Podcasts about Mama

Do you ever feel like your emotional state rises and falls with how your kids are doing? When they're happy, you feel okay. When they struggle, you panic. When they mess up, you feel like you failed. Maybe you're constantly worried about their future. Maybe their behavior feels like a reflection of you. Maybe your peace depends on whether or not they're okay. In today's episode, we continue our series on the sneaky things that steal our joy by talking about one of the most tender and dangerous idols for moms: the idol of our kids. Not loving them. Not caring deeply. Not wanting what's best for them. But placing our identity, security, and worth in how they turn out. We talk about how this shows up when: • You feel responsible for your child's emotions • You fear their mistakes more than you trust God • You define your success by their behavior • You try to control outcomes instead of steward hearts • You lose yourself in motherhood This episode will help you: • Recognize where fear is driving your parenting • Understand why control feels loving but isn't • See how making kids the center creates pressure instead of safety • Learn how to release your child back to God • Begin parenting from trust instead of anxiety If you've been feeling overwhelmed by your child's choices, behavior, or future — this episode will help you see what's really happening underneath it. Your child was never meant to be your source of peace. God is. And when you let Him be, both you and your child can breathe again. love, Brittany    Ready to become a peaceful wife and Mama? Sign Up for the Pain to Peace Academy HERE. Come say hi and join the Morning Mama Facebook Group! I would love to hear your story and know your name.    ALL THE LINKS FOR ALL THE THINGS! Morning Mama Website Pain to Peace Academy Morning Mama Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Find a Restoration Therapist Come say hi by emailing hello@morningmamapodcast.com

640 - Carl Carlton - She's a Bad Mama Jama (She's Built, She's Stacked): Chris, Nick, and Andy are joined by Tommy Lombardozzi from the Jacked Kirby podcast to break down "She's a Bad Mama Jama (She's Built, She's Stacked)" from the self titled 1981 album by Carl Carlton. 

Qué Temas Quieres Escuchar Toca y Hablemos. TE LEO.Hay decisiones de salud que generan más preguntas que respuestas. Cuando se habla de terapia hormonal, lo más común es escuchar que debe usarse por poco tiempo, en dosis mínimas o que, incluso, es mejor evitarla. Pero rara vez se explica el porqué.Esta falta de contexto deja a muchas personas con dudas reales sobre qué es lo más adecuado para su cuerpo y su bienestar a largo plazo. La conversación sobre hormonas y envejecimiento suele estar llena de mensajes contradictorios: lo que se repite, lo que se normaliza y aquello que casi nunca se aclara.En este episodio de “Cómo Curar” abrimos un espacio de reflexión para mirar estas decisiones con mayor conciencia y profundidad. Hablamos sobre el envejecimiento acelerado, los distintos métodos disponibles, y cuál podría ser la verdadera razón para considerar la terapia hormonal, abordando aspectos que pocas veces se explican con claridad y que merecen una mirada más informada.En este episodio abordamos:• El uso del apoyo hormonal y el tiempo recomendado.• La relación entre la suspensión de la terapia hormonal y el envejecimiento.• La controversia sobre tratar únicamente síntomas.• Los pellets o chips hormonales y otras alternativas.Disfruta de este episodio y muchos más contenidos en ComoCurar.com, en YouTube: Cocó March N.M.D., o en tu plataforma de podcast favorita, donde puedes escucharlos de forma gratuita.#CocoMarch #TipsCocoMarch #DoctoraCocoMarch #TerapiaHormonal #SaludHormonal #Hormonas #Envejecimiento #Estrogeno #Testosterona #ChipHormonal #PelletsHormonales #SaludYBienestar #SaludFemenina #SaludMasculina #EquilibrioHormonal #HormonasYSalud #DrAlbertoBali #Temporada4 #Episodio146 #ComoCurar

This week in The Mama's Den, actress, storyteller, and new mama Kellee Stewart joins us for a deeply honest conversation about faith, timing, motherhood, and trusting your own path.After a seven-year relationship ended in her 30s, Kellee made the powerful decision to freeze her eggs — a choice that would shape her future in ways she never expected. Thirteen years later, through what she describes as a divine nudge delivered through her mother, she embraced motherhood on her own terms - at 50 years old - and is now navigating life as a newborn mom.We talk about heartbreak, hope, egg freezing as an option every woman deserves to understand, and the beauty of building a family in a way that feels right for you.It's vulnerable, inspiring, faith-filled, and full of the real talk you expect from The Mama's Den.Keep up with Kellee Stewart on IG: @kstew222The Mamas are building our community and ways to keep in touch with you. Share your email address here: https://tinyurl.com/MamasDenMake sure you connect with our Mamas on IG: @themamasdenpodcastAshley - @watermeloneggrollsCodie - @codieco Melanie - @melaniefiona Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mama, the Bible may not tell us all of the details about how to be a worker in our home.. Or does it? Join us as we begin the Wise Woman Believes, our encouraging devotional book dedicated to helping you learn how to establish a joy-filled Christian home for your family!"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:" Ecclesiastes 3:1✨ A Sweet Invitation for You, Mama ✨ As we move toward 2026, the Lord is inviting us to go deeper—away from social media and into meaningful connection with you inside the Radiant Mom Sisterhood.

Was sind für uns die wichtigsten Punkte in der Kindererziehung, oder besser: in der Kinderbegleitung? In dieser Folge starten wir bei eingeschnappten Kühen und der Frage, ob unsere Kinder neben all den anderen Terminen und Verpflichtungen auch noch Skiunterricht brauchen – oder ob nicht auch der Schneepflug komplett ausreichend ist. Wir sprechen aber auch über Trauer und den Verlust der Oma – und wie Jakob damit umgeht, wenn seine Tochter sagt: „Darüber will ich nicht reden.“ Muss man nachbohren? Oder ist Nicht-reden auch eine Form von Verarbeitung, gerade beim ersten Verlust? Am Ende geht's aber vor allem um Selbstständigkeit, Vertrauen und darum, wann wir eingreifen und wann wir besser aushalten. Und damit herzlich willkommen in der Skischule Ananas! Du möchtest mehr über unsere Werbepartner erfahren? Hier findest du alle Infos & Rabatte: https://linktr.ee/beste_vaterfreuden Du möchtest Werbung in diesem Podcast schalten? Dann erfahre hier mehr über die Werbemöglichkeiten bei Seven.One Audio: https://www.seven.one/portfolio/sevenone-audio

¿Estamos preparados para que un algoritmo decida sobre nuestra salud? En este episodio, analizamos cómo la Inteligencia Artificial está redefiniendo la detección del cáncer de mama, pasando de una lectura manual tradicional a una "Radiología Aumentada". A partir de mi reciente titulación en "Artificial Intelligence for Breast Cancer Detection" por la Johns Hopkins University, desglosamos la evidencia clínica más reciente y los retos éticos que nadie te cuenta: El impacto en los hospitales: ¿Cómo el ensayo MASAI ha logrado reducir la carga de trabajo de los radiólogos en un 44.3%? Tecnología Longitudinal: Exploramos modelos como LongiMam, capaces de analizar el historial temporal de una paciente (de T-1 a T-4) para detectar cambios sutiles que un ojo humano podría pasar por alto en una sola sesión. Los Puntos Ciegos: Por qué la IA todavía tiene dificultades con patrones como el Carcinoma Lobulillar Invasivo y qué estamos haciendo para solucionarlo. Marco Legal y Ético en la UE: La IA en radiología es considerada de ALTO RIESGO. Analizamos la responsabilidad legal del binomio médico-IA y por qué la supervisión humana sigue siendo el pilar insustituible del sistema. Este no es un debate sobre tecnología reemplazando humanos, sino sobre cómo la tecnología potencia el juicio clínico para salvar más vidas. Sobre Sergio Santamaría Ruiz: Profesional titulado en IA, Ciberseguridad y Ética Digital por instituciones como Stanford, IBM y la University of Pennsylvania. Mi labor se centra en la formación y consultoría para implementar estas innovaciones de forma segura, disruptiva y ética en el sector público y privado. 🚀 ¿Buscas una ponencia o formación experta para tu centro médico o evento? Contáctame en: 📩 Email: contacto@sergioruizia.com 🌐 Web: www.sergioruizia.com #IA #CancerDeMama #SaludDigital #Podcast #SpotifyHealth #JohnsHopkins #Radiología #InnovaciónMedica #SergioSantamaria #IAEtica #MedicinaDePrecision

