Podcast appearances and mentions of Stan Tatkin

This week Nicola and Di chat with one of Australia’s most sought after relationship therapists, Melissa Ferrari. Melissa has been working with couples for over 25 years, helping them create healthy, secure relationships. She is certified in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) and is regularly called upon as a relationship expert in national media. We know that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives and that connection to others is vital to our health and happiness, so we were thrilled to explore this topic with Melissa. In this conversation we hear about the common challenges that couples face that Melissa sees over and over again in her therapy. Melissa gives us some good advice for how to ‘fight right’, including the importance of being face-to-face and looking each other in the eyes. We chat about the hormones that flood our bodies when we’re in love, and what we need to remember when those hormones wear off, and we’re really getting to know the person in front of us. Melissa talks about putting the relationship first, recognising that you’re in a 2-party system where things are give and take, and the need to get to know each other on a deep level, including the trauma that you’re both bringing into the relationship. Nicola opens up and shares a very vulnerable story about a recent relationship she was in, which ended in deception and betrayal. You won’t believe this story until you hear it! She talks about the importance of speaking up, of holding people to account, of women supporting women, and feeling empowered. We hope you enjoy this special episode with Melissa as much as we did. And if you love our Over The Back Fence chats, come and hang out with us and some amazing guests at our in person event this week on the 19th of June at the Woolly Bay Hotel in Sydney. You can buy your tickets here - https://events.humanitix.com/over-the-back-fence-podcast-9r2scfqj/tickets This episode is proudly supported by Montgomery Investment Management, trusted experts helping you build and protect your financial future. Follow Melissa on IG here - https://www.instagram.com/melissaferrari_psychotherapist/ Follow Melissa on Facebook here - https://www.facebook.com/melissaferrarirelationshipspecialist Follow Melissa on LinkedIn here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-f-38a77575/ Find out more about Melissa’s work here - https://www.melissaferrari.com.au/ Buy Wired For Love by Stan Tatkin (Melissa’s teacher and mentor) here Buy Wired For Dating by Stan Tatkin here Follow Nicola and Di on IG here - https://www.instagram.com/overthebackfencepodcast/ Watch Over The Back Fence on YouTube here - https://www.youtube.com/@Overthebackfencepodcast/podcasts Buy your Eir Women products here. Use code OTBF20 at checkout for a 20% discountSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shownotes The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner One of Dr. Tatkin's top ways to create safety for your partner The biggest mistake people make in modern dating Bio Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, co-founder of the PACT Institute and an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He also teaches and supervises family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente, Woodland Hills, CA. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. Dr Tatkin is the author of In Each Other's Care, We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships and co-author of Baby Bomb. Dr. Tatkin received his early training in developmental self and object relations (Masterson Institute), Gestalt, psychodrama, and family systems theory. His private practice specialized for some time in treating adolescents and adults with personality disorders. More recently, his interests turned to psycho-neurobiological theories of human relationship and applying principles of early mother-infant attachment to adult romantic relationships. Dr. Tatkin was clinical director of Charter Hospital's intensive outpatient drug and alcohol program and is a former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter.  He is a veteran member of Allan N. Schore's study group. He also trained in the Adult Attachment Interview by way of Mary Main and Erik Hesse's program through UC Berkeley. Timestamps 00:00:43 - Guest introduction 00:03:58 - The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning 00:06:00 - How to find compassion for an anxious or avoidant 00:09:59 - Sign up for Layla's newsletter at ⁠LaylaMartin.com⁠ 00:11:49 - Layla describes an avoidant's experience as a baby 00:13:19 - Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles 00:16:17 - Attachment isn't personality, it's memory 00:21:49 - Plan for your devils, not your angels 00:25:43 - How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer 00:26:54 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification⁠  00:33:32 - Dr. Tatkin's advice for the moments you see your partner as an enemy 00:37:27 - Discover ⁠MOOD™ Sex Magic⁠ 00:38:20 - What do you secretly put in front of your relationship? 00:45:48 - Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner 00:46:53 - How to learn to take care of your partner's nervous system 00:49:14 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with ⁠Obliss⁠ 00:50:50 - One of Dr. Tatkin's top ways to create safety for your partner 00:54:05 - Why apologizing can subconsciously feel like weakness 00:57:11 - Dr. Tatkin explains the details of “The Couple Bubble” 01:00:34 - What Dr. Tatkin sees that the happiest long term couples do 01:03:50 - Insecures don't believe there's such a thing as fairness and justice 01:05:44 - The biggest mistake people make in modern dating 01:08:07 - Dr. Tatkin celebrates his wife and his relationship 01:11:55 - Secure functioning is very hard but it's worth it 01:12:00 - Conclusion

How many couples out there feel like the spark has fizzled a bit? Maybe things have gotten a little… routine. Like you're just going through the motions, more out of habit than joy? You're definitely not alone. The good news? That spark can come back—and our guest is all about helping couples reignite it. Carolyn Sharp is the author of Fire It UP: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship, and she's made it her mission to help people build stronger, more intentional connections. Not just to bring back the romance, but to create relationships that thrive—in every sense. Her approach is grounded in the science of the Psycho-biological Approach to Couple Therapy, and she studied directly under Dr. Stan Tatkin. Through her book and her work, she's helping couples reconnect emotionally, intimately—and yes, in the bedroom too. Carolyn has dedicated her career to assisting couples in fostering deeper, more intentional connections that extend beyond mere romance, aiming instead to cultivate relationships that flourish in all aspects. Her methodology is firmly rooted in the Psycho-biological Approach to Couple Therapy, which she studied under the esteemed Dr. Stan Tatkin. Through her insightful work and transformative book, Carolyn offers a pathway for couples to reconnect not only emotionally but also intimately, thereby revitalizing their relationships in a comprehensive manner. Learn more in this Women Road Warriors interview with Shelley Johnson and Kathy Tuccaro.#Relationships #Intimacy #FireItUp #CarolynSharp #ShelleyJohnson #ShelleyMJohnson #KathyTuccaro #WomenRoadWarriorsFIRE IT UP Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationshiphttps://women-road-warriors.captivate.fmhttps://womenroadwarriors.com/ https://womenspowernetwork.net

In this continued conversation, Whitni, Ash, and Dawn explore the intricate dynamics of pleasure, intimacy, and emotional safety within queer relationships. They delve into the concept of flow state, emphasizing its importance in enhancing connection and intimacy. The discussion highlights the significance of understanding desire, whether responsive or spontaneous, and the necessity of communication and consent in fostering a satisfying sexual experience. The conversation culminates in the idea that pleasure is not only a personal journey but also a form of liberation, encouraging couples to embrace their desires and build secure, fulfilling relationships. Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they're building as a couple. With that shared vision, they founded Queer Couples Coaching, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin. How to work with Ash & Dawn: https://linktr.ee/Queercouplescoaching Follow Ash & Dawn at: TikTok - @queercouplescoaching IG - @queercouplescoaching Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation highlights the significance of daily rituals, aftercare, and the messiness of relationships, ultimately emphasizing that security in a relationship can lead to greater exploration and fulfillment in the bedroom. Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they're building as a couple. With that shared vision, they founded Queer Couples Coaching, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin. How to work with Ash & Dawn:https://linktr.ee/Queercouplescoaching Follow Ash & Dawn at: TikTok - @queercouplescoaching IG - @queercouplescoaching Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

