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3lationship Goals is hosted by Shayla, Shantay and James and the 3 of them are involved in a closed polyamorous relationship. They highlight the dynamics of polyamory by shamelessly discussing the nuances of sharing their partners... physically, emotionally and sexually. Unapologetically sharing the…

Shantay, Shayla and James


    • May 3, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
    • monthly NEW EPISODES
    • 1h 4m AVG DURATION
    • 42 EPISODES


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    Episode 42: Leveling Up Your Communication Skills

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2021 59:35


    In this episode, Shayla and James discuss a few ways to go about upping  communication skills in your poly relationship to resolve a potential issue quicker and more efficiently. Then they move one to give some pointers for those of you looking to have your first threesome. Come prepared, they drop all types of knowledge!

    Episode 41: The Dating Life #SingleCouple

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2021 57:22


    In this episode, James and Shayla talk about what the dating life has looked like for them and how they plan on finding a girlfriend to add to their relationship. James then leads the conversation about some tips and signs of a healthy sex life. Get your notepads out for this one!

    Episode 40: Keeping the Foundation Strong Post-Break Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2021 56:06


    In this episode, James and Shayla go into depth about what kept the foundation between the two of them strong throughout their time as a triad as well as when they were struggling to keep their triad afloat. The topic takes a turn for the sexy during Kinky Cravings, as the couple discusses keeping their sex life exciting between them after having 3somes on a weekly basis for the last 2 years! Tune in for another exciting and informational episode!

    Episode 39: The Break Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2021 72:40


    In this episode, James and Shayla provide insight on why their relationship with Shantay ended and reflect back on major turning points in the relationship. The conversation turns kinky when Shayla shares a new sexual experience they had...it involves a strap on. Listen for more details!

    Episode 38: 2021- Moving boxes & Wedding Bells

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2020 64:26


    In this episode, the triad shares a few milestones they're experiencing going into 2021 and how they've been dealing with them; including, Shantay moving back in and the big wedding day for the marriage of Shayla and James! It's a swirl of emotions, growth and maturity in this episode, don't miss out!

    Episode 37: Poly Meets BDSM

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2020 72:14


    In this episode, the triad is accompanied by Ceasar and Robin, a couple that practices BDSM in their relationship everyday. Oh and they also practice polyamory, looking to eventually add an additional partner to their already unique dynamic. The couple and triad also go into detail about what goes on in the bedroom and how they apply BDSM activities...and punishments.

    Episode 36: Moving as a Unit

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2020 70:28


    In this episode, the trio took it LIVE on IG to discuss how they go about eliminating negative competition amongst the relationship and turning it into elevating one another. Then the convo turns dirty when they each reminisce about what movie makes them pause and break out the toy (or lotion) to get off. If you missed the live, then you'll DEFINITELY want to listen to this one!

    Episode 35: Introducing Poly

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2020 60:56


    In this episode, Shantay, Shayla and James go into detail about how to introduce polyamory to someone who may not be familiar with the lifestyle -- whether it be friends, co-workers or even acquaintances. The conversation turns kinky while they go over some threesome positions that are acclaimed to be the best. Well we'll see...

    Episode 34: The Polyamorous Man

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2020 82:06


    In this episode, Shantay, James and Shayla get into a deep conversation about the role and responsibilities of a poly man in a relationship. The topic gets more kinky when they each talk about a few items left on their sexual bucket list. Listen up, this conversation will definitely peak your interest!

    Episode 33: Why Poly Is Trending?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2020 55:00


    In this episode, Shantay, Shayla and James go through a few reasons why polyamory, specifically Black polyamory, is currently trending. Then James leads Kinky Cravings with a discussion about times when each of them were completely wrong about an expected sexual encounter. Was it better or was it worse than expected?

    Episode 32: Being Poly Respectfully

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2020 73:34


    In this episode, the trio talk about how they go about being respectful of the friends and family involved in their life that aren't polyamorous. For Kinky Cravings, Shantay lead a discussion about a few interesting sexual experiences each of them have had.

    Episode 31: The Women of Polyamory

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2020 65:23


    In this episode, the hosts of 3lationship Goals dive into a deep discussion regarding women of the polyamory community and some of their roles in a poly relationship. Then for Kinky Cravings, they reminisce on each of their first impressions after the first time they all had sex together.