Wie oft hoffen wir, dass endlich jemand sieht, wie schlecht es uns geht?Dass der Partner es merkt. Die Familie. Freundinnen. Dass jemand sagt: „Du brauchst Pause.“ Und manchmal warten wir so lange darauf, dass wir uns selbst dabei verlieren.In dieser Folge geht es um einen Wendepunkt: Nicht länger still leiden und darauf hoffen, dass andere unsere Not erkennen – sondern lernen, für uns selbst einzustehen.Denn du bist nicht nur Mama. Du bist auch Frau. Mensch. Seele. Und du darfst dich wieder spüren.In dieser Folge sprechen wir darüber:warum so viele Mamas darauf warten, „gerettet“ zu werden – und warum das oft nicht passiertweshalb Erschöpfung uns stumm macht und Bedürfnisse verschlucktwarum es kein Egoismus ist, Hilfe einzufordernwie du lernst, Grenzen zu setzen, ohne dich schuldig zu fühlenwie du wieder Kontakt zu dir selbst bekommst – Schritt für Schrittwarum du nicht erst zusammenbrechen musst, um ernst genommen zu werdenDiese Folge ist eine Einladung, wieder bei dir anzukommen.Nicht perfekt. Nicht stark. Sondern echt.Du darfst dich wieder wichtig nehmen. Und du darfst dein Leben zurückholen – Stück für Stück.---Erste Anlaufstellen bei chronischer Erschöpfung (seriös & hilfreich)Medizinische Abklärung (wichtiger erster Schritt)Wenn du über Wochen oder Monate erschöpft bist, sprich mit:Hausärztin / Hausarzt (Blutbild, Schilddrüse, Eisen/Ferritin, Vitamin D/B12, Entzündungswerte etc.)Gynäkologin / Gynäkologe (besonders nach Schwangerschaft/Geburt)ggf. Psychotherapeutin / Psychiaterin, wenn depressive Symptome oder Burnout-Anzeichen da sindInfo der Bundesärztekammer:https://www.bundesaerztekammer.deHilfe bei Erschöpfung / Depression / BurnoutStiftung Deutsche Depressionshilfehttps://www.deutsche-depressionshilfe.deTelefonSeelsorge (24/7, anonym & kostenlos)https://www.telefonseelsorge.de

Vera ist 37 Jahre alt, Mama, Ergotherapeutin – und sie hat dreimal erlebt, wie Krebs ihr Leben anhält. 2022 die erste Diagnose. 2024 ein Rezidiv. 2025 ein triple-negatives Rezidiv im Lymphknoten – kurz bevor sie ihren Kinderwunsch verwirklichen wollte. In diesem tiefen Gespräch spricht Vera über: •

Fases del Cáncer de Mama (no es un añito malo) 16-2-2026

Ungana nami Mtangazaji wako Martn Jseph katika kipindi cha Walinde Watoto, Mwezeshaji Padre Peter Siamo kutoka Chuo Kikuu Kikatoliki Mwenge Jimbo Katoliki Moshi akitufundisha juu ya Mama Bikira Maria na Mtakatifu Yosefu ndani ya malezi ya watoto. L'articolo Bikira Maria na Mtakatifu Yosefu kama Baba na Mama katika malezi ya mtoto. proviene da Radio Maria.

When a family moved into a two-story home built in the 1920s, one detail immediately stood out: a large, professionally framed photograph of a baby left behind in one of the bedrooms. No explanation. No note. Just a child's face watching from the wall.Strange moments followed slowly—heavy crashes with no source, a growing sense of unease on certain parts of the house, and eventually something far more personal. Late one night, a child's voice softly called for its mother. The sound didn't stay in one place. It moved—down the stairs, through the house, and outside—without any door ever opening.Years later, another truth surfaced: the baby hadn't only been heard. It had been seen. What unsettled the family most wasn't fear—it was the feeling that whatever was there understood routines, instincts, and how to be noticed. And that it may have been waiting.#RealGhostStories #ParanormalEncounter #HauntedHouse #MimicVoices #GhostChild #UnexplainedEvents #HauntedPhotograph #ParanormalActivity #TrueGhostStory #SomethingWasThere Love real ghost stories? Want even more?Become a supporter and unlock exclusive extras, ad-free episodes, and advanced access:

ADHS-Medikamente beim eigenen Kind – allein das Wort kann schon ausreichen, um dein Herz ein bisschen schneller schlagen zu lassen, oder?Chemiekeule? Letzte Rettung? Kind ruhig stellen? Oder endlich Entlastung für dein Kind und euch als Familie?Zwischen diesen Polen bewegen sich sehr viele Eltern, die sich mit der Frage beschäftigen, ob sie ihrem Kind ADHS Medikamente geben sollen, oder nicht. Auch mir ging es so. Ich hätte damals gerne eine Freundin gehabt, mit der ich über all meine Sorgen, Ängste und Hoffnungen sprechen kann. Und genau deshalb mache ich heute diese Folge – um für euch dieser Mensch zu sein, der aus eigener Erfahrung erzählen kann. Nicht als Ärztin (bin ich nicht), sondern als Mama, die sich Wissen geholt hat, Studien gelesen hat, selbst erlebt hat, wie ambivalent sich dieser Schritt anfühlen kann – und die weiß, wie viel Angst, Schuld und eben auch Hoffnung hier mitschwingt.Du erfährst unter anderem:✔ Welche Vorurteile über ADHS-Medikamente kursieren – und was davon wirklich haltbar ist✔ Welche Risiken & Nebenwirkungen es laut Studien gibt – und wo man genau hinschauen sollte✔ Welche Chancen & Vorteile Medikamente Kindern und Familien eröffnen können, wenn ADHS den Alltag massiv einschränktDiese Folge ist kein fachärztlicher Rat und keine Werbung für Medikamente – und auch kein Verteufeln.Sie ist ein ehrlicher Erfahrungsbericht, komplett subjektiv und eine Einladung, informiert, klar und selbstbewusst auf dieses Thema zu schauen, statt aus Angst automatisch Ja oder Nein zu sagen.Wenn du dich gerade fragst:„Mache ich meinem Kind einen Gefallen – oder tue ich ihm damit etwas an?“, dann hör dir diese Folge an. Du musst diese Entscheidung nicht allein im stillen Kämmerchen durchkauen.

Į LRT kreipėsi vieniša mama prašydama pasiaiškinti, kodėl jai nepriklauso kompensacija už šildymą. Jos vaiko tėvystė nepatvirtinta, todėl savivaldybė atsisako jai skirti kompensaciją. Ši tvarka keisis nuo birželio, bet ar ji tenkins vienišas mamas?Rubrikoje „Savaitgalis už Vilniaus“ – neeilinė istorija. Pensininkai iš Raseinių rajono jau kelias dienas bando įrodyti, kad vis dar yra gyvi.Vytauto Didžiojo universitetas kviečia paremti humanitarinius ir infrastruktūros iššūkius patiriančią Ukrainos akademinę bendruomenę.Šalyje daugėja vaikų ir paauglių, vartojančių psichotropines medžiagas. Tačiau pagalba prieinama ne visiems, ypač sudėtinga situacija regionuose.Etnologas Libertas Klimka apie pirmąjį Lietuvos vardo paminėjimą ir žodžio "baltai" kilmę.

Meet ‘Indiana Bones', who is also known as Indy and was recently named Ireland's Top Agility Dog for the fourth year in a row, and is set to represent the country at Crufts next month!!Not only that but she is a little silver screen superstar starring in several production including movies starring Barry Keoghan and Colm Meaney and more.Alison on Weekend Breakfast spoke to Laura Murphy aka The waggy Mama and we literally spoke to Indy too!Her back story is a Hollywood movie in itself - she was dumped in a shopping bag as a pup. Follow them @thewaggymama on Instagram and waggymamasagility.com

Mama, mothers are important; we mold the hearts and minds of the next generation! And we are here to reassure you that this importance is not only true of birth and adoptive moms, but also of stepmoms like you! “Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” -Galatians 6:9✨ A Sweet Invitation for You, Mama ✨ As we move toward 2026, the Lord is inviting us to go deeper—away from social media and into meaningful connection with you inside the Radiant Mom Sisterhood.

Bis wann ist Winterschlaf eigentlich noch Selbstfürsorge? und ab wann einfach nur eine Ausrede? Trotz des Faultier-artigen Start ins Jahr, düsen wir in eine astreine Folge, und wir können schonmal sagen: Das Feng Shui fließt, das CI sitzt, die Harmonie ist real. Zwischen Badezimmer-Spionage (sagt mehr über Menschen aus als jedes Sternzeichen), Körbchen-Ästhetik mit leichtem Fetisch-Potenzial und der Erkenntnis, dass manche Menschen wochenlang dasselbe essen können, entfaltet sich diese Folge irgendwo zwischen Ordnung, Eskapismus und Genuss. Es geht um Sauna-Aufgüsse mit Rock'n'Roll-Energie, Massagen mit freiliegenden Schamlips und Rosetten, Eis mit Kaffee-Geschmack (zu erwachsen?), und um Freundschaften, die sich plötzlich nicht mehr gönnend anfühlen. Spoiler: CALL OUT THEIR BULLSHIT! Hier findet ihr alle Deals unserer Werbepartner: https://linktr.ee/jackundsampodcast

A brave little tadpole goes on a funny and thrilling adventure to find his mommy

In this heartfelt episode of the Authors On Mission Podcast, host Danielle Hutchinson sits down with author June Kraholik to explore how personal tragedy shaped her mission-driven writing journey.June shares the story behind her memoir Mama, You Don't Heal, which challenges traditional grief models by rejecting the idea of “healing” and instead focusing on learning to live with loss. She opens up about her intuitive writing process—quiet reflection, organic idea flow, and raw honesty—that allows her to create deeply relatable stories.You'll also hear how June expanded her mission into fiction with Whispered Promises, a contemporary romance inspired by her own life experiences. Her goal: to write realistic, emotionally rich stories that resonate beyond “fairy tale” narratives.Practical insights from this episode include:Nonfiction tip: Write raw and real, straight from the heart.Fiction tip: Slow down and feel what you're writing—don't just put words on paper.Life lesson: Moving forward after loss begins with a firm decision to commit 100%.June also teases upcoming projects, including a follow-up to Mama, You Don't Heal and a new beach-set romance novel.

