , vulnerable moment did the people that were in my life disappear?” And I think there’s, again, it had nothing to do with me. And so, um, I think the hard nights were just that like, “How do I rebuild my life?” And kind of figuring that out. That makes And then the… And there’s ice cream for nights like that. But I think most of the time, like, I have pretty good nights. , I have my routines, you know? I, I work, and then I make dinner, and then I sit on the couch, and I like to watch YouTube videos. I, I have YouTube, like the subscription, so I don’t have commercials. And I love going down the rabbit hole of documentaries, and I watch all a bunch of stuff about the Gilded Age, and I’m into, like, uh, uh, you know, how they run stuff. Like, I watched this documentary the other day on how they run the Atlanta airport. It’s so fascinating. How they run cruise ships., So I, I’m into stuff, and I’m interested and curious. And then when I get tired, I get in bed, and you know, people have heard me talk about my evening routine with the bed. But like, I get in my BedJet heated up bed and crick it away while I read or watch TV. , .. and I have a lot of friends that I message with. , We use Voxer, and you and I use Voxer. But , we message about stuff all the time. Like, you’re having a glass of wine and you’re like say- You know, like, there’s a lot of interaction that I have with people now that’s friends that live all over., It does take up time and, and space in a good way.. And that is the part that’s like I’m never really lonely, ’cause I have all these structures around me that if I w- want somebody, I could just reach out. But I think in the beginning it was that, like, reorienting and how do I recreate my life. Mm-hmm. Well, I think every woman too that, , is watching will, feel like, you know, when they’re alone or their husband’s out of town, it’s almost like a Yeah, really. Yeah. cool. Yeah, yeah. I got a message from a friend the other day, um, and she reached out to me a couple months ago, and I hadn’t heard from her, like, in years. And I was talking to her, she lives in New York, and I was talking to her a lot on Voxer when we met, and,, she’s a business owner, too, and you know what I mean, we commiserated on all that stuff. Uh, and it was when I was living with my husband. We were married at the time. And anyway, the other day we were messaging and she said, “You know, Betsy, you need to go back and listen to your voice in the messages that you would leave me back in like 2023, 2024,” early 2024. She’s like, “You sound like a completely different person, like it doesn’t even sound like you.” And I was like, “Really? That’s so weird.” And she was like, “Yeah, like you’re… The joy, you’re way more excited, like you sound alive.” And she kept saying, “Go back and listen. Go back and listen.” So I scrolled back and I saw, like the last time we had messaged, like 2023, I think it was, October, and I couldn’t listen. I just was like, “I don’t wanna revisit her.” Like I, I looked at the message for a long time. I could see it, you know? And I just couldn’t hit play. I was like, “I’m just gonna let her rest,” you know? Yeah. It was interesting. Yeah, that’s interesting and, and profound really. It’s Yeah, yeah. like you’ve moved on from that person all the way. Yeah, yeah. And I just didn’t wanna like… It felt like digging up a grave, you know? It felt like, like a, I don’t know, like a betrayal. Like just let her be. So yeah, it was kinda interesting. Okay, this, this one may be a long answer, so Oh. ready? Need opposed to the other ones where I feel like I’ve talked. Okay. Okay. Okay, so, um- Tell us the moment that you realized it was time to leave in your marriage, your Yeah. Um, I think that in my marriage, I was very depleted, and I think I tried really hard. When I look back, and I don’t recognize this as much now, but I remember at the time, and even maybe like a year after I lived in my own apartment, if someone said, “Describe your marriage, give me one word-” It would have been frustrating and, like, frustrating. Like, it was very frustrating. It probably was for him, too. So again, I’m just gonna reiterate that this isn’t anything… This isn’t about him. This is about me. It was very frustrating, and I think that I had a moment when I… I’m gonna say something very strange, I think., I hired somebody to hypnotize me because some of the feedback that I would get online felt really crushing in a weird way, and people would comment on my clothes or my big glasses or whatever, but it felt very deeply injured