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The Tim Ferriss Show
#816: Nsima Inyang, Mutant and Movement Coach — True Athleticism at Any Age, Microdosing Movement, “Rope Flow” as a Key Unlock, Why Sleds and Sandbags Matter, and Much More

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2025 198:31


Nsima Inyang (@nsimainyang) is a strength athlete, movement coach, and co-host of Mark Bell's Power Project, one of the top fitness podcasts in the world. He is also one of the most freakishly athletic humans I've ever met. He's a black belt in Brazilian jiu-jitsu, a professional natural bodybuilder (placed top five in the world), and an elite-level powerlifter (750-plus-pound deadlift, etc.)—but what sets him apart is how he blends all those worlds with unconventional training tools like kettlebells, maces, sandbags, and rope flow. Nsima is also the founder of The Stronger Human, a growing online community focused on strength, movement, and resilience.This episode is brought to you by:Pique premium pu'er tea crystals: https://piquelife.com/tim (20% off—valid for the lifetime of your subscription—plus a free Starter Kit, which includes a rechargeable frother and glass beaker)Momentous high-quality supplements: https://livemomentous.com/tim (code TIM for up to 35% off)Eight Sleep Pod Cover 5 sleeping solution for dynamic cooling and heating: EightSleep.com/Tim (use code TIM to get $350 off your very own Pod 5 Ultra.)*Watch the interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/mLGqrlxofXANsima's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/nsimaInyangThe Stronger Human: https://www.skool.com/thestrongerhuman/aboutThe Stronger Human Store: https://thestrongerhuman.store/*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The New Manager Podcast
217. Reviewing "Where Should We Begin? At Work"

The New Manager Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2025 14:15


This week I unbox and review "Where Should We Begin? At Work", a card deck with conversation prompts for relationships and culture at work. This deck is a collaboration between relationship expert Esther Perel and Culture Amp, an employee experience platform. I've been a fan of Esther's work for years, so I was super curious to see what she'd created for workplace relationships and I bought this deck as soon as it was released.Watch the video:https://youtu.be/l3NqtnB28wEBuy the deck:https://game.estherperel.com/products/where-should-we-begin-at-workSign up for Leadership Orientation:https://maven.com/kimnicol/leadership-orientationEnroll in Communication Strategies:https://maven.com/kimnicol/communication-strategiesFor private coaching or to learn how I can help your organization:https://kimnicol.com/Follow me on LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimnicol/

How To Academy
Glennon Doyle, Amanda Doyle, and Abby Wambach — We Can Do Hard Things

How To Academy

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2025 60:50


The hosts of the blockbuster podcast We Can Do Hard Things share a fresh guide to being alive and answer life's most difficult questions. Every day, Glennon Doyle spirals around the same questions: Why am I like this? How do I figure out what I want? How do I know what to do? Why can't I be happy? Am I doing this right? The harder life gets, the less likely she is to remember the answers she's spent her life learning. In a particularly difficult year, Glennon was diagnosed with anorexia, her sister Amanda was diagnosed with breast cancer, and her wife Abby's beloved brother died. For the first time, they were all lost at the same time. So they asked each other, their dearest friends, and 118 of the world's most brilliant wayfinders, among them, Jane Fonda, Brandi Carlile, Esther Perel and Ocean Vuong what wisdom might help others find their way. Now they share their discoveries. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Diary Of A CEO by Steven Bartlett
The Sex Expert (Esther Perel): The Relationship Crisis No One Talks About That's Killing Your Sex Life!

The Diary Of A CEO by Steven Bartlett

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2025 88:37


Swipe left, feel empty, and wonder why? Esther Perel reveals the hidden truths behind the dating crisis, loneliness, and the shocking decline in sex and intimacy. Esther Perel is a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, widely recognised as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The State of Affairs'.  She explains:  Why MEN Over 30 Aren't Having Sex Anymore. The SEX GAME that could Save Your Relationship. How CHILDHOOD TRAUMA is Secretly Sabotaging Your Marriage. Why Investing in AUTHENTIC CONNECTION is the key to a Fulfilling Life. The ONE RED FLAG that Predicts Divorce.  00:00 Intro 02:29 Esther's Main Concern About Human Connection 03:22 What's the Consequence of Losing Social Skills? 04:19 Is Online Dating the Only Choice Nowadays? 07:13 The Value of Rejection 07:52 Rejection from the Apps 08:48 What to Do If Dating Apps Don't Work for You 11:26 Is Too Much Choice Making Dating Harder? 13:01 How to Cope with Online Dating Burnout 14:30 The Changing Role of Masculinity and Its Impact on Society 15:57 Loneliness Today 17:17 Why Do People Have Less Sex Nowadays? 20:17 Importance of Deep Connection in Relationships 21:51 How Phone Use Affects Connection and Sexual Attraction 28:07 Questions from Steven's Friends 28:53 Is It Always a Good Idea to Admit to Infidelity? 31:17 Attraction with a Partner 33:36 Is Long-Term Faithfulness in a Relationship Possible? 37:06 Importance of Taking Accountability 39:21 How People Are Energizing Their Relationships 42:59 How to Revive Intimacy When Gone for So Long 44:52 Ads 45:55 Do People Enjoy Sex Less Than Before? 48:15 Do I Have to Work on Myself Before I Can Have a Good Relationship? 49:49 Has the Culture of Self-Love Gone Too Far? 51:19 Are Men Emasculated by the Success of Women? 59:08 What Is Social Confidence? 1:02:56 What Gives a Traumatic Experience Meaning? 1:14:10 Would You Delete Mobile Phones to Help Connection? 1:17:08 Can Social Connection Principles Apply to a Workplace? 1:22:06 How Are You Going to Adapt to a World of AI and Robots? Follow Esther:  Instagram - https://bit.ly/4l2Et6S  Twitter - https://bit.ly/3SJEMaD  Website - https://bit.ly/4kTR8ca  Podcast - https://bit.ly/3HCfnNv  You can purchase Esther's new 100 question game, ‘Where Should We Begin? At Work', here: https://bit.ly/4kF0F7h  You can purchase Esther's book ‘The State of Affairs', here:  https://amzn.to/4l0KaSv  The Diary Of A CEO: Join DOAC circle here -https://doaccircle.com/ Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp Get email updates: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt⁠⁠  Follow Steven: ⁠⁠https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb⁠⁠  Sponsors: Stan Store - Visit https://link.stan.store/joinstanchallenge to join the challenge! Ekster - http://partner.ekster.com/DOAC with code STEVEN Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY #EstherPerel #DatingCrisis #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cómo resolver tus problemas de pareja
Sexo con humillación, ¿placer, herida o algo más? - Episodio exclusivo para mecenas

Cómo resolver tus problemas de pareja

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2025 21:12


Agradece a este podcast tantas horas de entretenimiento y disfruta de episodios exclusivos como éste. ¡Apóyale en iVoox! ¿Dónde está el límite entre el juego erótico y la herida emocional? 🤔 Una pregunta incómoda… y necesaria. Porque lo que a veces se vive como excitación, otras veces encierra una historia más profunda. En este episodio especial para fans exploramos el sexo con humillación desde una mirada terapéutica, emocional y simbólica. 🔍 Vamos a hablar de lo que excita, de lo que sana… y de lo que anestesia. Con ejemplos reales, reflexiones profundas y el enfoque de tres grandes potentes autores —Esther Perel, David Schnarch y Bessel van der Kolk—, exploraremos cómo esta práctica puede ser una vía de libertad… o una repetición inconsciente del pasado. 💥 Si alguna vez te has sentido dividida entre el deseo y la duda, este episodio es para ti. 🎧 Solo para oyentes que quieren ir más allá. Y si quieres que te acompañe en este camino de descubrimiento para sanar esa herida que necesitas simbolizar, reserva tu consulta gratuita en 👉 emocioteca.com/contacto. mi WhatsApp: https://linktr.ee/emocioteca Soy Mercedes Cobo, Psicóloga colegiada M-23793 😘 #PsicologíaDelDeseo #SexualidadConsciente #BDSMConsciente #RelacionesÍntimas #Autoconocimiento #TraumaYErotismo #HumillaciónErótica #DavidSchnarch #EstherPerel #BesselVanDerKolk #PlacerYHerida #PodcastDePsicología #MercedesCobo #ConsultaPsicológica Escucha el episodio completo en la app de iVoox, o descubre todo el catálogo de iVoox Originals

The Tim Ferriss Show
#815: Chris Hutchins, Deal Master — Helping Tim Burn 15M+ Miles and Points, Flipping Costco Gold Into Five-Star Trips, Flying to Japan for $222, Tech Tools and Tricks, and Avoiding The Optimizer's Curse

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2025 159:25


Chris Hutchins is the creator and host of All the Hacks, a podcast that helps people upgrade their life, money, and travel. He previously founded Grove (acquired by Wealthfront) and Milk (acquired by Google), led New Product Strategy at Wealthfront, and was a Partner at Google Ventures. Most importantly, he is the person Kevin Rose and I call if we want to figure how to get a better deal on just about anything in the world, or if we just want to learn about his latest hijinks doing things like getting $200 flights to Japan, running gold pseudo-arbitrage at retail, or dirt-cheap trips to Bora Bora. We cover all three and more in this conversation.Sponsors:Shopify global commerce platform, providing tools to start, grow, market, and manage a retail business: https://shopify.com/tim (one-dollar-per-month trial period)Ramp easy-to-use corporate cards, bill payments, accounting, and more: https://ramp.com/tim (Get $250 when you join Ramp)AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

TU VIDA es TUYA
#56. La clave para que todo fluya

TU VIDA es TUYA

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2025 30:29


A nuestra mente le encanta controlar, pero ¿y si en vez de forzar hay un camino más fácil para que las cosas fluyan? - Te comparto mi exploración de las últimas semanas y mi reflexión sobre la IA.-Me encantará recibirte en los Círculos de este mes.>Aquí te puedes unir

The Tim Ferriss Show
#814: Chatri Sityodtong, CEO of ONE Championship — From Dirt Poor to Top-10 Sports-Media Franchise, The $100M Breakfast, Dominating Social Media (30B+ Views/Year), Key Strategic Decisions, and the Moneyball of Fight Matchmaking

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2025 158:39


Chatri Sityodtong (@yodchatri) is the founder and CEO of ONE Championship, one of the top-10 biggest sports-media properties in the world in terms of viewership and engagement (alongside the NBA, Formula One, Champions League, and Premier League), with a global broadcast reach to 195 countries. Sponsors:AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)Helix Sleep premium mattresses: https://HelixSleep.com/Tim (20% off on all mattress orders)Wealthfront high-yield cash account: https://Wealthfront.com/Tim (Start earning 4.00% APY on your short-term cash until you're ready to invest. And when new clients open an account today, you can get an extra fifty-dollar bonus with a deposit of five hundred dollars or more.) Terms apply. Tim Ferriss receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage, LLC for advertising and holds a non-controlling equity interest in the corporate parent of Wealthfront Brokerage. See full disclosures here.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Fake Ass Book Club
Moni & Kat review: Fearless and Free: A Memoir by Josephine Baker

The Fake Ass Book Club

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2025 60:43


Welcome back!!  This week the ladies review Fearless and Free, A memior by Josephine Baker. "Gorgeously translated into English for the first time by Anam Zafar and Sophie Lewis, Fearless and Free comprises stories and reflections in Baker's own voice, drawn from conversations with the French writer Marcel Sauvage that began in 1926 and continued for more than 20 years afterwards. They cover her early life in St Louis, her adventures in Europe, and eventual transformation into, as Sauvage puts it, an “actress and French citizen of worldwide renown”.Dina Nayeri of the Guardian *Please be advised this episode is intended for adult audiences and contains adult language and content. We are expressing opinions on the show for entertainment purposes only.Dedication: To our patrons as always!! We love you!Moni: Happy birthday to Josepine Baker (June 3rd), and to all my loves with June b-days!! (you know who you are!)

