It's all about taking control of your life. I talk you through my journey & experiences of, domestic abuse, divorce, dating, business, motherhood and religion. This podcast will show you how I went built my life back by becoming a successful entrepreneur.
When the cant control you they seek to control what others think about you
Discussing Spiritual Abuse and what the Church should be doing With Katherine Spearing from Uncertain Podcast
Ex Pastor Marc-Henri talks about his experience as a pastor and how came up with the concept of his book Toxic Jesus. You can follow my instagram page @xarablack https://bit.ly/2CrAQHZLike my facebook page bit.ly/3gZo5mM Also, Listen to my podcast Ignite Your Light -spoti.fi/37xJRKw Follow the author Marc-Henri on Instagram @toxicjesusthebook, Buy the book now at https://www.amazon.co.uk/kindle-dbs/entity/author/B08LZRC43X?_encoding=UTF8&node=266239&offset=0&pageSize=12&searchAlias=stripbooks&sort=author-sidecar-rank&page=1&langFilter=default#formatSelectorHeaderThanks for watching x
The Narcissist will bombard you with attention, love and care. They will work incredibly hard to impress you, making you think that you are their soul mate. They may even mirror your likes and dislikes. This may feel uncomfortable in the same breath the target may feel this is everything they have been looking for
Fear based Religion is capturing the minds of black people in turn pulling them further away from the truth. Follow @xarablack on Instagram Like Xara Black on Facebook
These Personality traits can be beneficial for you in your day to day life. The narcissist may have used them on you but you can use them to get ahead in life without abusing people.
How to spot insecure men.
Alleged Prophet Sylvester Ofori shot his wife Barbara Tommy at her work place after she attempted to file for a divorce from him. She had suffered domestic violence at the hands of the Alleged man of God. This story teaches us all to be aware of wolves in sheeps clothing and not all men/women that claim to be righteous, are. Themes of domestic violence and spiritual abuse.
Getting through the dark night of the soul can be incredibly tough as you can feel that you have no purpose or meaning in life. Many feel like giving up at this time as the pain is unbearable. I explain a few things you can do that might help you to get through the dark night.
What, and how much should we be compromising in a relationship and what should we discard immediately
Manifest the relationship that you want by setting your intention, making up your mind and sticking to the rules. Don't play yourself and blame the other person.
Many people say they are afraid of failure but a lot of people are unconsciously afraid to succeed. Do you subconsciously have the fear of success?
Here are the Main differences I have noticed when leaving religion and becoming more spiritual.
A lot of us do not think that we could ever become victims of brainwashing and mind control but in fact may already be under the spell of another without knowing. Religious, spiritual and cult leaders often use mind control and brainwashing techniques on their followers without the follower realising that their thought processes are being influenced.
DO NOT even waste your time. If a person is wicked, there is no redemption for them, take it at face value and never wait for a "change" that may never come. We can only go by what we have already seen and that is abuse, lies, manipulation. When someone shows you who they are...Believe them.
We cannot sit down and just let life happen to us. We have got to take it by the horn and create favourable situations for ourselves. Life favours the brave. Life will be you down but you have to fight back.
A lot of people have a hard time letting go of religious/ spiritual beliefs they have been taught from a young age and will often claim to have a faith or religion as a sort spiritual insurance just incase what they have been taught becomes true and they are likely to suffer the consequences although they may truely believe the beliefs they previously held are false.
Speaking with Sandra about her abusive relationship with her pastor. Brilliant account shows how it is not always an intimate partner that can use tactics of domestic abuse but leaders can also abuse their power and take advantage of believers who generally have no clue that they are experiencing an abuse dynamic.
How many times do we abandon ourselves by overriding the way we feel to be loved and accepted? We are willing to make ourselves uncomfortable for the comfort of somebody else.
With coronavirus , lots of people feel closer to death than ever. The abuse of spirituality and religion can be quite rampant at this time. The million dollar question, if you were to die today, where would you go.? Is being asked more than ever. Just be a good person.
A lot of people claim to be religious but may not be the best people for you. Always do your due diligence do not assume that people are good or make decisions based on somebody 'claiming' that they are from a specific religion.
