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Latest podcast episodes about sexuality

The Deep Dive with Adam Roa
Juanpa Barahona - How Do You Unlock Your Sexual Superpowers?

The Deep Dive with Adam Roa

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 76:20


Are you being intentional with your sexuality?  I talk about it a lot on this podcast, and have been so blessed with some of the amazing guests that have come on the show to talk about sex and sexuality. It is an important topic. We've grown up in a society that teaches some very sideways things about the truth of what sex is, and now more than ever I find it so important to not only seek for myself, but share knowledge about the deep truth behind what true sexuality is and what we can access from it. The energy that sexuality is can be incredibly healing, or deeply damaging depending on how we are using it and what our intentions are behind it. That's why I believe it is so crucial to really understand the power that we hold in our sexuality, and how to use it for love.  This week my guest is Juanpa Barahona. An amazing coach, facilitator, speaker at MindValley, and among many other things, a student of tantra and conscious spirituality; Juanpa's energy and knowledge around this topic was felt from the moment I met him. Join us in this conversation around sexual superpowers, how to access them, and how to use them to spread love to ourselves and those around us, and may it open up some new perspectives for you to explore in your own experience of sex and sexuality.  The CREATE Love Fest is happening February 10th, 11th, and 12th. This is the community's 3rd online festival and for this one, we are diving into the topic of Love. Joined by some of the top facilitators, coaches, and thought leaders in the space, we are going to be focusing on upleveling your experience of sex, dating, and relationships and breakups. For tickets or more information, head over to www.thecreatecommunity.com  Can I text you? For personal thoughts, updates, motivations, and more, texted directly to your phone from me to you, click here https://my.community.com/adamroa and send me a message!  Lastly, for more information on how to join Jaunpa in a FREE 3 day Manifestation Challenge, go to https://go.quantumflow.com/biohacking-manifestation   

With Pleasure
024: Living Unreasonably with Jill Herman

With Pleasure

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 83:55


Making the decision to follow your intuition and live unreasonably isn't a simple or easy choice. But if you're ready (or you want to be!) to live beyond your reasons and step into more healing, self-compassion, and connection in your life - then this one's for you! In today's episode, we invite our dear friend, Jill Herman, to share how she stepped into her true purpose and how she inspires others with her outspoken & vulnerable voice.  We dive deep into topics like politics & abortion (and how we get triggered by them!), what it's like to move beyond our own self-righteousness, and how to live a life with more possibility - because it is deeply liberating over here! We dive into: Dealing with feeling triggered & self-righteousness - and some juicy wisdom around these How your own wounding could be affecting how you “hustle”, react on social media & more Jill's powerful story of abortion, forgiveness & personal responsibility Yes - AND (what this means and why it's SO important!) The THREE things Jill has feared the most - and why they are the SAME THREE things that she desires most! And more! Connect with Jill: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillhermanbeyou/ The Be You Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyoupodcast_/ Get her FREE e-book on her website! https://www.jillherman.com/ Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Ladies Talking Love
2:11 Divine Femininity // with Bethany Brady Spalding

Ladies Talking Love

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 41:28


In this episode with author Bethany Brady Spalding, we share a unique and cherished belief in my faith tradition that has transformed my view of myself and my sexuality for good.  Find Bethany's books at www.deseretbook.com and more information about how the books began here. Information about the NYC art exhibit: The Sacred Feminine in LDS Art & Theology. The Brigham Young University “A Mother There” Survey “Mother in Heaven” Gospel Essay “Mother in Heaven” Church History Topic Essay Join the conversation @ladies.talkinglove on Instagram or visit ladiestalkinglove.com This podcast does not replace professional or medical advice. We will be talking about sex, so some content may not be suitable for children and could be triggering to some individuals. Everything discussed is for general information only and is not to be used to diagnose or treat any medical or psychological conditions. Music: MastaBlack_fK and https://envato.com/

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
PCFM Week: I Hate My Husband's Relationship with His Former In-Laws

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 2:21


The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage Week: Lisa's husband is a widow who has maintained a relationship with his former in-laws, and she'd like him to stop seeing them during the holidays. - Dr. Laura: "In a second marriage, you have to embrace extended family."Are you willing to embrace your husband's ways? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com Order Dr. Laura's book: “The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage”go to > https://www.drlaura.com/dr-laura-book-the-proper-care-and-feeding-of-marriageTo participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Doing It! with Hannah Witton
Owning Your Sexuality and Overcoming Shame as a South Asian Woman with Sangeeta Pillai

Doing It! with Hannah Witton

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 46:23


In this episode, Hannah is joined by Sangeeta Pillai, a podcaster, activist, and speaker, and the founder of South Asian feminist network Soul Sutra. Sangeeta discusses the impact of colonisation on Indian sexuality, as well as the shame surrounding South Asian women's sexuality. She and Hannah also talk about what the Kama Sutra is really about, and how to own your sexuality yourself. CW: Shame, homophobia, and domestic abuse.MORE ABOUT SANGEETA PILLAIPodcaster, activist & speaker Sangeeta Pillai is the founder of the South Asian feminist network [Soul Sutras](https://soulsutras.co.uk/) which is all about tackling taboos within the culture.She's the creator of Masala Podcast silver winner at the British Podcast Awards 2021 & 2021 & also a winner at Spotify SoundUp 2018. Sangeeta is also the creator of the Masala Monologues series of writing workshops & theatre shows in the UK & the US. She has been featured on BBC Radio London, Evening Standard, Cosmpolitan, Eastern Eye, Huffington Post, BBC Asian Radio, Brown Girl Magazine and has been a writer for over 20 years.- Twitter: https://twitter.com/soul_sutras- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulsutras/- Website: https://www.soulsutras.co.uk/

Too Busy to Flush
Desire, Pleasure, the Gospel, & Loving God's Law

Too Busy to Flush

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 56:53


Out of Far Country: A Gay Son's Journey to God. A Broken Mother's Search for Hope, Christopher Yuan (Amazon)Holy Sexuality and the Gospel: Sex, Desire, and Relationships Shaped by God's Grand Story, Christopher Yuan (Amazon)Bible Study FellowshipArt for Kids Hub (YouTube)The Model Health Show Ep. 542: The Hidden Connection Between Calories and Flavor & The End of Craving (podcast)The End of Craving: Recovering the Wisdom of Eating Well, Mark Schatzker (Amazon)TB2F Telegram Link

Celebrate Recovery Podcast
Scott Stubbert: Seven Reasons We Get Stuck

Celebrate Recovery Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 33:44


Find The Magic
Supporting Children's Relationship with Sexuality with Dr. Finlayson-Fife

Find The Magic

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 41:46


A healthy understanding and acceptance of our own sexuality is an essential life building block that can be ignored or damaged. How we view our own sexual desires was in some way shaped by experience we had throughout childhood and young adulthood. This episode we are joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson Fife a renowned sex and relationship therapist to talk about how to help our children foster a healthy relationship with their sexuality. EPISODE SPONSORS: MamaZen: Mindful Parenting App If you're experiencing impatience, anger, anxiety, and feel frustrated with your kids, then you need to get this app. MamaZen will teach you how to control your negative emotions so you can deal with your kids' difficult behavior with more love and patience. You'll feel calmer, happier, and more connected to your kids. Some of our favorite sessions are Reduce Mom's Guilt, Patience for Never Ending Bedtime, and Overcome Anxi​​ety and Overwhelm. Sessions are only 2-15 minutes long, and even 1-2 times a week makes a huge difference. Go to your app store and download MamaZen today. Use PROMO CODE magic to get full, unlimited FREE access for 30 days! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND REVIEW OF THE WEEK What my mama soul needed. I found this podcast a few months ago and I have been binging it ever since! I was definitely in a funk ever since having my first baby in 2020 and listening to this podcast has truly helped me so much.I listen on walks or at the gym or whenever I can sneak in a moment to myself. They have great tips and advice and every time I listen, I learn something new that helps me be better to myself and to my daughter. Listening to the mamas talk feels like a therapy session with my best friends.I recommend this podcast to all of my mom friends! Thank you guys for helping me find the magic. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support

Wait...WTF
revolutionizing midlife

Wait...WTF

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 50:13


If you have a mother, sister, aunt, co-worker, (even a fucking stranger on the street) that you've noticed is struggling with aging - you have to tune in for this week's episode! I invite the one and only Dr. Amanda Hanson, psychologist & paradigm shifter for women in midlife, to talk about her amazing work in the world to empower women to embrace the gift of midlife and invite more possibilities than they ever imagined into the second half of their lives. If you're ready to feel more alive & sexy than ever before (no matter your fucking age!) then join us, you NEED to hear all these juicy nuggets of wisdom.   We dive into: What Revolutionizing Midlife is, how she built it, and what it means to be an empowered woman in midlife The pushback she receives for embracing this stage of life (and something you might find surprising about it!) Why you need THIS routine in your life if you want Amanda's radiance and glow (hint: it is NOT a skin-care routine) Building a coaching business in midlife and dealing with knowing nothing about tech - and we mean, NOTHING! A SUPER JUICY nugget to help if you're navigating an important life decision And more!  Connect with Amanda: Website: https://www.amandahanson.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/revolutionizingmidlife/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/revolutionizingmidlife/ Come join me in my FREE private Facebook group, Visible AF: https://www.facebook.com/groups/VisibleAF/ Send me a DM on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/juliamothereffingwells/

Sharp Tongue
From Addiction To Abundance | Sam Tripoli

Sharp Tongue

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 70:15


This week we welcome comedian and host of the Tin Foil Hat Podcast, Sam Tripoli, to discuss the truth about media, dark arts, and how to live an abundant life. Thank you for listening!CALL AND LEAVE US A VM TO BE PLAYED FOR THE POD: 513-916-0930SUBMIT YOUR DR.P Qs: Every SUN on IG STORY: http://www.instagram.com/jessimaepelusoFollow Jessimae:TOUR: https://found.ee/jessimaetour IG: http://www.instagram.com/jessimaepelusoFB: http://www.facebook.com/JessimaePelusoYT: https://found.ee/jessimae-youtubeBook a cameo: https://found.ee/cameo-with-jessimaeWEBSITE: https://found.ee/jessimaePATREON: https://found.ee/JessimaePeluso-Patreon

Dear Jessamyn
Will You Take me As I Am?

Dear Jessamyn

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 46:59


Applause if you get the episode title reference! Jessamyn and ashe record from southern California as they continue conversations about the evolution of their relationship within their nomad travels.Adapting to an east coast work schedule from the west coast seems to be working so far; Aaaannd now it's the end of the calendar year, so j+a are calling in presence and patience.  Follow us on Instagram @DearJessamyn and find and follow the show on Spotify. You can leave us a review on iTunes! Reviews help a lot. If you've enjoyed this episode, even for like half a beat, please go leave us a review. This episode mentions San Francisco's Public Library Staff book of the month, Yoke: My Yoga of Self-Acceptance by Jessamyn StanleyThere's a bunch more info on the episode like behind the scenes content, transcriptions, how to find us and our team and more. It's all at dearjessamyn.comYour hosts are ashe danger phoenix and Jessamyn Stanley. Our Editor/Producer is Kylee C. RobertsAngell Foster and Nya Williams do our social mediaJanie Leopard does our episode art Anna Rooney is Jessamyn's Chief of StaffAmber Richardson is Ashe's Chief of StaffFruit Snack does our theme. Features music By DAJANA and Sarah, The InstrumentalistNo one should be in jail for weed.

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture
God's Design for Sexuality

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 46:45


In this episode, Bill Hendricks, Juli Slattery, and Joy Skarka discuss authentic intimacy, focusing on God's…

The Bert Show
Should She Tell The Company She Works For About Her Sexuality? 

The Bert Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 6:05


A friend of Bert's reached out seeking advice for their friend. She just started working for a conservative company, and she's worried her sexuality may become a problem. Should she tell them she's gay or not? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Become a member at https://plus.acast.com/s/the-bert-show.