We are living in a time where people seemingly have deeply conflicting views. How can you have a conversation with someone who doesn't agree with you? How can you allow for the conflict that might ensue? Will you be understanding and compassionate? Or do you just walk away? Lisa continues the conversation today with author and therapist Carolyn Sharp, who assures us that it is possible to find common ground. She also shares ways to handle being triggered, if conversations get heated. Carolyn asks us to consider our values. It's a matter of alignment and feeling safe. She explains that it's better to be proactive in our relationships. Care, respect, and curiosity are all keys to better communication. She also discusses how to set boundaries if things are going in a toxic direction. We must be confident in our boundaries. We need to first understand ourselves and our limits, then we can be clear with others. Carolyn is both a therapist and coach, who works with individuals as well as couples. She has been trained by relationship expert Stan Tatkin, founder of the PACT Institute. She talks about how you know whether to repair a damaged relationship. She believes almost any problem in a relationship, except for abuse, can be fixed and eventually healed, as long as the individuals want it to work out for the best. It takes constant care, and can be challenging, yet relationships offer us the biggest opportunities for growth! Info: CarolynSharp.com and SecureConnectionsRetreats.com

How do the simple rituals we share each day shape the security and connection in our relationship? In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into "Launches & Landings"—the daily practices that start and end their days together.Lauren recently finished Wired for Love (Second Edition) by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT (

When couples face unresolved issues or fail to repair conflicts quickly, relationships suffer. These challenges can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and emotional distance. Trauma, past experiences, and unmet expectations can make these problems even harder to manage.Author and expert in psychology and relationships, Stan Tatkin joins Lorin to explore how shared agreements, thoughtful design, and a focus on mutual care can help you build a strong foundation.Without this foundation, relationships can become unstable. Fights linger, trust erodes, and unresolved issues or traumas deepen the disconnect. Over time, this can harm not just the relationship but also our mental and physical health.Start today, by having a conversation with your partner about what you both want from your relationship. These small steps can create momentum toward a stronger, more secure bond.Follow @drstantatkin on InstagramWork with Stan directlyThe PACT InstituteMentioned in this episode:Relationship Coaching Fundamentals Master the art of deep coaching & high-converting sales.The Awakened Masculine Program An 8-week immersive journey into the depths of unleashing your awakened masculine power.

Ever found yourself attracted to chaos in relationships while feeling "meh" about someone who's actually good for you? In this Valentine's Day special, Sabrina dives deep into why we often mistake drama for passion and peace for boredom. She shares personal stories, including her own journey from choosing unavailable partners to embracing healthy love, and explains the neuroscience behind why stable relationships can feel uncomfortably "boring" at first. Key Topics: Why our brains are wired to crave relationship chaos The difference between settling and choosing healthy love How to stop self-sabotaging when you meet someone stable The truth about "boring" relationships vs. toxic excitement Practical tools for embracing and trusting healthy love Featured Insights: Dr. Jack Panksepp's research on why toxic love feels exciting Dr. Stan Tatkin's work on mistaking chaos for chemistry Dr. Barbara Fredrickson's theory on building deeper relationships Actionable Tools: The Alignment & Adventure Matrix for assessing relationships Three questions to ask when feeling uneasy in healthy relationships Journaling prompts for rewiring your brain for safety Whether you're single or coupled up this Valentine's Day, this episode provides the framework you need to start receiving the secure, healthy love you deserve. MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can't control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Unlock your best skin with iRestore laser and get 25% off your Illumina Face Mask with the code SABRINA HERE! Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with Lume Deodorant and get 15% off with promo code SABRINA HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

 Would you like to have better communication with your partner? Are you having challenges in your relationship? Why is it so hard to connect? Today Lisa talks with Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT. Stan is a well-respected teacher, clinician, researcher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). He is a noted expert on human behavior and couple relationships.   In today's interview, Stan shares communication tips and tricks and explains the importance of non-verbal cues and body-language, whether with your partner, friends, or in a business setting. He also discusses online dating, character issues, texting, and implications of social media.   Stan speaks and teaches worldwide on functional relationships – how to understand them, create them, and support them. He is the author of the completely updated and revised book, “Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship.” Info: thepactinstitute.com. 

In this episode, Dr. Stan Tatkin, author of Wired for Love, unpacks the role of flirting in relationships. Is it harmless or harmful? He explores its impact on attraction, trust, and boundaries, offering practical advice for rebuilding security and handling breaches. Whether you're strengthening your bond or navigating trust issues, Dr. Tatkin shares valuable insights for lasting connection. Kari, Brooke, David, Kaime and Elora host Fresh Living on KUTV, which airs on CBS Channel 2 every weekday at 1 pm in Utah. You can follow Fresh Living on all social media platforms @kutvfreshliving and watch our show on YouTube

In this special Best of 2024 episode, we revisit the most impactful moments from our inspiring conversations throughout the year. These discussions dive deep into relationships, attachment, community, and healing, offering meaningful insights into how we connect with others and ourselves.From the complexities of love and partnership to the foundational influence of early experiences, we explore tools for navigating challenges with clarity and intention. Mark Groves and Dr. Stan Tatkin discuss the intricacies of relationships, focusing on the balance of connection and independence that helps them thrive. Dr. Judy Ho explains attachment styles and how our childhood patterns continue to shape our adult behaviors. Kai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo expand on emotional resilience, sharing strategies for navigating conflict and fostering greater compassion for ourselves and others.We also explore the transformative process of healing. Jessica Fern demystifies ethical non-monogamy, offering practical approaches to reframing love. Dr. Peter Levine delves into the impact of trauma on the nervous system, providing pathways for release and growth. Mastin Kipp and Dr. Nicole LePera share tools for understanding and managing emotional triggers, while Mia Magik reconnects us with ancient practices to strengthen our inner foundations.Themes of community care and mutual support emerge as Vannessa Bennett and Dené Logan reflect on the importance of fostering connection in mental health. Laura Clery reminds us of the power of humor to lighten life's burdens, while Michael Galyon encourages us to embrace the present moment with gratitude and openness.Featured GuestsMark Groves, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Sabrina Zohar, Jillian Turecki, Dr. Judy Ho, Jessica Fern, Vannessa Bennett and Dené Logan, Dr. Nicole LePera, Mastin Kipp, Dr. Peter Levine, Laura Clery, Mia Magik, Michael Galyon, Kai Cheng Thom, and Nkem Ndefo.If you feel one of your favorite guests has been missed, don't worry! Many more of our favorite guests will appear in next week's specially curated New Year's episode, where we'll share transformative tools to help you heal, grow, and graciously embrace 2025.If you enjoyed this Best of 2024 episode, please subscribe, share it with your fellow Gently Used Humans, and leave us a review! Your support helps us reach more listeners on their path toward growth and healing.Listen to the full episodes:Mia Magik https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-alchemy-of-rageMichael Galyon https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/finding-calm-in-chaosSabrina Zohar https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/breaking-the-cycle-of-toxic-relationshipsMastin Kipp https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/nourishing-your-nervous-systemDr Arielle Shwartz https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-nonlinear-journey-of-healingMark Groves https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/liberated-loveDr Stan Tatkin https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-architecture-of-relationshipsJessica Fern https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/erotic-blueprints-and-the-map-to-intimacyDr Peter Levine https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-birth-of-somatic-trauma-healingDr Nicole LePera https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/healing-trauma-and-an-addiction-to-dramaKai Cheng Thom and Nkem Ndefo https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/dating-your-trauma-tinglesVennessa Bennett and Dené Logan https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/tap-dancing-for-belongingJillian Turecki https://www.drscottlyons.com/podcast/the-safety-of-turbulance