Mangu.TV Podcast
73. Sarah Tilley on Finding Peace, Consciousness & Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy for Relationships

Mangu.TV Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2025 99:11


We are delighted to host Sarah Tilley on the Mangu.tv podcast. Sarah is a healthcare entrepreneur, psychedelic guide and founder of a Dutch-based legal psychedelic company, Beautiful Space. She is the creator of the Beautiful Space Method of Relational Therapy, a new model of psychedelic-assisted therapy, resetting couples and individuals addressing loss of desire in romantic relationships. A mother, healer, educator and musician, Sarah has been working with plant medicine and altered states for over 20 years. Originally trained in alternative medicine, she most recently studied with Esther Perel and Betty Martin.An advocate for healthcare equality and safe psychedelics, Sarah continues to build a legacy of research, ethics, therapy and training programs contributing to the emerging field of psychedelic wellness. Beautiful Space is in collaboration with Imperial College London on the first study on psilocybin, couples and relationship wellbeing with psychological support.Sarah shares the story of her upbringing in the greenbelt of the UK, where music provided solace amidst a challenging environment. She speaks about her early curiosity in spirituality, lucid dreaming and philosophy, and her journey into the world of plant medicine. Sarah shares the struggles of her divorce and the effects of divorce on children, as well as her work in psychedelic-assisted therapy for relationships and as an alternative to divorce. Giancarlo and Sarah discuss sexuality, pleasure, and Sarah's introduction to working with sexuality. They discuss psychedelic-assisted therapy for couples, they delve into consent, non-monogamy and the intricacies of both in the modern-day world.

Shameless Sex
#436 Top Tips to Keep Your Long Term Relationship Spicy

Shameless Sex

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2025 52:26


Ready to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship — without feeling like you're stuck in a rut? On this episode of Shameless Sex, we're diving into 4 Top Tips to Keep Your Long Term Relationship Spicy—straight from our recent couples retreat where attendees said we “changed their lives” (and even saved marriages!).  Ever wonder how to stay endlessly curious about your partner? Or how to master those tricky conversations that keep your connection thriving? We've got you covered with playful, practical advice that will make your relationship feel fresh, exciting, and deeply connected every day. What you'll learn in this episode:   The secret to staying endlessly curious — inspired by Esther Perel's wisdom   How to give and ask for permission to navigate tricky conversations with ease   Creative ways to spice things up, including fun photoshoots and the magic of always using lube (yes, really!)   Why communication is the ultimate umbrella for all relationship growth—plus the best resources to level up your skills   A powerful 10-minute clip from our latest retreat where couples share how they found new hope and connection by joining the shameless sex revolution (and retreating themselves) Who's this for? If you're ready to reignite your long-term love, deepen your intimacy, and have some fun along the way, this episode is your new best friend. Plus, get insider access to exclusive tips, upcoming retreats, and 60 ideas to keep your sex and relationship vibrant when you sign up for our newsletter at shamelesssex.com,  Teaser: Plus, we're sharing a surprising tip that could transform your relationship overnight — you won't want to miss it! Tune in now and start making your love story even spicier. Join us for our next Shameless Sex retreat in the Coachella Valley, CA September 11th-14th: https://tinyurl.com/49b9fx8b Get premium access to our behind the scenes episodes here: ⁠⁠⁠https://shamelesssex.supportingcast.fm⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get an additional 15% off of MasterClass at ⁠⁠⁠http://masterclass.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off VB Health with code SHAMELESS at ⁠http://loadboost.com⁠ Get 20% off our favorite soft-core kink products with code SHAMELESS at ⁠https://www.sportsheets.com⁠ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠

The Tarot Diagnosis
The Truth Behind the Two of Cups

The Tarot Diagnosis

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2025 35:32


This week on The Tarot Diagnosis Podcast, I'm sitting down with the Two of Cups, but not in the romanticized way we often think about with this card. Sure, this card speaks to connection, mutual care, and being seen, but in this episode, I'm more interested in what is hiding underneath all that sweet relational imagery. Inspired by a lively (and opinionated!) book club discussion inside The Symposium, I revisit Jessica Dore's take in Tarot for Change, where she explores the Two of Cups as a mirror - one that reflects not just the other person, but all of our unconscious projections, unmet needs, and early attachment wiring. Spoiler alert: we had a lot to say about her interpretation.I also spend time honoring Paul Quinn's more relational lens from Tarot for Life, and some attachment theory to explore how this card hits differently when you're someone with a dismissive-avoidant style. We talk about the storylines we pick, as Esther Perel says, when we pick a partner - and how intimacy can feel like a high-stakes negotiation when we're secretly wondering if our cup will be too heavy for someone else to hold.There's a big through-line in this discussion around how intimacy and autonomy often feel like opposing forces, but they don't have to be. Eventually, I explore the Devil and Temperance cards (because of course I do) as well as ALL of the cups as a progression of this dynamic. And we end with a beautiful appearance from the Page of Cups, who offers us a gentle reminder that curiosity can be the antidote to defensiveness.This episode is for anyone who's ever felt the ache of wanting to be close to someone, but fearing what it might cost them. We talk childhood attachment wounds, projections, survival strategies, and how tarot can be a tool for navigating all of it…with softness, insight, and just the right amount of therapeutic nerdiness.Books referenced:Tarot for Change by Jessica DoreTarot for Life by Paul QuinnEsther PerelJoin me in unpacking what it really means to offer your cup, and what it takes to believe someone might actually want to hold it.

Your Undivided Attention
People are Lonelier than Ever. Enter AI.

Your Undivided Attention

Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2025 43:34


Over the last few decades, our relationships have become increasingly mediated by technology. Texting has become our dominant form of communication. Social media has replaced gathering places. Dating starts with a swipe on an app, not a tap on the shoulder.And now, AI enters the mix. If the technology of the 2010s was about capturing our attention, AI meets us at a much deeper relational level. It can play the role of therapist, confidant, friend, or lover with remarkable fidelity. Already, therapy and companionship has become the most common AI use case. We're rapidly entering a world where we're not just communicating through our machines, but to them.How will that change us? And what rules should we set down now to avoid the mistakes of the past?These were some of the questions that Daniel Barcay explored with MIT sociologist Sherry Turkle and Hinge CEO Justin McLeod at Esther Perel's Sessions 2025, a conference for clinical therapists. This week, we're bringing you an edited version of that conversation, originally recorded on April 25th, 2025.Your Undivided Attention is produced by the Center for Humane Technology. Follow us on X: @HumaneTech_. You can find complete transcripts, key takeaways, and much more on our Substack.RECOMMENDED MEDIA“Alone Together,” “Evocative Objects,” “The Second Self” or any other of Sherry Turkle's books on how technology mediates our relationships.Key & Peele - Text Message Confusion Further reading on Hinge's rollout of AI featuresHinge's AI principles“The Anxious Generation” by Jonathan Haidt“Bowling Alone” by Robert PutnamThe NYT profile on the woman in love with ChatGPTFurther reading on the Sewell Setzer storyFurther reading on the ELIZA chatbotRECOMMENDED YUA EPISODESEcho Chambers of One: Companion AI and the Future of Human ConnectionWhat Can We Do About Abusive Chatbots? With Meetali Jain and Camille CarltonEsther Perel on Artificial IntimacyJonathan Haidt On How to Solve the Teen Mental Health Crisis

The Tim Ferriss Show
#813: Q&A with Tim — Three Life Commandments, 4-Hour Workweek Exercises I Still Use, The Art and Joy of Inefficiency, Stoicism Revisited, and Much More

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2025 79:14


Welcome back to another in-between-isode, with one of my favorite formats: the good old-fashioned Q&A.Sponsors: Monarch Money track, budget, plan, and do more with your money: MonarchMoney.com/Tim (50% off your first year at monarchmoney.com with code TIM)Eight Sleep Pod Cover 5 sleeping solution for dynamic cooling and heating: EightSleep.com/Tim (use code TIM to get $350 off your very own Pod 5 Ultra.)AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What Now? with Trevor Noah
Meet Esther Perel – One of My Favorite People [VIDEO]

What Now? with Trevor Noah

Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2025 132:47


In another "My Favorite People" episode, Trevor sits down with Esther Perel. This time around, Esther reflects on her early life experiences and how those experiences have shaped her life and career. They also discuss the importance of “friction” as an essential element of a life well lived, and why we should all maybe be hanging out at the laundromat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Masters of Scale
Esther Perel: Build better relationships at work

Masters of Scale

Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2025 33:54


Therapist Esther Perel wants us all to build stronger relationships at work. Her coveted advice is the centerpiece of her books, TED talks and podcast “Where Should We Begin?” During the pandemic, she launched a conversational card game. Now, she joins host Jeff Berman to talk about why she just released a new edition, Where Should We Begin? At Work, designed specifically for coworkers. They also go deep on why stronger relational intelligence is essential for businesses, how AI is rewiring our brains, and more.Subscribe to the Masters of Scale weekly newsletter: https://mastersofscale.com/subscribeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Tim Ferriss Show
#812: The Random Show — New Health Gadgets, Tim's Latest Adventures, How to Drink Less, Zen Retreats, AI + Your Genome, and Colonoscopy Confessions

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2025 128:47


Welcome to another wide-ranging "Random Show" episode I recorded with my close friend Kevin Rose (digg.com)! We cover dozens of topics: from the cutting edge of health tech to pro-tips for colonoscopies; AI; adventures in Japan and Taiwan seeking out perfect coffee and tea; tips for drinking less alcohol; powerful documentaries like 32 Sounds and books such as Awareness; the unexpected joys and therapeutic benefits of adult Lego; and much, much more.Sponsors:Vanta trusted compliance and security platform: https://vanta.com/tim ($1000 off) Momentous high-quality supplements: https://livemomentous.com/tim (code TIM for up to 35% off)ExpressVPN high-speed, secure, and anonymous VPN service: https://www.expressvpn.com/tim (get 3 or 4 months free on their annual plans)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee
Esther Perel: How to Feel More Connected, Respected And Valued At Work & Home #557

Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee

Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2025 81:55


Are we expecting too much from our jobs - and is it costing us our health, relationships and happiness?   This week I'm delighted to welcome back someone who is regarded as one of the most insightful and original voices on modern relationships, the psychotherapist Esther Perel. Fluent in nine languages, Esther has her own therapy practice in New York City, serves as an organisational consultant for multiple Fortune 500 companies and is ALSO the author of the New York Times Bestselling books, ‘Mating in Captivity' and ‘The State of Affairs'.   Although Esther is probably best known for her teachings and wisdom on our romantic relationships, more recently she has turned her attention to our work relationships. The occasion for this appearance on my podcast is to celebrate the release of her brand new 100-question card game designed to transform your work culture – one story and one relationship at a time.   In this thought-provoking conversation, we explore how our expectations of the workplace have shifted dramatically – and why it's creating both opportunity and strain. Esther shares that in the past, work was primarily about survival, duty and financial stability. But today, many of us are looking to our jobs to provide identity, belonging, fulfilment and even self-worth.   We discuss: Esther's four key pillars of healthy workplace relationships – trust, belonging, recognition and collective resilience – and why these needs mirror those in our romantic lives How unresolved workplace issues can lead to emotional exhaustion, poor health choices and a reduced capacity to connect at home How our increasingly digital lives are reducing the everyday social skills we need to connect, communicate and collaborate How our personal relationship history – our “unofficial CV” – shows up at work and influences how we handle authority, conflict, feedback and boundaries Why managing conflict well can deepen connection – and how curiosity and honest self-reflection can transform how we show up in all areas of life  Throughout our conversation, Esther offers compassion and clarity, breaking down complex emotional patterns into simple, human truths we can all relate to – and, most importantly, act on.    She encourages us to approach work relationships not as transactional, but as relational, inviting us to bring the same level of curiosity, empathy, and accountability that we would bring to any meaningful connection.   At a time when so many of us are feeling isolated or overwhelmed, Esther's advice shows that even small shifts in how we relate, listen and respond can spark meaningful change at work, with our families and ourselves. I hope you enjoy listening.   Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore.  For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com.   Thanks to our sponsors: https://airbnb.co.uk/host https://thriva.co https://calm.com/livemore https://join.whoop.com/livemore   Show notes https://drchatterjee.com/557   DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
I Took My Boss to Therapy