The Modern Therapist's Survival Guide with Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy
Working with Trans Clients: Trans Resilience and Gender Euphoria

The Modern Therapist's Survival Guide with Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 43:01


Working with Trans Clients: Trans Resilience and Gender Euphoria An interview with Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II, about how therapists can be better clinicians for trans people. Curt and Katie talk to Beck about gender identity (and why every therapist should do their own work around gender), historical perspectives on masculinity and femininity, the concepts of trans resilience and gender euphoria, the real problems with the DSM diagnosis of gender dysphoria and considerations for providing therapy to trans clients.  Interview with Beck Gee-Cohen MA CADC-II Director of LGBTQ+ Programming Beck is a master's level clinician with an undergraduate degree in Sociology with an emphasis on Gender & Sexuality and a master's degree in Addiction Counseling. Beck has worked in the mental health & substance use field for over 10 years in various capacities. The main focus of his work has been invested in the LGBTQ+ community, adolescents, and families. Over this decade, Beck has trained numerous facilities on LGBTQ+ best practices, has been a keynote and presenter at many conferences, and has facilitated workshops about LGBTQ+, trauma, adolescents, gender and sexuality. Beck is the Director of LGBTQ+ Programming at Visions Adolescent Treatment Center. This program is for young people at Visions who identify in the community, those who are questioning, and their families. It includes process groups, psychoeducation, and family programming with professionals specifically trained and experienced in the LGBTQ+ population and best practices. Alongside the already dynamic team at Visions Adolescent Treatment Center in Los Angeles, young LGBTQ+ people and their families will find a space that serves their specific needs in regards to healing and thriving. In this podcast episode we talk about trans mental health We invited Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II to come talk with us about providing therapy for trans individuals. Modern therapists need to keep learning when working with trans clients Getting pronouns correct is a basic expectation at this point Finding the balance between focusing on a client's trans identity and other elements of their identity and experience Understanding trans identity 101 is a basic level of knowledge that all therapists should have What you do need to learn from your trans clients Therapists need to do their own work around gender   The work that therapists must do around gender “Sexuality and gender should be discussed across the board for everyone” – Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II The role that society plays in defining gender and the binary The privilege cis folks have in not being asked to assess/address their gender “Women's” and “men's” issues Societal expectations related to gender The history of gender expression and how what is acceptable has shifted Cultural and generational differences related to gender   The Concept of Trans Resilience “I came out as an act of survival” – Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II The tendency to focus on the pain of being trans The bias and hate that trans folks face, and how they continue to show up The importance of celebrating who you are as a trans person “You're so brave” doesn't see the full picture How hard it is to show up – and what it means that trans folks continue to do so Moving away from just focusing on gender dysphoria versus looking at gender euphoria   Gender Dysphoria versus Gender Euphoria and the problems with the DSM “You don't have to hate yourself to be trans. That's actually a false narrative given to us by the DSM... I'm not dysphoric about my gender. Everyone else is dysphoric about my gender... so the gender dysphoria is actually internalized.” – Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II How the DSM is used for the medical needs of trans folks The problem with assigning the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria to an individual Internalized gender dysphoria (it is not my dysphoria, it is the dysphoria of the people around me about my gender) Playing around with gender shouldn't be a diagnosis, it is so culturally bound Trans individuals have to know what to report so they can get hormones (i.e., they may have to lie about being dysphoric in order to “check the boxes”) The problem with gatekeeping and the hope that trans folks being in work groups to help shift these guidelines   Better Therapy for Trans Clients Therapeutic alliance is the most important How therapists can appropriately use vulnerability when a client comes out as trans The likelihood of someone coming out initially versus after trust is built and how to handle it Sharing the therapeutic process and how you will learn and educate yourself The problem of signaling that you are capable of working with LGBTQ+ people when you are not trained Awareness of how being trans impacts the client in front of you When the client is coming into therapy due to their gender identity Understanding the back story and how someone identified that “something is different” Looking at what they want to do next (which may be very little or a full plan on how they handle being trans).   Our Generous Sponsor for this episode of the Modern Therapist's Survival Guide: Buying Time LLC Buying Time is a full team of Virtual Assistants, with a wide variety of skill sets to support your business. From basic admin support, customer service, and email management to marketing and bookkeeping. They've got you covered. Don't know where to start? Check out the systems inventory checklist which helps business owners figure out what they don't want to do anymore and get those delegated asap. You can find that checklist at http://buyingtimellc.com/systems-checklist/ Buying Time's VA's support businesses by managing email communications, CRM or automation systems, website admin and hosting, email marketing, social media, bookkeeping and much more. Their sole purpose is to create the opportunity for you to focus on supporting those you serve while ensuring that your back office runs smoothly. With a full team of VA's it gives the opportunity to hire for one role and get multiple areas of support. There's no reason to be overwhelmed with running your business with this solution available. Book a consultation to see where and how you can get started getting the support you need - https://buyingtimellc.com/book-consultation/   Resources for Modern Therapists mentioned in this Podcast Episode: We've pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links. Please note that some of the links below may be affiliate links, so if you purchase after clicking below, we may get a little bit of cash in our pockets. We thank you in advance! Bgcbridge.com beck@bgcbridge.com Tiktok: transandtrying Tiktok: visionsteen WPATH – Standards of Care guidelines Alex Iantaffi: Gender Trauma and Life Isn't Binary My New Gender Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving World Peace Through Gender Anarchy and Sex Positivity by Kate Bornstein Dara Hoffman-Fox: You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide Book Two Spirits, One Heart: A Mother, Her Transgender Son, and Their Journey to Love and Acceptance by Marsha Aizumi and Aiden Aizumi   Relevant Episodes of MTSG Podcast: Interview with Dr. Abigail Weissman: Vulnerability, The News, and You When is it Discrimination? Work Harder Than Your Clients   Who we are: Curt Widhalm, LMFT Curt Widhalm is in private practice in the Los Angeles area. He is the cofounder of the Therapy Reimagined conference, an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University and CSUN, a former Subject Matter Expert for the California Board of Behavioral Sciences, former CFO of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and a loving husband and father. He is 1/2 great person, 1/2 provocateur, and 1/2 geek, in that order. He dabbles in the dark art of making "dad jokes" and usually has a half-empty cup of coffee somewhere nearby. Learn more at: www.curtwidhalm.com Katie Vernoy, LMFT Katie Vernoy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, coach, and consultant supporting leaders, visionaries, executives, and helping professionals to create sustainable careers. Katie, with Curt, has developed workshops and a conference, Therapy Reimagined, to support therapists navigating through the modern challenges of this profession. Katie is also a former President of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. In her spare time, Katie is secretly siphoning off Curt's youthful energy, so that she can take over the world. Learn more at: www.katievernoy.com A Quick Note: Our opinions are our own. We are only speaking for ourselves – except when we speak for each other, or over each other. We're working on it. Our guests are also only speaking for themselves and have their own opinions. We aren't trying to take their voice, and no one speaks for us either. Mostly because they don't want to, but hey. Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement: www.mtsgpodcast.com www.therapyreimagined.com https://www.facebook.com/therapyreimagined/ https://twitter.com/therapymovement https://www.instagram.com/therapyreimagined/ Consultation services with Curt Widhalm or Katie Vernoy: The Fifty-Minute Hour Connect with the Modern Therapist Community: Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group   Modern Therapist's Survival Guide Creative Credits: Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/ Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/   Transcript for this episode of the Modern Therapist's Survival Guide podcast (Autogenerated): Curt Widhalm  00:00 This episode of the modern therapist Survival Guide is sponsored by Buying Time.   Katie Vernoy  00:04 Buying time has a full team of virtual assistants with a wide variety of skill sets to support your business. From basic admin support customer service and email management to marketing and bookkeeping, they've got you covered. Don't know where to start, check out the system's inventory checklist, which helps business owners figure out what they don't want to do anymore and get those delegated ASAP. You can find that checklist at buying time llc.com forward slash systems stash checklist.   Curt Widhalm  00:31 Listen at the end of the episode for more information.   Announcer  00:34 You're listening to the modern therapist survival guide where therapists live, breathe and practice as human beings to support you as a whole person and a therapist. Here are your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy.   Curt Widhalm  00:49 Welcome back monitor therapists. This is the button therapist Survival Guide. I'm Curt Widhalm with Katie Vernoy. And this is the podcast that talks about things that therapists do things that come into our offices, things that we should be aware about. And we are coming to a topic that we haven't visited here for a couple of years. And we are joined by one of our former therapy reimagined speakers, Beck Gee Cohen, Director of LGBT programming at visions, and we're just so glad to have you good people. Thanks for joining us.   Beck Gee Cohen  01:27 Awesome. Thanks for having me. I'm super grateful to be here.   Katie Vernoy  01:30 We're so excited to have you. It's so good to see you again. And I had a wonderful  consultation with you recently. So I just am excited to share this conversation with our audience. Such a good resource, everyone. So anyway, I'll stop gushing. The first question we ask everyone is who are you? And what are you putting out to the world?   Beck Gee Cohen  01:53 Which is like the deepest question you could ask. Right from the start? Who am I? What am I putting out to the world. Hope for my community, the trans community to get the things that they need, you know, from therapists to to be heard, to be seen, to be valued. And it started by trying to give a voice to myself, and now you know, to help teenagers to help families.   Curt Widhalm  02:22 We normally start a lot of our episodes asking for learning purposes, what therapists get wrong in working with trans clients. And we say this in a way of helping us catch up to where the world is today and responding to the clients in our offices. And a lot of things end up being out-dated, and especially for those of us who were educated A while ago, things have changed since maybe we have had some basic learning steps. So what a therapist normally get wrong, or what are some old habits that you see,   Beck Gee Cohen  02:57 The worst thing that we could do is this is the way we've always done it. Right. This is how it's always been. And that's what I love about the modern therapist, Psych podcast and the you know, that the, you know, the, the essence of the modern therapist is we're tired of this, right? We're tired of doing the way it's always been done, you know, the foundations of therapy were built, you know, on white cisgender men, you know, and and we're not, that's not who we are, that's not who we serve. And so I think what we what therapists get wrong is is just stopping learning, not being open to new ideas, I think, and I mean, I can go, you know, I could go down the line of like, okay, great, like use the right pronouns. Okay, so like, everyone should be doing that by now. Right? Like, that's, that's like 10 years ago, I don't mean to sound snarky in that way. Because that is, that is something that is like a huge, like thing to do, right. But don't always look at like a person by their pronouns, either. Right? Like, don't, it's, it's like, we're missing out on like, the people in front of us and more, either overly looking at the trans piece, or we're like, minimizing it. So it's like, it's finding that balance. So sometimes I run into therapists who, like, everything that has to do with them is about them being trans, right? And it's like, no, like, we also have depression and anxiety and have relationship issues. And we have, you know, all the struggles that, that all of humanity goes through. And, and then also, there's the other side of the kind of pendulum that says, Well, I work with all people and then being trans doesn't matter, you know, and it's like, okay, but you're not understanding that some of these things that are struggles that they're having, absolutely has to do with their gender identity and absolutely have to do with their transition or you know who they are in the world. So, I run into therapists that are like kind of one or the other Right, and so like my job and what I like to do, and the conversations that I like to have is like, let's bring us into the kind of the center, and talk about how we can Yeah, invest our time into their gender and understand it and understand, but not have to learn about gender and sexuality from them, but learn about their gender and sexuality, their personal gender and sexuality from them understanding trans identity, a 101, that is a therapist job, right to learn outside of their client, the nuances of gender, the nuances of, of what's happening in their lives, we do learn from our clients, going in with curiosity, and conversation and humility is really important. I see a lot of therapists run away from working with trans people, because they just don't know, while I believe in referring out, there's not enough like clinicians out there that are working with trans people, I always like to say, part of my story is saying that the woman that saved my life, when I came out to her was a therapist who was really versed in trauma, and really versed in understanding the LGBT community, but she was not part of that community. And she saved my life. And so, you know, so I think that what therapists are getting wrong, just not not doing their own work. And I also like, like to challenge therapists to do their own work around their gender and sexuality. Because if we're not doing that work, then how are we supposed to even understand some of the things that we struggle with, with masculinity with femininity, and many trans people struggle with that stuff as well, non binary people struggle with that as well. I hate to say that you're getting it wrong, but what can you do better, right? Curt? No, I'm just kidding. I told you, I was gonna come from a place of positivity today, I'm going going into 2022, with a little positive skepticism.   Katie Vernoy  07:09 So you started talking about this, and I want to get a little bit more specific with one of the things that you had talked about, you know, kind of all clinicians need to be better for trans clients, because trans clients are going to show up on our practice at some point, most likely. And so I think, to me, when you're talking about therapists not doing their own work on gender, let's let's start with that one. I think that society doesn't necessarily ask that of us. You know, there's, there's a binary, you know, there's pink and blue, there's these things that I think society really puts on us. And I think this idea of really exploring our own gender identity and sexuality and all those things, especially I'm, I'm old, you know, so, you know, when I grew up, it was pink and blue, you know, and all of that. And so I think it's something where, to me? What do you mean, when you're talking about that therapists need to work on their own gender and those issues?   Beck Gee Cohen  08:15 I love that question. Because I think you're right, like, right, it's a privilege to not have to think about gender.   Katie Vernoy  08:21 Absolutely.   Beck Gee Cohen  08:22 Right. So when you're walking in the world, and you don't have to think about it, it's, you know, that's a privilege that you have. And I think we actually think about it more than we think we do. And I see, it's in our face, constantly. And I but I also do think like, once you're aware of it, right? I think there's an old parable about the goldfish, right in the water. They go, you know, the goldfish swims out and says, Hey, how's the water? And they're like, what's water? You know, like, they don't know that they're, you don't know you're in it until you know that you're in it, right. So I don't know how that parable goes. But something like that. Y'all can look it up. But I'm not aware until I'm aware is basically what it is. And so, so that's why I also, like give a lot of leeway to a lot of therapists and people that I work with, where I'm not like, you should know this, because sometimes you just have no awareness. But once you know, then it's your job to kind of start working on it. So like, I had a therapist come up to me a year after I did a talk. And he was like, you know, you really messed me up. And I was like, Oh, great, you know, what did I do? And he said, Now everywhere I go, I see male and female sides. You know, I see male female girls, boys, you know, pink and blue. Like it was just, I was unaware. And I was like, great. Now you know how I live and many other people live every single day. But we talk about like women's issues and men's issues a lot. Right? And, and sometimes even then we're not even actually aware of that. that actually affects us, right? So when I'm working with like a cisgender, man, so for those, you know, when I say cisgender, it's someone who is assigned, let's say, male at birth, and identifies their gender identity as male sis means to be on the same side of so most people are cisgender. But when I talked to cisgender men, I asked them about masculinity, and being a man, and what is that like for you? And if we actually start having the conversation and dialogue about what it is to be a man in the world, you're going to get a whole lot of different conversations, right? You're gonna have a different opinions, different, you know, boxes, you know, men are put in a specific box to attain, you know, like, I have to be this way or that way, right. Same thing with women. And so that's the work that I ask of therapists to do is like, let's, let's, what is what does femininity mean to you? What does being a woman mean to you in the world? What is how has that affected you growing up? What did you learn about? You know, you just said, like, you know, I'm old and I grew up with pink and blue, right?   Katie Vernoy  11:09 Sure. Yeah.   Beck Gee Cohen  11:10 You know, but if you were older, even older, and grew up in the, you know, 1700s, you know, 1800s, you know, Pink and Blue were different. Pink was more masculine, Blue was more feminine.   Katie Vernoy  11:22 Oh, interesting   Beck Gee Cohen  11:23 Men wore wigs and heels and makeup. And that was a sign of class, right. And so, and the ideas of like, boys clothes and girls clothes for children really came from a marketing ploy where people were having less children. Because if you actually look at like pictures of like, Franklin, Franklin Roosevelt, they were wearing all white, all kids were white, and dresses until they were a certain age, right? So it was a money saver for families who had giant families of 16 kids. Now, you know, in the early 1900s, you know, the history of it, is that people are having less kids. And so then they started being like, Oh, girls, clothes, boys clothes, you know. So if we start to learn the history of that, and we start to learn that, like, clothing doesn't have a gender makeup doesn't have a gender. And we start to learn how I was raised to see what femininity looks like, and what masculinity looks like. Because in a lot of different cultures, too, it looks differently. So that's the work if I look internally, and then if I can look internally and at myself, it's just like, you know, every therapist should have a therapist, right?   Katie Vernoy  12:33 Yeah!   Beck Gee Cohen  12:33 .. is that if I start with, note that everyone, you can start to empathize with how difficult these things might be, for a client that is in is it was questioning their gender or transitioning. And you may not know, someone is trans when they come in your office, and you build a rapport with them, and you build a therapeutic alliance, and then they come out to you. Right, and they feel that they trust you. You know, that is your job to continue to work with that. And you can work with them. As long as you you know, maybe you need to seek supervision or whatever. But I think therapists can really do a lot of work on themselves around gender, even if they they're not trans. Right. I think it's funny because we only talk about like sexuality and gender when it comes to the LGBT community. We're actually like, sexuality and gender should be talked about across the board for everyone. I think we would we'd serve us as as therapists and as the world as a whole,   Curt Widhalm  13:34 when we sent over the what should we talk about questionnaire to you, you dropped in this term trans resilience? Can you tell us what that is? And how that plays out? With our clients.   Beck Gee Cohen  13:47 Sometimes we focus in on the pain of transition a lot. Right? As therapists we concentrate on anxiety and depression, all the hard things, right?   Katie Vernoy  14:02 Yeah.   Beck Gee Cohen  14:03 Why do people go to therapy? Do people go therapy when they're super happy, you know, but, but at the same time, I think when I when I talk about trans resilience, and they talk about how we can celebrate identity in the therapeutic space, I think this is a really important piece to helping our clients celebrate themselves and empowering themselves and trans resilience to me means that, you know, we walk through the world, and we walk through all of this stuff that we do, and we we, you know, we get misgendered and we walk through all the messages that say we shouldn't be here, but we still show up every day. And we still are present in our lives or we try to be and we still show up to therapy, we still show up. And we and I keep saying show up because it's sometimes it's so hard to show up. And so To foster that, and to like, empower my clients who are trans is like really like celebrating them and celebrating who they are, and, and walking in their truth and walking in their authenticity. A lot of times people will say, Oh, you're so brave for doing this. I don't Thank you. Right? Like, I think, no, thank you. Right. And I know where that comes from. And I also know that like, I came out, because it was like an act of survival. Like, I run out of a burning building, like I was running out of a burning building. Is that brave? No, that's like, I'm trying to survive.   