Does your couple relationship have a shared sense of purpose and vision? Hunter talks with Dr. Stan Tatkin about the importance of creating agreements within the relationship to avoid conflict and make things fair. They also explore the different attachment styles and how they can impact relationships. Tatkin provides practical exercises, such as the welcome home ritual, to help couples co-regulate and strengthen their bond. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: /mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I think of my favorite couple therapy experts, Dr. Stan Tatkin (https://www.thepactinstitute.com/therapy-with-stan) is one of the first names that comes to mind. I've read several of his books. I've attended several of his trainings. And this will be the third time I'm hosting him on SuperPsyched. Stan's work has changed my life and has been instrumental to the field of psychotherapy. And his expertise spans various areas of how we love including the neurobiology of love and relationships. As you might imagine, there's a lot of terrain to cover! So, on this episode, I thought we'd talk about love hacks and a bit about attachment styles. Whether or not you're not familiar with attachment styles, I'm confident you'll come to have a better understanding of them and that this episode will delight you and be very useful.So, without further do, a hearty welcome back to one of my all-time faves!

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Ash and Dawna Noble, founders of Queer Couples Academy, to explore the intricacies of queer intimacy and relationship dynamics. They discuss the PACT model of therapy, the importance of understanding attachment styles, and how vulnerability plays a crucial role in building secure connections. The conversation delves into the impact of technology on relationships, the difference between interdependence and codependency, and the significance of aftercare and open communication in maintaining healthy partnerships. Through their insights, Ash and Dawna emphasize the importance of co-regulation and navigating power dynamics to foster a safe and nurturing environment for love and connection. In this conversation, Whitni and the Nobles explore the complexities of queer and straight relationships, focusing on the dynamics of roles, expectations, and communication. They discuss the high stakes involved in queer relationships, the importance of emotional space, and the need for effective conflict resolution. The conversation also delves into attachment styles, trauma healing, and the significance of creating safety and trust within relationships. They emphasize the hope for change and the potential for growth in all couples, regardless of their backgrounds. Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a shared trauma that completely rearranged their lives. As a result, they co-created a vision to build the safest relationship either of them have ever been in as they set out to become the cycle-breakers within their own family systems through the relationship they're building as a couple. With that shared vision, they've launched Queer Couples Academy, where they share the skills that are needed to build a safe & secure relationship through the PACT model, which is a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin. Learn More From Dawna & Ash Noble: TIKTOK - @queercouplesacademy IG - @ashanddawnnoble Queer Love Essentials: Pre-Sale! - https://www.queerrelationshipcoaching.com/QLE-Pre-Sale Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: TikTok - @bdemoves IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks

Could your relationship benefit from a deeper connection? Join us for a conversation with Dr. Stan Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute and renowned for his psychobiological approach to couple therapy. We explore his inclusive approach to modern relationship structures. Dr. Tatkin reveals his secrets for maintaining excitement in long-term relationships and offers advice on living authentically, fostering self-love, and operating from your adult mindset. Ever wondered why you're attracted to certain people? Dr. Tatkin explains the fascinating neurobiological roots behind our unconscious attraction to partners who mirror our emotional upbringing. We discuss the crucial role of presence, attention, and curiosity in sustaining intimacy beyond the initial spark. Discover how shared purpose and mutual protection are the cornerstones of a thriving partnership. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes the "couple bubble" concept, where mutual support and unwavering commitment are paramount. We explore the importance of aligning values, setting mutual goals, and maintaining a cooperative dynamic to ensure a fulfilling and sustainable relationship. In this episode, you will hear: Deep dive into Dr. Tatkin's updated book, "Wired for Love" The role of presence, attention, and curiosity in sustaining relationships Exploring 'pillow talk' for deeper emotional bonds Understanding unconscious partner attraction and its neurobiological roots The significance of mutual goals, shared visions, and the "couple bubble" Practical advice for building resilient and fulfilling long-term partnerships Resources from this Episode   https://courses.theadultchair.com/the-academy-of-awakening  https://www.thepactinstitute.com MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com       Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant    

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that felt like a constant battle, where every disagreement escalated into a full-blown war? Or perhaps you've experienced the opposite, a partnership so secure and harmonious that it seemed to defy the odds? What if the key to creating a lasting, fulfilling relationship lies in this podcast?In this episode, Dr Scott is joined by Dr. Stan Tatkin, a pioneer in the field of couples therapy and the developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). With a deep understanding of attachment theory, neuroscience, and interpersonal neurobiology, Dr. Tatkin has dedicated his career to helping couples build secure, resilient relationships that withstand the test of time.Together, they delve into the intricate dance between our brains and our bonds, exploring how our early experiences shape our attachment styles and how those styles manifest in our adult relationships. They will uncover the neuroscientific underpinnings of secure functioning, discussing the importance of honesty, fairness, and mutual support in creating a strong partnership.But it's not just about theory; Dr. Tatkin will share practical strategies for finding an ideal partner, navigating differences, and tolerating the inevitable pain and discomfort that come with any long-term commitment. They will discuss the role of transparency, setting up guardrails, and creating a shared vision for the future – all essential elements in building a relationship that not only survives but thrives.Whether you're in a committed partnership, navigating the dating world, or simply seeking to understand the complexities of human connection, this episode promises to be a transformative exploration of the neuroscience behind secure relationships. Topics We Break Down: How couples are the only democratic union to come together without a shared vision.Why it's vital to build relationships on the same foundation, and how to go about it.Helpful tips for setting up guardrails in relationships. How to identify your ideal partner. The impermanence of attraction, and the difference between love and compatibility.Dissecting the roles of society and basic human nature in problematic relationships.How it's always possible to work through deficits and gain new relationship skills.