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 66:47


This is a classic session, from the second season of How's Work? From day one, they've described their relationship as “tumultuous," but there are highs as well as lows. One is new to the work force, the other is new to this particular work place. One manages the other. And while they like each other on a personal level, they clash over their fundamentally different approaches to getting the job done. Over the last few years, workplace culture has been transformed by remote work, inconsistent in-office presence, and an intergenerational workforce. Where Should We Begin? At Work is a new game designed to transform your work culture – one story and one relationship at a time. Brought to you by Esther Perel and Culture Amp, this isn't your typical icebreaker. It's a new data-backed game that will help you create community at work. Details at www.estherperl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
196. Alternative Marriages: Beyond Tradition

Geordie Lass & Doc Sass

Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2025 41:10 Transcription Available


Welcome to the podcast!!! We have a special episode today where the girls explore some alternatives to transitional marriage.  In this thought-provoking episode, our hosts delve into the realm of non-traditional marriages, inspired by a recent Forbes article. They discuss various alternative forms of marriage, including starter marriages, companionships centered around friendship, and parenting-focused unions, among others. The conversation expands to consider how societal expectations shape our perception of marriage, recalling insights from experts like Esther Perel. They reflect on the diverse needs and pressures faced by couples and how these impact the conventional view of marriage. Listeners are encouraged to rethink what commitment means to them and consider how actively choosing their relationship path can offer a more fulfilling life together. Diving into emotional aspects, the hosts explore how these diverse union types can meet different needs and how recognising and navigating these differences can lead to healthier, happier relationships. With humour and candor, they offer a fresh perspective on embracing unique marital journeys that reflect personal values and desires. To read more about the 7 types of alternatives read here Till next time! Sara Liddle Email: info@inflori.co.uk Website: www.inflori.co.uk Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset   Anna Stratis Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com  Website: www.coachdocanna.com

The Tim Ferriss Show
#811: 2x Olympic Archery Medalist Jake Kaminski — Behind-the-Scenes Stories of Coaching Tim, What Archery Teaches About High Performance, and Excellence Under Pressure

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 170:06


Jake Kaminski is a two-time Olympic silver medalist in archery and a longtime member of the US Archery Team. He runs a successful YouTube channel, writes training guides, and develops high-performance gear under the Kaminski Archery brand. Sign up for the Kaminski Archery Backyard Championship here.Sponsors:Helix Sleep premium mattresses: https://HelixSleep.com/Tim (27% off all mattress orders) AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)Shopify global commerce platform, providing tools to start, grow, market, and manage a retail business: https://shopify.com/tim (one-dollar-per-month trial period)*Timestamps:[00:00:00] Start.[00:06:50] A glimpse into the high-precision world of Olympic archery.[00:11:04] How Jake and I connected.[00:18:27] Jake's auspicious introduction to archery.[00:21:15] Why you (Yes! You!) should try archery.[00:22:01] The differences between bows.[00:25:19] The admirable proficiency of Shot IQ's Bodie and Joel Turner.[00:26:24] Ethical bow hunting, performing under pressure, and transitioning from rifle to bow.[00:29:22] Why I wouldn't have cut it as a competitive archer in Korea.[00:30:14] Mindful archery and training hard to make competition easy.[00:37:00] What Jake did when compound bow archery started to get boring.[00:40:00] Meeting legendary Coach Kisik Lee (KSL).[00:43:06] The upsides of having no social life as a kid.[00:45:20] The welcoming weirdness of archery communities.[00:46:33] For the sake of form, Coach Lee shakes things up.[00:51:21] “I am.” — an affirmation for apathy adjustment.[00:58:11] London, 2012 Olypmics: when it all starts coming together.[01:08:28] How does teamwork play out in archery?[01:15:40] My own experience with Coach Lee.[01:19:23] The trials of training and traveling.[01:27:33] Blank bale practice.[01:31:14] Layering, biomechanics, and other early points of focus.[01:33:03] The underrated importance of follow through.[01:36:40] Coach Lee's take on follow through vs. release.[01:37:29] Gauging tension and intention as an instructor.[01:38:52] Attention to grouping over hitting the bullseye.[01:40:57] Making adaptations for physical limitations.[01:43:30] The ups and downs of our patented “Jesus take the wheel” instinctive approach.[01:46:24] Warm-up tournaments, barebowing, black bales, and string walking.[01:50:54] Recovering from the disaster that made me rethink Lancaster.[01:55:15] Rebalancing gear: arrows and arrow rests.[02:00:50] The importance of practicing in tournament-like conditions.[02:04:03] Securing convenient fuel.[02:08:17] Lancaster preparation logistics (with special thanks to Heather Kaminski and Rick Simpson Oil).[02:13:17] The glue that holds us together: note-taking and training logs.[02:16:47] Even counterintuitive consistency is key.[02:18:45] Our experience at Lancaster.[02:28:00] “The goal is to do the least necessary, not the most possible.” — Henk Kraaijenhof[02:31:44] Learning by observation and conversation on the practice range.[02:35:35] What's the Kaminski Archery Backyard Championship, and why should you get involved?[02:40:30] How can you (and why should you) get started with archery today?[02:42:48] Parting thoughts.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram
S2 Ep119: Death, Love and Grieving What's Still Here featuring Alessia Cara

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 53:30


Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Sublime" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control? How does the fear of loss impact our relationships, intimacy, and even our everyday choices? Esther Perel talks about how desire and loss can sit right next to each other. This made me think about how those ideas show up in everyday relationships: the death of connection, the slow fading of intimacy, or the fear that something we've built might not last. When you zoom out, so much of how we attach, how we love, and even how we have sex is shaped by that deeper fear, what happens if I lose this? Or if I lose you? Or if I lose me in this? Thank You Alessia Cara http://alessiacara.com https://www.instagram.com/alessiasmusic https://www.youtube.com/@alessiacara Thanks Dame for sponsoring this episode: Dame makes products designed to enhance intimacy and connection—whether you're with a partner or flying solo.  http://dame.com/shan Dame Coupon: SHAN15 Join My Mailing List https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter Lovers Community If you're interested in joining the Lovers community, click here to join the waitlist: https://www.loversbyshan.com/community

Communion & Shalom
#63 - Friendship over Romance? Rhaina Cohen on Centering Life with Friends

Communion & Shalom

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 68:28


What if friendship—not romance, not marriage—were the central relationship in your life?That's the question Rhaina Cohen asks in her book The Other Significant Others. And wow, do we love this book. David, TJ, and Elena sat down with Rhaina to talk about what it would mean to build a life around deep, committed friendship—and why our current relationship hierarchy (romantic > everything else) might be due for a rethink.Once you start centering friendship, it starts disrupting many other assumptions. We talked about: what it looks like to live near your friends, how parenting could look different, what happens when friends make commitments, when other people don't recognize those commitments, and whether secular folks should borrow a few ideas from monks.Join us and—if you haven't already—go read the book!About Our GuestRhaina Cohen is an award-winning editor for the NPR documentary podcast Embedded and the author of the national bestseller, The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center, which Trevor Noah described as "my new Bible." Her writing on social connection has appeared in The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Washington Post and has been supported by the National Endowment for the Humanities. Rhaina's recent TED talk on the untapped potential of friendship has been viewed more than half a million times. She lives in Washington, D.C. with her husband and close friends.—★ Timestamps(00:00) Why we were excited to interview Rhaina Cohen(04:17) Rhaina Cohen: "Reimagining life with friendship at the center"(10:27) Deconstruction and reconstruction: You can't be what you can't see(19:10) Live Near Friends(24:52) Conflicts in friendships: needing language, recognition(28:29) Parenting doesn't have to be exhausting(37:00) Can we TEACH better relationship skills?(41:33) Covenant relationships: "You can be committed to someone and not be sleeping with them"(47:04) Would secular people benefit from monastic models?(55:03) What's next? Monogamy, marriage vows, and more(01:01:52) Recommended readings from Rhaina and more—★ Links and References“A Grand Experiment in Parenthood and Friendship” by Rhaina Cohen (The Atlantic, 2025)Live Near Friends: livenearfriends.comSuper Nuclear: supernuclear.substack.comPlatonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends by Marissa Franco (2022)Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections by Anna Goldfarb (2024):Stay True, a memoir by Hua Hsu (2023)First Love: Essays on Friendship by Lily Dancyger (2024)Invisibilia (NPR) series on friendship, especially: Nun of Us Are Friends, Esther Perel gives Therapy with FriendsFollow Rhaina: Related on Substack, @RhainaCohen on InstagramTJ's Story (New Kinship episode #6): “TJ's Story | Dysphoria, Queerness, Contextualization, and Conviction”—★ Send us feedback, questions, comments, or support!Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship | Patreon: @newkinship—★ CreditsCreators and Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson, carlswensonmusic.com | Podcast Manager: Elena F. | Graphic Designer: Gavin Popken, gavinpopkenart.com ★ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit newkinship.substack.com

Quick Smart
Polyamory is becoming more popular. What can it teach us about our love lives?

Quick Smart

Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2025 10:22


Call it romantically reckless or fiscally responsible, more Aussies are considering ENM (ethical non-monogamy). So, do these relationships work? And how can you stop jealousy taking hold?

The Tim Ferriss Show
#810: Terry Real — The Therapist Who Breaks All The Rules

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 115:08


Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher. His book I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression, is a national bestseller. His new book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship is a New York Times bestseller.Sponsors:Cresset prestigious family office for CEOs, founders, and entrepreneurs: https://cressetcapital.com/tim (book a call today)Ramp easy-to-use corporate cards, bill payments, accounting, and more: https://ramp.com/tim (Get $250 when you join Ramp)Wealthfront high-yield cash account: https://Wealthfront.com/Tim (Start earning 4.00% APY on your short-term cash until you're ready to invest. And when new clients open an account today, you can get an extra fifty-dollar bonus with a deposit of five hundred dollars or more.) Terms apply. Tim Ferriss receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage, LLC for advertising and holds a non-controlling equity interest in the corporate parent of Wealthfront Brokerage. See full disclosures here.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

For The Love With Jen Hatmaker Podcast
Abby Wambach and Amanda Doyle Remind Us That We Can Do Hard Things

For The Love With Jen Hatmaker Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2025 78:36