Katie Vernoy  15:41 Yeah,   Beck Gee Cohen  15:41 you know, I think bravery is really like going back in and getting people and pulling them out. Right? Bravery is like, you know, showing up again, every day and helping others and all those things. So that mean, I think therapists are brave, right? But for me, it was an act of survival. And so when I talk about resilience is really talking to my clients about, like, you know, you show up every day, you know, as hard as it is you keep showing up and with suicidality, and suicide rates so high in the trans community, you know, for those who are able to survive, I think it's, I think it's really important. And I think it's also really important to like, celebrate, and, like, enjoy being trans, you know, I mean, I'm constantly like, asking them, you know, we're talking about dysphoria all the time. And I'm like, where's your euphoria? You know, when you feel good this week? When did someone like make you feel like, you know, when did you like, go put that dress on? Or, or, or get gendered correctly? Or like, like, hold on to those moments, too, because that feels good. When did you look in the mirror? And we're like, damn, I look good today. You know, like, I feel good in my body. I think therapists you know, sometimes will so hyper focus on like, oh, you you have to hate yourself to be trans. Like you actually don't. Yeah, actually don't like that's that's a that's a false narrative that has been given to you by the DSM.   Katie Vernoy  17:09 Yeah, I think I want to actually like there's so many things I want to go into here. But I think one of the the pieces that feels really compelling to me is this idea of this notion, and you're calling it gender dysphoria, then gender, euphoria, we've heard that as well before, but I think there's this notion of hating yourself feels like it is already coming from a cis place, a cisgender place, that the self is defined by whatever gender you were assigned at birth. And so talk a little bit more about your feelings about the DSM, because you started to go there.   Beck Gee Cohen  17:52 I went there,   Katie Vernoy  17:53 I just am curious about how you look at it, because I think most of what we do is based on what society deems normal, and it's so culturally bound, I loved when you were talking earlier about how gender has been perceived through the years, because I think we feel like well, this is just what it is. And it's like, well, no, actually, it's completely culturally defined if we really look at it. But anyway, it's early, where I'm going all over the place. So let me get to the question. How do you think the DSM harms our efforts toward treatment? Because it seems like it's framed improperly.   Beck Gee Cohen  18:28 Yeah. Well, so if I look at like, so again, this is just my opinion, not the opinion of all trans therapists, we're looking at two things here, right? That the, the DSM in and of itself helps people like having dysphoria as like a, as a diagnosis can help us get hormones and all those things, which is like, you know, if you're not in an informed state, right, like, you can at least go to the doctor and get your medical needs met. So dysphoria, and you actually actually said it, in what you what you were just talking about is that dysphoria is actually not mine. If I actually look at the myself, like, I am not dysphoric around my gender, everyone else is dysphoric around my gender, right, like, so it the gender dysphoria is actually internalized. And if I look at like, you know, gender dysphoria from the DSM, it actually says the stressors from the outside in, right? And so it's like, So, am I really dysphoric um, I'm in my internalizing the gender dysphoria that people have placed on my gender, you know, and so, it can be a hard concept to talk to teens about to talk to even adults about because they, like it gets so set on like, No, I'm dysphoric and I have dysphoria, and I chew you know, I struggle with that. But the more I I have this conversation, the more I even dive internally, it's like, actually, I'm Just internalizing that dysphoria. And so then I feel depressed and anxious because I can't get a job because I'm seeing in the world is a freak. And you know all the things, right? I'm told that I shouldn't, you know, play sports, or legislation against me says I can't play sports, things like that, right? So I'm internalizing everyone else's stuff. Like when I talk about dysphoria, it's like, well, what, what are you actually dysphoric about? Right? Yeah, what's, what do you actually dysphoric about? Well, I want to change my body. Well, a lot of people want to change their body, and they're not diagnosed with gender dysphoria. Like, you can go to a plastic surgeon and get whatever you want done. But you're not diagnosed with dysphoria, or any diagnosis, really, I'm not depressed, because I'm trans I'm, I can also just be depressed. I can have depression, if you actually look at the DSM dysphoria in children and adolescents, right? We're already talking about boys and girls toys, there's already like this, like, thing around like, you know, gendered toys in they're already like, these societal cultural stereotypes that are put into the DSM. And so it's like, children should be allowed to play with gender, and play, everyone should be allowed to play with gender and, and be who they are. It shouldn't be like a diagnosis. What we see here is that we also see, I talked to a lot of parents, and they say, Well, my kid wasn't playing with dolls when they were younger. So there's no way that they could be a girl. Right? Right. And so it attaches, again, like, this gender roles is, you know, stereotypes on to a child, and then it's like, you know, do I have to like dresses and all these things in order to be a girl? Or do I have to play with trucks to be a boy? It's like, well, no, not necessarily. Right? So it just, I think we get so honed in on, like, the diagnosis, that we forget the person. And I think that happens a lot in the DSM, we're just so hyper focused, and in order to get insurance to cover it, or whatever. So yeah, we're like, Okay, do you do check all the boxes? And if you don't, right, then maybe you're not. And so what I've run into with a lot of like, even young people, I mean, it's amazing what you can find out there on the internet, young people know exactly what they need to come in with to share what they need, you know, and, and people know, like, so if I'm not depressed around my gender, so then I have to go into a therapist, and I have to lie, to get hormones, right. And I have to say, Well, I'm depressed, but I'm not depressed. I'm not. I'm not too depressed. Because if I'm too depressed, then you're not going to give me my hormones. If you're too if I'm too anxious, or if I'm feeling you know, I'm having suicidal ideations, then, you know, maybe I need medication, I don't need hormones, right? So I'm gonna lie to you about actually, like, how bad I'm feeling or how good I'm feeling because I need to hit that middle ground. And so you're already starting off the therapeutic relationship in a lie?   Katie Vernoy  23:18 Yeah.   Beck Gee Cohen  23:18 How do you build something from there? So if I take myself out of a gatekeeping role, right, if I tell a client, like, I'm not here to tell you who you are, you know who you are, right? I'm not here to tell you who you are. I'm here to like walk you walk through, you know, because I believe in therapy. Don't get me wrong. Like, I believe in the power of therapy. I don't believe in it to to gate keep for certain things for telling someone who they are. Right. But I definitely believe in walking through with someone through the changes and shifts that they're gonna happen through their transition. That's a big deal. But if you're starting off, like, with a client just having to lie to you, because they just want a letter from you. It's like, well, that's, that's not okay. You know, that's,   Katie Vernoy  24:07 it's not therapy   Beck Gee Cohen  24:08 person. It's not therapy. It's it's not at all, and it's actually super harmful. And I've seen it harm a lot of people in that way.   Curt Widhalm  24:17 Speaking of letters and organizations, that gate keep, I know that one of the resources out there that people point to in working with trans clients and especially maybe the first times that they're working on transplants, is Wpath. And there's some guidelines there that I understand that you're part of some some groups working on some making some changes over there, too.   Beck Gee Cohen  24:43 Yeah, so there's some work groups that are changing some of the Wpath guidelines for teens and so there's like working groups of actual trans identified providers, which you know, Wpath has, over the years been primarily cisgender people kind of, again, implementing certain guidelines, which, in effect have been helpful, you know, over the years, but I think as we just as, like, we get to understand gender, and as it works in the world, right, we have to shift and move things. And, and, and just as it's been over the years, you have these really great, amazing people who are allies and who are trying their best. And like, you also have to now have people at the table who are actually, you know, part of this community, and now that there are more providers, more doctors, that are trans identified nurses, therapists, you know, they're actually bringing more of us on into the conversation. And so, you know, I told Curt before this, I don't want to, you know, I had some, like, really strong, you know, like opinions, but now like, it's like, okay, well, yes, of course, right? Like, no, I mean, all this any kind of legislation, any kind of like licensure stuff, like trans people were never at the table. So now that we are kind of stepping up into these spaces, I think we're going to start to see some great changes happening, hopefully, you know, fingers crossed some changes in how care is given to trans clients, across the board medically, because, you know, Wpath is like mental health, medical, you know, treatment, all of these things. And, and people do go to it, and it's almost like, you know, well, this is, and it's taken, I think people who are like, well, this is not, this isn't still isn't right, right, this still isn't right, there still needs to be some changes happening. And so bringing in trans people with experience, I think, is really, really important and valuable. So still go to WPATH still go to, you know, get those guidelines, that should be like, kind of foundational, and if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't, you know, like, if it does, it's like, this feels a little gatekeeping, right, this sounds a little bit like, you know, like, these kind of hard lines, like, Oh, you have to, you know, you know, it used to be like you have to live as, you know, the opposite gender for a year, you know, in order to get hormones, and you're just like, what, what is that? You know, what is that about? Like, those kind of guidelines, now, we've kind of stepped away from it, but I will still hear that I will still hear therapists using those old antiquated kind of markers of like, being trans, like, you know, because there's not one way to be trans, there's not one way to like, walk in the world, right? Not all trans people want surgery, not all trans people want hormones, you know, that's not all people want to live, like, like as like the opposite. Right? Like, you know, we all lie somewhere somewhere in the middle, some of us so.   Katie Vernoy  27:52 So stepping out a little bit, because I think there's some nuance to what you're talking about. But I do know that there are some folks that this may be one of the first stepping stones for them learning about how to work with trans clients. And so maybe just to a very brief because I think people need full on training, and will definitely give you a chance to talk about the trainings that you do, because I think that would be a really good start. And there's, you know, lots of great resources for letters and all the things but if someone is a general therapist, and they they don't spend specialized and trans clients, and they have a trans client walk into their office, first off, get supervision, get training, all that stuff. But is there anything because you know, you're not going to necessarily know tell? You know? And so, what are some advice that you have for for, for clinicians, whose clients who they've been working with for quite some time, come out,   Beck Gee Cohen  28:47 I still believe in that therapeutic alliance is the number one thing for any relationship, if you do that, so there's there's two different there's two different like, I think, scenarios here, there's the one where the transplant just comes in, right from first time to like, one that you've been working with for a long time. So we'll start a long time one, and that you start, like having this conversation and I think that there's a really valuable tool called vulnerability that therapists can use in the space where they say, I haven't had a whole lot of experience working with trans clients before or around gender and, you know, I, you know, and thanking them for, like, coming out, you know, to you, right, because ultimately, you have built that trust because people don't just, like, come in and be like, I'm trans, you know, like, first I mean, maybe that's a like, I did that, but I knew that she had worked with transplants before so, but I just needed to say it out loud, but I think like, it's pretty rare. Um, I think people like wanna, like feel it out a little bit, right and kind of see how they're, how you're gonna respond. And and so obviously you'd become that trusted person, so even thanking them, you know, in some way, and then, and then doing the work around it and kind of saying, like, you know, I, I don't have a whole lot of experience, but I'm, I'm so willing to learn, and I'll learn outside of here. And I will ask questions. And if you don't want to answer them, like, I will find out other ways, you know, and just sharing like your process, I think it's a big, I think, if I were a client, and someone said that, to me, as a trans person, I would feel more connected to my therapist, than someone just assuming that they knew everything, and then being like, you actually don't know, right, or walking into a therapy room for the first time, and someone has like a rainbow flag up, and has no idea how to work in the LGBT space, right, because they got a rainbow sticker that they said that they should have on their wall to show that they work with diverse clients, you know, like, I mean, like, you know, we see that a lot. And I think that that is that can be dangerous, because like I let my walls down, because I'm looking for safety. So I may let my walls down, and then then find out like, oh, you actually have never worked with a transplant before. And you actually have no training. And so, so if you, like were a therapist, and you had a client just walk in the door and say that they were trans, you know, that's a conversation that either you're gonna have to have with a supervisors, and also, again, being honest from the start and saying, I've never worked with transplants before, but I have some training. And I Oh, you know, and I'll, you know, seek that out. And I think a lot of us, for those of us who are trans seek out therapists, like, I'm going to, I don't automatically seek out trans therapists, like trans identified therapist, probably because I know all of them personally, in some way, shape, or form. So it makes it tough. And I'm in that space right now. Um, but I'm looking for, you know, like, I will, you know, I will ask questions of like, Have you worked with trans clients before? Are you part of the LGBT community if they do choose to disclose or not, they don't necessarily have to be part of that. But I want to know what kind of, you know, if they've ever worked with, with a trans client before, but that's me, but I also ask if they've ever worked with clinicians, as well, because that's a whole nother   Katie Vernoy  32:27 Yeah, that's a whole other dynamic. We are getting short on time. So I want to, I want to just comment on something and get a couple more thoughts from you, I think there's this element of, you may have a client come in either in the process with you either come out for the first time, or kind of identify that for themselves for the first time, I feel like there's so much to talk about there. And then there are also clients who are trans and that's not what their issue is. And I think there's so there's different elements of what we would need to know, when someone comes in and they are trans and the issue isn't about their gender identity, it sounds like this awareness is important and being able to understand the impact that it may have on what's going on. And I think that's, that's fairly well in the wheelhouse of the therapists, especially as they are able to get consultation and make sure that they're, they're kind of there with them and understanding the person in front of them and that the issues they're facing when someone comes out or is in the process of identifying for themselves, their gender identity. And that process, I think that can be very confusing for folks, especially with a hard bias against, you know, kind of what we went back going back to life, the gender dysphoria, and even just the angst that can be coming through as the identification or the understanding, I am trans. And so can you talk a little bit about that process of the kind of understanding kind of the introspection, the kind of identifying for the individual, as well as how therapist can support trans clients as they identify and come out and potentially even transition because that seems like that's very specific to the gender identity whereas other things are informed you know, it's it's gender identity informed it's other issues, but it's gender identity and form. This is it's about gender identity,   Beck Gee Cohen  34:25 when a specific client is is coming in specifically around their gender identity like this is this is the the pressing struggle at this point in time that that I'm you know, is is obviously getting the whole story around because, you know, some people are in relationships, right, some people are in, you know, I mean, I come from obviously a wider lens of like the sociological piece of a person like all of these things and, and really diving into their fears, right diving into, like you said, they kind of they're there, because they've already been thinking about it. Like, this has been something that has been brewing for a while someone just doesn't usually just wake up one day and be like, Yeah, I'm trans, right. Like, I mean, this is something. And I like to get that backstory, I like to ask people when they first kind of knew something was different, right? Like, you know, it could be a year ago, it could be six months ago, it could be 10 years ago, right. And when they first maybe even talked about it to someone, you could be the first person they are talking to about it, right? And so let's say, you know, they knew when they were five, and now they're 30, that's 25 years of kind of unraveling of like, you know, what, you know, what has been going on? For them? I think the first question my therapist asked me when I told her that I was trans, which I, which I, you know, so appreciate. And I go back to, even as a clinician is like, okay, cool. So what do you want to do about that? Sounds like, which sounds it's so her right? It was like, I was like, what, you know, like, like, what do you know, because you've obviously been thinking about this. So like, we'll deal with all that, that unraveling of the history and all that stuff later. But like, How can I be present for you now? Like, what is it that you are looking for right now? Like, are you looking to get on hormones? Are you looking to get top surgery, you know, like or whatever. Like, for me, it was like, I knew I wanted to get top surgery, I did not know I wanted to go on hormones. That was like, so far, like, it was like a lot for me to think about, but I knew exactly what I wanted one thing. It's just like, cool. Let's start there. Right? We don't have to make it like, I think we also get overwhelmed with like, what if I say the wrong thing, right? Like, what if I, what if I, what if I screw this up? And but it's just like, it's almost like goal setting. Like, okay, great. Like, what do you see for yourself, because a lot of trans people don't even aren't even, they're so focused on like, the history and like, the present, like, the fear and the anxiety that, that I couldn't even see myself in the future. So to be able to, like, be present, and then look forward, was really empowering. Like, oh, I can do this, right? Like, right, yeah, it scares the shit out of me. But excuse my language, but like, I'm also like, but, but I can see that I can see that there might be a future for me here. And so I you know, kind of kind of, in that, in that in that respect, that's like a celebratory way of thinking and, and then we can get dive into the introspection, we can dive into the struggles of, of what it is to be trans in the world and all those things. But like, if we give it a moment and ask, really just kind of asked, like, what do we want to do here? Like what to do with this information? Do we want to move forward? Or do we want to focus on like, the hows and whys and then giving like, you know, sometimes we give readings, sometimes we give, but most people that come in who are who are talking about their gender, they've already been researching, they have already been, like watching YouTube videos, they've already been having this conversation internally, they just need to, like, get it out, and like have a place to like, get it out, and they may not have any movement, maybe they just want to talk about it in the room. Maybe they have no idea what they want to do. And it's like, that's great, too. But this is a space where you can, we can acknowledge that sometimes it's the only space where I'm using the name and pronouns that they want to use for the first time. Right? Like, I've used that space for helping people come out to their loved ones. Right, I came out to my best friend in my therapy, and with my therapist, actually came into town and I'm like, you're going to come to therapy with me. And she allowed that space for me to come out, you know, to the person that I love the most, you know? And so, like those are the things that we can do as therapists.   Katie Vernoy  39:12 I love that.   Curt Widhalm  39:14 If people are looking forward to a future with you and your training where can they find out more about you and follow you?   Beck Gee Cohen  39:26 Oh, I was thought this was a proposal Curt. Um... Oh was like okay. So you can find me at my website BGC bridge calm. I offer consultation and trainings and things like that on that website. You can always email me it's Beck at BGCbridge comm I'm always open to offering you know, help, consultation, you know, networking. You know, if you have a trans client and you just have a couple questions, I'm always glad to you know, Email. But if you want more of like a sit down, you know, we can talk about that as well.   Katie Vernoy  40:06 And just one quick question around resources. Are there any ideal resources for clinicians who'd like to do some reading or some get some basic information that that would help them? At least have a foundation?   Beck Gee Cohen  40:19 Yeah, for sure. There's a lot. But I think the MY GO Tos are Alex II and TAFI has a couple of books on gender trauma. Life isn't binary for non binary, folks. They're also a therapist and amazing therapists doing somatic and trauma work in the LGBTQ plus community so you can go to their website. And then my gender workbook by the fabulous Kate Bornstein is always a good tongue in cheek kind of gender workbook. And again, I suggest therapists get it for themselves and you know, start filling it out like workbook style. You know, Dara Hoffmann Fox also has a gender identity workbook. I love workbooks, again, more introspection, I never give out a book that I wouldn't do myself. So, you know, just get those for yourself and see if they work. And there's a great book for I know, there'll be another conversation around families and trans teens and things like that. But it's called Two Spirits one heart and it's written by a trans son and his mom and the coming out process and that way, so I gave it to my mom when I came out. So a lot of you might be working with parents of trans teens, a really great resource for them.   Curt Widhalm  41:39 And will include links to all of those in our show notes. You can find those over at MTS g podcast.com. And follow us on our social media, join our Facebook group, the modern therapist group. And until next time, I'm Curt Widhalm with Katie Vernoy and Beck Gee Cohen   Katie Vernoy  41:55 Thanks again to our sponsor, buying time,   Curt Widhalm  41:58 buying times VAs support businesses by managing email communications, CRM or automation systems, website admin and hosting email marketing, social media, bookkeeping and much more. Their sole purpose is to create the opportunity for you to focus on supporting those you serve while ensuring that your back office runs smoothly with a full team of VAs gives the opportunity to hire for one role and get multiple areas of support. There's no reason to be overwhelmed with running your business with this solution available.   Katie Vernoy  42:26 Book a consultation to see where and how you can get started getting the support you need. That's buying time llc.com forward slash book dash consultation once again, buyingtimellc.com/book-consultation.   Announcer  42:42 Thank you for listening to the modern therapist Survival Guide. Learn more about who we are and what we do at MTS g podcast.com. You can also join us on Facebook and Twitter. And please don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss any of our episodes.