Dr. Stan Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute, discusses the importance of secure functioning in relationships and the principles of mutual care and the couple bubble. He emphasizes the need for couples to create a shared vision and set of social contracts to protect and support each other. Dr. Tatkin also highlights the challenges of modern dating and the importance of building secure functioning relationships from the start. He concludes by discussing the ongoing research being conducted by the PACT Institute to provide evidence-based support for their approach. Bio: Dr. Tatkin and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, created the PACT Institute in 2010 to train mental health professionals to successfully integrate a psychobiological approach in their clinical practices. They appreciate his depth of understanding – of both the scientific research and the human condition – and how he integrates that wisdom to form the foundation of the comprehensive principles and methodologies he teaches. The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists CA honored Stan with the Educator of the Year award in 2014.    Dr. Tatkin helps couples create healthy attachments and secure-functioning relationships based on fairness, justice, and sensitivity. In addition to his robust clinical practice in Calabasas, California, Dr. Tatkin and Tracey lead couples through Wired For Love Couple Retreats -- both online and in person across the United States and Europe.     Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine. He is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as a founding member on Relationships First, a nonprofit organization founded by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Stan Tatkin and the PACT Institute 02:00 Understanding PACT and its Polytheoretical Approach 04:54 The Motivation Behind Creating a New Perspective in Couples Therapy 08:44 The Impact of John Gottman and Sue Johnson on Couples Therapy 09:42 The Role of Brain Science and Psychobiology in Couples Therapy 11:32 Applying Brain Science and Psychobiology to Communication and Conflict Resolution 13:25 The Importance of Knowledge and Psychoeducation in Couples Therapy 15:22 The Interplay Between the Brain and Couples Therapy 20:16 Revising 'Wired for Love' and the Changing Landscape of Relationships 23:14 Common Relationship Pitfalls and Mistakes to Avoid 27:38 Creating a Shared Vision and Accommodating Differences in Relationships 35:16 The Importance of Mutual Care and the Couple Bubble 44:51 Applying PACT Principles to Modern Dating and Relationships 50:14 Building Secure Functioning Relationships from the Start 52:36 Key Relationship Advice from Dr. Stan Tatkin 55:03 Ongoing Research by the PACT Institute --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can sharing embarrassing childhood stories enhance intimacy in relationships?What is the difference between jealousy and envy in romantic relationships?How can couples protect their relationship from disruptive external influences?Join hosts EJ and Tarah on "Relationship Renovation" as they welcome the esteemed Dr. Stan Tatkin to discuss the vital elements of building and maintaining intimacy in relationships. In this illuminating episode, Dr. Tatkin, renowned for his expertise in neuroscience and attachment theory, delves into the power of sharing personal stories to foster deeper connections. He unpacks the significance of bonding hormones and why being present truly matters. Through playful and heartfelt interactions, the conversation navigates the responsibilities partners have towards each other's well-being and the essence of the "you and I against the world" mentality.Listeners will gain practical insights into managing jealousy and protecting their relationship from disruptive 'thirds' like alcohol or other relationships. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes the importance of governance and shared vision within a partnership, outlining tools for couples to create a supportive and interdependent two-person system. Whether you're looking to enhance your current relationship or are curious about how to navigate potential conflicts, this episode of "Relationship Renovation" offers valuable guidance and inspiration. Tune in to discover how intimacy and trust can be rebuilt and strengthened, even amidst life's challenges.Wired for Love by Dr. Stan TatkinRelationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

“Our anger is “I'm angry because something happened that I feel was unjust or unfair” And if it continues, then I want my justice and you know, our injustices from childhood turn out to be society's burdens because I want payback here, even though you had nothing to do with it. So, hate and love go together because they're both strongly bonding connection, right? But really bond us in order to hate you, I've got to feel a lot about you, right? You did something to betray me, to violate me, to say, no, I can't do this, whatever it is. And so both are really strongly bonded, you know, just like anger is bonding. When we're angry with each other, it's a way to stay bonded and connected, even though it's unpleasant.” So says Stan Tatkin, an author, therapist, and researcher who guides couples toward more durable relationships. He developed the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), a non-linear approach that explores attachment theory to help couples adopt secure-functioning principles: In short, Stan and his wife, Tracey, train therapists to work through a psychobiological lens. Often, our brains get away from us when we're in conflict in our relationships—we lose ourselves to our instincts. He has trained thousands of therapists to integrate PACT into their clinical practice, offers intensive counseling sessions, and co-leads couples retreats with his wife. Tatkin is also an assistant clinical professor at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA.  Stan wrote Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship more than a decade ago and it became an instant classic. It was due for a refresh to encompass the wider range of relationships we're now experiencing and it's just been re-issued, better than ever. In today's conversation we talk about the table stakes of a good relationship: Nobody cares about your survival more than your partner, something we easily forget. As it were, we get into a fascinating sidebar on Pre-Nuptial Agreements, which in Stan's estimation cause many relationships to founder. I'll let him tell you why. MORE FROM STAN TATKIN: Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them We Do Wired for Dating Stan Tatkin's Website Follow Stan on Instagram To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've been ghosted in a long-term relationship or want to learn more about ghosting and dating, this episode is for you. Gretta is joined by Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, a clinician, researcher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). Dr. Tatkin speaks and teaches worldwide on how to understand, create, and sustain secure-functioning relationships. He's authored six bestselling books and has trained thousands of therapists.In this show, Dr. Tatkin shares his views on:-  What to do if you've been ghosted in a long-term relationship- Attachment and distancing behaviors - How to communicate with children who've been impacted by the sudden disappearance of an adult in their life- How to build healthy new romantic connectionsAnd so much more! This show's a must for anyone who's been ghosted in love or is looking for a new romance.Connect with Dr. Tatkin:The PACT InstituteNew! Wired For Love: Fully Revised and Updated Second EditionInstagramConnect With Gretta:Free Guide: What to Say To Your GhostCoaching With GrettaTake Your Power Back WorkshopFree and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.comBetterHelp:Go to https://betterhelp.com/copingwithghosting for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsoredMusic: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals. Are you ready to move forward after being ghosted? Are you tired of worrying, stressing, and struggling to find answers? If you want to regain control of your thoughts and feel more at peace, there's a solution for you. For less than the cost of one coaching session, you can download the new Take Your Power Back Workshop. In it, Gretta and Coach Estee K. will help you better understand why ghosting happens, ways to feel better now, and actionable steps to take your power back. Your purchase will help support this podcast, so it's a win-win! Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages).When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Attachment specialist and couples expert Stan joins me to talk adult pair bonding, why we war, the threat system, waves vs islands, secure vs insecure attachment, how to assess yourself, abandonment and rejection, being needy, cultural factors, what to do with your partner's attachment style, how to raise secure children and the polarisation in the world. A hugely important one if you have humans in your life. More information about Stan Tatkin - https://www.thepactinstitute.com/  ----------------------------------- Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a teacher, clinician, researcher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). Beloved by colleagues and clients alike, Stan is an expert on human behavior and couple relationships. He speaks and teaches around the world on secure-functioning relationships – how to understand them, create them, and support them. ----------------------------------- Want to become a certified embodiment coach? More details about CEC – https://embodimentunlimited.com/cec/?utm_source=social&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=cec Join Mark for in-person workshops – https://embodimentunlimited.com/events-calendar/?utm_source=TEP&utm_medium=Description&utm_campaign=Events Join free coaching demos sessions with Mark – https://embodimentunlimited.com/free-coaching-with-mark/?utm_source=TEP&utm_medium=Description&utm_campaign=Demo Find Mark Walsh on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/warkmalsh/