Let’s take a trip with Mama, Papa, Sister, Brother, Honey and… Doctor Bear? Doctor Bear. To the ICE AGE as I GEEK OUT over prehistoric animals and BORE YOU TO TEARS with BUCKETS of FACTS. Also, standwithminnesota.com still needs donations to help families affected by the recent ICE invasion.

A curious little tadpole sets off to find his mommy after seeing other babies with theirs

Skiurlaub im Sarntal, sieben Stunden Autofahrt allein durch den Norden, eine neue Single und zwischendurch die ganz normalen Eskalationen am Frühstückstisch. In dieser Folge sprechen wir darüber, wie sich Dynamiken verändern, sobald Mama oder Papa den Raum betreten und warum Kinder bei uns oft ganz anders reagieren als bei Oma und Opa.Es geht um morgendliche Cornflakes-Dramen, um die Frage nach Klarheit oder Kompromiss, um kurze Zündschnüre in stressigen Phasen und darum, wie schnell sich eigene Anspannung auf die Familie überträgt. Wir reden über Gesundheit, Routinen, weniger Alkohol, Schwimmen, Rudern und den Versuch, Meditation vielleicht als neue Familienroutine zu etablieren. Und wir fragen uns, wie man Kindern beibringt, Fehler einzugestehen während man selbst noch daran arbeitet, die eigene Besteckschublade nicht zu ambitioniert zu schließen.Außerdem erzählen wir von berührenden Momenten im Urlaub, von Zufällen im Skigebiet, von Hörbüchern, die nachhallen und von einer ganz besonderen Entstehungsgeschichte zum neuen SIND Song. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you ever feel like you can't slow down… even when you want to? Like there's always more to do. More to fix. More to manage. More to prove. Maybe rest feels irresponsible. Maybe stopping feels unsafe. Maybe you don't know who you are if you're not being productive. In today's episode, we continue our series on the sneaky things that steal our joy by talking about another deeply praised idol in our culture: the idol of work. Not diligence. Not responsibility. Not doing what God has called you to do. But the kind of work that replaces trust, worth, and dependence on God. We talk about how work becomes an idol when: • Your value comes from how much you get done • You feel guilty when you rest • You carry constant pressure to do more • You use busyness to avoid what you feel • You believe everything depends on you This episode will help you: • Recognize where work has become your source of worth • Understand why striving never brings peace • See how busyness keeps you from God instead of drawing you to Him • Learn the difference between faithfulness and self-reliance • Begin practicing rest as trust, not laziness If you've been feeling driven, exhausted, or afraid to slow down — this episode will help you see what's really underneath it. You were never meant to carry everything. You were meant to walk with God. And that's where real peace is found. love, Brittany    Ready to become a peaceful wife and Mama? Sign Up for the Pain to Peace Academy HERE. Come say hi and join the Morning Mama Facebook Group! I would love to hear your story and know your name.    ALL THE LINKS FOR ALL THE THINGS! Morning Mama Website Pain to Peace Academy Morning Mama Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Find a Restoration Therapist Come say hi by emailing hello@morningmamapodcast.com

Dane is living the glamorous high life: his episode of ‘8 Out of 10 Cats Does Countdown' has officially aired - and yes, he's told everyone. As for Daniel? He's had a haircut… Daniel is planning an Eat Pray Love moment in Ubud. Dane shares his disdain for the overuse of pistachio and the aunties deliver some home truths about straight girls with no gay friends. A letter from a potential adulterer inspires the aunties to copyright a new movie: ‘Amy's Choice'.    For tickets to Daniel's brand new tour, visit www.danielfoxx.co.uk For Dane's latest live dates, visit https://linktr.ee/danebuckley 

Send a textIntro: Blues in the Night by Woody Herman and His Orchestra (1941)15. You'll Never Know by Frank Sinatra (1943)14. Pistol Packin' Mama by Bing Crosby (1943)13. Moonlight Cocktail by Glenn Miller and His Orchestra (1941)12. Till the End of Time by Perry Como with Russ Case and His Orchestra (1945)11. Frenesi by Artie Shaw and His Orchestra (1940)

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Send a textIn this episode, I sit down with my mama, Beth—the woman who raised seven kids, stretched every dollar, and somehow made a full house feel like home.We talk about what it really looks like to raise a big family: saving money, hand-me-downs, grocery budgets, and the rhythms that kept our home running when life felt full and loud. Mama Beth shares the practical wisdom she learned along the way, the mistakes she made, and the things she'd do all over again.This conversation isn't about perfection—it's about resourcefulness, faith, grit, and love. Whether you're raising one child or many, trying to live more intentionally, or just craving encouragement from a mom who's been there, this episode feels like sitting at the kitchen table listening to stories you didn't realize you needed.

[START HEUTE 12.2.2026]: DAS LUXURY GODDESS Signatur Programm: SHE who moves the UNIVERSE ist die Prophezeiung der Frau, die Du hergekommen bist zu sein. Es ist Dein JA dazu, Dich Deinem Pfad vollkommen hinzugeben und darin bedingungslos geliebt, geführt und unterstützt zu werden - LIVE vom 12.2. bis 12.6.2026: http://juliasspiritualliving.com/she-who-moves-the-universe/ ♡♡♡♡♡ In dieser Podcastfolge berichte ich detailliert über meine Hausgeburt, die ich mit meinem Sohn 2015 hatte.

Episode #312 of Blues From The Ouse, broadcast live, delivers two hours of classic blues, modern blues and blues-rock, chosen by feel — not algorithms.The show opens with brand-new releases, including a world-exclusive radio play from The Stumble, alongside new music from Samantha Fish, Tom Davies & The Bluebirds, and Dirty Shoes Band.From there, the focus shifts to power trios — raw, lean blues with nowhere to hide — featuring Cream, Rory Gallagher's Taste, The James Gang, and early ZZ Top.The first hour closes with one-chord blues and hypnotic grooves from John Lee Hooker, RL Burnside, Junior Kimbrough, and Hound Dog Taylor, proving that feel beats complexity every time.Hour two is driven by listener requests, including live blues, modern UK artists, deep-cut Stones, and contemporary blues-rock, plus Ben's UK blues gig round-up. The show winds down with timeless West Side blues from Otis Rush, Magic Sam, Smokey Wilson, before closing in style with Freddie King.

Sometimes, you meet someone with whom you instantly click, and it feels like you've known each other for decades. That's how it felt when I found my friend Kat online. We started chatting via DMs, and a couple of years later, we got the chance to hang out face-to-face when she came to stay at our house for my book launch party for You Bet Your Stretch Marks. Our conversations during our time together ranged from the ridiculous to the deeply theological (and everything in between). I knew Kat would make the perfect guest on the podcast for a blend of informal chatting and meaty biblical encouragement. And I was right. I know you'll love Kat as much as I do, and I pray you'll be emboldened to view motherhood with fresh eyes of enjoyment as a result. Sponsor Info:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tighten Your Tinkler⁠⁠Tighten Your Tinkler was created so women could heal – quickly and completely. Regain your strength while keeping your dignity.Visit tightenyourtinkler.com and take their free 5 minute quiz to start recovering now.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Voetberg Music Academy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Voetberg Music Academy provides online, at home, shareable lessons so that your kids can pursue their musical passions without stress or hassle.Use Code: MISFORMAMA20 For 20% Off Of Each Month That You're Enrolled!Guest Info:Kat - kat_naps247Follow Kat on Instagram Here!Bible References:Matthew 7:6Genesis 1:27John 1Romans 11:362 Peter 1:3Hebrews 10:24Links:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Gentleness Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Penny Reward System⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Paint & Prose⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠M Is for Mama⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Penny Reward System⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This is part 2 of my conversation with my mama! Last week we talked all about her life pre-marriage & kids, becoming a mom, young motherhood, becoming a grandma and some other fun questions.Today we are focusing on some fun questions about me -- her daughter -- as well as a lot of questions we received about Levi and what it has been like for her to adjust to being a special needs grandma + the journey we've been on these past few years.Thank you so much for listening -- share with a friend if you enjoyed this episode!AFFILIATE LINKS: Use affiliate code WELLNESSFORTHEWIN to get 15% off @sealdwellness forehead tape and other productsUse WELLNESSFORTHEWIN to save on Clean Simple Eats proteins + OffBeat Butters -- cleansimpleeats.com Talk to you soon!XO  Follow me on IG at @wellnessforthewin and @wellnessforthewinpod Check out my blog for healthy recipes & wellness tips! JOIN MY EMAIL LIST HERE! Please be sure to rate, review and subscribe to the podcast!

