Ignite Your Light with Xara Black

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It's all about taking control of your life. I talk you through my journey & experiences of, domestic abuse, divorce, dating, business, motherhood and religion. This podcast will show you how I went built my life back by becoming a successful entrepreneur.

Xara Black


    • Jun 24, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
    • infrequent NEW EPISODES
    • 28m AVG DURATION
    • 46 EPISODES


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    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 9 Narcissists Smear Campaign

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2021 12:40


    When the cant control you they seek to control what others think about you

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 8 The Church Needs to do Better

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2021 34:28


    Discussing Spiritual Abuse and what the Church should be doing With Katherine Spearing from Uncertain Podcast

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 7 Toxic Jesus Author Speaks On Spiritual Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2021 57:18


    Ex Pastor Marc-Henri talks about his experience as a pastor and how came up with the concept of his book Toxic Jesus. ​You can follow my instagram page @xarablack https://bit.ly/2CrAQHZ​Like my facebook page bit.ly/3gZo5mM Also, Listen to my podcast Ignite Your Light -spoti.fi/37xJRKw Follow the author Marc-Henri on Instagram @toxicjesusthebook, Buy the book now at https://www.amazon.co.uk/kindle-dbs/entity/author/B08LZRC43X?_encoding=UTF8&node=266239&offset=0&pageSize=12&searchAlias=stripbooks&sort=author-sidecar-rank&page=1&langFilter=default#formatSelectorHeaderThanks for watching x

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 6 What is Lovebombing?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2021 13:56


    The Narcissist will bombard you with attention, love and care. They will work incredibly hard to impress you, making you think that you are their soul mate. They may even mirror your likes and dislikes. This may feel uncomfortable in the same breath the target may feel this is everything they have been looking for

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 5 Religious Ignorance in the Black Community

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2020 19:32


    Fear based Religion is capturing the minds of black people in turn pulling them further away from the truth. Follow @xarablack on Instagram Like Xara Black on Facebook

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 4 Narcissistic Personality Traits You Can Steal from Your Narcissist

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 23, 2020 9:24


    These Personality traits can be beneficial for you in your day to day life. The narcissist may have used them on you but you can use them to get ahead in life without abusing people.

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 3 How to Spot Insecure Men

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2020 14:52


    How to spot insecure men.

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 2 Alleged Prophet Kills his wife

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2020 9:58


    Alleged Prophet Sylvester Ofori shot his wife Barbara Tommy at her work place after she attempted to file for a divorce from him. She had suffered domestic violence at the hands of the Alleged man of God. This story teaches us all to be aware of wolves in sheeps clothing and not all men/women that claim to be righteous, are. Themes of domestic violence and spiritual abuse.

    Ignite Your Light S4 Ep 1 The Dark Night of the Soul

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2020 20:08


    Getting through the dark night of the soul can be incredibly tough as you can feel that you have no purpose or meaning in life. Many feel like giving up at this time as the pain is unbearable. I explain a few things you can do that might help you to get through the dark night.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep 13 Deal Breakers vs Compromise

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2020 23:11


    What, and how much should we be compromising in a relationship and what should we discard immediately

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep 12 Don't Date Down

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2020 24:31


    Manifest the relationship that you want by setting your intention, making up your mind and sticking to the rules. Don't play yourself and blame the other person.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep 11 Fear of Success

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2020 20:24


    Many people say they are afraid of failure but a lot of people are unconsciously afraid to succeed. Do you subconsciously have the fear of success?

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep 10 Religion vs Spirituality

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2020 28:36


    Here are the Main differences I have noticed when leaving religion and becoming more spiritual.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep 9 Brainwashing and Mind control

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2020 34:52


    A lot of us do not think that we could ever become victims of brainwashing and mind control but in fact may already be under the spell of another without knowing. Religious, spiritual and cult leaders often use mind control and brainwashing techniques on their followers without the follower realising that their thought processes are being influenced.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep8 Wicked Men Don't Change

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2020 29:25


    DO NOT even waste your time. If a person is wicked, there is no redemption for them, take it at face value and never wait for a "change" that may never come. We can only go by what we have already seen and that is abuse, lies, manipulation. When someone shows you who they are...Believe them.

