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Sometimes as parents we need shortcuts to get all the things done in a busy day. Some of us feel guilty taking shortcuts because we think they might short-change our children. Turns out some of the best parenting shortcuts can save time and come with big benefits for you and your kids. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Joe and Anea take their popular ‘United Front’ episode to the next level. How can you still be a united front as parents after divorce AND once new partners are in the mix? Tune in to find out. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Joe sets the stage for a great show when he calls himself out for having big expectations for his family...the kind that frequently leave him feeling like a failure. Turns out most of us carry impossible expectations that leave us feeling disappointed. If you’re ready to move from disappointment to gratitude this one’s for you. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We want our children to feel like they could come to us with anything from the time they are tiny thru their teen years. In the Age of Me Too, it is especially important that our kids come to us if they find themselves in trouble. Anea and Joe take you through 5 Steps to becoming the ‘Askable Adult’ your kids actually want you to be. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We all deal with the daily challenge of trying to be great parents in the face of limited time, energy, and resources. Cue the ‘Life Hacks’! Shelli Wright, Life Hacker Extraordinaire, joins Joe and Anea to share some of her best Life Hacks - the ones that help her save time, money, AND the environment. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As if we don’t have enough challenges as parents, now we have to re-learn math so we can help our kids do their homework?! Educational Consultant and Math Geek Chase Orton joins Joe and Anea to explain what Common Core is all about, its value to our children and tips parents can start using immediately to inspire a love of math in our kids. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

A Buzzfeed survey showed that 73% of parents judge other parents. Why do so many of us judge and how might this be detrimental to us all, including our kids? Joe and Anea challenge us to consider how we might all benefit from dropping the judgment because other parents in our communities are "co-parents," whether we like it or not. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Our relationship with our partner plays an important role in parenting. It is, after all, not only the foundation for our family, but the model for relationships with others that our kids see every day of their young lives. How do we know if we are modeling a healthy relationship? What can we do if we're not? Tune in to find out. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sooner or later, our children start making it very clear that they are their own person and when that includes holding values that are different from our own it can feel like a gut punch. What can we do to navigate the big emotions and fears that come up for us when this happens? Whether you have a young child or you're in the throws of adolescence you don't want to miss this one. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Relationships with our children are every bit as important and demand all the same efforts as a relationship with the adults in our life. Remember, “what you water grows.” Quality time invested in becoming a calm, grounded parent with whom your kids want to communicate will create strong relationships and keep your kids talking to you from the early years throughout their adolescent years. Of course doing all this in a balanced, equitable way with your co-parent will yield the best results for all. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As Joe ponders what might possibly make his son jump off a 12 foot wall into their pool Anea sheds light on the impact of Nature and Nurture when it comes to the way boys (and girls) tend to move through the world. Tune in to find out why you might be seeing some big differences between your son’s and daughter’s behavior. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Raising kids is already super challenging but what do we do when we're at odds with our co-parent on HOW to parent them. If you have differing opinions on how to raise your kids when it comes to things like education, religion, discipline and more it doesn't have to be world war three. Tune in to find out what you can do to put your heads and hearts together to raise a great human even in the face of your differences. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When a swim teacher wrote a letter to parents asking them to get off their phones and watch their kids, it got our attention. How important is it to be super focused on your child when they are participating in activities? What do kids want and what do they need? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In response to listener emails about the recent tragic shooting in Florida, Joe and Anea tackle the first of two episodes on how to talk to your children after a school shooting. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Among the biggest challenges we face with toddlers is the dreaded tantrum. Why do tantrums happen and what can we do when they happen? Joe and Anea offer tips you can use that will help you in the moment and can actually give your kids tools for life. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sometimes saying 'no' becomes a knee jerk reaction with our kids and we need to take a beat and offer a few more 'yes's'. Inspired by the story of a mom who realized the importance of saying yes after her daughter almost died in a fire, this episode may just nudge you to seize the moment in your own life and allow your kids to do the same. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

One of the most common mistakes we make as parents is inserting our own fear, biases, and opinions into responses we give to our children's questions. Joe and Anea explore how this can limit our children's healthy development, their experience of the world, and in some cases even subject them to the very danger we are trying to prevent. Join us for another analogy filled episode! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