En este episodio, el Dr. Fernando Angarita conversa con las mujeres de la comunidad hispanohablante sobre el cáncer de mama, desmitificando creencias comunes y resaltando la importancia de la detección temprana. Con un mensaje claro y esperanzador, explica cómo los avances médicos y el tamizaje adecuado pueden marcar la diferencia y salvar vidas. Un episodio informativo y motivador que invita a cuidar la salud y tomar acción a tiempo.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mama Ganuush is back home in San Francisco after hosting the first JAHA Film Festival in December in Lisbon. The festival features all trans-focused films from the Global South, and begins screening online starting this Friday, Feb. 14. JAHA Film Festival https://www.jahafilmfestival.com/ Trans Liberation Film School https://www.jahafilmfestival.com/transliberationfilmschool

Spending her life in India, Maria was always exposed to a multi-cultural life. So when work offered opportunities abroad, her family decided on Spain as their new adventure. While the journey has been exciting, it also hasn't been smooth sailing. We discuss the importance of immersion in the local culture, keeping traditions alive, and the struggle of the language barrier, plus so much more of her life in India. Tune in now!Find more Nada: Website:⁠ https://mamaknowsnada.com/⁠Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/mama.knows.nada/Facebook:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/mamaknowsnada/⁠Music: "Vacaciones" by Mike LeiteKindly note that opinions and statements made by guests on the Mama Knows Nada Podcast do not necessarily reflect the values and opinions held by Mama Knows Nada. Guests are sharing their unique perspectives and experiences. Always consult with a professional to understand your personal circumstances and logistics. Mama Knows Nada can not be held accountable for changes in legislation and political infrastructure. These policies are subject to frequent changes and vary by country and municipality. We strive to update our content in tandem with laws and amendments.

Wat een contrast met Amerika. Waar Donald Trump, die in de Epstein files naar voren komt als goede vriend van de gevallen zedendelinquent en zakenbankier, zich niets aantrekt van enige vorm van kritiek, moet Keir Starmer - die Epstein nooit ontmoette - vrezen voor zijn baan vanwege de banden tussen een man die hij aanstelde en de beruchte pedofiel. Peter Mandelson had al niet zo'n beste reputatie, zijn bijnaam was The Prince of Darkness en hij moest al twee keer opstappen, maar zijn contact met Epstein na diens veroordelingen, en nieuwe onthullingen waaruit blijkt dat Mandelson als minister tijdens de financiële crisis koersgevoelige overheidsinformatie aan Epstein doorspeelde, brengen Starmer nu in grote problemen. Zijn stafchef is opgestapt, zijn communicatiedirecteur ook, en de meest prominente Labourpoliticus in Schotland roept openlijk om zijn aftreden. Ook in deze aflevering Honderden agenten van de Londense politie blijken lid van de Vrijmetselaars. Sinds januari is het verplicht dit soort lidmaatschappen te melden, maar dat het om zo'n grote groep agenten gaat doet een aantal wenkbrauwen fronsen. Over Van Bekhovens Britten In van Bekhovens Britten praten Lia van Bekhoven en Connor Clerx elke week over de grootste nieuwsonderwerpen en de belangrijkste ontwikkelingen in het Verenigd Koninkrijk. Van Brexit naar binnenlandse politiek, van de Royals tot de tabloids. Waarom fascineert het VK Nederlanders meer dan zo veel andere Europese landen? Welke rol speelt het vooralsnog Verenigd Koninkrijk in Europa, nu het woord Brexit uit het Britse leven lijkt verbannen, maar de gevolgen van de beslissing om uit de EU te stappen iedere dag duidelijker worden? De Britse monarchie, en daarmee de staat, staat voor grote veranderingen na de dood van Queen Elisabeth en de kroning van haar zoon Charles. De populariteit van het Koningshuis staat op een dieptepunt. Hoe verandert de Britse monarchie onder koning Charles, en welke gevolgen heeft dat voor de Gemenebest? In Van Bekhovens Britten analyseren Lia en Connor een Koninkrijk met tanende welvaart, invloed en macht. De Conservatieve Partij leverde veertien jaar op rij de premier, maar nu heeft Labour onder Keir Starmer de teugels in handen. Hoe ziet het VK er onder Keir Starmer uit? En hoe gaan de ‘gewone’ Britten, voor zover die bestaan, daar mee om? Al deze vragen en meer komen aan bod in Van Bekhovens Britten. Een kritische blik op het Verenigd Koninkrijk, waar het een race tussen Noord-Ierland en Schotland lijkt te worden wie zich het eerst af kan scheiden van het VK. Hoe lang blijft het Koninkrijk verenigd? Na ruim 45 jaar onder de Britten heeft Lia van Bekhoven een unieke kijk op het Verenigd Koninkrijk. Als inwoner, maar zeker geen anglofiel, heeft ze een scherpe blik op het nieuws, de politiek, de monarchie en het dagelijkse leven aan de overkant van de Noordzee. Elke woensdag krijg je een nieuwe podcast over het leven van Van Bekhovens Britten in je podcastapp. Scherpe analyses, diepgang waar op de radio geen tijd voor is en een flinke portie humor. Abonneer en mis geen aflevering. Over Lia Lia van Bekhoven is correspondent Verenigd Koninkrijk voor onder andere BNR Nieuwsradio, VRT, Knack en Elsevier en is regelmatig in talkshows te zien als duider van het nieuws uit het VK. Ze woont sinds 1976 in Londen, en is naast correspondent voor radio, televisie en geschreven media ook auteur van de boeken Mama gaat uit dansen, het erfgoed van Diana, prinses van Wales (1997), Land van de gespleten God, Noord-Ierland en de troubles (2000), In Londen, 9 wandelingen door de Britse hoofdstad (2009) en Klein-Brittannië (2022). Over Connor Connor Clerx is presentator en podcastmaker bij BNR Nieuwsradio. Hij werkt sinds 2017 voor BNR en was voorheen regelmatig te horen in De Ochtendspits, Boekestijn en de Wijk en BNR Breekt. Als podcastmaker werkte hij de afgelopen tijd aan onder andere De Taxi-oorlog, Kuipers en de Kosmos, Splijtstof, Baan door het Brein en Welkom in de AI-Fabriek. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Evelyn hat sich wieder echte Profis ans Mikro geholt: Florian und Nibras von Hand, Fuß, Mund – Kinderärzte, Instagram-Aufklärer und nebenbei auch noch auf Tour. Besprochen wird vieles, was Eltern wirklich umtreibt: Wann mit Fieber in die Notaufnahme? Was tun bei Magen-Darm? Gibt es Wachstumsschmerzen? Und brauchen Kinder Nahrungsergänzungsmittel? (Spoiler: Auch Steinzeit-Sören aß nur Dinge, die er kannte und die süß waren.) Ernst wird es beim Thema Krebs: Als Experten für Kinderonkologie geben die beiden Einblicke in Symptome, Therapien, Heilungschancen und den Umgang der Eltern mit der Krankheit. Die wichtigste Botschaft: Niemand trägt Schuld. Und auch: Kinder brauchen dringend eine bessere Lobby! Dazu gibt's praktische Erste-Hilfe-Tipps bei Pseudo-Krupp, Grippe, Verbrühungen und Verbrennungen, einen Abstecher zur Impfdebatte, ehrliche Einblicke in den Klinikalltag – und zum Schluss die große Frage: Was steckt wirklich hinter dem berüchtigten Männerschnupfen? Kindergesundheit kompakt, extrem informativ und dazu unterhaltsam. Reinhören! Hier gibt's mehr Content von Florian und Nibras: https://www.instagram.com/handfussmund/ Du möchtest mehr über unsere Werbepartner erfahren? Hier findest du alle Infos & Rabatte: https://linktr.ee/AllemeineEltern Du möchtest Werbung in diesem Podcast schalten? Dann erfahre hier mehr über die Werbemöglichkeiten bei Seven.One Audio: https://www.seven.one/portfolio/sevenone-audio

How To Get Your Groove Back, Guilt-Free. TODAY'S QUESTION: Hey guys! I am in need of some advice, but it's a little heavy. So, my son just turned 21. He is on the spectrum. He's high-functioning but needs a lot of support and attention throughout the day and can not safely live by himself. I've devoted the last 21 years of my life to supporting, raising, and advocating for him. I'm super proud of him and love being his mom, but pretty soon, it's going to be time to start living my own life again. I have recently started the process of finding day services and a home with a provider for him. So, there are two parts to this: 1. How do I ignore how guilty I feel? 2. How do I get my groove back? As always, I'd like to stay anonymous, so it's all good to share as much or as little of the info as u want. Also, I know it's not a fun topic and that I already got a turn, so it's all good if ya wanna skip it

Mama, there are many tips we would love to share with you to help you have a great relationship with both your husband and your bonus kids! Remember, God sees you, sweet mom. All that you do- all the ways you choose to love and live selflessly, God notices and is so pleased. “For the eyes of the Lord range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him...” - 2 Chronicles 16:9a✨ Important Announcement: Dear Mama, in 2026, the Lord has called us to step away from social media so we can go deeper with you in the Radiant Mom Sisterhood. Join HERE for just $4.99 a month or $50 a year, and walk this next season of motherhood with us! **And... we are offering the Radiant Mom Sisterhood for FREE in the month of January to welcome our new mamas! Use code JAN2026 For more information about our ministry, visit our website http://helpclubformoms.comCheck out our YouVersion plans HERE!Our prayer team prays for you every day! Send us your prayer requests at admin@helpclubformoms.com.