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, author of Wired for Love, joins us to talk about the neuroscience of love. Stan is a clinician, teacher, researcher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couples therapy (PACT). He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, cofounded the PACT Institute to train other mental health professionals worldwide to use this method in their clinical work. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA. He maintains a private practice in Southern California, and directs PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is author of In Each Other's Care and six other books.  Visit our website at www.newharbinger.com and use coupon code 'Podcast25' to receive 25% off your entire order.  Buy the Book:  New Harbinger - https://bit.ly/3U4BO0n  Amazon - https://a.co/d/fJCvaBr  Barnes & Noble - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/1128699983  Bookshop.org - https://bit.ly/3U9J8I2  If you have ideas for future episodes, thoughts, or questions, we'd love to hear from you! Send us an email at podcast@newharbinger.com 

 Dr. Stan Tatkin, is a PsyD, MFT, clinician, researcher, developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT), and best-selling author of the relationship must have book, Wired for Love (second edition out June 2024), which is the complete “insider's guide” to understanding your partner's brain, sparking lasting connection, and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust—now with more than 170,000 copies sold. His work has been endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, Alanis Morrisette, Mark Groves, Scott Steindorff, among others.    He speaks and teaches around the world on how to understand, create and sustain secure-functioning relationships and more than 1.7 million people have tuned in to Dr. Tatkin's TEDx talk. He's authored six bestselling books, and trained thousands of therapists around the world.    Dr. Tatkin has been featured in hundreds of media outlets including TIME, Mindbodygreen, KATU, PIX11, The Knot, and more.   Dr. Tatkin is available to discuss a diverse range of topics such as:  How to keep your relationship full of love, intimacy and spice - for new relationships and those married forever!  Creating Your Couple Bubble: Ways to create a strong foundation for this ecosystem for partners.   Learning to Fight Better: How to fight while remaining on the same team and keeping things fair, just, and collaborative.   How to Achieve and Maintain Relationship Equanimity: Would you fall on the sword for your relationship?   Creating Joyful Rituals: How rituals can empower a relationship.   Brain Hacks for Better Relationships: How well do you know your partner's brain?   Marriage Training vs Marriage Therapy: How to set up your marriage for success and develop resilient relationships.    More on Dr. Tatkin   Dr. Tatkin and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, created the PACT Institute in 2010 to train mental health professionals to successfully integrate a psychobiological approach in their clinical practices. They appreciate his depth of understanding – of both the scientific research and the human condition – and how he integrates that wisdom to form the foundation of the comprehensive principles and methodologies he teaches. The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists CA honored Stan with the Educator of the Year award in 2014.    Dr. Tatkin helps couples create healthy attachments and secure-functioning relationships based on fairness, justice, and sensitivity. In addition to his robust clinical practice in Calabasas, California, Dr. Tatkin and Tracey lead couples through Wired For Love Couple Retreats -- both online and in person across the United States and Europe.     Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine. He is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as a founding member on Relationships First, a nonprofit organization founded by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.     Any feedback or questions hit us up; Jamie@360yourself.co.uk community@360yourself.co.uk

In this episode we discuss the what the couple bubble is, the benefits of it & how to develop a solid impenetrable forcefield around your relationship so the two of you can get your needs met from a place of overflow! The couple bubble was developed by Stan Tatkin, and is described in the book Wired for Love & has served many of my clients & their relationships. FREE Tantric Date Night Ideas for Couples Connect with me on Instagram: @IAmMelissaPeters

Navigating through the complexities of human relationships can be challenging, but understanding the fundamentals of attachment and human behavior can make a world of difference. On the latest episode of Get Yourself Optimized, I had an enlightening conversation with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a pioneer in attachment theory and the neurobiology of love.

In this special episode, five doctors reveal the secret habits you need to start implementing today to live a healthier life. Listen to Dr. Anna Lembke, Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine, who shares how to give your brain a dopamine detox to take back control of your life. Dr. Steven Gundry, a cardiothoracic surgeon and heart surgeon, uncovers how to boost your brainpower and energy levels. Dr. Neha Sangwan, an internal medicine physician and corporate communication expert, offers valuable advice on recognizing and avoiding burnout. Dr. Alok Trivedi, founder of the Aligned Performance Institute, shares how to achieve the level of success you desire through neuroscience. Dr. Stan Tatkin, a therapist and researcher, unveils the psychology of relationships and how to cultivate stronger relationships. Timestamps: (00:00:00) Introduction to this special episode (00:00:28) DR. ANNA LEMBKE: Defining addiction (00:03:30) Identifying our addictions (00:05:20) The importance of radical honesty (00:07:20) The Timeline Fallback Method (00:08:30) Dopamine fast  (00:09:45) Motivation change (00:11:30) Dopamine differences (00:16:38) The pursuit of pleasure leads to pain (00:22:00) Intentionally inviting pain (00:25:07) Workaholism (00:25:50) What we should look for (00:26:15) DR. STEVEN GUNDRY: Medical advice that needs to be disrupted (00:30:45) The gut microbiome (00:35:15) Epidemic of low energy (00:38:30) Eating whole foods vs processed foods (00:42:00) Eating food for 16 hrs a day (00:43:18) Fasting (00:47:15) Leaky gut (00:50:18) DR. NEHA SANGWAN: Stress causes illness (00:51:47) Burnout as a wake-up call (00:55:19) What burnout really looks like (00:58:49) Should we avoid burnout? (01:01:15) How to recalibrate (01:03:45) Changing your self-talk (01:06:15) DR. ALOK TRIVEDI: Dealing with stress (01:06:59) Inspired entrepreneur vs income-producing entrepreneur (01:08:27) Understand your true identity (01:11:33) Confidence as a byproduct  (01:13:00) How to determine your values (01:17:45) Having a mission (01:21:50) Financial stress (01:22:43) The 3 requisites to succeed (01:25:16) DR. STAN TATKIN: Survival mode (01:27:04) What partners need to avoid dissolving (01:33:21) The 3-leg experiment (01:35:53) Communication in relationships (01:38:48) How to work together as a couple