    Ignite Your Light s3 e7 Life Is Not fair

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2020 18:03


    We cannot sit down and just let life happen to us. We have got to take it by the horn and create favourable situations for ourselves. Life favours the brave. Life will be you down but you have to fight back.

    Ignite Your Light S3 EP6 Spiritual Insurance, Just Incase

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2020 28:19


    A lot of people have a hard time letting go of religious/ spiritual beliefs they have been taught from a young age and will often claim to have a faith or religion as a sort spiritual insurance just incase what they have been taught becomes true and they are likely to suffer the consequences although they may truely believe the beliefs they previously held are false.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep 5 Abusive Relationship with My Pastor with Guest Sandra

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2020 39:22


    Speaking with Sandra about her abusive relationship with her pastor. Brilliant account shows how it is not always an intimate partner that can use tactics of domestic abuse but leaders can also abuse their power and take advantage of believers who generally have no clue that they are experiencing an abuse dynamic.

    IgniteYourLight S3 Ep 4 Self Abandonment

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2020 29:02


    How many times do we abandon ourselves by overriding the way we feel to be loved and accepted? We are willing to make ourselves uncomfortable for the comfort of somebody else.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep3 Coronavirus Pandemic, If you were to die Today

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2020 24:58


    With coronavirus , lots of people feel closer to death than ever. The abuse of spirituality and religion can be quite rampant at this time. The million dollar question, if you were to die today, where would you go.? Is being asked more than ever. Just be a good person.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep2 Due Diligence and Over Spiritualisation

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2020 21:04


    A lot of people claim to be religious but may not be the best people for you. Always do your due diligence do not assume that people are good or make decisions based on somebody 'claiming' that they are from a specific religion.

    Ignite Your Light S3 Ep 1 Religious Trauma and Spiritual Bypassing

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2020 28:42


    The depth of Religious Trauma, How ones life can be altered and the shattering of the soul after the assault on your mind. The problem with finding and living your true authentic self yourself if you are spiritual bypassing

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 13 Faith or Fool?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2020 31:55


    Many religious people are encouraged to have faith. At what point does it become ok to not believe that God can do everything. Does that mean you are a bad believer? Or just in touch with reality ? Let’s discuss. Can faith become foolish?

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 12 Self Doubt

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2020 29:48


    Battling depression has been an uphill one and consistently trying not to doubt myself. I discuss depression, it's effects on my life and encourage you all to TRY not to doubt yourself. Your mind will play tricks on you, telling you stories that don't exist in reality, it may even cause you to miss opportunity on a bad day. Remember you have to believe in your self and continue going in the direction of your dreams confidently expect your desired outcome.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 11 Women Be Prepared

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2020 30:32


    Too many women are investing their security in a relationship that may end. 87% of women retire in poverty, what have you done to avoid retiring in poverty? Women need to prepare for the worst and ensure that their independent security is secured no matter what happens to their relationship, looks, body and health.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 10 Spiritual Abuse, What are the Signs

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2020 30:38


    How to spot Spiritual abuse. How do we identify it? What is Spiritual or Religious Abuse? How to spot religious/spiritually abusive organisations. A few examples from my own personal experiences.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 9 Making the Right Choices without Fear

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2020 30:49


    How to make the right decisions and stop operating out of fear.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 7 Self Sabotage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2020 30:29


    A few ways that we can self sabotage ourselves in work, our relationships and even our bodies

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 6 Building Your Best Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2020 32:41


    Building Your Best Life 2020, Setting goals effectively, taking action not getting stuck. Listening to your divine guidance, failing and trying again.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 5 SPAC Nation Cult

