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Why do so many loving relationships lose their passion? Has technology changed the way we connect forever? And what does it really take to build a love that stays alive?In one of the most anticipated conversations on A Life of Greatness, world-renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author and relationship expert Esther Perel returns to the podcast for a profound discussion about love, intimacy, desire and the changing landscape of modern relationships.Twenty years after her groundbreaking book Mating in Captivity, Esther reflects on why her work feels more relevant than ever. She and Sarah explore why certainty has become one of the greatest threats to romance, why love and desire aren't always driven by the same forces, and why so many of us are unknowingly starving our relationships of the very things that keep them alive.In this episode, you'll learn:Why the person who feels like home can be the last person you desireThe quiet habit that kills attraction in long-term relationshipsWhy great sex has less to do with compatibility than you thinkWhat desire actually wants, and why it isn't more closenessHow dating apps and AI are quietly rewiring the way we loveWhether you're single, dating, married or simply curious about what makes relationships flourish, this is timeless wisdom from one of the world's leading voices on human connection.Follow Esther Perel:
Karen reviews Sex Diaries, the new collection of erotic anonymous week-long diaries focusing on nonmonogamous adventures, based on the popular New York Magazine column.In this episode:Sex Diaries, edited by Alyssa Shelasky Host, sex educator, and writer Karen Yates Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen's free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here!Show your love for Wild & Sublime: Leave a tip!The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and discounts to live shows! Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!
Most people spend their lives trying to find a relationship that works, but psychotherapist and bestselling author Esther Perel believes that just living day to day isn't the same as truly feeling alive. In this deeply moving conversation from Making Space, the relationship expert sits down with Hoda Kotb to pull back the curtain on why passion often fades in partnerships and how couples can bridge the distance when they start to drift apart. She and Hoda explore the delicate balance between love and desire, discussing why the space we keep, the mystery we preserve, and the ways we ignite ourselves matter in a world that often feels contactless. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
How do you make plain water feel like a $300 fragrance?Allison Cullman, SVP of Marketing at Hint Water, joins Daniel to break down a campaign that turned hydration into pure desire (and why it worked). She explains why wellness got exhausting for consumers, so Hint stopped selling zero sugar and zero calories and started selling to emotions.Plus the brand's first OnlyFans page, placements from Love Island to Esther Perel, and why building future demand beats chasing the sale in front of you. If you're a Marketer who wants to take a bolder brand swing, this episode is for YOU.Do yourself a favor and hit follow so you never miss an episode, and drop us a rating while you're at it. It genuinely helps.Follow Allison: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allison-cullman-03829731/ Follow Daniel: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@themarketingmillennials/featured Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/Dmurr68 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-murray-marketing Sign up for The Marketing Millennials newsletter: www.workweek.com/brand/the-marketing-millennials Daniel is a Workweek friend, working to produce amazing podcasts. To find out more, visit: www.workweek.com
What happens when two become three, or four, or five? Who is responsible for the needs and wants of a couple when days are filled with playdates, pick-ups, and meal preps? Nights lack the erotic energy that couples need not only to survive but to thrive. This week, Dr. Becky consults with the renowned couples therapist, Esther Perel, to talk about what parents can do to rekindle their desires. * Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: SmartyPants: Shop SmartyPants Vitamins at Target, Walmart, or Amazon today Airbnb: Host your home or book your next stay on Airbnb LMNT: Get a free gift with your purchase at drinkLMNT.com/goodinside Skylight: Get $30 off a 15-inch Skylight Calendar at myskylight.com/becky Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Sex is sometimes a taboo topic. Not today! Intimacy expert Ita O’Brien tells us all about the new normal in the bedroom, and how she’s introduced it to Hollywood.
【主播的话】十几年前,还在读研究生的於嘉向一本知名社会科学期刊投了一篇自己刚写完的论文——关于中国人结婚影响因素的研究。但很快,她收到了拒信。期刊的专家当时认为,选题意义不大,因为中国并不存在所谓的“结婚率下降”的问题。十几年过去,这个曾被认为“并不存在”的问题变成了全民的焦虑,牵动了全国甚至是全球的神经。於嘉也从学校里毕业,成为了北京大学光华管理学院的一名老师,专事与婚姻、家庭、人口结构有关的研究。婚姻制度已经延续了千年。而於嘉认为,我们当下这一代,或许是人类历史上第一代可以选择“不结婚”的人。人们为什么不结婚了?哪些条件的出现让人们可以选择不婚?对今天的人来说,结婚究竟仍然意味着什么?我们的对话从这里开始,聊了很多尖锐又诚实的问题:年轻人还做爱吗?答案是,越来越少了——短视频、游戏、和父母同住,正在悄悄挤压亲密的空间。当机器人可以拥有和真人无异的体温与触感,是男人还是女人,会更愿意选择机器人?人工智能的拟人陪伴,正在如何重塑我们对爱与亲密的想象?而那些在婚姻中沉默的中年人、被遗忘的中间地带——他们的欲望与匮乏,又该由谁看见?这是一场关于亲密关系底层逻辑的重新勘探:性、婚姻、家庭,从来不只是私人的事,它们是理解一个时代最诚实的切口。於嘉把这些思考,浓缩在了一档付费音频节目里。今年早些在看理想APP已经上线:《爱与怕:当代婚姻的困境与出路》。我们将在本集节目的评论区抽取三名幸运听众,送出这档音频节目的免费收听码。欢迎大家踊跃评论。【本期主播】若含:小红书@若含王磬:微博@王磬【本期嘉宾】於嘉:北京大学社会研究中心长聘副教授,看理想《爱与怕:当代婚姻的困境与出路》主讲人【本期剧透】04:49 十年前,学术界认为婚姻与家庭是鸡毛蒜皮的小话题,不值得关注10:41 研究性与爱的挑战:在“敏感地带”寻找真实数据 18:40 这五年里,中国人的性欲望萎缩了吗?23:26 男性或女性,会更愿意选择机器人性伴侣? 29:25 男女性别观为什么会产生“时差”?33:23 “蜜月效应”:全球伴侣进入稳定关系后,激情都会下降39:36 超过 1/5 的中年人在过无性生活42:50 中国迎来了历史上第一代真正可以主动选择不结婚的人49:13 解绑沉重的婚姻 :单身生育、同居保障,优化离婚程序...01:01:01 全球生育率下降是不可逆的吗?【相关阅读】《爱与怕:当代婚姻的困境与出路》於嘉老师在“看理想” APP 上推出的音频节目,从社会学、人口学、性别研究等视角出发,依托真实数据与访谈,剖析这个时代真实的婚姻困境,重塑我们对亲密关系的想象。这份指南,给不婚的、犹疑的,以及身在其中的我们,解剖当代婚姻的现实困境,探讨亲密关系中的爱与怕。雪儿·海蒂(Shere Hite)美裔德国性教育家、女权主义者,生于美国,1995年放弃美国国籍,加入德国籍。著有《海蒂性学报告》等畅销性学读物。雪儿·海特的研究主要是个人的性体验及其意义。她研究的结论是:70%的女性无法通过抽插式性交达到高潮,而如果通过手淫或其他方式直接刺激阴蒂则她们很容易获得高潮埃丝特·佩瑞尔(Esther Perel)婚恋心理咨询师、《纽约时报》畅销书作家,被认为是现代亲密关系领域最具洞察力和独创见解的人。她精通 9 门语言,在纽约市从事咨询业务,拥有35年的从业经验,并为全球财富500强企业担任组织顾问。著有国际畅销书《亲密陷阱:爱、欲望与平衡艺术》《危险关系:爱、背叛与修复之路》。刘达临上海人,北京大学新闻系毕业,上海大学社会系教授,曾任亚洲性学联合会副主席、上海性社会学研究中心主任、中华性文化展览馆馆长,著有《性社会学》《中国性文化史》《世界古代性文化》《世界当代性文化》等一百四十余部著作。潘绥铭现任中国人民大学性社会学研究所所长、社会学系教授、博士生导师,中国社会学会副秘书长。1984年毕业于东北师范大学历史系,获历史学硕士学位。曾留学美国,主要从事社会学研究方法、性社会学和性别人类学研究。出版有《神秘的圣火——性的社会学史》《中国性现状》《性,你真的懂了吗?》《存在与荒谬——中国地下性产业考察》《生存与体验》《当代中国大学生的性观念与性行为》《金西报告——人类男性性行为》等。【本期音乐】Kevin MacLeod - Bass Meant Jazz【节目制作】方改则【Logo设计】刘刘(ins: imjanuary)【互动方式】小红书@不合时宜微博@不合时宜TheWeirdo商务合作可发邮件至 hibuheshiyi@126.com 或微博私信会员计划咨询可添加微信:hibuheshiyi3 或发送邮件至 hibuhehsiyi@gmail.com
Welcome to Part 3 of our deep-dive mini series on A24's hit film The Invite. (If you haven't caught parts 1 and 2 yet, go back and listen, and major spoiler alert!) In this episode, Lauren and Trey unpack the aftermath of the movie's failed sexual encounter, dissecting the precise moment Penélope Cruz's character looks at the central couple and delivers a devastating truth: "This isn't loving."Lauren, a certified holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach, shares her personal history with Esther Perel's groundbreaking text Mating in Captivity and connects the film's climax to bell hooks' philosophy that what many couples call "love" is actually mutual abuse and safety-seeking behavior.Trey and Lauren explore the exact signs that indicate it's more loving to consciously uncouple than to stay in a harmful relational container. Plus, they debate the film's ending: Did Seth Rogen and Olivia Wilde's characters blow up their lives for the better, or can a single moment of radical curiosity save a dying dynamic?Key TakeawaysDrawing on Katherine Woodward Thomas's Conscious Uncoupling and the writings of bell hooks, Lauren explains why staying in a mean-spirited, destructive relationship isn't "love." Cutting each other down or slamming doors is rarely about pure malice; it is usually an automated, childhood survival mechanism triggered by a somatic sense of threat.Lauren introduces Robert Sternberg's research on how human beings navigate romance. She explains how couples often plug their partners into pre-written narrative scripts (treating them like props or pawns) instead of relating to the living, breathing human in front of them.Referencing Esther Perel, Lauren breaks down the three specific scenarios where people feel most drawn to their long-term partner: when they are apart, when they see their partner in their element, and when their partner genuinely surprises them.If you and your partner are ready to stop operating out of old childhood survival scripts and learn how to communicate with radical curiosity, let's connect.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: https://www.sexedforyou.comSchedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultLearn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastImportant RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
