Overcomer: Living a Full Life After

In episode 14, I talk about a couple of incidences in which I had panic attacks - what I was feeling and how it impacted relationships with acquaintances. I also discuss the support that I wish I would have received from those around me. As the life continues to move forward, others expect you to do the same. It's not so easy moving forward after experiencing a traumatic event and betrayal and abandonment are traumatic experiences. Family, friends and others in our lives need to give us time and loads of support.  Don't forget to give me feedback wherever you listen to this podcast. It means a lot to me and helps others find the podcast.  Where to find me! Facebook Group: Overcomer with Christal Website: It's Never Too Late to Try Instagram: I_am_Christal_Hall E-mail: mschristal.hall@gmail.com

In Episode 13, I discuss a couple of things that I did right after the bomb drop that I now regret. Let's just say that agreeing to buy a motorcycle probably wasn't one of the best decisions I made. I also examine the "why" behind doing what I did as well as suggestions for not doing something you may regret later. I also cover my own journey of renewal - where I am at right now in this process.  I read a quote from Thich Nhat Hahn's book, "Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm, in this episode. This book was critically important for me last year as I worked through major fear of the unknown.  Remember to leave me a review to help other people find me! Review me wherever you listen to the podcast.  Where to find me! Facebook Group: Overcomer with Christal Website: It's Never Too Late to Try Instagram: I_am_Christal_Hall

In this episode, I interview Vikki Stark, author of Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal. Vikki shares her own story of being an abandoned wife and what led her to researching and then writing the book. She discusses the ambivalence and anger that runaway husbands show towards their abandoned wives. In many cases, men who abandon are in other relationships prior to the abandonment. She provides advice on helping kids (both younger kids and adult children) getting through this event. She also covers the real life physical impact that women experience when going through this traumatic event. She provides tips on stopping the obsessive thoughts that women have after the abandonment and not getting stuck in the healing process. She also offers advice on dealing with the other woman when there are kids involved.  Where to find Vikki Stark: Runaway Husbands Website E-mail Vikki: vikki@runawayhusbands.com Where to find Christal: Facebook group: Overcomer with Christal Website: It's Never too Late to Try Instagram: I_am_Christal_Hall E-mail: mschristal.hall@gmail.com

This is an episode which discusses domestic violence. If you are triggered by this, you may wish to skip this episode. Domestic violence can happen to anyone. No body deserves to be physically, emotionally or psychologically abused. That's why it is so important to pay attention to early indicators of this type of behavior.  This is the second part of the interview with business woman Regina Gulbinas. In this part of the interview, Regina discusses the early red flags that her ex husband exhibited. She goes into more detail about why ignoring those early signs led her into a marriage in which there was domestic violence. She shares her story of what finally led her to leave her marriage and the battle she had to undertake in order to prevent her husband from leaving the country with their two children. If you are a victim of domestic violence, there is help for you by going to the Domestic Violence website. You can also call 1-800-799-7233 if you are in the US. How to contact Regina: regina@elevateforth.com Where to find me: Facebook group: Overcomer with Christal Website: It's Never too Late to Try Instagram: I_am_Christal_Hall E-mail: mschristal.hall@gmail.com  

Regina Gulbinas is my first interview for the Overcomer podcast. Regina is a successful businesswoman who helps turn around and reorganize companies. She has managed to turnaround over 100 companies in the past 17 years. Regina discusses her marriage and the early signs that her ex-husband displayed that were signals of later abuse. Regina managed to find the strength and courage to leave her abusive marriage. This is the first part of the interview. If you have any questions or comments for Regina, you can contact her at regina@elevateforth.com.  Where to find me: Facebook group: Overcomer with Christal Website: It's Never too Late to Try Instagram: I_am_Christal_Hall E-mail: mschristal.hall@gmail.com

Mother's Day may be difficult for some if this is the first (or second or third) one you are spending without your husband. For me, this is my second Mother's Day that I'm spending on my own. I share thoughts about this holiday when I was with my ex-husband and the plans I've made for this year's. My bottom line is do self-care in the way you need to do it for yourself.  Also, I'm moving my podcast to dropping on Mondays, which I explain in this episode as well.  Thank you for listening and please be sure to leave me feedback and share with anyone who you think might find this helpful.  Where to find me: Facebook group: Overcomer with Christal Website: It's Never too Late to Try Instagram: I_am_Christal_Hall E-mail: mschristal.hall@gmail.com  

