Donny on Marriage

Don't let false humility get in the way of your connection. 

Here's a way to validate your spouse even when you think their position is completely invalid.  

Here's a habit for couples to hear each other's reality - even when, at first - it seems ridiculous.

Find out whether you've been treating your spouse like a dog... and what to do about it.

Here's how to get a fix-it person to buy into validation.

Here's a habit for couples to complete their reconciliation and get back into connection.

Here's a reality check and strategies to give couples hope when they're feeling contempt and beyond repair.

Here's a strategy that will help couples go from hurtful fights to connectful ones.  

Here's how couples connect even when their needs are not met.

Here's a habit for busy couples who are trying to find time to connect.

Here's an emergency strategy to use when your spouse's brakes fail and he or she can't "follow the prompts."

Here's a rule to consider when you're really upset and want to make sure that you'll share your hurt in a way that can lead to connection.

Here's a habit of those who, even in the throes of the darkness of conflict, know how to find their way back to connection.  

Here's a rule - articulated by a young guitarist - on how to stick with the difficult work that it takes to get to connection.

Here's a rule for dealing with defenses that threaten to block connection.

Here's a rule for dealing with negative feelings that will steer you away from the "canvas" and towards connection.

Here's a rule for relationships on how to - and how not to - engage conflict so that you can be validated and achieve true connection.  

Here's a rule for initiating critical conversation that gives them the best chances to climax in connection.