The depth of Religious Trauma, How ones life can be altered and the shattering of the soul after the assault on your mind. The problem with finding and living your true authentic self yourself if you are spiritual bypassing
Many religious people are encouraged to have faith. At what point does it become ok to not believe that God can do everything. Does that mean you are a bad believer? Or just in touch with reality ? Let’s discuss. Can faith become foolish?
Battling depression has been an uphill one and consistently trying not to doubt myself. I discuss depression, it's effects on my life and encourage you all to TRY not to doubt yourself. Your mind will play tricks on you, telling you stories that don't exist in reality, it may even cause you to miss opportunity on a bad day. Remember you have to believe in your self and continue going in the direction of your dreams confidently expect your desired outcome.
Too many women are investing their security in a relationship that may end. 87% of women retire in poverty, what have you done to avoid retiring in poverty? Women need to prepare for the worst and ensure that their independent security is secured no matter what happens to their relationship, looks, body and health.
How to spot Spiritual abuse. How do we identify it? What is Spiritual or Religious Abuse? How to spot religious/spiritually abusive organisations. A few examples from my own personal experiences.
How to make the right decisions and stop operating out of fear.
A few ways that we can self sabotage ourselves in work, our relationships and even our bodies
Building Your Best Life 2020, Setting goals effectively, taking action not getting stuck. Listening to your divine guidance, failing and trying again.
Space Nation Is a CULT Presenting themselves as a church but they have all the attributes of a spiritually abusive organisation. They suck members in slowly and then followers become loyal, deployable and dependable minions of the church incapable of thinking critically and setting themselves up to be manipulated, abused and extorted.
Quite chilling to think about but large amount of victims cannot put a finger on the kind of abuse they are experiencing in their relationship. Coercive and controlling behaviour is a crime and intimate partners can be prosecuted if found guilty. I discuss my experience with coercive control in an abusive relationship I was previously involved in.
The ones you want, never want you and the ones you don't want always want you. Isn't that always the case. We don't always have control over how the other person sees us even if we love them very much. Are you struggling to know where you stand with someone? Are you a prospect or a Joe?
So many of us hit a brick wall in our careers and our business and we often don't realise that we have to get the combination of ingredients right in order for any of our ventures to be successful. We have to analyse what we may be lacking or maybe the ratio of our input is incorrect and we need to check what we could do more of and what we are doing right now that may be unnecessary or even hindering our success.
My biggest goal is to have my children love themselves. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all
Would you want to raise your child up to be religious? And for what purpose? Religious does not guarantee good morals. I speak about why I am abstaining from raising my kids to be religious We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
Why do people stay in abusive situations? A quick talk on the matter. In some cases it boils down to your childhood. Stop victim shaming and support people when they leave.
What is stopping you from taking action? Start to believe that you possess that power to create not waiting for anybody to open the doors but busting down the doors by creating the life that you want. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
How are YOU Perceived in the workplace. Is there a healthy balance between being introverted and extroverted? Are you paying attention to what you are saying in social situations? How much you are saying and how much you are willing to kick back and just listen? We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
Do you prefer to meet people online or in person? A little bit about my experience with dating apps. Most of all, Love yourself, Date Yourself. Nothing wrong with that. Self dating could help you find a more quality bae. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
It is time people took their head out of the sand that various forms of abuse are taking place under religious and spiritual institutions and leadership. I believe they should be regulated as these leaders have influence over so many lives and many are abusing it. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
Society shames women who have kids and are not in a relationship by using the phrase single mum which is 9/10 used in a negative way. Women with kids everywhere are trying their best and do not need the extra negativity from society looking down on them. Let's build more positive role models and stop making single women with kids look unpleasant. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
What is Religious Trauma? How can you be Traumatised by a Religion. Is Religion a healthy thing to engage in? follow me @xarablack
No Job No Money No Business, I struggled to feed my children. I couldn't find my purpose and it all changed with one experience. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
Narcissists are con artists, fraudsters and chameleons. Not people who take pictures all day. They are calculated individuals. We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
My experience of being in a cult @xarablack
Get to know me. This interview pretty much sums up everything that I have gone through the last few years. Death, Abuse, Divorce, Motherhood, unemployment. I was interviewed by Deborah Ruffini from Artist first radio . We will be discussing these issues on facebook @XaraBlack and instagram @xarablack so follow me
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