Episode 8 covers decisions I had to make as I worked through the end of the marriage. The first decision I discuss is what I did after the ex said that we were done. I discuss turning to websites that cover reconciliation in the face of infidelity and why it was one that I eventually turned away from. Then I discuss my second decision in which I finally asked him to leave. Please let me know how I'm doing. I would love feedback! Also, are there topics you want me to cover? Please e-mail me at mschristal.hall@gmail.com if there is something you want me to cover. Leave feedback wherever you listen to me! Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm by Thich Nhat Hahn Where to find me! Facebook Group: Overcomer with Christal Website: It's Never Too Late to Try Instagram: I_am_Christal_Hall  

In today's episode, I share my tips on overcoming challenges that you are facing. The first part is dealing with getting through the early days after the bombdrop. It is easy to obsess over what the other person is doing, so I had to develop tools in order to focus on getting myself back on track. I then describe my current challenges and what I'm doing in order to overcome them. Please leave me feedback! Let me know what you think so far! Also what are some topics you would like to see covered. Remember to find me on the following places: Facebook group: Overcomer: Living a Full Life After Instagram handle: I_am_Christal_Hall Blog: It's Never Too Late to Try

In Episode 6, I explore why abandonment creates trauma for the person experiencing it. I also discuss trauma bonding and why going no contact or gray rock is important in the healing process. I share my own experience with trauma and trauma bonding.  Resources: Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal Trauma Bonding  Going Gray Rock after Abuse Days Since IPhone App Facebook Group: Overcomer with Christal It's Never Too Late To Try (blog) E-mail: mschristal.hall@gmail.com and Instagram: i_am_Christal_Hall

You can be in a complete fog after the bomb drop. This podcast has 8 practical recommendations to follow right now to help you move through the process. The one thing I learned through all of this is that the more I took control of what was happening, the more I felt and became empowered.  Make sure to join my group Overcomer with Christal  Find me on Instagram at I_am_Christal_Hall Read my blog It's Never too Late to Try Send me your comments or requests at mschristal.hall@gmail.com.    

This episode provides an overview on how I came up with the name "Overcomer." It also discusses the Runaway Husbands group and why I shared the post that I did in the previous podcast and why I won't share other posts. Finally, I close with how I'm rediscovering myself in this journey as I overcome my (completely) unexpected and unwanted divorce. "Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand, and becoming comfortable with not knowing." ~ Eckart Tolle Read my blog at It's Never too Late to Try Join us on Facebook: Overcomers with Christal Find me on Instagram @i_am_christal_hall E-mail me @ mschristal.hall@gmail.com Note: The issues discussed in this podcast are adult issues. While I try to keep it clean, there may be occasional use of profanity. 

Listen to today's special episode celebrating the first 100 downloads since launching this podcast just three days ago! My e-mail address is mschristal.hall@gmail for comments, suggestions, or questions. My blog address is It's Never too Late to Try Facebook group: Overcomer with Christal

I discuss a post in one of the divorce groups that I belong to that was full of judgment. It seemed to place blame on the women in the group for not doing enough to save their marriage. I also share another post from Facebook by a man who experienced infidelity who believes as I do that infidelity is not our fault.  Feel free to e-mail me at mschristal.hall@gmail.com for your comments and suggestions.  Visit my blog at It's Never too Late to Try and find me on Instagram at I_am_Christal_Hall.   Please note: There is an instance of profanity towards the end of the podcast. 

I discuss a little bit further more of the Runaway Husband's book by Vikki Stark. Vikki discusses eight stages that abandoned wives go through after receiving the news that their husbands are leaving the marriage. I share my journey through each of the steps that are written in the book.  Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal  

Listen as I share my story of an unexpected event - the sudden news that my husband wanted out of our 31 year marriage. This is an uplifting podcast that shares my struggles and triumphs after receiving the news along with practical advice to other women and men who may be experiencing this.  This first episode shares the book "Runaway Husbands," written by Vikki Stark, an essential guide for women who are dealing with "Wife Abandonment Syndrome," and ends with three tips that women can use to help them overcome and build a better life after.  Suggested books: Run Away Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal by Vikki Stark Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life by Abigail Trafford Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan J. Elliott