Description: In the span of a single year, Abby Wambach lost her beloved brother, her wife Glennon Doyle  was diagnosed with anorexia, and her sister-in-law Amanda Doyle was diagnosed with breast cancer. For the first time, the trio who host the wildly popular We Can Do Hard Things podcast, all found themselves simultaneously lost, looking for answers. So they turned toward the only thing that's ever helped them find their way: deep, honest conversations with other brave, kind, wise people. What resulted from those conversations was a myriad of guideposts, words of wisdom from some of the most brilliant wayfinders in the zeitgeist today. In this episode, Jen and Amy talk with Abby and Amanda about some of the most meaningful bits of guidance that they have received from inspirational voices like Elizabeth Gilbert, Jane Fonda, Michelle Obama, Ocean Vuong, Esther Perel,  Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson, and others that they have gathered into a new book called, We Can Do Hard Things: Answers to Life's 20 Questions. Some of the conversations they delve into include: Why are we like this? How do we figure out what we really want? How do we let go, or forgive, or get unstuck? Why do we wake up every day having forgotten everything we know? Why self-loyalty is so damn hard for women? Thought-provoking Quotes: “I'm just trying to remain a human in this political environment, in this place of deep fear where so much is at risk. And I think the way we do that is continuing to see each other as human and continuing to let our hearts break over what should break our hearts.” – Amanda Doyle “Having played on many different teams, I'm well suited to work well with others. I just have to be here and be myself. That is the way that I add value. I am not gonna add value in the way that Glennon and Amanda do. I know that. But that doesn't give me any lack of confidence because I know I bring something to the team.” – Abby Wambach “After 400 or so conversations, it was so wild that, whether we were talking to a person who's been a therapist for 40 years, or a person who's a poet, or a person who's an activist, there were just a handful of questions that all of these people are struggling with. The smartest people in the world are trying to figure out the same things that we are.” – Amanda Doyle Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Forward: A Memoir by Abby Wambach - https://amzn.to/4ckZOFi WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach - https://amzn.to/4cpazqg We Can Do Hard Things: Answers to Life's 20 Questions by Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, and Amanda Doyle - https://amzn.to/3EfeZ6r Glennon Doyle - https://momastery.com/ Amanda Doyle Stops Keeping Score And Stays In The Moment - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-60/amanda-doyle-stops-keeping-score-and-stays-in-the-moment/ Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/ Kate Bowler - https://katebowler.com/about/ Suzanne Stabile - https://suzannestabile.com/ Guest's Links: Website - https://abbywambach.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/abbywambach/ Twitter - https://x.com/abbywambach Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/abbywambach/ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCej3anJvC-rSMd63asN8cXg Podcast - https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/ Guest's Links: Twitter - https://x.com/amandafdoyle Podcast - https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/ Connect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In My Heart with Heather Thomson
Healing Relationships with Dene Logan

In My Heart with Heather Thomson

Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 62:08


Dené Logan is a Marriage and Family Therapist with an orientation in Depth Psychology (often referred to as ‘The Psychology of the Soul') and author of Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine & Feminine Within. Dene has a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology and is notably the mentee of acclaimed psychotherapist Esther Perel. Dene and Heather talk about how we begin to heal from an unspoken war of the sexes that's been playing out in our relationships. She shares the patterns she sees playing out in the couples she works with, our blind spots and living our truths. Dené is passionate about sharing tools and strategies to cultivate a good relationship with ourselves, understanding  our partners and the best tools for communication. She is host of the What's My 100% Podcast. You can find Dene at: IG: @Dene.Logan and Denelogan.com  Website: www.heatherthomson.com Social Media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/iamheathert/                     You Tube: https://youtube.com/@iamheathert?si=ZvI9l0bhLfTR-qdo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#teakink with Dominatrix Eva Oh
Flashback - AI Companion Part II with Åste Amundsen, Experience Designer and Researcher

#teakink with Dominatrix Eva Oh

Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 64:17


Eva Oh meets with Åste Amundsen, Experience Designer and Researcher, to find out more about the potential of her AI Companionship and its overarching effect on our lives. Listen in on a conversation that explores the evolution of human interaction, parallels to the early internet and sex work, chatbot rights, the ‘Interaction Arms Race' and Åste's Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test. Eva asks, can designing her AI Companion be done ethically or does that even matter?Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:18) - Meeting Åste Amundsen, Interaction Researcher(01:40) - How Åste Found Me(02:40) - How Åste Thinks My Work Parallels to Hers(06:40) - Why AI Companies Are Interested in Me(07:30) - The Evolution of Human Interaction including Parasocial Relationship and How AI Could Manipulate Our Shortcomings(10:30) - Åste's Sex Chatbot Reverse Turing Test Installation(13:10) - Sex Workers as Interaction Experts(15:00) - The Evolution of Human Dating and it's Merging with Technology(16:00) - Esther Perel's Fears for AI Chatbots and Digital Interaction(18:00) - How Could I Design an AI Companion Ethically?(21:40) - Sex Work as Emotional Labour, Designing ‘Friction' Into AI(24:40) - Sex Work Hobbyists(26:30) - Porn and Fantasy as a First Sexual Experience, AI Companionship as Similar?(27:30) - My One Fantasy(29:45) - Current Attempts at AI Companionship(32:00) - The Relational Bonding and Interaction Arms Race(33:00) - Chatbot Rights(34:00) - Government(34:30) - What Makes a “Good” Interaction?(37:00) - What Sex Work Might Become(37:40) - How Could We Value Ourselves(41:25) - How These Developments Might Evolve Us(42:40) - What Motivates Me to become an AI Companion(43:55) - An Opportunity(46:00) - Åste's NSFW Chatbot Research(48:00) - The Disturbing and The Violent(50:00) - The Nether, A Play(52:40) - Angela Carter, Benefiting From Our Sexual Capacity(57:40) - The Transactional Nature of Interaction(59:10) - Potential and the Parallels to the Early InternetLinks:Åste Amundsen, http://asteamundsen.com

The Tim Ferriss Show
#809: The 4-Hour Workweek Tools That Still Work — The Art of Refusal and The Low-Information Diet

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 80:31


This time around, we have a bit of a different format, featuring the book that started it all for me, The 4-Hour Workweek. Readers and listeners often ask me what I would change or update, but an equally interesting question is: what wouldn't I change? What stands the test of time and hasn't lost any potency? This episode features two of the most important chapters from the audiobook of The 4-Hour Workweek. The chapters push you to defend your scarce attention—one by saying no to people, the other by saying no to excess information.Sponsors:David Protein Bars 28g of protein, 150 calories, and 0g of sugar: https://davidprotein.com/tim (Buy 4 cartons, get the 5th free.)Our Place's Titanium Always Pan® Pro using nonstick technology that's coating-free and made without PFAS, otherwise known as “Forever Chemicals”: https://fromourplace.com/tim (Shop their Spring Sale today!)AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Tim Ferriss Show
#808: Stephen West — From High School Dropout to Hit Podcast (Plus: Life Lessons from Ralph Waldo Emerson, Friedrich Nietzsche, Simone Weil, and More)

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 104:59


Stephen West is a father, husband, and host of the Philosophize This! podcast.Sponsors:Gusto simple and easy payroll, HR, and benefits platform used by 400,000+ businesses: https://gusto.com/tim (three months free) Momentous high-quality supplements: https://livemomentous.com/tim (code TIM for up to 35% off)Eight Sleep's Pod 4 Ultra sleeping solution for dynamic cooling and heating: https://eightsleep.com/tim (save $350 on the Pod 4 Ultra)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Brilliant Body Podcast with Ali Mezey
The Coupled Body with JANE PETERSON PhD: Humans in Partnership - LIVE Audience Event Recording

The Brilliant Body Podcast with Ali Mezey

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2025 69:41


SYNOPSIS:This is a recording of one of our free, live Eventbrite sessions, where Ali Mezey was joined by Jane Peterson, PhD - and you, our audience - for a live, honest, body-centered conversation about the real work of being in relationship.(Yes, this episode includes live audience questions!)Together, we explore how our bodies carry old relational patterns - what Jane calls the "social soma" - and how these hidden imprints can shape the way we love, fight, and stay (or don't stay) connected.We talk about why love alone isn't always enough to align two people's lives, and why asking deeper, more honest questions early on matters so much.Jane shares practical ways to stay close even when life pulls you in different directions: evolving agreements, repairing after hurt, setting shared goals, and building intimacy that grows with you.We touch on marriage, infidelity, and non-traditional relationships with honesty and warmth, offering grounded advice for navigating real-world love.Whether you're partnered, single, or somewhere in between, this conversation will leave you with new ways to understand yourself, your relationships, and the deep intelligence of your body in all of it.To be an angel to the podcast, click hereTo read more about the podcast, click hereMORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  www.alimezey.comPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: www.constellationarts.comMORE JANE PETERSON:Website: www.human-systems-institute.comContact: humansystemsinstitute@gmail.comBIO:Jane Peterson, PhD, is the co-founder and executive director of the Human Systems Institute, Inc. She is the originator of Somatic Imaging and the somatic-resonance approach to constellation work. Her work is internationally respected for being tailored to meet the high learning demands of adult professionals. She was a faculty member at the International Intensive Workshop on Systemic Resolutions in Bernreid, Germany for 9 years. Jane is an INFOSYON certified Master Trainer and has served as an advisor and author for the Knowing Field journal. She has taught systemic constellation work in Asia, South America, South Africa, Mexico, Canada, Europe, and the U.S.In 2005, she organized the first U.S. Conference in constellation work. Her Institute offers trainings in Somatic Imaging and systemic constellation work, including training in organizational constellations. The institute is currently offering it's seventeenth year of training programs.Jane started her professional career as an engineer and manager in a high tech firm (the first woman engineer hired into her department) and knows first-hand the demands placed on leaders in the corporate environment. In the course of becoming a constellation facilitator, she has also been a professional ceramic sculptor and ran her own fine arts studio, Laughing Bones, Inc.Jane is a master practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming, a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, a Certified Professional Behavioral Coach and a member of the American Counseling Association, VOIS, OHA, and ODN. She has studied Process Oriented Psychology with Arny Mindell and Max Schupbach, Group Dynamics with Michael Grinder, Peruvian energy healing with Don Amèrico Yàbar, Attachment and Trauma work with Dan Siegel and Diane Poole Heller, a Psycho-biological Approach to Couples Therapy with Stan Tatkin (Level 2), Coordinated Management of Meaning with Barnett Pearce, and continues to learn with other research-driven leaders in the fields of personal and social evolution. She holds a doctorate in Human and Organizational Systems from Fielding Graduate University, and has been a post-doctoral fellow of the Institute for Social Innovation.OTHER RESOURCES, LINKS AND INSPIRATIONS:Essential Skills for CouplesAdapting Systemic Constellations to OrganizationsHuman-Systems-InstituteBurt Hellinger: “caring for desire”Elaine Debutant: compatibility is actually an achievement of love, not a precondition.”SOCIAL SOMA - our body is shaped by our social relationshipsLALAGE SNOW:  We Are the Not Dead - photographerStan Tatkin - safety in relationship = taking care of each other. The Social BiomeTerry Real - The Social EcosystemEsther Perel: Mating in CaptivityArny Mindell, Sitting in the Fire: Large Group Transformation Using Conflict  and DiversityScience of TouchingEllyn Bader, the Initiator/Inquirer processStan Tatkin, In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through ThemTerry Real,

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy
488: Should I Be a More Narcissistic Lover?

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2025 33:34


Inspired by the work of Esther Perel, we are opening up a conversation around women being more narcissistic lovers. What does this even mean? According to experts, women tend to be more focused on their partner's experience in bed and less focused on their own pleasure. The caretaking cycle remains engaged, leaving many women disconnected and disengaged from their own sex lives. Join Laurie and George today for this riveting conversation on healthy ways women can be more selfish, self-focused and engaged during sex. This episode will have you thinking about what you actually like, find pleasure in, create more desire and assert your needs to your partner. What makes you feel desired, hot and fully in your sexual cycle, not the nurturer you are in day-day life? Both men and women will take away some great tips from this episode and really start to know what makes and keeps it hot!  Please visit this episodes sponsor (and help the pod!) Uberlube.com -- Laurie's favorite, long-term, awesome personal lubricant! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Vlan!
[SOLO] Les 5 vérités inconfortables que j'ai apprise pour faire durer l'amour

Vlan!

