Trope season continues with A Nordic King. This book revolved around "A widowed father of two little girls and the beautiful nanny he's hired to raise them." Nanny/Single Dad/Royalty TropesShani and Bridget are joined by Juliet a dear friend and cohort in crime to discuss the ins and outs of romance, relationships, and sex. Stick around!Check out The Nordic King on Amazon!***Get 30 days free on Kindle Unlimited just for our listeners! Or listen on Audible like Shani and get up to two free ebooks when you try Audible Premium Plus. ***Leave us a rating and review on ItunesA lot of additional listening on Patreon!Welcome to Romance at a Glance, a podcast that uses romance novels to dive into candid conversations about life, relationship dynamics, and sexual desires. As hosts Bridget and Shani review books and interview some of romance's biggest authors, they explore the breadth of the genre, openly embracing the sex, diverse couplings, and taboos to create a safe space for listeners to be exposed to different lifestyles, fantasies, and to pique their naughty curiosity.Expect 100% honest reviews, spontaneous singing, life lessons, indecent anecdotes, and bawdy humor.Check out www.romanceataglance.comChat with us on Instagram at instagram.com/romanceataglanceSupport us on Patreon at patreon.com/romanceataglance
The Constitution Study with Host Paul Engel – Recent news about armed federal agents should be of great concern to anyone who wants to live free. One of the grievances that led to our Declaration of Independence was "He has kept among us, in times of peace, Standing Armies without the Consent of our legislatures."
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The Constitution Study with Host Paul Engel – Recent news about armed federal agents should be of great concern to anyone who wants to live free. One of the grievances that led to our Declaration of Independence was "He has kept among us, in times of peace, Standing Armies without the Consent of our legislatures."
In response to an inquiry by a US Senator, Amazon Ring disclosed that it gave personal information gathered from a personal Ring doorbell device without the owner's permission several times this year - we discuss. Housing & Homelessness, it affects everything - and inflation has only made it worse. Finally, several new proposed regulations for the commercial trucking industry threatens to turn everything on its ear.
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Best-selling author Karina Halle shares her love for intense, wicked romance! We talked about everything from moving to a new place, writing reverse harem and polyamory, the Do's and Don't of Romance and her curiosity-driven writing style. Listen to A Nordic King on Amazon!Check out her Instagram, Website, and Twitter.***Get 30 days free on Kindle Unlimited just for our listeners! Or listen on Audible like Shani and get up to two free ebooks when you try Audible Premium Plus. ***Leave us a rating and review on ItunesA lot of additional listening on Patreon!Welcome to Romance at a Glance, a podcast that uses romance novels to dive into candid conversations about life, relationship dynamics, and sexual desires. As hosts Bridget and Shani review books and interview some of romance's biggest authors, they explore the breadth of the genre, openly embracing the sex, diverse couplings, and taboo to create a safe space for listeners to be exposed to different lifestyles, fantasies, and to pique their naughty curiosity.Expect 100% honest reviews, spontaneous singing, life lessons, indecent anecdotes, and bawdy humor.Check out www.romanceataglance.comChat with us on Instagram at instagram.com/romanceataglanceSupport us on Patreon at patreon.com/romanceataglance
The more I know, the more I am aware that I don't know, and I am finally feeling safe in saying, "I don't know" and open to exploring it all…But one thing I actually do know is when you feel safe to confidently express your desires, revealing what you actually want, being honest with yourself, listening to your body, and intentionally communicating these desires with your sexual partners, you will live a more authentic, fulfilling life both inside and outside of the bedroom. Kimi Inch is a kink expert, professional dominatrix, kink/BDSM educator, published author, and somatic healer. Kimi will teach us all about sexual care, self-care, healing, and wholeness through a unique approach that blends conscious kink, sexuality, and somatic therapeutic techniques. She will give you a chance to access the wisdom of your body for deep and lasting change — experience healing around your sexual health, intimacy, and relationships. Kimi uses Conscious Kink™ as a way individuals and couples to explore various sides of themselves, deal with shame or guilt, and address dysfunction or addiction. This practice brings the shadows into the light in order to move towards resolution and remind you of your magnificence. Let's get ENLIGHTENED about CONSCIOUS KINK together. Sit back, relax, put your phone on do not disturb…because you're going to be *tied up* for a little while! This episode covers topics like: ✨Conscious kink and somatic therapy 👠Q&A with a professional dominatrix 👁How Conscious Kink journeys are being compared to mushroom medicine ceremonies 🗺Discovering your personal Erotic Blueprint 🙊Erotic communication: consent, expectations, & aftercare 💋Understanding the difference between kinks & preferences What questions has this episode helped you answer for yourself? Learn more about Kimi Inch: Get in touch and work with her: http://kimiinch.com/ Take a look at her Dom course and more: https://www.erosandkink.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/kimiinch It's time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One! I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED. If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here. Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime. With infinite love and gratitude. xo Sophia MY RECOMMENDED RESOURCES 🎵Stream MY QUANTUM HEALING ANTHEMS with HARP MUSIC: https://spoti.fi/3jqALGb 🎥Explore my latest live, virtual workshops: https://linktr.ee/sophiaspallino 💻Learn more about me and what I do: https://www.SophiaSpallino.com 📷Follow me on Instagram for inspiring real-life stories everyday: https://www.instagram.com/sophiaspallino/ 🤗Pledge to support my show: http://bit.ly/SupportEnlightened 🌈Shop my queer & spiritual merch: https://www.SophiaSpallino.com/shop 📚Shop my favorite books and card decks here: http://bit.ly/SoulBooks 💊Get affordable probiotics, boric acid, birth control, period-delaying pills, d-mannose, anti fungal meds, and UTI antibiotics ONLINE: https://hellowisp.com ✨If you are seeking wisdom & guidance, branding/social media consulting, dating advice, a breakup breakthrough/Closure session, or a card reading, I'd be honored to coach you: https://sophiaspallino.com/mentorship
“We have a bill that says children must be vaccinated in order to go to school. And if their parents don't want them to get vaccinated, then they'll just use a bill that says that [children] as young as 12 years old, they can consent to get the vaccine themselves.” Laura Sextro is the CEO and co-founder of the Unity Project, an umbrella group that brings together organizations across America that are fighting against the vaccine mandates for children and fighting for medical freedom and parental rights. “One of the bills in California, which is AB 2098—and I think that this is probably the most egregious bill that we're seeing —states that any doctor that goes against the COVID narrative will lose their medical license,” Sextro says. Follow EpochTV on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/EpochTVus Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/EpochTV Truth Social: https://truthsocial.com/@EpochTV Gettr: https://gettr.com/user/epochtv Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EpochTVus Gab: https://gab.com/EpochTV Telegram: https://t.me/EpochTV
In today's episode, Carina shares two quick and easy games that give a major boost your connection with anyone in your life.Use these games daily with your partner, kids, or even yourself to deepen connection, increase warmth, strengthen your bond, and get quality time, even when you're in a pinch.To connect more with Carina, you can find her at:https://higherself.earthwww.carinadevi.comhttps://www.instagram.com/carina.devi/https://firstname.lastname@example.org
LISTEN In this week’s From the Heart segment, Dr. Paul shares a soul secret that has led him to discover love and spiritual growth while enduring intense hardship. He describes how our pain can lead us to a deeper desire for truth, goodness, and beauty, enabling an experience where our loss can become our gain. Energetic Health Institute executive community director, Dr. Henry Ealy, returns to the show with a Covid special report. We’ll get to the point – the sho [...]
Ep. 182 - FL's new Parent's Bill of Rights - Parental Consent for Health Care Services is requiring every parent of a student in the state to sign consent forms for even the simplest of medical needs, like a bandaid or ice pack. Plus, Amazon's recent acquisition of iRobot's Roomba vacuum is not as much about making money for Jeff Bezos as it is about him being able to gather data about the inside of your home.