Some podcast apps may not display links from our show notes (see below) properly, so we have included a list of links at the end of this description. * At the heart of every healthy, fulfilling relationship lies the unshakable knowledge that we can trust another person with the care of our whole well-being. Yet most of us arrive at our relationships with triggers, traumas, and old patterning that can make this kind of intimacy challenging. * Renowned psychotherapist and couples therapy expert Stan Tatkin explores all the common complaints and conflicts we encounter in our relationships and provides key insights on how to navigate even the most contentious topics with understanding and respect in his latest book, In Each Other's Care. * In this episode, Dr. Tatkin is joined by licensed psychologist and CIIS Associate Professor of Community Mental Health Elizabeth Markle for a conversation offering insights for therapists and couples alike about repairing relationships and reigniting love. * This episode was recorded during a live online event on June 1st, 2023. You can also watch it on the CIIS Public Programs YouTube channel. A transcript is available at ciispod.com. To find out more about CIIS and public programs like this one, visit our website ciis.edu and connect with us on social media @ciispubprograms. * We hope that each episode of our podcast provides opportunities for growth, and that our listeners will use them as a starting point for further introspection. Many of the topics discussed on our podcast have the potential to bring up feelings and emotional responses. If you or someone you know is in need of mental health care and support, here are some resources to find immediate help and future healing: * -Visit 988lifeline.org or text, call, or chat with The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 from anywhere in the U.S. to be connected immediately with a trained counselor. Please note that 988 staff are required to take all action necessary to secure the safety of a caller and initiate emergency response with or without the caller's consent if they are unwilling or unable to take action on their own behalf. * -Visit thrivelifeline.org or text “THRIVE” to begin a conversation with a THRIVE Lifeline crisis responder 24/7/365, from anywhere: +1.313.662.8209. This confidential text line is available for individuals 18+ and is staffed by people in STEMM with marginalized identities. * -Visit translifeline.org or call (877) 565-8860 in the U.S. or (877) 330-6366 in Canada to learn more and contact Trans Lifeline, who provides trans peer support divested from police. * -Visit ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics to learn more and schedule counseling sessions at one of our centers. * -Find information about additional global helplines at befrienders.org. * LINKS * Podcast Transcripts: https://www.ciispod.com/ * California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) Website: https://www.ciis.edu/ * CIIS Public Programs YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/ciispublicprograms * CIIS Public Programs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ciispubprograms/ * Mental Health Care and Support Resources: https://988lifeline.org/ https://thrivelifeline.org/ https://translifeline.org/ https://www.ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics https://befrienders.org/

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Stan about the original episode they recorded back in 2021 and explore why that episode was so popular with our listeners. Their conversation is followed by the re-release of the original episode.

This new episode of Unlock Your Potential features Dr. Stan Tatkin, therapist, researcher, best-selling author and developer of the PACT Institute.   At the beginning of the episode, we delve into the psychology of relationships. Dr. Tatkin emphasizes the importance of a shared purpose for a stronger relationship.   Midway through, we explore how relationships influence every aspect of our lives. Dr. Tatkin sheds light on why prioritizing the couple system is crucial for your life's success. Towards the end, we unveil the secrets for a secure functioning relationship. Discover the three key insights Dr. Tatkin shares to nurture a robust connection. I hope you enjoy this episode and gain valuable insights for cultivating a stronger relationship with your partner. Check Out More of Dr. Tatkin's Content Here

Welcome back to "Normalize the Conversation." Today we're diving deep into the world of relationships, love, and secure functioning. How can we create a partnership that is built on teamwork, fairness, and kindness? Joining us is a true expert in the field, the best-selling author of six books and the mastermind behind the Psychobiological Approach to Couple's Therapy (PACT), Dr. Stan Tatkin. Dr. Stan Tatkin is a renowned figure in the realm of relationships and couples therapy. His groundbreaking work has transformed countless relationships, offering a path to a more secure and fulfilling connection with your partner. In this enlightening episode, Dr. Tatkin takes us on a journey to understand, create, and sustain secure-functioning relationships. He shares key insights and practical advice, shedding light on the path to lasting love and connection: - Dr. Tatkin explains the science behind love and attachment, providing a foundation for understanding how we relate to one another. Learn how our brains are wired for connection and how we can use this knowledge to enhance our relationships. - Effective communication is at the core of secure functioning. Discover valuable techniques and strategies for improving the way you and your partner communicate, ensuring that both of your voices are heard and understood. - Shifting from "I" to "We": Dr. Tatkin emphasizes the importance of teamwork in a secure-functioning relationship. Find out how to transition from an individual mindset to a collaborative one, where both partners prioritize the well-being of the relationship. - The 10 Relationship Commandments: Delve into the ten essential principles that can guide you on the path to a secure-functioning relationship. These commandments provide a roadmap for building a partnership that is rooted in fairness, kindness, and mutual support. Join us as we explore the fascinating world of secure-functioning relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or seeking to enhance your future connections, the insights and wisdom shared in this episode will empower you to cultivate love and understanding in your relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/normalizetheconversation/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/normalizetheconversation/support