Simple morning routines, time-saving systems, and realistic tips to start the day calmer. Do your mornings feel like a sprint before you've even had coffee? Shoes are missing. Backpacks aren't packed. Someone can't find their water bottle. You're already running late… and it's 7:12am. If you're a working mom trying to get yourself ready and get kids out the door, mornings can feel like pure survival mode. And by the time you get to work? You're already exhausted. In this episode of Mama's Tired, we are throwing it back to an episode from 2023. We're talking about how to alleviate stressful mornings for working moms with simple systems that make mornings smoother - without becoming a “perfect routine” mom. Because calm mornings don't come from trying harder. They come from deciding less. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why mornings feel so overwhelming for working moms The hidden mental load that's draining you before the day even starts How to prep once so you're not scrambling every morning Easy night-before habits that save 20–30 minutes Simple morning routines that work even when you're tired How to involve kids without adding more chaos Permission to stop chasing “picture-perfect” mornings Practical Tips We Cover The “evening reset” that sets tomorrow up for success Packing lunches and bags ahead of time Outfit planning shortcuts Breakfast made simple (no cooking required) Creating a launch pad by the door Reducing decisions with repeat routines Letting go of unnecessary morning tasks These aren't complicated systems. They're small shifts that help you: ✔ feel calmer ✔ stop yelling ✔ get out the door faster ✔ and actually enjoy your kids before work A Gentle Reminder Your kids don't need a Pinterest perfect morning. They just need you - calm enough to hug them before they leave. Simple works. Peaceful works. Good enough works. Want an easier week overall? If mornings feel chaotic because everything feels chaotic, my Weekly Reset helps you clear the mental clutter, plan meals, reset your home, and choose one focus — all in 20 minutes. So the week starts lighter (not already behind).   Connect with Rachel: Contact - > info@rachelking.org Podcast - > Mama's Tired Connect -＞ Join my free Facebook community Simple Systems for Tired Mamas Instagram -＞@rachelmeigsking Resources - > 5 Time Saving Tips for Meal Prep, Simple Time Management for Moms, Journal Page: Releasing the Mental Load, Downloadable Routine Tracker: Morning Reset for Tired Moms   Next Steps: Step 1: Grab your Weekly Reset Systems bundle Step 2: Join a supportive community of moms looking for simple systems to reclaim time for a peaceful home at the free Facebook group Simple Systems for Tired Mamas Step 3: Sign up for the weekly Mama's Tired Newsletter  Step 4: Grab your BioEnergetic Remote Testing Kit and use discount code BIORACHEL Step 5: Ready for more personalized support? Join the Peaceful Mom Method

The closing track from my A State Of Trance set back in 2025. Yours for free, enjoy.

Zuhören. Hinsehen. Kinder ernst nehmen. In dieser Sonderfolge sprechen wir mit Lena Jensen über sexualisierte Gewalt an Kindern und darüber, was Eltern konkret tun können, um ihre Kinder zu schützen. Lena teilt ihre persönliche Geschichte und spricht mit uns darüber, warum Missbrauch oft im nahen Umfeld passiert, warum Kinder häufig nicht darüber sprechen können und wie Aufklärung gelingen kann – ohne Angst zu machen. Es geht um Vertrauen, Bauchgefühl, Sprache und Verantwortung im Mama- und Elternalltag. Diese Folge haben wir bereits im Dezember aufgenommen. Sie steht in keinem direkten Zusammenhang mit aktuellen Berichterstattungen, ist inhaltlich aber leider sehr relevant. Gerade in Zeiten, in denen viele Eltern verunsichert sind, wollten wir dieses Gespräch veröffentlichen, weil es Orientierung geben kann und Handlungsmöglichkeiten aufzeigt. Triggerwarnung: In dieser Folge sprechen wir über Gewalt und sexuellen Missbrauch an Kindern. Bitte hört diese Episode nur, wenn ihr euch emotional stabil fühlt und das Thema für euch gerade tragbar ist. Gute Infos und Hilfe gibt's bei pro familia und Wildwasser e.V. – sowohl zur Prävention als auch, wenn sexuelle Gewalt einem selbst oder einem Kind passiert ist. Für Prävention gilt als absolutes A und O: Kinder sollen Körperteile richtig benennen können, wissen, dass sie über ihren Körper bestimmen dürfen, und dass ihr Nein zählt – auch bei intimen Situationen im Alltag wie Wickeln oder Hygiene. Pro familia bietet dazu außerdem richtig gute Fortbildungen. Du bist schwanger und fühlst dich gerade überfordert, unsicher oder allein? Das Hilfetelefon „Schwangere in Not“ ist jederzeit für dich da – anonym, kostenlos und in 19 Sprachen. Du bist nicht allein: www.hilfetelefon-schwangere.de Du möchtest mehr über unsere Werbepartner erfahren? Hier findest du alle Infos & Rabatte: https://linktr.ee/mama_leisa Du möchtest Werbung in diesem Podcast schalten? Dann erfahre hier mehr über die Werbemöglichkeiten bei Seven.One Audio: https://www.seven.one/portfolio/sevenone-audio

Do you ever feel like you're being measured — even when no one is saying anything out loud? Measured by how you look. By how your kids behave. By how put-together your life appears. By what other moms seem to be doing better than you. Maybe you don't call it “image.” Maybe you call it pressure. Or comparison. Or trying not to fail. Or just wanting to be seen as a good mom. In today's episode, we continue our series on the sneaky things that steal our joy by talking about another quiet idol in our culture: the idol of image. Not just caring what people think — but letting what people think shape how you live. We talk about how image takes over when: • You feel anxious about how others see your parenting • You hide your struggles instead of asking for help • You compare your life to what you see online • You perform instead of rest • You feel like you have to hold everything together This episode will help you: • Recognize where image is driving your choices • Understand why it leaves you exhausted and insecure • See how comparison is robbing you of peace • Learn how to live from identity instead of performance • Begin trading pressure for freedom and approval for peace If you've been feeling tense, unseen, or like you're never quite enough — this conversation will help you name what's really going on underneath it. You were never meant to manage an image. You were meant to live from who God says you are. And that's where freedom begins. love, Brittany    Ready to become a peaceful wife and Mama? Sign Up for the Pain to Peace Academy HERE. Come say hi and join the Morning Mama Facebook Group! I would love to hear your story and know your name.    ALL THE LINKS FOR ALL THE THINGS! Morning Mama Website Pain to Peace Academy Morning Mama Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Find a Restoration Therapist Come say hi by emailing hello@morningmamapodcast.com