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 30:56


Cet épisode est tiré de ma newsletter, pour vous abonner c'est ici!!!Comme je vous. le dis je vous remercie mille fois pour me suivre dans cette aventure de Vlan!J'adore mon célibat actuel, cette liberté exquise de décider de mon emploi du temps sans compromis.Et pourtant, je suis un incorrigible romantique !Ce paradoxe délicieux me constitue et colore ma vie de nuances fascinantes.Cette dualité n'est sans doute pas étrangère à mon histoire familiale.J'ai grandi avec des parents qui se sont rencontrés jeunes, ont eu des enfants à 24 et 26 ans et sont restés ensemble jusqu'à la fin malgré les tumultes de la vie – chose de plus en plus rare, j'ai l'impression.Ils ont incarné devant moi la possibilité d'un amour durable, même si le chemin n'était pas toujours facile.N'est-ce pas incroyable que nous puissions simultanément chérir notre indépendance et rêver de construire à deux ?L'amour reste cette aventure extraordinaire qui transcende les époques.Au 18ème siècle, Benjamin Franklin déclarait qu'un "homme sans femme n'est rien d'autre qu'un demi-homme" (on était moins subtil à l'époque...d'autant moins quand on sait que les femmes célibataires étaient, elles, brûlées vivent pour sorcellerie), et aujourd'hui encore, malgré toutes nos avancées, le couple demeure cette quête collective qui nous anime presque tous.Qu'y a-t-il de si captivant dans cette danse à deux ? Pourquoi continuons-nous à nous lancer dans cette entreprise hasardeuse, malgré les cicatrices et les déceptions ?Peut-être parce que l'amour, dans ses plus beaux moments, nous offre cette alchimie rare entre sécurité et aventure, entre connaissance profonde et éternelle découverte.J'ai connu des histoires d'amour intenses - dont une qui m'a conduit à imprimer un livre de 400 pages de nos échanges et à déménager à New York !Ces expériences m'ont transformé, enrichi, parfois blessé, mais jamais je n'ai regretté de m'être lancé et de vivre pleinement les choses (c'est ce que me disais ma psy).Chaque relation a ajouté une couche de compréhension à ma carte du monde émotionnel.À travers cette newsletter, je vous invite à explorer avec moi les mystères et les joies de l'amour moderne, ses défis et ses trésors cachés.Je partagerai mes découvertes (j'ai beaucoup cherché), mes erreurs (nombreuses !) et les pépites de sagesse glanées en chemin.Car si j'ai renoncé au mythe paralysant de l'âme sœur, je n'ai certainement pas abandonné la quête d'un amour authentique et vibrant.Comme l'écriture elle-même, l'amour nous enseigne ce que nous ne savions pas connaître sur nous-mêmes. Embarquons ensemble dans cette exploration joyeuse !Mon parcours amoureux : des cicatrices comme boussoleMa première histoire d'amour a duré sept ans. Je l'ai rencontrée dès les premières semaines d'école de commerce, nous nous sommes fiancés, le mariage était planifié. Vingt ans plus tard, nous sommes toujours proches, mais cette relation était fondamentalement dysfonctionnelle — principalement à cause de moi, je dois l'admettre.J'avais endossé la cape du sauveur pour surmonter ma timidité. Mon besoin d'appartenance était si intense et elle incarnait tout ce que je n'étais pas.C'était profondément injuste pour elle mais j'y reviendrais.J'ignorais alors mes propres besoins, mes névroses, mon style d'attachement.Elle est devenue malveillante malgré elle, et cette histoire était condamnée dès le départ.Ma deuxième relation significative m'a conduit chez un psychologue, perdu que j'étais. Sans doute l'une des décisions les plus sages de ma vie. C'est aussi à cette période que j'ai commencé à consulter des voyantes, cherchant désespérément des réponses que je ne trouvais pas en moi.Puis est venue LA relation passionnelle de ma vie.Une relation tellement intense qu'elle est difficile à expliquer.Pour vous donner une idée: j'ai compilé les trois premiers mois de nos échanges dans un livre de 400 pages imprimé en deux exemplaires (un pour elle et l'autre pour moi), et j'ai déménagé à New York pour elle.Cette femme réputée pour son légendaire self-control ne maîtrisait plus rien non plus.Certains parleraient d'âme sœur ou de flamme jumelle — j'ai cherché toutes les explications possibles. Après quatre ans d'une intensité intacte, elle est partie sans un mot d'explication.Huit ans ont passé, et il m'en a fallu 6 pour m'en remettre. Je le dis ici car dans cette société ou tout va de plus en plus vite parfois on n'accepte plus chez les autres mais aussi chez soi même que certains processus prennent du temps.Quoiqu'il en soit cette rupture m'a transformé.Comme me l'a fait remarquer un ami, peu d'hommes parlent ouvertement de leurs blessures amoureuses. Je n'avais pas le choix — cette histoire m'a bouleversé dans ma chair.Je crois que c'est important d'en parler et c'est la raison pour laquelle j'ai accepté l'invitation d'Anne du podcast Métamorphose à l'époque.C'est essentiel de montrer la vulnérabilité sans faux semblant et que les hommes ne sont évidemment pas insensibles aux ruptures. J'espère que cela aura permis à d'autres hommes de se connecter avec eux même.Et puis, je suis heureux d'avoir fait un kinsugi de cette rupture en co-créant un kit de secours pour cœur brisés.Durant ces six années de deuil, j'ai sabordé des relations avec des femmes extraordinaires, les comparant inévitablement à elle. J'ai finalement réussi à briser ce lien toxique grâce à un travail acharné avec psychologues, énergéticiens, voyantes, astrologues, constellations familiales, et même l'ayahuasca. J'ai tout essayé pour m'en libérer.J'ai su que j'étais guéri quand je suis retombé amoureux. Même si cette nouvelle histoire fut brève pour d'autres raisons, elle a confirmé ma guérison. Aujourd'hui, je reste ouvert à construire quelque chose avec quelqu'un, mais ce n'est pas simple.Les raisons de cette difficulté sont précisément l'objet de cette newsletter et je vous livre ce qui selon moi cloche en 5 grands points !Raison #1 : Nous sommes des idéalistes irréalistes par essenceNous avons grandi bercés par des mythes grecs(ne les sous-estimons pas, ils sont centraux), des histoires comme celle de Roméo et Juliette, des contes pour enfants ou encore des films hollywoodiens qui nous ont fait croire que l'impossible devenait possible par amour.Mais ces récits se concentrent presque exclusivement sur la quête amoureuse, rarement sur ce qui vient après."Ils vécurent heureux et eurent beaucoup d'enfants." Mais qu'est-ce que cela signifie concrètement ? Comment ont-ils géré leurs névroses respectives ? Leurs univers distincts ? Leurs problèmes de communication ? Leurs baisses de désir ? Leurs potentielles tentations extraconjugales ?Dis rapidement, notre idéal romantique est incompatible avec la réalité d'une connexion humaine.Ces expressions comme "ma moitié" sous-entendent que nous serions incomplets avant de rencontrer l'autre. "The one" ou "l'âme sœur" suggèrent qu'une seule personne au monde peut nous convenir.Vous l'aurez compris, j'ai personnellement expérimenté ce mythe de l'âme sœur — et en ai payé le prix fort.Cet idéal présuppose que notre partenaire devrait tout comprendre de nous sans communication verbale, alors même que nous peinons à nous comprendre nous-mêmes (personnellement, je me découvre encore chaque jour).Cela est évidemment accentué par un individualisme (pour ne pas dire égoïsme) sous stéroïdes.L'autre vit dans un univers parallèle, avec un système proche mais fondamentalement différent du nôtre.De manière anecdotique, lors d'un de mes événements sur l'IA, une personne a partagé qu'elle se sentait plus "vue" et "entendue" par ChatGPT que par son médecin ou ses amis.Notre société d'hyper-optimisation nous a fait perdre la capacité à prendre le temps — ou à l'accorder à l'autre.La conséquence est ce manque d'écoute mutuel et donc des incompréhensions en pagaille.Et si vous ajoutez à cela des différences culturelles, comme je l'ai vécu, cela complique encore davantage la situation.Esther Perel m'a fait réaliser que nos attentes sont démesurées : nous demandons à une seule personne de nous apporter ce qu'autrefois tout un village nous fournissait — sécurité, identité, amitié, sexualité, complicité émotionnelle et intellectuelle, goûts communs...Je ne vous fais pas la leçon, je suis le premier à tomber dans ce piège, tout en sachant parfaitement son absurdité.Le couple exige des compromis et un travail constant de construction à deux.Par ailleurs, nous entrons dans une relation avec une vision identitaire, un rêve de qui nous voulons devenir — souvent flou ou fantasmé.Quand on s'engage, ce n'est pas seulement l'autre qu'on cherche, mais une version future de soi-même. Ici aussi je plaide totalement coupable et ma 1ère longue relation s'inscrivait à 200% dans cette dynamique.Mais comme le souligne Esther, ce processus est inconfortable car l'autre ne change pas à notre rythme et ne comprend pas nécessairement le rôle implicite que nous lui avons assigné (m'apaiser, m'ouvrir, m'élever, m'intégrer…).Le changement personnel étant douloureux, nous finissons par reprocher à l'autre ce qui nous fascinait initialement. Ainsi, un partenaire choisi pour sa légèreté devient "irresponsable", une personne stable devient "ennuyeuse"…Le fantasme identitaire se heurte inévitablement à la réalité relationnelle.Et bien sur, les applications de rencontre aggravent le problème en alimentant l'illusion d'une offre infinie, comme si l'amour n'était qu'à un swipe de distance.Pour y avoir passé du temps, je vous rappelle (particulièrement si vous êtes en couple) que c'est aussi illusoire que ces couples Instagram où tout semble parfait.Raison #2 : Les papillons dans le ventre sont souvent un dangereux leurreNous avons tous éprouvé ces fameux papillons dans le ventre, cette sensation vertigineuse que nous pourchassons comme le nectar ultime de l'amour.C'est le moment où nous nous sentons le plus vivants d'ailleurs souvent considéré comme l'indicateur suprême de l'amour véritable.Franchement, quoi de plus délicieux que cette vibration viscérale ?J'adore personnellement cette sensation, mais les avertissements d'Alain de Botton m'ont ouvert les yeux : ce frisson que nous ressentons est très souvent une réaction à quelque chose de familier, parfois simplement l'activation d'un vieux schéma ou d'une blessure non cicatrisée.Voilà pourquoi nous sommes parfois attirés par des personnes qui ne nous conviennent pas du tout.En réalité, nous sommes attirés par ceux qui vont nous faire souffrir d'une manière qui nous est familière.Une relation calme, douce et respectueuse peut nous sembler étrange, "sans passion", voire profondément ennuyeuse, parce qu'elle menace notre scénario intérieur bien rodé.De Botton nous met en garde : ne confondez pas compatibilité avec familiarité traumatique. C'est extrêmement frustrant, car j'aime cette sensation d'intensité.D'ailleurs, même en sachant que c'est un indicateur défectueux, j'adore ces papillons et ce deuil n'est pas facile à faire (long way to go greg…ahahahhah).Alors à quoi se fier si les papillons sont trompeurs ?J'ai découvert que j'appliquais inconsciemment les conseils d'Alain de Botton quand je me sentais particulièrement à l'aise avec quelqu'un.L'une de ses questions préférées: "C'est quoi le weirdo en toi?" Parce qu'en vérité, sans masques ni artifices, nous sommes tous un peu étranges.Je sais que je suis vraiment amoureux quand j'ose révéler mes aspects les plus singuliers sans crainte du jugement, je laisse entrevoir ce qui se passe derrière le masque.Un autre signal essentiel selon lui — et auquel je suis attentif sans vraiment y réfléchir : observer si l'autre personne est capable de reconnaître ses propres biais et imperfections et si elle sait s'excuser quand ils se manifestent.Il faut également s'interroger honnêtement : sommes-nous nous-mêmes capables de cette introspection ? Je ne parle pas de sautes d'humeur passagères, mais de nos véritables zones d'ombre.On peut mesurer l'évolution d'une personne à sa capacité à reconnaître qu'elle est loin de l'idéal.Ce n'est pas quelque chose qu'on peut demander directement ; il faut l'observer à travers l'expérience partagée.L'objectif n'est évidemment pas l'auto-flagellation, mais une lucidité bienveillante sur nos mécanismes.Enfin, il est crucial de déterminer si la personne comprend que l'amour est une compétence plus qu'une émotion. Ressentir, bien sûr, mais surtout comprendre qu'un couple exige un travail commun, des compromis, des discussions et des efforts constants.Une amie a pris la décision d'aller voir un thérapeute de couple dès qu'elle a senti que sa relation devenait sérieuse.Non pas parce qu'ils rencontraient des problèmes, mais pour s'assurer que leur communication resterait toujours fluide.J'ai trouvé cette initiative particulièrement mature et judicieuse.D'ailleurs, je serais curieux de connaître votre opinion à ce sujet que certains pourraient qualifier de « tue l'amour ».Raison #3 : La catégorisation devient notre prison mentaleLorsque j'ai réalisé mon épisode sur les "pervers narcissiques", ma première observation fut celle-ci : quand tout le monde devient pervers narcissique, plus personne ne l'est véritablement.Et cette banalisation est irrespectueuse envers les véritables victimes.Cette réflexion s'applique à toute cette culture de surface et ces catégorisations simplistes que nous accumulons : styles d'attachement, langages de l'amour... sans oublier le mot fourre-tout "toxique", tellement galvaudé qu'il a perdu toute substance.Certes, se positionner sur un spectre a son utilité, mais comme son nom l'indique, c'est un "spectre" — il est rare d'incarner une seule catégorie pure.Personnellement, je trouve difficile d'identifier MON langage de l'amour principal, car tous me parlent profondément.Il en va de même pour la sexualité. Dans ce domaine, j'ai l'impression que nos corps communiquent directement.Certaines connexions sont extraordinaires, d'autres catastrophiques, sans que ce soit nécessairement la faute de quiconque. C'est ainsi, et ce n'est pas grave.Je l'avoue sans souci, j'ai été un « mauvais coup » pour certaines personnes mais j'espère un meilleur pour d'autres.J'ai souvent remarqué que cette alchimie se ressent dès le premier baiser. Cela dit, la sexualité reste un territoire d'exploration infini où nous devons d'abord accepter notre ignorance fondamentale.C'est particulièrement vrai pour les hommes car, d'après mon expérience, les femmes réagissent très différemment aux mêmes stimuli.Je n'ai pas d'expérience avec les hommes, mais j'imagine que c'est un peu plus mécanique — quoique vous pourriez me contredire.Au-delà de l'attraction initiale et des premières années, l'enjeu devient de faire durer le désir. J'ai adoré recevoir Anne et Jean-François Descombe sur ce sujet.Ils encouragent à dépasser l'idée reçue selon laquelle le sexe doit toujours naître spontanément du désir dans un couple établi.En réalité, aussi peu romantique que cela puisse paraître, il est souvent préférable de planifier des rendez-vous intimes, de créer délibérément des moments de connexion et de transcender les conventions en développant une perception corporelle plus subtile.Je n'ai jamais mis cette approche en pratique car ma compréhension de ces dynamiques est arrivée tardivement et mes relations récentes ont été trop brèves pour arriver à cet endroit. Cependant, j'observe que nous sommes souvent complètement déconnectés de nos corps sans même nous en rendre compte, parce qu'ils se protègent naturellement.Il faut réapprendre à ressentir, à ramener la sexualité dans le corps plutôt que dans la tête. C'est un travail considérable (pour moi aussi qui suis tellement cérébral).Raison #4 : Prisonniers de la performance, même dans l'intimitéLa sexualité demeure un enjeu majeur dans les relations, devenant souvent une difficulté dans les couples établis.Je crois que nous sommes conditionnés à la performance dans tous les domaines, alors que l'intimité devrait être précisément l'espace où cette pression n'existe pas.Pourtant, nous sommes obsédés par le plaisir de l'autre, et si nous échouons à l'atteindre, nous remettons tout en question. Cette pression existe pour les hommes, mais je la perçois encore plus forte chez les femmes.Un homme qui n'éjaculerait pas à répétition serait source d'inquiétude majeure pour sa partenaire, et probablement pour lui-même. J'ai conscience que mes propres biais transparaissent ici, mais j'ai l'impression que dans le sens inverse, ce serait moins problématique.Esther Perel dit: "Dis-moi comment tu as été aimé, je te dirai comment tu fais l'amour."Selon elle, notre histoire émotionnelle s'inscrit dans la physicalité de notre sexualité. Personnellement, il y a longtemps, j'entretenais une forme de respect que je qualifierais aujourd'hui de "déplacé" envers mes partenaires — déplacé parce que la sexualité n'implique pas un manque de respect.Typiquement, le problème résidait dans mon rapport à l'autre et à la sexualité en général.Un autre exemple peut être plus parlant pourrait être celui d'une femme qui n'oserait jamais dire à son partenaire qu'elle n'appréciait pas certaines pratiques sexuelles - cela illustre comment des schémas émotionnels anciens (peur du conflit ou de la désapprobation) créent des blocages dans l'intimité physique.Parfois, des couples apparemment harmonieux connaissent aussi des blocages sexuels malgré leur amour et leur entente.Esther Perel a développé toute une méthodologie de questions pour identifier comment nous avons appris à aimer, quelles ont été nos figures protectrices durant l'enfance, et si l'expression de nos émotions et de notre plaisir était considérée comme acceptable.Les réponses à ces questions révèlent comment nos expériences passées façonnent notre "plan érotique" et influencent nos défis émotionnels dans l'intimité.Notre histoire émotionnelle marque profondément notre sexualité, se manifestant à travers nos conditionnements, la reproduction de schémas relationnels, nos peurs de la vulnérabilité et la dynamique même de nos interactions intimes.Heureusement, la sexualité peut également devenir un outil pour accéder à des émotions profondes et résoudre des blocages que nous n'arrivions pas à surmonter autrement.En définitive, je crois que le couple n'existe pas pour "réussir" mais pour nous permettre de "ressentir".Nous devons impérativement nous libérer de cette logique performative et productiviste pour simplement nous sentir vivants.C'est une véritable révolution intérieure qui s'impose.Raison #5 : Nous entrons dans le couple pour évoluer, mais résistons au changementDepuis les Lumières, nous avons élevé l'individualisme au rang de valeur suprême. Comme je l'ai abordé dans une précédente newsletter, nous nous imposons une isolation que nous semblons apprécier, mais qui nous déconnecte de notre humanité fondamentale.La vie de couple exige d'articuler une dynamique entre préservation de son identité propre et connexion authentique avec l'autre.Comme évoqué dans la première raison, nous sommes des idéalistes irréalistes, portés par l'illusion d'un amour parfait qui nous transformerait en une version améliorée de nous-mêmes.Pourtant, lorsque nous nous engageons, cette promesse de métamorphose se heurte à la réalité.Nous ne choisissons pas un partenaire uniquement pour ses qualités ; inconsciemment, nous choisissons aussi une version future de nous-mêmes que nous aspirons à incarner — devenir plus calme, plus fort, plus complet.Esther Perel l'exprime magnifiquement : nous rencontrons l'autre pour retrouver une partie de nous encore inexplorée.Cette promesse d'évolution engendre cependant une tension profonde.Ce qui nous fascinait initialement devient source d'inconfort.Le calme apaisant se transforme en froideur détachée, la liberté joyeuse en irresponsabilité.La vision identitaire que nous avions imaginée entre en contradiction avec la réalité quotidienne du changement.Nous résistons à cette évolution parce qu'elle bouscule notre identité, même celle que nous avions idéalement construite.Le couple devient ainsi un espace paradoxal où nous aspirons à grandir tout en redoutant de perdre notre stabilité.Nous voulons évoluer, mais uniquement à notre rythme, sans que les transformations imposées par l'autre ne remettent en question ce que nous considérons comme notre essence. Ce conflit nous pousse souvent à rejeter ce qui devait nous transformer, à blâmer l'autre pour une inertie que nous percevons comme une trahison de notre idéal initial.Ce tiraillement entre l'envie d'ouvrir un nouveau chapitre et la peur d'abandonner l'image rassurante de notre identité constitue l'une des dynamiques les plus universelles et douloureuses de la vie à deux.C'est pourtant dans cette lutte que réside le potentiel d'une transformation authentique, si nous acceptons enfin le coût du changement intérieur.En conclusion: l'amour comme territoire d'exploration, non de performanceAimer aujourd'hui est difficile, non pas parce que nous serions devenus incapables d'aimer, mais parce que nous attendons de l'amour qu'il résolve tout.Qu'il nous apaise, nous élève, nous stimule, nous révèle.Qu'il nous offre simultanément la sécurité d'un foyer et l'ivresse d'une passion.Qu'il nous soutienne dans les moments difficiles tout en nous laissant respirer quand nous avons besoin d'espace.Ce n'est plus simplement une relation: c'est une architecture existentielle, un miroir identitaire, un incubateur de sens. C'est trop demander.Lorsque la réalité ne correspond pas à cette fiction intérieure, nous résistons.Nous accusons, fuyons ou nous replions.Nous croyons que l'autre nous blesse intentionnellement, alors qu'il réveille en nous des mémoires anciennes, des blessures non cicatrisées, des récits que nous tenons pour vérités absolues. Et nous l'avons vu, les papillons n'y sont pas pour rien…Nous oublions que dans toute relation, il n'existe jamais une vérité unique mais deux narrations distinctes — souvent incompatibles.Nous redoutons également le conflit, que nous confondons avec la fin de l'amour.Je déteste le conflit en bon « gentil », pourtant, un conflit traversé avec conscience est peut-être ce qu'il y a de plus vivant dans une relation.Il ne signale pas l'échec, mais la possibilité d'un lien authentique — non plus idéalisé, mais profondément incarné.Le couple n'a pas vocation à nous rendre heureux comme le ferait un produit fini.Il existe pour nous faire grandir, parfois nous ébranler, souvent nous décaler.Aimer n'est pas maîtriser, ni guérir, ni même comprendre entièrement.C'est oser traverser l'inconfort du lien sans fuir à la première dissonance.C'est abandonner l'idée qu'il existe une méthode parfaite pour aimer, pour embrasser la complexité d'un ch Suggestion d'autres épisodes à écouter : [Solo] Ca veut dire quoi d'être un homme? (https://audmns.com/VrvDGYA) [NEWS] La gentillesse est-elle toujours une vertu? (https://audmns.com/fsjMsBo) [NEWS] Le paradoxe du siècle « social » que l'on fait mine d'ignorer (https://audmns.com/CREUtAc)Distribué par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