The Invite Part 2: Why Caretaking Kills Sexual DesireWelcome to Part 2 of our multi-part deep dive into A24's film The Invite. (If you haven't listened to Part 1 or seen the movie yet, major spoiler alert!) In this continuation, Lauren and Trey take an honest, unflinching look at the four lead characters to ask the ultimate psychosexual questions: Would you date them? Would you sleep with them? And what do their dynamic flaws reveal about modern long-term relationships?Lauren and Trey dismantle the hidden poisons that quietly destroy intimacy inside monogamous marriages. They explore why "caretaking" acts as a massive anti-aphrodisiac and how women's "erotic self-focus" gets shamed in long-term dynamics.From confronting the toxic "supposed tos" of marital sex to analyzing Esther Perel's famous framework; we will have many marriages in our lives, whether with the same partner or new ones. This episode is a masterclass in stepping out of "poor me" victim triangles and choosing true relational flourishing.Key TakeawaysAnalyzing Seth Rogen's miserable, back-pain-riddled character, Lauren explains why stepping into a "sweet mommy" or caretaker role completely kills erotic charge. Drawing on Esther Perel's work, she breaks down why primal sexual desire cannot exist where maternal or paternal caretaking takes over.The Male Isolation Epidemic: Trey reflects on his own male friendships, prompting Lauren to address the tragedy of male social conditioning. They dissect how culture discourages emotional vulnerability between straight men, forcing husbands to rely on their wives as their sole source of emotional anchor, connection, and touch.Lauren unpacks Esther Perel's cornerstone philosophy. As humans evolve over decades, relationship containers must either be consciously rebuilt from the inside or uncoupled. Assuming a partnership will stay the exact same through parenthood, career shifts, and perimenopause is a recipe for resentment.If you and your partner are caught in a loop of rejection, caretaking, or living on relational crumbs, it's time to rewrite your agreement. Let's work together to build a relationship container based on mutual desire and authentic agency.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: https://www.sexedforyou.comSchedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultLearn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastImportant RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
Today, Louis speaks to actor, director and renaissance woman Olivia Wilde. Following the release of her film The Invite, the pair discuss the secrets to a healthy relationship, her unusual family name, and her experience in the 'garbage disposal' of tabloid media. Warnings: Strong language and adult themes. Links/Attachments: Film: The Invite (2026) https://a24films.com/films/the-invite Film: I Want Your Sex (2026) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt32332915/ Film: Booksmart (2019) https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81061054 Film: Don't Worry Darling (2022) https://www.netflix.com/title/81592177 Documentary: Louis Theroux: Inside the Manosphere (2026) https://www.netflix.com/title/81920687 Book: The Happy Prince and Other Tales, Oscar Wilde (1888) https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/31359/the-happy-prince-and-other-stories-by-wilde-oscar/9780241776285 Book: Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel (2006) https://www.estherperel.com/mating-in-captivity Podcast: Where Should We Begin? (2017 – present) https://open.spotify.com/show/3fKOTwtnX5oZLaiNntKWAV Advert: Dinner With the Russians, Cockburn's Special Reserve (1980) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17rOl7i55ag Book: Nineteen Eighty-Four, George Orwell (1949) https://www.orwellfoundation.com/the-orwell-foundation/orwell/books-by-orwell/nineteen-eighty-four/ Credits: Producer: Millie Chu Assistant Producer: Maisie Williams Production Manager: Francesca Bassett Production Assistant: Artemis Chu Music: Miguel D'Oliveira Audio Mixer: Tom Guest Video Mixer: Scott Edwards Executive Producer: Arron Fellows A Mindhouse Studios Production for Spotify www.mindhouse.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
This week on Agony Aunties, they answer a listener's heartfelt question about what happens when a relationship begins to feel different. After two and a half years together, her boyfriend seems less affectionate, leaving her questioning whether this is simply the natural evolution of long-term love or a sign that something deeper has changed. The Agony Aunties explore why we so often create stories in our minds before having the conversation we most need to have, how old attachment patterns can shape our fears in relationships, and why vulnerability - not mind-reading - is the key to real intimacy. They also share practical tools from Esther Perel, the Gottmans and Terry Real on bids for connection, love languages, and how to have difficult conversations with warmth rather than blame. If you've ever found yourself analysing texts, worrying you've become 'too much', or wondering how to reconnect with your partner, this episode is for you. Send us your Agony Aunties questions: jsamuelpod@gmail.com Or message Julia on Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe More from Therapy Works: Subscribe to the Therapy Works Substack for guidance on everyday struggles and access to Julia's monthly live webinar: https://juliasamuel.substack.com/ Grieving someone you love? Julia's Grief Works Support Programme offers structured, expert-led help, with 94% of people reporting feeling better after using it. As a podcast listener you can get 25% off plus a 30-day money-back guarantee here - www.griefworks.com/therapy Follow Julia on Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe for tips, tools, and conversations about navigating life's challenges. If you enjoy this episode, please consider rating, reviewing, and subscribing - it makes a big difference and helps others discover these conversations. If you need help finding a therapist, visit: The Samuel Therapy Practice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
We are recording from a brand-new space, and we have a very specific, mandatory homework assignment for you: Go watch the film The Invite.In this episode—part one of a multi-part deep dive—Lauren and Trey break down a cinematic masterpiece that had them squeezing each other's legs, cackling out loud, and talking straight through dinner on one of their top ten date nights of all time. With renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel serving as the film's consultant, The Invite is a masterclass in tension, long-term marital fatigue, and the boundary lines of modern desire.Key Takeaways:The Trope of the Therapist-Patient Romance: Penélope Cruz's character is a therapist dating her former patient (Edward Norton). Lauren unpacks why this highly eroticized trope is actually a massive clinical, ethical violation, discussing hierarchies of power, projection, and why AASECT enforces strict timeframes of up to 10 years before any such crossover can occur.The Liar vs. The Lie Invitee: Trey maps out how the married couple in the film operates entirely on "honesty when convenient." Lauren breaks down how partners routinely tell white lies to remain chosen, proving that the liar hides the truth because they can't handle their partner's reaction, while the "lie invitee" secretly plays along because they can't handle their own emotional response to the truth.Secrecy vs. Privacy: Where is the boundary line? Lauren defines a secret as the willful withholding of information that your partner has a direct right to in order to make informed decisions. Privacy, however, is a healthy boundary, like your personal fantasy life, solo sex practice, or your pin code, which does not affect the physical or emotional well-being of your spouse."Would You F*ck Yourself?": Directly addressing Esther Perel's famous clinical question, Lauren discusses why cultivating your own individual desirability, self-worth, and "fuckability" is entirely your job, not your partner's.If you are tired of surviving on relational crumbs and are ready to dismantle the "liar/lie invitee" patterns in your dynamic, let's build a stronger, more honest relational container together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: https://www.sexedforyou.comSchedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultLearn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastImportant RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