A Way Beyond the Rainbow
#71 - On Contemporary Issues and Shar'i Perspectives (Part I)

A Way Beyond the Rainbow

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 79:07


This is part I of a 2-episode series with Sh. Mustafa Umar addressing contemporary issues and Shar'i perspectives related to same-sex attractions and gender identity issues.How can parents, family members and friends support and embrace individuals with same-sex attractions and/or gender dysphoria without compromising their values and Deen? How do we deal with men or women in our families/circle of friends who have "come out" as part of the LGBT community and are living the lifestyle? From an Islamic legal perspective, what are the punishments of same-sex sexual behaviors and some of the common misconceptions surrounding that? Do same-sex sexual acts, the declaration of such acts as halal, or being in a same-sex marriage put one out of the fold of Islam? These and other relevant questions are explored in this episode.Talks given by Sh. Mustafa Umar:- Islam and Homosexuality: Drawing the Lines- What Does Islam Really Say About Homosexuality?- Teaching Transgender Ideology In California Schools: What Muslims Need to Know

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
PCFM Week: My Husband is Stressed Out

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2022 5:05


The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage Week: Sue's marriage has gotten better now that her kids are grown up, but her husband is still overworked and under a lot of pressure. - Dr. Laura: "Do the things you know will help make your husband's life better."What's something you could do to brighten your spouse's day? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com Order Dr. Laura's book: “The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage”go to > https://www.drlaura.com/dr-laura-book-the-proper-care-and-feeding-of-marriageTo participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Pussy Church
Censor Me, Daddy

Pussy Church

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2022 42:07


She fights the deactivation of her instagram account and Aquaman joins to answer confessions. Follow Lara on her quest to gospel about sex, worship erotic art and give advice on your sexy confessions.This week: the history of the censorship of sex. When did sexuality become taboo, what's in it for cooperations and the most banned pieces of erotic art in the world. Amen. 