The Tim Ferriss Show
#806: How Rich Barton Built Expedia and Zillow from $0 to $35B — Audacious Goals, Provocation Marketing, Scrabble for Naming, and Powerful Daily Rituals

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 145:01


Rich Barton is the co-founder and co-executive chairman of Zillow, a company transforming how people buy, sell, rent, and finance homes. Before Zillow, Rich founded Expedia within Microsoft in 1994 and successfully spun the company off as a public company in 1999. He served as president, CEO, and board director of Expedia and later co-founded and served as non-executive chairman of Glassdoor.Sponsors:Ramp easy-to-use corporate cards, bill payments, accounting, and more: https://ramp.com/tim (Get $250 when you join Ramp)Cresset prestigious family office for CEOs, founders, and entrepreneurs: https://cressetcapital.com/tim (book a call today)Shopify global commerce platform, providing tools to start, grow, market, and manage a retail business: https://shopify.com/tim (one-dollar-per-month trial period)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On the Brighter Side ~ Marriage for Entrepreneurs
The Psychology of Sexual Disconnection and Five Steps to Restore Intimacy

On the Brighter Side ~ Marriage for Entrepreneurs

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 31:25 Transcription Available


Send us a textPassionate relationships require more than love—they need the right psychological dynamics to keep desire alive. When couples come to me feeling more like roommates than lovers, they're often surprised to learn that their sexual disconnection has less to do with libido or attraction and more to do with unrecognized emotional patterns.The truth about passionate marriages might surprise you. While emotional connection matters, your sexual relationship operates with separate dynamics that need specific attention. Differentiation—maintaining your sense of self while being emotionally connected—creates the foundation for desire. As relationship expert David Schnarch explains, people who struggle with differentiation often resort to control tactics or emotional distance rather than healthy interdependence.Your sexual connection is also deeply influenced by context, as Emily Nagoski brilliantly explains. Desire isn't simply spontaneous—it's responsive to your environment and circumstances. This means transitioning from daily responsibilities to intimate connection requires intentional shifts in mindset, not just spontaneous attraction. Meanwhile, Esther Perel reminds us that "fire needs air"—eroticism thrives in the space between partners, requiring some degree of mystery and novelty to remain vibrant.The good news? These dynamics can transform with intentional effort. Start by reconnecting with what makes you feel alive and embodied, practice differentiation by expressing needs without controlling your partner, and prioritize whatever helps you transition into a sensual mindset. Build erotic tension through flirtation and novel experiences, and commit to regular conversations about your sexual connection.Sexual disconnection isn't a life sentence—it's an invitation to grow together. Remember that having differing levels of desire is normal in every aspect of marriage. With understanding and the right tools, you can rediscover the passion that may have temporarily dimmed and create a sexual relationship that's fulfilling for both partners.Have questions about your own relationship dynamics? Reach out to me directly—I'm passionate about helping couples move beyond roommate syndrome to rediscover true intimacy and desire.