The bill proposes an affirmative consent model, the criminalisation of stealthing and stronger laws on image-based sexual abuse. But what does it all mean, and how does Victoria compare to other jurisdictions? We'll explain all that, and more. If you need support with anything raised in this podcast, you can call 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732. And if you want to do us a massive favour, you can do our podcast survey here. We'd love your feedback; there are only four questions and you could win a TDA hoodie! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10 I appeal to you for my child, Onesimus, whose father I became in my imprisonment.11 (Formerly he was useless to you, but now he is indeed useful to you and to me.) 12 I am sending him back to you, sending my very heart. 13 I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel, 14 but I preferred to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion but of your own accord. 15 For this perhaps is why he was parted from you for a while, that you might have him back forever, 16 no longer as a bondservant but more than a bondservant, as a beloved brother—especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord. 17 So if you consider me your partner, receive him as you would receive me. 18 If he has wronged you at all, or owes you anything, charge that to my account. 19 I, Paul, write this with my own hand: I will repay it—to say nothing of your owing me even your own self. 20 Yes, brother, I want some benefit from you in the Lord. Refresh my heart in Christ. 21 Confident of your obedience, I write to you, knowing that you will do even more than I say.22 At the same time, prepare a guest room for me, for I am hoping that through your prayers I will be graciously given to you. Key Words: Father, Useless, Useful, Heart, Consent, Why, Slave, Partner, Repay Keystone Verse: This perhaps is why… (Philemon 1:15)
We took our fake dating trope back in time with Megan Frampton's Four Weeks of Scandal! Color us very happy to find this historical romance novel filled with charm, great writing, foreplay, and character growth! If you didn't catch out the interview with author Megan Frampton, make sure you check it out here We chatted all about how she still loves reading and writing while holding a full-time job, and her writing process in subverting the typical historical damsel with little agency.You can grab your copy of Four Weeks of Scandal here. ***Get 30 days free on Kindle Unlimited just for our listeners! Or listen on Audible like Shani and get up to two free ebooks when you try Audible Premium Plus. ***Leave us a rating and review on ItunesA lot of additional listening on Patreon!Welcome to Romance at a Glance, a podcast that uses romance novels to dive into candid conversations about life, relationship dynamics, and sexual desires. As hosts Bridget and Shani review books and interview some of romance's biggest authors, they explore the breadth of the genre, openly embracing the sex, diverse couplings, and taboo to create a safe space for listeners to be exposed to different lifestyles, fantasies, and to pique their naughty curiosity.Expect 100% honest reviews, spontaneous singing, life lessons, indecent anecdotes, and bawdy humor.Check out www.romanceataglance.comChat with us on Instagram at instagram.com/romanceataglanceSupport us on Patreon at patreon.com/romanceataglance
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Activist-educator Cara Tuttle Bell is a trained attorney and powerful speaker on sexual harassment and assault prevention. Her work on college campuses dealing with sexual harassment and assault inspired her to train women on how to build assertiveness. She says it is crucial to communication, personal safety, and overall wellbeing. Cara also gives workshops on speaking with authority in salary negotiations, relationships, and work meetings. Her new book "Drowning in Timidity: Women, Politeness, and the Power of Assertive Living" is a must-read, especially for those who think being assertive is synonymous with being aggressive. In this episode Dr. mOeand Cara discuss these topics: How to be direct without being aggressive Practicing salary negotiation Sexual Harassment in corporate America Why children must be taught assertiveness Bystander intervention in assault prevention Handling sexual misconduct in schools Moral courage, trauma-informed training and more... Visit Cara's website and connect with her online @caratuttlebell today! Transcript (auto generated) [00:00] Cara Tuttle Bell: I also hope that we can move away from this very gendered and loaded idea of assertiveness and understand it for what it really is, which is just being direct, being clear, being fair, considering the competing interests that might be in a meeting or a conversation and engaging equitably with one another. [00:27] Dr. mOe Anderson: Hey, everybody. Welcome to Perpetual Motion, a podcast focused on wellness, personal growth, culture, and relationships. Positive relationships. I'm your host, Dr. Mo Anderson. Bestselling author, award winning podcast host, keynote speaker, and speaker coach. Sometimes I interview expert guests, like today, and sometimes I do a solo show. But my goal is always the same I want to help you. Yes, you review, renew, and re you at the end of each show. I hope you have learned something that will elevate you to the next level of success. If you're new to the show or a returning visitor, let's make this official. Click that subscribe button to be notified of new episodes as soon as they are available. Also, help us grow and reach more listeners by raiding the show and leaving a comment. Just type a little bit. Just a little something, something. All right, stay tuned, because today my special guest is Kara Tuttle Bell. She is a powerful speaker on sexual harassment and assault prevention. What do we need? Some powerful speakers on that. And she also is an expert on why assertiveness is a crucial component of communication, personal safety, and overall wellbeing, she's got a great book. She's the author of Drowning, intimid, Politeness and the Power of a Certain Living. I'll be right back with Kara Tuttle Bell. You can't say Dr. Mo aintellya the fear might suffer the consequences winter's a failure what are you scared of? Why aren't you afraid? I'd rather live like I'm dying to live and die in the day my heart is pure my soul is safe tara, welcome to Perpetual Motion. [02:35] Cara Tuttle Bell: Hi. Thank you so much for having me today. [02:37] Dr. mOe Anderson: This is exciting. I haven't had a guess with your background or for this particular topic. I mean, assertiveness as part of communication is not something that we really think about. In fact, women get criticized for that a lot when they can just be the same way as a guy. And also, sexual harassment, I don't know if it's on the rise or we're talking about it more, but these are such important topics, and I'm glad you're here to help us understand better. Let's start with assertiveness. Why do we need to be more assertive? [03:11] Cara Tuttle Bell: I really hope that we can reclaim assertiveness. I think there are so many reasons that we need to show up and assert ourselves, both for ourselves and for others. I also hope that we can move away from this very gendered and loaded idea of assertiveness and understand it for what it really is, which is just being direct, being clear, being fair. Considering the competing interests that might be in a meeting or a conversation and engaging equitably with one another and I. [03:46] Dr. mOe Anderson: Hope we can as well. And I don't know the history behind it, but I just think about women who run for office or women who are in positions of authority and it seems like they just held to a whole another standard when it comes to confidence and communication. Do you know the origin of that? Is it just the role of women evolving or what the heck? [04:12] Cara Tuttle Bell: I mean, I think we are in the midst of it. I think we are watching this play out. Unfortunately, there are still too few women in these historically maledominated spaces so they remain judged and evaluated by old fashioned norms about male behavior and what we thought male leadership is and male courage looks like and really white male visions of that in most industries, but especially politics, as you mentioned. I think it is very hard for them to walk this tightrope or strike the right balance and get evaluated in the same way. I mean, they're just not we hear it on the news, we see it in the comment section of websites. You see it in headline after headline. You see it on Twitter where women are being judged more harshly for engaging directly, for having stances and opinions, which of course they do. And we should welcome that because I think a lot of people are confusing assertiveness and aggression. [05:19] Dr. mOe Anderson: Yes. And that's what we're getting to. And as you said, that what came to mind is even the subtle ways that this plays out. Even when I hear I'm a speaker, you're a speaker. But I'll hear other speakers so often when they quote someone famous, it's always what Patton said, what Lincoln said, what Ray. I hear women at events for women, women speakers and events from women and they don't have one single quote or statistics or anything from another female or for that matter, from even someone of another culture. I'll go out of my way to try to find something from someone in India or Canada or Australia and it's so ingrained that I think some people don't even recognize that they're doing it before a woman speaker. To give an hour speech and never quote a woman. It just blows my mind. [06:17] Cara Tuttle Bell: It does mine too. I completely agree. And I hope others can work intentionally to really diversify their message and their program and their slides and their images. I mean, you have to do the work and a lot of it is internalized. So I know that we're all busy and these women's speakers are probably like, I've got this presentation tomorrow and they may be finalizing their slides, but it's worth doing, right? It's worth doing because so many people are watching and listening. Now, granted, we are trying to make up for these huge gaps in education, right? Especially like in public education in the US. You probably were taught about a lot of men a lot of military generals, we see a lot of quotes from men's sports coaches as well. They're always a go to. These things are much more present in our mind because we're surrounded by those messages. We get them from day one. I mean, everywhere you go in a restaurant, church is off and on. Church, male leaders. So it's like we've been surrounded by male leadership in a lot of different spaces for the bulk of our lives and we've made so much progress, but we're still working to get towards equity. We haven't landed there yet, so we got to do some of this work of undoing to really be better at inclusion. Right? So it's like diversity and inclusion and belonging, which means we got to correct for the past, we got to address those lingering effects of that kind of socialization. And I mean, I do think asserting ourselves in these spaces, whether it's work, our professional relationships, our community works, our churches, is part of that work. It's part of the action that we can take. [08:06] Dr. mOe Anderson: Right. Very good point. And back to what you said earlier, which leads to my next question. What is the difference between being assertive and aggressive? Because I think a lot of people confuse the two. [08:22] Cara Tuttle Bell: I agree. I think we see both and it can be gendered. We have lots of good studies on this. We are just judging women more harshly. But when you look at these things foundationally, like, what does this mean? What is the definition of these words, then? Aggression? Is that steam rolling? Is that coming at something with force? It could be an abuse of power. It can be physical, it can be verbal, it can be using or depriving someone of resources. It's that misuse and abuse that becomes aggression. Right? It can be violent, it can be the unhealthy expression of anger. I'm actually fine with anger because I'll probably come up in some other answers. [09:10] Dr. mOe Anderson: But we don't want to be constructive or destructive. [09:13] Cara Tuttle Bell: It depends, right? It depends how you use it. I don't want us to live in it so much that we're bitter, but I want to harness anger as fuel so that we have that extra boost of energy to assert ourselves. Asserting yourself means you're showing up, you're being present, you're participating, and that varies. You're participating appropriate to your role in the workplace. You're participating on a committee that you're assigned to. You should be doing the work you're being asked to do and doing it fairly. So there's nothing wrong when I go to a meeting with asserting my own ideas, the agenda, my office and what I'm responsible for, and having that open conversation about whatever the decision is right. [10:02] Dr. mOe Anderson: And how we should make it, advocate for ourselves yes. [10:05] Cara Tuttle Bell: And what we should consider. And then it just sits there. It doesn't mean the other person has that obligation to receive it. But I'm showing up and engaging directly and fairly and equitably. So that, to me, is an assertive communication, which differs from really, if you think of, like, an 80s Wall Street type of movie that American, like, I'm going to call my way to the top dog approach. That's really the misuse of that. That's taking it too far. That's aggressive and it's inequitable, right? [10:38] Dr. mOe Anderson: You made me think about I'm glad you said that anger is okay sometimes because I'm here in the south, and we still have a lot of Southern belle mentality, and even when you are slicing and dicing somebody, you need to be smiling and offering