    Episode 30: Managing Emotions

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2020 60:09


    In this episode, the trio goes into deep conversation about how each of them avoids loosing themselves in the relationship through managing their own emotions and mental health. Things lighten up when they go on to talk about a few kinky sex games to get done during this quarantine. You'll want to make sure the kids aren't home...

    Episode 29: Overcoming Obstacles

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2020 70:39


    In this episode, the trio gets personal and shares a HUGE obstacle they had to get past that almost ended their relationship. The conversation gets kinkier when they talk all about how sex works in their triad. You'll want to turn this one up...

    Episode 28: Polyamory's Future

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2020 58:19


    In this episode, Shantay, Shayla and James converse about various legal complications that currently come along with the dynamic and society's steps to changing them for the better. Afterwards, they talk about the top few celebrities they'd get in an "entanglement" with in the bed.

    Episode 27: Living Black and Poly

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2020 67:52


    In this episode, the trio dives into the discussion of being Black in the poly community, including various stigmas and obstacles that come up. For Kinky Cravings, they define some sex terms you may have heard before, but never knew what they were and didn't have the guts to ask! Bring your pencil and notepad for this one...

    Episode 26: Triads-Poly or Not?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2020 65:39


    In this episode, the trio goes into discussion about the stigma in the poly community regarding closed triads and if they should be considered polyamory. Then they get creative for Kinky Cravings with a raunchy game of This or That.

    Episode 25: You Still Mad or Nah?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2020 66:13


    In this episode, the trio talks about how to come together and nurture the relationship after a big fight or even days of arguing amongst each other. James also dives into the topic of sex addiction and how it does AND does NOT relate to polyamory for Kinky Cravings. Things get deep...

    Episode 24: Polyamory Fears

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2020 64:36


    In this episode, the trio gets deep and puts their relationship fears out on the table to discuss. They also hit on some other general fears of a polyamorous relationship. Things take a turn for the kinky while the triad discuss how sexual role playing can be even more amusing with 3 people involved. You'll be surprised what comes to mind...

    Episode 23: Our Poly Reality

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 67:31


    The trio is back at ya! In this episode, Shantay, Shayla and James go in depth about their own reality of their closed triad along with some general realities of polyamory overall. Then things get hot and steamy while they discuss ways to celebrate National Masturbation Month! Make sure you have something to take notes with...

    Episode 22: Growth and Change

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2020 57:49


    In this episode, the throuple talk about the ways each of them have evolved since beginning their polyamorous relationship together. Then they move on to discuss a particularly deceptive sexual trait and if they've ever done it. They all aren't so innocent...

    Episode 21: When Kids Are Involved

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 23, 2020 63:41


    In this episode, the trio discuss their personal experiences of being in a poly relationship when a child is involved and how it might play out when they want to expand their poly family. For this week's Kinky Cravings, the three of them rate themselves 1-10 on the sex scale and explain why. This gets interesting...

    Episode 20: New Partner, Same Rights?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2020 56:57


    In this episode, Shantay, James and Shayla discuss whether or not if a new partner being introduced to an established relationship should have all the same rights as the partner(s) already involved. They then go on to debunk a handful of myths regarding the sex life of polyamorous people. These myths get a little wild...

    Episode 19: Relationship Agreements

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2020 59:47


    In this episode, the triad contemplate the value of having a relationship agreement and what it would include. For this week's Kinky Cravings, they talk about the first time each of them ever had an orgasm and how. This one gets pretty detailed...

    Episode 18: The Love Language Test

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2020 59:52


    In this episode, Shayla, James and Shantay reveal their results from the Love Language test and discuss how each of them give and receive love in their polyamorous relationship. For Kinky Cravings, they move on to the non verbal cues each of them give each other to let them know it's time to fuck. Listen in for the details...

    Episode 17: Poly Pitfalls

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2020 52:39


    In this episode, the trio talks about common pitfalls within a polyamorous relationship, some of which they've even experienced themselves. Afterwards, they move on to Kinky Cravings and the topic...porn. Specifically, what each of their go-to porn category is and why. That conversation brings about a couple of questions the trio have for YOU. Press play so you can give them your answer...

    Episode 16: Living Together & Conflict Management

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2020 70:23


    In this episode, the triad goes into deep conversation about some of the triumphs and tribulations they faced once they all decided to take the next step of moving Shantay in. Then they go on to talk about how they keep sex fun during one on one sessions now that they're used to having threesomes on the regular. Psshh must be nice...