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2019 36:00


    Space Nation Is a CULT Presenting themselves as a church but they have all the attributes of a spiritually abusive organisation. They suck members in slowly and then followers become loyal, deployable and dependable minions of the church incapable of thinking critically and setting themselves up to be manipulated, abused and extorted.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 4 Coercive Control

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2019 34:08


    Quite chilling to think about but large amount of victims cannot put a finger on the kind of abuse they are experiencing in their relationship. Coercive and controlling behaviour is a crime and intimate partners can be prosecuted if found guilty. I discuss my experience with coercive control in an abusive relationship I was previously involved in.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 3 Relationship with Joe

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2019 31:02


    The ones you want, never want you and the ones you don't want always want you. Isn't that always the case. We don't always have control over how the other person sees us even if we love them very much. Are you struggling to know where you stand with someone? Are you a prospect or a Joe?

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 2 What you've Been Missing

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2019 30:47


    So many of us hit a brick wall in our careers and our business and we often don't realise that we have to get the combination of ingredients right in order for any of our ventures to be successful. We have to analyse what we may be lacking or maybe the ratio of our input is incorrect and we need to check what we could do more of and what we are doing right now that may be unnecessary or even hindering our success.

    IgniteYourLight S2 Ep 1 The Greatest Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2019 26:58


    My biggest goal is to have my children love themselves. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all

    IgniteYourLight Ep 12 Religious Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2019 33:08


    Would you want to raise your child up to be religious? And for what purpose? Religious does not guarantee good morals. I speak about why I am abstaining from raising my kids to be religious We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLight Ep 11 Abuse: Why you don't Leave

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2019 33:39


    Why do people stay in abusive situations? A quick talk on the matter. In some cases it boils down to your childhood. Stop victim shaming and support people when they leave.

    IgniteYourLight Ep 10 You are the God of Your Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2019 30:44


    What is stopping you from taking action? Start to believe that you possess that power to create not waiting for anybody to open the doors but busting down the doors by creating the life that you want. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLight Ep 9 How are YOU Perceived

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2019 29:08


    How are YOU Perceived in the workplace. Is there a healthy balance between being introverted and extroverted? Are you paying attention to what you are saying in social situations? How much you are saying and how much you are willing to kick back and just listen? We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLight Ep 8 Self Love and Dating Apps

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2019 29:36


    Do you prefer to meet people online or in person? A little bit about my experience with dating apps. Most of all, Love yourself, Date Yourself. Nothing wrong with that. Self dating could help you find a more quality bae. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLight Ep 7 Do My Prophet No Harm

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2019 33:50


    It is time people took their head out of the sand that various forms of abuse are taking place under religious and spiritual institutions and leadership. I believe they should be regulated as these leaders have influence over so many lives and many are abusing it. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLightEp 6 I hate Being a Single Mum

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2019 29:46


    Society shames women who have kids and are not in a relationship by using the phrase single mum which is 9/10 used in a negative way. Women with kids everywhere are trying their best and do not need the extra negativity from society looking down on them. Let's build more positive role models and stop making single women with kids look unpleasant. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLight Ep 5 Religious Trauma

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2019 34:59


    What is Religious Trauma? How can you be Traumatised by a Religion. Is Religion a healthy thing to engage in? follow me @xarablack

    IgniteYourLight Ep 4 Suffer Not Dear One

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2019 30:46


    No Job No Money No Business, I struggled to feed my children. I couldn't find my purpose and it all changed with one experience. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLight Ep 3 Falling For the Narcissist

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2019 33:36


    Narcissists are con artists, fraudsters and chameleons. Not people who take pictures all day. They are calculated individuals. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

    IgniteYourLight Ep 2 I was in a cult

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2019 31:15


    My experience of being in a cult @xarablack

    IgniteYourLightEp 1 Spiritual Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2019 46:33


    Get to know me. This interview pretty much sums up everything that I have gone through the last few years. Death, Abuse, Divorce, Motherhood, unemployment. I was interviewed by Deborah Ruffini from Artist first radio . We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me

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