them tea as they die. So many things. I had a couple of folks that I was mentoring at a previous company, and they came here from the East Coast, and they were just having such problems with clients because they were just going in just being normal, really being normal, but not the Southern way. And I was like, hey, you're going to have to and this wasn't male or female, but they were female, so they were getting it double. Like, people aren't responding. I was like, you got to go in this way. You got to come in real low and smooth. You got to ask about their children. We cannot just sit down and start talking about business. We got to drink and eat a little bit. There's so many cultural things in a dish. And then you throw these gender stereotypes and biases on top of oh, my God, it makes me weary sometimes. [11:53] Cara Tuttle Bell: It can be exhausting. And this is why I always talk about politeness, because when I'm talking about assertiveness or Serbia training a lot of women and you're right about south, right? It's a different audience sometimes a lot of Southern women in particular are a little resistant. Part of them wants to embrace assertiveness, and then they're like, but it feels too confrontational. It feels unladylike. I mean, I hear these things from them, and I'm like, okay, that word exactly. [12:24] Dr. mOe Anderson: I know you here. [12:30] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is. It's like, why wouldn't we just be pleasant and don't want to create conflict? We like to smooth things out. I'm currently in the south, and we just have to talk through it. And so I'm like, Listen, I'm all for polite behavior, but I'm really for kindness, right? We should be kind to other humans and patient and all of those things, but not to a fault. Not when it keeps us engaging, not when it keeps us from addressing injustice, not when it means that we're always minding our business while harm after harm and types of discrimination keep occurring. Not when it keeps us from having healthy relationships. So this people pleasing or fear of any sort of discomfort or conflict is the root of so many problems, personal and structural, societal. So I really am always advocating for us to bring assertiveness well beyond your salary negotiation conversation. That's when I think people think, okay, I can visit it for five minutes. I can be assertive for this moment in my life that comes maybe every three to five years, and I'm just going to cram for it, too. They just think, give me a script, I'm going to cram for this the night before. And listen, I'll help you with salary negotiation. I will, okay? So you can come to me for the last minute cramming session. But that's not skill building, right? That's like faking until you make it. That's like, I hope you can be assertive and hold for two minutes the next day when you have the conversation, but probably not because you're not practicing this on a daily basis, and it feels too hard when we make it infrequent and high stakes. And so this is about something that really, I think people should embrace as daily practice. It's self care. It's setting boundaries. It's maintaining those boundaries. It helps us have healthy relationships, and it helps us also be really in touch with those times when people are trying to violate our boundaries, where I want you to have anger, I want you to be in touch with that feeling when it comes up for you so you know what it means, but then harness it for maximum impact. And so that's where the anchor is fine. The anger is probably valid. I mean, there's so many valid reasons to be outraged right now. There's so many. But what are we going to do with that, right? Because I don't want people to live in bitterness and resentment. That's the same outcome of not engaging assertively. That's what happens when people are passive or passive aggressive, is that they're holding onto it. So for me, assertiveness is this balance that helps us be healthy on a daily basis and fair. [15:23] Dr. mOe Anderson: I like that you make that point about clients trying to come to you for the last minute. They come to me with their speeches at the last minute. Like delivering communication is a lifestyle. It's a way of life. It's kind of hard to get to that keynote level in a night. And I would think with salary negotiating, too, with what I think I've seen with people who try that cramming type of thing, is that they overcorrect and all of a sudden they're like, and this is what I wait a minute, what is going on? I can't even hear what you're saying because I don't know you. Who are you anyway? [16:00] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is a burst. It is because it's really like they are really trying to summon up the courage. And so it does come up too quickly, too strong. And then I also see people who just can't hold their position. So even if they can say the two sentences that they've memorized to make the ask, they then undo it with that need for pleasantry, if that's okay with you. Exactly. [16:25] Dr. mOe Anderson: You don't mind, and I'm sorry, and. [16:27] Cara Tuttle Bell: If you think it's okay exactly. Yeah. [16:35] Dr. mOe Anderson: I want this. We got to fix this quickly because I got a granddaughter and I want something different for her. Absolutely. All of the young women there's so much going on, as you said, and we're not going to get into that. But this is pressing, clear and pressing issue. Let's go to being assertive. And I'm just guessing you're the expert on this. Sexual harassment is a problem. It's something you have some expertise in and it's a lingering problem. And I think I'm wondering if being timid as well, in no way am I ever trying to make a woman at thought about anything. But if assertiveness when you talk about your safety and well being, if that can in some ways help you with that. But let's just talk about let's start with why in Twin. Is sexual harassment still Jeffrey Epstein a problem? [17:39] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is. And people ask me this a lot. This is my day job, right? This is the kind of compliance job that I have. So I'm trained as a lawyer and I work on a college campus. And so I'm addressing sexual harassment and assault all day, every day and have for the past eight plus years. And I am very passionate about it and become very assertive. And that's like both the personal and professional journey. I used to be. Shy. Law school really helps. But you also can practice, right? A lot of it had to be a willingness to do the practice. So I wasn't born this way. For your listeners, like, definitely this can be learned. I know it can be because I'm sitting here as the proof and the outrage that I have over the issue helps. Right? I mean, the outrage helps. The anger helps. I try to turn it into fuel to push me through the day, to be able to then bring it in a meeting or whatever it is that I'm working on addressing. And what we think in the field is that we're not seeing like a new epidemic. We're just seeing increased awareness, increased reporting of what has for a very long time been very high levels of this type of discrimination and heart. And it is everywhere you look, it is more common in male dominated professions. And you can look for data on this. This is business data, this is insurance policy data. The more there is a disparity in a profession, the more men outnumber women, the more incidents we have. And it's been this way for a long time, the more vulnerable a person in a role is. And that can be geographic isolation, that can be low pay, that can be low influence or authority in the position. That can be the seasonal nature of a position. Whatever it is, it isn't. Giving them security in a position in relation to other people makes them more likely to experience this type of harm. So it remains prevalent because inequity is prevalent and it's connected to the other forms of discrimination. So where you have racism and ableism and transphobia and homophobia and other types of discrimination you're going to also have gender harassment, sexism misogyny, sexual harassment and sexual assault. Now where assertiveness comes in is that the current best practice that we're trying to implement really across the board k through twelve schools it's been in the military they're introducing in churches. I think we're going to see this more and more across corporate America definitely has taken hold in higher ed is by teaching what's called bystander intervention training and that's because we're all bystanders like it or not I mean we're just here navigating the world and you choose and it is a choice whether to be an active or a passive. Bystander now a lot of us were raised to mind our own business. A lot of us worry about the risks of speaking up or of standing. [21:06] Dr. mOe Anderson: Out sometimes and that boys will be boys thing. [21:10] Cara Tuttle Bell: Oh and then the tolerance yes I. [21:12] Dr. mOe Anderson: Had some incidents and it was just blown off like that's just part of it yes and go out of the dark kind of thing like your right. [21:24] Cara Tuttle Bell: We still hear a lot of blaming for the target they're responsible for receiving the harassment and so where I am glad and can promise that there's been progress is a lot of the prevention messages are not so sexist anymore I mean they were they were just sexist application. They were saying women do this to prevent your own assault and we weren't having when I was in college corresponding messaging given to the male students who all of the data suggests are much more likely to be engaging in perpetration regardless of the gender identity of the victim. So men are from all the data we have and that's across fields so it's criminal justice data, psychology, sociology, women's studies that's not actually in dispute. So we haven't realistically confronted the problem for some time but the public health model now is recommending that we teach a lot of bystander intervention and we are so it is now routine practice at colleges and universities in the United States more and more often showing up yes since like 2014 so they're supposed to be doing it. If anyone has any questions, please feel free to reach out. But we're doing it and it's teaching you some strategies. If you see something, say something but it's also giving you choices. So not everyone has to swoop in like a superhero or be loud or address something directly. They can also create a distraction. You can delegate to someone who's better able or who has authority to try to respond when appropriate. We need to think broadly about delegation so it's not necessarily always law enforcement that we're calling it's what's appropriate for the situation. Right. So sometimes it's me like on campus people can call me because it's my job to go do these things and so if someone feels like they don't know what to say or they don't know what to do, who can you take with you? Who can you delegate to? How can you document something? Documentation, we're seeing having really transformative and activist power in recent years, helping us really confront some harsh realities and prove to the doubters some things that a lot of us knew were happening. So sometimes documentation from afar is the thing we can do safely to address an issue. And that takes some nerve too, right? So all of these things we're hoping to equip people to choose from if they are in the midst of situations at risk for sexual harassment or assault, but it can apply to all forms of discrimination. [24:17] Dr. mOe Anderson: What bothers me with the documentation is in the form of a video. If that falls into that category, is when people are just filming just for the purpose of posting and entertaining and not get help. That is just appalling filming women being raped, assaulted and me. And two, to be clear, this cannot just happen to women assault and harassment. Although, as you said, the data shows, it is for adults predominantly going to be women. But are they teaching them that documentation needs to go somewhere and not just post it and hope somebody sees it? Because that's scary to me. [25:02] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is scary. So I'm always making that qualifier. We know that college students consume a lot of video content from some popular sites. And so just quite directly, I'm like, this is not for that. That is not what we're asking you to do. Consent is really key when we're talking about sexual misconduct. Like consent is key. So if you're filming something without someone's consent and you're posting it somewhere without their consent and you're sharing it without consent, you are part of the problem. That's also increasingly illegal, right? So they shouldn't be sharing social content. So yes, I think that is a very important part of the conversation that cannot be left out. I don't care how long the training is running. It's like if you're going to mentioned documentation, you've got to put those really important caveats around it because that's what came to mind. [25:57] Dr. mOe Anderson: And even I believe it's illegal almost everywhere now to post pics the revenge posting of some intimate photo or whatever that was sent to you. And I'm happy that law enforcement and our lawmakers are stepping up, but again, we're looking at largely male populations to make these decisions. So that speaking up and getting involved in folks like you being there to help make this transition is so important. And I was thinking about as well too, to go back to harassment being a lingering problem. We're talking about learned behavior, confidence and being assertiveness. Isn't this sexual harassment? Learned behavior? I can't imagine. I mean, I have two sons. They didn't come here like that. And then heaven forbid that's going on. But from the movies, to their peers, to whatever is of course enough. Do we have to attack all