    Episode 15: Ditching Monogamous Habits

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2020 67:01


    In this episode, the trio discusses which monogamous habits they each had to eliminate to help make sure their polyamorous relationship stayed strong. Then they go on to play a classic game of Would You Rather?, but with a kinky twist. Listen and play along...

    Episode 14: The Success Rate of Polyamory

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2020 53:45


    In this episode, the triad hit on the topic of the success rate amongst non monogamous relationships, along with a few other surprising poly statistics. They also dive into which sexual acts are guaranteed to make them cum...over and over again. You won't want to miss this one...

    Episode 13: Valuing Each Other

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2020 56:04


    In this episode, Shayla, James and Shantay take the time to talk about what they each value about each other and their current polyamorous relationship. Then things get kinky when they each confess whether or not they've ever fucked a co worker...at work. This gets good...

    Episode 12: When Someone Switches Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2020 58:04


    In this episode, the triad discuss when one partner doesn't want to be polyamorous anymore and how it affects everyone involved. Then for this week's Kinky Cravings, they talk about which type of sex they each prefer...A, B or C. Which one will they those?

    Episode 11: A Disagreement vs. An Argument

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2020 67:18


    In this episode, Shantay, Shayla and James talk about how they go about preventing a disagreement amongst the three of them turning into a relationship-ending argument. Then for this week's Kinky Cravings, they discuss how sexting and dirty talking can or cannot spice up intimacy in the bedroom. You won't want to miss this one...

    Episode 10: Triads and Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2019 65:00


    In this episode, the trio discuss what their long term commitment goals are, including how marriage is considered in a poly relationship. They also go on to talk about how they set the standards for their own idea of good sex. Listen to find out...

    Episode 9: Dr. Dunn Talks Self Respect & Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2019 52:57


    In this episode, the trio are joined by Dr. Valarie Dunn, author of Pieces of the Perfect Man: A Woman's Guide to Peace vs. A Piece. Dr. Dunn provides her insights into polyamory based her expertise as a life and relationship coach. They also go into the topic of teaching and learning how to have satisfying sex. Is it possible or nah...Learn more about Valarie Dunn and her newly published book:valariedunn.comIG: valariedunn_FB: @valariedunnlifecoachOrder her book @ http://www.amazon.com/author/valariedunn

    Episode 8: Supporting Other Poly Dynamics

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2019 67:10


    In this episode, Shantay, Shayla and James discuss some of the backlash they've witnessed towards other relationship dynamics amongst the polyamorous community. They also let us in on how they went about developing intimacy and sexual chemistry. You won't want to miss this...

    Episode 7: Finances in Polyamory

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2019 71:36


    In this episode, the triad highlights the pros and cons of balancing a third income into a polyamorous relationship. Then for this week's Kinky Cravings, the ladies hit on the topic of if size matters in the bedroom and James adds his two cents about if all women feel the same in bed. This one, you don't want to miss...

    Episode 6: Poly Holidays

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2019 67:14


    In this episode, Shayla, Shantay and James talk about how being in a polyamorous triad is going to change their traditional holiday dynamics. The three also share each of their kinkiest sexual experiences they've had inside and outside of their poly relationship. Tune in to hear more...

    Episode 5: The Transition

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2019 72:20


    In this episode, the trio goes into exactly what it was like transitioning from a monogamous lifestyle into a polyamorous one. Guests, Jaida and T, also join them to converse about how sex drive affects the relationship as well as their own thoughts and experiences in the poly world as a lesbian couple. It gets interesting to say the least...

    Episode 4: Coming Out

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2019 71:51


    In this episode, they discuss coming out as polyamorous to their families, including how it went and their fears of reactions. The ladies also go into what they do in the bedroom to please their man. And it gets a little kinky...

    Episode 3: Double Standards and Stereotypes

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2019 65:52


    In this episode, the trio discusses common double standards and stereotypes amongst different poly dynamics. They also get raw and raunchy while opening up about each of their sexual fantasies. You won't want to miss a minute of this...

    Episode 2: Poly Types & Terms

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2019 60:55


    In this episode, Shayla, Shantay and James discuss the dynamics of dating in the polyamorous community and explore the different types of non-monogamous relationships that exist outside of a closed triad. Listen in to hear them also discuss the possibility of bringing someone else into their bedroom...

    Episode 1: Our Polyamorous Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2019 60:35


    Shantay, Shayla and James open up about their experiences being in a polyamorous relationship. In this episode, they share what it's like being in a closed triad for the first time and they let us into their bedroom to dig into what feeds their sexual cravings. Listen for much more...

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