The Final Straw Radio
Anarchist Struggle in Rojava

The Final Straw Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2022 71:53


Anarchist Struggle, or Tekoşîna Anarşist in Kurmanji, is an anarchist combat medic collective operating in Rojava since the time of the war against Daesh / Isis, though its roots go back further. For the hour, you'll hear a voice actor sharing the words of a member of TA calling themselves Robin Goldman about the their experiences of Asymmetric Warfare waged by Turkey and its proxies in the TFSA, the culture of TA right now, the medical work they're doing, queerness in Rojava and other topics. You can find TA online on twitter at @TA_Anarsist as well as their website TekosinaAnarsist.NoBlogs.Org. Members of TA suggested that folks interested in queer and trans organizing in Rojava support the group Keskasor, Kurdish for rainbow and based in Diyarbakir, Turkey. It can be emailed at heftreng.keskesor@gmail.com, found on twitter via @Keskasor_lgbti or on instagram at @KeskesorLGBTI, though their social media presence was last updated in 2020. Transcript PDF (Unimposed) Zine (Imposed PDF) Some Formations Related to TA: International Freedom Battalion (IFB) on FB: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Freedom_Battalion International Revolutionary People's Guerrilla Forces (IRPGF) -demobilized: https://archive.org/details/@irpgf The Queer Insurrection and Liberation Army (TIQLA) -demobilized Groups mentioned ala Rojava: Make Rojava Green Again: https://makerojavagreenagain.org/ Internationalist Commune of Rojava: https://internationalistcommune.com/ You can find an interview we did with ICR at our website Jineoloji International: https://jineoloji.org/en/ Rojava Information Center: https://rojavainformationcenter.com/ Heyva Sur A Kurd (Kurdish Red Crescent): https://hskurd.org/en/homeen/ Announcements Zolo Azania Former Black Panther, political prisoner and BLA veteran Zolo Agana Azania is seeking help. Since being released from prison and returning to the streets of Indiana in 2017 after more than 35 years behind bars, he has poured himself into organizing solidarity and support for other former prisoners. He still has not received his 2020 covid relief funds, likely impacted by his housing precarity, and is trying to purchase an inexpensive house to offer him stability in his later years. If you'd like to help, you can cashapp Zolo at $ZoloAzania5 . You can hear an interview with Zolo from 2018 plus his participation in an IDOCWatch panel at our website, linked in the show notes. Eric King's Mail Ban Temporarily Lifted That's right, you can send mail and books to anarchist and anti-fascist prisoner, Eric King! You can find his writings, art and updates on his case at SupportEricKing.Org, you can find his amazon wishlist there as well and you can send him letters via: Eric King #27090-045 FCI Englewood 9595 West Quincy Avenue Littleton, CO 80123 Asheville Continues To Attack The Homeless In a last minute addition to these announcements, according to a leaked email by a local, Asheville-based non-profit serving houseless folks, Asheville's City Council may be considering passing an ordinance based on the failed Ft. Lauderdale, Florida ban on the sharing of food in public spaces, which in the Asheville case appears to be based on a suggestion by Asheville Police Captain Mike Lamb. An article just published on the Asheville Free Press explains the context, what the non-profit group Beloved is suggesting as next steps, which includes applying pressure at the upcoming January 25th City Council meeting. This comes on the heels of a wave of knocks, warrants and arrests of people engaged in protests against homeless sweeps here in freezing temperatures at the end of last year. Keep an ear out and toss support for legal fees to the Blue Ridge Anarchist Black Cross legal defense fund at ­ or you can donate to the final straw's payment methods with a note that it's for legal defense and we'll pass it off. Fire Ant Journal #11 is Out! You can find the latest edition of Fire Ant Journal, featuring writings and art by Thomas Mayer-Falk, Eric King, Pepe and info on Sean Swain, Jennifer Rose and more via Bloomington ABC BAD News #52 is Available! The monthly episode of the A-Radio Network's English podcast includes Črna Luknja with a member of CrimethInc on the fire at their publishing house recently, A-Radio Berlin brings words on the attack by leftist bro's on the queer anarcha-feminist Syrena squat in Warsaw, Elephant In The Room gives a brief round up of the uprising in Kazakhstan and comrades at Free Social Radio 1431 AM in Thessaloniki talk about the eviction of Biologia Squat. Support Here are a few ways you can give back to The Final Straw You can subscribe to our podcast on various platforms, follow and share our materials online as well as give us feedback via links found at TFSR.WTF/Tree To support our transcription work and wider project, you can subscribe to us via Patreon.com/TFSR, buy some merch or find donation methods at TFSR.WTF/Support Find those transcriptions and zines for distro'ing, mailing into prisons, or translating at TFSR.WTF/Zines And you can get us onto radio stations in your area with info at TFSR.WTF/Radio . ... . .. Featured Tracks: Yasin  is a remix by Rizan Said of this song (original version based on an Arab folk song from the Hesekê region featured in the film "Darên bi Tenê" or "The Only Trees") Şervano by Mehmûd Berazî (an article about the song, often sang at funerals)

Beyond Boundaries
038 - Heavy Burdens w/ Bridget Eileen Rivera

Beyond Boundaries

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2022 50:59


Bridget Eileen Rivera is a sociologist completing her Ph.D. at the City University of New York Graduate Center. A homeschool graduate and alum of Patrick Henry College, Rivera has become a leading voice on gay celibacy in the church, helping Christians better grapple with gender and sexuality in a divided culture. She has worked with a number of faith-based organizations, including Revoice, Christians for Social Action, and Preston Sprinkle's Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender, where she contributed to the Digital Leaders Forum.  Buy Bridget's book Heavy Burdens Follow Bridget on Twitter - Instagram  Follow Justin on Instagram If you would like to help support The Beyond Boundaries Podcast financially visit the Patreon or Venmo.  

The Multiorgasmic Mama: sexuality | motherhood | relationships | spirituality | intimacy | postpartum
187: How to use sexual energy transmutation to break free from the matrix: Matrix free mama series 1

The Multiorgasmic Mama: sexuality | motherhood | relationships | spirituality | intimacy | postpartum

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2022 51:24


Welcome mama, are you a high achieving career mom ready to embody the legacy of freedom in relationship, parenting and business you want to leave your kids?   My Matrix Free Mama program is a 10 month portal to relationship, sexual, business and parental freedom   Apply here: https://bit.ly/matrixfreemama by February 11, 2022   Through a combination of somatic healing, embodiment practices, divine feminine channeling, community support and an entire library of pleasure and prosperity resources to catapult your sex life, relationship, business and parenting skills through the roof   To take you out of the matrix and live the life of freedom you desire for your family and your kids.   The 10 month Matrix Free Mama Group Coaching Program will help you   Quantum leap into the life you most desire Are you one of the mama's out there here to… Model to your kids a new template for relating and making money? Live your purpose and passion that gives you time and financial freedom? Embody pleasure, joy and freedom in your relationships and life?   Are you ready to fully step out of the old systems and ways of being keeping you stuck in your career, unhappy in your marriage and worried about the world you're leaving your kids?   This isn't the world you want to leave for them.   You know there's more, yet uncertainty, fear, and anxiety keep you in a world of doubts to step off the collective 3D path of limitations as you open up to remember the truth of who you are, what you're capable of, and the legacy you're here to leave.   You know the industrialized education system is total garbage, yet you feel uncertain of making the moves you know are best for your kids You've been dabbling in your business but have never taken the leap and given it your all You sacrifice your pleasure and passion for what you think you have to do in the name of duty and obligation to your family. You don't fully trust living from your feminine, surrendering, and honing your sexual energy to create what you truly want. It sounds too good to be true.   You resort to worst-case scenario thinking and let negative thoughts control your mind like: “But if I take them out of school and put them in alternative or homeschool, they'll loose all their friends and be traumatized” “What if I make the leap, quit my 9-5 to really go for my business and I fail?” “What if I lean into my pleasure, stop hustling so hard and striving for perfection and end up blowing through my savings and investments, alone and having to hustle even harder?”   I know the thoughts keeping you up at night hot mama.    I know because I've been there and came from all the same programming keeping you stuck and creating more of the same old bullshit.   I've been gracefully exiting the matrix for 11 years now after quitting my 9-5 as a city planner in 2011.   It started all those years ago and every year, I've embodied more the legacy of freedom in relationship, parenting and business I want to leave for my kids.   I took the kids out of industrialized education I built a 6 figure coaching business that's had massive positive impact on women's lives I've operated in feminine flow and surrender to my pleasure to manifest the life I desire I've sworn off hustling and ignoring my body and feminine cycles for a nourishing and sustainable way of working and being   It's my calling now to lead and guide you through liberation to experience and embody the life of freedom, pleasure and purpose you desire for yourself and your kids.   Welcome to Matrix Free Mama!   A magical portal of de-storying, and destroying all the belief systems and unconscious programming keeping you a slave to… you and the system.   Through integration, alchemy, sexual energy transmutation and emotional liberation   You'll receive all the tools, coaching and resources required to create these types of results in your life:   Awaken your passion, desire and sexual energy to light a fire under your ass and take action in the direction of your dreams Break free from parental and generational conditioning keeping you from living your truth and expressing all of who you are Work with the rhythms and cycles of your feminine body to do less and achieve more Learn the alchemical tools to continually transmute negative emotions into high vibration energy of manifestation   We will…   Heal & Integrate stuck and stagnant energy, outdated stories and unconscious programming Embody your pleasure, purpose and passion to create the business and life you love Activate & awaken your sexual energy manifestation skills to create the legacy you want to leave your kids   All so you can step into your power and embody the sovereign being required to create a life beyond what your mind can imagine is possible   We'll do this all through sacred sexuality practices, shadow work integration, transformational coaching, emotional liberation tools and techniques, nervous system rewiring and repatterining practices, channeled transmissions, along with all the tools to transmute and alchemize energy to break out of the matrix holding you back and manifest and receive the life of your dreams.   Are you ready to break free from the matrix?   Your Matrix Free Mama Modules:   February- Nervous system rewiring for   manifestation and 5D money consciousness March - Sexual wholeness & primal nature as key to life success April - Reparenting the inner child to parent the child May - Shadow integration and underworld journeying to reclaim your power June - Sexual energy activation and sex magic July - The feminine cycles as a roadmap to do less and achieve more August - Tantric emotional liberation mastery September - Conscious parenting and your only job as a mom October - Building an ecology of thriving in the 5D November - Choosing a new identity and personal sovereignty outside the matrix   In Matrix Free Mama, you will get expert support on the following areas of your life:   Sexuality Relationships Money Business Parenting Work/Life Balance   Are you ready to break free from the programming holding you back?   Bonus Instant Access: Pleasure and Prosperity Business Ignition Fire Starter - Enjoy an entire library of videos, swipe files, and .pdf's on business topics such as niching, creating a mission statement, social media, creating your high ticket offers, content creation,  lead generation, enrollment and sales, virtual events, systems and delegation.   Within the Matrix Free Mama container is the only place the Pleasure and Prosperity Business Ignition Fire Starter content is still available.   You'll leave this program a new version of you - liberated, more powerful, grounded, and unstoppable    Are you ready to burn the bridges behind and  take aligned action toward creating the life and legacy you want?   Apply Now at bit.ly/matrixfreemama   The Shadow leads to Light   In the program, Tilly will teach and coach you through 10 Shadow to Light Interactive sessions. These calls will incorporate live teaching and training, as well as group coaching. The calls go approximately 2 hours and you'll leave feeling elevated and inspired to take the next action steps to create the life you've imagined outside the matrix.   What's Included:   10 months support with Tilly 10 Shadow to Light Interactive Sessions 10 Live pleasure practice calls 10 Community connection calls 10 co-working calls to work on your biz, design curriculum and/or research Daily Accountability Challenge Private Online Community Exclusive Member's Area Lifetime Access 30+ exclusive audio-guided practices and meditations (never-before seen)   And so, so much more.   Immediately upon sign-up, you'll gain access to the Pleasure and Prosperity Business Ignition Fire Starter Material so you can start taking action on your business NOW.   As Matrix Free Mama starts, Tilly is committed to delivering the transmissions and teachings she's been guided to share to help you transition from the 3D to 5D and therefore, will be continually adding new content and practices/meditations, transmissions and coachings into the Member Library. You'll continue to see new material added over time.   The combined value of this experience is well over $75,000. And the best part? We're making it significantly more accessible than that for high achieving career moms to live the legacy of freedom they want for their kids.   However, this is still a HIGH LEVEL investment in YOU, in your CAREER/BUSINESS, in your RELATIONSHIPS with your kids, family and partner.   Will you break free for your kids?   Will you trust your inner knowing?   Apply Now at bit.ly/matrixfreemama   This is for you if…   You are sick of having the same goals every new year You're ready to have a fire lit under your ass, activate you ROOT chakra and really GO FOR IT! You are done worrying what everyone else will think of you and finally start living YOUR best life and do things YOUR way You're equally excited and terrified of shadow work, underworld journeying and all things dark and primal You are ready to birth a new YOU and a new way of BEING in the world You're committed to creating a life in alignment with your feminine cycles, wisdom and pleasure   If this is your heart's greatest desire, then we invite you here and now into this sacred liberation portal out of the 3D and into the 5D to be guided into the shadow and through the light, reclaiming ALL OF WHO YOU ARE on the way   It's time to reclaim the shadow, go dark and in, recall lost parts and pieces of you and leave behind all the stories keeping you in the matrix.   It is up to you to accept the calling and take action   Apply Now at bit.ly/matrixfreemama   In Matrix Free Mama, you can expect upgrades in every area of your life such as:   Sexuality  Sovereignty Relationship Purpose Business Money Creation Parenting Work/Life Balance   This isn't a surface level life coaching program   This is your ticket out of the matrix and into 5D consciousness, beyond what you thought was possible!   Take your ticket and let's go for the ride!   Apply here: bit.ly/matrixfreemama by February 11, 2022

Embodied
Accepted: Bringing Body Neutrality Into The Conversation

Embodied

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2022 34:08


Anita brings the RESOLVED series to a close by revisiting a conversation about body neutrality. Fat activists teach her about radical reframes, including body positivity and a newer term to her: body neutrality.

Live From Love
Episode 196 - Sexual & Spiritual Wholeness

Live From Love

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2022 12:01


Is it possible to be sexual and spiritual? Of course it is! Sexuality is a God-given part of us and if we deny that part, we will never be truly whole. Becoming whole means accepting and developing your sexuality and eroticism as a vital part of your mortal existence.  This means instead of shutting down your sexuality constantly you need to work on developing it in a way that blesses your life as an individual and blesses your marriage. Listen to this episode to find out how.

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
How Can I Protect My Daughter From Mean Girls?

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2022 6:39


Sabrina's 13-year-old is encountering some nasty teen drama, and Sabrina wants to shield her from any pain. - Dr. Laura: "Learning to deal with negative situations is part of life."What did kids tease you about during your childhood? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
I'm Sick of Not Getting My Way!

