Two wives, married to each other, let you in on their unscripted, reflective, and raw conversations that they record in a small coat closet in their home. Dawna & Hannah Noble cover: being in a same-sex relationship, their first year of marriage & how they resolved some of their biggest fights, insights into how they treat each other with empathy and kindness, and lessons they’ve learned in marriage therapy. The Nobles share about their search for meaning after leaving their religious upbringings (Mormonism/LDS & Christianity). They go deep into how childhood attachment styles impact a marriage and their commitment to creating healthier patterns.
The Nobles receive a wonderful call from a listener about how to keep passion, desire, and excitement alive in a marriage. True to form, they get very personal about their own marriage, talk about their triggers, and share a few laughs over awkward moments they've had together.
Dawna & Hannah have a conversation about the past couple months and get deep into what they've been learning in individual therapy and marriage therapy.
Dawn shares about her earliest memories of being attracted to girls, how she navigated keeping it a secret in the midst of being raised in a Mormon home, and what it took to finally make the decision to date women when she was in her 30s. Send us a DM: https://www.instagram.com/closeted_conversations/
The Nobles have a conversation with Amber Cantorna, the gay daughter of a 30-year Focus on the Family executive. She’s the author of Unashamed: A Coming-Out Guide for LGBTQ Christians and Refocusing My Family: Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God. https://closetedconversations.com/amber https://www.instagram.com/amberncantorna/
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The Nobles answer a call about how to support your partner when they are experiencing depression. Dawn shares a story about the first time she had a panic attack and the way they learned how to manage it as a couple. The Nobles discuss the balance between fully accepting your partner while not suppressing your own needs. Record us a question: www.closetedconversations.com/pod Follow us on Instagram: closeted_conversations
Hannah opens up about how her hard exterior during conflict is often covering up an inner-child that is hurting. Hannah shares about the "Jerry Springer" moments she had in childhood and her inner bulldog. Dawna recounts childhood memories about feeling left behind in school that have developed into insecurities in marriage. The Nobles talk about the importance of emotional nurturance for bringing about relational repair. Follow us on Instagram: @closeted_conversations
The Nobles work through a fight they had last night. They get into: Esther Perel's wisdom regarding empathizing with your partner (whether or not you agree with them), what their therapist taught them about nurturing each other's childhood attachment wounds, Hannah's experience of pre-verbal trauma, and what to do with the micro-tensions that show up in marriage. Follow us on Instagram: closeted_conversations.
A listener calls in and asks a question that gets the Nobles talking about the unspoken dilemma of what to do when you're in a monogamous relationship and find yourself attracted to others. They talk about the very real possibility in every relationship of an affair, what to do with jealousy, and how they use transparency to stay grounded. Submit your question: https://closetedconversations.com/pod Follow us on Instagram: closeted_conversation
The Nobles share about the practice of learning to accept each other's dark sides. They talk about vulnerability, receiving each other's love, and how this can help heal childhood wounds. They talk about Stan Tatkin's concept of living as a 2 person system. They get to the root of what's going on in a tension they have about running the air conditioning. We want you to join our conversation! Leave us an anonymous recording at https://closetedconversations.com/pod Follow us on Instagram: @closeted_conversations
The Nobles continue discussing their religious upbringings and how it's impacted them emotionally. Dawn shares some insights from a book she's reading: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson. Follow us on Instagram: closeted_conversations
Dawn and Hannah talk about the struggles and joys of what it was like for each of them to marry someone different than they expected. They cover touchy subjects like: weight, femininity, and education levels. If you related to this episode, send us a DM: closeted_conversations
Dawna & Hannah break down what they're learning about how to self-regulate during arguments. They talk about the 'emotional-tug-of-war' lesson from their marriage therapist. Dawn talks about how her mental health was impacted by years of pushing down her emotions and she lets you in on the new practices she's using that got her off anti-depressants. Follow us on Instagram: closeted_conversations
The Nobles do a deep dive into a longstanding tension they had around gender roles, money, and unmet expectations. Hannah shares about what she did to try and make Dawn's sadness go away. They talk about how the things that trigger them in marriage are often related to messages they received in childhood. Did you relate to today's episode? Send us a DM: closeted_conversations
Dawn and Hannah discuss their wildly different fighting styles, how this impacted their first year of marriage, and how they've learned to do it better. Dawn shares about her urges to lie to Hannah. They talk about the counterintuitive benefits of viewing each other as a burden. Follow us on Instagram: closeted_conversations
Hannah spontaneously reads Dawn a page from her journal. Dawn tells Hannah her least favorite thing about being in a relationship. They discuss what they're learning about replacing judgement with appreciation. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram: closeted_conversations
Dawna & Hannah have a conversation about what happened when they stopped judging each other, the difference between conscious sex and autopilot sex, and an important insight Dawn learned in marriage therapy. We're interested in your thoughts on today's episode. Send us a DM on Instagram: closeted_conversations
The Nobles discuss what it was like to disappoint their parents by leaving their religious upbringings. They explore how they're working through compartmentalization, grief, shame and how they're finding self-compassion. If you relate to this episode, send Dawna & Hannah a DM on Instagram: closeted_conversations