Special Patreon Release: Emotionally Healthy Familial Relationships with Cherilyn Orr   "bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4b (KJV)   *Transcription Below*   Cherilyn Orr is passionate about helping parents, teachers, and guardians raise emotionally healthy and resilient children. She has worked with families and educators in North America, Europe, and Africa to help them build safe schools, homes, and communities where children can flourish. The Stoplight Approach that she developed was born out of her experiences as an educator, a foster mom, and a mom to seven through birth and adoption, and it combines biblical truths with the latest brain science. Connect with her on her Website, Facebook, Instagram, or YouTube.   Topics and Questions We Cover: What are a few helpful tips for us to understand brain science 101? How can we repair the relationship when we don't disciple and discipline from our Green zone? Within the stoplight approach, can you provide some examples of how we can calm a red-rooted misbehavior?   Thank You to Our Sponsors: Chick-fil-A East Peoria and The Savvy Sauce Charities (and donate online here)   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”   Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”   Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”   Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”   John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:00 – 0:09)   Laura Dugger: (0:09 - 2:07) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   I want to say a huge thank you to today's sponsors for this episode, Chick-fil-A East Peoria and Savvy Sauce Charities.   Are you interested in a free college education for you or someone you know? Stay tuned for details coming later in this episode from today's sponsor, Chick-fil-A East Peoria. You can also visit their website today at Chick-fil-A.com/EastPeoria.   If you've been with us long, you know this podcast is only one piece of our nonprofit, which is the Savvy Sauce Charities. Don't miss out on our other resources. We have questions and content to inspire you to have your own practical chats for intentional living.   And I also hope you don't miss out on the opportunity to financially support us through your tax-deductible donations. All this information can be found on our recently updated website, TheSavvySauce.com.   Cherilyn Orr is my guest today. She is kind and humble and a woman who's passionate about helping parents, teachers, and guardians raise emotionally healthy and resilient children. She's going to share how she combines biblical truths with the latest brain science to build healthy relationships in the family. Here's our chat. Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, Cherilyn.   Cherilyn Orr: (2:07 - 2:08) Thank you. I'm really happy to join you today.   Laura Dugger: (2:08 - 2:10) And will you start by just giving us a snapshot of your life right now?   Cherilyn Orr: (2:08 - 3:11) Yes, I am actually talking to you from Athens, Greece. That is where our family resides right now. And we've been here for the last few years. And before that, we lived in Uganda and Africa.   I have seven children and my oldest is now a mom herself. And she just gave birth a couple months ago to a preemie little baby. And I am so excited because now I have entered the world of grandparenthood.   But I'm also in the throes of life with a 12-year-old, a 14-year-old, and a 17-year-old. And I have a university student living at home. My next son is 21, and he's also living at home, going to university. So those are my four at home.   I have one in Canada, working there. And I have two that are married. One that lives in Africa with his wife, and they're working there. And another one with my grandbaby that's living here in Greece, working with the church here.   Laura Dugger: (3:12 - 3:19) That is quite a full family and a global family. What has taken you to the different parts of the world?   Cherilyn Orr: (3:20 - 3:44) Well, we are a missional family. But we believe that everybody's called to be a missional and to serve God. And God happens to have taken us to different places.   I've been working with The Stoplight Approach now for a few years now. My husband does leadership training as well. So that's kind of what's taken us around the world. Now that we're in Greece, I'm also involved with refugees as well here.   Laura Dugger: (3:45 - 4:06) Well, we are fortunate to live in a time with access to scientific knowledge about the brain. And it all points back to our brilliant Creator, God. But you make this brain science so simple to comprehend. So, can you just share a few helpful tips for us so that we can understand kind of brain science 101?   Cherilyn Orr: (4:08 - 6:40) Yes, I think for me, it's been a journey. But it came when after we adopted a child and she was having an all-out meltdown. And it would have taken me an hour or so to regroup her.   And it was just amazing. I was with a friend and she is a behavioral consultant. And she said, “Let me.” And this was after we had had her for at least a couple of years at this point. And she just said, “Let me.”   And she got down on the ground where my child was screaming hysterically. And she was able to get her back sitting on her seat, doing what she was supposed to in less than, I don't know, 10 minutes.   And I was shocked because here I am an educator. I have a master's degree. I'm a special needs teacher. I have been working for years with children in different settings around the world. And here I was looking at her doing something that I just didn't know how to do.   It was a huge paradigm shift for me when she said afterwards, I said, “What did you do?”   And she said, “It's by understanding the brain. The brain is like three parts. It's like a stoplight.”   So, she said, if you can think of it that way, as there's that bottom part of your brain, which is that fight, flight, freeze. When you are just only using 50% of your capacity and you just can't hear anybody's perspective.   And then there's that middle part of your brain, which is the limbic system. And she said, you know, that's when you're using 75% or so of your brain capacity. And that's when you're stressed, you're worried, you're anxious, and you're just not at your best.   And then there's your top part of your brain, which is your neocortex, which you are just ready to learn. And you can problem solve and you can think and you are the best version of yourself at that moment.   And she talked to me a little bit about that. And she's just said, this is what's happening in your brain. For me, that was a wow, you know, because it's like understanding the brain is so opposite than anything that I had ever done. And as an educator, I've been trained to control children. I've taken courses on behavior management. And this was just like changing the equation. When you understand the brain, then it changes how you can relate to the child in your care.   Laura Dugger: (6:41 - 7:05) And also, I will just sprinkle in a few little things that I found fascinating in your book. One of your conclusions was that relationships are the biggest factor in brain development and for it to develop in a healthy way. So, is that what you found true throughout the years of our life, that relationships are vital?   Cherilyn Orr: (7:05 - 8:02) It's for everybody. And it needs to start with that relationship. And that relationship has what I would say three pillars, which is safety, which is your red brain. In order to come out of that fight, flight or freeze, you have to feel safe.   And in order to come out of yellow brain, which is your limbic system, you need to feel connected and you need to feel respected. And respect means to be seen, heard and valued. And when you're in that yellow brain state, you don't feel connected. You feel disconnected.   So, in order to get people to green brain, you need to make them feel seen, heard and valued. So, if we want healthy relationships and we want green home, then we need to be able to help our children get to that green brain state. But it starts by making them feel safe and making them feel connected. So, relationship is foundational.   Laura Dugger: (8:02 - 8:24) And you've combined your knowledge of the Bible and all of this brain science to write a book entitled Signals: How Brain Science and the Bible Help Parents Raise Resilient Children. So, will you elaborate now on that Stoplight Approach that you teach and write about?   Cherilyn Orr: (8:27 - 11:10) Well, yes, I am so excited because we just looked at, you know, those three elements, safety, respect and being connected, and then we could teach it. And when we look at the Bible and we say, “How does God view me and how does He work with me?”   I go back to the fact is when God sees me in my mess ups and He sees my anger or my gossip or my addictions or whatever I'm struggling with. He looks at me and He says, “Come to me. I am your safety. I am your refuge.”   He wants us to bring Him our messes. He says, “Come to me just as you are, not as you want to be, not as you should be and not as you could be.” And in that context, He says, “I delight in you. I know you. I know every hair on your head. I know you. I know your name and I love you. You are in the palm of my hand and I delight in you.”   And Zephaniah talks about and He sings over us, not because we've done something, not because we're worthy, because He knows that unless we feel safe and unless we are in that connection and can relationship with them, then He cannot help us to train us and to walk with us and guide us through the process of growing and becoming that healthy person that He desires for us to be.   So, I was so excited when I looked at who God is and how it matches with what brain science is teaching us about red, yellow, green and how we can't teach anybody. It takes 12 to 15 times to teach a child a new skill when they are in green. That same child, that same skill when he's there in red will take 350 to 400 times because that is not the part of the brain where you can do problem solving or critical thinking or even to have empathy for anybody else. That part of the brain can only do rote learning. So, it will take you so long to teach a child when they're in that part of the brain.   And I love it because that obedience is an outflowing of a relationship with us, with God. And when we look at our child, that's what we want is we don't want them to obey us because they fear us, but we want them to obey us because they are connected to us. Just like God wants us to obey Him in that relationship, not because it's the rule and that's what we need to do.   So, I'm so excited to see how that brain science is catching up to who God is.   Laura Dugger: (11:11 - 12:07) Oh, my goodness. That is amazing to also just think of the Lord as obviously our parent and we want to model after Him. Some of this is reminding me there was a previous episode with Dr. Josh and Christy Straub where they were looking at research findings about parenting. And one of them was that it was so important for us to be self-regulated when we're responding to our children. And there's a connection.   So, in your book, I'm just going to read this one quote from page 56. You wrote, “One of the most shocking things I realized as I learned about brain science was that it is impossible to make a child feel loved when the parent is in yellow or red. They feel our stress. They feel our disapproval.” And so, would you like to elaborate on that as well?   Cherilyn Orr: (12:09 - 13:41) Well, we have this thing that we talk a lot about in The Stoplight Approach. We talk about the stoplight starts with me. You cannot give what you don't have.   So many parents will say, “I love my child,” but the child does not feel loved. And when I was doing seminars and training throughout North America, you know, often people say, “We are a yellow society.” And that broke my heart.   We are a yellow society. We're running our kids at five in the morning to this program, to hockey or this or programs late at night. And we're just running.   And I feel like if we are yellow and we are stressed, then there is automatically a disconnect. There's almost like a gate that says, do not enter. You can't go through it unless you are in green.   You're in red, then your whole house turns to red. Mama's in red, everybody's in red. Or if you're in yellow, you'll start to see the children in your care are in yellow.   And I find that in my house. When I start to see my house going to that yellow space, I start to have to do like, what color am I in? If I'm in yellow, then they're going to be in yellow. And you start to see them fighting amongst themselves or bickering or just not cooperating. And there's that tension that comes because they're picking up my yellowness and my stress.   Laura Dugger: (13:42 - 14:04) And so, let's go a little bit further with that scenario. If parents are in a very stressful season and there are quite a few to-do's that have to get done on top of the daily things. If that parent identifies they are in the yellow, maybe in the red, how can they get back to green even in the midst of a crazy time of life?   