of these industries, magazines and music and everything? Not attack, but you know what I'm saying. [27:05] Cara Tuttle Bell: You know what you mean. It is very concerning, right? Because young people are always getting so many different messages is contradictory messages, right? And so even if they're raised one way, they could then land in a peer environment where they're getting reinforcement on a lot of negative behaviors. And this is true across the board. This could be drug use. This could be alcohol misuse. This could be for like, how they engage in sexual practices. Do they bully and harass people? So that peer dynamic pushes some young people into behaviors they otherwise normally wouldn't engage in on their own. And they tell us that, right? I mean there's really fascinating research on these topics and getting them to display some moral courage, some assertiveness, that's really tough. That is really tough. So we got to really pull it apart. We work through scenarios. We talked to a lot of them about what leadership is because many of them want to be a leader in some capacity and they want to skip over the work, right? They want to just graduate and be like a successful millionaire entrepreneur in their twenty s. And we're talking about like, what skills aren't you practicing and developing? Particularly these students who have been in the home environment, so they didn't have the social experience of the past few years due to COVID on college campuses, we are seeing a developmental delay. I mean, we are like it is not the same incoming class that we had prepandemic in the interpersonal communication skills. So it really did feel like we had these young students kind of just unleashed once some of the restrictions were lifted and they were coming to us with different questions. I don't like my roommate. I don't know how to navigate this conflict, whether it's conflict or laundry or deciding where to eat in a group. So they're just asking us really basic social questions and for tips that they thought they were past at least a few years ago. Now, I always thought they had room for improvement, but it wasn't such a basic level. So I'm very concerned about their ability to engage in sexual communication, ensure that consent is a part of those things, or know and honor resistance and discomfort when they're seeing it. I mean, people are not really teaching them this consistently. So we don't have consistent sex ed in this country. It really depends where they are. A lot of schools are afraid and that's because the parents complain about the type of content. So I very rarely see a college student who has what I would want them to have had before they get to college, which would be medically accurate. Information about their body, the bodies of others. Consent, education boundaries, warning signs of unhealthy relationships. What constitutes stating violence or exploitation, sexual exploitation, a lot of which that like coercion and blackmailing can occur with phones, pictures, and videos now, because otherwise they get here. And people in jobs like mine, we will try to do what we can, but a lot of times they're 18 when they get here. Right. So we've got to engage in some unlearning to try to then relearn or teach them new skills. And, no, they're not getting enough time with me. They're with their peers most of all. And dosage is key. [30:56] Dr. mOe Anderson: Micro dosage. [31:02] Cara Tuttle Bell: We got to talk about what they're learning. Right. And with the availability of online ***********, are they learning more from **** because they're not getting sex at in schools? That is concerning to me. So then it's not surprising when they're reenacting things they saw online and they tell us stuff like, oh, I think they like that. And I'm like, you can't assume everybody likes that. [31:28] Dr. mOe Anderson: That woman or that man is paid. [31:34] Cara Tuttle Bell: It's all about consent. Yeah. We have to help them unpack these things a little bit and work through it. And you touched on this earlier, and this is really important to say is some assertiveness does deter some bad behavior. Not all. Okay. There's always going to be people who are trying to violate our boundaries and trying to cause harm, who are trying to take advantage of a situation so we can't prevent everything. [32:04] Unknown Speaker: Exactly. [32:04] Cara Tuttle Bell: But there is research to support that strong articulation of boundaries. Clear resistance does disrupt and deter some behavior. It may not prevent them from harming someone else, which I understand. They might then just choose another target. But it is worth a try when we think we're in a situation to nip something in the bud early on. Right. And especially if we're talking about sexual harassment in the workplace. Right. Because if the behavior continues and you get to a place where you're going to want to report it or seek some support, they're going to ask if you were clear about your boundaries. They're going to ask the question, did you tell them this makes you uncomfortable? And no, you shouldn't have to. They should just not commit the harm. I agree with you completely. None of this should be happening. But it is happening, and it's happening often. So I do want to just give people as many tools as possible to be able to reduce harm, appease when that's the best choice for safety or extricate yourself from a situation. [33:18] Dr. mOe Anderson: Kara, what about this? I'm thinking about the gymnasts mobiles and others. I mean, they did everything. They reported it. They went to the authorities. I think they went to the FBI. Oh, my goodness. It honestly makes me think about discrimination with African Americans back with the Tulsa Race rides and everything. Who do you turn to when the people coming for you are the people who are supposed to protect you or the people who are. Ignoring it are the authorities. [33:51] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is true and it is so discouraging, okay? Not every human resources department or law enforcement department, these people who are supposed to be who you can turn to, clearly that's not consistently available or going to guarantee success. I mean, very few times can I offer the people I'm working with anything that feels like justice. And that's really disappointing, right? Because a lot of us are raised to have faith in the systems and these procedures. We build trust like that. You hope that your company cares about you, especially if you've worked there for 20 years. We get so many messages about how we care about all these issues, yet when people value submissions, yes, the statements are lovely, but you got to back that up with action. And I know that sometimes the supportive person is hard to find, but I do know because this is my professional network, right? These are the conferences I go to. There are hundreds or thousands of us who do care, and they may not be at your company, okay? They may not be. And a good indication is, look up your sexual misconduct policy. Is it from has anyone updated it since? [35:08] Dr. mOe Anderson: How would you know? Because they'll change the bottom of the document. They'll change the footer on the front page when you look at it. Can you tell from the content that this is not current with our culture and our beliefs now? [35:26] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes. Right, because a wave of activism on this was in the early to mid 90s, really prompted by Anita Hills testimony during the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearing. So that was the Wake up call for America phase one. And sadly, a lot of the work stopped then. So my college students, when they go get at their next job, the ones who maintain contact with us or who took my class, they do things like look up the policy and when was the last time the committee met and what would I do if I experienced sexual harassment in the workplace? And some of them are pretty activist and they ask these questions at the interview. That is risky. You may not get the job offer if you're showing yourself to be what might be perceived as a troublemaker at the interview. But if you care too much about some of these causes that could make the employer nervous, it would be better. [36:21] Dr. mOe Anderson: To know then that HR might be the very person you have to go to. [36:29] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, you and I are on the same page. I'm like, there is another job. I promise you there's another job. Sometimes the students are so worried, but I'm like, you need to be interviewing them just as much as they are interviewing you. These are signs. They are telling you whether or not this is going to be a healthy or a toxic or replaced culture, whether or not they're going to cover for people or actually address the things that are happening. But if you can't find it at your school or in your church or at your place of employment, do some Internet research, because there are many nonprofit organizations, regionally, nationally, I'd help anyone find them. There are attorneys who take things pro bono. There are all sorts of resources now to help people across industries. It is sometimes hard to find them, but I know that they're there. I know that they're there because those of us who have experienced these things and have had help now want to extend that help to others because the support is not consistently available. [37:32] Dr. mOe Anderson: No, it's not. But there are so many who have, myself included, being victims of sexual harassment. And I think, in addition to Anita Hill, I feel like Tyrone Burke's Me Too movement, even though it's come under a lot of criticism. And yes, there have been people accused for everything who may have been innocent, even Child Protective Services. There's always going to be that small percentage. But Kara I was at after that happened, and people don't realize she had been talking about that for a while and had that hashtag made too, for some years before it got retweeted following the Harvey Weinstein thing. Weinstein weinstein. And I remember being with some girlfriends. We'd gone to a movie and everybody was talking about hashtag me too. And afterwards we were talking and we got to talking about it. And these were professional women over about six of us. And every single one of us had been a victim of sexual harassment and sexual assault. And none of us were in a position that we felt we can do anything about it and have any support. And that was just it took me weeks just to get over that revelation, because you kind of go around just thinking it's just you like perhaps those young gymnasts were doing, not realizing how many people were being victimized. And we kind of cried together. And when you don't deal with it too, just the post traumatic stress of just being there, and some of that resentment, anger, and explosiveness that it happened and that you weren't able to deal with it. So in addition to you guys teaching these courses and you being there as an advocate, an attorney, a trained attorney, is there also counseling now? Are there more mental health services? [39:29] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, we're seeing just a dramatic expansion across higher ed, which is good and overdue around all kinds of counseling and well being. Right. So we'll see a center for student wellbeing, you'll see expanded staff and many more culturally relevant and sensitive trainings and staff to surf particular populations. If you look at the hiring, you just see it everywhere, like in many, many states, that there are so many jobs because this is an urgent issue on college campuses, not just sexual assault, but I mean, the mental health and well being concerned. And yes, right. So if someone were to connect with us, we offer them a menu of services. They can work with victim advocates or they can go to the counseling center. And there's some specialization and sexual trauma or aspects of identity that they can seek out. A provider who they feel comfortable with, who they think gets their experience, but also understands what they're processing. We have yoga, we have meditation, we have study skills, we have financial education that can be necessary. A lot of places have hardship funds, student health. So our medical providers have a lot more understanding of sexual trauma, childhood sexual abuse, because those exams, like the exams you're touching the body, I mean, that can be very triggering for a survivor. And consent is just important in providing information. So everything that I'm seeing is getting more trauma informed. The progress is just slower than any of us would like. Law enforcement also has been getting more trauma informed training over the years. A lot of assumptions about doing the work, which led to really a lot of dismissal of some of the reports because if they interview a sexual assault victim in the immediate aftermath trauma, she's still in the space of trauma. Trauma disrupts memory encoding, like how our brain is storing them and putting them together. So it would be difficult while we're in fight or flight, we're in the adrenaline surge. These things last for days, not just minutes and hours. And so they've learned that conducting open ended interviews after three to five sleep cycles is actually much more likely to produce a coherent narrative with fewer gaps. [42:13] Dr. mOe Anderson: I know for a long time they just kind of thought you just get to them right away, they're going to start making up stuff or imagining stuff or they'll forget. But you're saying the memory can actually oh, that's for the person experiencing that, that's horrible too. But with time it sounds like it's kind of scattered pieces and you can start putting it together a little better. [42:38] Cara Tuttle Bell: You can. And if alcohol is involved and often is not always, but alcohol