me. And I was like, “What is that?” Now, if I had been in, , an incredible relationship where I felt, , supported and loved, like, maybe it wouldn’t have, but it did. And it got to the point where I remember one day I was laying on the floor in my home office, and I was like, “I don’t know if I can keep doing this.” Now, I started the Navigate method when I was still married, so that’s something we can talk about. But I, I was laying on the floor, and I was like, “I don’t know if I can do this anymore.” Like, this feels like such important work to me, but I… And was given to me, which we can talk about that. And so, “But I don’t know if I can do it.” And so a friend of mine was like, “You need to hire this guy, Joseph Cloth.” He and I were in a coaching group together, and she was like, “You should hire Joseph.” And I was like, “Oh yeah, I should.” So I reached out. It, it wasn’t cheap. I mean, it was thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars to be hypnotized so that I could get rid of feeling awful when people commented. But we had to get to, like, the root cause, and the root cause was I am bad. Now, if somebody said to me, like, “What do you think is the root cause of your…” I would never, ever, ever had said I am bad. So he had me do this whole exercise. It took me, like, two weeks of, like, crying all night. Like, like I really sat with it. Like, what is this? And I… And, and I think because I’m a coach, I could get to, like, this deep, deep, deep root. And go back to the first story I told you. When, after my mom died and my dad started dating somebody, and when they got married, I would tell him, “This isn’t… This doesn’t feel right. Like, the things that are being said to me feel terrible. I… This isn’t good.” And he would say, “You’re misunderstanding. It- you’re wrong.” You’re misinterpreting that and, you know, stop trying to mess up my life. And I think I internalized that to, like, don’t trust yourself. You can’t rely on your own feelings. They’re not right. And, you know, uh, y- y- you’re bad. And so w- he hypnotized me, and I came out of that hypnosis with clarity, like, “Oh, I’m not bad.” And I… That means that I deserve good things and good people around me that love me. And, uh, and I, and, and it shifted. I n- I, I don’t g- give a rat’s ass about what anybody says online in the weirdest way. In fact, I love it. I’m like, “Well, that making you feel something, and that’s good.” You know? Um, but I think that was a big part in my shift of, like, what is it that I deserve? And that’s something that we work on in the Navigate method. Like, what is it that I deserve? Is it true that this is what I deserve? You know? And, and I’m gonna keep saying this just because I feel like it’s so important, my former husband deserved different than he had with me. It wasn’t the right match. Do y- do you know what I mean? And so, um, when I got that, I think that was a huge piece of my clarity. But again, it’s layers. You know what I mean? Like, you gotta, like, do the work and look at the stuff and, like, unpack it all. That’s good. Yeah. I have not yet been hypnotized. That’s why I wore my non-black glasses today because can’t handle the negativity. I think it’s funny. And then it’s funny ’cause people will be like, “I hate your glasses. I love your glasses.” And then sometimes they’re like, “Why do you dress in such big clothes?” That’s a big one I get. “Why are you dressed in such baggy clothes? You’re so little. Why are you in such big clothes?” I’m like, “‘Cause I don’t want you looking at my body.” how people feel like they can say whatever they wanna say. It’s so terrible. Like, It’s funny ’cause they, I don’t think they’d say it in real life, you know? But- they probably don’t. It’s all Yeah a screen and on a keyboard. Keyboard it, it makes it way more obvious if somebody loves my glasses and says, “Where’d you get those?” And somebody hates them, then it’s not the glasses. It’s the person that’s viewing the glasses. so true. Yes. So I just go, “Oh, whatever. I ain’t bad.” I actually was like, “Let me do these today,” because Yeah. no one will say, “Why sh- why are they both wearing black glasses?” Wait. Hey, I know. Freaking damn big g- black glasses, yeah. That one’s funny okay. Um, okay, so… Oh, okay, so you’ve… This is kind of an all-encompassing. So you’ve built a business, a podcast, a method, a book deal. Yeah. is the thing that you’re quietly most proud of that no one knows about? Um, so I will say, let’s see. And the book, let’s just comment on the book ’cause someone will be like, “She