There is a version of love most of us were never shown. Not because it doesn't exist, but because the people who raised us hadn't found it yet either. Terry Real has spent his life showing us what that love looks like. He is a family therapist, the creator of Relational Life Therapy, the founder of the Relational Life Institute, and the bestselling author of four books including Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. His first book, I Don't Want to Talk About It, published in 1997, was the first book ever written on male depression. Esther Perel has said, ‘When I need advice, I call Terry Real.' He is also Robin's former therapist. He sat with her through one of the hardest chapters of her life. And this conversation is unlike any other in this series, because today Robin gets to flip the dynamic and ask Terry questions. In this episode, recorded in Boston, they explore what it actually takes to break the cycle of generational trauma and love better than we were taught. They talk about the Adaptive Child and the Wise Adult, why grandiosity feels good and what it costs you, and what it means to be the one person in a generation who turns and faces the flames. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at betterhelp.com/loveready. IN THIS EPISODE (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:23) Meet Terry Real (00:02:42) The Work That Saved Robin (00:06:38) Terry's Origin Story (00:12:52) Breaking the Cycle (00:16:14) Something Better Than This (00:26:15) Is It Too Late? The Wounded vs. Adaptive Child (00:33:41) Never Too Late (00:37:42) Men & Masculinity (00:49:10) Grandiosity, Contempt & Empowerment (01:01:33) Myths of Love & Defining It QUOTES “If you treat someone as they are, they will be as they are. If you treat someone as they ought to be, they may become who they ought to be." – Terry Real “The only thing that counts is love, and everything else is just BS” – Terry Real "Family pathology rolls from generation to generation like a fire in the woods until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow." – Terry Real "The relational answer to the question who's right and who's wrong is 'who cares?'" – Terry Real ABOUT THE GUEST Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist and the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). He's the author of four books, including the New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship and I Don't Want to Talk About It, the first book ever written about male depression. A former senior faculty member at the Family Institute of Cambridge and Clinical Fellow at the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry now trains therapists in his RLT method and leads workshops for couples and individuals through the Relational Life Institute. Instagram: www.instagram.com/realterryreal/ Website: https://terryreal.com/ GET THE REAL LOVE READY BOOK Real Love Ready: A Guide to Relational Literacy is a clear, compassionate guide to the knowledge, skills, and daily practices that help us love with greater intention, truth, and heart. https://geni.us/RealLoveReadyBook Follow Us: @realloveready @robinducharmeofficial @soulprintmediaco Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit andrewsullivan.substack.comStephen is a psychoanalyst and author. He used to teach clinical technique at the Institute of Psychoanalysis, and also psychoanalytic theory at University College London. He's the author of The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves, and his latest book is Love's Labor: How We Break and Make the Bonds of Love.For two clips of the episode — on what psychoanalysis is really for, and the benefits of friendship vs romantic love — head to our YouTube page.Other topics: born in Gary, Indiana; his birth defect requiring many surgeries; his Jewish family emigrating from Eastern Europe; college at Berkeley and Oxford; arrested at the Chicago Dem convention; befriending Anna Freud; Sigmund and his studies in hysteria; loneliness in adolescence; how falling in love is very different than love; my own psychoanalyst of 25 years; trauma from my childhood; the losses that marriage entails; breakthroughs after breakdowns; detaching from the idea of yourself; legal marriages vs psychological ones; falling back into trauma because it's familiar; the power of love's precarity; victimology; Philip Roth's “the ecstasy of sanctimony”; lessons from Othello; surrender vs submission; Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity; seeking traits in a partner that mirror a dysfunctional parent; how sex is different for men and women; gay promiscuity; male-male marriages lasting the longest; HIV and the threat of deportation; dating with HIV in the ‘90s; and how to be a better listener.Browse the Dishcast archive for an episode you might enjoy. Coming up: David Thomson on cinema in US history and culture, John O'Sullivan on conservatism, Robby George on natural law, and Megan McArdle on pretty much anything. Please send any guest recs, dissents, and other comments to dish@andrewsullivan.com.
I believe this is the most-listened-to episode ever on Pulling the Thread. It's a conversation that I had with therapist Esther Perel in 2023 that still stands to this day—but that's Esther for you. I think it also highlights how difficult it remains for many of us to get comfortable with conflict in our relationships, and to disagree and even fight, productively, with someone else. Whether you tend to avoid friction or go up in flames—or have a partner who does one or the other—I think you'll find Esther's framing compelling. For the show notes, head to my website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Curso NO Convencional de Comunicación en Pareja: https://www.hombrealfa.top/como-responder-cuando-tu-mujer-te-pide-explicaciones/ *¿Qué aprenderás en este episodio?: 1) Por qué la mayoría de hombres confunde lo que genera compromiso en una mujer con lo que realmente genera deseo sexual. 2) La razón por la que ser un ""buen marido"" (estable, presente, atento) puede estar apagando la vida sexual de tu pareja sin que te des cuenta. 3) Qué dice la investigación de Esther Perel sobre por qué el deseo sexual necesita distancia, incertidumbre y misterio para mantenerse vivo. 4) Qué es el mate choice copying y por qué la percepción social de tu valor como hombre influye directamente en el deseo que tu mujer siente por ti. 5) En qué consiste la regla de los dos tercios y cómo aplicarla en tu día a día para reconstruir la tensión sexual dentro de una relación larga. En el episodio de hoy analizamos una de las situaciones más silenciadas y más frustrantes de la vida en pareja: por qué tu mujer ha dejado de desearte sexualmente, aunque lo hagas todo bien. Además veremos por qué las excusas habituales sobre el estrés, el cansancio o los cambios hormonales se usan con demasiada frecuencia para tapar el problema real, cuál es la mentalidad de fondo que está matando el deseo en millones de matrimonios, y qué principios concretos puedes empezar a aplicar para volver a ser percibido como un hombre deseable dentro de tu propia relación. PD. Minicurso NO convencional sobre comunicacion en pareja: https://www.hombrealfa.top/como-responder-cuando-tu-mujer-te-pide-explicaciones/
Ask Us A QuestionYou're watching everything they say and do. Reading into every word, every tone. They're showing up, taking accountability, doing the things you asked for, and somehow you feel more panicked, not less. Underneath it all is one quiet question: is this real, or am I about to get hurt all over again?This episode comes from a listener question on one of our trust videos: "When someone has genuinely changed and is taking responsibility now, how do you let them back in enough to even see it? And how do you know when it's actually safe to risk trusting them again?"One promise up front: we're not going to answer "should you trust them." We're going to look at how trust actually works so you can find your own next steps.We open with Esther Perel's line that cultivating trust requires "millions of micro risks," then unpacks why most of us have trust completely backwards. It's not something your partner earns by behaving. It's not something they can give you, no matter how consistently they show up. "I can't trust you anymore" really means "I don't feel safe risking with you anymore," and that changes everything about what to do next.In this episode:Why the more they do the right things, the more panicked you can feel, and what that's actually telling youThe driving metaphor that explains why your partner's mistakes feel malicious but yours feel forgivableHow waiting for them to "pay enough penance" quietly turns into a power and control dynamic that breaks trust furtherBrooke's question about "once a cheater, always a cheater," and what that advice costs you when everyone around you is saying itWhy the real question isn't "can I trust them" but "do I trust myself to see clearly and speak up"What's happening to your relationship while you wait for perfect conditions (hint: it's not staying neutral)Next week we're answering your questions about trust. Send them to us on social media or email love@stacibartley.com.Ready to stop spinning in your head at 2am? The Trust Sprint starts July 27: two weeks of live coaching, guided practice, and real conversations to help you rebuild trust one small risk at a time. Secure your spot here: https://stacibartley.mysamcart.com/rebuild-trustTimestamps: 03:01 Listener Question Setup03:57 What Trust Really Is05:07 Plumbing Metaphor Detour07:13 Disappointment And Double Standards10:55 Trust Is Something You Give12:29 Acknowledgement Before Rebuilding13:52 Penance And Power Struggles17:43 Both Partners Must Risk20:51 Self Trust Vs Outside Noise23:43 Once A Cheater Always A Cheater26:13 Outsourcing Agency And AI27:24 People Can Change For Real28:42 Change Needs Safety29:22 Trauma Is Not Destiny30:39 Everyone Has A Rap Sheet31:07 Rebuild Trust With Micro Risks33:24 Stop Punishment And Rumination36:17 Self Trust Is The Guarantee41:28 Co Create By Starting Small43:50 Begin Anywhere Together45:58 Trust Sprint Invitation