The Daily Motivation
Esther Perel Reveals Why Dating Is Broken and How to Heal Your Relationship Patterns | EP 941

The Daily Motivation

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2025 8:12


Order my newest book Make Money Easy! https://lewishowes.com/moneyyouCheck out the full episode: greatness.lnk.to/1751Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel challenges the modern dating landscape, offering a fresh perspective on why so many struggle to form meaningful connections. She identifies how our rigid belief systems create confirmation bias, causing us to unconsciously seek evidence that reinforces our negative relationship patterns. Perel exposes the fundamental attribution error that plagues many relationships—where we see ourselves as complex while reducing others to simple characteristics—and reveals why turning dates into "job interviews" kills authentic connection.Perel shares transformative insights on conflict, explaining that what truly matters isn't what we fight about but what we're fighting for: care and closeness, respect and recognition, or power and control. Through illuminating examples, she demonstrates how seemingly trivial arguments about cat litter boxes or closet doors actually mask deeper emotional needs rooted in our earliest experiences. This wisdom offers listeners practical tools to break destructive patterns and build relationships based on genuine understanding rather than projected fears.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter

The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes
3 Steps To Building A Healthy Relationship

The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 71:40


Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Navigating the battlefield of modern love requires mastering both vulnerability and boundaries, as revealed in this powerful relationship wisdom episode featuring three of today's most insightful voices. Former Bachelor star Nick Viall discusses his dating journey from "love martyr" to genuine connection. Relationship coaches Matthew Hussey and Sadia Khan illuminate why many committed relationships fail when we prioritize intensity over true compatibility. They offer essential guidance for breaking toxic cycles and creating authentic connections that stand the test of time. And renowned therapist Esther Perel unpacks the polarities that both challenge and strengthen our bonds in marriage. Whether you're healing from heartbreak, questioning your patterns, or seeking to deepen your connection, these rare insights from relationship royalty will revolutionize how you love - and how you let yourself be loved.In this episode you will learn:How to navigate all 3 phases of relationship – dating, commitment, and marriageHow to distinguish between the intense feelings of chemistry versus the deeper foundation of compatibility in relationshipsWhy becoming a "love martyr" leads to staying in broken relationships and how to break this destructive patternThe critical difference between validation and love, and how confusing the two creates unhealthy relationship dynamicsThree powerful questions to ask yourself after a breakup to heal with more grace and move forwardFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1751For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Nick Viall – greatness.lnk.to/1565SCSadia Khan & Matthew Hussey  – greatness.lnk.to/1659SCEsther Perel – greatness.lnk.to/1686SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

The Dream Catcher Podcast
[Interview] Heal Your Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within (feat. Dené Logan)

The Dream Catcher Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 42:18


Many of us often feel a sense of unease in our intimate relationships. If you're struggling to pinpoint the source of this discomfort, you're not alone.  My guest, Dené Logan, has discovered an essential insight in her quest for relational satisfaction: the answer often resides in the natural balance of masculine and feminine energy that exists within each of us.  Today, she will unveil a transformative perspective on how understanding our inner masculine and feminine energies can be the key to unlocking fulfillment in our partnerships. Dené Logan is a Group Facilitator, Therapist, Author, and Wisdom Seeker living in Los Angeles. She has a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology, has been featured on ATTN, and is the mentee of acclaimed psychotherapist Esther Perel. Dené co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy podcast alongside her soul-sister, Vanessa Bennett. In this conversation, Dené equips us with practical strategies on how to blend masculine and feminine energies. This will empower us to shift from the codependent and transactional perspectives of relationships to a more interdependent and balanced dynamic.

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel Invites Us to Imagine Our Preferred Future

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2025 55:48


We all know the difference between being alive and feeling alive. The state of the world has many of us struggling with threat and uncertainty, both of which immediately constrict our imagination and our ability to face the unknown with curiosity and discovery. Join Esther Perel for a live conversation on the Vox Media Podcast Stage at South By Southwest with futurist Amy Webb and innovation expert Frederik Pferdt as they discuss how the big changes of today will shape our relationships of tomorrow. To watch the video of this episode go to https://www.youtube.com/@estherperel/podcasts To watch Amy Webb's 2025 Emerging Tech Trend Report from SXSW visit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oT33_MrqyHo To read Frederik Pferdt's book What's Next is Now: How to Live Future Ready visit https://whatsnextisnowthebook.com Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Terri Cole Show
696 What I Learned About Erotic Intelligence From Esther Perel

The Terri Cole Show

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 24:45


Have you heard the term erotic intelligence before?  If you haven't, does it sound like it's all about sex? Before attending a transformative retreat with Esther Perel and Paul Browde, that's kind of what I thought.  Talk about confronting! I had agreed to attend with a friend after her husband dropped out, without knowing the details, because it was in Costa Rica and who would say no to that? I was surprised to learn erotic intelligence is actually about feeling alive and energized in your life, and I walked away with a renewed sense of vitality.  In this episode, I'll share what I learned during the retreat as well as the questions and exercises we walked through to help raise your awareness around erotic intelligence. By the end, I hope you'll feel similarly lit up about life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/696

The Tim Ferriss Show
#798: Terry Real, Relationship Coach — Tools and Practices for Couples

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 40:59


For this episode, I'm doing something a bit different. I'm featuring five chapters from the audiobook Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real. What you will hear in this episode will help you identify both your and your partner's losing strategies in relationships, and help you move from disharmony to repair. Terry is the creator of Relational Life Therapy, or RLT, which underpins all his books, courses, and teachings and equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work. He is also the author of five books, including the New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. And if you'd like an extra dose of calm, I recommend checking out Henry Shukman, a past podcast guest and one of only a few dozen masters in the world authorized to teach Sanbo Zen. Henry's app, The Way, has changed my life. I've been using it daily, often twice a day, and it's lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible. For 30 free sessions, just visit thewayapp.com/tim. No credit card required.Excerpted from Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with LOVE by Terry Real (Sounds True, 2018.). Used with permission.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Tim Ferriss Show
#797: Dr. Keith Baar, UC Davis — Simple Exercises That Can Repair Tendons (Tennis Elbow, etc.), Collagen Fact vs. Fiction, Isometrics vs. Eccentrics, JAK Inhibitors, Growth Hormone vs. IGF-1, The Anti-RICE Protocol, and How to Use Load as an Anti-Inflam

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 119:22


Dr. Keith Baar is a Professor at the University of California, Davis in the Department of Physiology and Membrane Biology. During his Ph.D. studies, his research revealed that mechanical strain on muscle fibers activates the mammalian target of rapamycin (mTOR) signaling pathway, a crucial regulator of muscular hypertrophy. Subsequently, he studied the molecular dynamics of skeletal muscle adaptation to endurance training under the guidance of Dr. John Holloszy, a legend in the field of exercise physiology, considered the father of modern exercise biochemistry. Building on all of this experience, he conducted research into tendon health and the potential for engineering ligaments, which could have implications for treatment and recovery from injuries.Sponsors:Cresset prestigious family office for CEOs, founders, and entrepreneurs: https://cressetcapital.com/tim (book a call today)AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)Shopify global commerce platform, providing tools to start, grow, market, and manage a retail business: https://shopify.com/tim (one-dollar-per-month trial period)*Links to everything discussed: https://tim.blog/2025/02/26/dr-keith-baar/Timestamps:[00:00:00] Start [00:07:12] How I discovered Keith's work through a tweet about tennis elbow and rock climbing.[00:07:54] Emil Abrahamsson's hangboard training protocol.[00:09:20] The fundamental principles of strength training and connective tissue adaptation.[00:10:36] mTOR complex 1 and its role in muscle growth.[00:12:06] Engineered ligaments and the discovery of minimal effective doses for tendon adaptation.[00:13:50] The refractory period between optimal tendon loading sessions.[00:16:42] Rapamycin's effects on muscle hypertrophy.[00:18:49] Protocols for tennis elbow rehabilitation.[00:20:28] Why isometrics work better than eccentrics for tendon healing.[00:22:14] Stress shielding and how load distribution affects tendon healing.[00:29:07] The misconception about eccentric loading for tendon injuries and why velocity matters.[00:29:58] Ideal duration for isometric holds (10-30 seconds) based on injury status.[00:33:50] My elbow issues and current rehab approach.[00:36:02] Overcoming vs. yielding isometrics and optimal loading strategies.[00:47:11] Dr. Barr's movement prescription for my tennis elbow.[00:52:18] Loading timing post-surgery and RICE protocol criticism.[00:56:58] Achilles tendon rehabilitation after surgery.[01:00:18] Critique of orthopedic suturing techniques and recommendation for resorbable sutures.[01:04:02] Multiple position isometrics for tennis elbow rehabilitation.[01:07:26] Collagen synthesis, supplementation, and vitamin C timing.[01:12:59] Critique of BPC-157 and other injectable peptides for tendon healing.[01:18:19] Evaluation of orthobiologics' (PRP, prolotherapy, stem cells) effectiveness.[01:21:37] JAK-STAT inhibitor drugs and their effects on tendon growth.[01:25:35] Drugs that increase risk of tendon ruptures (fluoroquinolones, AT-1 receptor drugs).[01:29:33] How estrogen affects tendon stiffness and injury risk in women.[01:32:48] Testosterone's opposite effects on tendon compared to estrogen.[01:35:31] Protein intake recommendations and timing.[01:40:11] Ketogenic diet effects on mitochondrial biogenesis and longevity.[01:41:57] Comparison of ketogenic diet, low protein diet, and rapamycin for longevity.[01:47:19] Inflammation's role in adaptation and when to reduce it.[01:51:17] Timing of ice baths relative to training for optimal recovery.[01:52:33] Parting thoughts.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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The Tim Ferriss Show
#796: L.A. Paul — On Becoming a Vampire, Whether or Not to Have Kids, Getting Incredible Mentorship for $250, Transformative Experiences, and More