has a book?” Years ago, years and years ago, I wrote a book, but this isn’t the book that we’re talking about now. So we’re in the process of writing a book. I have an agent, and we’re writing a book., And we’ll know more about that around Christmastime, but it’ll be out next year. , So what is the thing that I’m most proud of that nobody knows about? Mm-hmm. I think my ability to be open to new ideas. I got divorced from my second husband, ’cause I’m very chic. Just a reminder, I’m very chic and I’m not afraid of change. , But I got divorced, you know, from my son’s dad, and we remained really good friends. And years and years later, I asked Oliver, I said, “Have you ever heard me say anything bad about Dad?” And he said, “No. Why would you?” And that made me so proud, because he was like, “Why would you say anything bad?” ‘Cause he had never, ever heard me say anything bad. And you know what? I love his dad. I love his dad. His dad is part of him, and I’m really proud of the relationship that we have. Is it perfect? No. Do I wish parts of it were different, especially over the past few years? Yeah, absolutely. But we have really been good partners and good co-parents in the best way that we could, and I think that’s because, uh, of him as well as because I am open and not afraid of being wrong. And when I say wrong, like, I’m not afraid of, of being like, “Okay, maybe that wasn’t right. Maybe I didn’t handle that right. Maybe I c- … I’m open to hearing other people’s experience of me and taking that into account and apologizing where I need to.” So I’ve always been really proud of that. When Oliver was little, we did holidays together with his wife, and then I’ve I mean, his kids have been to my house. Like, we’ve maintained a, a f- really friendly relationship, which I’m always been really grateful for. That’s awesome. Yeah. It’s awesome for Oliver. Yes. uh, something that’s just, uh, you Yeah stress away from the child of any Yeah. whether married or, or, you know, going through a divorce or a separation, just to take that away, that stress away from the, child in that Yeah. is awesome, so… we still have every Friday, every Friday at 3:00 we have a family meeting. Now Oliver is 24, but he’s got some challenges. And so every Friday we meet and talk with him, see how his week has been, where he struggled, where we can support him. And so, you know, that’s always been like a team effort. So I think that that’s like just an important piece of my whole journey, you know? Awesome. Okay, let’s see where we’re at. , Oh, this is probably my favorite question. It’s one of the– my favorite. So I have a,, I have a question that has nothing to do with Navigate Okay. Okay. Okay. that you wish someone would ask that they never ask? , What is something I could go… I should’ve… I, you mentioned this, this question to me earlier and I thought, “Oh, how would I answer that?” And I still don’t know. I wish they would ask that they never ask. it and come back to it? Well, you know, one thing I’ll say is I think, and this goes back to one of the earlier questions, is that I think lots of times people think, and I’m not gonna be answering the question exactly, but a roundabout way. I think lots of times people think, “Well, Betsy’s fine,” because I present as fine. And I think just I’m a human like anybody else, and I think there have been challenges. I know when I moved into my apartment, I had a lot of challenges in my nervous system when I moved and lived alone, not because I didn’t like being alone, but because I was so used to scanning to manage other people’s emotions, that the lack of knowing if I was, I’m gonna use air quotes, “in trouble”. But again, remember like I had this thing from when I was young, it had nothing to do with my husband. So, uh, is that I, I, I didn’t know if I was in trouble ’cause I wasn’t around anybody. And so I… So I think the thing that I wish, not necessarily people would ask me, but I think that people could recognize, was that everything that I share is truly because I have done the work. Like, I have walked through it. Like, I have thought about it deeply, and I think that if, you know, if somebody were to ask me something, I think it would just be like something totally different from anything that we talk about. Do you know what I mean? , Like what do you, why do you love the ocean so much? I, I’m gonna cry. Like, why do you love the ocean so much? Like, I think … Well, that’s weird. That’s gonna make me cry, Joy. We’ll, we’ll cut that out. Um think you should cut it out. By the way, I’m I mean, your