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Episode 24 of Responding To... a podcast where I aim to expand thinking about all things gender and sexuality, especially for an audience of older, cisgender, heterosexual, white men. In this episode I harken back to episode 19 and dip us again into the rich, educational waters of art. I read 4 poems by 4 different authors around the themes of gender, sexuality, love, and connection. Episode transcript: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1H4Z_0KJZ2AEbRk3690Noi0c8oQN2nP9yU81tTcCQriQ/edit?usp=sharing This Episode's Recommendations: The Transreal: Political Aesthetics of Crossing Realities by Micha Cárdenas - https://bookshop.org/books/the-transreal-political-aesthetics-of-crossing-realities/9780983915249 Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg - https://www.lesliefeinberg.net/ Emergent Strategy by Adrienne Maree Brown - https://www.akpress.org/emergentstrategy.html Before I Step Outside [You Love Me] by Travis Alabanza - https://travisalabanza.bigcartel.com/product/before-i-step-outside-you-love-me-chapbook Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 23 of Responding To... the podcast where I expand information about all things gender and sexuality, especially for an audience of older, cisgender, heterosexual, white men. In this episode I define "compulsory heterosexuality" and discuss it's cultural relevance. Episode transcript: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1R91p-a8ylk0pa39ku6HKHCnvr9IrpPRZeU2bU82niQA/edit?usp=sharing This Episode's Recommendations: Gender Reveal podcast https://www.genderpodcast.com/ Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 22 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I review Alexis Pauline Gumbs' latest book, "Undrowned: Black Feminist Lessons from Marine Mammals" Buy the book here: https://www.akpress.org/undrowned.html Episode transcript: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1T_k43TZhu9ijDhK4YBAewo04i9jW98A1JElT_I3kP1g/edit?usp=sharing Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 21 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I guide listeners in a meditation about the power we each hold. This Episode's Recommendations: The Nap Ministry https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/ Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 20 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I dive deep into Kimberlé Crenshaw's "intersectionality," plus a little of Audre Lorde's wisdom, and tie it all together in a bow that is 2020. This Episode's Recommendations: - Showing Up for Racial Justice (SURJ): https://www.showingupforracialjustice.org/ - Octavia's Parables: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8yMjEwMzFlYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw== - Black-Owned Bookstores: https://lithub.com/you-can-order-today-from-these-black-owned-independent-bookstores/ - Radical Imagination: https://radicalimagination.us/ This Episode's Sources: - Audre Lorde address: https://www.blackpast.org/african-american-history/1982-audre-lorde-learning-60s/ - Kimberlé Crenshaw's original article: https://chicagounbound.uchicago.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1052&context=uclf - Kimberlé Crenshaw Vox article: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/2019/5/20/18542843/intersectionality-conservatism-law-race-gender-discrimination Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Hello friends. Today I bring you some of my favorite pieces from some of my favorite writers, plus a piece of my own. I hope you are staying safe and well in these unpredictable times.

Reaching out to say, I'm here. We're in this together. Riding the wave with you. I recommend checking out "How to Survive the End of the World" https://www.endoftheworldshow.org/