Cherilyn Orr: (14:06 - 16:26) Well, you know, you don't have to be perfect. You don't have to be a perfect parent. But what science is showing us and it's what God wants from us is that sense of repair. We need to look at how do we repair because that's what our child needs because life is not perfect and we are not perfect. And I am certainly far from being a perfect parent. But how do I repair the damage and how do I connect?   So, we call it fix it, treasure it and change it. So, fix it is: Yes, I am sorry. Mommy yelled at you. I am so sorry I did that. I was in yellow and I was really stressed. Would you forgive me? I love you and you did not deserve me to yell at you. I care about you and I did not handle that appropriately.   And I want you to help me. This is what I've said to my children. I want you to help me when I'm going to red or I'm going to yellow. Just remind me and say, “Mom, you're going to yellow.” And then that can help me to make some changes right then and create that gap so that I'm not reacting. Or maybe I could take a walk or maybe I could get myself back to green.   When I react in that yellow or red brain state, it's not safe for you. It's not safe for others. So, let's work together on this.   And then we can talk about maybe what was happening in our house at that time as well. And maybe how they can help things to go smoother in our house. So that they could take some responsibility in helping because Mommy didn't feel seen, heard and valued. You know, I had asked you five times to do that. So how do we work together to make this house run smoother?   So being red and yellow are not bad things. It's not like you are horrible because you went to red and yellow. It's warning. It's like an alarm going off to say, be careful, be careful.   It's an opportunity to reflect and say, what's not working here? What's the deeper issue here? Yes, maybe I was overtired and maybe I did this. But what else is going on? And I may need to look back on things that maybe are triggering me that are deeper. And maybe things that relate back to my own childhood or how I was raised.   Laura Dugger: (16:26 - 16:52) That makes a lot of sense, that reflection. Because I studied psychology and marriage and family therapy. And we were always taught, name it to tame it. And sometimes that really does help when we can pinpoint and identify and name. What is that trigger? It helps to tame it. And I think the biblical concept is when you share it with somebody else, when you bring it into the light, it does lose a lot of its power.   Cherilyn Orr: (16:53 - 17:46) Definitely. Because if I can say I'm in red, it helps me know what I need to do to get myself back to green. So, if I can start to recognize when my body is starting to get tense, when I'm starting to get stressed, I can say, oh, this is my warning. I need to do this. I need to have a shower. I need to go for a walk. I need to regroup myself so that I'm not reacting to my children in my red brain state. I can get myself back to green first. So, I can create that gap.   So, naming it, that's what I think the success of Stoplight is. It's the common language that says how do we help each other when we are moving to yellow and we are moving to red so that everybody in the family knows that red is not bad, but how do we help that person in their red to get back to green?   Laura Dugger: (17:48 - 17:52) What is the Stoplight Approach to discipline and boundaries?   Cherilyn Orr: (17:54 - 22:32) Well, sometimes people think, oh, is The Stoplight Approach permissive? You know, we just let kids do what they want and let them be in green. If anybody has multiple children, you know that if one child is being self-centered and they're in their own world, it's going to create chaos for the rest of the family.   And so, Stoplight is not about permissiveness. And I think we need to be looking at the word discipline comes from the word disciple, which means to train. If you can kind of get that word discipline, because so often we've mixed that word discipline with punishment. So, it's all about punishing a child, whereas actually discipline is not about punishing. It's about training a child.   And everybody, every child needs boundaries. Boundaries help to keep us safe. They help to keep our family safe. It helps to keep that relationships in a healthy way.   So, we often use that word to look at how do we as parents, we've always got boundaries. Don't run in the road. We want to keep you safe. Don't touch the hot stove because you'll burn yourself. So, we look for ways to keep our child safe, and we look for ways to help them be safe in relationships. Yes, you want that ball, but you don't hit the other child to get the ball. So, what could we do differently?   Proverbs 13:24 is a common phrase that I grew up hearing. It was kind of like the parenting theology of my generation. “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but who loves him diligently disciplines him.”   So that was a verse that I heard a lot in my life. But then as I was studying and looking at brain science and really studying about who is God. And I had to look at what is my image of God? Is He this harsh judge up there that maybe subconsciously I believed? Or is He that loving father like the prodigal son that's waiting for his son? Not to punish him, but to love him and to connect with him. And it says in the New Testament, Jesus says, if you've seen him, you've seen the Father. So, He's a good, good father.   So, then I started to dissect this. What is the rod used for? And it talks about the rod being a comfort and a rod being a sense of protection. And we often hear it used in relationships to sheep. You know, if we're going to keep sheep safe, then we need the rod. That shepherd used a rod to protect his sheep from wild animals. So, as we look at that word rod, it's a protection tool.   So, we take apart that and then hates his son. I think, wow, a parent that does not protect their child or teaches their child to be aware of the dangers in this world. So, as a young child, you're protecting them and teaching them to make safe choices. And then as they get older, you still have to continually, continually teach them that. And so, when I look at that word rod and hates his son, that would be a neglectful. In my words, a parent who is neglectful to teach.   The second verse talks about diligently. And that reminds me in Deuteronomy, when we're told to teach our children all through the day, when we're walking, when we're sitting, when we're at mealtimes. We should be using our days to continually teach our children and to discipline them, which would be to train them in the way that they should go.   And I look at God as our creator of our brain. And He loves us so very, very much. And He wants the very best for us. And we know that children and human beings do better when they feel better. So how do we connect with our child? How do we protect our children? And how do we take that opportunity to be present with our child?   Those are hard things for a lot of parents these days to be present, to be engaged with them and to look for ways to continually be working with them and protecting them and keeping them safe.   Laura Dugger: (22:33 - 22:58) Wow. And I just want to share one of my favorite takeaways from page 143, where you write “Green rooted misbehavior needs coaching. Yellow roots need connection. And red roots need calming.” So, can you provide some examples with that last one of how we can calm a red rooted misbehavior?   Cherilyn Orr: (23:00 - 27:00) Yes, I certainly can. So, all three of these are so important because we often miss it. I'm going to say that red root, it needs us to speak the red language, speak red brain. And to speak red brain means to stop talking about the problem.   That child does not have capacity to hear you when they are in a red brain state. They need me to be calm. They need me to be in green. And they need me to stop talking. And maybe to only use words that feel safe. You're safe. I'm here. You're safe. I'm here. There's no point in talking to anybody in red brain because they have no capacity to hear.   And then also to be able to go for a walk with your child. Repetitive patterning activities are really helpful. Like for my children, each of my children have, they have a green plan. It's like, what do I do when I'm starting to go to red?   So maybe for one of my children, we have a hammock outside. So, she goes there. These are planned ahead of time when they are in green. These are discussed ahead of time. So, another child will, you know, might listen to music, have a shower, go for a walk. Every single one of us, whether it be an adult or child, should look at what do I need to do to get back to green.   As a parent, when we're looking at green rooted misbehaviors, red rooted misbehaviors and yellow roots misbehaviors, you could have the same issue like two kids fighting. You come around the corner and there you see your two siblings fighting. As a parent, often we go to red immediately. Our brain state goes because it feels threatening. It feels fearful to us. And then we react.   So, I have to take a deep breath myself and I have to say, OK, what brain state is this child in? And sometimes we don't know. So, we can call the children and say, what's going on? Just stopping and asking the question will give us the opportunity to hear what brain state our child is in.   If they happily look it up and say, we were playing Pirates of the Caribbean or something that they had seen on a TV show, then you can say, OK, well, what you're doing is unsafe and somebody is going to get hurt. But they're just acting.   And then if it's a yellow brain state, it's like he pushed me, he touched me. And they're just kind of bickering at each other. They're not really all out fighting. But, you know, you can look at them and say, let's stop and let's make each other feel seen, heard and valued. So, you can work with that child because that child at that point is in yellow brain. And then we can speak yellow brain, which is people don't feel that they're being heard. They don't feel respected. And that's when you can talk about what other things that they could do instead.   And then, of course, we have red brain when these children are all out to hurt each other. They are mad. So that's when we can go into that red brain and say, OK, both of you need to get back to green. We're not going to talk about this right now. I want you to use your green plan and get yourselves back to green. And then we will talk.   Some children can do that independently and some children need you to do it with them. And sometimes it might be that you just take those two children out and say, we're going to run around the block together.” And it's how do you connect with your child at that particular time and keep them safe and get them moving and get their brain state back up to green before you talk with them.   Laura Dugger: (27:01 - 32:37) And now a brief message from our sponsor. Did you know you can go to college tuition free just by being a team member at Chick-fil-A East Peoria? 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And if you say to a child, “I want you to say sorry to your sibling,” they're just going to look and go, “Sorry,” and have no meaning whatsoever.   And that's why we've done a lot of apology notes in my home over the years, because it's an opportunity to really sit down and reflect and talk. And we talk about how the card needs to be beautiful because we need to treasure that person. And so, they need to apologize for what they did. They need to talk about why on earth are they even writing this apology note? Why is that person of value? Because they're our sister or they're our brother or they're our friend or they're the teacher or the coach. And they are a part of our community and our family. So, we need to write that apology note to value that person.   And then we talk about what are we going to do next time. So those three points go into every single apology note my kids write: fix it, treasure it, change it. But you cannot do that when the child is in red. You cannot do it when they're in yellow. You need to have them back to green and then we can talk through it. And then they can go and deliver that to that person and then talk about how they can reconcile the situation. But I find that that's a really good reflective piece that I've used over the years.   But as a parent, it's hard to say sorry to your kid. It's easier to jump in and just treasure the child. You know, let's go to the park. Let's do this and just value the child. But then you end up having an insecure relationship because you've never acknowledged the problem. Therefore, you cannot change it. So therefore, you cannot have a healthy reconciliation.   