audience already knows you’re looking to move to the Yeah. proud of you for making that decision and doing that. It’s so brave of you. And, Yeah. um, you clearly, you clearly love it so much that it’s emotional for you. So I’m Yeah. for you to do that. And I think that, like, for a long time the ocean was, like … When I thought about the beach, and if people have listened to the podcast forever,, That– I, I don’t think I’ve ever seen you tear up, so I, I think Yeah. something you shouldn’t cut out because it’s real Yeah. Yeah. I, I’m so happy for you because, um, like you said the other day, you know, we were talking with, um, a group of women that, that were s- that was saying like, “Uh, just wish I could get on the other side of this. Like, I wish I could take out all of the middle ground, the hard stuff.” Yeah. you said something so profound, which was, you know, that’s going to be the stuff that makes you that next person. That– Going through that is going to yield, you know, the, the person that you’re growing to be. So sometimes you just have to go through those hard things first. It’s like getting forged, you know? It’s like pottery, is like you mold it and then you stick it in the fire, and it’s the fire that makes it so beautiful. And so yeah, I think that trying to cut out the middle or t- not trying to go through the hard stuff, I think, like you don’t have to know what it’s gonna be like to get… Like, how long is it gonna be? How bad is it gonna be? You don’t have to know. All you have to know is today. All you have to know is, like, this moment. Can I handle this moment? Okay, I’m good. I’m good. What about this moment? Okay, I’m good. Like, I think we get so far ahead of ourselves, but it’s such important work to, like, move through. And, you know, I could go into the whole woo-woo, which I love to do, , i- which is like y- you know, you were meant to come here and go through this. You were meant to, like, have this experience. And, you know, I have a belief that… And other people can believe differently, but I think,, if I hadn’t gone through this, like, thing where I, I believe leaving my former husband this last time, becoming the person that I needed to become, and then leaving, was my life’s journey. I know that sounds so weird, but, like, that was a huge part of my life’s journey, and I think, I think, I would have come back in some other reincarnation and had to do it again. And now I get to, like, graduate from it ’cause I freaking went through it, you know? And I was… And we always say in the program, with bravery and integrity. Like, how do we move forward things with bravery and integrity? And I feel like I was able to do that. Did I do everything perfect? No, but I tried really hard to be in integrity with, with… And clear, you know, in, in what I wanted. Yeah. this question. What’s Okay. favorite movie? Okay, so my favorite movie ever, when you first w- asked me this question, like when you mentioned it yesterday, I think, um, I al- I loved Elizabethtown years ago. I have ADHD. it. Yeah, it’s really good. But, but I have, like, ADHD, so, like, I don’t remem- if you told me to tell you what Elizabethtown was about, I wouldn’t be able to tell you. I, I’ll leave a m- a movie and I’ll be like, “That was so good.” And then outside the theater someone could be like, “Tell me about it,” and I’ll be like, “I don’t know, but I was entertained.” You know? So, uh, so but I will say my favorite movie ever, and I could tell you all about it, is Everything Everywhere All at Once. And when I… I’ve seen this movie like three different times. Every time I’ve seen it I wanted so badly to talk to somebody about it, like, in depth. Like, everybody in my life, I was like, “You know, you need to see that movie. Can we talk about it?” But it is a movie about the, like, the unis- universe, like collective consciousness, basically. And you get to see every piece of your life all at once as if you had made every decision differently than you did, and you, in the end, still recognize that this life matters, that this, where you ended up, was exactly right. Even with all the other metaverses in the world that could’ve happened, where you are is exactly right. And there’s also a greater story about a mother and a daughter, and it’s about her having, the mother having to see the daughter in every other universe to see all the sides of her before she could really love her in this one. And I just think it’s so profound. It’s such a good, it’s such a good movie. And, like, it’s the kind of movie you watch it once and