No matter how strong our commitment is to being conscious, present parents who leave their egos at the door, we can get quickly derailed if we have to deal with a challenging parenting moment in the face of seemingly judgmental eyes of friends, family members, and even strangers. What can we do to stay on track? It's not easy but it IS possible. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Losing our identity when we become parents often feels inevitable, especially for those of us who are stay at home parents. What can you do to hold on to your identity and why is this important even in your (marital) partnership? Tune in to find out. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

While we all want our children to feel good about themselves is there ever a time when we are doing them a disservice by applauding every little outcome even when they haven't fully completed a job or truly done their best? Find out what Joe and Anea have to say about the sometimes overly used "Good Job!" See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wondering about the value of having your kids do chores around the house? Wishing you would have started chore responsibilities with your child and think it's too late? Joe and Anea chat about their own childhood and parenting experiences along side what research tells us. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The word "selfish" has been used as a criticism and a shaming word for generations. But how much better might we be as humans and as parents if our most important job was to actually BE "selfish" in terms of our commitment to being our best self? Tune in to find out. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Most parents living in two-parent homes still frequently settle into a consistent separation of kid duties they are primarily responsible for (whether balanced or not). So what happens when one parent has to be away for an extended period of time for work or to take care of sick parents? What can we do to ensure that the ship still sails smoothly and important balls aren't dropped and no one loses their mind? Tune in to hear some basic tips to help you survive unplanned single parenthood on the fly. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Many of us freak out when we have those "What was I thinking when I decided to have this kid?!" moments. But as it turns out, whether you're dealing with a newborn, the 'Terrible Two's' or the adolescent years, it's perfectly normal to feel complete overwhelm to the point of regret. Instead of beating yourself up or sitting in shame, tune in to find out how you can move through these moments and allow them to make you an even better parent. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Arguments are going to happen in relationships but how do we navigate an argument with our partner when the kids are around? Tune in to find out how conflict can provide powerful opportunities for teaching and modeling if we start moving through it with awareness, a willingness to take responsibility, and a plan for when things get heated. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

At your wit's end with your child's challenging behavior? Wondering why no one pushes your buttons like your child does? As it turns out, big internal reactions to our child's behavior are mostly about us. Joe and Anea tackle a listener email that sheds light on how our own wounds and attachment to personal agendas can derail our good intentions and hurt our children in the process. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

One of the biggest challenges we face as parents is how to effectively "discipline" our children. If our goal is to engage in conscious parenting, how can we think carefully about the essence of the child-parent relationship in order to meet our goal of raising whole, healthy, conscious humans? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Has your preteen jumped on the emotional roller coaster that is part of the puberty party? Are you pulling your hair out trying to figure out how you're going to survive the adolescent ride? Tune in as Joe and Anea cover some of the basics to help everyone make it through. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Getting ready to have a baby? Just thinking about having a baby? Among the many 'get ready' steps you need to go through, choosing a name is a heavy item on the list. How can you move through this process with your partner in a meaningful way? How do you know when you've got it right? Tune in to find out. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Imagine your 10-year-old daughter coming home and telling you that a boy at school said to her, "I'm going squish your pussy." What do you do? What do you say to her? How do you deal with the school? Tune in to find out how to make an unexpected and concerning scenario like this one into a powerful teachable moment for everyone involved. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

One of the most common mistakes we make as parents is inserting our own fear, biases, and opinions into responses we give to our children's questions. Joe and Anea explore how this can limit our children's healthy development, their experience of the world, and in some cases even subject them to the very danger we are trying to prevent. Join us for another analogy filled episode! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