Jason reviews The Invite, directed by Olivia Wilde, who also stars alongside Penélope Cruz, Seth Rogen and Edward Norton. The film follows a couple whose dinner invitation to their neighbours takes a wildly unexpected and life-changing turn.Léa Seydoux and Tony Leung Chiu-wai lead Silent Friend, the latest feature from On Body and Soul director Ildikó Enyedi. Spanning three eras, the film weaves together interconnected stories linked by a single tree.Following its international premiere at the prestigious Rotterdam Film Festival, The World Came Flooding In uses virtual reality to transform flood-damaged homes into remarkable memory spaces, connecting the stories of people whose lives have been changed forever by water.Presenter, Jason Di RossoProducer, Sarah CorbettSound engineer, Alysse SymonsArts editor, Rhiannon Brown
What happens when an ordinary dinner party becomes a reckoning for a marriage? That question drives “The Invite,” a new film directed by and starring Olivia Wilde. The film follows a couple whose tense evening with their transgressive upstairs neighbors forces them to confront questions about desire, jealousy and whether it's possible to have a new relationship with the same person. We'll talk with Wilde and co-star Edward Norton about their six-week workshopping process, working with relationship expert Esther Perel and the freedom to improvise and shape a story whose ending audiences are already debating. Guests: Edward Norton, actor, "The Invite" Olivia Wilde, actor and director, "The Invite" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ready to take a deep breath and find some inspiration? A brand-new season of Making Space with Hoda Kotb is officially here. Every Wednesday, Hoda sits down for open, soul stirring conversations with people who have walked through fire and come out stronger. This season, she's diving into what it really means to pivot, heal, and find your purpose. Expect raw, real-life wisdom on navigating big transitions and the unexpected moments of grace that connect us all. Featuring incredible guests like Mariska Hargitay, Jamie-Lynn Sigler, Mark Nepo, Esther Perel, Laverne Cox, and many more. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Ready to take a deep breath and find some inspiration? A brand-new season of Making Space with Hoda Kotb is officially here. Every Wednesday, Hoda sits down for open, soul stirring conversations with people who have walked through fire and come out stronger. This season, she's diving into what it really means to pivot, heal, and find your purpose. Expect raw, real-life wisdom on navigating big transitions and the unexpected moments of grace that connect us all. Featuring incredible guests like Mariska Hargitay, Jamie-Lynn Sigler, Mark Nepo, Esther Perel, Laverne Cox, and many more. To follow now, just search ‘Making Space with Hoda Kotb' wherever you're listening. New episodes drop every Wednesday. swap.fm/l/mswhkfd Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Ready to take a deep breath and find some inspiration? A brand-new season of Making Space with Hoda Kotb is officially here. Every Wednesday, Hoda sits down for open, soul stirring conversations with people who have walked through fire and come out stronger. This season, she's diving into what it really means to pivot, heal, and find your purpose. Expect raw, real-life wisdom on navigating big transitions and the unexpected moments of grace that connect us all. Featuring incredible guests like Mariska Hargitay, Jamie-Lynn Sigler, Mark Nepo, Esther Perel, Laverne Cox, and many more. To follow now, just search ‘Making Space with Hoda Kotb' wherever you're listening. New episodes drop every Wednesday. swap.fm/l/mswhkfd Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Ready to take a deep breath and find some inspiration? A brand-new season of Making Space with Hoda Kotb is officially here. Every Wednesday, Hoda sits down for open, soul stirring conversations with people who have walked through fire and come out stronger. This season, she's diving into what it really means to pivot, heal, and find your purpose. Expect raw, real-life wisdom on navigating big transitions and the unexpected moments of grace that connect us all. Featuring incredible guests like Mariska Hargitay, Jamie-Lynn Sigler, Mark Nepo, Esther Perel, Laverne Cox, and many more. To follow now, just search ‘Making Space with Hoda Kotb' wherever you're listening. New episodes drop every Wednesday. swap.fm/l/mswhkfd Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Ready to take a deep breath and find some inspiration? A brand-new season of Making Space with Hoda Kotb is officially here. Every Wednesday, Hoda sits down for open, soul stirring conversations with people who have walked through fire and come out stronger. This season, she's diving into what it really means to pivot, heal, and find your purpose. Expect raw, real-life wisdom on navigating big transitions and the unexpected moments of grace that connect us all. Featuring incredible guests like Mariska Hargitay, Jamie-Lynn Sigler, Mark Nepo, Esther Perel, Laverne Cox, and many more. To follow now, just search ‘Making Space with Hoda Kotb' wherever you're listening. New episodes drop every Wednesday. swap.fm/l/mswhkfd Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
From Brooklyn Beckham and Nicola Peltz-Beckham to Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, we've watched family rifts play out publicly. But behind the headlines is a dilemma many people face in their own lives: what happens when the person you love doesn't fit into the family you come from? This week, Kate Langbroek sits down with world-renowned relationship therapist Esther Perel to discuss one of the most emotionally complicated tensions of adulthood — choosing your partner while trying to maintain your relationship with your family. Why do some parents struggle to accept their child's partner? Why can falling in love feel like betrayal? And when family conflict erupts, how do you protect your relationship without losing the people who raised you? Together, Kate and Esther unpack family estrangement, difficult in-laws, loyalty, intimacy, and the relationship patterns we inherit from our parents — and whether it's possible to build a marriage that looks different from the one we grew up with. Support independent women’s media and get our biggest offer of the year. Subscribe here for 30% off your annual Mamamia subscription. Code applied at the checkout. Offer ends June 30. You can now watch our show in full length video on the Apple Podcast app - make sure your phone is up to date and we can't wait for you to see. CLICK HERE. What To Listen To Next: Listen: Georgie Tunny & Rob Mills: The Marriage And Baby Conversation Everyone Keeps Asking About Listen: The Love Of My Life Was My Best Friend. Then She Died At 34 Listen: Jeni Haynes Created 2681 Personalities To Survive Her Abusive Father Listen: Kate Ceberano Has Spent 40 Years Trying To Figure Herself Out Listen: Maisie Peters Has Moved On From Mid Men Listen: EXCLUSIVE: Stephanie Browitt Survived The White Island Volcano. This Is Her Mother’s Story Too. Listen: Sophie Smith Lost Her Premature Triplets And Then Her Husband. This Is How She Kept Going Listen: Patrick Brammall Turned Down The Devil Wears Prada 2. Then He Got A Call Discover more Mamamia Podcasts here. Watch No Filter on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram here. Follow us on TikTok here. Feedback: podcast@mamamia.com.au Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice message, and one of our Podcast Producers will get back to you ASAP. Rate or review us on Apple by clicking on the three dots in the top right-hand corner, click Go To Show then scroll down to the bottom of the page, click on the stars at the bottom and write a review. CREDITS: Guest: Esther Perel Host: Kate Langbroek Executive Producer: Bree Player Audio and Video Producer: Julian Rosario Social Media Producer: Olivia Colman Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land on which we have recorded this podcast. Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