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2022 6:12


10-year-old Evelyn says she's tired of arguing with her mom over the things she wants that her mom won't give her. - Dr. Laura: "Be the kind of daughter you'd like to have someday."What kind of child were you? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
My Stepdad is Hard to Get Along With

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2022 4:49


Larry wishes he had a better relationship with his stepfather and is looking for advice. - Dr. Laura: "Don't turn to a crocodile when you want a cuddle."Do you have a good relationship with your step-parent? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A Way Beyond the Rainbow
#70 - On Revisionist Arguments (Part II)

A Way Beyond the Rainbow

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2022 83:58


This is part II of a 2-episode series with Br. Mobeen Vaid addressing revisionist arguments pertaining to homosexuality within Islam.In this episode, Mobeen and I discuss the punishments of sodomy according to Islamic Shari'a, to what extent Islam can be considered a "sex positive" religion, as well as the notions of marriage and celibacy for men and women who experience same-sex attractions. Under what conditions is sodomy punished by Islamic law, and why is there no consensus on this matter? Since a lot of homoerotic prose and poetry were written during the Islamic Golden Age, and we also know of famous Islamic scholars from the past, like Ibn Dāwūd al-Ẓāhirī, Ibn ʿArabī, and Ibn Ḥazm who had homoerotic feelings, wouldn't all of this constitute an acknowledgment and acceptance of homosexuality? Is it fair or just that Islam denies men and women who experience same-sex attractions their rights to sexual fulfillment? These and other questions are explored in this episode.Resources used and references mentioned in the episode:- "Can Islam Accommodate Homosexual Acts? Quranic Revisionism and the Case of Scott Kugle" by Mobeen Vaid

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
I'm Having Trouble Being Happy For My Dad

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2022 4:44


Elizabeth's mom died unexpectedly, and now her father is dating and would like her to meet his girlfriend. - Dr. Laura: "How you feel about a person is less important than how you behave around them."Do you have a parent who's trying to move on after the death of their spouse? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
We're Headed in the Right Direction

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2022 6:25


Ann calls to let Dr. Laura know how helpful her advice was to seek psychiatric care for her daughter. - Dr. Laura: "Sometimes moms need the support of professionals."What Dr. Laura advice has most helped you with raising your children? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your Secret Is Safe With Me
Preparing for a Breakup

Your Secret Is Safe With Me

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2022 35:18


Dr. Marie Murphy is a Relationship Coach specializing in helping people who are having affairs make decisions on how to move forward — without judgment. She has a Ph.D. in Sociology with an emphasis in Sexuality from the University of California, San Diego, and has been teaching sex education since her high school years. Dr. Murphy is also a yoga instructor and has previously taught meditation. In this episode… How do you prepare yourself for the difficult emotions of ending your relationship? Deciding to end any relationship can be a tumultuous decision — especially if you have no support. So, where can you turn for help? If you're looking for a way to prepare for a breakup, Dr. Marie Murphy has some steps to help you navigate this process without fear and choose the best course for you. As she says, once your vision is clear and you have a better understanding of what you want, you can begin to take the next steps forward. It may be difficult — but the discomfort will be worth it in the end. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses how to prepare for the emotional turbulence of ending a relationship. Dr. Murphy talks about examining your reasons for breaking up with your partner, following the path that's right for you, and recognizing that perfection in a breakup may never exist.

This Jungian Life
Episode 198 - PORN: Technology, Consumerism & Soul

This Jungian Life

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2022 85:35


Nearly every civilization since ancient times has portrayed explicit sexual acts. Sexuality's numinous aspect has long brought it into close association with spirituality and religion. The powerful potential of sexual arousal is central to being human and has seized today's collective via the Internet. Porn is symbolic of the widespread merchandising of desire, from toys to trucks. The unprecedented power of image in today's world can now drive what Lost Goddesses author Giorgio Tricarico terms our “desiring multiplicities” and quest for limitlessness. Pornography can be addicting, and Jung maintained that “There is no illness that is not at the same time an unsuccessful attempt at a cure.” Pornography could also be an attempt to achieve a sense of integration and wholeness through reconnection with the archetype of the goddess. HERE'S THE DREAM WE ANALYZE: “The Dragon Queen, a young blonde woman, was not the rightful queen and needed to be tamed. Everyone said to throw her in the furnace, but I couldn't do that to her. She had become a sort of friend and had come to trust me. I came to her through a room where archery practice was taking place, a cave to the kingdom. An old friend was a centaur, and he was teaching me to shoot the bow and arrow. He had many tiny arrows, which he shot into the queen's cave and missed. She came out and said, “Let me show you how it's done.” I then captured her by tackling her with a black sheet. Then I sat on her and started massaging her legs vigorously. She started to relax. I then went to her arms and belly. She completely relaxed. Then I uncovered her, and she was ready to learn how to live in our society. One of the guys in the archery group took on the job of teaching her how to eat. He showed her a vision of all kinds of foods and nutrition but started with feeding her only sweets—all kinds of candy. I was worried and said so. He said that because she was a dragon, we needed to start out with feeding her that way.” REFERENCES: Giorgio Tricarico. Lost Goddesses. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1782205322/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_PBJVC0D9VDDC2TYZW516 Sharon Blackie. If Women Rose Rooted. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B098CXQLLH/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_3AQDWXGFMVJA105QAT1T RESOURCES: Learn to Analyze your own Dreams: https://thisjungianlife.com/enroll/

Desert Hills Sermons
What Does the Bible Say About Gender and Sexuality? - Selected Scriptures

Desert Hills Sermons

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2022 54:13


Relationship Advice
336: Release Your Shame, Explore Your Sexuality

Relationship Advice

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 45:07


Yuval grew up in a fundamentalist orthodox community where sexuality was not only repressed, but largely viewed as sinful in most contexts. Yuval was able to leave this community and begin a deep exploration of his own sexuality and eventually learn enough to teach others. Listen to today's show to be inspired by his story and learn tools to explore your sexuality.  In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how Yuval left the orthodox jewish community and overcame the shame around sexuality it created How to explore your sexuality and deal with shame around sexuality Bondage art and what it does for individuals How to create more eroticism in your relationship How to talk to your partner about exploring sexuality individually and together The steps to get into bondage And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: http://idopodcast.com/336 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Like A Kitten curates adult subscription boxes created to inspire and influence female sexual wellness. Like A Kitten is offering our listeners 20% off AND free shipping when you go to LikeAKitten.com/idoOR enter code ido at checkout. LetsGetChecked is an at-home testing company that makes it easy and confidential to take an STD test from the comfort of your home. Visit letsgetchecked.com and enter ADVICE at checkout to get 30% off your entire order! Care/Of: Find the right vitamins, protein and collagen, personalized for you. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code ido50. If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah

With Pleasure
023: Honoring Our Cycles with Peyton Callahan

With Pleasure

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 86:56


Are you in love with your cycle? Do you honor it? Are you connected to your body's wisdom? Embracing and falling in love with our cycles is central to embracing our feminine. In today's episode, we have an incredibly special conversation with beautiful soul and doula, Peyton Callahan. We discuss honoring our cycles and sex education (not only for girls, but for our boys & men too!), the importance of reciprocity & community, and how we can embrace our sensuality and connect to all of the wisdom our bodies have to offer - without the shame!  We dive into: Peyton's important work with young girls, mothers & fathers around girls' bodies, their cycles & so much more Learning to receive - and the BIG lesson motherhood taught her around this Peyton's love story (this is so beautiful, sisters - you do not want to miss it!) The role gratitude can play in moving through grief A surprising fact about the clitoris and menopause! Her ebook “She Becomes” - a dad's guide to his developing daughter And more!  Connect with Peyton: Website: ​​https://www.peytoncallahan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ohdeerpeyton/ Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

RealPod with Victoria Garrick
Sedona Prince On Embracing Your Sexuality, Sexism In The NCAA, & Shining A Light On Women's Sports

RealPod with Victoria Garrick

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 43:02


Sedona Prince is a D1 basketball player at the University of Oregon, TikTok star with over 3 million followers, & Cohost of UNINTERRUPTED More Than An Athlete Varsity Edition! Last year, Sedona went viral on TikTok after she posted a video showing the disparity between the mens and womens training facility at the NCAA tournament sparking a national conversation around women's sports. Continuing her activism, she has been dubbed by her coach, “the face of the NIL lawsuit” as she has been embroiled in the fight for three years. On this episode of Real Pod, Sedona opens up about how she came into her own at Oregon after an injury and transferring schools, why coming out isn't just a one time thing, & how she is using her platform to give light to inequalities in women's sports. Follow Real Pod On Instagram! Follow Sedona Prince on TikTok! Subscribe to Real Pod on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!  Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is going to give you a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. Visit athleticgreens.com/realpod Macy's: Claim your gold medal in style at macys.com/theedit Produced by Dear Media

Gender Fluids
Anime Mommie Milkers, Lots of Castration, & Forniphilia

Gender Fluids

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 81:52


Arielle is going to NYC to do some shows and get dommed by a hottie with big boobs, castration comes up in several different contexts, consensual poly based eugenics may save the world according to Arielle, Himbos are wonderful and Ava wants one please, Gender Wiki V and you should go to our Patreon for the full segment, and the Fetish of the Week is Forniphilia. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
Should I Donate My Kidney?

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 6:06


Eric is planning to donate a kidney to his cousin but is struggling with his weight and other health issues in preparation. - Dr. Laura: "No one is morally obligated to donate an organ."Have you ever considered donating an organ? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Second Chance
Ep 63: What is Sex Engineering? - Colin Richards

Second Chance

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 70:58


Colin Richards is a sex and relationship engineer and master sensual masseur. He takes a humanistic approach to sex and intimacy and see's himself  as a sex educator and general problem solver of sex and relationship needs and challenges. He aims to help people transform their relationships and sex lives to become what they want and deserve. Working full time in this field since 2005 he has discovered and used various different approaches that are not generally covered by conventional methods to help people in this intimate part of their life. By combining knowledge of sexual and relationship psychology with his experience as a sensual masseur he is able to work with both the emotional and sexual. Links:https://www.intimacymatters.co.ukhttps://www.facebook.com/Intimacymattershttps://twitter.com/IntimacyMattersSecond Chance Links:WebsiteBuzzsprout Apple Podcast Facebook Raphael Rowe Website BookInstagramTwitterRaphael Rowe FoundationIf you want to help produce this podcast please make buy me a coffee, we try to keep the cost of producing this podcast to a minimum but everything cost so every little helps.Donation Support:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/secondchance1Support the show (https://paypal.me/secondchancepodcast?locale.x=en_GB)

Wait...WTF
are you sabotaging your goals by doing this?

Wait...WTF

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022 36:58


The beginning of the year is a time for a lot of us to really dive into a clear goal or focus for our business. So, what are you really committing to this year? How can you approach it from a place of surrender knowing that everything is going to work out (but not exactly the way you want, because when is that ever the case, right?!) In today's episode, I'm diving into pussified goal setting, what you ACTUALLY need to focus on if you want to scale to high-growth (hint: it's not revenue!), and how to stop sabotaging your goals and show up for your biz as the you who already has all of your juiciest desires.  I dive into: Why you can have everything you want in your life & biz - but you have to understand THIS principle first! The ONE thing you need to master to manifest all of the things you desire Why focusing on just revenue is a quick route to burnout (and what to do instead!) The man, the milly, and the waistline - and my plan for having them ALL! And so much more! Come join me in my FREE private Facebook group, Visible AF: https://www.facebook.com/groups/VisibleAF/ Send me a DM on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/juliamothereffingwells/

Dear Jessamyn
How Gay Was Your Yuletide?

Dear Jessamyn

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022 40:30


Jessamyn and Ashe are sharing cheer, Sagittarius season vibes and plans for a road trip to Cali. Content warning: Talk of violence and school shootingsFollow us on Instagram @DearJessamyn and find and follow the show on Spotify. You can leave us a review on iTunes! Reviews help a lot. Please, if you've enjoyed this episode, even for like half a beat, please go leave us a review. There's a bunch more info on the episode like behind the scenes content, transcriptions, how to find us and our team and more. It's all at dearjessamyn.comYour hosts are ashe danger phoenix and Jessamyn Stanley. Our Editor/Producer is Kylee C. RobertsAngell Foster and Nya Williams do our social mediaJanie Leopard does our episode art Anna Rooney is Jessamyn's Chief of StaffAmber Richardson is Ashe's Chief of StaffFruit Snack does our theme. Features music By DAJANA and Sarah, The InstrumentalistNo one should be in jail for weed.