consumption, whether voluntary or used to commit the crime, that further disrupts that memory consolidation and encoding. And so really sleep and being in a safe environment and emergency rooms aren't always feeling safe. They're like hectic and loud and there's people in and out. So conducting an interview, even with good intentions, even when they want to get the information to try to go try to get the offender as quickly as possible, was not producing good results. So we're seeing new approaches being adopted here and there. Again, it's not everywhere. And I would like it to be, to do things like the forensic experiential trauma interview, that's one called Fetty, where it's training them to build rapport, create a really safe condition so it doesn't feel like we're interrogating a victim, ask open ended questions, let them go where they want to go, right? Because the brain is navigating through fear and trauma and that's not linear and it's not going to be linear but at the end of the conversation or several conversations it should be the job of that investigator to put that story together. So we were really often are making the person who experienced the harm be the crime scene and then do all of the work of reconstructing the narrative and that was just not the best way to get at the information. That's really what we now know about the brain and trauma has really changed the approach in ways that better equip any type of investigator who understands this is the neurobiology of trauma who has this training to ask better questions and get a better narrative and since what we're talking about is often word against word that narrative is crucially important. Sometimes there's corroborating evidence but a lot of times there isn't and so getting that good account from the person who was harmed is tough work but it's. [44:44] Dr. mOe Anderson: Tough work worth doing right and not being dismissed. The big message here, whatever age you are is that there are people out there who will help you, who can help you and systematically it hasn't always been the case and there's still going to be some of the old attitudes and processes out there but don't give up. I mean we're seeing things coming out now about and I don't want to keep naming organizations but just people who were children, male and female and things happen and they're just now getting restitution, getting justice and we don't want to see that anymore. [45:24] Cara Tuttle Bell: No, it takes a long time and it's very important to acknowledge that these harms and this discrimination occurs across identity, right? So it occurs across gender. Identity occurs in all communities whether you're class level and across race. We do know that there's disproportionate impact, right? That some people have more vulnerable characteristics that let them be targeted and also that let them justice system then fail them than others. So absolutely none of this is fair and consistent across the board but help is available if you know where to look and if you don't know where to look reach out to me and I will help you. There are people who will help you find it. [46:10] Dr. mOe Anderson: Thank you for that. We're going to give your information to in the show notes and when we get to the end but before we do I want to know we're talking about assertiveness but how do we if we're not naturally that way unbelievably? I'm not a natural extrovert people have a hard time believing I'm not really but I had to learn it because I was trying to get run over but how can we learn? I mean I just went at it and role model somebody but was better, more systematic. I practiced until it became second nature but what's the more strategic or what is the recommended way to learn assertiveness? And I want to couch that in two ways. One is I've got young people around me. How do I teach them assertiveness in my kind little Southern bobble beltway so that they don't get in trouble at school, but also for people that it's not their nature. And there are a lot of adults, male and females, who just don't want trouble. They just rather not see anything. [47:17] Cara Tuttle Bell: I know it's hard to start, okay? It's hard. And it will feel painful. It will. And I didn't know there were tools around when I was doing it. And so I was like, you have to jump in this conversation. It really was faking it until you make it. But now I know that there are lots of books. There are now. A lot of them came out in the 70s. That's where we saw the debut of assertiveness Training, 70s Women movement. And some of them are still really good foundational texts. Now some of it's going to feel really dated and just if you read those and they're cheap, you can get a lot of these at used bookstores for nothing, for pennies. Just let the dated stuff go and take the lessons where you can find them. Then again, as I mentioned, a resurgence in the 90s, so you might see some of these books available from mid ninety s. A lot of them are really focused on women at work, so they're career focused and they're about being ambitious. But there's some good lessons in there still. Now, what I like about recent products is that they're much more inclusive also, so it's not so stereotypical about men and women. And these are tools for everyone. And this is really good because a lot of people come to the assertiveness training workshops and sometimes they're making assumptions that are just for women. But there are men who feel like they're getting run over in meetings and they don't know how to advocate for themselves either. This really is for everybody. So you can Google assertiveness training. There are lots of free resources on the web. There are books, there are workbooks. I mean, I do have my book. It has some exercises in it. I've got a workbook only that's available on Etsy, but there's lots of name of your book? My book is Drowning and Timidity Women Politeness and the Power of Assertive Living. It is available at my website, karatuttlebell.com, but also for Kendall on Amazon. You can purchase it at Walmart or through professional women books. It lives in a couple of different places, so it's available. It does have exercises in it. Start with self reflection, right? You've got to know who you are and what's hard for you. So we know what to work on. So quick questions would be when you are walking across campus, are you the person who always moves out of the way on the sidewalk or do you hold your position on a plane? Do you ever get the armrest? Or do you never get the armrest in your family or, you know, romantic relationships? Do we ever eat where you want to eat or someone else always making the decision, are you watching the movies you want to watch, or are you just going along? And so there's all kinds of questions to just do some self reflection about where am I and where is it worth it? I'm not saying fight every battle. I don't know what I'm having for dinner tonight. And I may not care when I go home and make that decision with my partner. You know what I mean? It may be their night to pick, but the question is, are you ever getting what you want ever? And where is it important for you to do so? We can apply this to romantic and sexual relationships. Who's experiencing pleasure and how often and why not? And assertiveness matters there, too. Are we giving more than we're getting? And you just apply that give and take analysis that it was Sunday. Yes. Whatever relationship we're talking about. Right? Like, are you feeling taken advantage of or does it feel really balanced and equitable so that you start with the self reflection, then you start with the small practice. I want you to start small. I want it to feel doable. I want you to ask for something that's really low stakes, so it doesn't matter if you get the yes or not. And I also want you to get comfortable getting hearing no. You'll survive the no, it's all right. You survived the tough meeting. We survived the uncomfortable phone call. We've survived it over and over. We've survived it all thus far. Excellent. You will survive. And that's why that's nice. In my career, and I've also learned to perform extraversion, even though I have to retreat and recharge. If you learn you can do it, I'll learn I can do it. I'm going to have this burst of energy. I've also become really good about setting boundaries so I have that time to recharge. That also requires assertiveness. I got to tell my friends I cannot go out again. I'm, like, try to limit to two happy hours or two social events a week. Otherwise, I feel too depleted. And some of us can't say no to our friends who love us anyway. They love me anyway. They know I don't go to brunch. Okay? I don't go to brunch. Brunch is too loud, and I don't understand middle of the day drinking, and. [52:07] Dr. mOe Anderson: They'll tease you about it. We know you're not coming. [52:10] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, and it's fine then. It's all fine in other ways. Yes. They know I'll fight for them. They know I've got their back. So your relationships should be strong enough to survive that actually, they should be thriving. It's like they should really be seeing you for who you are and letting you be healthy in the ways that you need and so starting small with the practice just really helps you learn to ask if you have kids. I would say make them make phone calls, maybe put the name in at the restaurant. The students are coming in really struggling with just verbal communication, like out loud communication because they're doing it all on their phones. Okay? They want to text or do an online chat. And we're not preparing them for work. Work still requires some phone calls. I mean, at some point, you have to talk to another human. So you can start small in those ways to make them practice talking and to talk to adults and actually talking across the power differential in appropriate ways. But we got to break the scene and not hurt because seen and not heard is how we have a lot of child victimization. That's how we have the gymnasts, which we talked about going on, going on for so long. How do you have hundreds of victims for so long? Well, they did everything right, as you said. They told us and they told us, and they told us, and they told adults, and they told the FBI, you know, and how does this still continue? So I actually want us to raise angry girls. Write that down. Yes. Because the anger is a signal, as we talked about. If you're stressing politeness over their boundaries and well being, they're not going to acknowledge the harm themselves. They're not going to tell you about it. They're not going to seek support. They're going to be stuck in that self blame. And so let anger be the signal. Let assertiveness be the tool. And then the outcome is healthier beings, right, who once they've learned to advocate for themselves and assert themselves absolutely, I want them to have this sense of collective responsibility. And this is part of my message, which I really think was missing in the books of the in the 90s. You've got to advocate for others. That's what changes our communities. You've got to be a bystander who engages or be the witness who goes along and confirms somebody's report who at least acknowledges the harms that are happening everywhere we look and engage collectively. So it's not assertiveness just to get you a raise, which you deserve, okay, get your rates. But that's changing an individual person's existence. That's not creating change in our communities, structural or systemic change. That's not going to bring about gender equity. So we've got to use assertiveness to change our communities and engage collectively as well. And I think that's been missing in too many places, right? [55:32] Dr. mOe Anderson: And we've been so worried about the cost ourselves individually and not thinking about long term the consequences for generations to come, like the inequity with salaries and so many other things. When we think about what the CEOs of the Fortune 500, fortune 100 company, 4% women, all of this is related. It's all related, and it's time we changed it. And start by not being bystanders. Get out there and be advocates and leaders in this area. I love what you're doing. I could just go on and on. We need to do a live or something because I have enjoyed this and your passion around it is wonderful. I learned a lot. I didn't know what was going on on college campuses. I go back for football games and roll out. I couldn't use some of this. Trust and believe. So again, karate. Tuttle Bell, author of Drowning In That You Drowning in Women Politeness and the Power of Assertive living Tools and Tips to help anyone get it. Wherever books are sold, tell them how to connect with you online. That website one more time. Social media. However, we can find you online. [56:49] Cara Tuttle Bell: Sure. The easy way is to find me on my website, which is my name Caratuttlebell.com, and then you can find me on various forms of social media at Karatuttlebell. So I tried to make it easy. You reached out to me on LinkedIn, Instagram, doesn't matter. I'm publicly available. Feel free to reach out. I'm always happy to talk about this, as you can probably tell. [57:09] Dr. mOe Anderson: I can tell. I love it. And I can't wait to call my son and say, brave, angry girl. That's what we're going to be about. Thank you so much. You've been a wonderful guest. [57:21] Cara Tuttle Bell: Thank you so much for having me. [57:24] Dr. mOe Anderson: Wasn't that a great program? I love that episode. I enjoyed it. I hope you did too. Please remember to like, subscribe and share. Learn more about me on my website. Dr. Moanderson.com. That's Moe. You can read book excerpts, watch videos, learn about the services that I offer, and book me for a speaking engagement. I'd love to talk with your group and I'd love to work with you. So until the next time, review, renew, and re you. Thank you.