you’re like, “What the fuck just happened to me?” And then you gotta watch it again and, like, every time I’m on a airplane I’m like, “Oh, let me see if they have it on there.” It’s so good. You know what else was a really good movie? And I’ve watched it twice, and the second time it didn’t hit the same time as the first time. But it was called, um, Nine Days, I think it was called. And it was about these souls that are auditioning to get to have a life, and they want it so bad. Oh. Oh, wow. and it’s, it makes you go, “Oh my God, I’m so lucky to be here.” Like, I’m, this is so fucking cool that I get to be here. And hard stuff. They want hard stuff. Like, they don’t just want fun, great stuff. Like, they want the hard stuff, too. Like, it is the range of emotion that is, like, the biggest gift that we have, and I think we- Try and stay so far away from anything that feels, like, uncomfortable or bad, but it’s part of the gift, ’cause when you do that, then, m- you know, like I cry thinking about going to the beach. Like, I can’t even say it because I g- had the fucking bad, and now I get to have the good, and I can’t even stand it, I’m so excited. It’s happy tears. But I think we move away from hard, and, and I see this in the program too, and I get it. Of like, I don’t wanna go through this, it’s gonna be hard. And I say like, “Let it be. What’s gonna happen on the other end?” Like, what if it ends up great? Like, I have this sign in my bathroom, and it’s in my bathroom only because, um, I see it every day, but sometimes on the internet people are like, “Why is that in your bathroom?” But it says, um, what if it’s great? What if it’s great? Like, we are really good at catastrophizing, being like, “This is terrible. My kids are gonna suffer.” Like, well, what if it’s great? What if your kids get to see you do something totally different? What if they get to see a whole new side of you? What if they get to experience you in real love or their dad having real lo- like, what if it’s great? I just, I, like, let’s spend as much time there, you know? Yep. 100%. Yeah. Yeah. So I just realized by your movies that I, um, may need to try some different movies out, ’cause I was thinking about Steel Magnolias, Parenthood, and yeah. Yeah, totally. You need to watch Everything Everywhere All at Once. Yeah. think, well, I’ve r- Is that a book? ‘Cause I think I might have read the book. Oh, I know. yeah. But it’s a movie, like Jamie Lee Curtis is in it, and it’s really good. Yeah, watch that for I sure. Yeah. Okay. Well, we’re, we’re getting to the bottom of these questions. You’ve done a great job. Uh, let’s Okay. I have one. Um, so are you open to dating? Oh, no. Why? I know, that was so fast, wasn’t it? Okay, so let’s tell the story about, like, the… Okay, so I wanna say this. I feel whole and complete, and I would w- and I, I’m gonna make sure I’m not telling myself a lie. I feel whole and complete. I don’t feel like I’m missing anybody. The idea of having somebody and finally having someone in my life that actually likes me, like, I don’t feel like I don’t, I don’t feel like I have been in relationships in the past where people even liked me. So, the idea of having somebody like me, that actually would feel really good to have somebody like me. , I think I have had to fight my own ageism and really look at that from my own perspective. When I look outside of myself, I see women in their 50s and 60s that are beautiful, and I think absolutely they deserve love. And then when I look at myself, I immediately go, “She’s too old. I’m too old. Nobody’s gonna wanna date me at 55.” Like, I’m, I have gray hair. I… Do you know what I mean? Like, I do the, a little of that. So with that said, it would have to be a… I am s- I have such a filter now. , I s- smell, like, red flags. , It would have to really be someone that’s really spectacular. If you ever hear, if anybody listening ever hears of me dating, just know that they are, like, the freaking bomb. And I have joked that I would only date somebody if they had a yacht, which was very safe here in Atlanta ’cause nobody has a yacht. But now I’m going to the beach, so I feel like my v- my v- Venn diagram of overlap could be different. So with that said, I think that, yeah, I think it would have to be somebody great. There was one day that Joy and I were talking and w- I was like, “We’re gonna… I’m gonna get on a dating app.” And I had applied for, um, Raya, which is like which is, , for celebrities basically. But I was like, “I have enough followers. I think I could get into Raya.” But I