With all the disruption, uncertainty, and rapid change happening in our world today, especially with the rise of AI and new technologies, it can be easy to overlook one of our most fundamental needs: human connection. On this episode, I talk about why connection matters more than ever right now, how it impacts our well-being, relationships, and performance, and what we can do to stay connected to ourselves and each other in a world that often pulls us apart. Resources: Mike Robbins Website (Newly Updated) Mike Robbins Blog Mike Robbins Podcast Mike Robbins on LinkedIn Mike Robbins YouTube Channel Mike Robbins on Instagram Mike Robbins on Facebook Mike Robbins on TikTok Mike Robbins on X Mike Robbins on BlueSky We're All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Oprah podcast interview with Esther Perel
Sezonul de podcast despre relații creat în colaborare cu Pagina de Psihologie a adus în conversație subiecte pe care mulți dintre noi le poartă în tăcere: cum iubim, cum pierdem, cum ne vindecăm, cum ne regăsim pe noi înșine în mijlocul relației cu celălalt și cum navigăm împreună o lume care ne invită la tot mai multă izolare. Astăzi ne vedem live, în ultima întâlnire de dinainte de vacanța de vară, în cadrul episodului 12 din acest sezon de podcast. Invitatul nostru de astăzi este Gáspár György: psiholog clinician, terapeut relațional și autor, cunoscut pentru contribuțiile în promovarea sănătății relaționale și a inteligenței emoționale în spațiul public din România. Este co-fondator al comunității Paginii de Psihologie și al Academiei de Terapie Imago din România.Alături de Paul Olteanu și Gáspár György adresăm teme precum: relația cu pierderea și cum încheiem ce a rămas neînchis relația părinte-copil când copilul este deja adult parenting și ce se întâmplă cu relația de cuplu după apariția copiilorintimitatea în cuplu și dificultățile în a iniția intimitatea sexuală relațiile de cuplu după 60 de aniResurse menționate:Cartea Dansul Furiei, de Harriet Lerner Cartea Dansul Fricii, de Harriet LernerCartea Thinking in Systems, de Donella MeadowsCărțile lui John GottmanEpisod produs și distribuit cu susținerea PPC România.Acest episod a apărut inițial live pe YouTube. "(00:00) Intro""(02:54) Încheieri și pierderi: de ce așteptăm un closure care nu vine""(03:51) Câte feluri de pierderi există și cum le integrăm""(06:50) Fiecare zi care se încheie e, de fapt, o pierdere""(08:28) De ce orice alegere bună conține și o pierdere""(13:09) Pierderile cer energie și de ce regretăm mai mult ce n-am făcut""(17:24) Ce se întâmplă cu rolul cuiva în sistem când dispare""(18:42) Pierderea ambiguă: prezent fizic, absent emoțional""(21:08) Terapia individuală și granițele relației de cuplu""(24:14) Sistemul e mai puternic decât individul (Thinking in Systems)""(28:17) Cum schimbi un sistem: întregul peste suma părților""(30:04) Homeostazia: sistemul caută stabilitate, nu sănătate""(31:43) Dansul furiei: manevre, contra-manevre și schimbarea reală""(35:11) Relația la distanță e o pierdere?""(38:32) Dor, dorință și dorul de ceea ce n-am trăit""(43:45) Pierderi ambigue: dispariție și ghosting""(45:24) Parenting: cum reconstruiești conexiunea cu copilul""(48:24) Dozarea reconectării și demnitatea copilului""(53:35) Divorț, regret și împăcarea cu o decizie luată demult""(59:16) Relația cu părinții: de la părinte-copil la adult-adult""(01:06:48) Copilul parentificat și etapele vieții de familie""(01:11:17) Cuibul gol și grija pentru propriii părinți""(01:17:34) De ce contează nu-ul copilului (contravoința)""(01:24:03) Autonomie vs. independență""(01:26:28) Cum îți susții partenerul prin perioada de pierdere a părinților săi""(01:30:45) Degradarea părinților și propria îmbătrânire""(01:42:36) Dating și vitalitate după 60 de ani""(01:47:35) Intimitatea sexuală în relațiile de durată: rușinea de a iniția""(01:50:42) A-ți dori ceea ce ai deja (Esther Perel)""(01:55:56) Ce ține atracția vie: spațiu, joacă, atingere""(02:00:14) Homeostazie și adaptare hedonică în cuplu""(02:06:48) Curajul de a rămâne viu și relațiile începute după 30""(02:12:25) Întrebări de final: un cuvânt despre familie, prietenie și cuplu"
The razor sharp Richard E Grant and the charismatic Claire Foy lift the lid on their new dark-comedy film, Savage House.Relationship guru and the founding mother of conscious uncoupling, Esther Perel celebrates her 20th Anniversary Edition of her book Mating in Captivity.Watch all episodes of TFI Unplugged on the Virgin Radio UK YouTube channel. Just search Virgin Radio UK on all of our socials. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sheila ist Gynäkologin, Bestsellerautorin und Gründerin einer telemedizinischen Online-Praxis. Ihr neues Buch heißt „Light My Fire" und sie beschäftigt sich darin mit allerlei Faktoren rund um unsere Lust. Ich wollte von ihr wissen, warum so viele Paare sexuell unerfüllt sind, obwohl sie einander lieben und wovon unsere Lust beeinflusst wird. Wir sprechen über sexuelle Knoten in Beziehungen, das Prinzip von Gas und Bremse unserer Libido, es geht um Anatomie, Scham als Schutzfunktion, Testosteronmangel – und warum sexuelle Erfüllung aus ihrer Sicht ein unterschätzter Friedensbeitrag für die Welt wäre. WERBEPARTNER & RABATTE: https://linktr.ee/hotelmatze MEIN GAST: https://instagram.com/drsheiladeliz/ DINGE: Alle Bücher von Sheila de Liz: https://rowohlt.de/autor/dr-med-sheila-de-liz-21740 Hormone Online Clinic: https://hormoneonlineclinic.com/de/ Esther Perel: https://estherperel.com/about Alexander Stößlein - Produktion Maximilian Frisch - Produktion Lena Rocholl - Redaktion Mit Vergnügen - Vermarktung und Distribution MEIN ZEUG: Hotel Matze live - https://eventim.de/artist/hotel-matze/ Meine Fragensets: beherzt.net/hotel-matze Das Beste des Tages App: https://dasbestedestages.de/ Mein Newsletter: https://matzehielscher.substack.com/ YouTube: https://bit.ly/4fhY2rV TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@matzehielscher Instagram: https://instagram.com/matzehielscherHotel LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/matzehielscher/ Mein Buch: https://bit.ly/3QXmCVc
The stress, fear, and uncertainty of the world right now are seeping into our closest relationships. When collective pain goes unprocessed, it often shows up as distance, resentment, or disconnection with the people we love most — at a time when we need closeness more than ever. In this conversation, Esther Perel helps us understand how stress and trauma drain our relationships of aliveness and desire, why resentment grows when life becomes all duty and efficiency, and how to stay connected and loving in hard times. - Why your relationship isn't broken — it's exhausted- How resentment grows when efficiency replaces intimacy- Why desire disappears under responsibility - Why your partner can't be your whole village- What “behind every criticism is a longing” really means About Esther: Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How's Work? Follow We Can Do Hard Things on: Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/wecandohardthings
Crafting out a breakup text, planning dates, or just creating an entirely new romantic companion: AI has ushered in a new frontier for modern dating. Gwyneth Paltrow sits down with famed psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel to talk about the ways AI is affecting modern dating and relationships, what trust in a relationship means today, and how the institution of marriage has evolved over the past few decades. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
"Anything will work again, as long as you unplug it long enough, even you." This simple principle serves as the heartbeat for reclaiming a life dedicated to authentic human depth. In a world optimized for digital efficiency and "frictionless" convenience, the true currency of a meaningful life remains the unscalable power of independent thought, presence, and intentional effort. In this episode of Gratitude Through Hard Times, Ashleigh Spiliopoulou explores the growing cultural movement of "Friction Maxing" — the intentional reintroduction of effort, inconvenience, and presence into our daily routines. Ashleigh shares insights from her month-long experiment with deliberate inconvenience, including rawdogging a 24-hour flight to Australia and ditching her headphones on daily runs. Together, the conversation dives into the rise of mainstream AI infiltration, the psychological dangers of AI Psychosis and FOBO (Fear Of Becoming Obsolete), and why healthy friction is ultimately the secret weapon for nervous system regulation, creative clarity, and deep human connection. 