In an exclusive interview with Yuliana Vilkos, REDD Intelligence's CEEMEA Chief Editor, the head of CEEMEA debt capital markets at JPMorgan Stefan Weiler, reveals the thought process behind Ukraine's recent request to defer payments on its Eurobonds and GDP warrants, and the various factors that influenced the July timing of the consent. This episode marks REDD CEEMEA's inaugural podcast!
This week on Legally Speaking with Michael Mulligan:Section 273.1(1) of the Criminal Code specifies that a person's voluntary agreement to “engage in the sexual activity in question” is required. Even where there is consent to sexual activity, it can be legally ineffective in various circumstances, including where the consent is obtained by force, the exercise of authority or fraud. In 2014, the Supreme Court of Canada decided on a case where an accused secretly sabotaged condoms by poking holes in them. In that case, the sexual activity with the sabotaged condoms was found to have been consented to, however, the consent was ineffective because of fraud. The Supreme Court of Canada has also found a failure to disclose an HIV infection can amount to fraud when engaging in sexual activity that creates a significant risk of bodily harm. In the case discussed on the show, the complainant met the accused on a dating app. She indicated in text messages that she only wanted to engage in sexual activity with a condom. After a short meeting, the complaint and accused had sexual intercourse on two occasions.On the first occasion, the accused used a condom, on the second he did not. The complaint was a willing participant on both occasions; however, she did not realize the accused was not wearing a condom on the second occasion. The accused didn't do anything to deceive the complaint on the second occasion: he just didn't put on a condom. At trial, the judge applied the earlier Supreme Court of Canada case involving the sabotaged condoms and concluded there was no evidence of fraud. On appeal, the majority of the Supreme Court of Canada concluded that the “sexual activity in question” which had been consented to was intercourse with a condom and there had been no consent to intercourse without a condom. As a result, a new trial was ordered. Also on the show, a case dealing with the circumstances a lawyer may not be permitted to quit representing a client is discussed. There are some circumstances in which a lawyer may quit representing a client, even in the middle of a trial. These would include where a client advises a lawyer that they wish to testify a lie about what happened, or where a lawyer is no longer able to obtain instructions from their client. Where a lawyer indicates that they wish to quit for ethical reasons a judge is not permitted to make inquiries about this because it might reveal privileged solicitor-client communications. Where, however, a lawyer wishes to quit representing a client for financial reasons, shortly before a criminal trial, in limited circumstances a judge might require the lawyer to continue. Relevant factors would include whether the accused could represent themselves if another lawyer could assist and if there would be prejudice against others if the trial needed to be adjourned. In the case discussed, the judge concluded that similar considerations apply to child protection cases, where the government is seeking to apprehend a child. Because the lawyer was seeking to withdraw because he had lost contact with his client and could not obtain proper instructions there was no basis to require the lawyer to continue with the case. Finally, on the show, an unsuccessful attempt to claim unjust enrichment by an ex-wife of three years against her former father-in-law on the basis that she claimed to have contributed to paying the mortgage on a house she and her ex-husband had rented from him. Follow this link for a transcript of the show and links to the cases discussed.
Even the luckiest and healthiest of us will interact with the medical systems we live in eventually, and navigating these systems can be frustrating, scary, and intimidating. In this labyrinth filled with jargon, bureaucracy, and opaque layers of expertise we often don't understand, we expect to have some control over what happens to our bodies and to get a say in opting in or out of what treatments are offered, in particular if they are experimental. But this assumption does not always hold true, and we are not always aware of when our ability consent to medical research has been...
Warning: Explicit Conversations About Politics, Culture, & Sexuality All Aboard F.D.R. as Capt'n Max and I penetrate the Tunnel of Love, exploring Sleeper Car sex, “Pulling a Train”—with Consent, of course—and the fine art of “pegging” with a special focus on the “Prince of Pegging.” Guess which Royal we're talking about! Hint: It's not that Prince who fantasized he was a tampon inside his lover's vagina (that's the Prince of Begging) nor the one with the Princess of Montecito nor the one who was BFFs with Jeffrey Epstein. His Highness (His Heiny?) Prince WILL get pegged occasionally, according to rumors, and maybe this is why the upright Prince William walks like he's got a stick up his butt… because he literally does. Perhaps a discreet, tampon-sized butt plug (like father, like son, but in reverse) is what keeps him serene during those long regal ceremonies. In any case, Kate is fine with it, and so are we. Actually we love pegging! (though for Max, who's also Prince Lobkowicz di Filangieri, it's a royal pain in the butt); it's the Royal Family Corruption that bothers us (alongside the popular #PrinceofPegging hashtag is often #AbolishtheMonarchy). Though truth be told, we Americans have a worse Royal Problem than the Brits, with our billionaire Family Values, pampered celebrities, rampant nepotism and politicians who command princely sums brimming with Royal Corruption, thanks to the Supreme Court's Citizens United ruling. We also condemn fake “progressive” LA Sheriff Alex Villaneuva for his Deputy Gangs, homeless sweeps and the sadistic beatings in LA's infamous Twin Towers Jail (Max tells stories of having seen Sheriff-approved jail beatings like this firsthand). Finally, we dive into the riveting tale of a poor little tRump supporter who's not as bad as most – maybe BECAUSE he receives excellent Phone Sex Therapy from the Dr. Susan Block Institute. Mitigate your MAGAt ways The Bonobo Way with a little sex therapy (you know you need it!) & listen to this sapiosexual and very sex educational (especially if you're into anal) radio podcast. Read more prose and watch more shows uncensored and free on DrSuzy-Tv: https://drsusanblock.com/fdr-PrinceofPegging Need to Talk PRIVATELY? Call the Therapists Without Borders of the Dr. Susan Block Institute anytime: 213.291.9497. We're here for YOU.