didn’t. I- they put me on a wait list. And so then I was like, “Well, it could be my age. It could also be my content.” Do you know what I mean? Like, my content is gonna fil- filter out a, a lot of guys that wouldn’t be the right match, and so I feel grateful for that. So what did I get on? , I don’t– Was it? Hinge. It I got on Hinge. Oh, okay. Yeah. I lasted 24 hours, Mm-hmm. I asked for my money back and got it. It was a I got… 24 It was a whirlwind 24 hours. I was just disgusted by every freaking question. I, the… Men tried to introduce intimacy so quickly, and I am, like, I have a super filter for that. , Oh my God, was that funny or what? oh my God. hours, but it was s- I mean, I, I’m, I don’t mean to say it was funny, but It was funny, yeah. Betsy called me, she’s like, “I’m out, I’m off of it.” Yeah. joined it.” It was like, I joined it that night, and I was like, I think I had a glass of wine, and I was like, “I’m gonna do it.” And then by the next morning, I was like, “Screw this.” And somebody asked me out, and I said yes, and I liked that they were decisive. They were like, “Meet me here.” And then when I said, “I can’t do that on a Friday at lunch. , I run a company. Like, I don’t know what you think I’m doing.” And they wanted me to drive 40 minutes to meet them for lunch at like a cafeteria. And, and, and they were like, “I don’t know. The app says it’s 20.” And so I was like, “Oh, are you calling me a freaking liar? Are you try-,” like, I… And I got in the shower, and I was angry because some man was telling me what to do or telling me who I was, and I was like, “Oh, I’m not… This isn’t for me., I’m just not there yet.” And I, I don’t, I don’t know that there’s more evolving that I have to do, but I definitely think I need to, um, I wanna say like relax a little bit, but also, no. , I sensed that as like a… There was a rhetorical pattern there, right? Of like, “You don’t know what you’re saying. I know the truth, and you can- you’re gonna do what I say,” even though he didn’t say it in that way. That’s the… , and he gave this emoji of the what? I don’t know. You know, like, huh? my God, wow. And so I just was like, “I’m not doing that. I’m not… I am not ever playing that out with somebody else,” of like, “You know better than me.” I know m- the most about my life than anybody else. Like, I know me, and, and I know that’s too far for me to drive because I do important things too, buddy. But I was so… I, I mean, you can even hear it in my voice now. , I just… So no, I’m not dating ’cause I don’t want to. like a quick answer, a quick Yeah. tell you that’s probably the right answer. I was on a podcast recently, an, an interview. It’s not live yet. But she asked me like what d- what’s dating like, and I was like, I, I, I was almost confused by the question ’cause I was like, well, I… And I was like, I, I, I don’t know. I, yeah, I j- I was like, “I don’t know.” Like, I don’t know. I don’t know. Ask somebody else, not me. I have an a- amazing life, and to fit somebody else into that life… And you know, I’m moving to the beach, and I’m going down next weekend to look for my apartment, and I decided I’m gonna rent for a little while till I figure it out. The people who have come out of the woodwork to be kind to me, to… And, and actually, when people are listening to this, I’m probably on a airplane. So have come out of the woodwork to be kind to me, to offer to bring me out. You know, my birthday, I’m gonna be there on my birthday. There’s people bringing me out on my birthday that I don’t know, that know me from the internet, you know? Um, it- that ha- offered to help me find pla- that videotaped, like- These, this is one place you’d might really like at the beach. And, , took so much time to help me. I- it was a lesson in, like, you deserve to have people be kind to you. It’s okay to let people help you. , It was a moment, you know, where I was like, “Okay, this is a lesson in, , let people love you,” you know? And so maybe I’ll get there, and this is, like, the first piece, you know? That’s awesome. I’m excited for you. And, too. you I’m excited for you to come down and visit. least expect it. I’m talking about if there’s Yeah. a, you know, Yeah. partner in your future, it will yeah. least And like, it, I think. yeah. And like I’m, I’m g- I think I, I am a great partner. Like, I think I’m a really good partner, so I just gotta find the really good partner to partner with that. , I’m not afraid to have hard conversations. I listen. I’m a- available for new ideas. I like to try new things., I will do the things