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
I'm Traumatized by a Stranger's Death

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022 10:44


Kate is a nurse who witnessed the death of a woman the same age and with the same name as her mother, and now she can't stop thinking about her. - Dr. Laura: "Survivor's guilt is one part grief and one part gratitude."Has the death of a stranger ever impacted your life? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sharp Tongue
How To Unlock Your Creativity | Dr. Peluso

Sharp Tongue

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022 65:07


This week we welcome board uncertified with a PhD in THC, Dr. Peluso, to discuss going down on your girl, when to send nudes, and why does the universe exist. Submit your questions for Dr. P on our new day, SUNDAYS: www.instagram.com/jessimaepeluso

Enlightened The Podcast by Sophia Spallino | Honest & Encouraging Conversations that Inspire Personal Growth
AGE GAP DATING & LEVERAGING THE PATRIARCHY with Erica Moser -- Age Gap Relationships -- Relationship Advice -- Spilling the Tea about Marrying Millions -- Sexuality -- Personal Development --

Enlightened The Podcast by Sophia Spallino | Honest & Encouraging Conversations that Inspire Personal Growth

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022


Curious about what it's like to fall for, date, and sleep with an older man? Erica Moser is here to spill the tea about her relationship with Rick from the hit reality show “Marrying Millions.” Grab a glass of wine & enjoy this raw conversation between two age gap girls as we chat about dating.  Erica is a mid-20s Youtuber and entrepreneur. She is an ex-age gap relationship-ee (lol) and grew her platform showing her experiences dating older men. Now, she is running her channel to inspire women to be healthy, happy, and to pursue their entrepreneurial dreams. GET MY SKINCARE RECOMMENDATIONS IN ORDER OF APPLICATION FOR BOTH DAY AND NIGHTTIME when you join my email list for FREE  This episode covers topics like: What really happened behind the scenes in “Marrying Millions”  Dating older men vs younger men Sex with older humans verses younger humans The lessons learned from dating older men Leveraging the patriarchy by dating a wealthy, supportive partner  Behind the scenes of being an influencer Stay in touch with Erica: Follow her journey on Youtube: www.youtube.com/erica35mm Follow on IG: www.instagram.com/erica35mm Join her on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@erica35mm It's time to set yourself FREE, Lovely One!  I hope you benefit from ENLIGHTENED. If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here. Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime. With infinite love and gratitude. xo Sophia  Stream MY HEALING: a forgiveness anthem that I wrote and recorded: https://sophiaspallino.trac.co/sophiaspallinomyhealing Learn more about me and what I do: https://www.SophiaSpallino.com Follow me on Instagram for inspiring real-life stories everyday: https://www.instagram.com/sophiaspallino/ Pledge to support my show: http://bit.ly/SupportEnlightened Shop my merch: https://www.SophiaSpallino.com/shop Shop my favorite books and card decks here: http://bit.ly/SoulBooks If you are seeking wisdom & guidance, branding/social media tips, dating advice, a breakup breakthrough session, or a card reading, schedule a one-on-one virtual meeting with me: https://sophiaspallino.com/mentorship

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
My Daughter is Too Negative

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022 5:36


Matthew says his daughter is constantly putting herself down, and he's looking for ways to help improve her self-esteem. - Dr. Laura: "Kids like attention even when it's for negative reasons."What's the most frustrating parenting challenge you're coping with right now? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Laura Call of the Day
I Don't Want to Meet My Dad's Girlfriend

Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2022 5:32


Is it wrong for Christy's dad to be dating again just a year after her mom died? - Dr. Laura: "The living have to live."Is there a certain amount of time you feel is appropriate to wait to date after the death of a spouse? Email me your thoughts at: drlaura@drlaura.com To participate on the radio program; call 1-800-Dr-Laura / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment - https://www.drlaura.com/make-an-appointment. Find me on social media at:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramTwitter.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraBecome a Dr. Laura Family Member: https://www.drlaura.com/ See https://www.drlaura.com/privacy-policy for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Healthy Wealthy & Smart
573: Dr. Sheree Bekker: A Contemporary Vision for Sports Injury Prevention