After #MeToo exploded on to the scene, it seemed like the dating landscape for women changed. Consent is a necessary floor, but what is the ceiling for our relationships? Is consent enough to provide the meaning sex might have in our lives? This is the provocative territory Christine Emba's new book Rethinking Sex invites us into. Listen in to see where we go. :00 - Get to know Kelly Wolfe :15 - interview with Christine Emba :52 - Kelly & Devi debrief Full show notes We talk to Christine Emba about privacy and accountability, but it's only for our partners. Join us on the inside to get this and other exclusive episodes when you partner with us for $3/month (USD). Instagram Twitter Christine Emba is a columnist for The Washington Post writing about ideas and society. Prior, she was the Hilton Kramer Fellow in Criticism at the New Criterion and a deputy editor at the Economist Intelligence Unit, focusing on technology and innovation. Connect with her on Twitter
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Zach Budd, consent and polyamory educator and Golf Coast advocate for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom https://ncsfreedom.org/, joins Luxa and Deep, co-host of the Smut's Up podcast, to speak about a system Zach's developed to help people understand consent, called the 5 Pillars of Consent, as well as discussing the problems with the “no means no” model. Zach also shares about his personal journey into the work which he is now doing and why understanding consent is in everyone's best interest. Luxa is also joined by Lonnie Scott, host of Weird Web Radio https://weirdwebradio.com/ to talk about Odin, Inclusive Heathenry, and welcoming everyone to your halls to party with you and the Gods! In addition, there is an update about the Green Mushroom Project, some sound magic tracks, as well as rants and an attempted ragegasm. Much Love. Full Show Notes: https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vQAbq5VWqdxKDjfd_xXxHO-FWP5DaU7oLIPyks0GPnIimkndM8I6atShcuQnVJzHf--0Vv2_8CAjk27/pub To reach Zach Budd: email@example.com National Coalition for Sexual Freedom's Consent Counts: https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs-2/consent-counts/ National Sexual Assault Hotline: Confidential 24/7 Support: 1-800-656-4673 https://www.rainn.org/resources National center for domestic abuse https://www.thehotline.org/ Global resources for domestic shelters https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations Out of the Fog: Helping family members & loved-ones of people who suffer from personality disorders https://outofthefog.website/ Submission Guidelines for The Green Mushroom Zine (due by 9/9/22): https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vQA5WAdJnNLW8r3kTDrNrGnKdhRbLH6t1aiQm96Sshr_b054OPY21Uc_-2pbDS5K59wBheTUyGrtWRI/pub Thank you for listening to the Lux Occult Podcast! If you'd like to support the show by helping Luxa buy books and curtail other costs, as well as taking a bibliomancy break, consider giving on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/luxoccult . Or for a one time donation: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/luxoccultpod We would love to hear from you! Please send your thoughts, questions, suggestions or arcane revelations to firstname.lastname@example.org or message on Instagram @luxoccultpod https://www.instagram.com/luxoccultpod/ Check out the Lux Occult YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn8n4oQIH1uo08NhMvjjlB
We chatted with debut romance author Erin La Rosa about her novel For Butter or Worse. Erin talked about how she went from a staff writer at Buzzfeed to writing 2 nonfiction comedic books before pitching a romance! We talked about closed-door vs open door romance, how to build an enemies-to-lovers romance, and why she chose the chef scene as her setting. Buy For Butter or Worse on AmazonThank you to Harlequin and Spark Point Studio for our copy and for setting this interview up!Check out her Instagram, Website, and Twitter.***Get 30 days free on Kindle Unlimited just for our listeners! Or listen on Audible like Shani and get up to two free ebooks when you try Audible Premium Plus. ***Leave us a rating and review on ItunesA lot of additional listening on Patreon!Welcome to Romance at a Glance, a podcast that uses romance novels to dive into candid conversations about life, relationship dynamics, and sexual desires. As hosts Bridget and Shani review books and interview some of romance's biggest authors, they explore the breadth of the genre, openly embracing the sex, diverse couplings, and taboo to create a safe space for listeners to be exposed to different lifestyles, fantasies, and to pique their naughty curiosity.Expect 100% honest reviews, spontaneous singing, life lessons, indecent anecdotes, and bawdy humor.Check out www.romanceataglance.comChat with us on Instagram at instagram.com/romanceataglanceSupport us on Patreon at patreon.com/romanceataglance
In this episode, Sadie and Gavri'el discuss learning how to date after leaving fundamentalism. If you want us to talk about something you'd like to learn how to do, please send your questions to LeavingEdenPod@Gmail.com WE HAVE NEW MERCH AVAILABLE, AND A NEW MERCH SHOP, at https://leavingedenpodcast.threadless.com Stream the Leaving Eden Podcast theme song, Rolling River of Time on Spotify! https://open.spotify.com/artist/6lB7RwSQ9X5gnt1BDNugyS?si=jVhmqFfYRSiruRxekdLgKA. Join our Facebook Discussion group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/edenexodus Join our subreddit! Reddit.com/r/EdenExodus Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leavingedenpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/sadiecarpentermusic/ https://www.instagram.com/gavrielhacohen/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LeavingEdenPod https://twitter.com/HellYeahSadie https://twitter.com/GavrielHacohen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeavingEdenPodcast https://www.facebook.com/GavrielHaCohen --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/leavingedenpodcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/leavingedenpodcast/support
LISTEN Show Notes: Dr. Paul gives his From the Heart message from the Oregon Coast while still recovering from Covid. He likens the stormy coast to the personal storm he’s weathered over the last few years, reflecting on the life lessons and growth he’s experienced. This reflection has awakened him to the realization that our life storms can be a gift when we intentionally pursue the purpose in our chaos. It will take all the love, support, guidance, and courage to [...]
Researchers estimate that as many as half of pregnancies in the United States were not planned and roughly one in five pregnancies ends in an abortion. With the U.S. Supreme Court's reversal of Roe v. Wade and the end of the federal right to an abortion, many sexual health educators and advocates are calling to enhance reproductive education – for people of all ages. Advocates say prevention and education can help people take charge of their reproductive health, but in many states sex education in schools is limited and under attack. We'll talk about the state of sex ed in a post-Roe America. Guests: Shafia Zaloom, author, "Sex, Teens and Everything in Between: The New and Necessary Conversations Today's Teenagers Need to Have about Consent, Sexual Harassment, Healthy Relationships, Love, and More;" health educator, Urban School in San Francisco Christopher Pepper, health educator, San Francisco Unified School District
Does your child know how to say no? Do you allow him to say it to you when it's appropriate? Abby's story about her son telling her no was a reminder that we need to not only allow our kids to speak their minds, but we also need to encourage it. Tell us!How have you helped your kids learn how to set boundaries? Do you struggle with boundaries? Email email@example.com with the subject line "No means no."Mentions:Does Your Child Know How to Say No?4 Simple Rules for Consent for Kids from 3 to 23How to Not be a Pushover in 5 Kid-Friendly Steps7 Ways to Say No With GraceFree Printable: How to Talk to Your Teen About Peer PressureThis episode's show notes can also be viewed on this page on iMOM.com.Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | Pinterest | TwitterSubscribe to the iMOM Minute and get daily motherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration sent to your inbox.
We have a couple of guests from the legal side on our show today that will help shed a light on Title IX investigations, student disciplinary matters, as well as current policies and training to navigate Title IX cases. Susan Stone's life work is to help students in crisis and to meet their legal needs. Recognizing the need for legal services dedicated to protecting students, professors and individuals with disabilities, Susan C. Stone handles matters ranging from special education issues to student disciplinary matters and Title IX investigations. Kristina Supler has achieved great success protecting students and professors in campus Title IX proceedings, which has garnered her a national reputation. Her services are particularly sought after to navigate Title IX cases involving a parallel criminal investigation. In addition to being a skilled Title IX attorney, Kristina also helps students of all ages facing academic misconduct, research misconduct and other types of discipline. In episode 275 of the Fraternity Foodie Podcast, we find out why Kristina chose Boston University, why Susan decided to join Alpha Phi at Miami University, whether consent and bystander intervention trainings continue to be the best ways to prevent a sexual assault from happening, why due process is so important, what are some of the unintended consequences of colleges when they adjudicate these cases, how we can be more transparent in the handling of these cases on campus, what fraternities and sororities can do to prevent sexual assaults, how students should handle disclosures, and where to go for more resources. Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9u8atMclbjE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9u8atMclbjE
This week Scarz and Eli discuss 'Mens Mental Health'. Coping with depression in your mid 20's. Is there a new way to define depression?Follow Us on Instagram - @GM5MPodcastTo Listen & Subscribe to the Podcast on any platform - https://linktr.ee/GM5M
They're almost to 40 real episodes, and boy has it been an adventure. Doug manages to keep his slight case IBS under control for the entire episode and thank goodness he did! If not that would mean that Bill would have to go over everything that they covered, such as: Rush, Danielson/Garcia, ROH's Death Before Dishonor, Rich Karlis, Johnathan Gresham, cool pool parties, Ace Steele, the retelling of Hansel and Gretel, Jake Something, PAC in the UK, LLL at Number 38, post hailstorm and insurance advice, Ricky Starks, and of course FCHS television production stories! With all that being covered why would you listen to anything else?! Especially your parents! ;) Here are a couple of questions for you after listening: Out of Jungle Boy, Ricky Starks, Daniel Garcia, and Sammy Guevara, who has the best chance to be the first world champion? I have never seen a rhino, could you please describe one to me? If I was ranked 19 in the 2022 PWI, would Gresham be ok losing to me? My answers: I personally think it was a big mistake in letting Cody go. I have seen pictures of a rhino, but I can't imagine such a creature exists? 1997 Dean Malenko should have walked out of WCW back then. Links from the Podcast- Google Sheet of Assignments of the Past It's All Pro Wrestling Playlist Big Nazo Band LLL at Number 38 Caleb Crush v. Cody Devine Bill's Nashville Weekend Blog Pyscho Clown v. Brandon Kirk Thunderstorm Match Royce Isaacs Twitter & Instagram Tom Lawlor's Twitter & Instagram Joseph Monticello's Twitter and YouTube Page Sir Mo's GoFundMe Page LLL's Everything Is Coming Milhouse, Full Event on Sunday 7/31 at 7:30 Mountain on YouTube Assignments For Next Week- April 10, 2022- GCW: Devil In A Red Dress: Joey Janela v. Dark Sheik YouTube June 20, 1993- WWF Wrestling Challenge: Doink v. Bob Backlund YouTube Check Everything Else We Do: Twitter Instagram Facebook Merch- Threadless Store Merch- RedBubble Website Songs Used In The Podcast: “Here We Are” by Big Nazo “Stylo” by Gorillaz f. Bobby Womack & Mos Def, on Plastic Beach “Age of Consent” by New Order, on Power Corruption and Lies “The Grand Ole Opry (Ain't So Grand)” by Hank Williams III, on Damn Right, Rebel Proud “Can You Get To That” by Funkadelic, on Maggot Brain
You may not have heard of the Wheel of Consent, but you really should. So much more than consent as a Yes / No transaction, "The Wheel" as its referred to in sexology circles, offers a frame work through which we can discuss sex , pleasure, power and so much more. This really is the sex education all of us should have received in high school, but I am certain none of us did. To me, the wheel is one of the most powerful revolutions in sex education in a generation and today's guest is te creator of that revolution. Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. https://bettymartin.org IG @thewheelofconsent
The Smart 7 Ireland Edition is the daily news podcast that gives you everything you need to know in 7 minutes, at 7am, 7 days a week… Consistently appearing in Ireland's Daily News charts, we're a trusted source for people every day. If you're enjoying it, please follow, share or even post a review, it all helps… Today's episode includes references to the following items: https://twitter.com/VirginMediaNews/status/1552345572031418368?s=20&t=GM2AV-A302xGA4ZwDGiC-ghttps://twitter.com/rtenews/status/1552346017978261504?s=20&t=D8mRaBmNYJPuuhXkdxSLQQhttps://twitter.com/VirginMediaNews/status/1552356896664739840?s=20&t=o68yp5Y5rRrBd-v8UZynGA https://www.rte.ie/news/politics/2022/0727/1312465-ireland-politics/https://twitter.com/i/status/1552172431309242368 https://twitter.com/i/status/1552282361303384066 https://twitter.com/i/status/1552038334779768842 https://twitter.com/i/status/1552214668055351298 https://twitter.com/i/status/1552276905474379776 https://youtu.be/Tbl5Lbi4xEs Contact us over at Twitter or visit www.thesmart7.com Presented by Ciara Revins, written by Liam Thompson and produced by Daft Doris. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
So we debated on whether we publish this one. It was about as real to life as it gets. We had Asher with us in our small, little Rpod...let's just say it was an adventure to keep going and to stay on topic. We also want to offer a content warning. We discuss the topic of Consent. This evolved us to some very delicate conversation that involved family history, bodily consent, and abuse. Feel free to skip this episode. We do think it's a valid topic but understand that it can be triggering.Become a Patreon member of the Getting Lost With You podcast. There's lots of fun stuff inside this membership!Produced by: Casey TravisMusic by: Casey Travis★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
In a recent consent order with a national bank, the CFPB found that the bank committed UDAAP violations in its process for handling garnishment orders and by including certain waiver language in its deposit account agreements. We discuss the specific aspects of the bank's process that the CFPB found to be improper and what banks should consider when reviewing their own garnishment procedures in light of the consent order. We also look at what the consent order means for how banks can address liability concerns arising out of the handling of garnishment orders in deposit account agreements. Alan Kaplinsky, Ballard Spahr Senior Counsel, hosts the conversation, joined by Mike Gordon, a partner in the firm's Consumer Financial Services Group, and Jessica Simon, Of Counsel in the firm's Bankruptcy and Restructuring Group.
