Critical Love Theory

Tim here. Britt brought a brilliant point. It really made me think about my male privilege and how I don't about things like the pain of mother giving birth as an act of love. Nonetheless, there is pain in that process. Tap into the episode. Give us a review for a shout out on the next episode.

Britt here! We are discussing if you Valentine's Day should be a big deal in a relationship or not. Timothy tried to play me about how I say, "Valentimes Day" and made me feel bad for saying our (his) Mama is greedy. I know what I said. You be the judge. What is your opinion? Do you celebrate Valentine's Day?

Tim here! They day after I proposed, I felt this extreme weight on my shoulders. I felt the weight of the responsibility to protect. I knew moving forward that I would have to bring my best. That was something I hadn't ever done. Tap in as we explore, protecting your partner.

Brit here. The end of the year means the holidays, and if you’re anything like us that means spending time with the people we cherish, and the ones who try you. In this episode, we highlight the importance of the people in your life instead of the presents with some tips and tricks on dealing with our partners folks. Especially, that auntie who is always in the business. Don’t forget to review & subscribe to Critical Love Theory with Brit and Tim.

Brit here. How many times have you heard the phrase “I wish you would...” I’m sure you can fill in the blank. So often we envision our partners in one way but many times that vision is incredibly far from reality. In this episode we discuss when we should and shouldn’t expect our partners to change about themselves, and how to navigate that conversation. Don’t forget to leave a comment, write a review, and share if you like what you hear. This is Critical Love Theory with Britt & Tim.

Britt here. Who gained some weight during the pandemic? Us! Who wears comfortable clothes everyday? Us! You ever peeped your partner and thought, "Damn, you fine!" You may not feel that way all day everyday but there are ways you can sustain attraction as time passes and we most certainly have. Leave a comment, write a review, and share this thang. This is Critical Love Theory with Britt and Tim.

Tim here. Marriage & Committed relationships are already complex but when you take your private relationship into the public space, it can get more tricky. Who is tastygirl46? Why is MandingoWarrior69 in your comments? Moreover, what is the harm in going to look at your exes profile when you and your partner are not seeing eye to eye? In this two part episode, we will unpack it, so leave a comment, write a review, and share this with a friend. This is Critical Love Theory with Britt and Tim.

Britt here. What comes to mind when you see these infamous movie titles; Boyz n the Hood, Set It Off, Lean On Me? We each have a special connection to black culture. Black cinema is not only a huge part of Black culture but building community as well. Take a hour or two to wind back the clock and watch some of the classics on our list and discover a little more about your partner along the way. Tell us what your favorite classic Black film is, leave a comment, and write a review. This is Critical Love Theory with Britt and Tim.

Tim here. We are excited to be tapping in with new episodes for CLT. Today, we are chopping it up with our good friend, Candace Hairston (Higher Ed Professional at the University of Chicago) as we discuss whether or not marriage works for millennials and generation Z the way it worked for granny and nem. Candace leads us through open-relationships, polyandry, polygamy, and arranged marriages while uncovering what might work for you opposed to what society says. Press play, leave a comment, and write a review. This is Critical Love Theory with Britt and Tim.

Should people have secrets in a marriage? I thought a marriage was about being one and us knowing everything about each other. Well, not for us. Tap in with us and find out why this is not the case.

Question, Would you give you partner a hall pass? If you do not know what a hall pas is, there is the definition. Hall Pass- Permission given by your lover to fool around with another person outside your relationship. Are you going for it or nah?

In relationship, it is important to have some boundaries around certain things. For us, friends are one of those things. Friends are sometimes the only reminder that you are an individual within a marriage so, you need that human connection with other people without your spouse being around. Just make sure you aren't telling all of your business to your friends without your partners consent. We are learning this.

Sometimes, you have to ask yourself if you relationship is a partnership or a possession. As we have navigated our marriage, we recognized that language like "that's my wife" is tough because Brittany doesn't belong to me. She chose to be with me and I have to honor that consistently and vice versa. When you truly give up your fears and desire to control your partner you go a lot further in your intimacy.

Thanks for joining us! We are really about to get underway with season two in which we will be discussing various topics from within the context of marriage. Season one was all about the courting process. This is all about the "We are married. Now what?" sector of our relationship. But first, we want to share Brit's rapid fire questions so, you all can get to know her a bit better. Stay tuned for 8/12 when we will be releasing more episodes. As always, thanks for your support.

Thanks for joining us! We are kicking off the second season of "Critical Love Theory." This season will be a lot more familial and community oriented. We will have guests and give you all more opportunities to know us on a deeper level.

(Tim, here.) I was very honest and transparent in this episode. Who out there has been hurt? I know have been hurt. So much so, that I once blocked myself for the possibility of it. I later learned that I could never be the person I want to be without exposing myself to the possibility of being in pursuit of love. In this episode, we discuss red flags, vulnerability, sexual assault, control issues, and how not let hurt dominate all of your emotions.

Tim here! I will be honest. I learned some things that helped me grow in our relationship from this conversation. It sucks to hear what you are doing wrong but you need to grow your capacity and have the ability to give your partner your best. Ask yourself, what is the reason for reciprocity? Is it to feel like you aren't being exploited? Is it power and control? Assess your understanding of reciprocity is key. Tap in with us as we go through it all!

If your meal prep time is 45 minutes you don't start putting it on your plate after 20 minutes. Simply, it's not ready yet. At times, we do the same with people who aren't ready for a relationship and it leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Enough is enough! How do you bring yourself to this point and not become a victim of your wants, desires, and feelings when you know the person just isn't where they need to be? You see the potential. You feel the butterflies but you also smell the BS and know they aren't worthy of your time right now. How do you hold out? Let's talk about it.

At times, marriage can be difficult. Being unaware of your sexual self prior to marriage can create a barrier between you and your partner. For those who were fortunate enough to have abstained from sex before marriage, great for you! However, this episode may not apply. Either way, you might get something out of it so, click that play button! Comments are welcomed.

*Trigger Warning* Sexually Assault. Have you ever dated someone (or are you dating someone) who has been through a lot but you didn't find out that they had a lot of baggage until you were already super invested? In this episode, we dive deep into understanding how and when we would ask some of those tough questions related to family. Having answers to these tough questions early on can potentially alleviate some of the stressful experiences that you might run into when the person is comfortable and willing to share. An important of self-care is knowing what you are getting into before you get into it.

It is important to asking yourself, What are the essential things that I need from a partner to be able to build a solid union? Often, as young people, we conflate standards and preferences when they are two different things. Rock with us as we talk through what worked for us while determining what we needed from each other and/or any potential candidate that we were considering during our single years.

"Timothy here. I was very inconsistent. But I was still alway valuable. It takes a lot of bumping your head to realize that you or the person you are with is not ready for committed relationship. You may like the idea of a long-term situation but do you have a long-term lung capacity?"

Who would have thought that a single phone call would turn into a 13 year journey? Often, couples have differing understandings of how they met. For us, it was a funny and unforgettable experience that we can seem to shake! Follow us, as we reminisce about the sacrifice, growth, and pain that goes into learning love someone while learning to love yourself.