Laura Dugger: (34:40 - 34:57) And how have you seen this Stoplight Approach work across the world? So many different settings with different countries and cultures or families who foster and adapt or even ones raising children with special needs?   Cherilyn Orr: (34:59 - 36:53) Well, the great thing about science is it doesn't change based on where you are in the world and what culture you're in. Every human has a brain, and all human brains function the same way. And all human brains need safety, connection and coaching.   So that's been the exciting part about understanding brain science. So, you know, even when I work in Africa, I'll say to people when I get malaria, do they give me a different medication because I'm from Canada or do they give me the same as you? And everybody says, of course, malaria is malaria. You know, it's because of science.   And I love that whole element of science that our brains are made the same. It doesn't matter what culture you're in and it doesn't matter what special needs you have. If I see a child and they're under the table and they're holding their ears, I might not know that child at all. But I know that that child is in red brain. I don't have to know if they're special needs. I don't have to know anything else. I can immediately diagnose what brain state that child is in. And then I can work at creating safety for that child. And connecting with that child. And then we can find out how do we move that child and work with that child, whatever their needs are.   And I have four adopted children, and I have fostered many children. In the process of doing that, I have recognized that every child needs to feel safe, connected, and then we can train them. So, it's like changing the equation for how we work with the children. But it works for all people. So, I don't have to have a different philosophy of parenting for my adopted child or my foster child or my biological children. Does that make sense?   Laura Dugger: (36:53 - 37:03) Yes, absolutely. And to personalize it, how has The Stoplight Approach then worked in your life and with you and your husband raising your own children?   Cherilyn Orr: (37:05 - 41:32) I just love the fact that it's a common language. So, I can give you an example of one day there was company coming and I was really stressed. And it seemed like everywhere I looked; every room was a disaster. You know, I had teenagers who were cooking and making themselves food and it was a mess. I had children that had used the bathroom and made a mess all through the bathroom. And then I had toys everywhere and sheets being made into forts. And I had company showing up.   And so, I was going into to Red Brain and I started going, “Who did this? What did you do? Who left this here? Who made this mess?” And one of my kids went and says, “Dad, mom's going to Red.” And that wasn't a judgment. That was like, this is a fact. We need your help here.   And so, dad comes along and he says, he puts his hand on my shoulder and he says, “You're going to Red.” He says, “Why don't you go for a walk? I'll do zone cleanup with the kids because I'm in green. And you can come back in 20 minutes and then you can do all the final tidy up before the kids come. And then that we could greet the company and green.”   So, it just becomes that common language of understanding. And he knew my need at that time. I was feeling unsafe because the house was a disaster. And my brain just was it's a brain issue, right? It's not a behavior issue. But then it was like, how do we support mom in this moment? And then I came back 20 minutes later and did the final little cleanups, and we were able to greet the company in green.   So, there's an example of using the common language as a way to help others in our family know what brain state you're in to support one another. And to be able to identify and connect.   I mean, I could give you tons of examples, even from the smallest child. They start to understand. “He made me go to red” or “I'm in red now.” So, then it's like, OK, so what do we need to do? How do we do this?   I mean, there's been days when all of a sudden I hear everybody kind of not doing too great. And I get them all to sit at the table. And I said, “So what color is our home right now?” And somebody say red. Somebody else says yellow. Then you're saying, “OK, but what kind of home do we want to have?” And they'll say green. So, what do we need to do to get it to green?   So, I think there's there's many, many different ways. But I think it's that common language that even the small child that's two and three can start to learn when they're in red or we can start to use it to teach empathy. When you did that to your sibling, what color did we make him? He didn't feel seen, heard and valued.   Just a few weeks ago, my daughter. Here's here's a recent example. We've had a refugee staying with us for a couple of years, a little girl, and she was about three. All of a sudden there was this blood curdling screaming, you know, just screaming. And I come around the corner going, “What's going on?” And my 12-year-old, very responsible, is holding scissors. She's running with scissors.   And so, my 12-year-old here was a chance to talk. And I said, “OK, so when you took her scissors away, she did not feel seen, heard and valued. Because when you took them away from her, you didn't actually speak to her. So, you need to get down on your knees, and you need to look at her and say, what did you want the scissors for? And we need to teach her. Where do we have scissors? How do we use them?”   So, she was being responsible to keep her safe. But she didn't make her feel seen, heard and valued and listen to her and say, “Oh, you want to cut your hair. Oh, only mommy cuts hair. You can't cut your hair, but we could use our scissors at the table.” So, using red, yellow and green helps to give incredible opportunities to teach empathy and to look at themselves, self-awareness and how to grow and take responsibility.   Laura Dugger: (41:34 - 42:06) And I love how you talk about this common language in such a proactive way with our children, with our families. So that when we are in red, we've got a path and a plan to get back to green. And we've got some tips for repair.   So, when we go to the proactive side and kind of tie this back into the beginning, when we talked about relationships are the foundation for brain health and development. What are some ways to securely attach with our children during different ages and stages?   Cherilyn Orr: (42:08 - 45:54) I think it comes back to being intentional. I often think of it as the 5-10-5 rule. Five minutes in the morning, five minutes in the evening and five minutes before they go to bed at night. It's that opportunity to stop what you're doing and to just focus in intentionally connecting with my child.   It's not easy. It's not easy. But it's how do I connect first thing in the morning when that child has been disconnected from me all night long? How do I connect with them first thing in the morning before they start their day? And then how do I connect with them like after school, before dinner? And how do I hear about what they want to tell me about their day? What part was red? What part was yellow? What kind of day they had?   One of my kids goes, “It was lime green.” And I'm like, “Okay, so how did that happen?”   “Well, I was in green and then I lost my backpack. So, I went to yellow, but then the teacher helped me find it. So, then I went back to green.” So that's how she described her day.   And then you have that connecting before they go to bed at night. That's just like, I see you, I know you, I hear you.   And so that can look differently according to different ages and stages of life. But I think holding that 5-10-5 is a good principle. And there are so many of my children that that 5-10-5 happens in hours and hours. Because they are children that demand my attention. And they are there and they are wanting that continual attention. So, some kids it happens more naturally too.   And then there are some children, and especially as they start getting older, it's a lot more challenging to be able to find that 5-10-5. And that doesn't mean in the busyness of the dinner table or in chore times. But it's about trying to connect with them and say, “I hear you. Tell me about your life. And where are you at?” Or just really just having fun with them. And just connecting to them and laughing with them and playing a game with them as well. Or going for a walk. We do a lot of that.   And with teenagers, and especially boys, it was all about the food. I would show up in their room with a milkshake or something else. Or call them out of their rooms to connect with them at different times. So, you have to be creative. It's not about my schedule sometimes. It's about looking at when they are open as well. Especially as you start getting into teenagers.   And I found that one of my teenagers, she'd always like to come and sit on my bed. Just at 11 o'clock at night. Just as I feel like I'm down for the night. And you know that baby is going to start waking up at 6 or 7. And you're just dying to go to sleep. But you know that this is important. She's ready to talk. And so, I need to be available.   Which isn't easy. But also, I think, how do we do that with seven children? Because that's a lot of kids. But my husband and I, we look at dividing and conquering. And then we look at special times. Like daddy time. Or going out with mom. Where I'll take one child to do a chore. Or go shopping. And I think that is really important to think about. How am I intentionally connecting with my child? So, I took a child to Canada recently. And I often will take a different child on different trips that I'm going on.   Laura Dugger: (45:55 - 46:15) Okay, so five minutes right in the morning. Greeting each other. Five minutes before bed. And finding ten minutes of intentional time to connect. Is that one-on-one throughout the day?   Cherilyn Orr: Yes.   Laura Dugger: You've given us so many helpful tips to apply. Is there any other encouragement that you want to make sure that we don't miss out on?   Cherilyn Orr: (46:16 - 47:52) I think when you hear a lot of these stories. First of all, I want you to know that I am not perfect. As a mom, it's a journey. And I don't want you to go away feeling like, I could never do all this. It's a journey one baby step at a time. And I encourage you to get the book. Listen to podcasts. And be able to join that journey. But don't be hard on yourself. And don't feel that sense of guilt and shame. That says, oh my, I messed up. That's okay.   Being able to recognize you messed up is a good thing. And also recognize that you think, oh man, I messed up on my kids. I did all the wrong things. I want to tell you that we all do the best we can with the knowledge that we have. And that's really, really important to know. It's like, this is a journey. And you are doing the best.   I learned all about behavior management. How do I control my child's behavior? And that was how I parented when I started this journey. And it has been a journey to shift into brain science. And to learn as much as I can about the brain science. And how it impacts my child. And to grow and be the parent that God wants me to be. But don't be hard on yourself in that way. That would be my biggest thing is. And to take one baby step. To decide one baby step that you take.   Laura Dugger: (47:52 - 47:57) And where can people find and learn more from you online?   Cherilyn Orr: (47:58 - 48:14) Well, look at the StoplightApproach.org. So that is our website. And you can follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. And you can preorder and sign up for your book (Signals: How Brain Science and the Bible Help Parents Raise Resilient Children). You can get that on Amazon.   Laura Dugger: (48:15 - 48:32) Wonderful. We will add those links to the show notes for today's episode. And Cherilyn, you may know we are called The Savvy Sauce. Because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge. And so is my final question for you today. What is your Savvy Sauce?   Cherilyn Orr: (48:33 - 48:55) I would say that it's not about controlling behavior. It's about connecting with my child. Relationship first rather than behavior first. It's like changing the equation. Relationship is the key. And everything else will flow out of that. And then if you can think of change the brain. Then you'll be able to change the behavior.   Laura Dugger: (48:56 – 49:20) Oh, I love that. That is memorable. And I really appreciate your emphasis on relationship. And it's so helpful to hear your stories of how this has played out over time. And cultures. And how we can now take this common language into our own homes. So, Cherilyn, thank you so much for sharing this research. And your book with us. And thank you for being my guest today.   Cherilyn Orr: (49:21 – 49:23) Thank you for having me.   Laura Dugger: (49:24 – 53:06) One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

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