07272022_show60_podcast.mp3File Size:91802 kbFile Type:mp3Download FileShare with your Friends & FamilyShow Notes:In this week's From the Heart segment, Dr. Paul reveals that he has Covid! Tune in to hear about his experience with symptoms thus far as he is self-isolating in the great outdoors, enjoying some amazing sunshine and fresh air. Dr. Michelle Perro, pediatrician, executive director of GMO Science, and author, joins us to discuss everything Covid-related and how her career [...]
Chris is featured in a new groundbreaking documentary film that is set to go viral by Canadian filmmaker, Todd Michael Harris. Prof. Christopher Shaw, is a Canadian neuroscientist/professor who was recently terminated from his position for refusing to take part in this forced medical experiment. Chris did his undergraduate degree in Biological Sciences at the University of California at Irvine, then a M.Sc. in Medical Physiology at the Hebrew University & a Ph.D in neurobiology at the same institution. Chris is the author of over 150 peer-reviewed articles, numerous book chapters & edited books, & has authored two books on neurological diseases & one on vaccine controversies. We will be discussing the film, updates on the scamdemic and where we go from here. my site: https://www.dwtruthwarrior.com Become an Unslaved premium member today and access thousands of hours of unique research and content that you will not find anywhere else: https://unslaved.com/ Watch my new FREE docuseries here: https://www.cultofthemedics.com/
Consent conversations can – and should – start early. So early that they begin around topics that have absolutely nothing to do with sex. Learn how to apply the lessons of consent to a bunch of different topics in kids' lives and start getting comfortable with a conversation that will happen many different times in many different ways.Shownotes:Tea and Consent VideoCycling Through Consent VideoTeens and the Law with Jonathan Crystal, Esq.Advice from Famous Sex Educator Shafia Zaloom See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Rosalia Rivera is a Consent Educator, Sexual Literacy Advocate, Speaker, change agent, founder of CONSENTparenting, host of the AboutCONSENT Podcast, creatrix of CONSENTwear and child sexual abuse survivor turned thriver. In this episode we talk about body boundaries, safe people and safety networks, how to respond to a child who comes to you with information that they may be ashamed ... more »
The "rolling code" technology used to remotely open and lock your car is supposed to prevent hacking. Unfortunately, Honda has a pretty serious vulnerability in their cars that apparently allows anyone with a little talent and cheap hacking tools to get into your car - and maybe even start it (though not actually drive it away). If correct, this vulnerability affects probably all Hondas made over the last 10 years. So far, Honda has denied that this is a problem, but many researchers have reproduced the hack. In other news: cheap, Chinese-made GPS vehicle trackers are vulnerable to remote hacking; Chrome, Edge and Safari browsers fix serious 0-day bugs; Twitter data breach info on 5.4M users is up for sale on the dark web; Windows getting a crucial security update to make important security feature on by default; the Conti ransomware gang is attacking the entire country of Costa Rica; Facebook quickly bypasses Firefox's URL tracking removal feature; Tor Browser adds a useful feature that will help people in repressive countries; Google appears ready to stop blocking political spam emails; Amazon admits to giving Ring video to law enforcement without consent or a warrant; a complicated, targeted web browser trick can be used to identify website visitors. Article Links [U.S. News & World Report] Researchers: Chinese-Made GPS Tracker Highly Vulnerable https://www.usnews.com/news/business/articles/2022-07-19/researchers-chinese-made-gps-tracker-highly-vulnerable[Ars Technica] 0-day used to infect Chrome users could pose threat to Edge and Safari users, too https://arstechnica.com/information-technology/2022/07/exploit-seller-used-chrome-exploit-and-2-other-0-days-to-infect-journalists/[9to5mac.com] Twitter data breach exposes contact details for 5.4M accounts; on sale for $30k https://9to5mac.com/2022/07/22/twitter-data-breach/[ZDNet] Windows 11 is getting a new security setting to block ransomware attacks https://www.zdnet.com/article/windows-11-is-getting-a-new-security-setting-to-block-ransomware-attacks/[ThreatPost] Conti's Reign of Chaos: Costa Rica in the Crosshairs https://threatpost.com/contis-costa-rica/180258/[Schneier Blog] Facebook Is Now Encrypting Links to Prevent URL Stripping https://www.schneier.com/blog/archives/2022/07/facebook-is-now-encrypting-links-to-prevent-url-stripping.html[None] Tor Browser Adds Automatic Censorship Circumvention https://www.infosecurity-magazine.com/news/tor-browser-automatic-censorship/[Inc. Magazine] Google Revealed Plans for a Big Change to Gmail That Almost Nobody Wants. You Have 19 Days to Object https://www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/google-revealed-plans-for-a-big-change-to-gmail-that-almost-nobody-wants-you-have-19-days-to-object.html[The Intercept] Amazon Admits Giving Ring Camera Footage to Police Without a Warrant or Consent https://theintercept.com/2022/07/13/amazon-ring-camera-footage-police-ed-markey/[The Drive] I Tried the Honda Keyfob Hack on My Own Car. It Totally Worked https://www.thedrive.com/news/i-tried-the-honda-keyfob-hack-on-my-own-car-it-totally-worked[WIRED] A New Attack Can Unmask Anonymous Users on Any Major Browser https://www.wired.com/story/web-deanonymization-side-channel-attack-njit/Tip of the Week: More Uses for Password Vaults: https://firewallsdontstopdragons.com/more-uses-for-password-vaults/ Further Info Amulet of Entropy!!: https://amuletofentropy.com/ Peppering your passwords: https://firewallsdontstopdragons.com/password-manager-paranoia/ Subscribe to the newsletter: https://firewallsdontstopdragons.com/newsletter/new-newsletter/Check out my book, Firewalls Don't Stop Dragons: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1484261887 Become a Patron! https://www.patreon.com/FirewallsDontStopDragons Donate directly with Monero! https://firewallsdontstopdragons.com/contact/ Table of Contents Use these timestamps to jump to a particular section of the show. 0:02:02: Bad Bugs in GPS Vehicle Trackers0:07:16: Zero-Day Bugs in Chrome, Edge,
Links to things mentioned: Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/And his book The Sexually Healthy Man: https://amzn.to/3p4JmyFBenjamin Young's Twitter Thread: https://twitter.com/BJYoung1990/status/1353521004073652224Benjamin Young's ministry Guard the Gift: https://guardthegift.com/The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Our Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and Consent: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/podcast-marital-rape-consent/
In this weeks ep I record over zoom with Irish Comedian and host of the live Dublin based show Blá Blá Blá; Bláithín de Burca. Bláithín chats with me about intersectional feminism, her show Blá Blá Blá which will have a panel talking about kink July 31st and we have a long discussion about consent. Full Video on patreon and solo eps there: www.patreon/theshiftpodcast.com Follow Bláithín: https://www.instagram.com/beingbla/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/being_blablabla/?hl=en@katieboylecomicEmail: firstname.lastname@example.orgEnjoy xx See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.