you’re into, but, like, I need the reciprocal, you know? So I will wait until I find that. Also, the yacht. Awesome. Yes. Got that. Well, we’ve gone through, um, a lot of these. Yeah. And we’ve been talking for an hour, which we could talk for two hours. It’s fine. But, I know. yeah. Are we done with all the questions? There’s one more, , it’s if the podcast ended tomorrow and you never coached another woman, would you feel like you did what you came here to do? Oh, you know what’s so weird is even when you said that, I was like, “No.” Like, I, like this is such, like, my purpose. I don’t know that I’ll ever not do it. Do you know, like, sometimes I think about retiring. My sister just retired, and I’m like, “I can’t imagine not doing this.” , It’s just so much of how I think and who I am. , Okay, so wait, what’s the question? If I ever don’t do it, then If, is. To do? I came here to do. Yeah. Years ago, I had this mentor when I lived out in the suburbs, and I had this mentor in my life who, you know, would give all these examples of things he had done or worked with people on or… You know, when we were working together, he would say, like, “I had this client once who…” And I remember saying to him, like, “You’ve, uh, I can’t imagine, like, having such a big impact on everybody. , you’ve had such a big impact.” And he said, “Yeah, if I died tomorrow, I know I would have given more than I took, and that feels good to me.” I, I think that only recently, like maybe in the last year, have I started to recognize Mostly because women on the internet are so incredibly kind to me. But only recently have I started to realize how much of an impact even just the podcast has made, or those videos that I do on Instagram. A- and I wanna mention something about that. But those videos, I think, , people are so kind to tell me how much that impacted them and changed their life, and changed how they thought about themselves. And so I think I could safely say that I’ve given more than I’ve taken, and, and I don’t know that it needs to be that way. I don’t need to give more than I get. That, I’m open to that being more of both. D- does that make sense? , Mm-hmm. like, I, I am open to receiving, and I think maybe for a long time I wasn’t. We talked about this in the group the other day of like, how open are you to receive, and to receive help, and to receive? And I think that I was closed for a long time ’cause I had to be so hyper independent. But anyway, so I would say yes, I, I think I’ve done what I came here to do, and I wanna keep doing it ’cause I think there’s more. Yeah. That’s a great ending. I think you are a phenomenal asset to women. I think that watching and working with you and watching you do what you do Yeah. it’s amazing. Yeah, thank you. Thank you. I’m grateful to do it, and I’m grateful that you were able to help me today with all these questions. Yeah, we Thanks, Joy. Our first it. official podcast. May th- may there be more. Thanks so much, Joy. You’re welcome. Have a great day. Thanks for joining me on The Art of Living Big. I hope today’s episode sparked something within you, maybe pushed you to dream a little bit bigger and live a little larger. Don’t forget to subscribe. Leave us a review and share this podcast with someone you know who might need a little inspiration today. You can find me over on Instagram at Betsy Pake and on my YouTube channel. Remember, the world is vast. Your potential is endless, and your life, it’s yours to shape. Until next time, keep reaching, keep exploring, and keep living big.

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Fashion icon Tan France (Queer Eye, Honorable Gays) joins Nicole for a chat about how a planned "slut tour" accidentally resulted in an 18-year marriage, his secret past designing clothes for Mormon women, and why he really, really didn't want to be on Queer Eye. Tan gets real about the intense racism he faced dating in the UK - including the multiple times guys forced him to keep their dates a secret. Plus, he shares a horrifying first date story that had him walking out of dinner early, and they rip apart the bizarre new "looksmaxxing" trend.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:Jones Road: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #adChime: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME.Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME.Wayfair: Way Day is THE sale to shop the best deals in home – we're talking up to 80% OFF with fast and FREE shipping on everything! Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.