In this episode, Meg and Lindsay chat with Crystal Britt, a licensed clinical social worker and actual therapist about the famed book, ‘The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts' by pastor (NOT therapist) Gary Chapman. We talk about how the Five Love Languages are reductive, gendered, and heteronormative and how there are many better resources for communication in relationships. Christians especially love this read and recommend the Five Love Languages as if the Lord himself wrote this book. Why is that? Welp, we get into it with the lovely Crystal Britt throughout this episode. (Spoiler alert: it's the misogyny.)Follow Crystal Everywhere@itscrystalbritt Podcast: Time To LeanRecommended:Bell Hooks:  All About Love The Gottman's:  7 Principles for Making a Marriage Work Dr. Rachel Vanderbuilt on TikTok - Queer FocusDr. Stan Tatkin:  Wired For LoveEmily Nagoski, Ph.D.:  Come As You Are & Come TogetherJessica Fern:  Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual NonmonogamyMarisa G. Franco PhD:  Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--FriendsFresh Starts Registry - A resource place to share your post-divorce needsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/holy-ghosting/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Throughout their 17 year union, the presence of pornography cast a shadow over Sandra and her husband's relationship, steadily eroding its foundation. Initially, Sandra dismissed it, swayed by the notion that incorporating porn could add a spark to their connection. However, as time unfolded, she witnessed alarming shifts in her husband's behavior—his inability to heed her pleas for gentleness, defensiveness clouding his responses, emotions spiraling into dramatic extremes, an inability to distinguish between sex and love, and an insistence on using orgasms as a mood-management tool. Caught in a web of lies and betrayal, Sandra recognized the compulsive and addictive nature of her husband's porn consumption. In this powerful podcast episode, Sandra shares her story of resilience and transformation, recounting how therapy and the Wanting It More model became the catalysts for rebuilding intimacy in their relationship. She delves into their journey of porn recovery, shedding light on the steps they took to recreate their sex life. Sandra explores the intricacies of navigating boundaries, revealing the specific measures she implemented to safeguard her well-being within the relationship. She also shares what their sex life looks like now and how her husband feels about intimacy since recovering from porn addiction. Resourses: Sandra and her husband used the following resources to help them on their healing journey. - Helping Couples Heal Podcast (interviews with Stan Tatkin, Omar Minwalla, and Carol Jurgensen Sheets): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/helping-couples-heal-podcast/id1462962051 - Omar Minwalla Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Resource Library: https://minwallamodel.com/resource-library/We used ERCEM coaches to facilitate our disclosure. ERCEM is - Carol Jurgensen Sheets Workbooks: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/products - Dan Drake and Janice Caudill's books to prepare for full therapeutic disclosure and emotional impact statement: https://intensivehope.com/resources/ - SPAA: http://spaa-recovery.org/ - Dr Paula Hall's TED talk on pornography addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qf2e3XZ8Twhttps://www.paulahall.co.uk/books/ - The TINSA book connects addictive behavior to adverse developmental experiences: https://a.co/d/eYaltET - Robert Augustus Masters, mature monogamyhttps://www.robertmasters.com/books-audiobooks/The next round of Wanting It More is running Feb. 1 - Mar. 31, 2024. ​Join Now.​ Is WIM right for you?: If you are curious, you can ​book a 15-minute Zoom call with Janna​. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more women. Learn about Wanting It More: Program details, schedules, bonuses, and Q&A. ​Visit now.

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests!In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis.Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul!In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts.On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere.Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests!In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis.Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul!In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts.On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere.Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests!In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis.Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul!In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts.On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere.Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests!In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis.Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul!In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts.On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere.Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests! In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis. Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul! In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts. On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere. Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests! In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis. Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul! In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts. On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere. Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests! In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis. Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul! In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts. On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere. Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Things are lively in the studio today with a show that is packed to the brim with guests! In the first hour, SKOR North's Judd Zulgad talks about Kevin O'Connell's decision to name Josh Dobbs as their starting QB for Sunday's game against the Raiders, KSTP's Chris Egert talks about how Old Country Buffets went out of business, and informs about a apartment complex that was on fire this morning in Minneapolis. Hour #2 has Dr. Stan Tatkin join the show with advice on relationships, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. You can check out Dr. Tatkin's advice in his books "In Each Other's Care" and "Wired for Love" or in his TEDx talk! Plus boxer and musical artist Sona Akale joins on to talk about his upcoming match against Trey Martin on December 9th at Elemental Boxing in St. Paul! In hour #3 we're joined by Amy Seeman promoting 12 Moms of Christmas, which gifts vehicles and other supplies to single low-income mothers who have no means of transportation. If you're interested in donating or learning more about 12 Moms of Christmas you can email Amy at mamaseeman@gmail.com. Kristyn Burtt aspires to make Tevin's list of Squid Game shoutouts. On the Family, we finally put the whole "talking over one another" debate to rest. Just kidding, it'll remain unsettled forever. Just like how unsettled we are when we look up pro athlete salaries. They may be a short trip to a host of medical issues, but when you have 50 million dollars, you can just buy a new ACL. Probably. I'm sure they sell those somewhere. Stream the show LIVE on the Tom Barnard Show app M-F from 8-12PM or get the show on-demand on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready for a transformative journey into the world of relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned expert in human behavior and relationships. In our discussion, we explore the critical role of attachment styles and their significant influence on relationships. We delve into the challenges commonly faced in relationships, focusing on how stress-induced reactions, rather than the issues themselves, escalate conflicts.Our conversation with Dr. Tatkin also covers the complex dynamics of differing relationship structures, examining the principles of honesty and mutual agreement essential for relationship success. We discuss the biological aspects of attachment and how they can be misconstrued as love, as well as the impact of children on a relationship.Further, Dr. Tatkin sheds light on the "fish bowl effect" and its effect on relationships, revealing how our childhood experiences shape our attachment styles and influence our behavior as adults. We critically analyze the behaviors of people who tend to either cling or distance themselves in relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and resilience in developing secure, healthy relationships.In a vital part of our discussion, Dr. Tatkin introduces the concept of secure functioning in relationships. This involves establishing social contracts and agreements to reduce stress and foster harmony and safety between spouses. We delve into the significance of shared principles, mutual respect, joint decision-making, and embracing each other's differences. This enlightening conversation offers valuable insights and practical advice for anyone seeking to understand their attachment style and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Join us for these invaluable insights from Dr. Tatkin, and don't miss the chance to enhance your understanding and connection in your relationship. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Stan TatkinDr. Tatkin is an expert on human behavior and relationships and can speak on all topics related to relationships, dating, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. He speaks and teaches around the world on how to understand, create, and support secure-functioning relationships, along with authoring six bestselling books, and training thousands of therapists around the world.Dr. Tatkin's TEDx TalkGet Dr. Tatkin's book!The PACT InstituteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this episode, I welcome back the brilliant Dr. Stan Tatkin to the show. This time, we're talking about parenting, especially from the lens of being new parents. Dr. Tatkin co-authored the book Baby Bomb, which dives deep into the nuances of new parenting and the effects it has on the couple's relationship dynamic. Couples are often unprepared for the challenges of parenthood and lack a solid foundation in their relationship. Dr. Tatkin covers topics like disagreements in parenting style, embracing the change in sexual dynamics, and how to master communication and connection. Whether you've got a babe on the way, are a new parent, or are interested in learning how to parent better - this episode is a MUST listen! Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a clinician, researcher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). He is the best-selling author of In Each Other's Care (4/25), along with the relationship must-have book, Wired for Love. Dr. Tatkin speaks and teaches around the world on how to understand, create and sustain secure-functioning relationships. He helps couples create healthy attachments and secure-functioning relationships based on fairness, justice, and sensitivity. In addition to his robust clinical practice in Calabasas, California, Dr. Tatkin and Tracey lead couples through Wired For Love Couple Retreats -- both online and in person across the United States and Europe.    —Dr. Tatkin's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/ —The PACT Institute Website: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Parenting, New Parents, Relationships, Boundaries, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Mental Health, Psychology 0:00:00 Intro 0:10:57 Co-regulating Practices for Improved Communication and Connection 0:14:16 Challenges in Modern Times: Distractions, Isolation, and Lack of Support 0:16:41 Fighting for Two Winners: The Concept of Win-Win in Relationships 0:19:07 Navigating Disagreements in Parenting Styles 0:21:12 Parenting: Collaborative and ever-evolving 0:23:11 Taking charge of parenting, creating something entirely different 0:27:00 Understanding intimacy and embracing change in sexual dynamics 0:29:02 Growing up, accepting losses, and deepening intimacy in relationships 0:30:57 Embracing the opportunity to become a better couple through parenting 0:33:25 Profound Insights on Communication Struggles and Self-awareness 0:35:23 The Humaneness of Communication: An Opportunity for Growth This episode is sponsored by: —BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/GROVES —SafeSleeve: Use code GROVES10 for 10% off sitewide at safesleevecases.com Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Real Undressed, relationship expert Dr. Stan Tatkin delves into the importance of connection and interdependence in relationships. Through his insightful conversation with host Deborah Kagan, Dr. Tatkin explores the challenges of intimacy and sex, the impact of attachment styles, and the role of spirituality in creating secure attachments. He also addresses the topic of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, emphasizing the significance of open communication and shared principles. Additionally, Dr. Tatkin offers valuable insights on navigating the challenges presented by the COVID-19 pandemic, highlighting the importance of self-regulation and seeking support. Tune in to discover the keys to creating a secure and fulfilling relationship, as well as practical strategies for maintaining intimacy and connection.   In this episode you'll get to:   ~ understand the significance of secure functioning relationships where partners have shared priorities and work collaboratively. ~ learn about the impact of attachment styles on relationships and the importance of understanding and addressing them. ~ discover how spirituality can contribute to creating secure attachments and fostering connection in relationships. ~ have deeper insight into the challenges of intimacy and sex, and the need for effective communication and curiosity. ~ explore the topic of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, emphasizing open communication and shared principles. ~ learn about the role of self-regulation and seeking support in navigating the challenges caused by the COVID-19 pandemic. ~ understand the importance of exposing children to various things, including music, before the age of five to develop lasting appreciation. ~ see how gratitude can help in dealing with negative thinking and cultivating a more positive mindset. ~ and much more!     Connect with Dr. Stan Tatkin Website |     https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ Facebook |    https://www.facebook.com/drstantatkin/ Instagram |    https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/ LinkedIn |    https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-tatkin/ Twitter |    https://twitter.com/DrStanTatkin     *****     FREE GUIDED BREATH TECHNIQUE   Turn your fear into Faith. Your Stress into Serenity. Your Anxiety into Assurance. Your Misfortune into Mojo.   www.therealundressed.com/breathe     *****   Connect with Deborah Website | http://therealundressed.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/therealundressed/   https://www.instagram.com/deborahkagan/ Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mojorecoveryspecialist/     Subscribe to The Real Undressed Podcast iTunes | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-real-undressed-with-deborah-kagan/id1494643770 Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/show/1eOQaw6kryBsXo7Jb6qEnv   Please remember to: è Subscribe è Rate è Review the podcast. I read every single one and your feedback is valuable.    