With Joe and Anea both on the road this week, we decided to revisit one of Rad Parenting's most popular episodes to date. Parents are human and that means we experience emotions. Many of us think we are always supposed to put on a happy face so our kids don't see us sad...or mad but that can set an example for our children that leads them to stuff emotions that need to be felt and think that sadness means their world is caving in. Join Joe and Anea as they explore some of the important basics of raising emotionally healthy kids See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sometimes saying 'no' becomes a knee jerk reaction with our kids and we need to take a beat and offer a few more 'yes's'. Inspired by the story of a mom who realized the importance of saying yes after her daughter almost died in a fire, this episode may just nudge you to seize the moment in your own life and allow your kids to do the same. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In response to listener emails about the recent tragic shooting in Florida, Joe and Anea tackle the first of two episodes on how to talk to your children after a school shooting. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It may seem easiest to just plug our kids into our own values and ways of moving through the world. But if we want our kids to be able to make good choices in our absence and to develop into the truest and fullest version of themselves, it is essential that we avoid the "because I said so" approach (programming) and instead encourage their ability to ask questions and understand why they "should" do anything. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Have you ever had to deal with that parent in your community who feels compelled to passive-aggressively offer commentary on a parenting choice you've made? Joe and Anea have and on this episode they're sharing their stories and offering tips to understand why people do it and what you can do to make it through those moments without losing your cool. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Comedian and Screenwriter Bryan Erwin joins Joe and Anea to talk about his new comedy film 'FIXED'. What do you do when you wake up one day and find that the parenting train wasn't quite what you thought it was and that getting off is not an option? You embrace it, trust the daily shenanigans, and stay in touch with your original hopes and dreams. At least that's what Bryan did! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Among the biggest challenges we face with toddlers is the dreaded tantrum. Why do tantrums happen and what can we do when they happen? Joe and Anea offer tips you can use that will help you in the moment and can actually give your kids tools for life. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Many of us have great marriages until we face the challenges of parenting. On this 100th episode Joe and Anea get real (and very transparent) on why it's so important to nurture your relationship or marriage as a core part of being a rad parent. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Is it really possible to love the heck out of our kids, make them the center of our world AND constantly remember that they are completely separate humans on their own path? Turns out it's not only possible, it's essential to their wellbeing. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Last week Sarah Silverman demonstrated the importance of looking behind a person's 'bad' behavior to see what's actually going on. As it turns out, there's an important tool for parenting in her inspiring response to a belligerent tweet - as parents it's important to look for and ask our kids what challenging emotion may be behind challenging behavior. Not only will this help to more effectively navigate, address, and change 'acting out', it will also provide tools to do self check ins and taking responsibility throughout our children's lives into adulthood. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome to RAD Parenting 2018! Joe and Anea kick off the year by reflecting on Joe's family trip over the holidays - everything that went right AND wrong. How can we all learn from the trips many of us just took with our family? What would we do the same and what would we do different to manage expectations and set ourselves up for success while offering teachable moments along the way that our kids can take into their own daily planning and beyond. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Raising an only child and freaking out about how to ensure that they aren't going to be anti-social, non-sharing little brats? Have no fear! There are many steps we can take to create opportunities to learn many of the social skills children learn when they DO have other siblings...without having to invest in having more children. Find out what Anea and Joe have to say about this listener generated topic. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Anea spent a day in prison (Yup! You read that correctly) and it ended up sparking a show all about the benefits of teaching our kids altruism. Beyond teaching our kids to simply 'choose kind', actually encouraging them to engage in conscious acts of altruism can go a long way in creating happy and empowered children. Tune in to hear how a day in a maximum security prison with Defy Ventures impacted Anea and how it prompted an unexpected show topic for this week! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What do you tell your child when s/he starts to notice and express differences they see in others? Whether it's a person with different color skin, different shaped body, or someone on the autism spectrum, just to name a few, these are powerful teachable moments to encourage understanding and appreciation of differences of all sorts. Joe and Anea tackle this important subject with reference to specific steps you can take with your child. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

With the holiday season upon us, various parenting challenges will inevitably present themselves. How can we teach our kids to honor their own traditions as well as those of others? What do we do about the rampant consumerism that can swallow up the spirit of love and kindness that we ultimately want the season to be about? Tune in to hear what Joe and Anea have to say on these challenges and more. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Imagine your 12-year-old snooping in your bedroom and finding a sex toy. That's exactly what happened to a Rad Parenting listener and Joe and Anea tackle what to say and do if it happens to you. You might want to listen to this one when the kids aren't in the car! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We love getting questions from the Rad Parenting community and today Joe and Anea are answering them on air. Tune in to hear a rad mix of topics all in one episode. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As we watch the reality of sexual assault finally coming to the surface, many parents are wondering how to raise healthy girls and boys who will not find themselves becoming either victims or perpetrators of sexual assault in their teen or adult years. Join Joe and Anea as they discuss the reasons behind the high incidence of sexual assault and what we can do as parents to provide language and tools to create a vastly different reality. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sarah Douger joins Joe and Anea to discuss her extraordinary journey from Punk Rocker to Professor to 'mother of advanced maternal age.' What happens when we find ourselves ready to be parents but our bodies have a different plan? What are the strengths and challenges of parenthood in our 40's? Tune in and find out. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are you struggling with a child who clings to you in social settings and acts paralyzed around other kids even though you know s/he wants to play? Do you know the difference between being shy and being introverted? Tune in to find out how to make the distinction and how you can support your child whether shy or introverted. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.