Episode 17 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I expand on different usages of the word "violence," with a special focus on microaggressions. This Episode's Recommendations: Donate to and volunteer with the Transgender, Gender-Variant, Intersex Justice Project (TGIJP) Donate: https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/TGIJP?code=Donate Volunteer: http://www.tgijp.org/volunteer.html Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 16 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I go over the definitions of equity and equality and I then apply them to 2 different political questions to demonstrate how they might function in real world scenarios. This Episode's Recommendations: "Ep #6: Indigiqueer" of the "All My Relations" podcast https://www.allmyrelationspodcast.com/podcast/episode/47547617/ep-6-indigiqueer Episode sources: https://www.economist.com/united-states/2019/04/06/the-black-white-wealth-gap-is-unchanged-after-half-a-century https://www.statista.com/statistics/555855/number-of-homeless-people-in-the-us-by-race/ https://web.archive.org/web/20130628135832/http://www.ers.usda.gov/media/562463/ra174h_1_.pdf Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 15 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I am joined by my good friend Jade (Makeup and Queer Magic on YouTube) and we discuss all of the factors that went into deciding to pursue gender-related surgery. This Episode's Recommendations: The video Jade and I filmed for her channel about thoughts after surgery: https://youtu.be/Ny-sTws9qWA Jade's youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVWNhDVEi5sez07KRcxUYQg Jade's instagram: @QueerMagic_ List of questions for gender-related surgery consultation: https://www.healthytrans.com/surgery-consult-questions/ Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 14 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to projected questions old white dudes might have about gender and sexuality. In this episode I discuss what sex positivity means, what it can look like, and what the stakes of it are. This episode's recommendation is to check out sex educator Ericka Hart. Their website is http://ihartericka.com/ you can also find them on instagram: @ihartericka twitter: @iHartEricka and listen to their podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/hoodrat-to-headwrap-a-decolonized-podcast/id1279429651 Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Another way to support the podcast is to leave me a rating or review wherever you are listening! Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 13 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to projected questions old white dudes might have about gender and sexuality. In this episode I share my personal relationship to bathrooms and respond to popular political arguments against bathroom access for trans and gender nonconforming folks. This episode's recommendation is to check out the "Peeing in Peace" resource guide put out by the Transgender Law Center - http://transgenderlawcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/94930982-PIP-Resource-Guide.pdf Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Another way to support the podcast is to leave me a rating or review wherever you are listening! Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 12 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to projected questions old white dudes might have about gender and sexuality. In this episode I delve further into the term "cisgender," because I think it is beneficial to slow down and focus on that a little longer. This episode's recommendation is to practice using the term "cisgender"! Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 11 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I am joined by my good friend Angelina (@fiercefatfemme on Instagram) and we dive deep into a conversation about fetish. Angelina's Recommendations: @Babyfat.jpeg on instagram #sexpositivity on instagram @noxshop on instagram - shopnox.com @Ashleighchubbybunny on instagram Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 10 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I delve into pronouns-- what they are, why they're important, and some best practices. This episode's recommendation is “A Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns” by Archie BonGiovanni and Tristan Jimerson. Here's the link - https://onipress.com/products/a-quick-easy-guide-to-they-them-pronouns Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 9 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I discuss some of the finer details of (sexual) "preferences." This episode's recommendation is the intro to "No Fats No Femmes" by Jamal T Lewis. Here's the link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pQjey5Mmuw Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 8 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I share my experience(s) with T. This episode's recommendation is Planned Parenthood Gender Clinics. If you aren't someone who needs their services and have a little bit of additional financial resources, consider making a donation to them, they could really use it - https://www.plannedparenthood.org/get-involved/other-ways-give Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 7 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I respond to a listener request that I expand on an assertion I made in episode 4, that we need to become better receivers of "no." Want to make a sustaining monthly donation to the podcast? Here's the patreon: https://www.patreon.com/respondingto Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 6 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I'm joined by my partner Sage and we discuss our thoughts on nonbinary gender. This episode's recommendation: https://www.micahbazant.com/ Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding

Episode 5 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I talk about the word "folx" and other prominent uses of "x." This episode's recommendation: https://arsenalpulp.com/Books/G/Gender-Failure Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Follow the podcast on Twitter - https://twitter.com/to_responding Also, catch the podcast on Podcoin, where you can get paid for listening!

Episode 4 of Responding To... the podcast where I respond to old white dudes' questions about gender and sexuality. In this episode I talk about the mainstream narrative around consent and ways I think it should be expanded. Got a question I should respond to in a future episode? submit your question on the blog - https://responding2oldwhitedudesquestionsaboutgendersexuality.home.blog/ or email me - Respondingtooldwhitedudes@gmail.com Also, catch the podcast on Podcoin, where you can get paid for listening!

On this episode of Responding To... Old White Dudes' Questions about Gender and Sexuality, I am joined by my partner Sage to talk about something probably very few old white dudes are paying attention to - the James Charles and Tati Westbrook YouTube drama. Well, we aren't actually really very interested in the details of the drama so much as we are interested in nuancing the way they are talking about sexuality. Podcoin

Episode 2 of the "Responding to... Old White Dudes' Questions about Gender and Sexuality" podcast. Lane responds to Piers Morgan's 2014 tweet about his interview with Janet Mock.

Episode 1 of the "Responding to... Old White Dudes' Questions about Gender and Sexuality" podcast. Lane responds to the question "What is the difference between sex and gender?"

Episode 0 of Responding to... Old White Dudes' Questions about Gender and Sexuality. In this episode Lane introduces the podcast and responds to the question "How do I introduce my nonbinary stepchild?"