10 Memorable Quotes: "In a world of frictionless design, what if we friction maxed a couple things to add a little bit of meaning back into life?" "The more efficient and outsourced we get through really well-designed technology, the more it feels like life is kind of evaporating from us." "Why would I think for myself when AI could think for me?" "Frictionless isn't bad in every scenario." "The process was so beautiful, and then the result was so satisfying." "AI has so much potential and brilliance for so many areas of our lives, but it shouldn't be designed to replace our brain." "It's not necessarily teaching people something new. It's reminding them, this is how you used to live." "First we need to unlearn." "It's rebellious. It's so fun." "Anything will work again, as long as you unplug it long enough, even you." 10 Key Takeaways: The Origin of Friction Maxing: Exploring Catherine Jezer-Morton's January 2026 article in The Cut magazine that sparked a mainstream conversation on adding intentional effort to life. The Falsehood of Frictionless Relationships: Reflecting on Esther Perel's cultural work and how eliminating interpersonal friction directly fuels the loneliness epidemic. The Threat of Cognitive Decay: How outsourcing daily thought processes to technology results in a tangible feeling of your brain disintegrating. Understanding AI Psychosis: Confronting the psychological danger of over-trusting automated companions until you completely lose trust in your own mind. Dismantling FOBO: Analyzing the "Fear Of Becoming Obsolete" and how surrendering creativity and discernment to AI attacks our baseline human self-worth. The No-Headphone Run: Why leaving audio stimulation at home forced a deeper focus on surroundings, leading to a fresher, more imaginative brain. The Gesture of Friendship: How exchanging a frictionless voice note for a handwritten letter to Boston reestablished a visceral, emotional sense of connection. Rawdogging a Flight: The profound creative clarity that emerged from enduring a 24-hour flight to Australia completely detached from movies, podcasts, or Wi-Fi. Unlearning for a 180 World: Recognizing that surviving the modern technological landscape requires us to actively unlearn automatic habits to relearn how to think. Architected Attention: Understanding that tech companies deliberately engineer frictionless designs solely to fork over your attention, money, and will. About our Guest: Ashleigh Spiliopoulou is a freelance journalist and health writer specializing in women's health, travel, and culture. A former heptathlete, her words have appeared in prominent publications including Condé Nast Traveller, Marie Claire, Women's Health, Stylist, Dazed, and Glamour. She is also the Co-Founder of Sunnie Runners, an inclusive London-based run club, and SOLA, a supper club designed for women looking to build personal and professional connections. Built on a foundation of storytelling, her work advocates for the vital necessity of using creative friction to protect human meaning and connection.
World famous relationship therapist Esther Perel has been studying relationships for over 40 years. She joins Nicole to share the most common problems couples seek therapy for, the 3 types of conflicts we fight over, and how to productively resolve them. Esther discusses how to get over "icks" while dating, and challenges us to ask ourselves: what "icks" would people find in you? They also explore exactly why modern dating feels so incredibly tough right now, the fact that therapy speak has gone mainstream thanks to shows like The Sopranos, and whether that's a good or bad thing. Plus, Esther shares a wild story about her first therapy session between a man and his AI girlfriend, and she totally flips the script on Nicole to ask the ultimate question: Would you date you?Celebrate the 20th anniversary of her groundbreaking book, Mating in Captivity.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast by checking out our sponsor:• Chime: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Ze is dé goeroe op relatiegebied en heeft ons veel geleerd. How to Mate in Captivity? En kun je je inleven in degene die in een monogame relatie vreemdgaat? We hebben het deze aflevering natuurlijk over Esther Perel. Lies was geen mooi mens terwijl ze in een mooie setting was: ze kon niet genieten van het optreden omdat er iemand voor haar horizontaal filmde. Aaf was ook geen mooi mens, omdat ze onrecht voor haar neus zag maar er niets over zei. De culturele genezing gaat dieper in op relaties. Zo is er het boek Liefde, als dat het is van Marijke Schermer. We zien Paul McCartney zich terugtrekken uit de wereld in de documentaire Man on the Run en zien partners elkaar bespieden in de film Guernsey. Wil je de hele aflevering luisteren? Krijg nu 2 maanden Podimo voor slechts €1,-
Send us Fan MailWhat happens when the need to feel wanted meets technology designed to never say no?In this episode, we explore the sharp intersection of validation, self-worth, and AI relationships. As artificial intelligence becomes more personal, affirming, and emotionally convincing, we look at why some people become vulnerable to outsourcing connection, comfort, and worth to something that cannot truly know them.This episode is not about fearing technology. It is about recognizing the human need beneath it and choosing real connection before artificial validation becomes easier than growth. Follow the need you keep outsourcing. It may be the doorway back to yourself.Episode References:1. HER (2013) Film 2. My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could I Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel 3. Men Are Sharing Difficult Parts Of Modern Dating, And As A Woman, I Never Thought Of Some Of TheseHere are related episodes that build on today's conversation:#501 | Why Dating in the Modern Age Can Feel Impossible - https://apple.co/4uIBd5f #448 | What REAL Validation Looks Like - https://apple.co/4hECPHQ #486 | The Difference Between Self-Worth and Self-Belief - https://apple.co/4cSbArALearn more about:
Newly minted ‘Sports Illustrated Swimsuit' issue cover star Tiffany Haddish joins to discuss the honor and weighs in on a few hot topics, including Kevin Hart and Katt Williams' squashed feud. Esther Perel stops by to talk about the 20th anniversary rerelease of her bestselling book, ‘Mating in Captivity.' Rick Ross shares details on his third book, ‘Renaissance of a Boss: Notes from a Creative Reawakening.' And, author Shannon Garvey discusses her debut novel and the latest book from Jenna's imprint Thousand Voices, ‘June Baby.' Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this episode Cath answers two listener questions. The first question is a short question related to attachment and trauma in our younger years. Have a listen to episode 14 which gives a broad overview of trauma and helps provide context for the first question. Cath will be doing a more detailed view on this material (from episode 14) in an upcoming episode.The second question relates to feeling seen and heard in our adult love relationships and how this is impacted by various factors, how our inner children play a role and some suggestions for how this need can be met. Cath shares a deeply personal anecdote to illustrate how and why different partners have different levels of comfort with discussions around emotions and how emotional neglect plays a huge role in this.The book she references is 'Mating in Captivity' by Esther Perel.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This episode started with something I heard on a podcast during my morning commute home from the gym — and I couldn't let it go. Esther Perel asked a live audience: have you ever looked at something broken in the world and thought someone should fix it — and then realized that someone should be you? That question really made me think. And I think it might do the same for you. In this episode, I take you through six powerful why questions that create an arc from awareness to ownership to commitment. Whether the "broken thing" you see is in your organization, your community, or the broader world — these questions will help you move from observer to owner. Because seeing it is step one. Owning it is where the real leadership begins. You'll walk away with: A framework of six why questions to surface what you care most about fixing Clarity on your resistance — and how to work through it A challenge to name the one next step you'll take You are the magic. Now go own it! Enjoy! Angie Robinson Links + Ways to Connect: Show Notes: Episode 225 Show Notes Discover Your Personality Style Quiz [download] Subscribe to my newsletter! Angie Robinson Coaching Website Schedule a free Discovery Call Angie Robinson LinkedIn Angie Robinson Coaching Instagram Angie Robinson Coaching Facebook
On today's episode Grace leads our conversation about why we cheat from the perspective of a psychotherapist, Esther Perel, and how to heal from heartbreak. This episode will challenge your existing belief system on cheating. We discuss how to not get stuck in the victim mentality by flipping the we mentality of most relationships into the me mentality. This is a re-released episode from the podcast [#14] and will be part one in a two part series.
