The Everyday Queer

“In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes” Benjamin Franklin was on the money with this one! Coming to terms with uncertainty has been one of the biggest lessons I learned in the past year as an overthinker, but I found ways to come to terms with it. Journey with me. Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NS71HLgd9q4 Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

Wrapping up Season 1 of The Everyday Queer. It has been a wonderful learning experience for me, and I hope to bring more awesome content for you in Season 2. I have decided to take a small break from the podcast, just to sort out life things and find ways to produce quality content that is more aligned to the direction I want the podcast to take. You can keep an eye out for Season 2's trailer on my socials within the next 3 months: Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer https://twitter.com/Abo_Makaula Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abongile_makaula/ Background Music Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NS71HLgd9q4 Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-happy-for-you Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-sad-piano You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot Bn v --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

This week we go back to the roots and talk about the history of how we came to celebrate Pride as we know it today. I also share my thoughts on what shape pride takes for me this year and share my feelings towards how context affects how we experience Pride and the idea of Pride in general. Chat with me on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background Music Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NS71HLgd9q4 Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-happy-for-you Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-sad-piano You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

Sometimes when in public spaces we tend to modify our behavior depending on the setting we find ourselves in. In this episode I share my experiences of specific public spaces, how I navigate them as a queer masculine presenting woman, how they make me feel and how they affect my behavior. Chat to me on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background Music: Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NS71HLgd9q4 Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-happy-for-you Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-sad-piano You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

We have been socialized to associate being single with loneliness and being miserable. People assume that you can only find happiness when you're cuffed and in a relationship. This episode unpacks how one can be single and happy even though they really want a relationship, and we share ways in which you can possibly be happy with being alone. Chat to me on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background Music Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NS71HLgd9q4 Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-happy-for-you Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-sad-piano You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

This week I talk about what unrequited love is and the importance of letting go of those feelings and how that translates to a form of self-love. I share my experience of being in love with someone who did not feel the same about me and how I got over them. Chat to me on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background Music: Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NS71HLgd9q4 Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-happy-for-you Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-sad-piano You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

This episode touches on the lesbian identities, briefly describes them, and addresses the relating misconceptions. A discussion follows on how these labels influence the way in which people view others and how the expectations influence the experience of dating, sexual and romantic relationships. The host shares her views on labels in general and her experiences as a queer woman whos personality does not align with her presentation. Chat to me on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background Music Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/NS71HLgd9q4 Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-happy-for-you Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Smith The Mister https://bit.ly/Smith-The-Mister-YT Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/-sad-piano You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell https://soundcloud.com/soybmusic https://soundcloud.com/aminemaxwell Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

This episode is a discussion on whether being close friends with an ex is a great idea. Insight on how it could work and why it is a bad idea is given and the host shares what she learnt from her own experience of attempting to be friends with an ex. Chat to us on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background music: Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/wfRPE3kLs0c Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

In this episode we discuss intimate partner violence (IPV) within the LGBTQ+ community, which isn't spoken about in the community and in the broader society when addressing issues around IPV and abuse. The episode brings attention to why we need to talk about this, the various barriers that LGBTQ+ people are met with when seeking out support services are discussed and the basic ways in which you can possibly support a LGBTQ+ friend or family member who might be experiencing IPV are mentioned. Chat to us on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background music: Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com Sad Piano by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/wfRPE3kLs0c Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

This episode is on navigating talking stages and how to avoid tainting that process with unrealistic expectations. It points out the mistakes that one makes due to strict expectations during the early stages of forming romantic connections and what rushing into relationships results in. Chat to us on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Background music: Happy For You by Smith The Mister https://smiththemister.bandcamp.com You & I by Soyb & Amine Maxwell Free Download / Stream: http://bit.ly/l-you-and-i Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/wfRPE3kLs0c Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

This episode unpacks what it means to be an ally in the general sense in reference to the LGBTQ+ community. It also addresses and gives a brief list of the do's and don'ts that supporters of the LGBTQ+ community may initially want to be aware of when they embark their journey of allyship. Chat to us on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Beats provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message

The first episode is a grounding episode where you are introduced to the host and in this episode I define what coming out is and then go on to share part of my experience of the coming out process as a Black queer woman. Chat to us on Twitter https://twitter.com/Everyday_Queer Beat provided by https://freebeats.io produced by White Hot --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abongile--makaula/message