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 102:00


L.A. Paul is the Millstone Family Professor of Philosophy and Professor of Cognitive Science at Yale University. She is also the author of Transformative Experience. Her work on transformative experience has been covered by The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Guardian, NPR, and the BBC, among others. And in 2024, she was profiled by The New Yorker. Sponsors:MUDWTR energy-boosting coffee alternative—without the jitters: https://MUDWTR.com/Tim (between 15% and 43% off)Eight Sleep's Pod 4 Ultra sleeping solution for dynamic cooling and heating: https://eightsleep.com/tim (save $350 on the Pod 4 Ultra)LinkedIn Ads, the go-to tool for B2B marketers and advertisers who want to drive brand awareness and generate leads: LinkedIn.com/TFS ($100 LinkedIn ad credit)Timestamps:00:00 Introduction 05:56 L. A. Paul's Journey into Philosophy09:55 Challenges in Studying Philosophy25:29 The Role of Philosophy in Modern Times27:50 Vampire Thought Experiment32:07 The Transformative Experience of Parenthood36:55 The Concept of Act-State Independence39:33 Philosophical Insights on Parenthood52:29 Personal Reflections on Choosing Parenthood56:37 From Chemistry to Philosophy: A Personal Journey01:01:14 Philosophical Literature Recommendations01:07:44 Exploring the Value of Analytic Philosophy01:08:29 Philosophical Insights from Movies01:08:46 Primer and La Jetée: A Deep Dive01:09:45 The Joy of Problem Solving01:10:37 Getting Started with Analytic Philosophy01:12:09 Philosophy Resources and Recommendations01:13:23 Addressing Nihilism and Finding Intellectual Companionship01:17:29 Philosophical Misrepresentations in Media01:20:18 Continental vs. Analytic Philosophy01:21:57 Philosophy's Role in Broader Applications01:26:31 Philosophy and Psychedelics01:32:55 Facing Cognitive Decline with Philosophy01:35:57 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Projects*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Tony Robbins Podcast
Esther Perel Reveals the Secret to Lasting Love & Passion

The Tony Robbins Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 90:50


Tony and Sage Robbins are excited to share this exclusive episode featuring world-renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Esther Perel. Recorded at the 2017 Platinum Partners Relationship Event, Esther joins Tony and Sage for a deep dive into the complexities of love, desire, and intimacy in modern relationships. Through a thought-provoking presentation and engaging audience questions, Esther explores the evolving expectations we place on romantic partnerships—how we now seek one person to be both our source of stability and adventure, security and passion. She delves into the contradictions between love and desire, the reasons infidelity occurs even in loving relationships, and the role of imagination in keeping intimacy alive. Guiding the audience through deep reflections, interactive exercises, and powerful insights, Esther shares practical wisdom on cultivating connection, navigating relationship challenges, and reigniting passion. Together, they explore how cultural conditioning shapes intimacy, why we struggle with the idea of “the one” in a world of endless choices, and the seven key verbs that define the dynamics of a relationship. Offering a fresh perspective on sustaining desire in long-term partnerships, Esther reveals how to reconcile the paradoxes of modern love. Whether you're in a relationship, seeking one, or reevaluating your approach to love, this episode will challenge your perspectives and leave you with actionable takeaways to enhance the quality of your relationships—and, ultimately, your life. Please enjoy!   *Tony Robbins is a #1 New York Times best-selling author, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and the nation's #1 Life and Business Strategist. For more than four and a half decades, more than 100 million people from 195 countries have enjoyed the warmth, humor, and transformational power of his business and personal development events. Mr. Robbins is the author of seven internationally bestselling books, including three #1 New York Times bestsellers: Money: Master the Game, Unshakeable, and Life Force. He created the #1 personal and professional development program of all time, and more than 10 million people have attended his live seminars. Anthony Robbins is the chairman of a holding company comprising more than 110 privately held businesses with combined sales exceeding $8 billion a year. He has been named in the top 50 of Worth Magazine's 100 most powerful people in global finance for three consecutive years, honored by Accenture as one of the "Top 50 Business Intellectuals in the World''; by Harvard Business Press as one of the "Top 200 Business Gurus"; and by American Express as one of the "Top Six Business Leaders in the World" to coach its entrepreneurial clients. Fortune's recent cover article named him the “CEO Whisperer.”

The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes
3 Secrets To Building Deep & Meaningful Relationships

The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2025 77:25


I'm going on tour! Come see The School of Greatness LIVE in person!Get my new book Make Money Easy here!What if the key to conscious love isn't finding the perfect partner, but mastering yourself first? In this powerful compilation episode, world-renowned experts Jay Shetty, Dr Joe Dispenza, and Esther Perel unpack the fascinating dynamics of conscious relationships, emotional healing, and lasting love. Through vulnerable personal stories and profound insights, they reveal how our approach to love often stems from unhealed trauma rather than conscious choice. Jay Shetty illuminates the critical differences between toxic and conscious love, offering practical wisdom for building healthier relationships. Dr Dispenza shares groundbreaking research on how emotional healing physically transforms our brain and body, while Esther Perel offers a masterclass in maintaining playfulness and curiosity in long-term relationships. Together, these wisdom-keepers illuminate a path to deeper self-awareness and more fulfilling partnerships, making this episode essential listening for anyone seeking to transform their relationship with love.In this episode you will learn:The crucial difference between toxic love (using relationships to serve your needs) and conscious love (taking care of yourself to bring your best to others)How holding onto resentment creates a self-perpetuating cycle that keeps you stuck in past patternsThe four subtle relationship killers most couples don't recognizeWhy playfulness and humor are diagnostic indicators of relationship health and essential tools for healingThe transformative power of forgiveness and how it liberates both yourself and othersFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1733For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Jay Shetty – greatness.lnk.to/1417SCDr. Joe Dispenza  – greatness.lnk.to/1540SCEsther Perel – greatness.lnk.to/1546SC Get more from Lewis! Pre-order my new book Make Money EasyGet The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

The Diary Of A CEO by Steven Bartlett
Moment 200: Love Expert Reveals Why 80% Of Modern Relationships Fail

The Diary Of A CEO by Steven Bartlett

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2025 10:46


We give our best energy to work, but what about our relationships? In this moment, Esther Perel reveals how small moments of disconnection—like looking at your phone instead of your partner—can erode intimacy over time. Discover how to bring attention, creativity, and presence back into your relationships before it's too late. Listen to the full episode here - Spotify- https://g2ul0.app.link//qmlJPkdxXQb Apple - https://g2ul0.app.link//TgMnzfgxXQb Watch the Episodes On Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/%20TheDiaryOfACEO/videos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Tim Ferriss Show
#795: The 4-Hour Workweek Revisited — The End of Time Management

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2025 51:46


This time around, we have a bit of a different format, featuring the book that started it all for me, The 4-Hour Workweek. Readers and listeners often ask me what I would change or update, but an equally interesting question is: what wouldn't I change? What stands the test of time and hasn't lost any potency? This episode features one of the most important chapters from the audiobook of The 4-Hour Workweek. It includes tools and frameworks that I use to this day, including Pareto's Law and Parkinson's Law. The chapter is narrated by the great voice actor Ray Porter. If you are interested in checking out the rest of the audiobook, which is produced and copyrighted by Blackstone Publishing, you can find it on Audible, Apple, Google, Spotify, Downpour.com, or wherever you find your favorite audiobooks.Sponsors:ExpressVPN high-speed, secure, and anonymous VPN service: https://www.expressvpn.com/tim (get 3 or 4 months free on their annual plans) Momentous high-quality supplements: https://livemomentous.com/tim (code TIM for 20% off)Helix Sleep premium mattresses: https://HelixSleep.com/Tim (Between 20% and 27% off all mattress orders and two free pillows)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Tim Ferriss Show
#794: Brandon Sanderson on Building a Fiction Empire, Creating $40M+ Kickstarter Campaigns, Unbreakable Habits, The Art of World-Building, and The Science of Magic Systems

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2025 203:00


Brandon Sanderson is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Stormlight Archive series and the Mistborn saga; the middle-grade series Alcatraz vs. the Evil Librarians; and the young-adult novels The Rithmatist, the Reckoners trilogy, and the Skyward series. He has sold more than 40 million books in 35 languages, and he is a four-time nominee for the Hugo Awards, winning in 2013 for his novella The Emperor's Soul.Sponsors:Cresset prestigious family office for CEOs, founders, and entrepreneurs: https://cressetcapital.com/tim (book a call today)Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic broad spectrum 24-strain probiotic + prebiotic: https://Seed.com/Tim (Use code 25TIM for 25% off your first month's supply)Wealthfront high-yield cash account: https://Wealthfront.com/Tim (Start earning 4.00% APY on your short-term cash until you're ready to invest. And when new clients open an account today, you can get an extra fifty-dollar bonus with a deposit of five hundred dollars or more.) Terms apply. Tim Ferriss receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage, LLC for advertising and holds a non-controlling equity interest in the corporate parent of Wealthfront Brokerage. See full disclosures here.Timestamps:00:00 Meet Brandon Sanderson07:10 Soundcheck Fun and Memory Skills11:21 Brandon's Writing Journey and Creative Process25:35 Teaching Creative Writing and Publishing Insights38:08 Brandon's Early Reading Experience44:18 Discovering the Magic of Storytelling45:32 A Journey from C Student to A Student47:02 The Influence of a Great Teacher48:51 Understanding Narrative and Plot56:42 The Art of Character Development01:09:42 Balancing Writing and Personal Life01:24:04 Meeting Editors and Early Struggles01:24:30 First Book Sale and Financial Realities01:25:28 The Danger of the Second Book01:25:49 Hitting the Bestseller List01:26:34 Amazon and the Changing Market01:29:03 Entrepreneurial Shift and Direct Sales01:36:45 Building a Team and Crowdfunding01:42:50 Kickstarter Success and Lessons Learned01:52:22 COVID and Creative Freedom02:02:53 Brandon Sanderson's Colbert Report Cameo02:03:48 Kickstarter Success and Subscription Boxes02:09:01 Test Readers and Feedback Process02:14:16 Warbreaker and Creative Commons Experiment02:22:50 Navigating Publishing Deals and Platforms02:33:26 The Wheel of Time Opportunity02:42:36 The Call to Finish The Wheel of Time02:43:10 Negotiating the Deal02:43:56 The Struggles of Mistborn02:45:02 The Cosmere and Building an Audience02:48:25 The Death Spiral in Publishing02:52:29 Magic Systems and Their Importance03:00:39 Sanderson's Three Laws of Magic03:14:35 The Zero Law and Final Thoughts*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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#792: Seth Godin on Playing the Right Game and Strategy as a Superpower

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2025 120:11


Seth Godin is the author of 21 internationally bestselling books, translated into more than 35 languages, including Linchpin, Tribes, The Dip, and Purple Cow. His latest book is This Is Strategy.Sponsors:Cresset prestigious family office for CEOs, founders, and entrepreneurs: https://cressetcapital.com/tim (book a call today) AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)Shopify global commerce platform, providing tools to start, grow, market, and manage a retail business: https://shopify.com/tim (one-dollar-per-month trial period)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Tim Ferriss Show
#790: Chris Sacca — How to Succeed by Living on Your Own Terms and Getting Into Good Trouble

The Tim Ferriss Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2025 185:50


Chris Sacca is the co-founder of Lowercarbon Capital and manages a portfolio of countless startups in energy, industrial materials, and carbon removal. If it's unf**king the planet, he's probably working on it. Previously, Chris founded Lowercase Capital, one of history's most successful funds ever, primarily known for its very early investments in companies like Twitter, Uber, Instagram, Twilio, Docker, Optimizely, Blue Bottle Coffee, and Stripe. But you might just know him as the guy who wore those ridiculous cowboy shirts for a few seasons of Shark Tank. To purchase Chris's ranch, schedule a viewing at FivePondsRanch.com.P.S. This episode features a special, one-of-a-kind introduction that Chris recorded of yours truly. :) Sponsors:MUDWTR energy-boosting coffee alternative—without the jitters: https://MUDWTR.com/Tim (between 15% and 43% off) Helix Sleep premium mattresses: https://HelixSleep.com/Tim (Between 20% and 27% off all mattress orders and two free pillows)AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.