In today's episode, we're having one of the most tender and necessary conversations we've ever had on the podcast. If you're navigating the aftermath of an affair whether emotional, physical, or somewhere in between this episode is a safe place for you to land. We're talking about what healing looks like, what leading psychologists say about betrayal trauma, and how to move forward with clarity, compassion, and emotional grounding.✨ Episode OverviewHealing after an affair is not simple. It's not linear. And it's not something you “just get over.” In this episode, Keana walks you through the five stages of healing, how betrayal impacts your mind and body, and what it looks like to rebuild your life whether you choose to stay or go.This episode blends trauma‑informed insight, psychological research, and gentle, practical tools to help you reconnect with yourself and begin the slow, steady process of becoming whole again.
SYNOPSIS:This episode explores the idea that creativity is fundamentally embodied rather than purely mental. Gary describes the body as an “interface” or instrument through which creative energy flows, emphasizing that without the body, expression itself wouldn't be possible. Creativity is framed as a collaborative process – between body, mind, and a larger “divine” or universal intelligence – rather than something generated solely by individual effort. Gary and host, Ali Mezey, challenge the common mind-body split and reframe the body as an active participant in creative expression, not just a vessel.A central theme is the role of somatic practices (movement, breathwork, dance) in unlocking creativity. Gary shares his personal journey from disconnection and shame around the body to rediscovering it as a source of intelligence and creative flow. Through somatic work, he was able to release stored tension, trauma, and self-judgment, which had previously blocked his creative expression. The conversation highlights how presence in the body – rather than over-identification with thoughts or past experiences – can open access to what is often described as “the zone” or a flow state.The discussion also touches on identity, trauma, and how experiences are “held” in the body. While both Ali and Gary acknowledge that emotions and trauma can manifest physically, they question simplistic or overly rigid interpretations of this idea. They emphasize the importance of approaching the body with curiosity and presence rather than trying to “fix” it. The body is seen as intelligent and self-organizing, capable of healing when given the right conditions, though not everything can or needs to be resolved.Finally, the conversation addresses the practical side of creativity – discipline, skill, and sharing work with others. While creativity may flow naturally, bringing it into the world often requires structure, support, and persistence. Gary reframes discipline as something that can be supported through somatic awareness and addressing internal resistance (like the inner critic). Ultimately, creativity is portrayed as both a deeply personal and relational process – one that involves not only expression but also connection, refinement, and, for many, the courage to be seen. MORE ALI MEZEY:Website: www.alimezey.comBody Mapping Video LibraryPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: www.constellationarts.comConstellation Work is a highly effective method to delve into healing transgenerational trauma, unburdening consequent generations from the influences of traumas which can be transmitted epigenetically.MORE GARY GOTTSELIG:GARY BIO: Gary Gottselig is a Creative Ignition Coach, author of #1 Amazon Best-selling poetry book, A Legacy of Rainbows and creator of Unleashed Somatic Dance.He works with writers, poets, and creatives who know they have a book inside them but keep getting stuck. Through somatic practices, breathwork, and movement, he helps them burn through self-judgment so they can finally write the book that's been waiting to come through them.He is deeply passionate about embodied liberation and how it unlocks deeper creativity and authentic self-expression.GARY LINKS:STARTS TOMORROW (April 28th) SO JOIN NOW!Blaze Across the Page: 7 Day Challenge to Burn through Self-Judgment So You Can Start Writing(Launches Tuesday, April 28th. Doors close Friday, May 1st at midnight)Book a Creative Breakthrough Call with GaryFor writers who've been putting their book off and are ready to startInstagram: @garyunleashedGet a Copy of His Poetry BookIf you would like to receive a link to watch/listen to Gary's guided somatic process to unleash more of your creativity, please write: connect@thebrilliantbodypodcast.com and we'll send it! Due to copyright issues, we couldn't do it otherwise.More show notes on the way!
This week, we're sharing a compilation of some of our favorite segments from previous episodes on the incredible power and unique challenges of healing in relationships.You'll hear from Thomas and expert guests with backgrounds in couples therapy, trauma healing, and parenting, including: Couples therapist and bestselling author Dr. Terry Real, world-renowned therapist, author, and speaker Esther Perel, and psychologist, author, and conscious parenting expert Dr. Shefali.Tune in for deep wisdom and powerful anecdotes on relational healing, attunement, how our connections to other people impact our healing journey, and what to do when our wounds come into play in our relationships.01:41 - Dr. Terry Real on how our relationships help us transform trauma10:28 - Thomas Hübl on creating attunement and safety with partners18:18 - Esther Perel and Jack Saul on healing trauma through intimacy and vulnerability33:44 - Thomas Hübl on the spirituality of communication44:23 - Dr. Shefali on overcoming old patterns and sharing your deepest feelings✨ Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube:
In Part 2 of this two-part episode, Marta reflects on what her voice memo exchanges with her brother revealed about family, memory, and identity.She explores the realization that while siblings may share the same home, they do not share the same experience, and how this understanding opens the door to deeper compassion and healing.Drawing from the work of Gabor Maté and Esther Perel, Marta unpacks how adaptation shapes personality, how family systems influence who we become, and why understanding context is essential for moving beyond shame and self-judgment.This is a tender and honest conversation about reclaiming your story, integrating younger parts of yourself, and holding both love and truth at the same time. A reminder that healing is not about perfecting the past, but about returning to it with awareness and compassion.You are allowed to trust your own experience. You are allowed to tell the truth about what shaped you. And you are allowed to bring every part of yourself forward as you continue becoming.
Ce este infidelitatea dincolo de aspectul fizic și cum ne afectează încrederea și identitatea? Oana Calnegru, psihoterapeut relațional și formator la Pagina de Psihologie, ne ajută să înțelegem mecanismele infidelității și ale pierderii în cuplu.Oana Calnegru este psihoterapeut, supervizor și formator în psihoterapia familiei, cu o practică centrată pe terapia relațională. Coordonează de 10 ani proiecte psihoeducaționale la Pagina de Psihologie, inclusiv programul de formare Parenting Masterclass. Este mama a doi adolescenți și trăiește o relație de cuplu de peste 20 de ani.Acesta este episodul 8 dintr-un sezon dedicat relațiilor, realizat în parteneriat cu Pagina de Psihologie, despre:Cum definim infidelitatea — acorduri explicite vs. implicite și impactul secretelorDe ce apare infidelitatea — nevoi neîmplinite, crize identitare, obligația de a fi fericițiEsther Perel vs. John Gottman: mister sau prietenie în cuplu?Pierderea relațională și etapele doliului (Kübler-Ross și David Kessler)Pierderea ambiguă — relația continuă dar ceva esențial s-a schimbatCum decidem: reconstrucție sau despărțire?Cele trei tipologii de cupluri după infidelitate: suferinzii, constructorii, exploratoriiRepararea sănătoasă vs. capcana dezechilibrului de putereResurse menționate:Esther Perel — psihoterapeut, specialist în dinamica erotismului și infidelitățiiJohn Gottman — psiholog, cercetător în relațiile de cupluElizabeth Kübler-Ross — psihiatru, autoarea modelului celor cinci etape ale doliului (On Death and Dying, 1969)David Kessler — Găsirea sensului după pierderea unei persoane dragiDaniel Siegel — psihiatru, modelul integrării (între haos și rigiditate)Helen Fisher — antropolog, cercetătoare în tipologiile de cuplu post-infidelitateIntră live alături de noi în înregistrarea episoadelor și primește răspunsuri la ce te interesează cel mai mult. Vino în Comunitatea Membrilor Mind Architect. Episod produs și distribuit cu susținerea PPC România. "(00:00) Intro""(02:52) Cine este Oana Calnegru și temele episodului""(04:41) Ce este Infidelitatea: acorduri explicite, implicite și percepții diferite""(06:36) Nevoia de exclusivitate și spectrul trădării""(10:49) Infidelitatea prin ochii celui trădat, dimensiuni culturale și de ce (nu) vreau să știu""(15:43) Când conversația despre granițe nu a avut loc niciodată""(19:51) De ce apare infidelitatea: nevoi nerostite și breșe relaționale""(21:50) Polarizare extremă în cuplu: autonomie vs. transparență totală""(24:26) Secretul ca motor al trădării""(27:45) Când acordurile explicite eșuează: erodarea încrederii""(29:00) Problemele perene în cuplu - John Gottman""(35:01) Esther Perel: de la breșe la altă relație, nimeni nu poate fi un sat întreg""(37:54) Infidelitatea: alegere conștientă, simptom relațional sau criză identitară?""