Attachment Styles: Why We Choose Who We Choose w/Dr. Stan Tatkin You've heard me talk about attachment styles before but today we're diving deep with Dr. Stan Tatkin to really understand what each style means and how each style manifests during the early stages of a relationship. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, […] The post Attachment Styles: Why We Choose Who We Choose w/Dr. Stan Tatkin appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

On this weeks episode of Do the Work, Sabrina is joined by Dr Stan Tatkin of the Pact Institute to go over how each attachment style shows up in dating and how to navigate early dating securely!  Get Dr Stans book HERE! La Event 11/9 tickets HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? Click HERE Dont forget to follow Sabrina and Do the Work on instagram and Sabrina on Tik tok! Please support our sponsors! Want to shop Softwear? Get 20% off your first order with code- DOTHEWORK Join me on Open for 30 days free, head to withopen.com/DOTHEWORK

Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to distill this one for you! In this episode we discuss how knowing your attachment style can guide you to a self awareness that enhances your ability to connect, repair and forgive. We also share our favorite tactics from the book for putting your relationship first, healing past wounds and supporting each other in parenting.  Related Episodes  Putting Connection With Our Spouse First How to own your desires with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Time Stamps 12:00 - Attachment styles 14:05 - Anchors 16:30 - Waves 20:01 - Islands 32:33 - The relationship as an entity should be the highest priority 35:35 - Conflicts within a relationship 44:30 - Am I putting my role as a parent, or my hobby over my primary attachment? 46:17 - Supporting your spouse in parenting 51:40 - Secret password for stressful parenting moments 57:50 - Bring issues up preventatively Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Applying the relational sciences to real life is what this podcast is all about - and today's guest is an expert in this area. We've invited Stan Tatkin to return for a discussion on secure relating and healthy interdependence. All humans are complicated creatures and if we spend enough time with each other, it's going to get tense.  That part is OK, but what happens after arguing, disconnection or tension is what really matters. www.therapistuncensored.com/212. Join our Neuronerd Community for unique study opportunites at www.therapistuncensored.com/join.

What's better than two relationship experts hosting a podcast? When they invite a guest and now listeners are privy to THREE relationship experts! Join Laurie and George in a special episode where we welcome Dr. Stan Tatkin creator of PACT couples therapy. PACT is a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation. Stan is the author of several books, notably "Wired for Love" and his newest release, "In Each other's Care." Come along with us as George and Laurie role play a session with Stan and discuss the intersection between PACT and EFT all in effort to help couples create more conscious connections and loving relationships. Check out our sponsors! Cozy Earth has the most comfortable, breathable sheets! It is like sleeping on a cloud. Use the code 'foreplay' for 35% off site-wide! Uberlube is our favorite lubricant for great sex! Silky, smooth, and safe! Order it today with the coupon code 'foreplay'! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We want to hear from YOU! Take our survey.Conflicts are inevitable in long-term relationships. But often we argue in ways that push our partners away instead of resolving issues.Dr. Stan Tatkin, a marriage and family therapist who has spent decades working with couples and training practitioners to improve communication in relationships believes there is a better way for partners to weather conflicts and emerge closer. His new book, In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them offers strategies grounded in neurobiology and years of clinical experience.When disagreements arise, primal instincts trigger 'fight or flight', making us defend ourselves instead of understanding each other. But with awareness and new strategies, partners can shift this dynamic. As Stan says, we can learn to "work problems, not each other", regulate emotions, consider interests equally, and prioritize the relationship.We'll discuss Dr. Tatkin's approach for navigating conflicts productively. His insights may save your next argument and reveal how you can grow closer through challenges together.You can find Stan at: Website | InstagramIf you LOVED this episode you'll also love the conversations we had with Julie and John Gottman about deepening long-term relationships.Check out our offerings & partners: My New Book SparkedMy New Podcast SPARKED. To submit your “moment & question” for consideration to be on the show go to sparketype.com/submit. Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.