Healthy Wealthy & Smart

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2022 36:43


In this episode, Social Justice and Sports Medicine Research Specialist, Sheree Bekker, talks about social justice in sports, medicine, and research. Today, Sheree talks about the conversations around physiology and injuries, and the different environments that affect the ACL injury cycle. How do clinicians implement the findings in the research? Hear about Sheree's qualitative research methods, the importance of recognising the social determinants of injuries, tackling systemic experiences, and get Sheree's advice to her younger self, all on today's episode of The Healthy, Wealthy & Smart Podcast.   Key Takeaways “We have to recognise the human at the centre of those experiences.” “Gendered language that seems like everyday language in sport can be really harmful to both men and women.” “[Be] cognisant of, and [be] able to have those conversations with athletes, patients, people that you work with all the time about their social conditions of their lives.” “The social conditions of our lives play into our injuries and our rehabilitation.” “It is about not simply seeing rehab as a biomedical issue alone to solve, but thinking about it as socially, politically, and materially oriented is a practice that you might incorporate in your way of thinking.” “Injury prevention, and a contemporary vision for injury prevention, needs to be athlete-centred and human-focused.” “We need to have those uncomfortable conversations about our complex, messy realities.” “Context is everything.” “Sport isn't neutral. It isn't apolitical.” “We can start to ask these questions, start to have these conversations. The answers aren't going to come tomorrow.” “These ripples will take some time.” “Connection is greater than competition.” “Hold on to the power of connecting with people who are at the same career stage and doing work with people who are at the same career stage as you.”   More about Sheree Bekker Dr Sheree Bekker (she/her) was born in South Africa, grew up in Botswana, completed her PhD in Australia, and now calls Bath (UK) home. She is an expert in ‘complexity' and research that links social justice and (sports) injury prevention. She has a special interest in sex/gender and uses qualitative methods. This underpins her work as an Assistant Professor in Injury Prevention and Safety Promotion in the Department for Health at the University of Bath. At Bath, she is Co-Director of the Centre for Qualitative Research, and a member of the Centre for Health and Injury and Illness Prevention in Sport (CHI2PS), and the Gender and Sexuality Research Group. Internationally, Sheree is an Early Career Representative for the International Society for Qualitative Research in Sport and Exercise, and a founding member of the Qualitative Research in Sports Medicine (QRSMed) special interest group. In 2020 she was appointed as an Associate Editor of the British Journal of Sports Medicine, and in 2021 she was appointed Qualitative Research Editor of BMJ Open Sport and Exercise Medicine. She completed a Prize Research Fellowship in Injury Prevention at the University of Bath from 2018-2020, and received the 2019 British Journal of Sports Medicine Editor's Choice Academy Award for her PhD research.   Suggested Keywords Healthy, Wealthy, Smart, Physiotherapy, Social Justice, Injury, Prevention, Gender, Sexuality, Physiology, Sociology, Environment, Research, Change,   Resources: Anterior cruciate ligament injury: towards a gendered environmental approach   To learn more, follow Sheree at: Website:          https://sites.google.com/view/shereebekker/home Twitter:            @shereebekker Instagram:       @sheree_bekker   Subscribe to Healthy, Wealthy & Smart: Website:                      https://podcast.healthywealthysmart.com Apple Podcasts:          https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healthy-wealthy-smart/id532717264 Spotify:                        https://open.spotify.com/show/6ELmKwE4mSZXBB8TiQvp73 SoundCloud:               https://soundcloud.com/healthywealthysmart Stitcher:                       https://www.stitcher.com/show/healthy-wealthy-smart iHeart Radio:               https://www.iheart.com/podcast/263-healthy-wealthy-smart-27628927   Read the Full Transcript Here:  00:02 Hi, Sheree, welcome to the podcast. I'm so excited to have you on. I've been looking forward to this for a long time. So thank you so much for joining.   00:12 Thank you for having me. Karen. I am delighted to be talking to you today.   00:16 And today we're going to talk about some of now you had a couple of different presentations at the International Olympic Committee meeting in Monaco a few weeks ago, and we're going to talk about a couple of them. But first, I would love for you to tell the audience a little bit more about you, and about the direction of your research and kind of the why behind it. Because I think that's important.   00:43 Mm hmm. Yeah, I've actually I have been thinking about this a lot recently, over the course of the pandemic, and thinking about where my research and my work is going and why I'm so interested in in kind of social justice issues in sports injury research in Sport and Exercise medicine. And I guess for me, there are two reasons for that both of them related to my background. First of all, I was born in South Africa. And I grew up in Botswana. And I think, you know, growing up into countries that have interesting pasts, you know, South Africa having post of apartheid and Botswana having been a colonized country, I think I grew up in places where we were used to having difficult conversations about social justice issues on a national level. And I think, you know, that is something that has influenced me definitely in the way that I see the world. The second part for me is I studied human movement science at university. And my program was in a Faculty of Humanities and Social Sciences. And I didn't realize at the time that most people get their sport and exercise medicine, sports science, human movement, science training, in medical faculties, or in health faculties, whereas mine was very much social sciences and humanities. And I only realized this later that my training in this regard was quite different in terms of the way that I see the work that we do. And so now, I've landed here at the University of Bath, and I'm in a department for health. But once again, I'm back in a Faculty of Humanities and Social Sciences. So it's been a really, really nice connection for me to come back to these bigger social justice questions, I guess, that I'm interested, you know, in our field. So for me, that's really the why I think of why I do this work.   02:42 And, and kind of carrying along those themes of social justice and really taking a quat. Know, a quantitative, qualitative, sorry, qualitative eye, on athletes and on injury, let's talk about your first talk that you gave it at IOC, which is about the athletes voice. So take us through it. And then we'll ask some questions. So I'll, I'll shoot it over to you.   03:17 Yeah, so um, my first talk, the first symposium that I was involved in at IOC this year, we had titled The athlete's voice, and those of us who were involved with it, we're really proud to be able to get this topic, this kind of conversation onto the agenda in Monaco. I had so many people comment to me afterwards, that this was the first time that we've been able to have this kind of discussion at this specific conference. And, you know, previous editions, I think, have been very much focused on that biomedical that I was just talking about, given that it's Sport and Exercise medicine. And it was the first time that we've been able to bring athlete voice into this space. And so this symposium in my talk in particular, was really focused on qualitative research. Even though when we pitched the symposium, we kind of decided that we couldn't call it qualitative research, because it wouldn't have been accepted at the time. And, and now, it's amazing to me how far we've come that we can actually talk about qualitative research in these spaces. So what I spoke about, and what I was interested in is, you know, what are the kinds of different knowledges and who are the people that we might listen to in Sport and Exercise medicine and sports injury more broadly, that traditionally we maybe haven't scented and haven't listened to? And I was interested in those kinds of social meanings of injury and of injury prevention and how we might do things differently. So you know, for me, it was that Recognizing the value of alternative perspectives, and working across disciplines and advancing our research and practice in this way. And so that's really what I spoke about was, you know how we might do these things differently by actually listening to the people at the center of our work and listening to athletes themselves. And that was really the focus of that symposium.   05:26 And in looking through some of the slides from the symposium, some of the quotes that I'm assuming we're taking from the qualitative work are, gosh, they're kind of heartbreaking. So what do you do with that information once you have it, right? So you're conditioned not to quit, you turn off your emotions, you become a robot as soon as you step onto the field or the pitch or the court. So how do you take that qualitative research? And what do you do with that once you have it?   06:01 Yeah, so you know, my talk, the way I kind of structured my talk was to talk about how we generally do injury prevention. And what we generally do is we, you know, figure out what the issue is what the injury problem is, we develop an intervention, and then we implement that in intervention and hope that it works. And, and some, you know, that's the kind of general cycle that we use. And what I decided to do in my talk, which was only a 10 minute talk was to dedicate two of those minutes to a video that I showed, that was just set to music that flashed up all of these quotes from athletes. And there were quotes that I'd collected from a number of different sports, a number of different athletes and spaces over the years, that really speak about their experience in sports and these toxic environments, which is something that I think we tend to kind of put to the side, maybe sometimes and ignore, sometimes in sport, when we put sport up on a pedestal and only think about the good things that happen in sports. And those quotes are also, I guess, a throwback or connection to one of the other talks that I had at IOC, which is not something that I think we'll speak about today, but about safeguarding and recognizing safeguarding as an injury prevention issue. And so we had these, like two minutes of these quotes from athletes. And I think that video really signaled a palpable shift in the room in recognizing what athletes are actually saying, and what their experiences are in sport about needing to, I guess, you know, put their their kind of robot hat on and be this strong person within sport where they can't break down where they can't have injuries or anything like that. Otherwise, they're going to be the team. And just for us to come back and to recognize that humanity in that experience, within sport, I think is really, really important, especially when we're at a conference where we're talking about injury prevention and interventions, we have to recognize the human at the center of those experiences. And so for me, coming back to your question about what do we do with that information? I think that's really powerful information, in terms of how we think about what injury prevention is, and does. And I guess we always focus on bodies, and you know, body parts, the ankle, the knee, the hip, the growing. You know, that's, that's kind of been a big focus of injury prevention. And I think we often forget that injury prevention is and can be so much more than that. And that there are these social factors, or social determinants, that to play into injury and its prevention. So the social aspects of our lives in terms of, you know, abuse that might happen in these spaces, or just being exposed to toxic spaces, you know, how that does actually render us more susceptible to injury, and how that can thwart our injury prevention efforts in these spaces. So for me, it's about integrating both of those two things I think together, and that's what I'm kind of getting at with qualitative research.   09:19 And, and that leads me into something else I wanted to talk about, and that is a review from the British Journal of Sports Medicine that you co authored with Joanne Parsons and Stephanie Cohen, anterior cruciate ligament injury towards a gendered environmental approach. And what you just said, triggered in me something in in reading through that article was that there's intrinsic factors and extrinsic factors that can lead to injury and injury prevention programs, if done well, should incorporate both of those. Right but they often concentrate on the biomedical part of the The, whether it be strength training, or landing, or, you know, whatever it may be when we look at a lot of these injury prevention programs, but there are so many contextual issues and extrinsic issues that can impact any of those programs. So I'll kind of let you sort of talk through that a little bit and talk through some of the main points that you found in that paper. But gosh, it really gets you thinking like, Well, wait a second, it could be, like you said, if you are, depending on the environment in which you live, can have a huge impact. And it's, it's more than just, especially when it comes to girls and women, it's more than just oh, it's because you have your period. And that's why this happened. Or if your hips are wider, that's why you got injured, right? So go ahead, I'll throw it over to you. And you can kind of talk through that paper a little bit, and then we'll see what comes up.   11:04 Mm hmm. You know, I'm so happy to hear you say that, because I'm so I'm not a clinician, but it has been amazing to me to hear how this paper has resonated with clinicians and people working in this space in terms of your own experiences and what you see and what you hear from the people that you're working with. So yeah, you're absolutely right. I mean, this paper was born out of conversations that Steph and Joanne and I had in terms of how we were frustrated by I guess, the discourse around sports injury, particularly for girls and women, often being blamed on our physiology on our bodies, right. And to us, that seems like a bit of a cop out. And just to say, oh, you know, girls are more susceptible to ACL injury, because they have wider hips, so there's nothing that we can do about it, you know, so that's really pitched us that intrinsic risk factor that girls and women are just inherently weaker, or supposedly more fragile than boys and men, and there's nothing that we can do about it. So we're just going to have to kind of live with those injury breeds. Right. And, and we found that this kind of thinking had really underpins so much of the injury prevention work that we'd seen over the last 10 or 20 years. And we wanted to problematize this a little bit and to think through what those kind of other social and I would say structural determinants of sports injuries are. So I'm starting to talk about this idea of the social determinants of injury. So not just what are those intrinsic things, but actually, what are the what are the other other social modes, I guess, that we might carry that might lead to injury. So in this paper, we speak about how we, as human beings, literally incorporate I think, biologically, the world in which we live. So our societal or ecological circumstances, we incorporate that into our bodies. And so we can start to see how injury might be a biological manifestation of exposure to that kind of social load. So for girls and women, how our gendered experience of the world might render us more susceptible to injury, rather than just positioning ourselves as being more weak, or more fragile. So we were interested in how society makes us and skills in women more weaker, and more fragile. And so in this way, we speak about how you know, from the time that we're babies, girls are not expected to do as much physically we are brought up differently to young boy babies might be when we go through school and play sport in school, we play different kinds of sports, and again, you know, on average, or in general, and girls, goes out, you know, not encouraged to be as active and to do as much with our bodies as boys. And we then go in right to have this kind of that cumulative effect of less exposure to activities and doing things with our bodies. Actually, that is what leads to us being more susceptible to things like ACL injury over time. And this is carried on in the kind of elite sports space as well. So we see how girls and women's sports are devalued in so many ways and how we're not expected to do as much or to perform as well. Or to train as hard I guess, as boys and men So an example of this that actually happened a couple of weeks after we published the paper was the NCAA March Madness. I don't know if you remember, there were those pictures that were tweeted all over social media, about the women's division, only being supplied with one set of teeny, tiny Dunda. Whereas the men's division was given, you know, massive weight room with everything that they needed to be able to train to be able to warm up and do everything that they needed to do in that state. And the first that was just an excellent example of what we're talking about in terms of girls and women being expected to and actually being made, I guess, weaker than boys and men are in exactly the same sports spaces. And so that's kind of a rundown, I guess, of what we wrote about in the paper.   15:53 Yeah, and I look back on my career as I was a high school athlete, college athlete, and not once was it, hey, we should go into the gym and train with specific training programs, because it will help to make you stronger, maybe faster, better, less prone to injury, but the boys were always had a training program. You know, they always had a workout program. So I can concur. That is like a lived experience for me as to what training was like, comparing the boys versus girls college straight through or high school straight through to college. And yes, that March Madness thing was maddening. Pun intended. I couldn't you could not believe couldn't believe what we were seeing there. That was that was completely out of bounds. But what I'd like to dive in a little bit deeper to the article, not not having you go through everything line by line. But let's talk about the different environments that you bring up within the article, because I think they're important. And a little more explanation would be great. So throughout this kind of ACL injury paradigm, you come up with four different environments, the pre sport environment, the training environment, the competition environment, and the treatment environment. So would you like to touch on each of those a little bit? Just to explain to the listeners, how that fits into your, into this paper and into the structure of injury prevention?   17:31 Yeah, sure. So um, yeah, what we did with this paper was we take we take the the traditional ACL injury cycle, and that a lot of us working in sports injury prevention are aware of, and we overlay what we called gendered environmental factors on top of that, so we wanted to take this this site, call and think through how our gendered experiences and girls and women, again render us more susceptible, and over the course of a lifetime, or a Korean. And so starting with the pre sport environment, you know, that goes back to what I was just saying about girls and boys being girls being socialized differently to boys, when we're growing up. So that kind of life course effect, gender affects over the life course, in terms of what we're expected to do with our bodies. That really starts in that pre sport environment when we're babies and young boys and young girls. And then we track how that works throughout the ACL injury cycle. So moving into the next step, coming back to this NCAA example, you know, what the training environment looks like, and how it might be gendered in ways that we might not even pick up on. So another example here, and this is a practical example that we've given to some sports organizations, since then, is, you know, the kind of gendered language that seems like everyday language and sport that can actually be really harmful to both men and women. So for example, you know, talking about girl push ups, you know, that really does set a precedent for what we think about girls and women in sports spaces. When you say, Oh, you go over there and do some girl push ups, it really does render girls and women as being more weak, you know, weaker and more fragile than boys and men. So those kinds of gendered experience in sports spaces, and you're an example there is really key. But then we also talk about kind of during injury and post injury as well. And this comes more into the kind of rehabilitation space and so on how, again, expectations of girls and women's bodies might play into what we expect when we go through rehabilitation as well and, and how that plays into that ACL injury cycle of recovery, as well. So that's really for So it was overlaying gender, across all of those spaces. And I think that gives us a really powerful way of looking at ACL injury differently and to, to conceptualize what we might do both in injury prevention, but also once injury has happened to help girls and women differently.   20:20 And in reading through this paper, and and also going through the slides that you graciously provided on Twitter, of of all of your talks at IOC, as a clinician, it for me, gives me so much more to think about, and really sparked some thoughts in my head as to conversations to have with the patient. So what advice would you give to clinicians, when it comes to synthesizing a lot of this work? And taking it into the clinic, talking with their patient in front of them and then implementing it? Because some people may say, oh, my gosh, I have so much to do. Now, I have to read all of this. Now I have to incorporate this, do you know what I mean? So it can some be somewhat overwhelming. So what advice do you have for clinicians? Yes,   21:13 so I really do think and as I said earlier, I think a lot of what we're seeing here is what clinicians are doing all the time anyway, I think, especially people who are already connected to this kind of idea of this social determinants of health. And so I guess, for me, it is really just being cognizant of, and being able to have those conversations with athletes, with patients with people that you work with all the time, about their social conditions of their lives. So not again, not just reducing people down to bodies, but recognizing that people have you know, that the social conditions of our lives play into our injuries and our rehabilitation, and holding space for that, you know, when I'm teaching, that's what I say to my students all the time, but I know that that you know, this, and clinicians know this better than I do. You, you know, it's not just about saying to someone, go away and do these exercises, and come back to me when you know, that person might have a full time job with three kids to look after. And, you know, a lot of other things on their plate as well that that one exercise or exercise program isn't necessarily going to be the silver bullet or the answer to, you know, the way that they need to be dealing with that injury. So I think for me, it's again, that re humanizing and being able to have those those conversations and recognizing those social determinants of injury or recovery, and so on. And so I think for clinicians, it is about not simply seeing rehab as a biomedical issue alone to solve, but thinking about it as socially and politically and materially oriented as a practice that you might incorporate in your way of thinking. That's really it. It doesn't need to be any more than that. We don't need to complicate it. Any more than that.   23:10 Yeah. Perfect. Thank you for that. And as we start to wrap things up, is there a, are there any kind of key points that you want to leave the listeners with? Or is there anything that we didn't touch on that you were like, oh, I need I need people to know this. This is really important. Hmm.   23:36 Yeah, I think, you know, if we kind of connect the conversations that we've kind of had today with the different points that we've connected to, I think, you know, what I saw in IRC at the IOC conference in Monaco is I really felt especially on day one at that athlete centered symposium that we had, I really felt like a palpable shift in that room. And in the conversations that I've had afterwards, with people I've had so many people come up to me to say that, you know, that it was really inspiring, and it's helped them to be able to go away and have different kinds of conversations, incredibly have different kinds of conversations about the work that we're doing in injury prevention and in Sport and Exercise medicine more broadly. And so I really think that we need to focus on that idea that injury prevention and a contemporary vision for injury prevention needs to be athlete centered and human focused. And I think if we truly committed to this, I think the ways in which we develop our interventions, and the ways in which we might go about our work, more generally in Sport and Exercise medicine, in physiotherapy and so on, it needs to reflect the socio cultural, so meaning those social determinants of injury in cluding the ways in which things like sexism, and misogyny, and racism, and classism, and ableism, and homophobia and transphobia, how that all can and does actually lead to injury. I think those are larger conversations that we need to be having enough field that we've started to have very slowly, but they are difficult conversations to have. And we often cut them out when we only think about injury as a biomedical thing, again, only thinking about bodies. And so for me, I think those are the those are the thing that we now need to get uncomfortable, you know, about, we need to have those uncomfortable conversations about our complex, messy realities, and that we're dealing with that athletes are human beings, that these are our experiences of the world, that sport and exercise medicine needs to reflect that as well. In terms of our composition, we need to reflect the communities that we serve as well. And Tracy Blake talks about that often. And you know, those are the conversations that I'd like to see our field having going forward. And I do think there was a shift in being able to say those things at Monaco this year.   26:16 Yeah. And so what I'm hearing is, was the big takeaway for me from Monaco is context is everything. And we can't, we can no longer take that out. And focus, like you said, just on the biomedical aspect of this person in front of us as if they don't have past experiences and emotions and thoughts and fears and concerns. And context is everything. And for clinicians, it sounds like a challenge to start having these conversations at more conferences. I know it's this little kind of bubble of clinicians, but if it can start there, perhaps it can make a ripple out into the wider public and into having these conversations with your athletes and patients and not be afraid to have these difficult conversations, or to ask the probing questions to the person in front of you. Because they're more than just their ACL injury, they're more than just their back pain. So I think challenging clinicians to have these conversations, whether it be one on one like this, or within large groups at conferences, and then take that back to your, to your practice and really start living it and understanding that this can is as important, maybe, in some cases more important than the biomedical injury in front of you.   27:41 Oh, I could not agree more with that statement. I mean, something that I've spoken about a lot before is that, you know, sport isn't neutral. It's not a political. And it's the same for the work that we do. It's, you know, for far too long, it's been positioned as a neutral science thing that we do. And I think we're now starting to recognize the context around that, that our values and our principles and people's lives and experiences, you know, as you say, play as much as if not more of a role in their experience of sport, and injury, and rehab, and all of that. So I would agree with you completely, we need to be having more of these conversations, we need to recognize this within our research, we need to recognize this within our practice. And we can't keep going on as if you know, none of so if we can remove all of that from the practice of working with human beings and being human beings as well. You know, all of this is connected for me. And as you know, as we're seeing now, it's for all of us who work in this space, once we start to have these conversations, we can start to ask different questions, we can start to think about things differently. And I think that that's really powerful for the future of our work in this space.   28:55 Yeah. And I think it's also important to remember that we can start to ask these questions start to have these conversations that the answers aren't going to come tomorrow. So that instant gratification that has become the world that we are now living in that if it doesn't happen within the next couple of days, that means it's not going to happen, but that these ripples will take some time. Yeah, absolutely.   29:19 And, you know, so a lot of my work is in complexity theory. And what I say about that is, you know, there probably are not going to be hard and fast answers here. But it will bring up new considerations and it will bring up I think, I'd like us to move away from this idea that we can solve things, but actually move closer towards the idea that this is an ongoing practice. And that that's always going to be I think, more powerful for me when we see things like injury prevention as a process or a practice. That's not necessarily going to solve things. But that is you know, really To the context in which we live in our lives is an ongoing thing. And I think that's what we brought into the ACL injury cycle. Papers. Well,   30:09 yeah, I think it takes away from the clinician as being the MS or Mr. Fix it to, okay, we are layering ourselves into people's lives. And we need to be able to do that in a way that fits the person in front of us as best we can.   30:26 Yeah, exactly. Beautifully said exactly. We can't necessarily solve those things for them. But these provide considerations, things that we can do. And yeah, we can move with that.   30:39 Yeah, absolutely. Well, Cherie, thank you so much. I mean, we can go on and talk for days on end about this stuff. And perhaps when one of these days we will we'll have a bigger, wider, broader conversation and and make it go on for a couple of hours, because I'm sure it will bring up a lot of questions, maybe some answers, and perhaps some changing of minds when it comes to injury prevention and what our role is as clinicians. So thank you so much, where can people find you?   31:13 Thank you, Karen. And I love that I think broader conversations are so helpful in this space. So people can find me on Twitter at Shree Becker, that's probably the best place to find me. I'm always over there and happy to have broader conversations with everybody. So please come and find me on Twitter.   31:32 Perfect. And we'll have links to everything, including the paper that we're talking about. From BDSM. We'll have links to everything at the show notes at podcast dot healthy, wealthy, smart, calm. So one question left that I asked everyone and that is knowing where you are now in your life and in your career? What advice would you give to your younger self?   31:51 Oh, so that's a really good question. And it's I think it's my Elan series, again, connected to what we saw in Monaco. And something that I've said for many years now is connection is greater than competition. And something that I live in that I feel like I wish I had done earlier is to hold on to the power of connecting with people who are at the same career stage and doing work with people who are at the same career stages as you especially someone who has and is an emerging researcher, or researcher clinician in this space, because I think the exciting new conversations that we're seeing in this space are coming from people who are you know, recently merging, I guess, in these researchers faces and so it's okay to collaborate rather than being in competition with people who are doing great work in your area. So that would be my advice.   32:54 I love it. I love it and couldn't agree more. So Sheree, thank you so much for coming on. Thank you again. I appreciate it.   33:02 Thank you so much, Karen. And everyone. Thanks   33:04 so much for tuning in and listening and have a great couple of days and stay healthy, wealthy and smart.

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