(42:25) Mister sau prietenie în cuplu? Perel vs. Gottman""(46:08) Daniel Siegel: dansul sănătos între apropiere și distanțare""(48:26) Pierderea: ce moare în relație când apare infidelitatea""(51:41) Doliul și etapele sale""(56:25) Acceptarea, găsirea sensului și de ce doliul nu curge liniar""(01:00:46) Povestea lui Paul: doliu întârziat, doi ani mai târziu""(01:04:26) Semnificația atașamentului: de ce unele pierderi dor mai mult""(01:07:02) Cum știm că suntem pregătiți pentru o nouă relație""(01:10:09) Doliul ca loialitate: alegerea de a rămâne în durere""(01:14:40) Decizia după infidelitate: de ce să nu decidem în criză""(01:18:13) Dimensiunea pragmatică: copii, finanțe, personalitate""(01:22:38) Apariția copilului ca pierdere ambiguă în cuplu""(01:28:06) Ce este pierderea ambiguă și cum se resimte în relație""(01:33:32) Relațiile îmbătrânesc și ele: transformare, nu declin""(01:37:34) Cauze moderne: presiunea perfecțiunii și 'merit mai mult'""(01:42:52) Repararea sănătoasă: ce are de făcut fiecare partener""(01:45:54) Cele 3 tipologii post-infidelitate și eșecurile în reparare""(01:50:26) Unde o găsim pe Oana"
More than a decade ago, the film Her imagined a love story between a human and an artificial intelligence. Today, it no longer feels like fiction. In this special live taping of Where Should We Begin? from the Vox Media Stage at SXSW, Esther Perel is joined by Academy Award–winning filmmaker Spike Jonze to explore what happens when technology captures our affection. Drawing on a recent therapy session on the podcast with a man in a romantic relationship with his AI companion, Esther brings the audience into a deeply human story—one that raises new questions about intimacy, attachment, the state of "love," and what it means to feel seen. What happens when the being that understands you best isn't a human being? As AI moves closer into our emotional lives, this conversation invites us to consider not just what technology can do, but what it awakens within us. Producer's Note: When our anonymous guests do a session with Esther for the podcast, it is an act of generosity for everyone who listens. These sessions are meant not only to support the people in the room with Esther, but all of us who learn from their stories. Our stories have many chapters, and what you hear is just one moment in someone's journey. So even though the sessions are anonymous, please remember that real people are behind them and they may be reading your comments. Also, please join me on Entre Nous, my new home on Substack for anyone who wants to live, love, and work with more connection and imagination. I invite you to sign up and become a free or paid member at estherperel.substack.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
In this week's News Roundup, Bridget and Producer Mike cover the tech news stories you might have missed. Afroman wins lawsuit brought against him by cops who raided his house. https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/music/story/2026-03-19/afroman-verdict-defamation-invasion-of-privacy-lawsuit Afroman's video "Lemon Pound Cake" https://youtu.be/9xxK5yyecRo?si=P7JWA54zklLCWVnM Afroman's video "Will You Help Me Repair My Gate" https://youtu.be/oponIfu5L3Y?si=cgLpG_T6A-JPBbW- Buffy the Vampire Slayer reboot cancelled in strangely cruel and surprising manner by Hulu. https://variety.com/2026/tv/news/buffy-reboot-dead-hulu-sarah-michelle-gellar-chloe-zhao-1236692284/ Nicole Kidman glides behind Jeff Bezos and his girlfriend at the Academy Awards, stealing all attention: https://www.threads.com/@rachelarich/post/DV8aFlADT6Q?xmt=AQGzqaZ-H3abT0EW2lfRTONANK8dwciIx844aGm48QTIrQ Former Rolling Stone editor Noah Schactman lands new job at NYT, despite controversial role in misleading reporting to protect a personal friend. https://www.cjr.org/laurels-and-darts/noah-shachtman-nyt-rolling-stone-baltimore-banner-tristan-king-missing-st-helens-oregon-corruption-scandal-mayor.php Columbia Journalism Review analysis on Rolling Stone's inaccurate story about campus rape at University of Virginia: https://www.cjr.org/investigation/rolling_stone_investigation.php Celebrated relationship therapist Esther Perel has a guest on her podcast who is in a relationship with his AI chatbot: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast Mark Zuckerberg finally calling it quits on the Metaverse (mostly): https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/19/technology/mark-zuckerbergs-metaverse-vr-horizon-worlds.html Playwright Jeremy O. Harris called Sam Altman a nazi at a party: https://www.complex.com/pop-culture/a/tracewilliamcowen/jeremy-o-harris-openai-sam-altman-nazi Specifically, Friedrich Flick: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friedrich_Flick Let us know what you think by emailing hello@tangoti.com or leaving a comment on Spotify. Pre-order our forthcoming audiobook about AI and intimate relationships at LoveAtFirstPrompt.com ! Follow Bridget and TANGOTI on social media! || instagram.com/bridgetmarieindc/ || tiktok.com/@bridgetmarieindc || youtube.com/@ThereAreNoGirlsOnTheInternet || bsky.app/profile/tangoti.bsky.social See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Esther Perel is a psychotherapist known for her innovative approach to relationships. In this episode, Adam and Esther discuss the relational baggage we all carry through our lives and into our work, and how our differing personalities and relationship styles can affect collaboration and culture. They break down the differences between relationship- and task-oriented personalities, and consider the fine balance between risk-taking and rule-following that makes for a healthy relationship with ourselves and others.Host & GuestAdam Grant (Instagram: @adamgrant | LinkedIn: @adammgrant | Website: https://adamgrant.net/)Esther Perel (Instagram: @estherperelofficial | Substack: Entre Nous with Esther Perel | Website: https://www.estherperel.com/)For the full text transcript, visit ted.com/podcasts/worklife/worklife-with-adam-grant-transcriptsLearn more about our flagship conference happening this April at attend.ted.com/podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Today we're playing you an episode of Smart Girl Dumb Questions, a show hosted by journalist and frequent Open to Debate guest moderator Nayeema Raza. She speaks to Andrew Ross Sorkin about some highly-debated topics, from a looming market crash to AI battles to … whether we actually learned anything from past recessions (especially that one in 2008!). Get more Smart Girl Dumb Questions on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or wherever you get podcasts. Nayeema has compelling conversations with Mark Cuban on if billionaires can save us, Paul Krugman about whether we're counting the economy wrong, Neil deGrasse Tyson and Bill Nye about what happened to expertise and science guys and Esther Perel on why it's harder to fall in love in 2020s vs the 1980s. Guaranteed to make you laugh & learn every Tuesday. For more insightful conversation, visit Open to Debate's Substack—share your perspectives and subscribe to our weekly newsletter for curated insights from our debaters, moderators, and staff. Follow Open to Debate on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, X, Facebook, and TikTok to stay connected with our mission and ongoing debates. We also highly recommend Andrew Ross Sorkin's bestselling book 1929. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
If you keep attracting the wrong people or sabotaging good relationships, this masterclass reveals why.Lewis brings together the most powerful insights from Esther Perel, Jillian Turecki, Matthew Hussey, Baya Voce, and Mel Robbins to show you how your unhealed wounds are running your love life.You'll learn why you chase what hurts you, how your nervous system sabotages connection, and what it actually takes to stop repeating the same painful cycles. The path to lasting love starts with understanding yourself first, learning to regulate your emotions, and choosing partners who can help you heal rather than partners who keep you broken.Make Money Easy: Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer LifeThe Greatness Mindset: Unlock the Power of Your Mind and Live Your Best Life TodayThe Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest LivesThe School of Greatness: A Real-World Guide to Living Bigger, Loving Deeper, and Leaving a LegacyIn this episode you will:Identify what role you played in past relationship failures instead of only blaming your exRecognize when your childhood wounds are triggering fights about cardboard boxes or daily frustrationsUnderstand why depending on your partner for happiness creates catastrophic disappointmentDiscover how play and humor keep relationships alive when everything else feels deadTransform conflict into healing by learning to tolerate uncomfortable emotions in your bodyFor more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1891For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Esther PerelMatthew HusseyMel Robbins Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.